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#1..Mindfulness #2..Validate,feel and respond to yourself #3 Replace critical thinking with self encouragement #4 Regularly remind your inner child that you are not your actions or thoughts # 5 Practice loving kindness to your inner child
I have done so much work over the past 5 years healing so much in me. There are still behavioral patterns and addictions I'm working on. I can't express enough gratitude to have come across you! Another necessary piece in the puzzle of understanding myself, others and how to better relate 🙏 much gratitude to you Dr Snipes
You’re most welcome. Thank you so much for watching the video. I am very grateful to be of help. If there are any videos that would be useful to you, please feel free to ask :)
I’m extremely glad that I have found your channel. You are very helpful. It would be even better to give us some more examples when you talk about how we can work on ourselves so I can practice better :) , and I would be more than happy to pay to get more advice on how to practice this secure attachment within myself and personal relationships ❤️
You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video. Here is the playlist on improving your attachment to your inner child, yourself and others : th-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswjSvwE8zV5YPISXOHgkH5I5.html&si=-flCu6xGmxZ0ZP7k
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=secure
Doctor Snipes, you surely do make dynamic videos. Sometimes when I go out doing yard work, I listen to your your videos. Especially about the one about codependency.
Em the student of BDS Final Year From Pakistan...Thank You So Much Dr Dawn E.Snipe for sharing wisdom and Sparkle to Humanity and Lighten their Lifes...God Bless You....indeed You are Putting Extra Ordinary Efforts 💕
Thanks! I was able to help others with this but was never able to help myself with these tips. I was the wounded warrior taking care of others as a role and a survival cope, but completely unable to take care of my self. I did not even know what it felt like to be cared for emotionally. I just had to express my thanks for this and will look into taking Continuing Education Credits as I am a mental health practitioner from a non-certified school that was not very well run about how to avoid burnout and how to solve your own problems emotionally before attempting to make it a living.
@@DocSnipes I am going to work with other people and be upfront about my intentions. I have one person in mind who really hurt my feeling a few weeks back, if she wants to talk about it. Otherwise I will do things on my own.
I’m so glad you found mindfulness check-ins helpful! They’re such a simple yet powerful way to reconnect with yourself and create a sense of safety and stability. Taking even a few moments each day to pause, notice your feelings, and show yourself compassion can make a huge difference in building secure attachment with yourself and improving self-esteem. If you found this video helpful, I’d love for you to share it with others who might benefit from these tips-self-growth is always more powerful when it’s shared. Have you had a chance to try a mindfulness check-in yet? I’d love to hear how it’s been working for you or if there are other self-help tools you’re curious about!
I love your videos and find many of them helpful. I know this may be an odd question, but what do you do when you want to try these things, but feel resentful toward your own "inner child"? Is there a way to repair that connection?
Discover your repressed self and bring it out in the open. Usually these are annoyances and irritations that we notice in other people. Nothing scary and nothing damaging - it just annoys us. That is our repressed self. I learned that my repressed self is character in form of Sandra Bernhard - loud, obnoxious, yet in the same time without violence or narcissism. It is being authentic and honest within reasonable taste. When we were traumatized as children, we repressed such parts of ourselves which narcissistic ambient labeled as loud, obnoxious, feminine, gay, weak, silly, stupid, unworthy, unacceptable - but in reality it was not nothing pathological nor dangerous. Seek those parts and bring them out in daily routine. For socially anxious these are parts that are repressed - which are needed in situations when we are being bullied, mobbed or attacked - without our shadow self, we shut up and self censor ourselves and we keep afraid what will other people think about us if we say something stupid - and this way toxic people take advantage of our immobility and silence. If we had repressed self active and alive - we would embarrass ourselves and speak back to bullies and toxic people, we would cut contact with them. With repressed mentality we stay inside Karpman Drama Triangle and then we normalize abuse and abusive people as "part of life", something that is ok and needed which is basically Stockholm syndrome or trauma bonding. CBT instructs fearful individuals to expose and to not avoid toxic people - thus keeping repressed self to be even more repressed. CBT ought to be banned. Humanistic psychology is the only healthy way.
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video and thank you for supporting the channel. We really need it. I am grateful to be of help. You can find videos on improving your relationship with yourself at: th-cam.com/video/wolkGlwfVZw/w-d-xo.html
Oh wow... the idea of not giving myself what I need is causing me to feel unsafe just blows my mind. I tend to blame it on someone else (and, no dobt,doubt, have spent time around a lot of unsafe people)... but it didn't occur to me that sometimes my own neglect of myself could be the cause for anxiety...
Thanks for watching the video. How will you start creating secure attachment with yourself? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=secure
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching videos on the channel.Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=attachment
@@DocSnipes For me it will be about checking in with myself. It is like we have two parts of us, one that needs checking in and one that can and wants to help that emotional part. I wonder if that is what they were talking about in "I'm Okay, Your Okay" in which there was child, adult, and parent? Do you know how those two go together? Thank you if you have an answer.
I dunno. I would go more in direction of Humanistic psychology and Humanistic therapies. This means accepting myself as I am. Mindfulness leads to analysis which leads to paralysis. This is known as: "The self-absorption paradox describes the contradictory association whereby higher levels of self-awareness are simultaneously associated with higher levels of psychological distress and with psychological well-being." Instead of nitpicking myself - I would rather go with writing. That is best way to analyze without creating hysteria or self pathology ambient. Let's see it logically: how people with lower IQ get by in life? How narcissist go along in life without feeling moral and ethical issues? How majority of group-think conformist fail Milgram Experiment and do not care that they hurt people in life just because someone in authority explained them it is ok to treat other people like garbage? Well - all these people do not nitpick themselves. They have short attention span and they chase basic human needs like eating or chasing addictions. Perhaps we can learn from such people who will never seek therapy even though they need it and even though they create psychological disorder in other people through their Trump like egocentric, totally selfish and violent ways. This means - to accept ourselves as we are. With our perks, quirks, weirdness, particularities, annoyances, irritations, imperfections, being undone. Because at the bottom line - we are kind, nice, open, friendly, empathic, without hidden evil agenda, we do not contemplate hurting other people, we do not gossip, we really have no reason to feel guilt, shame and blame that we bombard ourselves due to trauma lodged in our brain due to exposure to toxic people who will never ever seek psychological therapy which they desperately need. I would go in direction of self validation, self acceptance, self love - and then naturally cut toxic people off from our lives - and see our psychological health naturally rise to functional level. Without us nitpicking it nor making drama about our panic issues.
The CRAVES mnemonic is certainly firmly grounded in Humanistic theory with Consistent mindfulness, Validation, Encouragement and Safety via unconditional positive regard.
@@DocSnipes I see Humanistic psychology and Humanistic therapies as the only way to help people struggling with any kind of psychological issue. Forcing them to culprit as CBT instructs will destroy people's ability to be authentic and turn them into philosophical zombie, NPC Wojak without own opinion, forever stuck with toxic shame and feeling of being inept and inferior. Mindfulness in Humanistic psychology is based on self acceptance and that each person decides the process - which paradoxically may involve choosing not to be mindful. The idea is to explore, discover and experiment with what each person stuck in Plato's cave experience and see what helps to them in their own cave which is different from other people and advice for majority may not work for certain individuals at all - in fact it can cause more damage due to specific ambient that they are situated in. This is why I prefer Humanistic therapies over CBT. CBT is conformism, group-think and herd mentality, factory mode while we need custom-made suit to deal with trauma which is behind any psychological issue.
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This is wrong. If you have God in your life, you will get over yourself, and this won't matter anymore. I ve tried all this self help stuff, which does not work, but make things worse. All any of us need, is God!
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❤️Self help activities and worksheets and concierge coaching with Dr. Snipes can be accessed at DocSnipes.com
👍Online Courses for Continuing Education (CEU, OPD, CPD) and Substance Abuse Counselor Certification
#1..Mindfulness
#2..Validate,feel and respond to yourself
#3 Replace critical thinking with self encouragement
#4 Regularly remind your inner child that you are not your actions or thoughts
# 5 Practice loving kindness to your inner child
Thanks Hannah
Thanks for watching! :)
Your information is amazing
Thank you for sharing such valuable technics
I have done so much work over the past 5 years healing so much in me. There are still behavioral patterns and addictions I'm working on. I can't express enough gratitude to have come across you! Another necessary piece in the puzzle of understanding myself, others and how to better relate 🙏 much gratitude to you Dr Snipes
You’re most welcome. Thank you so much for watching the video. I am very grateful to be of help. If there are any videos that would be useful to you, please feel free to ask :)
I talk to myself alot. Mostly it's negative talk.. so i really appreciate these healthy steps.
Thanks for watching!
Shabbat shalom doc Snipes, nice video, thank you
Thanks for watching.
This has been tremendously encouraging, thank you!!!
Thanks for watching!
I’m extremely glad that I have found your channel. You are very helpful. It would be even better to give us some more examples when you talk about how we can work on ourselves so I can practice better :) , and I would be more than happy to pay to get more advice on how to practice this secure attachment within myself and personal relationships ❤️
You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video. Here is the playlist on improving your attachment to your inner child, yourself and others : th-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswjSvwE8zV5YPISXOHgkH5I5.html&si=-flCu6xGmxZ0ZP7k
I found you at the right time. I cannot wait to keep watching and learning. Thank you
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=secure
Doctor Snipes, you surely do make dynamic videos. Sometimes when I go out doing yard work, I listen to your your videos. Especially about the one about codependency.
I appreciate you!! I found this channel while in school for my CASAC!!!
Thanks for watching!
Em the student of BDS Final Year From Pakistan...Thank You So Much Dr Dawn E.Snipe for sharing wisdom and Sparkle to Humanity and Lighten their Lifes...God Bless You....indeed You are Putting Extra Ordinary Efforts 💕
I appreciate you watching
Thanks! I was able to help others with this but was never able to help myself with these tips. I was the wounded warrior taking care of others as a role and a survival cope, but completely unable to take care of my self. I did not even know what it felt like to be cared for emotionally. I just had to express my thanks for this and will look into taking Continuing Education Credits as I am a mental health practitioner from a non-certified school that was not very well run about how to avoid burnout and how to solve your own problems emotionally before attempting to make it a living.
Thank you so much for watching. If you’re interested in finding more about CEUs, please email Doc Snipes at support@allceus.com. Have a blessed day
Great overview and tips/tools on practically how to work on secure attachment!
🙂Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much Dr Donelly Snipes 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
You’re most welcome. How are you planning to create secure attachment?
@@DocSnipes I am going to work with other people and be upfront about my intentions. I have one person in mind who really hurt my feeling a few weeks back, if she wants to talk about it. Otherwise I will do things on my own.
Your work is excellent! So grateful for your channel. Celebrating that you have nearly 250K subs. Your style and approach is fantastic!
Wow, thank you! 😁😁😁😁
This therapist is so helpful!
Thanks for watching.
You are amazing Dr. Snipes!!!
I appreciate you! Thanks for being here.
Thank you for this beautiful video ☺️
Thank you Doc Snipes for your helpful videos. You are such a kind , natural and trustful person and professional.
Thanks for watching.
The good stuff! Happiness is self sustained! ✨️
THANKS so much for the support!! Much appreciated! 😀😀😀
Yes, with responsibility, but not by ourselves. We always need others to share with and help us grow. We were not meant to be alone.
Great information, thank you Doc!
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Mindfulness check ins is such a good idea thank you
I’m so glad you found mindfulness check-ins helpful! They’re such a simple yet powerful way to reconnect with yourself and create a sense of safety and stability. Taking even a few moments each day to pause, notice your feelings, and show yourself compassion can make a huge difference in building secure attachment with yourself and improving self-esteem.
If you found this video helpful, I’d love for you to share it with others who might benefit from these tips-self-growth is always more powerful when it’s shared.
Have you had a chance to try a mindfulness check-in yet? I’d love to hear how it’s been working for you or if there are other self-help tools you’re curious about!
I love your videos and find many of them helpful. I know this may be an odd question, but what do you do when you want to try these things, but feel resentful toward your own "inner child"? Is there a way to repair that connection?
Discover your repressed self and bring it out in the open.
Usually these are annoyances and irritations that we notice in other people. Nothing scary and nothing damaging - it just annoys us. That is our repressed self.
I learned that my repressed self is character in form of Sandra Bernhard - loud, obnoxious, yet in the same time without violence or narcissism. It is being authentic and honest within reasonable taste.
When we were traumatized as children, we repressed such parts of ourselves which narcissistic ambient labeled as loud, obnoxious, feminine, gay, weak, silly, stupid, unworthy, unacceptable - but in reality it was not nothing pathological nor dangerous.
Seek those parts and bring them out in daily routine.
For socially anxious these are parts that are repressed - which are needed in situations when we are being bullied, mobbed or attacked - without our shadow self, we shut up and self censor ourselves and we keep afraid what will other people think about us if we say something stupid - and this way toxic people take advantage of our immobility and silence. If we had repressed self active and alive - we would embarrass ourselves and speak back to bullies and toxic people, we would cut contact with them.
With repressed mentality we stay inside Karpman Drama Triangle and then we normalize abuse and abusive people as "part of life", something that is ok and needed which is basically Stockholm syndrome or trauma bonding.
CBT instructs fearful individuals to expose and to not avoid toxic people - thus keeping repressed self to be even more repressed. CBT ought to be banned. Humanistic psychology is the only healthy way.
Thank you. This is very helpful in my healing journey ❤️
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video and thank you for supporting the channel. We really need it. I am grateful to be of help.
You can find videos on improving your relationship with yourself at: th-cam.com/video/wolkGlwfVZw/w-d-xo.html
Thanks so much. This was easy to understand and will be a tool to help me be mindful
So glad!
Hi Doc, Thank you for all your help. Much appreciated!!
Can you recommend any self help books for anxious attachment style people. ☺️
Great teaching! 🙌🏻🌞
Really appreciate your content 😊
Thanks for watching!
Thank you Doc 😊
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to start creating secure attachment?
Oh wow... the idea of not giving myself what I need is causing me to feel unsafe just blows my mind. I tend to blame it on someone else (and, no dobt,doubt, have spent time around a lot of unsafe people)... but it didn't occur to me that sometimes my own neglect of myself could be the cause for anxiety...
Thanks for watching the video. How will you start creating secure attachment with yourself? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=secure
Thank you for the video
You're welcome
Thanks. I love your videos and just subscribed. Lots of love to you.
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching videos on the channel.Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=attachment
thank you doc ...was really useful
Glad it helped
Thank you so much.
Always welcome
thank you doc
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His has been so helpful
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Thanks so much for your support!
Ma'am,does Fusiform Face Area store facial long term memory?
Thanks!
You’re so welcome. Thank you so much for watching. How will you start creating secure attachment?
@@DocSnipes For me it will be about checking in with myself. It is like we have two parts of us, one that needs checking in and one that can and wants to help that emotional part. I wonder if that is what they were talking about in "I'm Okay, Your Okay" in which there was child, adult, and parent? Do you know how those two go together? Thank you if you have an answer.
Hi! How can I work on my attachement? The courses you offer are for professionals or general public? :)
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Thank you mam 🙏🏻
Thanks for watching.
Thx
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Can you do a therapy give away?
Shes fuckin amazing
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I dunno.
I would go more in direction of Humanistic psychology and Humanistic therapies.
This means accepting myself as I am.
Mindfulness leads to analysis which leads to paralysis. This is known as:
"The self-absorption paradox describes the contradictory association whereby higher levels of self-awareness are simultaneously associated with higher levels of psychological distress and with psychological well-being."
Instead of nitpicking myself - I would rather go with writing. That is best way to analyze without creating hysteria or self pathology ambient.
Let's see it logically: how people with lower IQ get by in life? How narcissist go along in life without feeling moral and ethical issues? How majority of group-think conformist fail Milgram Experiment and do not care that they hurt people in life just because someone in authority explained them it is ok to treat other people like garbage?
Well - all these people do not nitpick themselves. They have short attention span and they chase basic human needs like eating or chasing addictions.
Perhaps we can learn from such people who will never seek therapy even though they need it and even though they create psychological disorder in other people through their Trump like egocentric, totally selfish and violent ways.
This means -
to accept ourselves as we are.
With our perks, quirks, weirdness, particularities, annoyances, irritations, imperfections, being undone.
Because at the bottom line - we are kind, nice, open, friendly, empathic, without hidden evil agenda, we do not contemplate hurting other people, we do not gossip, we really have no reason to feel guilt, shame and blame that we bombard ourselves due to trauma lodged in our brain due to exposure to toxic people who will never ever seek psychological therapy which they desperately need.
I would go in direction of self validation, self acceptance, self love - and then naturally cut toxic people off from our lives -
and see our psychological health naturally rise to functional level. Without us nitpicking it nor making drama about our panic issues.
The CRAVES mnemonic is certainly firmly grounded in Humanistic theory with Consistent mindfulness, Validation, Encouragement and Safety via unconditional positive regard.
@@DocSnipes I see Humanistic psychology and Humanistic therapies as the only way to help people struggling with any kind of psychological issue.
Forcing them to culprit as CBT instructs will destroy people's ability to be authentic and turn them into philosophical zombie, NPC Wojak without own opinion, forever stuck with toxic shame and feeling of being inept and inferior.
Mindfulness in Humanistic psychology is based on self acceptance and that each person decides the process -
which paradoxically may involve choosing not to be mindful.
The idea is to explore, discover and experiment with what each person stuck in Plato's cave experience and see what helps to them in their own cave which is different from other people and advice for majority may not work for certain individuals at all - in fact it can cause more damage due to specific ambient that they are situated in.
This is why I prefer Humanistic therapies over CBT.
CBT is conformism, group-think and herd mentality, factory mode while we need custom-made suit to deal with trauma which is behind any psychological issue.
Unlimited CEUs for $59 at AllCEUs.com. Based on this channel's videos and the proceeds support our continued mission to make these resources available.
Thank you very much for putting this up!
What are CEU's?
Do you have podcast?
I want take out to eat n jus listen to talk bout w.e
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This is wrong. If you have God in your life, you will get over yourself, and this won't matter anymore. I ve tried all this self help stuff, which does not work, but make things worse. All any of us need, is God!
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@@DocSnipes God bless you! 🙏
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