: Then clearly you need to leave the person alone if they can't see your worth, you need to cut them off quick before it too late, clearly this is what you need to do otherwise you would keep getting abused by them.
What can you really do if the person is being controlled by the evil spirit? All you can do is stay far away from them before they even get the chance to damage you and your life exactly the way they want to.
Yes. I needed to accept this so badly. I broke up with my ex for the same trait I thought I could change over time. There were things he would change through out the relationship that fooled me into thinking he would change for good, but he always reverted back to his old ways. No one changes unless they want to. And only they can make themselves want to.
IT's so sad that we're raised to just give and give no matter how horribly we're treated, and we're trained to believe that if you're "nice" enough to a man he'll eventually come around it will somehow payoff, when it does the opposite.
with mating in society these days it has a lot to do with our history and the standards of both genders. Where men had more power and women were to do as told (mostly). Perhaps some are afraid to step out of their comfort zone.. In fear they will be alone or judged
My father and my older brother both watched this with me and said she was able to put into words exactly why they themselves have mistreated women in the past. That's not to say that they are excused from their behavior. It just means they are not always good men and even they can recognize that what she's saying is good advice. Bad men prey on vulnerable women. Love yourself and protect yourself from the superficial fear of being alone if you must, because being "single forever" is not a downgrade from being abused forever.
The so called bad boys are insecure in themselves so they get a woman that is more insecure to have control. Many good, strong men don't have time for those same women that are indecisive and play games.
Is it a bad thing to be single? Can you just blame the nagative men or you can also blame the ignorant females? Would an evil guy be able to abuse a female if the female don't allow him?
And this applies to everyone. The only way anyone will change is if they want to. This goes for both genders, addiction, and other life habits. The only control anyone has is over their own actions and what they tolerate from other people.
You guys need to focus on the men that truly support your growth. Not cucks and not douches. But a man who wants to guide, teach, and take care of you because its the right thing to do. Even if the truths he presents about you might hurt...he will always care for you though. as he knows womens flaws just like he does his own flaws. A man who you can rely on. NEVER cheat on someone like this. Balanced between masculinity but also his soft side. This is how you ruin men and society. Men like this get shit on and weve given up
They say when you become infatuated with someone, your frontal lobe literally stops working lol. That is vital to our red flag reader and why we go blind when someone we like is showing us who they truly are.
Amen...also @thebee83 it is not that God fearing women don’t get abused or cheated it is that through God we learn to grow from it, love ourselves and forgive the one who hurt us.
@@cidneyoliver4706 exactly. My ex kept saying no matter what he will good to heaven becoz this is what God promise in bible. And when I said I felt like he take God for granted then he said I'm a catholic. But the fact is he act talk like a godly man but under his mask he's not
When I met my ex boyfriend I had such a low self esteem. He showed me my worth, my soul, and I praised him so much for it. I acted like he gave me my worth when really all he did was point towards what was already there. When I saw how overwhelming gorgeous and magnificent I was on the inside I wanted to do anything for him because I was so grateful. That still kept me in a place of not seeing how my worth was mine, he didn’t give it to me.
Wow.. mind blowing"" You're not a victim if you volunteer""!!! Yaaaasss call the trash trash. Throw the whole trash away! Bad character, gold chains,white washed ripped denim jeans, Polo T-shirts.. some of yall clean up well and still be trash, no class, no character .Big Facts✔✅✅✔✅✅✔
Exactly dating is data collection, you have to weed them out. I tried to tell my friend to date and judge. Don't sleep with them. She doesn't listen to me and now she always complains about heartache and wastes her time being jealous of others in relationships. Women can be stubborn and don't want to accept the truth, please don't be like this! Wisdom is necessary and advice that makes sense can help you grow. Thanks for this video.
True words. As women we get our validation from being the "perfect" woman for a man. But I seen alot of women who treat a man like he's nothing get the best treatment. Such a weird world
If you're doing all of the 'proving' you don't allow the man to prove anything to you. We tend to market ourselves to men like we're applying for a job.
I don’t know why a woman would go into a relationship trying to be the perfect anything or trying to do everything. That is why you have a partner so that you could work together. Why would I want or be attracted to a woman that does it all? Clearly I am not wanted if she can do it all. Masculine men tend to like feminine women. We do not want masculine women it’s like dating another man. Yet masculine women tend to chase us thinking that’s what we want, then they get their feelings hurt. A woman who lets us work to get her and keep her is a woman worth having. A woman who does it all is a turn off. Like the girl in the video said we do not care about the things you think we care about. We just want a nice lady to share our lives with, it’s really not that deep.
@@peterparrish7432 define do everything for and masculine woman please. It can mean sooooo many different things just saying. I am curious to know what you mean.
She probably compartmentalizing her experience, I'm just saying.. guys are guys, sound like y'all women want #GayNiggaz😴 * just an opinion, from my goggles
As a guy I've just stumble on to your channel and have already watched a few videos.I dont know if you'll even see this but I just want to show my appreciation for sharing your videos and trying to help people out. I'm just realising there are so many things that I wasn't told by my parents, siblings or friends.
Love this video! I really love what you said about creating your list of needs. I have my list created but now it’s time to go back and re-evaluate what are wants and what are actual needs and add/remove stuff as I see fit!
Its Never fair to change someone- Dump the Trash- command it to Go!!! LOL!! I love your energy.. Awesome power words.. What I NEED DOES EXIST! !Thank you!! ❤❤
@Alan Braham lmao you sound triggered and depressed get some help, I don't need any jobless boy on the internet to measure my worth go cry somewhere else
I needed to hear this, it's like God told me to click on your video. I've been dating a guy for almost 1.5months and all the red flags are there and I'm still trying to hold on and give him a chance
lenny004975 run with the quickness. Time is the most important currency that nobody can ever give you back hun. Choose standards for a more joyful life. ✌️✊
PREACH! You basically summed up every lesson I've learned about guys! Wish there were videos like this when I was growing up so I wouldn't have had gone through so much! :D
This video is life. So many women need this, especially in the toxic culture with men getting free passes for bad behavior. You need to know your worth. My man knows better than to disrespect me and that’s why he’s been mine for as long as he has. When a man fucks up... 🗣 NEXT!
Ugh I love how straightforward and honest you are. Sometimes I feel myself falling in that "dumbass"-zone and then I always return to your channel to get my head clear again.
Thank you for this!! Us ladies (and men) need to pay attention to character ethics in this personality driven world. Personality is entertaining but Character be it strong or weak is what you’ll be dealing with for years. Personality = likeable; funny, ie. they always make me laugh. Character = (good/favored) trustworthy, honorable, attentiveness, self control, initiative, humility, accountability, discernment, discretion, forgiving, or (bad/unfavored) dishonest, insecure, addictive, disrespectful, manipulative, promiscuous, self destructive, controlling, lack of self control.. PAY ATTENTION, don’t ignore the signs. Within 90 days you can “collect data” on one’s character. No one’s perfect, but pay attention and know who and what you’re dealing with. No excuses!! No compromising standards 💯
All about knowing self worth 👏 some of us dont know how a healthy relationship dynamic looks like based off of our parents.. thats why most people stay. But this about knowing what you need personally is everything 👏👌 thanks breeny
He said it is too hard to have two women. He cannot treat me like t the other woman. He said I will never be the only one. I pulled my socks up and left. He was putting me at risk. He would not use condoms. I did not want kids by him or stds.
My friend recommended this video to me and I just wanna say thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear after an awful relationship (and an awful breakup)! You're also Christian and cover so many great topics - and you're so open and honest, I can't thank you enough for making these videos, they are pure gold and so are you :)
Love this... I’m pretty impatient so whenever someone I’m attracted to turns out to have an iffy character/doesn’t quite fit my standards I check out ASAP. Because of this I’ve never been in a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I do too much if I should change something but videos like this and stories of how some relationships failed kinda affirm me. ❤️
Misconception that trash guys are "shiny" on the outside. Average Joe nice guys who don't seem trashy can become trashy after they hook you as well. We also hold on to how sweet they were in the beginning, and don't focus on their present actions.
Omg!! You're the only negative poster I've seen on this vid. You must really feel some type of way because your comments are all over. If you feel bad, stop watching hun
@Alan Braham bro it don't even make sense you try...majority of females will never take accountability for their actions...you fighting a battle that's already lost
Your channel is amazing. Honestly nothing has been helping me w my breakup I've watched all the videos. BUT YOUR VIDEOS!! WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE? I NEED YOU IN MY POCKET AT ALL TIMES AND NOW I CAN!🙏 LORD I needed to hear how you say shit real and raw and right to the mind and heart and it sticks leaving me wanting more.
Speaking the hard truth! I feel like we feel safe staying with something because it's familiar even if it's painful or not good for us in the long run so this is a really important message
U made alot of good points. they should not reward cheating and bad behavior by taking them back, its like saying cheating is ok. Actions speak louder than words. Its not ok to be racist by choosing a bf based on race.
A_Dose_Of_ Reality Um, they can be but she’s talking about character vs ego and physical trappings. You need to educate yourself on narcissistic behavior. This is healthy self-love, not malignant. She’s actually helping to keep women away from narcissistic men. Also, calling OUT narcissistic women who obsessed with wants. Idk what video you’re watching.
So true! I used to ignore red flags and see the best in men thinking that they could change for the better, but not anymore 😉 If the man is not consciously improving himself, I am out!
We need more women like breeny, too many girls fall into the trap of making males their happiness ! Self love/worth is vital for young women, building their empire x
I want to share this with my cousin but i dont want to get on her nerves. I already sent her something from RC Blakes. Shes dealing w a guy who today demanded her to do this and that after cursing her out AFTER she let him borrow her car and was never given a thank you. He has a child and baby mother who called stupid for whatever reason. On top of that, he handed her 1/100th of a blunt and she took it and almost burned her lip . I was mindfreaking blown. She was trying to figure out the perfect thing to text him after all of this. I told her if it were me, I would never ever respond and he wouldnt get another damn thing from me period.
Snickers you already gave her advice, let her grown (hopefully) from this experience. I can be a pushy older sister and was sooooo happy when my sister left her dead beat baby daddy. The next guy she actually married and was FAR worse, I learned to shut my mouth unless directly asked for feedback and now I just recommend therapy. Some people are caught up in these patterns for deeper emotional issues that need to be worked thru in therapy or they keep repeating this in different guises sadly. (I am a therapist)
Snickers, respect for looking out for her although she might hate you for it now. Pass it on to her saying you just enjoy watching this type of stuff and only want to share it with the few of your closest, and maybe to someone else who can really get to her? Dont give up cz she might have, just give support if it falls through. Keep on trying, might be useful if you have your own children dealing with issues in the future. I wish you and your cousin (to leave his disrespectful waiting to turn into a disaster ass) all the best.
honestly i feel so alone and when i watch your videos i find myself feeling strong, independent and everything in between. i just want to thank you. your words are impacting me and other young women. i love you so much! you’re so beautiful. thank you for this xx
I have been in toxic relationships for about 7 years, and now I can not take it anymore,your videos will help me to change my self and learn how to love my self,God bless u🙏😇
Some women like myself were born into families with bad men and you can’t get away from it until you are financially independent :( but i know enough now to not want a man like my father or brother. but i seem to attract men like this
Hard words to hear, but so true. So.true. If you were raised by trash--- abusive, emotionally demeaning--- that's what you're used to. That's what's comfortable. Takes a lot of work to veer away from it.
This video has earned you your graduation, madam! You are now "Dr. Lee"! Thank you so very much, Dr. Lee. Thank you. You are saving my life. Not only am I an avid follower that often starts my day with you, I have also been watching the videos you recommend. Kev Hick is on top of his game - you are even more potent for me having given out a reference for his channel. One of my many, many favorite sentiments from this video: "[Victims absolutely do exist, but] you are not a victim when you volunteer" May God bless your work saving lives, Dr. Lee.
8:39 'Trash' love how simply you put it! Yup, you can put more layers (excuses) on but if you let the trashbag just sit out in your house (life) sooner or later the trashbag is going to stink. #tossthetrash
But then there is the narcissist, incosistent guys, who love bomb at the beginning and are horrible at the end of the relationship. Or just simply up and down. Don't let them get you confused! Don't fall for talk! Only fall for the actions!
This video literally describes what I’m dealing with right now. It’s just really difficult to walk away from someone you really like even though you know they would never and will never be the one for you especially when they don’t even want a relationship. I know my value and I know my worth but at the same time, it’s so hard not to let these kinds of people keep treating me this way because my feelings always get in the way.
I 've learned a lot of years ago because when I realize I can't change someone that doesn't truly love or respect me. Move on it was the best thing I could've ever done.
You are very beautiful. Very honest. Straight to point and genuine. I would love to watch you talk about self-love, self-growth, confidence, law of attraction, stuff like that. Thank you for amazing videos girl!!
I’ve watched almost all your videos from years ago and you’ve literally helped me get through a 2 yr relationship break up within a week. I needed to know my worth and now I KNOW. Thank you so much.
LOVE the concept of focusing on what we need as well as what we want... Also love the trash illustration lol... And bringing up the fact that we can't teach others how to treat us.
Great message sister! So sad glad somebody is speaking on this. So tired of women acting like a man is a damn prize...especially when he treats a woman like shit!
Red flags were numerous but I’ve ignored them over his flattering words And he wanted to be the queen and told me word by word “ I should be the one who fight “ And then I’ve decided to stop double guessing my gut feelings . Listen to your gut feelings , if you feel you are not treated properly, it means “ you are not treated properly .” Period
i wish i could talk to you in real life so bad. you have no idea have much you’ve helped me get through my break up and realize my worth and break an old habit, i’m thankful i’ve found your chanel
Oh look at this... my God!!! This should be told to every child, woman, and man. She's so right but not just for women, for all mankind! Thanks TH-cam for bringing this to me 💪💕🙏
I genuinely people sometimes you have to hear what you already know from somebody else. You can't forever ignore the truth. Thank you, you are amazing.
I’m so glad I came across this video because I slipped into bad thoughts I should not have about myself from my ex...he was with the girl he called a friend for Christmas and they were happy and I was out of it this made me feel so much better thank you so much. Made me feel I did well letting him go for me
Thank you for this and also for your level up mentally video. I really needed this... I just got out of a relationship where I bent over backwards to act like a wife and treat him like a King and for two years he treated me like trash... I just had him incarcerated. He's where he belongs.
❤❤ this message! It is extremely important to know your self worth, to have standards, goals & expectations when it comes to your future spouse, because you will be the only one paying the price of being absolutely miserable in a relationship that you settled for. The best thing you can do is work on becoming healed, whole and complete so that you can attract who you are. True love is out there, it just takes a lot of self love, time with The Creator, discipline and patience 💖
I only recently learnt this kinda aloof behaviour is not something to take lightly as it'll permit them to continue, I used to strive to always have compassion because I could see these people were broken on the inside but it was only doing me harm, *and was actually doing harm to their growth too.*
"You're value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." Thanks for that!
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Awesome Message
shethewriter I read that right when she said it so I said it with her 😍
: Then clearly you need to leave the person alone if they can't see your worth, you need to cut them off quick before it too late, clearly this is what you need to do otherwise you would keep getting abused by them.
What can you really do if the person is being controlled by the evil spirit? All you can do is stay far away from them before they even get the chance to damage you and your life exactly the way they want to.
Having standards=being single, and STILL worth it, believe me. I don't think it's my job to "teach" or "train" a man for anything.
You are under 30, right?
We are not a man's mom or maid
“ letting a man cheat on you is degrading “ that part 👌🏿
risky ,life threatening
Most black women across cultures are told to stay with men after being cheated on.
crooked truth83 preach
Sarissa Vaughn not only black women, Hispanic culture is crazy with that ish
Lord Jay not true . Stop telling women to tolerate struggle love / men’s bad behavior
“Go into a relationship with no expectation that that person will change” thanks for this!
Yes. I needed to accept this so badly. I broke up with my ex for the same trait I thought I could change over time. There were things he would change through out the relationship that fooled me into thinking he would change for good, but he always reverted back to his old ways. No one changes unless they want to. And only they can make themselves want to.
IT's so sad that we're raised to just give and give no matter how horribly we're treated, and we're trained to believe that if you're "nice" enough to a man he'll eventually come around it will somehow payoff, when it does the opposite.
You, too?!
You resume everything tks
You are sooo right!
with mating in society these days it has a lot to do with our history and the standards of both genders. Where men had more power and women were to do as told (mostly). Perhaps some are afraid to step out of their comfort zone.. In fear they will be alone or judged
@Alan Braham too good
My father and my older brother both watched this with me and said she was able to put into words exactly why they themselves have mistreated women in the past. That's not to say that they are excused from their behavior. It just means they are not always good men and even they can recognize that what she's saying is good advice. Bad men prey on vulnerable women. Love yourself and protect yourself from the superficial fear of being alone if you must, because being "single forever" is not a downgrade from being abused forever.
@Abena OFORI-ATTAH 💕✨❤️✨
The so called bad boys are insecure in themselves so they get a woman that is more insecure to have control. Many good, strong men don't have time for those same women that are indecisive and play games.
Is it a bad thing to be single? Can you just blame the nagative men or you can also blame the ignorant females? Would an evil guy be able to abuse a female if the female don't allow him?
@@t-renallux3125 this is the most ignorant comment I've ever had the displeasure of reading.
@@hollygamble15 : You mean my comment?
"You can't change a man or teach him to want better!"
So true
He has to already want it.
And this applies to everyone. The only way anyone will change is if they want to. This goes for both genders, addiction, and other life habits. The only control anyone has is over their own actions and what they tolerate from other people.
Dating = data collection 🤣🤣 !! A guy wants who he wants. We can’t change that! We should know our worth and walk the other way 🙅🏾♀️
right
That phrase, such a good quote BECAUSE IT MAKES SENSE!
Sonata Shinome 💯 👏🏾👏🏾
You guys need to focus on the men that truly support your growth. Not cucks and not douches. But a man who wants to guide, teach, and take care of you because its the right thing to do. Even if the truths he presents about you might hurt...he will always care for you though. as he knows womens flaws just like he does his own flaws. A man who you can rely on. NEVER cheat on someone like this. Balanced between masculinity but also his soft side. This is how you ruin men and society. Men like this get shit on and weve given up
@@nikigracevlogs Breeny preached and she delivered! Amens going all around 😂😂Seriously though 👌
They say when you become infatuated with someone, your frontal lobe literally stops working lol. That is vital to our red flag reader and why we go blind when someone we like is showing us who they truly are.
Yep! I made that mistake in the name of "love."
Blind but not unable to know your hurting!! Stop making excuses for these MEN!
Put God first!When you love yourself and treat yourself good first the rest will follow.Self respect is a must.
God fearing/loving women have never been cheated on or abused?
@Alan Braham I hear you.I don't like when anyone can't take responsibility for their actions.There are good and bad in both sexes.Both sexes get hurt.
Amen...also @thebee83 it is not that God fearing women don’t get abused or cheated it is that through God we learn to grow from it, love ourselves and forgive the one who hurt us.
@@cidneyoliver4706 exactly. My ex kept saying no matter what he will good to heaven becoz this is what God promise in bible. And when I said I felt like he take God for granted then he said I'm a catholic. But the fact is he act talk like a godly man but under his mask he's not
@@cidneyoliver4706 Thank you so much for your reply sis
When I met my ex boyfriend I had such a low self esteem. He showed me my worth, my soul, and I praised him so much for it. I acted like he gave me my worth when really all he did was point towards what was already there. When I saw how overwhelming gorgeous and magnificent I was on the inside I wanted to do anything for him because I was so grateful. That still kept me in a place of not seeing how my worth was mine, he didn’t give it to me.
"""Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth"""#mood forever.
Wow.. mind blowing"" You're not a victim if you volunteer""!!! Yaaaasss call the trash trash. Throw the whole trash away! Bad character, gold chains,white washed ripped denim jeans, Polo T-shirts.. some of yall clean up well and still be trash, no class, no character .Big Facts✔✅✅✔✅✅✔
Breeny you look so good. The darker blond really suits you and love love love your makeup!x
@@c.h.5510 I guess congratulations to you for...being better than her by not having human failings since you're not human.
She is stunningly gorgeous.
THE "MENTALITY" OF A PERSON SAYS A LOT ABOUT THEIR "CHOOSING".
Exactly dating is data collection, you have to weed them out. I tried to tell my friend to date and judge. Don't sleep with them. She doesn't listen to me and now she always complains about heartache and wastes her time being jealous of others in relationships. Women can be stubborn and don't want to accept the truth, please don't be like this! Wisdom is necessary and advice that makes sense can help you grow. Thanks for this video.
True words. As women we get our validation from being the "perfect" woman for a man. But I seen alot of women who treat a man like he's nothing get the best treatment. Such a weird world
If you're doing all of the 'proving' you don't allow the man to prove anything to you. We tend to market ourselves to men like we're applying for a job.
I don’t know why a woman would go into a relationship trying to be the perfect anything or trying to do everything. That is why you have a partner so that you could work together. Why would I want or be attracted to a woman that does it all? Clearly I am not wanted if she can do it all. Masculine men tend to like feminine women. We do not want masculine women it’s like dating another man. Yet masculine women tend to chase us thinking that’s what we want, then they get their feelings hurt. A woman who lets us work to get her and keep her is a woman worth having. A woman who does it all is a turn off. Like the girl in the video said we do not care about the things you think we care about. We just want a nice lady to share our lives with, it’s really not that deep.
Honestly. It's sad but the best dating advice I could give for women is to treat a man like he's nothing. For some reason they LOVE that
Dee A. True!
@@peterparrish7432 define do everything for and masculine woman please. It can mean sooooo many different things just saying. I am curious to know what you mean.
I avoided clicking on this because I knew you would wake me up and get me all the way together. Welp! Here I am - taking notes!
Dating is for DATA COLLECTION!! Cheeee don’t talk to me no more ... I’m literate now
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God bless you for this. You just opened my eyes to a lot of things, keep the video coming.
Amen sister
Amen
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Yes she hit it on the nose💕
Just make the RIGHT decisions. Not what you feel is right, but what IS right.
Louder 👌🏾👌🏾
Vanessa Blac 🗣 🔊 And turn the microphone volume up!!
@@jamilania9230 😂😂
She probably compartmentalizing her experience, I'm just saying.. guys are guys, sound like y'all women want #GayNiggaz😴
* just an opinion, from my goggles
@M Bean not true, some men is feminine?
ohhhh my god " You're not a victim when you volunteer" Boy did this hit hard.
Out here saving lives. We love a woman with substance!
Women you are responsible for what you are attracted to !! 💯
I miss these videos sis 😩🙌🏾
As a guy I've just stumble on to your channel and have already watched a few videos.I dont know if you'll even see this but I just want to show my appreciation for sharing your videos and trying to help people out. I'm just realising there are so many things that I wasn't told by my parents, siblings or friends.
" Your value doesn't decrease on someone's inability to see your worth." 💓
Great advice.....ladies plse do not settle for something you can't accept because of peer or societal pressures
Love this video! I really love what you said about creating your list of needs. I have my list created but now it’s time to go back and re-evaluate what are wants and what are actual needs and add/remove stuff as I see fit!
Most women go after all of their wants , and none of their needs
Its Never fair to change someone- Dump the Trash- command it to Go!!! LOL!! I love your energy.. Awesome power words..
What I NEED DOES EXIST!
!Thank you!! ❤❤
Ladies put your pants on & KNOW YOUR WORTH 💪🏽 - Issa word
Alan Braham - that’s your opinion, this is mine. Goodbye ☺️
Alan Braham shut up Alan
Your worth isn't in your pants though
@Alan Braham lmao you sound triggered and depressed get some help, I don't need any jobless boy on the internet to measure my worth go cry somewhere else
I needed to hear this, it's like God told me to click on your video. I've been dating a guy for almost 1.5months and all the red flags are there and I'm still trying to hold on and give him a chance
Run!!!!!
lenny004975 run with the quickness. Time is the most important currency that nobody can ever give you back hun. Choose standards for a more joyful life. ✌️✊
@@ladybee0881 Its so true, I have finally woken up and cut him off. Honestly don't know why I didn't do it sooner
lenny004975 good luck and of course now you let him go he’ll realize your worth. If you decide to take him back be careful with your time and heart ❤️
run girl he ain’t changing be with somone you can expect fully never settle for shit
PREACH! You basically summed up every lesson I've learned about guys! Wish there were videos like this when I was growing up so I wouldn't have had gone through so much! :D
This video is life. So many women need this, especially in the toxic culture with men getting free passes for bad behavior. You need to know your worth. My man knows better than to disrespect me and that’s why he’s been mine for as long as he has. When a man fucks up... 🗣 NEXT!
Ugh I love how straightforward and honest you are. Sometimes I feel myself falling in that "dumbass"-zone and then I always return to your channel to get my head clear again.
Thank you for this!!
Us ladies (and men) need to pay attention to character ethics in this personality driven world. Personality is entertaining but Character be it strong or weak is what you’ll be dealing with for years. Personality = likeable; funny, ie. they always make me laugh.
Character = (good/favored) trustworthy, honorable, attentiveness, self control, initiative, humility, accountability, discernment, discretion, forgiving, or (bad/unfavored) dishonest, insecure, addictive, disrespectful, manipulative, promiscuous, self destructive, controlling, lack of self control.. PAY ATTENTION, don’t ignore the signs. Within 90 days you can “collect data” on one’s character. No one’s perfect, but pay attention and know who and what you’re dealing with. No excuses!! No compromising standards 💯
All about knowing self worth 👏 some of us dont know how a healthy relationship dynamic looks like based off of our parents.. thats why most people stay. But this about knowing what you need personally is everything 👏👌 thanks breeny
He said it is too hard to have two women. He cannot treat me like t the other woman. He said I will never be the only one. I pulled my socks up and left. He was putting me at risk. He would not use condoms. I did not want kids by him or stds.
My friend recommended this video to me and I just wanna say thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear after an awful relationship (and an awful breakup)! You're also Christian and cover so many great topics - and you're so open and honest, I can't thank you enough for making these videos, they are pure gold and so are you :)
i literally needed this video right now. going into 2019 with a fresh mindset for sure ! thank you !! 💞
Me 2 hun.
Same
She right! I'm a Bad Guy that knows how to be good. Which means you get the best of both worlds :)
Love this... I’m pretty impatient so whenever someone I’m attracted to turns out to have an iffy character/doesn’t quite fit my standards I check out ASAP. Because of this I’ve never been in a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I do too much if I should change something but videos like this and stories of how some relationships failed kinda affirm me. ❤️
Misconception that trash guys are "shiny" on the outside. Average Joe nice guys who don't seem trashy can become trashy after they hook you as well. We also hold on to how sweet they were in the beginning, and don't focus on their present actions.
True
@Alan Braham your not going to control how women speak so.
Omg!! You're the only negative poster I've seen on this vid. You must really feel some type of way because your comments are all over. If you feel bad, stop watching hun
@Alan Braham #swirlingisheretostaydealwithit
@Alan Braham bro it don't even make sense you try...majority of females will never take accountability for their actions...you fighting a battle that's already lost
Your channel is amazing. Honestly nothing has been helping me w my breakup I've watched all the videos. BUT YOUR VIDEOS!! WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE? I NEED YOU IN MY POCKET AT ALL TIMES AND NOW I CAN!🙏 LORD I needed to hear how you say shit real and raw and right to the mind and heart and it sticks leaving me wanting more.
Speaking the hard truth! I feel like we feel safe staying with something because it's familiar even if it's painful or not good for us in the long run so this is a really important message
You are a woman with a good head on your shoulders... and you are really needed for a lot of people 👍🏼
U made alot of good points. they should not reward cheating and bad behavior by taking them back, its like saying cheating is ok. Actions speak louder than words.
Its not ok to be racist by choosing a bf based on race.
Gurllllll your teeth are soooo gorgeous I can’t stop looking at them! 😍😍😍🥰🥰🥰🥰😍 🦷 ❤️
you too ? lol
Does she have some type of teeth ring? I notice something shiny.
Dani Speaks me too
A_Dose_Of_ Reality Um, they can be but she’s talking about character vs ego and physical trappings. You need to educate yourself on narcissistic behavior. This is healthy self-love, not malignant. She’s actually helping to keep women away from narcissistic men. Also, calling OUT narcissistic women who obsessed with wants. Idk what video you’re watching.
@@daphneepaul3737 I see that too.
So true! I used to ignore red flags and see the best in men thinking that they could change for the better, but not anymore 😉 If the man is not consciously improving himself, I am out!
"Dating is for data callecting." Loving it and loving you, Breeny! You're doing amazing uplifting work! 💖 🤗😍
We need more women like breeny, too many girls fall into the trap of making males their happiness ! Self love/worth is vital for young women, building their empire x
I want to share this with my cousin but i dont want to get on her nerves. I already sent her something from RC Blakes. Shes dealing w a guy who today demanded her to do this and that after cursing her out AFTER she let him borrow her car and was never given a thank you. He has a child and baby mother who called stupid for whatever reason. On top of that, he handed her 1/100th of a blunt and she took it and almost burned her lip . I was mindfreaking blown. She was trying to figure out the perfect thing to text him after all of this. I told her if it were me, I would never ever respond and he wouldnt get another damn thing from me period.
Snickers then mind your business
Sometimes you have to just show them a video of somebody else giving game because it’s coming from someone outside of their circle
Snickers you already gave her advice, let her grown (hopefully) from this experience. I can be a pushy older sister and was sooooo happy when my sister left her dead beat baby daddy. The next guy she actually married and was FAR worse, I learned to shut my mouth unless directly asked for feedback and now I just recommend therapy. Some people are caught up in these patterns for deeper emotional issues that need to be worked thru in therapy or they keep repeating this in different guises sadly. (I am a therapist)
Snickers you are kind soul for wanting to help 💗
Snickers, respect for looking out for her although she might hate you for it now. Pass it on to her saying you just enjoy watching this type of stuff and only want to share it with the few of your closest, and maybe to someone else who can really get to her? Dont give up cz she might have, just give support if it falls through. Keep on trying, might be useful if you have your own children dealing with issues in the future. I wish you and your cousin (to leave his disrespectful waiting to turn into a disaster ass) all the best.
Shadow work. Looking deep within yourself. You’re right. I need to walk away from bad people ❤️🙏👸
honestly i feel so alone and when i watch your videos i find myself feeling strong, independent and everything in between. i just want to thank you. your words are impacting me and other young women. i love you so much! you’re so beautiful. thank you for this xx
I have been in toxic relationships for about 7 years, and now I can not take it anymore,your videos will help me to change my self and learn how to love my self,God bless u🙏😇
this video came out at the right time!!!!
Some women like myself were born into families with bad men and you can’t get away from it until you are financially independent :( but i know enough now to not want a man like my father or brother. but i seem to attract men like this
I really don't want to date in 2019. Just want to focus on me. Enough is enough
I appreciate the call to make a “wants list” VS a “needs list”
Tell them sis 👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 this is so good we need something like this, not everyday make up 🙌🏾
Hard words to hear, but so true. So.true.
If you were raised by trash--- abusive, emotionally demeaning--- that's what you're used to. That's what's comfortable.
Takes a lot of work to veer away from it.
This is great. As a man I don’t feel offended. The same principles apply for us as well!
This video has earned you your graduation, madam! You are now "Dr. Lee"!
Thank you so very much, Dr. Lee. Thank you.
You are saving my life. Not only am I an avid follower that often starts my day with you, I have also been watching the videos you recommend. Kev Hick is on top of his game - you are even more potent for me having given out a reference for his channel.
One of my many, many favorite sentiments from this video:
"[Victims absolutely do exist, but] you are not a victim when you volunteer"
May God bless your work saving lives, Dr. Lee.
oooft "you cant be a victim when you volunteer" ... that one hit me lol
8:39 'Trash' love how simply you put it!
Yup, you can put more layers (excuses) on but if you let the trashbag just sit out in your house (life) sooner or later the trashbag is going to stink. #tossthetrash
Preach. Loud and clear. Love it.
i am literally taking notes out of this video. everything she says is just!! spot on!
Well said
I NEEDED this, I am a big believer in everything happens for a reason. Your video's are in my recommended, for a REASON. this was needed, thank you.
But then there is the narcissist, incosistent guys, who love bomb at the beginning and are horrible at the end of the relationship. Or just simply up and down. Don't let them get you confused! Don't fall for talk! Only fall for the actions!
Yup. Happened to me.
This video literally describes what I’m dealing with right now. It’s just really difficult to walk away from someone you really like even though you know they would never and will never be the one for you especially when they don’t even want a relationship. I know my value and I know my worth but at the same time, it’s so hard not to let these kinds of people keep treating me this way because my feelings always get in the way.
...i was literally nodding my head to everything you said... can i get a AMEN SIS...Thanks for this video x
@Alan Brahambit salty.... and no its actually the truth. If you dont like it dont watch you sad loser.
“Most women go after all of their wants and none of their needs!” Fire
I 've learned a lot of years ago because when I realize I can't change someone that doesn't truly love or respect me. Move on it was the best thing I could've ever done.
im in so much pain right now from unrequited love, I am thankful I have seen this, this is so enlightening.
I hope you do feel better soon. Stay strong. 3 months from now the pain will not exist
Brittney Taylor thank so so much. 🙏
You are very beautiful. Very honest. Straight to point and genuine. I would love to watch you talk about self-love, self-growth, confidence, law of attraction, stuff like that. Thank you for amazing videos girl!!
I’ve watched almost all your videos from years ago and you’ve literally helped me get through a 2 yr relationship break up within a week. I needed to know my worth and now I KNOW. Thank you so much.
I love this. A lot of ladies (including me) needed this!!! 👌
The hair color is phenomenal
LOVE the concept of focusing on what we need as well as what we want... Also love the trash illustration lol... And bringing up the fact that we can't teach others how to treat us.
that hair colour on you😍😭
Speaking straight facts!! 🧐✍🏽
Great message sister! So sad glad somebody is speaking on this. So tired of women acting like a man is a damn prize...especially when he treats a woman like shit!
THESE ARE TEXTBOOK FAX, LADIES WE ARE BETTER SO LET'S DO BETTER. Thank You Breeny for saying it !
Red flags were numerous but I’ve ignored them over his flattering words
And he wanted to be the queen and told me word by word “ I should be the one who fight “
And then I’ve decided to stop double guessing my gut feelings .
Listen to your gut feelings , if you feel you are not treated properly, it means “ you are not treated properly .” Period
okay you are absolutely gorgeous
i wish i could talk to you in real life so bad. you have no idea have much you’ve helped me get through my break up and realize my worth and break an old habit, i’m thankful i’ve found your chanel
I came across the video for a reason, really needed to see this. Amazing video 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Oh look at this... my God!!! This should be told to every child, woman, and man. She's so right but not just for women, for all mankind! Thanks TH-cam for bringing this to me 💪💕🙏
dislikes are from the men that your are talking about
Period sis
The list is good way to be accountable to who you keep in your life!
Yassssss Queen!! 😍😁🙌🙌 alot of these Men are sheep in Wolf's clothing. Keep it moving! 👋
Wow I like the authenticity in the way she speaks
So true young lady everything you have said is true.
I genuinely people sometimes you have to hear what you already know from somebody else. You can't forever ignore the truth. Thank you, you are amazing.
I will never give wife duties to a bf! I was a wife once and am not no more so those duties I can't perform lol.
I’m so glad I came across this video because I slipped into bad thoughts I should not have about myself from my ex...he was with the girl he called a friend for Christmas and they were happy and I was out of it this made me feel so much better thank you so much. Made me feel I did well letting him go for me
Yes ma’am u are so right about this on helping some of these ladies get it together an know ya self worth an be great
Thank you for this and also for your level up mentally video. I really needed this... I just got out of a relationship where I bent over backwards to act like a wife and treat him like a King and for two years he treated me like trash... I just had him incarcerated. He's where he belongs.
The gold trash tho😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Henrietta Obi I felt it😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
❤❤ this message! It is extremely important to know your self worth, to have standards, goals & expectations when it comes to your future spouse, because you will be the only one paying the price of being absolutely miserable in a relationship that you settled for. The best thing you can do is work on becoming healed, whole and complete so that you can attract who you are. True love is out there, it just takes a lot of self love, time with The Creator, discipline and patience 💖
"If he does not see [that you're a diamond], he needs to kick rocks" lol Love it!
I only recently learnt this kinda aloof behaviour is not something to take lightly as it'll permit them to continue, I used to strive to always have compassion because I could see these people were broken on the inside but it was only doing me harm, *and was actually doing harm to their growth too.*