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Today Abbey and I start the conversation of toxic Christian culture. On my Instagram, I did a question box and you guys sent in so many awesome questions and common statements. I wanna be a big sister who can answer any questions you have so keep them coming. I will definitely have to make a part 2 because I did not want to make this video 100 years long. I hope you enjoyed it! I love you deeply, and am always praying for you!! BYE
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The amount of times I found myself bobbing my head in agreement in insane 😭
On the dating/marriage spectrum:
Keep in mind everything we do as Christians is to have a desire to glorify God because what He did for us on the cross. Being a Christian is a very sacrificial life. Yes, in marriage, there are benefits that God blesses us with such as companionship, sex, starting a family, etc. But, the main reason for marriage and why God designed it is for it to be another example of how Christ loves the church. Marriage is not solely for the benefit of man (although it does bring benefits to man), but rather it’s solely to recognize what God has done for us and to praise/worship Him even more.
With all this being said, the Christian culture has turned the idea of marriage into a false gospel. Your purpose as a woman is to not be a wife and helper, or your purpose as a man is to not be a husband or provider of a family. Your primary purpose is to GLORIFY GOD!!!
So good
To anyone not raised in religious indoctrination, what you described makes God sound selfish self-absorbed egotistical and cruel.
This video gave me a lot of perspective. For example, I'm so fixed on the idea of marriage especially getting married early that when someone of the opposite sex wants to genuinely get to know me, I automatically think that means he's sent from God to be my husband😂. Also, Christian culture has become so toxic with how things are handled like with purity that when it's time to move forward you're stuck. But thank you so much for making this video!
You must be very shallow.
You have no idea how much life this video gave me! I felt devastated last night over my sin struggles and the message about condemnation was really important for me to hear ❤️
This was one of the most insightful things I’ve seen about dating! And so relatable especially since I just started figuring it out! Thank you so much for all the info and truth!
Glad it was helpful!
I love the big sister/best friend vibes from this video. Y’all have very good perspectives. Something I’ve always stood by that a pastor of an old church of mine said was that church isn’t supposed to be a country club, it’s supposed to be a hospital. I really dislike how so many churches want people to hide their sins or not talk about these uncomfortable topics. We’re supposed to do life together because we’re all struggling with the same stuff even behind closed doors.
Hi Katy I learnt so much
Live in a country which is mostly catholics ( I’m Protestant and love Jesus) and this culture has been taught everywhere . Hope I can use this to actually show Gods love and not the toxic stuff the church teaches
This is so SPOT on!! Preach! It kinda feels like churches push segregation and instant marriage in place of actually discipling their members. It is easier to avoid the difficult topics of why sex outside of marriage can be toxic, etc. than delve into the dirt. God did not have an aesthetic life. He was born next to donkeys and touched leapers yet the modern day church keeps avoiding what makes them uncomfortable! Marriage is not a quick fix.
Our first priority should always be God. Seeing His influence through your life is so inspiring and beautiful!!
OH! And Paul in 1 Corinthians says to cast and judge those living in sin and to welcome them back when they have repented! NOWHERE does God say anyone is beyond redemption. So yes, the shame of purity culture is so harmful
Ah Katy and Abby !!! Thanks for speaking so much truth and reminding me that regardless of what a culture where the world has somewhat infiltrated the church it’s ok to not want marriage right now and to be a woman without a man 😅💖💖
1 Corinthians 7 is Paul talking about marriage and he says it is good to be single and good to be married it depends on the person
Thank you so much for this! It was much needed and you guys had some really good points, I enjoyed this and would love a part two if you would want to make one ☺️
Love this video! Pumped for part 2 🤍
I think these are great conversations and they could really benefit from inviting in someone a little older who is married like a professor or a youth pastor's wife as a collab for a q&a. My husband and I work in youth min. I love your videos for their transparency, and how your followers ask honest questions.
i just got a new youth pastor a couple months ago and abt 2 weeks into his job we had this annual youth event that our old youth pastor had already planned and we were eating lunch, but all of the girls sitting in the couch sitting area, and the guys were all around a table, and our youth pastor came and said, “what’s the deal with the segregation?” and he wanted the guys to sit by us. i thought it was rly cool bc the middle school youth pastor is the complete opposite (i’m in 10th so it’s been 2 years since i’ve been with him but we still do events mixing middle and high school). now the actual reason we were mixed was bc a couple of the guys left to go get their gf’s coffee and as soon as they came back there were a lot of guys sitting with us bc he was one of the “popular guys”
I did not notice this was 19 mins! I will definitely wait for the part two ❤❤
Video idea- would you ever make a video for guys? Relationship advice etc with a respectable guy friend you trust? I would love to send something like this to my bf!!!
Fun yet tricky conversations for car talks. I think starting in a group with a person you like seeing how they are with others and then one on one time. It definitely doesnt need to be a rush like society shows
Speak so much truth ♥♥ I feel like the church focuses too much on religion and not relationship with Christ 😌
I actually stopped going to church because people imposed so many nonsense rules there was no room left to be comfortable. Much easier to stay single than for me to be in a relationship because people are so hung up on rules of man.
John 3:16
King James Version
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Amen🙏🏼! This has made me feel so SO much better. Honestly all my life people have put me in a box of how I need to be a ‘perfect’ Christian. NOBODY is perfect apart from Jesus. Yet I have found that the some of the Christian culture has become so judgemental. Like you said everybody sins and falls short. But nobody seems to share about it, which is why people feel so alone and like they cannot be forgiven. This is why Your account is SUCH a blessing💚🤎
I adore your energy and how real this talk is. Agreed friends and seeing if you even LIKE a person matters . 😃🙃
i definitly need a part 2!
I’m for this!!!
You guys are such a vibe😂💜
Loved this!
Thank youuuuu
I love the vid! Im still not clear on what u stand on, as far as sex before marriage ok or no?
I went to a Christian college. Ring by spring culture is toxic AF.
Katy I'd love to see your views on abortion!
As a very pro-life Christian it's so important to me and it would be fun to see a video about this.
So good sharing some church beliefs that should be un learned.
Great video, I would love to see a part 2
Deal!
@@katyypatyy keep being a light so true. So much un learning you are doing awesome good duo
Great video, but I don’t agree that using a metaphor like a broken plate etc is objectifying. The kintsugi metaphor for example is so poetically exquisite, I don’t find it objectifying.
Yeah, quail!
There sure is a lot of feminism oozing out of this. The old "career" is the number one priority....you have to be 30 before you are old enough to make any real life decisions.
In 30 years are people going to need to be 35 before they are mature enough to make any decisions?
This generation...25 years old and still figuring out a path for life.
Going to hell for sexual sin?
Kicked out of church?
What Red Herring "Footloose" church you are you two railing against?
Most of the things here are just people trying to confirm their own bias
It's funny how so this was done without scripture but you think it's a heresy
It was a nice video but you could do with actually using scripture
Hey kate Christian are cutting they are hand tattoo it's sin
If the tattoo is God honoring its not a sin. We are under grace not the law and that Bible verse where it says we can’t have tattoos doesn’t apply us. Plus it really is about personal conviction. Jesus loves you and so do I
@@chloegrace4950 You shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor tattoo any marks on you 🙏