and the sad part is actual "introverts" are trying their best to be more open/ get out their comfort zone and talk more. then you have actual extroverts trying to be fake mysterious which is sooooo corny. lmao. like why are people acting?!?
i actually went through this phase. It had to do a lot with the internet but i absolutely cringe at it. I used to try to be mysterious and i didn’t have a single girl touch me. Ever since last year since i stopped ive gotten more friends and girls
Bro! This is 💯% facts! Big RANT ahead: I am an introvert myself! Really don't talk to People much, but i am trying my best, and currently i have a good chunk of friends, and we hangout, do meetups etc. But 1 thing i have noticed is People are so desperate to make themselves look "cool"... ""Oh! guess what, i am an extrovert outside but I won't reply to you and seen-zone you!"" Like can we STOP this s-h-i-t... Even the best of extroverts wouldn't bother to reply you when you decide to talk with them. "Oh, I don't get time"... that is the biggest lie ever. You see my msg, and then you don't reply. And all these efforts i am making to communicate more with people seems pointless, because people don't wanna talk! (and this doesn't happen to only ME, happens to a lot of my introvert friends). I guess extroverts are just best with other extroverts. And then they wanna act all mysterious when it's an introvert. Bro, just TALK!... Worse part is, then they will gaslight you, "You don't talk much" Ya! because when i talk, you dont!
Yeah I'm cooked I've been acting like a carti fan since I was 10 years old... I'm 25 now so it can't be undone + I have an ego because of grinding for 10 years straight on multiple hobbies that can be side hustles now.
It’s a sad thing to realise.. but if you mattered to people, they would reach out, they would think of you, they would want to meet with you - just like you do. I don’t think it is even about being mysterious necessarily, it’s just a way to cover up the harsh reality that you aren’t a “part” of their life anymore at least like you may have been before. Things change just like people and you just have to move on sometimes - never blame yourself and be true to yourself, learn and be a better you. You know you gave everything you had to that friendship/relationship so be at peace. You will never know someone’s else’s thoughts, but at least you were there and continued trying - regardless of the outcome. Thank you for the video!
Thank you bro this ghosting bullshit is childish. I had a childhood friend who after not contacting me for 4-5 months reached out to me saying he wants to hang out an he's trying to work on his communication skills (I'm always the one initiating everything we do) and I said okay let's do something next week and he said ok. I didn't reach out first this time just to see if he would remember, which might seem contradictory but I ALWAYS initiate things, he had some catch-up to do. It's been 2-3 months and not another word came out of him.
ngl bruh the day after u were supposed to meet him, you could've been like "yo bro u said we were supposed to hang out yesterday, where were u at?" he said he was tryna work on his skills sooooo u shouldve expected something like this honestly
@@ilyxdexter disagree. Its not like he ghosted him back. It was the friends turn to keep his word and make the plan. If he can't gotta move on. Why keep a friend who isn't reliable?
If you are the one hittin them up most of them time, that's a red flag. They most likely don't care that much about the friendship/relationship. And you can't really force people to do something they don't wanna do. Just my thoughts on that.
its too hard to drop them but then when i do initiate the convo they start saying how they thought i was "ghosting" them which is a blatant lie. I just wanna see if they can actually start a convo for once in their life.
*Extended Yap Warning* That’s always been the problem is people acting like something they’re not in actuality, and coming from an introvert that has a low social battery the whole crossing the arms and posing on the walls thing is an amplified cliche. Personally I just shrug it off and move on, I’m not usually one to socialize or act like some vibrant, stand-out ish kind of guy. I full heartedly agree with you about the problematic and toxic line-cutting of relationships where one party communicates to you while you’re ghosting them, vice versa. Yes I can hold a conversation, but I’ll only initiate, join, or politely request to join a conversation if they share my interests, have the same knowledge or insight I do on something, (Content Creator, music genres, whatever I have a profound interest in really) to ask a question for educational purposes, maybe to make a allusion of a joke that maybe only a certain group would understand, etc. You get what I mean. Otherwise I couldn’t give any less of a shit what society has to do with me or wants with me, because I know the type of friends I want. I DO NOT want fake, invalid, back-stabbing manipulating, false allegation claiming, persona mask switching, shameless, irrational, ruining other strangers lives, and emotion suppressing encouraging, hateful, toxic degenerates in a friend-group or hold any prolonged presence in my life. God forbid if only for a few minutes. Maturity is learning that friends aren’t everything, (Nor are they a requirement at this point) and that expectations should be from yourself and ONLY yourself, NOT what others forcibly want you to perform or meet external standards. If someone fu**s with you for your superficial benefits, positional and/or financial stability, and being someone they WANT you to be then cut them out of your life and connections now. It’ll save you the pain, misery, stress, anxiety, and heartbreak of dealing with people who only want to be around you cause you have something to offer them in a one-sided benefit for them. Don’t let your friends force you into participating in activities you’re not comfortable with, because if they do you need to stay away from them for good. That’s all I have to conclude on this video and matter as a whole.
Hi, introvert here. Just want to say that, those 3 points u mentioned= backstabbing, false allegation claiming and ruining other stranger's relationship/friendship felt really RELATABLE, and those are the kinda things, no one talks about, so thanks for mentioning them. I still don't have any idea why they do it. What kind of FUN they have from it... and it sucks. And at this point, i have kind of given up, that actual "REAL people with MORALS" exist!
This is facts. People's pleasers are real. And so is peer pressure. I used to be a victim both of these things yet I've learned from myself that I can be much more authentic than the people I'm trying to please, therefore being myself allows me to create opportunity and craft my environment and the people I talk to comfortably.
I’ve gotten hella bitter over the years from trying to keep people that I genuinely like and care for around me, that don’t care. I’m not introverted, quite the opposite, I try to get along with people who just don’t fuck with me and it sucks, like there’s a disconnect between me and people my same age.
@@hunterkinsella5303same here lol I lost all my friends before and after my birthday last year (November) both ghosted me for no reason whatsoever 😂 it’s all good one’s a bum and the other is a loser
I always say it like this, if your manager for work texted you'd respond within 5-10 minutes but for a friend it's whenever you feel like it which is fake asf, if your girl texted you, you're responding in a decent manner but because it's the homie it's hours or a day later response which is lame asf I know you've seen my message it takes nothing to reply you're not busy the whole day everyday!
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843 Thank you - someone finally said it. Imagine being such an entitled, so-called "friend" that the concept of other people having their own lives is one that eludes you. Also, some of us are neurodivergent (e.g., autism + ADHD, shortened to "AuDHD" within the respective online communities) and ALREADY struggle enough with CONSTANTLY stressing about trying to balance and juggle all the many different things in our adult lives (socialization being one of them) - not to mention that some of us, like myself, are: a) very comfortable alone in our own worlds; b) have had grossly unpleasant experiences with textbook definitions of fake friends; and, as a result, completely keep to ourselves and don't bother trying to make (or keep) friends. So, yeah - while good company is obviously better than no company, *_NO_* company is tremendously better than *BAD* company; and that's a philosophy that I unapologetically choose to live by (after learning that life lesson from a fake friend in adulthood; something that I won't ever forget).
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843 Thank you - someone finally said it. Imagine being such an entitled, so-called "friend" that the concept of other people having their own lives is one that eludes you. Also, some of us are neurodivergent (e.g., autism + ADHD, shortened to "AuDHD" within the respective online communities) and ALREADY struggle enough with CONSTANTLY stressing about trying to balance and juggle all the many different things in our adult lives (socialization being one of them) - not to mention that some of us, like myself, are: a) very comfortable alone in our own worlds; b) have had grossly unpleasant experiences with textbook definitions of fake friends; and, as a result, completely keep to ourselves and don't bother trying to make (or keep) friends.
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843not a good point an easy counter is that they are being fake talking to everyone else but you and don’t want to take the time and don’t care to talk to you at all even on their own free time and that would still count as “contacting you on their time”
It’s not that I don’t care about my relationships with my friends, nor is it about me trying to appear mysterious. I’ve noticed that all of my friends have outgrown me, and I don’t know how to bridge the gap. This is my way of not being a burden. I can’t explain everything without getting entirely too personal. Just know that some of us are struggling to keep up.
And there is a responsibility for those of us who are ahead to be more lenient and forgiving towards people who are struggling when they come forward about something.
@@tahitiantreatysl they’d always start fight target ppl mostly me I ain’t soft or wtv it’s just annoying af and make overused jokes and play victim they even knew it annoyed me and just purposely make me mad not good ppl
*spill inbound* I used to be hella social, talked to everyone and everyone wanted to talk to me or hang out with me(not strokin my shi but I was “popular”) but once I hit high school I realized nobody really gives a flying fuck about you. And it really shows after graduation, I haven’t talked to the people that I hung out with since middle school since then. (I’ve tried to reach out) that’s how life goes i understand that, then I went through my personal probs and “ghosted” the people that actually cared about me. All im tryna say is either people don’t give a shit about you or they are going through their own battles and can’t communicate properly. But the mysterious guy act is lame asf
Something being "natural," does not mean its good. If someone claims to be "naturally like this," and it's harmful behavior, then they have some work they need to do. That doesn't, however, mean we cant also be forgiving when someone makes a good faith effort, even if they mess up. And the way you let them know that they're not communicating enough, is by encouraging them to want to communicate. Talk about the stuff that they like talking about, and gradually sprinkle in other topics over time. They'll just naturally start talking more.
Exactly. They will say they busy with work but never reach out but have time for dating relationships and posting on social media With pictures of thier S/o kissing 24/7 i get it maybe 1 or 2 times but when it becomes all you post about that's kinda sad
Please make longer videos ik ppls attention spans these days are complete shit, but there are some of us here that would love to see you just ranting on, you’re really entertaining. I constantly look forward to your rants on this channel😭🙏🏽
I love talking to people, im just god awful at reaching out and always get busy with myself, so i very rarely am the one to reach out. I know its not healthy and iv been trying to work on it but idk ..im just fucked up i guess 😅
I don’t think it’s you being f**ked up. I struggle with the same thing, but it’s just something for us to improve upon. At the same time, it’s not fair for ppl to assume we don’t care.
Bro you not fucked up he just making this vid to pay bills😂 Extroverts will never truly understand introverts but introverts understand everything because they internalize often, mainly observing everyone so do extroverts but not on deep of a level but that’s not to exclude the fact that there’s ppl that fake it but don’t worry you’ll always be able to tell real from fake…. Hopefully
It’s okay, I’m actually the same exact way. Whether it’s friends or family, I’ve always been distant and I beat myself up for it quite a lot and I know I shouldn’t but I feel like a bad person.
@@nextup5573being a extrovert or introvert doesn't mean one has more deep self or intrapersonal analysis. That is always the individuals ability alone.
@@Marcell2aGIf you didn't message someone back for a year or two, or they always messaged first during their entire relationship with you, don't you think they might start to feel drained in the relationship?
my thing is that I feel like its weird to randomly initiate conversation after months of not talking. But I also understand that if someone is actually a good friend they won't care that its random.
Can't lie i be not responding to people on purpose cause i just genuinely don't feel like it but sometimes it do be ego cause i don't wanna respond 2 secs later
Nothing but facts, I have this friend that I’m ALWAYS texting first, making plans and asking to get online. I brought it up a couple months ago and he got all defensive and made so many excuses. We are still good but I haven’t texted him since the start of 2025 and not a single call/text, what a surprise.💀
me and my best friend been close for like 3 years and i feel like ive been the one thats been contacting him pretty much all the time and ive been thinking about if for awile thanks man, keep making content man.
funny thing is I always gotta start the convo they never EVER have texted me first and lowkey its been hard trynna drop em. I'm really good friends with them and its sad. It is was it is I guess.
Honestly, I have a bad habit of this. I know me and my boys are tight always, but I should be checking up on them more. I feel like I’m always the dude that’s getting reached out to, and I don’t want it feel like I’m just checking a box when I hit them up. Sometimes it’s cool just to see what’s up and to check up on your friends. I get wrapped up in what I’m doing on the day to day too much when I should be letting my boys know that they’re the day-ones that matter just like they do for me.
I was JUST THINKING ABOUT THIS !! I only reach out to people who reach out to me, I currently have 102 contacts and i only reach out to some of my family and 2 other people on a daily. This in turn has made me a little distant not gonna lie but if I mattered at all, you’d reach out but then again nobody is TOOOOO busy to text or call back, that’s just them making an excuse to avoid you all together; which is the sad reality.
The problem is that a lot of the quiet people are just alone too much. Some of them are only quiet because they don't talk enough. For me, I usually only talk to people about things other than that im usually doing something alone. Sometimes I talk to people and I make a reason to talk, and that usually involves something like art, or coding and simple things like video games or animals. But usually the people I know don't wana talk about much so it meh til we talk again.
Gonna be real man, I don’t think they actually like you. They’re definitely in contact with people who they prioritize. I’ve experienced it im not roasting. Some people are avoidants and don’t want to tell you they don’t want to talk. And the ones where it’s all good when you hang but they NEVER hit you… suspect. Usually they’re faking something or harboring animosity. It sounds negative but people are weird and terrified of vunerability. Most of these people aren’t “bad communicators” they’re bad PEOPLE
I appreciate peace and quiet. Maybe a bit too much. I know that I can get stuck in my head at times. 9/10 I'm not calling anyone in phone unless I actually feel like sharing something with them. I don't complain with others don't reach out. I understand we all have lives.
Used to have this kind of happen when my best mate never reached out to me if i didnt do it first. When we grew up some more and graduated after high school its gotten way better and we understand each other much more haha. Yeah man just make sure to have a healthy amount of time together and apart (people forget the apart part sometimes).
None of my old friends talk to me anymore unless I talk to them first online and it sucks ass, they just never talk and I don't know if it's because I'm unliked or anything but I just want my friends back man, I used to hang out with them IRL and I just hate it
Im definitely cool with having *Zero* friends because it brings me peace to do things at my own pace. I feel like having people to talk to imposes an artificial timer on me to keep up with them. I love doing things on my own time so I keep to myself.
@finessinhearts Glad to know I'm not viewed as an edgy a-hole for thinking that way. I'm genuinely happy for other folk's friendships and would like to eventually try em out again: I just feel like I have to get my crap done first, yknow?
Bruh this shit here, even worst when its your own brother in these one sided ass friendships it gets old when you realize you stop hearing back from anybody if your not the one reaching out first stopped doing that shit an my circle got small af quick
I'd definitely watch every minute of an 80 minute yep vid on this channel. Which is why I follow the streams. Thanks for the great vid Siah, not that me thanking u will make u post more in a way that is unnatural to how u feel, which I vibe with.
didn't even get a merry christmas or a happy new year back when i texted a classmate. what was the point of exchanging numbers if i'm just gonna get ignored?
i'm usually the one doing the reaching out, and a lot of the time i get ghosted or don't get a reply for several days, when i know the people i'm messaging aren't that busy to where they can't atleast text me something. And this is with EVERY SINGLE friend i have, maybe i'm just unlikeable idk.
and the problem is that people have misconception of what an "introvert" is. they are mixing up "being social awkward" to being "introverted" but in reality most introvert people can actually talk normally even be charismatic in socializing, they just don't wanna do it because it "expands" their energy a lot (in simplified form) and they wanna keep their energy as much as possible to enjoy their days and only expand it when they have to, y'know?
Bro speaking facts once again I'm a quiet person so I don't really call so that I don't make people feel they're doing way more than I am so that it doesn't become a problem
Congrats man here before 50k finally happening........... Yeeeeea sadly a lot of people i met do this and yes they dont change at all, i have to put in 120% while they put in 50% of effort man..... Sigh, this has been my life for years feels like no one wants to talk when i just want to chill play games or just chat man.
Bro I have a friend who suddenly claims to be an "introvert". I've known him for six years and I can say that's cap. It's weird because he's extroverted AF and he always announces that he's an "introvert" when given the chance. I feel like if you have to announce to people that you're an introvert, you're not an introvert.
well I understand your point bro, tho I do have a friend who I known since we were kids and he has an extreme case of an antisocial disorder and is very hard for him to talk he even sometimes feels bad about it but i'm fine with making the plans, like he never ever left me on read and we are both 22 years old I get it but I bet there's some people out there with issues to.
I definitely am someone who's pretty live irl but when it comes to texting/calling I am hella passive and I think for my sake at least, it's just because I don't really like being able to be contacted at any point of the day no matter what on another person's timeline. I appreciate the space I get away from people and it almost makes me anxious that anyone can just contact me just no matter where I am and now all of a sudden there's an obligation I gotta respond back. Though idk, might just be me I mean I'm still growing as a person n shi
same sometimes talking online gives me anxiety im ngl i have like distanced myself a lot from ppl n shi i just like shut down idk if that makes me a bad person or not
Im on that side of life where no matter what friends i have they might be good or bad friends but neither wanna talk to me unless i text first, its like no matter how good i am to them i won’t get that respect back, maybe im just unlucky
i’ve graduated high school last year. in the summer, i deleted my socials (was getting addicted to it) and i just been going to work and home. now i’m in college (in my hometown) and i still see those people i went to school with. i just don’t wanna talk to anyone. there’s this gc full of friends and i just leave unread because i’m either too late to respond or i genuinely don’t know what to say. my family always tell me “it’s not that hard to make friends”, “just put yourself out there” or “make you some friends”. but i just can’t like i used to.
I have a friend group like that we are introverts but we are just natural but sometimes I kinda force myself to talk because they said something on group chat. Yeah I know that's bad 😕
This is real because like bro I'm an introvert and like have social anxiety and I have PE in school it's so nerve wrecking and horrible and for some reason this hit and also I got communication issues with so many people so like... Sorry for the yap session either thanks love your vids
I hate the part where they wait like 10 hours to reply or something cause I either reply instantly or give a good reason why I didn't reply. it makes it makes me feel like a fan
Texting isn't a healthy way of communicating. Can't hear hear tone, no actual,back n forth talking more like a turn based combat. Some people would rather talk in person then text
@@wastedxalien7249Yeah I honestly hate texting and would much rather call or FaceTime. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of ppl my age prefer the former.
I'm in the exact same situation here with a girl I like, I've put ALL the effort in whatever we got going on, and she only replies, never initiating (I swear she's so damn robotic bruh). My question is: What do I do here, why does this happen and is she wrong for that?
Was in a similar situation with a girl I liked realized I was wasting my to and that she wasn't interested in me at all because if a girl actually liked you then she wouldn't be dry texting and she would be trying to talk to you alot
Well, i can say a little bit. Are you meeting this girl in real life? If yes, then how does she act with other people around her, and how is it different from You being around her? Find out who else she talks with (in Chat). Then kinda ask them if She actually texts herself or just replies to them too. There maybe 2 things. Maybe she is just like that, OR she is not interested in talking with you! (sorry buddy if that is the case)
@@ayantikacharya3431 I haven't been able to talk to her since she's always busy doing something else (talking to her friends), and I don't wanna "drag" her away from them, since that would seem like I'm trying too hard/desperate, no? Also, I don't have contacts with anyone who talks with her, nor am I friends with any of her friends, it seems kinda weird to ask her friends "how does she text to you? Does she initiate or only reply?". But it's weird, she always stares at me and sometimes she seems like she tries to make me take a hint, but I just take that as me being delusional. Am I being played or something?
@HajjDoDo Ok, so clearly both of you are kind of unknown and stranger to each other. You can approach her sometimes and talk as a friend first. Then initiate a friendship (again, not a forced one); Then see where things go. I wouldn't say anything more than this. Because not everything works for everyone. But hey, all the best buddy
compassion costs to earn it from someone. if you are not good enough, you don't get it. If you are born already looked up to by others, its impossible to do anything damning enough to get others to stop treating you well. It isnt freely given or earned through ones actions or character. Its superficial qualities and personal self interest that motivates being kind to someone, as those are the virtues of a culture of capital.
me personally i know I'm like this but i just like to do my own thing ALOT but if I'm in person or u call me I 'am talkative but i just like to do my own thing a lot. But I 'am not good at texting at all I'm dry as hell bc there is only so much u can do with a keyboard .But also there is traits i don't like about a lot of the pple i talk to which is usually the main reason why i don't like to talk 1st. Before u come at me and be like then stop being a b***h and let them know. I did... and they do not like that. So yeah i usually am not the 1st one to hit someone up unless I actually need them for something or lets say something came up in a topic we both like which sound prtty shitty but yeah.
and the sad part is actual "introverts" are trying their best to be more open/ get out their comfort zone and talk more. then you have actual extroverts trying to be fake mysterious which is sooooo corny. lmao. like why are people acting?!?
They think it makes them cool, been though it makes them the opposite
i actually went through this phase. It had to do a lot with the internet but i absolutely cringe at it. I used to try to be mysterious and i didn’t have a single girl touch me. Ever since last year since i stopped ive gotten more friends and girls
As an introvert that statement is nothing but facts 💯. One of the main reasons why I stay to myself.
Bro! This is 💯% facts! Big RANT ahead: I am an introvert myself! Really don't talk to People much, but i am trying my best, and currently i have a good chunk of friends, and we hangout, do meetups etc. But 1 thing i have noticed is People are so desperate to make themselves look "cool"... ""Oh! guess what, i am an extrovert outside but I won't reply to you and seen-zone you!"" Like can we STOP this s-h-i-t... Even the best of extroverts wouldn't bother to reply you when you decide to talk with them. "Oh, I don't get time"... that is the biggest lie ever. You see my msg, and then you don't reply. And all these efforts i am making to communicate more with people seems pointless, because people don't wanna talk! (and this doesn't happen to only ME, happens to a lot of my introvert friends). I guess extroverts are just best with other extroverts. And then they wanna act all mysterious when it's an introvert. Bro, just TALK!... Worse part is, then they will gaslight you, "You don't talk much" Ya! because when i talk, you dont!
@@ayantikacharya3431 Yup that's people nowadays. People are so fucking fake.
I still run into grown men who still think it's "gay" to swap numbers 🤣
They can stay alone then
The craziest one I've heard is being friends with a gay person makes you gay 😂
It is
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@@curtis4948 your sad
Siah is one of the people you watch at nighttime so you can put your boredom down. Waiting for the 50k.
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Doing that rn😂
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Ong, always watch every video to the end
You know when we as a species is cooked when a guy speaks out about how to be normal and it’s treated as ancient wisdom lost to the ages.
Yeah I'm cooked I've been acting like a carti fan since I was 10 years old...
I'm 25 now so it can't be undone + I have an ego because of grinding for 10 years straight on multiple hobbies that can be side hustles now.
@OmnipotentSaiyan saying it can't be done is an excuse to not change
@@whatimustbe555its been 10 years how do you expect him to change now?
@@Poorduckling888by starting today, lol.
@@Poorduckling888change its never too late even if y has been 10 years never too late
It’s a sad thing to realise.. but if you mattered to people, they would reach out, they would think of you, they would want to meet with you - just like you do. I don’t think it is even about being mysterious necessarily, it’s just a way to cover up the harsh reality that you aren’t a “part” of their life anymore at least like you may have been before.
Things change just like people and you just have to move on sometimes - never blame yourself and be true to yourself, learn and be a better you. You know you gave everything you had to that friendship/relationship so be at peace. You will never know someone’s else’s thoughts, but at least you were there and continued trying - regardless of the outcome. Thank you for the video!
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Thanks, I needed this.
This really hits. No one ever reaches out.
Thank you bro this ghosting bullshit is childish. I had a childhood friend who after not contacting me for 4-5 months reached out to me saying he wants to hang out an he's trying to work on his communication skills (I'm always the one initiating everything we do) and I said okay let's do something next week and he said ok. I didn't reach out first this time just to see if he would remember, which might seem contradictory but I ALWAYS initiate things, he had some catch-up to do. It's been 2-3 months and not another word came out of him.
ngl bruh the day after u were supposed to meet him, you could've been like "yo bro u said we were supposed to hang out yesterday, where were u at?" he said he was tryna work on his skills sooooo u shouldve expected something like this honestly
@@ilyxdexter yee fr
@@ilyxdexter disagree. Its not like he ghosted him back. It was the friends turn to keep his word and make the plan. If he can't gotta move on. Why keep a friend who isn't reliable?
Bruh sounds like me ngl i cant be remembering anything But fr if he cant remember its probably just that, coming from somebody who cant remember shi
All I can say is that you would be surprised how people talk about you behind your back then avoid you out of guilt…
If you are the one hittin them up most of them time, that's a red flag. They most likely don't care that much about the friendship/relationship. And you can't really force people to do something they don't wanna do. Just my thoughts on that.
It really sucks bc u genuinely care about those people too smh
its too hard to drop them but then when i do initiate the convo they start saying how they thought i was "ghosting" them which is a blatant lie. I just wanna see if they can actually start a convo for once in their life.
*Extended Yap Warning*
That’s always been the problem is people acting like something they’re not in actuality, and coming from an introvert that has a low social battery the whole crossing the arms and posing on the walls thing is an amplified cliche. Personally I just shrug it off and move on, I’m not usually one to socialize or act like some vibrant, stand-out ish kind of guy. I full heartedly agree with you about the problematic and toxic line-cutting of relationships where one party communicates to you while you’re ghosting them, vice versa. Yes I can hold a conversation, but I’ll only initiate, join, or politely request to join a conversation if they share my interests, have the same knowledge or insight I do on something, (Content Creator, music genres, whatever I have a profound interest in really) to ask a question for educational purposes, maybe to make a allusion of a joke that maybe only a certain group would understand, etc. You get what I mean. Otherwise I couldn’t give any less of a shit what society has to do with me or wants with me, because I know the type of friends I want. I DO NOT want fake, invalid, back-stabbing manipulating, false allegation claiming, persona mask switching, shameless, irrational, ruining other strangers lives, and emotion suppressing encouraging, hateful, toxic degenerates in a friend-group or hold any prolonged presence in my life. God forbid if only for a few minutes. Maturity is learning that friends aren’t everything, (Nor are they a requirement at this point) and that expectations should be from yourself and ONLY yourself, NOT what others forcibly want you to perform or meet external standards. If someone fu**s with you for your superficial benefits, positional and/or financial stability, and being someone they WANT you to be then cut them out of your life and connections now. It’ll save you the pain, misery, stress, anxiety, and heartbreak of dealing with people who only want to be around you cause you have something to offer them in a one-sided benefit for them. Don’t let your friends force you into participating in activities you’re not comfortable with, because if they do you need to stay away from them for good. That’s all I have to conclude on this video and matter as a whole.
Hi, introvert here. Just want to say that, those 3 points u mentioned= backstabbing, false allegation claiming and ruining other stranger's relationship/friendship felt really RELATABLE, and those are the kinda things, no one talks about, so thanks for mentioning them. I still don't have any idea why they do it. What kind of FUN they have from it... and it sucks. And at this point, i have kind of given up, that actual "REAL people with MORALS" exist!
Absolutely the realest comment I've read probably in the whole of TH-cam
This is facts. People's pleasers are real. And so is peer pressure. I used to be a victim both of these things yet I've learned from myself that I can be much more authentic than the people I'm trying to please, therefore being myself allows me to create opportunity and craft my environment and the people I talk to comfortably.
I’ve gotten hella bitter over the years from trying to keep people that I genuinely like and care for around me, that don’t care. I’m not introverted, quite the opposite, I try to get along with people who just don’t fuck with me and it sucks, like there’s a disconnect between me and people my same age.
@@hunterkinsella5303same here lol I lost all my friends before and after my birthday last year (November) both ghosted me for no reason whatsoever 😂 it’s all good one’s a bum and the other is a loser
I always say it like this, if your manager for work texted you'd respond within 5-10 minutes but for a friend it's whenever you feel like it which is fake asf, if your girl texted you, you're responding in a decent manner but because it's the homie it's hours or a day later response which is lame asf I know you've seen my message it takes nothing to reply you're not busy the whole day everyday!
I think it's lame to be so bothered that your friends text you back on their time not yours.
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843exactly
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843 Thank you - someone finally said it. Imagine being such an entitled, so-called "friend" that the concept of other people having their own lives is one that eludes you.
Also, some of us are neurodivergent (e.g., autism + ADHD, shortened to "AuDHD" within the respective online communities) and ALREADY struggle enough with CONSTANTLY stressing about trying to balance and juggle all the many different things in our adult lives (socialization being one of them) - not to mention that some of us, like myself, are: a) very comfortable alone in our own worlds; b) have had grossly unpleasant experiences with textbook definitions of fake friends; and, as a result, completely keep to ourselves and don't bother trying to make (or keep) friends.
So, yeah - while good company is obviously better than no company, *_NO_* company is tremendously better than *BAD* company; and that's a philosophy that I unapologetically choose to live by (after learning that life lesson from a fake friend in adulthood; something that I won't ever forget).
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843 Thank you - someone finally said it. Imagine being such an entitled, so-called "friend" that the concept of other people having their own lives is one that eludes you.
Also, some of us are neurodivergent (e.g., autism + ADHD, shortened to "AuDHD" within the respective online communities) and ALREADY struggle enough with CONSTANTLY stressing about trying to balance and juggle all the many different things in our adult lives (socialization being one of them) - not to mention that some of us, like myself, are: a) very comfortable alone in our own worlds; b) have had grossly unpleasant experiences with textbook definitions of fake friends; and, as a result, completely keep to ourselves and don't bother trying to make (or keep) friends.
@@legendarybeatzprod.4843not a good point an easy counter is that they are being fake talking to everyone else but you and don’t want to take the time and don’t care to talk to you at all even on their own free time and that would still count as “contacting you on their time”
Bro you gotta go on longer rants. I will actually watch an hour of this
Fr
Fr
Nuff said, doesn’t need to be longer.
Realest content creator on TH-cam
It’s not that I don’t care about my relationships with my friends, nor is it about me trying to appear mysterious. I’ve noticed that all of my friends have outgrown me, and I don’t know how to bridge the gap. This is my way of not being a burden. I can’t explain everything without getting entirely too personal. Just know that some of us are struggling to keep up.
And there is a responsibility for those of us who are ahead to be more lenient and forgiving towards people who are struggling when they come forward about something.
You’re a genuine person. Even TH-cam can be fake at times. Your uploads are a good reminder to stay grounded & humble.
I'm literally drained from my toxic friends. I just shut it all out and focus on content until youtube hits us with the random drought
Leave ‘em bro my friend group was toxic af and I left them
@@DeadX2what was toxic about it?
@@tahitiantreatysl they’d always start fight target ppl mostly me I ain’t soft or wtv it’s just annoying af and make overused jokes and play victim they even knew it annoyed me and just purposely make me mad not good ppl
*spill inbound*
I used to be hella social, talked to everyone and everyone wanted to talk to me or hang out with me(not strokin my shi but I was “popular”) but once I hit high school I realized nobody really gives a flying fuck about you. And it really shows after graduation, I haven’t talked to the people that I hung out with since middle school since then. (I’ve tried to reach out) that’s how life goes i understand that, then I went through my personal probs and “ghosted” the people that actually cared about me. All im tryna say is either people don’t give a shit about you or they are going through their own battles and can’t communicate properly. But the mysterious guy act is lame asf
Something being "natural," does not mean its good. If someone claims to be "naturally like this," and it's harmful behavior, then they have some work they need to do. That doesn't, however, mean we cant also be forgiving when someone makes a good faith effort, even if they mess up.
And the way you let them know that they're not communicating enough, is by encouraging them to want to communicate. Talk about the stuff that they like talking about, and gradually sprinkle in other topics over time. They'll just naturally start talking more.
Nobody busy 24/7, but that's just more and more ppl, like ppl who are actually good at communicating are hard to find😂
Exactly. They will say they busy with work but never reach out but have time for dating relationships and posting on social media
With pictures of thier S/o kissing 24/7 i get it maybe 1 or 2 times but when it becomes all you post about that's kinda sad
Please make longer videos ik ppls attention spans these days are complete shit, but there are some of us here that would love to see you just ranting on, you’re really entertaining. I constantly look forward to your rants on this channel😭🙏🏽
he already made a video about this
I always look forward for his rants and opinions too cuz he so real and funny 🥺❤️🫶🏽
@@matcho23 Ik I watch all of his videos but if he sees more ppl talking abt this then the sooner he might do so
Watching this video make me realize why most of my friends stopped talking to me. very helpful video and I'm glad came back to watch the entire thing.
I love talking to people, im just god awful at reaching out and always get busy with myself, so i very rarely am the one to reach out.
I know its not healthy and iv been trying to work on it but idk ..im just fucked up i guess 😅
I don’t think it’s you being f**ked up. I struggle with the same thing, but it’s just something for us to improve upon. At the same time, it’s not fair for ppl to assume we don’t care.
Bro you not fucked up he just making this vid to pay bills😂
Extroverts will never truly understand introverts but introverts understand everything because they internalize often, mainly observing everyone so do extroverts but not on deep of a level but that’s not to exclude the fact that there’s ppl that fake it but don’t worry you’ll always be able to tell real from fake…. Hopefully
It’s okay, I’m actually the same exact way. Whether it’s friends or family, I’ve always been distant and I beat myself up for it quite a lot and I know I shouldn’t but I feel like a bad person.
@@nextup5573being a extrovert or introvert doesn't mean one has more deep self or intrapersonal analysis. That is always the individuals ability alone.
@@Marcell2aGIf you didn't message someone back for a year or two, or they always messaged first during their entire relationship with you, don't you think they might start to feel drained in the relationship?
my thing is that I feel like its weird to randomly initiate conversation after months of not talking. But I also understand that if someone is actually a good friend they won't care that its random.
If you go months without talking then you are not friends lol
Legit so funny to see Siah acting like a psychopath on main and then an extremely rational and upstanding citizen on the alt
Can't lie i be not responding to people on purpose cause i just genuinely don't feel like it but sometimes it do be ego cause i don't wanna respond 2 secs later
relatable. sometimes a mf just doesn't wanna talk, ain't nothing personal 🤷♂️
Facts lmao these comments are basically the people who talk too much and can’t tell when someone don’t wanna chat
Nothing but facts, I have this friend that I’m ALWAYS texting first, making plans and asking to get online. I brought it up a couple months ago and he got all defensive and made so many excuses. We are still good but I haven’t texted him since the start of 2025 and not a single call/text, what a surprise.💀
me and my best friend been close for like 3 years and i feel like ive been the one thats been contacting him pretty much all the time and ive been thinking about if for awile thanks man, keep making content man.
Im trying so hard to change my ways and be more communicative but Im really not like that so I just send memes
We need a “you know what I’m sayin?” Counter
You’re almost at 50k! Congrats!
funny thing is I always gotta start the convo they never EVER have texted me first and lowkey its been hard trynna drop em. I'm really good friends with them and its sad. It is was it is I guess.
Me when the person says “I don’t like dry ppl” and make me carry the conversation and ask most of the questions AND they’re fucking dry😐
Honestly, I have a bad habit of this. I know me and my boys are tight always, but I should be checking up on them more. I feel like I’m always the dude that’s getting reached out to, and I don’t want it feel like I’m just checking a box when I hit them up. Sometimes it’s cool just to see what’s up and to check up on your friends. I get wrapped up in what I’m doing on the day to day too much when I should be letting my boys know that they’re the day-ones that matter just like they do for me.
I was JUST THINKING ABOUT THIS !!
I only reach out to people who reach out to me, I currently have 102 contacts and i only reach out to some of my family and 2 other people on a daily. This in turn has made me a little distant not gonna lie but if I mattered at all, you’d reach out but then again nobody is TOOOOO busy to text or call back, that’s just them making an excuse to avoid you all together; which is the sad reality.
The problem is that a lot of the quiet people are just alone too much. Some of them are only quiet because they don't talk enough. For me, I usually only talk to people about things other than that im usually doing something alone. Sometimes I talk to people and I make a reason to talk, and that usually involves something like art, or coding and simple things like video games or animals. But usually the people I know don't wana talk about much so it meh til we talk again.
I get super talkative with friends which is actually kind of annoying because in private I'm all miserable and I'd prefer if I was more consistent
Balance is key my brother. Stay blessed 🙏
Gonna be real man, I don’t think they actually like you. They’re definitely in contact with people who they prioritize. I’ve experienced it im not roasting. Some people are avoidants and don’t want to tell you they don’t want to talk. And the ones where it’s all good when you hang but they NEVER hit you… suspect. Usually they’re faking something or harboring animosity. It sounds negative but people are weird and terrified of vunerability. Most of these people aren’t “bad communicators” they’re bad PEOPLE
It's hard to tell the difference fr but I 100% agree that they def don't fuck with you as much as you do them
this might be it, glad I made the choice to completely leave
@@rayge7838💯💯
I appreciate peace and quiet. Maybe a bit too much. I know that I can get stuck in my head at times. 9/10 I'm not calling anyone in phone unless I actually feel like sharing something with them. I don't complain with others don't reach out. I understand we all have lives.
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No one is working on themselves on these things
4:28 That is for the birds is a devilishly good quote. 😂
Used to have this kind of happen when my best mate never reached out to me if i didnt do it first. When we grew up some more and graduated after high school its gotten way better and we understand each other much more haha. Yeah man just make sure to have a healthy amount of time together and apart (people forget the apart part sometimes).
None of my old friends talk to me anymore unless I talk to them first online and it sucks ass, they just never talk and I don't know if it's because I'm unliked or anything but I just want my friends back man, I used to hang out with them IRL and I just hate it
Im definitely cool with having *Zero* friends because it brings me peace to do things at my own pace. I feel like having people to talk to imposes an artificial timer on me to keep up with them. I love doing things on my own time so I keep to myself.
i can understand that
@finessinhearts Glad to know I'm not viewed as an edgy a-hole for thinking that way.
I'm genuinely happy for other folk's friendships and would like to eventually try em out again: I just feel like I have to get my crap done first, yknow?
Bruh this shit here, even worst when its your own brother in these one sided ass friendships it gets old when you realize you stop hearing back from anybody if your not the one reaching out first stopped doing that shit an my circle got small af quick
*Picks up the phone*: “oh yeah and save me some chum, might get a little HUNGRY” 🗣️
You right, you right 💯
I'd definitely watch every minute of an 80 minute yep vid on this channel. Which is why I follow the streams. Thanks for the great vid Siah, not that me thanking u will make u post more in a way that is unnatural to how u feel, which I vibe with.
SIAH BRO U HAVE A 100% LIKE RATIO THIS IS ACTUALLY INSANE
bro he be speaking facts
As usual
SSiah is thr few people you van view at nightime and put your boredom down.
Im definitely somebody who could reach out more and I swear I try my best
Rock with your content because your the commentary TH-camr that’s speaks different with no shame. Props to you
didn't even get a merry christmas or a happy new year back when i texted a classmate. what was the point of exchanging numbers if i'm just gonna get ignored?
why didn’t you text is what they would say
Yo siah! I love you man you relate so much to me I been watching you for years keep up with the w content
Bad time for an introvert that actually likes to talk to people,now people are trying to be like me but failing greatly.😭
i'm usually the one doing the reaching out, and a lot of the time i get ghosted or don't get a reply for several days, when i know the people i'm messaging aren't that busy to where they can't atleast text me something. And this is with EVERY SINGLE friend i have, maybe i'm just unlikeable idk.
Same here
I feel you.
Yo what's the background music? Shit is a vibe
and the problem is that people have misconception of what an "introvert" is. they are mixing up "being social awkward" to being "introverted" but in reality most introvert people can actually talk normally even be charismatic in socializing, they just don't wanna do it because it "expands" their energy a lot (in simplified form) and they wanna keep their energy as much as possible to enjoy their days and only expand it when they have to, y'know?
Bro speaking facts once again I'm a quiet person so I don't really call so that I don't make people feel they're doing way more than I am so that it doesn't become a problem
But when I do communicate I make sure it's balanced
The timing of this video reaching me is INSANE.
This mf always spittin
you are highkey the best mf to watch while absolutely BLASTED
thank you for making my seshs just a bit better
Congrats man here before 50k finally happening........... Yeeeeea sadly a lot of people i met do this and yes they dont change at all, i have to put in 120% while they put in 50% of effort man..... Sigh, this has been my life for years feels like no one wants to talk when i just want to chill play games or just chat man.
3:16 I think mostly because they already have so many cool friends while I only got a few.
Nice shirt siah
Something about chickens
Bro I have a friend who suddenly claims to be an "introvert". I've known him for six years and I can say that's cap. It's weird because he's extroverted AF and he always announces that he's an "introvert" when given the chance. I feel like if you have to announce to people that you're an introvert, you're not an introvert.
well I understand your point bro, tho I do have a friend who I known since we were kids and he has an extreme case of an antisocial disorder and is very hard for him to talk he even sometimes feels bad about it but i'm fine with making the plans, like he never ever left me on read and we are both 22 years old I get it but I bet there's some people out there with issues to.
This vid actually helped thx Siah
3:00 another thing Iv'e learned, common sense does not exists, never assume someone knows something, it won't end well for you
I just choose not to talk because this society is so fucked up but i 100 percent agree with you on this
Not really that fucked up, normal people are still normal. Get off the internet, people still are normal
im glad that i dont have to worry about this, cuz i dont have any friends
I definitely am someone who's pretty live irl but when it comes to texting/calling I am hella passive and I think for my sake at least, it's just because I don't really like being able to be contacted at any point of the day no matter what on another person's timeline. I appreciate the space I get away from people and it almost makes me anxious that anyone can just contact me just no matter where I am and now all of a sudden there's an obligation I gotta respond back. Though idk, might just be me I mean I'm still growing as a person n shi
same sometimes talking online gives me anxiety im ngl i have like distanced myself a lot from ppl n shi i just like shut down idk if that makes me a bad person or not
Im on that side of life where no matter what friends i have they might be good or bad friends but neither wanna talk to me unless i text first, its like no matter how good i am to them i won’t get that respect back, maybe im just unlucky
Am I the only one who caught how he almost just make a LTG reference
If someone doesn’t want to take the time out of their DAY to contact you just BLOCK them. It’s so much easier than playing “nice” .
i’ve graduated high school last year. in the summer, i deleted my socials (was getting addicted to it) and i just been going to work and home. now i’m in college (in my hometown) and i still see those people i went to school with. i just don’t wanna talk to anyone. there’s this gc full of friends and i just leave unread because i’m either too late to respond or i genuinely don’t know what to say.
my family always tell me “it’s not that hard to make friends”, “just put yourself out there” or “make you some friends”. but i just can’t like i used to.
this dude the only dude i can relate to nowadays
love the vids bro keep it up fr
siah if you get 100k before the end of May I'll give you money
I have a friend group like that we are introverts but we are just natural but sometimes I kinda force myself to talk because they said something on group chat. Yeah I know that's bad 😕
Preach! You speaking facts!❤️👏👏💪
Maybe their just “naturally” self reliant..
ngz just can't be they self no more its sad
This is real because like bro I'm an introvert and like have social anxiety and I have PE in school it's so nerve wrecking and horrible and for some reason this hit and also I got communication issues with so many people so like... Sorry for the yap session either thanks love your vids
Should send this to my dad
I hate the part where they wait like 10 hours to reply or something cause I either reply instantly or give a good reason why I didn't reply.
it makes it makes me feel like a fan
same here man, hope the dead interent theory comes true at this point
Young guys have a hard time demonstrating any level of vulnerability but we're all humans and vulnerability is essential to build genuine connections.
Texting isn't a healthy way of communicating. Can't hear hear tone, no actual,back n forth talking more like a turn based combat. Some people would rather talk in person then text
@@wastedxalien7249 i am indeed one of those people. texting feels too forced idk
@@wastedxalien7249Yeah I honestly hate texting and would much rather call or FaceTime. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of ppl my age prefer the former.
Dont have a head phone, give me a tl:dr
I feel like a carrot colored bus after watching this video 😔😔😔 bazinga moment.
Great vid I totally fw this
I'm in the exact same situation here with a girl I like, I've put ALL the effort in whatever we got going on, and she only replies, never initiating (I swear she's so damn robotic bruh). My question is: What do I do here, why does this happen and is she wrong for that?
Was in a similar situation with a girl I liked realized I was wasting my to and that she wasn't interested in me at all because if a girl actually liked you then she wouldn't be dry texting and she would be trying to talk to you alot
Well, i can say a little bit. Are you meeting this girl in real life? If yes, then how does she act with other people around her, and how is it different from You being around her? Find out who else she talks with (in Chat). Then kinda ask them if She actually texts herself or just replies to them too. There maybe 2 things. Maybe she is just like that, OR she is not interested in talking with you! (sorry buddy if that is the case)
@@ayantikacharya3431 I haven't been able to talk to her since she's always busy doing something else (talking to her friends), and I don't wanna "drag" her away from them, since that would seem like I'm trying too hard/desperate, no? Also, I don't have contacts with anyone who talks with her, nor am I friends with any of her friends, it seems kinda weird to ask her friends "how does she text to you? Does she initiate or only reply?". But it's weird, she always stares at me and sometimes she seems like she tries to make me take a hint, but I just take that as me being delusional. Am I being played or something?
@HajjDoDoyou might be being played a little or she’s shy
@HajjDoDo Ok, so clearly both of you are kind of unknown and stranger to each other. You can approach her sometimes and talk as a friend first. Then initiate a friendship (again, not a forced one); Then see where things go. I wouldn't say anything more than this. Because not everything works for everyone. But hey, all the best buddy
compassion costs to earn it from someone. if you are not good enough, you don't get it. If you are born already looked up to by others, its impossible to do anything damning enough to get others to stop treating you well. It isnt freely given or earned through ones actions or character. Its superficial qualities and personal self interest that motivates being kind to someone, as those are the virtues of a culture of capital.
😂😂😂 all I ask don’t leave me on read
Nice Joy Division shirt
keep yapping im here
Sick Joy Division shirt, bro
keep tolkin bra im almost dere sioh 😫
bruh 😂 what in the ""Oilup, i will be there in 5"" kinda comment is this!
Wtf I see what u did there
me personally i know I'm like this but i just like to do my own thing ALOT but if I'm in person or u call me I 'am talkative but i just like to do my own thing a lot. But I 'am not good at texting at all I'm dry as hell bc there is only so much u can do with a keyboard .But also there is traits i don't like about a lot of the pple i talk to which is usually the main reason why i don't like to talk 1st. Before u come at me and be like then stop being a b***h and let them know. I did... and they do not like that. So yeah i usually am not the 1st one to hit someone up unless I actually need them for something or lets say something came up in a topic we both like which sound prtty shitty but yeah.
Ok but what do I do if i genuinely wanna reach out but schedules just never align?
Crazy switchup from 'clown' siah but ig thats kinda the point
Thanks for reminding me to sub