my husband and i have been married for almost 45 yrs. it wasnt a bed of roses but we stuck together thro stick and thin. he has copod, and crontic brontitis, i take good care of him. he will be 73 oct 29th.
I'm glad to see that this video emphasized the importance of the two becoming one. I really think a lot of marital problems today are a result of us having it beat into our heads that we have to retain our complete individuality at all costs. Under that advice, people end up thinking only of themselves: MY wants, MY needs, MY stuff. It's no wonder so many marriages fail; people aren't actually devoted to the idea of a marriage at all. If you want a partnership, get married. If you want complete individuality, stay single.
The success of a marriage isn't determined by compatibility or being "in love." It's determined by the couple's commitment to making it work regardless of temporal feelings. Edit: I've gotten lots of replies from people who think I said love doesn't matter in marriage or that you don't need to marry someone you love. I never said that. Obviously love is important and you shouldn't marry someone you feel nothing for. But the success of your marriage will not be determined by how "in love" you felt on your wedding day. Those feelings will ebb and flow, so you need to be held together by more than feelings -- commitment. Don't throw in the towel when you find that the connection and warm fuzzies have been waning, instead commit to working through that problem. You can come out the other side with even deeper love and intimacy than before. Marriage is not the fulfillment of passion, marriage is the fulfillment of love. Love chooses to accept and forgive another through any emotional state. "Love itself is what is left over when being 'in love' has burned away" - Louis de Bernières
Thank you! All are arguments mostly because we don't have most things in common, we let each other enjoy apart, but come together what we both enjoy, if that makes any sense Lol.
My husband and I just celebrated 20 years of marriage. We probably started off not knowing marriage AT ALL! I wish schools would still show films like these. I wish people took marriage much more seriously!
It’s up to family and community to inform young people. Schools, it seems, seek to destroy traditional families. That said, we live in a different world today. Television programming and its messaging, are a formidable force of degeneracy. Family shows, in which the children disrespect their oafish parents, is but one example. Without the negative programming from the television, families would stand a chance. The Amish have it right. Happy 20th!!!!
What is Marriage? I mean sure you have to pay rent, and buy groceries... but so does everyone married or not. I've been married almost 16 years and still just think of it as being with the one person that I like spending time with the most.
"What's the difference between 19 and 21?" From 19 to 21 I learned more about life and myself than I ever imagined. This is why I wish I was around in 1950s, nobody teaches you this stuff in today's world.
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@MorTobXD only twelves years married, but still don't regret it 😊😊😊😊
Always remember to repent of your sins (sin is transgression of YAHUAH’S LAW: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy) And Have Belief On YAHUSHA HAMASHYACH. HE Died and Rose three days later so that you can be forgiven of your sins! HE Loves you! Come to HIM!🙂🙂🙂
@@ReyBanYAHUAH pleas stop these stupid messages they are so annoying not everybody has same religion or is non-religious and I see these stupid messages that arent even religious 🙄🙄
I wish we still made videos like this. I can't count the number of times I would have liked to have guidance from someone older and more experienced, and not just my parents.
I knew my husband about 3 months when we talked marriage & we were married a year later. That was 33 years ago. I was almost 20 & my husband had just turned 21. A marriage between 2 people who are really good at forgiving will last.
Speaking as a black woman married for 27 years, I often feel that my huz and I don't have a single one of the pleasant marital qualities you listed, but when I look around at all the lonely people who chucked their marriage in the face of hardship, I thank God for our determination to succeed and our happy lives.
@@mohnish7653 No, darling, he is all soul brother. At the time of this reply to you, in four months it'll be 35 years! But trust me, even though staying hitched to each other is the biggest challenge of our lives, if you call on the Lord like we try to do, you can make it through anything, one day at a time.
@@matinajazmine Marriage is signing a piece of paper. Nothing more or less. It's being together for a long time and not understanding how to make it work that's the problem.
+ScoffSlaphead72 I know a couple that run away together the day after meeting each other for the first time xD. They got married and they celebrated their 50th anniversary two or three years ago. They are from my Parish (Church). :). Your comment is good. There are exceptions to the rule, but i agree with EclecticDancerp, most of couples with 3 moths tend to see only the good side of everything. It's important to get to know the other person well. But, basically it can work with anybody. The thing it's to learn to love the person you liked at first, with all its good and bad things. :D. *Sorry my english is not very good x_X. Greetings.
I think this was more common back then. Both my grandmothers were born in the 1920's and married at 16 & 17 to older men after only knowing them a few months. They both stayed married til their husbands passed later in life. For my parents, born in 1946, it was after only 6 months (were married 47 years). Crazy to think about now-a-days but somehow it worked back then.
My parents were married for 59 years. they taught me marriage is forever. You have to work on it, respect your partner be kind, go on lots of dates hug alot. laughter is important too.
I love this! Such solid advice!! My husband and I were best friends for three years before we dated and got married. That friendship is so so SO important. He is truly my other half and I'm so glad that we considered those questions before I even knew they existed. It is important to have the same beliefs, and to know that we are in this truly til death.
@@BrooklynBaby100 He told me that he wanted to be more than friends too and so he said he would wait for me and he did. He didn't date or talk to any other girls, I was truly his best friend and he mine. We always knlew we would get married someday it just wasn't time to date yet. We've been married 3 years now!
How long did you make him wait? How many men did you sleep with while making him wait? How much do you disrespect him? How many times have you considered bringing up a open ‘relationship’ to him knowing he’s a weak man and won’t leave you? Or have you done that already? I’d get your Husband to watch Red Pill content and Men’s advice channels to make sure you’re not disrespecting him.
@@Imthesoulofthesgood lord. get a grip. have you ever considered that some people are in happy, devoted relationships? and for all you talk about “disrespect”, you don’t seem to respect women all that much.
This is the most adorable thing ever, as an African I am so glad my culture already urges young couples to ask and resolve these questions between one another and gives so much help to young couples during those first few years.
Sheesh she did say African but I guess PRC NH you should have been specific on your exact location because people can’t wait to nitpick. I get it, your family and those you associate with have parents that understand the importance of the right mate. Blessed you are!
I proposed to my wife after 3 weeks; married less than 3 months later. We've been very happily married 15+ years...my best friend! Not for everyone, but it can work...
It's very treacly, but not too far-fetched. A bigger problem is that we have a tendency to treat the unmarried like children in society who haven't "figured it out" yet. In areas that emphasize purity culture, the more severe, the worse the marriage outcomes tend to be. Young Adults are naturally eager to begin romantic and sexual relationships, and when they are forced to completely hold off until marriage, people tend to jump the gun to get married before they are ready. Parents in those cultures also tend to allow marriages to happen quickly with limited dating/romance/sex experiences because they are afraid that their kids, especially their daughters, may be unable to resist temptation and "ruin" their so-called purity.
@@andreasantoni6896 Always remember to repent of your sins (sin is transgression of YAHUAH’S LAW: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy) And Have Belief On YAHUSHA HAMASHYACH. HE Died and Rose three days later so that you can be forgiven of your sins! HE Loves you! Come to HIM!🙂🙂🙂
Yes, a black and white film with sets and you take that as to mean an illustration of the time. That was hardly high-tech for the time, you just ignored the entire video to get your quick "past-is-primitive" gag out there, which I'm afraid won't work as soon as you see it in real time real footage, especially in color, and in sound.
@@poetcomic1 I'm sure you do, but you are clearly talking down to an era using a strawman creation and naive recounts of the past to make an assumption that isn't true. That was an entirely modern time in 1950. In another world that better represented these eras, there would not be comments primitizing the time, and people wouldn't be so darn afraid to compliment the era for its hard work and never ending atulment.
We’ve been 29 years, and we only knew each other 6 months before getting engaged. We were married a year later. We didn’t discuss any of these things before - religion, financial issues (are you a big spender or saver), how many children did we want? We lucked out that we were a very good match and have very similar views on most things. But looking at this video I can see all the things that are important to consider before getting married.
Maybe you didn't talk about those things consciously, but you probably got an idea about them subconsciously. I mean...when you start dating someone, chances are you met him or her during an activity you enjoy, so that already means you share at least some hobbies. Or if it was a classmate, you know the same people. You go out to eat or watch a movie, BANG! You get to know a LOT about what your significant other likes. Or your date might make some remarks that you agree with or that annoy you because they go against your beliefs or POVs. Once you learn where the other lives and their job, you have a good idea about their financial situation (of course, they may be terribly in debt, but generally speaking it gives you an idea) and will compare it to yours even without really thinking about it. Within six months you probably had the chance to disagree about something or see his or her reaction to children - all of that tells you about their views on those topics. So yeah, the video makes the lovers more consciously think about stuff, but I reckon most people from normal households (aka mother and father present) catch on about this stuff without explicitly sitting down and planning with their date. Obviously it's a good trait to be able to do that on the go, as you'll eventually have to figure out how to raise your children, where to go on vacation, or how to share hardships (although I don't wish those on anyone, but some will probably float everybody's way at some point).
Aside from the sexual morals of the time, marriage was the mark of adulthood in that time, so it was attractive to teenagers who tended to begin their adult lives after high school (and many dropped out earlier to work). And most everyone around them married young. The average age of first marriage for women was 19 in 1957 and 21 for men, which is what the counselor advised. No one could envision the enormous changes waiting for them during the 60s.
Cultural Marxism completely threw everything upside down and here is the mess we are living in today with record divorce rates, single mothers and sexual degeneracy everywhere.
Ahh the 60's, when the beginnings of today's debauchery really got swinging! All social scientists know this, but many are paid to say otherwise. Mind you, Hollywood had a hand in this decades earlier by portraying men as bullying misogynist wife beaters.
+cathy2000 I can see both, perhaps something that hits upon the ideas, the importance of consideration, and understanding, without the weird outdated pandering.
+randall2020 if you look for racism youll find it. similar backgrounds implies nothing racially at all. it more likely meant were they of the same religion/similar family style etc. and there used to be a sanctity of marriage. our stark individualism has ruined that.
I had been friends with my wife for almost thirty years before we decided to get married. I personally think that the most important thing that makes a marriage successful is friendship.
There’s a lot to be said for having similar backgrounds/faiths. You can’t even imagine the tremendous differences until you get married and reality sets in. It seems none of that matters when dating bc you’re so “in love”. Trust me, the day will come when it all matters. Just don’t. Stick with your own background and faith. People who don’t care about their faith suddenly start to care when kids come along. My husband and I have been married 19 years now, but we have these exact differences and they’re largely our biggest issues.
Gosh, those graphs look scientific! Seriously though, I love the minster in this. Wish I'd had a wise uncle like him when I was a gormless teenager, I'd never have been off his doorstep asking for advice...
Red flag 1: "We've known each other for 3 months, 1 week, 2 days, and 17 hrs..." Red flag 2: "We don't even have any quarrels!" Red flag 3: "We talk about movies and songs and dancing!" ROTFLOL Red flag 4: "I don't like to hear about his career." LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL :-)
PS unlike everyone else, I do not count their age as a red flag, I got married at 18, and my fiance was 19, I am now 21 and our marriage is doing well. However we knew each other for 10 years when we got married, not 3 months. We grew up together. :)
Megan Baldwin, I agree that they do not seem ready for marriage, but any young couple who asks a minister or their parents or other moral respectful older person for advice on marriage, is VERY SMART! At least they are asking...and listening and taking the minister's advice!! A fool doesn't listen to anyone else - and ends up getting into horrible, destructive relationships! Then they usually blame everyone else for their own bad decisions! We can create a tangled mess of self deceit for ourselves.....and we end up hurting ourselves in the process! What a waste of a life! I agree with this video: A wise young person gets advice from moral older persons who have more life experiences.
Megan Baldwin Yes, I think it is important to really get to know someone before you get married. It is good to also have common interests and goals in life, and other things like religious beliefs, moral beliefs, things like similar interests can also help because you have to have common goals for your marriage, although you don't have to agree on everything. It's good to take some time to find out what each person wants to contribute what your goals are for your marriage. This is my opinion, because you have to have common ground to build on. I am NOT saying that you have to agree on everything or never argue, but, it is good to build a good foundation first, and get to know someone over time.
CaliWis804 I agree with you 100%!!! My mother has a saying "A smart person learns from other's mistakes, a fool - from his own." It's so sad to see that younger generations are not either raised, or w/e is the reason behind it, to ask for advice or at least LISTEN to those who have lived longer and have seen more. I remember my teenage years still (i'm only 26) and even though I was as hard headed as the next brat, I was brought up by my mother who always took time to talk to me and I always listened (even if with one ear at the time) I'm married right now, a little bit over a year, and I completely agree with the 1st chart presented by the marriage counselor. Especially on having similar backgrounds, although to me it's more of having similar cores and traits (b/c if you are too much of an opposite, it really DOES start to strain the relationship, especially if both are vocal about it). You can always compromise, but it can sometimes only take you that far, until you start to feel resentment towards the one you loved because they can't understand you. You can try to shove it under the rug, but then what kind of married life is that? Alot of things come with time and some relationships just can't stand the test of time. And friendship too. That's a great basis for any relationship, if not the best. At end of it all, the point of marriage is to spend your whole life with the other person, to grow old, build a family. If you come to a point in your relationship that you can no longer talk to each other about anything, enjoy each other's company and have fun, like friends do, then you are simply roommates who have sex. Also, if you don't lead a healthy and active sexual life with your partner, you are still only roommates. And finally marriage should be about personal growth, of both individuals and as a whole.
I love that these videos are so full of common sense, and wasn't t it great to see that everyone has the youngsters' best interests at heart and wanted to work with them? These weren't parents who would judge if they did break off the engagement but they were willing to help them make it work too.
Bullshit. I've been on long distance relationships and if it wasn't for my phone and computer, I would have never had the life I had, but probably a more solitary one. And before you say anything, shyness and being overweight don't do any good in a world where we're judged by looks
youtube is also social media. silly statements like "back in the 1950s everything was fine without computers, ergo we can return to exactly that kind of living now and it will only result in the good qualities I perceive from that time being promoted"
I politely but strongly have to disagree with your opinion of this being strange. I found 100% of it to be absolutely pragmatic. What part do you find strange? I'm only 18, but I found this very enlightening. I believe every single man and woman need to watch this dated film which is certainty NOT dated in knowledge or wisdom.
Ethan Swords Very well said. This was how they taught young people about life before Kinsey’s lies and perversion infiltrated society. Every person should watch Judith Reisman’s documentary about it before having children of their own.
My parents got engaged 2 weeks after meeting. When my husband asked me at 1 1/2 week. We were engaged at 2 months because he wanted to make our engagement official in front of my family. We have been together 15 years 10 month. I can give you days and hours too. When you know the one you know. My parents have been together for 49 years near their 50 Anniversary.
Yeah I guess you're right. Women really don't need an education. Just drop out of school and get married. In Sue's case, she'll go to school until LARRY graduates and then get married. Oh how I love the old days ;)
I am now engaged and its just good to watch this short film. Im just happy that I waited for more years before entering to a relationship. Time really helps us to be mature physically and emotionally and to be more responsible. And soon, I'll marry my first and last man in my life. 😊
Back in those days, it was possible to get a stable, career-path job right out of high school in a factory or as an office clerk and work your way up from there and assume that you were going to retire from there if everything worked out just right. I know several couples in their 70s-80s who did exactly that and retired quite comfortably. It's too bad that you're unlikely to do that these days. That level of stability was a real help to the people that I talked to.
I agree with your analysis but not the conclusions. The years from 50s untill 2000s were the most extraordinary that history has ever seen in West world. That kind of society was based on plans and future. They ruined the present 🎁😂
@@laurapavone3513 Don't know if you intended to respond to my comment specifically, but I'm going to say that my comment still stands. One of the examples that I'm mentioning is my father-in-law (in his 80s now) who only went to high school, got a job as a clerk and worked his way up at the company and retired comfortably at 55. Jobs were very manual back then, and he retired before any computers were in use in the office. Also, there was no international competition back then. The US economy was also in great shape when he got his start in the 1950s. The stable job, great economy, and no college debt really worked out for him. His marriage was great, he had lots of free time for hobbies and clubs... in ways that young people today do not have and likely won't have. It's a different world now, with more financial uncertainty and and the additional stress is not a help for young families.
“Maybe you should convince your folks that you should get married.” “How Larry, how?” That pause....I thought he was going to say something like “well gee golly, I could knock you up, then your folks would tell us we have to get married!”
Goshh! I found the right thing at the right time again! ❤✨🙏🏻 this channel is such a teacher, through these clips for understanding love and relationships, today's generation needs a lot of such teachings, when it comes to knowing what they want, towards love, marriage and commitment. Thanks.
The video is right though, as dated as it is. I think you would see a lot less divorce if everyone was taught the basic ideas of what you should look for before getting swept up with the idea of a wedding.
27! Let's see, do we have the same religious beliefs? Enjoy the same friends? Have similar tastes and interests? We'll banish that psychological distance soon enough!!
julie Wallis if you only ever sleep with one person in your life, that will be the best sexual partner you’ve ever had. The more people you sleep with, the less likely it is that you’ll marry the person that was also your best sexual partner. And if you marry based on who WAS the best sexual partner, then the marriage may not stand the test of time as the years go by
DeadLittlePunkDoll yeah you basically repeated what I told you and said it as if I hadn’t thought of it like that. That was the point I was making and you could take either of our perspectives on it. Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I’m not convinced that you would ever be fulfilled in marriage, if before that marriage you had slept with 100 other people. Would one person suddenly become enough? You’ve tried 101 flavours of ice cream and you’re now sticking with chocolate?
DeadLittlePunkDoll yeah and I can appreciate that. It’s not something I’m suggesting be enforced, just a path I’d personally recommend. There seems to be one path that more successfully leads to fulfilment from what I have seen. Most people don’t realise that till they’re part way down the wrong path
@@JulieWallis1963 you will marry a whore and you can't make a good housekeeper and mother out of a whore if she slept with you without a ring if the ups guy looks good she'll do him if she works with a cute guy she will try him. She will NEVER be faithful so keep trying on coats that others have tried on but remember you will never have a coat that is was really YOUR COAT enjoy sloppy seconds
My Husband and I got married 2 months after graduating High School. We never had kids because we didn’t want any. We have had a blast. We have had some rough patches but that just makes us stronger. We have been married for 41 years. I think having both of us coming from families that both parents were still married had something to do with us living with examples of how to make things work
Not asking you personally if you were, but how important do you think virginity is for a successful marriage? A lot of younger people now have been around the block a dozen times or more, do you think they will have trouble settling down or staying satisfied or faithful?
My husband and I went through personal Hell with each other to learn what God's idea for marriage is. It was the most pain we've experienced. I almost took my life cuz of it but, man, when we came out on the other side, it became Heaven on Earth. It was worth it and I am ever so grateful to God He got us through it. Literally, it feels like we lived two different lifetimes. Unfortunately, neither of our parents were good examples for what a marriage was so we had to learn the hard way. These PSAs would've been very helpful.
Thank God that a certain segment of our society is getting back to a more biblical model of courtship and marriage. My church has excellent pre-marital (pre-engagement) counseling. I love that this couple got their family and church involved. Bravo!
Green Eggs & Ham1 Funny That us atheists still have equally strong marriages without the need for god or the bible. I’m very happily married to my best friend, we make each other laugh daily, we look out for each other, we trust each other and are there for each other through good times and bad. Not that we have had many bad times, but for a couple in their mid 50s I think we can say we have a solid relationship. Don’t blame or credit god for something that is entirely due to the hard work, commitment and attitude of the couple. I’d be very upset if our daughters got involved with any “churchy types”. a load of jumbo jumbo spouted from religious crackpots isn’t going to help anyone. A good marriage depends on the couple, *not* god or the bible.
I agree, superficial attraction probably wouldn't survive. But then isn't that one way of putting the relationship to the test; to see whether it's a real deep relationship, I mean, and not just attraction coming from physical..interaction? I mean, when you're looking for something real and long-term, you find that the attraction-based relationship is just a waste of time and emotion anyway. But a love based on more important things could certainly survive.
I love this video! Even when its from The 50's what it says is so true, I've been married for 3 years and I think those are The basic rules for a good marriage
Wow...this helped me understand why Adam and Eve were able to stay married for over *900 Years* *"For this reason will a man leave his father and mother, and stick close with his wife: and they will be one flesh."* This is obviously not literally saying their flesh will be joined together but, rather they will be united in spirit. Therefore age is not the sole issue here as there are many men and women today in all age groups who still can't work together as a team in marriage or with family or friends even...let alone strangers. So the main lesson here is that if both people cannot work together as a team towards the same goal then in the end they will fail in marriage even if they were successfully united in the beginning. And to be united requires humility and kindness like this couple demonstrated with one another.
(Smile) I wished I watched this about 47 years ago!!! I think the video had some great points that were good then and today... And still some young people want to get married fast!
I was married for 55 years. Am widowed now. This movie is on target. But to me the most important thing is commitment If you are going in thinking you can leave , than first obstacle. You will bail
Honestly, if you're close with your parents, their approval does mean a great deal. A large part of social gatherings and outings takes place with family in it. If they were good parents and had a heavy hand in your life raising you (even if they did mess up some parts), they know a great deal about you. Screw Larry trying to pressure Susan. Rude af.
My grandma and grandpa married each other even though they had only been dating 6 months, they were married for almost 50 years and loved each other very much. My aunt and her husband has been together since they were 14, they were together for 19 years and had two kids before they got married. My other aunt has never been married despite having two sons. My point is that I don't believe that there is a "rule" for when and why to get married. I think humans are capable of deciding for themselves.
Mind you, videos like this are based on scientific statistic. Science is nothing more than a recording of patterns. So the general knowledge disseminated by this guy is only generally correct. When you are appealing through science, there are no absolutes, only generalities. But that doesn't mean the generalities are a bad rule of thumb to be completely disregarded. At least I've found as much.
These rules obviously can't apply to every single person. But overall this is good advice. The divorce rate is rising now. Videos like this would be very helpful.
I was 25 when I got married. My husband was 25, and we'd dated fo 2 years. We had different backgrounds, but we were "real friends" and understood marriage. I think 18 and 19 is "way" too young!
Taking time is certainly good advice. "...exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever." - Writings of Abdu’l-Baha
What gets me about these kids is that they actually let the adults get a whole sentence out of the mouth before they answer. Try getting that kind of common sense and respect out of kids these days is impossible.
Im 65 and have been married for 43 years. The guy @ the Car Dealership who is a service advisor and a good friend is 42 and has been Divorced Twice . Now he lives with his Mom who is 72. 🙄
It bothers me a tiny bit that Sue probably wasn't going to be concerned that Dad was sending her to "State U" which may... or may not... meet her educational needs, desires & goals, just so she & Larry can see if they get along. (In school, that is.) Very sweet. Very wholesome. And realistic.
I love these old tapes! The key is to let God do the picking for you! When God gives you an unconditional love for someone neither distance nor time apart can penetrate that kind of commitment! 🕊️~`~ 🐦 total free_dom
My grandparents waited for their spouses who were away at war, same with my Mom when she waited for Dad who was Vietnam, and now I wait still for the sailor in my life to return from duty... :) waiting is hard, but we both continue in school, help our families when we can, and participate at church. Not so we keep busy while we wait, but so that we mature and learn more about each other till we marry...
When one looks at our culture now, they find our nation (America) is in a state of decay and moral failure. This video from sixty years ago explains how maturity and looking at a potential mate with a realistic perspective before marrying them, is actually a requirement if you want not only healthy marriages but even a civil, safe society! Most young persons from the last five+ decades have NOT been taught these values from their parents nor from other cultural institutions and it has seriously hurt our culture! Healthy long term marriages and the family set up with two parents has been the very foundation of every culture for thousands of years, but you can't have emotionally healthy families and a high moral structure to a culture if marriages break down at a high rate or if marriage is not encouraged. Then there is no real protection for women and children in such a society and eventually chaos destroys the culture altogether!! Men are not encouraged to be responsible and stay with their families and provide for them in such a chaotic society! However, a healthy, successful society begins with good monogamous marriages and intact families. That is why our country (USA) was so very successful in the past, but due to immorality flooding into our society, we have become a "debtor" nation! Very sad! The breakdown of marriage, families and morals in the last 50-60 years has absolutely effected even our economy and business practices negatively! Interesting how that happens.......I hope it is not too late for us (USA)!!
Nice soap boxing there! Love the way you blame men for the moral failure in society, as always its all on us isn't it? Oh ohhh, how boring!! "Men are not encouraged to be responsible and stay with their families and provide for them in such a chaotic society!" Yes, lets think about all the poor women and children destroyed by divorce because when men get divorced they're absolutely happy about the situation skipping down a rose lined path, Men simply looooove getting divorced now don't they? "Then there is no real protection for women and children in such a society and eventually chaos destroys the culture altogether!!" The real reason (as I see it) that society has gone down the toilet is because nobody cares to think about what a men might actually want, nobody ever thinks about male needs and you seem to be a prime example of that. Men are simple creatures who have very basic needs. We want to be loved, We want to be respected and we want to be treated fairly... Obviously this is too big an outlay for the modern woman to deal with so I guess fewer men will want to get married, sucks for the USA! The words "check yourself before you wreck yourself" have never been so apt, America.
***** You are right in that it is not all mens fault. People (men AND women) in our society have become too in love with the idea of doing what they want, what is best for them, and what "feels right" in the moment. It is like anything goes and the future is of no consequence. That is why we are seeing a lot of decline in society. Then you have people growing up in households not seeing a functional stable family and then they grow up and repeat the cycle. We cannot have a society full of people who think that it's okay to "do whatever you want and it's okay as long as it feels right to you" AND avoid problems like rampant STDs, unwed pregnancies, divorces, and broken homes…you CANNOT have it both ways. Just because you have lawful permission to dress any kind of way.act any ind of way and do whatever you want does not mean it is wise or practical. The standards in this video exist for a reason and it's there to help both men and women. There were issues with the 1950s, anyone would be foolish not to admit that but there are certain mindsets from that era there were beneficial that we have just chucked by the wayside that that is very unfourtunante. It's time to stop pointing the blame at people and all be accountable for our own choices.
We live in an infantilised age; where men and women with the bodies and hormones of adults have the minds and behaviour of infants; impatient, indulgent, profligate, intemperate, fickle, transient, raucous, rebellious, kidults having no sense of how they fit into anything bigger so they just have a twisted sense of themselves and little awareness beyond their own appetites.
Good video. Too bad most people today just wanna follow what they feel at a certain moment, and those bad choices can lead to a lifetime of pain, struggles, and heartbreak.
my husband and i have been married for almost 45 yrs. it wasnt a bed of roses but we stuck together thro stick and thin. he has copod, and crontic brontitis, i take good care of him. he will be 73 oct 29th.
I wish great health to your husband, lady!
my dad is from oct 29.
MAY THE GOOD LORD SHINE HIS LIGHT ON YOU TWO FOR ANOTHER 45YRS!!!
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I'm glad to see that this video emphasized the importance of the two becoming one. I really think a lot of marital problems today are a result of us having it beat into our heads that we have to retain our complete individuality at all costs. Under that advice, people end up thinking only of themselves: MY wants, MY needs, MY stuff. It's no wonder so many marriages fail; people aren't actually devoted to the idea of a marriage at all. If you want a partnership, get married. If you want complete individuality, stay single.
adamatomic41 Well said!
@@Lalalauren1117 ^
'In marriage it is well to say that two become one. The question is; which one?' - someone
absoluetly true
I want to have children in the future, but I am not sure if I want to be married.
The success of a marriage isn't determined by compatibility or being "in love." It's determined by the couple's commitment to making it work regardless of temporal feelings.
Edit: I've gotten lots of replies from people who think I said love doesn't matter in marriage or that you don't need to marry someone you love. I never said that. Obviously love is important and you shouldn't marry someone you feel nothing for. But the success of your marriage will not be determined by how "in love" you felt on your wedding day. Those feelings will ebb and flow, so you need to be held together by more than feelings -- commitment. Don't throw in the towel when you find that the connection and warm fuzzies have been waning, instead commit to working through that problem. You can come out the other side with even deeper love and intimacy than before.
Marriage is not the fulfillment of passion, marriage is the fulfillment of love. Love chooses to accept and forgive another through any emotional state. "Love itself is what is left over when being 'in love' has burned away" - Louis de Bernières
Word.
And, for men like you it's the size of her implants. Olivia Hanson: I couldn't agree more.
Could you PLEASE email my wife that? She needs to hear that from a female and not a male that is her husband.
Thank you! All are arguments mostly because we don't have most things in common, we let each other enjoy apart, but come together what we both enjoy, if that makes any sense Lol.
Seems like you're wasting your time. The hell is the point.
So many people need this badly today.
Arе you making thеsе mistakes with your man? twitter.com/a9c60516d47d92b7a/status/804693412402241537 Are You Ready For MMarriage 1950
@ God has blessed you. But others aren't that fortunate.
I thought you were joeanna the moment I saw your profile 😂
Amen!
THANK YOU!!! THIS EXPLAINS WHY MY PARENTS WERE DOOMED......
My husband and I just celebrated 20 years of marriage. We probably started off not knowing marriage AT ALL! I wish schools would still show films like these. I wish people took marriage much more seriously!
It’s up to family and community to inform young people. Schools, it seems, seek to destroy traditional families. That said, we live in a different world today. Television programming and its messaging, are a formidable force of degeneracy.
Family shows, in which the children disrespect their oafish parents, is but one example. Without the negative programming from the television, families would stand a chance. The Amish have it right. Happy 20th!!!!
They definitely won't. Schools want your child to believe they can be whatever gender they "want" to be. They'll force their ideology onto your child.
@@tanneredge9774 I think I'm seeing that for myself.
What is Marriage? I mean sure you have to pay rent, and buy groceries... but so does everyone married or not. I've been married almost 16 years and still just think of it as being with the one person that I like spending time with the most.
@@tanneredge9774nail on the head 👍
Anyone ever regret laughing at the advice given by old people yet when the time came you wish you took that advice
I should have saved more money...
"It takes more than that BOING" ...sums it all up.
never underestimate the power of BOING!
Yes, it requires BOING BOING BOING BOING BOING BOING BOING BOING
@@GenerallyGeneralLee like your comment. like your id
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After knowing each other for only 3 months and some odd days, that’s the only thing on their minds.
Those graphs looked totally legit.
Very scientific. Way over my head.
I definitely wasn’t expecting that when he mentioned a graph or data- a numbered board with a few dolls.
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two separate studies, yo!
Call me old fashioned but I think he's right,
You're old fashioned and both you and the guy are WRONG! Sex and marriage, go together like a horse and carriage.....
He is absolutely right.
I haven't even watched the video but it can't be any worse than today marriage
"What's the difference between 19 and 21?" From 19 to 21 I learned more about life and myself than I ever imagined. This is why I wish I was around in 1950s, nobody teaches you this stuff in today's world.
@MorTobXD only twelves years married, but still don't regret it 😊😊😊😊
Always remember to repent of your sins (sin is transgression of YAHUAH’S LAW: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy) And Have Belief On YAHUSHA HAMASHYACH. HE Died and Rose three days later so that you can be forgiven of your sins!
HE Loves you! Come to HIM!🙂🙂🙂
I can confirm. I'm nineteen, and it's strange looking back two years ago and realizing how much growth and maturity I've gone through.
@@ReyBanYAHUAH pleas stop these stupid messages they are so annoying not everybody has same religion or is non-religious and I see these stupid messages that arent even religious 🙄🙄
No you didn't, you just started to learn when you started being banged. Like everyone today.
I wish we still made videos like this. I can't count the number of times I would have liked to have guidance from someone older and more experienced, and not just my parents.
If we lived in times like this, we wouldn't have problems
Pastors are a great help in that regard, probably one of the main reasons why religious people are more successful at marriages.
@YamiKisara After government took over churches with the tax exemption act its hit or miss on whether they'll be good guidance.
I agree
Every so often, he gives those "teenagers" a look like he's going to backhand them. It's quite a stare.
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I can't stop binge watching these. This channel is going to make me need Ambien
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I knew my husband about 3 months when we talked marriage & we were married a year later. That was 33 years ago. I was almost 20 & my husband had just turned 21. A marriage between 2 people who are really good at forgiving will last.
if you have your first kid in 1986 s/he is my age
That is unusual now a days to still be married after knowing each other for such a short time
@@nylanelson5212 i knew my husband 34 days before marrying him. LEGIT. Going on 15 years and very happy…
Dang ya'll really must've really clicked. I'm not surprised. It's happened to many of the people I know
Speaking as a black woman married for 27 years, I often feel that my huz and I don't have a single one of the pleasant marital qualities you listed, but when I look around at all the lonely people who chucked their marriage in the face of hardship, I thank God for our determination to succeed and our happy lives.
im surprised a black marriage lasted so long is he white ?
@@mohnish7653 No, darling, he is all soul brother. At the time of this reply to you, in four months it'll be 35 years! But trust me, even though staying hitched to each other is the biggest challenge of our lives, if you call on the Lord like we try to do, you can make it through anything, one day at a time.
that’s so cool!
Good for you!
Love it, 35 years is impressive especially these days people never last these days, sending all my love
It's gone ! Where'd it go?!...that's what you'll be saying about your romance lmao
Shardae .Greene 😂n that's why you should never get married
I LOST IT HAHAHAHAH
I laughed when that happen 😂
Absolute truth though.
@@matinajazmine Marriage is signing a piece of paper. Nothing more or less. It's being together for a long time and not understanding how to make it work that's the problem.
Oh good gosh they've known each other for 3 months. THREE MONTHS
my dad proposed to my mum after 2 weeks of knowing each other
+ScoffSlaphead72 I know a couple that run away together the day after meeting each other for the first time xD. They got married and they celebrated their 50th anniversary two or three years ago. They are from my Parish (Church). :). Your comment is good. There are exceptions to the rule, but i agree with EclecticDancerp, most of couples with 3 moths tend to see only the good side of everything. It's important to get to know the other person well. But, basically it can work with anybody. The thing it's to learn to love the person you liked at first, with all its good and bad things. :D. *Sorry my english is not very good x_X. Greetings.
You forgot 17 hours!
And she is eighteen!
I think this was more common back then. Both my grandmothers were born in the 1920's and married at 16 & 17 to older men after only knowing them a few months. They both stayed married til their husbands passed later in life. For my parents, born in 1946, it was after only 6 months (were married 47 years). Crazy to think about now-a-days but somehow it worked back then.
So this is how my parents stayed happily married for 47 years until my dad passed! They had programs like this to influence them.
My parents were married for 59 years. they taught me marriage is forever. You have to work on it, respect your partner be kind, go on lots of dates hug alot. laughter is important too.
I came here to make fun of these old videos but i think I learned something from this one.
I actually came here for the advice. Got to go back in time to find a dating guru with some sound advice 😄
there’s nothing to make fun of
Really????!?!?
@@shannon473 old time misogyny, racism, their effed up values.
@@marshiemoonYou've been listening to too much MSM
Even though it's more than 60 years old, this is still relatable today
Human nature doesn't change that much
The bonding between two human beings in the oldest story of humanity
And don't forget booze 🤓🚽and gambling 💰
I love this! Such solid advice!! My husband and I were best friends for three years before we dated and got married. That friendship is so so SO important. He is truly my other half and I'm so glad that we considered those questions before I even knew they existed. It is important to have the same beliefs, and to know that we are in this truly til death.
Omg how did you know he was going to stick around? 3 years is a long time to hope it becomes romantic… 😭
@@BrooklynBaby100 He told me that he wanted to be more than friends too and so he said he would wait for me and he did. He didn't date or talk to any other girls, I was truly his best friend and he mine. We always knlew we would get married someday it just wasn't time to date yet. We've been married 3 years now!
How long did you make him wait?
How many men did you sleep with while making him wait?
How much do you disrespect him?
How many times have you considered bringing up a open ‘relationship’ to him knowing he’s a weak man and won’t leave you? Or have you done that already?
I’d get your Husband to watch Red Pill content and Men’s advice channels to make sure you’re not disrespecting him.
@@Imthesoulofthesgood lord. get a grip. have you ever considered that some people are in happy, devoted relationships? and for all you talk about “disrespect”, you don’t seem to respect women all that much.
@@Imthesoulofthes who the heck messed you up? 🤣😂😂
This is the most adorable thing ever, as an African I am so glad my culture already urges young couples to ask and resolve these questions between one another and gives so much help to young couples during those first few years.
Mostly single black mothers here in the US..... multiple kids by multiple fathers.
Sheesh she did say African but I guess PRC NH you should have been specific on your exact location because people can’t wait to nitpick. I get it, your family and those you associate with have parents that understand the importance of the right mate. Blessed you are!
You mean before the African man marries 5 other women and then runs around town knocking his girlfriends up.
@@michaelbritt2162 you sound like a racist piece of shit. Stop that racist assumption of black women you moron
@@inmyelementblue7186 Just because you don't like the statistics doesn't mean its racist. Facts are facts silly
I proposed to my wife after 3 weeks; married less than 3 months later. We've been very happily married 15+ years...my best friend!
Not for everyone, but it can work...
That would be the exception, not the rule. I think two people should date for at least 1 to 1.5 years at the very least before engagement
How did you know she was the one?
Worked for us, too.
I love how the parent also respected the children as well and tried to compromise when seeing the children show a new level of maturity
This all seems very sensible...We'd probably have less divorces if people would take the necessary time to get to know one another.
And getting to know oneself
They knew eachother for 3 months
Society forces the institution of marriage on people before they are ready.
It's very treacly, but not too far-fetched. A bigger problem is that we have a tendency to treat the unmarried like children in society who haven't "figured it out" yet. In areas that emphasize purity culture, the more severe, the worse the marriage outcomes tend to be. Young Adults are naturally eager to begin romantic and sexual relationships, and when they are forced to completely hold off until marriage, people tend to jump the gun to get married before they are ready. Parents in those cultures also tend to allow marriages to happen quickly with limited dating/romance/sex experiences because they are afraid that their kids, especially their daughters, may be unable to resist temptation and "ruin" their so-called purity.
correct
This is a great film. The minister is wise.
The minister was also full of shit.
@@andreasantoni6896 Always remember to repent of your sins (sin is transgression of YAHUAH’S LAW: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy) And Have Belief On YAHUSHA HAMASHYACH. HE Died and Rose three days later so that you can be forgiven of your sins!
HE Loves you! Come to HIM!🙂🙂🙂
People need more of this. Sound advice
I can't believe how educational these movies are. Thank you for uploading them!
Love that high-tech 'marriage board' for assessing couples. It was 'state of the art' in 1950.
But it made sense and was CLEAR!
Yes, a black and white film with sets and you take that as to mean an illustration of the time. That was hardly high-tech for the time, you just ignored the entire video to get your quick "past-is-primitive" gag out there, which I'm afraid won't work as soon as you see it in real time real footage, especially in color, and in sound.
@@WitchKing-Of-Angmar Actually I liked the film and made a lot of good points.
@@poetcomic1 I'm sure you do, but you are clearly talking down to an era using a strawman creation and naive recounts of the past to make an assumption that isn't true. That was an entirely modern time in 1950. In another world that better represented these eras, there would not be comments primitizing the time, and people wouldn't be so darn afraid to compliment the era for its hard work and never ending atulment.
@@WitchKing-Of-Angmar I was just clowning. WOW you are INTENSE. I would hate to go camping with you:
We’ve been 29 years, and we only knew each other 6 months before getting engaged. We were married a year later. We didn’t discuss any of these things before - religion, financial issues (are you a big spender or saver), how many children did we want? We lucked out that we were a very good match and have very similar views on most things. But looking at this video I can see all the things that are important to consider before getting married.
Sounds like my parents. They dated for 6 weeks and were married for 54 years.
Maybe you didn't talk about those things consciously, but you probably got an idea about them subconsciously. I mean...when you start dating someone, chances are you met him or her during an activity you enjoy, so that already means you share at least some hobbies. Or if it was a classmate, you know the same people. You go out to eat or watch a movie, BANG! You get to know a LOT about what your significant other likes. Or your date might make some remarks that you agree with or that annoy you because they go against your beliefs or POVs. Once you learn where the other lives and their job, you have a good idea about their financial situation (of course, they may be terribly in debt, but generally speaking it gives you an idea) and will compare it to yours even without really thinking about it. Within six months you probably had the chance to disagree about something or see his or her reaction to children - all of that tells you about their views on those topics. So yeah, the video makes the lovers more consciously think about stuff, but I reckon most people from normal households (aka mother and father present) catch on about this stuff without explicitly sitting down and planning with their date. Obviously it's a good trait to be able to do that on the go, as you'll eventually have to figure out how to raise your children, where to go on vacation, or how to share hardships (although I don't wish those on anyone, but some will probably float everybody's way at some point).
Engaged to be engaged. There is actually a word for that, it's called being promised.
Aside from the sexual morals of the time, marriage was the mark of adulthood in that time, so it was attractive to teenagers who tended to begin their adult lives after high school (and many dropped out earlier to work). And most everyone around them married young. The average age of first marriage for women was 19 in 1957 and 21 for men, which is what the counselor advised. No one could envision the enormous changes waiting for them during the 60s.
Cultural Marxism completely threw everything upside down and here is the mess we are living in today with record divorce rates, single mothers and sexual degeneracy everywhere.
Ahh the 60's, when the beginnings of today's debauchery really got swinging! All social scientists know this, but many are paid to say otherwise. Mind you, Hollywood had a hand in this decades earlier by portraying men as bullying misogynist wife beaters.
We were married in 1974...I was 2 months shy of my 20th birthday...
Oh they've known each other for 3 months, one week 2 days and 17 hours and they want to get married. This has disaster written all over it.
hothmandon .
They should show this to every couple planning on getting married today.
no I rather everyone today don't behave like plastic
+cathy2000 I can see both, perhaps something that hits upon the ideas, the importance of consideration, and understanding, without the weird outdated pandering.
+cathy2000 I don't care how they behave. the important thing IS THE POINT. not just young ppl but EVERYONE OF EVERY AGE needs to hear this.
amen this is more important today bc of our lack of respect for the sanctity of marriage and our outrageous divorce rate
+randall2020 if you look for racism youll find it. similar backgrounds implies nothing racially at all. it more likely meant were they of the same religion/similar family style etc. and there used to be a sanctity of marriage. our stark individualism has ruined that.
I had been friends with my wife for almost thirty years before we decided to get married. I personally think that the most important thing that makes a marriage successful is friendship.
There’s a lot to be said for having similar backgrounds/faiths. You can’t even imagine the tremendous differences until you get married and reality sets in. It seems none of that matters when dating bc you’re so “in love”. Trust me, the day will come when it all matters. Just don’t. Stick with your own background and faith. People who don’t care about their faith suddenly start to care when kids come along. My husband and I have been married 19 years now, but we have these exact differences and they’re largely our biggest issues.
cherryclan1 thank you for sharing! This has given me so much help!
They've only dated for three months?? Know wonder her parents threw a fit.
Gosh, those graphs look scientific! Seriously though, I love the minster in this. Wish I'd had a wise uncle like him when I was a gormless teenager, I'd never have been off his doorstep asking for advice...
Red flag 1: "We've known each other for 3 months, 1 week, 2 days, and 17 hrs..."
Red flag 2: "We don't even have any quarrels!"
Red flag 3: "We talk about movies and songs and dancing!" ROTFLOL
Red flag 4: "I don't like to hear about his career."
LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL :-)
PS unlike everyone else, I do not count their age as a red flag, I got married at 18, and my fiance was 19, I am now 21 and our marriage is doing well. However we knew each other for 10 years when we got married, not 3 months. We grew up together. :)
Megan Baldwin, I agree that they do not seem ready for marriage, but any young couple who asks a minister or their parents or other moral respectful older person for advice on marriage, is VERY SMART! At least they are asking...and listening and taking the minister's advice!! A fool doesn't listen to anyone else - and ends up getting into horrible, destructive relationships! Then they usually blame everyone else for their own bad decisions! We can create a tangled mess of self deceit for ourselves.....and we end up hurting ourselves in the process! What a waste of a life! I agree with this video: A wise young person gets advice from moral older persons who have more life experiences.
Megan Baldwin Yes, I think it is important to really get to know someone before you get married. It is good to also have common interests and goals in life, and other things like religious beliefs, moral beliefs, things like similar interests can also help because you have to have common goals for your marriage, although you don't have to agree on everything. It's good to take some time to find out what each person wants to contribute what your goals are for your marriage. This is my opinion, because you have to have common ground to build on. I am NOT saying that you have to agree on everything or never argue, but, it is good to build a good foundation first, and get to know someone over time.
CaliWis804 I agree with you 100%!!! My mother has a saying "A smart person learns from other's mistakes, a fool - from his own." It's so sad to see that younger generations are not either raised, or w/e is the reason behind it, to ask for advice or at least LISTEN to those who have lived longer and have seen more. I remember my teenage years still (i'm only 26) and even though I was as hard headed as the next brat, I was brought up by my mother who always took time to talk to me and I always listened (even if with one ear at the time)
I'm married right now, a little bit over a year, and I completely agree with the 1st chart presented by the marriage counselor. Especially on having similar backgrounds, although to me it's more of having similar cores and traits (b/c if you are too much of an opposite, it really DOES start to strain the relationship, especially if both are vocal about it). You can always compromise, but it can sometimes only take you that far, until you start to feel resentment towards the one you loved because they can't understand you. You can try to shove it under the rug, but then what kind of married life is that? Alot of things come with time and some relationships just can't stand the test of time.
And friendship too. That's a great basis for any relationship, if not the best. At end of it all, the point of marriage is to spend your whole life with the other person, to grow old, build a family. If you come to a point in your relationship that you can no longer talk to each other about anything, enjoy each other's company and have fun, like friends do, then you are simply roommates who have sex. Also, if you don't lead a healthy and active sexual life with your partner, you are still only roommates.
And finally marriage should be about personal growth, of both individuals and as a whole.
Well at least they were smart enough to get counselling
I love that these videos are so full of common sense, and wasn't t it great to see that everyone has the youngsters' best interests at heart and wanted to work with them? These weren't parents who would judge if they did break off the engagement but they were willing to help them make it work too.
I think we need to eliminate all social media and cell phones. We need to start building real authentic relationships
Bullshit. I've been on long distance relationships and if it wasn't for my phone and computer, I would have never had the life I had, but probably a more solitary one. And before you say anything, shyness and being overweight don't do any good in a world where we're judged by looks
you commented this on youtube dipshit
youtube is also social media. silly statements like "back in the 1950s everything was fine without computers, ergo we can return to exactly that kind of living now and it will only result in the good qualities I perceive from that time being promoted"
I politely but strongly have to disagree with your opinion of this being strange. I found 100% of it to be absolutely pragmatic. What part do you find strange? I'm only 18, but I found this very enlightening. I believe every single man and woman need to watch this dated film which is certainty NOT dated in knowledge or wisdom.
I agree they are wise words. If one looks past the dated mannerisms, the essential message is just as valid and valuable today.
Ethan Swords Very well said. This was how they taught young people about life before Kinsey’s lies and perversion infiltrated society. Every person should watch Judith Reisman’s documentary about it before having children of their own.
Wisely said!!
Agreed :)
My parents got engaged 2 weeks after meeting.
When my husband asked me at 1 1/2 week. We were engaged at 2 months because he wanted to make our engagement official in front of my family. We have been together 15 years 10 month. I can give you days and hours too. When you know the one you know. My parents have been together for 49 years near their 50 Anniversary.
It's amazing how much this information/ advice is still applicable (about) 60 years later!
Back when life was simple. When people actually believed in MARRIAGE and commitment. Not this sorry excuse for a system we have now …..
as silly as they look now, i wonder if maybe all these videos are actually right and we should live like that again
They absolutely are!!
Yeah I guess you're right. Women really don't need an education. Just drop out of school and get married. In Sue's case, she'll go to school until LARRY graduates and then get married. Oh how I love the old days ;)
***** You guys have a very narrow view in life. Brainwashed to think that you have to be slaves to the capitalists.
Hayden Talmadge I'm surprised that the feminists haven't jumped onto you yet for saying that, even though your comment reeks of sarcasm.
88pie88 Shut up, hippy.
I am now engaged and its just good to watch this short film.
Im just happy that I waited for more years before entering to a relationship. Time really helps us to be mature physically and emotionally and to be more responsible. And soon, I'll marry my first and last man in my life. 😊
Back in those days, it was possible to get a stable, career-path job right out of high school in a factory or as an office clerk and work your way up from there and assume that you were going to retire from there if everything worked out just right. I know several couples in their 70s-80s who did exactly that and retired quite comfortably. It's too bad that you're unlikely to do that these days. That level of stability was a real help to the people that I talked to.
I agree with your analysis but not the conclusions. The years from 50s untill 2000s were the most extraordinary that history has ever seen in West world. That kind of society was based on plans and future. They ruined the present 🎁😂
@jonathan. come on 🤠, you are a grown up!! Take some responsibilities! Do you still need your mum and dad to take decision for you?
@@laurapavone3513 Don't know if you intended to respond to my comment specifically, but I'm going to say that my comment still stands. One of the examples that I'm mentioning is my father-in-law (in his 80s now) who only went to high school, got a job as a clerk and worked his way up at the company and retired comfortably at 55. Jobs were very manual back then, and he retired before any computers were in use in the office. Also, there was no international competition back then. The US economy was also in great shape when he got his start in the 1950s. The stable job, great economy, and no college debt really worked out for him. His marriage was great, he had lots of free time for hobbies and clubs... in ways that young people today do not have and likely won't have. It's a different world now, with more financial uncertainty and and the additional stress is not a help for young families.
@It’s Jonathan Galatians 5:22-23 you and “Tubes” are right, though. It’s sad and a damn shame 😏
if you say that God is truth, then you will know that the world has always been a mess.@Lightwillreignsupreme
"If you continue to reduce the psychological distance" is something you'd never hear from a modern father.
“Maybe you should convince your folks that you should get married.”
“How Larry, how?”
That pause....I thought he was going to say something like “well gee golly, I could knock you up, then your folks would tell us we have to get married!”
Goshh! I found the right thing at the right time again! ❤✨🙏🏻 this channel is such a teacher, through these clips for understanding love and relationships, today's generation needs a lot of such teachings, when it comes to knowing what they want, towards love, marriage and commitment. Thanks.
The video is right though, as dated as it is. I think you would see a lot less divorce if everyone was taught the basic ideas of what you should look for before getting swept up with the idea of a wedding.
I'd take all this advice today. There's some real good advice in this video. Thanks for posting.
I am so glad I watched this I feel so much better informed! Wonderful film
Am I ready for marriage?
Well... I’m 17 and I’ve never had a boyfriend but yes... yes I am
@Lord Farquaad wow you still living in a cave 🤣
@@pammir631 ☝️
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@@pammir631 17 is the age my grandma started dating my grandpa (He was 23).
I had a girlfriend in Kindergarten but I just know I want to get married and have kids
That's the whole point: they weren't "just fine," and the minister was trying to get them to realize that.
I'll bet that rubber band entered an alternate dimension and ended up in a room with a moose.
😂😂😂😂
Just like your romance!
AntiKira20 invader zim reference? 😍
@@E0Bebot You got it.
So did she marry a MOOSE? 😳
The maturity of these older films is astonishing, compared to today.
I'm ready for marriage, the only thing I'm missing is....... no girlfriend (no bride)
+MegaBojan1993 I'm ready, all I need is a husband! Perfect! Meet me at the church! (after my showers and parties of course).
malibu64 How old are you ? :)
27! Let's see, do we have the same religious beliefs? Enjoy the same friends? Have similar tastes and interests? We'll banish that psychological distance soon enough!!
malibu64 I'm 28. That's close enough :)
I feel the psychological distance evaporating before my eyes
Remember kids: No ding ding without a wedding ring!
Nate The Great haha! I don’t think anyone lives by that rule now. I wouldn’t even invest in a winter coat without trying it first.
julie Wallis if you only ever sleep with one person in your life, that will be the best sexual partner you’ve ever had. The more people you sleep with, the less likely it is that you’ll marry the person that was also your best sexual partner.
And if you marry based on who WAS the best sexual partner, then the marriage may not stand the test of time as the years go by
DeadLittlePunkDoll yeah you basically repeated what I told you and said it as if I hadn’t thought of it like that. That was the point I was making and you could take either of our perspectives on it. Anyway, what I’m getting at is that I’m not convinced that you would ever be fulfilled in marriage, if before that marriage you had slept with 100 other people. Would one person suddenly become enough? You’ve tried 101 flavours of ice cream and you’re now sticking with chocolate?
DeadLittlePunkDoll yeah and I can appreciate that. It’s not something I’m suggesting be enforced, just a path I’d personally recommend. There seems to be one path that more successfully leads to fulfilment from what I have seen. Most people don’t realise that till they’re part way down the wrong path
@@JulieWallis1963 you will marry a whore and you can't make a good housekeeper and mother out of a whore if she slept with you without a ring if the ups guy looks good she'll do him if she works with a cute guy she will try him. She will NEVER be faithful so keep trying on coats that others have tried on but remember you will never have a coat that is was really YOUR COAT enjoy sloppy seconds
"Booooooinnnggg!"
Talk about getting crap past the radar...
My Husband and I got married 2 months after graduating High School. We never had kids because we didn’t want any. We have had a blast. We have had some rough patches but that just makes us stronger. We have been married for 41 years. I think having both of us coming from families that both parents were still married had something to do with us living with examples of how to make things work
Omg how did you know he was the one??!
Not asking you personally if you were, but how important do you think virginity is for a successful marriage?
A lot of younger people now have been around the block a dozen times or more, do you think they will have trouble settling down or staying satisfied or faithful?
@justsomeguy1671 yes virginity is important
@@bironjames9948 ya we guys understand that but just wondering what the female perspective is...
My husband and I went through personal Hell with each other to learn what God's idea for marriage is. It was the most pain we've experienced. I almost took my life cuz of it but, man, when we came out on the other side, it became Heaven on Earth. It was worth it and I am ever so grateful to God He got us through it. Literally, it feels like we lived two different lifetimes. Unfortunately, neither of our parents were good examples for what a marriage was so we had to learn the hard way. These PSAs would've been very helpful.
Great Channel....A reminder of what civilization once was, is and can become again... One marriage at a time...GOD Bless... :)
This is a really insightful video. These things are so obvious but are so commonly overlooked! More people should watch this.
I loved the happy, believable ending😊😊! The adults are helping them build a solid foundation for marriage and life.
I have to say, the musical composition in these short PSA's was simply lovely, intro was sweet.
"You need more than just 'boing.'"
Bro, that's good advice.
Thank God that a certain segment of our society is getting back to a more biblical model of courtship and marriage. My church has excellent pre-marital (pre-engagement) counseling.
I love that this couple got their family and church involved.
Bravo!
Green Eggs & Ham1 getting back? this is old it's not advice it's comical
Um tbh this isn't biblical marriage ijs.. but the advice for the most part was good
Green Eggs & Ham1 Funny That us atheists still have equally strong marriages without the need for god or the bible. I’m very happily married to my best friend, we make each other laugh daily, we look out for each other, we trust each other and are there for each other through good times and bad. Not that we have had many bad times, but for a couple in their mid 50s I think we can say we have a solid relationship. Don’t blame or credit god for something that is entirely due to the hard work, commitment and attitude of the couple.
I’d be very upset if our daughters got involved with any “churchy types”. a load of jumbo jumbo spouted from religious crackpots isn’t going to help anyone. A good marriage depends on the couple, *not* god or the bible.
julie Wallis
What’s wrong with Jesus?
Sooooooo many people I know need to see this.
I agree, superficial attraction probably wouldn't survive. But then isn't that one way of putting the relationship to the test; to see whether it's a real deep relationship, I mean, and not just attraction coming from physical..interaction? I mean, when you're looking for something real and long-term, you find that the attraction-based relationship is just a waste of time and emotion anyway. But a love based on more important things could certainly survive.
The way the girls dad looked at the counselor when he said “psychological distance”
i love watching these old tv show things
I love this video! Even when its from The 50's what it says is so true, I've been married for 3 years and I think those are The basic rules for a good marriage
Wow...this helped me understand why Adam and Eve were able to stay married for over *900 Years*
*"For this reason will a man leave his father and mother, and stick close with his wife: and they will be one flesh."*
This is obviously not literally saying their flesh will be joined together but, rather they will be united in spirit. Therefore age is not the sole issue here as there are many men and women today in all age groups who still can't work together as a team in marriage or with family or friends even...let alone strangers.
So the main lesson here is that if both people cannot work together as a team towards the same goal then in the end they will fail in marriage even if they were successfully united in the beginning. And to be united requires humility and kindness like this couple demonstrated with one another.
I freaking love these old videos!
Every time I listen to vintage melodies, I feel myself becoming more thoughtful, and cherish every little moment. ⏰
(Smile) I wished I watched this about 47 years ago!!! I think the video had some great points that were good then and today... And still some young people want to get married fast!
Sex does that to some folks.
This is adorable!
I was married for 55 years. Am widowed now. This movie is on target. But to me the most important thing is commitment
If you are going in thinking you can leave , than first obstacle. You will bail
Honestly, if you're close with your parents, their approval does mean a great deal. A large part of social gatherings and outings takes place with family in it. If they were good parents and had a heavy hand in your life raising you (even if they did mess up some parts), they know a great deal about you.
Screw Larry trying to pressure Susan. Rude af.
"A love appeal that makes you sort of BOING!!" Yeah we know what that boing is.
I actually think this is good advice.
My grandma and grandpa married each other even though they had only been dating 6 months, they were married for almost 50 years and loved each other very much. My aunt and her husband has been together since they were 14, they were together for 19 years and had two kids before they got married. My other aunt has never been married despite having two sons.
My point is that I don't believe that there is a "rule" for when and why to get married. I think humans are capable of deciding for themselves.
Mind you, videos like this are based on scientific statistic. Science is nothing more than a recording of patterns. So the general knowledge disseminated by this guy is only generally correct.
When you are appealing through science, there are no absolutes, only generalities. But that doesn't mean the generalities are a bad rule of thumb to be completely disregarded.
At least I've found as much.
Statistics mean nothing to the individual though, keep that in mind as well.
Holy Khan Well cite your “science.”
I think that videos like this helped marriages stay together then
These rules obviously can't apply to every single person. But overall this is good advice. The divorce rate is rising now. Videos like this would be very helpful.
I was 25 when I got married. My husband was 25, and we'd dated fo 2 years. We had different backgrounds, but we were "real friends" and understood marriage. I think 18 and 19 is "way" too young!
Taking time is certainly good advice. "...exercise the utmost care to become thoroughly acquainted with the character of the other, that the binding covenant between them may be a tie that will endure forever." - Writings of Abdu’l-Baha
You are one smart cookie. More power to you for speaking the truth. I've been following your advice, and it's working!
What gets me about these kids is that they actually let the adults get a whole sentence out of the mouth before they answer. Try getting that kind of common sense and respect out of kids these days is impossible.
It's all the fault of the monopoly media cynical and degenerate attitude.
Im 65 and have been married for 43 years. The guy @ the Car Dealership who is a service advisor and a good friend is 42 and has been Divorced Twice . Now he lives with his Mom who is 72. 🙄
It bothers me a tiny bit that Sue probably wasn't going to be concerned that Dad was sending her to "State U" which may... or may not... meet her educational needs, desires & goals, just so she & Larry can see if they get along. (In school, that is.)
Very sweet.
Very wholesome.
And realistic.
I'm not aware of any circumstance in which junior college would be superior to a state university.
Thank you very much for sharing this
I love these old tapes! The key is to let God do the picking for you! When God gives you an unconditional love for someone neither distance nor time apart can penetrate that kind of commitment! 🕊️~`~ 🐦 total free_dom
I wish this phrase had been in this film: we're meant to be together, trust me...I'm an engineer.
My grandparents waited for their spouses who were away at war, same with my Mom when she waited for Dad who was Vietnam, and now I wait still for the sailor in my life to return from duty... :) waiting is hard, but we both continue in school, help our families when we can, and participate at church. Not so we keep busy while we wait, but so that we mature and learn more about each other till we marry...
When one looks at our culture now, they find our nation (America) is in a state of decay and moral failure. This video from sixty years ago explains how maturity and looking at a potential mate with a realistic perspective before marrying them, is actually a requirement if you want not only healthy marriages but even a civil, safe society! Most young persons from the last five+ decades have NOT been taught these values from their parents nor from other cultural institutions and it has seriously hurt our culture! Healthy long term marriages and the family set up with two parents has been the very foundation of every culture for thousands of years, but you can't have emotionally healthy families and a high moral structure to a culture if marriages break down at a high rate or if marriage is not encouraged. Then there is no real protection for women and children in such a society and eventually chaos destroys the culture altogether!! Men are not encouraged to be responsible and stay with their families and provide for them in such a chaotic society! However, a healthy, successful society begins with good monogamous marriages and intact families. That is why our country (USA) was so very successful in the past, but due to immorality flooding into our society, we have become a "debtor" nation! Very sad! The breakdown of marriage, families and morals in the last 50-60 years has absolutely effected even our economy and business practices negatively! Interesting how that happens.......I hope it is not too late for us (USA)!!
Nice soap boxing there! Love the way you blame men for the moral failure in society, as always its all on us isn't it? Oh ohhh, how boring!! "Men are not encouraged to be responsible and stay with their families and provide for them in such a chaotic society!"
Yes, lets think about all the poor women and children destroyed by divorce because when men get divorced they're absolutely happy about the situation skipping down a rose lined path, Men simply looooove getting divorced now don't they? "Then there is no real protection for women and children in such a society and eventually chaos destroys the culture altogether!!"
The real reason (as I see it) that society has gone down the toilet is because nobody cares to think about what a men might actually want, nobody ever thinks about male needs and you seem to be a prime example of that. Men are simple creatures who have very basic needs. We want to be loved, We want to be respected and we want to be treated fairly... Obviously this is too big an outlay for the modern woman to deal with so I guess fewer men will want to get married, sucks for the USA!
The words "check yourself before you wreck yourself" have never been so apt, America.
***** You are right in that it is not all mens fault. People (men AND women) in our society have become too in love with the idea of doing what they want, what is best for them, and what "feels right" in the moment. It is like anything goes and the future is of no consequence. That is why we are seeing a lot of decline in society. Then you have people growing up in households not seeing a functional stable family and then they grow up and repeat the cycle. We cannot have a society full of people who think that it's okay to "do whatever you want and it's okay as long as it feels right to you" AND avoid problems like rampant STDs, unwed pregnancies, divorces, and broken homes…you CANNOT have it both ways.
Just because you have lawful permission to dress any kind of way.act any ind of way and do whatever you want does not mean it is wise or practical. The standards in this video exist for a reason and it's there to help both men and women.
There were issues with the 1950s, anyone would be foolish not to admit that but there are certain mindsets from that era there were beneficial that we have just chucked by the wayside that that is very unfourtunante. It's time to stop pointing the blame at people and all be accountable for our own choices.
We live in an infantilised age; where men and women with the bodies and hormones of adults have the minds and behaviour of infants; impatient, indulgent, profligate, intemperate, fickle, transient, raucous, rebellious, kidults having no sense of how they fit into anything bigger so they just have a twisted sense of themselves and little awareness beyond their own appetites.
CaliWis804: Bravo!
CaliWis804 i think the institution "marriage" is, in itself, immoral!
Look at how nicely dressed these people are.
As sexist and racist the 50s were, we can still learn something from these videos.
"Boing" lol "BOING" lmao
lololololol
Good video. Too bad most people today just wanna follow what they feel at a certain moment, and those bad choices can lead to a lifetime of pain, struggles, and heartbreak.