Our birth story, postpartum body image & becoming parents | Ep. 2

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ความคิดเห็น • 734

  • @smithsontherun9731
    @smithsontherun9731 ปีที่แล้ว +639

    Just throwing it out there, midwives are trained for shoulder dystocia and many other “emergent” things. Midwives are constantly seeking further education and bettering themselves, learning and work so hard. Many O.b’s don’t even do that! Just want people aware of how amazing home birth midwives are. Many are just fantastic so wanted that put out there. ❤️

    • @NikkiKinx
      @NikkiKinx ปีที่แล้ว +43

      You're 💯 right... there are some OB's who would push an emergency c-section, VS going through the process, that they did with Abby. I've seen midwives deliver babies in situations where a Dr. probably wouldn't.

    • @natalyfauble4640
      @natalyfauble4640 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Came here to say this, coming from a homebirth and hospital birth momma! And midwives will educate you on breastfeeding and stay with you until you are comfortable.

    • @asheleychae
      @asheleychae ปีที่แล้ว +17

      100% this! When there’s even the slightest sign that something could go wrong, they take you to the hospital. They want safe mama & safe baby!

    • @gracelittlepage
      @gracelittlepage ปีที่แล้ว +22

      100%!! Was about to say the same thing! Homebirths prepare you by way more education than a hospital birth. Neither are right or wrong but I always encourage mama’s to be to get educated on their bodies and what happens !

    • @DelaneyWalker
      @DelaneyWalker ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I didn’t know this! Thank you for education. :)

  • @estherlouise924
    @estherlouise924 ปีที่แล้ว +468

    I feel so comforted by them just saying "What's up Dudes!" Matt and Abby are like my comfort channel, and now that they have a podcast, It's great, because they don't post all the time on their main channel! Thank you Matt and Abby for being such a big and meaningful part of my life!

    • @jetzymarrivera9439
      @jetzymarrivera9439 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This was great

    • @ava.noelle
      @ava.noelle ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes! They are my comfort channel too 100%

    • @UnplannedPodcast
      @UnplannedPodcast  ปีที่แล้ว +119

      You're so sweet! Thanks for being here! I'm so glad that you're happy we brought back "wassup dudes"

    • @estherlouise924
      @estherlouise924 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@UnplannedPodcast Yes, I loved it when you did that! 😊

    • @rhiannonwade2694
      @rhiannonwade2694 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This is one of my favorite podcasts!!

  • @CaitAnza
    @CaitAnza ปีที่แล้ว +89

    it feels very comforting to hear abby talk about how she’s wanted to be a mother all her life. i’ve felt the same way since i was a child and used to feel embarrassed telling others that i want to be a full-time mother.
    now, im not! heheh and it’s cool to hear someone that isn’t too. 🥰🥰 love you guys!!

    • @scarlettrose9543
      @scarlettrose9543 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same! I have wanted this for all 20years I've been alive.

    • @itachis
      @itachis ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

  • @Ashley-cc1xj
    @Ashley-cc1xj ปีที่แล้ว +133

    I live in the Netherlands. Home birth is pretty normal here. The midwives are trained and it's just as safe as in the hospital. I love the part that we have postpartum care, a nurse will help for like a week and check your stitches and help with breastfeeding and taking care of the baby. Mostly my partner learned so much from her when I was in bed recovering.

    • @abbymahmoud3383
      @abbymahmoud3383 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      most countries outside of america have a standarized education and certification track for midwives. america just simply doesnt and midwives can be hit or miss. the complications that americans face in home births compared to similar nations is ridiculously higher. it's a standardizing issue here not really a competency issue in midwives in other nations

  • @rhiannad7252
    @rhiannad7252 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I feel Abby on the “love made me emotional” sentiment. Ever since my boyfriend and I have been together, I’ve been soooo emotional and just reveling in the true, deep love we have together. He can look at me a certain way and it makes me tear up. I feel weird at times but good to know I’m not alone!

    • @celeaseh
      @celeaseh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Having a partner who is a loving and supportive person through everything is something that can change you. I started out as someone who could NEVER imagine having children, just because of my own insecurity of being a less than perfect mom. Since I have been with him, my entire thought process surrounding kids has changed. I tell him constantly that I cannot wait to start our parenting journey together. It’s so funny & weird!

    • @rhiannad7252
      @rhiannad7252 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@celeaseh thank you for sharing that 😇 the boyfriend i mentioned in my comment is now my fiancé and I’m also so excited to start a future with him!

    • @celeaseh
      @celeaseh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@rhiannad7252 YAY!!! We also got engaged this past summer! Such a sweet time, enjoy it 🫶🏻

    • @Bella51977
      @Bella51977 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@rhiannad7252congratulations! 🎉 ❤️

  • @davegoodridge8352
    @davegoodridge8352 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Watching you guys brings back so many memories. I'm an old guy I lost my wife last year after almost 42 years of marriage. My kids have grown up and moved on with their lives. Just as you two have done with your parents. I've got grand-kids that I don't get to see that often. This house is quiet when once it was so full of life. Hold on to each other make plans but be open to life changing them in the blink of an eye. Hopefully you won't grow old with nothing but the memories.

    • @emilynydam4411
      @emilynydam4411 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @davegoodridge I am in the same part of life and it can be so lonely. But I stay working and force myself to visit a friend or extended family member once a week. The memories are lovely though. And I often dream of when my kids were little.

    • @susanwagner2595
      @susanwagner2595 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is so sad. I'm 23 and always wanted to see the world and experience life. But since my grandma died I'm feeling bad for leaving my parents alone and not cherishing my time with them together more. I'm living 2 hours away now and I'm sad that the time that we saw each other everyday is basically over. I regret it in a way. It must be incredibly lonely for parents to see their kids go and see how their priorities shift from them to their boyfriends/ girlfriends that easily.

    • @davegoodridge8352
      @davegoodridge8352 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@susanwagner2595 It is hard to see your kids move out into the world. But it's natural and the way of life. Remember your parents also grew up and moved out. Just make time for a phone call, text or visit sometime. They understand how life works. And I'm sure their proud of the adult you've grown to become.

  • @yenmoody9812
    @yenmoody9812 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I’m 37 with 3 kids and still feel like a 16 year old teenager just young and in love with my boyfriend (now husband) and always think “who left me in charge of these 3 kids?!” Also, time just keeps going faster! I remember when we were a family of 3 with a 6 month old and now our kids are 12, 10 and 4!
    Love you guys!

    • @barbarboyland2877
      @barbarboyland2877 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congratulations to you both always Iam so glad

  • @heatherking8772
    @heatherking8772 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    I love that Matt takes so much joy in seeing Abby’s self-growth about her body image. He clearly cares so much. What an incredible couple!

  • @ashleygraham7139
    @ashleygraham7139 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I think that women feel compelled to have some sort of “career” ambition, but so many of us know that the one thing that will brings us fulfillment is motherhood. I LOVE that Abby announced that so publicly and at such a young age. Motherhood is the hardest job but brings the most JOY.

  • @alexxfrederick
    @alexxfrederick ปีที่แล้ว +82

    It annoys me so much at the hate they are getting on tiktok. They are BOTH fabulous parents. Matt is an amazing guy even if he doesn't word things the best for some people :,( Love you guys!

    • @Black_cat_27
      @Black_cat_27 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      What hate?? They’re so fun

    • @alexxfrederick
      @alexxfrederick ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@Black_cat_27 a lot of people have been hating on matt for “making” abby do most of the house work and take care of Griffin (even tho she’s said she does it bc she wants to). And people are calling him a worthless husband bc he’s just a tiktoker and does no “actual work” and didn’t properly set up auto water pay one time.😭😭

    • @srhdance9327
      @srhdance9327 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I personally just feel uncomfortable b cause Matt seems to only compliment Abby’s body and last week when they talked about marriage Matt was saying how his only reason to g we married was to have sex

    • @oliviasommerville4733
      @oliviasommerville4733 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@srhdance9327personally I think that the whole point of this podcast is to talk about marriage which for them involved sex and talking about their bodies (which Abby clearly has no problem with). I think if you’re uncomfortable than this unfortunately isn’t the podcast for you.

    • @srhdance9327
      @srhdance9327 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@oliviasommerville4733 I’m not uncomfortable because they talked about sex. I find that very true welcoming my Problem is when someone asked Matt why he wanted to get married and his only answer was to have sex. He is treating Abby like an object. If they wouldn’t have waited till marriage then he wouldn’t have married her. That is what I’m saying

  • @Mademoiselle_AE
    @Mademoiselle_AE ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Abby & Matt I am so impressed with your communication skills with each other. I love your new Podcast!! I got married when I was 19yrs old. I had my 3 daughters by the time I was 24 years old. People used to freak out & ask how we did it? We always said “team work!” My daughters are all grown up now and in college . Feels great to be 44 years old and see my daughters thriving. You guys are an amazing young couple and great parents. God Bless your family. 🙏🏼✝️😊

  • @Holdeenio
    @Holdeenio ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Time is accelerating guys. I've been married 4 years this month and my wife and I have been "together" for 7 years in total. We're hoping to start our family soon, so your timing for these chats is much appreciated! Love from the UK.

  • @marissamarie6531
    @marissamarie6531 ปีที่แล้ว +375

    No body can give this man hate about being disappointed about sex expectations when Abby was pregnant cause at the end of the day every single man has the same thoughts. Matt just says everything on his mind without a filter. So at least he’s HONEST!

    • @shannonabbey
      @shannonabbey ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Love this, I have 3 boys and experienced gender disappointment every time but it doesn’t affect the love I have for them

    • @TheLucy1014
      @TheLucy1014 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      ​@@shannonabbey I think what Marissa is referring to are Matt's intimacy (sex) expectations in pregnancy, not gender (sex) expectations. He talks about this at around 13 minutes 😊

    • @_Hollie_
      @_Hollie_ ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@shannonabbeygender disappointment is definitely a real thing. I get pissed when people shame a parent for being disappointed in the gender of the baby. In most cases the reactions arent extreme like sad crying ect. But when you get pregnant and start picturing your life with your child, sometimes the gender you wanted or imagined having first isnt the reality. Ans its ok you still love your child, its a natural part if the pregnancy journey in my eyes. Even people who got the gender they wanted experience gender disappointment when they realise its now set in stone.

    • @MsJuval
      @MsJuval ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@_Hollie_ this! I have two girls. When I was pregnant with the second one, I really wanted another girl (we didn't know what we would get). And I love my girls to pieces. But every once in a while I do get a bit sad that I will never experience what it is to have a boy.

    • @_Hollie_
      @_Hollie_ ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MsJuval exactly, it doesnt in anyway make you any less of a good parent. Its just means that youve realised that yes you are having a girl but then wondering what it would be like to have a boy. I dont really like the term gender disappointment because it implies that you are disappointed in your child which isnt at all true. Youre just sad that you know you definitely arent having the other gender, which is especially true if all your children end up being the same gender. Its not sadness for what you have but for what could have been

  • @abbytaylor8832
    @abbytaylor8832 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    me crying at 22:00. this family is so sweet, and im glad i found you guys. i hope the best for your fam in the years to come!

  • @eliseclem-mn6cj
    @eliseclem-mn6cj ปีที่แล้ว +9

    As an OBGyn and mom of 2, I appreciate your candid talk of pregnancy and delivery, especially with an intense delivery like a shoulder dystocia! Thank you for your appreciation of the hospital staff and how hard we train to keep you safe in scary moments like you experienced.

  • @giinelly22
    @giinelly22 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I got emotional when Matt said he looks a women so different now and how he so proud of his wife for giving birth and I’m glad I’m not he only one that didn’t cry after having my babies 😊

  • @jessiebushoven4302
    @jessiebushoven4302 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Listening to you talk about this makes me emotional. My daughter is about to be 1 so you talking about this is making me remember my birthing experience. It's so emotional and I love how raw y'all are about this.

  • @dennismchone1521
    @dennismchone1521 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I think it is amazing how open you both are with everything that you have been through. I know many couples/parents that can hardly be this open with each other let alone thousands of people online. I can tell your trust and faith is making you the best parents for him.

  • @JuliaMarch5678
    @JuliaMarch5678 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It was actually refreshing to hear Matt openly discuss his thoughts even when discussing her pregnancy body. He will always find her attractive but it can be a lot going on with a changing body and to have abbey discuss the shift in appreciating her body once she gave birth was lovely to hear.

  • @hlh1658
    @hlh1658 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    It made me laugh when you talked about leaving the hospital. After our first child, my husband looked at me so seriously and said "wait, they just let us leave alone with her like this?" 😂 She will be 17 in July and I still remember it word for word because I had never seen him so serious.

  • @stephlyndsey3932
    @stephlyndsey3932 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I recommend that all new moms take a breastfeeding course in person or online during pregnancy!! Unfortunately the quick meeting w/ a lactation consultant right after birth is NOT sufficient if you want to be successful long term. Glad things worked out for you! Love the way y'all flow with each other 💖

  • @eafoley2766
    @eafoley2766 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Abby you were the one that made me feel comfortable and confident in my body when I was pregnant! You helped me appreciate what my body was doing!

  • @bonnieallred8055
    @bonnieallred8055 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    That’s so sad that they didn’t do lactation consulting with you! I’m so sorry! We are trained as nurses to help breast feed! I’m so glad you guys got it figured out :)

  • @jessicacarey1186
    @jessicacarey1186 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love how kind and polite you both are to each other. Your relationship is such a good example for other young people.

  • @ava.noelle
    @ava.noelle ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I LOVE THIS PODCAST SO MUCH!!! I can’t wait to listen every week! Y’all are super inspiring ❤❤❤

    • @UnplannedPodcast
      @UnplannedPodcast  ปีที่แล้ว +16

      :)

    • @kking07
      @kking07 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love it guys!!! Such a good job. Your hard work never goes unnoticed. I always look forward to listen to you guys!!!!

    • @just42day
      @just42day ปีที่แล้ว

      @@UnplannedPodcast It’s funny how you bait people through superficial videos and making it all about a shirtless hubby😂 and you’re talking about body image? It’s beyond cringey🤢🗑️

    • @maddiequestrian0424
      @maddiequestrian0424 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@just42day gurl…

  • @danamcmorris788
    @danamcmorris788 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I could listen to you two all day. My husband and I finished having our 4th and last baby at 23. You are right, we are now 42 and empty nesters. Its great to still be young enough to enjoy this period of our lives.

  • @avo.2461
    @avo.2461 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m not going to lie I truly love watching these podcast. You both are so real and talk so vulnerably. I truly appreciate it.

  • @robertgoff8645
    @robertgoff8645 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You know what I love about this podcast?!?!
    I believe you all being transparent with one another is what a lot of marriages lack and this is going to bless you all in so many other ways!
    Be blessed Matt and Abby
    Jessica G

  • @AmyShetler26
    @AmyShetler26 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Abby, thank you for sharing that you also struggle with anger and all types of emotions while pregnant. I did as well. I just want to say I am impressed how Matt is choosing not to take that personally. Unfortunately, my partner did, and we are currently separated. My pregnancy was very hard, and I almost died giving birth. So, it is refreshing to know I wasn't the only one who experienced mood swings while pregnant. I also experienced postpartum depression.

  • @Pwdrhownd0819
    @Pwdrhownd0819 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just wanted to let u know that IUC’s cause severe depression in many women because your body stops producing progesterone and you end up not having a period (which is nice, but in the long run horrible). This happened to me and it was life altering. Depression is the worst kind of pain anyone can go through.

  • @mireyaesposito8424
    @mireyaesposito8424 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You guys are such a perfect example of a healthy marriage! I love how supportive Matt is of Abby’s body and how you both recognize the beauty of giving life and raising a family! I love you guys so much, keep up the good work on these podcasts! ❤

  • @MK-iq1hn
    @MK-iq1hn ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Im 25 and expecting a baby and now I see your content in a whole new perspective. Thank u guys! Greetings from Poland! ❤

  • @kellywisniewski3768
    @kellywisniewski3768 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you Abby for talking about the resentment you had/have! I felt so alone with resenting my husband. Obviously, completely out of his control! But I’m glad I’m not the only one😅❤️

  • @MinaAcsente
    @MinaAcsente ปีที่แล้ว +127

    This was such a good episode and I love how real you guys are and how you make no cuts.
    Also can you guys make an episode of how you came up with Griffins name?

    • @ericagabbwarren5784
      @ericagabbwarren5784 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I remember when they revealed his name and stuff they said they liked the name Griffin coz they liked how it sounded fierce and it sounds like a strong warrior. I hope this helps ❤ I just remember it from their birth video 😊😅

    • @UnplannedPodcast
      @UnplannedPodcast  ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Thank you! Honestly we just thought the name sounded cool lol. We sporadically thought of it about a year ago even though we already had a list of names we liked :)

  • @ilanaleonard3850
    @ilanaleonard3850 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Just wanted to pop onto to say that you absolutely can and should still get pelvic floor physical therapy if you feel you need it! There’s such huge physical changes during pregnancy let alone the diastasis recti that you have. Pelvic floor PT can still have so many benefits even 6 months out.

  • @kaylasexton1375
    @kaylasexton1375 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    We’re 2 years into trying, it gets sad sometimes but we know Jesus has perfect timing 💕💙 we’re so excited for a littles one day

    • @courtneyrudolph1437
      @courtneyrudolph1437 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sending you all the baby dust! 💕

    • @kristenkaz3080
      @kristenkaz3080 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hang in there! My husband & I tried for years. Went to the U of MN, the whole 9 yards. We were told for some reason unknown, we couldn’t have kids. So we decided to buy an old home & restore it & get it up to code so we could adopt/foster. So we ran out of money, poor as church mice, with a gutted house, stacks of building materials & dangling electrical cords. It was crazy. Then I literally woke up one morning & had breasts. I thought, “This is new.” Lo & behold 283 days later, we had our daughter. It DOES HAPPEN. HANG IN THERE & RELAX. Don’t pressure yourself. Try not to overthink it, keep up posted!!!

  • @13musicisme
    @13musicisme ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My goal was to be done having kids by 30, and here I am having our 4th at 31. You never know what will happen, but this one will probably be our last 😊 You guys are awesome!

  • @debashreechowdhury2837
    @debashreechowdhury2837 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The communication between you both is insane. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1.5 years, and your relationship is restoring my faith in love and healthy relationships again. Best wishes for your beautiful family❤

  • @georgetteedwards9017
    @georgetteedwards9017 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I am LOVING these podcast videos! Even better than the vlogs, I feel very authentic and not planned out like vlogs can be!

  • @chelseaseim7033
    @chelseaseim7033 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    My husband and I also got married young and then started our family young. I had always said I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was thirty. I always say God must have a sense of humor because we welcomed our fourth and final child into the world the day before my 30th birthday!
    I love listening to you two talk about your life together. You are both adorable! 😊

  • @Karina-jb4sc
    @Karina-jb4sc ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I loved hearing your experience/journey to becoming parents! I’m 24 rn and my husband and I are expecting our first baby!

    • @claireashley427
      @claireashley427 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congrats!!❤🥰

    • @Karina-jb4sc
      @Karina-jb4sc ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@claireashley427 aw thank you! 💗

  • @bonnieallred8055
    @bonnieallred8055 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    As long as midwives are trained it’s so helpful for people that want a home birth! I’m a labor and delivery nurse, so there are very amazing trained midwives for home births that we work very closely with! :) birth is amazing! Women are amazing!
    Also we don’t break mommas hips for shoulder dystocia! So no stress. That would be the VERY last resort. ♥️ good job guys!

    • @elisevick225
      @elisevick225 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes, I had a home birth and they brought so much equipment to have on hand in case of emergency! They were so safe and cautious and I was in my comfort zone, and complete supported!🤍

    • @hannahcook4654
      @hannahcook4654 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I have never had a baby yet, but I geek out over homebirths and I've listened to several podcasts where the moms had safe home deliveries with shoulder dystocia. Midwives really are amazing. Of course I'm all about people doing what they feel is best for them!

  • @SpaceGhostPower
    @SpaceGhostPower ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I just wish that Abby wouldn't get so embarrassed on certain topics. LOL that's what podcasts are for! I still love you guys anyway. And as a USMC veteran, I just wanted to say thank you for helping with my anxiety. You guys have no idea how much you have helped me. May God watch over you and baby Griffin. 😂❤️

    • @ourlittlelife2818
      @ourlittlelife2818 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I think it’s pretty natural to be embarrassed talking about very private things in front of what is basically thousands of people, lol.
      I know what you mean - but I think couples (even influencers) have to be careful not to over share if it makes their spouse uncomfortable. ❤

    • @SpaceGhostPower
      @SpaceGhostPower ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ourlittlelife2818 🤣👍🏾

  • @bobswanson8464
    @bobswanson8464 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Abby, I am a dad and I cried so many times out my daughter...dropping her off at Kindergarten, Going my first wedding after she was born and seeing that she was going to group up and leave me one day, walking her down to get married, her announcing she was pregnant...and much more.
    I love being a dad...just like Matt, while I have the Good Tear of Abby.

  • @elizabethunger9190
    @elizabethunger9190 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just wanted to say that I totally understand what your birth felt like. I was in labor for 29 hours with my son. He was 10.9 lbs, 22 inches long. I pushed for an hour and he also had shoulder dyscosia and was stuck. They did an episiotomy and the nurse had to push on my stomach while the doctor pulled him out. It’s was really rough. But boy is he worth it.
    And Abby, I relate so much to you in how you never had big career aspirations. You just wanted to be a mom and now that you are you feel so fulfilled. I feel the same way. Also, my husband and I got married at 21 and 24 and now at 25 and 27 we are done having kids with our two! I’ll be 42 and he’ll be 45 when we’re empty nesters!

  • @ZoesBlog
    @ZoesBlog ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for talking about this! I’m 22 and pregnant with my first child, boy too, and hearing your story helps me relate to someone my age when sometimes it can feel isolating. Love y’all!

  • @bridgetmulvenna3965
    @bridgetmulvenna3965 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Abby, i had my first baby at 22(he is 28 now)….be patient. It takes about a year for your postpartum body (and brain) to feel remotely normal. Your heart will never be the same, though…it forever lives out of your chest now. Also, guys….think about how awesome your life will be in your 50’s…..we are having a blast enjoying our empty nest and are young and healthy enough to travel and enjoy our lives. I love watching you guys! Can’t wait to see Griffin toddling around and chatting it up! Thanks for sharing!

  • @seleneaguirre1
    @seleneaguirre1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m loving these podcast!!! I’m 17 years old and it is so nice to hear all of this, it truly opens my eyes up for my future ❤

  • @njp1274
    @njp1274 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Okay, I absolutely love that you are doing podcasts! I don’t really have time to sit and watch vlogs. When I do I end up falling asleep 😂 your conversation flows perfectly and I love the stories. Matt reminds me of my husband when he first became a dad. It didn’t hit my husband that we were going to have a baby until he was holding her.

  • @jadenshipley5367
    @jadenshipley5367 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I completely understand the feeling jealous about others having kids , my husband and I have been trying for months (close to a year) to have kids and every time I see a pregnancy announcement or anyone with a baby I get so jealous and upset

    • @haleyhopes5774
      @haleyhopes5774 ปีที่แล้ว

      Those feelings are feelings I knew all too well. I struggled with conception for years before I was blessed with my baby. I’ll be praying that it’s your turn very soon!

  • @moriahlikely4507
    @moriahlikely4507 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    As someone who got married at an early age and had kids at the earlier stages in life, I just wanted to say that everything you guys talk about is so true. I mean I’m just sitting here eating those words up😂 also love that you both keep it real 100% because often I feel that people are extremely judgmental of Christians so I really love that Matt said damn because I mean come on you are human like the rest of us💗

    • @grammichal6759
      @grammichal6759 ปีที่แล้ว

      LDS or Jesus is God followers?

  • @allyriley9700
    @allyriley9700 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Abby! I was the same way with wanting a baby. I cried and cried and was so depressed i wanted a baby so bad! My son is 4 months old now and my heart feels so full. Being a mother is such a privilege and is so so amazing

  • @jules_11
    @jules_11 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i feel like we’re legit friends when i’m listening to y’all’s podcast, i love it❤

  • @tessrenae
    @tessrenae ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I had both my babies at a birth center and they had classes on breastfeeding, newborn care, what happens if you have to be transferred to a hospital, birthing classes. I highly recommend a birthing center even if you just go for classes and have your baby at a hospital. All the classes were super helpful!

  • @savannaxmusic3406
    @savannaxmusic3406 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    A great middle ground for hospital vs home birth is a Birth Center with midwives!! So good 🎉❤️🙌🏼 the midwifery model is soooo supportive so if you want it but don’t like the thought of being home, check it out!

  • @bkessinger94
    @bkessinger94 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My daughter got stuck too by her shoulder. This has been super cool to listen to. I’m only half way through.
    I had friends that wanted a home birth. They had completely planned. Their midwife recommended they go to hospital. She was in labor over 48 hours.

  • @mrsestherkim
    @mrsestherkim ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love your guys' genuine, raw, adult conversations. Feel like I can relate with you guys more 😊 I love this so much! Can't wait for more episodes !

  • @kaitlynnichole476
    @kaitlynnichole476 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks Matt and Abby for making me smile. Life is rough right now and you guys make me happier.

  • @Ana-rx3gk
    @Ana-rx3gk ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am 20, almost 21 and I look up to you guys. I want the life you have. I want to be like you when I finish growing up. I can't wait to have my own family one day. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your guys life publicly. I look up to you so much. Sending lots of love.

  • @KatarinaC24
    @KatarinaC24 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love how genuinely in love they are ah it’s so refreshing

  • @kayliefigueroa9243
    @kayliefigueroa9243 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Their relationship reminds me of how my boyfriend and I are together and I just live for every episode❤‍🔥

  • @alexiamcreavy5896
    @alexiamcreavy5896 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The being handed the baby and just not knowing what to do is the most relatable thing! I had a c section and my husband was so lost while they stitched me up

  • @SHalvorsonVB
    @SHalvorsonVB ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Literally I related to you soooo much when you said how you were just ready for labor when it got towards the end. I just had a little girl in October and during my second trimester I had so much anxiety about delivery that it would keep me awake at night. Then seriously the 3rd trimester hit and all that went away and I just trusted my body and what would happen! Thank you for being so open and real with everyone!!!

  • @hannahhoward1610
    @hannahhoward1610 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    A C-section isn't just an easy way out! They are most definitely just as hard and challenging!

    • @adreannadampier9252
      @adreannadampier9252 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I agree. I tried to birth my first 2 daughters naturally, and my body wouldn't dilate. I tried for 16 hours with my first with lots of pitocin. I didn't dilate and had an emergency c section because my daughter was in distress. My second, I had 2 balloons and pitocin for 48 hours and didn't dilate, and they had already broken my water at 43 hours, so they had to do a c-section for her. For my 3rd, they wouldn't let me try again, so I had a planned c section. Each c-section was harder than the last.

    • @hannahhoward1610
      @hannahhoward1610 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I've had two C-sections as well. I wasn't given the chance to try natural for the sake of mind and the babies health. I would have loved to been able to have my babies naturally!

    • @adreannadampier9252
      @adreannadampier9252 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You do what you have to do. The most important thing in the end is the health of the baby and the mom. C-section moms are just as strong as the mommas who push the baby out.

  • @nerdynorah4658
    @nerdynorah4658 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Just two episodes till now and already I'm loving it soooo much. This podcast is everything I want to hear after having a bad day

  • @RC-cc1xl
    @RC-cc1xl ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Don't worry Abby, I wasn't intimate the way I wanted when I was pregnant also. It's not talked about enough. It does happen to a lot of women. No shame, and I'm so glad yall briefly touched on that. If you ever feel comfortable, know that opening up more on this subject would help so many feel more normal.

  • @mondaymagdalene5786
    @mondaymagdalene5786 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I've been waiting for episode 2 since I watched the first episode. This is amazing, thanks for sharing. I've been so inspired. I love you guys.

    • @UnplannedPodcast
      @UnplannedPodcast  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Love you too

    • @plantsnthings9140
      @plantsnthings9140 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@UnplannedPodcast u don’t even know them!!!

    • @maddiequestrian0424
      @maddiequestrian0424 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@plantsnthings9140 so??

    • @plantsnthings9140
      @plantsnthings9140 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@maddiequestrian0424 they don’t love them.

    • @maddiequestrian0424
      @maddiequestrian0424 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@plantsnthings9140 doesn’t mean you can’t love them they love them in a supportive kinda way and love them because they are there for them

  • @laceymiddleton1456
    @laceymiddleton1456 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love y'all so much! I do want to share that false positives are rare but do happen... It happened to my cousin and then my husband and I struggled to get pregnant and had a false positive a little while ago which is devastating when you are trying for almost 3 years. BUT I'm happy to say we are currently 13 weeks pregnant and expecting a little boy after we had given up, so I'm excited to watch your shared journey through this too! Much love! ❤

    • @Aunruh557
      @Aunruh557 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would encourage you to do some more research on it. If you got a positive and then a negative shortly after the most common cause is a chemical pregnancy (you were pregnant and had a very early miscarriage). Having been through that it can be confusing. Real false positives usually only happen with a medical condition causing production of HCG (like a tumor). If you use blue dye tests you can be more likely to think you got a positive also because the dye pools weird and evaporates strangely. I really recommend first response and other pink dye tests. Congrats on your baby!

  • @proudmommyforlife
    @proudmommyforlife ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just want to say thank you! You mentioned that people say "don't get married until this.." or that or whatever... that you need to be whole to enter into a commitment like marriage... but for me it, my marriage (second) was what made me whole, showed me true love, and we completed each other in all the ways.

  • @kileyw.9
    @kileyw.9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can I kindly suggest adding the closed captioning to your videos for the deaf community who would love to listen, too? Accessibility is huge and we appreciate those who go the extra step! The automatic TH-cam CC stinks - but lots of creators do it themselves with editing! Would love that.

  • @eliannahankin2971
    @eliannahankin2971 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It’s so cool hearing you talk about birth because a month later I had mine. I was watching your pregnancy and it gave me confidence to deliver mine, 39 weeker

  • @roseymicha
    @roseymicha ปีที่แล้ว +6

    When I was small my dad would hold me like a football too and it was kindof his way of connecting with me at that age. I'm now 17 and he looks at me sometimes and holds out his arm to show how small I used to be that I fit in his arm. It just shows how time runs away from you and soon I'll be leaving the house and his little football will be one day having her own 🥲

    • @Sssilentlaugh
      @Sssilentlaugh ปีที่แล้ว

      This is the best story I’ve read alll day

    • @roseymicha
      @roseymicha ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Sssilentlaugh thank you 😊

  • @haleyhopes5774
    @haleyhopes5774 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Breastfeeding definitely gives baby G a great immune system. I wasn’t educated about breastfeeding during the time I had my first daughter so I gave up like 2 weeks in. My 2nd daughter was breastfed exclusively for 9 months and their differences are noticeable! I really think new moms should be educated more about just how miraculous breastfeeding is for both baby and momma.

  • @Meganhaskinss
    @Meganhaskinss ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Idk why I cried this entire episode lol I love you guys so much! ❣️

    • @rachelschwartz1346
      @rachelschwartz1346 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I did too holy crap

    • @Meganhaskinss
      @Meganhaskinss ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rachelschwartz1346 i love how they don’t talk about the media. Like I hate podcasts like that, I love how personal they are

  • @AlyBeauty09
    @AlyBeauty09 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow this is the first podcast I have found that is sooo relatable! Love this podcast so much! Thank you for sharing your stories with us 🤍

  • @kassandra158
    @kassandra158 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My husband and I were similar to you guys. We wanted to wait 2 years after being married before adding kids to our family. We will be married 3 years (together for 10) this summer and we have a 19 day old beautiful baby boy.

  • @oliviaperkins13
    @oliviaperkins13 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    So excited to watch this podcast every week!! Love you both!!

  • @CMDewey33
    @CMDewey33 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So thankful I was at the hospital for my birth because my son also got stuck! Shoulder dystocia. People say midwives know what they’re doing but it’s a hit or a miss. My mom had a midwife and she almost died during my brothers birth because he got stuck. My birth team got my son out in seconds without any issues! It was beautiful ❤️

  • @mmwakeford
    @mmwakeford ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I didn't think I had much in common with Matt and Abby (for one thing I had my baby at 37), but there's so much here that I can relate to, especially when Abby described that longing to get pregnant. Thanks for another great podcast.

  • @rachelv.351
    @rachelv.351 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You guys are such an inspiration! I would love to see a podcast on marriage and the challenges you've had and how you've worked through them. Marriage advice for those who are getting married soon?

  • @kellieharper453
    @kellieharper453 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Its mindboggling watching this while in the thick of PPD, your experience and positive perception of pregnancy, delivery (despite the complications) becoming a mother and post partum emotions is so not what I've experienced and everything i wanted to have

  • @kimberlyperez5173
    @kimberlyperez5173 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so glad you guys started this podcast. I can totally relate to you guys. Caught myself smiling a few times while listening to this podcast. Just a blessing so genuine. It’s so great to hear something different and honest. ❤thank you.

  • @unapologeticallyromel7096
    @unapologeticallyromel7096 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love how open and close you are. Love the podcast and the name.

  • @E.z.b.f
    @E.z.b.f ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I relate to Abby alot with my pregnancies! 🤰being a mother is such a beautiful thing 💕

  • @paulinamiezejewska5263
    @paulinamiezejewska5263 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your podcast is a blast! Just so fun watching you two interact, it instantly puts a smile on my face 😁

  • @gemmagates547
    @gemmagates547 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Absolutely loving your podcast guys, finding myself counting down the days until the next!

  • @SakuraKate
    @SakuraKate ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love this new concept sooo much!!! It's very relaxing and helps us get to know you guys so much better! Each time and episode ends I feel sad because I have to wait for the next one. The good thing is that you make the episodes come out quite quickly which is very nice. :))

  • @raynadanelle863
    @raynadanelle863 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Please make more of these 🥺 I’m pregnant with my first baby and I would love to hear one that’s more like life as a new mom, life as a new dad. Etc

  • @ethanrakowsky
    @ethanrakowsky ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how chill you guys are! I love this podcast! I’ve been listening to it to unwind and clear my head. I love you guys!

  • @angelabowers2892
    @angelabowers2892 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am with you Abby. I have always wanted to be a mother and a career was second. Unfortunately not sure if it will happen for me. 4 years of trying and a baby in heaven. Thanks for sharing a perspective that I feel is rare today of not having strong career goals! That spoke to me ! ❤

  • @jodil1209
    @jodil1209 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I absolutely love your podcasts!! I love how honest you are. I was actually sad when it was over with. Can't wait until your next one.

  • @nessim.8252
    @nessim.8252 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have listened to the podcast on Spotify, but I wanted to like and comment on here, as well, to show support. You two are great and honestly my inspiration!! ❤

  • @outdoorlifewithmikazangelo6424
    @outdoorlifewithmikazangelo6424 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love your yt channel and your podcast, because you both are without filters and so honest and opened about everything! 🎉 Always waiting for new channel video and podcast video.

  • @hannahmillican1375
    @hannahmillican1375 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m currently 35w and 4d pregnant and have been trying to go on walks once or twice a week. I have been loving so much listening to your podcast especially at this time in my life being able to listen to your story and to help understand more for myself as I end up experiencing the same stages with my husband and little one

  • @rlplus5647
    @rlplus5647 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am loving your podcast! When I discovered your channel a couple of years ago I started binge watching on repeat. Just love hearing more details about your lives. You guys are so sweet and so cute! It’s precious seeing you as parents ❤

  • @NikkiKinx
    @NikkiKinx ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I commend both of you for being so vulnerable & genuine. If more couples were like you, the world would be a better place. I'm proud of both of you. It's been a pleasure to watch y'all grow into this sweet little family. Congratulations on the podcast!

  • @AB-ChristianFoster
    @AB-ChristianFoster ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Y’all are so amazing! I am about to have #3 this year and I am so excited! I wish I could meet you guys one day, we both live in Phx and that would mean the world to me! Love your stories over the years🥰♥️

  • @reahoop
    @reahoop ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I LOVE THIS!! I feel like we’re just hanging out! You guys are awesome!
    I’d love to hear more about y’all’s faith and how it has changed over the course of your marriage and becoming parents!

  • @tanishalenihan7903
    @tanishalenihan7903 ปีที่แล้ว

    As a 25 year old who has followed you since you first started content creating I love that you create a podcast that I can feel like I can relate to some of the things said! Appreciate you guys :)

  • @shauntellroberts7165
    @shauntellroberts7165 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I just love Abby!!! God seriously created a wonderful human being.. And Matt too. I think he is the greatest dad and husband 😊This podcast is everything I knew it be!!

    • @plantsnthings9140
      @plantsnthings9140 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brynnatay2023 shut it brynn, let shauntell have their moment