When birth doesn't go as planned: speak life over your story | Alexa Penavega
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ส.ค. 2021
- In this episode I sit down with Alexa Penavega who shares the birth story of her daughter Rio. Alexa was planning a home birth for her third child when her water broke 7 weeks early and she was airlifted to Oahu for emergency care to be near the NICU. The mindset she shares through her story is inspiring. Opening our hearts to each other’s birth stories and the power of speaking life to our circumstances can be extremely healing.
Alexa is an actress, most famously known for her role as Carmen Cortez in Spy Kids and she’s been featured in various films and tv shows throughout her young and adult life. She competed on Dancing with the Stars alongside her husband Carlos PenaVega and together they recently had their third child and are raising their family on the island here.
In this episode we cover:
- Alexa’s birth stories with her children
- Her NICU experience
- The power of the mind and choosing joy
- Speaking life to your circumstances and radical gratitude
- Mourning loss and releasing / letting it flow
- How hardships shape our testimony
- Alexa’s two sides to pregnancy
- The mind + body approach to postpartum and the partner’s role
- Hospital care and tips with nurse staff, voicing your desires
- Emphasis on skin to skin contact and breastfeeding NICU babies
- The power of telling your story and finding support through loved ones
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Thank you all for being here for the third episode of the Ellen Fisher Podcast! Please bear with me as these first few episodes I am learning how to get the sound/audio JUST RIGHT. So just know that even though the sound isn't exactly perfect between the two of us today, I get the sound better and better as I go with each episode! Not to worry, I will perfect it haha!
It means so much to me that you are here and I'm so excited to share this episode with you. I loveee this interview with Alexa. She is truly one inspiring woman and shares so much wisdom with us. I hope you find as much value as I did in this conversation. Enjoy!
I’m loving this so far and I’m only 15 minutes in. Alexa is such a beautiful soul. Thank you Ellen for having her on your podcast!
oh yes! A podcast on the sacredness of the postpartum period would be so lovely! It is so important for mama to rest and heal!
I listen to this on repeat for her outlook in life is an essential reminder for new moms.
Watching this was helpful for me to process my experience with the NICU, I did a home birth and my son was immediately taken away from me to the hospital due to issues, I didn't even get to hold him. I wasn't able to hold him for the first two months of his life due to intubation and it was so traumatic. We were there three months total during covid while his father was mainly not there, and no one really visited or helped because of fears of the virus. He is healthy and thriving, and is developing normally despite the lack of touch and slow start with normal milestones in the hospital. Thank you for doing this episode 🙌
I love this episode so much. I don't even have kids, but what Alexa shared is so filled with truth and wisdom and applicable for all aspects of life, not just childbirth and parenting. Thanks for hosting this episode, Ellen!
Awe, I remember growing up and watching her in movies. She has grown into such a beautiful and genuine woman. Listening to her talk made my spirits high because she speaks with so much joy. Thank you for this episode, Ellen! It came packed with some good things to consider in the future, when I begin making my own family!
I love this! I love Ellen's channel and I am Christian myself, love hearing a women of faith! Girl thanks for sharing scripture ✝️
Whoa!! I have not heard of Alexa in years!! I used to be obsessed with Spy Kids when I was a kid 🙂
Im thinking about her saying "I was even like juggling my belly" to find the heartbeat😂 that is so funny. I'm so happy for them. God bless!
She’s not afraid to share her faith.
Ellen you are a gift to this world! And so is Alexa. What an Incredible, uplifting, and inspiring listen!
There are so many helpful lessons and tips of advice in this episode even if you are not someone who has children/is giving birth any time soon. So much wisdom ❤️
This is so healing and helpful as I'm processing the birth of my first child that didn't go as I had wished. Such an inspiring and empowering episode ❤🙏🏼
I love the setting! Its so cozy and feels like you are having conversation with your best friend.
Have always been a fan of Alexa Penavega and your podcast just reinforced it! Great chat. So open and honest. Great job - looking forward to more!
I had nearly the same experience as Alexa, with my 34 week baby coming early and ending up in the NICU instead of having a homebirth like I had planned. I didn't handle it nearly as well as Alexa did - for me it was rather traumatic - , so listening to this feels both inspiring and healing.
I’m only 10 mins in (can only watch by sections due to mom life) I also had to deliver on Oahu (I’m from the big island) my birth/motherhood in general was/is nothing like I planned it to be…this is bringing me healing ❤️
I needed this today!!! I love the practice of a Positive Mindset!!! It can do sooo much for you and others around you! Practicing Joy is such a good thing!! Thank you to both of you for this!
Oh she is such a beautiful, inspiring and joyful woman - as are you Ellen 🥰
Thank you for this incredibly uplifting interview 💕
Her outlook on life is amazing ♥️♥️♥️ great podcast
MORE PLS!!! Omg I took so much advice from this. I will watch this at least 100 times!! Thank you! ♥️
LOVE this!!! Not even halfway through but I’ve learned so much from you both
I love this episode so much! Neither of my births went as planned for me for different reasons so this was really helpful and healing for me!
I had such a traumatic birth with my frost it went from home birth to my baby being in the NICU for a week. Everything that I couldn’t possibly think of went wrong… it’s been so traumatic and has made me not want anymore children even though I do… lol thanks so much for this I don’t feel like people touch on traumatic births my baby is 2 and it’s still hard to even look at her photos of that first week. Thank you ladies so much definitely have a different mindset now ❤️
Loved this episode and the positive energy Alexa has!
Thank you Ellen 💓 this is such a enlightening podcast on how to live your life in a positive way always whatever the circumstances are and it goes for everything I’m life . This is really uplifting, wow she is such a warrior!!! I am so grateful for this interview 🙏
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ELLEN, this podcast is AMAZING! Love both you and as for Alexa...what an awesome blast from the past!
Some really good topics and loved hearing both of your angles. I'm a midwife myself, and would love for more home birthing and community birthing centres in Aus and worldwide!
This is my first podcast/TH-cam video I’ve seen/heard from you. And this was so so good!!! Thank you 🥲
Such a great episode. Thanks!☺️
This was so helpful and powerful! Thank you, Ellen and Alexa for sharing your stories and advice :)
Absolutely beautiful! Would love if Alexa came back for more episodes! You both share so much value 💛
What an amazing pod Cast. I've had 3 babies and this was just amazing and not only for birth but for life. I love the concept of "it is written " and just living in peace in the moment. Thank you Ellen for doing this pod cast. I've been watching you for years and years and you have had such a positive affect in my life and my parenting.
I needed this reminder. Thank you!
Loved this! She is such a light
Same, Ellen! My birth, 3 days ago, took 36 hours of natural laboring and I felt like my body just doesnt work right. So nice to find someone to relate too❤
Great episode!!! Love everything about this
Omg I remember Alexa in Spy Kids and it is so surreal to now see her all grown up! Can’t wait to hear this convo, now that I am also of the age where we are preparing for a family 🥰
WOW ALEXA 💜 one of my fave childhood stars. Amazing story
the sound of the leaves in the background is so peaceful
Loved this! Thank you!
Wow this was amazing! I relate to Alexa soooo much.
Loved this podcast episode so much!
Great conversation ladies! Loved this. Thanks!
This podcast is just the best !🎉
I loved this share. I Ioved the part where you allowed yourself to cry without judgment… I think there is something such as chronic positivity that can be unhealthy to not express it healthily. It’s ok to feel however you feel in each moment. Feeling it and expressing it can help heal faster ❤️
Great podcast!!❤️❤️💕🌸
This was great! So relatable. I had an amazing birth, however, I really wanted to start labour naturally. I had a beautiful image of labouring at home as long as possible before I made my way to the hospital. Unfortunately, I had to be induced at 37 weeks because our guy was measuring a week behind. It was not how I pictured it, but we were so grateful he arrived safe and sound and was just perfect!
This is so perfect. Thank you
Amazing conversation. You both inspired me!
Hi Ellen, this is another amazing podcast. Alexa has an incredible faith-based outlook on life which is something I aspire to. My husband and I challenged our New Zealand laws on adoption that states the newborn child must remain with the birth-mother for fourteen days post-delivery, or if the birth-mother is unwilling, must remain in hospital. Our birth-mother told us she didn't want anything to do with the baby once he was born and she was going to discharge herself. We applied to the court to take immediate custody of the child once he was born because of our unwavering belief that two weeks was a crucial bonding period. We couldn't change the law but came up with a successful resolution. I searched for a maternity hospital that would allow me to stay with my son from birth. We accommodated our birth-mother and her 18-month-old son in our home for two weeks, which was an amazing blessing to really get to know her and her other children. Also, she went on to have another son whom we also adopted (these were baby numbers 8 and 9 for her...no judgment cos we would be childless otherwise). I've never posted before but this incredible podcast touched my soul. Forever Ellen and Hannah fan xoxo
Beautifully hosted, Ellen! I watched your home birth videos and the one about Scout and I was so pumped to have an amazing birth but my birth was 40 hours start to finish instead 😂. So grateful for it and proud but I feel like birth is a school for the mind. I’m excited to see how I can learn and progress on the next one
So unbelievably inspiring♥️
I enjoyed this so so much. I look forward to hearing more about pregnancy,labor,motherhood and I hope to hear you discuss infertility as well.
Finally! Rio’s birth story! 💗
Thank you Ellen this was great ❤️
Hi Ellen! This was great, but be careful not to interrupt your guests mid-sentence. Allow them to finish their thought first, and they may say something you never expected. ☺️
I have been a follower of both fo you for so long! I am SO happy you are friends!❤️
Ahhh just watched the full episode I love that you dived deeper around the allowing ourselves to feel more and the aspect of pride. I’m due my third home birth baby as a single mum and I’m wondering how I’m going to get the postpartum support being single with two toddlers already xx
This was a good one! Really enjoyed the whole positive mindset thing.
My first labor was 18 hours long, second labor was 2 hours and my third labor was 1 hour and 45 minutes (all from start to finish). It's definitely extremely overwhelming when it goes that fast, but I do prefer it. Anything longer would drive me bonkers haha
On the note of good tunes:
Nahko Bear and Medicine for the People - It Is Written
Great podcast, looking forward to more!
Awesome podcast! ❤️
Ellen Fisher well done 👍 and thank you for having alexa penavega
I love this episode!!! Would love to see episodes with your husband in it like yall mentioned :D
Also cant wait to see Heather on the podcast!!!!!
God spoke us all into existance. Speak life. So Beautiful ❤️
Wow this was healing!!! “It is already written!” Praise God 😭 from Texas
Oh my I would love a post partum episode with Andrew!
Hi Ellen, this was so beautiful.
It would be SO interesting if you could have Dr. Shefali on your podcast I think 🤗❤️
Been waiting :)
My labor was over 24 hours with 2 hours of pushing, with 5 days of prodromal labor. My sister in law just had her baby after 12 hours of labor and 30 minutes of pushing. I feel you on the indignation and almost feeling like a failure haha! But it really is something to be proud of and everyone is different ❤
Wow! Delightful! I’ve had two completely different birth experiences (emergency c section for my first and an unplanned homebirth VBAC for my second), both completely beautiful in their own way as has been the postpartum period! I’m so thankful for my two gorgeous boys! 😍🥰🥺😇 😘❤️🌺🙏🏽 God always has a purpose and plan (Rom 8:28,29,31,38,39) and I love this interview not just for birth but for the positive mindset! Our demeanor affects our husbands, babies, kids and those around let alone ourselves. 🌺 thank you and blessings
Amazing episode Ellen! Love it, congrats on this new project!! Just to let you know a little constructive comment, the audio when the voice rices is a little off, like burned out. Check that! Other than that perfect!!!!
Love from Punta Cana, DR!!
I planned on having this natural water birth with my doula and midwife and it being ethereal, but ended up having a completely natural birth by myself because labor loved so quickly. Ended up just finding my super woman strength!
Thank you my friends. ❤️
You know what.
Lex is absolutely right. I have pcos & currently struggling to get pregnant.. it’s so hard not to be negative sometimes; especially when it seems like EVERYONE is getting pregnant. But I just have to keep looking at the positive until that baby does get here. 💚😌 Thank you for the wise words. You spoke right to me & said exactly what I needed to hear.
Loving it
Can you add time stamps to your videos please?
I could have written this myself it was identical to my recent 3rd birth a month ago!
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Oh would have loved to hear here speak on her live a c t i o n thoughts i love love love her now ❤️
Even tho i think Alexa Penavega meant well, she is promoting toxic poitivity i think. Always trying to be positive in crisis dismisses the Reality of our diverse Human Experience and leads to shame, guilt and unhealthy coping mechanism.
Teaching children to "sit" with negative Emotions and accept them is a healthier approach. I do agree there is a critical line to "spiralling out of controll", thats exactly why you should teach appropriate reactions to negative emotions and not teach to supressing them alltogether.
This is Harmony, not Kyle.
Do postpartum episode with your husband!!!! I would love to hear that!!
Haha so yeah the vein in the v lol same girl same! the third baby was so bad and I had to sit on an ice pack. my husband snuck blueberries into my ice pack cover and I sat on them so many time not knowing it was blueberries when I did realize we just would like and call those my vagina-berries and told people just don't eat those lol
I didn’t even recognize Alexa from Spy Kids in the preview!!
I didn’t even recognize her ! And I thought I loved Spy Kids lol
@@uhohstinky5850 ps she isn’t vegan xo
Neither of my childrens births went to plan! Both early, both dramatic, both less than 2 hours!!
…and to this day, Alexa remains a strong witness to Christ’s peace after having given birth to their stillborn daughter. 🩷🙏🏼🩷
i had a horrible birth and then a miscarriage. good advice here
The bigger the trauma the bigger the potential for growth
Dear Ellen, I didn't enjoy this guest, all together it was hard to listen to her.
She primarily toled her storys from a "me focus", talked very loudly into the mic, spoke a lot without saying a lot which brings along a slightly narcissistic vibe (wanting to hear yourself talk) and lastly interrupting you.
She probably is a sweet character, to me however she is a very unfavourable interview partner. Just as feedback.
Love your podcasts so far :)
Greetings from Germany xxx
Look into Fatima.