Susan, thank you! My mom was 8 years older than my dad. She was 30 and he was 22. Their marriage lasted for 53 years until my dad passed away. I grew up in a loving household, with true partners! There is NOTHING wrong with older women and younger men in my mind!
Kudos for the Video! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you ever tried - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (do a search on google)? It is an awesome exclusive product for understanding what men really want minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got great results with it.
I made the mistake of thinking a short fling with a man 12 years younger than me 26 and 38 would be harmless. Big mistake, we fell so completely unreasonably in love, and very fast. Originally he was the "I never want to have children" guy but after seeing me with my own kids and babysitting a few others, we are talking about a child now. At 38, I feel like it's now or never. But my family is full of healthy babies born after 40. I think we might go for it. Wish us luck.
Geez I hope my girlfriends wants a baby with me in the future we have a 10 year gap she has 2 kids non are mine but they r very good kids but I want one of my own
How did it work out? I didn't think we would work out this long either... Mines 28 and im 39. We've been together almost 2 years. He is also i dont want to ever but now he says he may someday.I have kids already and im willing but my clock is ticking. It's scary.. i am undeniably in love with him were both crazy about eachother...I guess we'll see🙏
@@adriedrake8605 im 28 and she is 39, she has a 21 year old and i have no kids..., I told her i dont want kids all i want is her..., I NEVER wanted kids in my life and that will never changed.. plus she has 3 dogs who are her kids to her and so they are my children... and ill love all 4 of them no matter what happens or what our future holds..
My family is the same. Many babies after 40s and some after 50s naturally. All healthy. The only autistic boy is from a 19 yo girl with a 40 yo man. The irony of life. If you take care of yourself and maintain your hormones stable and at good marks you can also "delay" your menopause for a few years.
Susan, I had a young guy chase me for months. I was very vulnerable at that time and he was incredibly gorgeous and ticked all of my boxes. I thought it could actually work and was preparing to start thinking about a life with him. I fell in love with him and he broke my heart when he told his mother he wanted more children. He already had a son from a previous relationship and I have a 15 year old daughter from my previous marriage. I felt so stupid and it made me feel so old at that point as I am 52. He was 34. I then found out he was starting a relationship with a much younger girl who he is now living with. He still tries to contact me at times but I have cut ties Ladies do not make this mistake He absolutely broke my heart and I’m slowly getting over it but it’s been awful Thanks for all of your help xxx
My wife is 40 I am 29 she has 2 adult children I have2 younger an she took care of my youngest from birth she treats them as if they were hers I have never been happier most amazing life in bedroom so much more passion then ever before I am looking forward too the next 30 years in my life
Dear Susan , Yet another motivational speech . Truly enlightening . I have seen my parents putting pressure on my brother and sister-in-law to have children as soon as possible . After going through your video , I have decided that I want to be the type 3 kind of man . My girlfriend is in her forties and I can perfectly understand her priorities . It sounds so perfect that I can honor and respect her wishes and decisions . She is more matured than me being 18 years older and knows perfectly what is good for our relationship . Moreover Instead of focusing only on having children , I can focus on her and establishing and maintaining a right connection . Moreover she would appreciate my help in raising her daughter (from her previous marriage). As time goes on if she feels that its the right time that we can think of having another child , why not ? By doing this the benefit is that , the new born will be much more health ... thats what I feel as both of us really want to have the child . On top of that I feel that this would make her proud that she has a man by her side . Thank you . There may be criticisms that I have to face but its really worth facing it to make my woman feel truly honored .
Very important topic. I'm 39 and don't want kids yet men don't understand. You still have time. They don't get the concept of not wanting kids. Or they say they don't care and it ends up being a lie. Happens every time.
Thank you for this Susan!!!! I have discussed this with my younger man and I hope he is number 3 rather than 2! And I have grown up kids and he really like them!
Hi Susan, I'm in turmoil as I'm In love with an older woman, more than I have been with anyone; in fact I asked her to marry me 3 years ago and we're engaged. At the time we were intent on having a baby (even though she's had 3 already) - I was 31 then and she was 43, mega healthy and has never looked her age, so we were less concerned about the risks. But she's changed her mind in realising partly that she was thinking about it more for me rather than something she really wanted, plus she felt it unfair on her 12 yr old daughter, her youngest (her boys are grown up and independent). I don't know if I fall into any of the 3 categories as while I've always assumed I'd have kids I'm not 100% sure. I don't know whether loving her so much and knowing she doesn't want any more has caused that doubt, or conversely, the fact our relationship is not free of the responsibility of children means I'm less willing to go without having one of my own in absence of the total focus on each other that freedom would allow. Either way its put a real strain on our relationship as while I know she didn't intent to deceive I feel hurt and betrayed. That plus much work stress for us both and the fact that I'm torn as I don't know which I could live without; her or having a child, has meant that we've decided to have a break for a bit and get back together to see how we feel in the new year. I miss her incredibly, yet I know things cannot change regarding a baby. Any advice that could help me find out what I should do would be greatly appreciated as I'm really lost.
I'm 45 and I can have children still I'm with a younger man and I intend to have his child this isn't always the case older women can have children some of them.
I have a similar issue, but in my case, she is 7 years older and has 2 kids (one is 7, the other is 9). I'm afraid as to how will I fit in being a father at 23 to not so young children.
# applies to my situation. Even though he knew at the beginning of our relationship me 48 he’s 35. We lasted 2 years until he ghosted on me. He’d only sent a how are you text . Every 3/4 days .. I’d replied the same. For almost 2 yrs he’d spent his 2/3 days off with me! Like he was so loyal to our time together. Suddenly he distanced himself from me. Finally I got the courage to ask him why the sudden distance ? He finally said wanted to be alone and in peace. Thank you for everything you were great to be with but I want to be alone now. I simply replied “ok Best of luck . I let him be. He still texting here and there “how is your day going? Fine thanks is my answer . This just happened a month ago! He knows he has hurt me the way he handles the situation. We had agreed that whoever wanted to get out of this relationship, we would talked it out and set whoever wanted to be free so be free. But I guess he got scare to talk about it. Bc we both fell in love 🥰 but hey I’m a much more of a matured woman who lived it already so be it ! He is a very picky guy once I asked who would be his ideal partner? He answered the exact same version of you but younger lol 😂 I said oh hun that will be a miracle, I don’t think 🤔 I exist in a younger version .. so here I am, take me or leave me. This question was about 6 months into our relationship.. hmm 🤔 we lasted 2 years ! I have no regrets what so ever but I won’t date another younger guy like that ! My previous relationship lasted 20 years 2 beautiful grown up children whom he admired them so much. End of cycle ! New year 2019.. why not embrace it as it comes to me!
It all depends on the two people and what they want in the relationship....I just know that this is a major deal breaker....due to the fact that these younger men have so many options if they are attractive and successful...why invest in them as an older woman? They can flip at any time and the age gap encourages this at some point at least.
Women are now having children in their 50's... I want kids but my significantly younger man doesn't want any. I just don't know if it would be the right thing to do.
What if ur dating women with children but the YOUNGER man doesn't want children & focuses on their career to eventually try to provide for his woman & her kids?
That creates an issue of timing. Working now to take care of her children later may eliminate emotional support she needs now. I suggest the couple make a 1-year plan and a five-year plan for their future.
I just shot a video on this that will be out in a couple of weeks, but it deals with telling the children about the age gap relationship. As for you-make sure you're both on the same page as to how much or how little they know of you.
I definitely fall into the "number two" category. No, not the euphemistic "number two." ;) I have no paternal instinct or longings whatsoever. I think that's yet another reason I'm drawn to older women. They typically already have kids (even grown kids) or they have no desire for any.
Mr. Boy, it's always good to know the truth about ourselves. Saves heartache later should someone want to make changes to the original partnership agreement. Thanks for your comment.
I have always been more attracted to older women ever since I was even in high school in college I would date women in their 30's, 40's and 50's. I never even thought about kids other than just I didn't want them. As I got older though, I completely reversed, now all I want are kids and preferably a large family and now I only date much younger women. So what I am saying is that I think maybe there is a 4th type of man who just isn't sure what he wants yet, like many people in their 20's. Other than that, good video. I thought it was very informative.
Dear Susan I just had a break up with a younger guy 26, I am 38. We did not name children as the cause but yes it was. I am 38 woman I want children, a guy he can get kids anytime he want. why so many younger guys want to date older women and deny them that needs or find it a problem if you do, you as a woman you only got few years before you can have some, some younger guys are simply selfish, they want to be with an older woman for the comfort she got her life in order most of us, they want someone that take of them but they do not seem to want to give anything at all and you can't barely expect or want anything expect sex
I'm 34 my wife is 59 I was lying and cheating for an year . We're divorcing now and shame on me ! I love kids but you never I'd it's meant for be or garantee for s better "fulfilled life". I heard my wife so badly the one who loves me and did everything possible for me that she could of . I didn't put effort to fix it when I could . Now I regret it ! She's amazing in every aspect and yeah we.never know the future. Of course she doesn't want this back after.i broke her heart and trust ! I believe I can still be the man for her to make her happy like we used to . I miss myself been like that and those days . I'm gonna give her time and see if she'd change her.mind and actually give me one last last chance to prove that I could be the man she once felt in love with . I know my parents wouldn't like it cause of "eventually having kids" scenarios . My head is all over the places and spinning so as my heart. And it's my fault !
I was living in the present and not the future, I know we could be still happy and better than ever or at least I can sincerely try this time and see where we could go with that.
If he wants kids but she is too old to have any(more) children but would if she was still at that age, I think adoption is always an option. What do y'all think?
Susan I really appreciate your videos. So you say you have lots of content on your website about this? I want to see it please. I'm 28, my girl is 46, I have no kids, she has two kids and they're grown. I really want my kids😭😭😭 omg I really need to talk to someone, I'm hurting so much right now, because I love her so much!! She wants to have my children but at this point...
You are making a big mistake by assuming the older female cant have kids. What if the older women wants kids and is still able to but the male is delaying the process. "Older" is a vague term. I'm 39 and get hit on by young guys all the time, but i know that i need to have kids in the next few years so the pressure i would put on my potential partner seems unfair during the courting phase. I feel like i dont have time for a slow pace dating situation. I need an aggressive man who is able to move things at a fast pace,but at the same time agression in a male can be scary for several reasons. Is he like this with every female? Is there time to get to know one another? Point is as an older woman my issue is not me, but the male being considerate of my biological clock which may not be sexy
Mine does not want kids and made this clear and im relieved as im 52 this year and entering menopause so is impossible and I have four older kids from previous relationship and four grankids which is enough. their is adoption and fostering and so many unwanted kids out their, who need a good mum and dad. I see young pregnant girls and not all guys want that as now young people dont think of the consequences further down the line. Not every young guy now wants kids ok and is something you will know. Having kids now is expensive and you loose your freedom and sanity and if i could go back in time i probably would not have had so many really maybe too not four even one is alot now. My oldest girl is a few months older than my guy he is27 and she is 28 this month.
There are some parts of the world where having children is obligatory for a man. What do you do when you fall for someone who comes from this kind of society?
Lucas Spear he should definitely have a discussion with the older woman first. Children are the only real dealbreaker in this type of age gap relationship. And if the young man has a goal of children, he should maximize his time by only dating women with that same goal
I would not date a woman who has no children. I have two and never met a childless woman who had any idea what that experience is like. Such a life changing experience, and sets you on a rewarding path for the rest of your life!
I don't think my baby wants kids because she said we will fix up our apartment and get a pet. That's perfectly fine with me. She's 39 i'm 29 btw she's my future wife :)
Sounds like my boyfriend, he wants another child and I changed my mind. He is 30 I am almost 34. He has a child from a previous relationship. I changed my mind because of health reasons at first I wanted to though.
Thanks but no thanks I think people in general can make the decisions of what they really want to have in life. I mean even the Bible references you can either be with someone or you can just be by yourself. The thing that I argument is how come is it always really unfair for a young man and younger woman to have that kind of limelife but we don't ever talk about it when is the vice versa around with a older man and younger woman it just don't make sense to me. And for this part I'm going to go with the young man's perspective because he desires it so graciously family comes with the relationship even if it's true adoption the block of this desire and you just want to have him all to yourself you cannot do both. Tumi vs least find somebody that isn't his own age or someone at least six years older than he is that he can finally grow relationship and a family. If you're not up for it then just don't be together stay free and single
I meant a guy he was 21 I was 40 we were together for7 yrs then he meant a 19 year old guess what hes with her he cheated on me with this 19 yr he said when we meant he did not want kids but that was a lie he did I couldn't
HI Laughnowcrylater. This is a big topic for older women and their younger men. IT's truly the only deal breaker so I really needed to address it/ thanks for your comment.
Why younger guy want to date older women but can't handle what come with it like , wanting to settle, to have kids, what they expected? having a mum they sleep with but they give nothing to?I dressed and took care of my younger guy but I have nothing of him I can hold back, still he complaint and make up any excuses for us to be close and become a couple, some those younger guys think you are just a mum they have sex with and nothing is expected of them
It sounds like 'some men' think this way independent of their age/ Some people only want the goodies, and don't want to place any effort into the creation of the goodies. However, I must let you know that I've known devoted younger men who'd pull the moon down from the sky to please their older partner. Unfortunately, you didn't meet one of those types.
Susan, thank you! My mom was 8 years older than my dad. She was 30 and he was 22. Their marriage lasted for 53 years until my dad passed away. I grew up in a loving household, with true partners! There is NOTHING wrong with older women and younger men in my mind!
Jen Mulyck THANK YOU JEN for this amazing testimony!! I’m so sorry for your loss. But so grateful for the love you witnessed and received. ♥️
Susan Winter Now it's my turn! 😉
Kudos for the Video! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you ever tried - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (do a search on google)? It is an awesome exclusive product for understanding what men really want minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got great results with it.
I made the mistake of thinking a short fling with a man 12 years younger than me 26 and 38 would be harmless. Big mistake, we fell so completely unreasonably in love, and very fast. Originally he was the "I never want to have children" guy but after seeing me with my own kids and babysitting a few others, we are talking about a child now. At 38, I feel like it's now or never. But my family is full of healthy babies born after 40. I think we might go for it. Wish us luck.
Geez I hope my girlfriends wants a baby with me in the future we have a 10 year gap she has 2 kids non are mine but they r very good kids but I want one of my own
How did it work out? I didn't think we would work out this long either... Mines 28 and im 39. We've been together almost 2 years. He is also i dont want to ever but now he says he may someday.I have kids already and im willing but my clock is ticking. It's scary.. i am undeniably in love with him were both crazy about eachother...I guess we'll see🙏
@@adriedrake8605 im 28 and she is 39, she has a 21 year old and i have no kids..., I told her i dont want kids all i want is her..., I NEVER wanted kids in my life and that will never changed.. plus she has 3 dogs who are her kids to her and so they are my children... and ill love all 4 of them no matter what happens or what our future holds..
My family is the same. Many babies after 40s and some after 50s naturally. All healthy. The only autistic boy is from a 19 yo girl with a 40 yo man. The irony of life. If you take care of yourself and maintain your hormones stable and at good marks you can also "delay" your menopause for a few years.
Susan, I had a young guy chase me for months. I was very vulnerable at that time and he was incredibly gorgeous and ticked all of my boxes. I thought it could actually work and was preparing to start thinking about a life with him.
I fell in love with him and he broke my heart when he told his mother he wanted more children. He already had a son from a previous relationship and I have a 15 year old daughter from my previous marriage.
I felt so stupid and it made me feel so old at that point as I am 52.
He was 34.
I then found out he was starting a relationship with a much younger girl who he is now living with.
He still tries to contact me at times but I have cut ties
Ladies do not make this mistake
He absolutely broke my heart and I’m slowly getting over it but it’s been awful
Thanks for all of your help xxx
How are you doing now?
My wife is 40 I am 29 she has 2 adult children I have2 younger an she took care of my youngest from birth she treats them as if they were hers I have never been happier most amazing life in bedroom so much more passion then ever before I am looking forward too the next 30 years in my life
Awesome comment, Joshua. Thank you.
Beautifully addressed, Susan. You’re correct, these are the 3 types of men! Ladies, it must be understood and be considered.
Dear Susan , Yet another motivational speech . Truly enlightening .
I have seen my parents putting pressure on my brother and sister-in-law to have children as soon as possible . After going through your video , I have decided that I want to be the type 3 kind of man . My girlfriend is in her forties and I can perfectly understand her priorities . It sounds so perfect that I can honor and respect her wishes and decisions . She is more matured than me being 18 years older and knows perfectly what is good for our relationship . Moreover Instead of focusing only on having children , I can focus on her and establishing and maintaining a right connection . Moreover she would appreciate my help in raising her daughter (from her previous marriage). As time goes on if she feels that its the right time that we can think of having another child , why not ? By doing this the benefit is that , the new born will be much more health ... thats what I feel as both of us really want to have the child . On top of that I feel that this would make her proud that she has a man by her side . Thank you . There may be criticisms that I have to face but its really worth facing it to make my woman feel truly honored .
Thank you for your fantastic commentary, Sharath. I know everyone will benefit from what you've shared.
Sharath Suma...beautiful thx for sharing ❤️
Sharath Suma ¿
Very important topic. I'm 39 and don't want kids yet men don't understand. You still have time. They don't get the concept of not wanting kids. Or they say they don't care and it ends up being a lie. Happens every time.
Thank you for this Susan!!!! I have discussed this with my younger man and I hope he is number 3 rather than 2! And I have grown up kids and he really like them!
Excellent, Kerstin. You're on point. I wish you all the best with your mate.
Hi Susan, I'm in turmoil as I'm In love with an older woman, more than I have been with anyone; in fact I asked her to marry me 3 years ago and we're engaged. At the time we were intent on having a baby (even though she's had 3 already) - I was 31 then and she was 43, mega healthy and has never looked her age, so we were less concerned about the risks. But she's changed her mind in realising partly that she was thinking about it more for me rather than something she really wanted, plus she felt it unfair on her 12 yr old daughter, her youngest (her boys are grown up and independent). I don't know if I fall into any of the 3 categories as while I've always assumed I'd have kids I'm not 100% sure. I don't know whether loving her so much and knowing she doesn't want any more has caused that doubt, or conversely, the fact our relationship is not free of the responsibility of children means I'm less willing to go without having one of my own in absence of the total focus on each other that freedom would allow. Either way its put a real strain on our relationship as while I know she didn't intent to deceive I feel hurt and betrayed. That plus much work stress for us both and the fact that I'm torn as I don't know which I could live without; her or having a child, has meant that we've decided to have a break for a bit and get back together to see how we feel in the new year. I miss her incredibly, yet I know things cannot change regarding a baby. Any advice that could help me find out what I should do would be greatly appreciated as I'm really lost.
You are amazing Susan..Thankyou
I'm 45 and I can have children still I'm with a younger man and I intend to have his child this isn't always the case older women can have children some of them.
I have a similar issue, but in my case, she is 7 years older and has 2 kids (one is 7, the other is 9). I'm afraid as to how will I fit in being a father at 23 to not so young children.
I have 4 children with my partner, he is 9 1/2 year younger, we've grown apart but we're still living together
Absolutely brilliant just what I needed thank you so much! ❤️
Susan thank you so very much for your wisdom!🌹🌹🌹
I’m 40 & I would have one more if I could. I want another child. I think my fear is that a younger guy wouldn’t want their own kids yet.
# applies to my situation. Even though he knew at the beginning of our relationship me 48 he’s 35. We lasted 2 years until he ghosted on me. He’d only sent a how are you text . Every 3/4 days .. I’d replied the same. For almost 2 yrs he’d spent his 2/3 days off with me! Like he was so loyal to our time together. Suddenly he distanced himself from me.
Finally I got the courage to ask him why the sudden distance ? He finally said wanted to be alone and in peace. Thank you for everything you were great to be with but I want to be alone now. I simply replied “ok Best of luck . I let him be. He still texting here and there “how is your day going? Fine thanks is my answer . This just happened a month ago! He knows he has hurt me the way he handles the situation. We had agreed that whoever wanted to get out of this relationship, we would talked it out and set whoever wanted to be free so be free. But I guess he got scare to talk about it. Bc we both fell in love 🥰 but hey I’m a much more of a matured woman who lived it already so be it !
He is a very picky guy once I asked who would be his ideal partner? He answered the exact same version of you but younger lol 😂 I said oh hun that will be a miracle, I don’t think 🤔 I exist in a younger version .. so here I am, take me or leave me. This question was about 6 months into our relationship.. hmm 🤔 we lasted 2 years ! I have no regrets what so ever but I won’t date another younger guy like that ! My previous relationship lasted 20 years 2 beautiful grown up children whom he admired them so much. End of cycle ! New year 2019.. why not embrace it as it comes to me!
It all depends on the two people and what they want in the relationship....I just know that this is a major deal breaker....due to the fact that these younger men have so many options if they are attractive and successful...why invest in them as an older woman? They can flip at any time and the age gap encourages this at some point at least.
I’ve noticed women approaching 40 who haven’t been married, but want to children. Run
Why run?
Women are now having children in their 50's... I want kids but my significantly younger man doesn't want any. I just don't know if it would be the right thing to do.
What if ur dating women with children but the YOUNGER man doesn't want children & focuses on their career to eventually try to provide for his woman & her kids?
That creates an issue of timing. Working now to take care of her children later may eliminate emotional support she needs now. I suggest the couple make a 1-year plan and a five-year plan for their future.
Any comments with older woman with kids?
I just shot a video on this that will be out in a couple of weeks, but it deals with telling the children about the age gap relationship. As for you-make sure you're both on the same page as to how much or how little they know of you.
Susan Winter thank you! 😊 doesn't help I have a baby face though lol most people think I'm in my early 20's
I definitely fall into the "number two" category. No, not the euphemistic "number two." ;)
I have no paternal instinct or longings whatsoever. I think that's yet another reason I'm drawn to older women. They typically already have kids (even grown kids) or they have no desire for any.
Mr. Boy, it's always good to know the truth about ourselves. Saves heartache later should someone want to make changes to the original partnership agreement. Thanks for your comment.
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I have always been more attracted to older women ever since I was even in high school in college I would date women in their 30's, 40's and 50's. I never even thought about kids other than just I didn't want them. As I got older though, I completely reversed, now all I want are kids and preferably a large family and now I only date much younger women. So what I am saying is that I think maybe there is a 4th type of man who just isn't sure what he wants yet, like many people in their 20's.
Other than that, good video. I thought it was very informative.
what if he is younger and doesn't want children?
Much easier then, Emma.
@@SusanWinter But if I want children? and they don't.
Dear Susan I just had a break up with a younger guy 26, I am 38. We did not name children as the cause but yes it was. I am 38 woman I want children, a guy he can get kids anytime he want. why so many younger guys want to date older women and deny them that needs or find it a problem if you do, you as a woman you only got few years before you can have some, some younger guys are simply selfish, they want to be with an older woman for the comfort she got her life in order most of us, they want someone that take of them but they do not seem to want to give anything at all and you can't barely expect or want anything expect sex
Hi Chane. It's wise that you moved on if your guy (regardless of his age) doesn't want children and you do. I wish you well!
Chane B Hello how are you
I'm 34 my wife is 59 I was lying and cheating for an year . We're divorcing now and shame on me ! I love kids but you never I'd it's meant for be or garantee for s better "fulfilled life". I heard my wife so badly the one who loves me and did everything possible for me that she could of . I didn't put effort to fix it when I could . Now I regret it ! She's amazing in every aspect and yeah we.never know the future. Of course she doesn't want this back after.i broke her heart and trust ! I believe I can still be the man for her to make her happy like we used to . I miss myself been like that and those days . I'm gonna give her time and see if she'd change her.mind and actually give me one last last chance to prove that I could be the man she once felt in love with . I know my parents wouldn't like it cause of "eventually having kids" scenarios . My head is all over the places and spinning so as my heart. And it's my fault !
I was living in the present and not the future, I know we could be still happy and better than ever or at least I can sincerely try this time and see where we could go with that.
@@venelinbarbov9964 How you doing now?
If he wants kids but she is too old to have any(more) children but would if she was still at that age, I think adoption is always an option. What do y'all think?
Maybe.
If they have some money, they can try IVF too.
What is wrong with having a baby 👶 with the woman who I love, for older woman ..I want her share this bless
Susan I really appreciate your videos. So you say you have lots of content on your website about this? I want to see it please.
I'm 28, my girl is 46, I have no kids, she has two kids and they're grown. I really want my kids😭😭😭 omg I really need to talk to someone, I'm hurting so much right now, because I love her so much!!
She wants to have my children but at this point...
My mom remarried he’s 15 years younger than her. They have been together for 30 years now he doesn’t have kids my mom is his baby lol
thank u Susan, my honey is on no 3
he love me, im his baby 😄😍😍
Excellent!!! Happy for you Marta.
Good topic
Thanks.
You are making a big mistake by assuming the older female cant have kids. What if the older women wants kids and is still able to but the male is delaying the process. "Older" is a vague term. I'm 39 and get hit on by young guys all the time, but i know that i need to have kids in the next few years so the pressure i would put on my potential partner seems unfair during the courting phase. I feel like i dont have time for a slow pace dating situation. I need an aggressive man who is able to move things at a fast pace,but at the same time agression in a male can be scary for several reasons. Is he like this with every female? Is there time to get to know one another? Point is as an older woman my issue is not me, but the male being considerate of my biological clock which may not be sexy
Having kids after 35 has high risk of down symdrom and more
Mine does not want kids and made this clear and im relieved as im 52 this year and entering menopause so is impossible and I have four older kids from previous relationship and four grankids which is enough. their is adoption and fostering and so many unwanted kids out their, who need a good mum and dad. I see young pregnant girls and not all guys want that as now young people dont think of the consequences further down the line. Not every young guy now wants kids ok and is something you will know. Having kids now is expensive and you loose your freedom and sanity and if i could go back in time i probably would not have had so many really maybe too not four even one is alot now. My oldest girl is a few months older than my guy he is27 and she is 28 this month.
There are some parts of the world where having children is obligatory for a man. What do you do when you fall for someone who comes from this kind of society?
This world is too dangerous for kids to be on earth that is dangerous
So... if a younger man wants children, he shouldn't date older women? Doesn't that seem a bit dogmatic?
Lucas Spear he should definitely have a discussion with the older woman first. Children are the only real dealbreaker in this type of age gap relationship. And if the young man has a goal of children, he should maximize his time by only dating women with that same goal
Interesting
You might remember my situation... (maybe) I would like to have kids of my own but that doesnt mean anything if it isnt with my wife.
I do. And I hope the very best outcome for your highest wishes.
I would not date a woman who has no children. I have two and never met a childless woman who had any idea what that experience is like. Such a life changing experience, and sets you on a rewarding path for the rest of your life!
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thanks Miguel.
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Usually it's always the younger woman that wants children not so much the guys
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I don't think my baby wants kids because she said we will fix up our apartment and get a pet. That's perfectly fine with me. She's 39 i'm 29 btw she's my future wife :)
Sounds like my boyfriend, he wants another child and I changed my mind. He is 30 I am almost 34. He has a child from a previous relationship. I changed my mind because of health reasons at first I wanted to though.
Thanks but no thanks I think people in general can make the decisions of what they really want to have in life. I mean even the Bible references you can either be with someone or you can just be by yourself. The thing that I argument is how come is it always really unfair for a young man and younger woman to have that kind of limelife but we don't ever talk about it when is the vice versa around with a older man and younger woman it just don't make sense to me. And for this part I'm going to go with the young man's perspective because he desires it so graciously family comes with the relationship even if it's true adoption the block of this desire and you just want to have him all to yourself you cannot do both. Tumi vs least find somebody that isn't his own age or someone at least six years older than he is that he can finally grow relationship and a family. If you're not up for it then just don't be together stay free and single
Do u r married to a young men?
LOL a lot of men don't want the pressure of having kids either:))))
That's correct.
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I meant a guy he was 21 I was 40 we were together for7 yrs then he meant a 19 year old guess what hes with her he cheated on me with this 19 yr he said when we meant he did not want kids but that was a lie he did I couldn't
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To be honest with you a woman in her 30s, and 40s shouldn't date a man that young. Guys are still trying to find themselves.
My Boyfriend is 33 and i am 36. I have a 7 year old from a previous rship..Never married. He wants 2 kids but i dont want anymore...I love him 😭😭
I thought this was about dating someone who already has children haha. that's also a good topic though
HI Laughnowcrylater. This is a big topic for older women and their younger men. IT's truly the only deal breaker so I really needed to address it/ thanks for your comment.
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Shame and ridiculous.
I am laughing hysterically.
Yes there is any issue!
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Fools.
Why younger guy want to date older women but can't handle what come with it like , wanting to settle, to have kids, what they expected? having a mum they sleep with but they give nothing to?I dressed and took care of my younger guy but I have nothing of him I can hold back, still he complaint and make up any excuses for us to be close and become a couple, some those younger guys think you are just a mum they have sex with and nothing is expected of them
It sounds like 'some men' think this way independent of their age/ Some people only want the goodies, and don't want to place any effort into the creation of the goodies. However, I must let you know that I've known devoted younger men who'd pull the moon down from the sky to please their older partner. Unfortunately, you didn't meet one of those types.