How to VALIDATE YOURSELF : Stop Seeking External Validation & Be Ready to Walk Away

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  • @haram4l
    @haram4l ปีที่แล้ว +396

    As a man I can say your videos are important towards growth for a lot of younger woman and it's nice to see a female teach others to embrace their femininity!

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Happy to see a gentleman that appreciate my content 🙏☺️

    • @naileenlifestyletv
      @naileenlifestyletv ปีที่แล้ว +35

      * Women not female.

    • @auhbreykumming4429
      @auhbreykumming4429 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@naileenlifestyletv why are you micromanaging someone's positive comment? You're the exact type of woman men don't want to be around.

    • @honeymoonavenue97
      @honeymoonavenue97 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@irinaivanovic9792If men did this in a way that didn’t encourage violence it would be so helpful.

    • @estherharing7430
      @estherharing7430 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@naileenlifestyletvmasculine energy to correct.

  • @blancheb3533
    @blancheb3533 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I grew up with a narcissistic mom. She just kept criticizing me and made me feel like I had to prove and work on something to be worthy, but it was never enough. It took me a long time to work on my feminine energy and self-esteem. Before my self-love journey I attracted unavailable men where I needed to prove many things for them to love me, ignoring red flags, and them never giving me the commitment I want. Now everytime my parents say something bad to me, undue criticism, shaming me, I no longer internalize it and repel with my positive thoughts and validating my own worth. Thank you Lisa for channels like this

    • @Jenniferrr818
      @Jenniferrr818 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      oh gawdd same. i always love to be glamoruous and my mom always crticized me so badly that i stopped being myself but i slowly learned that shes narcisstcst . i need to avoid her

  • @ametrineambrosia4929
    @ametrineambrosia4929 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Having autism, don't wanna change it. I think I'm awesome. I WANT a king. But even without, I'm still a goddess 👑

  • @xzuajkgka3479
    @xzuajkgka3479 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    "they value the things they worked hard for. and when they work hard for a woman, they value it"

  • @vanessavasquez1099
    @vanessavasquez1099 ปีที่แล้ว +172

    Self validation is the key to unbothered mindset, it's like removing a burden off your shoulders.

  • @DeshaunDamon
    @DeshaunDamon ปีที่แล้ว +22

    At age 53, a lot of younger women lose me during communication. Your videos are relaxing and relatable - so I actually learn. Thanks for being who you are. You are important and needed.

  • @Sarahhenderson11
    @Sarahhenderson11 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Lisa lots of femininity channels out there, but yours is the most invaluable. Truly, your energy is absolutely beautiful.

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you so much 🙏❤️

  • @Vixenventures
    @Vixenventures ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I grew up in a really abusive family and as an adult was constantly second guessing myself in every way, unknowingly seeking validation from others to make sure I was handling things the right way or best way. After doing the work and starting to relearn how healthy people behave, I don't seek validation anymore. Being confident shows up as very steadfast and not easily shaken. I love your videos so much, Lisa. You're such an amazing person.

    • @annemuller4499
      @annemuller4499 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same here, hugs from Germany dear sister and all the best! 🥰

    • @Vixenventures
      @Vixenventures ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@annemuller4499 Thank you! 💜

    • @jeanniepetrov9934
      @jeanniepetrov9934 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I had he same Story and issue . Its beautiful to grow out of this and being confident and happy . Much love ❤

  • @withlovechristine3378
    @withlovechristine3378 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I wish I had access to this type of wisdom when I was younger. I was raised by a single mom, she loved us and raised us as best as she could, but she herself lacked confidence and didn't have a high self worth. I allowed myself to be used by men who saw my desperate need to be loved and was constantly seeking validation/approval from other. I'm almost 50 and just starting to figure this out. Thank you for your content, it will be invaluable to young women.

  • @itsaghosttown
    @itsaghosttown ปีที่แล้ว +12

    3:27 she said it so sweetly

  • @EternalWanderer-it4uf
    @EternalWanderer-it4uf ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Every time I see you, you look better than the last. A true level up princess. BY THE WAY!!!! Keep the thumbnail formula it’s so unique and glamorous

  • @hristina436
    @hristina436 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I would like to see a dressing feminine video another one with beautiful dresses and everything! 👗👒💅🥿

  • @Scranton0
    @Scranton0 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    She is a confident woman encouraging
    Other women to have a positive attitude
    She has one and it is really great to have
    Wearing the finest dresses that she has
    In this video walking along in much beauty
    Wearing only her dress and nothing more

  • @LOADING...o.o.o
    @LOADING...o.o.o ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is very true. I didn’t love myself and didn’t value myself. I accepted bare minimum and trying to chase the guy. At the end he didn’t even want me back after I broke up with him once I reached my limit.

  • @ShaniOnSinai
    @ShaniOnSinai ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Yes! Validation is self authorized. We respect ourselves through discipline and it should be reciprocated. Ever the gracious, ready to turn the cheek and walk away from disgrace.

  • @carmencarmenatti
    @carmencarmenatti ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I've never had a problem with being who I am.Don't need no one validation but my own.I always listen to my silence💕

  • @lou15176
    @lou15176 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “Talk to yourself - I know it’s weird” 😂😂
    Been talking to myself for 49 years, it’s probably the one thing that’s kept me sane 😊

  • @vikm1341
    @vikm1341 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you for this video! I love the way you dress. alot of people would laugh at me for wearing pink or liking barbie type style but it makes me happy.

  • @hegyesialexa7617
    @hegyesialexa7617 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dear Lisa,
    Love your accent, and I learned Italian, I am in love with italian people :) :)

  • @gulmillart375
    @gulmillart375 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ohhhh myyyy myyyy what can i say .hattss offf to ur confidence and strenght.

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That cut of dress is so beautiful on you! I love it!!❤❤❤

  • @jessicadah-mk8up
    @jessicadah-mk8up ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I have a similar style to you Lisa and seeing you makes me happy bc so many girls my age ( I’m 23 ) don’t really care too much about glamour

  • @diyab1056
    @diyab1056 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's so nice that you empower women!

  • @taboquinha4i20
    @taboquinha4i20 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your dresses are perfect ❤ one more beautiful than the other

  • @inarijm
    @inarijm ปีที่แล้ว +56

    This came right on time for me 🙏🏽❤️

    • @dehsimao6409
      @dehsimao6409 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same

    • @newfavs
      @newfavs ปีที่แล้ว +2

      When the student is ready, the teacher appears. 😊

  • @ViintageVoyage
    @ViintageVoyage ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This is my favorite video you've made, ever!. I really needed to hear what you have to say. It came just at the right time!
    You are completely right! Thank you, Lisa

  • @adrianamelendez5335
    @adrianamelendez5335 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    The timing on this is perfect! A person I really cared for recently walked away without much of an explanation or reason. Thank you for the reminder that their reasons why don’t matter.

  • @mojyoqueen350
    @mojyoqueen350 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    High five! Shakira was my childhood role model too. Actually little me learned how to belly dance and I still do it when I'm cooking or cleaning.

  • @elizabethandiosa4579
    @elizabethandiosa4579 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh my gosh. This is such a good reminder for a woman of any age. I am making my well being and safety and health in every way top priority. Clothes are important and so is grooming. I finally feel I am pursuing my dreams and art and painting and design. My grandma and dad used to tell me to pursue my dreams and clothes do make the person. It's not good for anyone to have jealous sneaky belittlers around, especially if they are relatives. It is so important to dump those that don't hold your similar values, or lift you up but put you down and cause harm. It's so much better to pursue your own dreams instead of doing time with Dana anrd Danny downers. Blessings. I am signing up.

  • @Meesha612
    @Meesha612 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love the way she talks

  • @katarzyna2901
    @katarzyna2901 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You look beautiful ✨Greetings from Poland

  • @pratitijoshi4231
    @pratitijoshi4231 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    OMG LISA YOU LOOK SO BEAUTIFUL.

  • @shuntizamoore4805
    @shuntizamoore4805 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you I really needed to hear that

  • @Annababe333
    @Annababe333 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for all of your wisdom. I have really been trying to step into that true feminine essence within. Sometimes I can still feel the walls up but I’m trying, learning and growing.

  • @dafnneperez9577
    @dafnneperez9577 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love All your videos and I’m so grateful I found your channel. This one is one of my favorites!! It resonates with me specially about men validation. I learned that when a man don’t put a lot of effort I need to let him go and move on. The right one will come along and Universe timing is always perfect. I will like to see a video about Divine timing in relationship and in life.

  • @daniellecharming
    @daniellecharming ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This is my favorite video of yours to date, Lisa! I have recently been talking to myself like a second person- my own best friend!

  • @rubyfullglam
    @rubyfullglam ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love it when you say 'so what, and? I dont care' it makes me laugh and feel better about myself. Great video because this is the area I struggle with ❤

  • @therosaceous404
    @therosaceous404 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I love these long explanation videos, this was a real treat, Madame, merci! 😘💓💓

  • @cyndiapasillas1137
    @cyndiapasillas1137 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video is soooo Amazing ❤ Kisses Lisa 😘

  • @nolongerhumannnn
    @nolongerhumannnn ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Lisa is amazing and gorgeous as always. Thank you so much for the inspiring video 💕

  • @kurthalover
    @kurthalover ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I will be honest, I felt your positive energy throughout this whole video and it gave me that positive boost.
    I used to think so much of other people's opinions but there comes a time, and experience, where it is just not worth it anymore. As you said, the only opinion that matters is yourself. Also validating yourself is also a from of self-care both physically and mentally. At the end of the day, the only person that's with you will always be you and it is important to see yourself as a best friend. As you said, and I loved that you mentioned it, about how you treat your family and friends with kindness, you should also treat yourself that way too.
    Looking forward to your next video!

  • @Knowledgeispower276
    @Knowledgeispower276 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love you and I’m so grateful for everything you pour into this channel! ❤

  • @klezzaa8957
    @klezzaa8957 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really needed to hear this. I have no sister and not a good feminine relationship with my mother. Im trying to be more feminine again and be in surrender. This was really good advice. Thank you. You also delivered it with kindness and empathy and it just made it better.❤️

  • @hristina436
    @hristina436 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg your dress is stunning haha! Nice Lisa sister you look so beautiful! 🥳💛👗💅👒👠

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much 🥰🥰

  • @kellyolson602
    @kellyolson602 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are my inspiration ❤

  • @Entertainment_shed
    @Entertainment_shed 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are incredible❤thank you and don't stop being so amazing🥰

  • @veronicacarrillocaceres5938
    @veronicacarrillocaceres5938 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My favorite video by far this 2023 💖Thanks for doing this video, it comes along in the right time 😊

  • @glowuphandbook
    @glowuphandbook ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love this video! Super helpful topic.

  • @margaretgallo914
    @margaretgallo914 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love the dress ❤, I hope you are doing well. ❤️ love you Lisa. Thank you for what you do.

  • @israelisongsabram4796
    @israelisongsabram4796 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Absolutely adore you and your videos. Thank you so much for the wisdom you impart on others. You are amazing and we are blessed to have you

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh thank you 🥰🙏

  • @frankyavery
    @frankyavery ปีที่แล้ว +13

    There is a meme you would love. I went something like "It's okay if you don't like me. Not every can have good taste."

  • @rachelmcclain5367
    @rachelmcclain5367 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hi Lisa! Once again, I love your content! ❤

  • @stefilane
    @stefilane ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @Kristynas706
    @Kristynas706 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Darling, I needed to hear this today ❤

  • @YK.Naturo
    @YK.Naturo ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Bravo ma chère ! Thank you for this reminder 🙏🏿✨

  • @cleoknight8536
    @cleoknight8536 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This was really helpful Lisa. Much love to you xxx

  • @bernices6311
    @bernices6311 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So much value in this video Lisa! Thank you for what you provide to our community ❤

  • @marilynmcgaha3957
    @marilynmcgaha3957 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    WOW! Lisa I needed to hear this so badly! Thank you ❤️

  • @danielajocelyn
    @danielajocelyn ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this video! We have a similar taste in artists :) I think it’s important to nurture those things you have interest in or that you identify with, so it solidifies your confidence even further because of your familiarity with the subject. Plus I think starting with learning about one or two subjects thoroughly gives you the skill to learn another more easily.

  • @winnielim80
    @winnielim80 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are so clever with your words

  • @philippagrimoire5968
    @philippagrimoire5968 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I found when I did treat myself like a Queen I had so many men and women try and tear me down or call me a narcissist or just generally not like me because I wasn’t being a people pleaser anymore. I got abused a lot and it wore me down over time til I felt unworthy. I have cptsd which is a brain injury as well so it’s easy to slip back into feeling unworthy. It’s so frustrating dealing with tall poppy syndrome in my country Australia 🇦🇺

    • @lou15176
      @lou15176 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Reverting back to people pleasing to suit others is not the answer…I am not saying isolate yourself, but if it’s possible - remove yourself from those people/situations and start to to build new connections with the people who value you ❤ x

  • @Wandertheworldwithme
    @Wandertheworldwithme ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for these lovely reminders ❤💃🏼

  • @rinamaya8858
    @rinamaya8858 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you! Perfect timing 🥰❤️

  • @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984
    @liveeverydaylikeitsyourlas984 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love it.

  • @klaudiawitek5300
    @klaudiawitek5300 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing content, right now I really needed to hear your message and remind myself of who I am. Hope to spread this positivity. I’ve got 3 jobs opportunities all at once and I got to choose which one I like most and it’s for me. I’ve chosen the one where from beginning I was treated with respect and admiration.
    When it comes to relationship I realised that it’s ok if it’s not going to work out with the person I was attracted to because I’m the queen and many people treat me accordingly so it’s my job to only see me that way and be unbothered by those who doesn’t value me.

  • @ElaBliss
    @ElaBliss 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Girl, just wanted to say thank you for showing up. You are really such a great role model and you should be proud of yourself 🥰 Love watching your videos

  • @Tessybriggs
    @Tessybriggs ปีที่แล้ว

    This is the best video i have seen so far ❤❤

  • @mansoor3159
    @mansoor3159 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Lisa you're too too too too inspiring for me 💕💫😭 and you're looking too pretty

    • @Lisaglamour
      @Lisaglamour  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you very much darling 🙏🥰

  • @victoriavaughan8362
    @victoriavaughan8362 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love the dress😍

  • @HaninSindi
    @HaninSindi 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you looove ur Video and this beautiful message u made me realize even so much more and Ur style is also beautiful love whn people show and just are their induviduality ❤

  • @Yulia.chandrika
    @Yulia.chandrika ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow this woman is more gorgeous day by day! Very valuable video it helped a lot. I would love if she would make a video of how to combine colors I think she is so good on choosing the best colors for her, red golden... so beautiful.
    Sorry if the comment seems superficial 🙏 I also think her message is wise and psychologicaly empowering and healing

  • @hiruhiru5998
    @hiruhiru5998 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can you explain how to show vulnerability in a relationship?

  • @fluffy8718
    @fluffy8718 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank u lovely Lisa 💜

  • @spoonfullofdream
    @spoonfullofdream ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Tu es resplendissante ❤️

  • @nehasable8347
    @nehasable8347 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank u Lisa I am changing

  • @terraiznajem105
    @terraiznajem105 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @jocelin5957
    @jocelin5957 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lisa😘😘

  • @AminaOud-vc7ph
    @AminaOud-vc7ph ปีที่แล้ว

    Giiiirl you are gorgeous 😍

  • @harmainaltaf3753
    @harmainaltaf3753 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sis can you make a video for teenager girls , that how to develop our personality😅

  • @pallinagialla97
    @pallinagialla97 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi! What's the name of the actress at 9:58? Such a good video!!! Thank you, Lisa!!!

    • @bobinaleigh
      @bobinaleigh 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @pallinagialla97, It's Jayne Mansfield

    • @pallinagialla97
      @pallinagialla97 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bobinaleigh thank you!

  • @plottwist1541
    @plottwist1541 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    thank you for that!!

  • @ElaBliss
    @ElaBliss 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dear, could you do a youtube video on how to overcome the discomfort on starting a youtube chanel or showing up online? Would be nice 😊

  • @zdravaistoria
    @zdravaistoria ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your videos, thank you!

  • @laurengeorges3705
    @laurengeorges3705 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Merci pour cette vidéo !

  • @aparnapremkumar395
    @aparnapremkumar395 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    U r simply lovely :)

  • @sasukiopah7145
    @sasukiopah7145 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @breh9243
    @breh9243 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video idea

  • @beluasmr
    @beluasmr 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excelente

  • @shinystar-w5j
    @shinystar-w5j 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you’re god in orange 🧡

  • @florinmcf7340
    @florinmcf7340 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hello I’m a man and find this helpful

  • @annemuller4499
    @annemuller4499 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How can somebody your age can be so wise? I agree with all you say, but I have to warn you guys as well: nowadays there is too much jealousy arround, don't listen too much to feedback, even men will try to push you down, because they think they are not your level, even more stay careful with other women. *I never had a friend who hadn't a grain of jelousy in her*

  • @sskksshjigg9767
    @sskksshjigg9767 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can you do a roomtour❤

  • @JogoBelIa
    @JogoBelIa ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "I know you care a lot what people think when you are a teenager" - crying in my 30s

  • @DJSTOEK
    @DJSTOEK ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤

  • @annemuller4499
    @annemuller4499 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I hate the modern feedback culture as people are so brazen and give unrequested feedback, using it to push you down hard (your pants are too tight, naked shoulders are vulgar, you show too much leg). All my live I had just one or two feedbacks which were helpful and millions of feedbacks just targeting to push me down! Even with a toxic partner this can happen to you, he is feeling bad and is jelous of your good mood or thinks he is not as attractive as you.

  • @claudiokabanata3325
    @claudiokabanata3325 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤

  • @sunflowersseeds_
    @sunflowersseeds_ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @bankpoaspirant5250
    @bankpoaspirant5250 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am too judgemental towards me , tell me what to do

    • @aj__love5919
      @aj__love5919 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Learn to love yourself and improve the flaws you got this💃🏻

  • @kevinrobles3203
    @kevinrobles3203 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Lisa can you visit liverpool fc YNWA we you Jurgen klopp

  • @antevenio8303
    @antevenio8303 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    when does it turn to pure selfishness