I'm really beginning to think this is not a sickness because most narcs know what the heck they are doing. Why even bother getting in a relationship. Way too many games. Relationships take work regardless and if you're not ready for it just leave folks alone.
How is it a sickness to choose to use your free will in a selfish way…. Every time, and then to actually punish people for trying to keep themselves safe from them. This isn’t a sickness, it’s the most deeply evil root of selfishness and spirit of fear I’ve ever seen. To have pity on them by subjecting ourselves to more and more abuse because we know they’re just a traumatized little boy is literally feeding all the demons. This isn’t a human trait. This is a predatory trait. If anyone tries to make you feel guilty, intimidated or punished for protecting yourself or having boundaries, yet their ‘boundaries’ are actually various forms of narcissistic abuse, run. This is a reprobated mind that seared it’s own conscience… willingly. To justify sin to the victim is proof there’s a demon where the conscience should be.
I think he means sickness in the sense that it’s a disorder with the mind. Same way an addict is sick. A drug addict knows what they are doing, so does a narc.
I turn that silent treatment into never speaking again. I laugh about it and idgaf. I love watching narcissists wiggle and squirm in the pain that they try to project onto others. I
Going silent on a narcissist is not a bad thing ( unless you’re playing games) but if your done with the abuse then it’s a positive thing to preserve our own peace and sanity and safety
That is so true. My ex narc would actually be off of work or got off early and would call or text me knowing I'm working and when I would get off work and return his call he would ignore my calls and text, and say I've called you all day. you must have been with him. WHAT! It was never anyone. But he was cheating on me the whole time. I was tired from work and mentally exhausted from having to put up with his made-up delusions. Thank God I woke up. Still painful because I wasted so many years on someone that never really cared for me.
REMEMBER. They can only KEEP multiple BROKEN women long-term. It's not a feat, threat or competition. We need to be honest with ourselves about who and where we are in our journey.
That's not true at all. Many of us are strong, independent women when they meet us and break us down over time... because we have kids involved, can't afford to move out, or both.
@@miss.charlene of course not. However, it sounded to me that you were saying that they only keep "broken" women long term- meaning that we stay because we are broken. After 12 years of narcissistic abuse I'm not qt all the strong and confident woman he met. Yet, that's not why I've been forced to stay. I haven't stayed because I'm broken or think I can't live without him. Quite the contrary. I may be bent, but I'm not broken. HE is the one who's broken.
@@miss.charlene thank you! I have to keep fighting! I can't and won't let him or the devil break me!! Although they've gotten very very close to it and they're relentless! 😭🤬
He was always with somebody else. And I knew it so I perfectly didn't answer my phone and he acted exactly what you say. And I will tell him that you wanna me to answer your call. While you was with somebody else, it's not gonna happen. At first I didn't realize what was happening. But when I did realize what was happening and I let him know. That's when he started disappearing more. Because he knew I was finding things out about him. And he couldn't let that happen. He wanted to play the Mr. Good Guy in front of Everybody and make me Look Like I was Crazy.
I literally witnessed this firsthand in my first relationship and it was actually how I ended up getting discarded. We met online and we dated for three years before I moved to his state. Right after I moved there he became suddenly busy when he would text me almost all day long prior. He rarely ever came around unless it was unannounced or late in the evening. I reached out here and there to suggest we should hang out or just to let him know I was still interested. It got to a point where I wasn't hearing from him for two weeks at a time when he lived 5 minutes away. I stopped hanging around my phone as much and tried to keep my mind occupied with other things so I wasn't waiting around as much for him. He kept cancelling on me last minute (plans he made with me.) The first time I called him out for cancelling on me he lost it. He told me he couldn't sleep for nights because I "kept texting him one thing and then disappearing again." I kept trying to fix things with him and even apologized if I had hurt him but his mind was made up. And THAT is how I was discarded.
If I do don't respond, he thinks he won. If anything, my silence makes him upset, but he gets over it and then he thinks I've moved on from the thing that upset me and allowed his behavior to continue. He doesn't get the hint.
I doubt mine notices that I am no longer around anymore. I was bad supply to him. I always held him accountable for everything and always called him out on it his bullshit. I always spoke up and I wasn't afraid to tell him how it is. I always give him the hardcore truth about him, and I know that narcissistic people hate that! I exposed him and told the truth about what was going on too. Basically, I was a fucking nightmare to a cheater like him. He's pretty overjoyed that. I am no longer around anymore. I refused to put up with his shit too. I always pushed back and I wouldn't take his controlling behavior either. Today Is 133 days of no contact and I'm so much happier in my life now.
They get so upset my Ex Narc told me he was pissed off when I left him. I said RED FLAG. I stay a way from him, 6 months of no contact. He text me "YO" I ignore him.
I'm now 8 months Narc free,even though he only lives 2 minutes away, I blocked him, and completely ghost him and blank him, even though he showed up at my bus stop, and Supermarket and showed up when I went for a walk, no going back, as I know it would be the same crap again, only worse😏🚩🏃♀️
That’s Me, too reliable, too responsible, how else does a marriage work. Yes broken women, on drugs dope smokers and who know what God can’t bless a narsasist because how they are, miserable. Always on the phone he was, but at work where he picks up on women shoppers, never time to call me When I went with him, he had time to sit on the phone all day, just now realized he was lying his phone was dead, or I knew he was lying, but now I know why
So I was in no contact with my ex and he’s texted me and I’ve been strong not responding… I gave in and texted him. Basically it started out by me telling him a song came on that he sent to me while we were together. That turned into conversation and talked on the phone….. eventually he starts asking me why I didn’t call his mom and grandma and wish them a happy Mother’s Day… i said Bc were are broken up what do you mean? And he goes you know how important those women are to me. So basically I feel he is a narcissist and I slowly felt certain gut feelings of that sense of wanting control so I ✌🏼 out again.
Yes I'm giving the silent treatment. I gave 24 years of my life, no more. He wanted me Gone; just not the way he thought it was going down. He had 24 years to treat me right. I love myself enough now that I won't let him ever hurt me again. Glad he found new supply he should have treated her better too. Coarse he dumped her by introducing his wife. At his age; supply gets pretty slim to nothing. So all those curses he spoke over my life; right back at him. What goes around comes around. He spoke a lot of evil crap over my life. What he didn't speak, he wrote down in prayers to his god and burned sage over. God won't hear your prayers if you are asking him to destroy your wife. I always told him destroy your wife, you destroy your life. He be so cold he actually thought he could do so unscathed. Even with 12 years to plan it all out. 2007 to 2019.
Same, he had 23yrs to treat me like I grated him. No more time to waste on his BS. The saying “each one teach one” is so true. I never experienced the silent treatment until I met him. Once I realized he enjoyed using this emotionally abusive technique shutting him out became easy. I’m focus on me now and silenced him. I will do whatever I have to to keep me mentally safe. Good riddance.
I find your exit date interesting. When I went back to my narc because he wanted to work on things I put in my head this will end by such and such date. That saved me from heartache, I enjoyed him and him making me feel beautiful but once he started up again. I new my exit date
Word for word how my narc thinks…. It’s verbatim what he says. Verbatim. Plus using the ‘my therapist said I should be able to walk away from the conversation…’ lol 🤦🏻♀️ for 3 WEEKS? Lol and never ever get back to the convo! Lol He also gives our 9yo daughter the silent treatment. He’s completely emotionally ghosted her life completely… and HE plays the victim. ‘You know I’m your dad right?’ Lol I can guarantee he is entertaining another woman, as you said. He did it to the girl before me, dropped her like a hot potato…did it to me, dropped me faster than her after 11 years… and the kids, cancelled the bank accounts leaving me with nothing (and had just moved us all to Mexico, so I had nothing/ no support/ knew no one) and had another woman immediately… he can’t not have female attention, especially one that will give him sympathy and fall for his victim complex, so he can get the supply he can no longer get from me. when I found out he was cheating after he gave me his phone last Mother’s Day to ‘build trust’, I also found out that he not only needs pity, sympathy and to make me out to be a horrible wife to women for supply, but it was also to about 10 of his male colleagues… and it was embarrassing TO ME to see how none of them really responded to it other than to go along with him , agree and encourage him a bit that he wasn’t wrong for cheating…. Even the ‘Christian guy’ who I also found out was conspiring with him to act like our furniture was stolen, and to pay him for it secretly so I didn’t get any of the money. Nice. Not once did I notice him asking anyone any questions about THEM… and not one of them went to him to slag their wives and play the victim. It was all just him…. Looking for a pity party… one sided. This was the guy he pretended not to be around me, but once we got to Mexico, this is the guy I have now… I don’t even know who he is anymore, he’s unrecognizable, he’s nowhere near who I used to know, and fully collapsed after God served him his consequences…. And still is… he just won’t submit to God yet though so… it will only get worse until God takes him right to his knees… I’m shocked at how accurate this whole video is to my experience with my narc, as well as almost all the other ones youve made. It’s shocking
😂 the opening skit was hilarious. True facts spoke. I used that and noticed a shift. Never make that person feel like they are in control of everything, yes be unavailable emotionally. Don't be silent but equally give. They seem to become drunk when giving too much at any time. Sad but a lot of work balancing that beam. Thank you once again for your truth.
I had a narcissist that HATED when he felt like I was ignoring him & he’s not one to really give the silent treatment. He says that he feels like he has to respond bc people hate to be ignored like he does. I didn’t really ignore him I just hated fighting so I wouldn’t respond.
@@leonrwalkerjr honestly it helped correct behavior bc the next time he contacted me after that, he’d always come correct! He knew I wouldn’t talk to him if he was trying to be mean or start a fight.
Leon I thank God that he has turned your life around. Now you have a testimony. And you are able to help others. This is what it's all about. God is good always. And he can turn our ashes into beauty. Thank you again.
And here a self-confessed narcissist proves that most conversations really are pure hot air and tedious bullshit. If you aren't saying something constructive, then don't say anything at all. Case closed.
@Leon, when it comes to me? That’s one thing in which it’s still not okay…but when it comes to my daughter’s? That’s where I had to draw the line. It’s been over a year since this man spoke to his daughters and of course he’s blaming me “brainwashing “ them…what a cop out smh 🤦🏽♀️ this is what he’s going around telling people why he doesn’t talk to his kids…he’s telling people he loves them but don’t like them, wtf is that ? Weird, I can’t…and any woman that is okay dealing with a man that says that BS is just as weird
Thanks Leon. I watch ur videos everyday to preserve my sanity. My narcissistic partner is very abusive in all the possible ways. We have been in a relationship for 13 years and he was very controlling, dominating and abusive. The worst part was his gaslighting and manipulation. He would say why don't you die coz ever since you came into my life u made it hell. If u die, i will be a free man. He had provoked me so much that I had ended up attempting suicide. I started falling very sick and physically weak. He had promised me that he will marry me, we will have kids and pets... and many such other promises. But he never married me, always coming up with new excuses to not marry. Now m 40 and even lost all hopes of having kids at this age as m very sick and in depression as well. I can barely take care of myself. Now finally I have gone no contact from a last few weeks. And he is trying to contact me. He is saying all sorts of things like..." I love you... I will never ever marry anyone else, u are perfect for me, u are all i want, u r the only one for me, my baby should look like you. I will keep waiting for you all my life. You are making a big mistake by walking away... come back and we will immediately get married and you will have all u dreamed of, children, a home, a settled family. You are wasting your time. U r already 40 & it is already too late for you to conceive a baby now (as if I am the one who delayed the marriage and the pregnancy) We will immediately get married and soon within a few months u will be pregnant and just think in next year beginning you will have our baby in ur arms..." He even sent me a smiling pic of his, with a toddler in his arms. It's very difficult for me to stay no contact, coz i had loved him a lot and I was somehow managing from last few weeks. Now this triggered me and since 2 days m in a bad state of mind l. i have been crying and even getting angry and have been throwing things around the house. I am so confused. It's making me rethink my decision of walking away. M in two minds thinking should I go back, maybe he will change after we have a baby?
You need to talk to a therapist immediately! He has taken all your self power and has painted a false reality. Please talk to a therapist. You can Google therapist who deal with narcissism and have a phone conversation to get you started. Please take care of yourself before you lose your whole self. You are trauma bonded. That is not love! Please call a therapist and save yourself! God help you and bless you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
You’ve already given him 13 yrs and he didn’t marry you. Why would you want to go back to an abusive relationship? You’ve allowed this man to break your Spirit causing you to think about suicide and here you are thinking you should go back to him. Your not thinking clearly. If you go back the abuse will be much worse, guaranteed. And pls don’t bring a baby into this madness. Best of luck to you but I hope you stay strong and never go back. Remember, he asked you why you don’t die. That’s not love.
I've been getting the silent treatment for 2 years, if not 3, now, so I give it back. I'm so lonely. They've got at least one side squeeze that they're serious with. I cry all the time. No one cares.
@Sick of CRAP YOU! YOU! YOU! YOUUUUUU!!! HAVE TO CARE, ABOUT YOURSELF!!! I cannot say THIS to you loud enough. IF you don't care enough about yourself, to choose YOU over the mess you are in, NO ONE else is going to care! When YOU make the choice to live for better, knowing that you deserve better, the universe will meet you right there and BRING IT TO YOU. If you keep sailing on a sinking ship, you will drown in the depths of the sea. The ship you are on now in the SITUATIONSHIT that you are in has been going down, and dragging you in. MAKE a decision for YOUR LIFE TODAY, or be OKAY with being lonely. It IS your choice to make. 🤔
Leon you need to understand that the work you do i s very very important your way of conveying the message is spot on , M y narc ex is behaving the same way he blocked me for about two weeks and he would block and unblock before but yesterday I decided to blok him he has been blowing up my phone with questions and my whereabouts he going crazy because I blocked him but when he blocked me I could take it
Is it considered the silent treatment after you've been discarded and you have decided not to contact them or is that considered no contact? Either way, you've made a decision to not contact or chase after the narcissisr? How does the narcissist feel about this? Is he upset when he's not chased, contacted, given attention?
No. But to them it is. They’re thinking the worst… they’re totally demonizing you while you go dark after the discard. They think you’re cheating, etc. things they did to you. Anything they did to you, they honestly think you’re doing it to them as we speak… and are actually fabricating a punishment of some kind based on that assumption… so if you break no contact and you let them back in, they can serve you that punishment and feel like they’ve defeated you. The bad guy. Insane right.
I believe that no contact means there is no way for the narcissist to reach you because they are blocked everywhere. Silent treatment means you are choosing to ignore their calls or texts. Both do upset them but if they are busy with someone else, why would they even care after they've done the discarding? Things always go wrong with the new supply, so they like to know you are always around to take more of their crap. Their disorder makes them work in cycles so even if they hate you, in time they will forget and like you again however once they have detached emotionally, you'll never be lovebombed again. It's never like it was as the beginning. You'll only get breadcrumbs. The best is to block and not unblock! I made that mistake and the games/treatment only get worse!
Oh. So that's why my family wont talk to me. Because I had boundaries when they were hurting me with their actions, or lack thereof. And now they're extra mad at me because I'm exposing all the crap to anyone who follows my channel. But I'm tired of hiding, and covering up everything! I'm so sick of lying for the sake of sounding like I actually HAVE a family! I don't! My dad beat my mom and tried strangling her, and I remember him throwing all the jugs of water shed saved up for winter time when the pipes froze, and him holding my brother up against the wall by his throat! My sister refuses to speak to me because I'm pissed at her for being friends with my abusive ex husband just so she can talk to my kids over the summer break, when the only reason I told her I don't want her and her family around my kids and I was because they lack boundaries and discipline and my daughter desperately needs positive structure and guidance! My little brother is ...I don't know. I guess he just doesn't like me, and I never understood why. He chased me into my moms bedroom and kicked the door into my pregnant stomach! My eldest brother told me if I was a better parent, maybe my daughter wouldn't have been raped as a child. How?! How am I the only one with empathy and compassion in this entire effing family?? I'm sick of hurting and having thinning hair and addictions that I want to give up but I'm so stressed all the time all I want to do is vape and cry and have someone to hug me or hold me! I'm sick of answering "I'm good! How are you?!" When people ask me how I'm doing! "Well Carol, I'm not doing well at all. I want Jesus to come tomorrow so this pain can just stop. How the cuss are you?" And then I'll start bawling because I just used Jesus and the F word in the same sentence, and feel like a giant hypocrite, and an awful example of my faith, and a failure as a Christian, and a daughter, and a sister. And I'm so flipping tired. I'm just. Done. ...my family doesn't talk to me anyway...so what's the truth gonna change? They're still not gonna talk to me. And I get to heal, and move on. Because I'm freaking so tired of masking my pain! My dad refuses to respond to my texts. Despite the fact our relationship the past 20 + years has only gotten stronger and closer. And I've never ONCE insinuated my father was a narcissist on here. Not. Once. My mom? She texts me back. SHE'S the one who held me when I cried as a kid asking why my dad doesn't love me, and she reassured me he does love me but he just doesn't know how to show it sometimes. She's the one who got help from the church for Christmas presents for us kids. When my dad had a really nice job and supposedly couldn't afford child support. She's the one who has BPD...not him. And she'd constantly try to prove her validity, and it came off as narcissistic behavior, but I heard her sobbing night after night after night as a child. She read to me and did the voices. She didn't move across the state after the divorce. She took us on "vacation" when we were going to visit my brother in lock up, and we'd all squish onto one bed in a motel room because she was always broke. She cries because she thinks her kids don't love her. For no freaking reason. I know the feeling....all I've ever done is try to protect my kids and raise them right. And all I've ever gotten...was treated like crap. WELL. I remember my ex husband's ONLY honest compliment he ever gave me. He said "There's a powerful rage inside of you that is waiting to be unleashed, and I know you only will ever unleash it for the people you love most. That's why I love you. Because I can trust you with our kids, and you will destroy anyone who tries to hurt them." ... I'm not a violent person. I hate violence. I thought he meant physically. No. I'm a destroyer of pride and egos apparently. And I'm so sorry. I hope you don't feel terribly alone. I had to have mine destroyed too. I just... happen to be autistic, so I think I inherited my mom's BPD gene instead. But I DID inherit my dads ADHD, and cooking skills, and sense of humor. And since my mom married a guy I'm really uncomfortable around, if my stepmom and dad ever decided that they wanted to give truth a chance... I'd totally be down for being sealed to them with my siblings...if they ever decided to give truth a chance too. But I'm kinda done wishing and hoping and thinking and praying for other people to choose the right. God isn't going to force anyone to do anything. It's their choice. And this is mine. I'm taking my life back. Because I only get one chance. I plan on looking God in the eyes and hope to see tears of joy, not tears of sorrow... and I hope this isn't arrogant or egocentric or showcasey or overly harsh because I'm trying to just BE ME.
@Sherry Hand on my heart, I'm moved by your story. It's powerful. And, you were sincere and generous. Thank you for sharing. Please, consider this reply as a virtual hug. I hear you...
🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢 I've seen and read several of this person's comments here on this channel and a couple other channels I follow and the vibe I get from her comments leaves me feeling gross.... Several of her comments contradict one another in her ideals and beliefs. She's just self diagnosing herself, her kids, other family members, her boyfriend(who ghosted her apparently) with whatever mental illness seems cool that week. It's disgusting because there are people out there who really have delt with narcissistic abuse and it has destroyed their life. I'm so glad that this person can just assume that everyone around her is a Narcissist here on TH-cam. Her mother, her ex husband, the boyfriend, her son...all people she has claimed to be one(in comments) but it's based on her opinions not actual medical experience. Sounds like everyone is abandoning you because you're the narcissist and they're done dealing with you.....
It’s has to be difficult to break it down Real mixed with Raw💯. I’m the type of person that need it while also preferring it this way, so I thanks you 💯Salute
Just act like your not aware he’s ignoring you, just go about your day cleaning and asking if they want a coffee etc then enjoy the silence and read a book or journal ( that’s a good thing and it reminds you of how you are being treated and it will reveal patterns of behaviour that might get you some answers Or just don’t speak back Remember the problem with him IS HIM not you HIM & the problem with you is You. Please let me know how you are doing and if I can help at all I’m on strict no contact and I feel ambivalent about him now he can not hurt me anymore because I don’t care anymore I think I grieved for him and what I thought we would be while I was with him , that’s why I could just walk away and not look back ❤
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I'm really beginning to think this is not a sickness because most narcs know what the heck they are doing. Why even bother getting in a relationship. Way too many games. Relationships take work regardless and if you're not ready for it just leave folks alone.
How is it a sickness to choose to use your free will in a selfish way…. Every time, and then to actually punish people for trying to keep themselves safe from them. This isn’t a sickness, it’s the most deeply evil root of selfishness and spirit of fear I’ve ever seen. To have pity on them by subjecting ourselves to more and more abuse because we know they’re just a traumatized little boy is literally feeding all the demons. This isn’t a human trait. This is a predatory trait. If anyone tries to make you feel guilty, intimidated or punished for protecting yourself or having boundaries, yet their ‘boundaries’ are actually various forms of narcissistic abuse, run.
This is a reprobated mind that seared it’s own conscience… willingly. To justify sin to the victim is proof there’s a demon where the conscience should be.
They're fuckin retarted...I don't entertain it at all
@ESumner spot on!!
I think he means sickness in the sense that it’s a disorder with the mind. Same way an addict is sick. A drug addict knows what they are doing, so does a narc.
Yes.
Demons cause this...Demons require a body to enhabit in order to cause destruction.
I turn that silent treatment into never speaking again. I laugh about it and idgaf. I love watching narcissists wiggle and squirm in the pain that they try to project onto others. I
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Going silent on a narcissist is not a bad thing ( unless you’re playing games) but if your done with the abuse then it’s a positive thing to preserve our own peace and sanity and safety
WHO HAS TIME FOR THIS INSANITY.
They deserve the Silent Treatment and I'm going to keep giving it when it's deserved ‼️
That is so true. My ex narc would actually be off of work or got off early and would call or text me knowing I'm working and when I would get off work and return his call he would ignore my calls and text, and say I've called you all day. you must have been with him. WHAT! It was never anyone. But he was cheating on me the whole time. I was tired from work and mentally exhausted from having to put up with his made-up delusions. Thank God I woke up. Still painful because I wasted so many years on someone that never really cared for me.
REMEMBER. They can only KEEP multiple BROKEN women long-term. It's not a feat, threat or competition. We need to be honest with ourselves about who and where we are in our journey.
That's not true at all. Many of us are strong, independent women when they meet us and break us down over time... because we have kids involved, can't afford to move out, or both.
@@katceeee Absolutely. But once they've "broken you down" are you the same woman?
@@miss.charlene of course not. However, it sounded to me that you were saying that they only keep "broken" women long term- meaning that we stay because we are broken. After 12 years of narcissistic abuse I'm not qt all the strong and confident woman he met. Yet, that's not why I've been forced to stay. I haven't stayed because I'm broken or think I can't live without him. Quite the contrary. I may be bent, but I'm not broken. HE is the one who's broken.
@@katceeee Bent but not broken! LOVE THIS! 💜
@@miss.charlene thank you! I have to keep fighting! I can't and won't let him or the devil break me!! Although they've gotten very very close to it and they're relentless! 😭🤬
He was always with somebody else. And I knew it so I perfectly didn't answer my phone and he acted exactly what you say. And I will tell him that you wanna me to answer your call. While you was with somebody else, it's not gonna happen. At first I didn't realize what was happening. But when I did realize what was happening and I let him know. That's when he started disappearing more. Because he knew I was finding things out about him. And he couldn't let that happen. He wanted to play the Mr. Good Guy in front of Everybody and make me Look Like I was Crazy.
I literally witnessed this firsthand in my first relationship and it was actually how I ended up getting discarded. We met online and we dated for three years before I moved to his state. Right after I moved there he became suddenly busy when he would text me almost all day long prior. He rarely ever came around unless it was unannounced or late in the evening. I reached out here and there to suggest we should hang out or just to let him know I was still interested. It got to a point where I wasn't hearing from him for two weeks at a time when he lived 5 minutes away. I stopped hanging around my phone as much and tried to keep my mind occupied with other things so I wasn't waiting around as much for him. He kept cancelling on me last minute (plans he made with me.) The first time I called him out for cancelling on me he lost it. He told me he couldn't sleep for nights because I "kept texting him one thing and then disappearing again." I kept trying to fix things with him and even apologized if I had hurt him but his mind was made up. And THAT is how I was discarded.
Silence is POWERFUL. Take ur power back. They go crazy without ur supply.
Spot on!!! Mine use to absolutely hate my silence!! But he would do it to me.. It would literally piss him off. Glad I walked away…
If I do don't respond, he thinks he won. If anything, my silence makes him upset, but he gets over it and then he thinks I've moved on from the thing that upset me and allowed his behavior to continue. He doesn't get the hint.
No contact forever…you can do it
I’m not playing this games once I sense this AM OUT TODAY💯without return ..! Now I have WISDOM
I doubt mine notices that I am no longer around anymore. I was bad supply to him. I always held him accountable for everything and always called him out on it his bullshit. I always spoke up and I wasn't afraid to tell him how it is. I always give him the hardcore truth about him, and I know that narcissistic people hate that! I exposed him and told the truth about what was going on too. Basically, I was a fucking nightmare to a cheater like him. He's pretty overjoyed that. I am no longer around anymore. I refused to put up with his shit too. I always pushed back and I wouldn't take his controlling behavior either. Today Is 133 days of no contact and I'm so much happier in my life now.
Yea... I was the same way with my ex.
Leon, you're too real. I appreciate you like all of us do.
My father started to give me a silent treatment after an argument with my mom. It never ended.
They get so upset my Ex Narc told me he was pissed off when I left him. I said RED FLAG. I stay a way from him, 6 months of no contact. He text me "YO" I ignore him.
I'm now 8 months Narc free,even though he only lives 2 minutes away, I blocked him, and completely ghost him and blank him, even though he showed up at my bus stop, and Supermarket and showed up when I went for a walk, no going back, as I know it would be the same crap again, only worse😏🚩🏃♀️
Facts
They can't con and manipulate ppl if they don't know anything about them. All they have is assumptions to entertain them.✌🏾
More skits like this please. Thank you for sharing Leon
You’re welcome. I can do that
I agree
Everything he says is so spot on
@@ctt7971 exactly
@@leonrwalkerjr Thank you. You are very handsome. So glad you are doing the hard work to help others. Blessings Sir
So, it's so true, lmbo!!! I won't answer the call or text!! Lol it's so funny!! They go hay wire!!
How did you feel if someone blocked you without warning bc they were tired of being mistrested
That’s Me, too reliable, too responsible, how else does a marriage work.
Yes broken women, on drugs dope smokers and who know what
God can’t bless a narsasist because how they are, miserable.
Always on the phone he was, but at work where he picks up on women shoppers, never time to call me
When I went with him, he had time to sit on the phone all day, just now realized he was lying his phone was dead, or I knew he was lying, but now I know why
So I was in no contact with my ex and he’s texted me and I’ve been strong not responding… I gave in and texted him. Basically it started out by me telling him a song came on that he sent to me while we were together. That turned into conversation and talked on the phone….. eventually he starts asking me why I didn’t call his mom and grandma and wish them a happy Mother’s Day… i said Bc were are broken up what do you mean? And he goes you know how important those women are to me. So basically I feel he is a narcissist and I slowly felt certain gut feelings of that sense of wanting control so I ✌🏼 out again.
Good on you for seeing the red flags early. Many of us ignore them until much later.
Yes I'm giving the silent treatment. I gave 24 years of my life, no more. He wanted me Gone; just not the way he thought it was going down. He had 24 years to treat me right. I love myself enough now that I won't let him ever hurt me again. Glad he found new supply he should have treated her better too. Coarse he dumped her by introducing his wife. At his age; supply gets pretty slim to nothing. So all those curses he spoke over my life; right back at him. What goes around comes around. He spoke a lot of evil crap over my life. What he didn't speak, he wrote down in prayers to his god and burned sage over. God won't hear your prayers if you are asking him to destroy your wife. I always told him destroy your wife, you destroy your life. He be so cold he actually thought he could do so unscathed. Even with 12 years to plan it all out. 2007 to 2019.
Wow this sounds like my life 👀
Same, he had 23yrs to treat me like I grated him. No more time to waste on his BS. The saying “each one teach one” is so true. I never experienced the silent treatment until I met him. Once I realized he enjoyed using this emotionally abusive technique shutting him out became easy. I’m focus on me now and silenced him. I will do whatever I have to to keep me mentally safe. Good riddance.
Wow I gave him the silent treatment and he was pissed😂 so much that he started talking, being nice 😮 my exit date is slowly approaching 🎉 8/2023
I find your exit date interesting. When I went back to my narc because he wanted to work on things I put in my head this will end by such and such date. That saved me from heartache, I enjoyed him and him making me feel beautiful but once he started up again. I new my exit date
Why not today? Unless u have kids or some sort of legal ties..,then I get that.
Best wishes for a safe exit 🙏
Stay safe Please
Petty Petty Petty B.S. IS ON ITS WAY
I've fell in love with your accountability and transparency, ❤
me too. Leon is doing a public servant showing us empaths to have better boundaries.
Word for word how my narc thinks…. It’s verbatim what he says. Verbatim. Plus using the ‘my therapist said I should be able to walk away from the conversation…’ lol 🤦🏻♀️ for 3 WEEKS? Lol and never ever get back to the convo! Lol
He also gives our 9yo daughter the silent treatment. He’s completely emotionally ghosted her life completely… and HE plays the victim. ‘You know I’m your dad right?’ Lol
I can guarantee he is entertaining another woman, as you said. He did it to the girl before me, dropped her like a hot potato…did it to me, dropped me faster than her after 11 years… and the kids, cancelled the bank accounts leaving me with nothing (and had just moved us all to Mexico, so I had nothing/ no support/ knew no one) and had another woman immediately… he can’t not have female attention, especially one that will give him sympathy and fall for his victim complex, so he can get the supply he can no longer get from me. when I found out he was cheating after he gave me his phone last Mother’s Day to ‘build trust’, I also found out that he not only needs pity, sympathy and to make me out to be a horrible wife to women for supply, but it was also to about 10 of his male colleagues… and it was embarrassing TO ME to see how none of them really responded to it other than to go along with him , agree and encourage him a bit that he wasn’t wrong for cheating…. Even the ‘Christian guy’ who I also found out was conspiring with him to act like our furniture was stolen, and to pay him for it secretly so I didn’t get any of the money. Nice. Not once did I notice him asking anyone any questions about THEM… and not one of them went to him to slag their wives and play the victim. It was all just him…. Looking for a pity party… one sided. This was the guy he pretended not to be around me, but once we got to Mexico, this is the guy I have now… I don’t even know who he is anymore, he’s unrecognizable, he’s nowhere near who I used to know, and fully collapsed after God served him his consequences…. And still is… he just won’t submit to God yet though so… it will only get worse until God takes him right to his knees…
I’m shocked at how accurate this whole video is to my experience with my narc, as well as almost all the other ones youve made. It’s shocking
😂 the opening skit was hilarious. True facts spoke. I used that and noticed a shift. Never make that person feel like they are in control of everything, yes be unavailable emotionally. Don't be silent but equally give. They seem to become drunk when giving too much at any time. Sad but a lot of work balancing that beam. Thank you once again for your truth.
I wish I could make his stomach hurt, but I'm afraid he doesn't give a crap.
I had a narcissist that HATED when he felt like I was ignoring him & he’s not one to really give the silent treatment. He says that he feels like he has to respond bc people hate to be ignored like he does. I didn’t really ignore him I just hated fighting so I wouldn’t respond.
You did right and that even hurt as you know.
@@leonrwalkerjr honestly it helped correct behavior bc the next time he contacted me after that, he’d always come correct! He knew I wouldn’t talk to him if he was trying to be mean or start a fight.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. You’ve helped me wake up to the trauma bond and hold myself accountable to heal. Grateful for your courage.
Leon I thank God that he has turned your life around. Now you have a testimony. And you are able to help others. This is what it's all about. God is good always. And he can turn our ashes into beauty. Thank you again.
This 🎯🎯🎯
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THATS SO TRUE
And here a self-confessed narcissist proves that most conversations really are pure hot air and tedious bullshit.
If you aren't saying something constructive, then don't say anything at all. Case closed.
@Leon, when it comes to me? That’s one thing in which it’s still not okay…but when it comes to my daughter’s? That’s where I had to draw the line. It’s been over a year since this man spoke to his daughters and of course he’s blaming me “brainwashing “ them…what a cop out smh 🤦🏽♀️ this is what he’s going around telling people why he doesn’t talk to his kids…he’s telling people he loves them but don’t like them, wtf is that ? Weird, I can’t…and any woman that is okay dealing with a man that says that BS is just as weird
Yeah, mine doesn't care.
Mine didn't either. She loved it when she did it and if I ever did it.
Sometimes they do but they won’t show it bc it feels too vulnerable to act upset by it.
Thank You Mr. Leon you poured out your hearts truths about everything i have experienced in the past with others. God Bless You as well Champion 🏆🙏🏽
Thanks Leon. I watch ur videos everyday to preserve my sanity. My narcissistic partner is very abusive in all the possible ways. We have been in a relationship for 13 years and he was very controlling, dominating and abusive. The worst part was his gaslighting and manipulation. He would say why don't you die coz ever since you came into my life u made it hell. If u die, i will be a free man. He had provoked me so much that I had ended up attempting suicide. I started falling very sick and physically weak. He had promised me that he will marry me, we will have kids and pets... and many such other promises. But he never married me, always coming up with new excuses to not marry. Now m 40 and even lost all hopes of having kids at this age as m very sick and in depression as well. I can barely take care of myself. Now finally I have gone no contact from a last few weeks. And he is trying to contact me. He is saying all sorts of things like..." I love you... I will never ever marry anyone else, u are perfect for me, u are all i want, u r the only one for me, my baby should look like you. I will keep waiting for you all my life. You are making a big mistake by walking away... come back and we will immediately get married and you will have all u dreamed of, children, a home, a settled family. You are wasting your time. U r already 40 & it is already too late for you to conceive a baby now (as if I am the one who delayed the marriage and the pregnancy) We will immediately get married and soon within a few months u will be pregnant and just think in next year beginning you will have our baby in ur arms..." He even sent me a smiling pic of his, with a toddler in his arms. It's very difficult for me to stay no contact, coz i had loved him a lot and I was somehow managing from last few weeks. Now this triggered me and since 2 days m in a bad state of mind l. i have been crying and even getting angry and have been throwing things around the house. I am so confused. It's making me rethink my decision of walking away. M in two minds thinking should I go back, maybe he will change after we have a baby?
You need to talk to a therapist immediately! He has taken all your self power and has painted a false reality. Please talk to a therapist. You can Google therapist who deal with narcissism and have a phone conversation to get you started. Please take care of yourself before you lose your whole self. You are trauma bonded. That is not love! Please call a therapist and save yourself! God help you and bless you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
It will become worse when you have a baby.
Can you imagine him doing that to an innocent child.. please please, save your kids the trauma. I wish I didn't get pregnant with him. Don't go back
You’ve already given him 13 yrs and he didn’t marry you. Why would you want to go back to an abusive relationship? You’ve allowed this man to break your Spirit causing you to think about suicide and here you are thinking you should go back to him. Your not thinking clearly. If you go back the abuse will be much worse, guaranteed. And pls don’t bring a baby into this madness. Best of luck to you but I hope you stay strong and never go back. Remember, he asked you why you don’t die. That’s not love.
Run as far as you can ...away from him
Thank you
Thank you Sir
This talk💯💥
I've been getting the silent treatment for 2 years, if not 3, now, so I give it back. I'm so lonely. They've got at least one side squeeze that they're serious with. I cry all the time. No one cares.
@Sick of CRAP YOU! YOU! YOU! YOUUUUUU!!! HAVE TO CARE, ABOUT YOURSELF!!! I cannot say THIS to you loud enough. IF you don't care enough about yourself, to choose YOU over the mess you are in, NO ONE else is going to care! When YOU make the choice to live for better, knowing that you deserve better, the universe will meet you right there and BRING IT TO YOU. If you keep sailing on a sinking ship, you will drown in the depths of the sea. The ship you are on now in the SITUATIONSHIT that you are in has been going down, and dragging you in. MAKE a decision for YOUR LIFE TODAY, or be OKAY with being lonely. It IS your choice to make. 🤔
Don't cry. Prayer will heal🙏.
That Love U gave AWAY IS NOW ALL YOURS LOVE ON U ALWAYS EEERRRRDAY EEERRRWAY
NOT LONELY JUST ALONE FEELS SO MFN GOOD
“It’s better to be alone than with bad company”!
Leon you need to understand that the work you do i s very very important your way of conveying the message is spot on , M y narc ex is behaving the same way he blocked me for about two weeks and he would block and unblock before but yesterday I decided to blok him he has been blowing up my phone with questions and my whereabouts he going crazy because I blocked him but when he blocked me I could take it
Get out, do you hear yourself!
On point wow❤
❤you really express this perfectly😊 have a great week!
Nice Going Leon👍
Thank you for sharing.
Is it considered the silent treatment after you've been discarded and you have decided not to contact them or is that considered no contact? Either way, you've made a decision to not contact or chase after the narcissisr? How does the narcissist feel about this? Is he upset when he's not chased, contacted, given attention?
No. But to them it is. They’re thinking the worst… they’re totally demonizing you while you go dark after the discard. They think you’re cheating, etc. things they did to you. Anything they did to you, they honestly think you’re doing it to them as we speak… and are actually fabricating a punishment of some kind based on that assumption… so if you break no contact and you let them back in, they can serve you that punishment and feel like they’ve defeated you. The bad guy.
Insane right.
I believe that no contact means there is no way for the narcissist to reach you because they are blocked everywhere.
Silent treatment means you are choosing to ignore their calls or texts.
Both do upset them but if they are busy with someone else, why would they even care after they've done the discarding?
Things always go wrong with the new supply, so they like to know you are always around to take more of their crap. Their disorder makes them work in cycles so even if they hate you, in time they will forget and like you again however once they have detached emotionally, you'll never be lovebombed again. It's never like it was as the beginning. You'll only get breadcrumbs.
The best is to block and not unblock! I made that mistake and the games/treatment only get worse!
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Oh. So that's why my family wont talk to me. Because I had boundaries when they were hurting me with their actions, or lack thereof.
And now they're extra mad at me because I'm exposing all the crap to anyone who follows my channel.
But I'm tired of hiding, and covering up everything! I'm so sick of lying for the sake of sounding like I actually HAVE a family! I don't! My dad beat my mom and tried strangling her, and I remember him throwing all the jugs of water shed saved up for winter time when the pipes froze, and him holding my brother up against the wall by his throat! My sister refuses to speak to me because I'm pissed at her for being friends with my abusive ex husband just so she can talk to my kids over the summer break, when the only reason I told her I don't want her and her family around my kids and I was because they lack boundaries and discipline and my daughter desperately needs positive structure and guidance! My little brother is ...I don't know. I guess he just doesn't like me, and I never understood why. He chased me into my moms bedroom and kicked the door into my pregnant stomach!
My eldest brother told me if I was a better parent, maybe my daughter wouldn't have been raped as a child.
How?! How am I the only one with empathy and compassion in this entire effing family??
I'm sick of hurting and having thinning hair and addictions that I want to give up but I'm so stressed all the time all I want to do is vape and cry and have someone to hug me or hold me!
I'm sick of answering "I'm good! How are you?!" When people ask me how I'm doing!
"Well Carol, I'm not doing well at all. I want Jesus to come tomorrow so this pain can just stop. How the cuss are you?"
And then I'll start bawling because I just used Jesus and the F word in the same sentence, and feel like a giant hypocrite, and an awful example of my faith, and a failure as a Christian, and a daughter, and a sister.
And I'm so flipping tired.
I'm just. Done.
...my family doesn't talk to me anyway...so what's the truth gonna change? They're still not gonna talk to me. And I get to heal, and move on.
Because I'm freaking so tired of masking my pain!
My dad refuses to respond to my texts. Despite the fact our relationship the past 20 + years has only gotten stronger and closer. And I've never ONCE insinuated my father was a narcissist on here. Not. Once.
My mom? She texts me back. SHE'S the one who held me when I cried as a kid asking why my dad doesn't love me, and she reassured me he does love me but he just doesn't know how to show it sometimes.
She's the one who got help from the church for Christmas presents for us kids. When my dad had a really nice job and supposedly couldn't afford child support.
She's the one who has BPD...not him. And she'd constantly try to prove her validity, and it came off as narcissistic behavior, but I heard her sobbing night after night after night as a child. She read to me and did the voices. She didn't move across the state after the divorce. She took us on "vacation" when we were going to visit my brother in lock up, and we'd all squish onto one bed in a motel room because she was always broke. She cries because she thinks her kids don't love her.
For no freaking reason. I know the feeling....all I've ever done is try to protect my kids and raise them right. And all I've ever gotten...was treated like crap.
WELL. I remember my ex husband's ONLY honest compliment he ever gave me.
He said "There's a powerful rage inside of you that is waiting to be unleashed, and I know you only will ever unleash it for the people you love most. That's why I love you. Because I can trust you with our kids, and you will destroy anyone who tries to hurt them."
... I'm not a violent person. I hate violence. I thought he meant physically.
No.
I'm a destroyer of pride and egos apparently. And I'm so sorry.
I hope you don't feel terribly alone. I had to have mine destroyed too. I just... happen to be autistic, so I think I inherited my mom's BPD gene instead.
But I DID inherit my dads ADHD, and cooking skills, and sense of humor.
And since my mom married a guy I'm really uncomfortable around, if my stepmom and dad ever decided that they wanted to give truth a chance... I'd totally be down for being sealed to them with my siblings...if they ever decided to give truth a chance too.
But I'm kinda done wishing and hoping and thinking and praying for other people to choose the right. God isn't going to force anyone to do anything. It's their choice.
And this is mine. I'm taking my life back. Because I only get one chance. I plan on looking God in the eyes and hope to see tears of joy, not tears of sorrow... and I hope this isn't arrogant or egocentric or showcasey or overly harsh because I'm trying to just BE ME.
@Sherry
Hand on my heart, I'm moved by your story. It's powerful. And, you were sincere and generous. Thank you for sharing. Please, consider this reply as a virtual hug. I hear you...
Wow!!! After all of what you have been through, you still stood tall and took your life back 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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I've seen and read several of this person's comments here on this channel and a couple other channels I follow and the vibe I get from her comments leaves me feeling gross....
Several of her comments contradict one another in her ideals and beliefs. She's just self diagnosing herself, her kids, other family members, her boyfriend(who ghosted her apparently) with whatever mental illness seems cool that week.
It's disgusting because there are people out there who really have delt with narcissistic abuse and it has destroyed their life.
I'm so glad that this person can just assume that everyone around her is a Narcissist here on TH-cam. Her mother, her ex husband, the boyfriend, her son...all people she has claimed to be one(in comments) but it's based on her opinions not actual medical experience.
Sounds like everyone is abandoning you because you're the narcissist and they're done dealing with you.....
It’s has to be difficult to break it down Real mixed with Raw💯. I’m the type of person that need it while also preferring it this way, so I thanks you 💯Salute
On point!!!
He is killing me with silent treatment. How do I get my power back. I am stewing in pain because he is ignoring me.
Just act like your not aware he’s ignoring you, just go about your day cleaning and asking if they want a coffee etc then enjoy the silence and read a book or journal ( that’s a good thing and it reminds you of how you are being treated and it will reveal patterns of behaviour that might get you some answers
Or just don’t speak back
Remember the problem with him IS HIM not you HIM & the problem with you is You.
Please let me know how you are doing and if I can help at all
I’m on strict no contact and I feel ambivalent about him now he can not hurt me anymore because I don’t care anymore
I think I grieved for him and what I thought we would be while I was with him , that’s why I could just walk away and not look back ❤
thanks
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Ty for providing this clarity 🫶🏼