There was once the Lord told me to pursue this girl, and i did. He didn’t say Yes or No, He said Go. What happened in the end was she got together with another guy, and the ordeal led me so much closer to the Lord. All i’m saying is sometimes our desires and emotions may seem to suggest things to us, and we ought to pray about it always. The Lord is always faithful, and it’s been two years since and i’m so glad me and that girl never dwelled close to anything resembling a relationship(she was never my type, i realised). God is Good, trust Him always❤️
Lol I wasn’t allowed to watch Harry Potter as a kid too 😆 My parents very strictly monitored what we watched - any show where kids sassed their parents, there was magic or witchcraft, etc. But my parents always explained the reason why we couldn’t watch it. As an adult I actually am thankful for it, but if also can be super strict for others. Anyway, thank for another video!!
I know a family who won't let their kids watch Harry Potter either, I didn't understand why until now with your comment, thanks for sharing 😁 it makes sense and I understand that (and respect it for sure) it wasn't like that for me growing up because I'm the only Christian in my family and even that is still fairly recent 😁
I know I’m super late to the commenting game 😂, but I wasn’t allowed to watch Harry Potter either! Or wizards of waverly place, any Halloween movies, or even dragon tales (magic!).
I never understood that. I know parents want to look out for what’s best for their kids, and from the sounds of it, your folks did strictness with you the right way by explaining why they forbid it. What I don’t understand is why they stay their ground as their kids get older. It doesn’t give them a chance to mature or grow socially if they are held on a leash
I don't consider myself to be a Christian but I would like to say that ever since finding your channel I've been feeling true happiness watching your videos. I appreciate your advice so much angel. You are such a light and bring so much comfort to me, keep doing you sis 💖💖💖
I had this a lot when I was in my 20s - guys telling me that God said we are going to marry. I even went as far as going on a date with one of the guys, it turned out to be a total disaster. From then on, I said no to such guys, and have not been on a date. I asked God to remove such people from my life and he has answered my prayers. I am still single and very happy with my life, I know God will bring the right man in his own time. PS: Totally agree with no to been friends after a break up, seen it affect relationships of my friends, they had to be prayed for!!
I’ve found that before my cycle comes I’ll have more of a tendency to be obsessive over a guy. So, if that’s you I’d say wait a couple of days so that your hormones could level out again then like Kian said you’ll find the intense emotion fades away.
I believe this is a Girl Thing that needs to be discussed more in the Christian community. It is a feeling that do come and go. And important to teach not to react on such temporary emotions.
ash cash thank you so much for pointing that out! I just realised that I just started a cycle and I was feeling very emotional about men the last week or so but I didn't make the connection to my hormones!! I was beating myself up thinking, I'm not usually like this, Jesus is enough for me. But yeah, thank you 🙏🏼
Uuuugh yes me too... honestly my emotions around my cycle are such a mess... I get literal depression... bouts of loneliness... crave men. I never know if it's normal or if it's gotten to the point where I need help.
1 Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
Ymmm G by the word. check everything they are saying biblically. See that their core doctrine is aligning with scripture. also be weary of prosperity gospel, and the new apostolic reformation churches. theyre false. bethel, elevation, hillsong. also false. elevation and Hillsong are prosperity whole bethel is straight up demonic! if you want me to elaborate feel free to ask!
Just on your first question: what to do when craving a bf/gf I think a good question to ask yourself is what am I seeking in a bf/gf that God can’t offer me...
For me personalities physical contact not sex or making out but like holding hands feeling their warmth next to me sitting on the couch or cuddling things like that bc I have anxiety and certain physical touch can really help me when having a panic attacked etc.
Guy or girls should never say "God told me were gonna get married" often times those words are based off emotion rather that truly hearing God, but even if it's true... if God said it will happen it will happen. But that is so much weight to put on someone!
In a way, it’s kind of like using God’s name in vain. You are essentially claiming that God has firmly stated something will indeed happen when he hasn’t. Which, I hate to say, but usually when someone says that God has told them something they are either confused or lying.
You’re forgetting about free will. God tells people he wants them to marry all the time, but they have free will, and oftentimes they use their free will to make incredibly stupid decisions and go against what God had wanted and planned for them. No one should EVER ask God for a spouse or any kind of relationship that He approves of, if they are just going to REJECT His choice for them and choose to be obstinate instead.
if you are struggling with any kind of addiction, get into the word of God (if it's boring you're doing it wrong), the closer you get with God, the less temptation has a hold on you and the more opportunity you give God to transform you, God has broken so many chains in my life over the past month, another great way is through fasting and prayer (if you do this make sure u are informed on fasting)
A technique I use with keeping pleasures in check is breaking down things. For example I like collecting comic books a lot but I often reflect on what they are: thin paper, ink, shapes and various colors. In the same way the body is hair, skin, saliva, muscles, teeth, bones. This doesn't mean people are nothing but it's more of a reflection to keep lust under control.
I’m late with this. This is my first time watching this. I’ve given my life back to Christ but I’ve been single... a really long time and I wanna date... but haven’t had the best experiences and also I don’t want to put wanting a relationship before wanting to be in Christ! It’s a struggle girl! But also... I don’t want to be single forever. I want marriage and kids and I’m almost 32 so I don’t want to be too old to have kids... just thought I should share this.
Hey... first of all I am so happy that you are in Christ now. I won't badger you with advice cause I don't know your situation and all. But there's this sermon that I really loved that I think might help you in case you haven't seen it already. I hope it speaks to you in some way. th-cam.com/video/ViuAblc-M0g/w-d-xo.html
Also, my mom had me when she was 36... had her first when she was 32... I can assure you we all turned out right. Most of my cousins had their kids on their 30s or 40s so I guess for me it's more normal to have kids later lol. God's timing is never late, I know it sounds cliche but it's because he sits on the throne in heaven. When he looks down he sees everything. He sees the past present and future, he sees every situation and into every man's heart.... and unlike anyone else he genuinely wants the absolute best for us. So when he makes a plan over our life it's because he has seen every possible outcome and chose the absolute best one for us.
if you’re 32 years of age, starting to look for love is absolutely fine! God put you here as his child to find the love of your life and get married. by getting married this is a miracle God made happen himself. i know you want to focus on the relationship with him but dating around isn’t a sin, it’s what you’ve got to do. when you get into a relationship you become ‘one’ or rather a partnership so god takes care of BOTH of you together and makes your life progress from there
when i was younger many traumatic sexual things happened to me and growing up. trying to explore myself was always hard as it would bring back bad memories and i would feel sick doing things, after a while i was able to mature and put the past in the past and finally become comfortable. it’s only recently that i’ve became a christian and although it’s made me happier giving it up it’s always been precious to me as i was able to overcome that obstacle and not relate my body to awful experiences. sometimes i feel sad i have to give it up...
3:54 I used to be this type of guy to an extent. I never claimed God told me I was gonna marry my girlfriend at the time but there was a lot of me kind of speaking for both of us because she had trouble speaking for herself which I found out later. She loved me and was really into me at first, but as things moved into more difficult fazes of long distance my insecurities kicked in and I started projecting on her (subconsciously, but also from a selfish needy place, lacking guidance from God). I wasn't a leader in that relationship but a manipulator to satisfy my own sinful emotions and that trapped her and pushed her away at the same time till it eventually snapped. Probably the best and worst thing that ever happened to me I am a completely different man after the realization that I possessed such frailty. I feel awful about it and it seems she moved on to a very happy place
Studies and surveys show how pretty much everybody masturbates or have done it but as girls we are supposed to be ashamed about it and never ever dare ourselves to be honest enough to admit we do it. It is expected for us to be embarrassed about our sexuality unfortunately. I am impressed that you did admit you have done it. Finally an honest girl when it comes to that topic 👏.
You have a lot of courage and wisdom, especially for someone of a relatively young age. This is great advice in a time with so much MISinformation in culture and in certain churches. Any person claiming God told them . . . is someone to be wary of. If we want to hear God speak, we simply need to read the Bible aloud.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I needed this so much! I am struggling w a lot of these issues and your answers helped a LOT and I realize I’m not alone 💛
It’s so important to allow yourself to be found & fulfilled in God & to learn how to love others without expectation before getting into a relationship because there’s no way that a human can fulfill your every need or meet your every expectation! Learning what love is in God & sharing love without stipulation is such a beautiful thing! 💗😁
I went through the exact same thing where I was dating someone who told me God told him we had to get married and I feel trapped. It was almost as if he used God to manipulate me which is wrong on so many levels, thankfully I got out of that situation and now I’m dating my actual future husband
I really hate it too especially friends saying you should give that person a chance that they like you or have liked you for a while, I don't like them and that's it and I don't want to end up with them because I don't see them as what I want, Thank you ,human beings are just human beings they have no power over your life.
*If you're caught up in the culture of casual sex/one-night stands, here's something to consider* "However, when an individual chooses to engage in casual sex, breaking bond after bond with each new sexual partner, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one-night -stands. This pattern becomes the “new normal” for the individual. When and if the individual later desires to find a more permanent partner, the brain mapping will have to be overcome, making a permanent bond more difficult to achieve. Often the individual is not aware that the brain has adapted to the behavior pattern and he/she begins to think, “That’s just the way I am”, further reinforcing the pattern. In conclusion, research on bonding continues to support previous research showing that the brain is strongly influenced by sexual behaviors. Dopamine pathways as well as oxytocin and vasopressin and other neural systems are important factors in the formation of pair-bonds. When a person engages in sexual behavior there are consequences above and beyond the possibility of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Bonding with a sexual partner is one of those results. "
This was good especially the end talking about self-worth. Don't let ANYBODY tell You or sell You on the idea of what You're worth. Only God can tell You who You are and Your worth to Him, and that's all that really matters. People don't decide Your Destiny, only God does.
Peace and blessings to you and your loved ones Kian. Thank you for all your good advice. I like the comment you said about waiting being a way to restore ones value. It makes allot of sense because when we constantly give ourselves to someone who isn't worthy of us as proven good then afterwards we feel more empty and less of value. But in bringing ourselves back in alignment with Gods ways it restores the worth and value in our choices again.
I agree with you on God is better than any of us. & why should we put our happiness & worth into someone who is just gonna let us down. Might as well put it in God bc he never let's us down & hes never to early nor too late. You said that perfectly!! 💯💯💯 & to build up confidence is to rebuke fear & not let fear hold you back anymore. I've struggled with that for many many years but I'm finally letting go & moving forward with the help of God.
Wow thank you Kian for sharing!! I so agree with you, GOD IS BETTER THAN ANY HUMAN BEING hahaha. He is so gracious, and kind and forgiving 😭😭. And I advocate for singleness so much! Our single seasons are so important to develop our relationship with our heavenly Father🙏🏽💕. Keep shining your light girl!
I don’t think we should love to block people and get rid of them. Of course we do not need to be friends with our ex’s, as in some situations it can be toxic, but we must still love and forgive them. God Bless❤️
thank you for your honesty throughout the video... there are so many movies or series that I wasn't allowed to watch growing up including harry potter,haven't seen the chronicles of Narnia which I am so looking forward to see it at some point :)
Lindsey Manning that’s a great question! I actually find if there is something I don’t want to do, it’s usually because there is something outside of me (God) that has put it on my heart. I’ll have to think of concrete examples on how to learn to deny yourself. But just remember that He will always know better than us. He always has our best interest and futures in mind. We are incapable of seeing that. Deciding to go a different direction will ultimately lead to hurt and pain. It’s just our free will to decide if we are okay with enduring that.
Hi I’m like months late but thank you so much on the video of new rules on love , it really got me thinking and actually excited about transforming into that person God wants me to be in a relationship ! 💗 I had to subscribe to you your truly amazing !!!
The sex thing is definitely a difficult situation . I have always stayed abstinent but my biology is begging for it especially as I approach my 30s . Sex is probably my biggest issue . I am also slightly disabled and that doesn't make it any easier .
I had an ex who wanted to continue the relationship but I had a bad gut feeling. Pray about it first and talk to God about it only he can respond . Better gods wisdom than human foolishness that leads to regrets. One of my friends liked this guy at church. She prayed about it to God and God told her he was going to be a dad. The following week he told her he was going to be a dad.
Somehow this video just came up on my recommendations, so I do apologize for being late. But perhaps I needed to hear this as a way to encourage brothers and sisters that struggle with singleness. When I was in the beginning of dating my now husband, it was a difficult time where we both brought forth a lot of baggage from being hurt prior. Prior to meeting my husband I had a difficult time dating Christian guys, I found myself disappointed over and over and it took me time to realize that i was putting my trust in them rather than in Christ. Man will fail us, Jesus will not.
also yall be weary of horoscopes and enneagrams, enneagrams i think are a lot better, but its been found that it was first based on astrology so just be careful !
To the person struggling with masturbation: 1. I've once struggled with this even as a believer in Christ one night I was going to and I believe I was hearing God's voice on not to so I didn't Genesis 39:9 specifically has helped me to literally stop whenever tempted or you feel "those feelings" go back to genesis 39:9 and even maybe read the whole chapter and even study or meditate on it and relate it to your situation. I believe with the power and help of the Holy Spirit, and your decision to say NO and just reminding yourself that sin is an empty promise along with Genesis 39.9 and even writing down//journaling to the Lord how you are feeling in that moment. Helpful Scriptures -Psalm 119:11 NLT 11 I have hidden your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. Genesis 39:9 NLT 9 No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.”
I had someone tell me once that God had told them I was going to marry them. I answered that I would wait until God told me the same thing. Guess what? I never head from God. If this happens to you -- RUN! You're either dealing with someone who is a control freak or is hearing voices.
I wasn't allowed to watch nor read Harry Potter.. I decided to read it when I was 20 and my mom wasn't too happy with me 😅 My parents weren't even happy about me becoming a Lord of the Rings fan but thankfully my former youth pastor was a big fan and it's Christian based, so they couldn't say too much about it.
I thank god so much for helping me find you, you have helped so much and you answered all of my questions. I'm struggling with a lot of things including my faith which I kind of find ironic because I was born in a very religious family, no one really understands me and I'm on my way to find God and Jesus on my own. Thank you so much, may God bless you
10:00 usually is the other way around with guys, we say each other not to be friends with an ex because she actually isnt our friend... man women are so different
Just found your channel..You are a Godly Woman and very wise for as young as you are...Your rite Feelings are Deceptive...Much Love from Denver North Carolina 😎
Omgg the same happened to me about the marriage guy. A guy I used to talk to used to tell me that he would marry me and he was sure of it bc God showed him through dreams but I never felt peace with it and I also felt so stuck and just felt miserable and I would literally pray for him not to be my husband. Now after like a year with him we ended things because I did not like him because of many reasons and he kept saying he would marry me (knowing I didnt want to). I know really well I wont because things from God come from peace and some people can use the name of God to manipulate others, so just pray over it if it happens to you and girlll Im gladdddd to hear Im not the only one
Thank you for the great video! Loved your honesty and just how natural everything flowed together. Nearly 26 and still saving myself for marriage. Had many close calls but managed to get out beforehand. It will all be well worth it in the correct season (marriage; Ecc. 3). I've messed up many times in life and continue to do so, but that is how wisdom, knowledge, and understanding are gained (see Proverbs). Live every day in His Word and in prayer: allow those to be the daily renewing to your mind. Feelings are always temporary, but His Word is forever. Always keep Him first in life. Give your anxieties and worries to Him, for He cares for us. Jesus paid the price on the cross for the payment of all our sins. Make Him your Lord and Savior; confess your sins to Him and ask for His Forgiveness. For Scripture concerning Salvation and Forgiveness, please see The Roman Road To Salvation or the book of Romans as a whole. Then live for Him, each and every day. Always remember: every day in God's Word and Prayer is a good day. To God be the glory!
Coming here with a different perspective but I love how positive you all are! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ To me, I don’t see anything inherently wrong with masturbation. Who is it harming? No one. It’s just a fun thing to do. The shame that some of you are referring to is not internal and inherent, it is created by the society and the social pressures you have been brought up with. Therefore the shame doesn’t come from masturbation itself, but rather from the stigma about masturbating. In my opinion it is harmful to feel guilt over basic human desires. Being horny is not something you can help. Accepting the fact that you are horny and dealing with it accordingly is the best solution, at least to me. Repressing your own sexual desires certainly won’t lead you to live a happier life. Anyway that’s just my two cents ❤️❤️
For those speaking on the “enneagram”, please use discernment as we are a set apart holy people. I recommend isiah Saldivar on TH-cam, he has a video speaking on it. God bless brothers and sisters
@Kian Tilton I dont know you but I Saw your Face everyday on my Facebook Feed, as the Picture for a Christian Dating App, now you popped up on my youtube
I have trouble hitting on Christian women. Like I feel wrong flirting and I get a tense vibe from them. It is easy to date a non Christian but then they want sex and I'm saving myself so it is a horrific cycle
Really admire your openness and authenticity Kian! God is doing some awesome things with you! 💛
Alex Miotto thank you so much Alex 🥺💛
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There was once the Lord told me to pursue this girl, and i did. He didn’t say Yes or No, He said Go. What happened in the end was she got together with another guy, and the ordeal led me so much closer to the Lord.
All i’m saying is sometimes our desires and emotions may seem to suggest things to us, and we ought to pray about it always. The Lord is always faithful, and it’s been two years since and i’m so glad me and that girl never dwelled close to anything resembling a relationship(she was never my type, i realised). God is Good, trust Him always❤️
Absolutely love that you talk about every taboo subject. Helping so many out there!
I’m all about it 🙌🏽 if there is ever a subject you think I’m missing or something you want a longer video on, let me know!
Kelsey Cayer hey what’s up
YESSSS
Lol I wasn’t allowed to watch Harry Potter as a kid too 😆 My parents very strictly monitored what we watched - any show where kids sassed their parents, there was magic or witchcraft, etc. But my parents always explained the reason why we couldn’t watch it. As an adult I actually am thankful for it, but if also can be super strict for others. Anyway, thank for another video!!
I wasn’t allowed to watch Harry Potter it Pokémon, 😂😂😂 it celebrate Halloween!
I know a family who won't let their kids watch Harry Potter either, I didn't understand why until now with your comment, thanks for sharing 😁 it makes sense and I understand that (and respect it for sure) it wasn't like that for me growing up because I'm the only Christian in my family and even that is still fairly recent 😁
@@someone_5870 but Aslan is a false Christ
I know I’m super late to the commenting game 😂, but I wasn’t allowed to watch Harry Potter either! Or wizards of waverly place, any Halloween movies, or even dragon tales (magic!).
I never understood that. I know parents want to look out for what’s best for their kids, and from the sounds of it, your folks did strictness with you the right way by explaining why they forbid it. What I don’t understand is why they stay their ground as their kids get older. It doesn’t give them a chance to mature or grow socially if they are held on a leash
I don't consider myself to be a Christian but I would like to say that ever since finding your channel I've been feeling true happiness watching your videos. I appreciate your advice so much angel. You are such a light and bring so much comfort to me, keep doing you sis 💖💖💖
Maria Mendoza thank you so much Maria! Everyone is welcome here 💛 I’m happy my videos are having a positive impact
That is God speaking through her to you. He loves you so so much!❤️
I had this a lot when I was in my 20s - guys telling me that God said we are going to marry. I even went as far as going on a date with one of the guys, it turned out to be a total disaster. From then on, I said no to such guys, and have not been on a date. I asked God to remove such people from my life and he has answered my prayers. I am still single and very happy with my life, I know God will bring the right man in his own time. PS: Totally agree with no to been friends after a break up, seen it affect relationships of my friends, they had to be prayed for!!
I’ve found that before my cycle comes I’ll have more of a tendency to be obsessive over a guy. So, if that’s you I’d say wait a couple of days so that your hormones could level out again then like Kian said you’ll find the intense emotion fades away.
I believe this is a Girl Thing that needs to be discussed more in the Christian community. It is a feeling that do come and go. And important to teach not to react on such temporary emotions.
ash cash thank you so much for pointing that out! I just realised that I just started a cycle and I was feeling very emotional about men the last week or so but I didn't make the connection to my hormones!! I was beating myself up thinking, I'm not usually like this, Jesus is enough for me. But yeah, thank you 🙏🏼
Uuuugh yes me too... honestly my emotions around my cycle are such a mess... I get literal depression... bouts of loneliness... crave men. I never know if it's normal or if it's gotten to the point where I need help.
oh my goodness, I get that all the time when I’m ovulating. Since I realised it was just because my body wants a baby it was easier to get through
That’s good!!!
1 Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.
How do u test them?
Ymmm G by the word. check everything they are saying biblically. See that their core doctrine is aligning with scripture. also be weary of prosperity gospel, and the new apostolic reformation churches. theyre false. bethel, elevation, hillsong. also false. elevation and Hillsong are prosperity whole bethel is straight up demonic! if you want me to elaborate feel free to ask!
Faith Marie how is bethel demonic? Have never seen a sermon. I’ve just listened to their music.
Show Genius I LOVE SPENCER SMITH HAHA
@@faithmarie3808 wait so if i listen to their music (hillsong) then should i stop ?
Just on your first question: what to do when craving a bf/gf
I think a good question to ask yourself is what am I seeking in a bf/gf that God can’t offer me...
I guess sex
@@valeriaramirez9987 which will never fill the void anyway...only God can fill us with joy💗
@@dogememe6605 I know but just thinking what somebody would think
@@valeriaramirez9987 yeah👍🏻
For me personalities physical contact not sex or making out but like holding hands feeling their warmth next to me sitting on the couch or cuddling things like that bc I have anxiety and certain physical touch can really help me when having a panic attacked etc.
the aesthetic is flawless
Love how honest and open you are always! Thank u
Shakira Rivera thank you! I’m glad that you see that 💛
Shakira Rivera thank you! I’m glad that you see that 💛
Guy or girls should never say "God told me were gonna get married" often times those words are based off emotion rather that truly hearing God, but even if it's true... if God said it will happen it will happen. But that is so much weight to put on someone!
In a way, it’s kind of like using God’s name in vain. You are essentially claiming that God has firmly stated something will indeed happen when he hasn’t. Which, I hate to say, but usually when someone says that God has told them something they are either confused or lying.
You’re forgetting about free will. God tells people he wants them to marry all the time, but they have free will, and oftentimes they use their free will to make incredibly stupid decisions and go against what God had wanted and planned for them. No one should EVER ask God for a spouse or any kind of relationship that He approves of, if they are just going to REJECT His choice for them and choose to be obstinate instead.
if you are struggling with any kind of addiction, get into the word of God (if it's boring you're doing it wrong), the closer you get with God, the less temptation has a hold on you and the more opportunity you give God to transform you, God has broken so many chains in my life over the past month, another great way is through fasting and prayer (if you do this make sure u are informed on fasting)
A technique I use with keeping pleasures in check is breaking down things. For example I like collecting comic books a lot but I often reflect on what they are: thin paper, ink, shapes and various colors. In the same way the body is hair, skin, saliva, muscles, teeth, bones. This doesn't mean people are nothing but it's more of a reflection to keep lust under control.
Wow. That second question is a situation I’m dealing with right now! Thank you for that great advice!!
I’m late with this. This is my first time watching this. I’ve given my life back to Christ but I’ve been single... a really long time and I wanna date... but haven’t had the best experiences and also I don’t want to put wanting a relationship before wanting to be in Christ! It’s a struggle girl! But also... I don’t want to be single forever. I want marriage and kids and I’m almost 32 so I don’t want to be too old to have kids... just thought I should share this.
Hey... first of all I am so happy that you are in Christ now. I won't badger you with advice cause I don't know your situation and all. But there's this sermon that I really loved that I think might help you in case you haven't seen it already. I hope it speaks to you in some way.
th-cam.com/video/ViuAblc-M0g/w-d-xo.html
Also, my mom had me when she was 36... had her first when she was 32... I can assure you we all turned out right. Most of my cousins had their kids on their 30s or 40s so I guess for me it's more normal to have kids later lol.
God's timing is never late, I know it sounds cliche but it's because he sits on the throne in heaven. When he looks down he sees everything. He sees the past present and future, he sees every situation and into every man's heart.... and unlike anyone else he genuinely wants the absolute best for us. So when he makes a plan over our life it's because he has seen every possible outcome and chose the absolute best one for us.
Be in prayer about a husband to God. “You have not because you ask not” pray
M Sanders thinking that praying will help you with anything but mindfulness is just wrong.
if you’re 32 years of age, starting to look for love is absolutely fine! God put you here as his child to find the love of your life and get married. by getting married this is a miracle God made happen himself. i know you want to focus on the relationship with him but dating around isn’t a sin, it’s what you’ve got to do. when you get into a relationship you become ‘one’ or rather a partnership so god takes care of BOTH of you together and makes your life progress from there
when i was younger many traumatic sexual things happened to me and growing up. trying to explore myself was always hard as it would bring back bad memories and i would feel sick doing things, after a while i was able to mature and put the past in the past and finally become comfortable. it’s only recently that i’ve became a christian and although it’s made me happier giving it up it’s always been precious to me as i was able to overcome that obstacle and not relate my body to awful experiences. sometimes i feel sad i have to give it up...
3:54 I used to be this type of guy to an extent. I never claimed God told me I was gonna marry my girlfriend at the time but there was a lot of me kind of speaking for both of us because she had trouble speaking for herself which I found out later. She loved me and was really into me at first, but as things moved into more difficult fazes of long distance my insecurities kicked in and I started projecting on her (subconsciously, but also from a selfish needy place, lacking guidance from God). I wasn't a leader in that relationship but a manipulator to satisfy my own sinful emotions and that trapped her and pushed her away at the same time till it eventually snapped. Probably the best and worst thing that ever happened to me I am a completely different man after the realization that I possessed such frailty. I feel awful about it and it seems she moved on to a very happy place
Making decisions based on PEACE - very wise.
You're advice on not verbally re-communicating the same story about a guy has been SO HELPFUL thankyou!!
*love how open and honest you are with the questions, I respect that!*
I just never found a Christian woman that I was into, even though thats what I need
Girl: “a guy told me I was going to be his wife and I didn’t feel the same”
Me: RUN....FAST
Love your videos Kian! God has also pulled me into a season of singleness and at first it was hard but I love it now. Keep up the videos!
Been in this “singleness” period now for 2 years and wonder if God will ever tie me up to a true Godly church lady again.
Studies and surveys show how pretty much everybody masturbates or have done it but as girls we are supposed to be ashamed about it and never ever dare ourselves to be honest enough to admit we do it. It is expected for us to be embarrassed about our sexuality unfortunately. I am impressed that you did admit you have done it. Finally an honest girl when it comes to that topic 👏.
Thank you for being so open and honest! It's important to talk about the areas where we fall short and how God's mercy runs deep 💜
I also watch Jess Conte! Went and watched the discussion with Cooper...amen!
same i watch Jess too✌🏿✨
Christian dating has left me feeling discontent. Hopefully I improve enough to actually try again. God knows my heart and he will guide me.
You have a lot of courage and wisdom, especially for someone of a relatively young age. This is great advice in a time with so much MISinformation in culture and in certain churches. Any person claiming God told them . . . is someone to be wary of. If we want to hear God speak, we simply need to read the Bible aloud.
Really appreciate the non judgment! ✝️❤️ Love you
Thank you so much for sharing this! I needed this so much! I am struggling w a lot of these issues and your answers helped a LOT and I realize I’m not alone 💛
Miranda of course!! I’m so happy that it spoke to you and you can relate 😊
I love love love how genuine and honest you are, it’s so comforting and reassuring to hear
I really recommend you write time stamps for each question!!! (On youtube) so we can quickly go to that topic..
continue the light you show others! you change perspective on dating and combating struggles of singleness. you inspire me! ❤️
I am so thankful that I found your channel
Thank you for your authenticity, I really admire that. Keep going strong girly!
Praise God for your raw honesty!
Saw this on recommendation page, I really needed this thank you!!!
It’s so important to allow yourself to be found & fulfilled in God & to learn how to love others without expectation before getting into a relationship because there’s no way that a human can fulfill your every need or meet your every expectation! Learning what love is in God & sharing love without stipulation is such a beautiful thing! 💗😁
I went through the exact same thing where I was dating someone who told me God told him we had to get married and I feel trapped. It was almost as if he used God to manipulate me which is wrong on so many levels, thankfully I got out of that situation and now I’m dating my actual future husband
Your honesty is very rare in today's culture. In particular when you covered the subject of masturbation. Thank you
I really hate it too especially friends saying you should give that person a chance that they like you or have liked you for a while, I don't like them and that's it and I don't want to end up with them because I don't see them as what I want, Thank you ,human beings are just human beings they have no power over your life.
*If you're caught up in the culture of casual sex/one-night stands, here's something to consider*
"However, when an individual chooses to engage in casual sex, breaking bond after bond with each new sexual partner, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one-night -stands. This pattern becomes the “new normal” for the individual. When and if the individual later desires to find a more permanent partner, the brain mapping will have to be overcome, making a permanent bond more difficult to achieve. Often the individual is not aware that the brain has adapted to the behavior pattern and he/she begins to think, “That’s just the way I am”, further reinforcing the pattern. In conclusion, research on bonding continues to support previous research showing that the brain is strongly influenced by sexual behaviors. Dopamine pathways as well as oxytocin and vasopressin and other neural systems are important factors in the formation of pair-bonds. When a person engages in sexual behavior there are consequences above and beyond the possibility of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. Bonding with a sexual partner is one of those results.
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I wish I was!
This was good especially the end talking about self-worth. Don't let ANYBODY tell You or sell You on the idea of what You're worth. Only God can tell You who You are and Your worth to Him, and that's all that really matters. People don't decide Your Destiny, only God does.
Peace and blessings to you and your loved ones Kian. Thank you for all your good advice. I like the comment you said about waiting being a way to restore ones value. It makes allot of sense because when we constantly give ourselves to someone who isn't worthy of us as proven good then afterwards we feel more empty and less of value. But in bringing ourselves back in alignment with Gods ways it restores the worth and value in our choices again.
I agree with you on God is better than any of us. & why should we put our happiness & worth into someone who is just gonna let us down. Might as well put it in God bc he never let's us down & hes never to early nor too late. You said that perfectly!! 💯💯💯 & to build up confidence is to rebuke fear & not let fear hold you back anymore. I've struggled with that for many many years but I'm finally letting go & moving forward with the help of God.
Love how open you are! Also, my puppy’s name is Sadie! 🥺🥰💛
Thank you for being a REAL woman and talking about real things ❤️ a real woman who loves Jesus. Thank you! These videos mean a lot
Another homerun Kian! Great vid : )
Watcher Bear thank you for your continued support and messages 😊
I love this as always ♡ Just so honest and I agree with you so much
Angela Van Oosten thank you angela 🥰
Angela Van Oosten hey what’s up
Wow thank you Kian for sharing!! I so agree with you, GOD IS BETTER THAN ANY HUMAN BEING hahaha. He is so gracious, and kind and forgiving 😭😭. And I advocate for singleness so much! Our single seasons are so important to develop our relationship with our heavenly Father🙏🏽💕. Keep shining your light girl!
you are such a beautiful soul. thanks for sharing
Abby Zimmerman thank you Abby! Love you ✨💛
I've only had sex with two different guys but this year God really got a hold of me and now I want to save myself for marriage if I ever get married
I don’t think we should love to block people and get rid of them. Of course we do not need to be friends with our ex’s, as in some situations it can be toxic, but we must still love and forgive them. God Bless❤️
thank you for your honesty throughout the video...
there are so many movies or series that I wasn't allowed to watch growing up including harry potter,haven't seen the chronicles of Narnia which I am so looking forward to see it at some point :)
Beatrice Kpaku that’s so interesting! Thank you for sharing
I’m 26 years old I’m still waiting for the right one. The struggle is real 😏
God is realer ☺️
Tennyson Mercy Tosin what do you mean ?
Me too. It’s better to wait.
Beautiful video sister loved this a lot God bless you Kian 🥰 I would say you speak perfectly and have the greatest answers.
This was great!! ✨
Your honesty made me subscribe girl!! Thanks for opening up to us. ♡♡
I lovee the video! You have a new subscriber😊❤
Thank you for this video❣ amen🦋
Hey Kian, can you do a video on what to do when you think God's telling you to do something but you don't want to do it and how you deal with that?
Lindsey Manning that’s a great question! I actually find if there is something I don’t want to do, it’s usually because there is something outside of me (God) that has put it on my heart. I’ll have to think of concrete examples on how to learn to deny yourself. But just remember that He will always know better than us. He always has our best interest and futures in mind. We are incapable of seeing that. Deciding to go a different direction will ultimately lead to hurt and pain. It’s just our free will to decide if we are okay with enduring that.
@@Kian_Wolfgang Thank you, I appreciate your advice. If you decide to do a video on it, I'd love to watch. Thanks.
@@Kian_Wolfgang What a load of rubbish 😂
Hi I’m like months late but thank you so much on the video of new rules on love , it really got me thinking and actually excited about transforming into that person God wants me to be in a relationship ! 💗 I had to subscribe to you your truly amazing !!!
I love your content! God bless!
The sex thing is definitely a difficult situation . I have always stayed abstinent but my biology is begging for it especially as I approach my 30s . Sex is probably my biggest issue . I am also slightly disabled and that doesn't make it any easier .
God bless💛
This is a fantastic video, thank you so much for the insight! :)
You remind me of Alexa PenaVega. I love her so much lol thank you for sharing your advice and experiences!!
I had an ex who wanted to continue the relationship but I had a bad gut feeling. Pray about it first and talk to God about it only he can respond . Better gods wisdom than human foolishness that leads to regrets. One of my friends liked this guy at church. She prayed about it to God and God told her he was going to be a dad. The following week he told her he was going to be a dad.
Somehow this video just came up on my recommendations, so I do apologize for being late. But perhaps I needed to hear this as a way to encourage brothers and sisters that struggle with singleness. When I was in the beginning of dating my now husband, it was a difficult time where we both brought forth a lot of baggage from being hurt prior. Prior to meeting my husband I had a difficult time dating Christian guys, I found myself disappointed over and over and it took me time to realize that i was putting my trust in them rather than in Christ. Man will fail us, Jesus will not.
also yall be weary of horoscopes and enneagrams, enneagrams i think are a lot better, but its been found that it was first based on astrology so just be careful !
I love jess conte and kristin johns too ! and i love you too kian !!!
Thank you for this video again ❤
Hey! You’re the girl in the ad on my feed!
To the person struggling with masturbation:
1. I've once struggled with this even as a believer in Christ
one night I was going to and I believe I was hearing God's voice on not to so I didn't
Genesis 39:9 specifically has helped me to literally stop whenever tempted or you feel "those feelings" go back to genesis 39:9 and even maybe read the whole chapter and even study or meditate on it and relate it to your situation. I believe with the power and help of the Holy Spirit, and your decision to say NO and just reminding yourself that sin is an empty promise along with Genesis 39.9 and even writing down//journaling to the Lord how you are feeling in that moment.
Helpful Scriptures
-Psalm 119:11
NLT
11 I have hidden your word in my heart,
that I might not sin against you.
Genesis 39:9 NLT
9 No one here has more authority than I do. He has held back nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How could I do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against God.”
Thank you SO much for this
I had someone tell me once that God had told them I was going to marry them. I answered that I would wait until God told me the same thing. Guess what? I never head from God. If this happens to you -- RUN! You're either dealing with someone who is a control freak or is hearing voices.
Women just need to prepare for a man to come. They pursue. We position. Love God and stay in prayer and word and take care of your body
Very helpful! ❤
I am on the other side of this fence. Playing kickball or working out is helpful.
Keep coming back. That's all I have to say
I love this videooooo
You never linked ur guy friends page where he talked about masterbation interested in his thoughts
I wasn't allowed to watch nor read Harry Potter.. I decided to read it when I was 20 and my mom wasn't too happy with me 😅
My parents weren't even happy about me becoming a Lord of the Rings fan but thankfully my former youth pastor was a big fan and it's Christian based, so they couldn't say too much about it.
Rachel J. That’s so interesting!! I love Harry Potter and LOTR was my favorite 😍
Harry Potter is of the devil
I thank god so much for helping me find you, you have helped so much and you answered all of my questions. I'm struggling with a lot of things including my faith which I kind of find ironic because I was born in a very religious family, no one really understands me and I'm on my way to find God and Jesus on my own. Thank you so much, may God bless you
10:00 usually is the other way around with guys, we say each other not to be friends with an ex because she actually isnt our friend... man women are so different
Just found your channel..You are a Godly Woman and very wise for as young as you are...Your rite Feelings are Deceptive...Much Love from Denver North Carolina 😎
Omgg the same happened to me about the marriage guy. A guy I used to talk to used to tell me that he would marry me and he was sure of it bc God showed him through dreams but I never felt peace with it and I also felt so stuck and just felt miserable and I would literally pray for him not to be my husband. Now after like a year with him we ended things because I did not like him because of many reasons and he kept saying he would marry me (knowing I didnt want to). I know really well I wont because things from God come from peace and some people can use the name of God to manipulate others, so just pray over it if it happens to you and girlll Im gladdddd to hear Im not the only one
Thank you for the great video! Loved your honesty and just how natural everything flowed together. Nearly 26 and still saving myself for marriage. Had many close calls but managed to get out beforehand. It will all be well worth it in the correct season (marriage; Ecc. 3). I've messed up many times in life and continue to do so, but that is how wisdom, knowledge, and understanding are gained (see Proverbs). Live every day in His Word and in prayer: allow those to be the daily renewing to your mind. Feelings are always temporary, but His Word is forever. Always keep Him first in life. Give your anxieties and worries to Him, for He cares for us. Jesus paid the price on the cross for the payment of all our sins. Make Him your Lord and Savior; confess your sins to Him and ask for His Forgiveness. For Scripture concerning Salvation and Forgiveness, please see The Roman Road To Salvation or the book of Romans as a whole. Then live for Him, each and every day. Always remember: every day in God's Word and Prayer is a good day. To God be the glory!
Coming here with a different perspective but I love how positive you all are! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ To me, I don’t see anything inherently wrong with masturbation. Who is it harming? No one. It’s just a fun thing to do. The shame that some of you are referring to is not internal and inherent, it is created by the society and the social pressures you have been brought up with. Therefore the shame doesn’t come from masturbation itself, but rather from the stigma about masturbating. In my opinion it is harmful to feel guilt over basic human desires. Being horny is not something you can help. Accepting the fact that you are horny and dealing with it accordingly is the best solution, at least to me. Repressing your own sexual desires certainly won’t lead you to live a happier life. Anyway that’s just my two cents ❤️❤️
I have an answer for you but I'm finding it hard to answer you here
Ally Inherit go ahead!
@@nicolette2266 are you a Christian and do you believe in holy scriptures or the Bible?
Ally Inherit no
@@nicolette2266 oh enjoy the rest of your evening or day then
So good!!!
Good advice!
For those speaking on the “enneagram”, please use discernment as we are a set apart holy people.
I recommend isiah Saldivar on TH-cam, he has a video speaking on it.
God bless brothers and sisters
Masturbation is not something to struggle. It's healthy and fun habit.
Girl if your boyfriend tells you ‘god told me we are supposed to get married’ run away. That’s creepy af
gurll how do you keep your hair healthy
@Kian Tilton I dont know you but I Saw your Face everyday on my Facebook Feed, as the Picture for a Christian Dating App, now you popped up on my youtube
Other women are worried about finding men who won't commit and then there's a guy affirming his commitment....but it's still wrong.
I need to know where the girls are that are like this
We exist😂😂😂
Ally Inherit hit me up then! 😂
@@wolffeyw 😂😂 the problem is , y'all guys are too picky and judgmental. That's what I'm most afraid of.
Ally Inherit not all guys are
@@wolffeyw who would admit that they are tho?
i look at you and sat wow shes so nice i wish i could be that haha thank you for your grace
I have trouble hitting on Christian women. Like I feel wrong flirting and I get a tense vibe from them. It is easy to date a non Christian but then they want sex and I'm saving myself so it is a horrific cycle
The struggle is real. Christian women are like my sisters. It feels weird and wrong to flirt with them.