My parents were 'odd' so I never learned to socialise. This would have helped me back then as it's exactly the same thing I've been learning 40 years later.....
@@Me-wk3ix many people dont, and didnt back then either. surely these types of videos helped people in some ways, despite being blatant propaganda in many ways most of the time also
Some of us were just born without social instincts or common sense. Some of us had parents whose personal pleasure mattered more than teaching and encouraging young kids the social graces illustrated in this reel
Carol: "Gosh, that Bill is a strange boy. That fellow's in his 20s and still goes to teen parties. He lives with his mother and talks to a disembodied voice. Golly, am I wearing my rollers too tight?"
I always thought I was just a defective person for not picking up on a lot of "real life" stuff immediately, but that stuff used to be formally TAUGHT to people... Huh. It's weird, but these old educational vids make me feel so much more like an actual human being. Like HEY--apparently people have always sucked at being well adjusted (: nice
no he doesnt need to watch the video again. when bill is having bad manners / being inconsiderate people react like ingrid did, by not being nice. at least with their body gesture and facial expression even cutting the conversation short and walking away which is (obviously) impolite but deserved.
I love the music at the beginning. Oh, I think Mary Weathersby, Social Collaborator at Mississippi State College at 0:13 would turn in her grave as to the way society has disintergrated over the years.
I wish that being that socially awkward could be fixed so easily. Watching a film or reading a book isn't going to do much if you've been that way all your life, especially when the other kids have formed their opinions of you. All I needed to see was the look in the eyes of the girl to whom Bill offered that plate of food to be reminded of that fact.
Our impulse to be socially awkward has existed forever-it’s easier to stay home and not be with other people-but it is one of the few mental health disorders you just get over once you stop being so self centered and stop thinking that “everyone’s thinking about you”
There are different degrees of social anxiety from just not knowing what to say to full blown panic attacks. What may work for one person, may not be that simple to fix for another. We cannot stereotype everybody, fit them into a box with just one lable and call it even. Everyone has different reactions to social settings and it is not up to us to say how to fix other people's problems. Only a trained therapist can do that.
@@Women_Rock it's not being self centered. people with social anxiety focus on themselves so much because they want to appeal to and please others. how else are they going to do that when 1)they dont know what other people want from them and 2)with this gap of knowledge, their never sure if theyre doing the right things because getting people to like you is a slow process (if you dont instantly "click" with most people) and every interaction you have can drastically shape the image others have of you. assumed irreparably. people with social anxiety just want to fit in and be accepted and they just dont know how to obtain that. So their thoughts get turned inwards to figure out what they can change about themselves in order to be accepted. After all, you can only change yourself, not how other people react to you.
It sure takes more then watching some videos and its a long process to become more at ease in social situations, but it can be done, really! Ive witnessed such transformation myself. Dont despair, just hang in there! And always realize: The other fellows have the same fears of rejection and with them being thrown in a new situation, they would fear not being able to talk to people, too. So one might just do them the favour and do the first step. Its a powerful realization :) Nobody is set in stone with regards to how sociable one is. Some do it better then others. But thats ok. Its just important to know that its a sliding scale and that improvements can be made with a little learning and a little courage.
The way he was right after he got to the party, sitting down instead of socializing, that's me. I have Aspergers AND social anxiety disorder and social interactions wear the hell out of me, because I don't do them well. Lol
Bill would fit right in at the corner pool hall, all he needs is a pack of smokes rolled up in his sleeve and a bottle of muskatel in his back pocket...
@@3martiniplaydate not hobo a railroad theme party. He's dressed as a conductor. Yes, there are hobos there but it's because the single males have put themselves into that area of the railroad tracks. There are other stations listed in signs on the wall. His girlfriend is dressed as an upper class passenger. Please, remember this time period was all about the westward development...trains and cowboys and Indians. It was the late 40' to the 50's.
For you bewildered social-media sheep this is a wholesome form of face-to-face communication known as a 'party'. Now stop watching this stuff and get out there.
I know! We learned square dancing and the Mexican hat dance. Just what we needed for future weddings. They never thought to teach us to waltz. Couldn't even dance at my own wedding. Thanks, teachers!
Social courtesy only accounts for good manners, but won't hold up in a stressful gathering. When people get stressed they sometimes come across as rude, but it's their anxiety that they can't control. A video won't make the anxiety of big crowds and loud noises go away. People with social anxiety can assimilate, but will never be at ease. If someone you know has social anxiety don't blame them because you want to get out and they dont. It's not their fault and it can't be fixed. I am social my husband and friends are not. So I compromise. I find things to do on my own.
@@lazyhomebody1356thanks, it's something I have learned in life. My husband and our daughter are severely autistic and I have ADHD. Talk about polar opposites, but we balance each other and I now understand how people think just a little bit more.
I was five or six minutes into this before I realized they were all dressed for a theme party - up to then I was thinking teen fashion in the early 1950s was a lot looser than I realized. I mean, ten years after this the tough gang members in West Side Story were still wearing jackets and ties and looked like young Republicans.
Bill, the voice in your head is mood-incongruent. And that ain’t good. Now I’m assuming you didn’t go to Cotillion, Bill....so where did you learn the Virginia Reel?!
5:46 My fucking ex boyfriend and I ran into his coworker and her boyfriend at the mall one day and my ex bf's dumbass didn't introduce me at all! I had to introduce myself. I definitely told my ex bf how rude he was and let him know he should feel guilty. He never did that bullshit stunt again. I'd never allow it.
Reading through these comments, I realize that they didn't really learn much about "Social Courtesy" from this video. I wonder why they even bothered to watch.....hmm......
He was in some Coronet films, just not this one. IMDB.com doesn't give who the actors were but it was not him. www.imdb.com/title/tt0258177/?ref_=ttpl_pl_tt
"Isn't that the boy who used to be so rude?"
"Why, YES."
Excellent.
A great moment in cinematic history 😂
That's what we really need today, social courtesy.
These videos are so helpful. I’ve learned a lot. This advice still applies today.
The video might be cheesy in some ways, but it really teaches lessons that are still relevant.
Like "don't be an asshole" :P?
My parents were 'odd' so I never learned to socialise. This would have helped me back then as it's exactly the same thing I've been learning 40 years later.....
Some people, (myself included) don't always pick up all the social intricacies by instinct and need some explicit instruction.
@@Me-wk3ix many people dont, and didnt back then either. surely these types of videos helped people in some ways, despite being blatant propaganda in many ways most of the time also
Some of us were just born without social instincts or common sense. Some of us had parents whose personal pleasure mattered more than teaching and encouraging young kids the social graces illustrated in this reel
I love Coronet films!🤸
No better source for comedy. 😆
Carol: "Gosh, that Bill is a strange boy. That fellow's in his 20s and still goes to teen parties. He lives with his mother and talks to a disembodied voice. Golly, am I wearing my rollers too tight?"
Oh, there's that Bill, he's just tripping on 'shrooms again, and muttering to himself.'
Bill shows up in his hillbilly best.
First, put on a shirt with sleeves Bill.
Costume. Fancy dress
Sure Bill. Put on some panty hose too!
So NOBODY here knows he.s at a "hobo" theme party? Duh....it.s literally got signs on the wall.
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I'm the only one who knows what you meant. Wilma Flinstone had bigger biceps than this guy. Maybe Pebbles too. Not everybody can wear a muscle shirt.
He magically had sleeves on his undershirt at the party.
Hard to believe 50 years later, America would become unrecognizable.
And less white.
I always thought I was just a defective person for not picking up on a lot of "real life" stuff immediately, but that stuff used to be formally TAUGHT to people... Huh.
It's weird, but these old educational vids make me feel so much more like an actual human being. Like HEY--apparently people have always sucked at being well adjusted (: nice
I mean ok Bill in particular is really bad at this but you know what I mean
That’s why it’s called “socialization”. Because it’s not automatic
@@daisyviluck7932 #kaczynskiWasRight
I feel you. i have NVLD and adhd so my social skills are crap!
"Bill, are you talking to yourself?" 😂
These really are great. Thank you for posting these. So much our society has forgotten. This is how I was raised.
Him: "Oh its old fashioned"
Me: "Oh, This is old fashioned. But we should be acting like this"
He magically had sleeves on his undershirt at the party.
5:41 -That's me. My lack of social etiquette knows no bounds. 😂😂
And yet you are proud of it.
Ingrid Dubbel That was rude. Maybe you need to watch the video again.
no he doesnt need to watch the video again. when bill is having bad manners / being inconsiderate people react like ingrid did, by not being nice. at least with their body gesture and facial expression even cutting the conversation short and walking away which is (obviously) impolite but deserved.
@@SmilingDepression I agree
I love the music at the beginning. Oh, I think Mary Weathersby, Social Collaborator at Mississippi State College at 0:13 would turn in her grave as to the way society has disintergrated over the years.
I wish everyone still spoke like this, gentle and polite, where the worst thing one could do is be “sprawled out in a chair”.
I know a lot of adults who need to watch this.
I wish that being that socially awkward could be fixed so easily. Watching a film or reading a book isn't going to do much if you've been that way all your life, especially when the other kids have formed their opinions of you. All I needed to see was the look in the eyes of the girl to whom Bill offered that plate of food to be reminded of that fact.
He isn't socially awkward, he is inconsiderate. It will take time to change his image.
Our impulse to be socially awkward has existed forever-it’s easier to stay home and not be with other people-but it is one of the few mental health disorders you just get over once you stop being so self centered and stop thinking that “everyone’s thinking about you”
There are different degrees of social anxiety from just not knowing what to say to full blown panic attacks. What may work for one person, may not be that simple to fix for another. We cannot stereotype everybody, fit them into a box with just one lable and call it even. Everyone has different reactions to social settings and it is not up to us to say how to fix other people's problems. Only a trained therapist can do that.
@@Women_Rock it's not being self centered. people with social anxiety focus on themselves so much because they want to appeal to and please others. how else are they going to do that when 1)they dont know what other people want from them and 2)with this gap of knowledge, their never sure if theyre doing the right things because getting people to like you is a slow process (if you dont instantly "click" with most people) and every interaction you have can drastically shape the image others have of you. assumed irreparably. people with social anxiety just want to fit in and be accepted and they just dont know how to obtain that. So their thoughts get turned inwards to figure out what they can change about themselves in order to be accepted. After all, you can only change yourself, not how other people react to you.
Then you never tried enough.
Have you been forgetting your medication, Bill?
PoisonErin “have a quaalude, sonny”
This was just splended
That entire 10 minutes of film should just be boiled down to 1 word: CONFORM.
"splendid"
Splended is when you splend in the past tense.
If only my living room were big enough for square dancing! I could be popular.
It sure takes more then watching some videos and its a long process to become more at ease in social situations, but it can be done, really! Ive witnessed such transformation myself. Dont despair, just hang in there! And always realize: The other fellows have the same fears of rejection and with them being thrown in a new situation, they would fear not being able to talk to people, too. So one might just do them the favour and do the first step. Its a powerful realization :) Nobody is set in stone with regards to how sociable one is. Some do it better then others. But thats ok. Its just important to know that its a sliding scale and that improvements can be made with a little learning and a little courage.
That was one WILD party. I hope the neighbors don't call the cops.
given the disembodied voice they are always responding to, I have to say most shy teens in the 50s seem to be actually suffering from schizophrenia.
Although that voice is so helpful!!
T J 😂😂😂
He still chews with his mouth open lol
I think its cute.
Does it kinda well
The way he was right after he got to the party, sitting down instead of socializing, that's me. I have Aspergers AND social anxiety disorder and social interactions wear the hell out of me, because I don't do them well. Lol
I know what you mean. I have a social anxiety disorder and socializing wears me out. People wonder why l stay home so much.
Me too but these vids help
These are the programs that we all need 😃
that was a handsome guy!! seen him in other shorts, like the teen who was afraid to learn to swim!! awesome!
I'm worried about Bill, he's clearly hearing voices.
And talking to himself!
I suppose hearing voices that help you with courtesy and can rewind time to fix your mistakes isn't such a bad thing
Bill is handsome!
Bill would fit right in at the corner pool hall, all he needs is a pack of smokes rolled up in his sleeve and a bottle of muskatel in his back pocket...
Why is that 30 year old teenager dressed like Fred Flintstone?
Hahahhahahahha.
teens look even older today, IMO.
It.s a "Hobo" theme party.
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Chisty A I like that term 😅
@@3martiniplaydate not hobo a railroad theme party. He's dressed as a conductor. Yes, there are hobos there but it's because the single males have put themselves into that area of the railroad tracks. There are other stations listed in signs on the wall. His girlfriend is dressed as an upper class passenger. Please, remember this time period was all about the westward development...trains and cowboys and Indians. It was the late 40' to the 50's.
But Bill fine though 😜
lol. I agree
I agree!
You must be married to an abusive alcoholic
That's not the time nor the place! 😂🙈
@@Hotarubi-dono 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh my gosh this was hilarious and so cute and old-fashioned! I have stumbled on such a gem of this Lode of 50's instructional videos!
For you bewildered social-media sheep this is a wholesome form of face-to-face communication known as a 'party'. Now stop watching this stuff and get out there.
This reminds me of being in 6th grade when the teacher made us square dance, ugh...I hated it😖
I know! We learned square dancing and the Mexican hat dance. Just what we needed for future weddings. They never thought to teach us to waltz. Couldn't even dance at my own wedding. Thanks, teachers!
I loved square dancing in gym class 🤣🤣
Bill is 30. He should have known these things.
17 year olds looked 30 in the 50s
Oh, they ended with showing Bill eating with his mouth open. Yahoo, social courtesy!
It's still a work in progress, he'll get the "voice" that will help him with that. Next video🤔😅
Great film
You work for MST3K? 😜
Now if he can learn how to chew properly, he'll be all set...hahahaha
We need to return to this instruction in school. I know many people in society who need to learn what is taught in this video.
Social courtesy only accounts for good manners, but won't hold up in a stressful gathering. When people get stressed they sometimes come across as rude, but it's their anxiety that they can't control. A video won't make the anxiety of big crowds and loud noises go away. People with social anxiety can assimilate, but will never be at ease. If someone you know has social anxiety don't blame them because you want to get out and they dont. It's not their fault and it can't be fixed.
I am social my husband and friends are not. So I compromise. I find things to do on my own.
Wow! You are very understanding!
@@lazyhomebody1356thanks, it's something I have learned in life. My husband and our daughter are severely autistic and I have ADHD. Talk about polar opposites, but we balance each other and I now understand how people think just a little bit more.
I wish being nice and with good manners would be considered "cool" nowadays
Newsflash : Everyone has their own definition of what’s cool
Awesome Etiquette Podcast I think uses this audio. Cool
Now that Bill has learned some social curtesy he needs to learn some basic manners....like chewing with his mouth closed. 😊
Slap Bill's mom for raising such a thug.
This could be helpful some people could do with some manners
people under 40, even 50 that have good manners are getting rarer and rarer its not just teens.
I don't need social skills. I already know everyone I need to know. ;)
lol
It was at that point Bill realized he liked boys
And goats!😄
@@brianmcdonald9502 naaaaaa
Once you try sheep then that's what you will keep. Once you try sheep then that's where you will creep. When you sleep, you'll dream of sheep.
Clerks 2 refers to this as "interspecies erotica"
But who cares about some fancy term? True Love is True Love.
And sheep are such passionate kissers.
Why am I watching this lol
Coronet and other ed films from the period or VERY addictive.
You lack social courtesy?
Cause you and other kids lack discipline and need to be reformed.
"Are you talking to yourself?!" Hilarious lol
He reminds me of Luke Perry
He reminds me of Drake Bell -especially when he talks to the camera
That Social Courtesy will come in handy when he wants to go down on Carol.
That would never happen as Bill has zero game. Any lesson he may have learned here will be quickly forgotten.
Buckaroo Banzai 😆
That why he eats with his mouth open.😍
I have a sinking feeling that half of those kids are going to end up buried in Bill's backyard.
I was five or six minutes into this before I realized they were all dressed for a theme party - up to then I was thinking teen fashion in the early 1950s was a lot looser than I realized. I mean, ten years after this the tough gang members in West Side Story were still wearing jackets and ties and looked like young Republicans.
"stand all the way up out of a chair when an adult talks to you" are you crazy lmao
Bill has that mass murderer look about him.
"Redrum! Redrum! Redrummmmm!"
You ARE sorta left feeling ol' Bill is going to off the deep end somewhere along the way...
Porem acho os filmes em preto e branco uma bela maravilhas do cinema mundial parabens!♠💖♠💖♠💖💖♠💖♠💖♠💖♠💖💖♠💖♠❄🌟❄🌟❄🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Bill is pretty hot!!!
Plot twist: the narrator was there the whole time watching him
Don't chew with your mouth open! (at the end, LOL)
That's a lesson for a different day: Table manners
Carol is so cute. I already love her.
Edit: She looks kinda like my grandma
She IS a grandma, or great grandma now.
@@heidithomas5455 or resting in peace
He should have said 'It's not a costume...'
Wow a hobo party. Love those.
Wha da ya noh!
Bill is in his late 40s.
Carol says, "Hi Bill! " before she's even got the door open.
"Wee, it's fun to pretend to be poor!"
That sign on the wall "Do Not Touch", was that for the furnishings or the guests? 😆
🙋
Bill, the voice in your head is mood-incongruent. And that ain’t good.
Now I’m assuming you didn’t go to Cotillion, Bill....so where did you learn the Virginia Reel?!
Hello from italy
What kind of a shirt is that? Is he wearing his mother's blouse again?
I think it's a button down wife beater.
Bill looking about 28yro
He looks 20 but even then he's supposed to be 15 in this video lol
Even now, i see some high schoolers that look on their mid to late 20s. Some people develop earlier than others.
Matthew 7 v 12 All things therefore that you want men to do to you you must also do to them Peace to you Eileen
HOLY FUCKING SHIT, WHY THANK YOU BILL!
where was elliot roger when they played this in school?
Scouting the sorority house.
Random you brought him up but now that I think of it he was probably a lot like the kid in the video.
He had mental issues WAY beyond what social training coukd fix. :/
2:25 ... SHOTS FIRED!
What's in the enamel tins on the desk beside Bill's bed?
Was the theme of this party "homelessness"???!!!!
Man, people whinned a lot a lot back then.
The young man looks hauntingly like Jim Caviezel from Person of Interest but how can that be.
I would love to see how this would work at a party today where everyone is looking at their iPhones.
So funny, but true!
@@hkk3656 More sad than funny.
5:46 My fucking ex boyfriend and I ran into his coworker and her boyfriend at the mall one day and my ex bf's dumbass didn't introduce me at all! I had to introduce myself. I definitely told my ex bf how rude he was and let him know he should feel guilty. He never did that bullshit stunt again. I'd never allow it.
Anh hát bằng cả trái tim bảo sao mà cứ ngọt lịm như vậy. Bài nào cũng cảm xúc luôn
I doubt that's gonna work in this day and age well not all of it lol
Isn’t that the same guy from How to Say No and Still Keep Your Friends?
Bill will find social etiquette skills come to him much more naturally once he starts taking heroin.
OTC back then.
@she should have said "that's quite a farmer's tan"
No one gonna mention that the video is soundless?
The irony is that at the end he chews with mouth open.
How did Bill know that the party was a "ripped clothes" party? 😀
For Hank, Bill was love at first sight.
Is they still alive?
Did I touch a sore spot, Bill?
Is that TV's character actor Jonathan Hole narrating?
What will Bill do without the narrator :(
Mr George, Mr George, that new guy, he acting strange.
Reading through these comments, I realize that they didn't really learn much about "Social Courtesy" from this video. I wonder why they even bothered to watch.....hmm......
Bill's gotta either grow a proper 'stache or shave it off.
The stache reminds us that, even though he looks 28, he is only a high school student
It is eyebrow pencil mustache to enhance the scruffy hobo effect.
It's makeup for the party
Daren from bewitched
He was in some Coronet films, just not this one. IMDB.com doesn't give who the actors were but it was not him.
www.imdb.com/title/tt0258177/?ref_=ttpl_pl_tt