How to refind yourself after a breakup | Rose paint, henna hairdye & sexy date looks
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- It's completely individual how much time you need to heal after a breakup and potentially a terrible heartbreak. But one day you'll be ready to take back your power and independence. It might be with rosa painted hallways, henna hairdye and sexy date looks... it might be something totally different. But in this video I share with you some of my steps towards feeling confident and like myself again. I hope that it will help some of you, even if you're not heartbroken but just need some inspiration to boost your confidence.
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Elise, I am also going through the worst aftermath of a breakup. My friend of 10 years and partner for 2 decided he no longer has the emotional capacity for a relationship and wants to work on himself alone. I am crushed at the loss and feel so much grief to lose someone I believed I had a solid foundation with. My dream died with that relationship, but now it’s time to discover a new dream. Thank you for sharing yourself through the good and the bad. From pain we can create the most incredible future full of art and love 💗 thank you for being amazing! I started my own channel because you inspire me 💖
Good luck on this new part of your journey. We are all behind you 💚
@@wendy-moore thank you! It is challenging, but good things are on the way
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You got this! Someday you'll look back on this and realize how far you've come and how strong you are, and how while it sucks now, it was probably for the better, and you'll be so happy with yourself! ♥️
Remember… living well is the best revenge. You are doing a great job of making a wonderful home for yourself and that’s the best way to get over heartbreak. You GO girl!
Exactly ♥️
... And smiling...
Happiness is the best revenge yes 🥰
Please don’t rush into dating again. Be selfish and give all that love to yourself ,so when or if the next person comes, They will feel lucky and honoured to be with you.
The color in the hallway is very pretty. I love the white trim and base boards, and the ceiling should stay white. It really compliments the pink and keeps it light. Very pretty!
Totally agree
In the UK it’s called a skirting board. Funny language, English...
Lovely shade of pink. I seriously suggest you also continue to paint the white wall in that lovely shade of pink
I agree too! My bedroom has pink walls, white trim and a white ceiling.
White ceiling, baseboards and doors with that lovely pink is beautiful. With white cabinet, white pegs to hang scarves or coats, a white tray for boots and art in gold frames that are light in color will pop on the walls and it will make it appear lighter. That would be spectacular!
I agree I like white with pink, pegs coat rack and I even like the white accent corner. Great job, love, love, love!
Yes I agree ☝️
Yes!! Keep all the white accents, they really play off the pink so nicely and lift up the space.
I totally agree,as an interior designer
That pink is perfect! I'll give you a tip from my father who has been a professional house painter for like 40 years. Don't paint the ceiling leave it white. Otherwise it will make it seem like the ceiling is very low. Give you a claustrophobic feeling. Also keep the trim on the doors, windows and baseboards and trim along the ceiling white. :)
I've had to redefine myself twice
1st time when hubby in accident and left totally disabled. But his mind still worked and he still had his wonderful positivity and sense of humor.
I had to learn to take care of him and learn to take on our home and garden...alone...it was daunting ...but we had a great and challenging life 46 yrs
2nd time for me to redefine myself is when in 2019 he passed away...I didnt have my best friend and lover
It's been a long process but I'm finally finding my way
For me..if I pray to find myself and then put in the work looking...it will happen
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Pro tip: put the bottom of the shower curtain inside the tub. As a homeowner, water is your enemy.
Love your house and style!!
You can double up with a fancy decorative curtin in front of the plastic one that hangs outside the tub!
Absolutely. Dampening the bottom edge of the outside of the curtain before you get in the shower will make it cling to the bath, not you.
For pretty, a waterproof curtain to go inside the bath and a fancy curtain to hang outside the bath, from the same hooks looks luxurious.
Yes. I have a pretty outer curtain, and then a liner inside (use the same hooks for both, of course) and always tuck the liner in. When guests upstairs occasionally don’t do that, the water leaks down into my living room.
@@brendasnow8255 .. Had that happen to us once. How do people not know that. I felt silly, but ended up placing a little sign on the wall as a reminder to "tuck it in".
@s.o.s. diy repair It could be because many European countries’ bathrooms are wet rooms that are waterproof. Not sure if that is the case in Denmark.
Elise I’m so happy to see you moving on, and doing very well. You’re a beautiful hard working, TERRIFIC lady. You inspired a lot of people on how to get up and start over and it wasn’t easy. I’m sure the members here and your family are extremely proud of you. Now, that beautiful hair shows me you are ready to move on. And, there isn’t one outfit you ever put on that you don’t look stunning in. Each one of these 4 outfits look great on you along with that white sweater dress. Don’t be so hard on yourself….you are wonderful and doing a beautiful job. ❤️❤️❤️ also, I hope you took before pictures, so you can see what you have accomplished….bravo Elise.
Yes on the white sweater dress too! Gorgeous!
Thank you so so much! 🥰
Omg Shirley what a great response to Elise post. ❤️
The main thing to do after a breakup is to keep busy .( Which your doing ❤️) Also to never jump right into another relationship. Take a huge break and love yourself before excepting other man in your life. You are your own best friend. ❤️❤️😘😘 (p.s.love your hair)
Enjoy the FREEDOM of being single while you can! I’ve been married for almost 33 years now and EVERYTHING is a damn compromise! It gets old! I look forward to and savor my ALONE time!
I've subscribed for YEARS...I love the direction your channel is going it's peaceful, and fun to watch
Edit: I'm a painter, PLEASE GOD DONT PAINT THE BASEBOARD!! hahaha
Yes but, it looks much more contemporary when it’s the same block colour down to the floor. There is no reason in the world why it shouldn’t be painted except for conventional taste and style.
@@consideredwhisper I have had to go strip baseboards about a million x due to regret lol....ive been an interior designer/painter for 30 yrs, I would bring them back to batural wood...but this isn't your house OR mine lol
Thaaanks ☺️ hahah okaaaay... why is that actually?
@@EliseBuch i think it must be an American thing, but it has gone back to very light stained wood here in Vegas...and as a naturalist I LOVE that.....however your house is amazing, and would look good either way 😀
I know this will be an unpopular comment but as I listened to your heartbreak tips, which I totally agree with, I also would put prayer at the top. I’ve been through much heartache, and could not have gotten through without prayer and knowing there’s someone bigger than myself that loves me and truly watches over me. I’ve been happily married now for 17 years, but my younger years were much like yours. I always said my life was like a patchwork quilt, that I was just trying to find happiness wherever I could find it. My life is not perfect but I’m glad I hung in there to see what God had in store for me. And it’s much better than I could have planned for myself. God bless. Much love.🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
You look so much healthier and like yourself, Elise! It makes me happy to see you happier and doing so much better.
Thank you so much ❤️
I am healing from my divorce. I am living at my Aunt’s house. Trying to save to get my own place. Watching you get through it all. Getting your own home gives me hope. Thanks for being real. Shows how beautiful soul you are.
aww thaanks 🥰stay strong and I hope you'll be able to get your own place soon!
Thank you for your healing tips. My sister died January 6, and my heart has been broken. I was the older one, and so many memories are associated with her. Believe it or not, your tips sounded like great steps for me to take to rebuild my life without my sister. Thank you so much.
I'm so sorry to hear that ❤️ Sending you all the strength. Remember she would have wanted you to be happy and make the best of every moment. I'm so sorry for your loss 🌷
I'm so sorry to hear that ❤️ Sending you all the strength. Remember she would have wanted you to be happy and make the best of every moment. I'm so sorry for your loss 🌷
@@EliseBuch Thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words.
I am so happy that you are doing well.
Elise, you learned so much from this break up. I know this sounds like an odd thing to say, but your tips on how to handle a heartbreak are gonna be so helpful to so many. Specifically your last two tips on anger, and taking back things that were taken from you. You’ve taught me something today Elise, and I’m 62 yrs of age. I had so much pent up anger, and heartbreak from a long marriage with my ex-husband that included children that I’m sure it contributed to me getting two different types of cancer. It’s taken me a long time to recover from everything. But……, now, there’s not much now that will keep me from speaking up when I’m feeling I’m being treated unfairly. On a different note now, your new outfits look beautiful on you, and also, wouldn’t it be fun if you wallpapered your ceiling? I think that would look just fabulous in your new entry❤👏🏼👍
You’re so inspiring and so brave Elise! You’re an example for all of us. Sending you a huge hug, you’re doing incredibly well
Thank you so much ☺️❤️
My preference, baseboards and ceiling white as light bounces off white and will keep the hallway from being too dark. The pink walls are warm and inviting.
Lamps in front of mirrors really help boost the light levels in dark nooks and crannies,we call them skirting boards in the UK x
I love the pink!! But I think the ceiling baseboards and door trim should stay white! Thank you sharing this time with us!
Sophisticated, independent woman is what those clothes say to me. Good signals to send out to the discerning.
The blue velvet trousers are to die for. They'll work well with the rust silk blouse too, just add a similar blue into your hair or earrings to dress up.
Yes they will just go with everything really 🥰❤️
Hallway is beautiful. Crown molding painted white would set this hallway off. Good idea to wait on painting the ceiling. Also mirrors would reflect light. All the clothes are so beautiful on you. I love the first rusty satin top and skirt and blue jean outfit because it makes your face lights up. Now I would score the green outfit much higher. Please don't underrate your body. Your figure is dynamite. Hair looks amazing really brightens your complexion. Glad you pinned it up to paint. All great points to heal your spirit and your heart. Glad to see you happy in your beautiful home. Thanks for the video.
Amazing that you are as young as you and you nailed it with those tips...been there, done that, many times in my life, but never fully realized what you have realized, that self empowerment and self-love is the ONLY sustainable, surefire way to know the real deal going forward because when you are in love with yourself, the boundaries you set, for anyone, will be based on what you deserve. And guess what...if that deserving person doesn't come along, building the power back into your life, as you have done using very wise, healthy-minded tips, will put your best self out in the world and you will soar! Trust your path Elise...you are on the right path for the long haul of your journey!
Sending you all my strength from one empowered woman to another. So proud of you!
I would leave the ceiling, doorways and baseboards white to make all the colors pop
I find that making a list of all their bad points really helps! Reminding yourself of all the annoying things they used to do that you never have to put up with again! They're someone else's problem now. :) Even if they were a good person and you've remained friends, there will still be plenty of things for the list.
The blue trousers and blue top are The Most!
Elise you look absolutely stunning in that white outfit just after doing your hair with henna. The outfit, the hairstyle, all of it looks great on you. The pink color for your walls actually looks fabulous, I really like it. I think painting all the doors and trim and baseboards white would really set it all off and look great. It was wonderful seeing how thrilled you were to be painting the walls the way you wanted to. I can see your joy. As to the breakup, it is definitely hard to go through such heartbreak. I'm still working on being ok. My fiance and I broke up 7 months ago, and it still hurts. Even though it ended on good terms and no fighting, it still hurts me so deeply because we had a future planned, we had so many things we were supposed to do. But in the end we wanted different things apparently. I do feel myself getting stronger each day, but some days are still hard. It's very difficult to lose your best friend after 13 years. One day at a time.
The hallway wall colour looks lovely. Painting the skirting boards and ceiling white would make the overall aesthetic look classic and timeless, and keep the space light and airy. It is nice to watch you create your new home, step by step.
Love you kiddo! Your hair looks fabulous. I am happy for you and your house is looking beautiful and has already have happy memories of your family helping you in your moving in and painting. Lots of laughs must have happened when your sister helped you. It is good to have family near by.
All, I can say is that your tips are great. When I was single, my Mom taught me to love myself first and learn to be independent. When you like yourself you learn who you really are. Then I got tired of dating guys that were not right for me. So, I made a list of good and bad characteristics. Then went back and highlighted 3 good qualities and 3 bad qualities. The 3 good, the guy had to have and the 3 bad were things that I could not tolerate. Usually, after a couple of dates these characteristics will show up. This is how I found my husband now 32 years married.
I love all the outfits but you look like an ANGEL in the white dress! 😍😍
Elise, Unfortunately heartbreak is part of life/growing and your advice is spot on! You have come a long way and have learned so much about yourself and others. Wrapping your head around how someone could treat you poorly is difficult, especially when you would not treat others that way. You have been graceful and humble during this difficult time, because that is who you are. Keep loving yourself and others!
The house is coming along beautifully! Looking forward to seeing more progress. You looked fantastic in all the outfits! 10/10 💜 Take care! 🌞☕🌺
Thank you so so much! 🥰
I love that white sweater dress! Your hair looks amazing, too. As far as the outfits, I really like the pencil skirt..you look fantastic in that coppery color! About your ex..he's an idiot. If he treated you badly, he's not worth giving any more thought to. You deserve to be treated like a queen and any guy who doesn't treat you as such isn't worth it. When I was in my early twenties, I was engaged to a guy I thought was going to be the one for the rest of my life...until he went away for his first week of college and brought home a new girl. The arse wouldn't even come outside to talk to me! I was absolutely crushed, but you know what? It made ms stronger and after that I decided that any guy I dated had better treat me like a queen or he was gone. I laid down my one rule..they mess up in ANY way, it's over. And I stuck to that. My mom thought I was crazy, but I was determined to never be hurt like that again. I was probably a little harsh, but it weeded out the losers..LOL I've now been with the same guy for over thirty years, married for going on twenty-seven! We never fight about anything and I love him more every day. You deserve the same..every woman does. *hugs*
Outfits 10/10, you look gorgeous and your an amazing woman. Your very right do dwell on the what if and move on. Go out, be with friends, enjoy yourself and live life for yourself not someone who couldn't, wouldn't, doesn't want to be in your life. There's so much more to life than wait for someone to feel the way you do about them. Love and life we make it what we want not what someone else wants for us. I've moved on from a verbally abusive late husband and I've learned to live my life the way I want. Be blessed.
Elise sweetie, you are an inspiration to anyone who has been through a difficult breakup. You make my day when I see you’ve posted a video. Thank you for being you. And you look stunning in all the outfits.❤️🇦🇺💐
The hallway looks great! I vote to keep the baseboards white, the door frames white and the ceiling white. SO glad to have you back to your sweet self. :)
It must be so nice knowing you are decorating your forever home
I love the pink walls! 😍 Keep the baseboards white. You can do the ceiling in white or mix white and your wall color to do a lighter pink on the ceiling so it doesn’t get too dark.
It is wonderful to see light in your beautiful eyes again. You've been through a lot, but you are stronger for it. We can see it! The pink walls are so pretty.
I like all of the outfits. The first was my favorite, the rust colored blouse and pencil skirt. You look so beautiful in everything and you have a great figure. All 10/10. Please take all the time you need for yourself. If dating feels right then go for it but don't make yourself if you don't feel like it. You have a lot on your plate right now, getting settled into a new home, and having to give up your car. Feelings of loss tend to come in waves so it may get better and worse for awhile. You might be doing great and then suddenly find yourself crying again and it's okay. Anger is good and it's a sign of healing. The pink color in the hallway is really nice. There is just something magical about pink and white together. I have one room where I painted the walls a pale pink, and the ceiling and trim a creamy white. Another room I painted everything in a soft pink, walls ceiling and trim, it has a very calming feeling. All my other ceilings are white and I wish I had painted at least one ceiling in a dark moody color. A dark teal blue looks wonderful with pink. Aqua also looks great with pink, or a pale golden yellow. Darker colors are good for baseboard because it will get dirty. My white baseboard really annoys me, it gets SO dirty and it is hard to clean. I painted my floors a dark brick red color and I love the way it goes with pink, but the paint on floors does chip and wear away a lot. I want to tell you to go slow with the house, don't push yourself too hard, but I also know that the more you get settled in it can get harder to change things. You did the right thing opening up that wall right away even if it did take a chunk of money.
Half strength paint in the pink on the ceiling would look great. Keep the white trim on the doors and the skirtings as a contrast. The skirtings is the board that trims the bottom of the floor around the walls and doors. But using the pink on the ceiling in a quarter or a half strength would look fabulous. It’s looking great and so are you.
Brilliant advice Elise, and even if there are moments of sadness occasionally, we can just go with it for a little while, then take a deep breath and let it go. On a lighter note, I've always loved coffee dates, as you can wear something cool and stylish without fussing too much about makeup and accessories, and save the more dressy and glam stuff for a dinner date. Love the pink walls 👍
You are so right about 'anger'...a therapist once told me "there is no such thing as anger. Every time you feel anger it is pain" It changed my life. That feeling of 'anger' is you recognizing injustice agaiinst you or others and that realization of what you deserve is empowering. Hugs.
yess it really is 🥰
Anger is a defence mechanism to remind you that your boundaries have been messed with … Gabor mate I think 🤔
Leave the ceiling, doors, the trim and baseboards white! That will keep things lighter and will make the pink color pop in contrast.
Fabulous bounce back!
You bought a home!✔️
You henna ur hair!✔️
Your outfits are Divine!
Take urself out!
Go out there & Shine!🌞
That pink looks absolutely perfect!
The shade that comes through on the screen, at least, is marvelous. Not a Barbie Doll pink and not too dark or brown. Just right. Cheerful and sophisticated.
I'm glad you are getting over your heartbreak. Those outfits are so cute.
Remember, no need to rush into dating too soon. Maybe going out in a group first?
I understand so much Elise, I've been going through a breakup after 13 years married and 6 years together before that, 20 years all together, I knew you were struggling and ironically watching you be strong and gaining your independence back n watching you n your new lovely home has helped me. You remind me of myself years ago! I'm 61, a artist , street photographer and fashion junkie and if course young at heart! I found u years ago because of your dreads, how wonderful its been watching your videos of your cottage and now your new home, your shop and all your fashion! You are a amazing person always remember that! And the dusty pink hallway is awesome!! I hope you continue to be strong and keep at it, your a inspiration to us all!❤️
Yes, I agree Elle, 👍. Elise is such a beautiful soul. I just love the positive energy on this blog. 🙏
I'm watching this video 4 weeks later. 🌺 The white jersey suits you with your lovely hair colour 🌼
All the outfits look lovely on you. 👏👌The blue one is stunning on you. 💖
I have been watching your videos for a long time and was always amazed at all your creativity and accomplishments. All the special milestones. Your pretty and cozy apartment with Luna, your beautiful shop, your clothing designs, your fashion outfits, your thifting for goods trips, your cottage projects, and so much more. You inspired us just by watching your videos with everything you do. We are all from around the world. When we all went through covid lockdowns, you were cheering us up. Over Christmas all your lovely vlogs. Buying candles. Hoping to win the million scratch card 🤞😁Cooking food. Planting flowers. Choosing wall paper, painting, renovating, mowing grass, running your business, watching sunflowers grow. There are so very many things I can list that YOU created all by yourself.
When you feel your confidence is at a low it is a projection of someone else's bad behaviour that hurt you.
Look back at all the videos you created, remember all the things you have achieved and all the positive inspiring messages from all your subscribers. You did that, it's amazing! 🎉
Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us through all the good times and the not so good times. That's real life. It broke my heart to see you go through this sad time because I can relate, I went through a very bad breakup myself.
I didn't want this for you.
My ex partner was a selfish, controlling, abusive narcissist.
Every good thing I created he tried to ruin. The more love and giving I was to him, the more he took without any appreciation. The abuse escalated.
I was a successful independant person before I met him. At the end I was a shadow of my former self. He literally sucked my energy from me like a vampire. Eventually we ended it. It took a huge effort on my part to recover. But slowly, I did. One step at a time.
Every little achievement is a victory to getting back my power and sense of self. And the same for you, and anyone who is going through heartbreak.
I'm so glad you are healing and are able to talk more openly, while you are letting go of some things and embracing new things. Every brush stroke in your new home and the canvas of your life is one step closer to a new beautiful piece of artwork, which is your God given life. All your talents and uniqueness. Nobody has the right to diminish who we are and yes, getting angry in a healthy way is part of healing grief.
I want to see you free like a butterfly and happy. Remember how special you are. 🌷🦋🌹🌻🦋🌺🦋🌼🦋🌻🌞💖
I love the blue outfit! It makes your beautiful hair pop, the outfits are all lovely. I guess it depends on where the date is … the mauve pink hallway is gorgeous, don’t paint the baseboards or ceiling. Keep them white. Painting them will box things in and make things small and dark. I can’t wait to see what beautiful art you will hang there, your comments about healing are all sound advice. I think it’s important to remember to “never put all your eggs in one basket “ an American saying.. meaning never give 100% to anyone, protect your self and your heart.. never settle , and never take somebody else’s scraps.. you identified you are impatient and that can be a blessing and a curse . After you got screwed over with the house deal that was the screaming g red flag to end it and distance yourself from all those people that didn’t have your best interest in mind. You can’t force true love…it takes time to build a solid relationships , in the world of psychology where I come from studies show it takes 3 years to really get to know somebody and see them when they are stressed ,go thru hardships of some kind.. anyone can put on a mask and show their best side under that time frame….. think about that the next time you let your heart be vulnerable to another…and proceed with caution.
I just love the pink walls , but leave the baseboards and ceiling white. Also the blue blouse with white flowers and the blue velvet trousers are fantastic and you wear them so well. Very classy selection of several outfits. Looking good girl!!!
Thank you again Sweetheart for being “you”, you are such an inspiration. I’m 70+ and have recently drawn another line in the road. We, as female energies, need to keep strong to our wants and needs. This recent interlude taught me, once again, how much I push “me” onto a back shelf for the comfort and convenience of the male energy.
So please know and keep close to your heart, “we” deserve! We are NO less than the next. We are all equal, regardless of gender, race, or anything else!!! Stay strong! We’re winners! ✌️💜
I too was going thru a huge breakup after 8 years together…it’s now 5 years single and I never been happier! ❤
I love the pink! I think paint all the walls in the hallway pink. Leave the baseboards, ceiling and door trim white. I love all your outfits, you look lovely in all of them, especially the blue.
You are wise beyond your years and spot on with your tips. I'm so happy to see you coming back alive, on your terms. BRAVA!!! I can't wait to see your closet put back together and your garden grow.
Take care, you look beautiful!
The hallway color is so romantic! It’s one of my favorite clothing colors. Such a warm and comforting color!
The pink color in your hallway is absolutely beautiful. I'm so glad you chose it. What a lovely welcoming space to your home.
I've been watching your videos for a while now and I've felt so many of your emotions along the way. You are an incredibly brave and inspiring woman who has beautiful decorating and fashion sense. I truly enjoy your videos! Keep smiling 😃 ❤
Thank you so so much 🥰
Elise, you look absolutely glowing, you are gorgeous. You are definitely home.
I love the pink walls, go for it. If it feels dark get some nice cosy light, like the fairy lights you have in your cottage 😊
Brave wearing white right after henna 😮😊 You look amazing! All outfits looked great on you.
I think you should go with it with the hallway/entryway/foyer and paint the ceiling too and idk about the baseboard but the one up by the ceiling though. You can always paint it white if you want later but I think it will look amazing and with a ceiling lamp and maybe some wallsconses and/or table lamps, maybe 1 or more mirrors etc it will light up.
But also I think color and even darker color give light in a way more than a sterile white wall by it giving so much warmth.
But all pink and then with art and a rug etc it will look so amazing, a real statement and a small hallway is such a great place to do something bold. So I say; Go for it, paint it all pink!
oh and the take things back tip in the end is so true. It can be the hardest but it helps so much. And also shifting (not necessarily to anger but) to starting to think about how and why the relationship didn't work and how it wasn't good enough is great. And as you said, talk talk talk, talk it all out and be sad etc in the beginning, even if you don't want the person back you can let yourself "mourn" the relationship being over and things not going as planned, then it's just easier to go on and realize all that was wrong and start to heal and not be scared to be reminded of things.
Their trousers fit you perfectly. The blue outfit is special.
Love the hallway, it looks so fresh and warm. So glad you've been able to work though your break-up and start a new chapter of your life. Yes there will be happiness for you. xx
Omgosh Elise all the outfits looked absolutely gorgeous on you. I love them all. And you are doing so well moving forward from your breakup. One day when you least expect it , you will find that very special person who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. 😊❤️🇨🇦
The blue outfit is my favourite! 😊🇬🇧
I'd leave the trim and ceiling white., but I really love the color pink.
no matter what you choose to wear, you always look fantabulous Elise!
Do like the blue outfit....it seems as if you do too! Hope the best guy comes along for you who will appreciate you more than himself. No more musicians!!!!!
I loved all your outfits, they all suited you. Your wisdom and your willingness to share how you were feeling is brave and will give hope to others going through the same thing. You are a caring kind hearted young woman and you definitely deserve better. Love, love love your pink hallway.
I hope you have realized how strong you are. Now take the lessons you learned & make all you dreams come true! You deserve all the best! You are young & beautiful, take full advantage of it all!
I like the pink hallway; it’s a brave color to try since it’s the first thing one sees when they enter your home through the front door. But it works. I would use bright white paint on the ceiling & trim. If wiring exists or can be added, a sparkling ceiling light or wall sconces would add warmth & light.
Your outfits are amazing, but you always look lovely. I love the cream sweater dress you are wearing.
At 70, I divorced after many years. I redecorated, painted & added on to my house for the next 4 years, through heartache & Covid!
8:24 it's giving me 1950's womens suits and Chanel. The pants that fit so well also feels quite 50's. I think that fashion suits your body type really well since the 50's is smaller waist and curvier hips.
You are such a fabulous woman. I love watching your videos because how you spend your present moments is what I do when I’m in a really good place 💜
Thaaank you ❤️
Wow... I love that tip about taking back things that feel stolen from you. I have found that a lot of my interests have come from other people, and when they let me down, I feel like I don't know who I am, that I don't have anything that's just "mine." But reframing it as taking things back or claiming them... I never would have thought you could even do that! I've had such a hard time moving on from people who have hurt me, mostly because we were never official and therefore we never "broke up" - we just faded away and I was left confused, wondering what happened.
I love the blue, too! That’s dating material! They are all lovely on you, but I adore that white dress with your red hair! Beautiful! Stunning!
Your Henna hair color is absolutely beautiful! It looks so natural! I love the first outfit, but I don't know if I love the blouse tucked into the bottoms. I do NOT think you are too small-breasted for the other blouse, but if you feel uncomfortable about it, you could always wear a padded bra. I wear a slightly padded bra that looks completely natural made by Warner. It's one of the most comfortable bra's I've ever owned. I am much older than you but I remember all the painful breakups. You are right about so many things you touched on! Music is my go-to for all of the good and the bad times. Surrounding yourself with friends who truly care is also the best medicine! My very first real love was in high school and we actually handled it as if we were mature adults. We knew we missed each other so we helped each other deal with it by still having conversations on the telephone every day and said that we would always be there for one another until someone else came into one of our lives. It happened to be him that met someone and I left him alone so I didn't make the new girlfriend feel uncomfortable. I was actually very happy for him. We knew we weren't meant to be together and we helped one another get through it. I will never forget that. I managed to stay friends with all of my ex-boyfriends in the end. I've been married for 22 yrs now and just found out that he may have cancer in one lung. If anyone reads this who wouldn't mind adding us to your prayers, I would very much appreciate it. Life is precious and I am so proud of you Elise! All you have accomplished is something to be proud of! You are a beautiful woman, inside and out! You have everything going for you and I am so happy for you! Always stand on your own two feet and be happy. When you are truly happy, you will attract the right kind of man and you will have your pick of them because of the person you are! You deserve only the best this world has to offer!
Keep up the great job, Elise!
Paint the ceiling! I painted my hallway a similar rose pink colour and painted the ceiling a shade darker and duskier and its so warm feeling when you walk in the house! it goes really well with vintage pieces and gold!
I would paint the baseboards and ceiling yellow ! That way the whole hallway is super colorful but the yellow brightens the place up a bit more than just the whole room being that pink color
I honestly love the pink. Yes it does give it more of a dim look but I love how warm and cozy the hallway feels and love the white baseboard and ceiling think it compliments it well.
Elise, no one rocks velvet and houndstooth like you. The pieces are just terrific--thank you for the code! Also, you've inspired me to make an appointment with a hair salon. I'm 56, and have been going gray since I was 17. I stopped coloring my hair when I turned 50, hoping my hair would become a lovely silver--instead, it's still a patchwork of brown and yellowish gray. I'm going to get a cut and color as a birthday treat to myself. Thank you for the inspiration! #independence #selflove 🏠🏠💖💖🌹🌹💕💕☕☕😊😊
I love your advice on recovering from a broken heart. It was so kind and generous of you to share what you've learned with us. I know it will help someone, maybe even today.
Also, you look fabulous in all your outfits, but honestly, my favorite is the white sweater dress you're wearing. You look absolutely gorgeous in it. And, I must say, I've been meaning to say for a while, that you look so beautiful these days. Something has changed. Not sure what it is, but you're just glowing. You've always been beautiful, but it's like you've done something and become even more beautiful.
I am so excited about all you're doing and achieving. You are going to have such a fantastic life!
Aww thanks ❤️ I am feeling good, I think that might just be it 🥰
I agree - they were all beautiful on her but that white sweater dress! It was perfect with her fresh vibrant hair color! I believe she could steal the breath of any warm blooded male.
You lost a relationship, a dream of your future, but gained wisdom with that experience that you are now sharing. That's why the red flags will be apparent to you far faster next time. One thing I finally realized is to pay attention to the family and how that person interacts and deals with them. If he can't support you, he's not for you, we want so much to fit someone into our dreams where it isn't always realistic. We then blame ourselves for not doing something right. I Love all your outfits!
Everything about this video is beautiful! Your hair color, your outfit choices, your china cabinet, the paint on your hallway wall, the chat on your sofa…everything is beautiful! Especially your healing journey 😊
It's all good Elise. Feeling stronger, more hopeful, getting your projects done, reclaiming yourself and you right to be who you wish to be.
Even acknowledging the possibility of dating is huge 🌻
You are exactly where you are supposed to be! Proud of you! ❤😊
So glad to see you today!!!!!.I mentioned this to you before, my mantra after my 20 yr marriage broke up was "I DESERVE BETTER!!! I DESERVE SOOO MUCH BETTER!!!" I would say it out loud and in my mind. It does help!
Love the shade of pink in the hallway.
I liked all the outfits. You have a lovely figure. I think the blue is my favorite. I am partial to blue. So proud and happy for you, but do remember there will be times
When the sadness creeps in but it is normal. Have a good week dear friend.
Hugs ❤️ C
Sometimes we men have trouble understanding women. Like putting something that looks like mud into your hair, just to rinse it out again a short while later. But I am happy your tub helps you with this, and your hair looks great.
Your reaction to your recent breakup shows me that you are a life warrior and survivor of the best kind. It might have been easier for you to stay in the relationship, but if it had not already turned a bit abusive it would probably soon have turned out to be. So you took the battle and pain of breaking up like a warrior to avoid even greater pains in the future. Real men like strong women because men want to be supported by their partner just as much as women do. A good relationship has to be mutual and equal.
Now you have gotten over the breakup and moved into your own house it makes sense to look for a new partner. You got hurt last time, but this only made you stronger. I am sure you have learned and is a bit more careful this time. Good luck with your dating.
I like all the outfits you showed in this video for dating. But the outfit I actually like the most is your paint-stained denim overall. In a way I think this best represents who you are: A woman who can do for herself 😀
You are such an inspiration. Your tips to overcoming heart break are sound. I am so glad you have moved on and got back on your path. I am very exciting to follow you making your new home. Axxx
Elise!!! I got my green and white striped shirt in the mail yesterday. I’m in LOVE
I love the shiny top and pencil skirt look. The colors pair so nicely with your refreshed hair! You’re doing great!
Thank you ❤️
Spot on advice with getting angry. Because that means you are being honest with yourself. The thing that were said or done that were wrong give validation. You know you made the right choice to leave.
*I LOVE the pink. If it's too dark, then you could paint the bottom half of the walls white & add "chair molding." Leave the floor molding or baseboard trim white either way, looks good like that. You could also put a mirror at the end of the hall so it reflects the light coming from the front door, to add more light & open up that space.* 🩷💗🩷
I love the red outfit, first outfit. Also like the second outfit, but prefer the red top with the pants instead of the green top. 😊🥰
The light walls made your beautiful pictures stand out ... like they are the star of the show!... very nice!... and you are lovely as always!...
As for the outfits ... I think the last greenish matching skirt and top is my favourite 😘
First, I love the color in the hallway. Keeping the ceiling light will help keep the area bright. I also love the contrast with the baseboards.
It is so nice to see you healing from the heartbreak. I think you should get out and date so you can wear those beautiful clothes. Dating doesn’t mean a life long commitment. Just enjoy yourself. You are beautiful, strong and amazing!!! Can’t wait to see what you do next!!!
I love the color it looks more like a dusty rose than pink and painting the ceiling, doors and trim color will make it look more cohesive especially since the doors and trim are old and just basic ones. I like all the outfits your style is growing from bohemian to classy. Great to see you bouncing back and knowing that you are smarter and stronger for the right relationship when it comes ❤
Elise, I just discovered your channel. A friend commented on a recent video of mine that we were going through a similar journey, and I'm so so glad she did! I'm just now selling my house and hope to have some wonderful news to share soon about my new property 🤞🤞🤞. As an introvert, it is so hard for me to get out there and surround myself with loving people, but every time I do, I am so grateful - it IS helping to heal my heart. Congratulations on being a home-owner and a radiant, successful, creative, badass single woman!! You've got this!! xx
I think the white trim and ceiling look good with the pink. It keeps some brightness in the hallway. But of course, it’s your space so you should do what you think is right for your home.
I love all the outfits. The blue is gorgeous on you. That pink hallway is such an uplifting fun color. Your hair is stunning.
🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸 I adore the pink... and I love you, beautiful lady... you are such an inspiration... xxx
This is a perfect time for healing and having your heart 'bloom again' after the end of that relationship. Sending love.
I loved the coffee date look but they were all nice.
Elise, all of the outfits look great on you, but the dark blue pants and flowered shirt do something magical with your gorgeous hair! This is definitely first date material!😊❤