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It has taken me 2 years to recover the loss of my husband of 42 years. I was his caretaker for 7 years and I was drained of all energy. I’m getting my energy back and beginning to enjoy my hobbies and getting reacquainted with my friends. I don’t mind being alone. I don’t have to answer to anyone. I listen to the music I want to, read when I want to, watch the tv programs I want to . In short my time is my own.
My facts align nearly perfectly with yours. Nearly 2 years gone, 42 years together, years looking after him. Wonderful marriage, don’t want another. Like you I have music on all the time and read a lot. Coming back to gratitude, and I do love my dogs.
My husband died and was very clear death is inevitable with all died, and he died but before that he say don't cry for me because he says he had a good life. Never complaint about life, he was good to me, and I think in the long run he prepares me to be alone. I miss him, and know that he truly loves, me. I miss him every day and make sure to tell him that I am ok. I will be ok.
This is obviously written by someone who hasn’t lost their loved one. Don’t grieve for too long, don’t let grief overwhelm you. You think you have a choice? Grief is part of the healing process, you have to go through the pain to come out the other side. How long that is will be different for everybody. Gods love to all listening to this.
Exceptional Video. Lady my husband of 50 years 18 months ago and I can relate to the the point of " living alone". I am more at peace with myself and have become a much more independent person. Got a dog since my husband's death and she has brought so much joy in my life. She has vastly diminished my grieving and I prefer her being around me than even my kids. She is like my Guardian Angel.
I have not lost a spouse. I am a 71 woman and 20+ years divorced. I did not grieve the dissolution of the marriage but chose to live my best life. I gained wisdom from this video and in many ways recognized myself. I do what I want to do to enhance the enjoyment of my life. I am a woman of faith and accept each day and experience as a blessing. I would like a special companion, but I don’t necessarily desire marriage. With 2 married children and 4 young grandchildren I am grateful, content and fulfilled.
9 I am 85, my husband died when I was forty five, the most important thing is to have an “attitude of gratitude”. My children are alive and thriving and I am at peace.
9 I am learning to live alone after being in an unhappy marriage for 50 years. I am slowly becoming independent again, finding things I like to do and trying not to be a burden to my daughter. I am having trouble becoming social again due to a very restrictive marriage. I want to be social again. This is my biggest goal:
After living in a miserable marriage for 50 years you are entitled to peace and contentment. Pray and Ask God to remove the restrictions that you endured for years and enjoy your remaining life on earth.
I lost my husband of 62 years last year and it was such a shock at the sudden death.I am rebuilding my life and feeling grateful for all the years we had together and understand he wouldn't want me to grieve all the time and time does heal ❤
Thank you , it’s very informative. I’m 71 and I may be alone but I’m not lonely. I’ve kept myself busy and enjoying every minute. I still play tennis 5-6 days a week. One game only each day. To God be all the glory and praise.
Your doing well ....wish I cud . I'm riddled with arthritis and fibromyalgia at. 69 . Had a hip done. Waiting for other ....cataract surgery too. God bless u
Same here I was that age too when my husband died with four young Children it wasn't easy but writh God's help I raised them by myself they are all married
My wife passed away last year after 58 years of marriage. I had to put away photos so I could move on but not forget. I felt grief, despair and feeling empty but I am moving on with being busy and looking forward for new things in my life.
I can identify with you! My DH passed away at 74, after bei g married for 52 yrs., and left me with a huge home that I had to sell. I had to pack up all the pictures ahead of time, so I can see how that helps you move forward. I am having to do that, too. And though I don't exactly know what my future will hold, I am still healthy and able. 🚴♀️🏋♀️😎
@@artsyladie7 We almost have the same event.. Recently lost My Wife of 52-years companionship .. Stored away All our photos.. Am still " in a dark tunnel"🌑..gropping about...
9 And thanks. Now let me share my experience with you. After53 years of very happy life I lost my hubby when 72 years old I cried and cried. Then one fine morning I thought enough is enough.!!! I tried to go out and engage my self 1 I found an NGO where im going ang teaching under previleged children 2 I was a singer so I practice singing( though with a hoarse voice) 3 I developed Globe trotting habit with few of my friends. I enjoy because my husband used to enjoy .I always feel he is still with me!!! For last 10 years I 'm staying alone .I'm not burdening myself on my children . But they help me whenever I need Be independent and enjoy
I am 83 my husband is 84 we have been married Since 1961 so we have celebrated our Diamond anniversary, +. Very fortunate indeed , we are very happy have 3 grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren, Loved them dearly when they were growing up , and now we have a new Baby girl , the others are all boys ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💞 So just to say ,, some times because we have lost friends , it has crossed my mind , and I really don’t like it at all , it dose scare me ….. reading your comments though we are really very Lucky …. Health wise I’ve had a few operations since I retired , and my husband, since Covid , needs a scooter if we are going t away for little while , We both worked hard I retired at nearly 75 yrs my husband retired at 60 yrs ….. we , … …. are unable to do things like we use too … Best wishes to you all. With love 🥰🥰🤩
Married for 46 years what helped me in being involved in our Church Activities Helping People In Need. Beliefs we were see each other again. Also having Trust in Our Heavenly Father's Love 💘 and Caring for us. we will grow through our lessons and develop and mature as a loving understanding being! PEACE TO ALL!🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍💘
I am a 63-year-old widow. Disabled from multiple sclerosis for 40 years. Solitude or life with 1 or 2 very carefully chosen friends is wonderful! I am very frugal with my money. That's my best advice. Be kind with your heart.❤❤❤❤
Your words are not true for everyone. I am an atheist and had true happiness with my husband for 26 years. After a few years of unhappiness, following his death, I am now with another wonderful man.
@@pamstein1556. Well said! So tired of indoctrinated believer telling us we aren’t happy. Most of us were trained with catch phrases and to de deathly afraid to admit we don’t believe. We have been on both sides. Most of them are just afraid of a nonexistent hell. Plus they live in guilt which has caused innumerable suicides. And they are trained to talk about atheism as the worst evil possible. NO! Teaching your children to believe, all the while abusing your family. Our parents were fundamentalists who demanded we pray before meals and attend church every week. We had our asses whooped regularly. I well remember the day we sat down to supper and dad asked me to say blessing. I refused. He went round to each sibling and asked, each one refused. He was angry and complained “ Well we just won’t have a blessing then!”. For you who had decent homes…good for you many of us had both physically and sexually abusive homes. We knew hypocrisy. We lived it. But we learned to love our spouse, our kids, and our pets. We learned to be good neighbors and to share. All without a guilt trip about being so evil we deserved eternal torment if we stole a cookie…or just for being born. Complete nonsense. We atheists are not evil! The night I realized I didn’t believe was joyful. I said it out loud. Man…I felt free! But nothing else changed. I didn’t feel like sinning, cheating on my wife, attacking god, doing drugs, or anything bad. I SIMPLY DID NOT CLAIM TO BELIEVE ANYMORE! NOTHING ELSE! We are just like you! Some choosing to be decent humans, and some choosing dishonesty and evil living…JUST LIKE YOU! But if you are going to be evil, not be honest with your taxes, being selfish, dominant to your family, angry with your spouse….JUST STOP CLAIMING TO BE A BELIEVER! And above all else, stop telling us we are evil, want to sin, and that we can’t possibly be happy without Jesus We can, and we are. Don’t talk about that which you have no experience. An atheist home between two loving partners is much better than a Bible based home with anger and bullying.
A couple of months ago my dad passed away. After that, my mum has been missing my dad on daily basis. She would talk to me about her wonderful memories with my dad, and that she hopes my dad did not leave so soon. Your video has come in at the right time. Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing! I'd love to know which lesson you found most impactful. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
@@Lighthouse_Wisdom : Hi, so far I have started with current video, and found it great! Will surely continue to check out other videos in your channel!😊
I am 73, a man living alone, while wife is staying, for 2 yrs now in US with my youngest daughter. I guess, it was by our mutual decision that we live separately, since I am unable to work anymore & provide for her She's 69, of perfect health and enjoying her life abroad. I have no regrets, though it was hard at first to adjust, but we do talk to each other daily thru social media.I guess, this is a dry run for both of us, how we should face life, in the event either one of us is gone. I am not longing for companionship.I just face life every day taking care of my health, being at peace with my Creator and fellowmen, hoping we shall meet again in Paradise.
When in God's hand, you are in comfort and in peace knowing Gods will take care of you. " Though we die, we shall live again through Jesus Christ... says the "Word of God"
9 divorced mom of 6 . We pulled together and made it. Now they’re grown with families. I seldom see them or my grandkids. At 70+ I feel abandoned and lost. For the first time I’m truly alone. Lord help me! 😢
Do things that used to make you happy when you were young. This is the time to love yourself, contact old friends, go on day trips, read, pamper yourself. This is actually a wonderful opportunity for you to do all the things you could not do when your kids were young
I understand how you feel. Difficult as it is, I believe the only way forward is to do the things you love….Read a book, a simple walk and if you meet someone on your walk, make eye contact and speak to them. Walk tall and with purpose. Take time to look and feel your best. A clean tidy living area helps immensely and enjoy a good nutritious meal every evening. Take it a day at a time. I hope you will find joy in your daily life.
Just because folk are married, or in relationships does not guarantee happiness; in fact, often the opposite is true. None of us know what goes on behind net curtains and/or closed doors. Be happy with the state you find yourself in. Life is too short to keep wishing for something else. And, if one is alone there s nothing to prevent one from creating a life that is meaningful and productive, even if one has a serious illness such as cancer. It is how we react to events that matters, feeling sorry for ourselves is not helpful!
I lost my partner of 45 yrs this year I am 80 yrs old now I found your video excellent and very informative thankyou so much for airing the problems that do often crop up I do or have suffered some of the topics you discussed in the video but at the present time I seem to be holding my own so once again thankyou
@@gregtarris9057each of us is important to God. He wants to hear from us daily. He loves you and wants to give you what is best for you according to his perfect plan.
I was 68 when I lost my husband, he was 71. You must join a grief group, it helped immensely!! Your spouse would want you to be happy again, volunteer, possibly find love again.. be thankful you’re still alive!!!
You don't ever get over it, you just get on with it. My lady and I had an understanding and wanted the same thing... for the one left to have the best life they could. It has been 17 going on 18 years now and I always keep her in my heart and there she will live on till we meet on the other side. So it's not a tragedy but a progression of this mortal life.
9… I agree with all 3 stories. I will never remarry or live with my son. I miss my husband everyday, but looking to make new friends that share like interests.
As the Buddha wisely said, "You only lose what you cling to." This quote reminds us that while we may lose our loved ones physically, their love and memories live on in our hearts.
Married for 50 loving and wonderful yrs, lost my wife and was totally devastated, but was advised by a friend to try counselling ,which was the beginning of my recovery- I am not religious so no comfort to be had from that belief- My salvation came from being advised by my Councillor to make sure I was always busy and never turn down any invitation- It worked and now after a couple of years have a lady friend, but no marriage or living together contemplated, simply very good friends see each other quite often and go on holiday together- I never realised I could ever be so happy again.
9. I'm 78 n living n by myself. My husband passed at 72, 9 years ago. I have 4 children n 8 grandchildren. I'm happy spending my time gardening, cooking for myself mostly having fellowship n outings with church friends. I'm grateful n at peace living my twilight years as best as I can. PTL❤
9. Very good! Nearing 80, I have been having the same thoughts that you mentioned. I plan to watch this a few more times. I watch, listen, and contemplate.
9 ❤ my body counts 68 years of age, my soul feels ageless, but then, I can agree to every single point in this video. As my mother used to say, every age has its pluses and minuses. The secret is to discover the new potential every age-period brings and enjoy it.
My wife passed away 20 years ago. In the beginning, I was always filled with sadness over her passing, but having my children by my side helped ease the pain, and gradually, I found myself moving forward and letting go of the grief.
Everything he has made pretty in its time. Even time indefinite he has put in their heart, that mankind may never find out that the true God has made from the start to the finish. I have come to know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good during one's life, and also that every man should eat and drink and see good for all his hard work. It is the gift of God. The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the [true] God and keep his commandments, For this is the whole [obligation] of man. For the [true] God himself will bring every sort of work into judgment in relation to every hidden thing, as to whether it is good or bad.--Ecclesiastes 3:11-13; 12:13, 14. I appreciate your video and thank you very much.
9 I'm 69 I lost my wife 3yrs ago, it wasn't me that got over this it was my wife's family who seemed to think I should be in perpetual grief and after remarrying they took it upon themselves to admonish me. You see I married a widow who pretty much saw death not as a obstacle to life but a change in direction I couldn't forget 37 yrs and she couldn't give up 25yrs so our 1st year anniversary was our 63rd year anniversary. In many respects I'm glad I didn't listen to this 3yrs ago, you chart your own course in life you should have enough experience to know when things are not right I should also mention I describe myself as a Stoic it's the way I saw and accepted death religion is not useful it strengthens the spiritual life and not the intellectual life Live life and prosper!
100 81 facing lose of lifelong partner but doing well in preparing for that eventuality, grateful for my health, mind, blessings and spirit. Thank you.
9 I lost my husband last year who was 62yrs and I m trying to have a speedy recovery also to always think positively about our passed life. I keep a solicit life now which I enjoy though it's difficult. I need a companion just to talk to and laugh with. Thanks for the info.
I’ve been married 48 years. This is a 2nd marriage for both if us. He is into golf, fishing and hunting. he is a very active 85. I am 77 and an introvert. I enjoy time alone reading, walking and especially church. I volunteer at church and have many friends for times when I choose to be social. I would not remarry should my husband pass before me.
Hi, my name is Mary I am 76 I lost my husband five years ago and today is August 9 and my brother my only brother that care for me died also but six years ago I was feeling very depressed and I know I believe in God and counseling, but I have to keep on daily thanking about The problems worldwide and if I stay away from the news I’ll be fine. This world conditions are so so bad they don’t respect seniors and I’m having a hard time finding housing for seniors because they tell me I have to wait 15 years on the waiting list for section 8 I pay1300 and it takes all my Social Security money so I am too old to keep working now so I read your guy statements and I enjoy reading them. Thank you for sharing.
@user--uu6jwqs7b Not easy to socialize and date again, but I have no desire to date again, been there, done that! Love being single! Helps to have interests and reach out and join a club like a garden club with other women who enjoy gardening and nature! Or a cooking club, art, music, theater or dance group...the arts heal! Former retired NYC fashion illustrator, floral designer, fitness trainer, pianist/composer here. Hope this helped, too! Blessings to you~ 💗
Get outside of yourself and do something for others. Volunteers are needed everywhere. Read to children at a local school, help at an animal shelter, a food bank. Do you sew or knit? Offer to teach others. Learn a new skill. Your last statement sums up your problem. As long as you focus on your loss, you can't move on. If you need help to get beyond where you are, please see a mental health or grief counselor.
@@susansweat9125 This may be true, but many widows esp if elderly have disabilities, chronic auto-immune illnesses and don't drive and can't always get around and aren't extroverts where they need to be out with others, there are introverts who prefer solitude esp if they're artists/writers etc. where's your EMPATHY!? smdh
Thanks for sharing such insightful “Food for Thought “ -I have always thought that so much has been written about other earlier “Seasons of Life “… not much about on aging”. I look forward to more on this much needed topic
9 thank you. We are still together but every now and then thinking what if i lose him n have to live on my own. While still mobile i don't want to bother my children.
This video is fairly off the mark,it suggest numerous simple solutions. i,m 69 and lost my wife to dementia after 8 years of decline,in one sense it gave me time to prepare my heart but i did not prepare myself for what i would do when it was finally over.We had moved into town which was good but the house we bought was not really right for me now,also I sold a camper van that would of been good for me now,i retired early on Government pension so lost survivor benefits from Canada pension,i could of maybe applied for a different type of benefit..My wife was the social person,now i feel like an old bull elk wandering the logging roads on its own.Two days i have talked to my old mom and my brother on the phone ,i have friends but don,t really want to see anyone much,I'm not really lonely,but i stay alone.Its a new path,drinking does not help.. Three years soon getting use to it.Would be nice to have a female special friend, to share life.
I live in a small rural farming area. Most of your advice isn’t available where I live. My family/children live far away and very rarely visit since my husband died 15 months ago. They have very busy lives. My husband was my only and closest friend. Closest thing to me is 25 miles away. If I could move I would.
Moving probably will not help you. I lost my wife 27 years ago. She died young. This is a thing that will take time to get through, it has no time limit it is different for everyone. You will have some choices to make, you will make them eventually. Please don't give up you are equipped with a intellect and a free will. You will come to the choices you must make eventually. You can not a broken heart, that is something you have to live with. My hope for you is you will find the new life you will be able to live. 😊
Very superbly presented and every advice is inspiring. It is really an eyeopener and hope it can change a fair bit of myself by taking the 1st step in this enlightenment. I am a widower for the past 5 years ,and life can never be easy when my most love one left me. Thank You.
My situation today ,may be yours tomorrow ,in the blink of an eye your whole life may ,and will alter drastically with the loss of your partner ,The plans you may consider before this loss occurs ,could be turned on their head ,just take one day at a time ,and value your independance ,think twice ,do not be fearful ,move forward bravely and with trust in your own ability
My mum went four years ago my dad now three years mum went first as a funeral director i helped my dad cope and took the burden off him with the funeral and after shock , im used to helping others in grief but when its your own its different
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It has taken me 2 years to recover the loss of my husband of 42 years. I was his caretaker for 7 years and I was drained of all energy. I’m getting my energy back and beginning to enjoy my hobbies and getting reacquainted with my friends. I don’t mind being alone. I don’t have to answer to anyone. I listen to the music I want to, read when I want to, watch the tv programs I want to . In short my time is my own.
My facts align nearly perfectly with yours. Nearly 2 years gone, 42 years together, years looking after him. Wonderful marriage, don’t want another. Like you I have music on all the time and read a lot. Coming back to gratitude, and I do love my dogs.
My husband died and was very clear death is inevitable with all died, and he died but before that he say don't cry for me because he says he had a good life. Never complaint about life, he was good to me, and I think in the long run he prepares me to be alone. I miss him, and know that he truly loves, me. I miss him every day and make sure to tell him that I am ok. I will be ok.
This is obviously written by someone who hasn’t lost their loved one. Don’t grieve for too long, don’t let grief overwhelm you. You think you have a choice? Grief is part of the healing process, you have to go through the pain to come out the other side. How long that is will be different for everybody. Gods love to all listening to this.
Agree completely.
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Exceptional Video. Lady my husband of 50 years 18 months ago and I can relate to the the point of " living alone". I am more at peace with myself and have become a much more independent person. Got a dog since my husband's death and she has brought so much joy in my life. She has vastly diminished my grieving and I prefer her being around me than even my kids. She is like my Guardian Angel.
Healing comes when you distance yourself from those who hurt you. Choose peace. Thanks for your video!
I have not lost a spouse. I am a 71 woman and 20+ years divorced. I did not grieve the dissolution of the marriage but chose to live my best life. I gained wisdom from this video and in many ways recognized myself. I do what I want to do to enhance the enjoyment of my life. I am a woman of faith and accept each day and experience as a blessing. I would like a special companion, but I don’t necessarily desire marriage. With 2 married children and 4 young grandchildren I am grateful, content and fulfilled.
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9 I am 85, my husband died when I was forty five, the most important thing is to have an “attitude of gratitude”. My children are alive and thriving and I am at peace.
9 I am learning to live alone after being in an unhappy marriage for 50 years. I am slowly becoming independent again, finding things I like to do and trying not to be a burden to my daughter. I am having trouble becoming social again due to a very restrictive marriage. I want to be social again. This is my biggest goal:
After living in a miserable marriage for 50 years you are entitled to peace and contentment. Pray and Ask God to remove the restrictions that you endured for years and enjoy your remaining life on earth.
Some of my best friends I met at church. Find a good community church and serve there.
I know it can be very difficult; but now you can do all the things you would like to do. Good luck to you. God bless.
@@annarebecca3384That is what my friend keeps telling me. You meet the best people at church.
I lost my husband of 62 years last year and it was such a shock at the sudden death.I am rebuilding my life and feeling grateful for all the years we had together and understand he wouldn't want me to grieve all the time and time does heal ❤
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Thank you , it’s very informative. I’m 71 and I may be alone but I’m not lonely. I’ve kept myself busy and enjoying every minute. I still play tennis 5-6 days a week. One game only each day. To God be all the glory and praise.
Your doing well ....wish I cud . I'm riddled with arthritis and fibromyalgia at. 69 . Had a hip done. Waiting for other ....cataract surgery too. God bless u
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My husband passed away when I was 39 with 3children Lord bless me with good health and happiness in Jesus name amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️🙏❤️
Same here I was that age too when my husband died with four young Children it wasn't easy but writh God's help I raised them by myself they are all married
My wife passed away last year after 58 years of marriage. I had to put away photos so I could move on but not forget. I felt grief, despair and feeling empty but I am moving on with being busy and looking forward for new things in my life.
I can identify with you! My DH passed away at 74, after bei g married for 52 yrs., and left me with a huge home that I had to sell. I had to pack up all the pictures ahead of time, so I can see how that helps you move forward. I am having to do that, too. And though I don't exactly know what my future will hold, I am still healthy and able. 🚴♀️🏋♀️😎
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We almost have the same event..
Recently lost My Wife of 52-years companionship ..
Stored away All our photos..
Am still " in a dark tunnel"🌑..gropping about...
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@@Manfred-cf9rn God bless you.
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Now let me share my experience with you.
After53 years of very happy life I lost my hubby when 72 years old
I cried and cried.
Then one fine morning I thought enough is enough.!!!
I tried to go out and engage my self
1 I found an NGO where im going ang teaching under previleged children
2 I was a singer so I practice singing( though with a hoarse voice)
3 I developed Globe trotting habit with few of my friends.
I enjoy because my husband used to enjoy .I always feel he is still with me!!!
For last 10 years I 'm staying alone .I'm not burdening myself on my children . But they help me whenever I need
Be independent and enjoy
I am 83 my husband is 84 we have been married Since 1961 so we have celebrated our Diamond anniversary, +. Very fortunate indeed , we are very happy have 3 grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren, Loved them dearly when they were growing up , and now we have a new Baby girl , the others are all boys ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💞 So just to say ,, some times because we have lost friends , it has crossed my mind , and I really don’t like it at all , it dose scare me ….. reading your comments though we are really very Lucky …. Health wise I’ve had a few operations since I retired , and my husband, since Covid , needs a scooter if we are going t away for little while , We both worked hard I retired at nearly 75 yrs my husband retired at 60 yrs ….. we , … …. are unable to do things like we use too … Best wishes to you all. With love 🥰🥰🤩
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Married for 46 years what helped me in being involved in our Church Activities Helping People In Need. Beliefs we were see each other again. Also having Trust in Our Heavenly Father's Love 💘 and Caring for us. we will grow through our lessons and develop and mature as a loving understanding being! PEACE TO ALL!🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍💘
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I am a 63-year-old widow.
Disabled from multiple sclerosis for 40 years.
Solitude or life with 1 or 2 very carefully chosen friends is wonderful!
I am very frugal with my money. That's my best advice. Be kind with your heart.❤❤❤❤
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9 I love my independence & being on my own with God everthing is possible.
True happiness comes from a good relationship with your creator not with a partner or material possession.
Speak for yourself. I am a Christian, and I still mourn the loss of someone I loved.
Your words are not true for everyone. I am an atheist and had true happiness with my husband for 26 years. After a few years of unhappiness, following his death, I am now with another wonderful man.
@@pamstein1556You are twice lucky. From my experience, I believe some of us are not meant to find love happiness. 💪🏻🩷
@@pamstein1556. Well said! So tired of indoctrinated believer telling us we aren’t happy. Most of us were trained with catch phrases and to de deathly afraid to admit we don’t believe. We have been on both sides. Most of them are just afraid of a nonexistent hell. Plus they live in guilt which has caused innumerable suicides. And they are trained to talk about atheism as the worst evil possible. NO! Teaching your children to believe, all the while abusing your family. Our parents were fundamentalists who demanded we pray before meals and attend church every week. We had our asses whooped regularly. I well remember the day we sat down to supper and dad asked me to say blessing. I refused. He went round to each sibling and asked, each one refused. He was angry and complained “ Well we just won’t have a blessing then!”. For you who had decent homes…good for you many of us had both physically and sexually abusive homes. We knew hypocrisy. We lived it. But we learned to love our spouse, our kids, and our pets. We learned to be good neighbors and to share. All without a guilt trip about being so evil we deserved eternal torment if we stole a cookie…or just for being born. Complete nonsense. We atheists are not evil! The night I realized I didn’t believe was joyful. I said it out loud. Man…I felt free!
But nothing else changed. I didn’t feel like sinning, cheating on my wife, attacking god, doing drugs, or anything bad. I SIMPLY DID NOT CLAIM TO BELIEVE ANYMORE!
NOTHING ELSE! We are just like you! Some choosing to be decent humans, and some choosing dishonesty and evil living…JUST LIKE YOU! But if you are going to be evil, not be honest with your taxes, being selfish, dominant to your family, angry with your spouse….JUST STOP CLAIMING TO BE A BELIEVER! And above all else, stop telling us we are evil, want to sin, and that we can’t possibly be happy without Jesus
We can, and we are. Don’t talk about that which you have no experience.
An atheist home between two loving partners is much better than a Bible based home with anger and bullying.
A couple of months ago my dad passed away. After that, my mum has been missing my dad on daily basis. She would talk to me about her wonderful memories with my dad, and that she hopes my dad did not leave so soon. Your video has come in at the right time. Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing! I'd love to know which lesson you found most impactful. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
@@Lighthouse_Wisdom : Hi, so far I have started with current video, and found it great! Will surely continue to check out other videos in your channel!😊
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9! Very helpful!
God bless you and your mother. amen
I am 73, a man living alone, while wife is staying, for 2 yrs now in US with my youngest daughter. I guess, it was by our mutual decision that we live separately, since I am unable to work anymore & provide for her She's 69, of perfect health and enjoying her life abroad. I have no regrets, though it was hard at first to adjust, but we do talk to each other daily thru social media.I guess, this is a dry run for both of us, how we should face life, in the event either one of us is gone. I am not longing for companionship.I just face life every day taking care of my health, being at peace with my Creator and fellowmen, hoping we shall meet again in Paradise.
Kristinesdad that's pre paration to total loneliness after one's death. So sad
You are not alone 😊😊
Same here.
When in God's hand, you are in comfort and in peace knowing Gods will take care of you.
" Though we die, we shall live again through Jesus Christ... says the "Word of God"
Having a dog helps a lot
Dog don’t live long .?..I don’t want to go through it all again
Don't get a dog if you think it will outlive you. Not fair to the poor animal!
9 divorced mom of 6 . We pulled together and made it. Now they’re grown with families. I seldom see them or my grandkids. At 70+ I feel abandoned and lost. For the first time I’m truly alone. Lord help me! 😢
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Do things that used to make you happy when you were young. This is the time to love yourself, contact old friends, go on day trips, read, pamper yourself. This is actually a wonderful opportunity for you to do all the things you could not do when your kids were young
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I understand how you feel. Difficult as it is, I believe the only way forward is to do the things you love….Read a book, a simple walk and if you meet someone on your walk, make eye contact and speak to them. Walk tall and with purpose.
Take time to look and feel your best. A clean tidy living area helps immensely and enjoy a good nutritious meal every evening. Take it a day at a time.
I hope you will find joy in your daily life.
Same with many of us,feeling used and then vanish.If only we knew!❤❤❤We need to meet new people
No remarry, once is enough only need companion.
Just because folk are married, or in relationships does not guarantee happiness; in fact, often the opposite is true. None of us know what goes on behind net curtains and/or closed doors. Be happy with the state you find yourself in. Life is too short to keep wishing for something else. And, if one is alone there s nothing to prevent one from creating a life that is meaningful and productive, even if one has a serious illness such as cancer. It is how we react to events that matters, feeling sorry for ourselves is not helpful!
I lost my partner of 45 yrs this year I am 80 yrs old now I found your video excellent and very informative thankyou so much for airing the problems that do often crop up I do or have suffered some of the topics you discussed in the video but at the present time I seem to be holding my own so once again thankyou
Just keep praying to GOD he will show you the way
Doesn't he others more important things to pay attention to?
@@gregtarris9057each of us is important to God. He wants to hear from us daily. He loves you and wants to give you what is best for you according to his perfect plan.
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I was 68 when I lost my husband, he was 71. You must join a grief group, it helped immensely!! Your spouse would want you to be happy again, volunteer, possibly find love again.. be thankful you’re still alive!!!
Sorry for your loss praying God bring peace and comfort for you and your family Amen 🙏
I lost my husband and childhood sweetheart after 31 years of Marriage. I met him when I was 12.😢 I will Never get over this loss 😢😢😢
Enjoy life to the fullest. Taking care of yourself is the best gift to enjoy, be healthy n beautiful
You don't ever get over it, you just get on with it. My lady and I had an understanding and wanted the same thing... for the one left to have the best life they could. It has been 17 going on 18 years now and I always keep her in my heart and there she will live on till we meet on the other side. So it's not a tragedy but a progression of this mortal life.
Thank you for sharing these valuable experiences we can draw lessons from. God bless us all who are aging
9… I agree with all 3 stories. I will never remarry or live with my son. I miss my husband everyday, but looking to make new friends that share like interests.
As the Buddha wisely said, "You only lose what you cling to." This quote reminds us that while we may lose our loved ones physically, their love and memories live on in our hearts.
I'm turning 75, retired teacher 2011, my husband died at age 71 last 2023. I had 5 children and they have their own family, I live alone in our home.
African proverb:
"When an elder dies, a library burns to the ground"
Married for 50 loving and wonderful yrs, lost my wife and was totally devastated, but was advised by a friend to try counselling ,which was the beginning of my recovery- I am not religious so no comfort to be had from that belief- My salvation came from being advised by my Councillor to make sure I was always busy and never turn down any invitation- It worked and now after a couple of years have a lady friend, but no marriage or living together contemplated, simply very good friends see each other quite often and go on holiday together- I never realised I could ever be so happy again.
9. I'm 78 n living n by myself. My husband passed at 72, 9 years ago. I have 4 children n 8 grandchildren. I'm happy spending my time gardening, cooking for myself mostly having fellowship n outings with church friends. I'm grateful n at peace living my twilight years as best as I can. PTL❤
After loosing my husband. Whom I had been married to for 46 years Felt so empty
Thank you for sharing!. That would be incredibly valuable to us. Wishing you a peaceful and happy life!
9. Very good! Nearing 80, I have been having the same thoughts that you mentioned. I plan to watch this a few more times. I watch, listen, and contemplate.
Thank you for your video, I have joined a senior club and enjoy it, I also work, meeting people, I feel happy being busy, and enjoy hobbies.
9 ❤ my body counts 68 years of age, my soul feels ageless, but then, I can agree to every single point in this video. As my mother used to say, every age has its pluses and minuses. The secret is to discover the new potential every age-period brings and enjoy it.
SO TRUE & INSPIRING . LOVE EVERY WORD . THANK YOU & KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK ❤❤❤❤
9 lost my husband at 58 yrs old.Together 30 yrs. Lost, grieving & numb but moving forward with God. Would like to marry at some point.
These is an inspiring stories. It helped me learn a lessons before it happens to my life. I rate this a 10. LOVE & LIGHT!
9 at 77 married, but very informative, giving food for thought, covering many topics that have been on my mind for some time !
Thank you for the most profound and thought provoking wise words. I appreciate every piece of advice you shared.
Read psalm 91 and psalm 23. The best yet to come for you Amen 🙏
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My wife passed away 20 years ago. In the beginning, I was always filled with sadness over her passing, but having my children by my side helped ease the pain, and gradually, I found myself moving forward and letting go of the grief.
Everything he has made pretty in its time. Even time indefinite he has put in their heart, that mankind may never find out that the true God has made from the start to the finish. I have come to know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and to do good during one's life, and also that every man should eat and drink and see good for all his hard work. It is the gift of God. The conclusion of the matter, everything having been heard, is: Fear the [true] God and keep his commandments, For this is the whole [obligation] of man. For the [true] God himself will bring every sort of work into judgment in relation to every hidden thing, as to whether it is good or bad.--Ecclesiastes 3:11-13; 12:13, 14. I appreciate your video and thank you very much.
9 I Love this suggested video for Seniors aging 70-80,I am 77 became a widow 6 years ago but able to carry it on God will make a way to be happy.
9 I'm 69 I lost my wife 3yrs ago, it wasn't me that got over this it was my wife's family who seemed to think I should be in perpetual grief and after remarrying they took it upon themselves to admonish me. You see I married a widow who pretty much saw death not as a obstacle to life but a change in direction I couldn't forget 37 yrs and she couldn't give up 25yrs so our 1st year anniversary was our 63rd year anniversary. In many respects I'm glad I didn't listen to this 3yrs ago, you chart your own course in life you should have enough experience to know when things are not right
I should also mention I describe myself as a Stoic it's the way I saw and accepted death religion is not useful it strengthens the spiritual life and not the intellectual life
Live life and prosper!
Nice ! Very valuable info to be guided accordingly in the same situation .❤❤❤
This is such a comforting and uplifting message! Thank you for sharing these secrets that can truly help many find hope and joy after loss."
100 81 facing lose of lifelong partner but doing well in preparing for that eventuality, grateful for my health, mind, blessings and spirit. Thank you.
9 I lost my husband last year who was 62yrs and I m trying to have a speedy recovery also to always think positively about our passed life. I keep a solicit life now which I enjoy though it's difficult. I need a companion just to talk to and laugh with. Thanks for the info.
Thank you for your video❤
Such a powerful message! Thank you for sharing these stories and offering hope to those facing difficult times.
This is definitely a 9, thank God I stumbled across this piece of excellent article.
9. Widowed 16 years now. The last of the 7 children left a year ago. Stuck in life.
Widower of over two years. Enjoying my autonomy and independence and growth.
9. Wonderful, thank you!
I’ve been married 48 years. This is a 2nd marriage for both if us. He is into golf, fishing and hunting. he is a very active 85. I am 77 and an introvert. I enjoy time alone reading, walking and especially church. I volunteer at church and have many friends for times when I choose to be social. I would not remarry should my husband pass before me.
Hi, my name is Mary I am 76 I lost my husband five years ago and today is August 9 and my brother my only brother that care for me died also but six years ago I was feeling very depressed and I know I believe in God and counseling, but I have to keep on daily thanking about The problems worldwide and if I stay away from the news I’ll be fine. This world conditions are so so bad they don’t respect seniors and I’m having a hard time finding housing for seniors because they tell me I have to wait 15 years on the waiting list for section 8 I pay1300 and it takes all my Social Security money so I am too old to keep working now so I read your guy statements and I enjoy reading them. Thank you for sharing.
I am a widow of 2 years, and still having trouble socializing as a single. I hate this!
@user--uu6jwqs7b Not easy to socialize and date again, but I have no desire to date again, been there, done that! Love being single! Helps to have interests and reach out and join a club like a garden club with other women who enjoy gardening and nature! Or a cooking club, art, music, theater or dance group...the arts heal! Former retired NYC fashion illustrator, floral designer, fitness trainer, pianist/composer here. Hope this helped, too! Blessings to you~ 💗
Get outside of yourself and do something for others. Volunteers are needed everywhere. Read to children at a local school, help at an animal shelter, a food bank.
Do you sew or knit? Offer to teach others. Learn a new skill.
Your last statement sums up your problem. As long as you focus on your loss, you can't move on.
If you need help to get beyond where you are, please see a mental health or grief counselor.
@@susansweat9125 This may be true, but many widows esp if elderly have disabilities, chronic auto-immune illnesses and don't drive and can't always get around and aren't extroverts where they need to be out with others, there are introverts who prefer solitude esp if they're artists/writers etc. where's your EMPATHY!? smdh
Me to it has been 2 years for me , I hate it , I hope we both find peace 😢
Your comments are very helpful I will try to cultivate some of them
Gods goodness is great😊
Very important issues and experiences to Consider when left ALL alone after a spouse has passed on
Thanks for sharing such insightful “Food for Thought “ -I have always thought that so much has been written about other earlier “Seasons of Life “… not much about on aging”. I look forward to more on this much needed topic
Excellent advice…..many thanks
Thanks for sharing. Good advice to consider before jumping in. Glass always sees greener on the other side.....👍🌈
9 thank you. We are still together but every now and then thinking what if i lose him n have to live on my own. While still mobile i don't want to bother my children.
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I’m 68yr.old
happy being a widow In 19 yrs. by Gods
Still wearing our wedding ring🙏💕🙏
Thank you for this reminder, it’s a great lesson to learn.
I’m 70 and recently celebrated our 51st anniversary. My wife is entering her 5th year of dementia. I ponder what life will be like alone.
This video is fairly off the mark,it suggest numerous simple solutions. i,m 69 and lost my wife to dementia after 8 years of decline,in one sense it gave me time to prepare my heart but i did not prepare myself for what i would do when it was finally over.We had moved into town which was good but the house we bought was not really right for me now,also I sold a camper van that would of been good for me now,i retired early on Government pension so lost survivor benefits from Canada pension,i could of maybe applied for a different type of benefit..My wife was the social person,now i feel like an old bull elk wandering the logging roads on its own.Two days i have talked to my old mom and my brother on the phone ,i have friends but don,t really want to see anyone much,I'm not really lonely,but i stay alone.Its a new path,drinking does not help.. Three years soon getting use to it.Would be nice to have a female special friend, to share life.
Much appreciated, a huge thanks
Thank u very much i find this topic very valuable as my husband and i are in our 80's
Loved this message
Thanks. Good stories.
I live in a small rural farming area. Most of your advice isn’t available where I live. My family/children live far away and very rarely visit since my husband died 15 months ago. They have very busy lives. My husband was my only and closest friend. Closest thing to me is 25 miles away. If I could move I would.
Moving probably will not help you. I lost my wife 27 years ago. She died young. This is a thing that will take time to get through, it has no time limit it is different for everyone. You will have some choices to make, you will make them eventually. Please don't give up you are equipped with a intellect and a free will. You will come to the choices you must make eventually. You can not a broken heart, that is something you have to live with. My hope for you is you will find the new life you will be able to live. 😊
You get 10 I am so encouraged!
I am 49 years old and my husband passed away 9 months ago. I feel dejected with life.
Thank you for this wonderfully done, extremely informative piece of art!
Best to live life and enjoy!!!❤
Very superbly presented and every advice is inspiring. It is really an eyeopener and hope it can change a fair bit of myself by taking the 1st step in this enlightenment. I am a widower for the past 5 years ,and life can never be easy when my most love one left me. Thank You.
Very true, relatable and it really happens.
9 Thanks for this information. Both of us are still living but this infomation is very handy. Thanks a lot.
Thank you!!!Great advise!!!
Nothing better happen to my Husband .. Amen 🙏😇
Thank you for sharing❤
I go with 9, very clear and comprehensive
Insgtiful message thank you very much
My situation today ,may be yours tomorrow ,in the blink of an eye your whole life may ,and will alter drastically with the loss of your partner ,The plans you may consider before this loss occurs ,could be turned on their head ,just take one day at a time ,and value your independance ,think twice ,do not be fearful ,move forward bravely and with trust in your own ability
9 very educational,the truth of life...
My mum went four years ago my dad now three years mum went first as a funeral director i helped my dad cope and took the burden off him with the funeral and after shock , im used to helping others in grief but when its your own its different
9 I found y our video to have more depth than a lot of quick solution ideas for aging. Thankyou.
❤❤❤"9" thank 💕💕 you for this valuable senior lessons.
Extremely enlightening, excellent explanation! Thank you! ❤
Thanks much for this stories🥰
9 your stories are veryinspiring