Agreed. But I also think it’s bc they can be an EASY target as they are trying to be a better person and may be willing to give a person the benefit of the doubt 😢 just like preying on religious people
Many men do but those men usually got heartbroken or cheated on by a triflin ass woman so they done chasing women they’re chasing their purpose. That’s the answer to all the “where have all the good men gone” posts…
Biggest red flag 🚩 is when someone says “I’m not a bad guy” or in his case “I’m not that bad of a guy” it’s basically an admission of guilt. If anyone says this RUN!!!!!!!
Agreed or not all men or women are like this you just haven't found the right man yet, choose better next time. That's like saying, "if you read his mind and knew what he was up to 24/7 maybe he wouldn't have killed those people!" They don't word it exactly like that but they make it feel like it's your responsibility to control the actions of a grown man and it's not each individual should be held accountable for there own actions. The rest of the population should not be blamed just because some moron couldn't control himself if I have to keep my legs closed then the way I see it he does too it's kind of impossible for anyone to do that if you keep hassling them to sleep with you.
Honestly as an empath I run into men like this a lot and my first instinct is always right when they start talking “ this person isn’t genuine” and ladies always trust your first gut instinct. It will save you from so much heart ache.
So true! And I used to discard my first impressions of people to give them benefit of a doubt, only to be proven right later. Fortunately, I’ve smarten up.
It's because most men get jobs so they can have access to women. If we women gave ourselves to them freely, humanity would still be living in the stone age. Very very very few men have a real purpose - other than getting laid - when it comes to work.
@@nekesamichelle1400 That's what narcissism is. All this to avoid rejection and it's sad. I rather just isolate myself. Edit:But just like with sociopathy it comes from when you let trauma get to you and give you a reprobate mind.
Yeah low self-esteem and obsession with attention. Narcissistic af. I have autism and I’m female so I’ve got to study manipulation because I’m so susceptible to it. Ugh.
This is the same guy who made a Tiktok saying he was dating a girl and they got in a fight and she was saying he doesn't care that he hurt her. She started crying "...a real guttural cry, a mentally ill cry.." and he's just listening and doesn't feel a thing and tells the girl he doesn't care and to find someone else. He said he felt annoyed but also enjoyed the fact the fact that he meant so much to the girl. So... yeah 😬 very dangerous to say the least.
Wow! He is a narc of the highest level. Only a narcissist would get annoyed at someone's pain. I used to be in a relationship with one. He was annoyed that I got bronchitis and had coughing fits...even though he is the one who gave me the cold that morphed into bronchitis! When he had diverticulitis and was in severe pain, I didn't mock him or tell him that his whining was annoying me, though.
This is why when you're just getting to know someone you gotta keep things vague and cryptic. I always know they're trying to play me when they keep asking things like "what I like in a partner." That's when you say something vague like "oh... I don't like to go into things with expectations or rigidity. I just like to enjoy the experience and see where it goes." That one alone literally saves me every time. The look on their face when they don't get the answers they want and they're trying to manipulate. Lolol. They end up thinking I'm so chill and exposing themselves so quickly. Just make them feel accepted and comfortable and they'll expose themselves soooo fast that it's unreal. Then you block and move on and never contact again.
This comment deserves more likes and eyeballs. Sadly, women play right into their sick game because for once they believe they’ve met a man who is truly interested in them when really, he’s gathering intel so he can craft a custom made persona so you’ll drop your guard.
When I tried a dating app A guy asked me that and I instinctual got weary of the question. I feel things so deeply something about it felt off and left him on read. I didn't know this was a known manipulative tatic at the time but I did have the thought he asked in order to pretend to be what I want. I'm so grateful to be in tune with my intuition. Has kept me safe throughout the years even if everybody doesn't understand it.
I did that same thing with my last guy. Had enough bad experiences before that my instincts won't let me NOT be careful with men. What I wasn't prepared for was how absolutely shattered I got this time, when I quickly saw what he was really like. I had fallen for him hard already, when we were friends (or so I thought). And while we had been friends, he had exactly said to me how he admired that I was levelheaded and gotten my stuff sorted and healed. So, never mind relationships of a romantic nature; The grief that someone I thought was at least *a friend* would do this, the grief to basically realise that *someone would hate me just because I was doing okay*.... to discover that the person you like actually *hates you*.... It hurt so bad it paralysed me, and it meant I just sat there in the situation for longer than I should. ;_; but your advice is solid. But, be careful ladies. And do not blame yourself or each other if you find yourself paralysed. These specific creatures are so so poisonous, and we can show caution and discernment - but we cannot give them the power of building a world wherein we can never be vulnerable. But, oh is that wisdom always too dearly bought.
It isn't that they know a lot or are smart. When you know what they are up to, their manipulations make no sense, and you can see them for the worthless people that they are. These people have to lie and manipulate because if they were their realselves, no one would want them. They know that, so they lie. They also choose people who aren't used to scum like them, so they take them at their word, which really shouldn't be an issue if they were with a normal decent person. Unfortunately, they aren't with a decent person.
He’s definitely a narcissist. I have a cousin that talks just the way he does. It’s never their fault and always yours for feeling the way you do. I cut him off and never looked back.
This is Beyond narcissism though! He’s a bright yellow sign sociopath. Once he’s hit a certain number of people from manipulating, he will become an addict with a superiority/invincibility complex and once his manipulation stops working he will become more desperate and dangerous due to his complex of “well it worked before in all these women so why isn’t it working now” his anger will consume him due to his ego and complex and he will eventually probably kill a woman who does the same to him ir if he desperately wants something he hasn’t had in a while and needs from her and she is his last resort .
They read and write at a second grade level yet have a PhD in manipulation. Ladies they're making us look like fools. Please please stop giving men the time of day.
@Bunchie Love they aren't but even babies know how to get their way. They know how to tap into the part of you that wants to nurture and open...that's why he said vulnerable
the thing about putting in that much effort into pretending to be someone you’re not, it doesn’t last for long because sooner or later they will get tired and start to show their true colours. this is horrifying.
The fact that they are going THIS hard rather than just being better people is BONKERS. The fact that he had convinced himself that his intentions are pure and he is not responsible for how someone interprets his content is dangerous!
Every men that ever told me he was a "good guy" always turned out to be a real piece of work. Thats why as women we don't like "nice guys",but they try to twist that to we do not want a genuine kind man. These men spend so much time playing the "nice guy" character and the "bad guy" character that they have no real personality. They fluctuate between extremes but are shocked when we don't want to be around them because it's so annoying when a man is acting hard to get.
I didn't realise the manipulation was so intentional. It's just so calculated. I can't even be compassionate for men who are trying but aren't quite there anymore.
That's the trap! Don't date men who are 'trying' or 'aren't there yet'. Bw are too quick to fall in love with a man's potential. You have to see him for what he is right now, not what he could be. Understand that it he's over 18, his personality is pretty much set. Hes not going to change.
I had a guy and one of my groups who had a tell-all moment about his manipulation tactics. He even spilled how men identify vulnerable women. They definitely know what they're doing and who to do it to.
If you are dealing with a narcissist specifically, they are trying to be whatever it is you want to be in hopes to get under your skin. And do it as long as it takes before they can abuse you mentally with free reign. A lot of men ask women what they want in a man to become that. Or mirror that even if that’s not who he is. Don’t tell him what you want in a man. Don’t even act appreciative when he’s the bare minimum of what you want. Just watch, and listen to what he is saying. Someone can only pretend to be someone they are not but for so long. Especially when they don’t know what makes you tick. The more someone knows, the easier it is to manipulate you emotionally. They can just make assumptions, and try to work with what they have. But if they believe they have you pegged, they will take it and run. It’s just like when men think you will never leave. They will disrespect you while you’re there because they don’t see you going anywhere. But, when you leave of your own volition and don’t come back, it hits them hard. That’s where the regrets come in for them as well. That’s why men, particularly exes will come back. Even after they’ve hurt you. I’ve got men I dated years ago STILL wishing I would give them the time of day for this very reason. For me, the less I’ve told a man, the harder it’s been for him to manipulate me. The more emotional, open, and welcoming I was with a man, the easier it’s been to be manipulated, and find myself looking stupid over someone who honestly didn’t care. A man that cares about you, loves you, respects you isn’t trying to figure out how to control you emotionally. He’s either a good man or he’s not. He won’t need manipulation tactics. But, it’s wise to guard your heart.
@ceteris paribus When you show your hand by telling them exactly what you want in a man, you've given them the playbook to your heart, and all they have to do is PRETEND to be all those things long enough to get their hooks in you emotionally. Then, once they know they've got your heart and mind under lock and key, they will begin devaluing you and breaking you down from the inside out! A genuine man will be either all or some of those things on his own, and without your prompting, which is exactly why you don't tell them. Your only job is to watch, listen, and see who they CONSISTENTLY are.
We mentally ill women don't like him, either. At least, the ones amongst us who are well-functioning adults and are dependably responsible for our own decisions and actions. As a woman with schizophrenia, I would stay the hell away from this psychopath.
Naw! Those tactics can’t work if you cut a man off from the first sniff of bullshit. Don’t let it mature into a relationship. Don’t even give them a 1 second of a chance to correct themselves. If they don’t come correct from the jump- CUT IT. If they do something or say something that doesn’t feel right to you- CUT IT. Do NOT make excuses for his lack of anything. Do NOT substitute the “potential you see in him” for who you think he is currently. Do NOT EVER say “it’s ok.” Do NOT accept apologies. If he does or says something you don’t like, call him out on his BULLSHIT and CUT IT. Do NOT answer his call. Do NOT text him back. Block his number. Let his men-friends have him sis.
And if you don’t do the above, theyll jump in and devalue you in their eyes. Then they treat you according to that lower worth. They are always looking for something to devalue you. As small as it is, they’ll use it against you. They just can’t meet a woman on an even platform. Always cut your girlfriend down.
This is a person who actively seeks to emotionally abuse other women and teaching others how to. He should be reported to the authorities for domestic abuse, as well as having his platforms taken down. Dangerous
He's a narcissist and/or psychopath, but mainly leaning towards narcissism. Explains how he tries to explain all of his actions, applying a method to his madness, and absolutely not seeing anything wrong for it + having zero accountability.
They way he talked about healed people implies that he doesn't believe that they're actually healed. He looked down on them and treated the things they say as worthless instead of as a way out of trauma... So, he basically doesn't really believe that ANYONE can heal.
Especially when what he’s talking about doing is way harder than just facing yourself like wow dude the gymnastics he did instead of walking the straight line of healing is insane 😂😂
This is a good example of weaponized incompetence. Ladies, at our grown age we should not be playing these kind of games. Men are serial daters. If he hasn't figured it out by now, its because he doesn't want to.
Exactly! The minute a male starts talking about problems and flaws, I point him to the Google machine to start finding solutions 😂😂😂. I’m not a helper monkey or an emotional support animal 🤷🏾♀️
Men invented dating (aka boyfriend/girlfriend relationships) to make women feel like they’re in serious, monogamous relationships. In the interim, the man gets sx while planning his transition to the next new woman.
@@asiahenry7798 This. I’m not here to help anyone learn how to be a better man. He either needs it all together or I’m gone. These “healed women” he’s referring to and coming across aren’t really healed. Because if they were they’d pass him by as soon as he listed those red flag flaws and gave fake compliments before he even really knew them.
What if they put all this work into building wealth? He damn near has a whole sadistic plan 🧐. It seems as though planning and execution is not an issue with them, just the fact that they’re putting their energy towards wickedness and hating women. I feel no empathy for them whatsoever. I don’t feel bad for their “loneliness” and struggles, couldn’t care less 🤷♀️.
@@monicasalyer8875 It speaks to their true hatred. Their hatred overwhelms them so much that they have to do this. Even if you do sleep with the woman… then what? That’s it? It accomplishes nothing much anyway.
And wats more crazy is they don’t use the energy to at least build with 1 woman. The point is to make as many victims as they can just for some 😺. They will have a horrible portfolio if they were investors. No long term thinking at all
One word for this guy..... KARMA. One day, he's going to meet his match....actually someone even MORE calculated and devious than he. And she's going to destroy him. It's just how energy works.
He’s speaking facts because this is literally their behavior & he’s telling on himself! I’m a people watcher & after watching tons of people, the trick to it has always been to get you to believe you’re special. Once they do that, they have you in their trap. You’re not actually special, but they finessed you with numerous tactics to convince you that you are indeed special or “different” in their eyes. After that’s done & you’re all invested, they will start to show their ass if they haven’t already. It’s wild & it’s insane that people even think like this
I know this comment is old, but i just had to say YES. I went slow with a narcissist and he got BIG MAD that I wouldn't "invest". They are looking for women who get way overly invested in them emotionally because it's much easier to control you. What I did was always approach situations with him from a lens of "what he's saying COULD be true or maybe not, but time will tell." That keeps the emotional investment down. I believe real relationships should go slow anyway and manipulators keep trying to push you to go faster.
I thank him and his earrings for his service. A healed woman would actually take it reallllll slow with a walking 🚩 who says the things he mentioned. A healed woman would not think they can use their cooch + meditation to help him learn to be a better communicator. That's a journey he has to go on his own. 🙄
😂😭😂 girl not the earrings! It's funny you said that because that's what I was looking at the entire time and his body movements. If you know you know 😬👀 men that actually love women and not trying to be one would never speak like this. Coward vibes. Yikes.
Yea I’m so done thinking I can save people. Thinking objectively while dating could save a lot of people because so many of us have fallen for the fluttery words that happen so quickly and the love bombing until we learned better.
his own words betray him. he says he doesnt condone using these tactics to harm anyone, then says they have been "used AGAINST" people of all genders and orientations. it's pretty clear he see relationships as adversarial. in that context, if one person wins, they other person has to lose. when you lie to some one and waste their time, you are harming them. if you have to trick someone into feeling a certain way about you, then they don't actually feel that way about you. they feel that way about the person you pretended to be.
He's forgetting that there's a thing called spiritual discernment. A person can talk all they want but their true nature will become clear. The challenge with most of us is to stop ignoring or explaining away that "gut feeling" we have about people. He doesn't strike me as a person who can hide his creepy nature very well anyway.
Be ruthless ladies. "Everyone makes mistakes, but u ain't finna make none over here. Kay?!?! Walk off...😆" makes em mad af that you won't even give them the time of day.
He’s just outing himself as a Narcissist. This type of Narcissist tends to hang out in cities or in outer fringes. They like to take down healers, talented people, starseeds, etc. His big issue is that he’s soulless and doesn’t have any depth so wants to hurt others who have that and try to steal it from them. You can even hear it in his voice, it’s bland without tone because there’s no emotion or conviction 💙🙏🏻💙
By "this type" I'm sure that you're talking about skin color because the way he thinks is what is in question and I know men of ALL colors who have the ability to THINK like this 💯
@@sarangtokki2045 Not at all, you’re reading into it. If I wanted to out a race I would’ve. We all know Narcissists come in every color of the rainbow 🌈 💙🙏🏻💙
@@sarangtokki2045 you are the worst, she obviously said “this type of narcissist” stop choosing what you want to see in what other people say and go find happiness please
I know sometimes people complain about folks especially the younger generation AKA pretty much anyone under 30 talking too much and revealing too much on TikTok. But...I really appreciate moments like this. Spill it all narcs!
He's so evil he's his own disclaimer. He feels as though showing his face an his game.. he's not liable for anything he does. This type of person deserves zero contact from anyone.
There is a channel on here called Mental Healness. He is diagnosed NPD and is actively in therapy. His whole channel is dedicated to helping people who are targeted and abused by narcissists. He explains a lot if the thought processes and warning signs and it’s awesome when his wife comes on to help answer questions both with him and on her own. Just thought I’d put this info here for someone who may need it.
I want to thank this man for revealing more tactics used by people like him. Another thing to look out for and avoid while dating. I have noticed many guys say things like “wow, you’re a beautiful person” or gas me up on some random stuff I’ve spoken about genuinely. I always found it weird because these men barely knew me and they were giving me such compliments. I found it very fake but gave them the benefit of the doubt. Now I will not lmao 🚩
These men don't even have a choice in it I don't think. Theres some kind of devine force making them expose themselves cause it doesn't make sense for them to be telling on themselves like that are doing, but some women will still be deaf to all of this. Y'all better get on the ark
Start answering every compliment with”Yeah, I know.” If a male gets angry when you agree with his “compliment” instead of immediately thanking him, girl, run!
His second suggestion was just "treat women as whole people & not just sex/romance objects". This is all so much extra work when you could just act right.
This dude is a sociopath and he thinks everyone else is a sociopath too. He thinks when people are being kind and genuine they're running some kind of game.
This is generally true but I think we forget that manipulators KNOW that now. So they know how to be consistent at the right times to make you think they're not a manipulator. Manipulation evolves. They're always studying their prey, seeing what you believe, what your values are and trying to figure out how to exploit what you think. So please, the little tatics and things they tell you online to identify manipulators are true, but also outdated for some of the more sophisticated ones.
@@Liz-wz8dh What is "consistent at the right times?" There's no such thing. Narcs and manipulators aren't evil masterminds. They rely on naïve people with weak boundaries to "benefit-of-the-doubt" them nonstop.
Works every time. Though the commenter above me is correct, they are getting smarter. The demon I was with started making excuses that seemed valid at the time to spend less time with me. He did that not just because he could do extracurricular activities with others, but that the less time he spent with me, the more the real him could be hidden. Pretending is hard work you know😂 and I was already starting to call him out.
This is nothing new, ladies. This tactic has been around forever & if I may, please let me share a passage from the quintessential Russian novel that demonstrates it perfectly; written in 1866: "When the heart of a woman experiences pity for a fallen man, that's the most dangerous thing for her. She Immediately she wants to save him, make him listen to reason, to restore him to life, to summon him to nobler aims; to initiate him into a new life, a new activity. It's well known what can be DREAMED UP in this vein. I realized it & IMMEDIATELY knew that the bird was flying into the net ON ITS OWN; and I prepared myself." So, as it has always been in fiction, so it is in real life ladies. Please be smart & don't be talked out of your armor. 💛
It's giving my girl got stolen! It's giving mommy neglected me. It's giving I want to be liked. It's giving grooming. It's giving desperate and insecure. It's giving me the creeps weirdo. For why? He's articulate but with a dirty spirit. For that he will end up alone. sadly, Or worse.
@@BurbNBougie this is also why, when you try to blame patriarchy for mens behaviour and lack of emotion, i gravely disagree. Most of them know what they are doing. They are not victims of anything. They want power (in society in general)and emotions/empathy are a hindrance to that. So they have for most of history, offset that role to women. Now that women are not staying relationships as they used to, men are forced to do their own emotional labour. In this moment they decide that they are the victims of patriarchy.
I heard something today: youre either predator or prey. So we can get upset or we can learn a thing or two because its going to be done to us regardless and if so we should know how to flip it and reverse it to get what we want. So im taking notes 📝 Idc if its "petty" or "immature" because even good men can be manipulative and will be to some degree.
Which is why I recommend all of us read The Art of Seduction and The 48 Laws of Power. Even if never use the tactics, you’ll be better able to spot them when they try to use them in you. Stay ahead ladies.
Exactly. When men try to manipulate me, I let them think they do but they don't know I know their tactics. It's hysterical how they hate it when you act like them.
This is why you never tell a man about your previous relationships and where they went wrong. They will find a way around it. Also never tell a man how to fix himself. That is for his therapist. When a man tells you they arent good st something that is him twlling you he is very very bad at it. Example he isnt great at texting this means he is very verya bad at texting If hes not a great communicator this means hes very very bad at communicating. Do not listen to the fact that he is working on it.
is anyone else getting 💅vibes from him? also, it's almost they don't want us to like them at all. if the real version of you is trash and the fake version of you is trash, what exactly is there to "submit" to?
Yes, at first, but also his type is likely suburban white girls. He's obviously one of those alt guys that like a trap/rock mix, vintage anime & painting their nails black. I always confuse them for gay guys too, but they are usually bi tho. They're extremely feminine for some reason.
Anybody else peep the long dangly prom earrings??? He wore in second clip 😂 lol i could never take a dude s3rious as his earrings swaying back n forth 😅
Yet men constantly telling women to choose better after they done got hurt by these demons. I’m slowly agreeing with K Michelle when she said “Men aren’t good people”
I’ve had a guy tell me he had a “hero’s complex” and that he felt he needed to save women. I looked at him with the most confused expression and told him “I don’t need saving.” 🎉
@@peacelove7437 No suport for the mentality as stated. Don't care if many women do the only thing they were socially sanctioned for, if they are living in that society. Men have many, many socially sanctioned roles and still manage to mess them up. Men, as you can see, have a contract with other men, some breakem and the rest blame them for being broken. No support for this at all. This is not the way to peace or love.
@@Morenita570 asked me all kinds of stuff about how I would raise our kids I was like this is the second date then when I wasn’t going to give him any and keep it on dating and getting to know each other he magically can’t text as much unless he wants to invite me over lol the games they play
I sound like a broken record, but I'm so happy that I'm single and celibate and out of this ridiculous and dangerous game. I don't entertain men. I'm very satisfied with my toys and basking in my health and peace.
My perspective is that he has a very fundamental disdain for his fellow humans. The fact that he thinks faking interest in the “bullshit” of other people’s lives is a viable way to make them like him more is what gave it away for me. He doesn’t actually like other people, he just wants things out of them. It’s a nihilistic view of the world that almost makes me feel bad for him. Almost.
I used to joke around about men going to weekly meetings. At these meetings, they would discuss how to aggravate women and do sh*tty stuff. I was pissed to find out I was pretty damn close.
@KayDee So they don't get treated like less than by women who can be manipulative and sneaky. This guys message was clearly gender neutral, but somehow, this turned into a BM bashing contest 😂!
He can be as disgusting as he chooses to the thing is no matter how deceiving, manipulative, narcissistic traits ppl showcase at the end of the day energy doesn't lie. And your intuition will always, absolutely work for your highest good. Never go against your intuition. May he always and forever receive the same energy he puts out into the collective.
1. Dark Psychology: (3 Books in 1) by Jonathan Mind 2. In Sheep’s Clothing by George K. Simon Jr. 3. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene 4. Confessions of a Sociopath by M.E. Thomas 5. The Mystery Method by Mystery 6. Beyond Persuasion by Rebecca Dolton 7. 30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics by Adelyn Birch If you want to know how to not fall victim to these things, knowing the information here can help. How to win friends & influence people by Dale Carnegie. Read and applied by Charles Manson.
@@zaylinstar8883 OmGosh 🥺 I am so sorry, my Ex husband had these traits & qualities built in him naturally as a Narcissist, Sociopath & Psychopath... I almost did that when I was pregnant with our last child, told him I was going to with some 💊's while I was 7 months pregnant. He was leaving me after I found out he was cheating on me with men, women & Wana be womens. He was holding our 4 year olds hands as he walked out the door & told me "B*!@& do it", I looked at them leave the door slammed & I thought "Ain't nooooo MF way I'ma give him or anyone else the satisfaction, or leave him to raise my daughters alone"‼️ Then I cried out to the Most High God & he saved me... Keep trusting God, they reap what they sow. My Ex is miserable, has 3-5 kids new, 3-4 baby mamas with 2sets of ghetto twins. Stays trying to get back with me😁.. Stay prayed up so that you heal, you're none of the wicked things he projected, God bless 💐 ✝️📖🧎🏽♀️
That’s not how normal relationships should operate. Y’all all giving out bad advise. If you can’t communicate with your partner then why are you with them? Consistent dick? Desperation?
@SK876 I had a guy with very strong narc traits try to do the "I'm always a victim" tactic and would bring up insecurities in a way where it felt like fishing for something. It was weird. He's lucky I'm not like him because I know his insecurities, and he doesn't know anything about me lol.
Ladies a romanian philosopher (I don't remember which one and I don't want to quote the wrong one) said something to the effect of:the sucking up they do to you today is the price you have to pay for the betrayal that is to come tomorrow. If a man keeps complimenting you and is agreeable in everything that should be a huge red flag cause once you get married and get tied down witha baby he WILL show his ass. That's why temperament tests are necessary.
My mother was a narcissist, so the signs are hella easy for me to spot and as a result I don't keep a big social circle. First red flag I see your ass is out, you're dead to me. Plus, I'm not exactly "neurotypical" so I have a higher incentive to protect myself from people that would otherwise be out to do me harm. For people who do struggle out there, it's a good thing men like him are starting to say the quiet parts out loud. Let the trash to itself out. I feel incredibly lucky to not have dealt with a person like this in a relationship.
The fact that men are out here like this is SCARY and so sad 💔💔💔. I feel for women that are trying to heal and run into men like him. We've come so far for this -ish.
Dudes that look like ladies are always a dealbreaker for me!! These goofies are just too strange to have conversations with, if they could take all that energy and put it into these trauma filled communities/families….who knows? Life could be so much better 🤣😂😅
I was looking for someone to make a comment about his appearance! I feel EXACT same way as you ! I literally keep getting vibes that he likes ♂️. He has feminine behavior.
I’m so glad he made these videos. Some women have a very hard time believing that people do things like this. This guy is more than a narcissist he might rate high in sociopathy.
This may be a good time to revisit the statement that 'he's just not that into you if..." First on the list would be when they make excuses about anything that equates to you getting short changed on time, communication, affection, respect, etc. DONT FALL FOR IT!! A person who is into you will match your energy.
6:58 He never said he like emotionally damaged “WOMAN”, he only said emotionally damaged. I don’t think he likes women EXCLUSIVELY. He batting for both teams most definitely 😂
This is strange and scary as heck. The only positive is that he lays it out so it is easier to spot even if you try to gaslight yourself and give people the benefit of the doubt
The way i would absolutely destroy everything about him if we dated . I had an ex like this , i could read his every move and knew everything he is going to do long before he did it . He thought he would play me but i ruined his life and dumped him instead .
I would never trust a grown male with braids or twists in his hair anyways! Too confused about trying to con women on the one hand, and then look and be like us on the other! #IdentityConfusion
This man seems like a member of the alphabet community to me, but I appreciate males like him putting their predatory tactics online so women will see and take note. They take advantage of our kindness, desire to fix broken men, and our built-in nurturing qualities to manipulate us.
You know BW are a part of the Pride community too right? So you’re still hurting other BW trying to ignorantly insult that dude. A lot of dudes are dL and struggling, the ones who harass women like that. Ppl who a part of the Pride community are usually OUT. More harm than good was made in your statement
I actually feel Nauseous after watching that…. What has happened to some of us?!?… Literal instructions on how to further emotionally damage already emotionally damaged people …smh … Jesus can’t get here fast enough!
True. I've run into some lesbians who act just like men. They learned to be players from MEN and think the tactics are sound because they've proven to work.
I'm so happy I came across this video...I was with a man for about 6mnths and noticed he was trying to use those tactics, cut it off and it's so liberating to catch the signs early now... with that being said, biblically speaking: The men have become Delilah's..... they see us as the Samsons.... stay strong, all of you who are on your healing journeys. They are seeking out our weaknesses to ONLY use it for their own sociopathic reasons.... No need to share your past or your traumas in the courting/dating phase. Take that time to vet these ppl out and feel no ways about it!❤
Great advice ✊🏽❤️👏🏽 definitely needed this comment Glory be to God bcuz that's where I messed up telling all my business early in the relationship 🤦🏾♀️
"The men have become Delilahs and they see us as Samsons." Look up Scandinavian mythology. In it, the trickster Loki cuts off the hair of Sif, Thor's wife, who is Goddess of family, marriage, the bloodlines, hearth and agriculture, while she is asleep. Out of spite, one supposes, or to brag about sleeping with her perchance (given he was somehow in her bedroom while Thor was away). Maybe he imagined he would get her in trouble with her Æsir husband, as Sif belongs to the god family of the Vanir, an older god family more concerned with fertility and more open in their relations, than the more warlike and legalistic Æsir. But when Thor returns, it doesn't go that way. Thor is in stead livid with Loki, and basically tells him he must procure a head of hair for Sif that is AT LEAST as beautiful as what he took, or else Thor will basically kill him. So Loki is forced to go to three dwarven smiths, the Sons of Ivaldi, and with much difficulty persuade them to make a head of hair out of gold, which upon its attachment to Sif's head sticks there, and grows like real hair, and leaves her even more beautiful than before. (Scandinavian myth, so of course it's golden hair, but the colour is goddamn irrelevant. It's precious and it's magical and it's powerful, that's the point of it). If they have cut your hair, just remember that: Loki always ends up making life more difficult for himself, and in fact some of the most constructive outcomes happen when this cosmic clown tries to get one-over on people. Which he invariably does, and he never gets wiser. Leave him behind, and cultivate your beautiful hair. You have earned it, and more.
All this energy could've been put into getting a bag, changing the black community for the better, pursuing emotional intelligence or growing spiritually. These mens are done done out here
@N McPhee Its called being psychotic. When have these people ever helped the community. let alone contribute to anything especially if it doesn’t benefit them? This is what they know so this is what they do.
Ive recently shared with a guy why i was thankful for our time together. Ive learned a lot but ill never tell another guy what i learned from him. As someone posted on another page. We have to get back in the habit of keeping lessons close to our hearts. We have to listen more. Men tell on themselves everytime they open their mouths
Ladies ladies ladies...people like this cannot keep up the facade. I remember a woman on Oprah back in the 90's that said to the audience and especially women: When dating, do not get physical or too emotionally invested into a man for SIX months. She was booed on stage. She was correct. Time tells all. These types cannot keep up the show. They will literally drop you or ghost you for no reason because they are not making headway or getting the supply they need. Count it as a blessing and move on. By the way: this man is on an express elevator to hell...going down...so just let him heap coals upon his own head.
Women evolved to be better manipulators and seducers. It used to be our main and only tool for navigating society. If Women really wanted to... males would be mentally fucked. Deep down they are terrified of rejection by women and that's why they do shit like this. Dont undrrestimate your power ladies Also, get the Great Equalizer; god's gift to women, aka a Gun
Wow...my mouth dropped. @BurbNBougie: Thank you for sharing this. Apparently there are an infinite number of ways to manipulate women, and BM have made a point of studying and practicing them all. We need to know this stuff so we can protect ourselves. Thank you for helping us do that.
The energy they use manipulating women they should use it to better themselves and their community the world would be a better place. Only thing waiting for these men are hell and destruction.
@@theangryblackman5054 Absolutely. The world would be a much better place, and the Blk community a much better community, if BM refocused their energies on addressing their issues instead of trying to manipulate and control women.
@@Lynn.B.Exactly he’s using it for bad purposes smh 🤦🏽♀️ Its too much “strategizing” going on out here what happened to natural responses?!? If he is aware of certain spiritual or “healed” things why not share authentically or if don’t agree or it doesn’t work just don’t and say that! There is no need to feed a person’s ego however spiritual narcissism and bypassing does exists so he seems to be feeding into and encouraging THAT! I don’t have to feel like I know everything and honestly I’d rather talk about surface stuff at first and just have fun I don’t have to reveal how “deep” I am off top or to everybody I have some people I enjoy just having fun with and then some people if any you can talk “deep” too. But the part that REALLY got me was the end when he intentionally said he LIKES mentally ill damaged people NO his azz is a PREDATORRR!!! This is beyond just getting people to like you more he still didn’t answer the what the end goal is it’s definitely a hidden agenda and its to do just what he said…MANIPULATE!! And usually people not manipulating people for good reasons there is no need to get someone to like you more who first naturally like you for being yourself! And how the fuq he sayin he dealing with “healed” people but then say he likes dealing with damaged people naw I would stay farrrr away from him!! And I have had this done to me before even by family acting like they on what you on to get closer to you but after awhile especially if encountering certain topics and yall keep buttin heads when you start realizing they not about what they sayin and been lyin or even tryin to through you OFF path I had to ask myself what was the point of lyin tryin to get close to me for?!? Then I start REALLY paying attention and start “strategizing” myself but only by watching to see what kind of moves they making or BEEN making but now I’m really seeing justtt to make sure I’m really seein what I’m seein cause they usually get sloppy or show their true colors especially if you were “dumb” to at first and it was working to an extent or you playin dumb. Also if truly spiritual its your intuition and told you PAY ATTENTION!! Especially if they using their freewill to try and dupe you cause sometimes God will use genuine people who on path frfr as a “test” to see if a persok gonna take the bait and do you wrong…cause he smart too and using his intuition and empathy in a dark way but he probably got warnings to not take that route or people in his position they get warnings too and God gives time for them to choose different. Then even if didn’t get the big “reveal” you watched enough to know for sure they movin funny I just cut they azz off ESPECIALLY if I did try to say somethin not adding uo and they try and play me crazy playin on yo mental health. Then idgaf how they feel when I cut them off cause depending on how hard they goin wit it thinkin they slick I hurry UP and get they azz away from me and they can call me what they want to twist it I already know enough that they don’t care about ME so idgaf if they think its cold to cut them off! I don’t do revenge but I don’t fuq around wit that shii people thinkin they slick tryin to play me idgaf WHO they are cause I’m too understanding and chill for that it’s unnecessary to move like that with me!! Cause I am totally capable of talking to and enjoying people at whatever level I know them at as long as not trying to hurt me/others or be messy I actually ENJOY getting to know different kinds of people…they don’t HAVE to be the same as me to enjoy being around them! So he wants to be at a certain level of closeness but why tho?!? Thats the hidden agenda part he not gonna reveal but he definitely likes to mix revealing a little bit or put it in your face to where you think oh he COULDN’T be that obvious and make excuses FOR him no its just what he said it’s manipulation!! Unless he wants a damaged person to “help” them and even then some people don’t need bf/gf they need a therapist or don’t want to be helped but he has so much strategy goin on I HIGHLY doubt its to “help” anybody but himself or he gets a sick pleasure out of duping people and has a mental condition himself smmfh 😩🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽
So basically just keep our spiritual journeys to ourselves until the person has proved without a doubt they're not just manipulating us for fun. (I'd say this can go for friendships too) or get really good at reading people.
I ain’t gon lie though if I was a man I’d choose a pick mesha too 😅😂 I believe that is what he was going at. I’m not mad at him cuz at least he’s honest ! Showing us & shedding light on the truth… gotta be careful & discerning out here ladies! Becoz Dating ain’t for the weak…. & this coming from a former pick me. That’s why I’m ona break from these dating streets atm. Learning all these tactics. & Focusing on me. & my womanhood… gotta rejuvenate recover and heal before we play game. 🌹
Yikes yikes yikes. 😬 imagine the hard work he does intentionally manipulating… instead of just being a decent human being?! 🤯 This genuinely made my stomach turn and it also made me smile. I thought of the many times a certain man in my life used his manipulation powers on me, with much success. That was then. It feels amazing to let a snake talk and finish and simply respond “no.” with no explanation or qualifiers or pretense at even trying to consider, sympathize, empathize, understand.. or even listen. It feels good. After watching this I feel freer to be an even colder b. They are all diabolical.
So, help understand this… are we(BW) supposed to be unfazed by (BM) exposing the game that they play on us? I agree with you 💯. I appreciate him gleefully sharing his low self esteem tactics of wheeling a woman in . His evidentially he don’t feel that he is enough without putting on a show. Sad thing is he’s constantly overthinking life. He also feels that he must stay on point or else his world as he knows it will erupt. Although I appreciate the knowledge of what educating people in… it’s a hard pass for me. There has to be simpler way to enjoy life 💃🏾
Right Someone said under 30's this happens however over 40 n older it happens too and guess what over 40 you should not be playing games like a 20 something but it happens with one playing stupid games
“I think everyone should love eachother” but also “let me teach u how to manipulate a person into caring for you”. The hypocrisy of these struggle bandits is palpable. Its easy for them to lie bcuz they are lying to themselves first. He has to pick vulnerable women bcuz he doesnt think a sane person will love him bcuz deep down he knows he doesnt deserve it.
The fact that he specifically says to do this to healed women shows how much some men absolutely hate us. Smh.
HATE US WITH ALL THEIR HEART.
Some?? Some??
Ikr,Lovely Loner? It took me decades to realize that they really and truly do hate us💔
Agreed. But I also think it’s bc they can be an EASY target as they are trying to be a better person and may be willing to give a person the benefit of the doubt 😢 just like preying on religious people
@@TannyYem I thought about DL,too.
These males are truly sadistic. Guard your hearts ladies.
If their lips are moving, they’re *lying.* 🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️🙅🏾♀️
@nah...AGREED! Guard your uterus too, Ladies! 🙅🏽♀️
@@attitudeproblem6462 😂😂😂
@@tammybrigham7865 😂😂😂
Completely sadistic!!! Omg...!!
Imagine if more men actually used the amount of effort they use to manipulate in order to actually become a better person.
CHILE
Or actual build networks, jobs, housing, communities and institutions. But nooooooo.....
It wouldn't be as fun for them
Many men do but those men usually got heartbroken or cheated on by a triflin ass woman so they done chasing women they’re chasing their purpose. That’s the answer to all the “where have all the good men gone” posts…
Exactly
Biggest red flag 🚩 is when someone says “I’m not a bad guy” or in his case “I’m not that bad of a guy” it’s basically an admission of guilt. If anyone says this RUN!!!!!!!
Agreed or not all men or women are like this you just haven't found the right man yet, choose better next time.
That's like saying, "if you read his mind and knew what he was up to 24/7 maybe he wouldn't have killed those people!" They don't word it exactly like that but they make it feel like it's your responsibility to control the actions of a grown man and it's not each individual should be held accountable for there own actions. The rest of the population should not be blamed just because some moron couldn't control himself if I have to keep my legs closed then the way I see it he does too it's kind of impossible for anyone to do that if you keep hassling them to sleep with you.
And he shall cause their tongues to fall upon themselvea
Or when they say they're a good person
@@thiccredgyal3404yup. They should need to say it if they are it
They always tell on themselves.
Honestly as an empath I run into men like this a lot and my first instinct is always right when they start talking “ this person isn’t genuine” and ladies always trust your first gut instinct. It will save you from so much heart ache.
Same
So true! And I used to discard my first impressions of people to give them benefit of a doubt, only to be proven right later.
Fortunately, I’ve smarten up.
Yep, same. But my BS meter is so strong now. I just block ppl lol
They will put in all of that effort to deceive women, but won't put in the effort to find a job or build anything. Avoid these bums at all costs.
Right. Probably Slumming in his mammy basement.
Was just about to say the same damn thing before stumbling across your comment. Im sick of them.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙌🏿
You preaching tonight.
It's because most men get jobs so they can have access to women. If we women gave ourselves to them freely, humanity would still be living in the stone age.
Very very very few men have a real purpose - other than getting laid - when it comes to work.
the amount of energy he spends on manipulating to avoid rejection in uncanny
‼️‼️ underrated comment
@@KissMyVenusDimples513 ikr, I was just thinking (s)he's figured it out, this guy has a dangerously high fear of rejection
🏆
@@nekesamichelle1400 That's what narcissism is. All this to avoid rejection and it's sad. I rather just isolate myself.
Edit:But just like with sociopathy it comes from when you let trauma get to you and give you a reprobate mind.
Yeah low self-esteem and obsession with attention. Narcissistic af. I have autism and I’m female so I’ve got to study manipulation because I’m so susceptible to it. Ugh.
This is the same guy who made a Tiktok saying he was dating a girl and they got in a fight and she was saying he doesn't care that he hurt her. She started crying "...a real guttural cry, a mentally ill cry.." and he's just listening and doesn't feel a thing and tells the girl he doesn't care and to find someone else. He said he felt annoyed but also enjoyed the fact the fact that he meant so much to the girl. So... yeah 😬 very dangerous to say the least.
Sounds like sociopath
Wow! He is a narc of the highest level. Only a narcissist would get annoyed at someone's pain. I used to be in a relationship with one. He was annoyed that I got bronchitis and had coughing fits...even though he is the one who gave me the cold that morphed into bronchitis! When he had diverticulitis and was in severe pain, I didn't mock him or tell him that his whining was annoying me, though.
I thought he looked familiar! He's a sick one for sure.
@@VLP_123 He’s also a sociopath if that’s true. They like empathy. They just see everything as a game of power.
He's karma is waiting now...
This is why when you're just getting to know someone you gotta keep things vague and cryptic. I always know they're trying to play me when they keep asking things like "what I like in a partner." That's when you say something vague like "oh... I don't like to go into things with expectations or rigidity. I just like to enjoy the experience and see where it goes."
That one alone literally saves me every time. The look on their face when they don't get the answers they want and they're trying to manipulate. Lolol. They end up thinking I'm so chill and exposing themselves so quickly. Just make them feel accepted and comfortable and they'll expose themselves soooo fast that it's unreal. Then you block and move on and never contact again.
Smart.
This is a great tactic. Imma use this. You're the real mvp.
This comment deserves more likes and eyeballs. Sadly, women play right into their sick game because for once they believe they’ve met a man who is truly interested in them when really, he’s gathering intel so he can craft a custom made persona so you’ll drop your guard.
When I tried a dating app A guy asked me that and I instinctual got weary of the question. I feel things so deeply something about it felt off and left him on read.
I didn't know this was a known manipulative tatic at the time but I did have the thought he asked in order to pretend to be what I want. I'm so grateful to be in tune with my intuition. Has kept me safe throughout the years even if everybody doesn't understand it.
I did that same thing with my last guy. Had enough bad experiences before that my instincts won't let me NOT be careful with men. What I wasn't prepared for was how absolutely shattered I got this time, when I quickly saw what he was really like. I had fallen for him hard already, when we were friends (or so I thought). And while we had been friends, he had exactly said to me how he admired that I was levelheaded and gotten my stuff sorted and healed.
So, never mind relationships of a romantic nature; The grief that someone I thought was at least *a friend* would do this, the grief to basically realise that *someone would hate me just because I was doing okay*.... to discover that the person you like actually *hates you*.... It hurt so bad it paralysed me, and it meant I just sat there in the situation for longer than I should. ;_; but your advice is solid. But, be careful ladies. And do not blame yourself or each other if you find yourself paralysed. These specific creatures are so so poisonous, and we can show caution and discernment - but we cannot give them the power of building a world wherein we can never be vulnerable.
But, oh is that wisdom always too dearly bought.
We really got people out here teaching people how to be a narcissistic abuser…crazy
He says he doesn't believe in harming anyone, but unashamedly promotes deceiving people in order to get what he wants. 🙄🙄
He’s a sociopath what do we expect. He is letting everyone know who he is, now if a person is dumb enough to bite the bait then that’s on them.
He's not the brightest apple in the basket.
That is I just him gaslighting when he says that
@@TheMspoodle2 Right!
It isn't that they know a lot or are smart. When you know what they are up to, their manipulations make no sense, and you can see them for the worthless people that they are. These people have to lie and manipulate because if they were their realselves, no one would want them. They know that, so they lie. They also choose people who aren't used to scum like them, so they take them at their word, which really shouldn't be an issue if they were with a normal decent person.
Unfortunately, they aren't with a decent person.
He’s definitely a narcissist. I have a cousin that talks just the way he does. It’s never their fault and always yours for feeling the way you do. I cut him off and never looked back.
Even talking to them or watching their shit is draining! That’s how I know I need to dead that shit.
I knew he was a narcissist when he use the words "no contact"
This is Beyond narcissism though! He’s a bright yellow sign sociopath. Once he’s hit a certain number of people from manipulating, he will become an addict with a superiority/invincibility complex and once his manipulation stops working he will become more desperate and dangerous due to his complex of “well it worked before in all these women so why isn’t it working now” his anger will consume him due to his ego and complex and he will eventually probably kill a woman who does the same to him ir if he desperately wants something he hasn’t had in a while and needs from her and she is his last resort .
@@BootyWarrior80892 oh damn!!!
He is more then Just a narcissist.
People need to stay away from him.
They read and write at a second grade level yet have a PhD in manipulation. Ladies they're making us look like fools. Please please stop giving men the time of day.
Yup! 💯💯💯 How is it possible to get played by a low IQ having idiot and still claim victim? Women have to think logically and progressive.
Most of them aren't this advanced.
@Bunchie Love they aren't but even babies know how to get their way. They know how to tap into the part of you that wants to nurture and open...that's why he said vulnerable
Omg!
Lmaooooo this comment wins.
His eyes are dead af. It's definitely giving sociopathic energy
the thing about putting in that much effort into pretending to be someone you’re not, it doesn’t last for long because sooner or later they will get tired and start to show their true colours. this is horrifying.
Its also a lot of effort just for someone to like you.
The fact that they are going THIS hard rather than just being better people is BONKERS.
The fact that he had convinced himself that his intentions are pure and he is not responsible for how someone interprets his content is dangerous!
That was my thought as well… like, you put all this work at faking being a “good guy” instead of just working to be a good guy…
It’s more fun being evil then good
Every men that ever told me he was a "good guy" always turned out to be a real piece of work. Thats why as women we don't like "nice guys",but they try to twist that to we do not want a genuine kind man. These men spend so much time playing the "nice guy" character and the "bad guy" character that they have no real personality. They fluctuate between extremes but are shocked when we don't want to be around them because it's so annoying when a man is acting hard to get.
No, this is just "typical pathology" of those guys NEVER ever taking accountability at ALL cost, they run from it.
He didn’t convince himself. He’s manipulating right in the video. Didn’t you see the smerk? I gay after this. Smh
I didn't realise the manipulation was so intentional.
It's just so calculated. I can't even be compassionate for men who are trying but aren't quite there anymore.
I don't date people who are trying to change anymore, it's either you have what I am looking for and you act like it.
@@disabledbabe truth! Like come correct or die
That's the trap! Don't date men who are 'trying' or 'aren't there yet'. Bw are too quick to fall in love with a man's potential. You have to see him for what he is right now, not what he could be. Understand that it he's over 18, his personality is pretty much set. Hes not going to change.
I'm sorry but what did you think manipulation was if not that?
I had a guy and one of my groups who had a tell-all moment about his manipulation tactics. He even spilled how men identify vulnerable women. They definitely know what they're doing and who to do it to.
This is also why you don’t tell men what you want in a man. Many of them are narcissist. I never tell a man what I want in a man.
How is this helpful? I'm just curious.
If you are dealing with a narcissist specifically, they are trying to be whatever it is you want to be in hopes to get under your skin. And do it as long as it takes before they can abuse you mentally with free reign. A lot of men ask women what they want in a man to become that. Or mirror that even if that’s not who he is. Don’t tell him what you want in a man. Don’t even act appreciative when he’s the bare minimum of what you want. Just watch, and listen to what he is saying. Someone can only pretend to be someone they are not but for so long. Especially when they don’t know what makes you tick. The more someone knows, the easier it is to manipulate you emotionally. They can just make assumptions, and try to work with what they have. But if they believe they have you pegged, they will take it and run. It’s just like when men think you will never leave. They will disrespect you while you’re there because they don’t see you going anywhere. But, when you leave of your own volition and don’t come back, it hits them hard. That’s where the regrets come in for them as well. That’s why men, particularly exes will come back. Even after they’ve hurt you. I’ve got men I dated years ago STILL wishing I would give them the time of day for this very reason.
For me, the less I’ve told a man, the harder it’s been for him to manipulate me. The more emotional, open, and welcoming I was with a man, the easier it’s been to be manipulated, and find myself looking stupid over someone who honestly didn’t care. A man that cares about you, loves you, respects you isn’t trying to figure out how to control you emotionally. He’s either a good man or he’s not. He won’t need manipulation tactics. But, it’s wise to guard your heart.
@ceteris paribus When you show your hand by telling them exactly what you want in a man, you've given them the playbook to your heart, and all they have to do is PRETEND to be all those things long enough to get their hooks in you emotionally. Then, once they know they've got your heart and mind under lock and key, they will begin devaluing you and breaking you down from the inside out! A genuine man will be either all or some of those things on his own, and without your prompting, which is exactly why you don't tell them. Your only job is to watch, listen, and see who they CONSISTENTLY are.
When someone asks this I simply say I’ll know it when I experience it.
Just let us show our true selves. The garbage will sort it self out ❤️
He should stop playing with women and “Live his truth” 💅🏽
Since you mentioned Truth, you might be interested in the #SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet movement 🌸
Right. I literally just said this. He is definitely into men
The dangly earrings is the #1 red flag of all! 🚩🚨🚩🚨🚩🚨🚩
😂 truth
He says he likes troubled & emotionally damaged women… sooo when one of them snap on him & unalive him he deserves no sympathy
That’s what’s going to happen to some of these dudes. There’s only so much
a person can take before they become unhinged.
That's exactly what I was thinking. He gonna f around and find out.
We mentally ill women don't like him, either. At least, the ones amongst us who are well-functioning adults and are dependably responsible for our own decisions and actions. As a woman with schizophrenia, I would stay the hell away from this psychopath.
💅🏾
Reading this fucked up my mind 🤦🏾♀️
Naw! Those tactics can’t work if you cut a man off from the first sniff of bullshit. Don’t let it mature into a relationship. Don’t even give them a 1 second of a chance to correct themselves. If they don’t come correct from the jump- CUT IT. If they do something or say something that doesn’t feel right to you- CUT IT. Do NOT make excuses for his lack of anything. Do NOT substitute the “potential you see in him” for who you think he is currently. Do NOT EVER say “it’s ok.” Do NOT accept apologies. If he does or says something you don’t like, call him out on his BULLSHIT and CUT IT. Do NOT answer his call. Do NOT text him back. Block his number. Let his men-friends have him sis.
👏
And if you don’t do the above, theyll jump in and devalue you in their eyes. Then they treat you according to that lower worth. They are always looking for something to devalue you. As small as it is, they’ll use it against you. They just can’t meet a woman on an even platform. Always cut your girlfriend down.
This is a person who actively seeks to emotionally abuse other women and teaching others how to. He should be reported to the authorities for domestic abuse, as well as having his platforms taken down. Dangerous
He's a narcissist and/or psychopath, but mainly leaning towards narcissism. Explains how he tries to explain all of his actions, applying a method to his madness, and absolutely not seeing anything wrong for it + having zero accountability.
They way he talked about healed people implies that he doesn't believe that they're actually healed. He looked down on them and treated the things they say as worthless instead of as a way out of trauma... So, he basically doesn't really believe that ANYONE can heal.
It’s amazing how ppl put sooooooo much energy into being a f’d up person….. it’s really Disgusting 👎🏻
Especially when what he’s talking about doing is way harder than just facing yourself like wow dude the gymnastics he did instead of walking the straight line of healing is insane 😂😂
Yup
@@PreciousForReal Exactly! Just sickening!
It’s so insanely evil smh this why I don’t trust anybody. I got like 1 friend and no relationship.
This is a good example of weaponized incompetence. Ladies, at our grown age we should not be playing these kind of games. Men are serial daters. If he hasn't figured it out by now, its because he doesn't want to.
Exactly! The minute a male starts talking about problems and flaws, I point him to the Google machine to start finding solutions 😂😂😂. I’m not a helper monkey or an emotional support animal 🤷🏾♀️
@@asiahenry7798 amen! We are in the age of information for a reason sir.
*the short white woman jumping up and down in the back of the crowd* 📣 AGREED!!!!!
Men invented dating (aka boyfriend/girlfriend relationships) to make women feel like they’re in serious, monogamous relationships. In the interim, the man gets sx while planning his transition to the next new woman.
@@asiahenry7798 This. I’m not here to help anyone learn how to be a better man. He either needs it all together or I’m gone. These “healed women” he’s referring to and coming across aren’t really healed. Because if they were they’d pass him by as soon as he listed those red flag flaws and gave fake compliments before he even really knew them.
What if they put all this work into building wealth? He damn near has a whole sadistic plan 🧐. It seems as though planning and execution is not an issue with them, just the fact that they’re putting their energy towards wickedness and hating women. I feel no empathy for them whatsoever. I don’t feel bad for their “loneliness” and struggles, couldn’t care less 🤷♀️.
Excellent point! All the energy focused on a worthless goal.
@@monicasalyer8875 It speaks to their true hatred. Their hatred overwhelms them so much that they have to do this. Even if you do sleep with the woman… then what? That’s it? It accomplishes nothing much anyway.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Because it's easier and less effort to target and victimize women.
And wats more crazy is they don’t use the energy to at least build with 1 woman. The point is to make as many victims as they can just for some 😺. They will have a horrible portfolio if they were investors. No long term thinking at all
One word for this guy..... KARMA. One day, he's going to meet his match....actually someone even MORE calculated and devious than he. And she's going to destroy him. It's just how energy works.
He’s speaking facts because this is literally their behavior & he’s telling on himself! I’m a people watcher & after watching tons of people, the trick to it has always been to get you to believe you’re special. Once they do that, they have you in their trap. You’re not actually special, but they finessed you with numerous tactics to convince you that you are indeed special or “different” in their eyes. After that’s done & you’re all invested, they will start to show their ass if they haven’t already. It’s wild & it’s insane that people even think like this
I know this comment is old, but i just had to say YES. I went slow with a narcissist and he got BIG MAD that I wouldn't "invest". They are looking for women who get way overly invested in them emotionally because it's much easier to control you. What I did was always approach situations with him from a lens of "what he's saying COULD be true or maybe not, but time will tell." That keeps the emotional investment down. I believe real relationships should go slow anyway and manipulators keep trying to push you to go faster.
I thank him and his earrings for his service. A healed woman would actually take it reallllll slow with a walking 🚩 who says the things he mentioned. A healed woman would not think they can use their cooch + meditation to help him learn to be a better communicator. That's a journey he has to go on his own. 🙄
A healed woman would not give him the time of day as soon as he opened his mouth.
Lmaooooo I died at the earrings part
His earrings 😂😂😂
😂😭😂 girl not the earrings! It's funny you said that because that's what I was looking at the entire time and his body movements. If you know you know 😬👀 men that actually love women and not trying to be one would never speak like this. Coward vibes. Yikes.
Yea I’m so done thinking I can save people. Thinking objectively while dating could save a lot of people because so many of us have fallen for the fluttery words that happen so quickly and the love bombing until we learned better.
his own words betray him. he says he doesnt condone using these tactics to harm anyone, then says they have been "used AGAINST" people of all genders and orientations. it's pretty clear he see relationships as adversarial. in that context, if one person wins, they other person has to lose. when you lie to some one and waste their time, you are harming them.
if you have to trick someone into feeling a certain way about you, then they don't actually feel that way about you. they feel that way about the person you pretended to be.
Exactly 💯 it's all a game to them.
THIS!☝🏽
It was manipulation tactic.
@@singingviewerww1660hoot. He really effed his own self.
He's forgetting that there's a thing called spiritual discernment. A person can talk all they want but their true nature will become clear. The challenge with most of us is to stop ignoring or explaining away that "gut feeling" we have about people.
He doesn't strike me as a person who can hide his creepy nature very well anyway.
Exactly, I can tell I would never give him the time of day. I trust my gut.
The Gut never liessss
And this is why dark empaths are necessary. I cannot wait until he meets the right one.
Be ruthless ladies. "Everyone makes mistakes, but u ain't finna make none over here. Kay?!?! Walk off...😆" makes em mad af that you won't even give them the time of day.
He’s just outing himself as a Narcissist. This type of Narcissist tends to hang out in cities or in outer fringes. They like to take down healers, talented people, starseeds, etc. His big issue is that he’s soulless and doesn’t have any depth so wants to hurt others who have that and try to steal it from them. You can even hear it in his voice, it’s bland without tone because there’s no emotion or conviction 💙🙏🏻💙
By "this type" I'm sure that you're talking about skin color because the way he thinks is what is in question and I know men of ALL colors who have the ability to THINK like this 💯
@@sarangtokki2045 Not at all, you’re reading into it. If I wanted to out a race I would’ve. We all know Narcissists come in every color of the rainbow 🌈
💙🙏🏻💙
@@sarangtokki2045 you are the worst, she obviously said “this type of narcissist” stop choosing what you want to see in what other people say and go find happiness please
💯
This is why I am convinced the NARCS are demons. They attack those who are an asset to others.
I know sometimes people complain about folks especially the younger generation AKA pretty much anyone under 30 talking too much and revealing too much on TikTok. But...I really appreciate moments like this. Spill it all narcs!
I just hope the needy women & men really listen.
Yuuuuup, social media is the Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath & serial k-illers 🔪 favor place to be😩
Thats exactly what I get from him narc vibes.😕
He's so evil he's his own disclaimer. He feels as though showing his face an his game.. he's not liable for anything he does. This type of person deserves zero contact from anyone.
There is a channel on here called Mental Healness. He is diagnosed NPD and is actively in therapy. His whole channel is dedicated to helping people who are targeted and abused by narcissists. He explains a lot if the thought processes and warning signs and it’s awesome when his wife comes on to help answer questions both with him and on her own. Just thought I’d put this info here for someone who may need it.
I want to thank this man for revealing more tactics used by people like him. Another thing to look out for and avoid while dating. I have noticed many guys say things like “wow, you’re a beautiful person” or gas me up on some random stuff I’ve spoken about genuinely. I always found it weird because these men barely knew me and they were giving me such compliments. I found it very fake but gave them the benefit of the doubt. Now I will not lmao 🚩
Yep I also find it very fake lol
Pretend you don't notice and play in they face.
These men don't even have a choice in it I don't think. Theres some kind of devine force making them expose themselves cause it doesn't make sense for them to be telling on themselves like that are doing, but some women will still be deaf to all of this. Y'all better get on the ark
Start answering every compliment with”Yeah, I know.” If a male gets angry when you agree with his “compliment” instead of immediately thanking him, girl, run!
Yes because all that gassing up is fake as hell.
His second suggestion was just "treat women as whole people & not just sex/romance objects". This is all so much extra work when you could just act right.
This dude is a sociopath and he thinks everyone else is a sociopath too. He thinks when people are being kind and genuine they're running some kind of game.
If a person's actions are not consistent with their words --- just walk away.
Wow. 👍👍👍
This is generally true but I think we forget that manipulators KNOW that now. So they know how to be consistent at the right times to make you think they're not a manipulator. Manipulation evolves. They're always studying their prey, seeing what you believe, what your values are and trying to figure out how to exploit what you think. So please, the little tatics and things they tell you online to identify manipulators are true, but also outdated for some of the more sophisticated ones.
@@Liz-wz8dh
What is "consistent at the right times?" There's no such thing. Narcs and manipulators aren't evil masterminds. They rely on naïve people with weak boundaries to "benefit-of-the-doubt" them nonstop.
Works every time. Though the commenter above me is correct, they are getting smarter. The demon I was with started making excuses that seemed valid at the time to spend less time with me. He did that not just because he could do extracurricular activities with others, but that the less time he spent with me, the more the real him could be hidden. Pretending is hard work you know😂 and I was already starting to call him out.
This is why you can't play therapist to these fellas. If a man says he struggles with communication...dip on him!
@@marvinpercival4717 😂dip!
"I struggle with communication"
Ok, so what does that mean... like does that mean you're going to try or is that the queue for me to leave?
Don't let that mess it up for the regulars😅 sheesh
@@marvinpercival4717 see how you got yo ass dipped on for a month? 🤣🤣🤣
@@Vincisomething Inwoukd take it as a que to leave...its a setup...
Guy asked me “so what, you’re just gonna be single for the rest of your life?” Lookin that way, sir. Lookin the way.
Yes 😊
It’s the smirk whilst saying “I don’t approve of it”... He’s dangerous and he’s teaching others how to be as well
I've been telling women for years that some men target them and seek them out when they have NOT done the work on themselves. They seek to use you.
This is nothing new, ladies. This tactic has been around forever & if I may, please let me share a passage from the quintessential Russian novel that demonstrates it perfectly; written in 1866:
"When the heart of a woman experiences pity for a fallen man, that's the most dangerous thing for her. She Immediately she wants to save him, make him listen to reason, to restore him to life, to summon him to nobler aims; to initiate him into a new life, a new activity.
It's well known what can be DREAMED UP in this vein.
I realized it & IMMEDIATELY knew that the bird was flying into the net ON ITS OWN; and I prepared myself."
So, as it has always been in fiction, so it is in real life ladies. Please be smart & don't be talked out of your armor. 💛
Thanks for sharing! Is this Dostoevsky??
Okay please drop down the book title. This video has scared me. I want to be prepared... If anyone has anymore suggestions.... Do let it slip by....
Waiting for the book title as well!
Book's Name/Title: Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
@@autumxxleaves4186 Yes. Crime & Punishment.
It's giving my girl got stolen! It's giving mommy neglected me. It's giving I want to be liked. It's giving grooming. It's giving desperate and insecure. It's giving me the creeps weirdo. For why? He's articulate but with a dirty spirit. For that he will end up alone. sadly, Or worse.
Hearing him talk is draining is be out.
Exactly
I was thinking the same thing…one cannot go around being a total a-hole but think nothing injurious or homicidal will ever happen to them.
He won't. He will be just fine. There is always some 🤡 who is gonna fall for his tactics and stay with him for the long haul. I see it everyday.
@@Trinitytruth7 grow up. Terrible people be out here thriving every day.
Men just keep telling everybody how much they hate women. Side note, you're looking fab, sis!💛
🤎🤎🤎
@@BurbNBougie this is also why, when you try to blame patriarchy for mens behaviour and lack of emotion, i gravely disagree. Most of them know what they are doing. They are not victims of anything. They want power (in society in general)and emotions/empathy are a hindrance to that. So they have for most of history, offset that role to women.
Now that women are not staying relationships as they used to, men are forced to do their own emotional labour. In this moment they decide that they are the victims of patriarchy.
I dunno, I feel like this guy would be just as likely to manipulate men.
There are women posting the same videos. This has nothing to do with gender, it's human beings. Some people will always be manipulative
@@ahmorgan lies. This stunt you just tried to pull proves OPs point.
When he started listing his type that's when it got scary. Whew. Ladies be safe out here
Single life is looking better and better everyday! Whew chile…..these men are wicked!
I heard something today: youre either predator or prey. So we can get upset or we can learn a thing or two because its going to be done to us regardless and if so we should know how to flip it and reverse it to get what we want. So im taking notes 📝 Idc if its "petty" or "immature" because even good men can be manipulative and will be to some degree.
Yup
Which is why I recommend all of us read The Art of Seduction and The 48 Laws of Power. Even if never use the tactics, you’ll be better able to spot them when they try to use them in you. Stay ahead ladies.
Exactly. When men try to manipulate me, I let them think they do but they don't know I know their tactics. It's hysterical how they hate it when you act like them.
@@leeroyjenkins05 truth! Thankful they are exposing themselves online.
That’s right, baby! Get them before they get you. Prey upon or become prey.
This is why you never tell a man about your previous relationships and where they went wrong.
They will find a way around it.
Also never tell a man how to fix himself. That is for his therapist.
When a man tells you they arent good st something that is him twlling you he is very very bad at it.
Example he isnt great at texting this means he is very verya bad at texting
If hes not a great communicator this means hes very very bad at communicating. Do not listen to the fact that he is working on it.
I took a screenshot. This will be a good lesson
is anyone else getting 💅vibes from him?
also, it's almost they don't want us to like them at all. if the real version of you is trash and the fake version of you is trash, what exactly is there to "submit" to?
There's a few granules of sugar in the tank. I believe it.
Exactly!!!🌈
Narcissism in "straight" men = 90% DL
Yes, at first, but also his type is likely suburban white girls. He's obviously one of those alt guys that like a trap/rock mix, vintage anime & painting their nails black. I always confuse them for gay guys too, but they are usually bi tho. They're extremely feminine for some reason.
@@inactiveaccount6106 right he’s catty and bitter.
Anybody else peep the long dangly prom earrings??? He wore in second clip 😂 lol i could never take a dude s3rious as his earrings swaying back n forth 😅
I've seen recent videos of him. He loves his dangly earrings. I really do need to post some recent videos from him.
@@BurbNBougie wowzers
Yet men constantly telling women to choose better after they done got hurt by these demons. I’m slowly agreeing with K Michelle when she said “Men aren’t good people”
I’ve had a guy tell me he had a “hero’s complex” and that he felt he needed to save women. I looked at him with the most confused expression and told him “I don’t need saving.” 🎉
@@peacelove7437 No suport for the mentality as stated.
Don't care if many women do the only thing they were socially sanctioned for, if they are living in that society. Men have many, many socially sanctioned roles and still manage to mess them up. Men, as you can see, have a contract with other men, some breakem and the rest blame them for being broken.
No support for this at all.
This is not the way to peace or love.
I just ran in to a future talker I peeped game and dipped 😅 thank you 🙏🏽
Yesss!! We saving lives!! Please share these
I would love to hear the story and how you were able to handle the guy😊
@Baby
A ‘future faker’.
@@Morenita570 asked me all kinds of stuff about how I would raise our kids I was like this is the second date then when I wasn’t going to give him any and keep it on dating and getting to know each other he magically can’t text as much unless he wants to invite me over lol the games they play
What's a future faker?
I sound like a broken record, but I'm so happy that I'm single and celibate and out of this ridiculous and dangerous game. I don't entertain men. I'm very satisfied with my toys and basking in my health and peace.
Them earrings are a red flag for me 😂😂😂😂🚩🚩🚩🚩
Omg this got me rethinking my entire relationship 🥺🥺🤦🏾♀️
My perspective is that he has a very fundamental disdain for his fellow humans. The fact that he thinks faking interest in the “bullshit” of other people’s lives is a viable way to make them like him more is what gave it away for me. He doesn’t actually like other people, he just wants things out of them. It’s a nihilistic view of the world that almost makes me feel bad for him. Almost.
And this, my friends, is why you DON'T GIVE MEN A CHANCE. If he's not quite there in ANY AREA, LEAVE!
I used to joke around about men going to weekly meetings. At these meetings, they would discuss how to aggravate women and do sh*tty stuff. I was pissed to find out I was pretty damn close.
@Day Thank you for the warning. I'm really curious though. Do you think I should still have a look at it?
Now they're just online listening at Alpha Male Strategies and Kevin Samuels videos.
@KayDee So they don't get treated like less than by women who can be manipulative and sneaky. This guys message was clearly gender neutral, but somehow, this turned into a BM bashing contest 😂!
I'm pretty freaking sure you are.
He can be as disgusting as he chooses to the thing is no matter how deceiving, manipulative, narcissistic traits ppl showcase at the end of the day energy doesn't lie. And your intuition will always, absolutely work for your highest good. Never go against your intuition. May he always and forever receive the same energy he puts out into the collective.
"I'm not good at something" is always an excuse not to improve. As I tell my son, "It takes practice."
1. Dark Psychology: (3 Books in 1) by Jonathan Mind
2. In Sheep’s Clothing by George K. Simon Jr.
3. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
4. Confessions of a Sociopath by M.E. Thomas
5. The Mystery Method by Mystery
6. Beyond Persuasion by Rebecca Dolton
7. 30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics by Adelyn Birch
If you want to know how to not fall victim to these things, knowing the information here can help.
How to win friends & influence people
by Dale Carnegie.
Read and applied by Charles Manson.
Wow! Exactly. I'm not upset about this guy and sitting here memorizing his face and taking mental notes.
Thaaank you 🫡💯❣️
My ex husband bought all three of the Dark Psychology books… to use… against ME. He almost got me to commit suicide.
@@zaylinstar8883 OmGosh 🥺
I am so sorry, my Ex husband had these traits & qualities built in him naturally as a Narcissist, Sociopath & Psychopath...
I almost did that when I was pregnant with our last child, told him I was going to with some 💊's while I was 7 months pregnant. He was leaving me after I found out he was cheating on me with men, women & Wana be womens. He was holding our 4 year olds hands as he walked out the door & told me "B*!@& do it", I looked at them leave the door slammed & I thought "Ain't nooooo MF way I'ma give him or anyone else the satisfaction, or leave him to raise my daughters alone"‼️ Then I cried out to the Most High God & he saved me...
Keep trusting God, they reap what they sow. My Ex is miserable, has 3-5 kids new, 3-4 baby mamas with 2sets of ghetto twins.
Stays trying to get back with me😁..
Stay prayed up so that you heal, you're none of the wicked things he projected, God bless 💐 ✝️📖🧎🏽♀️
@@DandyDuh can you atleast say how did he save you and what did he do to save you?
This is why women need to learn to shut up about their trauma because these men will use it against you
Period
That’s not how normal relationships should operate. Y’all all giving out bad advise. If you can’t communicate with your partner then why are you with them? Consistent dick? Desperation?
In time. Women tell all on the first date - that has to stop.
@Jaren From Venus I think they're talking about casual dates, not a longterm relationship where you trust your partner
@SK876 I had a guy with very strong narc traits try to do the "I'm always a victim" tactic and would bring up insecurities in a way where it felt like fishing for something. It was weird.
He's lucky I'm not like him because I know his insecurities, and he doesn't know anything about me lol.
Ladies a romanian philosopher (I don't remember which one and I don't want to quote the wrong one) said something to the effect of:the sucking up they do to you today is the price you have to pay for the betrayal that is to come tomorrow. If a man keeps complimenting you and is agreeable in everything that should be a huge red flag cause once you get married and get tied down witha baby he WILL show his ass. That's why temperament tests are necessary.
My mother was a narcissist, so the signs are hella easy for me to spot and as a result I don't keep a big social circle. First red flag I see your ass is out, you're dead to me. Plus, I'm not exactly "neurotypical" so I have a higher incentive to protect myself from people that would otherwise be out to do me harm. For people who do struggle out there, it's a good thing men like him are starting to say the quiet parts out loud. Let the trash to itself out. I feel incredibly lucky to not have dealt with a person like this in a relationship.
The fact that men are out here like this is SCARY and so sad 💔💔💔. I feel for women that are trying to heal and run into men like him. We've come so far for this -ish.
Dudes that look like ladies are always a dealbreaker for me!! These goofies are just too strange to have conversations with, if they could take all that energy and put it into these trauma filled communities/families….who knows? Life could be so much better 🤣😂😅
Yeah, hes giving a young rick james
I was looking for someone to make a comment about his appearance!
I feel EXACT same way as you !
I literally keep getting vibes that he likes ♂️. He has feminine behavior.
I cant belive he really posted these videos ...what sick world do we live in 2023? 😭
Right!!!??? Different days just showing his depravity
At least he exposed the tricks now we’ll pay more attention to them.
Thank God him and his ilk posted these videos so we can know better and choose better.
I’m so glad he made these videos. Some women have a very hard time believing that people do things like this. This guy is more than a narcissist he might rate high in sociopathy.
His earrings look very similar to a pair I have 😂!
This may be a good time to revisit the statement that 'he's just not that into you if..." First on the list would be when they make excuses about anything that equates to you getting short changed on time, communication, affection, respect, etc. DONT FALL FOR IT!! A person who is into you will match your energy.
He’s giving all the secrets on how he manipulates his boyfriends 🍿🍿😂
He's dl for sure all narcs are
6:58 He never said he like emotionally damaged “WOMAN”, he only said emotionally damaged. I don’t think he likes women EXCLUSIVELY. He batting for both teams most definitely 😂
He’s a sociopath, to them food is food - they won’t discriminate.
@@Glowing-zr6vg I like that analogy 😂 It’s not funny, but it’s funny.
This is strange and scary as heck. The only positive is that he lays it out so it is easier to spot even if you try to gaslight yourself and give people the benefit of the doubt
Little does he know truly healed people already know. It’s about the actions not words baby. And once you fuck up we out.
The way i would absolutely destroy everything about him if we dated .
I had an ex like this , i could read his every move and knew everything he is going to do long before he did it . He thought he would play me but i ruined his life and dumped him instead .
I need every person to stay away from this man, you don’t want this person as a friend nor a partner.
Very deceitful and immature.
I would never trust a grown male with braids or twists in his hair anyways! Too confused about trying to con women on the one hand, and then look and be like us on the other! #IdentityConfusion
It's like training a sociopath how to fake care on that first clip.
This man seems like a member of the alphabet community to me, but I appreciate males like him putting their predatory tactics online so women will see and take note. They take advantage of our kindness, desire to fix broken men, and our built-in nurturing qualities to manipulate us.
You know BW are a part of the Pride community too right? So you’re still hurting other BW trying to ignorantly insult that dude. A lot of dudes are dL and struggling, the ones who harass women like that. Ppl who a part of the Pride community are usually OUT. More harm than good was made in your statement
I felt the same thing
@@codewordeiei0404 stfu with that gaslighting bullshat
Is he even a straight man? SMH 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
He’s gay I don’t know why y’all think he’s talking about women
I actually feel Nauseous after watching that…. What has happened to some of us?!?… Literal instructions on how to further emotionally damage already emotionally damaged people …smh … Jesus can’t get here fast enough!
As a lesbian this is not just men. This is women as well and this video just put me on. This is crazy
True. I've run into some lesbians who act just like men. They learned to be players from MEN and think the tactics are sound because they've proven to work.
I'm so happy I came across this video...I was with a man for about 6mnths and noticed he was trying to use those tactics, cut it off and it's so liberating to catch the signs early now... with that being said, biblically speaking: The men have become Delilah's..... they see us as the Samsons.... stay strong, all of you who are on your healing journeys. They are seeking out our weaknesses to ONLY use it for their own sociopathic reasons.... No need to share your past or your traumas in the courting/dating phase. Take that time to vet these ppl out and feel no ways about it!❤
Great advice ✊🏽❤️👏🏽 definitely needed this comment Glory be to God bcuz that's where I messed up telling all my business early in the relationship 🤦🏾♀️
Exactly!!
Couldn’t agree with you more, especially on the part of not sharing your past traumas. Well said!👏🏿💯
"The men have become Delilahs and they see us as Samsons."
Look up Scandinavian mythology. In it, the trickster Loki cuts off the hair of Sif, Thor's wife, who is Goddess of family, marriage, the bloodlines, hearth and agriculture, while she is asleep. Out of spite, one supposes, or to brag about sleeping with her perchance (given he was somehow in her bedroom while Thor was away). Maybe he imagined he would get her in trouble with her Æsir husband, as Sif belongs to the god family of the Vanir, an older god family more concerned with fertility and more open in their relations, than the more warlike and legalistic Æsir.
But when Thor returns, it doesn't go that way. Thor is in stead livid with Loki, and basically tells him he must procure a head of hair for Sif that is AT LEAST as beautiful as what he took, or else Thor will basically kill him.
So Loki is forced to go to three dwarven smiths, the Sons of Ivaldi, and with much difficulty persuade them to make a head of hair out of gold, which upon its attachment to Sif's head sticks there, and grows like real hair, and leaves her even more beautiful than before. (Scandinavian myth, so of course it's golden hair, but the colour is goddamn irrelevant. It's precious and it's magical and it's powerful, that's the point of it).
If they have cut your hair, just remember that: Loki always ends up making life more difficult for himself, and in fact some of the most constructive outcomes happen when this cosmic clown tries to get one-over on people. Which he invariably does, and he never gets wiser.
Leave him behind, and cultivate your beautiful hair. You have earned it, and more.
th-cam.com/video/jO61brX2rMA/w-d-xo.html
All this energy could've been put into getting a bag, changing the black community for the better, pursuing emotional intelligence or growing spiritually. These mens are done done out here
What does it mean to get a bag?
@@HexagonSun990getting money
Exactly 💯
@N McPhee Its called being psychotic. When have these people ever helped the community. let alone contribute to anything especially if it doesn’t benefit them? This is what they know so this is what they do.
Ive recently shared with a guy why i was thankful for our time together.
Ive learned a lot but ill never tell another guy what i learned from him.
As someone posted on another page. We have to get back in the habit of keeping lessons close to our hearts.
We have to listen more. Men tell on themselves everytime they open their mouths
You should review “The Game.” They’ve been selling these sadistic tactics for a long time.
Ladies ladies ladies...people like this cannot keep up the facade. I remember a woman on Oprah back in the 90's that said to the audience and especially women: When dating, do not get physical or too emotionally invested into a man for SIX months. She was booed on stage. She was correct. Time tells all. These types cannot keep up the show. They will literally drop you or ghost you for no reason because they are not making headway or getting the supply they need. Count it as a blessing and move on. By the way: this man is on an express elevator to hell...going down...so just let him heap coals upon his own head.
Thanks Tyrone, I’m gonna use all those tactics on the next male I meet 👍.
*Ain’t no fun when the rabbits got the gun*
😹😹😹
UNO REVERSE 🌚 cuz I had the same thought
Same. Let's give them a taste of their own medicine. 😊
Nah... I'm out. 😅 I just wanna put more energy into self-protection. I'm done playing games with adult humans.
Women evolved to be better manipulators and seducers. It used to be our main and only tool for navigating society. If Women really wanted to... males would be mentally fucked. Deep down they are terrified of rejection by women and that's why they do shit like this. Dont undrrestimate your power ladies
Also, get the Great Equalizer; god's gift to women, aka a Gun
Wow...my mouth dropped. @BurbNBougie: Thank you for sharing this. Apparently there are an infinite number of ways to manipulate women, and BM have made a point of studying and practicing them all. We need to know this stuff so we can protect ourselves. Thank you for helping us do that.
And just listen to how articulate he is. You know he's a chameleon
@@BurbNBougie Yes! He's articulate and very clear thinking...but totally immoral.
The energy they use manipulating women they should use it to better themselves and their community the world would be a better place. Only thing waiting for these men are hell and destruction.
@@theangryblackman5054 Absolutely. The world would be a much better place, and the Blk community a much better community, if BM refocused their energies on addressing their issues instead of trying to manipulate and control women.
@@Lynn.B.Exactly he’s using it for bad purposes smh 🤦🏽♀️ Its too much “strategizing” going on out here what happened to natural responses?!? If he is aware of certain spiritual or “healed” things why not share authentically or if don’t agree or it doesn’t work just don’t and say that! There is no need to feed a person’s ego however spiritual narcissism and bypassing does exists so he seems to be feeding into and encouraging THAT! I don’t have to feel like I know everything and honestly I’d rather talk about surface stuff at first and just have fun I don’t have to reveal how “deep” I am off top or to everybody I have some people I enjoy just having fun with and then some people if any you can talk “deep” too. But the part that REALLY got me was the end when he intentionally said he LIKES mentally ill damaged people NO his azz is a PREDATORRR!!! This is beyond just getting people to like you more he still didn’t answer the what the end goal is it’s definitely a hidden agenda and its to do just what he said…MANIPULATE!! And usually people not manipulating people for good reasons there is no need to get someone to like you more who first naturally like you for being yourself! And how the fuq he sayin he dealing with “healed” people but then say he likes dealing with damaged people naw I would stay farrrr away from him!! And I have had this done to me before even by family acting like they on what you on to get closer to you but after awhile especially if encountering certain topics and yall keep buttin heads when you start realizing they not about what they sayin and been lyin or even tryin to through you OFF path I had to ask myself what was the point of lyin tryin to get close to me for?!? Then I start REALLY paying attention and start “strategizing” myself but only by watching to see what kind of moves they making or BEEN making but now I’m really seeing justtt to make sure I’m really seein what I’m seein cause they usually get sloppy or show their true colors especially if you were “dumb” to at first and it was working to an extent or you playin dumb. Also if truly spiritual its your intuition and told you PAY ATTENTION!! Especially if they using their freewill to try and dupe you cause sometimes God will use genuine people who on path frfr as a “test” to see if a persok gonna take the bait and do you wrong…cause he smart too and using his intuition and empathy in a dark way but he probably got warnings to not take that route or people in his position they get warnings too and God gives time for them to choose different. Then even if didn’t get the big “reveal” you watched enough to know for sure they movin funny I just cut they azz off ESPECIALLY if I did try to say somethin not adding uo and they try and play me crazy playin on yo mental health. Then idgaf how they feel when I cut them off cause depending on how hard they goin wit it thinkin they slick I hurry UP and get they azz away from me and they can call me what they want to twist it I already know enough that they don’t care about ME so idgaf if they think its cold to cut them off! I don’t do revenge but I don’t fuq around wit that shii people thinkin they slick tryin to play me idgaf WHO they are cause I’m too understanding and chill for that it’s unnecessary to move like that with me!! Cause I am totally capable of talking to and enjoying people at whatever level I know them at as long as not trying to hurt me/others or be messy I actually ENJOY getting to know different kinds of people…they don’t HAVE to be the same as me to enjoy being around them! So he wants to be at a certain level of closeness but why tho?!? Thats the hidden agenda part he not gonna reveal but he definitely likes to mix revealing a little bit or put it in your face to where you think oh he COULDN’T be that obvious and make excuses FOR him no its just what he said it’s manipulation!! Unless he wants a damaged person to “help” them and even then some people don’t need bf/gf they need a therapist or don’t want to be helped but he has so much strategy goin on I HIGHLY doubt its to “help” anybody but himself or he gets a sick pleasure out of duping people and has a mental condition himself smmfh 😩🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽
So basically just keep our spiritual journeys to ourselves until the person has proved without a doubt they're not just manipulating us for fun. (I'd say this can go for friendships too) or get really good at reading people.
Absolutely
Exactly! Friendships, coworkerships, family relationships, EVERYTHING!
I ain’t gon lie though if I was a man I’d choose a pick mesha too 😅😂 I believe that is what he was going at. I’m not mad at him cuz at least he’s honest ! Showing us & shedding light on the truth… gotta be careful & discerning out here ladies! Becoz Dating ain’t for the weak…. & this coming from a former pick me. That’s why I’m ona break from these dating streets atm. Learning all these tactics. & Focusing on me. & my womanhood… gotta rejuvenate recover and heal before we play game. 🌹
The best way to handle this is to never tell them about your past relationships
Yikes yikes yikes. 😬 imagine the hard work he does intentionally manipulating… instead of just being a decent human being?! 🤯 This genuinely made my stomach turn and it also made me smile. I thought of the many times a certain man in my life used his manipulation powers on me, with much success. That was then. It feels amazing to let a snake talk and finish and simply respond “no.” with no explanation or qualifiers or pretense at even trying to consider, sympathize, empathize, understand.. or even listen. It feels good. After watching this I feel freer to be an even colder b. They are all diabolical.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Yes Ma'am.
So, help understand this… are we(BW) supposed to be unfazed by (BM) exposing the game that they play on us? I agree with you 💯. I appreciate him gleefully sharing his low self esteem tactics of wheeling a woman in . His evidentially he don’t feel that he is enough without putting on a show. Sad thing is he’s constantly overthinking life. He also feels that he must stay on point or else his world as he knows it will erupt. Although I appreciate the knowledge of what educating people in… it’s a hard pass for me. There has to be simpler way to enjoy life 💃🏾
Always happy when people like this expose themselves for the world to see. Exactly the type I’m glad to stay away from. Hope he heals someday.
He thinks he’s really doing something by flapping his gums 😅. He’s not as smart as he think he is.
Right Someone said under 30's this happens however over 40 n older it happens too and guess what over 40 you should not be playing games like a 20 something but it happens with one playing stupid games
He won’t - he’s at minimum a malignant narcissist, at most a sociopath. This is fun and FOOD for him.
“I think everyone should love eachother” but also “let me teach u how to manipulate a person into caring for you”. The hypocrisy of these struggle bandits is palpable. Its easy for them to lie bcuz they are lying to themselves first. He has to pick vulnerable women bcuz he doesnt think a sane person will love him bcuz deep down he knows he doesnt deserve it.
Daily reminder to be cruel to men at any and every opportunity. 💗 You've earned it.
It’s really not hard to be kind and loving in a relationship. These men are so extra with their manipulation. Like relax