I've been looking into this over the last few weeks and it is so true. I do believe that being around a narcissist long enough can cause ADHD, as well as other personality disorders and mental illnesses.
Narcissistic abuse is brutal and effects the function of the mind. Anxiety, depression and low moods are common. A lot of people who have ADHD were raised by toxic caregivers and narcissist.
Yep. So sorry that you had to experience that. For me, my traumatic and neglected childhood has me not remembering much at all. Just found out I have ADHD at the age of 68.
My siblings and I all had at different times been diagnosed with ADHD. My mom is something of a narcissist. This made so much sense hearing it from you.
Scattered Minds book by Gabor Mate, who also has ADHD, wrote a book on his experience. A good read. Parental alienation causes a child to split. There is a video by Henry Wright called what causes Bipolar disorder (basically about generations of families who don't know how to love (a very informative video). Dr. Childers is a professional on youtube who treats children with detachment disorder from parental alienation. These children experiencing domestic terrorism from parents are not able to respond. Temperament plays a big part. Orchid children don't respond to rewards and punishments. All they can deal with is consequences with people they feel connected to. I've read these children can't heal from a targeted parent because of that. A child with reactive attachment disorder will give the targeted parent PTSD (videos about that on TH-cam too). I love the videos called Saving Julia by an adoptive mom who was able to save adoptive daughter, Julia, from reactive attachment disorder. Wishing you peace that surpasses all understanding, Kevin. 🙋♀️ There is a trait in 2% of the population called HSP, highly sensitive personality. Elaine Aaron has written books on it. HSP's are thinking temperament people, introverts, if you will. There are extroverted "feelings" temperament people on the other end of that spectrum. Robert Sapolsky has a strategy called tit for tat on TH-cam. It's a good way to deal with domestic terrorism as you lose most of the battles and inevitably win the war. Robert Sapolsky has excellent videos on behaviors as we are all students of behavior. I just lost a 14-year-old dog who bonded with our 12-year-old dog because I had to work while they were left alone together. Sophie is suffering with a broken heart now. The fear she is experiencing is causing physical problems. She is slowly improving, but it is a process and a journey.
l couldnt focus at school because l was anxious. ld just arrived at school from being neglected and gaslit. Then l had to face being new as mother saw fit to change my school every year sometimes during the year. l was anxious and fell prey to the bullies. lt repeated over and over until at 17 l ran away. Then a lifetime of trying to recover. Now almost 35 years later they remain manipulative gaslighters and refuse to acknowledge or validate my perspective. Any contact from them is a trigger for anxiety and depression.
My spouse was diagnosed with ADHD as a young child. I can attest that narcissitic people definitely hated him throughout his upbringing and into now, adulthood. He had it very hard growing up as he was constantly bullied for being different and having strong values. I thought bullies ended at childhood, but no, he was even targeted and bullied by a group of narcs as an adult which ended up taking a whole career path he was striving for away from him. It's very sad how narcs can just utterly destroy someone because they're jealous and hateful and can't stand someone not giving them attention they think they deserve.
This share was so validating and affirming, I was also diagnosed with ADHD, my mother looked at me and said all perky, “you daydream a lot!” When I was literally dissociating. My father was very abusive, and I’m responding with anxiedy and dissociation and she’s re-defining and gaslighting reality by identifying me as a patient. But yea, what you described are the symptoms. I know mine are a trauma response, so I would be numb and unable to focus all the time because I was overwhelmed and scared. And yea, I do this now too, and it freaks me out. Thank you for the share! The description of the feelings and the rage took me back 😖
Same here. My school work took a dive each time my dad beat the crap out of my mom. In some way I'm grateful this was in the 70s, when ADHD wasn't invented, and l bet l would have been given ritalin.
I have a very hard time when working for a difficult boss.. the bully types… I totally freeze and detach… I have to try really hard to be reasonable to be able to cope with those situations and get my job done without completely losing it. It’s an inner battle. My first reaction is to run away and protect myself.. it’s hard to keep my motivation and focus. It’s mentally and emotionally overwhelming.
On the flip of this, the narcissist I was with constantly attributed his poor behavior (when called out) to ADD. I've often questioned if that was just gaslighting. However ironically, even a year after the end of the relationship. I too exhibit ADHD traits that I never had before. Agree we are not psychiatrists, but it's so interesting how this entanglement affects us on so many levels.
wow my abuser did the same and I also wondered the same! You’re the 1st commenter I’ve seen say this. You have no idea how validating & comforting this is right now
It is a common tactic for abusers to say that stress / depression / ADHD / BPD (undiagnosed or diagnosed) cause they behaviour - in order to avoid acknowledging that they are abusive and their behavior is wrong.
Thank you for sharing this with us Kevin. Very interesting viewpoint on ADHD! Never thought if how it could've tied in with narcissistic abuse. So sorry that you had to experience all of those stressful moments as a child. 😞
that's C-PTSD. Which has comorbid symptoms of ADHD, but it's not ADHD. You're born with ADHD. C-PTSD is made through trauma. Initially having ADHD can make you more vulnerable to the effects of trauma. ~~~ I questioned if I had ADHD or Autism, but it's just good old fashioned C-PTSD. The only difference between C-PTSD, and ADHD/Autism, is merely the fact that one is caused by trauma, and the others you're just born with. Which makes C-PTSD much worse because it meant something horrible happened to you.
Kevin this brought back a lot of bad memories of my childhood,, you went through the same thing I did!,, I have been diagnosed with C-ptsd ,, my therapist told me I suffered an Enormous amount of abuse,, i also disassociate when I’m overwhelmed,,my mind & body shut down, especially around pressure , stress , aggression ,, Everything you’ve expressed is ME”,,,
I'm exactly the same. Overwhelming situations make me check out. I have to work so hard to disguise it at work so people don't think less of me. So far so good with tons of stress. There was a lot of abuse and arguing growing up too. I remember stuff from when I was like 2 but I can't remember the names of people I went to high school and college with.
I believe you are telling my story yet again. I thought years ago, if I hadn't gone through all the trauma and weirdness, this ADD would not have been induced in me. YES
thank you...... THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT LIFE CHANGING VIDEOS OF ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS. THANK YOU. I guess I am still enough at 68 years old to hear and digest the message. and find the scars inside. being born straight into RAGE....... and its trauma. I agree whole heartedly with you 100%. I appreciate your history path as well. I fought the criminal narcissistic abuse at home. ( mom chose never to leave him ) and later in life numbed, checked out into alcohol after I moved out. . I was shattered with hysteria at something like 5 years old with a life threatened rage from dad. where he took my toddler sister. and held her under water in a bath tube to " teach her to not cry". she had begun to cry at the dinner table when she read his rage coming in the door. I ran and dove under my bed and my brother followed. I remember laughing in hysteria. I have a black hole of memories... and hyper vigilance that has followed me through life. I fought the family abuse.. because I vowed I would never run again.... at 5 yrs old. I was ashamed.... for running that night. so I fought... I became the scapegoat... I learned to just shut my mouth . stuff the overwhelming emotions . use food. explode in weight. struggle with focus. have relationships at arms length. white knuckle life. drowning in no social skills. early in life I dove into art as a distraction. I followed it to success in life. but with each relationship challenge I find I slip into living life at night when I feel safe. and checking out and sleeping in the day. I was " the night owl of the family". it was the only time there was ongoing verbal abuse and degrading. and in the quiet night I could have moments of peace. be centered and produce art. today if have run from a short and raging narcissistic marriage. once again I am in seclusion. literally. producing a huge piece of art. and learning as I work.
I am happy that my old hell hole where I was raised when I was young is destroyed, I can't express how happy I am, the things I was put through made me ill frequently and depressed back then.
I just subscribed recently watching your videos give comfort to me since I am trying so hard to understand myself a little more. I find it hard to tell whats wrong with me so please do keep posting more videos and I hope you've recovered from what happened.
ADHD run for 3 gen. This is so so TRUE. My mom and dad fought worse than this. It was severe screaming, hitting, bloody.,, horrible. The whole street people would come to help. I would stand in a corner and crying. When I was 7, I passed out. I woke up in my neighbors home and was terrified to go back to my home. I stayed with my neighbor’s for two weeks.
I can identify with remembering early childhood trauma between ages 2 and 3, as well. I couldn't process all the dysfunctional things going on in my family . I either sought out quiet places, played with my dolls or just wanted to escape to be safe somewhere. Thanks Kevin, ❤ I'm new to your channel. 👍
I'm relating to this video like you wouldn't believe. Damn, I have some inner child work to do tonight. I'm really sorry that you had this trauma in childhood. I felt every emotion as you told your story.
You are right. I check out mentally when people (narcissists) do something to get a reaction out of me. I just stare at them with a blank face and think about how crazy they look. No reaction out of me makes them very uncomforable. At this point I notice they flip into a "nice" person which I also take notice of. I know its time for me to walk away. I too learned to disassociate as a child.
Good for you Kevin. You're doing exactly what you should be, by looking at everything in your life. After a 8 year relaltionship with a narcissist, 4 years free, I joined different groups and pages to learn about this person who turned out to be a narcissist. Administrators of the different pages would say to me, educate, educate, educate and so I did. I read comments, I listened to videos. I would note the odd comment if something was confusing. That was the first 2 to 3 three years after the break up. I learned the red flags and actions and sayings and copying to watch for. I thought I had achieved what I was suppose to achieve until someone mentioned to now look back in your own life and see if there was anything there, in your younger years that may be key to attracting these types or maybe having these types in your life, without you knowing it, which could be key as to why they are around you. Look at your own behavior and the behavior of the people who were in your life. That next step was something I did not want to do, until it was right in my face. A certain behavior that I now recognized, from a close family member. I cried, for this new realization was opening up a whole bunch of stuff that I did not want to address. These types are everywhere and they just don't care, which makes it hard for the rest of us who are so giving. I was always told that I was 'over sensitive'. I didn't come from an abusive family, but Im looking deeper into that to see if things were hidden from me or if I just blocked it out. I also believe that God will only reveal what he knows we can handle and that if some things are not for me to remember, than they will stay blocked. I do get overwhelmed easily, but have decided , thats just me, and I'll tackle things as they come on my terms. Many of us who have survived this type of abuse, are different, but I wear that crown with pride. We are in between two worlds and we have been given a glimpse of both sides. Thank you Lord. Though there are painful moments moving through this, I know that we are special and many will not get what and who we are nor understand it and thats ok.
Yes Kevin..there is a connection and your Adhd superpower to see the Big Picture spot it on.. And to listen to your words in this video makes me cry....thank YOU Man.. I see myself in you a lot..at times you talk with a rage that I still feel in me also if, AS YOU I gave all this to Jesus finding Him and being Saved. But I couldn't understand so why U still felt that rage. To me forgiveness was forgiveness..but really I needed a deeper discernment about this: we can rationally forgive, and it is true and honest, we aren't anylonger bonded with those people..but emotionally psychologically no, the bond is still there, has to be worked: cut and healed..and this takes lot of time as it is related to the psychological reasons why in case if emotional injuries we can't let go. I invite you to research on this last topic and make a video of it because I am sure that your Big Picture skill will allow you to discover something amazing to share! Bless YOU Warrior..I am sure Narcissism is a Demon, that I oersonally fight, and to know also you are on this battlefield makes me feel a bit stronger. Thank you to be you!♡♡♡
I think for Kevin it might not be recommended to deal with the topic of narcissism constantly in his videos because he can never let go. I would rather recommend focusing on Jesus Christ and His Word and glory ALONE. Takes the whole crap out. 🙏
As someone on the Autism spectrum, narcissists were my worst nightmare - like a bug light. The exact opposite of ADHD, I intensely and persistently focus on what I don't understand until it makes sense to me. Talk about a Sisyphus punishment!
Man it’s amazing how you can articulate this well while having adhd! 💯💪 And btw I can relate to everything you said in this video. Thank you for helping me.
I've never been diagnosed but had childhood trauma and never understood why I was so different and couldn't learn and process like others. I suspected ADHD a few years ago but now awoken up to the 17 years of a narcissist relationship, the abuse makes the ADHD symptoms multiply. I wonder how much is true ADHD and how much is from a lifetime of neglect and manipulation and abuse.
You have really been on the mark lately. I've been watching your channel for a while and have seen a major progression. I especially appreciate the personal stories and info on these weird personality disorders within the family. My wife and I can both relate to having these ADHD/ADD symptoms, that we believe are based on childhood trauma caused by our narc family systems. It can be difficult to get past the understanding stage and into the healing stage, so thank you for also focusing on that.
I know an adult woman, just been to a Psychologist with her screwed up mother, and the woman ( not the mother) has been diagnosed with ADHD. I want to tell her - be careful - don't believe the Psychologist. Get a 2nd opinion AND it could be your childhood TRAUMA. just what u said Kevin, just what u are saying. TY . I will send her the link to this video
Thanks for sharing this. It prompts me to be a little more tolerant of my partner doing these same things (which essentially keeps me feeling excluded and unseen much of the time). What’s especially interesting is my partner has emotionally-checked out parents who always have a smile, conduct quaint chit-chat, and are helper do-ers. I think that is almost as damaging as overt abuse. Maybe even worse because they hide all emotions, and no one knows what the heck they are thinking and feeling (it feels like being lied to all the time). So perhaps, more than anything, it's the lack of guidance (including explaining what's going on) especially that causes these ADHD and dismissive behaviors. Mentally checking out and distracting oneself when overwhelmed or when unable to figure things out… This is what my partner does. I think my partner is a covert, somatic narcissist. My dad does those same things; though, I don’t think he’s a narcissist. The covert narc is almost impossible to communicate with in a way which resonates; but I can give input to my dad. I have told him that instead of leaving in his head while I’m talking, due to not understanding, stop me and ask me questions until he does understand. I told him instead of leaving in his head due to overwhelm, stop me and tell me he’s overwhelmed. Distracting oneself due to not knowing how to process emotions is also what both my partner and dad do. It does take discipline to stay with emotions and process through them. Emotions are must less scary when a person just stays with them and finds their way through. It’s not doing this that keeps my partner very emotionally immature. Richard Grannon has called it “emotional illiteracy.” (I don’t think he coined that phrase.) It can be learned as an adult. Have you figured out your attachment style (there are some simple tests online)? There's a detachment style called "dissociative dismissive avoidant." It's helpful in relationships to understand attachment styles…
I was sure i had something wrong, i could not concentrate and had a burn out. But i was tested. I had nothing wrong neurologically, on the contrary, i was tested i had actually great cognitive capacities! That was a big surprise! I started to ask why in the hell i am unable to use my own capacity and capabilities then??!! Now been three years no contact and using my capacity much more. My goal is to get me back and get the benefit of my own talent to myself and not expose myself to mean relatives.
When you said “ An ADHDer is a Narcissist’s worse nightmare” 😮 I can only think of my foster son and his previous situation. You are saying something here
Thanks for sharing this deep subject. It makes sense to me, as you say, that ADHD, as I am sure I have too, is a trauma response, but it is new to me, to think about it that way. I am very grateful to you, and the Almighty for giving you Insight & Wisdom. He always protect and guide you on. Love to listen to your videos
I have similar memories and I strongly believe at 47 I have ADHD wow it took me this long to make this connection and I can not stand overly aggressive people I will totally check out
I’ve just recently realised that the toxic environment I was in as a child has been the reason for the way I am . Same as you , alcoholic mother but doing the overt narc cycle on my father . I watched it all from a very early age. I couldn’t concentrate at school and I thought I just didn’t fit in .
This is an outstanding video! It helps me to understand my son who is now 24! Adele has a song that is called...be easy on me! I think about him and for some reason I see myself in there too! God bless you for making this video!!! I needed this clarification in such a deep way!!!! God bless you again!!!!❤🛐 my son wouldn't talk in counseling either! She got him to draw! His dad in picture was tall and had a big smile and we were over to the side with no arms and no smiles! To this day he defends his Dad and I'm the bad guy! Go figure!I was accused of child abuse even called the cops on even though it was accident that I closed the door on my son's leg! No I didn't break his leg! He did later tell me that he knew it was accident upon asking him but still went with Dad! He does at 24!! Crazy making!!
I am the same, diagnosed at 36 and it was actually CPTSD. Just discovered this after realizing I was surrounded by narcissists, at work and personal life.
Wow! So very true you certainly have given me an eye opener, I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and both of my grown up children have ADHD but unlike me they got help with it while they were growing up. My son also has Aspergers. I certainly went through a lot with my Daughter and so did she, when we saw a Psychiatrist she would always clam up and not talk to anyone, now I understand why of course she could not articulate how she felt that makes perfect sense. As for my childhood my Father could be abusive in fact the only real memories of him was when he was hitting or belting me, he died when I was 11 years old and it is like my mind has blanked my life out before this age because I only remember very little, my older sister did tell me once that with me having ADHD I didn't know when to stay away from my Father and I would end up receiving the brunt of his behaviour. I have spent most of my life in toxicity. I think looking back that I was trying to replace my Father. My Father went into hospital for a back operation and before he went in he said once my room was tidy he would be back home, he was going to recuperate in my bedroom while I stayed in my sisters room. He died of a heart attack while in hospital so he never came home, there was no closure as there was absouloutly no funeral or farewell of any kind. I ended up as an 11 year old who felt it was my fault he had died because I didnt tidy my room, too the point I was scared to go past that room. I carried that guilt into my twenties. This is where I started early relationships at 14 trying to find my Father in toxic relationships, I think maybe I can help these people you know rescue them because I couldnt help my Father. As for ADHD blanking things out I do that alot I'm like a horse with blinkers on. Yes your so right about the Narcissists hating a partner with ADHD.
Narcissistic abuse affects the Central nervous system. The Devil wants to destroy the function of mind through oppression. If you have ADHD you are special and have wonderful positive traits about yourself ❤ in spite of your challenges.
Thank you. I have been trying to find more information about manipulative daydreaming, but there's not much. I learned another name for it, which might be easier to find, is "grandiose daydreaming." It is a challenge to be in a relationship with someone who I suspect does this (but denies it); so I've been motivated to learn more...
Thank you Kevin. I fully agree with your observations. I have the same and I think This is a trauma response to what happened to us because of narcisistic abuse.
I'm surprised you remember. Many fall into dissociative amnesia. Something I have experienced most of my life and now working on for myself as I help others understand their own DA 😔
I was traumatised by my mother as a child. I remember her boxing me my mouth and tasting the blood. My mother never liked me and my sister who is very much like my mother treated me the same. Coupled with my parents deteriorating marriage I couldn’t understand what was happening. I believe both of my parents were narcs. My mother used them as flying monkeys and they in turn grew to hate me. I remember my sibling piecing together something I had written and giving it to my father who beat me. The pleasure on their face was evil, that I now know was a narc smirk. I think this and many other events led to me developing ADHD. Throughout our lives I knew they hated me and when my marriage fell apart, yes I married a narc, they sided with him. Ironically my nephew had ADHD as a child. When I finally had enough of the reactive abuse I started to think and realised how toxic these people were and maintain no contact. I’m awaiting a diagnosis for ADHD.
Yes. I understand my behavior better now. Emotional abusers cause you ADHD symptoms. But it's still better to be on the receiving end than on the inflicting end - we maintain our relationship with God in this manner and let Him work in His own way. I have now grown so used to people showing no compassion and empathy, and when you tell them your reasons, they start shouting and fighting, almost as if they had been preparing for the moment of the argument. I have learned to ignore and forgive and tell God my hurt instead, because telling abusers how they hurt you is useless - they only enjoy the hurt feeling on your face.
Hello from Melbourne 🙏 I loved this segment. I so relate with everything you have spoken about . Thank you so much for sharing your painful childhood. I don’t feel so alone anymore. I am work in progress and finally I don’t need validation from anyone any more I’m falling in love with me again. 😊God bless. 🙏💜
Many you tubers who are diagnosed with ADHD claim they can quickly or suddenly grow bored of a romantic partner or friend and discard them, or cheat on them for the dopamine hit..I wondered if you'd contribute your thoughts on this as it seems similar behaviour to cluster B's acting out.. but without the malignant intention.
Oh yes abuse at home and abuse at school because of lack of focus. And narcissistic project on you to be perfect and do things perfectly even though the narcissist r not perfect themselves
Excellent book. The body does keep score. If there was no outlet for what we were experiencing because we could not articulate it because we were simply too young or were unaware that it was abuse, the stress gets stored somewhere....the body. I suffered severe, debilitating migraines for over 10 years.
@@shelleykapp9637 I was raised by narcissists as a single daughter, only thing was I had to had my teeth corrected because my mouth muscles would tense up when my father was around. And my parents would paint everything with wood protection agent so I was poisoned (but THEY too). As soon as I got out there by 19y I would feel better. NEVER had ADHD or sth alike.
Narcissist can cause an array of trauma response traits you are right. Your mind checks out for good reason. My step mom would beat me and the neighbors would hear it and intervene then they would leave sympathetic to her. Because her lies and charm
For sure our past is still effecting us, even if u do therapy, like one professor said there changes to your brain and brain responses after childhood trauma
Yes u do remember things that u shouldn't remember as so little boy. But unfortunately we do remember and going back to those memories. My brother until this day is like a computer that at time's freezing itself then he resetting himself into reality. Is dissociation and his dealing with trauma
I have very few memories before 10 or maybe older. One when I must have been 3 or younger - before my bio dad left - of me watching parents arguing through the banisters of the stairs. My mother then went onto another abusive relationship. The birth of my brother at 7 and odd memories helping with him but hardly anything before secondary school. I'm sure I have ADHD but my son is diagnosed autistic with ADHD. There is definitely a genetic aspect.
Ohhhhh......I'm ADD or maybe ADHD and went through crazy narcissistic abuse.......I am not sure what is the chicken or the egg. I think our creativity and independent way of thinking bothers their desire to control everything. Controlling me is like trying to control a feral cat LOL. I definitely think I have dissociation at times from the narcissistic abuse in stressful situations, but I also struggle with concentrating on anything I find boring and am very forgetful. So I think it is both dissociation and ADD I would have had growing up in the most loving of families.
I was diagnosed ADHD 12 years ago. I am 45 yo. And I can clearly recall my first trauma at age of 1 yo. I still take ritalin but it doesn't help to me any more.
To a certain degree tuning out is positive response to when we feel owerwhelmes with outer stimulation! And there is the nervous sistem some people are less sensitive to outer stimulation than others!! It becomes dangerous when you loose touch with reality! Thanks for sharing I was diagnosed with CPTSD and depersonalisation and dertealisaton problems!! The only thing they didn t diagnose was the madness of my family!! Do you get those problems out of the blue!!? Nowadays thank God I m doing pretty well!! We are tougher than we think!! 😊
Omg i remember all these thing my mum throughing knives at my dad. My dad throughing water at my mum im in the middle the screaming of her was terible. She was pure evil. She caused my adhd my dad wasnt like that but she would affect any one. And she gave me adhd locking me in bedroom no food no drink evil.
The Constant BuIIying by aduIts because I had ADHD issues , and Trauma that started in Utero , was why I struggIed . The constant accusations that I was bad and doing this on purpose, etc. by aduIts who were supposed to have seIf-controI. I was IabeIed as, "The Bad Seed" by famiIy members, etc. I am their Scapegoat because I am the heaIthiest one. I got away!
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I've been looking into this over the last few weeks and it is so true. I do believe that being around a narcissist long enough can cause ADHD, as well as other personality disorders and mental illnesses.
Yes
Narcissistic abuse is brutal and effects the function of the mind. Anxiety, depression and low moods are common. A lot of people who have ADHD were raised by toxic caregivers and narcissist.
The most disturbing thing is coming under the seducing spirit and not having the discernment or power to say NO to these monsters
This is the eye opening aha moment for me getting a start understanding ADHD.
Thank you Kevin. Your story is heart-wrenching. My sympathies, G
Actually kind of chocking, because there is such a rise in ADHD diagnosis around the world
Big Shout out to the KEV! ♥
He's rock n roll Bro.
Wow that's fucking terrible, man. I was "merely" emotionally neglected, and even that has left a lot of scars and disfunction, including dissociation.
Yes
This is super relatable, and I have been questioning if I became a narcissist through it. 😕
Absolutely a trauma response 🙏🏼
I’ve been looking at this recently as well and coming to the same conclusion for me!
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Yep. So sorry that you had to experience that. For me, my traumatic and neglected childhood has me not remembering much at all. Just found out I have ADHD at the age of 68.
Appreciate you sharing this.
I have adult ADHD, panic attacks and fibromyalgia because of trauma& abuse.
My siblings and I all had at different times been diagnosed with ADHD. My mom is something of a narcissist. This made so much sense hearing it from you.
We most likely are dealing with Complex PTSD
Could be
We sure are !!
the Elementary School backdrop is perfect
Scattered Minds book by Gabor Mate, who also has ADHD, wrote a book on his experience. A good read.
Parental alienation causes a child to split. There is a video by Henry Wright called what causes Bipolar disorder (basically about generations of families who don't know how to love (a very informative video).
Dr. Childers is a professional on youtube who treats children with detachment disorder from parental alienation. These children experiencing domestic terrorism from parents are not able to respond. Temperament plays a big part. Orchid children don't respond to rewards and punishments. All they can deal with is consequences with people they feel connected to. I've read these children can't heal from a targeted parent because of that. A child with reactive attachment disorder will give the targeted parent PTSD (videos about that on TH-cam too). I love the videos called Saving Julia by an adoptive mom who was able to save adoptive daughter, Julia, from reactive attachment disorder.
Wishing you peace that surpasses all understanding, Kevin. 🙋♀️
There is a trait in 2% of the population called HSP, highly sensitive personality. Elaine Aaron has written books on it. HSP's are thinking temperament people, introverts, if you will. There are extroverted "feelings" temperament people on the other end of that spectrum.
Robert Sapolsky has a strategy called tit for tat on TH-cam. It's a good way to deal with domestic terrorism as you lose most of the battles and inevitably win the war. Robert Sapolsky has excellent videos on behaviors as we are all students of behavior.
I just lost a 14-year-old dog who bonded with our 12-year-old dog because I had to work while they were left alone together. Sophie is suffering with a broken heart now. The fear she is experiencing is causing physical problems. She is slowly improving, but it is a process and a journey.
100% agree with u, the parents should joined the therapy, unfortunately they think that the problem is in a children but not in them
l couldnt focus at school because l was anxious. ld just arrived at school from being neglected and gaslit. Then l had to face being new as mother saw fit to change my school every year sometimes during the year. l was anxious and fell prey to the bullies. lt repeated over and over until at 17 l ran away. Then a lifetime of trying to recover. Now almost 35 years later they remain manipulative gaslighters and refuse to acknowledge or validate my perspective. Any contact from them is a trigger for anxiety and depression.
My spouse was diagnosed with ADHD as a young child. I can attest that narcissitic people definitely hated him throughout his upbringing and into now, adulthood. He had it very hard growing up as he was constantly bullied for being different and having strong values. I thought bullies ended at childhood, but no, he was even targeted and bullied by a group of narcs as an adult which ended up taking a whole career path he was striving for away from him. It's very sad how narcs can just utterly destroy someone because they're jealous and hateful and can't stand someone not giving them attention they think they deserve.
This share was so validating and affirming, I was also diagnosed with ADHD, my mother looked at me and said all perky, “you daydream a lot!” When I was literally dissociating. My father was very abusive, and I’m responding with anxiedy and dissociation and she’s re-defining and gaslighting reality by identifying me as a patient. But yea, what you described are the symptoms. I know mine are a trauma response, so I would be numb and unable to focus all the time because I was overwhelmed and scared.
And yea, I do this now too, and it freaks me out.
Thank you for the share! The description of the feelings and the rage took me back 😖
Same here. My school work took a dive each time my dad beat the crap out of my mom. In some way I'm grateful this was in the 70s, when ADHD wasn't invented, and l bet l would have been given ritalin.
@@rolandoscar1696 I’m so sorry you went through that.
Yea, I’m hating all of the pathologies for trauma responses
I have a very hard time when working for a difficult boss.. the bully types… I totally freeze and detach… I have to try really hard to be reasonable to be able to cope with those situations and get my job done without completely losing it. It’s an inner battle. My first reaction is to run away and protect myself.. it’s hard to keep my motivation and focus. It’s mentally and emotionally overwhelming.
So relatable!!
Keep the truth bombs coming bro.
I will thank you
On the flip of this, the narcissist I was with constantly attributed his poor behavior (when called out) to ADD. I've often questioned if that was just gaslighting. However ironically, even a year after the end of the relationship. I too exhibit ADHD traits that I never had before. Agree we are not psychiatrists, but it's so interesting how this entanglement affects us on so many levels.
wow my abuser did the same and I also wondered the same! You’re the 1st commenter I’ve seen say this. You have no idea how validating & comforting this is right now
It is a common tactic for abusers to say that stress / depression / ADHD / BPD (undiagnosed or diagnosed) cause they behaviour - in order to avoid acknowledging that they are abusive and their behavior is wrong.
Thank you for sharing this with us Kevin. Very interesting viewpoint on ADHD! Never thought if how it could've tied in with narcissistic abuse.
So sorry that you had to experience all of those stressful moments as a child. 😞
that's C-PTSD. Which has comorbid symptoms of ADHD, but it's not ADHD. You're born with ADHD. C-PTSD is made through trauma. Initially having ADHD can make you more vulnerable to the effects of trauma. ~~~
I questioned if I had ADHD or Autism, but it's just good old fashioned C-PTSD. The only difference between C-PTSD, and ADHD/Autism, is merely the fact that one is caused by trauma, and the others you're just born with. Which makes C-PTSD much worse because it meant something horrible happened to you.
Dr. Gabor Mate has some great insights into this subject. Great video right here.
He so great!
Kevin this brought back a lot of bad memories of my childhood,, you went through the same thing I did!,, I have been diagnosed with C-ptsd ,, my therapist told me I suffered an Enormous amount of abuse,, i also disassociate when I’m overwhelmed,,my mind & body shut down, especially around pressure , stress , aggression ,, Everything you’ve expressed is ME”,,,
Thank you for sharing your understanding SalonSavy
I had the same when I was 6.thank you ,now I understand it what's wrong with myself .
I'm exactly the same. Overwhelming situations make me check out. I have to work so hard to disguise it at work so people don't think less of me. So far so good with tons of stress. There was a lot of abuse and arguing growing up too. I remember stuff from when I was like 2 but I can't remember the names of people I went to high school and college with.
And just to add your are doing great you are consistent with your content
Thank you so very much
I believe you are telling my story yet again. I thought years ago, if I hadn't gone through all the trauma and weirdness, this ADD would not have been induced in me. YES
thank you...... THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT LIFE CHANGING VIDEOS OF ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS. THANK YOU.
I guess I am still enough at 68 years old to hear and digest the message. and find the scars inside.
being born straight into RAGE....... and its trauma. I agree whole heartedly with you 100%. I appreciate your history path as well.
I fought the criminal narcissistic abuse at home. ( mom chose never to leave him ) and later in life numbed, checked out into alcohol after I moved out.
. I was shattered with hysteria at something like 5 years old with a life threatened rage from dad. where he took my toddler sister. and held her under water in a bath tube to " teach her to not cry". she had begun to cry at the dinner table when she read his rage coming in the door. I ran and dove under my bed and my brother followed. I remember laughing in hysteria. I have a black hole of memories...
and hyper vigilance that has followed me through life. I fought the family abuse.. because I vowed I would never run again.... at 5 yrs old. I was ashamed.... for running that night.
so I fought... I became the scapegoat... I learned to just shut my mouth . stuff the overwhelming emotions . use food. explode in weight. struggle with focus. have relationships at arms length.
white knuckle life. drowning in no social skills.
early in life I dove into art as a distraction. I followed it to success in life.
but with each relationship challenge I find I slip into living life at night when I feel safe.
and checking out and sleeping in the day. I was " the night owl of the family". it was the only time there was ongoing verbal abuse and degrading.
and in the quiet night I could have moments of peace. be centered and produce art.
today if have run from a short and raging narcissistic marriage. once again I am in seclusion. literally. producing a huge piece of art. and learning as I work.
I am happy that my old hell hole where I was raised when I was young is destroyed, I can't express how happy I am, the things I was put through made me ill frequently and depressed back then.
I just subscribed recently watching your videos give comfort to me since I am trying so hard to understand myself a little more. I find it hard to tell whats wrong with me so please do keep posting more videos and I hope you've recovered from what happened.
Thank you, I will
Thanks for sharing. So sorry for all you’ve been through. May God give you and the rest of us the healing and peace our hearts need. ❤️
ADHD run for 3 gen.
This is so so TRUE.
My mom and dad fought worse than this. It was severe screaming, hitting, bloody.,, horrible.
The whole street people would come to help. I would stand in a corner and crying. When I was 7, I passed out. I woke up in my neighbors home and was terrified to go back to my home.
I stayed with my neighbor’s for two weeks.
I can identify with remembering early childhood trauma between ages 2 and 3, as well. I couldn't process all the dysfunctional things going on in my family . I either sought out quiet places, played with my dolls or just wanted to escape to be safe somewhere. Thanks Kevin, ❤ I'm new to your channel. 👍
Thank you Ann
Makes perfect sense to me. We are split-up in our thinking and cannot focus on one thing at a time.
I'm relating to this video like you wouldn't believe. Damn, I have some inner child work to do tonight.
I'm really sorry that you had this trauma in childhood. I felt every emotion as you told your story.
Me too
You are right. I check out mentally when people (narcissists) do something to get a reaction out of me. I just stare at them with a blank face and think about how crazy they look. No reaction out of me makes them very uncomforable. At this point I notice they flip into a "nice" person which I also take notice of. I know its time for me to walk away. I too learned to disassociate as a child.
Good for you Kevin. You're doing exactly what you should be, by looking at everything in your life. After a 8 year relaltionship with a narcissist, 4 years free, I joined different groups and pages to learn about this person who turned out to be a narcissist. Administrators of the different pages would say to me, educate, educate, educate and so I did. I read comments, I listened to videos. I would note the odd comment if something was confusing. That was the first 2 to 3 three years after the break up. I learned the red flags and actions and sayings and copying to watch for. I thought I had achieved what I was suppose to achieve until someone mentioned to now look back in your own life and see if there was anything there, in your younger years that may be key to attracting these types or maybe having these types in your life, without you knowing it, which could be key as to why they are around you. Look at your own behavior and the behavior of the people who were in your life. That next step was something I did not want to do, until it was right in my face. A certain behavior that I now recognized, from a close family member. I cried, for this new realization was opening up a whole bunch of stuff that I did not want to address. These types are everywhere and they just don't care, which makes it hard for the rest of us who are so giving. I was always told that I was 'over sensitive'. I didn't come from an abusive family, but Im looking deeper into that to see if things were hidden from me or if I just blocked it out. I also believe that God will only reveal what he knows we can handle and that if some things are not for me to remember, than they will stay blocked. I do get overwhelmed easily, but have decided , thats just me, and I'll tackle things as they come on my terms. Many of us who have survived this type of abuse, are different, but I wear that crown with pride. We are in between two worlds and we have been given a glimpse of both sides. Thank you Lord. Though there are painful moments moving through this, I know that we are special and many will not get what and who we are nor understand it and thats ok.
Yes Kevin..there is a connection and your Adhd superpower to see the Big Picture spot it on..
And to listen to your words in this video makes me cry....thank YOU Man..
I see myself in you a lot..at times you talk with a rage that I still feel in me also if, AS YOU I gave all this to Jesus finding Him and being Saved.
But I couldn't understand so why U still felt that rage. To me forgiveness was forgiveness..but really I needed a deeper discernment about this: we can rationally forgive, and it is true and honest, we aren't anylonger bonded with those people..but emotionally psychologically no, the bond is still there, has to be worked: cut and healed..and this takes lot of time as it is related to the psychological reasons why in case if emotional injuries we can't let go. I invite you to research on this last topic and make a video of it because I am sure that your Big Picture skill will allow you to discover something amazing to share!
Bless YOU Warrior..I am sure Narcissism is a Demon, that I oersonally fight, and to know also you are on this battlefield makes me feel a bit stronger.
Thank you to be you!♡♡♡
I think for Kevin it might not be recommended to deal with the topic of narcissism constantly in his videos because he can never let go. I would rather recommend focusing on Jesus Christ and His Word and glory ALONE. Takes the whole crap out. 🙏
As someone on the Autism spectrum, narcissists were my worst nightmare - like a bug light.
The exact opposite of ADHD, I intensely and persistently focus on what I don't understand until it makes sense to me. Talk about a Sisyphus punishment!
Man it’s amazing how you can articulate this well while having adhd! 💯💪 And btw I can relate to everything you said in this video. Thank you for helping me.
I've never been diagnosed but had childhood trauma and never understood why I was so different and couldn't learn and process like others. I suspected ADHD a few years ago but now awoken up to the 17 years of a narcissist relationship, the abuse makes the ADHD symptoms multiply. I wonder how much is true ADHD and how much is from a lifetime of neglect and manipulation and abuse.
Same with me.
You have really been on the mark lately. I've been watching your channel for a while and have seen a major progression. I especially appreciate the personal stories and info on these weird personality disorders within the family.
My wife and I can both relate to having these ADHD/ADD symptoms, that we believe are based on childhood trauma caused by our narc family systems.
It can be difficult to get past the understanding stage and into the healing stage, so thank you for also focusing on that.
I know an adult woman, just been to a Psychologist with her screwed up mother, and the woman ( not the mother) has been diagnosed with ADHD. I want to tell her - be careful - don't believe the Psychologist. Get a 2nd opinion AND it could be your childhood TRAUMA. just what u said Kevin, just what u are saying. TY . I will send her the link to this video
Thanks - this totally makes sense.
Thank you
Thanks for sharing this. It prompts me to be a little more tolerant of my partner doing these same things (which essentially keeps me feeling excluded and unseen much of the time). What’s especially interesting is my partner has emotionally-checked out parents who always have a smile, conduct quaint chit-chat, and are helper do-ers. I think that is almost as damaging as overt abuse. Maybe even worse because they hide all emotions, and no one knows what the heck they are thinking and feeling (it feels like being lied to all the time). So perhaps, more than anything, it's the lack of guidance (including explaining what's going on) especially that causes these ADHD and dismissive behaviors.
Mentally checking out and distracting oneself when overwhelmed or when unable to figure things out… This is what my partner does. I think my partner is a covert, somatic narcissist. My dad does those same things; though, I don’t think he’s a narcissist. The covert narc is almost impossible to communicate with in a way which resonates; but I can give input to my dad. I have told him that instead of leaving in his head while I’m talking, due to not understanding, stop me and ask me questions until he does understand. I told him instead of leaving in his head due to overwhelm, stop me and tell me he’s overwhelmed.
Distracting oneself due to not knowing how to process emotions is also what both my partner and dad do. It does take discipline to stay with emotions and process through them. Emotions are must less scary when a person just stays with them and finds their way through. It’s not doing this that keeps my partner very emotionally immature. Richard Grannon has called it “emotional illiteracy.” (I don’t think he coined that phrase.) It can be learned as an adult.
Have you figured out your attachment style (there are some simple tests online)? There's a detachment style called "dissociative dismissive avoidant." It's helpful in relationships to understand attachment styles…
Finally all pieces fall together.... it was like you were telling my own story.... as a child
I was sure i had something wrong, i could not concentrate and had a burn out. But i was tested. I had nothing wrong neurologically, on the contrary, i was tested i had actually great cognitive capacities! That was a big surprise! I started to ask why in the hell i am unable to use my own capacity and capabilities then??!! Now been three years no contact and using my capacity much more. My goal is to get me back and get the benefit of my own talent to myself and not expose myself to mean relatives.
This really connected some dots for me. Appreciate you sharing difficult early memories and the insights you have about them. Thank you
Glad this helps Limited Time
When you said “ An ADHDer is a Narcissist’s worse nightmare” 😮 I can only think of my foster son and his previous situation. You are saying something here
That’s so sad, I’m sorry you witnessed so much violence and chaos in your childhood :(
Thank you so much. You are so positive. Love that!! You are truly appreciated.
Wow just wow. I suffered severe depression and it took me years to work out it was narcissistic abuse. Thanks for this vid.
I can relate so much it hurts
Thanks for sharing this deep subject. It makes sense to me, as you say, that ADHD, as I am sure I have too, is a trauma response, but it is new to me, to think about it that way. I am very grateful to you, and the Almighty for giving you Insight & Wisdom. He always protect and guide you on. Love to listen to your videos
Thanks for sharing your story. The breakdown has tons of important details that very few are talking about.
Thank you
Thanks for sharing Kevin
Wow. This explains so much. Priceless
I am praying for you in the Mighty name of Jesus that your mind be completely healed.
I receive your prayers
Yes been there.
Yes
I have similar memories and I strongly believe at 47 I have ADHD wow it took me this long to make this connection and I can not stand overly aggressive people I will totally check out
Trauma Response 😬
I’ve just recently realised that the toxic environment I was in as a child has been the reason for the way I am . Same as you , alcoholic mother but doing the overt narc cycle on my father . I watched it all from a very early age. I couldn’t concentrate at school and I thought I just didn’t fit in .
This is an outstanding video! It helps me to understand my son who is now 24! Adele has a song that is called...be easy on me! I think about him and for some reason I see myself in there too! God bless you for making this video!!! I needed this clarification in such a deep way!!!! God bless you again!!!!❤🛐 my son wouldn't talk in counseling either! She got him to draw! His dad in picture was tall and had a big smile and we were over to the side with no arms and no smiles! To this day he defends his Dad and I'm the bad guy! Go figure!I was accused of child abuse even called the cops on even though it was accident that I closed the door on my son's leg! No I didn't break his leg! He did later tell me that he knew it was accident upon asking him but still went with Dad! He does at 24!! Crazy making!!
In the Zone friend! Good word.
I want to like on this a hundred times...
I am the same, diagnosed at 36 and it was actually CPTSD. Just discovered this after realizing I was surrounded by narcissists, at work and personal life.
We have a lot in common Kevin. Looking forward to talk to you! Wow someone who finally understand because of similar childhood! 🙏
Wow! So very true you certainly have given me an eye opener, I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and both of my grown up children have ADHD but unlike me they got help with it while they were growing up. My son also has Aspergers. I certainly went through a lot with my Daughter and so did she, when we saw a Psychiatrist she would always clam up and not talk to anyone, now I understand why of course she could not articulate how she felt that makes perfect sense. As for my childhood my Father could be abusive in fact the only real memories of him was when he was hitting or belting me, he died when I was 11 years old and it is like my mind has blanked my life out before this age because I only remember very little, my older sister did tell me once that with me having ADHD I didn't know when to stay away from my Father and I would end up receiving the brunt of his behaviour. I have spent most of my life in toxicity. I think looking back that I was trying to replace my Father. My Father went into hospital for a back operation and before he went in he said once my room was tidy he would be back home, he was going to recuperate in my bedroom while I stayed in my sisters room. He died of a heart attack while in hospital so he never came home, there was no closure as there was absouloutly no funeral or farewell of any kind. I ended up as an 11 year old who felt it was my fault he had died because I didnt tidy my room, too the point I was scared to go past that room. I carried that guilt into my twenties. This is where I started early relationships at 14 trying to find my Father in toxic relationships, I think maybe I can help these people you know rescue them because I couldnt help my Father. As for ADHD blanking things out I do that alot I'm like a horse with blinkers on. Yes your so right about the Narcissists hating a partner with ADHD.
Wow thank you
Narcissistic abuse affects the Central nervous system. The Devil wants to destroy the function of mind through oppression. If you have ADHD you are special and have wonderful positive traits about yourself ❤ in spite of your challenges.
Maladaptive Daydreaming can be mistaken for symptoms of ADD.
Thank you. I have been trying to find more information about manipulative daydreaming, but there's not much. I learned another name for it, which might be easier to find, is "grandiose daydreaming." It is a challenge to be in a relationship with someone who I suspect does this (but denies it); so I've been motivated to learn more...
Really? I've been doing that my entire life lol
That is abput what Dr Gabor Maté says about ADHD. With some modifications, not exclusive any trauma or neglect. And it make sense.
Yes
Thank you Kevin. I fully agree with your observations. I have the same and I think This is a trauma response to what happened to us because of narcisistic abuse.
I'm surprised you remember. Many fall into dissociative amnesia. Something I have experienced most of my life and now working on for myself as I help others understand their own DA 😔
Such a powerful title!! The perfect track 👣
Thank you
I was traumatised by my mother as a child. I remember her boxing me my mouth and tasting the blood. My mother never liked me and my sister who is very much like my mother treated me the same. Coupled with my parents deteriorating marriage I couldn’t understand what was happening. I believe both of my parents were narcs. My mother used them as flying monkeys and they in turn grew to hate me. I remember my sibling piecing together something I had written and giving it to my father who beat me. The pleasure on their face was evil, that I now know was a narc smirk. I think this and many other events led to me developing ADHD. Throughout our lives I knew they hated me and when my marriage fell apart, yes I married a narc, they sided with him. Ironically my nephew had ADHD as a child. When I finally had enough of the reactive abuse I started to think and realised how toxic these people were and maintain no contact. I’m awaiting a diagnosis for ADHD.
Yes. I understand my behavior better now. Emotional abusers cause you ADHD symptoms. But it's still better to be on the receiving end than on the inflicting end - we maintain our relationship with God in this manner and let Him work in His own way.
I have now grown so used to people showing no compassion and empathy, and when you tell them your reasons, they start shouting and fighting, almost as if they had been preparing for the moment of the argument. I have learned to ignore and forgive and tell God my hurt instead, because telling abusers how they hurt you is useless - they only enjoy the hurt feeling on your face.
I was diagnosed at 41 after a 10yr toxic relationship🙄🤔 and a lifetime of toxicity and narcissism with family and other relationships 🤷🏼♀️
Hello from Melbourne 🙏 I loved this segment. I so relate with everything you have spoken about . Thank you so much for sharing your painful childhood. I don’t feel so alone anymore. I am work in progress and finally I don’t need validation from anyone any more I’m falling in love with me again. 😊God bless. 🙏💜
Many you tubers who are diagnosed with ADHD claim they can quickly or suddenly grow bored of a romantic partner or friend and discard them, or cheat on them for the dopamine hit..I wondered if you'd contribute your thoughts on this as it seems similar behaviour to cluster B's acting out.. but without the malignant intention.
Really excellent information!
WISDOM LOVE YOUR UNDERSTANDING
Oh yes abuse at home and abuse at school because of lack of focus.
And narcissistic project on you to be perfect and do things perfectly even though the narcissist r not perfect themselves
Kevin check out the book the body keeps the score its all trauma based.
Thank you for the heads up on that Woods
Excellent book. The body does keep score. If there was no outlet for what we were experiencing because we could not articulate it because we were simply too young or were unaware that it was abuse, the stress gets stored somewhere....the body. I suffered severe, debilitating migraines for over 10 years.
@@shelleykapp9637 I was raised by narcissists as a single daughter, only thing was I had to had my teeth corrected because my mouth muscles would tense up when my father was around. And my parents would paint everything with wood protection agent so I was poisoned (but THEY too). As soon as I got out there by 19y I would feel better. NEVER had ADHD or sth alike.
Narcissist can cause an array of trauma response traits you are right. Your mind checks out for good reason. My step mom would beat me and the neighbors would hear it and intervene then they would leave sympathetic to her. Because her lies and charm
Narcissists want ADHDers to support their "illusions" and to support their "dishonesty." LOL.
For sure our past is still effecting us, even if u do therapy, like one professor said there changes to your brain and brain responses after childhood trauma
Yes u do remember things that u shouldn't remember as so little boy.
But unfortunately we do remember and going back to those memories.
My brother until this day is like a computer that at time's freezing itself then he resetting himself into reality.
Is dissociation and his dealing with trauma
Gabor Mate has a short lecture on self disconnect that is the real tragedy from trauma. I spend a lifetime on a journey to becoming whole.
I have very few memories before 10 or maybe older. One when I must have been 3 or younger - before my bio dad left - of me watching parents arguing through the banisters of the stairs. My mother then went onto another abusive relationship. The birth of my brother at 7 and odd memories helping with him but hardly anything before secondary school. I'm sure I have ADHD but my son is diagnosed autistic with ADHD. There is definitely a genetic aspect.
Ohhhhh......I'm ADD or maybe ADHD and went through crazy narcissistic abuse.......I am not sure what is the chicken or the egg. I think our creativity and independent way of thinking bothers their desire to control everything. Controlling me is like trying to control a feral cat LOL. I definitely think I have dissociation at times from the narcissistic abuse in stressful situations, but I also struggle with concentrating on anything I find boring and am very forgetful. So I think it is both dissociation and ADD I would have had growing up in the most loving of families.
I was diagnosed ADHD 12 years ago. I am 45 yo. And I can clearly recall my first trauma at age of 1 yo. I still take ritalin but it doesn't help to me any more.
My ADHD recently developed from Narcissistic Abuse as well
Narcissistic abuse is also linked to BPD, cptsd, bipolar, anxiety, ocd... 😔
So sad
I'm MD with personal experience with narcissistic abuse ( mother, teacher, coleguae, chef, friend and ex boyfriend ). It' could be related.
Blahaha, this makes so much sense! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I have ADHD but been diagnosed when Im an adult.
To a certain degree tuning out is positive response to when we feel owerwhelmes with outer stimulation! And there is the nervous sistem some people are less sensitive to outer stimulation than others!! It becomes dangerous when you loose touch with reality! Thanks for sharing I was diagnosed with CPTSD and depersonalisation and dertealisaton problems!! The only thing they didn t diagnose was the madness of my family!! Do you get those problems out of the blue!!? Nowadays thank God I m doing pretty well!! We are tougher than we think!! 😊
Yes
Me too buddy
Omg i remember all these thing my mum throughing knives at my dad. My dad throughing water at my mum im in the middle the screaming of her was terible. She was pure evil. She caused my adhd my dad wasnt like that but she would affect any one. And she gave me adhd locking me in bedroom no food no drink evil.
So my mums malignant narcissism and violence towards me caused my adhd .
Just like the navy seals, narcs train you in life.
Whether you like it or not, buy sometimes we need to get tough to it
The Constant BuIIying by aduIts because I had ADHD issues , and Trauma that started in Utero , was why I struggIed . The constant accusations that I was bad and doing this on purpose, etc. by aduIts who were supposed to have seIf-controI. I was IabeIed as, "The Bad Seed" by famiIy members, etc. I am their Scapegoat because I am the heaIthiest one. I got away!