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- Hi, I'm Lucy and I have an alcohol problem. Let's talk about it.
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I love you and this is incredibly brave and strong. And I'm sorry we didn't understand the signs. But now we're all here for you and this helps us help you!
i love you so much dodie aaa and also i agree, she and everyone else dealing with this is so brave and incredible and strong ! we're all here for you
You've been amazing dodes. I didn't even understand the signs! Love
Lucy Moon I come across this video by accident but I'm glad I did. I work for a substance misuse service and I see alot of people come through the doors wanting support, they say that's the hardest part and by just realising that you may need help is the 1st step. this is an Amazing video to share for all to see especially someone as young as you so show others who may be suffering like you. There are so many support groups out there, our service runs a group called SMART Recovery which always has great tools to help in your recovery. All the best in your recovery. x
Love you Lucy, you are an incredible woman for posting this video...you're my hero❤👄love you n support you always❤❤❤❤❤
I'm proud of you
I think alcohol and getting drunk frequently is a bit too normalized in general. Probably why no one can see when there is clearly a problem.
This must have been so hard to make. Mad respect.
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Mac he's one of her freinds and an amazing youtuber also ❤️
Dear Lucy,
Please consider finding a support group or an AA community. You don't have to go through withdraw and the road to sobriety alone. The rates of success in remaining sober while in a support group are so much higher than trying on your own.
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Yes! I'm coming on one year sober and my 12 step program and many meetings a week have helped me stay sober when I never could before.
Until I watched this video I had stereotyped "drunkeds" as these 50 yr old men with beer bellies who go down to the pub and drink tons being aware that they need to stop but they dont. This has opened my mind to a whole new perspective as you are someone I admire. I hope with the support of your friend and family you can fight this. i love you x
(i meants "friends" not friend, Im aware you have more than one teehee)
***** I'm under the legal drinking age. So i'm not that experienced with alcohol (even though it tastes good)
***** Ok cool, I guess i just don't have a very good perspective on the matter. Thanks for broadening my views.
Ayanna Robinson You just described my father.
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For Lucy: I'm 17 and have lived with my loving family my whole life. My father is an alcoholic and it doesn't change how I see him. He drinks because his service in the war, his mistakes, and his alcoholism. Our family deals with it well and always remind our selves its not the person its the disease. People who truly love you will stay to support you and can attend Al-anon for loved ones of alcoholics. And you can attend AA meetings. Find people to talk to about it and help you. I often hear, 90 meetings in 90 days. He can do it and so can you. and even if you fail and start over it is a life long battle and you'll have to get up and keep fighting it. Love your videos by the way, beautiful person, beautiful life. Dont give it up
+Dork lots of love to you and your family
I'm so sorry your father is struggling. Mine does as well- I know how much sadness and stress and trauma you can suffer when you have to be responsible for a parent. I hope that you have someone to turn to for emotional support. I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry. Hugs from one daughter to another
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I'm 18 and I've never gotten drunk, but I have an extremely addictive personality. I've decided that I'm just going to completely stay away from alcohol. With all I've seen (which is not even that much compared to some) I know that it wouldn't be worth it because it's ruined so many lives, and even the lives it doesn't ruin, it really doesn't make them any better. I don't judge people for the way they live but I do wish more people my age would see it the way I do: more harmful than it's worth.
Addict with a Phøne Wow, that’s amazing of you. How awesome! :)
Perhaps a good call. I also have a personality that seems wired for addiction and I'm also careful about alcohol as there are many alcoholics in my family. I think it's important to note though that there are many people who can have completely functional lives while consuming things that can be incredibly destructive for other people. I encourage you to stick to your guns, or venture into things like alcohol slowly and measuredly. Good luck four years on!
It's so hard staying sober it really is but I've been sober for 3 months now, it is possible Lucy 💓 keep strong
i'm glad you've been sober or three months!!!
kialafiction Congrats! Keep it up :)
kialafiction well done! keep going! you can do it xx
Courtney Thomson Thankyou!!💓
kialafiction wow wee congrats!x
My mother was an alcoholic for the past few years and passed away in July. We never saw the signs. Alcoholics are not just people who stagger around and slur their words and sit in the pub all day. Alcoholics may seem perfectly fine. Alcoholism does not make sense to most people. People need support and need to know it's okay to speak about their problems.
Abbi Taylor
I am so, so sorry.
My dad passed away last February due to his alcoholism. Thinking of you, Abbi, and praying for healing in this time
Lucy this is so heavy and real. Thanks for sharing.
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I am in tears. You are the exact same as me and every time I tell my friends I'm going to stop drinking completely they say the same thing... "just slow down." I have been trying to "slow down" for YEARS but it just isn't possible. I have one drink and I can not stop for the life of me. I have destroyed relationships by becoming a monster when I drink. But I think being a sweet, innocent 20 year old girl (when I'm sober) confuses people. I know I have a problem and I need to stop... thank you for this video. I truly believe it is fate that this was on my recommended page and I wish you all the best, Lucy. We've got this!
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Erin I’m in the same boat! I’m ruining my life. I hate who I’ve become! I don’t know what to do. I’m so ashamed of myself! I want to stop so bad, but I can’t! I truly feel this will kill me.
My dear, lm leaving my number to you so that you can send me a message on whatsapp. I'm intending to open a group on whatsapp so we help each other to get rid of the monster inside us that has been sucking our blood for years. Let's do that together. You can ask anyone who needs help like me to join us.
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I'm the very same way too. Im going to aa tomorrow
Same! I hope you guys have found peace.
This was really enlightening to watch Lucy. Being a 16 year old who has never gotten drunk (had a few 4% ciders but thats about the peak aha) you see alcohol and being drunk glorified within social media and the media in general. Education within alcoholism and being drunk is limited and lots of people who never drink alcohol go for the first time at 18 and completely black out because they have no idea what they are doing. This must of been such a hard video for you to make but believe me this was sooo helpful, thank you xxxxxx
True, I think more should be done in college and school to ensure people are aware of alcohol and the consequences associated with it x
I could make a whole video about the glamourising of alcohol in the media
yes!! Please do, I think a video like that would be so helpful and interesting to watch. I find every video you make interesting to watch but I especially think your perspective of that would be a good one xxx
That would be fascinating...
Completely agree. I'm seventeen and have had much the same experience and though I doubt alcohol is ever going to be a problem for me (I'm generally not a huge fan of the taste), I know I have a very addictive personality and this video is so educational with regards to why you have to be *so* cautious with alcohol and substances like it. As a newly-graduated young adult I feel so fortunate to have been able to watch this video just as I'm about to head off into the world. Thank you so much for making it Lucy, I know it must have been incredibly difficult to film x
BIG LOVE LUCY! This is incredibly brave and admirable of you. God speed
I love you and I am proud of you. Thank you for using your voice. I support you. x
Rosianna Halse Rojas glad to finally hear from someone who can't relate to their sober self because everyone seems to think that a drunk mind speaks a sober heart but that's not true
I'll be sober now for 37 years tomorrow. I know it can be done. well done you. happy for you
I wish people would understand that alcoholism affects more than the drinker. It effects the people around them- alcohol creates abusers. The drinker MAY (not all) will abuse the people around them, mentally, physically, emotionally. So please if you are an alcoholic get help, it damages so many people. Thank you Lucy for making this video, I know this will help xxx
Also even at my age, I have such a strong WANT to drink but my birth dad was an extreme alcoholic- it runs in the family so for as long as possible I won't drink because I know I'll get, maybe not addicted but I won't want to stop?? I'm going to use all my will power not to because I know it's not right!
I don't want to tell you what to do and I actually really respect you for this comment. I just wanted to say that you probably can drink. If you understand the concequences of drinking and how to drink it you should be fine. Drinking safely will probably be better than simply denying it altogether. I don't know, I'm sure you will chose what's right but don't be worried if you want to have alcohol. You are strong and you will know what's right,
My mother is an alcoholic and got sober when I was 5, but knowing about her relationship with alcohol made the beginning of my relationship with alcohol toxic. I would feel guilty for having sips, feel disappointed in myself for having a drink, feel as though I had done terrible things simply because I had a hangover. Feel bad for having fun with my friends on a Friday in university, where I would have 2 or 3 drinks legally.
It pays to be cautious. It is good to know what problem drinking behaviours are like before you drink, and to know what could happen. That being said, despite alcoholism running in my family I can happily say I'm not an alcoholic, and even since moving to the alcohol driven culture of the UK I'm not even a problem drinker. Your fear makes perfect sense, but also know it is possible to have a healthy relationship with alcohol despite your history.
I can really empathize with your situation. Similarly, growing up, my dad was an alcoholic and the illness has been passed on for many generations. Fortunately, he parted with the excessive drinking about 7 years ago, but the damage has been done. Growing up with an alcoholic realllllllly messes with you. I'm now physically unable to be around people who consume alcohol; it makes me too uncomfortable. I'm also too frightened to drink because I'm so fearful that I will easily lose control. But, I'm sure this extreme avoidance isn't very healthy either. I hope you can find a happy medium where the consequences of growing up with an alcoholic don't affect your life. I wish you nothing but the best!
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I'm literally going to do this with you. I've wanted to quit alcohol for years but I just couldn't, and now you gave me hope again. We can do this Lucy, I believe in us.
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Even though I'm 16 and technically still underage, all of my friends have been drinking heavily for a few years now, and that's the reason I've decided to be straight edge. I know I have an addictive personality, and because I've always been a little (aka a lot) insecure around people and I always want people to like me, I know that if I started drinking there's a high chance that something similar to this would happen to me. Also because of the supposed calming effects of alcohol as it is a depressant I know it would be so easy to use it constantly as a way to calm my anxiety, especially when I'm out in places with lots of people that would stress me out, so I really don't want to run that risk whatsoever. Alcohol can be a fun recreational drug that can be fun to drink in moderation, but the risk of it becoming an issue for me is too high for me to risk, and the potential negative side effects of that would be way too severe for me to risk for the sake of taking a substance I don't like anyway just because everyone else is and I want to fit in. You're so brave for making this Lucy, and the fact that you're aware of your problem and are working to make it right shows such great strength! I'm proud of you girl, keep going, if you slip up its okay, just focus on your little achievements along the way to keep you on track, and hopefully you'll be much healthier and happier for it! Much love ❤️
You and your friends shouldn't drink in the first place, there's a reason why there's a limit to drink
I think it was brave of you to post this, and I think youre taking a great attitude - although maybe it would be better not to 'do' drinking in the first place, thinking this way is a really mature way of acting - keep going! xx
Hey Lottie :) I am few years older than you, but just wanted to say I am exactly the same! and went/am still going through the same thing. As I have, I'm sure you will have experienced people not understanding why you don't drink. But you are so strong for identifying within yourself what is best for you. Keep at it, you're amazing xx
Hi Charlotte. I stopped drinking some 40 years ago when, as a sixteen year old going to parties with school friends and tipsy on cider, I found myself saying dumb things to girls (I love you) and having to feel embarrassed the next day. I, like you, recognised my addictive personality, I didn't like the taste of alcohol and I certainly didn't like its effect: All of which made the decision to not drink easy. What was slightly less easy was dealing with a pub society which then (late 1970's) didn't understand soft drinks on a night out. I might also say that it was a time when drink driving was socially acceptable and people told stories of and laughed about being too drunk to walk but driving home! Nevertheless I have actually received very little hassle for not drinking in all that time and I have never regretted not drinking.
If your choice is to not drink, don't be diverted by social pressure (if it comes). If you are confident in yourself about your decision, people will accept it. You really can enjoy yourself just as much as those that are drinking and you will NEVER say or do something that you need to blame on drink.
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Your comment on your social circles loving alcohol hit home for me. I'm coming up for 1 year sober and finding things to do with friends that werent alcohol was tough in the beginning. Even now tbh.
you got this Jake ❤
As the daughter of a regularly relapsing alcoholic, I really appreciate you talking about this, thank you.
You said to me on Tuesday night that you were going to be filming this and I could not be prouder of you for doing this! I know it's so difficult and getting over the things you told me on Tuesday are hard. You are incredibly brave for doing this!
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Hey Lucy! You are amazing, seriously. I've just stumbled upon your channel & I am so happy to have found you. Your content is original and you seem like such a great person. Thank you for talking about this very important subject that - as you said - nobody ever talks about. I couldn't have done it!
Thank you so much for making this video Lucy, it's so powerful and I know it'll help some of your viewers immensely.
Sending my love and strength to anybody who can relate to this xx
Brave video. Proud of you :) miss you pal, hope you're doing okay
You just 100% explained me. I'm so with you girl. I'm 16 days sober right now. Before that I was 8 days sober, and before that I was 32 days sober. You will most likely have hiccups along the way, but it will be so worth it. The first week is 100% the most difficult, after that when I reached the month mark I hadn't craved a drink for about two weeks. I wish I'd just stayed sober the whole time since then......
I'm oddly lucky in the fact that I'm chronically ill/disabled so I rarely get to actually "go out" and drink. I did all my drinking at home, alone, so it was mostly easy to hide. It became entirely a crutch for my pain relief and anxiety. But even from home I could be reckless. I'd end up talking to people on Facebook chat and revealing embarrassing things or saying things totally out of line. Or I'd post a status or tweet and get in arguments because it's something I normally wouldn't say. Then on those rare occasions I would go out.... my god, the shame the next day and the regret is absolutely palpable. The final straw though is that the last holiday I took with my mum I ruined due to my binge drinking for two weeks straight. That was last summer. She then passed away this year in May. That regret alone was enough to know I had to stop.
I'm here for you Lucy. If you ever need someone to talk to outside of everyone you know then please feel free to get in touch with me on twitter (@ witchybuns) or whatever. We've spoken via DM before + you were kind to me so I want to reach out with kindness to you.
Much love + light xo
Witchy Wellness I'm happy you're taking steps to improve. I'm so sorry about your mum, hiccups don't matter as you said and I think you're bloomin amazing!
Florence Orchard aw thank you Florence! It's so kind of you to reply to my comment with such lovely words ☺️ much love + light to you friend! 🙏🏻
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Witchy Wellness u are not alone. I have been sober for 19 months. try AA it is amazing!
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I'm a recovering addict and I really enjoyed the way you put this out there it's a really brave thing and you are an inspiration I'm 4 years sober and its one day at a time. thanks for trying not many care enough to make the effort😌
Amazing. Well said Lucy.
0:10- "hi Lucy" (traditional AA response)
The last person I dated (and had to break up with) is an alcoholic, so thank you - this was incredibly enlightening. I still have feelings for her and I don't know what to do about it, but suffice it to say she's done things much worse than the ones you described in this video, so...I don't know. But this video makes me feel like maybe I can understand her a little bit better, since she's described many of the same things. Best of luck in your journey to sobriety.
+moscowmasha the best support I received was from my ex boyfriend, he really helped me. If you can, it's worth trying to work through things and giving her another chance as you might be the key to her improvement
I wanted to chime in on this for just a tic and say that I really believe that anyone struggling with alcohol issues is dealing with something much bigger. Alcohol is one of the largest industries on our planet, it's one of the most damaging poisons we've legalized for consumption and anyone suffering with alcohol abuse is dealing with something so far out of their control and something that is pushed so hard onto you. I'm not gonna assume what your significant other had done while under consumption- but I know that I've dated people in the past who have done some VERY irreversible things they never intended and can never take back.. But I know that if that alcohol had not been given to them on a silver platter ontop of all the other things going on in life, they never would have done them. :( In the very least, stay in contact with them and like Lucy says, you really could be a key to their improvement.
I wish you all the best in your struggle against alcohol, thanks for sharing your story
gosh, i know it's weird to say, but it's so good to see lgbtq+ people from russia. it just makes me feel a bit better, since i live in this country as well and since i am the part of this community.
and i know what you mean. one of my friends (she's turning 16) is an alcoholic - she won't face it, but every time i see her drinking it makes me feel weird. and now i feel like i needed to support her and tell her she might need some help. but i didn't.
Lost Goose I've seen some very eye-opening documentaries about being lgbtq in Russia, (no offense to Russians, and not that homophobia doesn't exist everywhere to some degree) but it must be incredibly lonely and difficult. So I'm sending you love and hugs from Canada.
Thank you so much for this, I've been struggling with this too and to see someone I look up to admit and try to help themselves is inspiring for me. I hope all goes well for you!
Sending love to you. I'm proud of you for being so open and I thank you for talking about this.
congrats on one week :). making this must've been scary, and I really value your honesty and bravery. you're not alone. we've all got your back.
P.S. I really, really relate to emotional hangovers. They're some of the worst emotional states I've ever, ever experienced. I said it before, but you are so not alone!
you are not alone in this! if you slip, forgive yourself, remember why you are doing this, and start again.
Could I please just add that if there is excessive alcohol intake on a regular or daily basis you need to see your GP because going cold turkey may not be an appropriate option because it can lead to serious withdrawal symptoms. You may need medications such as benzodiazepines to stop these. Good luck with your sobriety Lucy! Xx
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Eve Mee yes! This is so important! Withdrawal isn't just missing the alcohol but you could get really bad physical symptoms too. Also, Lucy, I don't regularly watch you but I really do wish you the best!
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You are right in that going cold turkey can be dangerous in many cases, but benzodiazepines are among some of the most addictive prescription medications out there
Samantha diazapam is used frequently (at least in New Zealand) in the short term to treat the symptoms of alcohol withdrawal such as seizures. Some times they are necessary 😃
Thank you for making this video. I am in my last year in high school and the way you described yourself and your friends in high school is very much how me and my entire town happens to be. This was really enlightening to watch. Much love
This is so eye opening and real, thank you for putting this into perspective for me. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there ❤
Thank you for talking about this. My struggle with alcohol has been intrinsically linked with my mental health. I've made so many mistakes from drinking excessively...it's hard to come back from those especially because it's easy to put it down to alcohol when really, there's something else going on. I'm very similar with the inability to limit drinking to 1 or 2, I've had to go sober in order to try and heal my relationship with alcohol but I don't think it's safe for me to ever have it.
I can relate so much to the change in personality when drunk, blacking out and the intense guilt and regret the morning after :(
I didn't even realise how ingrained the stereotypes of alcoholism are in our society until you mentioned how people just weren't accepting that what you were going through was a serious issue that needed help. When people ask for help and are met with "no you don't need to change a thing" then something is seriously wrong. Thanks for helping me shift my perspective, this video was eye opening and so incredibly brave of you to share.
This is exactly what I've been struggling for a long time and I was so relieved to see this because now I know that someone other than me has the same problem and is taking a courageous step to fight it. Thank you so much for this video Lucy.
I am so proud of you for not only recognizing the problem you're having but for also being so open about it.
Connor Manning- AConMann is also a sober TH-camr and talks about his experiences with alcoholism from time to time- Have you heard of him?
Anyway, thank you for sharing Lucy. Stay strong, we're here for you xx
+The Tweeky Gang Connor is an angel
The Tweeky Gang He just made a video response to this too!
I'm about two months sober now, so far it's been hard, but I notice that it gets better and better with each day.
You've got this!
Ever curious: Michelle thank you!
Rebecca M thank you! I'm still doing alright.
Alcoholism is a very difficult topic if you've been affected by it. It's extremely personal no matter what side of the fence you're on. My cousin has been sober for 12 years and has a PHD, has gotten married, and started a family.
I don't understand personally, but nearly everyone in my family has alcoholism. I've seen the cycle and the destruction since I was born. But I'm not here to be negative. I just wanted to say you're incredibly brave to make this public & educational. I know it's cliche but taking the first step is so difficult, there isn't a proper word for it, but it's seriously important and things can only get better. Keep doing your best. If you slip up, find it in yourself to forgive yourself for it and don't give up. Overcoming an addiction will never be a cakewalk and no one can say your struggles aren't valid. But it's not impossible, and you're 100% on the right track.
You might have heard this already, but picking up a new (relatively harmless) habit can help, in example coffee, gum, or hard candies has been known to help fill the desire to drink (or what have you) with something else. This can be applied to any situation; wash a dish when you feel the urge. Take stock of your clean dishes and think about how you were able to overcome it and hey, the dishes are done. Set goals to keep yourself motivated even if you have a relapse. Again, nothing harmful. This isn't 100% guaranteed but it might ease the process, and I sincerely hope this is helpful to someone.
I promise you can do it. I'm proud of your courage and will to say that you need to address this despite the fact people around you tell you it's not a problem.
Thank you so much for talking about this.I Wish you all the best on your journey x
Hey Lucy. I think I suffer from a similar thing. I love drinking, I love feeling carefree. But for some reason when I drink I always do/say something that hurts someone I care about. Often I forget doing/saying these things the next day only to have someone address me about it. And when they do I've many a time been in disbelief. I can't relate to my drunk thoughts and actions when I'm sober. I don't agree with them. I refuse to identify with them. But I have to take responsibility. Because I did these things and sober me has to deal with the consequences. My s/o recently told me that my forgetting doing hurtful things is pathetic. That I was pathetic. And I feel pathetic. Thank you for this video Lucy.
You literally made me cry at the end. So many people told me when I suggested that maybe I should not drink alcohol anymore that it was silly and to just drink less. But I don't know if I can.. Like you said, once you have one a powerful urge takes over and makes you want more..
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do you have withdrawal symptoms? I'm sorry I don't want to be nosey but I'm a psychologist and it sound more like an impulse related disorder than alcoholism. Maybe it would be good if you went to a psychiatrist or a therapist that can help with the diagnose because if it is "another thing" the treatment would no just be to just stop drinking. I hope you don't take this the wrong way I just would love to help. cheers for the video, I think it's very brave
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thank you so much for making this video! i really needed to see this now
I'm so glad I came across this video because this is how I've been feeling too. Thank you for being brave and putting your story out there. 💜
yes lucy! I havent drunk for over two and a half years now, since I was 17(!!!!!) but honestly it was such a good decision and now not drinking is easy xxxx
honestly I relate so much, I have NEVER in my life just had one drink
AND THE BLACKING OUT OMG
I'm glad you made this video, I am the same age as you and had the same problems with alcohol consumption. I used to promise myself every week I'd quit but the uncontrollable urge isn't easy to repress, and mixing tonnes of alcohol with antidepressants was a huge mistake of mine. I've now been sober since January 1st 2016 and I don't regret it at all. It's not easy at all but it will be 100% worth it if you are determined!
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emily b any tips on doing what you did? I'm trying but it's hard. Especially because my relationship ended yesterday because of my drinking.
This is such an amazing video Lucy... I can't imagine being in your situation and I find it hard to put myself in your shoes but I can appreciate the bravery it must have taken to post this. The reason I love TH-cam so much is that people like you share things, whether positive or negative, and then people find relations and connections and realize that they're not alone. Thank you so much xxx
I’m so incredibly impressed with your honesty and strength. You’ve done something so important, both for yourself and others.
I'm not done with the video, but I just want to say it before I forget:
Twice already you said: "I *think* alcoholism is a mental illness", the thing is, alcoholism IS classified as one of addictive disorders, which are a type of mental disorders.
And also, you say people "can't empathize with mental illness unless they had it" and I strongly disagree. And a lot of people keep saying that, and in the end it's just gives people an excuse to not even try to understand mental illnesses. My point is, I've never had a problem with alcohol and I can empathize and understand you, why shouldn't other people be able to too?
And in the end: Take it slow, one day at the time IS a lot even though it doesn't seem like it.
I agree xx
What you're think of is SYMPathizing, not EMPathizing. You can understand but there is a whole layer underneath that can't truly be articulated unless you dealt with alcoholism becoming a problem. I understand addiction and know some things about it, but I've not experienced it with alcohol, so I can't empathize with Lucy, but I can sympathize that she struggles. If she said anxiety and depression and OCD then I certainly do empathize.
im 21 and have never drunk alcohol... sometimes i feel weird
Why what country do you live in if you don't mind me asking?
Tanisha Hillary I'm 22 and I don't like alcohol and the smell makes me feel physically sick
its not about you Tanisha gosshhhh
AllThatJazz everyone in the comment section discuss alcohol and you decided to attack me... Kay. Btw youre not funny💩
Tanisha Hillary I'm 22 and I don't like it at all it's disgusting to me. I loved the bravery of this video
I think it's absolutely amazing that you shared this - you are so brave and I think it's brilliant that as a young person you were willing to let people know this about you to perhaps help others. Wishing you lots of luck xxx
This popped up in my recommended videos and having a dad who's suffered from alcohol problems for years and still suffers from them this hit very close to home. I wish you nothing but the best, I hope you'll be doing better or at least get to the place where you can learn how to not cross certain limits anymore. It's not too late for you yet, take the chance while you can.
This took a lot of bravery to do. I really wish you all the best
Brains of people with addiction or addictive tendencies are often wired differently and we just get addicted fast and can't control ourself there. Thats why its also running in families, like my granddad and my uncle that I both never met were adicted to alchol too and I was addicted to pot, because I liked the feeling, and my calming/sleeping pills (and to throwing up, wich I view as addiction too), luckily I had to go to a psyicharty for some time, so I stay away from alcohol and drugs... Thank you a lot for making this video!
and yes, alcoholism is a mental illness. - a mentally ill psychology student
Fresh Arche I think I have addictive tendencies which is one of the reasons I don't do drugs including alcohol. My brother and my father also have these tendencies and my father also has a cannabis addiction. I'm not a psychologist so can't really tell if I really am more likely to get addicted to things but I assume it because I tend to can't stop doing things more than other people do and this happens to all sorts of things since I was 12. Because of that assumption I'm really glad I don't have the desire to take any substances that can harm me easily like alcohol. I'm trying to keep it that way cause if you never tried something you don't know what you're missing out on.
Fresh Arche You hit that point perfectly and sometimes it's not we're easily addictive to everything its just we have a specific weakness
Mine was sex and coke but somehow weed and alcohol I could use occasionally and responsibly and never even think about going back once I knew I was nearing my limit
But sex just I hooked up with someone once and lost my virginity and after that I had to fuck anything that walked for awhile I was hooking up with this bi dude and his bi girlfriend basically
He introduced me to drugs like weed which when used right can be great and even a benefit its down right medical
Now when I found coke that I haven't had much but after the first time I KNEW I needed more and I could simply not experience that feeling enough in this lifetime
Luckily I've ended stuff with that guy and my current relationship is with someone who helps me stay off the bad shit and stay responsible with the other shit
as TMI as this is gonna get even though I'm in a relationship I don't have sex enough to say I'm addicted anymore and I never even think of cheating
Addiction is very real but a good support system can really change everything and that's what we forget is that it CAN be fixed
If I came back from cocaine and sex with every living human then you can do anything and everything
you were addicted to throwing up? do you mind explaining why?
Gizan Glyer
there is no why o.o like...do you want to hear my traumatic backstory on how I got into a vicious cycle of binging and throwing up? Yeah I know that its called bulimia, but I didn't wanted to lose weight, I was already thin. Its just a thing that I did to cope o.o
Glad you have decided to reach out and get the help you need. I think it takes a lot of courage to do what you do--much love and support from a subscriber in Florida.
I relate 100%. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤️
"I kid myself that I have the self-control to stop but I don't" Damn that hit me hard. This is what I do when it comes to eating. Eat healthy throughout the day, tell myself I can have a couple sweets and then stop and be fine, but then I spend the next 5 hours of non stop binging. I feel SO confident that I can control it, but as soon as I start, I feel like I can't, and then u have that lovely cycle of self hatred
I've not had a single drop of alcohol for four years Lucy, it is possible! How incredibly courageous of you to make this video!!
Build up a strong group of friends that don't want to go out as much but also love a cozy night in, chats and all that.. I have had so many bad experiences that I decided I needed to not drink again and doing this for so long, I can agree that it IS really annoying how people will look at you weirdly when you won't drink..ever.. but it's also something people will admire you for, secretly, because they actually wouldn't mind stopping either.. alcohol is a terrible drug of today's society and is so well hidden that no one ever looks at it as dangerous. by speaking up about this you've done the first step! keep going x
I just need to say thank you so much for this video. I have watched it several times and every single time it is just so so helpful. I have been worried about my own alcohol consumption for a while but last night I had one of those wake up calls that something is seriously wrong especially when I drink. So thank you for documenting this journey and being an encouragement that this can be worked on and improved.
Thank you for sharing your story! As someone who struggles with MH issues I know it can't be easy. I hope it is all going ok for you and you are in a happier place. Lots of love xo
"There is no one! No one is talking about this." This part of the video is exactly why I am so greatful you are doing this. Particularly cause I myself am 25 days sober today.
There is so much I relate to in this video. I also struggle to really apply the term alcoholic to myself, at least for now. There really is this misconseption that you have to be on the brink of homelesness to be an alcoholic. I can easily go without a drink for months, so I can't be an alcoholic right?! It doesn't matter that if I do get a drink I can't stop. Or that at times the graving is so massive I can't even go and buy groceries cause I will tempted by the rows and rows of hard alcohol (a new problem i faced since moving to uk last september. at my home country alcohol, besides light beer, is only sold at government owned®ulated stores, easy to avoid). There clearly is a problem. And when I drink I get withdrawn and depressed, and that depression lasts for up to two week. Clearly my brain is not fit for drinking. Whether I am an alcoholic or not I guess is besides the point.
But for now, I am not drinking. Like you said, you are not promising to never drink again, neither am I. I guess that would be setting yourself up to a failure. All I can do is say I won't drink today. And hope that tomorrow I will be just as strong to make and keep the same promise.
I just wanna thank you for your bravery. We really need to talk about this more honestly. This is going to help a lot of people, and at least it has helped me!
I've been having so many problems with my housemates/two closest friends in the last few months because of this exact issue and I've never been able to talk to them about it or explain myself because I felt that they would assume I was just making it up to excuse myself from my shitty drunken behaviour. I've never felt so reassured after watching a video in my life, it has honestly helped me so much to know that this is a real issue that other people are dealing with and can relate to. When you descibred the feeling of self hatred that you experience the morning after and the anxiety after you blackout, I related so strongly. I'm considering showing this video to my housemates so that I can finally explain what's been going on and hopefully they'll understand and we can fix our relationship. Thank you so much for this amazing video, Lucy!
Eve Hamill I have the same problem also unfortunately. And the black outs make it worse. My boyfriend recently told me about something I said/did that hurt him that I couldn't remember doing. He didn't believe that I couldn't remember it... But then when I finally was able to convince him I really couldn't he said it was pathetic... It broke my heart. And really made me hate myself and feel so hopeless, like I couldn't fix the problem. Like Lucy everyone, including my bf, have told me that my suggestion of quitting alcohol is an overreaction. I don't know what to do....
Bathroom Jams: It sounds like people in your life think you're overreacting, that you don't have a problem, and at the same time you're seeing how you hurt your boyfriend when you were blacked out. All signs will never point in one direction, there will never be a voice that booms from the heavens to tell you to stop drinking. Your goal is to decide which direction most of the signs are pointing. Sometimes therapists can help you figure out where the signs are pointing and which ones you want to follow. I suggest finding a therapist who does motivational interviewing--the nice thing about that approach is that you call the shots, you decide what is best for you because you know yourself best. The therapist is there as a sounding board and to support you in whatever decision you make.
Bathroom Jams You must do what is right for you, not what others are saying is right for you. And it sounds like you know what YOU need to do. Take care 💜
Eve Hamill
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Thanks for talking so candidly about this! I'm sure it's not easy. You're amazing for choosing to take that step!
Aw Lucy. My heart broke for you after watching this but then it was filled with pride.You are so strong for acknowledging the problem and facing it head on, and so brave to talk about it openly, and so big hearted for doing it in the hope of helping others. Sending you all the love and strength I possibly can over the internet. Xx
This was so brave & so eloquent. Like you said, it's hard to wrap your head around something you haven't experienced - you helped us do that and honestly I feel better equipped to at least try and understand and help where we can. Well done Lucy! x
I know I'm not an alcoholic because I don't rely on it and I can go sober for a fairly long time. But I am very easily pressured and I'm a bad drunk. Your stories about how you act when you're drunk resonate with me, it's like I turn into a completely different person. I've said some awful things and lost some good people in my life because of it. It definitely stemmed from self-esteem issues, I figured alcohol would make me fun and confident, but it didn't. I'm lucky that I can choose to not drink and I really hope you can find help and peace with yourself. I do emphasise with some aspects but obviously I can't know how your experience feels. Just know there are people who care about you and you know yourself well enough to know you need to quit. We've got your back Lucy, good luck
I understand this so much more than I would think, your honesty is amazing.
I hope you manage to control you situation and can enjoy yourself without this stuff happening...you can overcome this if you believe in yourself
Thank you for making this video. I thought I was the only one with these problems so young. I can empathise so much, good luck with everything!
well done for uploading this, it takes a lot of courage to not only admit something like this but share your entire story with alcohol / relationship with it. a lot of this resonates with me, especially the turning into a different/awful/selfish person whilst drunk and drinking more than friends and having to hide that. i wouldn't go as far as to say i'm an alcoholic but you've reaffirmed the fact i do have a problem and need to work on it, so thank you! you'll have helped so many people with this video xxx
Hey Yasmin, I'm a journalist writing a piece for Stylist about friendships that have been negatively affected by alcohol and I'd love to speak to you about your experience (if you're comfortable!) If so, my email is in the about section on my page x
This was me. I don't drink anymore because I become this narcissistic, self centred, selfish awful person. I cheated on boyfriends, would make a total fool of myself, would spend SO much money and was so nasty. The first time I had a night with my friends and woke up the next day without that awful knot in my stomach and I didn't have to worry about what I'd done and who I'd upset was AMAZING. It's worth it I promise. Take it step by step and talk about it, people will understand. If you need anything just ask xxx
Seriously such a beautifully touching video...there are so many words I'd like to say....but thank you for this video!
Hey Lucy, New subscriber here. Just want to praise you for such an unbelievably brave and honest video. I hope you are able to find some peace with yourself and the strength to stay sober for as long as you need to do so. X
If you ever wanna hang out in a non-alcohol based space with this teetotaller, just let me know :) This must have been a difficult video to make on top of a difficult journey to go through, so thank you.
My mum used to work in social services and she made an interesting point that it's usually now only non-professionals, or those who don't know any better, who refer to alcoholism or alcohol addiction/compulsion/dependency, as being an "alcoholic". Apparently professionals are trying to move the public away from that term because of the connotations it has and the very narrow-minded image that it conjures up for people who don't understand the mental illness and symptom variations behind substance abuse and addiction.
Don't quote me on this as I am no expert, but I've read that for the most part that an addiction is a symptom in itself to compulsive disorders, that so many of us do have to some degree, and the addiction to alcohol or drugs is subconsciously interpreted as the compulsive sufferers' "anchor" or "diffuser" of their stress. And that's how I've felt in many ways to things like a certain book series (hello, Harry Potter) or a type of food or even coffee! No one is immune to compulsion or addiction but there is such a stigma around alcohol addiction as though it's the worst kind of compulsive weakness. It can be very destructive but how a person has reached that point is so much more complex than many assume. And yet so many don't realise that they have the same or similar type of dependency.
I really admire what you're talking about on here. I really wish all the best for you. xx
This is scarily relatable for me Lucy, Thankyou so much! I feel such a connection between us. The blackouts, the anxiety and self hate.. I'm 19 and feel exactly the same way as you. It's crazy how alcohol can change our behaviour so easily.. So many regrets
I have been sober for 8 months. I will turn 50 years old this week and this is my first successful attempt at sobriety. I write about my experience on my Facebook page for the same reason you shared this. If it helps one person, it is worth it. I am sure you have helped so many with this video. I am sorry I just discovered you today, but I am excited to see your other videos.
i have family members who have problems with alcohol and this made everything a lot clearer to me, i'm so proud of you for making this video. stay safe Lucy xx
I think the way we as a society view addiction in general is incredibly problematic. It's good to see someone talking on TH-cam about their experience with addiction/alcohol abuse and the stigmas against it, since I don't think I've seen that before.
The relationship between alcohol and society in general is actually pretty bizarre. Alcohol abuse is almost glorified in our culture and there's a huge reluctance to label addictive behaviour for what it is. This is especially odd because just about anybody taking (illegal) drugs recreationally is labelled an addict or a slur like junkie.
I know a lot of people don't see addiction as an illness but instead a personal choice because, after all, they 'choose' to lift a bottle/take a drug/eat chocolate (and this topic is a tricky one to navigate without getting into 'what is free will' territory) but it's incredibly difficult to understand how an addict thinks without being one yourself - just like with most mental illnesses. Someone I know described it quite well as a simplification of desires; your entire hierarchy of needs is restructured around your addiction.
On the subject of people who don't think you have a problem; you're the only one who can decide whether your relationship with alcohol is destructive or not. Though they probably don't mean to be, those people are hugely insensitive by telling you that.
Proud of you for speaking upon this. You being able to recognize the problem before it got worse is so strong of you and admirable. Sending you positivity on your journey of sobriety. Also, you are not alone and I too recognized a lot of the same effects of drinking alcohol in my own life in order to relieve my anxiety as a downward slope to something horrible and I am happy to continue my sobriety even if others think I don't have a problem. :)
This is the first video of yours I've ever watched, and I have to say, you're willingness to be open and honest about this is incredible. My extended family has a long history of addiction, and while I myself do not suffer from alcoholism, I have witnessed it in others first hand. You STAY STRONG! You are not alone, and you will get through this a day at a time. Keep fighting, we're here for you.
As someone with alcoholic family members. I'm glad you're trying to stop now rather than at age 50 with 2 or 3 ex wives/husband's and 4 kids
Wow Lucy. What an amazing video and message! I am so impressed! I never had this problem, but I have realised quite early on that I really dislike how alcohol changes people.
People say alcohol can bring the real you out (because you are much braver and not shy, etc) and I think this is in NO WAY the truth.
We have to work on being confident and 100% ourselves when sober. Alcohol is an addictive drug, and getting drunk should not be the only way or even a legitimate option on ''how to have fun''. I have had family members die due to alcoholism and I truly believe that some people have had their problems stemmed from uni or even high school. I had my fun too and I get that it sorta belongs to the culture...but I also think it is absolutely gone way over board.
So so inspiring Lucy. YOU CAN DO THIS
I know this video is several years old but I'm just finding your video. Thank you beyond words for making this. I've been looking for something relatable and finally I found it. I could have made this video, verbatim it's like I'm going through literally everything you're speaking about. I hope you're doing well.
You are so strong Lucy. This is such an incredible video to have made, it was so eloquently put. We all have our demons and food is my mental illness too. You couldn't tell me to just have one sandwich at the TH-cam space! I am here if you ever want to grab some tea
So so much respect for you Lucy, this video is so powerful. Much love your way
Ahh love your videos Maisie!!
Hi Lucy, really great to see this. As a recovering heroin addict and TH-camr I can definitely relate. Thank you for making this.
My friend just sent me this video and I as a 17 year old really appreciate this video and i'm so happy that iv'e realised my problem with alcohol in time before I do something that fucks up my life even more. Iv'e already destroyed a friendship of 10 years and I don't want to fuck up anymore. Thank you so much for making this video x
I'm 17 (yes I know, I'm young) and had started drinking when I was 14. I would drink everyday, 3-4 shots of vodka on a school night, god only knows how much on a weekend, and I had no idea I had a problem. I developed Lupus (coincidently, and my liver has been thankfully unaffected) and so had to stop drinking due to the meds I was on. I didn't really give stopping a second thought as I had no idea I had a problem, but after only 3 days ended up in hospital due to the withdrawal symptoms. It's been 4 very hard months since my last drink but these past few weeks I've not had cravings as much. Thank you for sharing your story and helping to get rid of the stigma.
so I don't drink.
I stopped because I knew I had too.
I've dealt with depression and anxiety for years.
one night. I had a couple drinks. it didn't help, it made my depression worse.
it scared me to think that's the road I could go down.
so I stopped.
it wasn't easy, I still have issues with family acceptance that I don't drink.
I know its not necessarily the same but you've now accepted the issue of alcohol and you're now dealing with it.
That's already a massive step.
wishing anyone and Lucy all the best with making steps forward to overcome this.
I appreciate your honesty and transparency here. I'm so sorry that it's something that you struggle with alcohol, it's definitely something huge. The fact that you are aware that it is something in your life that you need to change is so huge. You are addressing the problem that is in your life and you are striving to move forward. I don't struggle with alcohol, but I do struggle with other things in my life. Here's to moving forward and making good decisions, Lucy. You go girl!
Thank you for this. My dad was an alcoholic and recently passed away because of his drinking. I so appreciate any chance I get to understand him better. Blessings as you go on this brave and important journey
My mum used to drink too much and would become someone else, so I relate to you Lucy. I could not be more proud of her to leave it behind her. Mum I love you and are proud of you ❤️ Lucy you too, making the effort to stop is the first step my dear x
I think this type of alcohol problem is very common but because it isn't what people stereotypically think is a signal of alcoholic behaviour, it usually is only seen as a problem when you start drinking first thing in the morning or can't keep a job etc. Binge drinking is seen as quite normal behaviour I think especially with young people. But if you are ruining relationships because of drinking it has become a problem. I think what is scary about alcoholism is it can become a mental illness that can progress into a physical illness too when you become addicted. This is a lot more common than you think and you are sensible for trying to do something about it before it escalates to a full on addiction as then it becomes really hard to quit! Well done on speaking out :)
this is so real and refreshing to see on youtube. thank you so much for posting this. you are so brave. everything you said i could say about my own life, like literally word for word.
thank you for uploading. I can relate so much. You are a beautiful, brave human being. keep creating - your videos touch so many souls than you probably can imagine.
I'm writing and deleting, writing and deleting, and I only now realise how brave this video is... No, I don't have an alcohol problem, I am straight edge, however I used to drink in high school (never more than one cup of anything), but when I got to college I stopped... Mostly thanks to people who I hang out with, because when I was in hs literally everyone was getting wasted and I was often called out as "the boring girl that doesn't drink". Plus they've tried to get me wasted soooo many times (but failed miserably because I am stubborn as hell and also have no general desire to fit in). When I got to college, I found people who also didn't like alcohol, and we have most amazing fun friendships ever! However, I don't think I ever told anyone why I don't drink... and it's because my dad was an alcoholic, and apparently, genetically, alcohol makes my family aggressive. I could, after just one drink, feel aggression building up in me. And guess what?! I don't need that bullshit. Sorry, I'm rambling, I guess I was just trying to say:
1. People react to alcohol differently.
2. Surround yourself with people that think it's cool that you don't drink.
3. IT WILL NOT MAKE YOU BORING (I honestly feel sorry for people who are only happy when drunk).
4. Please treat it like an addiction, because it is one. You have to cut out alcohol COMPLETELY otherwise it won't work.
5. If you ever need to talk to someone on why being sober is cool feel free to talk to me (this goes for anyone reading this)