2 Unhealthy Responses to Shame Attacks
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ม.ค. 2023
- When we are under the influence of a shame attack, our emotional response typically ends up going into two unhealthy directions that do not allow us to remain in sobriety. They can keep us stuck in patterns of denial, stubborn and defensiveness or drowning despair and hopelessness. In today's broadcast, I want to spend some time comparing and contrasting these two unhealthy response to shame and how we can begin moving in healthier directions.
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I realized this weekend how broken I still am. Some people prayed for me and I think the Heavenly Father is removing the wall of fear I have put up and it's revealing a lot of yuck inside of me. I'm hopeful that it's just a necessary step in healing.
Same struggle here brother.
Tony, I think you’re absolutely right about this step being the next necessary one in your healing journey.
Well said. You're not by yourself with that beast.
Thank you so much brother for putting our so much free teaching. I pray the Lord blesses you.
This is gold 🥇 I usually go to drowning. How eye opening. Thank you so much ❣️
Wow I swap back and forth to both sides. This has been so insightful/revelatory. I can see the progress I've made of practicing sober-mindedness, receiving Grace and understanding God's love since I first discovered I have this shame struggle. Your minsitry has helped me, my friend you're counseling, and countless others. I praise God for you walking through it and now helping others. God is good 😍
WOW. Deeply insightful. I will definitely be rewatching and marinating. This video is causing me to see some hard truths about myself and to face them SOBERLY, even though both ditches are screaming at me to jump in them. 😅 I relate to both ditches, but particularly the drowning side. Sobering up feels very painful right now, but I know facing reality and my fears will be worth it. God is clearly working on sobriety, shame, and self-pity in my life. Thank you so much, Mark.
Daaaang. Hit the nail on the head. I have experienced most of both sides at some point. I wish we could just auto download all of this into my heart & mind. 😂 But I know it takes time to heal & digest.
Blessings on you & your family. 🤍
Good morning. Wow. So much to think on. I can identify many traps ditches and snares. I will have to review this a few times. My head is full. Thank you for sharing this material. I have grown so much in the last 2 years after 30 plus years of salvation, to receive and accept the love of the Father. I pray for you Mark, as you work on the audio book and look forward to learning and growing from it.
I’m thank you once again Mark for letting God use you to enlighten his children who struggle with so much of this. In my house I’m the drowned and my husband the one in denial. I have legitimate reasons for some of my feelings but it’s hard for me to remember that what man says isn’t the same as what God says. He says I’m Loved, and that should be the end all be all!
Thanks, Mark!
Since I was diagnosed with OCPD, I have been watching your videos. They have been more helpful to me than 3 decades of trauma therapy have ever been. Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm getting too old for this. It exhausting 😴
So insightful, as usual! Thank you so much, Mark-you are truly blessing my life!!
I don't know if you will see this cause its an old video, but this helped me a little bit see how shame control my life. The thing i dont hear about the video is when you are afraid that youre denying the problem, which makes me feel like im a bad person and a liar, which is again shame. I dealt with legalism alot of times and my mind wanted to pull me into shame, that im a bad person doing this, im a sinner, ans because of shame attack, i always try to stand up for myself and i say its not, im not a bad person, i do alot of good, and this feels like im denying as you mentioned in a similar exemple. And then shame again comes and says "youre denying, you want to avoid accepting that youre sinful, a bad person" and i find myself being stuck in this two sides, i want to add that when i get really triggered and say "im not a bad person i do everything good" i do realize that this isnt true, i cant do everything perfect, but its hard to see the flaws when shame comes and makes that 100 times worse... i feel shame even about me trying to stand up to myself agaisnt shame, cause i feel like im a liar, i try to avoid that im a sinner. As i heard your exemple i was like hmm maybe im really avoiding the problem which makes me feel shame more... I notice its a black and white thinking here. So i need to work on shame attack.
Thank you
Very helpful
I love these videos. I feel like I am in a soul healing school right now. 😊. Anyone know the title for the video where he teaches on victims thinking and foreboding.
Hey Mark. First I wanna thank you for what you do (I’ve bought all your books and am reading God Loves Me and I Love Myself at the moment).
Do you have advice for someone struggling with their sexuality? I know you probably can’t draw on personal experience…but I keep having this underlying feeling like…my sin is the only sin, like if I could just *make* myself attracted to women *then* God will love me…like I’ll never get victory over this (especially when I have dreams about my ex of seven years- I left him because I had an experience that convinced me that God is real and Jesus is the way..,and that I needed to “repent”…but if I’m honest, now I just miss him terribly)…and sometimes, if I’m even *more* honest, I’m not sure if I (my flesh) *want* to change.
I’ve struggled with this for a long time… but since leaving my ex…I’m just really depressed.
I really would appreciate any help.
Thanks again for what you do.
God bless.
If you could, send it in as a question. markdejesus.com/questions maybe I can find a way to address it.
Praying for you!
Can you did a video about hallucinations. I don’t encounter severe hallucinations. I took lsd two years ago which ended up leading me to get saved after the traumatic experience kind of pushed me to God. I haven’t touched drugs since. I encountered massive peace and love from God but after about a year of being saved I felt the hallucinations come again and its just hearing little things or smelling or feeling something that isn’t there. Or seeing a person twitch or move when they didn’t. I have a heard time being still because this fear is at the back of my mind wondering when the next hallucination will happen often triggering one to happen. This can make me think Stan’s is attacking me or God is trying to tell me something. I could also say that I have probably been identifying with this struggle too much like talked about in the video. instead of walking in victory that God gave me but I don’t know why. Maybe I didn’t forgive myself or have a hard time moving forward. The littlest things and noises can trigger me. I want to be aware of the reality of his love and have a sober mind of the reality of who he is and what reality is and how he sees me.
Hey Logan. Praying for you friend. I'm so sorry for the fear trap you are in. I know God is big enough. Thanks for asking for help and clarity and I know God can do that. Praying with you today
Have no fear; the good Shepherd never sleeps or slumbers...
Hello Mister mark I'm 17 and suffer with ocd it ruined my life i want freedom and my OCD is a sexual immorality intuitive thoughts I'm ignoring then the best i can I'm just wondering I'm i doing something wrong