Once a woman and I become exclusive, I don't cheat and it has nothing to do with her. When I make a commitment, I stick to it because of honor. In other words, I'm loyal to my commitment, not necessarily the person. I think men understand that but most women don't believe me until they get curved.
Donnelle to my understanding, many western men don’t care to cheat until they’ve realized the goal of having an exclusive relationship with a women is more like a dream (and many men learn this while still boys) But women, on the other hand, well “we” cheat because we want to (subconsciously due to our unquenchable thirst for hypergamy). See we sincerely believe cheating is impossible for us to do until it hits us that it’s not. And we make a “unconscious mistake” where we “didn’t know what was going on until after it happened.” (And then to comfort ourselves we blame it on our companion and tell them they didn’t do their job right. )And that’s why we think it’s impossible for a man not to cheat because it’s near impossible for us not to.
I haven't cheated on the mother of my children/girlfriend and she calls me rare because of it, but there's alot of guys who just don't want to cheat, it's not that rare.
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Eibon phoenix .... I would say this. MOST of the time a man is only faithful as his options.
My husband's father wasn't a cheater and my husband isn't as well. He told me years ago that he had his share of women and now he only needed one. We both have been cheated on in the past but didn't let that stop us from believing that it was possible to be in a relationship with someone you loved and LIKED and remain loyal to each other. I do believe we are under the category of WON'T cheated. Great video. I hope the women are listening.
I been married for 7yrs and I fall in the the 3rd category, former player who could cheat but out of me living that life already and just being focus on family, making money and building I didn’t want to cheat. But all that didn’t mean nothing I still got played. Maybe it was karma who knows. I was ready to settle down but I think I was expected to still be that player she heard and knew I was. Crazy
Yes Sir, I learned that the hard way. But that’s where I’m at in life now. I played both sides the cheater/ player and mr faithful. And the only thing I come up with is to do what’s best for me always.
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Khilif Fox ..... I think SOME feel as though a man who don't cheat or bring drama is boring or low valued. MOST good faithful men get played
Khilif Fox don't ever come down hard on yourself because if she didn't know what she had another queen will some female's just like to conquer that lion out of the jungle which you say that you was tamed and she was probably damaged before you married her stay focused and what's for you will come be patient.
Yo it hurt like hell when your the victim but i agree you gotta leave the streets alone....when i was a cheater years ago...i use to lose sleep waiting on women to inform me of their menstrual returning...i was a mess bro...and i woke up and fortunately i dont have kids all ocer like some men do.. i was able to restore some maturity in my character and live life faithful to my relationship(new)....i thank God for being patient with me.. i could have been really messed up if it(behavior) made my life go left!! Women sometimes are juat as blind as the player until a game changing ecent occurs and the man is a dead duck
The reason it seems that way to most women iz because most women today date men for looks, high sexual value and popularity. Even if they themselves don't posses either. Especially in the Black community. In 2017 u got Black women who aren't good looking to average looking who won't date men unless they look good, but then expect him to pay bills, be loyal, and happy with mediocrity just because she's a woman, and in her own mind iz a good person. But, she wouldn't date a mediocre guy because he was a good person for a second.
Mr. Nate brother, I look at the world as a stage where we’re all actors. Some of us have roles only between 8 and 5, some like Uncle Rom are on 24/7. I come here just to be amazed at the 5 pm to 8 am world he describes as a playa and a witness. Personally I’m glad that the men of today have developed the antidote to the ratchet mess that started in the 90s. If commitment is a term that means nothing then so should cheating
As I stated in my book project... 'The bottom line here is that ‘love and marriage’ in the 21st centrury are for poor guys with no plan, lazy guys with no ambition, nice guys with no game, and below average-looking women who can’t do any better than those types of Men. While looks and personality do play a factor in the dating game, the more financially successful you are as a Man, the better your odds become in scoring a dimepiece with little baggage instead of having to settle for her fat, ugly girlfriend who’s holding her purse in the club...'
All women are like that, they always feel entitled to a man that's all that, meanwhile they're not even half those things themselves. Women date up meanwhile MOST men have to date down
I’ve always been a woman who subscribed to the idea that all men do not cheat. Even after a lot of older women kept telling me that all men do. However what you’ve presented is an interesting breakdown of why men don’t cheat. Something to think about! Great vid.
12:31÷ ..i call it a "hybrid playa"...can have females allday but just dont cheat by choice when in serious relationship...but when single...rotation stays full
did some time as i was younger and remember a scripture stating " out of 1000 men you'll find 1 that is righteous, yet out of 1000 women none were found to be righteous
You only as faithful as your options! Most out of shape, average joe 9-5ers aren’t getting cat thrown at them from multiple directions so they are faithful & if they acquire a taste for something else they pay for it! Plain n simple
Great video reminded me of my dad spiritually grounded man he never cheated on my mother and for me i don't cheat either it's not worth my time and effort .
I don't believe in cheating and do not have respect for cheating. I don't believe in telling someone you are going to be monogamous or pretending that you are monogamy oriented when you are not. I think its weak and immature. I think people should be up front, realistic, honest and straightforward about their sexual proclivities and let the person you are dealing with decide whether they want to accept it or not in whatever type of relationship you are in, including 'marriage'.
Good morning Rom, I totally agree with you on this one. I know quite a lot of great men who are faithful to their women and they are married too and their wives are great too. They compliment each other in such a great way. A lot of of it have to do with their upbringing too like you said. Those are the men who have everything going right for them, because they have principles along with the women they are with. No drama in their relationship. I know, because they are my circle of friends. Have a great day.
I'm glad you broke it down exactly like that. Brothas like that do exist. We must respect that. Some Women don't want to believe that....but that says more about them. Great Video.
Main reason I don't cheat on my wife is because our character and personalities are compatible. She understands me. 2nd reason, she's got the good stuff. I usually have to give her a break as well. Otherwise I'd be in it twice a day.
When you think about those brothers who are really religious whether they are in the mosque or in the church or if they're conscious a lot of women do not want a man who is truly righteous because most of them are not truly righteous some women are a facade but there are some who I really truly righteous
This is too true im a young man and my girl always thought i had someone on the side despite the fact i just never cheated beforehand some men do some women base it off their experience like mine was cheated on in the past but i never have plain and simple but some women find it hard to believe im like wow i know these days are crazy but wow...uncle rom thanks for the info
Rom Wills true brother some people have their reasons and some just don't have a necessity to but regardless i have nothing but love for my sisters and brothers out here doing there thing that works for them, looking forward to the next video 👍
Some women remain in the presence of scorn women and never outgrow the circle that kill there relationships the participate in...in most cases where men arent cheaters...that credit is lost due to there circle of negetive women who dont ever recognize there value....
Maturity has a lot to do with men being faithful. As we mature we make better overall decisions and are less likely to jeopardize ruining a good relationship over some used up p-ssy. And for the women who keep promoting the idea that all men cheat, are just using shaming tactics to justify their cheating ways.
Keyboard Warrior, it depends on the upbringing of the child. There are plenty of parents who don't set the right examples so don't assume that everyone knows right from wrong. With maturity usually comes wisdom to make better decisions. That is strictly my opinion, you don't have to agree with it.
Yes. Black women they are plenty of faithful men. Also we are even more faithful when you aren't arguing with us and trying your best of emasculating us with your "education"
Thank you for the video. I’m a DON’T, but not because of any religious reasons. (I won’t lie and say that I NEVER did), but that was back in the day. I firmly believe a person should BE what they want to HAVE. (If I want HER slim, trim, attractive, intelligent, ambitious and so on, then I need to be slim, trim, attractive, intelligent, ambitions and so on). I am the same way with fidelity. I don’t cheat, because I don’t want someone who will cheat. Presently not in a relationship now because I have a VERY high standard for what I want… and frankly… at this point I am not at the standard I am looking for in a woman - when I reach that, I’ll get back out there (and if I don't find her, I am fully prepared to be by myself, because I will not settle, and I'm cool with that). If and when I DO, find that woman, I will not be a cheater, which will not be difficult because I never really rolled that way anyhow - hell, I'm celibate right NOW by CHOICE… (which no woman believes is possible of course, but what ever). Point being, I keep it under control right now while I’m free to do what I want… so I definitely don’t cheat in a relationship. Good video, thanks.
I've been an habitual cheater my whole life.....up until my present relationship. I reflect back on all the HURTFUL, NEGATIVE RIPPLE EFFECTS OF MY ACTIONS! I PROMISED MYSELF TO NEVER DO THAT AGAIN...I WILL LEAVE BEFORE DO THAT AGAIN.
Agree brother. It always comes down to the man values at the end of the day. It's a straight path, very narrow. I don't find any values in cheating, deception and all that. It is about self-respect, your principles. Now, can such a man forgive the woman who cheats?
+John Doughboy, I agree with all you said, but know forgiveness is for ourselves. Of course, forgiveness doesn't mean we have to accept that person back in your life.
Uncle Rom, you took a lot of words out of my big mouth. But very true. Those that can't have little or no option to do so. Hence, they make peace with themselves and content with what they have. Btw, in Norbit Eddie Murphy played both the title character and the fat wife. You know he had to play more than one role. The ones that don't aren't always religious. It can also be cultural. As young boys these men were raised to be good and righteous men. To be proper gentlemen. So it's in their creed to be always do the right thing. There's a code that they have been taught to closely/strictly adhere to. And of course most women can't approach such men since they're not righteous or pure at heart. So, they have little to nothing to offer these men. It's impossible for those women to build themselves up to the level of these men. And these have been warned about women that are trifling. Finally, the ones that won't are often been through all that madness as you said. So, they've usually moved on to bigger and better things in life. They are at a point in their lives where they're ready to make that commitment to woman. Especially, if she's fine in more than one way. Whether she's a 9, 8, or even if she's an adjustable 7 that brings a lot to the table. He's going to make that commitment to make it work. In fact, I remember Patrice O'Neal talk about the whole issue of commitment. (Second link below) th-cam.com/video/QKi1ePbpi4c/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/fwn3fILzgrM/w-d-xo.html
See when people say men are just out here with multiple they don't take into consideration a man's culture. If they were raised with a code they are not going to violate it.
Very true. And the members of that man's culture will see to it that it's never violated. Especially, where family reputation and honor are important to uphold. The consequences of violating the code can be very severe. Especially, where shame and the threat of being ostracized is possible. The men in such cultures will often keep each other in line as much as possible. Or their own families will.
My husband, I consider him loyal. More loyal than I am and I consider myself loyal. During a rough period in my marriage I enjoyed getting the wrong type of attention from men that weren't my husband. I've had to divest from vanity and the empty validation of the male gaze. Threw away my makeup and My head is currently shaved now. I wear modest and loose clothing and I feel a sense of freedom. I feel the need for men's conformation that I'm beautiful is some what of a trap. Maybe it's part of the ugly duckling syndrome. But I'm blessed my husband forgave me.
Someone asked if marriage is for middle class to low middle class men, if your a man with money and status is it worth it when your in certain social circles with more women who want what you have?
Anytime somebody says “all” it’s almost always not true. I think this perception plays a part as to why there’s so much distrust between men and women these days.
Their is also the men that have learned through their experiences and have grown to follow their lifes path and they may no longer include dealing with multiple women.
Super video big bro. People need to remember that cheating isn't a gender thing because women cheat as much if not more that men. But I totally agree with you for the simple fact I'm not the cheating type and I'm a man. Btw what is the definition of an omega?
A woman should be with a guy who loves sports. Think about. If he can stay committed to a team since he was a child despite if they have a good or bad season, they can do the same for a woman...assuming if SHE can stay committed to him as well. What do y'all think?
Robster C. Well I like this, I have been a LeBron James fan for 14 years now. Even after his failures in Cleveland and moving to Miami, Florida I still believed he would win a ring for Cleveland and he did win one for Cleveland. I am only 21 years old, a female and dated to two guys and never thought of cheating once and never did. I think you are on to something, Rom has some research to do. Thanks for sharing this interesting idea.
My uncle did this. Him and my dad were always big sports fans. His last wife didn't show her "insecurities" until they got married. At his sons pal league basketball games he coached she use to think his number was on the side of Gatorades he passed out.... And I thought my ex thinking I smashed this Jehovah witness lady was bad.
Facts! I don't cheat did at one point hell every man did at one point but once my babies came i played it fair becuz of da love i have for dem also da baby mother for having them and nuturing being committed no partyn drinkn drugs etc as well us both we just stick to doing us but to sum men as of myself i dont wanna let down da kids so my commitment runs both ways to da mother and kids becuz it gonna hurt my kids seeing their mother hurtn in tears from another woman being in da picture who's not important to them they dad got close to so my love for dem runs deeper than outside lust for me we can fulfill each other needs so whats da point of bringn extra to da table out of greed causing stress and stress ruins a man testosterone so ill rather stay in my lane.
I think this is a worthy video idea: “Guys who use relationships to get other women” or A man’s significant other adding a layer of appeal to him from other women otherwise nonexistent if he was single. That may sound counterintuitive but I remember guys from college who used their relationship status to eliminate the option for a relationship with the women they cheated with. They stayed with a main girlfriend of a high enough caliber to convince the lesser caliber women that surely you don't expect me to leave her. I truly think psychologically if your girl is high status enough other women will not try to get you to leave her but will be ok with you just cheating with them. They may even be exclusive to you. Think of the number of women who would be with Jay Z solely because he is with Beyoncé. If Beyoncé got with the most repulsive man you can think of that man would be able to get women who are way above his league without Beyoncé have always said that can’t be reversed and men be with a woman just because she is with a particular man. If a repulsive woman got with Will Smith, we would lose respect for him on a level but not suddenly lust for her. There will always be that one guy who just like the thrill of taking another man’s woman but it’s not because he wants her.
Women go after high caliber men with beautiful because it validates them to think they can take the man for even a little while. Women are very competitive with each other.
Women usually define things based on the selctions of what they experience...you have some women that have devoted men due to what they can offer a man...its a few reasons why most men dont cheat...sometimes a man find a woman that can be a friend and his woman...it really depends...usually a well balanced woman can have a man into a committed relationship with her in a mindstate to keep it going with her...those last really long times...
I knew off rip one was going to be men who didn’t have the option to cheat…I get the religious one…the third yea it’ll be a man who’s burnt out with the game or has something to lose. (Either scarcity by finances/family or just burned out from the game). Most guys with a player past who are great with women will be more inclined to cheat but the hotter the girlfriend/wife (if she’s a cool chick as well) the less likely he will big facts Unc.
Uncle Rom, you forgot to add the men who don't cheat anymore cause they are old, are not attractive anymore, their dicks don't work, and/or finally they realize the woman they that stayed is a good woman after years of mistreatment (if she hasn't left or died). I was sideeyeing the hell outta this title, LMAO. Great video!Have a great day!
JD Bailey, Those things don't stop a man from cheating. I know from professional marriage counselors and personal experience that older folks are getting down just like younger ones. Dicks not working don't stop anything. I have an older female friend who says her 65 year old man is good with his tongue.
DaMayorOfNewYork I never said women dont cheat. Nor did I say a broken dick stopped men from cheating.I was referencing married men. However, the category I mentioned does exist. In fact there is a whole set of men whose dicks have never, ever worked correctly. There are tons of women with very high sex drives that aren't able to have their needs met. They get women can't keep one because of it. Lol. Good dick is a rarity. In fact many women are undersexed and don't orgasm so they settle or find someone else on the side to get their needs met just as you stated. Men don't care about sexually satisfying women anyhow.
Rom Wills I know it doesn't. Lmao. But the category I mentioned does exist. Good for her bit tongue ain't enough for me, I need the full package!
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DaMayorOfNewYork .... listen man, you know these women feel as though their pussy is good enough and we men should be happy having them. ..... (Yeah Right ! )
JD Bailey Wait a minute now I have a friend he 73 and his wife is like 81 his thing don't work but he use his mouth he has a really nice vehicle and he has money so when he pull up the female be running to get in his truck a lot of young girls get with him cause he buys them things he will give up the money and I'm told him numerous times why would you put your mouth on these girls you don't even know who all they giving it up to if you missed up in your pants you can pull your pants up and no one will know you got something but if your mouth messed up you can't hide that everybody gotta know and he just laughs and tell me it's worth it and the whole town knows he do this the church he is at is one of the biggest here you would think they would remove him from that Position but they say he alone gives over $2500 a month to the church so I guess money means more
What's up Big Rom, men that don't cheat has a woman that has her mate best interest for their being together she makes sure her king is well taken care of in every department of their relationship management is her goal of her kings time to blend with hers making the relationship complete.
Hey Rom great video but I was manly considering the view from a woman's perception on why a woman thinks that a man is cheating and he is not. It seems that every relationship I get in I always get accused. I just think that all women accepted that as a fact.
I see what you're saying. They giving you a compliment in a way. They know other women will be after you and women know how other women are and the tricks of seduction they will use.
Man, that shit brings memories. I am the last one and the funny thing was the girl at the time thought I was cheating. Little did she knew when she dumped me. 😉😎
Some times the thumb downs blow me away. People should be forced to comment when they thumb down. Gotta be a hater or disbeliever of some sort. I will admit that my life has flipped upside down because being a non cheater has made me a target for women to cheat on me. Took me a while to realise but i've come to this realisation over a long time.
As I get older the more I question whether monogamy is ideal for all men. I don’t remember what video but Rom said that "If we lived in a civilized society, we would practice polygamy" Something along those lines. I am paraphrasing. However, I agree with this because not some men and I only say some cannot be pleased by just one woman. I am not talking exclusively sexually. I am talking mentally, spiritually, socially, domestically, etc. I will give an example. When I was in college I courted two women at the same time. The only time I ever did something like this. They both were exceptionally attractive and intelligent. One I tried to get with at the beginning of the year but for whatever reason did not click, let’s call her Sarah. Later in the year I met the other one and we got in a relationship, let’s call her Tamar. Now later Sarah came in the picture and we talked. Now, I am dating both. I was only having sex with Tamar and was not with Sarah but we did make out and stuff. Sarah was an intellectual, philosopher type. She could hold conversations with me about things I enjoyed talking about. She challenged me and enjoyed deep introspective conversations. To this day I have not dated a woman like her again. She is the woman I wanted to be with but did not share my religious beliefs. She did at first but started questioning and shifting away from them. This was a problem for me so I could not exclusively be with her and we ended our relationship. Tamar was by far the sexiest of the two and intelligent. However, she did not value my deep conversations and would even fall asleep on the phone sometimes. She cooked for me (even though I did not like her cooking), cleaned for me, had the most amazing body I have ever seen on a woman and the sex was the best I ever had. Me and her also studied well together and complimented each other academically. We split academic responsibilities between each other so we could spend more time together. Classes I was weak at she was strong in and vice versa. Personal never compromised our business. She was the only woman I ever dated like that before. She shared my spiritual beliefs but no deep connection which I value highly. Why date them both and not choose just one? This did not start out trying to be a player. I was trying to court Sarah and see what she had to offer. Once I discovered she had things I valued most I was going to make the transition however she hit me with the change of faith and after much debating I ended it myself. She hated me for it but neither one ever found out about each other. I could have kept it going but again I was not trying to talk to multiple girls. Now in retrospect during that time it was wonderful. I would have wonderful conversations with Sarah that acted as a potent aphrodisiac followed by making out. I would then do all my class work and study with Tamar, followed by bad food that Tamar cooked but have fantastic sex. It was so potent on both ends of the spectrum. I don’t feel bad about it at all because I supported both these women, never lied to either of them though of course I did not tell them everything. I was stressed sometimes trying not to get caught with one or the other and its challenging courting two high functioning women at the same time. This with both parties knowing would be my ideal or one amazing woman that is both women. I have not even found another one of these women as individuals.
Thanks for sharing that. Monogamy is tough. The men who are monogamous by choice have a very strong will which I admire. It's the path to becoming a Superior Man.
Rom Wills, may I request for you to make a video about ratchet women? Whether you believe that you think I am a destestable woman or not you are entitled to your beliefs. But, I keep hearing the term being thrown around and I have tried to research these women because I am not to familiar with them. I have come across a few women who have one or two traits of what is used to describe a ratchet woman. But they don't fit the complete bill. I am trying to research them is for my sons sake. He is twelve years old and I know that at some point he is going to develop an interest in the opposite sex. But, I am concerned about what is out there. As I have said I have come across a number of women that have one or two traits that these women seem to have. I even came across one woman who told me that she likes it when men "put her in her place." But, I am rather hesitant to become too acquainted with such women. As I have said, whether you think I am liying about knowing about such women, that is up to you to decide. But, If you would make a video going into detail about these ratchet women and how they conduct themselves, how they lure men in and the claim that they like men who will beat them down, so that my son can know what to look for I would greatly appreciate it.
You not knowing any ratchet women means you have some class. Your son will subconsciously use you as a model for the women he will choose. I prefer not to give ratchet women any shine. My channel focuses on telling men to only deal with quality women. Just do a TH-cam search on the term "Ratchet."
Rom Wills but I am concerned. Haven't these women have ensnared men by pretending to be nice girls and being put together? I have heard of men who came from good families with good women in their families and they still became seduced by these women. Or what if I were to meet a ratchet and she manages to decieve me into thinking she is good for my son? I have told him as much of the information I have procurred about these women. But, I am not certain it's enough. And what if he goes through a rebellious age and starts dating a ratchet just to spite me? These women make me nervous.
Looking back, I can honestly say I never cheated. Mainly because I never been in a full long-term relationship. I've always been the Serial-dater/ Side guy. I rather tell a chick the truth about how I move, then go out, cheat and ruin a good thing. 🤷🏾♂️
Good Video And Excellent Dialogue among brethren as usual...The single thing differentiates men and women in this regard is the concept of honor...The "sistahood" from top to bottom has no honor and as such loyality means nothing to them. We can pull stat after stat that clearly demonstrate the trajectory of this selfish thinking...Too many fellas see that their loyality carries no currenty in the current dating/mating scene because if it did we would see much different choices being made...When a guy says he doesn't trust women it's not bitterness he's simply following the facts.... A guy's faithfulness in this day and age needs to be mainly to himself and his children all others have to be a much lower priority. Lately, when I see videos like this, women don't even comment much less challenge them as they know it's true... Wishing Peace, Clarity And Blessings To All
Rom gotta question for you. In your opinion m, why is it that in our community in particular these men in this video are on average seen by most woemn as boring or lame? I think every black man in america has been told or overheard that if you not giving a woman drama or cheating or even beatin her ass in some cases then you lame or boring.. Why is it that in our community decent men are shamed and not championed.. But pookie with 10 kids is the hero. Not sayin im innocent but in my own life the women i dogged and treated like trash respected and liked me more than the ones i didnt.. You said it before that women make players but they also at the same time villify the decent good men.. Why is that?
All of these men who don't sleep around they do have a threshold. Women should not take this type of man for granted if they do they'll turn him into a dog or a player.
There’s the assumption that the dude cheats, so they feel justified in their cheating till it’s too late and realize dude was choosing not to. #justsaying
To me there's no reason to really cheat, specially in this day in age, If your really about what you want, shouldn't be too much of an issue. If there's problems in your realtionsnship too the point were its ruining your happiness, be real, whether it's sex, money etc..those are legitimate reasons that can cause issues, don't dress it up or sugar coat it, just speak up. I understand the game, more money, stauts, d@#k game, or mouth piece a man has the options he'll have, which is why men like Kevin Hart shouldn't have gotten married so soon before exploring his OPTIONS, he probably never had it like that before. As far as the women complain, lol most don't even care about cheating, we've seen women get with men, married, relationships.. most don't even have respect for it anymore.
I hate to play devils advocate but I believe most men will cheat. Religious factors, personal code or how fine your wife is don't matter. The only guys I know in my age bracket that don't cheat are guys that fall into they can't cheat group. Now how I have avoided cheating in my past relationships and what I suspect these men who don't cheat for whatever reason do also is change the way they move entirely. Like keep your movements with your partner and in the realm of wholesome. I don't believe any man who is in a relationship can live and move like a single man and be faithful. Any man that has seen what a woman who wants to have sex with you will do to have sex with you knows that you can only say no so many times. I am not saying all men are cheaters but I am saying that most men will and the only consistent way to avoid it is change the way you move when you are in a committed relationship.
I agree that most men will cheat if given the opportunity. Most women too. That's why it's extraordinary when a man can be monogamous through their own will.
Anti Idiot - Do your research, and go for it. There are lists of cities that are marriage friendly (if that's what you're looking for). Cross-reference that with locales with better-than-average-business outlooks, and pull the trigger. I wish you Godspeed. audentes Fortuna iuvat - Fortune favors the bold!
The only time I'll cheat is if I was approached by "big booty Brenda" from the streets. That's why I wanna pipe down some hoochies now before a relationship. Oh, Yea Rom. You were right. That girl I travel to work with was checking me. She has now marked me as her territory. I gon have to drop a hint where I am at with us next week. Tell her in code I am into just chilling. I like her tho. She's sweet, homely and she's a bit tatted up which I also like. Guess she's best of both worlds for me which has me stumped. I want to cupcake her so bad but I have to stay on my game cause I don't want a serious relationship right now. I'm trying to fully develop my "killer Instinct" which attracted her in the first place. If she's down with being cozy companions, I'll be happy with that.
Once a woman and I become exclusive, I don't cheat and it has nothing to do with her. When I make a commitment, I stick to it because of honor. In other words, I'm loyal to my commitment, not necessarily the person. I think men understand that but most women don't believe me until they get curved.
Honor is a word I should have used. Many men just believe in honor and keeping their word.
Rom Wills exactly sir
Donnelle. Thank you brother. I'm the same way. When I give my word I stick to it.
Donnelle to my understanding, many western men don’t care to cheat until they’ve realized the goal of having an exclusive relationship with a women is more like a dream (and many men learn this while still boys) But women, on the other hand, well “we” cheat because we want to (subconsciously due to our unquenchable thirst for hypergamy). See we sincerely believe cheating is impossible for us to do until it hits us that it’s not. And we make a “unconscious mistake” where we “didn’t know what was going on until after it happened.” (And then to comfort ourselves we blame it on our companion and tell them they didn’t do their job right. )And that’s why we think it’s impossible for a man not to cheat because it’s near impossible for us not to.
@@TZ2nd Makes sense.
I haven't cheated on the mother of my children/girlfriend and she calls me rare because of it, but there's alot of guys who just don't want to cheat, it's not that rare.
Eibon phoenix .... I would say this. MOST of the time a man is only faithful as his options.
Mr. Nate But I could've cheated on a couple of ocassions.
Seen.
My husband's father wasn't a cheater and my husband isn't as well. He told me years ago that he had his share of women and now he only needed one. We both have been cheated on in the past but didn't let that stop us from believing that it was possible to be in a relationship with someone you loved and LIKED and remain loyal to each other. I do believe we are under the category of WON'T cheated. Great video. I hope the women are listening.
Everybody ain't about that life.
Myluvisdivine. You're a rarity. And your man would be dumb to cheat on you. Nice pic.
Ain't that the sad truth?
Thank you for the compliment. The dope part about my husband is we both know what we have in each other and we make sure we show it.
@@myluvisdivine8085 god bless you both...
I been married for 7yrs and I fall in the the 3rd category, former player who could cheat but out of me living that life already and just being focus on family, making money and building I didn’t want to cheat. But all that didn’t mean nothing I still got played. Maybe it was karma who knows. I was ready to settle down but I think I was expected to still be that player she heard and knew I was. Crazy
Still do what's best for your spirit.
Yes Sir, I learned that the hard way. But that’s where I’m at in life now. I played both sides the cheater/ player and mr faithful. And the only thing I come up with is to do what’s best for me always.
Khilif Fox ..... I think SOME feel as though a man who don't cheat or bring drama is boring or low valued. MOST good faithful men get played
Khilif Fox don't ever come down hard on yourself because if she didn't know what she had another queen will some female's just like to conquer that lion out of the jungle which you say that you was tamed and she was probably damaged before you married her stay focused and what's for you will come be patient.
Yo it hurt like hell when your the victim but i agree you gotta leave the streets alone....when i was a cheater years ago...i use to lose sleep waiting on women to inform me of their menstrual returning...i was a mess bro...and i woke up and fortunately i dont have kids all ocer like some men do.. i was able to restore some maturity in my character and live life faithful to my relationship(new)....i thank God for being patient with me.. i could have been really messed up if it(behavior) made my life go left!! Women sometimes are juat as blind as the player until a game changing ecent occurs and the man is a dead duck
The reason it seems that way to most women iz because most women today date men for looks, high sexual value and popularity. Even if they themselves don't posses either. Especially in the Black community. In 2017 u got Black women who aren't good looking to average looking who won't date men unless they look good, but then expect him to pay bills, be loyal, and happy with mediocrity just because she's a woman, and in her own mind iz a good person. But, she wouldn't date a mediocre guy because he was a good person for a second.
True.
Mr. Nate brother, I look at the world as a stage where we’re all actors. Some of us have roles only between 8 and 5, some like Uncle Rom are on 24/7. I come here just to be amazed at the 5 pm to 8 am world he describes as a playa and a witness.
Personally I’m glad that the men of today have developed the antidote to the ratchet mess that started in the 90s. If commitment is a term that means nothing then so should cheating
As I stated in my book project...
'The bottom line here is that ‘love and marriage’ in the 21st centrury are for poor guys with no plan, lazy guys with no ambition, nice guys with no game, and below average-looking women who can’t do any better than those types of Men. While looks and personality do play a factor in the dating game, the more financially successful you are as a Man, the better your odds become in scoring a dimepiece with little baggage instead of having to settle for her fat, ugly girlfriend who’s holding her purse in the club...'
All women are like that, they always feel entitled to a man that's all that, meanwhile they're not even half those things themselves. Women date up meanwhile MOST men have to date down
Most Black women are under the misconception that they're dating down.
I’ve always been a woman who subscribed to the idea that all men do not cheat. Even after a lot of older women kept telling me that all men do. However what you’ve presented is an interesting breakdown of why men don’t cheat. Something to think about! Great vid.
paige ryan,
Thank you.
Anti Idiot Oh my goodness!! In a perfect world I would absolutely run away with him. He sounds like someone I could submit to. Thank you Silas.
Rom Wills You’re Welcome
Only good thing I look forward to when I get up at 5 are these knowledgeable videos
Thanks.
Ditto
Rom Wills thank u
12:31÷ ..i call it a "hybrid playa"...can have females allday but just dont cheat by choice when in serious relationship...but when single...rotation stays full
They do exist! My brother is an example of those types of man. His girlfriends were just the opposite. He held firm to his convictions.
That's what I'm finding. The men are righteous but the women are not.
SamsoniteDreadz The Lion of Fire,
Trust me I could write a book on cheating women.
did some time as i was younger and remember a scripture stating " out of 1000 men you'll find 1 that is righteous, yet out of 1000 women none were found to be righteous
umbeon I like how you speak highly of your brother, like he is example or role model for you.
You only as faithful as your options! Most out of shape, average joe 9-5ers aren’t getting cat thrown at them from multiple directions so they are faithful & if they acquire a taste for something else they pay for it! Plain n simple
Great video reminded me of my dad spiritually grounded man he never cheated on my mother and for me i don't cheat either it's not worth my time and effort .
That's what's up.
I don't believe in cheating and do not have respect for cheating. I don't believe in telling someone you are going to be monogamous or pretending that you are monogamy oriented when you are not. I think its weak and immature. I think people should be up front, realistic, honest and straightforward about their sexual proclivities and let the person you are dealing with decide whether they want to accept it or not in whatever type of relationship you are in, including 'marriage'.
Well said.
Good morning Rom, I totally agree with you on this one. I know quite a lot of great men who are faithful to their women and they are married too and their wives are great too. They compliment each other in such a great way. A lot of of it have to do with their upbringing too like you said. Those are the men who have everything going right for them, because they have principles along with the women they are with. No drama in their relationship. I know, because they are my circle of friends. Have a great day.
Thank you sis.
I've never cheated, my relationships felt too 'perfect' I was probably getting cheated on tho lol
I feel you.
I'm glad you broke it down exactly like that. Brothas like that do exist. We must respect that. Some Women don't want to believe that....but that says more about them. Great Video.
Many men have control over themselves like that. People have to respect that.
Main reason I don't cheat on my wife is because our character and personalities are compatible. She understands me. 2nd reason, she's got the good stuff. I usually have to give her a break as well. Otherwise I'd be in it twice a day.
The Hawk lmfao
Eibon phoenix. Who knows? You might be right. We're not rich but we're not doing bad financially. I feel blessed.
Anti Idiot. Where you been man? I ain't seen you on Uncle Rom's channel in a minute.
LOL!
Anti Idiot. LOL! Cool. Glad you're back Fam.
When you think about those brothers who are really religious whether they are in the mosque or in the church or if they're conscious a lot of women do not want a man who is truly righteous because most of them are not truly righteous some women are a facade but there are some who I really truly righteous
This is too true im a young man and my girl always thought i had someone on the side despite the fact i just never cheated beforehand some men do some women base it off their experience like mine was cheated on in the past but i never have plain and simple but some women find it hard to believe im like wow i know these days are crazy but wow...uncle rom thanks for the info
Cheating isn't everybody's thing.
Rom Wills true brother some people have their reasons and some just don't have a necessity to but regardless i have nothing but love for my sisters and brothers out here doing there thing that works for them, looking forward to the next video 👍
Some women remain in the presence of scorn women and never outgrow the circle that kill there relationships the participate in...in most cases where men arent cheaters...that credit is lost due to there circle of negetive women who dont ever recognize there value....
Maturity has a lot to do with men being faithful. As we mature we make better overall decisions and are less likely to jeopardize ruining a good relationship over some used up p-ssy. And for the women who keep promoting the idea that all men cheat, are just using shaming tactics to justify their cheating ways.
SWATS 214 real talk
What does maturity have to do with being faithful. Kids know it's wrong to cheat
Keyboard Warrior, it depends on the upbringing of the child. There are plenty of parents who don't set the right examples so don't assume that everyone knows right from wrong. With maturity usually comes wisdom to make better decisions. That is strictly my opinion, you don't have to agree with it.
Mr C they know it's wrong to cheat yet they do it anyway. That's what makes them "kids".
I cannot break my word and trust so i won't cheat
Yes. Black women they are plenty of faithful men. Also we are even more faithful when you aren't arguing with us and trying your best of emasculating us with your "education"
Truth.
Thank you for the video. I’m a DON’T, but not because of any religious reasons. (I won’t lie and say that I NEVER did), but that was back in the day.
I firmly believe a person should BE what they want to HAVE. (If I want HER slim, trim, attractive, intelligent, ambitious and so on, then I need to be slim, trim, attractive, intelligent, ambitions and so on).
I am the same way with fidelity. I don’t cheat, because I don’t want someone who will cheat. Presently not in a relationship now because I have a VERY high standard for what I want… and frankly… at this point I am not at the standard I am looking for in a woman - when I reach that, I’ll get back out there (and if I don't find her, I am fully prepared to be by myself, because I will not settle, and I'm cool with that). If and when I DO, find that woman, I will not be a cheater, which will not be difficult because I never really rolled that way anyhow - hell, I'm celibate right NOW by CHOICE… (which no woman believes is possible of course, but what ever). Point being, I keep it under control right now while I’m free to do what I want… so I definitely don’t cheat in a relationship.
Good video, thanks.
You're welcome.
Just finished excellent points bro
Thank you.
Rom Wills no prob fam thanks for letting me post my content
Morning Unc ROM spitting that hot fire . Truth you are speaking family .
Truth.
Rom i almost spit my drink out,when you mentioned the story about the minister😂😂😂😂👏👏👏
Facts! I’d like to think I’m guy number 3. Always told “dude u could be having your way...” but I’m like blah. It’s more to it.
Seen.
Rom thank you for commenting on the righteous aspect of not cheating.
You'e welcome.
Damnnn rom that was funny the norbit analogy😂😂😁😁great video as always bro.💪💪👌
good morning uncle Rom.these are all facts.
Thank you.
The whole women accusing men of cheating stems from women’s guilt from cheating on all their partners in the past.
Truth.
Jay Alizay Beats. Good comment.
I've been an habitual cheater my whole life.....up until my present relationship. I reflect back on all the HURTFUL, NEGATIVE RIPPLE EFFECTS OF MY ACTIONS! I PROMISED MYSELF TO NEVER DO THAT AGAIN...I WILL LEAVE BEFORE DO THAT AGAIN.
Rom you a fool...Lol Norbit!!!! Great Vid.
Just saying.
GM Brethren! ☕👍👍👍👍👍
Good morning brotha.
Agree brother. It always comes down to the man values at the end of the day. It's a straight path, very narrow. I don't find any values in cheating, deception and all that. It is about self-respect, your principles. Now, can such a man forgive the woman who cheats?
Forgiveness is tough.
+John Doughboy, I agree with all you said, but know forgiveness is for ourselves. Of course, forgiveness doesn't mean we have to accept that person back in your life.
Uncle Rom, you took a lot of words out of my big mouth.
But very true. Those that can't have little or no option to do so. Hence, they make peace with themselves and content with what they have. Btw, in Norbit Eddie Murphy played both the title character and the fat wife. You know he had to play more than one role.
The ones that don't aren't always religious. It can also be cultural. As young boys these men were raised to be good and righteous men. To be proper gentlemen. So it's in their creed to be always do the right thing. There's a code that they have been taught to closely/strictly adhere to. And of course most women can't approach such men since they're not righteous or pure at heart. So, they have little to nothing to offer these men. It's impossible for those women to build themselves up to the level of these men. And these have been warned about women that are trifling.
Finally, the ones that won't are often been through all that madness as you said. So, they've usually moved on to bigger and better things in life. They are at a point in their lives where they're ready to make that commitment to woman. Especially, if she's fine in more than one way. Whether she's a 9, 8, or even if she's an adjustable 7 that brings a lot to the table. He's going to make that commitment to make it work. In fact, I remember Patrice O'Neal talk about the whole issue of commitment. (Second link below)
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See when people say men are just out here with multiple they don't take into consideration a man's culture. If they were raised with a code they are not going to violate it.
Very true. And the members of that man's culture will see to it that it's never violated. Especially, where family reputation and honor are important to uphold. The consequences of violating the code can be very severe. Especially, where shame and the threat of being ostracized is possible. The men in such cultures will often keep each other in line as much as possible. Or their own families will.
Great video as always
Thanks fam.
My husband, I consider him loyal. More loyal than I am and I consider myself loyal.
During a rough period in my marriage I enjoyed getting the wrong type of attention from men that weren't my husband. I've had to divest from vanity and the empty validation of the male gaze.
Threw away my makeup and
My head is currently shaved now. I wear modest and loose clothing and I feel a sense of freedom. I feel the need for men's conformation that I'm beautiful is some what of a trap.
Maybe it's part of the ugly duckling syndrome. But I'm blessed my husband forgave me.
Great video. I appreciate the fact that all men don’t cheat. It’s a choice, even though we have options. Thanks for dropping knowledge .
i would cheat on the woman in the thumbnail for wearing that wig!
LOL!
Lmaooo
You guys will miss out on the best women worrying about her hair.
Spoken truth, it was a joke Captain Serious...
Jawaz Shabazz - sounds like spoken truth is hitting you with a shaming tactic.
Great topic hehe
It was requested.
Someone asked if marriage is for middle class to low middle class men, if your a man with money and status is it worth it when your in certain social circles with more women who want what you have?
That's an interesting question.
Ask all the wealthy men who are married
Anytime somebody says “all” it’s almost always not true. I think this perception plays a part as to why there’s so much distrust between men and women these days.
Great Video. I think I definitely fall in that 3rd category
I can see that. Men working to better the community will have a level of discipline.
Their is also the men that have learned through their experiences and have grown to follow their lifes path and they may no longer include dealing with multiple women.
Super video big bro. People need to remember that cheating isn't a gender thing because women cheat as much if not more that men. But I totally agree with you for the simple fact I'm not the cheating type and I'm a man. Btw what is the definition of an omega?
People consider an Omega to be that lowest type of man.
Good video. I like how you broke it down.
Thank you.
Rom Wills you're welcome brotha.
Do you think you can do a video about cutting off the tv and limiting social media
I did that on my business channel.
I believe there are great men out there like that.
They exist.
A woman should be with a guy who loves sports. Think about. If he can stay committed to a team since he was a child despite if they have a good or bad season, they can do the same for a woman...assuming if SHE can stay committed to him as well. What do y'all think?
You might have something there.
Robster C. Well hmmm interesting
Robster C. Well I like this, I have been a LeBron James fan for 14 years now. Even after his failures in Cleveland and moving to Miami, Florida I still believed he would win a ring for Cleveland and he did win one for Cleveland. I am only 21 years old, a female and dated to two guys and never thought of cheating once and never did. I think you are on to something, Rom has some research to do. Thanks for sharing this interesting idea.
Robster C. Well Very interesting theory!
My uncle did this. Him and my dad were always big sports fans. His last wife didn't show her "insecurities" until they got married.
At his sons pal league basketball games he coached she use to think his number was on the side of Gatorades he passed out....
And I thought my ex thinking I smashed this Jehovah witness lady was bad.
I never Cheat on my Woman ,even when they do....But I will Leave them ,as soon as I find out...Bye Felicia..
Facts! I don't cheat did at one point hell every man did at one point but once my babies came i played it fair becuz of da love i have for dem also da baby mother for having them and nuturing being committed no partyn drinkn drugs etc as well us both we just stick to doing us but to sum men as of myself i dont wanna let down da kids so my commitment runs both ways to da mother and kids becuz it gonna hurt my kids seeing their mother hurtn in tears from another woman being in da picture who's not important to them they dad got close to so my love for dem runs deeper than outside lust for me we can fulfill each other needs so whats da point of bringn extra to da table out of greed causing stress and stress ruins a man testosterone so ill rather stay in my lane.
I think this is a worthy video idea: “Guys who use relationships to get other women” or A man’s significant other adding a layer of appeal to him from other women otherwise nonexistent if he was single. That may sound counterintuitive but I remember guys from college who used their relationship status to eliminate the option for a relationship with the women they cheated with. They stayed with a main girlfriend of a high enough caliber to convince the lesser caliber women that surely you don't expect me to leave her. I truly think psychologically if your girl is high status enough other women will not try to get you to leave her but will be ok with you just cheating with them. They may even be exclusive to you. Think of the number of women who would be with Jay Z solely because he is with Beyoncé. If Beyoncé got with the most repulsive man you can think of that man would be able to get women who are way above his league without Beyoncé have always said that can’t be reversed and men be with a woman just because she is with a particular man. If a repulsive woman got with Will Smith, we would lose respect for him on a level but not suddenly lust for her. There will always be that one guy who just like the thrill of taking another man’s woman but it’s not because he wants her.
Women go after high caliber men with beautiful because it validates them to think they can take the man for even a little while. Women are very competitive with each other.
Free Will is always and forever will be an option
Truth.
Classic Uncle Rome!
Thank you.
Women usually define things based on the selctions of what they experience...you have some women that have devoted men due to what they can offer a man...its a few reasons why most men dont cheat...sometimes a man find a woman that can be a friend and his woman...it really depends...usually a well balanced woman can have a man into a committed relationship with her in a mindstate to keep it going with her...those last really long times...
I knew off rip one was going to be men who didn’t have the option to cheat…I get the religious one…the third yea it’ll be a man who’s burnt out with the game or has something to lose. (Either scarcity by finances/family or just burned out from the game). Most guys with a player past who are great with women will be more inclined to cheat but the hotter the girlfriend/wife (if she’s a cool chick as well) the less likely he will big facts Unc.
Uncle Rom, you forgot to add the men who don't cheat anymore cause they are old, are not attractive anymore, their dicks don't work, and/or finally they realize the woman they that stayed is a good woman after years of mistreatment (if she hasn't left or died). I was sideeyeing the hell outta this title, LMAO. Great video!Have a great day!
JD Bailey,
Those things don't stop a man from cheating. I know from professional marriage counselors and personal experience that older folks are getting down just like younger ones. Dicks not working don't stop anything. I have an older female friend who says her 65 year old man is good with his tongue.
DaMayorOfNewYork I never said women dont cheat. Nor did I say a broken dick stopped men from cheating.I was referencing married men. However, the category I mentioned does exist. In fact there is a whole set of men whose dicks have never, ever worked correctly. There are tons of women with very high sex drives that aren't able to have their needs met. They get women can't keep one because of it. Lol. Good dick is a rarity. In fact many women are undersexed and don't orgasm so they settle or find someone else on the side to get their needs met just as you stated. Men don't care about sexually satisfying women anyhow.
Rom Wills I know it doesn't. Lmao. But the category I mentioned does exist. Good for her bit tongue ain't enough for me, I need the full package!
DaMayorOfNewYork .... listen man, you know these women feel as though their pussy is good enough and we men should be happy having them. ..... (Yeah Right ! )
JD Bailey Wait a minute now I have a friend he 73 and his wife is like 81 his thing don't work but he use his mouth he has a really nice vehicle and he has money so when he pull up the female be running to get in his truck a lot of young girls get with him cause he buys them things he will give up the money and I'm told him numerous times why would you put your mouth on these girls you don't even know who all they giving it up to if you missed up in your pants you can pull your pants up and no one will know you got something but if your mouth messed up you can't hide that everybody gotta know and he just laughs and tell me it's worth it and the whole town knows he do this the church he is at is one of the biggest here you would think they would remove him from that Position but they say he alone gives over $2500 a month to the church so I guess money means more
Any videos on righteous brothers and how women view them?
I cover the subject in videos.
What's up Big Rom, men that don't cheat has a woman that has her mate best interest for their being together she makes sure her king is well taken care of in every department of their relationship management is her goal of her kings time to blend with hers making the relationship complete.
True.
Rom what are your thoughts on being a Spiritual Good Bar?
There's plenty of dudes like that. The thing is that all Goodbars aren't players. Some attract plenty of women but they are inclined toward monogamy.
Like that minister I talked about. Dude could have women lined up. He was strong in his faith though.
Yeah, it's tough.
Hey Rom great video but I was manly considering the view from a woman's perception on why a woman thinks that a man is cheating and he is not. It seems that every relationship I get in I always get accused. I just think that all women accepted that as a fact.
I see what you're saying. They giving you a compliment in a way. They know other women will be after you and women know how other women are and the tricks of seduction they will use.
I know what you mean fam!
Man, that shit brings memories. I am the last one and the funny thing was the girl at the time thought I was cheating. Little did she knew when she dumped me. 😉😎
Seen.
Some times the thumb downs blow me away. People should be forced to comment when they thumb down. Gotta be a hater or disbeliever of some sort. I will admit that my life has flipped upside down because being a non cheater has made me a target for women to cheat on me. Took me a while to realise but i've come to this realisation over a long time.
As I get older the more I question whether monogamy is ideal for all men. I don’t remember what video but Rom said that "If we lived in a civilized society, we would practice polygamy" Something along those lines. I am paraphrasing. However, I agree with this because not some men and I only say some cannot be pleased by just one woman. I am not talking exclusively sexually. I am talking mentally, spiritually, socially, domestically, etc. I will give an example. When I was in college I courted two women at the same time. The only time I ever did something like this. They both were exceptionally attractive and intelligent. One I tried to get with at the beginning of the year but for whatever reason did not click, let’s call her Sarah. Later in the year I met the other one and we got in a relationship, let’s call her Tamar. Now later Sarah came in the picture and we talked. Now, I am dating both. I was only having sex with Tamar and was not with Sarah but we did make out and stuff.
Sarah was an intellectual, philosopher type. She could hold conversations with me about things I enjoyed talking about. She challenged me and enjoyed deep introspective conversations. To this day I have not dated a woman like her again. She is the woman I wanted to be with but did not share my religious beliefs. She did at first but started questioning and shifting away from them. This was a problem for me so I could not exclusively be with her and we ended our relationship.
Tamar was by far the sexiest of the two and intelligent. However, she did not value my deep conversations and would even fall asleep on the phone sometimes. She cooked for me (even though I did not like her cooking), cleaned for me, had the most amazing body I have ever seen on a woman and the sex was the best I ever had. Me and her also studied well together and complimented each other academically. We split academic responsibilities between each other so we could spend more time together. Classes I was weak at she was strong in and vice versa. Personal never compromised our business. She was the only woman I ever dated like that before. She shared my spiritual beliefs but no deep connection which I value highly.
Why date them both and not choose just one? This did not start out trying to be a player. I was trying to court Sarah and see what she had to offer. Once I discovered she had things I valued most I was going to make the transition however she hit me with the change of faith and after much debating I ended it myself. She hated me for it but neither one ever found out about each other. I could have kept it going but again I was not trying to talk to multiple girls. Now in retrospect during that time it was wonderful. I would have wonderful conversations with Sarah that acted as a potent aphrodisiac followed by making out. I would then do all my class work and study with Tamar, followed by bad food that Tamar cooked but have fantastic sex. It was so potent on both ends of the spectrum. I don’t feel bad about it at all because I supported both these women, never lied to either of them though of course I did not tell them everything. I was stressed sometimes trying not to get caught with one or the other and its challenging courting two high functioning women at the same time. This with both parties knowing would be my ideal or one amazing woman that is both women. I have not even found another one of these women as individuals.
Thanks for sharing that. Monogamy is tough. The men who are monogamous by choice have a very strong will which I admire. It's the path to becoming a Superior Man.
Rom Wills, may I request for you to make a video about ratchet women? Whether you believe that you think I am a destestable woman or not you are entitled to your beliefs. But, I keep hearing the term being thrown around and I have tried to research these women because I am not to familiar with them. I have come across a few women who have one or two traits of what is used to describe a ratchet woman. But they don't fit the complete bill. I am trying to research them is for my sons sake. He is twelve years old and I know that at some point he is going to develop an interest in the opposite sex. But, I am concerned about what is out there. As I have said I have come across a number of women that have one or two traits that these women seem to have. I even came across one woman who told me that she likes it when men "put her in her place." But, I am rather hesitant to become too acquainted with such women. As I have said, whether you think I am liying about knowing about such women, that is up to you to decide. But, If you would make a video going into detail about these ratchet women and how they conduct themselves, how they lure men in and the claim that they like men who will beat them down, so that my son can know what to look for I would greatly appreciate it.
You not knowing any ratchet women means you have some class. Your son will subconsciously use you as a model for the women he will choose. I prefer not to give ratchet women any shine. My channel focuses on telling men to only deal with quality women. Just do a TH-cam search on the term "Ratchet."
Rom Wills but I am concerned. Haven't these women have ensnared men by pretending to be nice girls and being put together? I have heard of men who came from good families with good women in their families and they still became seduced by these women. Or what if I were to meet a ratchet and she manages to decieve me into thinking she is good for my son? I have told him as much of the information I have procurred about these women. But, I am not certain it's enough. And what if he goes through a rebellious age and starts dating a ratchet just to spite me? These women make me nervous.
Looking back, I can honestly say I never cheated. Mainly because I never been in a full long-term relationship. I've always been the Serial-dater/ Side guy. I rather tell a chick the truth about how I move, then go out, cheat and ruin a good thing. 🤷🏾♂️
Good Video And Excellent Dialogue among brethren as usual...The single thing differentiates men and women in this regard is the concept of honor...The "sistahood" from top to bottom has no honor and as such loyality means nothing to them. We can pull stat after stat that clearly demonstrate the trajectory of this selfish thinking...Too many fellas see that their loyality carries no currenty in the current dating/mating scene because if it did we would see much different choices being made...When a guy says he doesn't trust women it's not bitterness he's simply following the facts.... A guy's faithfulness in this day and age needs to be mainly to himself and his children all others have to be a much lower priority. Lately, when I see videos like this, women don't even comment much less challenge them as they know it's true... Wishing Peace, Clarity And Blessings To All
Well said brotha. You're right about "honor." Too many women in this culture don't have a concept of honor.
Rom gotta question for you. In your opinion m, why is it that in our community in particular these men in this video are on average seen by most woemn as boring or lame? I think every black man in america has been told or overheard that if you not giving a woman drama or cheating or even beatin her ass in some cases then you lame or boring.. Why is it that in our community decent men are shamed and not championed.. But pookie with 10 kids is the hero. Not sayin im innocent but in my own life the women i dogged and treated like trash respected and liked me more than the ones i didnt.. You said it before that women make players but they also at the same time villify the decent good men.. Why is that?
It's the culture. This culture is backwards in so many ways.
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All of these men who don't sleep around they do have a threshold. Women should not take this type of man for granted if they do they'll turn him into a dog or a player.
Unfortunately many women do take this type of man for granted.
There’s the assumption that the dude cheats, so they feel justified in their cheating till it’s too late and realize dude was choosing not to. #justsaying
You forgot one Rom. The other type of guys that don`t cheat are the ones who sewed their wild oats.
I want because i'm not a cheater. But hey you never know.
To me there's no reason to really cheat, specially in this day in age, If your really about what you want, shouldn't be too much of an issue. If there's problems in your realtionsnship too the point were its ruining your happiness, be real, whether it's sex, money etc..those are legitimate reasons that can cause issues, don't dress it up or sugar coat it, just speak up. I understand the game, more money, stauts, d@#k game, or mouth piece a man has the options he'll have, which is why men like Kevin Hart shouldn't have gotten married so soon before exploring his OPTIONS, he probably never had it like that before. As far as the women complain, lol most don't even care about cheating, we've seen women get with men, married, relationships.. most don't even have respect for it anymore.
You're right about the women.
Do not give thy power unto women.
I hate to play devils advocate but I believe most men will cheat. Religious factors, personal code or how fine your wife is don't matter. The only guys I know in my age bracket that don't cheat are guys that fall into they can't cheat group. Now how I have avoided cheating in my past relationships and what I suspect these men who don't cheat for whatever reason do also is change the way they move entirely. Like keep your movements with your partner and in the realm of wholesome. I don't believe any man who is in a relationship can live and move like a single man and be faithful. Any man that has seen what a woman who wants to have sex with you will do to have sex with you knows that you can only say no so many times. I am not saying all men are cheaters but I am saying that most men will and the only consistent way to avoid it is change the way you move when you are in a committed relationship.
I agree that most men will cheat if given the opportunity. Most women too. That's why it's extraordinary when a man can be monogamous through their own will.
You telling the truth about this one but the problem is most women don't want to date those kind of men in general are just full of s***
Could this be the real silent majority?
Anti Idiot - Very interesting hypothesis. I didn't look at it from that angle.
It could be. Hard to gage.
Anti Idiot - Do your research, and go for it. There are lists of cities that are marriage friendly (if that's what you're looking for). Cross-reference that with locales with better-than-average-business outlooks, and pull the trigger. I wish you Godspeed. audentes Fortuna iuvat - Fortune favors the bold!
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With a diamond i wont cheat because i know what she's worth and there is no reason for.
I know.
Seen.
So few to speak of.
Rom wills are we cousins
Don't know. Both my Grandfathers were rolling stones. Hit me privately and tell me why you think we may be cousins, www.romwills.com/contact-rom.html
I dont condone or belive in cheating
Honorable.
All men don't cheat but all men will be men and are very visual with wondering eyes if a banging female walks past him. Would you agree Rom ?
Humans period aren't naturally monogamous.
Ok Imma go with that. Trying to remain teachable lol
It's annoying. I dont oogle men in front of my husband.
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The only time I'll cheat is if I was approached by "big booty Brenda" from the streets. That's why I wanna pipe down some hoochies now before a relationship.
Oh, Yea Rom. You were right. That girl I travel to work with was checking me. She has now marked me as her territory. I gon have to drop a hint where I am at with us next week. Tell her in code I am into just chilling.
I like her tho. She's sweet, homely and she's a bit tatted up which I also like. Guess she's best of both worlds for me which has me stumped. I want to cupcake her so bad but I have to stay on my game cause I don't want a serious relationship right now. I'm trying to fully develop my "killer Instinct" which attracted her in the first place. If she's down with being cozy companions, I'll be happy with that.
Do what's good for you.