7 Paradoxes That Will Change How You See Everything
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- Some of the most important truths in life are found in paradoxes. Paradoxes seem like opposites on the surface, but once you look deeper beneath what are seeming contradictions, there are real grains of wisdom that emerge.
In this video I cover some of the most life-changing paradoxes I’ve ever come across, and discuss how they can improve how you approach your life.
00:00:00 | Introduction
00:00:49 | Paradox #1: The more choices you have, the less happy you will be
00:07:25 | Paradox #2: Hard choices, easy life
00:11:45 | Paradox #3: What you hate in others, you’re avoiding in yourself
00:17:35 | Paradox #4: The more afraid you are of failing, the more likely you are to fail
00:21:48 | Paradox #5: The more something makes you uncomfortable, the more you should do it
00:26:15 | Paradox #6: The more connected we get, the more isolated we feel
00:31:10 | Paradox #7: The more afraid you are of death, the less you will enjoy life
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Paradox of choice: I have Netflix, Disney Plus and Amazon Prime but I can't figure out what to watch and scroll for a good 20 minutes. Then I give up and go to TH-cam and scroll for another 10 minutes.
Just don't sub that sh*t
And go out or use just TH-cam
Have activities. Find solutions
I remember growing up and REALLY looking forward to watching certain shows on network TV (4 channels). That anticipation and satisfaction is unmatched in the age of streaming.
1 // 0:49 The more choices you have, the less satisfied you are with each one. //
2 // 7:28 The harder you work, the easier your life gets. The more you avoid hard work, the more difficult your life gets. //
3 // 11:48 The more you hate a trait in someone else, the more likely you are avoiding it in yourself. //
4 // 17:35 The more afraid you are to fail, the more likely you are to fail. The more okay you're with failure, the less likely failure becomes. //
5 // 21:49 The more something makes you uncomfortable, the more you should probably do it. //
6 // 26:16 The more connected we get, the more isolated we seem to feel. //
7 // 31:11 The more afraid you are of death, the less you will be able to enjoy your life. //
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Thank you!
Thank you sir
1- the illusion of choice you don't have 2- the more hard work the more you get abused by others : be cautious 3- I am my worse judge on myself and most people I meet don't have half the standard that I have. 4- failure and not worth doing stuff are everywhere be cautious. 5- I am always uncomfortable, doing useless stuff , meeting empty people, trying to help people who don't even listen, most of it is a waste. 6- what's the point of connecting to low quality people bringing you down. 7- death is everywhere and only a question of time, I do not fear dying but losing loved ones or worse, leaving loved ones behind because of man made illness.
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I like the title so much that i want to know it's content but with all the boring mumbo jumbo talks i don't think it's worth it until i found your comment. Thank you for this.
I think the most interesting paradox that you implicitly stated is that:" The more you chase pleasure, the more miserable your life is"
I like uncomfortable conversations. Genuine uncomfortable conversations bring people together. I am extremely uncomfortable in an environment where everyone is avoiding important and uncomfortable conversations. I'll be sitting there thinking to myself...so we are going pretend that the tension will eventually go away and problems will result itself. 🤷♀️.
Go to hell. Are we slightly closer together now?
Me to!
SAME
I am in the same uncomfortable boat. Somehow, rowing this boat feels easier when everyone is going in the same direction and not pretending that we are all on a yacht. I don’t know where that analogy came from suddenly…😂 but that’s how I feel. 😅
Mark, I think you just explained clearly why toxic relationships and trauma bonds are so hard to break: they have so much friction and require so much effort, that they make all other relationships feel frictionless and unimportant in comparison. This suggests that a healthy relationship requires the Goldilocks zone of friction: enough to make it feel valuable, but not so much that it becomes toxic.
Now not later; maybe it's due to some that think it should be them. So they make comments like you.
another paradox to consider: the more you think of death, the more you live in the present
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🔄 *Paradox Introduction*
- Introduction to the concept of paradoxes, highlighting how they force holding opposing ideas.
- Teasing upcoming discussions on life-changing paradoxes.
00:28 🧠 *Paradox of Choice*
- Explaining the paradox of choice: more options lead to less satisfaction.
- Discussing the impact of abundant opportunities on mental health.
- Connecting the paradox to dating apps and the hidden cost of information overload.
02:49 🤝 *Freedom through Commitment*
- Exploring the idea of freedom through commitment in relationships and life choices.
- Sharing personal experiences of finding liberation in commitment.
- Discussing the misconception of associating freedom solely with having more choices.
07:17 🔄 *Hard Choices, Easy Life*
- Presenting the concept that hard choices lead to an easier life, and vice versa.
- Discussing the importance of discomfort and taking control of life direction.
- Highlighting the backward law and the relationship between discomfort and comfort.
09:38 🍔 *Shallow vs. Deep Happiness*
- Differentiating between shallow and deep happiness using dietary choices.
- Discussing the societal association of joy with unhealthy habits.
- Reflecting on personal experiences with lifestyle changes.
12:02 🔄 *Projecting Insecurities*
- Exploring the psychological concept of projection and its impact on relationships.
- Discussing the tendency to notice disliked traits in others that are denied in oneself.
- Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in interpersonal dynamics.
13:00 ⚖️ *Evaluating Judgments*
- Discussing the tendency to judge others based on one's own metrics.
- Analyzing the cultural and societal aspects of projecting insecurities.
- Reflecting on the connection between personal judgments and self-perception.
16:55 😨 *Fear of Failure*
- Presenting the self-fulfilling prophecy of fearing failure.
- Emphasizing the impact of expectations and pressure on performance.
- Sharing Jeff Bezos's 70% rule and its application to decision-making.
19:16 🚀 *Embracing Imperfection*
- Encouraging a proactive approach with 70-80% confidence in endeavors.
- Discussing the paralyzing effect of perfectionism.
- Sharing insights on unpredictability in audience reception and the need for adaptation.
21:16 🧠 *Learning from Imperfection*
- The 70% rule acknowledges that perfection is unattainable; optimizing for learning is key.
- Brendan emphasizes the value of learning quickly, even from imperfect actions.
- Recognizing that what seems 100% ready may not be and embracing the opportunity to learn.
21:50 🎭 *Embracing Discomfort*
- The more uncomfortable something makes you, the more valuable it might be.
- Overcoming the natural tendency to avoid uncomfortable thoughts leads to personal growth.
- Brendan and the host discuss personal experiences with leaning into discomfort.
23:18 🚀 *Disproportionate Rewards of Uncommon Actions*
- Doing what others fear often brings disproportionate rewards.
- Brendan shares insights on finding valuable opportunities in areas most people avoid.
- The premium attached to doing things others are unwilling to do.
24:18 🧭 *Fear as a Compass for Passion*
- Embracing fear can be a compass for discovering one's passion.
- Stephen Pressfield's concept of "the resistance" and its connection to valuable work.
- Suppressing outlier urges in youth and rediscovering them in adulthood.
26:18 🌐 *Paradox of Connectivity and Isolation*
- The more connected we become, the more isolated we feel.
- Discussion on the impact of technology and social media on meaningful human connection.
- Friction in communication as a necessary element for genuine connection.
28:45 🌎 *Globalized Identities and Frictionless Communication*
- New communication mediums remove friction but may make interactions feel emptier.
- People's identities becoming more globalized, detaching from local and personal connections.
- The value of friction in relationships and the concept of investing in connections.
31:19 💀 *Memento Mori: Confronting Fear of Death*
- The more afraid of death, the less enjoyment in life.
- Reflecting on mortality as a means to gauge the value and meaning of experiences.
- Personal experiences with death shaping perspectives and the importance of memento mori.
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This is a thought provoking and valuable reminder. Subtle shifts in focus and actions have a huge impact on the trajectory of your life. I watched this with my husband and it caused an interesting conversation and deeper connection for us.
I deleted Instagram off my phone last month because my feed was being inundated with so much bad news. And it wasn't just bad news, it was bad news pertaining to topics I could do almost nothing about (most of which didn't affect me directly anyways). I've become a lot happier since adopting the mindset of doing what I can and then not worrying about it. I can't somehow magically will myself into becoming the hero of the story by being angry.
The topic from the last section can be a real game changer for one's life if they're exposed to it early enough to not be too numb. I think the big thing is that those deaths have to really be close to you in a way where you account some of the details about it as if you were there. This mostly comes from close friends/classmates and immediate family.
I had close friends commit suicide, die to gun violence, and tragic accidents like carbon monoxide poisoning all before I was 18. It made life really finite and small for me seeing people I played basketball and study with not live to high school graduation. It also makes you really mindful of what you can do today to live life instead of waiting for tomorrow, because unfortunately tomorrow is where dreams go to die.
Got tips on what you can do today to live life?
I think there are things we obviously need to do that we can't get around (like jobs or children to take care of). Those are a component we can't escape that may not make it as enjoyable.
Outside of that, it's my belief that we really delude ourselves when thinking about what we want to do with our lives. We identify more a plethora of extreme cases of what living life looks like when in reality it's only a handful of things that are quite simple. Where we may say skydiving, backpacking across Europe, or fine dine with my friends, a different and more abstract way to approach those ideas is saying we want to "have new experiences, find excitement in our lives, and connect with those close to us".
So my tip is to first really sit with yourself and identify in a more abstract way what you want to spend your free-time doing, then from there find reasonable and attainable activities in your daily life that align with those. In this way you start today and over time you can build out to some of those more extreme cases.
I really like this format with the 2 in-house hosts discussing ideas. Even thought they're topics Mark mentioned before in his books and videos, they feel more original and engaging than having the same the same 6-8 faces that show up in every podcast out there sharing the same thoughts again and again and again
What they say about dating apps is true. If you go out and do things that you love, join groups, seminars, hobbiest classes you’ll meet someone who likes the same things as you 😮 vs wasting your time sorting through a bunch of people you probably have less in common with.
'Choice Paralysis' is one of the funniest aspects of our world.
The best example I know of how to illustrate this is the 'Tesco Jam Experiment' which is how I use to teach this concept in a business capacity
I’ve heard of a paradox (not sure if calling it a paradox is appropriate) where if you expect negative outcomes, then that increases the chance of them happening and vice versa for expecting positive outcomes, which I’m basically gonna shorten to “try your best to be positive”
Mark, grateful for each and every of the episodes!! Every time I learn so much and a light bulb 💡 powers on 🙏🏼🙌🏼
This was great, and reasonably lighthearted, just the way I like it.
Shared this with my family.
The more i learn the less i understand
Dunning- Kruger effect.
You are becoming wiser.
Yes
That is positive actually😋
You'll find that out anywaaaay
(Just like befooooore)
09:45 this is exactly how meditation has been for me. Sooooo hard in the beginning as my inner demons lined up to welcome me to my inner world. And now we be chillin and the hidden benefit is that I now see others behavior in a totally different lens. I take the world so much less personally and so much of it is in my new capacity to be with the "rejectable" parts of MYSELF. Very much like you were explaining the shadow. Facing the hard stuff inside myself has changed the entire world, or at least the effect the world has on me.
Hey Mark, I have watched a ton of all these videos, and podcasts related to the reality of life, paradoxes, stoicism, meaning of life, purpose, choices, etc etc from great personalities like you, Huberman, Rogan, Lex, TED talks and many more . I always question myself like "If these guys were in their early 20s(coz I'm rn) , would they have watched all this content of paradoxes, realities, advices, truth, do's and don'ts of life?". But then I feel like each person had their own story of life which consisted of different experiences, decisions, luck, timeline, situation, place, etc. Based on all these they have gained wisdom and created some advice/s in their domain of life. In this age every advice/truth is being bombarded through self-help books, podcasts, videos, and tweets, hence I just feel people in their 20s should create their own advice for themselves like you guys did in your life. It will be a hyper-personal advice that will work for that individual only. So Mark, should I know all this wisdom , truths, realities , paradoxes of life or will I just experience them in my 40s-50s when I will be connecting the dots of my life.
- A confused, curious, unsuccessful guy in his early 20s
It's both. I read constantly in my 20s and tried to vacuum up as much knowledge as I possibly could. I also tried and failed at a ton of things, figured out what worked for me and what didn't through trial and error. Ultimately you need both theory and practice. One doesn't work without the other.
I don't register as someone who is "super" successful but relatively successful in my career, appreciation of life, and sense of self. I'm in my mid-30s and in my early 20's I started focusing on consuming worthwhile content (similar to what you've mentioned)... what I'd relay to you from my personal experience is that searching for and surrounding yourself with worthwhile content to shift your perspective is a good thing so long as you don't drag yourself down by constantly comparing yourself and trying to measure your progress on grand scales. Avoid consuming so much information that it prevents you from going out into the world to test the waters. Focus on being a little bit better at exercising these life lessons day by day... and as you get older those actions build up until eventually you back look at who you were and the progress you've made will be staggeringly apparent. So, have some patience with yourself. As you mention, advice you consume is simply that, it may not be specific to each problem you face in your life. You won't be able to predict and "pre-learn" all the lessons of life before you encounter each challenging situation, learning on the spot and having some principles to lean on as you figure what you're doing matters more in my opinion. Best of luck. =)
A confused, curious, guy isn't unsuccessful in my estimation. Try measuring your success differently. You get to choose how you define success and you can change your mind over time. Good luck and I'd like to lift you up in your curiosity. You are successfully curious.
When I was a teenager, I sought out wisdom in books that gave valuable lessons on how to succeed in important things in life. That knowledge has helped me a ton and become very successful later in life.
@@IAmMarkManson Got it , thnks !! Ig I lack the practical part so will focus more on the practical aspects of life.
Thank-you, Mark. Committing to spending and enjoying time with people we care about and who care about us will bring joy even if it’s just hanging out
Thanks you guys for putting things in perspective..!
These podcasts really help me a lot..
I love all the ones I listen to! This one is one of my favourite! Thank you for doing it✨
Great video. I'm LOVING these podcasts, it's so satisfying to just watch you two talking about life. 🇧🇷
Thanks a lot ! you are helping me with these 7s
just keep going guys!
Although I know many of the above paradoxes you discussed this video still gave me new insights!
Thank you, your work helps me to overcome my difficulties in life.
Been away for a while, good to see Mark healthier and the channel finding its stride
Great episode! May I just recommend caution about narcissime because some people are suffering very deep and complexe blame shifting psychopathic games from manipulative individuals. They maybe profoundly isolated and confused, doubtig and blaming themselves, so it can be very harmful to dismiss them as narcissists themselves. 🙏 sure some people throw it around, but you never know who may be a real victim. ❤
Thanks for this Mark. Today was a day of reckoning for me and this was exactly what i needed brother...
Oh wow I love this. I always knew this to be true, but found it hard to explain to people. I usually have contradictory stances in regards to politics, as very often something that is good for the individual is not good for the group, or vice versa. People find that to be contradictory, but I think it's totally fine to take different perspectives when dealing with issues.
I could talk about this all day. Love the topic Mark.
Y'all are awesome! I learn so much from the introspection while watching these! Sometimes I consider going to see a therapist... But then I think to myself, "nah, I'll just watch some Mark Manson!"
Same here😂
Thanks for make this video bro, you help this to more knowing that book. Also, help me so much to know that all paradox in life.
my guyyyyyyyyyyyyyy Mark I read your book man and it has shifted my view of things man thanks and keep going
I experienced this first hand in my sales and ,marketing career. I built a career on helping people narrow down their choices. It seems, that is what a good "consultant" does. Ask the right questions. Narrow down the choices. Let them decide from their and identify blind spots they may have. Cheers Mark!
Love this conversation! Wish more people could just have these constructive, vulnerable & down to earth conversations. 👏
Thank you once again for providing such an incredible podcast. I deeply appreciate the valuable insights shared in this video, especially as someone who also struggles with commitment issues. Your explanation about the impact of having too many choices resonated strongly with me. It truly makes perfect sense that when we are faced with an abundance of options, we often find ourselves feeling unsatisfied with whatever choice we ultimately make.
Throughout my life, I have always considered myself to be someone who had a clear vision of what I wanted. However, everything changed after I graduated from college. I had a privilege of attending the art school of my dreams. Yet, as I approached graduation, I started experiencing a sense of uneasiness. The magnitude of possibilities and directions I could take in my career/personal life left me in a state of uncertainty, almost like a "failure to launch" mindset. I struggled with this for quite some time. Thanks to your podcast, I have gained a deeper understanding of why I found myself in that dark place. Thank you! Through each video I gain more clarity! 😊
Wow.🤯 I was literally just thinking about the fact that in order to experience *Happiness,* you must know the experience of unhappiness. Contrast is needed in order to identify/notice the experience. If happiness was the only emotion we could feel, then it would cease to “exist” because there’s nothing to compare it to. We would be numb/desensitized to it, & happiness would essentially be just a *neutral* experience. Make sense? Lol 😅🤔🫠
I like your insights very much. I've had similar thoughts throughout my life, and everything you say just resonates with me. Keep up the good work ❤
My child’s , preschool teacher had a big sign in her room, which was very obvious aimed at the parents. It said” there are no hard words there are only short words and long words” I really took that lesson to heart and tried to train my kid that there are simple solutions and complicated solutions. Not easy or hard solutions to remove emotion from what are essentially basic ordinary life choices
I met my fiancé 5 years ago on Tinder. We both had the intention to find a long term partner… it worked!
Very insightful podcast to help us understand ourselves, our perceptions, This has made me rethink my opinions of other people. The reality that we are the root of most problems we have with others is a big reality check.
So thought provoking and informative, thanks guys! I'm taking many golden nuggets from this episode.
When you talked about struggling with monogamy in your early life, it resonated with me a lot. And I am afraid of getting into a relationship for that excact reason, I am afraid (well, some other reason also), but regarding this issue, and how you told that after commitment to your relationship gave you mental freedom and you did not think about that anymore, that gave me hope, thank you for that.
brilliant video mark - a lot of them resonate with me, but especially the second one, the harder you work the easier it gets - in combination with the more something makes you uncomfortable, the more you should do it. I always tried to skip hard work, go the easy path, avoid hard things or work but I ended up exactly where I deserved, in a pile of stinky dogshit. Today I took action to change that and do the hardest thing available for a long period of time: learning for exams I always hated to put time into. Thanks, it liberated me to do it.
Hi Mark, Thank you for sharing
70% rule - I'm taking that with me!!!! Pretty much already living like this but never had a name for it other than being able to tolerate a certain level of "sloppiness" because I know it'll all get fixed once there's a bunch of people looking at it.
I love Mark Manson's outro. Literally the best podcast outro that suits the tittel of the podcast. It all seems very calculated, but the most interesting part is, it is not. It is all spontaneous. Making it the best outro of all time, in the history of podcast outros !!!
I learn more about myself and others through this podcast.
Information overload.
Thank you Mark, I'm new to the IDGAF fanclub but going thru a divorce as a 61yr old woman in the UK, your podcasts have saved me. I guess I'm not your typical follower, but being sick of naval gazing and beating myself up, I listen to you and I can unravel the mess I find myself in. I love the f**king humour and your advice kicks out all the bs, seeing problems as they really are. So many times you've discussed stuff and made me feel that there is life after a cheating husband. Btw In your latest Podcast I breathed a sigh of relief when you said you're not sticking to the Marathon Goal...its so cool you admit that and that running endlessly for hours isnt for everyone.
Really need this thank you mark
Now i'll start questioning everything to its core, thanks Mark!😁
Haha, as a powerlifter, I always love it when powerlifting (or physical activity in general) comes up in videos like this. I can't even describe how much powerlifting has improved my life. I honestly think it has made me a better person.
I tried to pay attention when I'm watching the podcast, but when Drew appears i get lost 😍😳
So smart, amazing voice, love it
I love the way that this podcast make me reflex about my hole life and then... that amazing end up, Love it, truly love it, you are a teacher man
It was really good... I actually re-watched it twice, making pauses to rethink/relate to myself...
Hi Mark, I am always in love with your content and some of your principles/ sayings have been put into practices in my own life. For this video, I have a question regarding paradox of choices and failure in this video. In the failure principles "The more afraid you are to fail, the more likely....", you mentioned about job opportunities which a person should come in with thoughts of "being excited about opportunities but there are many job opportunities, thus I am casual, be myself". Does it conflict with the paradox of choices because it means that person might lack commitment, that person have lots of job opportunities (lots of choices) thus there is no point to be sad and anxious? Could you please help explain it? Thank you
Really opened my eyes to understand why I project anger and look inside
I don't think we necessarily judge others the same way we judge ourselves. We tend to judge others by their actions and judge ourselves by our intentions. At least I know that's what I'm prone to do.
Thanks for using Throne from bring me the horizon in your intro and outro i love this song and the band 😁
Really enjoyed this video. A lot of great practical advice
The more something makes you uncomfortable, the more you should probably do it. The proportion of impact that something will have on the trajectory of your life is often directly proportional to how afraid you are of doing it or thinking about it. And so whenever you see fear, just instinctually lean into it. like me i don't my passion is and what can I do
I watch YT on Roku. I rarely come on phone so I can give you ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I don’t remember what but there was some things you said that I disagree with highly but overall I love your content, especially the piece on F yes or no.
And I didn’t read the book you’re known for, but I love the quote “giving too many fuck is bad for your mental health”
Thanks for your writing and keeping on producing quality positive content that enhances our lives.
Many good things in this video! Very valuable thank you
Very funny T-shirt Mark Manson 😂 Love your stuff Mark, your content is mostly the reason I developed and increased my self awareness skill during the last two years ❤ Keep it up!!
It's so edgy bro!
Things always boil down to 2 options and then I get analysis paralysis because both are good and bad in their own right. So I struggle, delay, and become paralyzed when the 2 options corner me. This has happened with 2 partners, 2 homes to potentially buy, 2 cars, 2 cities, 2 career options, even 2 couches, 2 beds, etc... it's pretty bad.
If both are equally good, I tend to flip a coin or ask someone else to choose. If I'm satisfied with the choice, great! If I'm dissatisfied with the pick, it probably means they weren't actually equal and I liked the other choice more even if I couldn't pinpoint it.
so many ads in this video.... TH-cam is making it harder and harder for people to stay here....
Amen.
Wow man . Ir was really good, really nice.. helped me have a few good moment of reflection in my Own Life. Thanks guys
Thanks for this video, I'll watch it again later :D I'm feel myself at a crossroad, it's good time to face the fear and make some steps
Hey man! THX that you doing this now. Was not expacting so mutch education when I first found your book. Thx for the work and I wish you the best of luck. Have Fun with this creator thing you doing now. Respect!
I met the man of my dreams on Tinder which was shocking to me. I think I’m the exception and not the rule though. We were both looking for forever and most people on dating apps aren’t.
He's cheating on you... sorry.
@@mgu1N1n1you’re projecting some deep rooted insecurities there buddy
I did the same!
"Sorry" said by a random person based only on the fact that he downloaded an APP.
There are lots of different people. I downloaded the app wanting something serious and I didn't get discouraged with the first "hey sexy". I kept repeating to myself that If I was on the app, there might be as well others with the same intentions
Enjoyed this one, thanks guys.
This one resonated with me. Thanks.
10:39 - i had a time in my life i used to call skittles "happiness pills"...
it was sort of ironic but i also really did eat a lot more of them when i was sad - i did track my skittles buying habits through different times and noticed that its getting problematic so i stopped with that habit, was also proud of myself for stopping and breaking into some healthier happiness
I absolutely appreciated the second paradox. Harold Bloom called it ‘the cultivation of difficult pleasures’. I love that ❤😊
Good video with a bunch of useful ideas. Remember though, watching self-help videos can become addictive too, when you are indefinitely watching it, looking for other interviews with "wise men". Sometimes it even can partially replace your social life.
Yeah, it can be addictive like netflix binge-watching.
THerefore, make sure to make pauses: after watching something like that, meditate on heard idea, note them down, plan its integration in your personal life, and act!
IDeas without any action are worth nothing.
It's when you act upon it, the change is made.
Here's a paradox: The more information that this informational channel gives to ostensibly give less eff's, the more I now know that makes me have more eff's.
This is a great video, exactly what I needed to hear
I wished I would have heard this when I was 20 and I would have been wise enough to accept it. When I was 20 I lived a scarcity mindset, I focused on what I didn't have. Today at 55 I focus on simplifying my life. At 20 I wanted to eat everything at the buffet table. Now, I want to choose and select only a very few things.
Like your sense of humour. Good stuff!😊
Your intro's give me chills!
Completely agree with the sugar discussion about joy.
What is the choice in the first place? Choosing is the opposite of acting without hesitation, which means the more choices available to you the more stress you have.
Amazing content as always❤
I'm so glad this podcasts exists
Este vídeo nos trouxe grandes reflexões de vida, obrigado 🇧🇷
Thanks y’all! Love y’all! c:
Fukin love you Mark, your are the best!
Really enjoyed this episode.
How and why would someone call their love ones and their partner/ex partner a narcissist? Their actions have to be crazy and extremely abusive I am assuming. Things didn't work between me and my ex. My mom and I don't see eyes to eyes alot of times...Sometimes things don't work out. Sometimes people that you love don't agree with you. So when people don't meet our expectations, we are going to start calling them a narcissist?! That's crazy.
Yes it's widespread ridiculousness.
Really good subject and episode
My problem is if I see somebody else doing what I want to do I no longer want to do it anymore, like I have to find something else for the sake of my individuality it's insane but true..
This is why as a minimalist I am very happy!
The paradigm of having more options creates less freedom is the feeling of anxiety that arises when making a decision in which you cannot choose the other options anymore. See it as opportunity costs translated to anxiety. You have anxiety (costs) because there are other opportunities.
"Hard choices, easy life, easy choices, hard life" - instantly thought of how this relates to addiction, and lo and behold it was said by someone in recovery!
The abundance of choice is insane. I get decision paralysis far too often because of it and I do exactly why. That's why Trader Joes is successful because they try to provide just a couple options of what they think is the best product. I also fully agree that the mirage of choice on dating apps is detrimental is so many ways. I'm guilty myself of thinking I shouldn't "settle" because there might be someone new to swipe on tomorrow.
The only abundance of choice I love is how the internet provides a music fan like myself the ability to explore music I'd never hear otherwise. That has been rewarding...though sometimes picking the next album to play is tough. But I can live with that.
wonderfull video , loved it , very sensible
Awesome! Mark - You are truly the Anthony Bourdain of philosophy. Keep doing what you do. #LovedPirate
i was listening to throne before watching the video and was so perplex when it started playing while the video was going
A really good episode, lots of pearls here.