@@TarrahGrace-by4cl just because it was done doesn’t mean she has to to that as well. She didn’t want the baby. Not every woman has a “maternal instinct”. That “grandmother probably guilted the crap out of that girl when she found out she was pregnant. Like I keep saying everybody wanna tell a woman what to do with her womb and cells growing inside, once the baby comes out all that compassion goes away and nobody wants to be bothered.🤷🏽♀️
@@straightfromthecuffwithc that's not what I meant. The mom was complaining that it's too hard to take care of her child and go to college, yet she had time to party and go to school?!
Poor baby girl Sterling. The mother could have gotten the abortion without the grandmother’s knowledge. Once she decided to have that baby, she is responsible for it no matter what extended family does. I was a single mom with two children when I decided to go to college. my parents were deceased so I had to pay for childcare. I worked two and three part time jobs, got Medicaid for their health benefits and studied like crazy. I had no time for partying because it didn’t align with my goals of providing a better life for my children and myself. Girl friend need to get her act together. No matter what the grandmother said before the baby got here, the responsibility was always the mother’s. I feel sad for that child.@@TarrahGrace-by4cl
I believe the grandmother talked her out of getting an abortion by asking her not to terminate the pregnancy and saying that she would take care of the baby.
That’s what I was thinking. But sometimes parents create a crutch trying to save their adult children who are making stupid life decisions. I wouldn’t have taken this task on. And the son is away in the military. He can’t even keep up with what’s going on.
I feel that the father is not doing his part.. the government gives you a housing allowance when you have kids. plus a food allowance which he should be turning over to his mother....Along with child support. These young adults nowadays ate the most selfish individuals I have ever seen....there is no love at all...what happen with Covid....it seem like something took place because people are heartless and have no empathy.....
I don't think that she should be given this child under any circumstances before she keeps on saying she didn't want her... therefore she will feel like she is a burden and most likely mistreat and neglect her....my thoughts 😢😢
Exactly!! And if he actually is in the military, the military provides dependent pay per child u have 🤷♀️ so all that extra pay should be going to HIS MAMA for the baby.. I assume he’s out partying and drinking too and using that extra pay to fund that 🤷♀️
@@laurajoiner1257thank you I was about to say that ! Because that baby has 2 parents not 1 but 2 they both responsible so if one parent not helping she doing right by taking the parent who not working to court she never said her son don’t pay.
Is she in school 24 -7??? She's not in school in the summer. And anytime she's not in school.and comes home, she goes to the club!! Selfishness at its finest!!
She calls herself a mom. I went to school. Came straight out of school took care off my son. Then worked even some ours a week. To pay everything for my son. No time for myself. I struggled but my child came first place. Then everything els. When he was sick i stayed home. Sorry cant believe that woman. She is not a mom.
Imaging being that baby girl finding out how manipulative her momma is and not being any kind of priority was “grandma’s choice”. She doesn’t deserve that baby girl.
@angelagasparithompson3995 but do know she has said she would help. Plus take care off her when she is done with her studies. I dont want to see that happen. Then she goos to someone Who does not even care about her. A child deserve someone Who loves him or her.
One of my undergrad classmates brought her toddler to class sometimes, and he’d sit there just as quiet and entertain himself. I have so much respect for her determination and how well she did for herself since then.
Few questions: 1.Tanner is at military but he doesn't support his child or his mom financially? 2.NIKKI is beyond unbelievable, she talks like she's in school and doing a favour to the universe! 3. Who is paying for her school and other expenses? If we are going to have people like Nikki influencing the society- God save the future! PS: Sterling is way off better with grannmama❤
So many things... 1. I believe she wanted to abort the baby and grandma convinced her not to, that she would take care of the child. 2. I think Grandma didn't realize that even after having the kid, the girl would just disappear and not want to be a mother. 3. I think that grandma realized she was in over her head financially and realized she needed help AND couldn't get help through programs and such since she isn't the parent. 4. If she doesn't want to support her kid, she could easily sign over her child to the grandma then grandma could get some assistance. 5. I believe if the son was paying child support she would've said it to the judge, especially when the judge mentioned she was going to order the dad to pay it. 6. Dad should've sent money, he's collecting extra benefits for having a kid. 7. This whole situation is crazy and I kept asking myself, "What did I just watch" .....so sad. Glad Sterling has Grandma in her corner.
I agree! Judge swears, “I know a lot of grandparents that say ‘I want a grandchild’… They never anticipate that phrase to mean that ‘I am 100% taking care of that child.’ You are unbelievable…” Buy it really does feel like they had exactly that arrangement while she was still in school. That mom would have aborted, otherwise. & the plan was suddenly backfiring on Gmom- as She never once argued it. Just relied on judge’s legal frame of mind, which says parents are responsible- bottom line.
I agree.. I think the mom is telling the truth that she never wanted the child and the grandma was like I will take the child I want it!… but this is why u need to get things in writing!! As her son is a POS- he isn’t sending any money despite the fact that the military provides dependent pay per child.. all that dependent pay should be going to help pay for HIS child
@@Zaners82123 DEPLOYED? She just said "AWAY". That could in the field for an exercise. For HOW LONG? Not to mention he has a pay check that he is getting PAID FOR THAT CHILD! Along with HOUSING! 22-year-old Retired VET.
Im glad the mother stood her ground. She wanted an abortion (HER RIGHT not here for the debate) Grandmother says NO i want you to keep the child. Her son IN ANOTHER STATE. She's in another state. Her son wasnt sending support or seeing her as much neither was she.... They BOTH weren't ready. The only reason he has a steady income is because he chose the military over college.
Unfortunately until his mom did this, military wouldn’t help at all. As it’s expected for the wife to raise said kids. I’m sure there is financial assistance but it’s being given to the wife or tanner hasn’t sent any money to wife to help.
I don’t believe that… in the military u get a pay increase for dependent pay per child … this lady’s son is probably wasting that money on drinking and partying 🤷♀️ all of the dependent pay should be going to the kid and clearly it isn’t .. also u get time off in the military.. how often has he used his time off to see HIS CHILD?
I don't believe it does. I think Grandma feeling the burden of raising a toddler and doing too much to "support" a process that neither Party was ready for. He's away in the Military and she's stated many times that she's dedicated to education first.
It's not support if no one asked. It sounds like she volunteered herself to play Mother for whatever her reasons.... And now she wants to hold ppl accountable that never wanted the responsibility.
This woman has no mothering instincts. She literally said she’s only two. She won’t remember this time but keyword either will you you won’t remember this time I was there for my son and I wish I could go back to those days when he would wanna cuddle and watch paw patrol and Caillouand we would hang out all day and he would be my buddy. I miss those days. He’s 12 now so I apparently have cooties.
Younger, i went to school and worked to survive and raised my son and daughter. I made mistakes, many of them, but i had my Mom to bsit, in my home, when i got home, Mom went home. She did not take over everything and the excuses this woman is using are ridiculous!
Not all females do... anymore than all people want marriage, businesses, or or selflessness of parenthood. It's not natural. Parenthood isn't for everyone. And it sounds like GMA didn't believe her Daughter when she said she didn't want to be a Mom. Lessoned learned. And literally ready to hand over rights to her. Like fr.
She has money for the clubs, her makeup and hair looks beautiful, an influencer making probably more than 2000/months but she can NOT send some financial help for her daughter!!! 😔 I did not sense any warmth, love, and appreciation in her voice or body language. Not even being thankful and respectful! A beautiful young mother with an ugly heart soul. I worked full time, had kids taken care and full time grad school. When people have LOVE we can conquer all! God bless this grandmother! Regardless of any agreement, is our obligation as parent to own it! If women don’t want to have kids, then be abstinent if you don’t use protection. Grandparents are a blessing to be involved. 🙌🙏
I don’t like this bullying her into being a mother. I see this a lot in the black community. Stop telling these women they need to keep the baby instead of getting an abortion. If I was the mother, I would take the child and give the baby up for adoption. That judge is crazy.
I agree- if the mom doesn’t want the child and the grandma is saying she doesn’t want to take care of the child full time, the mom should put the baby up for adoption and give up her parental rights (and give the baby a better life).. see how fast that grandma tries to adopt that baby 🤣 also a big issue is why isn’t the SON giving HIS MAMA the dependency pay provided by the military to take care of HIS KID.. also I didn’t hear that he visits HIS KID during his military leave (time off)
@@VeronicaMims-qp2mh no it’s not this woman is clearly stating in more ways than one she doesn’t want to be a mother. Anyone with ears and eyes or common sense can see that so-called grandmother ain’t saint. She should have never told that girl to keep her baby I’ll do this and I’ll do that. Only to end up being a primary parent. Black women especially need to normalize not doing things out of guilt! Like going through with a pregnancy to have a baby you don’t want. Abortion is an alternative! Adoption is an alternative. Only an idiot would think that giving that woman that baby is a safe or effective option. Not to mention making her pay child support when her son is probably knocking somebody else upon the military.
The point is she never wanted the kid. She shouldn't have had the kid. Period. The world doesn't benefit from unwanted children, regardless of Religion's endless pearl clutching.
Every human deserves the right to live. Regardless of whether that person is wanted or not. No one has the right to determine whether someone else has value or not.
A lot of internships are unpaid- it’s “for the experience” and to make connections (only good companies pay their interns).. a lot of rich ppl in NYC and companies use internships as free slave labor 🤷♀️ and some schools give u course credits for internships… this one woman who was on real housewives in nyc (idk if she is anymore, I don’t really watch RH anymore) would brag about how her “staff” were all college interns who she didn’t give one red cent to 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ and that working for her for free was sooooo valuable 🤣🤣🤣🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ yep drawing this old lady a bath, picking up dog 💩 around her town house (bc she never potty trained her dogs), etc is sooooo valuable 🤣🤣🤣 however she had married (and divorced) a very wealthy la Di da man so maybe having on your resume u worked for that family would help u 🤷♀️ or u wasted your time doing slave labor 🤣🤣🤣
Honestly very clearly she just had the baby for the grandma and she would have had an abortion otherwise. She obviously isnt ready to be a mom and i blame the dad and grandma for pressuring her on having the baby in the 1st place. I blame the mom for not having a written agreement of her conditions with the grandma before proceeding with the pregnancy
Yep u gotta get everything in writing these days 🤷♀️ however the fact the son isn’t sending his dependent pay he receives from the military to his mom to take care of HIS CHILD is beyond
😂 because someone held a gun to her head, it’s still her responsibility no one told her to have unprotected sex with the baby’s father, she ain’t a child she know what can happen when having sex, Jesus, you sound just like her 🙄
I have to agree with the young lady because she said she didn’t want a child and the grandmother said don’t harm her she will take care of her. I mean come on now. That girl was honest and mom up there doing that.
Wait a dang minute.. if her son is actually in the military, he gets a salary increase if he provides documentation he has a child (the pay increase is based on how many depends u have and that money is intended for care of depend(s))… y isn’t HE sending his mama that extra pay to take care of HIS baby???? Why is HIS MAMA only trying to get her DIL to pay something???
She said her son hasn’t sent any money 🤷♀️ which is ridiculous bc he’s getting paid and the military provides dependency pay (a pay increase per child that is intended as money to take care of your kids).. so what is he doing with the dependent pay??? Is it he is also out clubbing? And misusing the dependent pay to fund his benders???
But the child support payment still totals less than monthly childcare, so grandma is still out of pocket. I don't understand this ruling. Wouldn't Tanner's salary be going into a joint account with Mom? So she could pay childcare.
Becuase he wasnt there, grandma would need to refile and include the dad. Then the payment would be better. Its hard when theyre in the military and cant necessarily be in court.
@@elizabethkelley3080 No, they can just be on the drop off and pick up form. The parent can register the child and the grandparents pick up and drop off.
I know a lot of women who went to school full time, who worked full time, and who are still able to raise their own children. They did have support from their families, letting them live at home, babysitting while they are in classes and while working along with other kinds of support. I can’t stand these people talking about their children as mistakes, saying they didn’t want them.
If she didn’t want the kid initially and expect the grandma to raise the kid. She should sign custody over them. That simple. But to have grandma have to raise the child like her own. She should at least have the rights of a parent. Raising the kid then to have the kid taken away when mom is done with school seems so unfair. Because the other truth is when the mom takes the child she prob won’t let her see her grandchild.
"Grandmother" needs to file for custody and Sterling never needs to see that monster again. I realize the grandma probably didn't plan on filing for custody and raising another child, but she obviously loves that little girl and is just asking for some help. The surrogate who carried the baby for 9 months doesn't give a rat's patootie about her, she doesn't even come to visit when she's in town. As others have said, the father should also be sending money home and her health care should be covered.
I dnt feel she wrong she clearly was pressured into having a bby she said she didn’t want it u said u wanted it so how she wrong for not being there smh not saying it’s ok but she was clear nd u have to respect it this is how children get hurt frfr she doesn’t want the lil gurl don’t force her to be sum she don’t want to be sad but the truth
I JUST LOOOOOOOOOOOVE THE JUDGE SOOOOOOOO MUCH?! AIN'T NO-DAMN-BODY FINNA DO AN AGREEMENT TO RAISE YOUR CHILD THAT YOU DECIDED TO LAY DOWN WITH THE PERSON TO HAVE A BABY?! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?!
Um there are plenty of single parents that go to school full time. She definitely needs to step up. I’m not saying it’s easy simply that that’s the bare minimum as a mother
She doesn't want to take care of her daughter. I was 17 years old when I had a child with down syndrome and I had to be a mom and dad full time went to work and college
I believe the mom is trying to express, She wanted to abort, but the grandmother convinced her not too. Because she offered to raise the child. Also being away in the military and full time in college is the same. Both parents should pay child support.
She is delusional! Thank God for grandmothers ... they will not let a child suffer b/c of ignorance, neglect, selfishness, etc. God bless the child that has someone that will love, protect and care for them. So sad
What happened to Tanner sending money too. This is crazy. They both should be sending the baby daddy mother money if that was the case. Tanner needs to step up too. Military or no military.
Grandma i think you flippped the script in efforts of teaching Her responsibility. 😂😂😂 Next time, she can take responsibility for her own actions. Know your role😅. Bc you can't fix your kids mistakes and still be present in your own life. Ijs.
Why isn't the father being asked to financially help his daughter? He's in the military; she's his dependent. All branches of US military have strict laws about taking care of dependents. They also receive financial benefits. Yes, mom needs to step up and take care of her baby; so does the father.
Honestly i think this is beyond the money though it's a factor. The lady in question is just avoiding her responsibility, at least be there as much as you can. Show up, show appreciation, don't be all about yourself.....
I was in the military, I would send money to my mom monthly. The grandmother should’ve told her son what he needs to pay monthly. The mom is ridiculous she only cares about herself and has to many excuses.
True but mom like he over defending our country pays insurance but mom is here in the flesh not doing nothing and yea mom needs to tell her son what’s going on and he needs to get custody of his child for the better
These parents are ridiculous I took both my kids to school with me they put me in one class by myself to do my work thank God for that. Right now I have a son under two I take to work with me him and his dad sitting in my truck while I work I check on them every hour and call it a day
Let's back up a bit. Tanner can send money too, isn't it? He's working. The lady, didn't want a child but let herself get pregnant? That was the first decision... If you don't want a child then you make sure you don't get pregnant and no. one would have said they wanted a grandchild. There would have been nothing to talk about. However, the child is here, step up and be the mum, at least you have grandma's support.
Just because daddy is in the military doesn’t mean he doesn’t pay child support does it? And mom has to support child without his support? She can’t go to school? Y’all make women have children and don’t make the daddy help?
Yep! And in the military u get dependent pay (intended to take care of your children)- so that fact that his mama is claiming he hasn’t sent her any money and his only contribution is having HIS KID on his insurance (which is free of charge provided by the military) is beyonddddddddd
Im in school full time, i work 35 hours a week. I torture myself so that me and my love ones can have a successful life. Luckily i get to stop working this may! But man these moms are frustrating.
Away at school means she can't be a good mom. Hence, why she should not be away at school. Go to school during the day for several hours and take care of your kid or at least support the caregiver more than this
And they wonder why some kids become unfit to cohabit in society. If their own “moms” reject them. Granny’s job is to spoil not to raise. She did that already.
What an atrocious excuse for a mother! Was she getting paid to tell us she's in school full time. That poor child is so unwanted bh the mother. Tough life ahead.
She mentioned a lot that she in school full time like that matters n mean that’s a reason to not be a mom , I lost my DAUGHTER and she has hers but refuses to show up as a mom
If she didn’t want a child why wasn’t she using a contraceptive?
Exactly.
@@nailadee look at her , was she that smart ????
Passion of the moment I guess! 😅 @@july1293
Contraception fails.
@@laurenopferman7278 Not always!! That's a excuse!! 🤷🏾♀️🙄
When I was growing up, my mom was working and in college and still raised 3 kids by herself!
❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@TarrahGrace-by4cl just because it was done doesn’t mean she has to to that as well. She didn’t want the baby. Not every woman has a “maternal instinct”. That “grandmother probably guilted the crap out of that girl when she found out she was pregnant. Like I keep saying everybody wanna tell a woman what to do with her womb and cells growing inside, once the baby comes out all that compassion goes away and nobody wants to be bothered.🤷🏽♀️
@@straightfromthecuffwithc that's not what I meant. The mom was complaining that it's too hard to take care of her child and go to college, yet she had time to party and go to school?!
Poor baby girl Sterling.
The mother could have gotten the abortion without the grandmother’s knowledge. Once she decided to have that baby, she is responsible for it no matter what extended family does. I was a single mom with two children when I decided to go to college. my parents were deceased so I had to pay for childcare. I worked two and three part time jobs, got Medicaid for their health benefits and studied like crazy. I had no time for partying because it didn’t align with my goals of providing a better life for my children and myself. Girl friend need to get her act together. No matter what the grandmother said before the baby got here, the responsibility was always the mother’s. I feel sad for that child.@@TarrahGrace-by4cl
Yes she full of s*** she just didn't want to help take care if her own daughter
If she loved her daughter she would be in her life. She loves herself more and above and beyond anything and anyone else.
The father gets money for his child in his military pay and her healthcare is provided also. He should be sending that extra money to his mother.
Exactly
Child support from both parents was fixed at 267 but day care is 800 per month. I think the order should have been made for more.
That’s what I’m thinking
And probably sending it to the dump as baby momma hello
Exactly! I was looking through these comments to see if anyone was gonna hold the father accountable as well.
Sips tea! I love this judge!!!
I hollered!!!😂
Alright everyone, what did we learn from this?
"SHE IS IN SCHOOL FULL TIME"!
Full time , full time .
She said she's in school full time so many times she should have graduated by now!
A double Masters. A master's in full time, and a master's in being in school full time.
😂yes school full time oh and don’t forget she’s an influencer😂
Dead😂
I believe the grandmother talked her out of getting an abortion by asking her not to terminate the pregnancy and saying that she would take care of the baby.
Maybe, but she probably didn't think she would have the baby 24/7, weekends, holidays etc plus be paying for the day care by herself.
That’s what I was thinking. But sometimes parents create a crutch trying to save their adult children who are making stupid life decisions. I wouldn’t have taken this task on. And the son is away in the military. He can’t even keep up with what’s going on.
I feel that the father is not doing his part..
the government gives you a housing allowance when you have kids. plus a food allowance which he should be turning over to his mother....Along with child support.
These young adults nowadays ate the most selfish individuals I have ever seen....there is no love at all...what happen with Covid....it seem like something took place
because people are heartless and have no empathy.....
I dont believe that I believe she gets $2000.00 a month and gives nothing lol!
I don't think that she should be given this child under any circumstances before she keeps on saying she didn't want her... therefore she will feel like she is a burden and most likely mistreat and neglect her....my thoughts 😢😢
I agree
Exactly 💯
Let's take a shot of tequila every time she says I am in school full time LMAO
Right lol
Nobody needs to be that drunk.
😂😂😂😂😂I'M DRUNK 🥴 🤪 😅
I'm up for that!! 1 tequila, 2 tequila, 3 tequila FLOOR!!!😂😂😂😂
@@mariahillenbrand8396lol you're too funny you're the type of person I would love to hang out with
Basically she saying maybe Grandma convinced her not to get an abortion.
Off-topic-ish, but Sterling is a really cute name for a little girl.
Neither is... AJDaniels5298
@@billiismith6054 What?
It is a STRONG name. I love the name for a male child!!! ❤
Following Patrick Mahomes lead. Oldest girl named Sterling.
What is Sterling’s father contributing financially to raise her. She has 2 parents. Her son isn’t excluded from sharing in this situation
Health care
Exactly!! And if he actually is in the military, the military provides dependent pay per child u have 🤷♀️ so all that extra pay should be going to HIS MAMA for the baby.. I assume he’s out partying and drinking too and using that extra pay to fund that 🤷♀️
Grandma is taking the mother to court because the mom is not paying child support. She did not say that her son was not paying anything
@@laurajoiner1257thank you I was about to say that ! Because that baby has 2 parents not 1 but 2 they both responsible so if one parent not helping she doing right by taking the parent who not working to court she never said her son don’t pay.
Accountability is key!!! Raise your kids to be accountable otherwise this is what you create if you dont!!!
What a mother!
I lost count how many times she said I am in school full time
Is she in school 24 -7??? She's not in school in the summer. And anytime she's not in school.and comes home, she goes to the club!! Selfishness at its finest!!
Dad gets paid. He needs to send $
He probably does that's how his mom is able to pay daycare.
Exactly!! Plus in the military u get extra dependent pay per child! All that extra pay should be sent to HIS MAMA FOR HIS CHILD
His mama was saying he doesn’t send her money 🤷♀️ military personnel get extra dependent pay per child
She calls herself a mom. I went to school. Came straight out of school took care off my son. Then worked even some ours a week. To pay everything for my son. No time for myself. I struggled but my child came first place. Then everything els. When he was sick i stayed home. Sorry cant believe that woman. She is not a mom.
You are treasured mother Almighty God bless you and you child
Imaging being that baby girl finding out how manipulative her momma is and not being any kind of priority was “grandma’s choice”. She doesn’t deserve that baby girl.
@angelagasparithompson3995 but do know she has said she would help. Plus take care off her when she is done with her studies. I dont want to see that happen. Then she goos to someone Who does not even care about her. A child deserve someone Who loves him or her.
Gurl, oh her narra tail wud not be able to sit again til she turns 50😠😡😤
One of my undergrad classmates brought her toddler to class sometimes, and he’d sit there just as quiet and entertain himself. I have so much respect for her determination and how well she did for herself since then.
Few questions:
1.Tanner is at military but he doesn't support his child or his mom financially?
2.NIKKI is beyond unbelievable, she talks like she's in school and doing a favour to the universe!
3. Who is paying for her school and other expenses?
If we are going to have people like Nikki influencing the society- God save the future!
PS: Sterling is way off better with grannmama❤
LOANS which she have to pay back, rent,food etc
So many things...
1. I believe she wanted to abort the baby and grandma convinced her not to, that she would take care of the child.
2. I think Grandma didn't realize that even after having the kid, the girl would just disappear and not want to be a mother.
3. I think that grandma realized she was in over her head financially and realized she needed help AND couldn't get help through programs and such since she isn't the parent.
4. If she doesn't want to support her kid, she could easily sign over her child to the grandma then grandma could get some assistance.
5. I believe if the son was paying child support she would've said it to the judge, especially when the judge mentioned she was going to order the dad to pay it.
6. Dad should've sent money, he's collecting extra benefits for having a kid.
7. This whole situation is crazy and I kept asking myself, "What did I just watch" .....so sad. Glad Sterling has Grandma in her corner.
I think grandma conned the mom.
I agree!
Judge swears, “I know a lot of grandparents that say ‘I want a grandchild’… They never anticipate that phrase to mean that ‘I am 100% taking care of that child.’ You are unbelievable…”
Buy it really does feel like they had exactly that arrangement while she was still in school. That mom would have aborted, otherwise. & the plan was suddenly backfiring on Gmom- as She never once argued it. Just relied on judge’s legal frame of mind, which says parents are responsible- bottom line.
I agree.. I think the mom is telling the truth that she never wanted the child and the grandma was like I will take the child I want it!… but this is why u need to get things in writing!! As her son is a POS- he isn’t sending any money despite the fact that the military provides dependent pay per child.. all that dependent pay should be going to help pay for HIS child
I'm getting that too. Trying to teach her something about responsibility. She should have believed her when she said what she said.
The father needs to pay CS too!
He does give his mother money. Hrs deployed he can only do so much
Military can also provide medical car and deduct for child care. Both can and should provide for child
Mom's probably collecting that!
@@Zaners82123 DEPLOYED? She just said "AWAY". That could in the field for an exercise. For HOW LONG? Not to mention he has a pay check that he is getting PAID FOR THAT CHILD! Along with HOUSING! 22-year-old Retired VET.
I swear she said he does.
Id be interested to know what shes going to school for..must be something REALLY good for her to forsake her child for it.
She got off easy and is very lucky to have grandma around at all
It's her AND the father's responsibility! Why isnt Tanner paying anything except for medical insurance.
Im glad the mother stood her ground. She wanted an abortion (HER RIGHT not here for the debate) Grandmother says NO i want you to keep the child. Her son IN ANOTHER STATE. She's in another state. Her son wasnt sending support or seeing her as much neither was she....
They BOTH weren't ready. The only reason he has a steady income is because he chose the military over college.
What about the child’s father. The military will give her support for that child.
Unfortunately until his mom did this, military wouldn’t help at all. As it’s expected for the wife to raise said kids. I’m sure there is financial assistance but it’s being given to the wife or tanner hasn’t sent any money to wife to help.
I don’t believe that… in the military u get a pay increase for dependent pay per child … this lady’s son is probably wasting that money on drinking and partying 🤷♀️ all of the dependent pay should be going to the kid and clearly it isn’t .. also u get time off in the military.. how often has he used his time off to see HIS CHILD?
You cant say i didnt want a child and then turn around and say having the lid wasnt a mistake and you dont regret anytbing. It contradicts itself lmao
I don't believe it does. I think Grandma feeling the burden of raising a toddler and doing too much to "support" a process that neither Party was ready for. He's away in the Military and she's stated many times that she's dedicated to education first.
It's not support if no one asked. It sounds like she volunteered herself to play Mother for whatever her reasons.... And now she wants to hold ppl accountable that never wanted the responsibility.
This woman has no mothering instincts. She literally said she’s only two. She won’t remember this time but keyword either will you you won’t remember this time I was there for my son and I wish I could go back to those days when he would wanna cuddle and watch paw patrol and Caillouand we would hang out all day and he would be my buddy. I miss those days. He’s 12 now so I apparently have cooties.
Younger, i went to school and worked to survive and raised my son and daughter. I made mistakes, many of them, but i had my Mom to bsit, in my home, when i got home, Mom went home. She did not take over everything and the excuses this woman is using are ridiculous!
How is it okay for her son to be in the military but not ok for the mom to be in school? I’m so confused. Everybody’s logic is screwed.
She never wanted the child and she doesn't have an emotional connection with her child. Sad.
Not all females do... anymore than all people want marriage, businesses, or or selflessness of parenthood. It's not natural. Parenthood isn't for everyone. And it sounds like GMA didn't believe her Daughter when she said she didn't want to be a Mom. Lessoned learned. And literally ready to hand over rights to her. Like fr.
Why is Tanner not sending child support from the military.
She has money for the clubs, her makeup and hair looks beautiful, an influencer making probably more than 2000/months but she can NOT send some financial help for her daughter!!! 😔 I did not sense any warmth, love, and appreciation in her voice or body language.
Not even being thankful and respectful! A beautiful young mother with an ugly heart soul. I worked full time, had kids taken care and full time grad school. When people have LOVE we can conquer all! God bless this grandmother! Regardless of any agreement, is our obligation as parent to own it! If women don’t want to have kids, then be abstinent if you don’t use protection. Grandparents are a blessing to be involved. 🙌🙏
This girl is so ungrateful 🙄 for real
I don’t like this bullying her into being a mother. I see this a lot in the black community. Stop telling these women they need to keep the baby instead of getting an abortion. If I was the mother, I would take the child and give the baby up for adoption. That judge is crazy.
What you Said is Crazier!!!
I agree- if the mom doesn’t want the child and the grandma is saying she doesn’t want to take care of the child full time, the mom should put the baby up for adoption and give up her parental rights (and give the baby a better life).. see how fast that grandma tries to adopt that baby 🤣 also a big issue is why isn’t the SON giving HIS MAMA the dependency pay provided by the military to take care of HIS KID.. also I didn’t hear that he visits HIS KID during his military leave (time off)
@@VeronicaMims-qp2mh no it’s not this woman is clearly stating in more ways than one she doesn’t want to be a mother. Anyone with ears and eyes or common sense can see that so-called grandmother ain’t saint. She should have never told that girl to keep her baby I’ll do this and I’ll do that. Only to end up being a primary parent. Black women especially need to normalize not doing things out of guilt! Like going through with a pregnancy to have a baby you don’t want. Abortion is an alternative! Adoption is an alternative. Only an idiot would think that giving that woman that baby is a safe or effective option. Not to mention making her pay child support when her son is probably knocking somebody else upon the military.
The tea cup 😂😂😂😂
The dad needs to pay too, not just the mom
The point is she never wanted the kid. She shouldn't have had the kid. Period. The world doesn't benefit from unwanted children, regardless of Religion's endless pearl clutching.
Every human deserves the right to live. Regardless of whether that person is wanted or not. No one has the right to determine whether someone else has value or not.
@mallen6035 a fetus isn't a human. Take a biology class
She should stop school full-time it's seems education doesn't help her
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Why is Tanner not sending money home for his child also. She is not going to take care of that child when she graduates.
She should have asked if it was a paid internship! Guaranteed she does
A lot of internships are unpaid- it’s “for the experience” and to make connections (only good companies pay their interns).. a lot of rich ppl in NYC and companies use internships as free slave labor 🤷♀️ and some schools give u course credits for internships… this one woman who was on real housewives in nyc (idk if she is anymore, I don’t really watch RH anymore) would brag about how her “staff” were all college interns who she didn’t give one red cent to 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ and that working for her for free was sooooo valuable 🤣🤣🤣🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ yep drawing this old lady a bath, picking up dog 💩 around her town house (bc she never potty trained her dogs), etc is sooooo valuable 🤣🤣🤣 however she had married (and divorced) a very wealthy la Di da man so maybe having on your resume u worked for that family would help u 🤷♀️ or u wasted your time doing slave labor 🤣🤣🤣
Honestly very clearly she just had the baby for the grandma and she would have had an abortion otherwise. She obviously isnt ready to be a mom and i blame the dad and grandma for pressuring her on having the baby in the 1st place. I blame the mom for not having a written agreement of her conditions with the grandma before proceeding with the pregnancy
Exactly my thoughts
Yep u gotta get everything in writing these days 🤷♀️ however the fact the son isn’t sending his dependent pay he receives from the military to his mom to take care of HIS CHILD is beyond
Listen, if she didn’t want the baby and she got pressured into having a baby she did not want. She is not the asshole here.
😂 because someone held a gun to her head, it’s still her responsibility no one told her to have unprotected sex with the baby’s father, she ain’t a child she know what can happen when having sex, Jesus, you sound just like her 🙄
The father has half the responsibility for the 2 year old. The child is theirs.
My mom went to College and worked a full time job
You don't love your child
Unbelievable this mom its so sad
I have to agree with the young lady because she said she didn’t want a child and the grandmother said don’t harm her she will take care of her. I mean come on now. That girl was honest and mom up there doing that.
Wait a dang minute.. if her son is actually in the military, he gets a salary increase if he provides documentation he has a child (the pay increase is based on how many depends u have and that money is intended for care of depend(s))… y isn’t HE sending his mama that extra pay to take care of HIS baby???? Why is HIS MAMA only trying to get her DIL to pay something???
Does the son who’s in the military send money home?
She said her son hasn’t sent any money 🤷♀️ which is ridiculous bc he’s getting paid and the military provides dependency pay (a pay increase per child that is intended as money to take care of your kids).. so what is he doing with the dependent pay??? Is it he is also out clubbing? And misusing the dependent pay to fund his benders???
Grandma is just tired ..... And over doing 24-7 now she changed her mind. Im on the side of the mom 😂
But the child support payment still totals less than monthly childcare, so grandma is still out of pocket. I don't understand this ruling. Wouldn't Tanner's salary be going into a joint account with Mom? So she could pay childcare.
Becuase he wasnt there, grandma would need to refile and include the dad. Then the payment would be better. Its hard when theyre in the military and cant necessarily be in court.
How can child support be required unless grandma has legal rights. Im very confused
The grandmother has to have legal rights or a notarized document in order to take the child to day care, a clinic, etc
@@elizabethkelley3080 No, they can just be on the drop off and pick up form. The parent can register the child and the grandparents pick up and drop off.
This woman judge has been around a long time but looks younger now. That girls mother looks good.
I know a lot of women who went to school full time, who worked full time, and who are still able to raise their own children. They did have support from their families, letting them live at home, babysitting while they are in classes and while working along with other kinds of support. I can’t stand these people talking about their children as mistakes, saying they didn’t want them.
If she didn’t want the kid initially and expect the grandma to raise the kid. She should sign custody over them. That simple. But to have grandma have to raise the child like her own. She should at least have the rights of a parent. Raising the kid then to have the kid taken away when mom is done with school seems so unfair. Because the other truth is when the mom takes the child she prob won’t let her see her grandchild.
Wellll, she SHLDNTTTT ever be around that Baby... EVER!!! LISTEN, SHE NEEEVER WANTED A CHILD, TAKE FULL CUSTODY!!! PLEEEASE
What happened to "my body, my choice"?? 😂 Smh she could've done something about not having or keeping the kid if she really wanted to...
"Grandmother" needs to file for custody and Sterling never needs to see that monster again. I realize the grandma probably didn't plan on filing for custody and raising another child, but she obviously loves that little girl and is just asking for some help. The surrogate who carried the baby for 9 months doesn't give a rat's patootie about her, she doesn't even come to visit when she's in town.
As others have said, the father should also be sending money home and her health care should be covered.
If the son is in the military, the child should be getting an alottment from the dad. If he sets it up.
Both people should split the child support
I dnt feel she wrong she clearly was pressured into having a bby she said she didn’t want it u said u wanted it so how she wrong for not being there smh not saying it’s ok but she was clear nd u have to respect it this is how children get hurt frfr she doesn’t want the lil gurl don’t force her to be sum she don’t want to be sad but the truth
"I'm in school full time" She is ridiculous😢😢
I JUST LOOOOOOOOOOOVE THE JUDGE SOOOOOOOO MUCH?! AIN'T NO-DAMN-BODY FINNA DO AN AGREEMENT TO RAISE YOUR CHILD THAT YOU DECIDED TO LAY DOWN WITH THE PERSON TO HAVE A BABY?! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?!
Um there are plenty of single parents that go to school full time. She definitely needs to step up. I’m not saying it’s easy simply that that’s the bare minimum as a mother
What kind of mother she is..she crazy
Day care 200 a week is really expensive 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭. If she loves partying and all then don't bring a kid into the world is not fair for them
She didn't want to...she said she wanted an abortion and the grandmother offered to take care the child.
I wish $200 a week. Mine in California in 2000 was $1400 a month.
I wish I can have children. Some people shouldn’t have children at all.
$200 a week is not expensive lol people usually pay $400-$600 a week or more
It most definitely is. Especially if you're on a single income
@EliKat94 yeah possibly for poor people or lower class but even then it's still not much
Get a job and pay Child Support. You can work and go to school. So that's not a excuse! Grandma needs help with your daughter.
😂😂 her internship is in the wind for sure
Didn’t want to be a mom but did everything it took to be one. No responsibility!
The entitlement is such a bad thing in this generation, I'm over it. I have grandkids and the mom does not respect boundaries either.
If I was the gma, go and file for full custody, that mother happily keeps saying I didn’t want my kid. Imagine the kid grows up and sees this video
She doesn't want to take care of her daughter. I was 17 years old when I had a child with down syndrome and I had to be a mom and dad full time went to work and college
I believe the mom is trying to express, She wanted to abort, but the grandmother convinced her not too. Because she offered to raise the child. Also being away in the military and full time in college is the same. Both parents should pay child support.
She is delusional! Thank God for grandmothers ... they will not let a child suffer b/c of ignorance, neglect, selfishness, etc. God bless the child that has someone that will love, protect and care for them. So sad
What happened to Tanner sending money too. This is crazy. They both should be sending the baby daddy mother money if that was the case. Tanner needs to step up too. Military or no military.
Grandma i think you flippped the script in efforts of teaching Her responsibility. 😂😂😂 Next time, she can take responsibility for her own actions. Know your role😅. Bc you can't fix your kids mistakes and still be present in your own life. Ijs.
Why isn't the father being asked to financially help his daughter? He's in the military; she's his dependent. All branches of US military have strict laws about taking care of dependents. They also receive financial benefits. Yes, mom needs to step up and take care of her baby; so does the father.
She sounds crazy
Honestly i think this is beyond the money though it's a factor. The lady in question is just avoiding her responsibility, at least be there as much as you can. Show up, show appreciation, don't be all about yourself.....
I was in the military, I would send money to my mom monthly. The grandmother should’ve told her son what he needs to pay monthly. The mom is ridiculous she only cares about herself and has to many excuses.
True but mom like he over defending our country pays insurance but mom is here in the flesh not doing nothing and yea mom needs to tell her son what’s going on and he needs to get custody of his child for the better
@ True
What is Tanner doing? What kind of financial support is Tanner providing?
Is the father also sending child support (military enforses) to mom who is in college.
These parents are ridiculous I took both my kids to school with me they put me in one class by myself to do my work thank God for that. Right now I have a son under two I take to work with me him and his dad sitting in my truck while I work I check on them every hour and call it a day
Let's back up a bit. Tanner can send money too, isn't it? He's working. The lady, didn't want a child but let herself get pregnant? That was the first decision... If you don't want a child then you make sure you don't get pregnant and no. one would have said they wanted a grandchild. There would have been nothing to talk about. However, the child is here, step up and be the mum, at least you have grandma's support.
There's no point this woman didn't born to be a Mum!!!
Don't force her .....
Just because daddy is in the military doesn’t mean he doesn’t pay child support does it? And mom has to support child without his support? She can’t go to school?
Y’all make women have children and don’t make the daddy help?
Yep! And in the military u get dependent pay (intended to take care of your children)- so that fact that his mama is claiming he hasn’t sent her any money and his only contribution is having HIS KID on his insurance (which is free of charge provided by the military) is beyonddddddddd
Im in school full time, i work 35 hours a week. I torture myself so that me and my love ones can have a successful life. Luckily i get to stop working this may! But man these moms are frustrating.
I would love to meet her mother. I want to see where she gets it from.
800 dollars a month for child care
Away at school means she can't be a good mom. Hence, why she should not be away at school. Go to school during the day for several hours and take care of your kid or at least support the caregiver more than this
And they wonder why some kids become unfit to cohabit in society. If their own “moms” reject them. Granny’s job is to spoil not to raise. She did that already.
I'm in school full time is s child's excuse.
What an atrocious excuse for a mother! Was she getting paid to tell us she's in school full time. That poor child is so unwanted bh the mother. Tough life ahead.
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A real nothing person!! With a smart ass mouth😳
She mentioned a lot that she in school full time like that matters n mean that’s a reason to not be a mom , I lost my DAUGHTER and she has hers but refuses to show up as a mom