Conversations with Kanwal S1 | Episode 3 | Chai Trolley Culture
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ย. 2024
- Rejected by 40 different families as a marriage prospect because of her weight, Suraiya Rahat shares her sentiments about the chai trolley culture with Kanwal.
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Every girl including me has gone through this in our society even though we come from extremely educated families.
Yes. Its indeed the sad truth.
Sana you spoke my heart. Hugs.
Soo true Sana
Speak for yourself. Not every girl, i did not. My parents were never open to such useless traditions.
Agree with u
she had me hypnotized by the way she kept on speaking so charismatically!
exactly I am watching this video third just because how she told her story
Exactly I watched this video many many times... And last few lines are mesmerizing
And she is so pretty year. I wish she must have been extremely gorgeous in her youth as well. Beautiful personality indeed. I wish I had someone like her in my life :D
I second it ... lovely narration
Really
"Zindagi ek kapda pehan ke nikal sakti hai, Zindagi 2 roti ki jagah 1 roti kha ke bhi nikal sakti hai par zindagi bina izzat ke nahi nikal sakti" well said Ma'am👏👏❤
I want to get this printed on a shirt now
Exactly 💯
When I saw her, I was like God how did fortyyyy families reject her. Mannn she looks so beautiful even now.
Exactly my thought. Her age must be 50+ but she's still gorgeous and she carries herself with confidence and grace. Those judgemental people who rejected her didn't even deserve to have her as their family member.
Ikr, her way of delivering her self was so sweet! Would love to hear more from her!
Exactly the same way.. I thought..
This is bec she is loved and respected.it keeps u healthy u don’t need tons of makeup to conceal ur internal and external scars
I am the special case about 14 years i am facing regularly this drama and still no result plz shadi ko life na banaey larki ki zindagi ka maqsad shadi nahi hai
The irony is all these women come to this show because they have “shortcomings” as per societal standard either with their skin colour, body type, inability to give birth etc but all the women I have watched here are the most beautiful and graceful women I have seen/come across my entire life. Each and everyone is so empowering and courageous. Kudos for bringing them together in this show.
I love your comment 🥺😭😭💖💖💖
Watching this in 2024 , I don't know how it came in my feed but it was amazing...I am currently 19 years old people literally bully me for my weight bcoz of this I lost alot of confidence but hearing this lady boosted my confidence... Thank u so much for this beautiful conversation ots of love from India 🇮🇳
I am a doctor by profession. Even I've gone through this.Just loved the confidence she exudes
Even with me it happened.
After viewing these kind of videos, we realise that there is literally no difference between India and Pakistan. Love from India 🇮🇳
Bitter truth about our society🙁
True
Love u to bro. Yeah v r same 100 % not 99 % coz India is now quite doing batter
Bangladesh is also like India and Pakistan. This lady's speaking Style is amazing.
Wao
Miss Rahat I have also fallen in love with you.I have watched this video in repeat mode ... please accept my regards and love from India
This is my favorite ep
Kya khubsurat cheez dekh li aaj youtube pe.. beautiful work from pakistan.. we hardly hear an earning woman to settle for a taxi driver but the main point is that she is an angel n he is the most lovable person.. wish we all could get true love like dat..
Hindustan se aapko salaam mam !!
Smriti Bhattacharya she has a Facebook page (soul sisters pakistan) i am a member and learn alot from the stories women share every day 👍🏻
👍👍👍
Correction not settled but married and loved a taxi driver*
❤️
The most beautiful thing I ever saw .... Her words express millions of emotions which we are dealing in our lives ........
exactly...
Yes , very true , i got tears in my eyes .
With fat girls too........ It happenes every where
GEETA NAIDU me too
For the first time, I really wanted a video to not end. Her talk is so polite and full of truth. We need more ladies like her in our society. Every girl would love to have a Saas like her. Love you Rahat 💕
What a beautiful woman, she's glowing. I love her story and I'm so thankful to have pressed on this.
I love how genuine she was. Didn't sugar coat anything. This is the sad reality of today's marriage scene. People coming into homes for window shopping. Find a man who values you and feels lucky to have you because everyone deserves to feel special and loved.
Sadaf R *I'm 24 from Canada cute & handsome & successful and I still couldn't find decent modest girl...hard to trust girls these days coz most of girls got hundreds of boyfriends*
You nailed it man!
My parents didn’t let anyone come and see me. So blessed Alhumdullilah and also said no to people who came to ask for me with jewels and sweets as they knew all that shines is not gold. They didn’t come under any pressure and Alhumdullilah I got married at the age of 30 without any regrets. Alhumdullilah feeling blessed
the lady is so beautiful and attractive, the way she speaks adds on to her personality.
I silently clapped for this lady. Bht kuch sikha gain ap aj. Much love. Stay blessed.
Kinza Qaiser *I'm 24 from Canada cute & handsome & successful and I still couldn't find decent modest girl...hard to trust girls these days coz most of girls got hundreds of boyfriends*
@@Syedturkishofficial you might be cute and handsome and successful too but you know why you cant find a girl who is in urs terms is decent or i might say saanskaari and loyal..bcz apne apni expectations just vhi tk rkhi h jha tk ap soch re ho. Everyone is diffrnt you just have to notice❤
@@muskaansehgal3584 zabardast jawab bohot zabardast
dr. muskan sehgal *I never met a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend, I mean girls are fully committed....honestly kuch nahi pata kab kisseyh mulaqaat hook until & unless I get positive vibes* ❤️✌️👍
dr. muskan sehgal *ohh God 🙄 all I'm was saying girls lie a lot even having a boyfriend they would lie that they are single that's what I meant dear....secondly I'm not like other men plz don't judge me....weseyh bhi Aaj kal lately mujhko sab ghussey wali type ki ladies hee milrahi hain....anyways Acha sorry my fault....i respect women coz its mentioned in my religion to do so....* ❤️🇨🇦🇵🇰🌹🙄
I am also facing the same issue due to my height and weight, my parents keep on trying to get a life partner and I am getting rejected again and again by boy or his family.Everytime I feel helpless and devastated. After watching this I felt like I deserve to be treated better.Really an amazing interview which boosted my confidence again.
Life can't be lived without respect...so true...
Wish I could meet this lady once in my life...she is such a positive soul to connect too...
Love from India
The most impressive lines at the end were "Zindagi bagair izzat k Nahi gujarti " ... Love is all about respect ...
Dave shutup
My wife shared link of this video, and it’s simply awesome. She hardly recommends TH-cam stuff to watch but I liked it a lot. My wife highlighted such concerns of rishta aunties who often visit door to door not for rishta for their sons but for eating and judging someone’s else princesses and then rejecting those princesses on the face of their daughters. Good you did program on this issue that has nothing to do with economy or politics of the country but has a serious impact on the society. Great going!!!
hey brother wishing you a happppy marriage life ahead
This is really inspiring. I wish they had shown her husband and Mother-in-law.
Great interview. Thank you!
Yes even I was thinking the same
Yes I was expecting they would conclude the episode with her husband
Yes!!
They showed in nida show husband, daughter, mother in law watch that interview
@@whiteflowers8329 how can we search?could you please share link?
This women pours her heart out in the most raw form . Her conversations moves the heart and soul .
Totally
abeer absa *I'm 24 from Canada cute & handsome & successful and I still couldn't find decent modest girl...hard to trust girls these days coz most of girls got hundreds of boyfriends*
What. A. Fabulous. Video!
I'm spellbound. Her personality, her story, her grace, her confidence. The silent comfort provided by Kanwal beside her.
Such serene 10 minutes. You are doing a wonderful job with this series. Keep going.
Lots of love from India.
Dave 1977 how can you breath keeping such suffocative mentality. Feeling sorry for u dude and wishing u a quick recovery.
Dave 1977 um still bit puzzled thinking how can u continue living with such negativities. And yah I need recovery of my brain since I still feel an unknown pain witnessing people like u who never hesitates to express their darkest side. Stay safe and sound bdw.
Dave 1977 And u think it is ok to produce a derogatory remark in a content that has no relation with any religion? Are u sure? And now u r talking about Quran and Hadith. Seriously?
Her words ❤️ she truly expressed the irony of society we live in. She is beautiful by heart as well as with personality. Love and respect from India for ma'am 😊❤️
She's such a badass 🔥
Society should change their mentality and be accepting of every body type/height and colour
Took some of the classes from ma'am Rahat in my montessori diploma and those classes are the best memory of that year.. she used to sing poems with us and tell us her life stories I can still hear her sing Yippi Ya Ya Yippie she's a wonderful woman and an amazing teacher ❤
Rahat said it right, the chai trolley is equivalent to a "mujra". I totally agree with her and understand the situation. Also, Rahat's message on life was mind blowing. Thank you 😊
The conversation was so beautiful..."Zindagi izzat k alawa nahi guzar sakti"...very true
I have watched this video so many times.. The way she speaks❤️ she should be a writer.. Every line she speaks has years of experience n wisdom.. Every girl goes through this phase..
Omg her story brings tears in my eyes. Hatts off to her inlaws & obviously her for being true to her self. .
Kudos ❤
This brought tears in my eyes... What a story... Rahat ji spoke her heart out... Simply loved 💓💓
Same here ....brought tears in my eyes
Iam mesmerized by this woman.... Ufff i love her. Her way of talking her personality uffff i love u mam❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm so proud of Pakistan for doing something like this that to on a platform where it will reach the younger generation better!
My mother is an amazing women. I never once had to do this. She didn’t allow any one to come to my home and parade me around. She is a widow but didn’t allow anyone to come and see me. Even without a man’s support she refused to everyone.
My parents like my sis in law for my brother... And at the time of rishta he asked me.. Kia ek bar dehk sakta hon.. I said no... And then they both met after their nikkah...
Beautiful Ammi
Aapki ammi jaan ko mera salaam :)
Tu phir kasy ki shadi ya bina shadi k he betha rakha ha
Salam to Ammi
Omgggg she's Savageee!!!
I love her attitude towards life. This is real empowerment. I love her ❤❤
I don't want to compare the episodes since each struggle was a personal battle but what I've noticed is how the narrative makes even the mundane seem impressive. The speaker didn't just give an account of her problems but she wove words like a waving wand and cast a spell through her words- magical. This is the simplest story with the strongest moral yet. Love it. I like how the interviews aren't hours long- 10 minutes, short, sweet yet sound. Great initiative.
This is definitely one of the most heartfelt words I have ever heard from somebody!!! God bless you.. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I was rejected almost 28 times (that are known to me), on the basis of the locality I live in... People were so ashamed to enter in the zone I used to live in let alone marrying someone from that area... There are so many weird reasons, girls and even boys get rejected by families...
Alhumdulilah never gone through such experince. My father was the one who took stand by saying: meri beti kisi dukan py rkha show piece nhi hy jo hr ery ghery k samny jaye. Alhumdulilah blessed with the best 😊
Mashaa Allah...salute to your father 👍👍
Then how did you get married
@@lifewithAysha jo kismat me likha hota hy wo khud chal k ata hy. My mil saw me on my cousin's wedding and then she called my mom. After that came for engagment. The most interesting part is we both (husband and me) never saw each other and never talked on phone. Dulha dulhan k roop me dekha dono ny ek dosry ko 😁
@@mariamsiddiq38 same with my father
Mashallah
What an inspirational lady❤️ the way she talks dil karta hai k sunte hi jaaon unki baatein❤️❤️ and you Kawal hats off to you for bringing to us the pure emotion😍
Lga 2 min mai baat ki unho ny. Itna pyara boli hein
The whole time i was laughing by Miss Rahat's way of telling her story but boy did she make me cry in the end.
This is the best interview I have watched in my life .Lots of love from India
I have experienced similar incidents due to my fat untoned body.. bt fortunately my husband & mother in law loved my fatso figure.. Am lucky 🍀 & blessed to have such a lovely family!!! ❤️❤️
But you should hate your fatso figure and start working out. With obessity come thousands of problems. I'm also obessed and trying to loose weight.
Sayak Ghosh yes dear!! i did lose alot of weight nw.. the main thing is that am a vegetarian since my childhood.. so I used to eat more of carbs than protein.. it’s the thing that made me gain weight.. bt now i ve started eating egg whites.. bt not meat.. i don’t like that stuff
Love u fatso🥰🥰🥰🥰
Masego Thebe Thank u😆😍
@@sayakghosh4140 Not everybody who is fat is obese.
Theis the first time i ever got goosebumps... Oh damn!! What a lady!! She is a wonder ♥
ive gone through this situation. for the past six months ive been rejected because people are saying that im a dominant character. only looking through my horoscope. but mam after listening to your story.im truly happy for you. uve got a lovely husband and a beautiful family.may god bless you with happiness and love for long time
The way that lady talks is so peaceful and calming , really appreciate what she did
Someone is still single.. someone got married and waited 10 yrs before having a child, there is another who had a baby within a year of marriage.
Someone who graduated at the year of 22, yet waited 5 yrs before securing a good job, and there is another who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately !
Someone become CEO at 25 and dies at 50, while another become a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 yrs
Everyone works based on their “Time Zone”
People can have things worked out only according to their pace....Work in your time zone
Your colleges, friends, younger one might seem to go ahead of you
Don’t envy them its their “Time Zone” you are in yours..
Hold on, be strong and stay true to your self all thighs shall work together for your good !!
Very well said annum...we should wait for our best self ....
piyali thakur yes Life doesn’t always go the way we want; only God knows whats best for us and what our future holds. We just need to have patience, faith and believe in Him.
I am from India and i love this lady so much… such an inspiration
Is this a pakistani show??? Hats off...to you....i waassss heart touching ..
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ansu ####
So you thought Pakistan is on a different planet???
Lol
*Been there. A women (rishtewali) came and told in front of my parents that I'm not 25 , I dont even look like that. I look 30+. Young ladke ke rishte to aane se rahe. Aap na 40+ se dekhna. I cried a lot at room. Now I'm 26 , getting married in May Alhamdulillah*
Allah apko dheeron khushiyan de ameen
I’m from India and I can see so much similarity in the way our societies work!
Her story is truly inspiring and something we can learn from this video is.. “Hum aise nhi banenge”. The onus is on all of us.. our generation.. to find happiness in love rather than in primitive societal constructs...
Aunty..you solved the main problem between me and my boyfriend just through this wonderful talk..May God bless you...love from Sri Lanka and Senegal ❤
I'm 25 years old, living in New York City, and my ethnicity is Memon. People don't want memon girls. I have my masters in Early Childhood Education and I am currently a teacher. I am the only child of my parents. The main drawback in my situation is my ethnicity because nobody likes Memons, I don't earn that much even though I have decent savings, and I don't have a father who runs a business, he works on an average salary. I am grateful for what I have. Alhumdulilah! I, my mom, and my dad work with average salaries and nobody wants that. Many boys and their families would prefer a girl from a different ethnicity or their own ethnicity and many people want girls who are highly qualified with a strong position such as a doctor, lawyer, IT, etc. I'm none of that and to be honest I have stopped caring. It's fine if I don't get married. Allah is enough for me. ❤
♥️♥️♥️
*Kanwal! The best thing about your show is the portrayal of raw & pure emotipns. No Drama. 🎭 No Overacting. You are not striving for views but for making a difference. & therefore your interviews are the best thing that I ever came across. There is no intention of revolt upon the opposite gender. But what you show is the real meaning of FEMINISM. Power Power To You. May Allah shower his blessing upon you and may your paths be eased. (Ameen) You are making your parents proud. You are making us proud. Not All Heroes Wear Capes.* 😊😊
Thank you!!! :)
I'm fat, can u accept me?
Very true madam the same is here in INDIA which is very sad 😢
Gaurav Anand you mean she isn't Indian?
It's my one of the favorite episode.......... And personality of this lady is very attractive... And the way she talk about her experience is very impressive for me
I am a guy and I had been rejected several times just because my parents live in a village in Pakistan even though I am in Australia. So this struggle is on both sides
You're right. My brother was rejected so many times because some minor things. Both men and women suffer due to this rishta system.
zindagi baghair izzat ky nai chal sakti........ so true .....so heartfelt......i walkout of my marriage coz of it
I wish I can do it too. Trying really hard to take a decision....
@@ainysoomro9677 May Allah ease your way.🌺
@@ashdemic
Jazak ALLAH sister
i want to wish good luck for you @fatima
May Allah help you to make right decision
“Zindagi aik kapra pehan kar nikal sakti hai, Zindagi do rotiyon ki jagah aik roti kha kar bhi nikal sakti hai lekin Zindagi kabhi bhi Izzat ke baghair nahin nikal sakti.” Absolutely true, Izzat (respect) is the foundation, the thing that lays the base for a relationship. Jab izzat hogi tab hi mohabbat, aitebaar, khayal, khaloos, aur wafa waghera hongi. Phir izzat ke samne toh yeh kapre, mehngi mehngi gariyan, zewraat, aur makeup jaisi cheezain toh fazool aur bemaini hain.
Same. A women ( school principle) rejected me because of my skin colour, i'am not dark but not that white. But unka beta Sydney mai job karta hy toh unko Sufaid larki chaye well where is the logic ? Duhh 😅
Khair i'am still single and waiting for someone who can actually accept me the way i'am. ☺
Sahi h , good luck😊
@@jaihind0.07 Thank you Sarfaraz. 💕
@@afshantayyab4136 most wlcm😊
@@jaihind0.07 jjjjjjjjfjhbhhgxxg
@BeBo Afsha may Allah bless you with the best partner in life. I'm sure that your life's gonna get beautiful. Much love 🙂🙂
I m from Ajmer Rajasthan India
Love u dear Mom.........(yes I called u mom Rahat ji.....🙇🙇🙇)
You've changed my perception regarding girls......😓
Thanks a lot.....💖
Great man
😘
I love this auntie! The end reminded me so much of my mother in law! Truly blessed to have her in my life. Alhumdulillah. Not all mother in laws are the best and not all Mother in laws are horrible.. some are a blessing in disguise!
It reminds me of a lady who came to my house for her son and I got engaged. Within 3 months the lady broke the rishta for no apparent reason and by saying that she wants to get her son married to someone else. And that teacher mother and PIEAS senior engineer son did not worry about the commitment they had made.
Alhamdulillah, I feel I was lucky I got rid of those so called 'parhay likhay' log. I am happy in my life and I appreciate those graceful women who care about girl's feelings and respect them, they are the true asset and beauty of our society.
Aise logo ko sbse worst partner milne chaiye taki unko b pta chle ki unhone kisi ko reject kia tha.. Or same thing should happen with their own daughter's only then they can feel the pain .
Jawaria Rehman *I'm 24 from Canada cute & handsome & successful and I still couldn't find decent modest girl...hard to trust girls these days coz most of girls got hundreds of boyfriends*
@@Syedturkishofficial gharwalo ki choice se krlo. Woh best dundhenge
Nidhi Sharma *bad idea...lekin problem toh Phir bhi wohi hai kay girls jhoot bolti hain aur boyfriends committed hotii hain...i won't marry someone till I fall in love with genuine girl*
@@Syedturkishofficial it's really hard believe anyone
Love and respect mrs. Rahat....From india...U r an inspiration 👏👏👏
She represents millions of hidden stories of our society....she got what God gifted her the best...... Salute to her husband........😊😊😊😊
I m from India..I hope in India people change their mindsets and instead of searching for society based definition of caste colour outer beauty they search for inner beauty and good heart 💖💓
Ganga Din yup external beauty is shaped by genetics but internal epegentics is shaped by thoughts values character
abhi ks
Let’s change our Bollywood culture of beautiful actresses in movies..
yunoos patel yes that would be great . bollywood can be great platform
including marrying men who are unemployed.
Lucky u
Hello mam.🙏 I'm your new subscriber. Ye reality hai hmare dubble standard society ki.Behatarin episode... Love and respect from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳👍👍👍👍👍👍
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In love with the lady's patience and confidence. We need these types of mother in law in this cruel world
Hats off to the lady in yellow for being so full of life....love from India
Love this episode from India !!!! Oh god !!! Similar situation happens with Indian girl !!!
😢😢😢
It is not just girls who are affected by what guys want...
Girls see the location of the guy...if he is smart, intelligent, handsome, rich guy but living in a small town then the girl of his dream will reject him for the dream of being in the city no matter if she is from another small town or maybe village somewhere out there..
Guys get rejected over what their job is..
Guys get rejected over staying in a joint family or with parents..
Guys get rejected over short height or ugly face or fat body or all of them..
So a guy faces more problems in life building a career first and then look for a girl for whom he is perfect in all aspects...girls if they work or not doesnt matter much..girls have a choice to be a housewife unlike a guy who if mentions to be a house husband and wants his wife to feed him for life then he would be rejected right away..
@@Hussainpiplodwala I actually make more than my husband plus I think it's more to do with parents. Girls often love guys but their parents make them marry rich guys. Plus if a guy has money he can get any girl no matter how he looks. That's why love marriage is better. Become friends before life partners, know your partner and understand whether you guys are compatible or not.
@@thetrendhouse9958 i never denied the fact that girls dont earn more or anything of that sort...i just said that girls do have options in life to work or not to, unlike guys...
Also i too have seen cases where not so good looking girl from a rich family gets to marry handsome hunk based on the money power her family possess...one of my friend who comes from a lower middle class family who is good looking himself is an example of it...he married a not so good looking fat girl who is from usa just on the money thing she possess...you can take example of salman khan sister arpita khan..
All in all i am trying to say is that it is not the girls who are only the victim of such things...guys too get equally treated wrongly in such situations..
And today's arrange marriage is totally different from what it used to be like back in the days where you go and see the girl and no matter if girl dint liked the guy...still marriage was done in no time..
Nowadays girls reject guys more than the other way round...and guy girl meet...if they feel like they may be compatible with each other then they meet couple of time more and then get engaged...that engagement life stays for maybe a year or two so they have ample of time with them to decide if they are right for each other or not...it is just like dating but with a bit of parents help and involvement initially..
Marriage is not about figure, shape n size it's about true companionship but those who just judge you on the basis of your weight measurements they does not want life partners but showpiece to decorate their homes. Love from India 🇮🇳
Good mood in today when I saw your post on TH-cam
Mental compabality is important then others
Last line was Op....
I hope to find someone Like you mam.
You are a woman with brain and kind heart...
I'm so impressed this is what was lacing in my marriage thts why I came out of tht baggage after 4.5 years of marriage abusing beating blaming was so normal in my marriage
hina aslam *I'm 24 from Canada cute & handsome & successful and I still couldn't find decent modest girl...hard to trust girls these days coz most of girls got hundreds of boyfriends*
hina aslam
May God bless with strength to overcome all your hurdles.
This is the first time I'm in love with a Pakistani channel. In our country, mental health is treated like shit. It was so heart warming to see this. Un ka indaaze bayan bohat khobsoorat hai! ♥️
Heart touching....story of every girl who is 25 years old or more
True
I am 29. I am not fat, I used to do job but now i am doing my master. More than 100 people have come and rejected me...
Anty ka time phir acha tha mohabat krna jantay thy log. Mil hi jtay thy... Ab is trha k log kahan
I pray you get married soon.
Oh no .. ALLAH rehm kray
True
Pray rabi inhi anzalta ilaya min khaeer in fakeer
Don't lose hope. There's one for every one. You very young.
Tears in eyes. As a brother of sisters and son of my mother want to say that every women deserve respect. Right to chose and right to reject. Salut to this very respected lady & for her husband....He is a real gentlemen because real man marry; no drama. Much love and respect.
Restoring my faith in the world. Deep respect to Miss Rahat and her in laws from India!
God bless you Aunty. You are soo true. Education does not automatically lead to enlightenment. It is the assimilation of true life values that leads you to that way. Like your Mother in law has. Be happy always. Lots of love from India ❤
"Ham jis society men rehte hain wahka rishte atay kam hai... Bulaye zyada jate hain..." WHAT A WOMAN! IN LOVE WITH THIS AMAZING HUMAN BEING!
I have no words... Its Beautiful... Heartbreaking n inspiring at the same time.. A big hug to this woman for her courage.. ❤️
Such a beautiful video 😍 I'm so happy for this lady for not settling for any of those families that didn't respect her. Her mom in law & husband are such wonderful folks 🙏
One of my favorite episode that touched my heart and still in my memory!!!
The solution is to change people's perceptions but it's also to end the culture of arranged marriages. I know people would get up in arms offended saying 'it's our culture and how dare you suggest such a thing?' but not everything about your culture is worth following. It's not rational for parents to parade their daughters for men and their mothers to nitpick and choose. It's not fair either. It completely diminishes a woman's right to choose her life partner not to mention her self worth. Even a two year old refuses to eat the food his or her parents want them to eat without their own input and you expect women to get married because their parents believe a guy can feed and clothe her? That's not what sustains a marriage.
To those who believe that it's ideal because arranged marriages work, let me remind you that marriage is partly a gamble anyway but you shouldn't have to live a life with a person whom you don't find attractive and do not love simply because they have the means to buy you from your parents (that's exactly what happens irrespective of the fancy euphemisms) and the women are traded from the father to the husband as slaves despite all the pomp and show associated with the wedding. Let your daughters have the right to choose their own path. You are their parents not their owners. Give them useful advice and raise them right but once they've become adults, let them choose their own husbands. You won't have to be dealing with that man at all times or sleeping with him daily, she does so give her autonomy over her own life. We're absolutely crazy because at 26, a female doctor can be trusted with the life of a patient even in extremely risky situations but they aren't trusted enough with their OWN lives. It's infuriating and it needs to finally change. We aren't third class citizens.
Underrated comment 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@afz5355 Exactly!
Everybody is talking about the problem but you talked about the solution👍
Completely one sided argument.
Arrange marriage or Liberal marriage means nothing since there will always be expectations.
"parade their daughters for men and their mothers"
I can just change one word and it'll be a different argument. The daughter and parents also do that to men as well. So lets not act like the victims here while doing exactly the same thing to other side.
Women do have the right to choose her life partner. No parent in this day age forces their daughters to marry unless you live in a rural area with no laws, otherwise we wouldn't have the highest rates of un married young women in Pakistan for the first time history.
" women are traded from the father to the husband as slaves"
A slave does not have laws to protect his sovereignty and well being. With all the laws in the family court system that are in place to protect women physically and financially, this argument is simply an insult. Unless you want to make an argument for gender roles then mind you, if you can TELL a man to provide then a woman can also be TOLD to take care of the house. Its a transaction. If you don't want to take part in that "transaction" then do not tell a man how he should treat you or what to do for you unless you are willing to do something in return because no one owes you anything for simply existing. Simple as that!
Lets not copy paste feminist arguments and be more pragmatic.
I wish i could hug you for this🥺❤ you have put it so beautiful.... completely agree
Superb !! Good for you that you married a man that respects you and loves you for who you are. God bless you both and his sweet family.
This is such a beautiful representation of women. This is my first time watching this show. There’s so much to learn from honest conversations. ❤️
OMG! THE WAY SHE SPEAKS MESMERISED ME 😍SUNTY HE JAO 😍THNX KANWAL FOR THE WONDERFUL PRGM 🙂
Very nice...She is so beautiful, i pity those families who "rejected" her. These families may think they are rejecting, butb I feel it's Allah letting the junk take itself out.
I just stumbled upon this show. I have already subscribed :).
Best line "miss Rahat, mujse shaadi kerlein" soooooo sweeeet
Exactly...
The lady is so elegant MashaAllah. Wish the episode was longer
Life can't be lived without respect ...Got goosebumps
Thanks for ur interview.
I keep coming back to this video again and again because of what she says, in the end "Zindagi bagair izzat k nahi guzarti "
So relatable.... The Most painful words "these were not rishtas rather these were the people who KILLED me"
I was not expecting the ending.
Buhat khubsurat and unbiased, Mrs. Rahat has shown us both sides of our society.
But weight reduce karna chahiye Shadi k liye na saheh apni fitness or better life k liye.
Over weight itself is a disease.
Weight in terns of health issues is a different scenario. Weight is something that can be reduced or gained. What this lady is talking about is respect, a good heary and character. Those are the main things to judge if you want to marry someone. I know many men and women who lost weight AFTER marriage!! Their husbands/wives didn't even demand that they be slim!!
People who make these kinds of foolish criteria end up marrying a slim lady who is probably good to look at, but is a real haraam-zaadi on the inside. Her character is ugly.
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Thanks for the comment@@princessalvina11 and Very well said. hahahahahaha. Very well said.
Yes, She was talking about the respect but she disrespected in return but her act is justifiable.
A good character will always overcome all other missing things. I have seen couples where the spouse is average or below average but they are living happily because regardless of their looks they won the hearts with their behavior and LOVE.
Yeah, I am talking about the health issues because for me health and fitness is the most important.
Health and Fitness is an add on for the happy relationship. I can quote a lot of examples what a healthy+fit couple can do and what a over weight or unhealthy couple would miss.
People who just put a physique or facial beauty as a priority are the ones who are immature or selfish.
@@SafwanHashmi WRONG!!!! It is not necessary that someone overweight will NOT enjoy something a fit person would. I have seen couples where one or both prople are overweight and they are happy with their relationship!! They must be enjoying SOMETHING whuch is why they are happy or else they could break up for petty reasons.
@Ganga Din She had every right to say what she did. Nobody has the right to comment on her weight or tell her to join the gym. That was rude and obnoxious too. Who the hell were they to say that too her? If they wanted to look for a wife fir their son, they should look for a wife not a model. If someone wanted to accept her, they should accept her the way she is!!
She has every right to have standards just like all human beings. If men can have standards then women can too. It doesn't matter what someone's size is. I don't care what you think about her, so seriously just keep your ideas to yourself, because I wasn't talking to you.
She is so bold smart confident calming lady i have ever seen....and beautifull also💖
Oh gosh! This woman gave me goosebumps, she ,s so sensible...wish i cud ve a mother in law like you❤
Omg😭😭😭❤This is so beautiful! I don't understand when will humans understand that everything isn't about looks, its way more than that. So blessed to have someone who doesn't care about what I look like but loves and respects me for who I am. ❤ Alhamdullilah
This woman is so well spoken and full of life! Made my heart swell with joy 🥺🥺🥺😭
Alhamdulillah...I just loved this video and share with my jaanu too., I'm also on the same boat that the lady was talking about....Dua ki darkhast.from India with Love.