'Good people can be made to do outrageous things if they overstay in places of provocation ' After realizing this, I walked out of a 12 year marriage without looking back. A narcissist can be outsmarted but his/ her narcissistic behaviour can never be taken away. If you're in a relationship with one, please run for your soul. Thank you Benjamin 👏
Narcissist are the hardest people to break up with and if you get that chance run for your life!!what I still don't understand is if they know whether they're Narcissist eish this people are so inhuman!!the worst part you can do to yourself is going back to then you're get more than what they did to you!!
Thanks Zulu your content has been soo helpful to me..It's now 2weeks since I walk away from a narcissistic man.The earlier you notice the red flags the better before the damage is detrimental. I felt I was living his life and not mine, this was the worst mistake of betraying myself.I needed to be me and have my life back.I would rather be single with a peace of mind rather than having to go through emotional ,verbal and mental abuse which eventually makes one to sink slowly into depression.
Parents please, if your spouse is a narcissist for the kids sake, LEAVE, kids raised by narcissists and enabler spouses are traumatized and damaged, it's unnecessary , LEAVE we will thank you when we are grown.
@@chepkemoijudith4951 please we intercede for your poor children. You have no idea how limiting and damaging that experience is for the kids especially as they become teenagers and adults because the trauma they internalised as kids, it resurfaces harder and now they start battling the psychological consequences leading to (addiction, depression, promiscuity etc)
So true love and relationships for me will never be the same. I would rather be myself and happily enjoying life. I am content and not willing to ever take the risk of being involved with a narcissistic man again. Yes it is a prison break going back to life takes time. Mindset emotions and everything have to be reprogrammed. Sad funny but true.
This is just me who was even told to visit a counsellor haha narcissist!!funny enough this people portray good impression outside till nobody trusts you.
Always a great show Benjamin zulu. But now the problem is when you take a good egg and a bad egg and make an omelette, the omelette will be bad definitely. And no matter what you do, you can never get back the original eggs once you make the omelette
Waaa! They are so good at convincing people that you feel a natural urge to gather evidence, record audios etc. Wow!! 😭😭😭. Plain truth, I know how it feels. 😭
I also think this is not emphasized enough they also target people who already have low self esteem, they already have come from backgrounds where they have been raised by narcs , experienced abuse as children are vulnerable to the tentacles of narcs. so you are not wired for healthy relationships you dont even know something is wrong, its start to make sense after you become self aware and notice that kumbe healthy relationships can be achieved. people have experienced traumatic events and for a long time that was there norm. thats why some people realize themselves after 20-30 years cause imagine getting from such a background you tend to attract to what is familiar a narc which is very familiar to you. but this is not meant to discourage them healing is possible and even for those who cant leave those for various reasons there are ways in which you can manage your expectations in these relationships. start working and researching on the internet about such relationships.
The narcissist in my life was mother,,the guysi was dating are babies compared to her...i wonder why and how she became proud in wearing Jezebel spirit...she hid in church the past 12 years..but even there they know now
Breaking up with a narcissist is no ordinary breakup, it's a prison break. You must plan to leave without your partner knowing nothing about it. When you leave, prepare for the aftermath. Migrate to a different environment if you have to.
'Good people can be made to do outrageous things if they overstay in places of provocation ' After realizing this, I walked out of a 12 year marriage without looking back. A narcissist can be outsmarted but his/ her narcissistic behaviour can never be taken away. If you're in a relationship with one, please run for your soul.
Thank you Benjamin 👏
@Mekwunye Christian Do not do that, that is what hyenas do.
Wou Congratulations, i also walked away after 15yrs and i know the journey very well 🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@carolineamina6443 my friend, it will be difficult but I promise you that it can be done:
For me I only stayed for 3years and I did the sabbatical leave😂😂
Can we momentarily talk about how gorgeous Mwikali looks; that hair, that makeup, that off-shoulder orange number... oh my
Narcissist are the hardest people to break up with and if you get that chance run for your life!!what I still don't understand is if they know whether they're Narcissist eish this people are so inhuman!!the worst part you can do to yourself is going back to then you're get more than what they did to you!!
Thanks Zulu your content has been soo helpful to me..It's now 2weeks since I walk away from a narcissistic man.The earlier you notice the red flags the better before the damage is detrimental. I felt I was living his life and not mine, this was the worst mistake of betraying myself.I needed to be me and have my life back.I would rather be single with a peace of mind rather than having to go through emotional ,verbal and mental abuse which eventually makes one to sink slowly into depression.
Absolutely!💯
Benjamin, what books do you read? You are so knowledgeable. Please recommend books to read.
Th studio looks great th interior is perfect , th best way to deal with a narcissist person is to leave quietly without a fight
The studio setting is dope,and you both looks amazing❤
The setting....is lit Benjamin.... Great show and we can spot the tremendous growth....you are my mentor.🥰
Wisdom lives here
What a truth.....he..he ...until we get to know that we are.. complete without the "OUTSIDE " we will keep keeping the wrong people in our lives
Parents please, if your spouse is a narcissist for the kids sake, LEAVE, kids raised by narcissists and enabler spouses are traumatized and damaged, it's unnecessary , LEAVE we will thank you when we are grown.
You are talking to me
Thank you!♥️♥️♥️
@@chepkemoijudith4951 please we intercede for your poor children. You have no idea how limiting and damaging that experience is for the kids especially as they become teenagers and adults because the trauma they internalised as kids, it resurfaces harder and now they start battling the psychological consequences leading to (addiction, depression, promiscuity etc)
So true love and relationships for me will never be the same. I would rather be myself and happily enjoying life. I am content and not willing to ever take the risk of being involved with a narcissistic man again. Yes it is a prison break going back to life takes time. Mindset emotions and everything have to be reprogrammed. Sad funny but true.
This is just me who was even told to visit a counsellor haha narcissist!!funny enough this people portray good impression outside till nobody trusts you.
Imagine he pretends to an extent of doubting yourself unaona ka niwewe mbaya
He told me to go to a counselor since I'm a mad woman,, lol but I thank God I left without turning back
Good pipo can be forced to do outrageous things if they stay long in places of provocation... This has really sunk deep
Always a great show Benjamin zulu. But now the problem is when you take a good egg and a bad egg and make an omelette, the omelette will be bad definitely. And no matter what you do, you can never get back the original eggs once you make the omelette
Waaa! They are so good at convincing people that you feel a natural urge to gather evidence, record audios etc. Wow!! 😭😭😭. Plain truth, I know how it feels. 😭
Some people have no strength to leave nor will to fight. Don't blame sites for venting it's for freeing emotions and a safe place without judgement
Hands down the best of your interviews 💝. . . What a breath of fresh air. This is phenomenal advice. Preach on brother . God bless you 🙏
So informative aki👏👏👏you both are great
Thank you so much for educating us we ware dealing narcissistic but we ware confused and we didn’t know what to call their behavior
Having a peaceful inner home to run and dwell there always.Im actually at home.Thanks
Hey,I was looking for this topic,,weee, thanks you sir
"people don't know the influence of these people" THE END
Man or Woman, you can leave. You can always walk away. I have done it successfully and continued parenting. It can be done.
@Mekwunye Christian Do not do that - that is what Hyenas do.
Best thing I have ever heard!!!!! Waaah
I also think this is not emphasized enough they also target people who already have low self esteem, they already have come from backgrounds where they have been raised by narcs , experienced abuse as children are vulnerable to the tentacles of narcs. so you are not wired for healthy relationships you dont even know something is wrong, its start to make sense after you become self aware and notice that kumbe healthy relationships can be achieved. people have experienced traumatic events and for a long time that was there norm. thats why some people realize themselves after 20-30 years cause imagine getting from such a background you tend to attract to what is familiar a narc which is very familiar to you. but this is not meant to discourage them healing is possible and even for those who cant leave those for various reasons there are ways in which you can manage your expectations in these relationships. start working and researching on the internet about such relationships.
is it possible to balance this mic....her voice aint clear or not well balance ...its somehow not audible as for Benjamin...polite notice pls
Mmmmh. No words 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
The narcissist in my life was mother,,the guysi was dating are babies compared to her...i wonder why and how she became proud in wearing Jezebel spirit...she hid in church the past 12 years..but even there they know now
Wisdom detected.
What do you do when the narcissist is your adult child?
That is a tough one.
Thumbs up for the wise man Mr Zulu
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I have a narcissist mother in law
why do they also prefer single mothers?
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Aki Benjamin Zulu 😂
Breaking up with a narcissist is no ordinary breakup, it's a prison break. You must plan to leave without your partner knowing nothing about it.
When you leave, prepare for the aftermath. Migrate to a different environment if you have to.
Mr Benjamin is as if you are discribing the ma i live with and ihave suffered alot unknowingly