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Ahhhh! It's after 11:00pm, and I just sent off a resume and cover letter to an employer who did not receive my first submission...Tonight is PAST the deadline for accepting resumes, but I sent a plea humbly asking for consideration. I began writing at 4:00pm, after I had arrived home early; I was allowed to leave work because someone had either fallen or was pushed from the 3rd floor, at the downtown library. I heard the impact and it has been emotionally traumatizing😢. As I crawled into bed and primed my iPad for some soothing evening relaxation, I was greeted by this gem of a vid, reminding me to take things...One Day at a Time🙏
İ look forward to watch your videos because i believe that they're useful for everyone. But, the worst thing with it is that it has no translation to my mother tongue(turkish) and i'm experiencing difficulty to be able to understand the videos exactly.(though i know English quite well. 😟
"If we reach the end of the day , no one has died, no limbs have been broken, few lines have been written, and one or two encouraging things have been said, then that's already an achievement worthy at the place at the altar of sanity". Wow
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin it's that thoughtless criticism that makes survival such an achievement. Some are more susceptible to feeling the pressures and frustrations of the time it takes to reach the goals we want to reach, than others. Surviving is still a victory; it means you didn't succumb to the weight on your shoulders and will build resilience over time. Take time to consider these things before you regurgitate someone else's faux motivational ramblings in future.
i'm not sure i agree.... and i say that as one who is always living day to day and always just fucking glad i made it to the end of another day. obv we're doing something wrong if that's how we're livng
We don't know what happiness is. And why we strive to get it and who said us to strive for a happiness life. To what life we must to strive 1) a happiness life or 2) a meaningful life?
@@peaceduke1 Happiness is contentment. And it is not something you achieve by striving for it. We should definitely strive to create a meaningful life.
"Don't wait to be successful at some future point. Have a successful relationship with the present moment and be fully present in whatever you are doing. That is success." -Eckhart Tolle
I was literally up all night yesterday feeling so overwhelmed by the future and by the task of continuing to try despite years of not seeing my goals come to fruition. It's like they knew exactly what I needed to hear with this video. But I suppose this is a clue that such disquietude is not just mine, but that it is a part of the human condition.
I had a stroke at 24 and almost died and could do almost nothing including speak. I now live at this pace with no shame and neither should anyone else, stroke or not. It was only til after I had this unfortunate situation happen that I realized I should have already been living there beforehand and that's how I got there in the first place.
1. Here is a fun story I love: "A very ambitious student went to a Zen master and said, “If I work very hard, how soon can I be enlightened?” The Zen master looked him up and down and said, “ 10 years.” The fellow said, “No, listen, I mean if I really work at it, how long-” The Zen master cut him off. “I’m sorry. I misjudged. 20 years.” ”Wait!” Said the young man, “You don’t understand! I’m-” “For you, 30 years,” said the Zen master." As a guitar teacher I an confirm! I have a dear student who is exactly like this. She is obsessed with a great outcome, all her hopes are put on that day in the future where she will be able to play that piece " perfectly". But until then, every single moment we practise is not a moment of JOY, but an obstacle she has to overcome to get to that one glorious moment of success. Some time ago we were playing Bach and she started to freak out after two bars. So I said: " But look Helga ( I changed the name ) , this is Bach , it is incredibly beautiful and calming, a gift to humanity, we are so priviledged to play this, we could enjoy every note of it. " I told her that when you go to see a movie, it is not that you endure the whole movie only to find out what will l happen in the end! You enjoy it. It is the same with a concert. You don't go there to hear the final chord. You love every moment of it. Well, but we often treat our lives, just the same way my student treated that piece by Bach...As the poet John O’Donahue writes: “We are so busy managing our lives, we forget this great mystery we are involved in.” 2. NO TIME TO RUSH I also absolutely love this very simple idea too: "We have no time to rush. When we walk half as fast, we see double as much." 3. WALK SLOWLY AND BOW OFTEN In this spirit, I wanted to share a truly wonderful poem by Marie Oliver, one of the greatest American poets of all time.She had spent most of her life taking long walks in the woods. And she wasn't rich or anything, she only had what she needed. She had an extremely painful childhood and she says: " The beauty of the world saved me". Well, and she saved many people through her poems! I have heard an absolutely wonderful interview with her on the On Being with Krista Tippett podcast and Krista said that many people have said that the poem " Wilde Geese" by Marie Oliver stopped them from commiting suicide! But I wanted to share another wonderful poem by her. Please read this slowly and more than once. It will fill you with peace and calm. Let us all " walk slowly and bow often"! WHEN I AM AMONG TREES by Mary Oliver When I am among the trees, especially the willows and the honey locust, equally the beech, the oaks, and the pines, they give off such hints of gladness. I would almost say that they save me, and daily. I am so distant from the hope of myself, in which I have goodness, and discernment, and never hurry through the world but walk slowly, and bow often. Around me the trees stir in their leaves and call out, “Stay awhile.” The light flows from their branches. And they call again, “It’s simple,” they say, “and you, too, have come into the world to do this, to go easy, to be filled with light, and to shine.” Thank you for this absolutely wonderful lesson and for the genius animation!
I really needed this today. I'm a terrible forward-thinker and have ALWAYS caused myself unnecessary stress and anxiety. This has grounded me ready to relax before bed. Thank you for your videos ✌
Interesting. I always felt like foreward thinking helped me have less anxiety. I would inquire more about what is going to happen, where I need to go, what I need to do, how the surrounding looked like. Not having to process all this on the spot and being able to plan for my energy levels, I believe, tends to give me more calm.
Funny thing is, sometimes we realize this truth about like, and then we forget them at some point. I think this channel to remind me of the things that are truly important.
I always say not living in the moment causes anxiety. You can only learn from the past and plan a better future. It makes no sense worrying about the past because it cannot be changed. And living in the past stops you from preparing for a better future. Living in the moment is the only balance.
I think one needs to learn from the past so that one can be informed so that one can make reasonable plans for the future in order to live a fullfilling life and avoid living as a robot or a vegetable. But ones primary focus needs to be on the now. It is literally everything we have and everything we are.
Sizano Green that’s right. The present is the only place where you could plan a future and learn from the past. In other words, if you aren’t present how are going to do either?
Love the Van Gogh reference. It is true most of the times - tomorrow will be different, maybe better, maybe worse, but different, and there's always hope it's gonna be better. Human resilience is astonishing
This is amazing! I’ve been through traumas, I’ve been close to death many times, so now, my philosophy of life is exactly like this. When I went out of hospital and the first thing I saw was a bird singing in a tree on a beautiful day of June, I understood how much little things are important. Laughing, hugging my dogs, watching a bee in my garden. Growing tomatoes and being proud. Or even staying in my bed because I’m too weak to do anything, but having a good film to watch or just contemplating the calm and serenity of my room. And every night, I try to remember how lucky I am to have made it all.
I had 3 productive meetings yesterday with my staff. I had guided some members of the team on their projects. Before going out to bed, I felt I didn't do anything, anything and that I should be working more. I am having troubles sleeping, because its all in my head. I want to figure it out all today. I want to achieve what I figured out today. Taking it one day at the time is a simple yet a powerful formula of success, happiness and romance. Thank you
*Mindful living* is the only thing that can help us to keep the sanity intact, especially in this fast pace digital world we live in. Life isn't that serious and unfortunately, many of us, tend to forget it.
I've been thinking about this to being sick the last two days and I haven't lied energy and feeling like a waste of space because I'm just a lying around but in all honesty what is a few days of lying around the rest of my life and contrast I'm still going to have a good life I just get a little too serious
"There is always a plan B", "Why you don't need to be exceptional", and now this? I swear the array of videos recently was curtailed for me. Thank you to the people running this channel. You guys genuinely make my life better.
There was a moment during a day in December 2017 that I vividly recall. I weighed 135 pounds more then than I do now, and I was struggling to catch my breath after some very light exercise (or what I'd consider light exercise today). Only three months into losing weight, and losing motivation and hope, becoming discouraged. I didn't transform overnight, or even in three months. I desperately wanted out of that body, and to manifest the person I saw inside me dying to come to life. But I told myself: I could be in chemotherapy; I could be engaged in military combat; I could be consumed by any number of miseries, true miseries. I was alive, I could feel the exertion of my body in response to my will, and I was doing something about the situation I was in. Today, I am a triathlete doing a half-Ironman in September and I swim bike run for fun, something I wouldn't have envisioned in December 2017. It really all is about taking it a day at a time, and all those days blur together and take you to a different place. Today, there are things that I wish were different or better about me, still. My weight loss didn't change that. But I also know that once, I was 373 pounds and thinking there was nothing that could be done about it. And all those blurred-together days happened, not even that many of them, and now I'm a half-Iron triathlete. Apropos for the challenges of today.
You inspire me to reach for my dreams. Your comment is an awesome testimony to the power we all have to change our life. We can all make tiny changes in our life whether it be physical change, etc. My 2020 will be a year of changing my mindset and focus. Instead of thinking and talking about whats going wrong i will be working on making tiny changes every day that improve the quality of my life. The biggest lesson i have learnt in the last year is how i can choose to repeatedly think positive thoughts instead of depressing ones.
Did u know that u go insane only when realised u wer doing everything in an automated sequence , that felling u get that the thought wer controlling u and ur whole existence was just the byproduct of your thoughts , when u realised that everything oppend up the reality of your existence , now that's scary to go through it alone
@@srinivasshinde6685 Is there a way to not go through it alone then? I mean it's not exactly easy to find and connect with the right people sometimes. And even if you find one, they may not be interested in a new friendship too. It's hard. But still, I might as well give it a shot: Anyone wanna chat? (Elo Seyo at Quora btw)
This is basically the same thing as living in the present moment. No more important day than today! Do what you can, when you can, the best you can and the rest will take care of itself. 💜
I’m 22 years old. I stumbled across The School of Life tonight, quite by accident. Two days ago I had an anxiety attack that lasted 6 hours long. My heart was quite literally beating outof my chest during that 6 hour period. I’m a 22 year old trying to figure it all out. I’m in school. I work for a family business. I have dreams of having a name on social media. Juggling all of that has really cost me living in the moment. I constantly am thinking ahead. I’ve lost a lot of time, and a lot of relationships because I have such trouble communicating. I always talk about the future. I always talk about the past. Nostalgia is important to me, I feel my better years we’re my teenage years, spinning around in a video game, making TH-cam videos. I’ve made some of my best memories and some of my best friends being on this platform, but it seems like my chapter as a TH-camr is done, and I struggle with that. Balancing work and school as well as trying to make rent and still find time to “be a kid” is tremendously hard. Thank you School of Life for showing me that I’m not the only that struggles with these concepts. Thank you for literally placing in my hands the content I NEED.
Try to do small steps towards your goal for the online presence. We should all have every day something good we like to do. Make a plan for your dream and then break into smaller bits. Maybe get a coach to help you
I have learned to say to myself 'we shall see' whenever I'm plagued with anxiety about the future, ambitions or aspirations. Somehow, it seems to blunt the stress and reduce the pressure yet guarantee progress, however small, in the right direction.
There’s nothing wrong with having a plan or working towards a long term goal, but do these things one day at a time. Don’t rush, time waits for nobody and the day you’re working towards will come, no matter if you rush or not.
This has been one of the life changing things I’ve learned when dealing with my depression. Staying present, it’s not always easy, periods of my life I let the ideas of future wants or past regrets and it will continue to happen. But most days I keep settled in the middle. Keeping grounded in present and what can be done now and accepting that things won’t happen as fast as we want.. people always wonder how I keep so nonchalant about setbacks. This is how. I’ve learned this because there will always be setbacks and times when you aren’t doing what you think you should be doing. Also I love these videos they’re good reminders to keep my psyche stable
"Just for today, I will try to live through this day and NOT tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do for 12 hours that which would appall me if I felt I had to keep it up for a lifetime" ❤🌻🦋 all the best to you on your journey!
shams ruhe don’t give up!!! I found this real life experience very helpful. I think it will help you... please, watch it!!! www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witnesses/experiences/bible-changes-lives/fed-up-with-my-lifestyle-video/
I finally got a free day from job, waking up this morning and as I was still in bed, 10 things to do occur in my mind. I have to read a few books, i have to clean something, go swimming, study one thing, study another, go out with friend, call mum.. bla bla. And here I am at youtube, watching this video half an hour after waking up. I am going to drink coffee and study one thing, but not whole, only 20%. and will enjoy in every moment of my young life. and also when i grow old, i will be happy and proud of myself
This video made me cry. Had it in my list of 100s of videos to watch but today was the day I needed it most after a major dark night of the soul yesterday after years of struggle with something.... that seemed to collapse. Thank you. This is one of the most beautiful channels on youtube
I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but these videos have pretty regularly helped me step back from the ledge. Whenever I have a bad episode of anxiety I like to watch these videos to bring me back to sturdy ground. They never fail
Antonio Liu I just finished Everything Is F***** last week. That book, this video, it's what I need to both solve problems and stop worrying about them at the same time.
"..our greatest enemy is that otherwise critical nector, Hope and the perplexing emotion it brings with it...impatience." felt this so much! so deeply. Setting smaller goals, living one day at a time. Breaking down huge goals into small achievable steps is the best thing that I found and practice regularly. This is by far the best and the most relatable and the most insightful and the most lovable video I have seen in my life till now. Thank you School of Life. I wish I get to meet your team some day.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
This goes into the list of my favourite videos because this very concept is one that I have struggled to accept all my life. Every day, I look at others and what they have accomplished, and I look at myself with disappointment in comparison. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
This voice brings me so much comfort. A voice that’s never incriminating of my feelings and thoughts, a voice that guides and provides clarity in places there often is so little of. A voice that’s understanding as if it’s listened to all your problems and rather than seeing you as broken & wrong, it sees you as human 🥺❤️ Sometimes we can’t go right to a therapist, sometimes we don’t feel any relief going face to face with someone to spill out our complicated life but still we crave some type of direction out of the chaos. This voice has helped me adjust my compass many times over some years & for that, I thank you! 🙏🏽
This video is exactly what I needed now,to remind me I am doing just fine. I am sort of pressured to make a life changing decision as soon as possible, causing me so much anxiety and unhappiness by thinking about it. When I choose to live in the moment, I feel already immensely better and grateful about life. I will not settle for less but I also don’t want to hope for perfection. One day at a time indeed.
Iv been trying to rush my spiritual growth and beating myself up if I don’t do yoga or meditation everyday but I know that the art of it is to be patient and let it come naturally and do a little bit everyday, it’s all about balance. Exactly what I needed Thank you School of life
Got this right on time. I'm trying to live day by day now. I'm tired of thinking about the future which I have no control over. I'm tired of having so many goals and not being to achieve any of them. Taking it day by day gives me so much more hope and I can take care of things that need to be done that day instead of worrying about how I will finish my degree, find the love of my life etc. Every day is a blessing.
Ironically, I got an advert advocating for rushing into the pursuit of success when I clicked on this video. The pressure is everywhere all the time. Thanks for your channel and the reminders of life not being all about wanting what we don't have and feeling bad if we don't have it now.
When I started living in the moment, life is more comfortable, positive and happy. But it is not easy to attain because everyday we meet and surrounded by negative people. Nonetheless, it takes commitment and meditation to maintain a harmonious and peaceful life.
As someone who has recently had a panic attack / mental breakdown and feels anxious often, this is a really great video to watch. I am worthy and I get to fail often, I am human. I'm slowly picking myself up off the floor and trying to take it day by day, I'm still feeling very vulnerable and wounded and that's okay, not everything has to be perfect and I don't always have to be high-energy happy go lucky, sometimes I can just be truthful and accept myself, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Incredible. This speaks to me in so many ways, I remember finally recovering from a rare vertigo sickness and as a previous hockey player it was devastating. To get back on the ice after months and months of problems, getting back to ice skating was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. I remember taking it all in and just being present and appreciating my life so much. I had tears in my eyes of happiness. The down in life is sometimes what we need to appreciate all we have. 🙏❤️
I was hoping for something to help me decide if I should get up from my sick-bed. I was unsure if it would help, or hinder my recovery. I found this, and it helps. Thank you
A serendipitous video for me today as I struggle to deal with a major flood event and the subsequent recovery. I know this concept well but I fail to remember this idea when faced with adversity. I’m looking forward to tomorrow morning armed with this reminder. Thank you 🙏
I want to think like this. I find it so hard to do consistently, I do it for awhile then return to my old habits. Thanks for this video. It truly helped
This is good advice. Sometimes when I feel like a failure, it's really hard for me to face trying again. It's important not to catastrophise, to appreciate what went well and that you're still breathing.
This one of the most beautiful and wisest things I have ever heard. Sheer poetry. It is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life. I am deeply grateful.
I have come to realise that completely dislocating all the bones in my foot this summer was one of the best things that ever happened to me as it completely changed my mindset and gave me a sense of perspective. Seeing the flowers in the local park really is a wonderous joy!
PS I WISH I could go to NYC conference but I'm stuck at home with my disabled parents, I'm unemployed, I'm not allowed etc. May be one day in the future I will start to achieve what I want. Also thank you for your simple yet effective videos. As a mid twenties adult, it's good to know that I am allowed to feel content just for surviving to the end of a day. That's powerful. Thank you.
This comes at such a good time. I've been working at being a full-time author for nearly a decade, and with my hope comes impatience. This video teaches me to temper my expectations, and remember to enjoy the process instead of obsessing over reaching the destination, to be grateful. Thank you, The School of Life!
"I love you, Alain de Botton!" - I constantly watch your videos with this thought. You are doing an enormously important job - you're showing us ulterior parts of reality which help to look at it deeper and wider so it makes us more alive, happier and wiser. Thank you so much!
THANK YOU. You have truly helped save my Life. I've become so.....drained, hopeless lately. Now, I truly just take it One Day At A Time. I don't plan for holidays or next month, next season, planning or looking for The New Normal.......I just want to make it through the day.
This perfectly encapsulates everything that I have come to learn over the last few years and and am now trying to instate in my life. Like George from Seinfeld doing 'the opposite' -- "This is my religion." I had a breakdown of psychological and physical health about 3 1/2 years ago. I had to drop out of college and was left with with chronic illness and fragile mental health. A year into it I also suffered a severe heartbreak, caused and greatly exacerbated by my situation. I have struggled to take the little steps forward and maintain that progress -- working part time, taking community college classes and finally returning to college part time, as well as making new friends and trying to have a semblance of a social life. It's especially hard because my problems are invisible (other than looking a bit frail), so I struggle to explain them to people. I most often just try to pretend everything is fine because it's the path of least resistance, especially around friends and acquaintances, but then I end up suffering more. It's maddening to try to think about how my life is going to work out -- how I'll ever be able to pursue any of my dreams, or even support myself in the long term; how I'll ever be able to have close and fulfilling and relationships again, both platonic and romantic; how I'll ever be fulfilled overall. I always go for a loop and thankfully I have found a bottom to hit -- this, right here -- taking it one day at a time. I give up everything else I'm holding on to and just take comfort in the little victories, in my routines, entertainment, all my privilege, and nature too.
This is something that is wisdom in the age of distractions and materialism. Our ancestors took it one day at a time, any person ull see contempt with life (who i call successful) lives in the present!!
@Fernando Caixeta....Sir, It isn't a religion or a circus to put faith in Jesus Christ, it is rather a relationship. Never discount the power of faith. All the best!
The part where the video talks about Van Gogh is so touching and heartfelt. I was having lots of panic attacks and I was going through a rough time when I was 15. I wouldn't go out of the house and I didn't want to leave my room. I was so scared and nervous at that point in my life and when I eventually walked outside, I just sat there, feeling the sun on my face and the heat warming my skin. The sounds of birds chirping and the feel of the grass on my feet and hands. I just sat there, in silence trying to enjoy some peace that I was desperately longing for, for months. I felt for a second that all my anxiety and fear went away. I slowly recovered day after day and went to my doctor to get on some meds. I'm 22 today and that was many years ago, but it changed me as a person and I feel that I have grown stronger. To anyone who is dealing with something like that, it will get better, you just need to take it one day at a time.
after living with anxiety for a while, i've come to realize how powerful my mind is. i've then decided how incredibly helpful it was to me to recognize how i think, and things that i could not control are generally what gives me anxiety. i started focusing on those things i could control, even the smallest things, and it helped. so much. but only recently, around perhaps october, i got to thinking about my future again because of someone very special to me. i said i focused on what i could control and that made me recognize that i could not control my future, too, so i quit thinking about my future. "the future is now." now that i got back to at least prospecting about my future a lot of things happened and the reality came crashing down on me again, that i could never control my future. i was disappointed when my hopes were shattered. for my aforementioned special person, we were talking for a while what would and/or could happen to us and our relationship, and i swear, i stood my ground for as long as i can, saying, "i can never tell about the future, it's very uncertain,". but i did consider the future now. the future is still as blurry as my eyesight. i couldn't promise them something i don't have. i only ever considered prospecting about the future because i figured it would give them comfort. i didn't like seeing them cry or sad. i suppose i could've tried telling her that we're here in the present, today, right now, and that for me, i think that's all that matters. i think i'll talk to them again about that. [long story time but somehow i find solace in the YT comments]
After having a breakdown, that was my only choice. It's a valuable lesson, and it seems one can only really learn what it means after going through countless amounts of shit. TY The School of Life for reminding me.
"Natural beauty may take on a different hue; no longer a petty distraction from a mighty destiny, no longer an insult to ambition, but a genuine pleasure amidst a litany of troubles, an invitation to bracket anxieties and keep self-criticism at bay, a small resting place for hope in a sea of disappointment; a proper consolation - for which one is finally ready, on an afternoon walk, to be appropriately grateful." Just Wow ! I hope I can write like this someday.
Watching the conference at the Sydney opera house, reading the course of love, relationships and watching the school of live's videos make me feel understood in this complex world. Thank you very much, this is priceless.
We have to take things slow, it's hard for us to not worry about goals in our lives, most of those goals will demand a long time to be achieved then we proceed to feel anxious, every step of our day turns into a obstacle because all that matters is achieving that goal, it can be buying a house, finding love, getting a great body, all these great things is all that matters to us, but what about having one or two caring words in your day ? what about not having broken bones ? no one dead by the the end of the night ? a smile you gave to someone, a smile someone gave to you, a beutiful woman you saw on the street, an animal, the nature itself, what about being happy about the little things on our days ? don`t take everything for granted, don`t focus only on the outcome focus on the path, focus on the life itself, be grateful for that, be grateful for nothing bad happening to you, just be grateful, smile and enjoy your ride taking one day a a time.
Such brilliant advice. I'm recovering from open heart surgery and a bit fearful and frustrated at times. This talk is so helpful and relevant. As it would have been at all times in my life. Thank you.
I absolutely love this, I have been through times where every single day I hoped id make it through to the end of that day without taking my life, so I truly feel this video
Balance, prayer, content with our BLESSINGS....seeking, knowing, obeying GOD....love of nature and animals.....living a quiet life, minding our own business, helping others, hard work, living within our means , not a slave to lenders, MATERIALISM, greed, money....Secret to life!
@@seventhchild7270 minding own business vs helping others is tough. If I mind my own business by not speaking out against climate change, we all die due to civilization collapse at some point in the future ;/ I agree with most everything else.
That's one of the most profound videos I've watched. The depression of lustful hope. That's me. Supporting mum with her cancer just wishing her treatment was over. Instead of enjoying each day. Learning to deal in the here and now, instead of the past or the future.
Everyone should find a few minutes in their day to stop from the hustle and bustle to watch this. A lovely way to stay grounded and grateful for the day.
thank you so much for this, it calmed my anxiety massively. i'm terrified of being behind everyone else and self sabotage whenever i focus solely on the long term.
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The School of Life yup, I procrastinate and watch your videos instead of doing something
@@matheustran8009 lol thanks for that.
I need it this today. Thank you
Ahhhh! It's after 11:00pm, and I just sent off a resume and cover letter to an employer who did not receive my first submission...Tonight is PAST the deadline for accepting resumes, but I sent a plea humbly asking for consideration.
I began writing at 4:00pm, after I had arrived home early; I was allowed to leave work because someone had either fallen or was pushed from the 3rd floor, at the downtown library. I heard the impact and it has been emotionally traumatizing😢.
As I crawled into bed and primed my iPad for some soothing evening relaxation, I was greeted by this gem of a vid, reminding me to take things...One Day at a Time🙏
İ look forward to watch your videos because i believe that they're useful for everyone. But, the worst thing with it is that it has no translation to my mother tongue(turkish) and i'm experiencing difficulty to be able to understand the videos exactly.(though i know English quite well. 😟
"We overestimate, what we can achieve in a day. We underestimate, what we can achieve in a year."
This quote really helped me in terms of my career, fresh out of uni and anxious about finding a job, but it'll happen one day at a time
@@alxuria don't give up! I believe, you will find your place.
@@GreyPhoenix117 I really needed to hear this, thank you so much, all the best to you
0:00. One day at a time.
ahhhh thank you for this ❤️
"If we reach the end of the day , no one has died, no limbs have been broken, few lines have been written, and one or two encouraging things have been said, then that's already an achievement worthy at the place at the altar of sanity". Wow
"It's ok if all you did today was survive"
Adalberto Rojas why not thrive everyday instead🤔 raise the bar
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin For some of us surviving is a big enough challenge without adding anything else on top.
@@Tim_G_Bennett That is why most people's lives never change because they are struggling to survive
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin it's that thoughtless criticism that makes survival such an achievement. Some are more susceptible to feeling the pressures and frustrations of the time it takes to reach the goals we want to reach, than others. Surviving is still a victory; it means you didn't succumb to the weight on your shoulders and will build resilience over time.
Take time to consider these things before you regurgitate someone else's faux motivational ramblings in future.
i'm not sure i agree.... and i say that as one who is always living day to day and always just fucking glad i made it to the end of another day. obv we're doing something wrong if that's how we're livng
Living in the past is depression. Living in the future is anxiety. Being in the moment is presence and presence is Grace. #Namaste
"Yesterday is history,
tomorrow is a mystery,
and today is a gift...
that's why they call it present"
Master Oogway
Love it!!❤️
Thank you for sharing this wisdom!!
🕉🕉🕉
ohh the typical Indian statement
Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for your life to begin and start making the most of the moment you are in.
Agree. The moment we are in is the only place we can be happy, because there is nothing else.
@@stevebonella1 Exactly!
We don't know what happiness is. And why we strive to get it and who said us to strive for a happiness life. To what life we must to strive 1) a happiness life or 2) a meaningful life?
@@peaceduke1 Happiness is contentment. And it is not something you achieve by striving for it. We should definitely strive to create a meaningful life.
@@peaceduke1 I prefer 2. 1 is too hard and I have no time for that.
"Don't wait to be successful at some future point. Have a successful relationship with the present moment and be fully present in whatever you are doing. That is success." -Eckhart Tolle
The School of Life always seem to know what’s going on inside of me...
J same
@@njmlc that's weird
Dang same
I feel you too
I was literally up all night yesterday feeling so overwhelmed by the future and by the task of continuing to try despite years of not seeing my goals come to fruition. It's like they knew exactly what I needed to hear with this video. But I suppose this is a clue that such disquietude is not just mine, but that it is a part of the human condition.
I had a stroke at 24 and almost died and could do almost nothing including speak. I now live at this pace with no shame and neither should anyone else, stroke or not. It was only til after I had this unfortunate situation happen that I realized I should have already been living there beforehand and that's how I got there in the first place.
1. Here is a fun story I love:
"A very ambitious student went to a Zen master and said, “If I work very hard, how soon can I be enlightened?”
The Zen master looked him up and down and said, “ 10 years.”
The fellow said, “No, listen, I mean if I really work at it, how long-”
The Zen master cut him off. “I’m sorry. I misjudged. 20 years.”
”Wait!” Said the young man, “You don’t understand! I’m-”
“For you, 30 years,” said the Zen master."
As a guitar teacher I an confirm! I have a dear student who is exactly like this. She is obsessed with a great outcome, all her hopes are put on that day in the future where she will be able to play that piece " perfectly". But until then, every single moment we practise is not a moment of JOY, but an obstacle she has to overcome to get to that one glorious moment of success.
Some time ago we were playing Bach and she started to freak out after two bars. So I said:
" But look Helga ( I changed the name ) , this is Bach , it is incredibly beautiful and calming, a gift to humanity, we are so priviledged to play this, we could enjoy every note of it. "
I told her that when you go to see a movie, it is not that you endure the whole movie only to find out what will l happen in the end! You enjoy it. It is the same with a concert. You don't go there to hear the final chord. You love every moment of it.
Well, but we often treat our lives, just the same way my student treated that piece by Bach...As the poet John O’Donahue writes:
“We are so busy managing our lives, we forget this great mystery we are involved in.”
2. NO TIME TO RUSH
I also absolutely love this very simple idea too:
"We have no time to rush. When we walk half as fast, we see double as much."
3. WALK SLOWLY AND BOW OFTEN
In this spirit, I wanted to share a truly wonderful poem by Marie Oliver, one of the greatest American poets of all time.She had spent most of her life taking long walks in the woods. And she wasn't rich or anything, she only had what she needed.
She had an extremely painful childhood and she says: " The beauty of the world saved me". Well, and she saved many people through her poems!
I have heard an absolutely wonderful interview with her on the On Being with Krista Tippett podcast and Krista said that many people have said that the poem " Wilde Geese" by Marie Oliver stopped them from commiting suicide!
But I wanted to share another wonderful poem by her. Please read this slowly and more than once. It will fill you with peace and calm. Let us all " walk slowly and bow often"!
WHEN I AM AMONG TREES by Mary Oliver
When I am among the trees,
especially the willows and the honey locust,
equally the beech, the oaks, and the pines,
they give off such hints of gladness.
I would almost say that they save me, and daily.
I am so distant from the hope of myself,
in which I have goodness, and discernment,
and never hurry through the world
but walk slowly, and bow often.
Around me the trees stir in their leaves
and call out, “Stay awhile.”
The light flows from their branches.
And they call again, “It’s simple,”
they say, “and you, too, have come
into the world to do this, to go easy,
to be filled with light, and to shine.”
Thank you for this absolutely wonderful lesson and for the genius animation!
This is like the icing on a cake. Thanks for sharing!
@@NoAmmo22 Oh, what a beautiful thing to say! You are most welcome. Thanks a lot for reading :- )
Dear friends, I am sorry that I wrote the name of the wonderful poet wrong. Of course it is not Marie, but MARY OLIVER...
I love what you added! Icing on the cake indeed. Oh to walk slowly and bow often...Lord help us do so please. Yah bless you beloved
@@forthegloryofyhwhpraisehim6429
Hello there! Yes, yes amen! Bless you too. Many greetings and lots of love :- )
I really needed this today. I'm a terrible forward-thinker and have ALWAYS caused myself unnecessary stress and anxiety. This has grounded me ready to relax before bed. Thank you for your videos ✌
The same here.
Interesting. I always felt like foreward thinking helped me have less anxiety. I would inquire more about what is going to happen, where I need to go, what I need to do, how the surrounding looked like. Not having to process all this on the spot and being able to plan for my energy levels, I believe, tends to give me more calm.
Same
Same here
Funny thing is, sometimes we realize this truth about like, and then we forget them at some point. I think this channel to remind me of the things that are truly important.
I always say not living in the moment causes anxiety. You can only learn from the past and plan a better future. It makes no sense worrying about the past because it cannot be changed. And living in the past stops you from preparing for a better future. Living in the moment is the only balance.
I'm experiencing anxiety right now about the past. That was good to read.
I think one needs to learn from the past so that one can be informed so that one can make reasonable plans for the future in order to live a fullfilling life and avoid living as a robot or a vegetable. But ones primary focus needs to be on the now. It is literally everything we have and everything we are.
Sizano Green that’s right. The present is the only place where you could plan a future and learn from the past. In other words, if you aren’t present how are going to do either?
@@moodsup1027 True that.
Hic et nunc
Love the Van Gogh reference.
It is true most of the times - tomorrow will be different, maybe better, maybe worse, but different, and there's always hope it's gonna be better. Human resilience is astonishing
This is a fragile and tricky skill for the over thinker.
But i'm trying, falteringly.
Thank you.
Same here. You're not alone ;-) stay grateful and take it one day at a time xx
Trying :)
try reading Grounded Spirituality by Jeffery Brown, you will see that your faltering tries are authentic real solutions to healing
Thank you for the suggestion, here's one in return
"Enchiridion by Epictetus"
GabrielKnightz Agree
If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.
Can’t you be depressed contemplating a hopeless future; or anxious about something you did in the past, which has the potential to still affect you?
bullsh*t
What about if you’re excited?
I love how The School of life gives a much needed deeper meaning to the phrase: "Find happiness in small things."
This is amazing! I’ve been through traumas, I’ve been close to death many times, so now, my philosophy of life is exactly like this. When I went out of hospital and the first thing I saw was a bird singing in a tree on a beautiful day of June, I understood how much little things are important. Laughing, hugging my dogs, watching a bee in my garden. Growing tomatoes and being proud. Or even staying in my bed because I’m too weak to do anything, but having a good film to watch or just contemplating the calm and serenity of my room.
And every night, I try to remember how lucky I am to have made it all.
One who lives in the past has shame and regret, the one who lives in the future has anxiety. The one who lives now is the one who truely lives.
Duh
powerful
I had 3 productive meetings yesterday with my staff. I had guided some members of the team on their projects. Before going out to bed, I felt I didn't do anything, anything and that I should be working more.
I am having troubles sleeping, because its all in my head. I want to figure it out all today. I want to achieve what I figured out today.
Taking it one day at the time is a simple yet a powerful formula of success, happiness and romance. Thank you
You are not alone I feel the same a videos like this make me stop and think. Thank you for sharing.
*Mindful living* is the only thing that can help us to keep the sanity intact,
especially in this fast pace digital world we live in.
Life isn't that serious and unfortunately, many of us, tend to forget it.
I've been trying to live with the exact thought too
Life Experienced is life Lived. Enjoy the Gift.
Seems like we is and lives are in the #ainstream #edia
I've been thinking about this to being sick the last two days and I haven't lied energy and feeling like a waste of space because I'm just a lying around but in all honesty what is a few days of lying around the rest of my life and contrast I'm still going to have a good life I just get a little too serious
"Life isnt that serious..." Thank you.
When you take things day by day, the impossible begins to feel achievable
"There is always a plan B", "Why you don't need to be exceptional", and now this? I swear the array of videos recently was curtailed for me. Thank you to the people running this channel. You guys genuinely make my life better.
Did you mean 'curated'?
the name is alain de botton. hes a philosopher
I’d like to include “Of Course you Messed up”
Everyday: "One day at a time," and " Lord, this too will past " is another great mantra.
th-cam.com/video/qybUFnY7Y8w/w-d-xo.html
There was a moment during a day in December 2017 that I vividly recall. I weighed 135 pounds more then than I do now, and I was struggling to catch my breath after some very light exercise (or what I'd consider light exercise today). Only three months into losing weight, and losing motivation and hope, becoming discouraged. I didn't transform overnight, or even in three months. I desperately wanted out of that body, and to manifest the person I saw inside me dying to come to life. But I told myself: I could be in chemotherapy; I could be engaged in military combat; I could be consumed by any number of miseries, true miseries. I was alive, I could feel the exertion of my body in response to my will, and I was doing something about the situation I was in. Today, I am a triathlete doing a half-Ironman in September and I swim bike run for fun, something I wouldn't have envisioned in December 2017. It really all is about taking it a day at a time, and all those days blur together and take you to a different place. Today, there are things that I wish were different or better about me, still. My weight loss didn't change that. But I also know that once, I was 373 pounds and thinking there was nothing that could be done about it. And all those blurred-together days happened, not even that many of them, and now I'm a half-Iron triathlete. Apropos for the challenges of today.
Rob Kline beautifully written Rob Kline. Thank you for sharing.
You inspire me to reach for my dreams. Your comment is an awesome testimony to the power we all have to change our life. We can all make tiny changes in our life whether it be physical change, etc. My 2020 will be a year of changing my mindset and focus. Instead of thinking and talking about whats going wrong i will be working on making tiny changes every day that improve the quality of my life. The biggest lesson i have learnt in the last year is how i can choose to repeatedly think positive thoughts instead of depressing ones.
thnx
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That's one goddamn great story and exactly appropriate to this TH-cam , thank you !
‘Enjoy the journey - don’t just anticipate the perceived joy of arriving at the destination’
I'm taking it one day at a time.
Same
Cheers
Me too
Same
I'm killing myself
Stay in the present because the present is where you will always be. This is ur home.
This channel saved my sanity ❤😭
Saved my life too
I was just thinking this but if I was born in the time before the internet I would probably be an insane asylum right now
Just what I needed to read because i feel mine going😢
Did u know that u go insane only when realised u wer doing everything in an automated sequence , that felling u get that the thought wer controlling u and ur whole existence was just the byproduct of your thoughts , when u realised that everything oppend up the reality of your existence , now that's scary to go through it alone
@@srinivasshinde6685 Is there a way to not go through it alone then? I mean it's not exactly easy to find and connect with the right people sometimes. And even if you find one, they may not be interested in a new friendship too.
It's hard. But still, I might as well give it a shot: Anyone wanna chat? (Elo Seyo at Quora btw)
This is basically the same thing as living in the present moment. No more important day than today! Do what you can, when you can, the best you can and the rest will take care of itself. 💜
Got it I will
This video is like a reminder to what I already know, but struggle with : living in the moment.
Alix V App unfortunately our modern environment always tries to kick us back into auto mode
I’m 22 years old. I stumbled across The School of Life tonight, quite by accident. Two days ago I had an anxiety attack that lasted 6 hours long. My heart was quite literally beating outof my chest during that 6 hour period. I’m a 22 year old trying to figure it all out. I’m in school. I work for a family business. I have dreams of having a name on social media. Juggling all of that has really cost me living in the moment. I constantly am thinking ahead. I’ve lost a lot of time, and a lot of relationships because I have such trouble communicating. I always talk about the future. I always talk about the past. Nostalgia is important to me, I feel my better years we’re my teenage years, spinning around in a video game, making TH-cam videos. I’ve made some of my best memories and some of my best friends being on this platform, but it seems like my chapter as a TH-camr is done, and I struggle with that. Balancing work and school as well as trying to make rent and still find time to “be a kid” is tremendously hard. Thank you School of Life for showing me that I’m not the only that struggles with these concepts. Thank you for literally placing in my hands the content I NEED.
I'm 21 and can relate a lot.
Try to do small steps towards your goal for the online presence. We should all have every day something good we like to do. Make a plan for your dream and then break into smaller bits. Maybe get a coach to help you
Get rid of internet it does not seem to do you any good. Move your brain to real things
I'm 23 in a few days and I relate so well to this. I wish many blessings and I hope you accomplish all the thinks you wish to🌻
How about doing something real and not becoming something so utterly empty and stupid as “a TH-camr”?
yes noticing beauty in nature is a blessing
This video makes me calm and less profoundly sad.
Same here
Hi
I have learned to say to myself 'we shall see' whenever I'm plagued with anxiety about the future, ambitions or aspirations. Somehow, it seems to blunt the stress and reduce the pressure yet guarantee progress, however small, in the right direction.
There’s nothing wrong with having a plan or working towards a long term goal, but do these things one day at a time. Don’t rush, time waits for nobody and the day you’re working towards will come, no matter if you rush or not.
This has been one of the life changing things I’ve learned when dealing with my depression. Staying present, it’s not always easy, periods of my life I let the ideas of future wants or past regrets and it will continue to happen. But most days I keep settled in the middle. Keeping grounded in present and what can be done now and accepting that things won’t happen as fast as we want.. people always wonder how I keep so nonchalant about setbacks. This is how. I’ve learned this because there will always be setbacks and times when you aren’t doing what you think you should be doing. Also I love these videos they’re good reminders to keep my psyche stable
i'm in alcoholics anonymous and this is something we say all the time. very helpful.
Keep going! I wish you all the best!
"Just for today, I will try to live through this day and NOT tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do for 12 hours that which would appall me if I felt I had to keep it up for a lifetime"
❤🌻🦋 all the best to you on your journey!
AA has offered a key there that all humanity would do well to embrace.
I hope today was good for you!
shams ruhe don’t give up!!!
I found this real life experience very helpful. I think it will help you... please, watch it!!!
www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witnesses/experiences/bible-changes-lives/fed-up-with-my-lifestyle-video/
I finally got a free day from job, waking up this morning and as I was still in bed, 10 things to do occur in my mind. I have to read a few books, i have to clean something, go swimming, study one thing, study another, go out with friend, call mum.. bla bla. And here I am at youtube, watching this video half an hour after waking up. I am going to drink coffee and study one thing, but not whole, only 20%.
and will enjoy in every moment of my young life. and also when i grow old, i will be happy and proud of myself
I feel warm when I watch The School of Life videos - Like a baby, cradled in the arms of an fervent father 🤗
This video made me cry. Had it in my list of 100s of videos to watch but today was the day I needed it most after a major dark night of the soul yesterday after years of struggle with something.... that seemed to collapse. Thank you. This is one of the most beautiful channels on youtube
I'm sure I'm not alone in this, but these videos have pretty regularly helped me step back from the ledge. Whenever I have a bad episode of anxiety I like to watch these videos to bring me back to sturdy ground. They never fail
Grateful that this found me today (&vv); "Essence of Now," It's A Beautiful Day!
"Happiness comes from solving problems"
"Don't hope for a better self, BE a better self" - Mark Manson
Antonio Liu I just finished Everything Is F***** last week. That book, this video, it's what I need to both solve problems and stop worrying about them at the same time.
Buddha's principle links w this:
suffering is craving.
"..our greatest enemy is that otherwise critical nector, Hope and the perplexing emotion it brings with it...impatience." felt this so much! so deeply. Setting smaller goals, living one day at a time. Breaking down huge goals into small achievable steps is the best thing that I found and practice regularly. This is by far the best and the most relatable and the most insightful and the most lovable video I have seen in my life till now. Thank you School of Life. I wish I get to meet your team some day.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
This goes into the list of my favourite videos because this very concept is one that I have struggled to accept all my life. Every day, I look at others and what they have accomplished, and I look at myself with disappointment in comparison. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Just when you thought the School of Life was getting tired, they come out with a masterpiece like this. Yasher Koach!
This voice brings me so much comfort. A voice that’s never incriminating of my feelings and thoughts, a voice that guides and provides clarity in places there often is so little of. A voice that’s understanding as if it’s listened to all your problems and rather than seeing you as broken & wrong, it sees you as human 🥺❤️ Sometimes we can’t go right to a therapist, sometimes we don’t feel any relief going face to face with someone to spill out our complicated life but still we crave some type of direction out of the chaos. This voice has helped me adjust my compass many times over some years & for that, I thank you! 🙏🏽
Very profound. Broke my foot in 3 places last month--stopped me in my tracks (literally). Makes you appreciate the little things.
"Inch by inch" - Tony D'Amato
One of my favorite speeches of all time.
This video is exactly what I needed now,to remind me I am doing just fine. I am sort of pressured to make a life changing decision as soon as possible, causing me so much anxiety and unhappiness by thinking about it. When I choose to live in the moment, I feel already immensely better and grateful about life. I will not settle for less but I also don’t want to hope for perfection. One day at a time indeed.
Been writing a novel for 7 years. Hits home every time I watch this video
Iv been trying to rush my spiritual growth and beating myself up if I don’t do yoga or meditation everyday but I know that the art of it is to be patient and let it come naturally and do a little bit everyday, it’s all about balance. Exactly what I needed Thank you School of life
Got this right on time. I'm trying to live day by day now. I'm tired of thinking about the future which I have no control over. I'm tired of having so many goals and not being to achieve any of them. Taking it day by day gives me so much more hope and I can take care of things that need to be done that day instead of worrying about how I will finish my degree, find the love of my life etc. Every day is a blessing.
Ironically, I got an advert advocating for rushing into the pursuit of success when I clicked on this video.
The pressure is everywhere all the time.
Thanks for your channel and the reminders of life not being all about wanting what we don't have and feeling bad if we don't have it now.
When I started living in the moment, life is more comfortable, positive and happy. But it is not easy to attain because everyday we meet and surrounded by negative people. Nonetheless, it takes commitment and meditation to maintain a harmonious and peaceful life.
I've always been an extreme daydreamer. I have to pull myself back to the moment. Sometimes I can't tell the difference between thought and daydream.
As someone who has recently had a panic attack / mental breakdown and feels anxious often, this is a really great video to watch.
I am worthy and I get to fail often, I am human. I'm slowly picking myself up off the floor and trying to take it day by day, I'm still feeling very vulnerable and wounded and that's okay, not everything has to be perfect and I don't always have to be high-energy happy go lucky, sometimes I can just be truthful and accept myself, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Hope your doing much better now . Very true
THANK.YOU! This is what I need before I sleep - a little dose of assurance and calm.
Incredible. This speaks to me in so many ways, I remember finally recovering from a rare vertigo sickness and as a previous hockey player it was devastating. To get back on the ice after months and months of problems, getting back to ice skating was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. I remember taking it all in and just being present and appreciating my life so much. I had tears in my eyes of happiness. The down in life is sometimes what we need to appreciate all we have. 🙏❤️
Remember, life's not a race.
I was hoping for something to help me decide if I should get up from my sick-bed. I was unsure if it would help, or hinder my recovery. I found this, and it helps. Thank you
A serendipitous video for me today as I struggle to deal with a major flood event and the subsequent recovery. I know this concept well but I fail to remember this idea when faced with adversity. I’m looking forward to tomorrow morning armed with this reminder. Thank you 🙏
I want to think like this. I find it so hard to do consistently, I do it for awhile then return to my old habits. Thanks for this video. It truly helped
This is good advice. Sometimes when I feel like a failure, it's really hard for me to face trying again. It's important not to catastrophise, to appreciate what went well and that you're still breathing.
This one of the most beautiful and wisest things I have ever heard. Sheer poetry. It is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life. I am deeply grateful.
*Take success as each inch you take. They will build up for your success.*
I have come to realise that completely dislocating all the bones in my foot this summer was one of the best things that ever happened to me as it completely changed my mindset and gave me a sense of perspective. Seeing the flowers in the local park really is a wonderous joy!
PS I WISH I could go to NYC conference but I'm stuck at home with my disabled parents, I'm unemployed, I'm not allowed etc. May be one day in the future I will start to achieve what I want. Also thank you for your simple yet effective videos. As a mid twenties adult, it's good to know that I am allowed to feel content just for surviving to the end of a day. That's powerful. Thank you.
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I needed this reminder. The present moment is such a beautiful and peaceful place to rest in
This comes at such a good time. I've been working at being a full-time author for nearly a decade, and with my hope comes impatience. This video teaches me to temper my expectations, and remember to enjoy the process instead of obsessing over reaching the destination, to be grateful. Thank you, The School of Life!
Thanks for saving my live. Or at least allowing me to make it until tomorrow
"I love you, Alain de Botton!" - I constantly watch your videos with this thought. You are doing an enormously important job - you're showing us ulterior parts of reality which help to look at it deeper and wider so it makes us more alive, happier and wiser. Thank you so much!
THANK YOU. You have truly helped save my Life. I've become so.....drained, hopeless lately. Now, I truly just take it One Day At A Time. I don't plan for holidays or next month, next season, planning or looking for The New Normal.......I just want to make it through the day.
This perfectly encapsulates everything that I have come to learn over the last few years and and am now trying to instate in my life. Like George from Seinfeld doing 'the opposite' -- "This is my religion."
I had a breakdown of psychological and physical health about 3 1/2 years ago. I had to drop out of college and was left with with chronic illness and fragile mental health. A year into it I also suffered a severe heartbreak, caused and greatly exacerbated by my situation. I have struggled to take the little steps forward and maintain that progress -- working part time, taking community college classes and finally returning to college part time, as well as making new friends and trying to have a semblance of a social life. It's especially hard because my problems are invisible (other than looking a bit frail), so I struggle to explain them to people. I most often just try to pretend everything is fine because it's the path of least resistance, especially around friends and acquaintances, but then I end up suffering more. It's maddening to try to think about how my life is going to work out -- how I'll ever be able to pursue any of my dreams, or even support myself in the long term; how I'll ever be able to have close and fulfilling and relationships again, both platonic and romantic; how I'll ever be fulfilled overall. I always go for a loop and thankfully I have found a bottom to hit -- this, right here -- taking it one day at a time. I give up everything else I'm holding on to and just take comfort in the little victories, in my routines, entertainment, all my privilege, and nature too.
This is something that is wisdom in the age of distractions and materialism.
Our ancestors took it one day at a time, any person ull see contempt with life (who i call successful) lives in the present!!
"This is the day that the Lord has made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it." - Psalms 118:24
Be Calm and Trust Jesus at every moment
@@davionhodge5740 Don't make this a religious circus.
Fernando Caixeta Then keep scrolling on.
@Fernando Caixeta....Sir, It isn't a religion or a circus to put faith in Jesus Christ, it is rather a relationship. Never discount the power of faith. All the best!
@@vanithanair8264 nicely put. Blessings, Dot in Australia
The part where the video talks about Van Gogh is so touching and heartfelt. I was having lots of panic attacks and I was going through a rough time when I was 15. I wouldn't go out of the house and I didn't want to leave my room. I was so scared and nervous at that point in my life and when I eventually walked outside, I just sat there, feeling the sun on my face and the heat warming my skin. The sounds of birds chirping and the feel of the grass on my feet and hands. I just sat there, in silence trying to enjoy some peace that I was desperately longing for, for months. I felt for a second that all my anxiety and fear went away. I slowly recovered day after day and went to my doctor to get on some meds. I'm 22 today and that was many years ago, but it changed me as a person and I feel that I have grown stronger. To anyone who is dealing with something like that, it will get better, you just need to take it one day at a time.
after living with anxiety for a while, i've come to realize how powerful my mind is. i've then decided how incredibly helpful it was to me to recognize how i think, and things that i could not control are generally what gives me anxiety. i started focusing on those things i could control, even the smallest things, and it helped. so much.
but only recently, around perhaps october, i got to thinking about my future again because of someone very special to me. i said i focused on what i could control and that made me recognize that i could not control my future, too, so i quit thinking about my future. "the future is now." now that i got back to at least prospecting about my future a lot of things happened and the reality came crashing down on me again, that i could never control my future. i was disappointed when my hopes were shattered.
for my aforementioned special person, we were talking for a while what would and/or could happen to us and our relationship, and i swear, i stood my ground for as long as i can, saying, "i can never tell about the future, it's very uncertain,". but i did consider the future now. the future is still as blurry as my eyesight. i couldn't promise them something i don't have. i only ever considered prospecting about the future because i figured it would give them comfort. i didn't like seeing them cry or sad.
i suppose i could've tried telling her that we're here in the present, today, right now, and that for me, i think that's all that matters.
i think i'll talk to them again about that.
[long story time but somehow i find solace in the YT comments]
True joy is found in the little things
After having a breakdown, that was my only choice. It's a valuable lesson, and it seems one can only really learn what it means after going through countless amounts of shit. TY The School of Life for reminding me.
"Natural beauty may take on a different hue; no longer a petty distraction from a mighty destiny, no longer an insult to ambition, but a genuine pleasure amidst a litany of troubles, an invitation to bracket anxieties and keep self-criticism at bay, a small resting place for hope in a sea of disappointment; a proper consolation - for which one is finally ready, on an afternoon walk, to be appropriately grateful."
Just Wow ! I hope I can write like this someday.
Watching the conference at the Sydney opera house, reading the course of love, relationships and watching the school of live's videos make me feel understood in this complex world. Thank you very much, this is priceless.
I keep coming back to this video. Certainly one of your best works!
Thank you. I'm actually on the path to finding God. It's a slow and fullfulling journey, but I'm taking it one day at a time.
Gift of faith is necessary
Currently in my sixth lockdown with no end in sight..I am going to take it one day at a time
We have to take things slow, it's hard for us to not worry about goals in our lives, most of those goals will demand a long time to be achieved
then we proceed to feel anxious, every step of our day turns into a obstacle because all that matters is achieving that goal, it can be buying a house,
finding love, getting a great body, all these great things is all that matters to us, but what about having one or two caring words in your day ? what about not
having broken bones ? no one dead by the the end of the night ? a smile you gave to someone, a smile someone gave to you, a beutiful woman you saw on the street,
an animal, the nature itself, what about being happy about the little things on our days ? don`t take everything for granted, don`t focus only on the outcome
focus on the path, focus on the life itself, be grateful for that, be grateful for nothing bad happening to you, just be grateful, smile and enjoy your ride
taking one day a a time.
Such brilliant advice. I'm recovering from open heart surgery and a bit fearful and frustrated at times. This talk is so helpful and relevant. As it would have been at all times in my life.
Thank you.
I absolutely love this, I have been through times where every single day I hoped id make it through to the end of that day without taking my life, so I truly feel this video
Nocturne in E-Flat Major, Op.9, No.2 is playing in the background as this man speaks, such a lovely combination.
balance between long term planning and living in the moment. Too much of either will hurt you...
Balance, prayer, content with our BLESSINGS....seeking, knowing, obeying GOD....love of nature and animals.....living a quiet life, minding our own business, helping others, hard work, living within our means , not a slave to lenders, MATERIALISM, greed, money....Secret to life!
@@seventhchild7270 minding own business vs helping others is tough. If I mind my own business by not speaking out against climate change, we all die due to civilization collapse at some point in the future ;/ I agree with most everything else.
Facts
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@@deiflopez3761 thanks, issa daily struggle
I am 22 and this brought me to tears
I needed this video today
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That's one of the most profound videos I've watched. The depression of lustful hope. That's me. Supporting mum with her cancer just wishing her treatment was over. Instead of enjoying each day. Learning to deal in the here and now, instead of the past or the future.
Thank you so much for this! It will be August 1 tomorrow and this is a great new mindset to live by. ✨
Absolutely! Happy August!
So simply take it slowly and don’t rush …
don't go against yourself , yes life is slow as it should be
Taking one day at a time. Live in the present. Past is gone. Future hasn't arrived.
Everyone should find a few minutes in their day to stop from the hustle and bustle to watch this. A lovely way to stay grounded and grateful for the day.
thank you so much for this, it calmed my anxiety massively. i'm terrified of being behind everyone else and self sabotage whenever i focus solely on the long term.
i am exactly the same way, thank you for sharing your thoughts, it made me feel less alone
I hope you got far since the last two years that you posted this comment
@@crossdressingthug3443 hahaha i wish, i'm still struggling with this sadly but thank you for the lovely comment
The art in this video, especislly the end scene is... just so beautiul