how I manage to start a conversation with anyone
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Learn the secrets to starting conversations with strangers and forming lasting friendships. In this video, I'll share my simple five-step process that I use while traveling to connect with people around me. Discover how proximity and eye contact play a crucial role in building meaningful relationships.
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Intro: (00:00)
Step #1: (00:15)
Step #2: (01:13)
Step #3: (01:40)
Step #4: (03:59)
Step #5: (04:24)
Outro: (04:45)
I feel like a robot learning how to be a human
Don’t worry, I had the exact same feeling
Don’t we all
I was looking for this comment
Same😭😭
lol me too
"The riskier things you say, the more memorable and authentic you would be for them." This is soooo true! People whom you just met and just want to play safe and say mundane things or topics will not create an impact and a lasting memory.
I love you so much
@@saleemali594love you more pookie
@@saleemali594lil too risky there bud
@@saleemali594went straight for the goal
I love you both Riko and Yohane-chan ❤
*Makes eye contact accidentally*
*This guy* "WHERE ARE YOU FROM?!?"
“I HEARD YOUR COUNTRY SUCKS, IS THAT TRUE”
Great conversation
LMAO@@danielkelsosmith
"WHY DID YOU LEAVE ME?!?!"
LMAOOOO
🤣
I usually wait for others to talk to me 😂
I always felt depressed when I did this. You just standing alone in the drama club, thinking on the next big talk or something , waiting for someone who would break the ice.
That miserable ice on your back😢
Me fr 😂
But the best thing to do is that you should start the conversation.
Or else the strangers will remain as strangers and gradually ignore you
That's why you don't have skibidi rizz
Same. I'm an introvert waiting for an extrovert to adopt me 😅
breaking the ice gives you a tactical advantage over others. The goal here is not to keep talking, but to keep listening and keeping them as comfortable as you can.. Listening is the best way to do this
Bruh this is touching grass, not call of duty
@@noideas439he's not wrong though. There are many advantages to this; people are more likely to help you later on in any way possible, even if you just say hello. I think it's better to just have a good relationship with anyone you meet.
@@noideas439 Damn i explained touching grass in cod terms lmao..
This is your brain after watching Spy Game.
@@noideas439 On god
- So, why did we became friends again?
- Cause I came up to you and started talking
- Why?
- Cause I could 🗿
Unfathomably based
Real
-why?
-cause you made an eye contact
"hi"
"Uh, hi"
"What part of town are you from"
_Calls the police_
😂🤣😂
for real 😂
For Step #2, an even better question is, "Where did you grow up?" This focuses on their formation as a person, rather than a simple location so it invites them to tell more about their childhood and how they grew up, especially if they moved around a lot/had a less conventional upbringing.
I ain’t sharing all that from a stranger’s opening line
lol, and then he said wtf are you
This is too personal for a 2nd question
This is too personal for a 2nd question
This is too personal for a 2nd question
💀 this crap gotten out of hand. We watching videos on how to talk to each other
We’re here man
Covid changed up the world
Something I really need in my life is social skills
Samee
I’m a really shy person and I can never carry the conversation. I feel like an alien trying to learn to have a basic conversation with another human 💀
Yeah, I feel that way too. It's pretty hard to start off a conversation without sounding like some sort of interview
Practice practice and practice there is no way you won't succeed!
U can't carry a convo because u have no confidence and social skills and scared to be yourself lol
Talking to strangers is a skill you were born with.
No I developed it.
It's not, its a skill you develop
@@DefinedByDeath you can develop it, because you didn't born with it. But people who were born with it don't struggle, is effortless.
@@Maryaz259 i promise you that isnt the case, it sounds more like an excuse when you say it like that
Every human is naturally social
All introverts here👋
sup vro
Lez go
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While it's true that taking risks and being authentic can make you more memorable, it's important to strike a balance. Being overly risky or controversial may alienate some people and could have negative consequences. Authenticity is about being true to yourself and expressing your beliefs, but it's also crucial to consider the context and the impact your words may have on others.
Effective communication involves understanding your audience, being mindful of the situation, and expressing yourself in a way that fosters connection rather than division. It's possible to be memorable and authentic without unnecessarily risking relationships or causing harm. Finding the right balance between expressing your true self and being considerate of others is key to effective and meaningful communication.
very well said
Bellissimo paragraph 🤌
This sounds like an AI
@@cavidnagiyev3678sounds like someone who has alienated a bunch of people because the people said something that hurt them
What ever Chat GPT-4
I just realised I'm really good at talking to people, But terrible at step 1 and step 2.
He was like "here's where it's tricky" and I thought "wait, that's the easy part!"
Getting over the anxiety and just feeling good, Having that energy that others will want to talk to you is so important!
I think one big piece of helpful advice is~ target people who are bored!
I was at an airport with a long line that wasn't moving and everyone wanted to talk to me!
If you have the energy theyll start talking to you, but isnt necessary id say if you start the conversation.
Like, last time i struck a conversation like that i was on the plane, and after some time i got bored, looked at the person next to me, he looked at me, and i just said the first thing that came to mind and the conversation kept going. (dont remember it too well now)
i just realized i'm exactly the same lol. i find approaching someone and starting a conversation so difficult, but once the ice is broken, i can talk for hours on end.
instructions unclear i got pepper sprayed when i asked them the first question
Haha
I think you know that that’s not the person you would want to hang out with
I wish I saw this video 1 month ago. During winter break I went on a cruise for 10 days and my whole routine there was wake up at 6am walk around everywhere on the ship and meet new people and talk with everyone until 3 am. It was one of my favorite experience in my life bc I suffered a lot with social anxiety when I was a kid and since I was 16 I would always try to surpass that and go talk to Stanger in my city. But this cruise was like my final exam. I literally became the most popular person on the boat and every 10min I would say hi to someone I know my friends could not believe it bc it was people from different social backgrounds it was so funny. But I still had some difficulty at some point I knew I needed more knowledge. Thanks again.
You make it sound so simple and I love that, because this way it becomes simple and natural. Thanks!
Für fortnite
it is simple just try to be confident while you saying
@@CarbonBeast You sure can try this in Fortnite first, yes.
@@teruvert True. I've also noticed it's easier without having alterial motives.
The fact that I did these steps before even watching this video with a girl I met randomly in the bus makes me feel so powerful 😭😭
In France if the first thing you ask is "where are you from" people will think u want to rob them 😂
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 👋 *Starting Conversations: Proximity and Eye Contact*
- Emphasis on the importance of proximity and eye contact when starting conversations.
- Proximity: Choosing people within one or two meters for natural, non-disruptive interactions.
- Eye contact: Initiating conversations with those who make brief eye contact, signaling potential interest.
01:23 🌍 *Asking "Where Are You From?"*
- Utilizing the question "Where are you from?" as a universal and non-intrusive conversation starter.
- Adapting the question based on diverse backgrounds or specific situations.
- Highlighting the positive response received from this opening line in various contexts.
01:52 🤔 *Sharing Knowledge and Asking Questions*
- Sharing personal knowledge about the other person's background and asking related questions.
- Demonstrating genuine curiosity and interest in learning about the other person.
- Examples of sharing information about a person's country and asking thought-provoking questions.
03:02 🎭 *Embracing Adventurous Conversations*
- Encouragement to be adventurous and take risks in conversations.
- Advocating for memorable and authentic interactions through risky statements.
- Acknowledging that some people may be triggered, but emphasizing the value of authenticity.
03:58 🍻 *Inviting Them Out and Building Rapport*
- Transitioning from casual conversation to inviting the person out.
- Suggesting activities like drinks or meals for a continuation of the interaction.
- Recognizing that the majority of rapport is built during this phase of the conversation.
04:53 🤝 *Cementing Connections: Remembering Names*
- The significance of remembering and mentioning the person's name.
- Advising to mention their name once to leave a lasting impression.
- Concluding the five-step process for starting conversations and potentially forming friendships.
I hope you don't really took notes on this..
Your a real one
@@dazebeats1084 you're*
Thanks for the summary! You are a hero hahah
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Its easy, as a former shy person to other shy people, always step out of your comfort zone, always try to be uncomfortable
That first step is always the hardest though
I don't really have problems finding friends in an situation where my usual friends/family isnt near, but I have quite some problems keeping friendships if there isn't something connecting us, but to be fair I often don't try to keep it when the thing that connects us is gone, the friendship becomes stale.This also has to do with the fact that I'm usually in sucu situations quite a bit away from home or online
It's rare to watch a video which actually have good ideas to be implemented in real life.. thank you ❤
Learning how extroverts make contact is essential in the development of skills to shut down all communication attempts from strangers
"Hi, Where are you from?"
"Unf!"
"E... Excuse me?"
I have tried making friends many times. I have watched videos like this one, they usually helped me a bit; to the point people stopped frowning at me. I hope this one will help me as I continue to watch it.
This is so helpful! especially in awkward situations or when you reallllyyy want to talk to a stranger but don't know how, engaging meaningful conversations without looking weird or what.
In Eastern Europe eye contact with “From which part of town you are?” is super threatening line.. synonymous for this in English is from the hoods “Who put you on?”, either they run away, or conflict will be unmanageable
How to make friends:
Be genuinely curious. Pay genuine attention and you'll never run out of conversation. Also be honest, so it's actually you who make the friend, and not a fake persona you put out to be likeable.
Might seem simple, but I struggle with it a lot. Luckily I have a coworker that is a perfect example of someone who would make a conversation with a rock, just because he is so curious and honest, so I try to learn from him.
I'm a loser but this one dude spoke to me using these exact steps got me wondering if he watched this too
🤣
Game is game, even if it's the tutorial 😂
Bro your editing skills are insanely qualitative and your mic sounds great. Good shit🫡
I tend to overthink what people may think of me or what they might say or how my interaction with them as a whole might go but to honest with u majority of people are really simple. I be getting my anxiety up for nothing 😭
Thats me bruh literally mirrored everything Its so annoying, we'll get over it WE JUST need to realize that theyre people like us and THE WORLDS not going to end IF it gets awkward
The title could be "How I Manage To Bully Introverts" as well. I'm going to try this.
Great video! Thanks for the advice you give, it's helped me out with being more confident & comfortable in my own skin.
What this told Me: Make sure to bring a book or laptop and appear *fully* immersed in whatever I'm reading or seeing.
*Never* make eye contact and stay as unassuming as possible so that those around me are aware that I want 0 interactions that do not involve serving me food&drink or the bill.
😂🖤
Great video, slight improvement advice: if you make such a very nicely structured and detailed video, do a wrap up at the end where you briefly summarise each aspect in one or two lines so people can remember the overall concept much better. They will also remember the details much better if they can structure them in their head so reminding them of the 5 steps really helps a lot by only adding like 30 seconds to the video
It's not about starting the conversation for me, it's about keeping it up and I always fumble cuz I think I'm the most boring person in the world.
If you know the problem change it
this might be the best youtube channel I've ever found!!
Ok, I definitely needed this video - thank you. As a [huge] introvert, I almost never start the conversation - even with people I know. Just side staring as if to say 'Please, start the conversation first. I don't wanna to-"
The name part and being genuinely interested part definitely made me remember that I got the same advice from a book. These two are very important…
As a Nigerian who’s not in Nigeria, that’s true, sad but necessary.
One crucial thing that you need to do..
you need to have a confident body language and be energetic when delivering those questions like you already knew them before and be sure to not have awkward silence in between question so you need to think about questions on the top of you mind.. if not.. you should have a list of questions ready that can work on anyone.
Personalities are a real thing but everyone has a different way of thinking and talking.. try to match that.
I love this new animation man!
I've come to realize that, it's not that i can't talk to anyone, i just don't have the motivation/strong reason to do so. Because when i do have it, i do it without any problem.
Where are u from?
@@tahashaikh524😂😂😂
@@tahashaikh524😂😂
Where are u from?
Love this new style of visuals.
I used to suck at talking to people a few months ago but recently I became good at talking to people, just out of nowhere I can just talk to people about random stuff!
This is also my go to question "where are you from" I've observed that people open up to me naturally when i ask them this question
When I make eye contact with strangers, I usually challenge them to a Pokémon battle.
Actually decent social skills tips. It’s not often I see that on the internet
Tried that opening line in Compton…
Currently commenting from the ICU
Thank you, will definetly try it out whenever there's an occasion
This reminded me of something I did. There was this one girl sitting alone on a staircase staring into the distance. Nobody else was around and that was the only moment where I had my courage up and straight up talk to her. I had to carry most of the conversation of course but it was worth it. She was very shy and timid and at the end I asked for her socials because I think asking for number is a bit too personal. We kept talking afterwards and hung out a few times. Honestly we could've been more but I didn't take a step further because I knew we wouldn't work together or at least I know that she won't be able to put up with my way of living after knowing her more. Anyway, now we stopped talking and I think it's for the best because she started showing her feelings to me and I don't want to lead her on. She's lovely, but she deserves better.
first step doesn’t work in london, just got stabbed for asking a gentleman “what ends you from g” 😔
The golden conversation template I have been scrolling TH-cam for 🎉
I find asking questions staright away isn't the best way in my opinion. I find it best to do most of the speaking at first, smile and tell them something funny etc, then I'll ask them a question.
Funny how im more scared if i were to ask "What part of town are you from?" That they will ask me the same thing and find out the location i live and- yeah i have trust issues for strangers 😊
Did that car just drive backwards at 2:10??
lol I noticed that too😂
i think thats so true that the risky conversation is more memorable than the boring safe one
Needed a video like this for so long
Can't believe I came here to figure out how to talk with the members of my own specy
I just feel great that you mentioned Nigeria in this video
Him: Makes eye contact with girl, "Where are you from?"
Girl: "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND"
Him: T-Poses
Girl: I still have a boyfriend
Him: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND sounds like a nice place
Him: "What country you from?"
Her: "What?"
Him: "What ain't any country I ever heard of, they speak English in what?"
Make a video on both things how to start conversation with someone and how to end conversation with someone.... Its really informative
Nice video thank you for what you doing many people need this
3:10 yes yes yes! I gave a speech once that followed a parallel method. It was titled "What's the Point?" a play on words because the topic had to do with the idea of pointing (the gesture) being considered offensive today, yet it's simply a high risk high reward gesture. Want to know what my "point" of impact was? Uncle Sam. I asked the audience, "do you think Uncle Sam would have been as resonating if he wasn't pointing?"
Funny how this was recommended to me now that I needed it d most.
oh how i hate being shy
These videos are gold!
I have exam and i’m watching this 😮💨 i mean it’s improvement pill, why not?
Same as you. I have an important exam in 4 days and im here watching improvment videos.
Me too but why now?😢
Finally, Conversation Manager 2024 🎉🎉🎉🎉
I know all of that but I still have fun when I hear you 😂❤
It feels like I'm an alien learning how to act natural while talking to humans to colect information about them
loved it❤❤❤
Great video ❤
He's back guys 🎉
Definitely sounds like great advice if, like you mentioned, you're in a place like new york. Contact especially possibly being universal. But I feel like the place and words you will actually say heavily depend on your country and culture of the two people engaged.
Yes. Americans for instance are more open and ready to have a conversation with strangers, as opposed to Austrians.
@@stueyphone and this is how overthinking starts :)
I love the cutie bees at the end of this video!
cool video. While watching, I noticed that I was already using some of these techniques unconsciously.
As someone from Nigeria this is honestly true
just stare at them until they say something
This video is great i can be quite sociable but when i talk to new people hanging around im confident in myself but can never find the right way to start a new in depth conversation with someone
It may look strange for some people. Like why you need my location, do you want to come and rob my house?
I have Aspergers and these videos are a lot of help
Personally, I find a better icebreaker to be a question relevant to the circumstance, like if on a bus "where you heading today?" or "what brings you to this part of town?". Asking somebody where they're from is a question I will eventually ask, but usually only after there's an exchange of words (such as with a taxi driver).
Also, a SMILE at the moment of eye contact really helps (just get in the habit of smiling when you see someone). And I find it's a lot easier to ask the question right after eye contact. If you wait more than a few seconds to ask the question, it starts to get awkward. You have to view every eye contact as a "window of opportunity".
I'm not an expert, but this is my experience :)
loved it
Tips to get people to open up to you more? I’m a very closed person but love to hear people’s concerns
I've got all these steps and here we are, he tie me up then told me to wait til he came back with a big surprise.
thank you so much
Some people dont like too shar where they came from i would change ur first question with any situiational question its a better than 1 qeustion all the times
thank you this is very informative
damn got me at step number 5 guess I'll never have a long term friend then
I was actually on the right track. I just need to deepen it.
Never wait for someone to reach you. Base in personal experience, waiting for someone notice you is like the tree waiting for birds. The birds only finds it if they need something from the tree. The majority of time people will search for you if they need something from u. Be real. Ask because you are really interested in them. Something got u curios about them.
In the other hand, take risk ( as the video says ). What would happen if you talk to that girl that you find attractive? The maximum is a simple no. And remember that no mean NEW OPPORTUNITiES.
Ask what you have to ask. If u find someone curious by something they said, ASK THEM. Probably you will never see them again.
Hope u could find this help full.
As a Finnish person this is horrifying
Great content. Beatiful! Dare to be exceptional. Dare to be Uncommon!
I hate being asked where I'm from & will tend to give you a shitty answer that let's you know to not ask but many people think this means they found treasure and need to dig. I never ask someone where they're from, instead I like to ask where they're going aka what they want to do, where they want to be. This is because I travel a lot & can give a lot of advice about a lot of places. I agree with saying someone's name the second time, a lot of people will forget your name but I always remember theirs, it once made a cashier look up my name but it was the wrong name so I caught her forgetting my name but now she gives me hugs when she sees me because I didn't yell at her for it.
this makes it feels so essy
I am your 100,000 th viewer 😊❤
When I was growing up it became a need to talk more, for example asking someone for help. And all these small interactions I had reaching adult life started to slowly take my anxiety away.
bros got that social skill method