Older Women/Younger Men: The fear of ruining his life
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.พ. 2025
- Many an older woman has voiced her fear of ruining her younger man’s life. This form of projection is based on what society has said is the ‘normal transit of one’s life.’ However, age-gap love breaks all barriers to be united with the prefect match (regardless of convention).
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In 1980 I met my present wife I was 22 she was 36I CHASED her with serious intent on marrying her it was the woman on the inside that appealed to me the outside was nice too she tried to shake me off I hung on and eventually slipped a ring on her finger We don't have kids I never felt that desire we have had a GREAT life together I am now 60 she is 74 and in poor health I meant it when I said to her I DO we're still in love and still happy with each other 37 years and counting!! Carl in Avon Park FL
I wish you Long life and good health be well everytime You are a hero for your Love
Do I not push him away? He is everything I need and I am what he needs. Why was she pushing you away from you? I might need some advice from you.
Way to Go! Carl Gomm.
Koofey McDonald McDonald as women get older they get more testosterone hence the sex drive and back hair
Carl I applaud you on the success with your marriage. But I believe that you’re the exception to the rule. It takes a special guy to even know what Love is at 22.
I dont think older women should worry about that. As a younger man one of the things I love about older women is they know what they want. They should know we do too. We know why were so attracted to older women, we know what were doing. Dont be scared. We ache to show you how you make us feel.
Thanks for your share Matthew.
Susan Winter Your welcome
in the church they have been told, " You are the only Bible some people will ever read. " Some younger men are in a whirl wind shit storm of selfish younger women that don't know who they are, and you older ladies out there you may very well be the only woman this man will ever get to make both of your dreams come true.
Love this. Thanks.
Nice. Thanks.
I am going thru this right now, 4yrs with a Godly woman she's 54 and I am 32. But we are happily TOGETHER and we have been make it our relationship good🕊🕊⚔🛡💞
Beautiful.
thank you for sharing Richard, gives me hope
Amazing
I’m so happy you wrote this. I’m 52 and my boyfriend is 30. We are very much in love. I’ve been worried about kids and ruining his life. I’m so thankful for this message. ❤
Do you have children Richard? And how did your families react to the age difference. How did you handle any negativity? Still together?
I am currently falling for a guy who’s a decade younger than I am and all I can think about is him and our age difference. I am happy to see this video.
Thank you so much for teaching all of us this. My man is 32 years younger than I am and I have felt guilty at times and tried pushing him away. After listening to you I now see that is just my job to love him in this moment without worrying about what the future holds.
Oh gosh I hope you see this and reply back. A 30 yr old man is in love with me and I am him, Im 60. He doesnt seem to care at all about pur age difference. We have a problem with being in 2 different countries. I get scared. I think im guarding my heart, and I think im ruining his life. We are working on being together now. As excited as I am, I have underlying guilt.
God! 32 years younger? That is tough.
Are you still together?
This is making me cry literally--so beautiful---and profound
Wow! Thank you so much for this. I just turned 40 and he is 26. I've been trying to push him away in the ways you mentioned, even though he is exactly what I want in all other aspects. No one has responded negatively to our relationship, but the kids thing is more MY worry. I love your message and I will take your great advice.
Alyse Truth how did his parents react?
How’s the relationship going?
That is a big age gap… you still together?
Are you still with him?
I love older women, and make my own choices consciously. Nice post! My older partner had these fears and shared them with me.
Thanks for your message, donavin51
How far is your age gap?
I am going thru this right now, 8yrs with a man ,he is 32 and i am 54.I needed this video ,thankyou x
I have the same age gap in my relationship 💜 I needed this video so badly...
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Wow nice I wish u will be together FOREVER🙏🙏🙏
I like it
Omg I’m 10 yrs older than my bf and I get worried constantly. Your 20yrs older than your man. What helps you stay with him. Please advice.
Wooooow! I'm crying now for these words...! THANK YOUUUUU...! My husband left me a few months ago for another woman, and since I started dating online, I don't know why the guys who contact me are 20 YEARS YOUNGER...!! It's kind of ironic, because I've always told my daughter that her mom (ME), was gonna end like Demi Moore, because I HAVE ALWAYS LIKED YOUNGER MEN..., But now that I'm 49 and they are the ones contacting me, I FEEL GUILTY...!! OMG!! Thank you for your words. Now I understand, even though I need to make it my own thought...! I'm subscribing to your channel right away!!!! 😁 THANK YOUUUUU!! 😘 🌹
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Because you are great beauty and they see a lot of beauty, life and safety Vicki
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same here Tibisay, I divorced two years ago, started three months ago on a dating app, first I lied about my age (cause I look younger), put it on 36 instead of 49, decided to be honest, even more and younger men became interested. I have a 20 year old daughter, felt also guilty and weird. Now that i've moved from the Netherlands to Scotland I feel more free. Dated a 25 year old and a 23 year old man. Fell in love with a 20 year old amazing guy. (cyring while writing this). Never ever experienced this...it's the whole package, so intelligent, strong, a challenge, fun, sweet, tender... miss him...
Hi do not be upset
Youre so right. love this video. I'm 20 and in to older women and you have explained everything I feel perfectly. I know what i'm doing and if I want to see you I want to see you. You are not responsible for me. You got it perfect.
Hi Susan, I discovered your channel today. This video is helping me so much !
I’m a 23 yo young guy and I recently started dating a mature women. I know myself and I don’t like and connect with girls my age, I like older women.
She has great character and morality, a beauty outside and inside. She’s very caring and she’s shown me many signs that she is dealing with this imposter feeling you describe : I’ll hurt him and ruin his life. I felt hurt this morning when I read her text message that was another manifestation of this belief.
However because I found your channel and this video, I feel I have a better understanding of what going through her mind as an older women.
I’m at peace with the situation, I’ll remain myself when we see each other and at some point I hope she can hear me out and take a chance on me when I express to her that it’s okay to have me, because I want to have her.
I’ll check out more of your content for sure, thx a lot !
How are things going with her now?
@@Nicole-zv7ee Her imposter feeling took over and she pushed me away. Also she expressed that she wanted to find someone with whom she can have a shared lifestyle, with someone ready for the same things, having more free time for example. Things only a man her age could offer her I suppose.
@@olivierchoquette7734 I am in my 40's and our fear of "ruining his life" with regards to a younger guy, is in regards to us not wanting to rob him of his youth and also not wanting to rob him of the opportunity for him to be able to have kids with someone. Did she mention these reasons to you?
@@Nicole-zv7ee yes she did
@@olivierchoquette7734 Did she not want kids?
I feel like you climbed into my brain and are dissecting all my thoughts. You are TOOO on point with this. Thank you so so much!!
I’m 48 years old and my man is 26 years old and I’m sooo proud and lucky to have him.
Thank you Susan... I am crying here.... the age gap is huge.... i love him, he is the most mature man i've ever met. For once in my life I experienced being able to surrender, to led him lead, he's so centered and I tried to let him go, to date other (young) men, they don''t compare to the ease and security i experienced with him. Missing him....
Thanks Susan, you have answered something I had in my mind back in the early 80's when I was about 22 and my girlfriend was 38 with 2 children, 1 girl of 17 years and a new baby, the other a 14 year old boy. I really loved my gf, she was all my dreams come true, and we loved each other very very much until EXACTLY what you explained in your video of how it could go wrong, and that's very much the way it went. She was so afraid I would get hurt or regret things..and I realised it was more or less the end as I went along with it what she said that I would want children one day, and still love clubbing, drinking..etc which she had no interest at all, she hated that sort of stuff. My gf was my first love, I had never been with any one else, but that was not an issue all I knew was we loved each other for about 4 years, a very calm and mostly very total loving understanding until I was let off the lease drinking and sadly to say things changed and one day coming in quite drunk she asked me to go. All I had in my mind was my gf going on about me finding some one else and having a family of my own etc etc and that was the end basically..you live and you learn as my Gran would say bless her!..she was right too! Thanks again Susan, cheers and peace!
Omg you brought a tear to my eye. I'm 38 he's 28...together over 3yrs now. Thank you for this video Susan! I always try to let him go...thinking he should be with younger....he keeps coming back. I love him so much......p.s. you made this video on my bday too....thank you for the clarity.
I'm not great with my words but wow thank you
I'm going to love him more instead of push away
Hi I'm sure you know deep down that you're he's lucky to have you any man would be lucky to get me I'm a great person many people tell me so lol I'm not I'm serious anyway I attract good people and I'm a good person so I own it
Susan, my heart goes out to you, Darling. I’ve gone through all these things with the Great Loves of my life; all of whom are much older than me. As an Old Soul at heart, gaining wisdom is my top priority...personal development, positive self evolution, and the like...therefore; I know myself well enough to be absolutely certain that I want to spend the rest of my life with an Older Women! I’m going to watch this video over again multiple-times.
when a woman is older than his counterpart,I think she shows motherly affection , tenderness towards the guy.
As a guy I would like to have that tenderness that affection.
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Oh my goodness Susan, finding your channel has been a godsend! I'm 49 now have two adult kids and have been single for over a decade because at some point I just decided that dating was just not going to work out for me anymore. My problem is that I look very young for my age and I also have a very young mentality due to being a gamer (videogames) and even working in the game industry where people are very very playful and fun. Rigid and humorless people just don't fit into this industry. So due to thinking and looking young in addition to being passionate about games, I tend to attract and share interests with guys who are anywhere from 25-35. From my side, these are the ones I get along with the most as well! But any time younger guys try to flirt with me, I ignore it and don't even go there because a) it creeps me out that they are closer to my son's age than they are mine and b) I don't want to get in their way of having a fulfilling life with family, kids and the whole shabang. One time I took a chance dating a younger guy who insisted that none of that mattered and that all he wants is to be with me, but that was easy to say in the "honeymoon" fun and exciting phase of the relationship. But once things settled down a bit and normalized, he started to realize that our relationship is actually entering a more serious stage and he started to really think carefully of whether he'd really be willing to sacrifice a future with having a proper family and we ended it soon after that. I totally understood of course, but it left me scarred from wanting to even try again. I decided that under no circumstances would I ever get involved with a young guy that hasn't had his kids yet, ever again. And here I am, 12 years later and haven't been on a single date or touched a man. The men my age don't understand my passion for videogames AT ALL and think it's a waste of time, and like you've said in many of your videos, older guys seem to have a lot of baggage. I've certainly noticed this. Your videos are helping me a lot though, to perhaps open my perspective a bit. After watching them, I feel a little bit more willing to take a risk again, so thank you for these amazing and enlightening videos! Your video about give and take was so spot on as well! I've always been much too much of a giver and that video really helped me understand why I need to stop doing that!
KatsPurr, I really understand how you feel about love..
Is not easy to be in romance with age group of your kids.
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The more I watch you talk, the more I like you. You speak truth from the heart. And it hits me hard cos the represent every thought, every emotion and desire within me.. Thank you so much.
This is probably the most beautiful video i have seen on your channel. I showed this to my gf a year ago in the beginning of our relationship and talked to her about it and it has since completely dispelled the fear from her mind and made her understand that the worst thing she can do is give into it because she is truly what i want in this life.
I wish i had heard this 6 years ago when I rejected a younger man, a beautiful nice-guy. I was so frightened, I couldn't believe he wants me. I think I hurted him so much by choosing other one who was of course, the wrong one. He hates me today. I will never forget myself this huge mistake i made.
You can't blame yourself for what you didn't know. I did the same thing. I pushed my first younger man away-he found someone else (also older) and has been happily married since that time. However Sasha, should've the situation present itself to you today you may choose differently. Best wishes
Let's get in touch. I'm 44
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Im 23 years old and i kinda regret turning down a date for the day a few weeks ago with a 40 year old woman who was from chile
This is exactly what I need to hear right now. I met 10 years younger man and all I can think of is that we cannot make it. Thank you
Thank you so much! I've been tormenting myself! I've done everything you mentioned. Looking out for younger good matches. But he tells me he could have 1000 women his age, he doesn't want them, he wants me! We are so compatible and I have never felt so loved. And I have never loved a man this way before. I just want him to be happy. I even worry about when I die...leaving him a widower but then I know that's riddiculous as either one of us could die at any time. Your video has really eased my mind. Thank you 💜
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@@mvp.89 Hi. I am so sorry, I never saw this message until now. One year later 🤔 I am good thank you. Wish you a beautiful day 🌼🌼🌼
@Marin Marković What a beautiful thing to say. Thank you 🌼 Wish you a beautiful day 💞🌼
@Marin Cuculic I broke up with him a few months ago but we're still in contact. However, because of Covid we can't see each other as we're in different in countries. So I'm single and for now it's better for me to stay single but thank you for the great compliment 🥰
I'm married almost 6 years now to a guy that's 15 years younger than me. We never had any problems with each other about our age difference until just recently. This video is right on point because it was I who just recently starting feeling just on occasion that what if I was ruining his life. My hubby loves me very much & has told me I'm not ruining his life so maybe I should start believing in that. Thanks for the video.
That's nothing 15 years you both getting old the same time
Thank you so very much. I had a young man seek me out and I had no idea how to handle it. I felt responsible and thought of all the issues you mentioned. Your videos are extremely helpful and supportive. 💐
I want you
My girlfriend and I have this conversation more than I would like. Thank you for this, hopefully this will help us because I love this woman so much !
Amen, Susan. Keep preaching it sister! Men would rather take risks for the payoff, but to have a partner tearing a relationship down whether in romance or a business.....nothing can be more heartbreaking and destructive.
Every time when I thought I had seen one great classic video of Susan's, another came along, then another, and another, regardless of dates they were published/uploaded. The advice provided in them are timeless and I consider them a goldmine. Thanks Susan!
im crying so hard just from the title of this. i tried so hard to fight our love at the start, i thought he deserved better, i didnt want to ruin his life etc. then i let him love me, we had 2 1/2 amazing yrs. he will always be the one. we both had problems, depression, life issues, and he left me. i wish so much i hadnt tried to push him away at the start, i thought it was best for him. i realise now our love was what was best for both of us. im so broken. to anyone else, ure love isnt wrong, he doesnt deserve someone younger, ure not ruining his life. enjoy ure love. dont have regrets like i have. the day he left he told me id always be the one. its 4 months now. i miss and love him with all my heart, he found someone else right away. i hope he can be happy, have the family i could never have given him. he said he didnt want kids, would only want them if they were ours, but i always struggled with the guilt of taking that away from him. if i could do it all again, id not fight our love. its so hard. sending hugs to anyone else in pain. xxx
If he truly loved you, he would stay and fight for you both.
The fact he left and got himself someone right away … speaks volumes. Who can move on so quickly from someone they love?
People get tired of being pushed away @@trinityp8575
I don't get why women believe they'd be ruining a younger guy's life. He can make his own decisions. He's a grown-ass man. If he cares about you, he has the right to pursue a relationship with you. Healthy love is very rare, ladies. Grab it wherever you can find it!
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Beautiful words. ❤
Yeah I’m thinking the same
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I’m 38. My man is 25. His mother is less than 4 years older than me. She had him at a very young age. I struggle with this a lot. Being around his parents only reminds me of our age gap and they were not pleased with his decision to be with me in the beginning. They seem to be fine with it now but I still know deep down they want different for him. They are very close and want us around a lot. I have 2 children of my own and selfishly, I’d rather stay home with him and my own children. I do go with him occasionally but don’t feel it necessary to go visit his parents every week. The mom is quite pushy when it comes to these things. How do I move past this. How do I make myself ok with all this? He’s wonderful. He treats me better than anybody ever has. I have done things or acted in ways to push him away because of the exact things you spoke of. Help me?
Thank you! I met a 21 years younger man, and we are now a few months in dating. I pushed him away at first, though very attracted, but I didn't feel comfortable discriminating against him because of his age. So here we are😊 I am falling for him, and I know he feels the same. I can honestly say he is more a man than anyone I've had in my life! We have talked a lot about children and what he wants. I have 4 children, my youngest is 10, and my eldest is 29, so I am done when it comes to pregnancies and childbirth. If it is most important for him to have a biological child, then we have problems. If not, we'll then there are things we can do. But as of now, it's too soon to tell. He will be 31 in a few months, and I will be 52. By then, I'm sure we will know how we feel about each other if we want to engage further or move on. I do want a life partner, so let's see😊 As of now, there's no one else I'd rather be with ❤
Hi Susan ,
I am Suma , Sharath's partner . Sharath told me a lot about you and that you were his guiding force during the tough times . Thank you very much for all your help and helping us to be together again .I did browse through your channel and found it very informative . Here I am seeking your advice as this video of yours is somewhat relevant in my life . On the other hand I also wish to say hello and thank you with this initial message and follow your videos .
Indeed I am a bit concerned about ruining his life . I tell this on many accounts . Firstly his parents has been emotionally taxing me .
I have'nt mentioned the whole story to Sharath as I didn't want him to get upset . He is such a sweet soul and I value his happiness a lot .
Last time his father had cautioned me a lot and asked me to get out of his life . In the process he even went on to abusing me taking my daughter into picture and mentioning that I am making his son to carry someone else's burden . Not only that he warned me if I trap his son he is going to do the same thing with my dauughter , which didn't go very well with me . I know he might have told this in the heat of the moment but though I am a tough woman , I too get upset by some of the remarks especially if it targets my daughter . Few days back Sharath gave me the much needed inspiration as he fought against all odds and chose to be with me . I can't say how happy I am . After he left his home and chose to live with me , his father confronted me again on the same topic ( this time he was not in an aggressive mode but in a request mode ) . But I chose to gave him the following reply .
" What is between Sharath and me is purely between us and we don't owe anybody any explanation . Had he asked me the same question with respect I might have revealed as everyone knows that I am quite bold but not in this way .My life is not limited by their dreams for their son . What they did and will do is their business and not mine .Even during the brief period when myself and Sharath were seperated ,he was always in my heart . I am open about my love for Sharath and my love doesn't change with seasons . "
I know that i might have gone a little overboard with my reply as his past comments were haunting me . This time he was on his knees apologizing for what he had said earlier and requesting my mercy in leaving his son alone and not to spoli his future . But I just chose to ignore him and asked him to leave as I believe that this is what is good for both Sharath and me . My daughter enjoys his company and she even makes me jealous as after him joining our home she even forget about me . I must say that she has never been this much happier and it looks as if he is her real father . He even takes care of my ailing mother when I am not around . I have known him for couple of years now and his act of choosing me over his parents has increased his respect many folds in my heart .
I don't want to be bothered by all these occasional emotions , sentiments and abuses . So I thought the best thing was to filter these bad apples out . Why drag in a 8 year old into something like this ? If they really wanted to argue, let them take on somebody their size .
My poor daughter does not know anything . This is unacceptable and I will not tolerate it . I am a mother and will do whatever it takes to protect my daughter; any mother worth her salt will understand what I am going through .
Now as I mentioned , Sharath is a great guy and I am lucky to have him in my life . Personally I am a bit of bold , aggressive and dominant character and Sharath on the opposite is an ice cool guy . May be the opposites attract and we both love each other admist all the limitations .
But since his parents and family are consistently pointing out that I am ruining is life , somewhere in the back of my mnd I have a feeling whether really I am spoiling is future . Some even tell me that 15 years down the line the age gap will be more visible and he may feel having done a mistake . Also there is the equation of children coming into picture and we never know with increasing age things will be difficult . The great positive is that I have discussed all these things with Sharath and he seem to be clear in his thinking that be whatever it may be , if at all there is a woman in his life it has to me . I care for him and wants the best things to happen in life . Though he is showing a lot of maturity he is still way younger .
Another aspect is my character itself . I am a totally outgoing person and I mingle with a lot of people which include guys . I try to enjoy every moment of my life and doesn't like to be restricted . Sharath on the other hand is shy and reserved and totally devoted to me . Its so sweet to see him waiting for me to return back from work . He is just adorable like a love sick puppy . Though I maintain the limits and ensure that I never do something wrong , I am a bit worried if at all my outgoing nature may slightly hurt him . I would have loved to drag him to lot more parties and make him more sociable but its against his comfort and the same way I too may feel restricted if I have to cut down my social circle . There is nothing serious but I am a bit over cautious because I have a feeling that I have found someone special and I dont want to loose him at any cost .
Sorry for bombarding with you a very long message , but I am a bit nervous even in my 40 . I don't want to realize after few years that I have infact spoiled his life . But at the same time I would be heart broken if at all we both have to seperate . That's the reason I thought of seeking your advice . Kindly provide your valuable suggestions , Susan . Apologies again for a very long message and a big thank you .
Thank you and Best Regards ,
Suma
Thank you Susan! I love all your videos about older women younger men! And I have realized that he wants ME and not care about age at all! So I go for it with all my heart and I dont care about what people are thinking,`we are connected with our hearts and souls NOT AGE!
Beautiful, Kerstin.
Thank you Kerstin , for sharing your story . Its inspiring .
You are welcome Sharath Gopi!
Kerstin. Thank you so much for sharing. Your words are very beautiful and inspiring.
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Thank you Susan. It's mostly younger men attracted to me. I've watched a few of your videos. They are fantastic!! I have a guy half my age chasing me. There is an attraction. This helps.
Hi Bobbi. Isn't it nice to realize you have a greater amount of choice? I wish you a wonderful journey of discovery.!
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they want YOU SIMPLE GO WITH IT, I DID has been four years now he met me on a dating app and dint back down....even when I kept deleting him...
Thank you Susan…the guy I’m with is almost 20 years younger than me and yes, I tried to change his mind, came up with all different things that I thought would turn him off…I thought someone younger and able to have kids would be better for him (no, I didn’t introduce him to someone younger or anything but I did ask him if he was sure about it ) he said yes…
I can now relax about this but as yet, he hasn’t met my family…hopefully soon
Wow, I’m a guy and she’s 100% correct
Omg I made the same mistake l know exactly what you mean.
Jacques de Seingalt some women desire the flesh of young men too lol
Jacques de Seingalt I have many friends married a much younger men I think it depends on individuals. My mom has been married to a 15 year younger husband for 30 years 😊
@@jacquesdeseingalt2699 Hmm I don't know if I agree with you, but I appreciate the courage it took to speak your idea of the truth. In reality, it's no one's business. Age is just a number. Live, laugh, love. Seems simple to me. I think you just gotta go with the flow and let others do the same. Older women, younger men? It happens. Who cares? Not me. And nor should you. It's just life man, things happen and if people are happy, who are we to judge? Love is love. Who cares?
@@kinkao2373 Aww, I love hearing that. Are they still together?
You're right about sending him to do things that maybe he doesn't want to do it. Thank you for the advice 🙏
I am in this exact position with my partner. It's so hard to love someone and worry about the future.
Worry about your partner's future is their business. Take care of your needs, and they'll make the appropriate decisions on their behalf. Wishing you well!
Linda carroll you single
Linda carroll Don't worry. Enjoy it until last. Keep an open mind
Linda carroll good luck .I wish I can start finding one older woman for love.
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I just recently discovered your videos and love them. I'm currently dating a guy who is 15 years my junior. I've never done this before and I must admit I sit with a lot of insecurities. I'm by nature very confident and self assured but I find myself worrying about losing this amazing guy. I've shared my fears with him and I see that he just wants to love me and treat me well. I'm so deeply inlove with this man of mine.
How are things now? Are you still together?
15 years gap is a lot especially after sometime. If you feel insecure now, it will only deepen with time as you age. But it depends how he is and how he treats you and if there is real trust and respect between you both.
And it also helps that older women are A LOT more mature. Which I love and don't play games.
thank u again Susan....
i already push him away frm Me, always think his better life n future.... n HE always probe that Im wrong....That He knows what he like n He Love Me as I am.....Your right im hurting my Self.... Now I DO REALLY ACCEPT n That ILOVEHIM....
now adays were more relax n do understand each other n his more sweeter than before n always think for Our Future Life together....
I do TRUST HIM much more...we been HONEST to each other so We help n work it out together...
EXCELLENT!! Happy to read this, Marta. I wish you well
I fear that he is 30 now and im 37 and in few years I will look older and it will be lots of pressure for me to look good, I'm recovering from an eating disorder .. Always imagined myself with 50+ years old, but ended up in older woman/younger men situation.. This life is a test.
I've never heard or thought of this before in my life!!! 🤔
@Marin Cuculic. Thx. I am lol lol lol
Thank you this really helps with the fear that grips a lot of Women; its like we talk ourselves out of blessings because we fear the unknown. My question in my head is What would he want with a Women my age. This is so not easy to wrap your head around.
I know! I've been there. It's that little voice in our head that tells us we are worthless and not deserving of a man's love, Yet alone a younger man's love. But don't negate his internal wisdom. He knows himself. He knows what he wants. And if he wants you, then it's not your business to talk him out of it. I wish you well!
The truth is that many us have started appreciating older ladies because they understands life than this young girls that never know anything about life.
Marin Cuculić Yes, and even though the age gap is only 3yrs; he’s all the man I need💕
I have said the same exact things to myself.
Thank you Susan. This was so amazing to hear because that's exactly what I've been thinking, that I need to convince him that I'm not in his best interest, even though we are amazing together. Hearing your message is empowering and inspiring, and I'm going to go with the advice to simply love unselfishly and allow myself to be loved by my
beautiful younger man!
@Marin Cuculić How sweet of you to say! Blessings to you.
@Marin Cuculić I am flattered by your kind compliments. Perhaps you are the charming one!
@Marin Cuculić I haven't used Google hang-outs. How does it work?
@Marin Cuculić my emai is my first and last mane at gmail. Let's try it!
@Marin Cuculić Do I look for you in my inbox?
I think you are brilliant Susan.
Thank you Jonathan.
Thankyou for this video. It has been so enlightening and freeing to me. We have the opportunity to adopt my niece and he doesn’t want to. At first I thought it would be the answer to my question. But he assured me that now isn’t the time. I stumbled upon your video and it has been so encouraging to
Me!! Thankyou!
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Thank you Susan for this video! Your videos has got me feeling much better about my own situation. I am 27 and he is turning 21. I have a degree in Computer Science and have a good career. Also, I am a single mother of 4 children. He is single and a college student going for his computer science degree. We met through our old contracted job as QA Tester. he knew that I have kids because I’m always talking them during work. Anyway, we both felt like we have so much similarities; same food, same music, same dislikes, everything you name it. It was quite weird to find someone like that! Even our coworkers pointed out for us. Fast forward, we both confessed that we like each other, then we started doing little dates, say “I love you” to each other, but one day he said he wanted to stop. He said he is uncomfortable with whatever we are and he should’ve stop from the beginning. That he was silly to keep going. I had to tell them that he wasn’t silly or what we did wasn’t stupid. We did what we felt deep inside our heart. Then I told him that I’ll respect him, treat him equally as if we both were the same age, and I apologize for making him feel that way. He is still young and has a bright future ahead. Maybe he will some day find the one for him and be much happier. It did hurt me but I have to be stronger to let go. I loved him but I learn that when you love someone then you have to let them go when they don’t love you in return. Those short 3 months was good memories for me even when if it wasn’t for him. He met my kids and he loved them a lot; my kids like him a lot too. It was just that he is still starting his life and I’m a woman with 4 kids.
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Thank you! I needed to hear this
The fear of ruining YOUR life is better put.
Because a younger partner can also start all over again. And the older woman will have less energy and physical attractiveness & confidence to do so. Heartbreaks and separation at older age are harder to recover from.
It’s just the truth of life.
I love you. Thank you so much for offering this wisdom, insight and support.
Susan is a real one.
Exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. 💕
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thank you !you give me so much courage!
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Thank you for addressing this xxx
This video is great! I was gonna give up on our relationship cause she feels insecure about our age range. She introduces me to these younger women that im not interested in. Now I know she was kinda hurting inside while doing it. Im 30ish and shes 12 years older. Everytime I say age is just a number, she blushes.
Hi Susan. Another great video. Thanks for enlightening me. That is exactly what I feel. After watching this video I feel confident. I am 10 years older than my man. He loves me so much.
Very very helpful . Thanks
Wow you truly said something so I met this guy and he's 16 yrs younger than me and I contemplated what to do then they unthinkable happened our first conversation was 2 hours about God. That alone amazes me then later he whispered in my ear that he was going to marry me. Susan you are so right who am I to tell him how to feel. Thank you for this video
I am about to engage in a relationship with a man 15 years younger than I. He is four years older than my eldest son. I am scared of many things. One of this first things I said is that he may choose a younger woman so she can bear his children. His reply was that he is willing to sacrifice having kids for a living committed relationship. I have longed for a man who wants to commit, just didn’t expect him to be so young. I am loving and caring by nature and already feel for him, but don’t want to hold him back
If he says so, it’s not your responsibility to worry you will ruin his future. It’s his choice. What worries me more is him ruining yours. Imagine 5/10 years down the line he goes for someone younger and changes his mind about the child thing. Then you are left heartbroken and exhausted. It’s much harder recovering from heartache at older age and starting over.
Think of yourself first. He is young, he has all life in front of him. 15 years gap is not a joke after certain age.
@@trinityp8575 Did this happen to you? Did a younger man leave you for a younger woman?
Thank you so much for your insight!
I SO needed to hear this perspective. I am in love with a Christian Minister much younger than me who will more than likely lose his job (that he has spent many years making sacrifices for) if he marries me because it will create such a huge controversy. I often look around to find someone "more suitable" nearer his age. My torment? How can I inflict such great harm on someone I love? However, he may be younger than me but he is FAR from foolish. I still don't know what will happen but I am encouraged not to "run away" and stay put to work it out together. If this is God's plan for us it WILL work out for good no matter what. Deep down I guess I'm just scared and needed a bit of a pep talk. Thank you. 😔 ✝🇨🇦❤
What the reason that mskes you want younger men
Thank you so much Susan. You're right on. I appreciate your videos and definitely more aware. Our age gap is 32 yrs apart. Love is beyond age gap. Its effortless and enjoying the moment. I'm living my life without regrets.
Wish I saw this VDO two years ago. I met a 9 years younger man a year ago. I never had experience dating younger men so I didn’t believe in it although the connection was so dame strong I pushed him out of my life and told him to go date younger women. I said a lot of things to hurt him and it’s all from my own insecurities. I knew I was fighting my feelings he thought I was crazy, he got over it and moved on 😞
Then it wasn’t meant to be.
If I was a man and truly wanted a woman, I would fight to have her. And I have seen this happen.
Beautiful Susan!
Jodie Fleming thank you Jodi!!
You are beautiful ,maybe we can get to know more better if you don't mind ,committed ,serious and real ,cheers
Oh Susan...thank you. Thank you.❣️
Any time!
U ARE THE QUEEN OF WISDOM & TO ME, THERE'S NO POWER QUITE LIKE IT!
Nice thoughts !
Wow u are one wise lady!! I recently found you and ur videos, and i have learned sooooo much , felt relieved, got direction and answers. Bless u Susan 😘👌🏼💫
Thank you Susan! You're so wonderful! After listening to your beautiful insights and advices, I feel, I am now more sure and confident of myself to love and be loved by a younger man. More Power!
Yes I did this I was dating a younger guy 11 years younger than me. And I kept pushing him away because I felt he was too young and out fear I'd hurt him or ruin his life . And I did end it
I literally started crying because that is exactly how I feel about the young man I am currently involved with.
I just turned 46 in September of this year. He will be 23 next month in November.
Girl don't worry women can never done but men get soft in the middle as they aged we don't
Thank you!
YOu're welcome, Anne!
Just come across your channel and love it!!! Very inspirational and well put together. So I've subscribed!
Hello
I’m in this situation now. I choose to be joyful in our mutual love.
as a younger guy i realy love this discussion. I fully understand what i want but i do love a 2 way street, and even to be told what to do at times but in a way that is flirtatious and endeering ... I love to have fun and enjoy the time i have with my mature wife, and being 20 years younger it does present some things that are challenging however ... I enjoy the challenges because its the spice of life. She really does complete me and I can't get enough of her. I try and make her smile every day and i even do things where its like a event every day, like a treasure map where she ultimately finds the prize ;)
I am 49 years old and a lot of younger guys like from 27 to 35 are very attracted to me, but the thoughts run through my mind that they wanted nothing more but SEX and I also told myself that I don't want to ruin their life because I cant give them kids. This is very sad for me because I really don't know to do until I found your video. Thank you so much!!!!
Wow!!!! congratulation!!!!! And thank you for sharing your stories. But my situation is more complicated. I am 49 years old and he's 33 and he wanted to babies and I don't I can get pregnant anymore because my menstruation is irregular.
I am more worried of them ruining your life. Because after 10 years you will be 60 and they will be in their 40s, still in prime and can start all over again. Where you, will be in much weaker position, hurt and full of regrets. Starting at 60 is much harder.
I agree but only on the grounds if the relation is based on sincerity in love from both edges...its just the doubt I was pondering for a while ....Thank you for the views on the topic,also what you say about men is 101% true!
Hi Susan i am new to your channel and i must say all that you have said in your video is very true and i am a woman like what you describe. I can only say it is nice to be admired and sincere action towards a woman like me or any other woman. Thank you for your truth. I will stay tuned to your channel and i like to learn and know more about these great changes that are happening in todays life. It can feel scarey because you are wiser and you do not want to be judged. Love is a Wonderful thing. I like what you say. ❤
So good, food for my soul thank you so much! ❤️
Great advice!!
Hilary Wright agree.
Hello hun❤️
I have actually said goodbye to him. We were 14 years apart. because I thought what he needs is who can be with him. He always wanted to be with someone but because I wasn’t the one who can be with him as much as he wants, I wasn’t the one who can travel with him anytime... He is extremely kind and sensitive. That is why I thought I’m the one to let him go so he won’t feel guilty for ending up with me because I’m the one who dumped him. My remorse is tremendous. I love him so much. I want him to be happy. He loves me so much. My heart is longing for him. Is it possible that one day he wants to come back to me ? Can you make video of young men old women what happens when they breakup ? What if they love each other but because what they want are different, they had to end up ? Do usually young man want to go back to an old woman? I’m feeling so empty and hopeless. I lost job, trouble with my parents, loss of confident and so on. Please make videos
If you feel loss of confidence now, imagine in 10 years?
I don’t feel you should wait on him. Heal and move on. If he truly loved you, he would come back by now & fight for you.
Yes! Yes Susan! I love this!! 🔥🔥🔥
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Susan, you’re amazing.
Your voice is so soothing ☺️
please listen to her everything she said couldn't be more true
Thank you!!
The advantage is with the older person. There's a two step phase when dating an older person. The first is that the older person instinctively feel superior because they feel they've accomplished a great thing by getting and your person. It's only human nature to feel that way. That can sometimes lead to the older person becoming controlling and make their younger partner feel his or her age and push them away. Secondly, the older person will sometime eventually feel his or her age and think that the younger person will leave them for a younger more attractive person and start to make that younger person feel guilt and stay in the release when they're not happy nor in love. Being respectful from the beginning and throughout the relationship by both parties will lead to a healthier, long lasting and understanding relationship. Just my thoughts. Feel free to enlighten me Susan.
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Hey Courtney, I agree with the last part you wrote. However, I don't find that older women automatically feel superior to the younger partner. This is a mental hang up we all have. Yes, we are accomplished. We've had more time to be successful. But in a world that has only valued youth and beauty, I believe we start at a disadvantage. We question why he would want us. We wonder if you will continue want us. Things only begin to normalize when we can trust but the younger man indeed loves us for our contents, rather than basing desire on our exterior. Thanks for your commentary!
Susan Winter as much as agree with you, there's no disadvantage for the older person, because they're experiencing the other side of their life. The older person was once young and enjoyed the youthfulness, but know that they're older it's suppose to be different? It all comes down to free will and choices we make. Being with a younger has it's risk, but just because you're older doesn't mean it's supposed to easy.
Thank you so much for this.
I loved this video Susan ❤️
I know that I met the love of my life 20 years younger, and I know that Im going to get older and deterioriate, faster and wither and die sooner, than him and won't be able to keep up with him, but that's life.😔
How do you know that?
So many people die in their 30s and 40s… no one knows this.
So well said! you're beautiful!
Thank you for your kind words, Oksana.
Hello gorgeous how are you?😊☕️🌹
Too much agree of all said. Ur great ma'am Susan👍👍👋👋
I can't believe there's a channel like this
What l love about older women is the communication
I wish could show this Video to my older Friend I asked to be my Girl Friend.
She said no ( to a relationship)
She is 39 im 33.
Thank you Susan.
Thank you susan.,this video of your helps me a lot for me to understand this gorgeous amazing lady who happens i like..we are still knowing each more now and sometimes this kind of moments unfortunately happens..now maybe i can understand why she is doin or saying something like that .,maybe she is fearing ruining my life..advice are more appreciated mam..thanks and more videos 😊🇵🇭🇹🇭
This is a perfect format for you Reymar. You'll be able to know what your older partner's feeling long before she's able to articlate her emotions. Thanks for your kind words. Welcome to my channel and TH-cam family!
Susan Winter wow it is my pleasure to be responded by you miss susan..i just like her so much but we are now in the journey of knowing each other but i am clear of myself that I want her and i like her..your video are so helpful 😍😍😍🇵🇭🇹🇭 Thank you