I started going steady in 9th grade with my now husband of 31 years. We're still going steady. lol Sometimes it turns out ok. My mother wanted me to date other guys. I was NOT interested in other guys. I saved myself for one man, and I wore his class ring until he bought an engagement ring. Everyone knew we were meant to be together, even my mother after she watched us for a while. Before she left this world she told me she had been wrong to make me date anyone else. I went out on exactly two dates with other guys, and my hubby to be was cool with it. Especially when I made both of them drop me off at HIS place after my obligatory dinner and movie and fending off octopus arms. I had a LOT of boyfriends in middle school, I was never without one. Thought I was in love a couple of times. When I met my fella, I knew immediately we were going to be friends, then I realized we were really meant to be together in a different way. He was more of a man at 14 than most older men would ever be. He has never let me down, and I have never gotten bored. I love him to bits. I am thankful to God he made one thing in my life amazing. Not easy, but amazing.
Wow, you are so very blessed!!! I’ve had so many problems in my life from never finding the right one and getting mixed up with wrong, wrong, wrong ones!! Two even had addictions!! 😢 I would trade places with you any day!!!
I grew up in the fifties and when we had to watch films like this we thought they were hysterically funny! Anyone who thinks that we were that different from more contemporary teens is crazy. We just didn't talk about it as much. 😁
He wonders if they are going "steady" yet he pulls out a picture of her from his wallet? Really? Really buddy, you are surprised to even think you might be going steady? hahaha makes me laugh :D
I wish I could go back to the girl I first fell in love with back in 8th grade and had the life experience to and understanding to stay with her. Never fail to try cause you might be worthy of the love you seek to have
Okay, I see many of the same similar questions on here so I will answer them as my parents grew up in this era. Going steady merely meant a boy or girl began to see each other exclusively. In those days boys and girls dated many different people simultaneously. There was not much of the idea of a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" at that time. My parents always thought it was strange that in high school we had exclusive boyfriends and girlfriends. They always used that phrase "going steady" and wondered why we didn't "date around"? I always thought that concept was strange. But, times and customs change for each generation.
Thank you - that is how I understood it but as English is not my native language..........Also, interesting: I used to think women at that time, especially women who are the age of Jeff's mother, were expected to marry the first guy they went steady with or, if that did not happen at the very least they did not let their next partner know..........
My mom was a teen in the 80s and she told me her mom ((who grew up in the 40s and 50s)) always wanted her to date around and found it weird that she would settle on just one guy
Also the vast majority of people weren’t having sex until marriage. And if a girl got pregnant there would be a shot gun wedding. It was considered very bad behavior for the boy to even try to have sex with a girl. And she could tell her parents and they could tell his parents and he would get in trouble. A boy could find himself unable to get a date if he got the reputation of trying to take liberties.
@@MoralGovernment yeh and here in England the girls ended up in places run by nuns! They lived with their babies and frowned upon for been an unwed mother, thank heavens those times have changed
'Will you go steady with me for 3months, beginning next Wednesday, for dates lasting no more than four hours per week, after which we will evaluate the relationship' strengths and weaknesses, take learning opportunities, then break up civilly, with the full intention of 'going steady' with each others' best friends?'
This is honestly great advice, I wish more teens knew this, because nowadays they just have a boyfriend or girlfriend and get attached too quickly, but if you go on dates with multiple people you can guard your heart more easily and not fall in love too quickly with the wrong person- and this way you can figure out what you like in different people!
Many parents didnt lije their teen going steady & getting too serious emotionally & possible making love, out of wedlock child, shotgun wedding. Seemedsafer to have less intense, more casual dates with several oeople. Find out what type of person you fit with best
I can remember sneaking and barely unplugging the phone from the jack in the wall in order to keep my cousin from receiving her phone calls..She would stay on the phone for hours, and I would end up missing mine. So I took care of that problem, and to this day she has no clue why her then boyfriend wasn't calling her like he had been when they first starting going steady..
Going steady means officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Being exclusive with each other, not dating others. Not on the market. No longer single and dating around. It has nothing to do with slow or fast.
Uhh, no actually. Contraceptives didn't exist then. The only rule as far as I can tell was the taking of liberties responsibly. Otherwise, Mr 🔧 stayed out of the toolbox 😏
I went on one date with a guy and even before that one date, he was agitated that I was even talking to other guys...And I’m like if people dated multiple people at once in the 50s with no hard feelings or scandal, I can certainly do it in 2020 😂 needless to say, we didn’t go on a second date.
Jimmie Harris “🎶Those Cath-o-lic girls start much too late, sooner or later it comes down to fate, ya might as well have some fun, only the good die young..🎶”
@@tundrawomansays5067 "They say.that going steady's not the proper thing I only know I love you.... Oh, wear my ring around your neck To show the world you're mine by heck Let ' em know I love you so Oh let'em know by that ring around your neck!!"😁😁😉😉✝️⚜️
@@linw1486 Think again. Plenty of girls wound up pregnant. They either gave the babies up for adoption or got sent away to some home. And it wasn't talked about. But it happened all the time. People are people, nothing's changed.
I was THERE back then and me and my friends dated 'nice' girls (i.e. virgins) but it wasn't too frustrating - they did EVERYTHING else (and I mean everything).
1950: ”Should I go steady?” ”Will he take advantage of me?” ”Am I old enough to think about marriage?” 2021: ”What gender am I - and which pronouns should I make people call me?” ”Should I have a brazilian wax before my date?” ”Should I bring a condom?” Times have certainly changed…
1950: ”Should I go steady?” ”Will he take advantage of me?” ”Am I old enough to think about marriage?” 2021: ”What gender am I - and which pronouns should I make people call me?” ”Should I have a brazilian wax before my date?” ”Should I bring a condom?” Times have certainly changed…
I think both of them realised that they liked each other, but that's about it. It's nice to have a guy who will mostly go out with you and have a pleasant evening. But on the other hand, they have progressed to kissing and he has a picture of her in his wallet.
Yesterday my date partner asked me to go steady with him, and I just don't know, we've gone on 15 dates on phone call so far, I don't really know much about going steady, does that mean we date until engagement? Oh I'd love to date until engagement, what do they call it, ah an promise ring right? If I go steady does he get me a promise ring? Oh brother I am so new to this . Someone help me on out, it'd be wonderful.
It's a blackboard every house had a blackboard dad is always quick with a sketch to show his son The ins and outs of anal sex by drawing it on The family blackboard
6:23 Older now? Jeff looks like he’s 30 and mother and father in their 60s. I have not been able to figure out why everyone in it 40s and 50s look so much older than they would now. it’s not meant to be a slight, or a criticism is just something that is a curiosity.
Maybe it's how they styled their hair. I have seen pictures in yearbooks from those days, and it's amazing how the girls looked older than they actually were because of how they did their hair. I find it fascinating.
Quite sad that even in these times the parents advised to not marry the first man/woman you go out with. Obviously this is not a MUST, but for me it is! I don't want a man who's heart belonged to 5 other girls before he gave it to me :-( "Don't make any commitments." - Does it not sound so wrong?
But with each relationship you experience and end, you learn a lot about yourself and what you need and want in a significant other. Not a must but sometimes it can be helpful. Even just after my first relationship ended and I got over him, I could clearly see we wouldn't have worked well together and now in my current relationship those problems I had from the first relationship aren't qualities my current boyfriend has. That's why people say it's good to date a few people. Again not saying your wrong, just attempting to give some perspective.
Go to a pub. Pick up a dart and throw it at the dart board. If you have never played before in your life, there is a 99 percent chance you won't hit the bulls-eye. What makes you think the first man is going to be "the one"?
I see what you mean Thomas. You don’t want to marry the first person who winks at you, but you don’t want to date someone who’s played more fields than the NFL has
if your hand is starting to clear up and is free of callous sores and rubbing abrasions and the redness and bruises are gone then your going steady with a girl..
I started going steady in 9th grade with my now husband of 31 years. We're still going steady. lol Sometimes it turns out ok. My mother wanted me to date other guys. I was NOT interested in other guys. I saved myself for one man, and I wore his class ring until he bought an engagement ring. Everyone knew we were meant to be together, even my mother after she watched us for a while. Before she left this world she told me she had been wrong to make me date anyone else. I went out on exactly two dates with other guys, and my hubby to be was cool with it. Especially when I made both of them drop me off at HIS place after my obligatory dinner and movie and fending off octopus arms. I had a LOT of boyfriends in middle school, I was never without one. Thought I was in love a couple of times. When I met my fella, I knew immediately we were going to be friends, then I realized we were really meant to be together in a different way. He was more of a man at 14 than most older men would ever be. He has never let me down, and I have never gotten bored. I love him to bits. I am thankful to God he made one thing in my life amazing. Not easy, but amazing.
From class ring to engagement ring - that is sweet.
The fact that you made the other guys drop you off at HIS house is EVERYTHING 😂😂😂
Wow. Crazy
met mine at 15, a few bumps in the road until we finally got to have each other. now we’re looking at apartments 💕
Wow, you are so very blessed!!! I’ve had so many problems in my life from never finding the right one and getting mixed up with wrong, wrong, wrong ones!! Two even had addictions!! 😢
I would trade places with you any day!!!
I've been binge watching old films the whole day without even realizing 😂
Same lol
Yep me too. Wtf...
Sounds like hitting rock bottom to me..
for some months now its been my friday tradition to binge watch 1950s videos
it's what I look forward to it each week!
Somehow I have the feeling you are old enough to go steady and have been for some time.
When even your mom says you've been playing the field for a while, you know you're a true player !
It used to be encouraged to "play the field" though.
Time to head over to alices house to make "fudge"
He likes packing her fudge.
oh yeah. that little fella was ready to go. little did Alice know what she was in for.
you're degenerated by the degenerate media.
Or pack it
Marie's brother was rubbing it in that he had more game than her...😎👍
Jeff's dad's pants are out of control.
Ha ha, yeh that's exactly what I thought when I saw them...WAY too high!!!
The pants that ate Jeff's dad.
@@mikepeterson764 that's a lot to eat
I had to fast forward to check them out. 😂😂😂😂 You are so right. They are WAY out of control.
jeff's dad's pants and him have been going steady for quite a while now you see
"She wants me to come over and make some fudge with her." Is that what they called it in 1951?
Shit got me dead
He's too young to be making fudge with anyone. This is how kids become delinquents.
It's code for he's going over to pack fudge with Alice's brother. Hahaha.
😂😂😂😂
I grew up in the fifties and when we had to watch films like this we thought they were hysterically funny! Anyone who thinks that we were that different from more contemporary teens is crazy. We just didn't talk about it as much. 😁
I’m glad you wrote this because I was wondering what the teens of the 50s thought of this!
That bums me out.
I feel like teens didnt actually take these seriously
Leah Patts Let me confirm your “feel.”
Probably lol
Leah Patts They didn't but it was just like that anyway. Parents were respected and girls were too.
Probably not. Too bad they didn't.
@@ronniebishop2496 It wasn't all great backt then. Racism and sexism were normal back then.
Going to her place to make fudge is better than staying home pulling taffy...
Barney is over at Alice’s making fudge and big sis is still grappling with what going steady is.
Hmm.... they'll be fine so long as she never rifles through Jeff's wallet and finds all those photos of women he's not going steady with.
Helenaville Never mind all the rubbers in his wallet-and the used ones behind the front seat.
He wonders if they are going "steady" yet he pulls out a picture of her from his wallet? Really? Really buddy, you are surprised to even think you might be going steady? hahaha makes me laugh :D
They were holding hands and kissing on the lips. I'd say they were going steady.
70 years old. And I got an excited. I love making fudge.
I wish I could go back to the girl I first fell in love with back in 8th grade and had the life experience to and understanding to stay with her. Never fail to try cause you might be worthy of the love you seek to have
This film ought to be renamed "How to Be a Player." They pretty much already used the checkers game as a sort of metaphor.
Okay, I see many of the same similar questions on here so I will answer them as my parents grew up in this era. Going steady merely meant a boy or girl began to see each other exclusively. In those days boys and girls dated many different people simultaneously. There was not much of the idea of a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" at that time. My parents always thought it was strange that in high school we had exclusive boyfriends and girlfriends. They always used that phrase "going steady" and wondered why we didn't "date around"? I always thought that concept was strange. But, times and customs change for each generation.
Thank you - that is how I understood it but as English is not my native language..........Also, interesting: I used to think women at that time, especially women who are the age of Jeff's mother, were expected to marry the first guy they went steady with or, if that did not happen at the very least they did not let their next partner know..........
My mom was a teen in the 80s and she told me her mom ((who grew up in the 40s and 50s)) always wanted her to date around and found it weird that she would settle on just one guy
Also the vast majority of people weren’t having sex until marriage. And if a girl got pregnant there would be a shot gun wedding. It was considered very bad behavior for the boy to even try to have sex with a girl. And she could tell her parents and they could tell his parents and he would get in trouble. A boy could find himself unable to get a date if he got the reputation of trying to take liberties.
@@MoralGovernment yeh and here in England the girls ended up in places run by nuns! They lived with their babies and frowned upon for been an unwed mother, thank heavens those times have changed
@topherh33 Most people aren't fond of sluts nowadays.
If I fuckin hear "going steady" in my life ever again, I'm gonna go play in traffic. Holy shit.
'Will you go steady with me for 3months, beginning next Wednesday, for dates lasting no more than four hours per week, after which we will evaluate the relationship' strengths and weaknesses, take learning opportunities, then break up civilly, with the full intention of 'going steady' with each others' best friends?'
After a thorough review I have come to the conclusion that I am not going steady.
qqq1701 You must have more game than a referee!
Try just going steady-ish.
That's Clara from the Andy Griffiths show
Actress Hope Summers (1902-1979)
This is honestly great advice, I wish more teens knew this, because nowadays they just have a boyfriend or girlfriend and get attached too quickly, but if you go on dates with multiple people you can guard your heart more easily and not fall in love too quickly with the wrong person- and this way you can figure out what you like in different people!
Many parents didnt lije their teen going steady & getting too serious emotionally & possible making love, out of wedlock child, shotgun wedding. Seemedsafer to have less intense, more casual dates with several oeople. Find out what type of person you fit with best
The sound quality of those old phones beat the crap out of those tinny sounds coming from modern phones or cellphones.
Way better than watch the current events, news, and political debates. A nice break from reality
I can remember sneaking and barely unplugging the phone from the jack in the wall in order to keep my cousin from receiving her phone calls..She would stay on the phone for hours, and I would end up missing mine. So I took care of that problem, and to this day she has no clue why her then boyfriend wasn't calling her like he had been when they first starting going steady..
That’s mean. It’s selfish!
@@deboraholsen2504 No More selfish than her hogging the phone for hours and keeping me from receiving phone calls . ☺️
"Why go steady at all? Why not 'circulate' a little?"
Well that's 10 minutes and 37 seconds of my life I'll never get back.
2:20 "I hope Jeff doesn't feel that he has the right to...take liberties."
"You calling me a slut, Mom?"
Meanwhile her youngest son is off “making fudge” with Alice....
Jeff is everything
I wasn’t born yet when this was made! Makes me feel young LOL!
That's actually sound advice that Jeff's parents gave
Who's thinking about marriage? A LOT OF PEOPLE DO! The father was very quick to respond. Lol
lol ikr ? he was bout to bite Jeff's head off
Lol he got so heated all of a sudden!
Petting. My (steady-ish X 6 years) girlfriend & I thought that meant patting each other on the head. And that was about as physical as we ever got.
"Why not circulate a little?" My entire philosophy lol
Voice Of The Revolution Spread you seed, huh? Remeber Title 4d of SS Act!
You mean like spinning?
I guess we'll never know whether or not they really went steady.
They had to get married and raised five kids
Mother is Clara Edwards from Mayberry!
I'm going to watch this again, counting how many words are used apart from 'going steady.'
mom is Clara Edward's from Andy Griffith show
Jeff - SO smooth on the PHONE at 2:53.
“I hope he doesn’t feel that he can... take liberties.” 🙄🙄🙄🙄
@j drayton ... Taking liberties is still commonly used.
No no not liberties
This has been extremely helpful. Thank you!
"Come on dad, let's play some more checkers"
"Oh, I guess I can skin you again."
What a perv.
To those wondering steady didn't mean sex back then
It ment going slow with a relationship
They still fucked
All 4 of my grandparents were virgins when they got married. They didn’t have birth control back then.
Going steady means officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Being exclusive with each other, not dating others. Not on the market. No longer single and dating around. It has nothing to do with slow or fast.
Uhh, no actually. Contraceptives didn't exist then.
The only rule as far as I can tell was the taking of liberties responsibly.
Otherwise, Mr 🔧 stayed out of the toolbox 😏
@simone
I went on one date with a guy and even before that one date, he was agitated that I was even talking to other guys...And I’m like if people dated multiple people at once in the 50s with no hard feelings or scandal, I can certainly do it in 2020 😂 needless to say, we didn’t go on a second date.
I want to know when "going steady" left the public lexicon.
She was literally sitting by the phone. Egads!
Mothers in these educational films look like grandmothers.
Jeff... sadly died in Korea few months after graduation.
Jeff clearly sucks at checkers. Marie is holding back his game!
I have a serious question to ask. How far dif they average girls go back then when "making out" in parked cars with boys?
Jimmie Harris “🎶Those Cath-o-lic girls start much too late, sooner or later it comes down to fate, ya might as well have some fun, only the good die young..🎶”
@@tundrawomansays5067 "They say.that going steady's not the proper thing
I only know I love you....
Oh, wear my ring around your neck
To show the world you're mine by heck
Let ' em know I love you so
Oh let'em know by that ring around your neck!!"😁😁😉😉✝️⚜️
Kissing, fondling but no sex.
@@linw1486 Think again. Plenty of girls wound up pregnant. They either gave the babies up for adoption or got sent away to some home. And it wasn't talked about. But it happened all the time. People are people, nothing's changed.
I was THERE back then and me and my friends dated 'nice' girls (i.e. virgins) but it wasn't too frustrating - they did EVERYTHING else (and I mean everything).
The first "mom" is Clara from The Andy Griffith show
Jeff looks closer to his dad's age than Marie's age.
The mother is Aunt Bee’s friend Clara from The Andy Griffith Show
Keep in mind this was BEFORE the birth control pill. Going steady didn't mean "steady sex."😁
They did have condoms, though.
It might. After all, "liberties." And for many parents that was the real worry.
@@midevilgurl8765 Ah yes, but they called it necking, canoodling, girls who park, or some other old-timey phrase.
Chicks knew what oral was.
Jeff has perfect hair, perfect eyebrows, cleft chin and well other parts unseen.
She kinda looks like Joanie from Happy Days.
Except constipated.
I thought so too! David from Sebring Florida
Thought the same thing
U betta circulate 😂
I wish things were like this now, I wanna date multiple people and get to know them before I choose to go steady with someone
Sounds like Jeff doesn’t know what he wants. Time to move on Marie.
Circulate a little = Play the field.
Hey, the mom is the same lady who played Clara on The Andy Griffith show!
Crap. I think I'm going steady. :(
Kam Jo In the age of Tinder?😕
Same :)
Wait until get to make fudge. That’s when the fun really starts!
1950: ”Should I go steady?” ”Will he take advantage of me?” ”Am I old enough to think about marriage?”
2021: ”What gender am I - and which pronouns should I make people call me?” ”Should I have a brazilian wax before my date?” ”Should I bring a condom?”
Times have certainly changed…
My...have times changed
1950:
”Should I go steady?” ”Will he take advantage of me?” ”Am I old enough to think about marriage?”
2021: ”What gender am I - and which pronouns should I make people call me?” ”Should I have a brazilian wax before my date?” ”Should I bring a condom?”
Times have certainly changed…
I started to go steady when I was almost 17...1971. Nice seeing actors who went on to bigger and better things, in these videos.
Is that Clara from the Andy Griffith show?
I cannot hear the name "Barney" without thinking of Rubble or Fife. Nip it. Nip it in the bud.
4:36 "Eh"... definitely a Canadian production :)
Jeff's dad is the film's narrator.
I think both of them realised that they liked each other, but that's about it. It's nice to have a guy who will mostly go out with you and have a pleasant evening. But on the other hand, they have progressed to kissing and he has a picture of her in his wallet.
I pet my dog, but were not going steady. Is that an issue?
Yesterday my date partner asked me to go steady with him, and I just don't know, we've gone on 15 dates on phone call so far, I don't really know much about going steady, does that mean we date until engagement? Oh I'd love to date until engagement, what do they call it, ah an promise ring right? If I go steady does he get me a promise ring? Oh brother I am so new to this . Someone help me on out, it'd be wonderful.
don't do it bro, don't do it!
Everything turnedd out fine.
Why does Jeff look 20 years older than Marie? 😭
Marie looks 12 and Jeff looks 34
Is that a flat screen at 4.40 ? Evidence of time travel !
ikr? although this comment is 6 years old, so you are probably steady by now.
I think it’s a lamp
Just to clear this up that is 100% a lamp
It's a blackboard every house had a blackboard dad is always quick with a sketch to show his son The ins and outs of anal sex by drawing it on The family blackboard
Hilarious. The youngins of today no longer recognize old time chalk boards and think they're flat screen TVs, and evidence of time travel.
"Oh yes Alice"??? Player!
Not a player , a circulater !
His father didn't take his own advice he did make a commitment
Jeff is WAY out of her league.
That's what I thought too.
I would argue that She is out of Jeff's league.
That actor is probably super pissed he didn’t get an Ava Gardner lookalike actress.
@Simonne Instead of this loser with a pinched up face like a cat's ass.
Jeff looks about 25 and she looks about 12
i Love watching oLd fiLm.. As Long it has good Lesson on each view.
What does it mean to get going steady?
Joaquin Salgado Lopez them being girlfriend and boyfriend
Right kids, take out your exercise books and write down all the advantages and disadvantages of going steady! 😁
His dad really has a lot of jobs…he’s been a doctor and a principal in several of these films!
forget Alice and the brother, I wanna make ‘fudge’ with Jeff 💦
Okay, but how old is Jeff and how old is Marie....
30, and 14 apparently. ;D
What does she mean when she says "take liberties"? 2:20
Being liberal with physical touching, it means having the right to put your hands on the other person, in a sexual or romantic way.
6:23 Older now? Jeff looks like he’s 30 and mother and father in their 60s. I have not been able to figure out why everyone in it 40s and 50s look so much older than they would now. it’s not meant to be a slight, or a criticism is just something that is a curiosity.
Lol, it’s true 😊😂
Maybe it's how they styled their hair. I have seen pictures in yearbooks from those days, and it's amazing how the girls looked older than they actually were because of how they did their hair. I find it fascinating.
Poor fool doesn't know how "going steady" he is.
Dave Monahan Just wait till she tells him she killed the rabbit.
Jeff likes Diane more than Marie???
Quite sad that even in these times the parents advised to not marry the first man/woman you go out with. Obviously this is not a MUST, but for me it is! I don't want a man who's heart belonged to 5 other girls before he gave it to me :-(
"Don't make any commitments." - Does it not sound so wrong?
But with each relationship you experience and end, you learn a lot about yourself and what you need and want in a significant other. Not a must but sometimes it can be helpful. Even just after my first relationship ended and I got over him, I could clearly see we wouldn't have worked well together and now in my current relationship those problems I had from the first relationship aren't qualities my current boyfriend has. That's why people say it's good to date a few people. Again not saying your wrong, just attempting to give some perspective.
That's ... just not a healthy way to date. People need experience before they can truly do well.
Go to a pub. Pick up a dart and throw it at the dart board.
If you have never played before in your life, there is a 99 percent chance you won't hit the bulls-eye.
What makes you think the first man is going to be "the one"?
I see what you mean Thomas. You don’t want to marry the first person who winks at you, but you don’t want to date someone who’s played more fields than the NFL has
if your hand is starting to clear up and is free of callous sores and rubbing abrasions and the redness and bruises are gone then your going steady with a girl..
dense hershey highway fudge
It looked like Jeff was taking an iphone from his pocket
jeff is daddy asf
1951: Going Steady?
2019: Oh you fuckin fuckin?
Uh, oH, Jeff's got her Preggers.
I needed a laugh!!!
The 1950’s were so much easier than things are today.
Nine months after making fudge🍼
Why did they make these???
Jeff's Dad got his pants from Simon Cowell.
More like Fred Mertz
That is why I don't like dating. Too complicated. I would rather go straight to parenting.
Not a tom leykis listener...