I have been drowning in shame about living in legalism and performance Christianity for so many years. This video is a huge help for my healing. Thank you.
I've suffered from legalism very, very harshly in the past. I want to tell you that you'll be at peace and living at rest with God again, even if there seems to be no hope, or even if that demonic bastard tries to bring you down through shame. If you're still struggling, let me assure you, there's hope and unbreakable love with God right now, even in the midst of those dark waves. A big hug brother, I know you'll laugh and smile again stronger in your day to day life, with your eyes wide open appreciating the beauty of God's love in your day to day life :)
This video is so timely. I recently rededicated my life to Christ & God has delivered me from so many things, but I do find myself ruminating about certain past sins or embarrassing moments sometimes.
Hearing that God loves me in spite of all the stuff I have done, today especially. I caught myself ruminating over stuff that happened years ago and it makes feel like The Father knows that I never really loved Him. It's encouraging to hear that He does now if I could know that In my heart,, my God what I would do to know that I know ,that I haven't gone to far!
I'm an atheist suffering from rumination. But this one was very effective. Especially about shame and being harsh on myself. I need to work on acceptance and giving myself grace, unconditional love. Very encouraging and good work Mark! Thanks, this will definitely help me in my journey.
This is so me! I've been ruminating for the last few weeks! I've rehearsed traumatic moments trying to figure things out. I knew I was spinning but the anxiety and anger made it hard to speak up. I've prayed and counseled on these subjects multiple times. Before the ruminating happened, I had a sense of grief but couldn't pinpoint where it was coming from. Maybe I'm in Step 5 of this video.... but who knows I might feel at Step 1 later today lol. But I'm reminded that this is a journey 🙏🏾
Mark praise the Lord for you ... This is me every single morning!!! It's to the point where I literally feel stuck in the bed for hours until my desire to get into my routine sets in... Every single morning and the rest of the day I'm fighting to stay present!
Your channel is a blessing, Mark! What a ministry for the Kingdom. And this is one of my favorite videos of yours. You really are gifted in communicating the grace and love of God in a practical and compassionate way.
Just to add to the rumination part, because I would ruminate and try to fix with OCD and you have been so helpful in breaking that habit, in your book about fear, you say to change the channel to what you want to listen to. In the case of the past, after you lovingly accept yourself, I have been practicing changing the channel to the present so that I stay present. I struggled with an area of my past for a few years and if I had this, I don't think I would have been so stuck like I was. I think it works similarly to intrusive thoughts in that I notice them, lovingly accept myself and it's ok to have intrusive thoughts, and then redirect my focus back to the present. I hope I said this right.
This ruminating and spinning has been such a part of my life for so long I have trouble recognizing when it's starting to come on. I don't know what thoughts are legit and what thoughts are not because I am in such a constant state of anxiety.
Ohhh Mark....This was so PERFECT. I can totally relate and understand. The thing I regret doing is actually helping me because I've learned sooo much about about OCD, Scrupulosity, Perfectionism, Rumination, etc... No one in church or life taught me these things. I'm now slowly learning to appreciate my regretful mistake.
I have been my own worst enemy all of my life - I was born to a co-dependant mother and an absentee father who was in Vietnam off and on for the first part on my formative years. Knowing all this, even as a Christian, I STILL beat myself up for things I did/said YEARS ago - people I hurt, animals I had to abandon to new homes when my marriage split up - I love this video and I know I will be watching it more than once.
Thank you Mark! what helped me most was letting compassion be my reaction over and over again. As much as needed. Without limit. I tend to think I have the Holy Spirit living in me so I should be a "better" Christian than I am. That I should be healed by now, and not sin so MUCH! However more and more your teaching on our Dad's compassion and forgiveness is sinking in more and more. So thank you again. Keep up the good work!
Key word PRESENT. Jesus said,"Behold I stand at the door and knock: (present) if any man hear my voice (present) , open the door,(present) I will come in to him( present) and will sup with him( present) and he with me( present). Jesus has never been my past. He has always been my present and future. I only now have embraced this. If I am living in the present, I will always be grateful. Thank you so much Mark!
I've been going through a very hard season, last night I heard the words in my mind, "stop ruminating in the past" that is why I looked it up, your video is a perfect description of what I'm going through, Glory to God 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you Mark for this lesson. In some ways I can understand some of these concept but in other ways they sound foreign. I pray that yall can have peace in your hearts. God bless.
Thank you so much for this very useful info and tools. Things have definitely shifted, as I continue to release unwanted past memories and thoughts. It's definitely a process❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Mark for the amazing video! I needed this today. As you shared each point I was like "Yep, that's what I've been going through". It was healing to have someone encourage me to see my past through new eyes so I can embrace it. I love the thought that God embraces me with my past and all. My biggest takeaway was the steps on how to get to the place where I can let go. Often I want to try and find a fix or the right prayer to let the pain of the past go. But really I needed to dive into how I see and relate to my past so that I can have the compassion, self-love, and sobriety to allow me to learn from the past and let go of the shame and disqualification I can feel over it. Overall I'm excited to get into the process of practicing these steps and letting myself be refined by agreeing with and abiding in God's love for me. So thank you again brother from anotha motha!
WHAT A BLESSING! THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT FOR SUCH A REVELATORY TEACHING! Thank you Mr. DeJesus for sharing this, I had a breakthrough with a past event while watching this that I stopped to journal about to make sure I got it. Blessing over your ministry and family In Jesus name!
I'm not religious, I'm spiritual and even though I'm Jewish and Israeli, I really connect with your channel and thank you for all the wise words I get from your videos. Only good for all of us.
Thank you for helping me today. I can't forgive myself for not moving in with my dad during the last 6 months of his life. I had just divorced and I was starting a new job. This time of year is so hard for me. I should have been with him and I'll never forgive myself.
Thank you sir. Your teachings are very encouraging. I want to ask this question for people who are suffering from chronic diseases that may be doctors have even told them how long they might live on earth and people who are depressed, how can they practice not to ruminate over their condition when it is real they are sick?
After forgiving myself even so briefly for my past transgressions, I find myself searching for mundane adjustments that God already called me to do, like not working on Sundays so I can go to church, and likely meet a nice lady. Who woulda thunk it? I’ve had a legalistic past and believed that the tribal Hebrew way of worshipping God was preferred (oops), and figured doing mission work on Sunday was better anyway. Aaaahaa! Gentle baby steps, Mark. Thank you for your work. Recently, I’ve been changing my view of “women don’t want to help men deal with their emotions” to “some women reeeeaaallly want to help their man work through their emotions”.
This is a pretty solid video except for the occasional supernatural interjections. They don’t add anything pragmatic to dealing with the very real experience of shame and rumination; they’re just additional avoidance strategies.
Hey Mark. Wow. Video for my heart and mind. After 32yr with my wife, she filed for divorce. Almost a year now, the trial date is set for May 2024. I cannot tell you the time I spent ruminating about the regrets of what I did it did not do the last 10 months. I blame myself, and feel I am bad, worthless, and a failure. I keep spinning and just cannot move forward. I am stuck with negative feelings and accusations that are relentless. I trust God that He has a plan for me, but it's difficult. I need more compassion and forgiveness for myself. It is part of my journey that I can learn from. It is not who I am. Thanks brother.
Thank you! I've been listning to you for some time now, you're helping me with my shame issues and my struggles with myself. I really need your videos and I'm so grateful that you are willing to share your journey and help others. I don't remember how I found your channel, but I thank God that I did. I haven't found similar help elsewhere. ❤
Satans trying to condemn me for having a tone toward someone & I apologized, but satan’s trying to tell me that “oh what if the person didn’t hear you? Or oh how were they supposed to know what your apologizing for?” I meant that apology with sincerity, but yesterday I found freedom in God’s promises, but I still feel guilty/ condemned for it!
Thank you Mark! I appreciate you taking the time to make this video. It is literally the best and most helpful I’ve ever seen on this topic. Thanks again!
And what about people? Sometimes I get this yuck feelings or anxiety and it's as if I want them not even exist, to be able to feel more peace. I get those feelings when someone talks about them or something reminds me or worse when I realize they know the same person that I know. We leave in a very little town. And makes me feel anxiety and disgusting when I think I may run into them. The worst for me is to know they are part of Christian community here. And I feel sometimes as if it limits my freedom to openly serve God here and connect with other ppl that I afraid they may know and it will make ne feel this unpleasant way.
I have spent many years ruminating about the past hurt that my wife has done to me. No matter how hard I tried to appear happy I just couldn't let it go. It was always a trigger that would go off in my head around the same time every year that brought everything back up. It has got to the point now that my wife wants a divorce.
How to handle the past mistakes that resulted in my adult son cutting off his entire family 😮😢 a LOT of false accusations I’ve been living with for six years.
😂😂 Actually, this topic is painful for me. Because there are a lot of thoughts that's as you said, just make me feel "yaik". But when you said "If you noticed it isn't fruitful". It made me lough, for some reason. Like eye opening how ridiculous it is. And now I have greater desire for not following these paths.
What about if we’ve been wronged in a big way, but the other person is going through therapy with you and utilizing the tools given? I’ve been ruminating about whether the other shoe will drop.
I'm an atheist suffering from rumination. But this one was very effective. Especially about shame and being harsh on myself. I need to work on acceptance and giving myself grace, unconditional love. Very encouraging and good work Mark! Thanks, this will definitely help me in my journey.
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I have been drowning in shame about living in legalism and performance Christianity for so many years. This video is a huge help for my healing. Thank you.
I've suffered from legalism very, very harshly in the past.
I want to tell you that you'll be at peace and living at rest with God again, even if there seems to be no hope, or even if that demonic bastard tries to bring you down through shame.
If you're still struggling, let me assure you, there's hope and unbreakable love with God right now, even in the midst of those dark waves.
A big hug brother, I know you'll laugh and smile again stronger in your day to day life, with your eyes wide open appreciating the beauty of God's love in your day to day life :)
@@px0736 wow, that was so kind and uplifting. I really really appreciate it
@@px0736 What a beautifully-said piece of hope!!! 💗
I'm for you thanks to God.
Won't let you fall my siblings :)
@@px0736 Thank you. 😊 I just took a screenshot of your previous comment so I can be reminded of our Hope. ✨
He is what we call a "soul physician." ❤️💯
This video is so timely. I recently rededicated my life to Christ & God has delivered me from so many things, but I do find myself ruminating about certain past sins or embarrassing moments sometimes.
Yeah me too. I try to catch myself and distract my mind instead or pray. I did some horrible things in my past.
@@tonypino5415 same here. When I start to ruminate, I’ve been trying to make it a habit to pray instead of worrying.
Same here. You are not alone.
Same here
Oh, Mark, this video is truly providential!!! I needed this message SO MUCH today! THANK YOU a million times!!
Hearing that God loves me in spite of all the stuff I have done, today especially. I caught myself ruminating over stuff that happened years ago and it makes feel like The Father knows that I never really loved Him. It's encouraging to hear that He does now if I could know that In my heart,, my God what I would do to know that I know ,that I haven't gone to far!
I'm an atheist suffering from rumination. But this one was very effective. Especially about shame and being harsh on myself. I need to work on acceptance and giving myself grace, unconditional love. Very encouraging and good work Mark! Thanks, this will definitely help me in my journey.
This is so me! I've been ruminating for the last few weeks! I've rehearsed traumatic moments trying to figure things out. I knew I was spinning but the anxiety and anger made it hard to speak up. I've prayed and counseled on these subjects multiple times. Before the ruminating happened, I had a sense of grief but couldn't pinpoint where it was coming from. Maybe I'm in Step 5 of this video.... but who knows I might feel at Step 1 later today lol. But I'm reminded that this is a journey 🙏🏾
Mark praise the Lord for you ... This is me every single morning!!! It's to the point where I literally feel stuck in the bed for hours until my desire to get into my routine sets in... Every single morning and the rest of the day I'm fighting to stay present!
''lt often happens in the morning...'' Yes. Mornings are the most difficult Thank you
this needs to be preached in all churches..................
The church will never allow it. Church is an enemy of truth
Your channel is a blessing, Mark! What a ministry for the Kingdom. And this is one of my favorite videos of yours. You really are gifted in communicating the grace and love of God in a practical and compassionate way.
I'm struggling with a crazy meltdown. I'm not sure what's going on in my head. I might be spinning. I'm asking for your guys prayers please.
How are you now?
@OhOkayChloe I'm doing alright thank you very much. My medicine makes ocd at least manageable. How are you feeling
Just to add to the rumination part, because I would ruminate and try to fix with OCD and you have been so helpful in breaking that habit, in your book about fear, you say to change the channel to what you want to listen to. In the case of the past, after you lovingly accept yourself, I have been practicing changing the channel to the present so that I stay present. I struggled with an area of my past for a few years and if I had this, I don't think I would have been so stuck like I was. I think it works similarly to intrusive thoughts in that I notice them, lovingly accept myself and it's ok to have intrusive thoughts, and then redirect my focus back to the present. I hope I said this right.
This ruminating and spinning has been such a part of my life for so long I have trouble recognizing when it's starting to come on. I don't know what thoughts are legit and what thoughts are not because I am in such a constant state of anxiety.
Jon72. Can relate. I will start practicing noticing, then seeing past through God's eyes. Compassionately
What's important is that you're still here dear one😊. Can you get a skill and get a little distance from the town?
Ohhh Mark....This was so PERFECT. I can totally relate and understand. The thing I regret doing is actually helping me because I've learned sooo much about about OCD, Scrupulosity, Perfectionism, Rumination, etc... No one in church or life taught me these things. I'm now slowly learning to appreciate my regretful mistake.
Wish I could give this 100 thumbs up. So Wonderful! Will listen to again.
I have been my own worst enemy all of my life - I was born to a co-dependant mother and an absentee father who was in Vietnam off and on for the first part on my formative years. Knowing all this, even as a Christian, I STILL beat myself up for things I did/said YEARS ago - people I hurt, animals I had to abandon to new homes when my marriage split up - I love this video and I know I will be watching it more than once.
Thank you Mark! what helped me most was letting compassion be my reaction over and over again. As much as needed. Without limit. I tend to think I have the Holy Spirit living in me so I should be a "better" Christian than I am. That I should be healed by now, and not sin so MUCH! However more and more your teaching on our Dad's compassion and forgiveness is sinking in more and more. So thank you again. Keep up the good work!
Key word PRESENT. Jesus said,"Behold I stand at the door and knock: (present) if any man hear my voice (present) , open the door,(present) I will come in to him( present) and will sup with him( present) and he with me( present). Jesus has never been my past. He has always been my present and future. I only now have embraced this. If I am living in the present, I will always be grateful. Thank you so much Mark!
I've been going through a very hard season, last night I heard the words in my mind, "stop ruminating in the past" that is why I looked it up, your video is a perfect description of what I'm going through, Glory to God 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Man , this video is right on time.
Exactly what I needed to hear right now, thank you so much! :)
So did I!
Thank you Mark for this lesson. In some ways I can understand some of these concept but in other ways they sound foreign. I pray that yall can have peace in your hearts. God bless.
Thanks!
Thank you so much for this very useful info and tools. Things have definitely shifted, as I continue to release unwanted past memories and thoughts. It's definitely a process❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you Mark for the amazing video! I needed this today. As you shared each point I was like "Yep, that's what I've been going through". It was healing to have someone encourage me to see my past through new eyes so I can embrace it. I love the thought that God embraces me with my past and all. My biggest takeaway was the steps on how to get to the place where I can let go. Often I want to try and find a fix or the right prayer to let the pain of the past go. But really I needed to dive into how I see and relate to my past so that I can have the compassion, self-love, and sobriety to allow me to learn from the past and let go of the shame and disqualification I can feel over it. Overall I'm excited to get into the process of practicing these steps and letting myself be refined by agreeing with and abiding in God's love for me.
So thank you again brother from anotha motha!
You are right on for me today. Now to embrace it and walk in it.
WHAT A BLESSING! THANK YOU HOLY SPIRIT FOR SUCH A REVELATORY TEACHING! Thank you Mr. DeJesus for sharing this, I had a breakthrough with a past event while watching this that I stopped to journal about to make sure I got it. Blessing over your ministry and family In Jesus name!
I'm not religious, I'm spiritual and even though I'm Jewish and Israeli, I really connect with your channel and thank you for all the wise words I get from your videos. Only good for all of us.
Thank you for helping me today. I can't forgive myself for not moving in with my dad during the last 6 months of his life. I had just divorced and I was starting a new job. This time of year is so hard for me. I should have been with him and I'll never forgive myself.
You are a blessing to humanity! God bless you immensely Brother Mark.
I tend to struggle with worrying about the future and repeating past mistakes.
Thank you sir. Your teachings are very encouraging. I want to ask this question for people who are suffering from chronic diseases that may be doctors have even told them how long they might live on earth and people who are depressed, how can they practice not to ruminate over their condition when it is real they are sick?
Thank you so much for this, Mark. Very needed! God bless you, brother.
The bit about imagining how I would coach a friend through it if they had the same experience and brought it up really helped, thanks.
After forgiving myself even so briefly for my past transgressions, I find myself searching for mundane adjustments that God already called me to do, like not working on Sundays so I can go to church, and likely meet a nice lady. Who woulda thunk it?
I’ve had a legalistic past and believed that the tribal Hebrew way of worshipping God was preferred (oops), and figured doing mission work on Sunday was better anyway. Aaaahaa! Gentle baby steps, Mark. Thank you for your work. Recently, I’ve been changing my view of “women don’t want to help men deal with their emotions” to “some women reeeeaaallly want to help their man work through their emotions”.
This is a pretty solid video except for the occasional supernatural interjections. They don’t add anything pragmatic to dealing with the very real experience of shame and rumination; they’re just additional avoidance strategies.
Hey Mark. Wow. Video for my heart and mind. After 32yr with my wife, she filed for divorce. Almost a year now, the trial date is set for May 2024. I cannot tell you the time I spent ruminating about the regrets of what I did it did not do the last 10 months. I blame myself, and feel I am bad, worthless, and a failure. I keep spinning and just cannot move forward. I am stuck with negative feelings and accusations that are relentless. I trust God that He has a plan for me, but it's difficult. I need more compassion and forgiveness for myself. It is part of my journey that I can learn from. It is not who I am. Thanks brother.
As someone who deals with real event ocd this is great 👍
HEEEEEELLLLLPFUL!!!!!
T H A N K. Y O U ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Praise God. I found the substantial msge. I salute you Mark. you delivered intelligently the issue integrated with divine application
Wonderful video! Thank you Mark!
Thank you! I've been listning to you for some time now, you're helping me with my shame issues and my struggles with myself. I really need your videos and I'm so grateful that you are willing to share your journey and help others. I don't remember how I found your channel, but I thank God that I did. I haven't found similar help elsewhere. ❤
Satans trying to condemn me for having a tone toward someone & I apologized, but satan’s trying to tell me that “oh what if the person didn’t hear you? Or oh how were they supposed to know what your apologizing for?” I meant that apology with sincerity, but yesterday I found freedom in God’s promises, but I still feel guilty/ condemned for it!
Thank you Mark! I appreciate you taking the time to make this video. It is literally the best and most helpful I’ve ever seen on this topic. Thanks again!
Wow this really helped…. Its def gonna take some practice.
So helpful Mark.
Sooo timely.
Thank you from a grateful sister from another mother ☝🏼🤗
Mom's Catholic guilt 24/7.😢..Good information ❤👍
Thank you Mark may God bless your teaching and journey more
This was extremely helpful. Ruminating is a huge problem for me.
Your content is helpful ❤
Thank you so much for this. I never realized that I was trying to fox my past and on so many areas!
Exelent, I love your explanation.
Please,keep doing it.
You are exactly what we need to hear.
Thank you from ❤️
Ruminating is anti-loving. 👏🏼
I learnt I am not my past 🙏
And what about people? Sometimes I get this yuck feelings or anxiety and it's as if I want them not even exist, to be able to feel more peace. I get those feelings when someone talks about them or something reminds me or worse when I realize they know the same person that I know. We leave in a very little town. And makes me feel anxiety and disgusting when I think I may run into them.
The worst for me is to know they are part of Christian community here. And I feel sometimes as if it limits my freedom to openly serve God here and connect with other ppl that I afraid they may know and it will make ne feel this unpleasant way.
I know exactly what you mean and how you feel. Can relate to your situation 100%
Very insighful video!! ❤. I like the fact that you actually explained how to let go! Thank you!! God bless you!
I have spent many years ruminating about the past hurt that my wife has done to me. No matter how hard I tried to appear happy I just couldn't let it go. It was always a trigger that would go off in my head around the same time every year that brought everything back up. It has got to the point now that my wife wants a divorce.
Great content!
Love this word. It’s so needed for me at the moment.
How to handle the past mistakes that resulted in my adult son cutting off his entire family 😮😢 a LOT of false accusations I’ve been living with for six years.
Nice singing voice!
Thank you for this video. It’s very helpful.
So powerful 😢❤
Thanks
Thanks mark good stuff!
Thank you I’ve been having day
😂😂
Actually, this topic is painful for me. Because there are a lot of thoughts that's as you said, just make me feel "yaik".
But when you said "If you noticed it isn't fruitful". It made me lough, for some reason. Like eye opening how ridiculous it is. And now I have greater desire for not following these paths.
I think I want to order the book. God loves me and,I love myself. I'm not quite sure about it though. It sounds too bold!
What about if we’ve been wronged in a big way, but the other person is going through therapy with you and utilizing the tools given? I’ve been ruminating about whether the other shoe will drop.
Marc, i feel like i acted on my intrusive thought
Can a person with ocd act on an intrusive thought?
Hi
Who doesn’t ruminate about that past on this channel lol?
😅😂🤦🏻♀️
Called evil memory recall
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I'm an atheist suffering from rumination. But this one was very effective. Especially about shame and being harsh on myself. I need to work on acceptance and giving myself grace, unconditional love. Very encouraging and good work Mark! Thanks, this will definitely help me in my journey.
Thanks!