There’s actually a lot of makeup artists for Chicago Med. It depends on what season this is. I didn’t even think she was wearing makeup because she looks that good. (I’m a cosmologist) It’s so subtle, this is probably the best “No makeup” makeup look I’ve ever seen.
I believe she's actually a model. She was on one of the earliest seasons of America's Next Top Model. I can't remember if she won that season, but if she didn't, she made it to the top 2 or 3. She was a cover girl also.
@@noahbodi6418The kind of woman he wants, is a 9-5, is ready for lunch when he is and if he says he doesn’t want her to work, then she drops everything for him. That’s the kind of woman he wants and he has to come to terms with that for himself. He wanted her to fit the mold he put her in. That’s ok for him, he has to find the woman who is willing and wants to be that for him, and then he had better treat her right.
@@noahbodi6418I doubt it. Women are more fulfilled by their passions than relationships. Once she loves what she does, she puts a man in the passenger seat.
@@noahbodi6418he is not high value, he has kid with another chick which he hid from her for while. He is makes about the same or less than her. He plays mind games.
Some of y'all probably didn't actually watch the episode. They met while she was a nurse. They were not together very long when he proposed and he already had a kid from a previous relationship (to my recollection). She had a miscarriage and they think it was due to her Tuberculosis (she got it sometime in her life, she's Brazilian). He thinks it's because she has such a high stress job and expected a different kind of woman. A woman who is submissive and at home. She had always wanted to be a doctor but in her family only the men are doctors not the women. So she settled with that. The doctor she's talking to is her little brother.
Oops, i just made a comment saying she should dump her husband and start dating the light skinned doctor😂. Guess thats not gonna happen now that hes her brother😫
@@kimsears5265 not to that extent. He wanted a stay at home mom, she never wanted that. Young people should realise that love is not enough for marriage.
@@potocatepetland how is he supposed to have a stay at home mom for his kid with no kid? The baby never made it to earth. People do weird things when a loose like that happens, and it in fact can change people to that extent. Thats why they say “ you don’t leave the same person you married” because that person has changed along with their expectations. Life isn’t black and white like you are describing. People are complex and have a wide range of emotions. What’s really important is communicating with your partner throughout.
@@sophiachin1262it’s called incompatibility and it’s perfectly normal. They didn’t need to do anything more other than break up. Not every person you encounter will be for a lifetime.
@indigoGoddess7 Marraige council is an option. He doesn't need a new wife,he needs a new perspective. This is a silly reason to break up a marriage. But this is the message T.V. wants to send out to audiences. If something like this breaks their Marraige, then they will never have a successful relationship in the future.
Well, to make matters complicated, it takes TWO to make a successful relationship work. Not just one. If you think he's the perfect, compatible person, *HE* may not think so! He may think you are the wrong person as what happend to me last year, when I dated this guy for almost 6 months! Ends up breaking things off with me because HE didn't think we were compatible, but I did. It was disappointing, but what could I have done. I was only 50% of the control of the union.
That’s why we have bladder issues. I’m 61 now, over 40 years in nursing. Went many shifts without going to the bathroom. Eating Fritos out of my pocket, no time to sit down.
@@yoshikay8787he’s taking her being busy at work personally, like it’s a rejection of him. People with busy / vocational jobs are not a good fit for those who are insecure & don’t have their own sense of purpose.
Your job shouldn't be prioritized over your marriage. That's why the vows says for better or worse, rich or poor. You can lose your job at a moment. You can't compromise, then its time to find someone that can. Time is wasted.
That should never be the case. I know this is just a show lol, but people need to stop talking like that. All care facilities should be appropriately staffed so that people can take breaks on time. No one should be forced to work a full 8 hour shift without eating or being able to go to the bathroom regardless of one’s profession all for the sake of corporate greed.
@@HandmaidsTaleComingForUsAllYou’re chastising the wrong people. The nurses are overworked and understaffed, under-resourced. And they push through their lunches to keep patients alive 😢 the people you want to whine at, are the ones who creating that situation. Perhaps you should become involved politically, attend protests, write letters to powerful people and institutions… You’re mad at the victims for being victims- but you’re not willing to actually address the victimizers.
It would be great if making sure the medical staff had enough time for bathroom breaks and possibly more than a bite or two while on the run was deemed important, but unfortunately the easiest way for a business to cut costs is through cutting employee hours. If there are enough people there to handle the workload and also allow breaks, obviously someone needs to be sent home or told to come in late. At least, that seems to often be management’s POV.
@@HandmaidsTaleComingForUsAllthey read it and you can see they did they just address the part you conveniently left out or just flat out didn’t acknowledge
Breaking up with someone you still love and care for takes a lot of strength & maturity. Sometimes two people just aren’t right for each other, regardless of how good their hearts are.
RNs are amazing superheroes. I'm sitting with my father in an ICU hospital room as he slowly fades away. The RNs have been so kind and patient with my father, diligent in care taking and pain management and and to see their medical training is truly impressive. Shoutout to the RNs, PT and OT staff, and speech therapist at Hermann Hospital in Houston, TX. Thanks for taking care of my dad. ❤
Proper break up. Both were mature about it Edit: goddamn I posted this two weeks ago and forgot all about it. Now I have over 4000 likes? Lmao. Look ma, I'm relevant
@@manawar1969he’s someone who wants a partner that has the ability to put more time into their relationship. Nothing wrong with that. And a breakup is the best outcome for both since they can’t work out a middle ground
She is so beautiful. I think acting was a better path for her than the modeling, because even though both are toxic industries, the exploitation, drug use, and eating disorders that the modeling industry inflicts on these women is brutal, and she has more to offer than her flawless looks.
Love and appreciate Nurses. My Cousin was a Nurse for almost 40 yrs. Sometimes She took home her lunch(she takes her lunch to work). My problem is Nurses are busy taking care of other folks and neglect themselves. End up with a early grave. Especially those who decide they prefer alternative medication. Like my Dear Cousin who end up with an early grave. Nurses take care of yourselves and stop playing Dr on yourselves!✌️♥️♥️♥️♥️
It’s a blessing to have a spouse who understands and respects your demanding and fulfilling career knowing that you’ll make time for them every chance you get.
Sure. Until they realize that "every chance" is the same thing as "never." Then you blame the spouse for not waiting long enough, being dedicated enough, being understanding enough. And it's BS.
That’s not a compromise for someone to fit you in when it suits them. I was in a relationship like that and I always felt like I had to beg for his time and I wasn’t a priority so I ended the relationship. Don’t go into a relationship if you’re not willing to compromise some things in your life.
That's such a hard decision to make. Sometimes, someone loves the idea of you, and their idea will never come true. It takes fearlessness to admit what will not happen, and admit that someone deserves someone, and something else.
Thank u false I was snoozed goin through these comments lookin for the shoes name and all I see is people describing the show..like just say the name🙄but thank u 🙏🏾
Yes. When she said you are looking for a different kind of woman I felt that. It is something weighing on my mind rn. Cause I don’t want to die living a life I don’t want.
I feel it, too: I have two working-class gods (a construction worker and disabled electrician respectively) who are attracted to me and I admit it, I have considered what marriage would be like with each of them more than once but I am convinced that it would not work. I am not a traditional/ working-class woman; while I have some of the qualities that they admire I don’t have traits that they consider a given. For example: I dress modestly and avoid drama, I never beg them for money or try to force a conversation when we’re together and they’re clearly not in the mood to talk BUT I hate to cook, I pay someone to clean my house and I have RAMPANT ADHD. I gleefully engage in philosophical and sociological discussions but I have also locked myself out of my house so often that I keep an extra set in my backpack. I have to set timers for EVERYTHING just to get through the day. I am NOT the cleaning all the time, making dinner every night sort. I know that with such expectations and my temperament I would be depressed, bingeing on sugar and 400 lbs. and they would be baffled by my sadness because this is generally a working-class woman’s dream come true. These are GOOD men who deserve a partner who wants a traditional relationship and I DESERVE a chatty, emotive philosopher who uses SAT words in regular conversations. #knowyourself #brownnerdgirldreams
TV always show these couple who have a grasp on what's wrong with their relation. I feel like all I see around me are clueless people who only know how to be jerks to each other when things go south.
I think.. most of us knows exactly whats wrong and what to change in our lives (relationships included) it’s just that we ain’t brave enough… I spend 10 years in a relationship that never made me happy, she’s GREAT, best woman a man can get, BUT.. it’s just that… I dont have feelings for ppl in general, so… how do you say something like this to someone that loves you??… yeah
@@donotreplydumbpeople3866 You start by saying "While I can appreciate the fact that you have true affection for me, I am nihilistic and do not hold the same emotions towards anyone, even you, the way you should expect or deserve. Please know that I never intended to lead you on or use you as a place filler. The truth is- I have recognized this in myself and need you to understand that.I can't give you what you seek to get from me. You deserve someone more emotionally available to you. I hope you can understand." 🎶It could all be so simple...but you'd rather make it hard...loving you is a battle, and we both end up with scars. Tell me, who I have to please, to get some reciprocity...🎶 -Lauryn Hill, from The MisEducation Of Lauryn Hill (classic song lyrics from a classic album)
@@donotreplydumbpeople3866consider your sexuality. If you don't have feelings for people, you might be aromantic. There's nothing wrong with being who you are. People would judge you, call you names, but not experiencing romantic attraction does not make you evil or a psychopath. You can be kind and sweet, and still not have feelings for people. As for your woman, she has the right to know.. It's hard but you should do what's right. This situation is not fair to either of you.
Former nurse here, uh what lunch, what dinner? If that snack wasn't in my pocket, I wasn't eating! Anyone remember grabbing snacks from the patient refrigerator?
I work nights we have a food cart that comes around and when I can I got to that and get something I still don’t get to eat it right away. I’m always at my desk eating 😂😂😂
I wish all break ups could be like this one. It happened before anyone got angry and bitter. They both realized that what they had wasn't what they wanted and there was no point to trying to force their partner into a different mold.
what he means is I want my ideal version of you, not the reality of you. this is who she is and she has always been upfront and clear about that. he thought he could change her into who he wanted her to be
1000% I would like to add that this situation of trying to change someone is a mindset that everyone does, if we do hold ourselves accountable like her character did, then a lot of people will leave the person that don't match with them sooner than later, it's a bonus for everyone in a good way but not a bonus for people who needs to manipulate and control. He saw the passion, value and worth of this woman, he wanted to have all that in the type of woman he wants. I have to say it's disrespectful to assume such drive and strength will be yours just because your there. Of course he would never pick someone without a job, there's to much "what ifs" with her he knows she will be up to par to difficult and unknown challenges coming her way, but someone you have to learn to grow with has never been very desirable to men in general when it comes to a territory that they have no upper hand on... I'm not trying to pan out anybody as a bad guy, but I do feel like if she were to have that baby he was going to hope that she would choose the baby and stay home instead of the job, but being a doctor has always been her passion because there's no women working as doctors in her family only the men so she decided to go a different route and isn't giving it for someone that wants her to change that part of her. Self-preservation is something women really need to hold on to period. I'm happy that she picked and kept on stepping, who has time for being guilt tripped for something that she already told him about. Is one thing she never opened her mouth and wasn't very expressive but she was very upfront with what she said she was never going to do.
@wtbmorezvifflemeyer Things are changing and women are realising they can't change a man, so at the first indiscretion, they are bouncing. Slowly but surely.
My mom and dad died in 2013 from cancer and COPD. Dad died in hospital and mom died in nursing home. Idk what probs nurses/docs had outside of their stressful and difficult work but one ☝🏾 thing I’ve noticed is that they have NEVER took it out on the patients. Even when they died I never blamed them for not caring or not giving their full attention/support. It’s been 11 years and I still share communication with the nurses whose played a part in my parents life. They have become my extended family. ❤
This is a very mature break up. No villains here. They want different things in life . They are not wrong for wanting it. They are not compatible and thats just fine. It is fine to disagree. It is fine to let each other go if your goals don't match without demonizing one another.
I dont understand "we want different things so we cant be together". Isnt it that the things they want are incompatible, more so than different? My girl is vegan and I eat everything. We want different things but those things dont prevent our union
If you work in a place where that's a routine occurrence, that isn't a good excuse anymore. Every day people die in ER's, and there *are* other nurses. Your family still needs you.
She works at a hospital, not a convenience store. What are you expecting? Talking about avoiding accountability, where? She's works at place where she literally can't. If she does someone dies.
I’m a nurse and my wonderful husband will be waiting in the lobby a long time just to give me my lunch because it’s hard to break free sometimes in a critical care environment. But you got to find a balance. The truth is the hospital will be fine without you. Take care of your loved ones and always create quality time for them ❤
Yep. Mine would send me out to work if money got tight, then 2 months later when debts had been paid he started in whining about how he didn't like coming home to no dinner and having to "babysit" his own kid. So then he'd badger me to quit. Frustrating AF when some man feels entitled to use your labor however he pleases.
@@LostintheTanglenext time don't quit and never tell him the amount you make file your taxes different so you can save and invest your money for the future of you and kids when shit hits the fan. You husband is a douche
@@sakurakittynoir1400 oh yeah. Long ago. And never married again. At age 42 I gave up men altogether. That was 20 years ago and I'm still happy with my decision. Thanks so much for your concern, have a lovely week! 🩷
Good for her. Give yall both what you guys want. To continue her career. And for him to start his family in a safe manner for him. Good. Glad they didn't drag it along and make eachother more miserable then it was
Yeah some people are making him out to be the bad guy, which I don't really think is fair. There are many people that would prefer to spend more than a couple hours a week of quality time with their loved one and feel like a priority. It's not bad that someone wants the opportunity to spend a 20 minute lunch with their significant other
Being married to a medical professional is not as easy as everyone thinks but patience is key. These people save lives daily and their work is got damn hard. If you can't soldier it out. Go down the street to the weak. 🎉
@@isaiahpadilla3588 That's TOXIC masculity energy... Two WHOLE independent people should be together, not CODEPENDENT on each other. Her goals changed as their relationship evolved, and that's OK! His "program" wasn't what she wanted, nor was it her life purpose. It's better that be happy apart, attracting who is really meant for them and aligned with their future, than to be together, with resentment. Never "lose yourself" in a relationship to appease another person.
Some men I've come across love the idea of being with a healthcare worker, but are not willing to endure the long shifts, night shifts, or need for "letdown" once we are off. This type of work takes empathy, patience and selfless thoughts to work. But it can work❤
I must’ve started watching the season late. I completely missed this Episode. I’m so Used to April being With Ethan. Let me go back to the beginning & rewatch the series so I can catch up. ✨🥰
From my experience and saving myself the heartache. Doctors should only date doctors. They live in their own time and usually only have time for other doctors.
Those relationships crash and burn faster as it becomes about who has the higher priority, scheduling, and in many cases, two alphas bumping heads as they have the same personality
This is the first time that I saw this show. I’m gonna have to watch it! 😊 Yaya looks fabulous!!!! ❤❤ Glad they broke up and didn’t create children and or drag out their incompatibility.
When a man or woman tries to change their spouse to be what they are not it doesn’t end well. Let your partner achieve their dreams and goals without you being threatened.
Let me try and explain something to some of you. In life you have to do your best to do what's basic especially when you're with someone. She told him they could eat together. When she found out she didn't have time for that she could have saved him the drive like he said. It's painful to leave what you're doing to go somewhere just to be told no when they could have easily texted. If you haven't been in that situation then don't be quick to judge. And he was right to be sad. Nobody knows what he was doing and how many times she canceled on them. I don't suggest anyone to marry someone that's a doctor or a nurse for this exact reason unless they're in the same field. But that's just a suggestion, you do you.
Yeah I agree 100% She wants him to understand bc he KNEW this was her field, but no one can imagine what it's like to be with someone who saves lives- police officers, emt/paramedics, firefighters, doctors, military personnel.. first responders or life savers period. U can not imagine. I feel for her and I feel for him. She could've taken the time to text while she was walking to the vending machine. For her, her life saving work had her mind occupied. I'm not mad at that. Imagine your doctor responds to her bf rather than spend time thinking about how to save you... it's hard on both parties.
@@GIMMIETHEBALLMEDIA no I agree with ur premise. She could've let him know. Ijs anyone dating someone in the life saving field has to be prepared for this.
@@MarjuanJonesto each their own priorities. You don't get to judge what people prioritize. Marriage is cool and all but does it save fricken lives?? I don't think so. In this scenario, her work is 100% more important than stupid social relations.
You have to meet people where they are at in a relationship. You have to accept their lifestyle if you accept them. You can't expect them to change for you.
No career accolades will be able to keep a career woman company. Without family the majority of career women (and men for that matter) will have a miserable old age. Do not be deceived.
@@TailsFan lol yep she’s been in more and more acting roles these last few years. She seems to do pretty good with the stuff I’ve seen. Maybe acting was the better fit after all.
I’m so proud of her like she has came along way from ANTM….it’s like she didn’t win but that competition but she is winning keep it up YaYa we love you💜💜💜
People do this to one another all the time: mad and bitter because you can't make someone fit the mold or be the life you want. Beating someone up emotionally to try to force something, or even beating yourself up, is abusive and the perfect formula for misery.
You know how many men i’ve dated say they love having a nurse.. but then when your at the hospital 16 hours, they are like what the hell. I don’t like this, u can’t possibly be at work that long. 😂😂Dialysis nurse here
Thank you so much for this video. I have too many people from work hinting that I will/should settle or go and have a baby. I am a BSN, RN and going for my masters. Only 28 y.o. I have no interest in settling and nor do put being in a relationship on a pedestal.
Nah. After so many years never being a priority, hoping your so-called "partner" can manage giving you a lunch together once in a blue moon isn't too much to ask. In fact, it's far too LITTLE to ask. There's always more work, always an excuse. Always another priority with these types. Families always struggle when they're *never* a priority.
@@alluringbliss4165 Make whatever assumptions you need to be dismissive. I have worked a "serious job." I've slept under a desk during crunch time. And I was married to the Type A partner with another "serious job" where I went weeks without even seeing them. So yes, I do in fact have a "concept" what I'm talking about. I just don't gobble up the excuses people tell themselves about it. And if she wants to use "dying patients" as an excuse for treating her family like an afterthought, let's chat about all the patients overworked nurses and doctors KILL because of it.
@@alluringbliss4165 as a medical doctor, there has never been a point where you’re too busy to have lunch. Even neurosurgeons have at least 30 minutes of their day to spend time on lunch
Whoever did her make up is an artist, she looks ethereal and flawless
There’s actually a lot of makeup artists for Chicago Med. It depends on what season this is. I didn’t even think she was wearing makeup because she looks that good. (I’m a cosmologist) It’s so subtle, this is probably the best “No makeup” makeup look I’ve ever seen.
And she's in her forties!!!!! I thought she was in her mid twenties
I was just thinking the same thing!
Right?! She’s absolutely beautiful!❤❤❤
I believe she's actually a model. She was on one of the earliest seasons of America's Next Top Model. I can't remember if she won that season, but if she didn't, she made it to the top 2 or 3. She was a cover girl also.
He met her as a nurse and wanted to change her to what he wanted... glad she broke it off.
In real life she'll regret it before he does. It harder to find a high value man then it is to find a woman.
@@noahbodi6418The kind of woman he wants, is a 9-5, is ready for lunch when he is and if he says he doesn’t want her to work, then she drops everything for him. That’s the kind of woman he wants and he has to come to terms with that for himself. He wanted her to fit the mold he put her in.
That’s ok for him, he has to find the woman who is willing and wants to be that for him, and then he had better treat her right.
@@noahbodi6418I doubt it. Women are more fulfilled by their passions than relationships. Once she loves what she does, she puts a man in the passenger seat.
@@noahbodi6418he is not high value, he has kid with another chick which he hid from her for while. He is makes about the same or less than her. He plays mind games.
"I hope you find everything you want" "You too" really got me. You can love someone deeply and not be compatible with them.
The downside to looking for Mr perfect is staying single forever. Not a problem if kids weren’t conceived along the way 😢
That is so true. Sometimes you can't force it.
Facts,sometimes love is not enough.
Huh
Nope. Doesn’t work that way. People use that as an excuse.
Some of y'all probably didn't actually watch the episode. They met while she was a nurse. They were not together very long when he proposed and he already had a kid from a previous relationship (to my recollection).
She had a miscarriage and they think it was due to her Tuberculosis (she got it sometime in her life, she's Brazilian). He thinks it's because she has such a high stress job and expected a different kind of woman. A woman who is submissive and at home. She had always wanted to be a doctor but in her family only the men are doctors not the women. So she settled with that. The doctor she's talking to is her little brother.
I didn't know that dude was her little brother! They don't look anything alike, interesting.
She didn't become a doctor because it took too many years, nursing was quicker and she wanted to pay for her younger brother's career as a doctor.
@@MusicLoverMN why would they look alike on a fictional show? 😅
This show is Chicago Med and your rendition was perfect.
Oops, i just made a comment saying she should dump her husband and start dating the light skinned doctor😂. Guess thats not gonna happen now that hes her brother😫
People should be clear on their expectations prior to getting married and should be sure they have same values
Life changes as do people.
@@kimsears5265 not to that extent. He wanted a stay at home mom, she never wanted that. Young people should realise that love is not enough for marriage.
Expectations and values change change overtime though
@@potocatepetland how is he supposed to have a stay at home mom for his kid with no kid? The baby never made it to earth. People do weird things when a loose like that happens, and it in fact can change people to that extent. Thats why they say “ you don’t leave the same person you married” because that person has changed along with their expectations.
Life isn’t black and white like you are describing. People are complex and have a wide range of emotions. What’s really important is communicating with your partner throughout.
@@yaoilover0 have you watch the series'? That is what he wanted and expected. She wanted a career. They just ignored the issue until that point.
The nurse is absolutely stunning
Yaya Dacosta ❤
Man, talk about aging gracefully. Yaya looks even better here than when she was on America’s Next Top Model!
Wait, what? What season?
@@lbention Cycle 3. She was runner up to Eva Pigford.
Duh, she's black.
Thank you for this comment! I was trying to figure out where I knew her from!
I remember!!!! that was the best season in my opinion. Ann was there to right? I might be mistaken but she was the lady with the glasses???
I love how they both agreed respectfully instead of waiting years in misery.
They gave up too soon. It's a modern day fuckery. 😮😮😮
Me too! I thought that was so beautiful! 😊
@@sophiachin1262it’s called incompatibility and it’s perfectly normal. They didn’t need to do anything more other than break up.
Not every person you encounter will be for a lifetime.
@@indigoGoddess7thank you. In our community, sisters are shamed and encouraged to remain in failing toxic relationships for the sake of noir love.
@indigoGoddess7 Marraige council is an option. He doesn't need a new wife,he needs a new perspective. This is a silly reason to break up a marriage. But this is the message T.V. wants to send out to audiences. If something like this breaks their Marraige, then they will never have a successful relationship in the future.
We have to realize when someone is the wrong person. Be honest about the type & kind of mate you want to help avoid going thru this stuff. 🙏🏽
Exactly! Otherwise you’ll waste time and precious energy trying to change them, it’s not going to happen!
Correct!! I wish I would have stopped many relationships because I thought things would change. Wasted years!!
@@shirl3942 Me too! Now we do a lot better.😊🙌🏽🙏🏽😇💕
Or prioritize ur marriage and maybe u can keep it 🤷🏾♂️ just a thought
Well, to make matters complicated, it takes TWO to make a successful relationship work. Not just one. If you think he's the perfect, compatible person, *HE* may not think so! He may think you are the wrong person as what happend to me last year, when I dated this guy for almost 6 months! Ends up breaking things off with me because HE didn't think we were compatible, but I did. It was disappointing, but what could I have done. I was only 50% of the control of the union.
Sometimes, I have to REMIND myself to go pee...ER nurse.
❤❤❤ you do great work...❤❤
Yup. And then they wonder why we always get UTIs....🥴
Thank you so much for your work
I'm a CNA and I know I got too long without peeing.
That’s why we have bladder issues. I’m 61 now, over 40 years in nursing. Went many shifts without going to the bathroom. Eating Fritos out of my pocket, no time to sit down.
That was a positive break up....the love is there, but the compatibility is gone
Not compatibility. More priority! He’s prioritizing her more than she is him!! Definitely not a good balance.
@@yoshikay8787he’s taking her being busy at work personally, like it’s a rejection of him. People with busy / vocational jobs are not a good fit for those who are insecure & don’t have their own sense of purpose.
@@barbaragunter4957 So her purpose was her job; not him. Gotcha!👌🏾
@@yoshikay8787 yup. You seem to have taken offence to that too?
Your job shouldn't be prioritized over your marriage. That's why the vows says for better or worse, rich or poor. You can lose your job at a moment. You can't compromise, then its time to find someone that can. Time is wasted.
She’s come a long way from top model ❤❤❤❤❤
She was amodel...??
I admire her style on the lincoln lawyer. And she has such a soft voice.
yes you should go look it up.. she killed her looks
What's the name of the series
@ season 3 of top model
Yeah and she hasn't aged...am gagged
Who has time for a lunch date when you work in a hospital?! I could never have time to pee let alone eat!
That should never be the case. I know this is just a show lol, but people need to stop talking like that. All care facilities should be appropriately staffed so that people can take breaks on time. No one should be forced to work a full 8 hour shift without eating or being able to go to the bathroom regardless of one’s profession all for the sake of corporate greed.
@@HandmaidsTaleComingForUsAllYou’re chastising the wrong people. The nurses are overworked and understaffed, under-resourced. And they push through their lunches to keep patients alive 😢 the people you want to whine at, are the ones who creating that situation. Perhaps you should become involved politically, attend protests, write letters to powerful people and institutions…
You’re mad at the victims for being victims- but you’re not willing to actually address the victimizers.
@@OpalLeigh-il8yj You clearly didn’t understand what I wrote. You should reread it.
It would be great if making sure the medical staff had enough time for bathroom breaks and possibly more than a bite or two while on the run was deemed important, but unfortunately the easiest way for a business to cut costs is through cutting employee hours. If there are enough people there to handle the workload and also allow breaks, obviously someone needs to be sent home or told to come in late. At least, that seems to often be management’s POV.
@@HandmaidsTaleComingForUsAllthey read it and you can see they did they just address the part you conveniently left out or just flat out didn’t acknowledge
Breaking up with someone you still love and care for takes a lot of strength & maturity. Sometimes two people just aren’t right for each other, regardless of how good their hearts are.
She chose her job over her marriage. She doesn't love him. This is a major problem in the west & it's why men are choosing not to marry.
He is a fool.
No it’s weak there was no fight for each other.
@@cjohnson7187 Why Fight for something that's obviously unachievable. These two live incompatible lives and were mature enough to recognize it.
But she'll be the exact 1 on social media in 5-10 years saying there are no men haha! Probably next week.
RNs are amazing superheroes. I'm sitting with my father in an ICU hospital room as he slowly fades away. The RNs have been so kind and patient with my father, diligent in care taking and pain management and and to see their medical training is truly impressive. Shoutout to the RNs, PT and OT staff, and speech therapist at Hermann Hospital in Houston, TX. Thanks for taking care of my dad. ❤
Proper break up. Both were mature about it
Edit: goddamn I posted this two weeks ago and forgot all about it. Now I have over 4000 likes? Lmao. Look ma, I'm relevant
And respectful.
And….it was written in the script 😂 Good writing!
He's a control freak
@@manawar1969he’s someone who wants a partner that has the ability to put more time into their relationship. Nothing wrong with that. And a breakup is the best outcome for both since they can’t work out a middle ground
@@mayl4152nah. He just wants control of her schedule and all of her attention on him. He thinks he IS the relationship. He’s not.
She is so beautiful. I think acting was a better path for her than the modeling, because even though both are toxic industries, the exploitation, drug use, and eating disorders that the modeling industry inflicts on these women is brutal, and she has more to offer than her flawless looks.
What's her name?
@@thebeatnumber YaYa DaCosta
@@AriesSimmer I thought that was YaYa👍 She looks just as young as she did when she was on ANTM.✨
@@bamarealist she sure does! ✨️ Sparkling like a diamond.
Love and appreciate Nurses. My Cousin was a Nurse for almost 40 yrs. Sometimes She took home her lunch(she takes her lunch to work). My problem is Nurses are busy taking care of other folks and neglect themselves. End up with a early grave. Especially those who decide they prefer alternative medication. Like my Dear Cousin who end up with an early grave. Nurses take care of yourselves and stop playing Dr on yourselves!✌️♥️♥️♥️♥️
We all fall in love with an idea and not with a person. Time doesn't kill love, it just show us what reality is...
beautifull.. ❤ (But we have to find a balance.. )
Truth
Yes
hmmn, you are kind of right
Time shows if you’re truly committed to someone, flaws and all, or if you’re just going to give up on them when it gets hard.
They didn't get married because she loved being a nurse. She later married the doctor she'd been dating off and on, and they started a mobile clinic.
Glad I kept scrolling. Wondered if this was before she dated the doctor.
Cho?
@@Natyourpl8 Dr. Ethan Choi, i believe
@@magnificent_kimberly thank you, that’s who I meant to say!
What’s the name of this show.❤
This woman has the best “no makeup” 💄 MAKEUP I have seen in a very long time. Give this onset MUA a raise!
It’s a blessing to have a spouse who understands and respects your demanding and fulfilling career knowing that you’ll make time for them every chance you get.
Sure. Until they realize that "every chance" is the same thing as "never." Then you blame the spouse for not waiting long enough, being dedicated enough, being understanding enough. And it's BS.
The problem is when they don’t have the reassurance that you truly are making that time.
That’s not a compromise for someone to fit you in when it suits them. I was in a relationship like that and I always felt like I had to beg for his time and I wasn’t a priority so I ended the relationship. Don’t go into a relationship if you’re not willing to compromise some things in your life.
@@MarianLivingLife Well said and well done.
Why would you want to live that kind of life? Waiting for chance?
Acceptance is a key ingredient to a healthy relationship. If your happiness causes someone to give up their happiness, neither one wins.
The most grown-up and respectful way was to wrap up a relationship
That's such a hard decision to make. Sometimes, someone loves the idea of you, and their idea will never come true. It takes fearlessness to admit what will not happen, and admit that someone deserves someone, and something else.
Chicago med is the name of the show
Thanks
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you
Thank u false I was snoozed goin through these comments lookin for the shoes name and all I see is people describing the show..like just say the name🙄but thank u 🙏🏾
Breaking up in a mature and good fashion is so good. Every relationship doesn't have to end in hate.
Yes. When she said you are looking for a different kind of woman I felt that. It is something weighing on my mind rn. Cause I don’t want to die living a life I don’t want.
Amen!!!!!!!!!
If you feel it, what he says is a lie. Leave.
Amen to that
I feel it, too: I have two working-class gods (a construction worker and disabled electrician respectively) who are attracted to me and I admit it, I have considered what marriage would be like with each of them more than once but I am convinced that it would not work. I am not a traditional/ working-class woman; while I have some of the qualities that they admire I don’t have traits that they consider a given. For example: I dress modestly and avoid drama, I never beg them for money or try to force a conversation when we’re together and they’re clearly not in the mood to talk BUT I hate to cook, I pay someone to clean my house and I have RAMPANT ADHD. I gleefully engage in philosophical and sociological discussions but I have also locked myself out of my house so often that I keep an extra set in my backpack. I have to set timers for EVERYTHING just to get through the day. I am NOT the cleaning all the time, making dinner every night sort. I know that with such expectations and my temperament I would be depressed, bingeing on sugar and 400 lbs. and they would be baffled by my sadness because this is generally a working-class woman’s dream come true. These are GOOD men who deserve a partner who wants a traditional relationship and I DESERVE a chatty, emotive philosopher who uses SAT words in regular conversations.
#knowyourself
#brownnerdgirldreams
@@kalistrand5420 I just want you to know that you helped me so much just now and you are a complete stranger. Thank you.
TV always show these couple who have a grasp on what's wrong with their relation. I feel like all I see around me are clueless people who only know how to be jerks to each other when things go south.
@@sidoniemanyfoba1654 self awareness is not an innate skill, unfortunately
I think.. most of us knows exactly whats wrong and what to change in our lives (relationships included) it’s just that we ain’t brave enough…
I spend 10 years in a relationship that never made me happy, she’s GREAT, best woman a man can get, BUT.. it’s just that… I dont have feelings for ppl in general, so… how do you say something like this to someone that loves you??… yeah
@donotreplydumbpeople3866 Wow. You sound like my ex.
@@donotreplydumbpeople3866 You start by saying "While I can appreciate the fact that you have true affection for me, I am nihilistic and do not hold the same emotions towards anyone, even you, the way you should expect or deserve. Please know that I never intended to lead you on or use you as a place filler. The truth is- I have recognized this in myself and need you to understand that.I can't give you what you seek to get from me. You deserve someone more emotionally available to you. I hope you can understand."
🎶It could all be so simple...but you'd rather make it hard...loving you is a battle, and we both end up with scars.
Tell me, who I have to please, to get some reciprocity...🎶 -Lauryn Hill, from The MisEducation Of Lauryn Hill (classic song lyrics from a classic album)
@@donotreplydumbpeople3866consider your sexuality. If you don't have feelings for people, you might be aromantic. There's nothing wrong with being who you are. People would judge you, call you names, but not experiencing romantic attraction does not make you evil or a psychopath. You can be kind and sweet, and still not have feelings for people. As for your woman, she has the right to know.. It's hard but you should do what's right. This situation is not fair to either of you.
The work husband “I just want you to be happy”
He's her brother
😂 There is usually always that one friend
The blind spot...on spot😂
Work husband was a whole h03
He's not her husband, they were engaged
men be entitled before they're even real.
Oh kk better
@@dian277ironicccc
Thank God for his sake!
I hear that nurses cheat a lot. He probably saved himself a huge headache.
Sometimes the best thing is to admit the truth, honor it and move on.
This is a great example of stories teaching important truths. They both maturely recognized they weren’t what the other expected and needed.
Former nurse here, uh what lunch, what dinner? If that snack wasn't in my pocket, I wasn't eating! Anyone remember grabbing snacks from the patient refrigerator?
Plenty of on call nights as a resident eating peanut butter and crackers at 3 am! And I was in pediatrics so there was always chocolate milk 😂😂😂
😅
Peanut butter and crackers in the pocket to keep going. 🤷🏾
I work nights we have a food cart that comes around and when I can I got to that and get something I still don’t get to eat it right away. I’m always at my desk eating 😂😂😂
Cans of soup, packs of peanut butter in my locker.
She’s beautiful. her makeup is flawless
Yaya also looks like that without makeup too. She's just incredibly stunning.
Stunning but unrealistic in that profession. And she wouldn't have her nails done either
She’s flawless…
She was a model before acting she's was on America's next top model with Tyra Banks
I agree
Thank you Rev Sam and Apostle
I wish all break ups could be like this one. It happened before anyone got angry and bitter. They both realized that what they had wasn't what they wanted and there was no point to trying to force their partner into a different mold.
what he means is I want my ideal version of you, not the reality of you. this is who she is and she has always been upfront and clear about that. he thought he could change her into who he wanted her to be
Why did he even go for a nurse instead of a woman with no job?
1000%
I would like to add that this situation of trying to change someone is a mindset that everyone does, if we do hold ourselves accountable like her character did, then a lot of people will leave the person that don't match with them sooner than later, it's a bonus for everyone in a good way but not a bonus for people who needs to manipulate and control.
He saw the passion, value and worth of this woman, he wanted to have all that in the type of woman he wants. I have to say it's disrespectful to assume such drive and strength will be yours just because your there.
Of course he would never pick someone without a job, there's to much "what ifs" with her he knows she will be up to par to difficult and unknown challenges coming her way, but someone you have to learn to grow with has never been very desirable to men in general when it comes to a territory that they have no upper hand on...
I'm not trying to pan out anybody as a bad guy, but I do feel like if she were to have that baby he was going to hope that she would choose the baby and stay home instead of the job, but being a doctor has always been her passion because there's no women working as doctors in her family only the men so she decided to go a different route and isn't giving it for someone that wants her to change that part of her.
Self-preservation is something women really need to hold on to period.
I'm happy that she picked and kept on stepping, who has time for being guilt tripped for something that she already told him about. Is one thing she never opened her mouth and wasn't very expressive but she was very upfront with what she said she was never going to do.
@@Sweet_Wild_Life_Art 😂
Funny part is, women are sitting here cheering her and booing him, but the whole wanting to change the s/o is generally women's modus operandi
@wtbmorezvifflemeyer Things are changing and women are realising they can't change a man, so at the first indiscretion, they are bouncing. Slowly but surely.
My mom and dad died in 2013 from cancer and COPD. Dad died in hospital and mom died in nursing home. Idk what probs nurses/docs had outside of their stressful and difficult work but one ☝🏾 thing I’ve noticed is that they have NEVER took it out on the patients. Even when they died I never blamed them for not caring or not giving their full attention/support. It’s been 11 years and I still share communication with the nurses whose played a part in my parents life. They have become my extended family. ❤
In my twenties and thirties- had visits to my busy jobs. Not having that- moving forward.. I’ll see you at home.
This is a very mature break up. No villains here. They want different things in life . They are not wrong for wanting it. They are not compatible and thats just fine. It is fine to disagree. It is fine to let each other go if your goals don't match without demonizing one another.
I dont understand "we want different things so we cant be together".
Isnt it that the things they want are incompatible, more so than different?
My girl is vegan and I eat everything. We want different things but those things dont prevent our union
She’s so beautiful.
I’m so glad she left him. May it be this easy for everyone making the decision.
She’s so beautiful 😍 great acting too. But yeah, she could have text him to save him the trip.
Chicago Med. The best show ever
You should not be with a health care person if you are not ok with the timings and lack high level of maturity
"I'm sorry my dying patient inconvenienced you."💀
If you work in a place where that's a routine occurrence, that isn't a good excuse anymore. Every day people die in ER's, and there *are* other nurses. Your family still needs you.
@@DeadlyChinchilla don't they have 12 hr shifts with barely any breaks due to low staffing?
That's how they do. Anything to avoid accountability.
@@bc2250 She works at a hospital. It's not a simple slap on the wrist.
She works at a hospital, not a convenience store. What are you expecting? Talking about avoiding accountability, where? She's works at place where she literally can't. If she does someone dies.
I’m a nurse and my wonderful husband will be waiting in the lobby a long time just to give me my lunch because it’s hard to break free sometimes in a critical care environment. But you got to find a balance. The truth is the hospital will be fine without you. Take care of your loved ones and always create quality time for them ❤
These are the men who don’t want you to work, but complain about having to provide….
Yep. Mine would send me out to work if money got tight, then 2 months later when debts had been paid he started in whining about how he didn't like coming home to no dinner and having to "babysit" his own kid. So then he'd badger me to quit. Frustrating AF when some man feels entitled to use your labor however he pleases.
Bingo.
@@LostintheTanglenext time don't quit and never tell him the amount you make file your taxes different so you can save and invest your money for the future of you and kids when shit hits the fan. You husband is a douche
@@LostintheTangleplease tell me you left that guy.
@@sakurakittynoir1400 oh yeah. Long ago. And never married again. At age 42 I gave up men altogether. That was 20 years ago and I'm still happy with my decision. Thanks so much for your concern, have a lovely week! 🩷
he didn't want her, he wanted her to sacrifice for him.
Good for her. Give yall both what you guys want. To continue her career. And for him to start his family in a safe manner for him. Good. Glad they didn't drag it along and make eachother more miserable then it was
Its okay to want different things in life, it's also okay not to settle for those different things. Seems like no one settled here. Good for them.
Yeah some people are making him out to be the bad guy, which I don't really think is fair. There are many people that would prefer to spend more than a couple hours a week of quality time with their loved one and feel like a priority. It's not bad that someone wants the opportunity to spend a 20 minute lunch with their significant other
Ya Ya, My favorite Top Model Contestant! I love how much acting work she's gotten.
I came straight to the comments to see if this is YaYa, yes she was my favorite, then Eva.
She is beyond beautiful
Being married to a medical professional is not as easy as everyone thinks but patience is key. These people save lives daily and their work is got damn hard. If you can't soldier it out. Go down the street to the weak. 🎉
This part!!
@@sheastech Not “the weak.” 😂 I was with you until you said that. 😂
Hardest lesson to learn is to link with people (lovers, friends, etc) who are in alignment with your future, than your past.
I like that ❤
Sometimes that mightvinclude family.One cannot cut of family..but one has to better one's life with some distance from family.
Thanks Lord for your constant companionship and peace and mercy and salvation and forgiveness. Thanks Lord single no kids. Thanks Lord for you
The woman is supposed to get on board with the man's program not the other way around.
@@isaiahpadilla3588 That's TOXIC masculity energy... Two WHOLE independent people should be together, not CODEPENDENT on each other. Her goals changed as their relationship evolved, and that's OK! His "program" wasn't what she wanted, nor was it her life purpose. It's better that be happy apart, attracting who is really meant for them and aligned with their future, than to be together, with resentment. Never "lose yourself" in a relationship to appease another person.
I could relate to both points especially being the youngest in the room. Thank you for your vulnerability bro 🙏🏾
This is exactly why a Healthcare worker and a non Healthcare worker will always have a difficult relationship. It's a super amd complicated situation.
The whole point of a relationship is spending time with one another. A health care worker is too busy most of the time to have a serious relationship.
This is not true! Work can never be more important than family!! No excuses
Most ppl work two different professions. Have to manage and prioritize ❤
This not true at all
@kchat7414 Trust me, it is. I am not saying that there are not exceptions. However, as a HCW, I am speaking from personal experience.
Some men I've come across love the idea of being with a healthcare worker, but are not willing to endure the long shifts, night shifts, or need for "letdown" once we are off. This type of work takes empathy, patience and selfless thoughts to work. But it can work❤
Yup. Some women love the idea of a rich husband but don’t expect him to work 60 hour weeks. 😂
Even though it works for some.. this is the main reason nurses was one of the jobs Kevin Samuels said stay away from
Don’t forget the secret cheating and constant flirting by other hospital staff !!
I must’ve started watching the season late. I completely missed this Episode. I’m so Used to April being With Ethan. Let me go back to the beginning & rewatch the series so I can catch up. ✨🥰
They were living in two different worlds, wanting two different things.
if he wants her to be a housewife, what does she want him to show up as ?
From my experience and saving myself the heartache. Doctors should only date doctors. They live in their own time and usually only have time for other doctors.
Those relationships crash and burn faster as it becomes about who has the higher priority, scheduling, and in many cases, two alphas bumping heads as they have the same personality
Yes. Seeing my parents proves your point
Plus most nurses are promiscuous af drs too
She married a Doctor after all this so you are right.
No sometimes you need someone with a flexible schedule to balance your bad one
This is the first time that I saw this show. I’m gonna have to watch it! 😊
Yaya looks fabulous!!!! ❤❤
Glad they broke up and didn’t create children and or drag out their incompatibility.
When a man or woman tries to change their spouse to be what they are not it doesn’t end well. Let your partner achieve their dreams and goals without you being threatened.
Yap for walk away and find what you want. You don't just off your preferences like a switch
He wasnt threatened. He wanted a wife with more free time to actually have a relationship.
@@PotatoGunCamper Then wouldn't it make more sense for him not to get with her since he knows that she isn't going to be that person?
AKA find a wife that wants to be a wife! Not a woman trying to be a man!
That's what happens when you let a pretty face get to you smh
This man has lost his mind.Basically said that she couldn't eat because you didn't have time to text me right run girl run.
Make time for your loved ones.
Cause when things go south they will always be there for you.
Let me try and explain something to some of you. In life you have to do your best to do what's basic especially when you're with someone. She told him they could eat together. When she found out she didn't have time for that she could have saved him the drive like he said. It's painful to leave what you're doing to go somewhere just to be told no when they could have easily texted. If you haven't been in that situation then don't be quick to judge. And he was right to be sad. Nobody knows what he was doing and how many times she canceled on them. I don't suggest anyone to marry someone that's a doctor or a nurse for this exact reason unless they're in the same field. But that's just a suggestion, you do you.
Yeah I agree 100% She wants him to understand bc he KNEW this was her field, but no one can imagine what it's like to be with someone who saves lives- police officers, emt/paramedics, firefighters, doctors, military personnel.. first responders or life savers period. U can not imagine. I feel for her and I feel for him. She could've taken the time to text while she was walking to the vending machine. For her, her life saving work had her mind occupied. I'm not mad at that. Imagine your doctor responds to her bf rather than spend time thinking about how to save you... it's hard on both parties.
She could have texted but I'm sure he was already nearby when she got out.
I'm a nurse and my husband is a roofer 15 yrs strong it takes two
@ashakih1649 you totally misunderstood the post you replying to my G. Screw that woman
@@GIMMIETHEBALLMEDIA no I agree with ur premise. She could've let him know. Ijs anyone dating someone in the life saving field has to be prepared for this.
When couples don't get on and want different things, it's better to part.
She is stunning
"I imagined..." The other person is not responsible for the fantasies you create in your head.
i kind of agree with him a little. Before changing careers i was a nurse but when i had to cancel something I took my time to atleast text my partner.
Love Chicago med, i’m still watching it.
Just like husbands getting healous of their new birn babies. Shes not giving him the attn he is ised to. Dude griw up. Shes doing it fir the team.
Oh dear
Sorry you don't have the 'o' button❤
So your work comes before your marriage? That's a weird ass life.
@@MarjuanJonesto each their own priorities. You don't get to judge what people prioritize. Marriage is cool and all but does it save fricken lives?? I don't think so. In this scenario, her work is 100% more important than stupid social relations.
@@MarjuanJonesA patient was literally dying 💀. In that moment, yeah, her job was more important.
@MarjuanJones weird ass ppl in these comments too. You can tell most are single
Love this show. There's always a lesson for us to learn.
what's the name of the show?
Yes, show name? Season? Episode?
@@matashamChicago Med
@@bostonvairChicago Med
Great actors. Exactly what I'm gonna need for my scripts.
Lunch?!?!? This musy be a union hospital, we barely get time to use the bathroom.
Folks should really understand that some jobs means your partner isn’t gonna be around much and you gotta be ok with that.
She's so beautiful 😍
She is so gorgeous
Healthcare workers should marry to each other only. We can understand ourselves better 😂
You have to meet people where they are at in a relationship. You have to accept their lifestyle if you accept them. You can't expect them to change for you.
He was a narcissist
Careers can destroy a relationship
If your partner is clingy and whiny, yes
Chicago Med I love that show. Yaya you are stunning ❤
She strong & independent & don’t need a man. Her career accolades will fullfill her & keep her company in her golden years.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Thank you for the sacarsm.
She actually ended up marrying again. 😏
@@dwn2earth260 I’m sure she did. Ussy ain’t got no expiration date…
No career accolades will be able to keep a career woman company. Without family the majority of career women (and men for that matter) will have a miserable old age.
Do not be deceived.
YaYa has come a long way. Good for her 😊
That's Yaya? I thought it was her! I recognized her from her role in "Take the Lead"!
@@TailsFan lol yep she’s been in more and more acting roles these last few years. She seems to do pretty good with the stuff I’ve seen. Maybe acting was the better fit after all.
@@Queenofdacastle She's pretty fantastic at it.
I’m so proud of her like she has came along way from ANTM….it’s like she didn’t win but that competition but she is winning keep it up YaYa we love you💜💜💜
*Having him come all the way instead of canceling in advance is no bueno.* 😬
People do this to one another all the time: mad and bitter because you can't make someone fit the mold or be the life you want. Beating someone up emotionally to try to force something, or even beating yourself up, is abusive and the perfect formula for misery.
Did you not watch the show last? Stop spreading your personal trauma and missing the point of what happened in this episode
Out of everyone, she has become a working successful actress…amazing job YaYa!!!
I love strong women who let men go that's not compatible with them. Love it. Let him find who is compatible with him.
You know how many men i’ve dated say they love having a nurse.. but then when your at the hospital 16 hours, they are like what the hell. I don’t like this, u can’t possibly be at work that long. 😂😂Dialysis nurse here
These men are delusional thinking they'll suddenly become your number one patient.
Excellent show and this story line was really good
She's so sweet
Is April the model Yaya?
Yes!
Yup!!
Loved her since antm
Yes she is
Congratulations on the mentorship program! You're doing great and it will keep getting better and better!!💕
Thank you so much for this video. I have too many people from work hinting that I will/should settle or go and have a baby. I am a BSN, RN and going for my masters. Only 28 y.o. I have no interest in settling and nor do put being in a relationship on a pedestal.
God she beautiful
Ok YaYa is doing her thing on the big screen!! LOVE IT!! 🤎
He shouldn't be stressing her at work,when she is already under pressure 😢!!
Nah. After so many years never being a priority, hoping your so-called "partner" can manage giving you a lunch together once in a blue moon isn't too much to ask. In fact, it's far too LITTLE to ask. There's always more work, always an excuse. Always another priority with these types. Families always struggle when they're *never* a priority.
@@DeadlyChinchillayou must have never had a serious job. You have no concept. The medical field is hectic. He should have chosen better.
@@alluringbliss4165 Make whatever assumptions you need to be dismissive. I have worked a "serious job." I've slept under a desk during crunch time. And I was married to the Type A partner with another "serious job" where I went weeks without even seeing them.
So yes, I do in fact have a "concept" what I'm talking about. I just don't gobble up the excuses people tell themselves about it.
And if she wants to use "dying patients" as an excuse for treating her family like an afterthought, let's chat about all the patients overworked nurses and doctors KILL because of it.
@@alluringbliss4165 as a medical doctor, there has never been a point where you’re too busy to have lunch. Even neurosurgeons have at least 30 minutes of their day to spend time on lunch