1000% agree! Shoes, well fitting clothes and cologne is 3 more points instantly. This is what I do for every day guys. The right everyday style can give a guy 2-3 more points off the rip. Attention (Image) & Attraction is the perfect combination. I dare anyone to prove me wrong because the facts, data, and years of professional experience can’t be wrong.
What attracts a woman changes with age as well. I remember when I was in grade school (K-8) girls were attracted to the guys with the most bravado. In High School & college women were more attracted to status. I noticed women were governed by their social group as well. You could be a good looking guy but if her social group wasn’t feeling you it was over.
Darron Brown those last two sentences are the most realest thing ever said. Rom should do a video about that. Alot of females only like who their friends like but a man don't give a shit about what his friends think about a girl he finds attractive. Females are followers of whatever their friends think while men just go after what they want. Alot of pretty women are followers.
1. Health 2. Values and boundaries 3. Developed healer + hunter + warrior + eagle 4. Wisdom, intelligence, and leadership 5. Physicality and sex skills 6. Social class 7. Quality of closest friends and associates Females, especially bw, will constantly attempt to break males down. You literally have to look at them like children and constantly put them in their place. Although men are the buyers. We have to be so much more than what females offer or could ever be. That's why a superior man should NEVER settle. Nowadays most females are either physically unhealthy, have borderline-personalities, have drug or alcohol addictions, self-esteem issues, daddy issues, ransacked vaginas, and/or are feminists. We don't talk enough about filtering females out!
Good looks on a guy is like people who are athletically talented. They may get a head start, but if you don't continue to train anyone who puts in work will surpass you.
Men in pursuit of women, it's all about looks. Women in pursuit of men, looks can matter very little or a lot depending on the particular woman. Another great video!
Yep, go with the flow. Women stay choosing. Young guys want what they see. Young guys must learn to see when they are wanted. Get better IN ANY AREA to attract better choosers.
The best thing you can do as a man? Stop worrying about getting women, don't care about what they think about you. Get busy on yourself and your life, your goals, your health, acquire finance, disregard women. Women will come.
Disregard women? Most males even when laser focused on business, health or social goals are dealing with women on some level. Especially men who have to work corporate or office jobs; good luck disregarding them because they have taken over via affirmative action. Men are supposed to be problem solvers, and ignoring radical feminism of modern women won't make it go away. Its better to embrace masculinity, leadership, and start giving these bitches instructions; they will listen. The more you talk to women, like anything else you practice, you become skilled at it; you just have to stand by your words via action.
John R I think you misunderstood. When I say "disregard women" I mean women should not be your main goal, existence, and should not be a priority of being with them. Nothing at all of what you stated earlier.
a comment a guy made on your video yesterday really stood out to me. he said having confidence, zero misogyny, and zero thirst I think that somes up the reason many guys success and failures. if guys can work on those three things I believe it would make a big difference
JF Brown most guys who get labeled with the title misogynist, tend to be guys who never had much luck with women and develop bitter feelings that end up turning to hate. the other percentage would probably be guys who had abusive mothers.
Rom, I wish you uploaded more videos a day. It sucks knowing I will get this morning crack and have to wait another 24hrs for the next hit lmao. You playing with us man lol
Thanks for dropping some early mini-gems in there on what different types of women find attractive. That would help a lot of brothers out in expanding and maximizing our genuine attraction in the dating game. The best key is to be able to be oa continuously improving version of oneself and thus, having a wide appeal of attraction , while not trying to become a chameleon. The slight balance is the recognition that one's approach can still be slightly tailored to accommodate the woman's characteristics. To close out the metaphor: you can remain the same product, but have different marketing based on your target demographic.
Thank you for going in on this, Rom. Great content, as always! There has recently been a "movement" in certain circles to make men so focused on *only* the exterior aspects and become so obsessed with finding the right scent or smell, that we might be walking around like scented candles. Fellas, when you hear advice about attraction, ask yourself two questions: 1) Does the person giving you this advice look or carry himself like he actually *gets* women? AND 2) Does the person giving you this advice look or carry himself like he himself actually dates or prefers *women* ? (Read that second question carefully). Men, cultivate your masculine energy, aura, and physique. Yes, style can play a role, but don't become so obsessed with the outside that you forget one of Rom's most important points: Cultivate your masculine aura. Good video, Rom! That's why I respect your content. Even through the audio and the books, it is obvious that you are a guy who gets women and have helped guys like myself do the same.
Great video. When Rom says looks are part of the game think of it as a quarterback. You can have an arm and accuracy but if you don't know how to read the defense and call an audible when you see the defense bringing the house on the blitz you're not going to last long in the game.
Morning brother rom I work 3rd shift so it's easy for me to catch ya early morning I pretty much can rock with everything you said here but I've never heard a man say he ugly and the 3rd unless his self esteem is below 0....now women I've heard on a often basics make cliam they're ugly nobody want them and etc. And not sure if it's a guilt trip or is running game or maybe they're use to hearing people saying that to em idk but people with that mind-set I can't rock with em because it's gonna bring negativity all around no matter how nice you are or do to those types good vid brother
Rom, this is a very interesting topic one I am so glad you discussed, I was having a conversation with a woman the other day, she kept going on and on about how it's all about the physical, all about looks, and I said to her, some of the same things you are talking about here, but she insisted and argued with me that it's a person's look that we see first, which is true, but at the end of the day looks can fade and after you get past a person's look, you may find yourself evaluating who they really are as a person, apart from their looks and you may or may not like what you see.
Excellent Piggyback video from the Sexy men vs Good looking men video Rom! It's the truth bruh for real! It never just stop at looks when it comes to women turned on and aroused by men sexually to the point where they want to take it to that level with them! See me personally myself I had to learn a lot of those things at some point in my life and realize that is other faculties you need to have as a man to go along with those looks to arouse that woman sexually, plain and simple! See men especially good looking men need to understand that it's a combination of things that they need to have in there package to really get that woman's attention and make them come on to them. Just like a buffet restaurant when you go there you have various or meals to choose from, that's just another parable in reference to a man having multiple qualities when it comes to style and masculinity! You have the swag, confidence, sex appeal , style, that whole aura which makes a man's masculinity complete as a whole. Like you said, you have some men who may not be that attractive but have all those qualities which consists of true masculinity as a man and have women throwing themselves at them like crazy over that good looking man with none of those qualities at all and literally get no love or attention from women at all as far as is dumb coming on to them, they'll just keep it friendly and kind to that good looking man and that's it, no seductive actions at all. Even though like I mention about achievements and accomplishments,it just don't stop there either because if you don't have those masculinity qualities in yourself as a man that really turns women on, regardless of how much success, money, achievements and accomplishments you have, you're still going to have trouble with women because you have a lot of men out here who have long Deep Pockets but still may be nerdy in a lot of women's eyesight and don't have any sex appeal to them! I see this s*** all the time so therefore men need to really self develop himself in the masculinity area along with all the other areas that gives some that aura which gives him that real value as a man. Just like gumbo comment if you want that gumbo to be right and perfect, you need all of the ingredients to make the meal complete!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I like that gumbo analogy. When I was young and working in this summer job there was this sista who made a point of telling me that I wasn't fine. Then one day I wore a different outfit and standing a such a way she looked at and said, "now you're fine." LOL!
*FACTS! Been getting approached since birth by FINE females. Early teens started learning game, began being self aware. Being aesthetically blessed gets EVERYBODY looking, but thats pretty much it. What really reels in people is demeanor/personality, how one carries himself, and game. Glad my pops (born in a 3rd world country) taught me some grown man sh*t, like being a man of your word.*
Another excellent video. A man never knows for sure if a woman will be attracted to him or not attracted to him. As you always say, a man must be aware of any signal a woman may be giving him. I have had average to below average women show no interest in me at all, while beautiful women have given me "the look". And of course just the opposite. If I'm wearing a leather jacket, I will get more "looks". You made an excellent observation that the woman author did not mention a man's face when she was talking about attraction. I missed that entirely.
Years ago, when I first hit the club scene. I met a white Latina model. This woman was a LA/Miami 9. Now, I saw her in the spot and a bunch of pro athletes with money, height, and looks were spitting; I was a broke college sophomore; all I had going for me was charm and intellect. She wasn't responding to these NBA/NFL dudes. I actually started a convo with her about how she seemed to be the center of attention. The broad enjoyed our chat, we exchanged numbers; the vibe was cool because I had nothing to lose. Brought her to my dorm room, and fucked. I'll never forget the reaction from the other cats seeing this fine ass bitch bringing me fast food and pussy. At the time, I was so shook that the bitch chose me, I asked her why. The broad said, "I liked your smile." I never forgot that lesson; you'll never know what a bitch likes until you take your shot...
Oh, now this is blunt force game being told right here. And while I could go into further detail insofar as us needing to continue working on our appearance, posture, clothing, and so on, I'd like to address the 'why' part as to how come so many decent looking guys are still losing the battle in the dating game... In an earlier video, you talked about the older cats within your neighborhood teaching you about game and how to score dates with attractive women. That, more so than anything, gave you a strategic advantage over a lot of guys who weren't so fortunate, that you still enjoy to this very day. Now contrast that to many men, starting with myself, who grew up in an environment where older guys not only clowned the younger ones for not being successful with chicks but did everything within their power to prevent them from learning about game, for fear that they would one day become the competition. Older guys in my old stomping grounds absolutely reviled younger guys as we hit our teenage years because they didn't want us getting in the way of the teenage girls in our age group, who were easy targets so long as they flashed a little $$$ and took them to Six Flags or something. No small surprise as my high school had one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the state from these teenagers getting mostly knocked up by dudes 5-10 years older. The second reason is rather simple; the rise of single mother-led households. It is my theory but I firmly believe that it is in the sistahood's best interest to keep their sons out of the know and as naive about the dating game for as long as possible; you know, like previous generations to this one were. For the most part, these single moms wanted these guys out of the house so they can resume their 'me time' while making them easy marks for the daughters and nieces of their girlfriends to boss around years later (see own group preference). That's why you mostly see two types of men come out of these single parent homes; the uber-macho guy (see Pookie, Ray-Ray, Jamaquarious, Dayquan) who can be more easily controlled by a chick (and a fleet of cops), or the guy who's scared of his own shadow and thankful that ANYONE in a skirt would want to talk to him (see Roger Thomas from 'What's Happening!'). And yes, the latter group is where you find the simps, manginas, pvssy hounds, a$$ worshippers, and white knights in training. Remember the old 007/James Bond movies where Spectre would have their meetings and the bad guys would go over business matters in whatever territory they were running? There was always that one guy in the scene who wasn't clearing as much $$$ as he was supposed to and ended up getting his as a result. Whenever you see the sistahood convening for girls' night out at the bistro or at the nail/hair salon on a random Saturday afternoon, they are doing the exact same thing in terms of talking about what men they are screwing over, how domineering they are with their son(s) (see simps in training), what degrees they're about to get, who is on the verge of proposing to them, and what simp/mangina/white knight is about to not only pay off their defaulted student loans but their floor seats for the upcoming Chris Brown concert. The very last thing they want to report to the front about is how Jr. is bending over their daughters with ill repute or has their nieces swooning without the thought of offering up an engagement band (see own-group preference). They don't want the social stigma that would be instantly cast to them by their female cohorts from having a son who picked up game from his father, uncles, or even an older brother who left the house before she filed for divorce. That's why they go out of their way to strip their son(s) of any dating instincts under the guise of 'you're not gonna be like your sorry a$$ daddy'. The very fact that we have men in their mid-30s and beyond who have yet to figure out that improving their LMS (Looks/$$$/Social Status) goes a long way towards getting the desired result in the dating realm should tell one all they need to know in terms of just how far we've collectively fallen over the last four decades and running. We should know by now that wearing the same hairstyles, sweatpants, and outfits we wore back in 1988 isn't going to get us much traction with women beyond those of lower quality whom we constantly rail against seriously dating on social media. IMHO, a lot of us have a lazy work ethic that was taught to us by older cats and single moms years ago; you know, the 'you have to take me as I am' mentality. And then we wonder why guys who take videos like this to heart, do a self-evaluation, and make the necessary improvements make headway while we're left with chicks who really don't want us. Sometimes, I just cram to understand...
Well said. That's crazy that the older cats didn't help the younger ones with the game. I've known older dudes who would make sure the younger ones got sex.
Not in my neck of the woods and there's more than enough guys I personally know who can vouch for me. Those guys wanted exclusive access to every chick from 8th grade and up all to themselves. As I stated back then, they took it as a funny episode of Def Comedy Jam watching us fail with the ladies, only to quick talk those same chicks into a date seconds later. You either took it or got your a$$ kicked by those dudes (or in my case, a crew of them) on the spot. And with women being naturally hypergamous (what 9th grader without a car can compete with a 23-year old drug runner driving a souped up Jetta?), the end result was a fait accompli. Unless you had a dad or an older brother in the home to help you along, you had better been good looking, had a nice build, instinctively knew of game (without Mom finding out), wore stylish gear, or could get hold of a car from the jump. Otherwise, you either joined the rest of the riff raff on the streets and scored chicks like the older guys did, developed a wicked jump shot to start for the varsity, or spent your entire high school career beating off to adult videos and magazines until you left town for college as I did. And as Tom Leykis has spoken about in the past, no, the prom was no guarantee of getting anything beyond a massive bill and a peck on the cheek by your date (if that) before running off with her motley crew of girlfriends (and the guy she didn't tell you about that she was banging on the side). It's no small wonder why so many of us so-called 'educated lames' leave these areas and never look back when we get the chance...
I was just talking about this last night with my lady. She didn't agree with the class loyalty versus ethnic loyalty. I told her guys in a different class level have a lot more to risk and will pass up a black woman not on his level for a woman of another race(quick).
This was good information. I know Locario likes to say this. Overall appearance is more important as you mentioned in another video being well rounded in the areas that attract females is also vital.
your absolutely correct uncle Rom.if a woman dont like you,its not necessarily because of your lack of good looks.I've had women tell me i like your arms,i like your personality,in fact the woman that i been with for the last 5yrs.is turned on the most because im mechanical inclined.lol
I can verify that. When I was younger I was very, very handsome. And if you don't position yourself - that means dress or act according to something - it's rare that someone will click on you even you being very, very handsome.
Real talk brother, real talk. Men are a package of attraction to women not simply a handsome face or six pack. Be a discreet confident brother who is well dressed, well groomed in a corporation and on the fast track for promotion and money and you have to duck the panties like Neo in the Matrix.
I agree with everything you said, EXCEPT the corporation part. In fact, if anything, Black males need to get focused on entrepreneurship and creating startups. The modern corporation is a gynocentric institution and affirmative action has fueled it. Black males in a corporation are monitored like a wild lion. Corporations are as anti-Black male as they come; institutional racism breeding grounds, if I've ever seen one. Black men have to embrace liberty, financial independence, and entrepreneurship. In corporate America, a Black male is the last to be hired and first to be down-sized. America is overdue for a big recession watch what happens to all those corporate Blacks; stay tuned 2018...
I didn't mention corporations to suggest where all men need to be but from my personal experience. Of course we should own businesses I just gave my example of how certain traits other than looks attract women.
its really not about money or where you work that will attract women or the woman you want. its about how a man carrys himself in a self-confident aura along with dressing well that works. i know a few people that dont work in cooperations or high class job but work at local stores and Gyms that get high quality women wanting them based on how they carry themselves in self confident way.
@@plato651 Damn right. Corporations emasculate the black men. You can get all the pussies without emasculating yourself in a corporate setting. You can make a lot of money in trades. If you got the skills, you're good. There's a reason why most black men in corporate western world are gay or whitewashed so they can appear as an inoffensive token among whiteys and token black women. No thanks.
I agree looks change most of the older men I dated lost their hair looks do matter but a good personality matters how you are treated how you treat a lady I respect myself I hate men that smoke turns me off cursing around me some women dont mind the cursing and smoking I do also the drinking is a big problem
ROM is correct. Like he said its not looks alone. Its your dress style, and your confidence. Many times, have I been able to pull certain women that most guys will think was impossible. Gotta be confident . Next to style this is the number 1 thing you have to have no matter what around women . Even ugly guys can gt laid with confidence . I dont care if your talking to Melissa Ford circia 2002 or some chick that you wouldn't touch with a 100 foot pole. have confidence in yourself , believe in yourself, and that will get many women to you. 2. Style. I always use to wonder why I was able to attract the bougie or semi bougie type of black , white, Indian, Asian, whatever type of woman. I realized that because I did shine my shoes and usually wore slacks and a nice pressed shirt. Had a basic silver neck chain and silver wrist chain. Nothing too wild. I was still pulling those women . I'll be honest the were 6-8's, but I was still pulling them. 3. Kevin Samuels was right about the shoes. It shows you take time in making sure you look good. its a sign that you take care of yourself and look for the most minute details . Plus , it doesn't have to be crystal clear, but shine shoes just give you that extra confidence boost. 4. Smell. The reason Kevin Samuels emphases smell, is because women love a man that smells good. Again , I'm near Majin Buu size. However , I have received many compliments from attractive women who say I smell nice. I don't put on too much cologne . but washing up and using the right cologne can surprisingly get you into conversations with some women that you normally would not be in . 5. Get in where you fit in. I couldn't pull anything where I work at , even if I wanted to . However, at wine tastings, beer fest, comicon conventions and even political events, I somehow seem to be able to draw women to me. Why, its because its an event where I'm comfortable at, and the people can relate to me. We have things in common. that on top of everything else is where I fit in. Find out where you fit in and be ready to capitalize on the opportunities that present themselves. 6. Workout. It gives you energy and boost testosterone . It will give you more aggressive male energy . All I know is once I started to workout, I was more confident in myself and approach to women. It was easier to have posture and approach women . It does change your energy and view of life as well. You'll gonna have to ask uncle ROM to make a video on the energy give off. Hell ask him to make a paid video. It will be worth the money. I'm still learning about the energy we project out to others. Rom and Kevin Samuels are correct on everything they said. Many times I lost pussy because I didnt know I already had it . Before I use to dress down all the time, so no woman really looked at me. Once I started to dress semi professional and added the other stuff, I was able to attract more women. Sorry for the essay ROM :)
Men still care about what women think, you cannot carter to women bro. Just get with the ones that check for you, I am not a thug if a chick want that then I am just not for her.
Uncle Rom this isn't video related but i spoke to a friend the other day and he said that of all races black people are extremely insecure. Could you possibly do a video on that?
Great video......but I am still left wondering what is the END GAME. What is to be gained by having hoards of women throwing themselves at your feet.....all at the same time? Is there ample warning that this can also garner attention from other men (vomit)?
Rom: "Us men are tryin to hit everything"....💯💯💯 I had to learn the hard way. I used to complain about not attracting women; however...I was WASTING time in ratchat clubs, instead of hanging around college women 😥😥😥😥
The cologne thing is tricky though, because a lot of people are sensitive to cologne even when worn lightly. Some workplaces are even banning it now. Then there is the issue of body heat and natural body scent. Too often, people forget that two people can wear the same cologne, amount etc; but the strength will come off differently. I can spray cologne once on my chest and even I can smell it. So, for some people they have to avoid eau de toilette cologne or cologne altogether.
What's up Big Rom, I notice that looks alone will almost never trigger her interest she'll need to know that he can buy a cup coffee that's what most weman want because she's probably able to maintain the rest without a purchase of that cup of grains that's what make her brain exchange.
I do agree that it's never just looks alone. Men and women think like this. I wouldn't want to date a dime piece whos bitchy and women wouldn't want to date a handsome guy who is shy, timid, weird, etc. A book can have an amazing cover, but if you open it, read it and realize that there is nothing that's being printed that's worth any value, it remains on the bookshelf.
If a guy only thinks he's looks gonna save the day. He's trippin. That's some stupid ass simping shit. Flirting it's not my style but i can always tell if women he's feeling me and then i always close the deal don't get it twisted. Yeah i'm the kind of guy when i kiss with a women the possible is definitely there that we can end in the bedroom the same day. Sweet like chocolate that's what women telling me all the time. I love it.
CONFIDENCE personal style...what looks good on you...when I look in the mirror I see the MUTHAF@%$& man...ONE AND ONLY...and dare someone to disagree...HAHHAHAHA....if you disagree somethings wrong with YOU..hahaha...nawh but seriously it starts with what you kick out...style is from your experience, being self aware of your stature, your build,..knowledge of the world, social que,..I can kick it on all levels intellectually and dress.... I dont go outside my self trying to wear certain things(SKINNY JEANS HELL NAWH)or ACT outside of who I AM...YOOO Rom...J STROKES...conveyed what Ive been saying for awhile now...I know you hustle but your shits CRACK cats out here need MORE of this SHIITTT...hahaha
you said dude was high function autistic but did you know that I hate when people say someone is autistic when they don't fit in I know the kind of men you talk about who get called socially awkward but they around the wrong people
1000% agree! Shoes, well fitting clothes and cologne is 3 more points instantly. This is what I do for every day guys. The right everyday style can give a guy 2-3 more points off the rip. Attention (Image) & Attraction is the perfect combination. I dare anyone to prove me wrong because the facts, data, and years of professional experience can’t be wrong.
Men need to be consulting you. It took seeing just one of your videos to know that you know what you are talking about.
I know many men who get women in other countries who don't spend a lot on clothes and shoes and get women
@@TheCoolgame24 to each his own
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The brother in the thumbnail style game on point.
That's why I used that pick.
What attracts a woman changes with age as well. I remember when I was in grade school (K-8) girls were attracted to the guys with the most bravado.
In High School & college women were more attracted to status. I noticed women were governed by their social group as well. You could be a good looking guy but if her social group wasn’t feeling you it was over.
Darron Brown those last two sentences are the most realest thing ever said. Rom should do a video about that. Alot of females only like who their friends like but a man don't give a shit about what his friends think about a girl he finds attractive. Females are followers of whatever their friends think while men just go after what they want. Alot of pretty women are followers.
...And in some instances, the disapproval expressed by her social group may be the very thing driving her toward you too.
Darron Brown,
Social status plays a big role.
Thanks big Rom!
FACTS WOMEN ARE TREND DATERS
1. Health
2. Values and boundaries
3. Developed healer + hunter + warrior + eagle
4. Wisdom, intelligence, and leadership
5. Physicality and sex skills
6. Social class
7. Quality of closest friends and associates
Females, especially bw, will constantly attempt to break males down. You literally have to look at them like children and constantly put them in their place.
Although men are the buyers. We have to be so much more than what females offer or could ever be. That's why a superior man should NEVER settle. Nowadays most females are either physically unhealthy, have borderline-personalities, have drug or alcohol addictions, self-esteem issues, daddy issues, ransacked vaginas, and/or are feminists. We don't talk enough about filtering females out!
Well said.
Good looks on a guy is like people who are athletically talented. They may get a head start, but if you don't continue to train anyone who puts in work will surpass you.
That's the best way to look at it.
Hayashida_ Haze aka Ronda Rousey.
I cant believe these videos are free ...this that good ass game!
Thanks fam.
This is better than radio/tv
LOL!
Yep, this is actually informative
I concur👍
You know I am now addicted to youtube guys. Especially this Mack
Men in pursuit of women, it's all about looks. Women in pursuit of men, looks can matter very little or a lot depending on the particular woman.
Another great video!
Yep. Looks matter but with women there are degrees to it. They look at more things than men do.
Yep, go with the flow. Women stay choosing. Young guys want what they see. Young guys must learn to see when they are wanted. Get better IN ANY AREA to attract better choosers.
Well said.
The best thing you can do as a man? Stop worrying about getting women, don't care about what they think about you. Get busy on yourself and your life, your goals, your health, acquire finance, disregard women. Women will come.
Good advice.
Exactly, women will always make their way toward successful men......they are a Wandering herd
Disregard women? Most males even when laser focused on business, health or social goals are dealing with women on some level. Especially men who have to work corporate or office jobs; good luck disregarding them because they have taken over via affirmative action. Men are supposed to be problem solvers, and ignoring radical feminism of modern women won't make it go away. Its better to embrace masculinity, leadership, and start giving these bitches instructions; they will listen. The more you talk to women, like anything else you practice, you become skilled at it; you just have to stand by your words via action.
and get out of debt! You are 100% bwebmasta!
John R I think you misunderstood. When I say "disregard women" I mean women should not be your main goal, existence, and should not be a priority of being with them.
Nothing at all of what you stated earlier.
a comment a guy made on your video yesterday really stood out to me. he said having confidence, zero misogyny, and zero thirst I think that somes up the reason many guys success and failures. if guys can work on those three things I believe it would make a big difference
I agree with that.
Wow I thought I was the only one that peeped that comment. That's straight facts!
Omari Casey how does one determine misogyny if you never met dude
That's the makeup of a GAY male.
Confidence + zero misogyny + zero thirst (for women)
JF Brown most guys who get labeled with the title misogynist, tend to be guys who never had much luck with women and develop bitter feelings that end up turning to hate. the other percentage would probably be guys who had abusive mothers.
Rom, I wish you uploaded more videos a day. It sucks knowing I will get this morning crack and have to wait another 24hrs for the next hit lmao. You playing with us man lol
I'll be uploading to Patreon soon.
HELL YEAH...I second that...
J-Strokes lol
Big up to Kevin Samuels! He's been doing his best to get the brothers on board. Far too many aren't listening but the wise ones much like myself are!
Thanks for dropping some early mini-gems in there on what different types of women find attractive. That would help a lot of brothers out in expanding and maximizing our genuine attraction in the dating game. The best key is to be able to be oa continuously improving version of oneself and thus, having a wide appeal of attraction , while not trying to become a chameleon. The slight balance is the recognition that one's approach can still be slightly tailored to accommodate the woman's characteristics. To close out the metaphor: you can remain the same product, but have different marketing based on your target demographic.
Well said. The Black Game/white game video is coming. It keeps getting longer. Might be pay video.
Thank you for going in on this, Rom. Great content, as always! There has recently been a "movement" in certain circles to make men so focused on *only* the exterior aspects and become so obsessed with finding the right scent or smell, that we might be walking around like scented candles.
Fellas, when you hear advice about attraction, ask yourself two questions: 1) Does the person giving you this advice look or carry himself like he actually *gets* women? AND 2) Does the person giving you this advice look or carry himself like he himself actually dates or prefers *women* ? (Read that second question carefully). Men, cultivate your masculine energy, aura, and physique.
Yes, style can play a role, but don't become so obsessed with the outside that you forget one of Rom's most important points: Cultivate your masculine aura.
Good video, Rom! That's why I respect your content. Even through the audio and the books, it is obvious that you are a guy who gets women and have helped guys like myself do the same.
Thank you. Trust me I could really put some stuff out there.
Great video. When Rom says looks are part of the game think of it as a quarterback. You can have an arm and accuracy but if you don't know how to read the defense and call an audible when you see the defense bringing the house on the blitz you're not going to last long in the game.
I like that analogy.
Morning brother rom I work 3rd shift so it's easy for me to catch ya early morning I pretty much can rock with everything you said here but I've never heard a man say he ugly and the 3rd unless his self esteem is below 0....now women I've heard on a often basics make cliam they're ugly nobody want them and etc. And not sure if it's a guilt trip or is running game or maybe they're use to hearing people saying that to em idk but people with that mind-set I can't rock with em because it's gonna bring negativity all around no matter how nice you are or do to those types good vid brother
I agree with you fam. A man has to ultimately feel good about himself. Women will try to break a brotha down.
Rom Wills amen thanks brother
I totally agree Uncle Rom....I had a woman tell me she didn't date a guy cuz he didn't have swag but according to her he wasn't a bad looking brother
Some women prefer swag to actual good looks.
Rom Wills thats true especially black women
True. But the same females will complain about the regular brutha if they see him with a non-Black woman...
Rom, this is a very interesting topic one I am so glad you discussed, I was having a conversation with a woman the other day, she kept going on and on about how it's all about the physical, all about looks, and I said to her, some of the same things you are talking about here, but she insisted and argued with me that it's a person's look that we see first, which is true, but at the end of the day looks can fade and after you get past a person's look, you may find yourself evaluating who they really are as a person, apart from their looks and you may or may not like what you see.
Some women are stuck on just the looks. Many get burned because of it.
Excellent Piggyback video from the Sexy men vs Good looking men video Rom! It's the truth bruh for real! It never just stop at looks when it comes to women turned on and aroused by men sexually to the point where they want to take it to that level with them! See me personally myself I had to learn a lot of those things at some point in my life and realize that is other faculties you need to have as a man to go along with those looks to arouse that woman sexually, plain and simple! See men especially good looking men need to understand that it's a combination of things that they need to have in there package to really get that woman's attention and make them come on to them. Just like a buffet restaurant when you go there you have various or meals to choose from, that's just another parable in reference to a man having multiple qualities when it comes to style and masculinity! You have the swag, confidence, sex appeal , style, that whole aura which makes a man's masculinity complete as a whole. Like you said, you have some men who may not be that attractive but have all those qualities which consists of true masculinity as a man and have women throwing themselves at them like crazy over that good looking man with none of those qualities at all and literally get no love or attention from women at all as far as is dumb coming on to them, they'll just keep it friendly and kind to that good looking man and that's it, no seductive actions at all. Even though like I mention about achievements and accomplishments,it just don't stop there either because if you don't have those masculinity qualities in yourself as a man that really turns women on, regardless of how much success, money, achievements and accomplishments you have, you're still going to have trouble with women because you have a lot of men out here who have long Deep Pockets but still may be nerdy in a lot of women's eyesight and don't have any sex appeal to them! I see this s*** all the time so therefore men need to really self develop himself in the masculinity area along with all the other areas that gives some that aura which gives him that real value as a man. Just like gumbo comment if you want that gumbo to be right and perfect, you need all of the ingredients to make the meal complete!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I like that gumbo analogy. When I was young and working in this summer job there was this sista who made a point of telling me that I wasn't fine. Then one day I wore a different outfit and standing a such a way she looked at and said, "now you're fine." LOL!
I’m a feminine woman, and this is FACTS! Another great video, Rom!
*FACTS! Been getting approached since birth by FINE females. Early teens started learning game, began being self aware. Being aesthetically blessed gets EVERYBODY looking, but thats pretty much it. What really reels in people is demeanor/personality, how one carries himself, and game. Glad my pops (born in a 3rd world country) taught me some grown man sh*t, like being a man of your word.*
Truth.
Great conversation Rom!
Thank you.
Another excellent video. A man never knows for sure if a woman will be attracted to him or not attracted to him. As you always say, a man must be aware of any signal a woman may be giving him. I have had average to below average women show no interest in me at all, while beautiful women have given me "the look". And of course just the opposite. If I'm wearing a leather jacket, I will get more "looks". You made an excellent observation that the woman author did not mention a man's face when she was talking about attraction. I missed that entirely.
Many women prefer an average faced man with a nice body.
Years ago, when I first hit the club scene. I met a white Latina model. This woman was a LA/Miami 9. Now, I saw her in the spot and a bunch of pro athletes with money, height, and looks were spitting; I was a broke college sophomore; all I had going for me was charm and intellect. She wasn't responding to these NBA/NFL dudes. I actually started a convo with her about how she seemed to be the center of attention. The broad enjoyed our chat, we exchanged numbers; the vibe was cool because I had nothing to lose. Brought her to my dorm room, and fucked. I'll never forget the reaction from the other cats seeing this fine ass bitch bringing me fast food and pussy. At the time, I was so shook that the bitch chose me, I asked her why. The broad said, "I liked your smile." I never forgot that lesson; you'll never know what a bitch likes until you take your shot...
Oh, now this is blunt force game being told right here. And while I could go into further detail insofar as us needing to continue working on our appearance, posture, clothing, and so on, I'd like to address the 'why' part as to how come so many decent looking guys are still losing the battle in the dating game...
In an earlier video, you talked about the older cats within your neighborhood teaching you about game and how to score dates with attractive women. That, more so than anything, gave you a strategic advantage over a lot of guys who weren't so fortunate, that you still enjoy to this very day. Now contrast that to many men, starting with myself, who grew up in an environment where older guys not only clowned the younger ones for not being successful with chicks but did everything within their power to prevent them from learning about game, for fear that they would one day become the competition. Older guys in my old stomping grounds absolutely reviled younger guys as we hit our teenage years because they didn't want us getting in the way of the teenage girls in our age group, who were easy targets so long as they flashed a little $$$ and took them to Six Flags or something. No small surprise as my high school had one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the state from these teenagers getting mostly knocked up by dudes 5-10 years older.
The second reason is rather simple; the rise of single mother-led households. It is my theory but I firmly believe that it is in the sistahood's best interest to keep their sons out of the know and as naive about the dating game for as long as possible; you know, like previous generations to this one were. For the most part, these single moms wanted these guys out of the house so they can resume their 'me time' while making them easy marks for the daughters and nieces of their girlfriends to boss around years later (see own group preference). That's why you mostly see two types of men come out of these single parent homes; the uber-macho guy (see Pookie, Ray-Ray, Jamaquarious, Dayquan) who can be more easily controlled by a chick (and a fleet of cops), or the guy who's scared of his own shadow and thankful that ANYONE in a skirt would want to talk to him (see Roger Thomas from 'What's Happening!'). And yes, the latter group is where you find the simps, manginas, pvssy hounds, a$$ worshippers, and white knights in training.
Remember the old 007/James Bond movies where Spectre would have their meetings and the bad guys would go over business matters in whatever territory they were running? There was always that one guy in the scene who wasn't clearing as much $$$ as he was supposed to and ended up getting his as a result. Whenever you see the sistahood convening for girls' night out at the bistro or at the nail/hair salon on a random Saturday afternoon, they are doing the exact same thing in terms of talking about what men they are screwing over, how domineering they are with their son(s) (see simps in training), what degrees they're about to get, who is on the verge of proposing to them, and what simp/mangina/white knight is about to not only pay off their defaulted student loans but their floor seats for the upcoming Chris Brown concert. The very last thing they want to report to the front about is how Jr. is bending over their daughters with ill repute or has their nieces swooning without the thought of offering up an engagement band (see own-group preference). They don't want the social stigma that would be instantly cast to them by their female cohorts from having a son who picked up game from his father, uncles, or even an older brother who left the house before she filed for divorce. That's why they go out of their way to strip their son(s) of any dating instincts under the guise of 'you're not gonna be like your sorry a$$ daddy'.
The very fact that we have men in their mid-30s and beyond who have yet to figure out that improving their LMS (Looks/$$$/Social Status) goes a long way towards getting the desired result in the dating realm should tell one all they need to know in terms of just how far we've collectively fallen over the last four decades and running. We should know by now that wearing the same hairstyles, sweatpants, and outfits we wore back in 1988 isn't going to get us much traction with women beyond those of lower quality whom we constantly rail against seriously dating on social media. IMHO, a lot of us have a lazy work ethic that was taught to us by older cats and single moms years ago; you know, the 'you have to take me as I am' mentality. And then we wonder why guys who take videos like this to heart, do a self-evaluation, and make the necessary improvements make headway while we're left with chicks who really don't want us. Sometimes, I just cram to understand...
Well said. That's crazy that the older cats didn't help the younger ones with the game. I've known older dudes who would make sure the younger ones got sex.
Not in my neck of the woods and there's more than enough guys I personally know who can vouch for me. Those guys wanted exclusive access to every chick from 8th grade and up all to themselves. As I stated back then, they took it as a funny episode of Def Comedy Jam watching us fail with the ladies, only to quick talk those same chicks into a date seconds later. You either took it or got your a$$ kicked by those dudes (or in my case, a crew of them) on the spot. And with women being naturally hypergamous (what 9th grader without a car can compete with a 23-year old drug runner driving a souped up Jetta?), the end result was a fait accompli.
Unless you had a dad or an older brother in the home to help you along, you had better been good looking, had a nice build, instinctively knew of game (without Mom finding out), wore stylish gear, or could get hold of a car from the jump. Otherwise, you either joined the rest of the riff raff on the streets and scored chicks like the older guys did, developed a wicked jump shot to start for the varsity, or spent your entire high school career beating off to adult videos and magazines until you left town for college as I did. And as Tom Leykis has spoken about in the past, no, the prom was no guarantee of getting anything beyond a massive bill and a peck on the cheek by your date (if that) before running off with her motley crew of girlfriends (and the guy she didn't tell you about that she was banging on the side).
It's no small wonder why so many of us so-called 'educated lames' leave these areas and never look back when we get the chance...
This is deep
GM Brethren!☕👍👍👍👍👍never looks alone☺.
Exactly brotha.
Nice lesson!
THank you.
I was just talking about this last night with my lady. She didn't agree with the class loyalty versus ethnic loyalty. I told her guys in a different class level have a lot more to risk and will pass up a black woman not on his level for a woman of another race(quick).
Truth.
Women find me attractive but often tell me im intimedating because the way i carry myself.
I feel you.
Excellent content. Thanks Rom for sharing
It's game!/looks
Gotta have the best combination.
This was good information. I know Locario likes to say this. Overall appearance is more important as you mentioned in another video being well rounded in the areas that attract females is also vital.
your absolutely correct uncle Rom.if a woman dont like you,its not necessarily because of your lack of good looks.I've had women tell me i like your arms,i like your personality,in fact the woman that i been with for the last 5yrs.is turned on the most because im mechanical inclined.lol
It's always more with women.
I can verify that. When I was younger I was very, very handsome. And if you don't position yourself - that means dress or act according to something - it's rare that someone will click on you even you being very, very handsome.
Real talk brother, real talk. Men are a package of attraction to women not simply a handsome face or six pack. Be a discreet confident brother who is well dressed, well groomed in a corporation and on the fast track for promotion and money and you have to duck the panties like Neo in the Matrix.
LOL! Very true.
I agree with everything you said, EXCEPT the corporation part. In fact, if anything, Black males need to get focused on entrepreneurship and creating startups. The modern corporation is a gynocentric institution and affirmative action has fueled it. Black males in a corporation are monitored like a wild lion. Corporations are as anti-Black male as they come; institutional racism breeding grounds, if I've ever seen one. Black men have to embrace liberty, financial independence, and entrepreneurship. In corporate America, a Black male is the last to be hired and first to be down-sized. America is overdue for a big recession watch what happens to all those corporate Blacks; stay tuned 2018...
I didn't mention corporations to suggest where all men need to be but from my personal experience. Of course we should own businesses I just gave my example of how certain traits other than looks attract women.
its really not about money or where you work that will attract women or the woman you want. its about how a man carrys himself in a self-confident aura along with dressing well that works. i know a few people that dont work in cooperations or high class job but work at local stores and Gyms that get high quality women wanting them based on how they carry themselves in self confident way.
@@plato651 Damn right. Corporations emasculate the black men. You can get all the pussies without emasculating yourself in a corporate setting. You can make a lot of money in trades. If you got the skills, you're good. There's a reason why most black men in corporate western world are gay or whitewashed so they can appear as an inoffensive token among whiteys and token black women. No thanks.
I agree looks change most of the older men I dated lost their hair looks do matter but a good personality matters how you are treated how you treat a lady I respect myself I hate men that smoke turns me off cursing around me some women dont mind the cursing and smoking I do also the drinking is a big problem
Real talk brother!! Raw game....
Thank you.
ROM is correct. Like he said its not looks alone. Its your dress style, and your confidence. Many times, have I been able to pull certain women that most guys will think was impossible.
Gotta be confident . Next to style this is the number 1 thing you have to have no matter what around women . Even ugly guys can gt laid with confidence . I dont care if your talking to Melissa Ford circia 2002 or some chick that you wouldn't touch with a 100 foot pole. have confidence in yourself , believe in yourself, and that will get many women to you.
2. Style. I always use to wonder why I was able to attract the bougie or semi bougie type of black , white, Indian, Asian, whatever type of woman. I realized that because I did shine my shoes and usually wore slacks and a nice pressed shirt. Had a basic silver neck chain and silver wrist chain. Nothing too wild. I was still pulling those women . I'll be honest the were 6-8's, but I was still pulling them.
3. Kevin Samuels was right about the shoes. It shows you take time in making sure you look good. its a sign that you take care of yourself and look for the most minute details . Plus , it doesn't have to be crystal clear, but shine shoes just give you that extra confidence boost.
4. Smell. The reason Kevin Samuels emphases smell, is because women love a man that smells good. Again , I'm near Majin Buu size. However , I have received many compliments from attractive women who say I smell nice. I don't put on too much cologne . but washing up and using the right cologne can surprisingly get you into conversations with some women that you normally would not be in .
5. Get in where you fit in. I couldn't pull anything where I work at , even if I wanted to . However, at wine tastings, beer fest, comicon conventions and even political events, I somehow seem to be able to draw women to me. Why, its because its an event where I'm comfortable at, and the people can relate to me. We have things in common. that on top of everything else is where I fit in. Find out where you fit in and be ready to capitalize on the opportunities that present themselves.
6. Workout. It gives you energy and boost testosterone . It will give you more aggressive male energy . All I know is once I started to workout, I was more confident in myself and approach to women. It was easier to have posture and approach women . It does change your energy and view of life as well.
You'll gonna have to ask uncle ROM to make a video on the energy give off. Hell ask him to make a paid video. It will be worth the money. I'm still learning about the energy we project out to others.
Rom and Kevin Samuels are correct on everything they said. Many times I lost pussy because I didnt know I already had it . Before I use to dress down all the time, so no woman really looked at me. Once I started to dress semi professional and added the other stuff, I was able to attract more women.
Sorry for the essay ROM :)
You good Lion. Very good pointers.
Man you bring a great perspective to the game.
Thank you.
This is some ice cold game right here Rom.! 🥶🙌🏾
Men still care about what women think, you cannot carter to women bro. Just get with the ones that check for you, I am not a thug if a chick want that then I am just not for her.
Well said.
looks is very subjective and very important
Uncle Rom this isn't video related but i spoke to a friend the other day and he said that of all races black people are extremely insecure. Could you possibly do a video on that?
I have to think about that one. Studies have showed that Black people have higher self esteem than other groups.
Great video......but I am still left wondering what is the END GAME.
What is to be gained by having hoards of women throwing themselves at your feet.....all at the same time?
Is there ample warning that this can also garner attention from other men (vomit)?
A man still has the power to choose who he wants to deal with.
Appreciate the game Rom
Thank you.
Rom: "Us men are tryin to hit everything"....💯💯💯
I had to learn the hard way. I used to complain about not attracting women; however...I was WASTING time in ratchat clubs, instead of hanging around college women 😥😥😥😥
Yeah it's all about quality.
Rom Wills Str8 Up!🔥🔥🔥
whats social class?
Social economic groups. Poor, working class, middle class, upper middle class, rich.
Real rap Uncle Rom. Experience taught me masculinity trumps raw esthetics every time.
Those intangibles are very powerful.
The cologne factor is big deal. Women also love that deep voice.
All that is very important.
The cologne thing is tricky though, because a lot of people are sensitive to cologne even when worn lightly. Some workplaces are even banning it now. Then there is the issue of body heat and natural body scent. Too often, people forget that two people can wear the same cologne, amount etc; but the strength will come off differently. I can spray cologne once on my chest and even I can smell it. So, for some people they have to avoid eau de toilette cologne or cologne altogether.
What's up Big Rom, I notice that looks alone will almost never trigger her interest she'll need to know that he can buy a cup coffee that's what most weman want because she's probably able to maintain the rest without a purchase of that cup of grains that's what make her brain exchange.
I love your metaphors.
I do agree that it's never just looks alone. Men and women think like this. I wouldn't want to date a dime piece whos bitchy and women wouldn't want to date a handsome guy who is shy, timid, weird, etc. A book can have an amazing cover, but if you open it, read it and realize that there is nothing that's being printed that's worth any value, it remains on the bookshelf.
Truth.
As a good looking aspie... i can only agree
Seen.
Clint Eastwood with glass😂😂😂😂 damn
That's who he looked like.
I am a pretty boy, the main girls that get at me are lesbians or white girls, I'm a youngin, bout to be 20, and ima brother
Women don't want the Bruce Leroy 's the Chadwick Bosemans and the Steve Urkels
Not in the Black community.
stress the importance of a tight mouthpiece.
That's a separate video.
It's never good looks only...but a lot of ''face dudes'' still get play and are seen as sexy by women.
This is some strong knowledge. Be like water, adapt.
Yep.
Anjelica Santos love you too
If a guy only thinks he's looks gonna save the day. He's trippin. That's some stupid ass simping shit. Flirting it's not my style but i can always tell if women he's feeling me and then i always close the deal don't get it twisted. Yeah i'm the kind of guy when i kiss with a women the possible is definitely there that we can end in the bedroom the same day. Sweet like chocolate that's what women telling me all the time. I love it.
It's always more.
I know.
Good vid unc, it's not just looks that attract women.There's a market for every dude.
Yes. Every man must find the women who will deal with him.
Lol. Yea. Good one rom.
Thank you.
Depends on the female and her maturity...
If Ratchet Phat n Freaky would stay in her lane life would be great! However, she rarely does.
LOL! Truth.
CONFIDENCE personal style...what looks good on you...when I look in the mirror I see the MUTHAF@%$& man...ONE AND ONLY...and dare someone to disagree...HAHHAHAHA....if you disagree somethings wrong with YOU..hahaha...nawh but seriously it starts with what you kick out...style is from your experience, being self aware of your stature, your build,..knowledge of the world, social que,..I can kick it on all levels intellectually and dress.... I dont go outside my self trying to wear certain things(SKINNY JEANS HELL NAWH)or ACT outside of who I AM...YOOO Rom...J STROKES...conveyed what Ive been saying for awhile now...I know you hustle but your shits CRACK cats out here need MORE of this SHIITTT...hahaha
Thanks fam. I got a feeling that you can drop serious game on cats.
you said dude was high function autistic but did you know that I hate when people say someone is autistic when they don't fit in I know the kind of men you talk about who get called socially awkward but they around the wrong people
I feel you on that.