I bawled when she said "none of us took any showers none of us got any sleep" I'm currently in that stage and it made me feel not alone. Less horrible and disgusting.
Absolutely stay in touch with people who show you love or who have children themselves. Stay in touch with your higher power if you have one. And most of all don’t opt out therapy.
I know this isn’t my place but i just have to say- as a woman with no children, you are so brave. I mean spartans buried women who died in childbirth with the same honors as soldiers who died in war. You’re a veteran in your own right, and you are not crazy. It’s hard, incredibly hard, especially to feel so helpless and alone, but you love your baby and struggling does not make you a bad mother. A bad mother has no worry about their child or how they’re turning out, but I can tell that you do. It’s okay to struggle and be unable to take care of yourself, because sometimes taking care of yourself just means keeping your head afloat. And I am a total stranger, I know, but I am so PROUD of you for keeping your head above water. You’re doing amazing and I promise you- things will get better. Things will be different. This is a moment in time, but it isn’t forever. You are strong and wonderful and you yourself are a blessing just like your baby is. It’s okay to have needs outside of your child, everyone does. You deserve a warm cup of tea or cocoa or whatever you prefer, and some time to yourself to cry, process, whatever you need. You are doing amazing.
You are going to be a great mother - normally the people whom are the most hard on themselves, are generally doing everything the best that they can and kicking ass. Speaking from someone that always brings myself down ; you are awesome!
Yes, even the great actors like Ian McKellen struggle to cry on the right cue...even the big actors and big actresses use some sort of liquid mixture in their eyes to make them cry on the spot. I think it takes better acting skill when actors/actresses can cry on the spot.
No, this is good advice actually. Many people feel sorry for themselves and don't make the conscious effort to try and feel positive - almost a kind of stubbornness. Sounds simple but it really can be. Worked for me, but everyone is different.
DLJ you sound rather uneducated and ignorant. How great that it worked for you, but postpartum depression can be very very serious, and women who are dealing with it should always seek help from a doctor. Psychotherapy/cognitive therapy is a very useful treatment for postpartum depression (and depression in general) but with the help of a professional!
Telling someone with depression, anxiety, PTSD, or any other type of mental disorder to drink water or sit down or smile more is like telling someone with their arm hanging off to put a bandaid on it or ice
Yes! I had depression and the number of times I was told those cheap, useless advices is crazy. I don't know how not compassionate you have to be to say that. Like, I don't have PSTD, but if someone I love told me they have it, I would use my brain to know that I just can't tell them to "get over it"... Ignorance is the worst disease.
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Lol yeah plus she said the classic line that mental health professionals learn the first week at school "I may not have been through what you have, but I care about your situation and can empathize with you about it" (with different variation)
@@gracehaven5459 Yeah, i love people like that I mean yeah she studies psychology, my friends wanted to study too and even tho she doesnt study, she always speaks to me the right way instead of blaming me
Well that’s her job. She helps others that have issues like depression, Bypolar, Schizophrenia, things like that. So she knows what it’s like to be different or not feel normal in some way. That has to be extremely hard. I definitely know what it’s like. I find it extremely hard to do daily life even do chores to help out my parents is extremely hard. Cleaning up my messes after I make myself a drink or food I have a really really hard time remembering to clean up afterwards. Because my brain goes onto 2-3 things at one time as soon as I get up from the table I totally forgot like that. Then I’m like « gotta feed the cats now, oh I gotta do this now? » and I’ll leave like 4 messes around the house and big ones too.
My brain goes like 1 million or more miles a second. It is constantly always always going thinking of more than 1 thing at once. It can never stay focused on a task at hand!!!! Crazy I think very very crazy.
@@leighhoppins9273 I’m sorry to read about your struggles. That sounds terrible to not be able to concentrate and to be constantly thinking thoughts you can’t control. Have you ever been properly diagnosed with anything? Meditation helps me focus. It’s not a cure but it will help you until you get the right help. Headspace app has ten free meditations for beginners, please try one and tell me how you feel afterwards x sending love
I have Autism, OCD, a form of Schizophrenia, i think I’m having symptoms of ADD to because I loose track I cannot focus on tasks at hand. I’m on medication I see a doctor so don’t worry. If there’s an issue I’m always the one to say I need help first. Im very responsible like that. Hahahahah Im nit shy at expressing when I have a problem. Hahahah :) :) :)
I have a number of mental disorders plus a few physical illnesses as well and I’m constantly told it’s my choice to give in to my symptoms. More than pissing me off, it makes me punish myself for being weak and for not “deciding” to overcome my symptoms. It’s a special kind of hell.
I was that horrible husband when my wife went through this, I didn't understand and thought she was just wanting constant attention. 19 years later and in still doing everything I can to make up for that, I'm now addicted to making her happy. If only we could go back in time
I know you probably don't need me to tell you this, but you don't need to keep beating yourself up over this. After 19 years you have a partner who cares for you. You didn't know in the situation and I hope you both got help. Remember that caring for others starts by caring for yourself and forgiving yourself. I don't know your situation for sure, but I hope that what you have continues strong!
My boyfriend was this 2 years ago but he still doesn't understand how horrible I felt and even had thoughts...what would happen if I drop my baby right now ...they were scary thoughts and feelings. Its a dark sad time and my bf would say just snap out of it and stop being exaggerated
@@zurdi33 He may not understand, but there's so so many people who do. I know it hurts to hear those things he said about it, but you and I both know it's a legitimate medical concern. Frig what he says about it, clearly he needs to educate himself and get some empathy.
How to spot a WWYD scenario 1. You are in a diner 2. People are talking loud about personal matters 3. Someone gets up to use the bathroom 4. Someone is being a jerk
Omg I swear she’s the best actress ever on this show, I’m not even joking she made me seriously cry (plus I’m already an emotional person) it just seemed so real.
Naomi, your kindness is showing. You are worthy and your feelings are valid. Love is best expressed through thoughts and acts of love. You're never alone, we are all connected. Respect
Those words can be so powerful… I had a medical condition and my parents already had made me feel crazy before my symptoms got bad. When I finally saw a doctor and told them and after a year of testing and testing when my doctor finally said “you’re not crazy , you have XYZ and we’ll continue to test and treat you until we have everything covered” I collapsed onto the floor and bawled like baby. And when I was finally diagnosed with depression I cried again. They’re magical words.
Hints of being ambushed by John: 1. Discussing sensitive topics loud in public. 2. one person saying they have to use the bathroom after the first or second line 3. Actor looking your way and somehow dragging you into the topic. 4. Other person coming back and asking you why your intervening, while trying to justify them self. And BOOM!! Here comes John.
true and my boyfriend tells me this.. and it hurt me. Im hurt when nobdoy is there for me when i want to just talk bout how i feel.. and not getting told im being dramatic.
True, I remember telling close people around me about it and they be like "can't you think of positive things or just stop worrying too much" and I'm like if it was that easy don't you think I would've made it go away already.
Sketchy black van parked out front ✔️ People talking loudly about a very personal problem ✔️ Awkwardly involving other tables ✔️ Abrupt restroom breaks ✔️ Time toooo introduce ourselves
I know they’re all actors but I got so ANNOYED when the “husband” said not only “decide to feel better” but also the “I’m being forgotten about too” like...??? Kudos to the actor, to all the actors in this episode, but OMG if I heard a man saying that in real life I’d be so mad, like you’re a grown ass man, act like it.
See thing is from his perspective he's a new father the mother isn't helping shes not right in the head atm he feels alone too and he's frustrated and plus more than likely is just trying to understand but when even you have no idea what's wrong with u how can u expect other to also even tho not gonna lie that just choose to be happy line was just then trying to get a reaction
@@bridgetbrownvargus that's right but don't you think everyone in a family should understand that being a mom is tough , both emotionally and physically.
@@lemonadestars3901 so is being dad being a parent in general is hell tbh its equally taxing on both individuals tbh i think its just more acceptable in society for women to show that they are struggling men are just supposed to support their wifes who cares if they're struggling too
AGREE! Luckily he was just an actor! But many men are this way! Many, many men! I’m divorced. I know! EDIT: I should say I am finally divorced after 35 years when my daughter got old enough to tell me I deserved not to be treated like shit! How’s that for a kid! Definitely my saving grace that girl! Don’t worry! I’ve told her!
As a woman who suffered SEVERE postpartum depression with #1 that was a hair away from turning to full psychosis, I thank you for addressing this. I felt hopeless and suicidal and luckily I got help. It came back while pregnant with #2, and I was so bad I wanted to give my baby up for adoption because I was convinced she’d hate me and I was a horrible mother. My doctor caught it at 6 months and put me on medication immediately. I have a beautiful 15 year old daughter and 2 boys, age 19 and 8. I still struggle with depression on occasion but I deal with it and get treatment when I need it. Having a stable and loving husband has been my saving grace!!
You are a great mom and you deserve nothing but happiness and support I am BEYOND proud of you, being a mother is hard and now have 3 amazing babies and I know they look up to you and adore you🥰!
The actor is so good, she’s crying her eyes out even though nothings happened! Edit: Apparently people are upset because I said actor not actress. I’m still not gonna change it suckers
I started bawling when the woman gave her number. That's a genuinely good person. She's a stranger, but she's willing to love her until she lives herself again. That's beautiful
As someone who’s struggled with mental health, that’s actually quite helpful to hear, because you do need to decide to start getting yourself out that dark place, bit by bit. You can unthink yourself out the negative cycle.
This is true on some levels but when some people say that you just need to get over it and be happy from now on but that’s not how it works it’s hard to hear because it feels like they don’t care and your problems are and annoyance but you also need to want help at least a little to actually get help
My wife had postpartum after giving birth with twins and I had a drinking problem. I was very supportive and she said idk how even drunk you were my rock. But she did miss her family I would let her stay a week with her family when she had her follow up appointments. We still together and we are Ying and Yang we just understand each other
The funny thing is, Postpartum depression doesn’t look the same for everyone. I had it bad after I delivered my triplets. It didn’t help that I had NO help from family or husband. I was so depressed, but I always dressed up, and showed up. No one that I didn’t tell, could tell I had PPD. I looked right in public, but when I was alone, was when it was hell. When it comes to opening up to others (which is normally hard for me) ALL of a sudden EVERYONE becomes an expert at parenting and has all the answers to what I should and shouldn’t do. So, I am extremely happy to see WWYD create an entire episode for this issue that has always been a stigma. TBH, I got out of it on my own! God has been my source of strength and encouragement! They are turning 3 years old next month, I’m good and the triplets are super loved!
There is no god. The source of strength and encouragent you are feeling, have been YOU all along plus maybe the social interactions you have with church members. Don't ever make your happiness dependent on the question if god is real or not.
Sabrina Lenting Girl, it was all God! There was no medication, no mantra, no books, songs, advice, meditation, ritual... NOTHING that would give me joy like the strength of God! Life will happen, and it’s not always Good, but I know that God is real. When I was at my lowest, I called out for Him and He was there, and He rescued me and hasn’t left me. I have rough days and hard times but The joy of the Lord is my strength! Happiness is temporary accumulation of substance in good times. but true JOY and contentment’s From GOD! Gods Joy is a constant even when life is hard!
@@Indiasplace Sounds good so far. Just take care of yourself and stay open and pragmatic if you ever find yourself in a dark place again. Maybe the joy of "god" alone will help again, maybe you'll need (additional) therapy or medication. Just keep trying out what helps. Don't condemn other stuff than god as helpful ressources in general (like some fundamentalists do)
Currently going through postpartum and I feel like I have no one to talk to. The African American community has such a stigma against mental illnesses. It’s hard...
If you need my email to talk about it I would gladly take the time to talk to you. Or you could look me up on Facebook. My Facebook name is Sierra Whitehead because I got married and haven't changed it on here yet... feel free to reach out! I promise I don't mind
It is and you are important and special especially to you baby sweetheart. Going to a doctor is the best way for both of you. I wound up almost resenting my baby due to depression. And he wasn’t a happy baby who nursed peacefully and I felt none of the bonding that’s supposed to be so darn magical. I had no magic at all. It’s was horrible. You can change the situation by going trust me. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
The people to use the actual words ‘post partum depression’ is just so powerful. It’s so validating rather than to sugar coat it, it makes your feelings understood. It can be so isolating, recommending speaking to doctors and being so understanding is heartwarming, a lot of people brush it off as just typical struggling. People calling it what it is really removes the stigma, it can be such a struggle as a mother having a new baby and feeling like this. It’s beautiful to see people being so kind to a stranger
Yeah, this is also another reason I don’t want children, I’ve had depression before and I don’t want to go through it again, also I don’t really like kids
William Guzman I only edited because I had typos. I made this comment based off the recent videos. I enjoy the early wwyd. However majority of the comments on the most recently posted have pointed out how the scenarios are ridiculous. Plus this looks really old, like as I said, back when they actually did real shit.
I saw this right as that part happened and I read it right as she said it. And yes, it was very sweet. That woman was ready and knew exactly what to say and do.
It is so good that they have made this episode. So many women go through this, yet feel alone and that there is something wrong with them. This episode will likely make a difference to many mothers. It will hopefully help a lot father’s to better understand what their partner is going through. Any kind of depression is hard to deal with. But having it acknowledged by others, and realising that you are not alone, helps so very much.
Dakota Elrod some women have post partum psychosis... i can’t imagine what i feels like to have something that’s supposed to a beautiful time in your life be affected so deeply because of some sort of chemical imbalance
Can we just talk about that last girl and the faith in humanity she restored?? She’s already practicing her calling and she’s not even out of college yet! So glad we have bright young people like her ♥️
As a mom who struggled with PPD after both of my pregnancies and was grossly ignored by EVERYONE, I bawled through this. Thank you for bringing awareness to and hopefully releasing some of the stigma from PPD.
I'm so sorry you experienced PPD. I did too with my second son and I was exactly like you, sobbed the entire time. I've been to therapy to heal and in some ways I have but this just hit me in some spots. Hope you're doing great now mama ❤️
Aww that first woman that talked to her was just amazing. She could be a therapist and this is coming from someone who is in school to become one. That psych major makes me feel so proud to be in the field I’m in.
I'm a man/part seahorse and I find this video very heartwarming. A very good WWYD situation. No screaming no shouting no people about to kill each other. Just humans helping each other get by with kindness and compassion.
What people think happen when you drink water People: Drink some water, you'll be fine Me who was depressed:*drink water* Depression: Understandable, have a great day
@@ellamiller6889 there is an informative museum at Smith College in Northampton, MA which had some great resources. Sorry for the lack of empathy you have experienced. Breathing slowly, deliberately, and deeply helps.
My mom once told me that she had dealt with PPD after she had me, though she had been perfectly fine after my two older sisters were born. I watched this when the episode first premiered on tv and after this segment ended I went to her and apologized for any problems that I caused her during that time. 🥺💔
I’m a new dad to a two month old, and my lady (a new mom) is still going through this. Even though she’s feeling much better than she did a month ago, it still affects her. Tbh, some days, I was a lot like the husband in this video, saying things like “you have to want to feel better” “stop speaking negatively” “You should see someone” or “you need to take get out the house”. Seeing this, a long with other videos is helping me understand that I just don’t get it! I feel like a complete ass clown for saying that stuff! She’s going through something horrible, and I have to be more understanding, and listen more, and be supportive! I’m going to go apologize again and do better.
You're a good husband. Many men do not want to change the attitude even if they knew so you make big step for understanding your wife better. It takes couple to make a happy marriag. I hope your wife feel more better and you can offer the help. I hope you're both have a happy story!
My sister had it with her third as well. Partly because of the stress, partly because of the hormones, and partly bc she'd lost her second child and she couldn't stop thinking of her when she saw her son.
I had no idea! I only have one baby but after that, I decided not to have any more kids because I couldn't risk going through that again. It was so hard going through post partum depression as a single mom. it lasted almost 2 years for me
Oh shit I relate to this so much , it breaks my heart , if any mother’s are going through this right now I just want you to know it’s not your fault and it will get better , and you shouldn’t be ashamed to seek help
“You just need to decided to feel better” Me: Okay so Everyone! Everyone with Any Mental Illness just decided to feel better and everything will be fine!
This one really hit home for me. I had post partum depression and it’s no joke. My doctor didn’t even take it seriously. This needs to be talked about WAY more.
I'm so sorry that you went through that. I imagine it must have been particularly hard to have a doctor of all people not recognize or validate all those strong, negative emotions you were feeling. It's sad that even a professional couldn't help you. I hope it tourned out well for you in the end ❤️
Can we just acknowledge Arianne for being a great actress - whether it'd be teen roles or mom roles - and also for transforming in between two with such eloquence. I've been watching her through different episodes, she's really great.
I had postpartum depression because everyone wanted to hold my daughter and I couldn't bond with her. It's hard all I wanted to do was sleep and not do anything. It sucks and I got over it, but not everyone can. We just need to listen and help not judge because it hurts to be in this situation.
Honestly with with moms who have just gave birth I always try and go over and help around the house and watch the baby while they sleep and shower and eat or anything because I’ve seen many women suffer and I want to help anyway I can
When she says “I felt like he would be better off with someone else”i bursted in tears she took the thoughts I was having during my ppd right out my head.
This is an eye-opener to all men, be there for your women. Share the responsibility of parenthood, we're the best support mechanism for our wife. I just can't imagine how single moms go through their daily motherhood lives without the father for the baby and the mom, this is where family gets into the picture. Kudos & much love to all mothers!!! ❤️🤲🤰
Anyone with depression has heard these three thing in some capacity: -look alive - smile and then you will feel better - if you take a shower then you will feel better
Find a good and supportive friend, and keep your doctor up to date on this. Hormonal imbalances should be expected and thinking it isn't a real thing is pure idiocy.
When the woman gave "our actress" her phone number, I cried a little too. I'm a 62 year old grandmother now, but when I had my much wanted twins 30 years ago, I was sure I wouldn't survive it. I was fortunate to have an Obstetrician who recognized it and an understanding husband that was supportive. As women - heck, as human beings - we need to ask for and accept help when we are in need, and help others whenever we can.
I'm currently 8 months pregnant and actually I'm not scared of labor, I'm not scared of contractions or delivery, what scares me most is postpartum depression. Idk if it's because it's my first kid, but I really feel like this could happen to me. I'm so happy those people came out to help the woman!
Hey how are you doing ? First time mum here to although I'm only 4 months and I'm scared of this to- This whole journey is a rollercoaster! Hope you're doing well xx
@@s.g2344 Hi I'm doing well baby is 1 month old now. How about you? Luckily, besides from adapting to the new routine nothing happened. I wish you the best and also for ur baby.
@@evaimarinacoendersvrecarCongratulations! I hope you and your amazing baby are doing well make sure to put yourself first so you can care for your baby, im rooting for you! Motherhood becomes you❤
Don't be scared, just realize the symptoms and get help immediately when you notice them, im currently back on medication because my postpartum depression lasted much longer with my second one, if you're noticing you're not in your right mind talk to your doctor and a psychiatrist, medication helped me so much. God bless an congratulations ❤️
I never had postpartum with my only child and I thank God . She deserved all the special moments together. Especially because she died of a brain tumor we fought for a year and a half. She was just 6 1/2 when she passed away
Postpartum depression, anxiety, psychosis, I went through this, it was absolutely the most scary time in my life and I have had a hard life in a lot of ways. I didn't even have the logical thought process this woman is having. I felt at anytime I might take something sharp and jab it in my neck, just as a reflex to having it in my hands, I couldn't sleep, I only felt fear and apathy. I absolutely would not have survived it without medical/therapeutic intervention and I thank god that I had the support I needed to get the proper treatment. I have an extremely sensitive radar for other moms going through it.
Anxiety is very dangerous, even for men. There are so many doctors that don't even care but prescribe pills...that's the dangerous part. All these people want is someone to listen. It happens to men, children and women all the time. Then it becomes depression which is even worse. Doctors NEED to listen more carefully to their patients. You can't solve everything with pills. Sarah Haines went through all of that by herself and I adore her. She's now a full time host on The View and I admire her spirit. Depression and anxiety is NO JOKE. It can lead to serious mental problems and severe health issues. A hospital won't help, but a therapist or a great friend can. I love people who extend their kindness and love to anybody who needs it. It's not a quick fix...people just want to be heard and hugged. A hug or kiss goes a long way for many. I'm depressed with anxiety myself but the people who want to talk to me are the best people I've ever met. God Bless.
Not everyone gets the same symptoms when you get postpartum depression. I went through it not knowing what I was going through. Postpartum depression did not hit me right away it hit me 6 months after I thought I was going crazy until I talked to my doctor and explained to me I wasn't crazy and it was postpartum depression
my mom suffered from postpartum depression when she had me, she told me about it a year ago and i felt so bad, i felt as if it were MY fault, i felt as if i ruined her life and made her go thru all the trouble, we both went to therapy together, it helped so so much
The phrase "go see a therapist" can sometimes be like saying "you just need to not feed your family". Therapy is expensive! I quickly ran out of coverage after 10 sessions. Ten! Only enough to scratch the surface. But, talking and understanding is free. I encourage everyone to do research on post-partum and find a group. It is the next best thing to getting therapy.
I went to a therapist a few times for my issues but couldn't stay with it because I had no confidence in myself. I easily give up when things get hard. I wish there was someone to push me to keep getting help. I never overcame my issues and now I'm lonely and constantly depressed. I don't let my friends see it, but when I go home to an empty house, I fall back into that sad feeling. I understand the cost aspect, I really do. But in hindsight, it would have been an investment in my future and I'd be so much happier now. Instead, I continued to run away from my problems.
As a custom in Algeria and may be many countries, a close relative girl/woman stay with the mom that gave birth for 1-4 weeks. Doesn't matter if she is in hospital or at home. In some cases, a neighbor girl helps. I didn't know about this and I was surprised that it can go along for 1 year !!! Man what if she a is a working mom, God bless every mom.
I am from Botswana and traditionally females in your family (mom,aunts,grandmother) stay with you for a full year to assist with taking care of the baby.During that time, the new mom doesnt cook or do any housework because the main focus is for her to recover from childbirth and transition into this new role as a mother.
I think one of the really important messages from this is that you aren’t wrong or a failure for not feeling a certain way after becoming a parent. My parents had just started trying for a baby when my mom got pregnant with my older sister. They were both overjoyed, they felt everything they were “supposed” to feel. Then life got more stressful-money problems, health problems, longer work hours. And then, unplanned and inconvenient, I came along. Both of my parents struggled a lot after my birth. They felt guilty that they didn’t feel the same happiness at my birth as my sister’s, they felt guilty that they couldn’t spend as much time with me as they spent with my sister when she was a baby, they felt like failures of parents. I know this because I’ve talked about it with them, not because I remember it. I can’t remember ever feeling neglected or uncared for, I can’t remember ever feeling they loved my sister more. Eventually, the feelings they felt for my sister from the moment she was born came for me. Eventually, their lives got less crazy and I developed a beautiful bond with both of them. I couldn’t have asked for better parents. The thing to remember about depression is that it is a fucking liar. It tells you you’re worthless, it tells you you’re unlovable, it tells you you’re a failure and everyone else would be better off without you. It tells you there’s no hope. Because depression is a fucking liar. Don’t listen to it or trust it, the nasty things depression tells you about yourself is bullshit. If you can, talk to a doctor or therapist about it, a perspective outside your own is always helpful when reflecting.
As a therapist, this one really touched me… the way people educated and validated her was so amazing. We’re all learning how to heal and it’s amazing to see.
After a long time I am seeing some real acting . Oh my gosh the actress was damn good . Hope to see her in Hollywood blockbusters some day . Actually the whole WWYD team is too good at acting and it helps us to realise the reality too good.
Omg, that's how I felt when I had my second. I even wanted to hurt him, I knew I wouldn't do it. But I was young I was 19 with 2 1/2 years old and single mom. And i was angry with myself. But he is 7 now and i just cant imagine my life without him but its very hard and I give props to women
Being a new mum is one of the most hardest things ever especially when you experience postpartum depression. The sleep deprivation Recovering from birth If you had stitches or a c-section The pain from your uterus contracting when you’re breastfeeding Breastfeeding problems like mastitis, engorgement, clogged ducts Feeling trapped because you’re at home all day and all night caring for the baby Lack of self-care which results in making you feel so much worse.
Everything about this episode is so wholesome. It can feel overwhelming to know that what you're feeling is invalidated. These women who reached out to both actress were so moving.. The last lady is just a pure angel. She's so empathetic. I'd love to reach to out to her. Does anyone know her name or social media?
They should do an episode about teenage depression or anxiety. Because sometimes it can be brushed under the carpet and then those suffering teenagers end up endangering themselves. It should have more awareness
Yes. My parents didn't understand. I had such bad depression and anxiety as a teen. My parents would tell me to get over it, stop being dramatic, or scream at me to "be normal".
I've been struggling with mental health issues my whole life due to early childhood trauma and i just want to say it took 22 years for someone to tell me I'm not alone. So to see people showing support for any sort of mental health disorder is truly amazing and inspiring. Helps me see there are more people that would step in. Thank you! Please always remember that you are valid valuable unique and irreplaceable and you matter more than you know! Please stay safe everyone! -BD
Same! I have borderline personality disorder from mental disabilities running in my family and truly want a baby some day but I’m scared I’ll feel like this.
Wow, I’m a young adult woman and I have never really heard of postpartum depression. I wasn’t ever taught about it in school or in life, and now you brought awareness to this serious issue with one video and y’all showed symptoms that could potentially diagnose it and help many mothers. Thank you so much.
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“You are just as important as your baby” whew preach mama
I think the baby is more important it’s pretty selfish to put yourself before your kids
@Solo Solo 🤦🏻♀️
Solo Solo what?? I’m so confused. She’s not putting herself before the baby. They both are equally important.
Bella no there not the baby is more important
Solo Solo .....you sound like someone who spends thousands of dollars on babies....
Can we talk about the acting? She’s so good holy crap
I know UwU
UvU UwU
Furries are the worst
Yeah she was phenomenal
Tw? Kinda like TM
Can we all just acknowledge the beautiful acting....
Yeah hopefully we see more of her
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She’s just crying over, and over, and over. Must’ve been hard
Right? Her acting was on point.
The actress did an amazing job
I bawled when she said "none of us took any showers none of us got any sleep" I'm currently in that stage and it made me feel not alone. Less horrible and disgusting.
Absolutely stay in touch with people who show you love or who have children themselves. Stay in touch with your higher power if you have one. And most of all don’t opt out therapy.
I know this isn’t my place but i just have to say- as a woman with no children, you are so brave. I mean spartans buried women who died in childbirth with the same honors as soldiers who died in war. You’re a veteran in your own right, and you are not crazy. It’s hard, incredibly hard, especially to feel so helpless and alone, but you love your baby and struggling does not make you a bad mother. A bad mother has no worry about their child or how they’re turning out, but I can tell that you do. It’s okay to struggle and be unable to take care of yourself, because sometimes taking care of yourself just means keeping your head afloat. And I am a total stranger, I know, but I am so PROUD of you for keeping your head above water. You’re doing amazing and I promise you- things will get better. Things will be different. This is a moment in time, but it isn’t forever. You are strong and wonderful and you yourself are a blessing just like your baby is. It’s okay to have needs outside of your child, everyone does. You deserve a warm cup of tea or cocoa or whatever you prefer, and some time to yourself to cry, process, whatever you need. You are doing amazing.
You are going to be a great mother - normally the people whom are the most hard on themselves, are generally doing everything the best that they can and kicking ass. Speaking from someone that always brings myself down ; you are awesome!
@@madisonhartwick8114 ily ty
@@kermtheworm13 all of you make me so happy and proud to not only be a mother but to be a part of the human race
They did a really good job making that actress look exhausted.
Yeah, props for the makeup team!!!
My everyday face
@@naampjeanoniem6480 ☠☠
I’m pretty sure she saw this comment and put it on her Instagram
that’s me without any makeup
I hate when people say "just drink some water and you'll be fine"
“Why don’t you eat some bread and maybe you’ll calm down”
Right
Bruh this is my dad
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Yeah! What is that - who came up with that?!
Nice lady in the second cut: “I know people who had postpartum depression.” Camera cuts to John: “She knows people.”
LOL
I just laughed at this 😂 he was so serious for no reason
😂😂😂😂😂
That was so funny .
😂😂😂
This actress is fantastic. Most realistic of any episode I’ve seen. To be able to repeatedly cry all day is a huge skill to have as an actor
Will Cook: YES! She's very good at it!
Or just be a normal woman with adequate practice.
She was in an episode of Law and Order SVU as well
Yes, even the great actors like Ian McKellen struggle to cry on the right cue...even the big actors and big actresses use some sort of liquid mixture in their eyes to make them cry on the spot. I think it takes better acting skill when actors/actresses can cry on the spot.
Yes she was amazing
“You just need to decide to be better” the toxic positivity and productivity JUMPED out, my goodness!
Yes! It's like if someone punched you and said "don't get hurt"
People who never been through emotional issues don't understand that it's not that simple.
No, this is good advice actually. Many people feel sorry for themselves and don't make the conscious effort to try and feel positive - almost a kind of stubbornness. Sounds simple but it really can be. Worked for me, but everyone is different.
DLJ you sound rather uneducated and ignorant. How great that it worked for you, but postpartum depression can be very very serious, and women who are dealing with it should always seek help from a doctor. Psychotherapy/cognitive therapy is a very useful treatment for postpartum depression (and depression in general) but with the help of a professional!
DLJ actually it’s shitty advice. the brain is an organ, organs get sick. you can’t “think” your way out of a pancreatic infection
Telling someone with depression, anxiety, PTSD, or any other type of mental disorder to drink water or sit down or smile more is like telling someone with their arm hanging off to put a bandaid on it or ice
Puppy Lover very trueeee
Straight facts, as someone who's suffering from trauma, depression and a panick disorder I've heared the most useless advices😂
I’m autistic and my dad thinks I’m diseased and retarded. He works in a mental hospital so that really fucking hurts.
Yes! I had depression and the number of times I was told those cheap, useless advices is crazy. I don't know how not compassionate you have to be to say that. Like, I don't have PSTD, but if someone I love told me they have it, I would use my brain to know that I just can't tell them to "get over it"... Ignorance is the worst disease.
155chipmunkz I hope he gets put in there cuz he sounds mental
The mom is the best actress I've ever seen on the show.
Since y'all are here, it would mean a lot if you check out my music ❤️ 11k likes is a lot thank you!
I know her crying is so convincing
Ikr its so realistic
i love tracy when she’s being a bitch too ahahahah
For real
Shes one of the best actors iv ever seen period
That woman who is a psychology major (with the black scarf) seems like she’d be such a great friend
absolutely
Pure angel 😇
Lol yeah plus she said the classic line that mental health professionals learn the first week at school "I may not have been through what you have, but I care about your situation and can empathize with you about it" (with different variation)
@@gracehaven5459
Yeah, i love people like that
I mean yeah she studies psychology, my friends wanted to study too and even tho she doesnt study, she always speaks to me the right way instead of blaming me
Eloquent and wholesome at the same time.
Definitely a bestie to rely on!
The last girl is an angel. If I was her parent, I’d be beaming with pride. What a lovely human being
Wonder Woman me too i hope i can raise my kids just to be like her
Well that’s her job. She helps others that have issues like depression, Bypolar, Schizophrenia, things like that. So she knows what it’s like to be different or not feel normal in some way. That has to be extremely hard. I definitely know what it’s like. I find it extremely hard to do daily life even do chores to help out my parents is extremely hard. Cleaning up my messes after I make myself a drink or food I have a really really hard time remembering to clean up afterwards. Because my brain goes onto 2-3 things at one time as soon as I get up from the table I totally forgot like that. Then I’m like « gotta feed the cats now, oh I gotta do this now? » and I’ll leave like 4 messes around the house and big ones too.
My brain goes like 1 million or more miles a second. It is constantly always always going thinking of more than 1 thing at once. It can never stay focused on a task at hand!!!! Crazy I think very very crazy.
@@leighhoppins9273 I’m sorry to read about your struggles. That sounds terrible to not be able to concentrate and to be constantly thinking thoughts you can’t control. Have you ever been properly diagnosed with anything? Meditation helps me focus. It’s not a cure but it will help you until you get the right help. Headspace app has ten free meditations for beginners, please try one and tell me how you feel afterwards x sending love
I have Autism, OCD, a form of Schizophrenia, i think I’m having symptoms of ADD to because I loose track I cannot focus on tasks at hand. I’m on medication I see a doctor so don’t worry. If there’s an issue I’m always the one to say I need help first.
Im very responsible like that. Hahahahah Im nit shy at expressing when I have a problem. Hahahah :) :) :)
“You just need to *decide* to feel better” OH NO HE DIDN’T
I was so mad when I heard that. You shouldn't say that to anyone with ANY mental illness
Right!?!!
Big reason my ex husband is an EX. Some people have no emotional maturity
Riley O'Shell Keep in mind of course that he’s an actor.
In real life, it would be ON SIGHT!
If I was depressed and someone told me I just need to “decide to feel better” I’d be PISSED
I will slap them😐 it’s not like you don’t want to feel better
I have a number of mental disorders plus a few physical illnesses as well and I’m constantly told it’s my choice to give in to my symptoms. More than pissing me off, it makes me punish myself for being weak and for not “deciding” to overcome my symptoms. It’s a special kind of hell.
I have depression and a family menber one day told me to not let it get to my head.If it was that easy ,my problems would be gone.smh
Down on the Upside ... or I didn’t understand what you wanna say with that or you didn’t understand me.
That's one of the reasons you hear about violence and PPD.
I was that horrible husband when my wife went through this, I didn't understand and thought she was just wanting constant attention. 19 years later and in still doing everything I can to make up for that, I'm now addicted to making her happy. If only we could go back in time
I know you probably don't need me to tell you this, but you don't need to keep beating yourself up over this. After 19 years you have a partner who cares for you. You didn't know in the situation and I hope you both got help.
Remember that caring for others starts by caring for yourself and forgiving yourself. I don't know your situation for sure, but I hope that what you have continues strong!
My boyfriend was this 2 years ago but he still doesn't understand how horrible I felt and even had thoughts...what would happen if I drop my baby right now ...they were scary thoughts and feelings. Its a dark sad time and my bf would say just snap out of it and stop being exaggerated
@@zurdi33 He may not understand, but there's so so many people who do. I know it hurts to hear those things he said about it, but you and I both know it's a legitimate medical concern. Frig what he says about it, clearly he needs to educate himself and get some empathy.
@@zurdi33 You’re a trooper. I’m so sorry your boyfriend couldn’t understand.
@@user-gh5xu3wl3b thank you. ❤️ He is a great dad now to our 2 year old i just think he didnt understand how i felt
How to spot a WWYD scenario
1. You are in a diner
2. People are talking loud about personal matters
3. Someone gets up to use the bathroom
4. Someone is being a jerk
Thank you,Very helpful information
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If this scene shoot in the bedroom, do you think you can get reactions from strangers? This is called social experiment.
Rofl!
@@rubymack4914 you ok?
I got one- “I’m just saying what everyone else is thinking” 😂😂
I want to see this actress more. She's a great actress.
@Mikayla Luna ithink iwas comenting somewhere else idont even know whts funny
Yes much better than the two gym girls 🙏
Her name is Ariane Rinehart, she in a couple of movies and shows.
yeah she is, also insanely gorgeous, those eyes , my god...just looks like she has a kind soul too
Bruh those women at the start made me cry I literally just woke up smh
Sameee 😭
Same!
same!
I haven't been able to cry for over a year and this made me cry so hard
Aw omg same
John saying "She knows people." after the lady says she knows people, has the same energy as "Oh my God they were roommates."
The woman: "They were roommates!"
John: "Oh my gawd they were roommates "
This made me giggle LOL
The best actor I’ve ever seen on wwyd. Period. Someone get this girl a job in the big leagues.
Youve never seen that rude actor what her name?
Azza L' ali tracey
@@EstrellaRamosMusic exactly 😃
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL 100% agree
Azza L' ali Traci 😂😂 she is good.
*Hugs lady* "None of us took showers."
Yeah I think she was talking about her experience when they became new mother...
@@meetthetables6803 woooosh
@@meetthetables6803 there is always someone ruins a good joke in the replies.
Poignant moment though. The stigma of hygiene and mental health knocked in one beautiful sentence.
Facts
Omg I swear she’s the best actress ever on this show, I’m not even joking she made me seriously cry (plus I’m already an emotional person) it just seemed so real.
Same. She's amazing
Also who is your profile pic? Is that hobi? Excuse me if I'm wrong it's kinda hard to see
Michelle Villate Yep it is❤️
Same
What is the actors name?
When the first woman said “you have a right to all your feelings right now” i started crying so hard 😭 What a kind person
Naomi, your kindness is showing. You are worthy and your feelings are valid. Love is best expressed through thoughts and acts of love. You're never alone, we are all connected.
Respect
If this was a movie the woman playing the mom role would get an Oscar for her acting
Ariane Rinehart
@@damuvang1915 yes
@@licanisbeastilarica5761 yes
she can just cry on the spot multiple times, that’s talent
Yes
Omg, that first woman who said: "You're not crazy."
Why did this sentence hit so hard?
Or am I the only one?
You’re not the only one
It made me burst into tears. I'm still crying.
It was her tone... she said it with the assurance we all need to hear when we’re struggling 😩
Those words can be so powerful…
I had a medical condition and my parents already had made me feel crazy before my symptoms got bad. When I finally saw a doctor and told them and after a year of testing and testing when my doctor finally said “you’re not crazy , you have XYZ and we’ll continue to test and treat you until we have everything covered” I collapsed onto the floor and bawled like baby. And when I was finally diagnosed with depression I cried again. They’re magical words.
I want her to adopt me (I don’t care that i’m 35 years old)
Hints of being ambushed by John:
1. Discussing sensitive topics loud in public.
2. one person saying they have to use the bathroom after the first or second line
3. Actor looking your way and somehow dragging you into the topic.
4. Other person coming back and asking you why your intervening, while trying to justify them self.
And BOOM!! Here comes John.
“Ambushed” lmao
thank you so much i live in constant fear of him showing up out of nowhere this helps a lot!!!
shinynj the fact that you’re probably not lying 💀
Okay but people pull this shit irl in diners and shit
Lmao don't forget "I just, I don't know what to do"
The sad thing about having anxiety is when you tell it to the people you trust... and they just calls you a cry baby, or just being dramatic...
People don't want to address the issue that is giving you problems. Figures, i am out here struggling trying to get my life together.
true and my boyfriend tells me this.. and it hurt me. Im hurt when nobdoy is there for me when i want to just talk bout how i feel.. and not getting told im being dramatic.
True, I remember telling close people around me about it and they be like "can't you think of positive things or just stop worrying too much" and I'm like if it was that easy don't you think I would've made it go away already.
Faaaaacts! Or say you’re choosing to freak out and forcing yourself to freak out
I cried in the grocery store buying formula.
Sketchy black van parked out front ✔️
People talking loudly about a very personal problem ✔️
Awkwardly involving other tables ✔️
Abrupt restroom breaks ✔️
Time toooo introduce ourselves
LMAO
Hahahaha!
Crazy people shout unnecessary 😁
Hahahaha
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How can you do fake crying like that? That was insane acting from the woman.
@ALEXANDRIA HUTSON girl how? Lol
Kassandra Draws honestly you just think of the saddest things in your life and it just happens
@ALEXANDRIA HUTSON hey it kinda works
It's REALLY easy
ALEXANDRIA HUTSON same. I do it all the time to be annoying 😂
I know they’re all actors but I got so ANNOYED when the “husband” said not only “decide to feel better” but also the “I’m being forgotten about too” like...??? Kudos to the actor, to all the actors in this episode, but OMG if I heard a man saying that in real life I’d be so mad, like you’re a grown ass man, act like it.
See thing is from his perspective he's a new father the mother isn't helping shes not right in the head atm he feels alone too and he's frustrated and plus more than likely is just trying to understand but when even you have no idea what's wrong with u how can u expect other to also even tho not gonna lie that just choose to be happy line was just then trying to get a reaction
@@bridgetbrownvargus that's right but don't you think everyone in a family should understand that being a mom is tough , both emotionally and physically.
@@lemonadestars3901 so is being dad being a parent in general is hell tbh its equally taxing on both individuals tbh i think its just more acceptable in society for women to show that they are struggling men are just supposed to support their wifes who cares if they're struggling too
AGREE!
Luckily he was just an actor! But many men are this way! Many, many men!
I’m divorced. I know!
EDIT: I should say I am finally divorced after 35 years when my daughter got old enough to tell me I deserved not to be treated like shit! How’s that for a kid! Definitely my saving grace that girl! Don’t worry! I’ve told her!
Yes!
As a woman who suffered SEVERE postpartum depression with #1 that was a hair away from turning to full psychosis, I thank you for addressing this. I felt hopeless and suicidal and luckily I got help. It came back while pregnant with #2, and I was so bad I wanted to give my baby up for adoption because I was convinced she’d hate me and I was a horrible mother. My doctor caught it at 6 months and put me on medication immediately. I have a beautiful 15 year old daughter and 2 boys, age 19 and 8. I still struggle with depression on occasion but I deal with it and get treatment when I need it. Having a stable and loving husband has been my saving grace!!
Why would you to and have more kids after suffering through that? Confuded
You are a great mom and you deserve nothing but happiness and support I am BEYOND proud of you, being a mother is hard and now have 3 amazing babies and I know they look up to you and adore you🥰!
The actor is so good, she’s crying her eyes out even though nothings happened!
Edit: Apparently people are upset because I said actor not actress. I’m still not gonna change it suckers
ZLK Dominos its easy to cry on command i can do it
Hig Hog oh I can’t
Hig Hog
Not for most people lmaoo
Hig Hog liar
*actress
I started bawling when the woman gave her number. That's a genuinely good person. She's a stranger, but she's willing to love her until she lives herself again. That's beautiful
I think you just need to decide to feel better is the most ignorant thing ever to ALL depressed people.
That's what my husband told me, that it was all in my mind to just be strong.
FR
The best advice for people suffering from depression is to see a counsellor or a psychiatrist.
As someone who’s struggled with mental health, that’s actually quite helpful to hear, because you do need to decide to start getting yourself out that dark place, bit by bit. You can unthink yourself out the negative cycle.
This is true on some levels but when some people say that you just need to get over it and be happy from now on but that’s not how it works it’s hard to hear because it feels like they don’t care and your problems are and annoyance but you also need to want help at least a little to actually get help
Went through postpartum with twins while dealing with an abusive boyfriend at the time , darkest days of my life
That's insane. I hope you're doing well now 💕
I'm so sorry that men like that exist. I'm a man saying this. You deserve better.
😢❤❤
My wife had postpartum after giving birth with twins and I had a drinking problem. I was very supportive and she said idk how even drunk you were my rock. But she did miss her family I would let her stay a week with her family when she had her follow up appointments. We still together and we are Ying and Yang we just understand each other
That's heartbreaking to here,one infant is hard enough but TWO and that kind of relationship 😢 I hope you're in a way better place now.
Woman: I know people who've had postpartum depression
John: She knows people.
Why did that remind me of the "And they were roommates." vine
Lmaooo
*oh ma gaaawd, they were roommates!*
lmfaoo
Why does this actually make sense to me
My exact thoughts!!!
The funny thing is, Postpartum depression doesn’t look the same for everyone. I had it bad after I delivered my triplets. It didn’t help that I had NO help from family or husband. I was so depressed, but I always dressed up, and showed up. No one that I didn’t tell, could tell I had PPD. I looked right in public, but when I was alone, was when it was hell. When it comes to opening up to others (which is normally hard for me) ALL of a sudden EVERYONE becomes an expert at parenting and has all the answers to what I should and shouldn’t do. So, I am extremely happy to see WWYD create an entire episode for this issue that has always been a stigma. TBH, I got out of it on my own! God has been my source of strength and encouragement! They are turning 3 years old next month, I’m good and the triplets are super loved!
How did you get out of it?
Sorry for that
There is no god. The source of strength and encouragent you are feeling, have been YOU all along plus maybe the social interactions you have with church members. Don't ever make your happiness dependent on the question if god is real or not.
Sabrina Lenting Girl, it was all God! There was no medication, no mantra, no books, songs, advice, meditation, ritual... NOTHING that would give me joy like the strength of God! Life will happen, and it’s not always Good, but I know that God is real. When I was at my lowest, I called out for Him and He was there, and He rescued me and hasn’t left me. I have rough days and hard times but The joy of the Lord is my strength! Happiness is temporary accumulation of substance in good times. but true JOY and contentment’s From GOD! Gods Joy is a constant even when life is hard!
@@Indiasplace Sounds good so far. Just take care of yourself and stay open and pragmatic if you ever find yourself in a dark place again. Maybe the joy of "god" alone will help again, maybe you'll need (additional) therapy or medication. Just keep trying out what helps. Don't condemn other stuff than god as helpful ressources in general (like some fundamentalists do)
Currently going through postpartum and I feel like I have no one to talk to. The African American community has such a stigma against mental illnesses. It’s hard...
Go to your doctor and find a therapist if you can. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, my love
You aren’t alone!
You are not alone and it will get better!
If you need my email to talk about it I would gladly take the time to talk to you. Or you could look me up on Facebook. My Facebook name is Sierra Whitehead because I got married and haven't changed it on here yet... feel free to reach out! I promise I don't mind
It is and you are important and special especially to you baby sweetheart. Going to a doctor is the best way for both of you. I wound up almost resenting my baby due to depression. And he wasn’t a happy baby who nursed peacefully and I felt none of the bonding that’s supposed to be so darn magical. I had no magic at all. It’s was horrible. You can change the situation by going trust me. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
The people to use the actual words ‘post partum depression’ is just so powerful. It’s so validating rather than to sugar coat it, it makes your feelings understood. It can be so isolating, recommending speaking to doctors and being so understanding is heartwarming, a lot of people brush it off as just typical struggling. People calling it what it is really removes the stigma, it can be such a struggle as a mother having a new baby and feeling like this. It’s beautiful to see people being so kind to a stranger
Finally a real issue. This is honestly my biggest fear about having a child.
Yeah, this is also another reason I don’t want children, I’ve had depression before and I don’t want to go through it again, also I don’t really like kids
So I guess the other wwyd aren’t real issues! Good to know
William Guzman Umm okay...😶
Baby Valentine good try editing I’m not triggered. What’s “Finally a real issue” this about.
William Guzman I only edited because I had typos. I made this comment based off the recent videos. I enjoy the early wwyd. However majority of the comments on the most recently posted have pointed out how the scenarios are ridiculous. Plus this looks really old, like as I said, back when they actually did real shit.
“I can hug you- let’s hug.” Aww oh my goodness that was so sweet
I saw this right as that part happened and I read it right as she said it. And yes, it was very sweet. That woman was ready and knew exactly what to say and do.
Loved this episode! This is an issue that’s not talked about enough.
Plush Princess exactly.
It is so good that they have made this episode.
So many women go through this, yet feel alone and that there is something wrong with them.
This episode will likely make a difference to many mothers.
It will hopefully help a lot father’s to better understand what their partner is going through.
Any kind of depression is hard to deal with. But having it acknowledged by others, and realising that you are not alone, helps so very much.
I never knew about this so this is a very interesting topic.
Dakota Elrod some women have post partum psychosis... i can’t imagine what i feels like to have something that’s supposed to a beautiful time in your life be affected so deeply because of some sort of chemical imbalance
Can we just talk about that last girl and the faith in humanity she restored?? She’s already practicing her calling and she’s not even out of college yet! So glad we have bright young people like her ♥️
Yeah, she will br amazing at her job
The way she spoke to her was so heartwarming
Roses are red
Violets are blue
“My name is John quinones”
“And this is ‘What would you do?”
Ah shit. GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD!
Underrated comment😆
If they don't use this for a Valentine's episode they are messing up lmaoo 😂
I've seen this comment so many times you're not original 🥱
@@littlefunsam they better 😂
As a mom who struggled with PPD after both of my pregnancies and was grossly ignored by EVERYONE, I bawled through this. Thank you for bringing awareness to and hopefully releasing some of the stigma from PPD.
i'm so sorry that happened, you're very strong ❤
You're an absolute warrior. A hero.
I hope you are doing better. Stay strong. Peace and love to you, mama!
I'm so sorry you experienced PPD. I did too with my second son and I was exactly like you, sobbed the entire time. I've been to therapy to heal and in some ways I have but this just hit me in some spots. Hope you're doing great now mama ❤️
i hate that this happened to you, you deserve better :(
Aww that first woman that talked to her was just amazing. She could be a therapist and this is coming from someone who is in school to become one. That psych major makes me feel so proud to be in the field I’m in.
I'm a man/part seahorse and I find this video very heartwarming. A very good WWYD situation. No screaming no shouting no people about to kill each other. Just humans helping each other get by with kindness and compassion.
What people think happen when you drink water
People: Drink some water, you'll be fine
Me who was depressed:*drink water*
Depression: Understandable, have a great day
My depression after my brother tells me stop crying all the time: ight I'ma head out💃💃💃
my anxiety after my brother tells me to just stop feeling bad
my anorexia when my mom tells me to eat
@@ellamiller6889 there is an informative museum at Smith College in Northampton, MA which had some great resources. Sorry for the lack of empathy you have experienced. Breathing slowly, deliberately, and deeply helps.
pickled_chicken _ I made the comment 400 teehee
Ok now do what would you do for John Qiones without him knowing, that’ll be interesting
And tracy should host
@@eddiemorales2457 or gazelle
Eddie Morales YESSSS
You mean Punked? 😂😂
There's just something about women supporting women. Oh, my heart. 😭😭
Yass love a lesbian
My mom once told me that she had dealt with PPD after she had me, though she had been perfectly fine after my two older sisters were born. I watched this when the episode first premiered on tv and after this segment ended I went to her and apologized for any problems that I caused her during that time. 🥺💔
NevermoreMadDame Not your fault and choice to be born. Don’t feel bad.
You did nothing wrong 💗 stay strong
You didn't do it. It wasn't your fault. Don't blame yourself for what she went through. It wasnt your choice to be born ♥️😣
Lovely people getting involved in the situation.♥️
It’s all your fault she has PPD
I’m a new dad to a two month old, and my lady (a new mom) is still going through this. Even though she’s feeling much better than she did a month ago, it still affects her. Tbh, some days, I was a lot like the husband in this video, saying things like “you have to want to feel better” “stop speaking negatively” “You should see someone” or “you need to take get out the house”. Seeing this, a long with other videos is helping me understand that I just don’t get it! I feel like a complete ass clown for saying that stuff! She’s going through something horrible, and I have to be more understanding, and listen more, and be supportive! I’m going to go apologize again and do better.
Wow
Awww Christon, your awesome. Just be there for her help her with your baby. Good thing you realized it
When you know better you do better hang in though
God bless you. You are a great husband.
You're a good husband. Many men do not want to change the attitude even if they knew so you make big step for understanding your wife better. It takes couple to make a happy marriag. I hope your wife feel more better and you can offer the help. I hope you're both have a happy story!
Postpartum depression doesn’t just happen in “new moms”
I just had my 3rd baby and I had PPD with all 3..
You are right. I have seen it happen in Moms who have their second or third child.
My sister had it with her third as well. Partly because of the stress, partly because of the hormones, and partly bc she'd lost her second child and she couldn't stop thinking of her when she saw her son.
♥️♥️
I had no idea! I only have one baby but after that, I decided not to have any more kids because I couldn't risk going through that again. It was so hard going through post partum depression as a single mom. it lasted almost 2 years for me
@@Nakia11798 what kind of treatment you took?
the last girl that stepped in has me bawling, it’s so refreshing to see there’s people like this. the world needs more people like her
The actress playing the depressed mother is just so pretty
I know right - she used to do teen roles and damn her switching in between them was just amazing.
Oh shit I relate to this so much , it breaks my heart , if any mother’s are going through this right now I just want you to know it’s not your fault and it will get better , and you shouldn’t be ashamed to seek help
Very underrated comment.
Get a grip, nutcase.
@@rifleshooterchannel208 Explain please
Sabrina Lenting Explain what?
Read the first three words in my original comment and that will tell you everything you need to know.
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“You just need to decided to feel better”
Me: Okay so Everyone! Everyone with Any Mental Illness just decided to feel better and everything will be fine!
Mxlly Lol it’s fine I was being sarcastic too
I swear to god ppl just say " well, don't be sad" Like thank you very much I'm cured!
Aw shit I have anxiety but I had no idea that was the cure! Shit all i have to do is not be afraid!
People who never struggled with emotional issues don't understand that it's not that easy.
YEAH! I’ll just smile when my parents abuse me!
This one really hit home for me. I had post partum depression and it’s no joke. My doctor didn’t even take it seriously. This needs to be talked about WAY more.
I'm so sorry that you went through that.
I imagine it must have been particularly hard to have a doctor of all people not recognize or validate all those strong, negative emotions you were feeling. It's sad that even a professional couldn't help you.
I hope it tourned out well for you in the end ❤️
@@eora5142 thank you so much I appreciate that!
@@kelsiegale :) besides, I'm a medicine student!
@@eora5142 that is awesome!! You’ll always have that empathy when you start your career which is great!!! You’ll help a lot of people.
How did u manage to get out of it
This is some of the best acting I’ve seen on this show in a very long time.
Also, I know it’s acting but the husband pissed me off. People suffering with some sort of depression can’t just “decide to feel better.”
Can we just acknowledge Arianne for being a great actress - whether it'd be teen roles or mom roles - and also for transforming in between two with such eloquence. I've been watching her through different episodes, she's really great.
I had postpartum depression because everyone wanted to hold my daughter and I couldn't bond with her. It's hard all I wanted to do was sleep and not do anything. It sucks and I got over it, but not everyone can. We just need to listen and help not judge because it hurts to be in this situation.
Why ditn't you clam your baby back?
Honestly with with moms who have just gave birth I always try and go over and help around the house and watch the baby while they sleep and shower and eat or anything because I’ve seen many women suffer and I want to help anyway I can
Sabrina Lenting 🤨🤨
When she says “I felt like he would be better off with someone else”i bursted in tears she took the thoughts I was having during my ppd right out my head.
“I can hug you, let’s hug” literally my favorite part
that was cute
i actually cried with them and I'm 15 years old..I feel bad for women that are going through this situation..
8 Li a ww samuel
This is weird I’m 30 minutes early instead of 3 years late
Lmao same
Omg same
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Bruh I didn’t realize till I read your comment loll
Lmao now I usually see comments copied all the time. But this one is just word for word
This is an eye-opener to all men, be there for your women. Share the responsibility of parenthood, we're the best support mechanism for our wife. I just can't imagine how single moms go through their daily motherhood lives without the father for the baby and the mom, this is where family gets into the picture. Kudos & much love to all mothers!!! ❤️🤲🤰
Couldn’t agree more
I can't imagine the number of women that went through this and didn't know or have the resources to help them.
Anyone with depression has heard these three thing in some capacity:
-look alive
- smile and then you will feel better
- if you take a shower then you will feel better
Also 'just don't think about it'...
“Think about something else”
"You'll only be happy if you want to be happy!"
"Look in the mirror every morning and say I'M BEAUTIFUL."
"Be productive!"
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Kyraaah I hate when people say that, like ok Karen thanks for the tip🖕🏽
Jin I'm WWH JK Pardon all of these have been said and they all make me mad.
Her acting made me cry 😭.. I definitely went through postpartum depression.. I’m currently 8 months pregnant I hope this time around it’s not as bad
I hope you're healing well sis.
@@shysensei2348 Thank you. My little one is now two months old and so far emotionally and mentally I feel great 🥰
@@TheMexicanMommy I'm glad to hear that. Stay blessed. :)
Find a good and supportive friend, and keep your doctor up to date on this. Hormonal imbalances should be expected and thinking it isn't a real thing is pure idiocy.
@@TheMexicanMommy what kind of treatment u got for ppd?
I love that more people online are talking about what being a mother is really like. That it isn’t always a magical, beautiful time for everyone.
Poor Sara behind the scenes having a breakdown 😭😭
When the woman gave "our actress" her phone number, I cried a little too. I'm a 62 year old grandmother now, but when I had my much wanted twins 30 years ago, I was sure I wouldn't survive it. I was fortunate to have an Obstetrician who recognized it and an understanding husband that was supportive. As women - heck, as human beings - we need to ask for and accept help when we are in need, and help others whenever we can.
What's that big award for actors? She needs that.
you're probably thinking of the academy awards/oscars
I'm currently 8 months pregnant and actually I'm not scared of labor, I'm not scared of contractions or delivery, what scares me most is postpartum depression. Idk if it's because it's my first kid, but I really feel like this could happen to me. I'm so happy those people came out to help the woman!
Hey how are you doing ? First time mum here to although I'm only 4 months and I'm scared of this to-
This whole journey is a rollercoaster! Hope you're doing well xx
@@s.g2344 Hi I'm doing well baby is 1 month old now. How about you? Luckily, besides from adapting to the new routine nothing happened. I wish you the best and also for ur baby.
@@evaimarinacoendersvrecarCongratulations! I hope you and your amazing baby are doing well make sure to put yourself first so you can care for your baby, im rooting for you! Motherhood becomes you❤
Don't be scared, just realize the symptoms and get help immediately when you notice them, im currently back on medication because my postpartum depression lasted much longer with my second one, if you're noticing you're not in your right mind talk to your doctor and a psychiatrist, medication helped me so much. God bless an congratulations ❤️
I hope you are doing well. Enjoy your little one. My kids are adults now. Sometimes I miss them being babies. It goes by so fast! ❤❤
The second lady is the type of person we all need.. she showed how much she really cared by giving her number out. I love her 🥺
Wwyd has taught me that literally everyone eavesdrop on my conversation 😂😬😓😓
My constant fear has been realised
I never had postpartum with my only child and I thank God . She deserved all the special moments together. Especially because she died of a brain tumor we fought for a year and a half. She was just 6 1/2 when she passed away
Postpartum depression, anxiety, psychosis, I went through this, it was absolutely the most scary time in my life and I have had a hard life in a lot of ways.
I didn't even have the logical thought process this woman is having. I felt at anytime I might take something sharp and jab it in my neck, just as a reflex to having it in my hands, I couldn't sleep, I only felt fear and apathy.
I absolutely would not have survived it without medical/therapeutic intervention and I thank god that I had the support I needed to get the proper treatment.
I have an extremely sensitive radar for other moms going through it.
Anxiety is very dangerous, even for men. There are so many doctors that don't even care but prescribe pills...that's the dangerous part. All these people want is someone to listen. It happens to men, children and women all the time. Then it becomes depression which is even worse. Doctors NEED to listen more carefully to their patients. You can't solve everything with pills. Sarah Haines went through all of that by herself and I adore her. She's now a full time host on The View and I admire her spirit. Depression and anxiety is NO JOKE. It can lead to serious mental problems and severe health issues. A hospital won't help, but a therapist or a great friend can. I love people who extend their kindness and love to anybody who needs it. It's not a quick fix...people just want to be heard and hugged. A hug or kiss goes a long way for many. I'm depressed with anxiety myself but the people who want to talk to me are the best people I've ever met. God Bless.
@@j.d.contreras392 very well said :)
I truly think every single person can benefit from a mental health and behavioral tune up.
Feels good to be a gay man.
Not everyone gets the same symptoms when you get postpartum depression. I went through it not knowing what I was going through. Postpartum depression did not hit me right away it hit me 6 months after I thought I was going crazy until I talked to my doctor and explained to me I wasn't crazy and it was postpartum depression
my mom suffered from postpartum depression when she had me, she told me about it a year ago and i felt so bad, i felt as if it were MY fault, i felt as if i ruined her life and made her go thru all the trouble, we both went to therapy together, it helped so so much
Very good acting this time. So good! Well done actors 👏
4:03
Woman: BECAUSE SHE WAS CRYING BECAUSE SHE WAS SADDD!
Johnny: 👁👄👁
lmfao
She was crying because,she saw Donald trump 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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He seems so uncomfortable!😂😂😂
@@ruuusaki why does this comment so funny. 😂😂😂
The phrase "go see a therapist" can sometimes be like saying "you just need to not feed your family". Therapy is expensive! I quickly ran out of coverage after 10 sessions. Ten! Only enough to scratch the surface. But, talking and understanding is free. I encourage everyone to do research on post-partum and find a group. It is the next best thing to getting therapy.
I went to a therapist a few times for my issues but couldn't stay with it because I had no confidence in myself. I easily give up when things get hard. I wish there was someone to push me to keep getting help. I never overcame my issues and now I'm lonely and constantly depressed. I don't let my friends see it, but when I go home to an empty house, I fall back into that sad feeling. I understand the cost aspect, I really do. But in hindsight, it would have been an investment in my future and I'd be so much happier now. Instead, I continued to run away from my problems.
As a custom in Algeria and may be many countries, a close relative girl/woman stay with the mom that gave birth for 1-4 weeks. Doesn't matter if she is in hospital or at home. In some cases, a neighbor girl helps. I didn't know about this and I was surprised that it can go along for 1 year !!! Man what if she a is a working mom, God bless every mom.
I am from Botswana and traditionally females in your family (mom,aunts,grandmother) stay with you for a full year to assist with taking care of the baby.During that time, the new mom doesnt cook or do any housework because the main focus is for her to recover from childbirth and transition into this new role as a mother.
I think one of the really important messages from this is that you aren’t wrong or a failure for not feeling a certain way after becoming a parent. My parents had just started trying for a baby when my mom got pregnant with my older sister. They were both overjoyed, they felt everything they were “supposed” to feel.
Then life got more stressful-money problems, health problems, longer work hours. And then, unplanned and inconvenient, I came along. Both of my parents struggled a lot after my birth. They felt guilty that they didn’t feel the same happiness at my birth as my sister’s, they felt guilty that they couldn’t spend as much time with me as they spent with my sister when she was a baby, they felt like failures of parents.
I know this because I’ve talked about it with them, not because I remember it. I can’t remember ever feeling neglected or uncared for, I can’t remember ever feeling they loved my sister more. Eventually, the feelings they felt for my sister from the moment she was born came for me. Eventually, their lives got less crazy and I developed a beautiful bond with both of them. I couldn’t have asked for better parents.
The thing to remember about depression is that it is a fucking liar. It tells you you’re worthless, it tells you you’re unlovable, it tells you you’re a failure and everyone else would be better off without you. It tells you there’s no hope. Because depression is a fucking liar. Don’t listen to it or trust it, the nasty things depression tells you about yourself is bullshit. If you can, talk to a doctor or therapist about it, a perspective outside your own is always helpful when reflecting.
So true!!
The last girl is bright light of hope! She got me in tears 😭
As a therapist, this one really touched me… the way people educated and validated her was so amazing. We’re all learning how to heal and it’s amazing to see.
After a long time I am seeing some real acting . Oh my gosh the actress was damn good . Hope to see her in Hollywood blockbusters some day . Actually the whole WWYD team is too good at acting and it helps us to realise the reality too good.
most of them are shit tbh ahah make me cringe most of them
There was one in a bartender episode way back when that became a main character in the since cancelled Fox series Empire
Omg, that's how I felt when I had my second. I even wanted to hurt him, I knew I wouldn't do it. But I was young I was 19 with 2 1/2 years old and single mom. And i was angry with myself. But he is 7 now and i just cant imagine my life without him but its very hard and I give props to women
My wife went through this, it did affect us so deep till we went over it, it was tough for all of us but thank god
Being a new mum is one of the most hardest things ever especially when you experience postpartum depression.
The sleep deprivation
Recovering from birth
If you had stitches or a c-section
The pain from your uterus contracting when you’re breastfeeding
Breastfeeding problems like mastitis, engorgement, clogged ducts
Feeling trapped because you’re at home all day and all night caring for the baby
Lack of self-care which results in making you feel so much worse.
At this point it’s very easy to recognize this show: loud personal matters, going to the bathroom, weirdly and randomly asking other people’s opinions
Everything about this episode is so wholesome. It can feel overwhelming to know that what you're feeling is invalidated. These women who reached out to both actress were so moving.. The last lady is just a pure angel. She's so empathetic. I'd love to reach to out to her. Does anyone know her name or social media?
I am a single male and this episode educated me about PD.
*PPD
Glad u learned.
Bless you. Maybe one day you will be an understanding husband.
That's great!!!
Same here, man
They should do an episode about teenage depression or anxiety. Because sometimes it can be brushed under the carpet and then those suffering teenagers end up endangering themselves. It should have more awareness
Yes. My parents didn't understand. I had such bad depression and anxiety as a teen. My parents would tell me to get over it, stop being dramatic, or scream at me to "be normal".
One time i was depressed and my mom was like 'snap out of it'
some people just like that 😪 .... your mother doesn't understand.
I'm so sorry she said that. She is SO wrong.
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i hope your doing better now :)
Are you gay too?
3:26
‘you are not alone sweetheart’
*Omg she was so sweet and understanding* 😭
I've been struggling with mental health issues my whole life due to early childhood trauma and i just want to say it took 22 years for someone to tell me I'm not alone. So to see people showing support for any sort of mental health disorder is truly amazing and inspiring. Helps me see there are more people that would step in. Thank you!
Please always remember that you are valid valuable unique and irreplaceable and you matter more than you know! Please stay safe everyone!
-BD
Same! I have borderline personality disorder from mental disabilities running in my family and truly want a baby some day but I’m scared I’ll feel like this.
“Decide to feel better” has me HEATED
Wow, I’m a young adult woman and I have never really heard of postpartum depression. I wasn’t ever taught about it in school or in life, and now you brought awareness to this serious issue with one video and y’all showed symptoms that could potentially diagnose it and help many mothers. Thank you so much.