I think the notion of being masc and associated that with top and vice versa with feminine being a bottom is so interesting . I had the masc identity for a while just due to me playing basketball, football and the way my body is built naturally and making that my safety point. in my sexual journey, I had such sexual trauma religiously emotionally and mentally to where being a top was my “safety”. Regardless of my top and bottoming experiences I still felt so much anxiousness and unsafe in my body no matter the relationships I was in because of the psychology and emotional religious trauma of what sex is mixed with homosexuality etc.. I felt like damn will I ever be freed from this pain cause I deserve a beautiful and healthy sex life regardless of the role or position. Getting down to the root of the reasons as to why I never felt safe has been super healing and freeing for me 😢I’m just grateful to express this and to have someone that looks like me and gets it I am still healing a lot of this. I appreciate u for sharing on these topics 🦋 especially for queer black ppl 🫶🏾💖
This made me emotional . Baby the SKY is the limit . You can be any and EVERY thing you want. Don’t feel limited . Being where we from is a flex everywhere else!! Our culture is special
@@TarekAli I’m seeing this after school and work, and in this monotonous and mundane cycle I’ve been in, this is exactly what I needed. Now I’M getting emotional 😭 everyone take a breather at this point
Those 20s are made to Find yourself and be safe with whom ever don’t feel ashamed because I’m not.. that was me then. Now I’m a better person for that because it taught me lessons on dating and finding the LOVE OF MY LIFE
The pauses and breaths you take The “hmm where do I wanna go with that” “hmm what are you comfortable with Tarek” Those moments are so real Thank you for not cutting any of that out and for being so transparent and vulnerable with us ❤
omg I’ve never felt so seen and understood EVER. you rlly rlly gave me a lot of answers to my own personal obstacles that I’ve faced centered around sex .i never understood some of the ways I felt . And why but YOU rlly rlly gave me clarity .thank you thank you thank you🥹
From the bottom of my heart ❤️ (I’m saying this without even seeing this yet) thank you for creating this episode. There’s so many people who struggle with this topic (including myself). A great reminder that there is healing and love after going through sexual trauma. ❤
Dear Tarek, I really appreciate this and other videos of yours. It's interesting beacuse sociologically speaking we’re on the different sides of the spectrum (I’m a Hungarian hetero woman), but our experencies are so-so familliar in many ways. Hearing about these struggles (and the ones I’m not affected by ex. racism) helps me put the topics you disguss in an other perspective which then helps me to understand myself more, and even others. I think this is just so beautiful. Finding empathy towards ourselves and others is just so beautiful. I wish you the best and thank you for your work!
Thank you Tarek for this conversation. I listened to it while I was talking a walk this morning and I wanted to cry on multiple occasions. I caught myself getting anxious and I had to confront those feelings. It was so empowering. It’s so important to figure out why we are engaging in sex in order for us to have a better relationship with it. Why do we turn to sex? Is it because it’s pleasurable or are we coping? Is it performative? Do we like the connection that it brings? Are you really enjoying it or are you disconnecting from your body in order to do for the other person. In order to keep the man? In order to feel loved? In order to secure a future with that person? Is it driven by fear? My walk turned into a run because I had to run off the anxiety that was building inside of me. I had to confront why I was feeling that way. It’s a very powerful episode. At moments I felt like GOD was using Tarek to speak to me.
THE MORE SPACE YOU GIVE YOURSELF THE LESS YOU TAKE UP! OOH you dropped so many gems were dropped! Cheers to radical love! Cheers to a better friendship with myself This was so good and so real and so deep and relatable
I am so glad you are open and free...this helped me to love me....thank you.... I would like to learn more about your life....your beauty.... Your lessons own life...thank you...
Thank you so much Tarek for this visual podcast! Thank you for having this very much needed conversation on healing and how shadow work and healing is messy, dark, and a lot but at the end of it it brings clarity and wisdom! ✨️🧘🏾♂️ Your vulnerability and openness was so refreshing and such a gift to me as a black, queer, man and relating to you on so many levels 💯❤️
Wow 🥺🥺, thanks for sharing Tarek , I literally went through the exact same thing. Now I’m finally at a place where I’m acknowledging it and making a choice not to operate from that trauma 🙏🏾.
Thank you, thank you, thank you 🥲🙏🏽💗I have wanted to comment every minute of this episode, you have made me look at myself in such a different light. I struggle with my body so much, so many key things you said about how you felt about yourself is crazy. I would delete pictures, and feel like my body is something else. Which literally makes sense why I feel so weird around sex and why I feel like I’m always in my head. You’re absolutely an amazing human to talk about body perception in this way with sex, this is an exhilarating conversation for my inner me! I love who you are 💘💘💘
Tarek, yoooo I swear your mind is made of gold! I always loved bathhouses and felt shame around it, thinking I was another gay who wanted anonymous sex but, you've just gifted me clarity it wasn't about the sex it was about the freedom and lack of pressure I felt from it. It was easy to reject someone without consequence and people respected your answer. I've never thought about it like that but, that's why I've always loved it.. I can stop midway if I wanted. I can leave when I want. it is liberating. I love how you put it, opened it up for me
woooow i had to come back to this video because when i first watched it i already knew you were in my bizz!! lmaoo thank you for sharing this side of your testimony; I used to have a whole lotta sex and i remember one time i linked a guy and my whole brain after was like you gotta cut this shit out i’ve been healing my relationship with my body and sex ever since these past couple of months especially this really helped thank you soo so much 💐💐
I believe anyone trying to persuade or argue your thought of yourself especially when it’s not harmful like an ED, is harmful to you. In one way or another, yes this person is accepting you but are they hearing what you don’t accept. Are you they supporting you to go the gym, change your diet, anything of that nature. BD is hard but it sounds like when you were at a place of health and muscle you were happy and a toxic relationship can have you losing that part of yourself. I think that’s why in a way this can be seen as a manipulative tactic but subtly because “they” love you as you, not you yourself though so now there’s a reason for you to stay. To understand and learn what they love about you instead of them supporting you to help you change in a healthy way to love yourself. Codependency is what this looks like.
Maybe I shouldn’t watch this at the gym 🥲🥲 I resonate with everything so far 15:23. I’m at the place where sex just isn’t enjoyable anymore and I genuinely don’t understand why 1:03:47 why are you SO FUCKING LOUD 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
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I think the notion of being masc and associated that with top and vice versa with feminine being a bottom is so interesting . I had the masc identity for a while just due to me playing basketball, football and the way my body is built naturally
and making that my safety point. in my sexual journey, I had such sexual trauma religiously emotionally and mentally to where being a top was my “safety”.
Regardless of my top and bottoming experiences I still felt so much anxiousness and unsafe in my body no matter the relationships I was in because of the psychology and emotional religious trauma of what sex is mixed with homosexuality etc.. I felt like damn will I ever be freed from this pain cause I deserve a beautiful and healthy sex life regardless of the role or position. Getting down to the root of the reasons as to why I never felt safe has been super healing and freeing for me 😢I’m just grateful to express this and to have someone that looks like me and gets it
I am still healing a lot of this. I appreciate u for sharing on these topics 🦋 especially for queer black ppl 🫶🏾💖
Thank you for being so open about this, LOVE YOU 🫶🏾
@@jamila8255 thank u for reading 💙💙
I’m gay and from the Hampton, Virginia area and this made me feel oddly grateful for being from where I’m from and hopeful of where I’ll go from here.
This made me emotional . Baby the SKY is the limit . You can be any and EVERY thing you want. Don’t feel limited . Being where we from is a flex everywhere else!! Our culture is special
@@TarekAli I’m seeing this after school and work, and in this monotonous and mundane cycle I’ve been in, this is exactly what I needed. Now I’M getting emotional 😭 everyone take a breather at this point
Those 20s are made to Find yourself and be safe with whom ever don’t feel ashamed because I’m not.. that was me then. Now I’m a better person for that because it taught me lessons on dating and finding the LOVE OF MY LIFE
The pauses and breaths you take
The “hmm where do I wanna go with that” “hmm what are you comfortable with Tarek”
Those moments are so real
Thank you for not cutting any of that out and for being so transparent and vulnerable with us ❤
omg I’ve never felt so seen and understood EVER. you rlly rlly gave me a lot of answers to my own personal obstacles that I’ve faced centered around sex .i never understood some of the ways I felt . And why but YOU rlly rlly gave me clarity .thank you thank you thank you🥹
From the bottom of my heart ❤️ (I’m saying this without even seeing this yet) thank you for creating this episode. There’s so many people who struggle with this topic (including myself). A great reminder that there is healing and love after going through sexual trauma. ❤
Dear Tarek,
I really appreciate this and other videos of yours. It's interesting beacuse sociologically speaking we’re on the different sides of the spectrum (I’m a Hungarian hetero woman), but our experencies are so-so familliar in many ways. Hearing about these struggles (and the ones I’m not affected by ex. racism) helps me put the topics you disguss in an other perspective which then helps me to understand myself more, and even others. I think this is just so beautiful. Finding empathy towards ourselves and others is just so beautiful.
I wish you the best and thank you for your work!
You're still so young, but so much wisdom! Thank you for sharing and helping us heal and improve ourselves. It's very difficult I don't wanna lie
Thank you Tarek for this conversation. I listened to it while I was talking a walk this morning and I wanted to cry on multiple occasions. I caught myself getting anxious and I had to confront those feelings. It was so empowering. It’s so important to figure out why we are engaging in sex in order for us to have a better relationship with it.
Why do we turn to sex? Is it because it’s pleasurable or are we coping? Is it performative? Do we like the connection that it brings? Are you really enjoying it or are you disconnecting from your body in order to do for the other person. In order to keep the man? In order to feel loved? In order to secure a future with that person? Is it driven by fear? My walk turned into a run because I had to run off the anxiety that was building inside of me. I had to confront why I was feeling that way. It’s a very powerful episode. At moments I felt like GOD was using Tarek to speak to me.
Allowing yourself the acceptance..that was the key I needed here. Thank you for you vulnerability ❤
Wow! The timing of me randomly coming across this video is sooo necessary for me with what I just went through and realized a few days ago. I’m shook
You are such a beautiful soul! ❤
The agency and affirmation in the most vulnerable spaces is such a blessing 47:50
THE MORE SPACE YOU GIVE YOURSELF THE LESS YOU TAKE UP! OOH you dropped so many gems were dropped! Cheers to radical love! Cheers to a better friendship with myself
This was so good and so real and so deep and relatable
Thank you so much Tarek . I really needed this
This is 1 of my favorite episodes! It’s so amazing to see you analyze, understand & evolve from your trauma! It’s HIGHLY inspiring 😇💙
Thank you so much for sharing this in being vulnerable . This was so needed for my own healing .
I am so glad you are open and free...this helped me to love me....thank you.... I would like to learn more about your life....your beauty.... Your lessons own life...thank you...
I loved this session Tarek.... it helped me immensely!!!! I am so proud of you!
This is such a powerful & honest conversation🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you so much Tarek for this visual podcast! Thank you for having this very much needed conversation on healing and how shadow work and healing is messy, dark, and a lot but at the end of it it brings clarity and wisdom! ✨️🧘🏾♂️
Your vulnerability and openness was so refreshing and such a gift to me as a black, queer, man and relating to you on so many levels 💯❤️
Wow 🥺🥺, thanks for sharing Tarek , I literally went through the exact same thing. Now I’m finally at a place where I’m acknowledging it and making a choice not to operate from that trauma 🙏🏾.
Thank you, thank you, thank you 🥲🙏🏽💗I have wanted to comment every minute of this episode, you have made me look at myself in such a different light. I struggle with my body so much, so many key things you said about how you felt about yourself is crazy. I would delete pictures, and feel like my body is something else. Which literally makes sense why I feel so weird around sex and why I feel like I’m always in my head. You’re absolutely an amazing human to talk about body perception in this way with sex, this is an exhilarating conversation for my inner me! I love who you are 💘💘💘
Tarek, yoooo I swear your mind is made of gold! I always loved bathhouses and felt shame around it, thinking I was another gay who wanted anonymous sex but, you've just gifted me clarity it wasn't about the sex it was about the freedom and lack of pressure I felt from it. It was easy to reject someone without consequence and people respected your answer. I've never thought about it like that but, that's why I've always loved it.. I can stop midway if I wanted. I can leave when I want.
it is liberating. I love how you put it, opened it up for me
Only 12 min in and I am CRACKING UP TAREK!
You have such a beautiful soul! I have so much empathy and respect for you! Thank you for sharing!
This was so good. I learned a lot from this.
woooow i had to come back to this video because when i first watched it i already knew you were in my bizz!! lmaoo thank you for sharing this side of your testimony; I used to have a whole lotta sex and i remember one time i linked a guy and my whole brain after was like you gotta cut this shit out i’ve been healing my relationship with my body and sex ever since these past couple of months especially this really helped thank you soo so much 💐💐
Keep this uppppppppppp, this is healinggggggf
i definitely remember you being on live during the holidays with your bestfriend when you were talking about this ❤
If you haven’t already, can you do an episode on Being vocal, being brave and sticking to your boundaries out loud with people.
This was the best episode .
Thank you for your content and what you did for me today. I appreciate you and your efforts. You are deeply loved
Love this so much tarek ❤️
This hit so close to home thank you for the work your doing
this is so powerful and real
♥️♥️♥️ you are amazing! Thank you for this podcast! It touched me!
Thank you Tarek for this episode ❤️🔥
Year of the Aquarius !!! (Realness) F yeah!
This episode 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I really needed 😮💨
YESSSSSS I was waiting for this one!
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I believe anyone trying to persuade or argue your thought of yourself especially when it’s not harmful like an ED, is harmful to you. In one way or another, yes this person is accepting you but are they hearing what you don’t accept. Are you they supporting you to go the gym, change your diet, anything of that nature. BD is hard but it sounds like when you were at a place of health and muscle you were happy and a toxic relationship can have you losing that part of yourself. I think that’s why in a way this can be seen as a manipulative tactic but subtly because “they” love you as you, not you yourself though so now there’s a reason for you to stay. To understand and learn what they love about you instead of them supporting you to help you change in a healthy way to love yourself. Codependency is what this looks like.
i needed this in this moment.
This was great!!!
so proud of you :)
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Maybe I shouldn’t watch this at the gym 🥲🥲 I resonate with everything so far 15:23. I’m at the place where sex just isn’t enjoyable anymore and I genuinely don’t understand why
1:03:47 why are you SO FUCKING LOUD 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢