OP's MIL had tha audacity to tell her she stole Jenny's thunder on purpose when the party hosted by OP and her husband was for THEIR ANNIVERSARY and not somebody else's.
Ikr! Even then the whole "anniversary is once a year and only get one time to announce the pregancy" is BS! SiL is a cheapo for not wanting to spend the time and money to hold HER own party/ event to properly announce HER pregancy!
I'm gonna be honest here. Even asking is a big thing because that you force the host to say "no" Which a lot of people are scared to do to their loved ones. If you want to announce something and you don't want to pressure the wife just say: "Hey, I love you very much and I want you to know that I am Pregnat, I won't announce it on your event but I am soo happy I want you and ... to know it and will tell them to keep quiet. I just wanted to tell you because I will behave differently/ won't be able to drink/ might feel ... . But this is your event and I won't take the light away from you" and THEN there is the chance for the host to say: "Oh you can announce it on my event" Every other way is really not it
@@RepellentJeffWhich is the only reason to make a big announcement on a day meant for someone else. Honestly I've found several stories where someone maes a big announcement at someone else's event. Oddly it's most often "Can I do X at your wedding?" at least once it was propose to someone.
That seems to be happening more today. People announce a pregnancy at a wedding,turning it into a baby announcement/shower. Bride and groom send the expecting couple an invoice for the reception or at least 1/2 the cost of the reception.
One of my family members got married on my birthday ans I honestly didn't care. I was happy for her. She also got saved on my birthday too. It just makes the day more special. But announcing that you're having a baby to your family who is not having a baby and is trying is just horrible.
Jenny is wrong on every level. She shouldn't have made someone else's anniversary about herself, and she knew OP was struggling with pregnancy, so this was a personal attack.
A premeditated personal attack. She already knew she was pregnant when she had that conversation with OP, but chose to remain silent. If her intentions were good, she could have said it right then. "We just found out that we're pregnant. Don't worry it will happen for you too, and even if it doesn't etc etc etc" and could have remained a good friend. The crappy intentions were clear when she lied to her husband and family that she had cleared the announcement with OP. IF she'd cleared it, their anger at OP would have ALMOST been justified. In the moment it still could have hit hard. Walking out of the room to calm down was the only correct action in that situation.
@@ElleD308 it doesn’t matter, for one thing, that can still feel like they’re struggling, second Jenny both did this at OP’S anniversary party, AND complained when OP got emotional instead of kicking her out.
Parents always go gaga when they learn that they'll become grandparents, and of course they'll attack anyone that they'll perceive as a threat to their "grandparents' dream".
@@FlipTheBardand the messed up part is that they would still be grandparents even without the attention being on the golden child, yet act like it wouldn't be real if they aren't the center of the universe.
Thats specifically WHY she is the way she is... Parents enabled her whole life so she just grew up feeding of misery of others while she was scuff free all the time
Man, the fact that OP can't say any reason why Jenny would be this awful to her just shows that Jenny was being horrible for the sake of being horrible. Nothing caused her to do it besides just being an awful bully who likes to kick others when they are down. She just went out of her way to hurt her for no reason. I'm glad her husband realized this and left her.
Well, not an excuse or anything, but there might be a reason to it. SIL looks entitled, maybe narcissistic, so the last thing she would want is for others to get more attention than her (or any at all). So if their parents were treating her and OP's husband equally, she could become jealous/bitter? Like, it all fell on her like puzzles into place. She WANTS to be favourite child and get the attention, just got pregnant, and get to know that her brother might not get kids at all. Of course parents will prefer grandkids than just a DIL, so forcing the whole annoucment and later on confrontation was just in favor to her scheme. With how delusional this side of family seems, she could've as well see this like the sign from god or whatever, to be the centre of attention
stepping out of the room when ur about to blow up is actually really good emotional control considering that 90% of people would either burst into tears on the spot or climb over the table to sock whoever said that in the face
Believe me that MIL and FIL will change their tunes when OP announced that she is finally pregnant. Because if former BIL gets full custody, they won't be able to see their first grandbaby full time.
The bottom line is that party was for Op and her husband. If the Sil wanted to tell everyone about her pregnancy she could plan a party with her husband, not steal the spotlight from Op and her husband, and act like their in the wrong for not giving her the “spotlight” when it wasn’t hers to begin with.
Honnestly, it's worse if Jenny truly thought it'd cheer up OP like she's saying to defend herself. Then, the fact she didn't ask OP and hid from her husband means she knew, to some degree, that people would disagree with her plan, and then when she's proved wrong she double down and says she wasn't wrong and OP's reaction was.
It would be worse in some ways had truely believed that. She blew that excuse out of the water by not telling her hubby. Putting him in a bad light as well. Considering they're divorcing,she's been pulling crap on him for awhile.
The sister was trying to create drama on purpose, and look like a victim. She was disappointed op congratulated her, instead of getting upset, and making a scene. She WANTED a big fight to happen. Which is why she complained to her parents afterwards. She just wanted the drama.
“How dare you ruin Jenny’s and husband’s wonderful pregnancy announcement at your wedding anniversary!“ that sounds about right….🙄😒 I feel incredibly awful for the kid being raised by an immature hell spawn mother and favoring grandparents. At least STB ex husband is smart to leave her, and really hope he gets full custody.
Jennys husband sitting there during the family meeting realizing that hes the one who made the announcement while his wife sat there ready to receive praise. He said the words that caused OP to run off crying because he was misled into thinking it was approved. Its one thing to forgive a bad thing that Jenny did, but he also had to grapple that he was manipulated into being the one to hurt OP.
@@DeMoraJS they probably already had their problems if he's divorcing her immediately. she was probably an 4ss towards his family's side too. like usually there's strike 1 2 3 yk, maybe this was strike 3.
Seems like the parents are the reasons why their daughter is such an attention whore...Bruh, imagine getting mad at the people whose party you were upstaging. They sound like those parents who beg for their kids to be the blow candles on someone else's cake...
Oh, this hit close to home. Me and my wife been struggling for years with infertility. My brother and my sil forced us to take care of their kids, and announced a new kid the day of our 3rd anniversary. This damaged our relationship a lot. We are still struggling ...
Yes! It's so hard to not stress, but it's not cumulative. It's only a small chance every month. Taking a year to conceive is totally normal, albeit very emotionally torturous.
Grief from unable to conceive is very real and shouldn't be underestimated. Breaking the news while knowing some family member still trying for MUCH longer is a struggle by itself. It's still better to be cautious even if they said they were child-free.
When the MIL said OP “stole” Jenn’s thunder and she is jealous I had to laugh at that 😂 that makes NO sense…it is OP and her husband’s day, THEIR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY, THEIR PARTY and they are the hosts, “jenny” is a guest, she “STOLE” that thunder from them, if anything she is being insensitive to OP and her husband
The SIL was wrong as even if she didn't know, that wasn't the time and place for such a thing, and she knew it. SIL is AH. She could've BEEN told or waited till she was out of the woods first. That was planned. And it's clear the 'family' has a favorite, and it's not OPs husband. And what is with the villians spouse taking their word for it at SOMEONE ELSE'S event to announce something? That's something you always double, if not triple check before doing. Good he did find out, checked her on it, and left.
I disagree that it's something you should double check. You're supposed to trust your spouse, if you double check what they tell you, you absolutely do not trust them, and if you don't then why the f are you married with them ?
Honestly, even if she'd been telling the truth about having gotten permission to make the announcement at the party, if I was her husband I don't know if I'd be comfortable doing such a thing anyways?? There's no reason to make an announcement like that at _someone else's_ celebration. I'd still encourage her to wait until after.
Honestly, OP keeping her feeling bottled up and stressing herself out is contributing to her not getting pregnant. The more stressed you are, the less likely you are to get pregnanat. That's why babies are often conceived on vacation, you finally relax.
she couldve annouced literally the next day after the party but instead she wanted an audience and using Op's anniversary was fine in her book because in her head at least shes knocked up.
In theory, REALLY HEAVY THEORY it could work if they were sisters/twins, and the struggle were on their family side. When asked and getting premission to annouce it, it could be like "hey look, I did get through and got pregnant, so just stay strong and you will also get your kid!", but it depends on their dynamic. More logically when OP was upset and didn't want to think about it at all, was she would also get upset, even mad because her sister got pregnant, and she can't? Unfair! So yeah, there are one digit examples where it could go right, but milions of scenarios where it's just petty and mean
Can we just all start to "booo" all the losers who do that sort of things? Its someone anniversary and you say you pregnant? Don't congratulate and ostracize for being cheap and self-centred... Someone propose on someone wedding? Booo them, ignore them and make sure they don't feel welcome on the party anymore... I don't understand why such behaviour is being not only tolerated but also endorsed
I can’t believe that some people actually have the audacity to hijack other people’s celebrations and make it about themselves! If you don’t have permission to do so then don’t do it!
How dare OP steal Jenny's thunder at OP's anniversary party.. like what.?! Announce your pregnancy at your own party. Not someone else's. The gaslighting is real with those peeps.
I may have missed it, but I think no one else pointed out that the meeting SIL wanted to only be between her brother and her (certainly not involving OP) ended up being an attempt at reconciliation with the couple (a matter that really should involve OP)? Was she expecting her brother to forgive her on behalf of OP? That sure doesn't look like a sincere way to apologize to me
This was a disgusting thing to do on Jenny's part. But especially since she not only knew about OP's dilemma, but had comforted her a few days earlier. 😞
The fact that OP isn't close to her parents and yet her parents can say what Jenny did is messed up and said they'd be there for her (eventho it's most likely just lip service) puts into perspective how shitty and horrible the MIL SIL and FIL are
Husband and future Ex-BIL are the MVPs. I really hope FIL and MIL being excluded from everything meanwhile they are dealing with a depressed PoS that is going to pay child support for 18 years straight.
I swear I heard this story before or one very much like it with more happening at the end. Jenny actually wasn't pregnant at all and did all that for attention and since her husband left her she had no way of actually having a kid so to save her ass from the parents she got pregnant from some random guy and pretended it was the husbands but ends up caught in the lie and lost everything.
You mean it's some sort of urban legend? But at least your version makes some sense other than Jenny's husband leaving while pregant over her lying to his SIL, that seems far fetched.
"Anniversaries come every year but she can announce her first pregnancy only once." Um, then how about: *making that announcement at YOUR OWN ANNIVERSARY! HELLO????!!!!!!*
@@ma13volent wow, so maybe never even talk to anyone, after all doxxing from stupid comments on TH-cam also happens 🙄 don't forget you might get poisoned by food, or die while coughing! XD
Bruh, the BIL knew and booked it out of there cause staying with horrible people never ends well. Sure, you're not their current victim but how long will that last?
must be really young people. i am 42 and if my parents just demanded my family come over to discuss something without further details i would just say "no can do" and stay away. i am the head of my own family and stand on the same footing as my parents.
@@TsukinoUtokki Indeed, something along the lines of "Your dad has a heart attack, the doctor is on the way, please come!" Then i would move instantly.
Bruh a lot of people saying op was "dramatic" or was "petty", However i disagree, op and op's husband's reaction was a thousands times, better then most people who would have been in that situation, Because like op said she could have kicked Jenny out or yeet something at jenny etc etc, but naw op removed herself and went to the bathroom to calm down after jenny announced her pregnancy at op's anniversary party, Jenny did this to herself and put her unborn in this situation point blank period, Jenny knew about op and op's husband's fertility struggles, Jenny went out of her to announce her pregnancy without permission at op's & op's husband's anniversary party, Played victim when the family started to verbally attack op and op's husband, jenny not even once try to stop the family from doing so, And the cherry on top of situation jenny intentionally lied to her own husband about getting permission from op and op's husband to announce her pregnancy at the anniversary party, when she didn't, Seriously jenny knew exactly what she was doing, and her husband (well soon to be ex-husband) was rightfully disgusted with her and don't, want to be with someone like that anymore and i don't blame him nor do i blame him for trying to get full custody, Because Jenny took steps do something messed like this, And allowed op & op's husband to be attacked as Jenny comfortably sat back & watched it happen, and no matter which way you look at it that behavior ain't normal.
Might be wrong but seeing many comments with similiar info, it seems they are saying OP was dramatic over not getting a child in 8 months (where it should be troublesome after 2 years? I think?) instead of her reaction to what SIL did.
The family seriously called a meeting because she wasn't congratulated for making a announcement at someone else's party. WTF?!?!? That was no reason to call a meeting. But at least it backfired on SIL.
Jenny is so wrong, an anniversary is a set date that can not be changed. An announcement can be told at ANYTIME before said event happens.... so yes, dick more as she CHOSE to share it on an established day AND at somebody else's event
👍👏🙌🙌🙌👍👍👊BEST STORY EVER!!!! LOL so hard when you guys laughed at SIL face. You guys LAUGHED!!!!!!!! Immediately no less!!! Best reaction ever. My only regret was I wish you told me how her faced looked. But hands down BEST story EVER!!!!
even if op and her husband weren’t struggling to conceive, jenny is an AH for announcing something about herself at someone else’s celebration. they could’ve done that on their own time
The Bil saw how scummy his wife and unlaws were and bailed as fast as he could! Dont you just love it? 😂😂😂😂 And the best part? If/when OP does have kids, the inlaw wont be allowed to be grand parents. Add to the fact that the future ex will probably go NC with them as well, and the inlaws will have no grand kids to spoil.
I am a little surprised at how something SO SIMILAR happened in my family, except no one got divorced, everyone has kids (I'm adopted) and we're all happy.
Announcing your own milestones at someone else's celebration without their permission is so tacky and should be stigmatized. Somebody else took the time, money and effort to organize a celebration for their own milestone with friends and family then some entitled parasite comes along and makes the day about themselves. Pathetic.
I listen to things like this where OP's parents are so unconnected, and I can't help but hear Harry Chapin's "Cat's in the Cradle" run through my head. They'll want OP someday, and OP will probably say something like "I'll give you the attention you gave me growing up" then hang up.
I understand OP, as my husband and I are trying for a baby as well for the past several years. It hasn't gone well. He's fine, it's me. I just did my last round of IUI before seeing what the problem is, as my OBGYN recommended. Keeping my fingers crossed for this one.
So we’re supposed to believe that SIL’s husband DIVORCED his pregnant wife, that he’d been married to for a few months, because she upset OP? And that OP and her husband are such spineless, terrible people that they believe this is an appropriate reaction? And of COURSE he gets custody of the child, because SIL is CLEARLY an evil monster? Oh my God? I can’t believe the comments are agreeing with this load of tosh 😂😂
Probably this wasn't the first BS he went through with her. Why should he stay with a toxic person for life. Its not like he wants to leave her with the child either, he wants the custody.
Exactly. And the part that he's filing for full custody of his and his ex-wife's unborn child? In what universe would a judge approve of that? In case of the majority of divorces, the mother gets to be the main caretaker of the child and/or the custody is shared between the parents. The only case when the mother can lose every custody is if she seriously endangers the child, eg. alcoholism, drugs, physical abuse. None of which are true of "Jenny", as far as the post goes. Not to mention thatJenny's and her husband's child HAS NOT EVEN BEEN BORN yet. How would that even work? Would there be some legal person waiting at a delivery room and take away the newborn child from the mother just after she's given birth? And for what reason? Because she had been mean to someone? That's not how the real life works at all. Nobody can take away a newborn from their mother just like that without some very serious reason, and "she was an asshole to her brother's wife" isn't sufficient for that. This reddit post is a load of BS. Just a lengthy fake text from someone who doesn't know much about how marriage, divorce or child custody works.
OP said "I hope (that happens)", not that it was actually happening lol. The OP directly states they dont know if they got divorced or anything else in relation to that. @sdhng5441
Yeah you only announce your first pregnancy once, so why the hell would you do it at someone else’s event stealing THEIR time and the spotlight from them
I.want to remind everyone that friends are meant ro support you.they may not be therapists but they can still help you feel less alone. Never feel like you are bothering your friends by sharing your burdens unless they are crappy friends, in which case, you should leave them behind. They will do nothing good for you.
I wish nothing but the best for OP. If it helps, my parents struggled to conceive as well. No issues, it just didn't happen. It took them 2 years of trying before I came along. It's weird, when you're not trying to have a kid, it seems like you get pregnant immediately, but the second you WANT a kid, it takes FOREVER.
I see that Op is a bit Dramatic for this but I think SIL still doesn't have the authority to make announcement like that in their anniversary. Also SIL's husband wouldn't divorce her only for this reason... there would be more inside marriage problems for divorce to be a result.
@@MrADI-sp2kh 8 months is like 8 possible days. When people get pregnant from one night stand and in general, everyone makes it look easy, it might make people more stressed they are doing something wrong (like OP said they were)
OP was only dramatic about her conception struggles, and likely not on purpose, rather by lack of knowledge about how much time the average couple needs to successfully conceive. Which is the reason why she needed someone to talk to. To maybe have someone tell her this is normal, that nothing is wrong with her. Can't blame her for that, it's not like she was casting the blame on someone who had nothing to do with it, even on someone who did, for that matter. Her and her husband's reaction to SIL, on the other hand, was more than justified, if anything they underreacted. You don't spit in the face of someone who trusted you at their lowest for the sake of being a terrible person. If her attempt at "cheering up OP" had the opposite effect, it's a failure on SIL's end and no one else's.
"Jenny" wanted to be the center of attention despite anything, and her parents obviously has allowed that far too much. The OP did nothing wrong, especially considering what she knew but she still did what she did. "Jenny" has obviously been gaslighting her parents for quite some time. I hope the OP and her husband become parents soon, and I agree that "Jenny"'s soon to be ex-husband gets custody of the child.. and the fact that the OP's husband's extended family agree with them screams volumes.
The fuck do you mean? It seems you're trying to downplay their struggles and pain. This ain't a Pain competition, and no one should compare their pain or struggles to anyone.
You don't hijack someone else's event to make a personal announcements. It's the height of bad manners. And Jenny knowing the circumstances makes it even worse. I highly respect Jenny's (ex) husband, though.
OP's MIL had tha audacity to tell her she stole Jenny's thunder on purpose when the party hosted by OP and her husband was for THEIR ANNIVERSARY and not somebody else's.
Of course. Grandbaby,Grandbaby,Grandbaby,Grandbaby!!!!
Ikr! Even then the whole "anniversary is once a year and only get one time to announce the pregancy" is BS! SiL is a cheapo for not wanting to spend the time and money to hold HER own party/ event to properly announce HER pregancy!
@@Renkencen The announcement had nothing to with cost or having their own party. SIL wanted to B smack OP.
“you’re trying to steal her thundered for something she could have announced on any other day at a different event”
@@artemislove2941 Yep,an event that would solely encompass and focus on her and hubby.
"Stealing" someone else's celebration for your own announcement would always be scummy, unless given permission.
I'm gonna be honest here. Even asking is a big thing because that you force the host to say "no"
Which a lot of people are scared to do to their loved ones.
If you want to announce something and you don't want to pressure the wife just say: "Hey, I love you very much and I want you to know that I am Pregnat, I won't announce it on your event but I am soo happy I want you and ... to know it and will tell them to keep quiet. I just wanted to tell you because I will behave differently/ won't be able to drink/ might feel ... . But this is your event and I won't take the light away from you" and THEN there is the chance for the host to say: "Oh you can announce it on my event"
Every other way is really not it
@@laurafaehnrich4261yapolagy
@@laurafaehnrich4261 Its pregnannt not "Pregnat"
@@fifty-yt1khpregnant
Thank god you were here to catch a single letter typo. His message wouldve been completely unreadable without it 🙄😂@fifty-yt1kh
Jenny looking disappointed that she was being congratulated instead of a big blow out was all one needs to know.
People like her are emotional vampires. Instead of blood, they feed on drama.
@@RepellentJeffWhich is the only reason to make a big announcement on a day meant for someone else. Honestly I've found several stories where someone maes a big announcement at someone else's event.
Oddly it's most often "Can I do X at your wedding?" at least once it was propose to someone.
Right.?! She was hoping for a reaction out of Op and husband but didn't get it. Thank god Jenny's husband left her. She should not be a mother.
@@MizzShortaiYou think that means she shouldn't be a mother? You are a weirdo.
if that's how she acts as a adult she well become a horrible mother the way she acts to op and her husband is crazy. @@Poeticfloetic
OP's husband is the GOAT. I'd like to have a relationship with so much understanding between us.
Ikr they seem so sweet..😭😭😭
Don't forget the BIL. Man knows how to run from a red flag when he sees one.
If someone announces a pregnancy or gets engaged at your birthday, wedding, baby shower whatnot - they should be given the bill for said event
That seems to be happening more today. People announce a pregnancy at a wedding,turning it into a baby announcement/shower. Bride and groom send the expecting couple an invoice for the reception or at least 1/2 the cost of the reception.
Fr 😂😂
One of my family members got married on my birthday ans I honestly didn't care. I was happy for her. She also got saved on my birthday too. It just makes the day more special. But announcing that you're having a baby to your family who is not having a baby and is trying is just horrible.
I'm stealing this idea. Thank u
Idgaf about my birthday tbh. Baby shower and wedding I agree, but a birthday get over it.
Jenny is wrong on every level. She shouldn't have made someone else's anniversary about herself, and she knew OP was struggling with pregnancy, so this was a personal attack.
A premeditated personal attack. She already knew she was pregnant when she had that conversation with OP, but chose to remain silent. If her intentions were good, she could have said it right then. "We just found out that we're pregnant. Don't worry it will happen for you too, and even if it doesn't etc etc etc" and could have remained a good friend. The crappy intentions were clear when she lied to her husband and family that she had cleared the announcement with OP.
IF she'd cleared it, their anger at OP would have ALMOST been justified. In the moment it still could have hit hard. Walking out of the room to calm down was the only correct action in that situation.
Mmmm.... 8 months isn't struggling tho 🤷🏻♀️ most people get pregnant within a year.
@@ElleD308 it doesn’t matter, for one thing, that can still feel like they’re struggling, second Jenny both did this at OP’S anniversary party, AND complained when OP got emotional instead of kicking her out.
@@ElleD308if they're trying nightly.. That's definitely struggling considering most people get easily pregnant and with doing that so often
And that's why her husband left her ass!
For the parents to accuse OP of stealing SIL's thunder at OP's OWN PARTY, which was not supposed to be SIL's moment. That's bonkers.
Parents always go gaga when they learn that they'll become grandparents, and of course they'll attack anyone that they'll perceive as a threat to their "grandparents' dream".
@@FlipTheBardand the messed up part is that they would still be grandparents even without the attention being on the golden child, yet act like it wouldn't be real if they aren't the center of the universe.
Thats specifically WHY she is the way she is... Parents enabled her whole life so she just grew up feeding of misery of others while she was scuff free all the time
Man, the fact that OP can't say any reason why Jenny would be this awful to her just shows that Jenny was being horrible for the sake of being horrible. Nothing caused her to do it besides just being an awful bully who likes to kick others when they are down. She just went out of her way to hurt her for no reason. I'm glad her husband realized this and left her.
Well, not an excuse or anything, but there might be a reason to it. SIL looks entitled, maybe narcissistic, so the last thing she would want is for others to get more attention than her (or any at all). So if their parents were treating her and OP's husband equally, she could become jealous/bitter?
Like, it all fell on her like puzzles into place. She WANTS to be favourite child and get the attention, just got pregnant, and get to know that her brother might not get kids at all. Of course parents will prefer grandkids than just a DIL, so forcing the whole annoucment and later on confrontation was just in favor to her scheme.
With how delusional this side of family seems, she could've as well see this like the sign from god or whatever, to be the centre of attention
Young Women love drama. They can't live without it
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stepping out of the room when ur about to blow up is actually really good emotional control considering that 90% of people would either burst into tears on the spot or climb over the table to sock whoever said that in the face
Believe me that MIL and FIL will change their tunes when OP announced that she is finally pregnant. Because if former BIL gets full custody, they won't be able to see their first grandbaby full time.
Thanks to their horrible behavior I doubt OP will let them anywhere near her baby either.
@@akaaru5581 unless she is a submissive woman, who hardcore believes on "being the bigger person". Hopefully she polish and maintain a shiny spine
@@akaaru5581I mean after their divorce they will lose their grandchild but will gain back their own blood baby
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BIL won’t - especially when baby is still an infant
The bottom line is that party was for Op and her husband. If the Sil wanted to tell everyone about her pregnancy she could plan a party with her husband, not steal the spotlight from Op and her husband, and act like their in the wrong for not giving her the “spotlight” when it wasn’t hers to begin with.
Honnestly, it's worse if Jenny truly thought it'd cheer up OP like she's saying to defend herself. Then, the fact she didn't ask OP and hid from her husband means she knew, to some degree, that people would disagree with her plan, and then when she's proved wrong she double down and says she wasn't wrong and OP's reaction was.
It would be worse in some ways had truely believed that. She blew that excuse out of the water by not telling her hubby. Putting him in a bad light as well. Considering they're divorcing,she's been pulling crap on him for awhile.
“Stolen her thunder” It was their _anniversary party._ It wasn’t even her thunder to begin with! My god, how tacky.
For real like they didn't even host the party to even behind with!
Agreed
The sister was trying to create drama on purpose, and look like a victim.
She was disappointed op congratulated her, instead of getting upset, and making a scene. She WANTED a big fight to happen. Which is why she complained to her parents afterwards. She just wanted the drama.
And it backfired on her, because it exposed her true colors to the one that matters the most: the one who stands up to her
“How dare you ruin Jenny’s and husband’s wonderful pregnancy announcement at your wedding anniversary!“ that sounds about right….🙄😒
I feel incredibly awful for the kid being raised by an immature hell spawn mother and favoring grandparents. At least STB ex husband is smart to leave her, and really hope he gets full custody.
Jennys husband sitting there during the family meeting realizing that hes the one who made the announcement while his wife sat there ready to receive praise. He said the words that caused OP to run off crying because he was misled into thinking it was approved.
Its one thing to forgive a bad thing that Jenny did, but he also had to grapple that he was manipulated into being the one to hurt OP.
Still, I believe he is manipulative, because he puts the forgiveness on OP's shoulder , unloading his choice on others
Jennys husband dodged a freaking NUKE with that one.
Can't really say he dodged it if he got married to it. At least he got out, but probably not unscathed
Bro's like that one dude who survived Hiroshima and Nagasaki nuking
@@DeMoraJS they probably already had their problems if he's divorcing her immediately. she was probably an 4ss towards his family's side too. like usually there's strike 1 2 3 yk, maybe this was strike 3.
It’s scary how easily she lied to him about something that’s easy to confirm
The fact that he immediately went to divorce with pursuit of full custody tells me that this was the last in a long line of bright red flags...
Jenny sounds like she’s used to being the center of attention and op took some of her shine when she married her brother so it’s payback time.
Seems like the parents are the reasons why their daughter is such an attention whore...Bruh, imagine getting mad at the people whose party you were upstaging. They sound like those parents who beg for their kids to be the blow candles on someone else's cake...
Seems like she might be doing this on purpose to intimidate you.
And it backfired spectacularly.
It's unhinged jealousy against someone that didn't do anything to her. She's just psychotic.
Oh, this hit close to home. Me and my wife been struggling for years with infertility. My brother and my sil forced us to take care of their kids, and announced a new kid the day of our 3rd anniversary. This damaged our relationship a lot. We are still struggling ...
You should tell them that you're not interested in taking care of their kids after all this.
It is normal for it to take a whole year to get pregnant try not to be tense OP. Remember it is only a 12% chance every month.
Yes! It's so hard to not stress, but it's not cumulative. It's only a small chance every month. Taking a year to conceive is totally normal, albeit very emotionally torturous.
Yes, when op said it was negative after 2 months trying I felt sad for them not understanding this.
Yea, agree. I've been trying for 6 years 😢
Grief from unable to conceive is very real and shouldn't be underestimated. Breaking the news while knowing some family member still trying for MUCH longer is a struggle by itself. It's still better to be cautious even if they said they were child-free.
True especially when all the insensitive aunts always ask "when will it be your turn"?
When the MIL said OP “stole” Jenn’s thunder and she is jealous I had to laugh at that 😂 that makes NO sense…it is OP and her husband’s day, THEIR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY, THEIR PARTY and they are the hosts, “jenny” is a guest, she “STOLE” that thunder from them, if anything she is being insensitive to OP and her husband
The SIL was wrong as even if she didn't know, that wasn't the time and place for such a thing, and she knew it. SIL is AH. She could've BEEN told or waited till she was out of the woods first. That was planned. And it's clear the 'family' has a favorite, and it's not OPs husband.
And what is with the villians spouse taking their word for it at SOMEONE ELSE'S event to announce something? That's something you always double, if not triple check before doing. Good he did find out, checked her on it, and left.
I disagree that it's something you should double check. You're supposed to trust your spouse, if you double check what they tell you, you absolutely do not trust them, and if you don't then why the f are you married with them ?
Honestly, even if she'd been telling the truth about having gotten permission to make the announcement at the party, if I was her husband I don't know if I'd be comfortable doing such a thing anyways?? There's no reason to make an announcement like that at _someone else's_ celebration. I'd still encourage her to wait until after.
Honestly, OP keeping her feeling bottled up and stressing herself out is contributing to her not getting pregnant. The more stressed you are, the less likely you are to get pregnanat. That's why babies are often conceived on vacation, you finally relax.
please shut up.
8 months is nothing... she should have sx in a public place, she'll get pregnant in a second
I hope you aren’t blaming her. Her situation is a understandable one
@@Silencer796 I think they're are just sharing a bit of a fact that OP or other people may not know.
@@Silencer796don't know how you got blame from that unless you're intentionally trying to stir things up like OP's SIL but whatever
Regardless she shouldn’t have announced it at their party. She wanted the attention on her.
she couldve annouced literally the next day after the party but instead she wanted an audience and using Op's anniversary was fine in her book because in her head at least shes knocked up.
Is she even knocked up?
@@NickM_FirstofHisName it’s scummier if she faked it and very pathetic
This family needs to learn the meaning of 'emergency'
Yeah imagine wasting your day off for something like this, you could have used it on a nice trip
💯👍🏿
NTA how would that be good news for someone who's been struggling to get pregnant
In theory, REALLY HEAVY THEORY it could work if they were sisters/twins, and the struggle were on their family side. When asked and getting premission to annouce it, it could be like "hey look, I did get through and got pregnant, so just stay strong and you will also get your kid!", but it depends on their dynamic. More logically when OP was upset and didn't want to think about it at all, was she would also get upset, even mad because her sister got pregnant, and she can't? Unfair!
So yeah, there are one digit examples where it could go right, but milions of scenarios where it's just petty and mean
"Stolen her thunder,"
Ma'am your daughter announcement has stolen the thunder from your son and daughter in law anniversary celebration.
Can we just all start to "booo" all the losers who do that sort of things?
Its someone anniversary and you say you pregnant? Don't congratulate and ostracize for being cheap and self-centred... Someone propose on someone wedding? Booo them, ignore them and make sure they don't feel welcome on the party anymore...
I don't understand why such behaviour is being not only tolerated but also endorsed
Both OP's husband and SIL's husband are absolutely amazing!
"I can only announce my first pregnancy once." Yeah, but why at that party? Make your own party.
This has the same energy as proposing at someone else's wedding. You just dont do that
Good on the SIL’s husband for calling her out for being a duplicitous witch and taking actions to bring karma unto her.
I can’t believe that some people actually have the audacity to hijack other people’s celebrations and make it about themselves! If you don’t have permission to do so then don’t do it!
How dare OP steal Jenny's thunder at OP's anniversary party.. like what.?!
Announce your pregnancy at your own party. Not someone else's. The gaslighting is real with those peeps.
I may have missed it, but I think no one else pointed out that the meeting SIL wanted to only be between her brother and her (certainly not involving OP) ended up being an attempt at reconciliation with the couple (a matter that really should involve OP)? Was she expecting her brother to forgive her on behalf of OP? That sure doesn't look like a sincere way to apologize to me
She probably expected her brother to be more sympathetic to her plight and was hoping he'd agree to "talk" to OP and convince her to forgive Jenny
@@elsie8757 Exactly. She planned to not apologize to OP at all and still expected forgiveness 🤷
I'd say the problem is she clearly only wanted to "apologize" so her husband wouldn't leave her. In other words she isn't actually sorry
This was a disgusting thing to do on Jenny's part. But especially since she not only knew about OP's dilemma, but had comforted her a few days earlier. 😞
that backfired like an absolute bullet, and im here for it 🤗
The fact that OP isn't close to her parents and yet her parents can say what Jenny did is messed up and said they'd be there for her (eventho it's most likely just lip service) puts into perspective how shitty and horrible the MIL SIL and FIL are
The World's Smallest Violins 👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻🎻👌🏻 for SiL
😂😂😂
Sil deserves all of what happened 😂
Husband and future Ex-BIL are the MVPs.
I really hope FIL and MIL being excluded from everything meanwhile they are dealing with a depressed PoS that is going to pay child support for 18 years straight.
I swear I heard this story before or one very much like it with more happening at the end. Jenny actually wasn't pregnant at all and did all that for attention and since her husband left her she had no way of actually having a kid so to save her ass from the parents she got pregnant from some random guy and pretended it was the husbands but ends up caught in the lie and lost everything.
Holy shit. That is twisted asf. Narcissism on an other level. Makes you wonder what exactly her resentment towards OP.
You mean it's some sort of urban legend? But at least your version makes some sense other than Jenny's husband leaving while pregant over her lying to his SIL, that seems far fetched.
Oh I think I heard that as well, ut was definetly a different story though, I think she announced it at their wedding or something like that.
This is the same as proposing at someone else’s wedding without permission. Scummy if you don’t ask for permission
Honestly ops husband is such a keeper I need a man like this ☹️
She's just heartless. Why would she do that??
"Anniversaries come every year but she can announce her first pregnancy only once."
Um, then how about: *making that announcement at YOUR OWN ANNIVERSARY! HELLO????!!!!!!*
impact is more important than intent! it doesn’t matter if jenny didn’t mean to hurt OP and husband or not because she *did*
im glad I do not have any SIL
over 90% of these stories are fake creative-writing exercises for Redditors, don't take them seriously
stop acting like this shit doesn't happen in real life. Sure, THIS story might be fake, but it does happen irl.@@NaimTaha
@@ma13volentwhich doesn't mean that every SIL is like that? Some families do like each other XD
@@ritaerror7829 no shit. Still doesn't mean it doesn't happen irl where the SIL is a literal menace to society
@@ma13volent wow, so maybe never even talk to anyone, after all doxxing from stupid comments on TH-cam also happens 🙄 don't forget you might get poisoned by food, or die while coughing! XD
Bruh, the BIL knew and booked it out of there cause staying with horrible people never ends well. Sure, you're not their current victim but how long will that last?
must be really young people. i am 42 and if my parents just demanded my family come over to discuss something without further details i would just say "no can do" and stay away. i am the head of my own family and stand on the same footing as my parents.
I would at least expect them to tell me whats the "emergency" and I would come over in the evening after work, not waste a day off on BS
@@TsukinoUtokki Indeed, something along the lines of "Your dad has a heart attack, the doctor is on the way, please come!" Then i would move instantly.
Very based, I'll keep your words in mind
@@chronicmelancholic it is not about being based but about respect.
Bruh a lot of people saying op was "dramatic" or was "petty",
However i disagree, op and op's husband's reaction was a thousands times, better then most people who would have been in that situation,
Because like op said she could have kicked Jenny out or yeet something at jenny etc etc, but naw op removed herself and went to the bathroom to calm down after jenny announced her pregnancy at op's anniversary party,
Jenny did this to herself and put her unborn in this situation point blank period,
Jenny knew about op and op's husband's fertility struggles,
Jenny went out of her to announce her pregnancy without permission at op's & op's husband's anniversary party,
Played victim when the family started to verbally attack op and op's husband, jenny not even once try to stop the family from doing so,
And the cherry on top of situation jenny intentionally lied to her own husband about getting permission from op and op's husband to announce her pregnancy at the anniversary party, when she didn't,
Seriously jenny knew exactly what she was doing, and her husband (well soon to be ex-husband) was rightfully disgusted with her and don't, want to be with someone like that anymore and i don't blame him nor do i blame him for trying to get full custody,
Because Jenny took steps do something messed like this,
And allowed op & op's husband to be attacked as Jenny comfortably sat back & watched it happen,
and no matter which way you look at it that behavior ain't normal.
Might be wrong but seeing many comments with similiar info, it seems they are saying OP was dramatic over not getting a child in 8 months (where it should be troublesome after 2 years? I think?) instead of her reaction to what SIL did.
@ritaerror7829 hopefully that's what they meant, because if that's the case yeah op and her husband did jump the gun on that part.
This whole family is one giant mess
The family seriously called a meeting because she wasn't congratulated for making a announcement at someone else's party. WTF?!?!? That was no reason to call a meeting. But at least it backfired on SIL.
Jenny is so wrong, an anniversary is a set date that can not be changed. An announcement can be told at ANYTIME before said event happens.... so yes, dick more as she CHOSE to share it on an established day AND at somebody else's event
Stolen HER thunder?!?! When SHE announced her pregnancy at her SIL'S party! What?!?!?! Jenny is the thunder stealer!
Good day to everyone.
👍👏🙌🙌🙌👍👍👊BEST STORY EVER!!!! LOL so hard when you guys laughed at SIL face. You guys LAUGHED!!!!!!!! Immediately no less!!!
Best reaction ever. My only regret was I wish you told me how her faced looked. But hands down BEST story EVER!!!!
This is the fakest story that’s ever storied on Reddit
Agreed!! I was searching for your comment, thank you. It is so obviously fake. Most of these stories are these days.
Props on OP's husband for being a genuininly kind, nice and loving and sticking up for his wife instead of blindly defending his sister
even if op and her husband weren’t struggling to conceive, jenny is an AH for announcing something about herself at someone else’s celebration. they could’ve done that on their own time
I will say what op did was petty but valid jenny new what she was doing and she got what she bargain for.
One thing people will have is audacity.
The Bil saw how scummy his wife and unlaws were and bailed as fast as he could!
Dont you just love it? 😂😂😂😂
And the best part? If/when OP does have kids, the inlaw wont be allowed to be grand parents. Add to the fact that the future ex will probably go NC with them as well, and the inlaws will have no grand kids to spoil.
I am a little surprised at how something SO SIMILAR happened in my family, except no one got divorced, everyone has kids (I'm adopted) and we're all happy.
Such a dick move Jenny 😒
I doubt he's divorcing her over just that. It was a lack of manners to announce her pregnancy at your birthday, regardless of your personal struggles.
Announcing your own milestones at someone else's celebration without their permission is so tacky and should be stigmatized. Somebody else took the time, money and effort to organize a celebration for their own milestone with friends and family then some entitled parasite comes along and makes the day about themselves. Pathetic.
I listen to things like this where OP's parents are so unconnected, and I can't help but hear Harry Chapin's "Cat's in the Cradle" run through my head. They'll want OP someday, and OP will probably say something like "I'll give you the attention you gave me growing up" then hang up.
PERIOD!!!!! I hope they stay CLOSE friends with Jenny's husband just to spite her and the family!! HER FOR IT! 🤭
I understand OP, as my husband and I are trying for a baby as well for the past several years. It hasn't gone well. He's fine, it's me. I just did my last round of IUI before seeing what the problem is, as my OBGYN recommended. Keeping my fingers crossed for this one.
So we’re supposed to believe that SIL’s husband DIVORCED his pregnant wife, that he’d been married to for a few months, because she upset OP? And that OP and her husband are such spineless, terrible people that they believe this is an appropriate reaction? And of COURSE he gets custody of the child, because SIL is CLEARLY an evil monster?
Oh my God? I can’t believe the comments are agreeing with this load of tosh 😂😂
Probably this wasn't the first BS he went through with her. Why should he stay with a toxic person for life. Its not like he wants to leave her with the child either, he wants the custody.
FINALLY SOMEONE WITH COMMON SENSE 😂 this video was mildly believable until that part, it feels like some weird revenge fanfic
Exactly. And the part that he's filing for full custody of his and his ex-wife's unborn child? In what universe would a judge approve of that? In case of the majority of divorces, the mother gets to be the main caretaker of the child and/or the custody is shared between the parents. The only case when the mother can lose every custody is if she seriously endangers the child, eg. alcoholism, drugs, physical abuse. None of which are true of "Jenny", as far as the post goes.
Not to mention thatJenny's and her husband's child HAS NOT EVEN BEEN BORN yet. How would that even work? Would there be some legal person waiting at a delivery room and take away the newborn child from the mother just after she's given birth? And for what reason? Because she had been mean to someone? That's not how the real life works at all. Nobody can take away a newborn from their mother just like that without some very serious reason, and "she was an asshole to her brother's wife" isn't sufficient for that.
This reddit post is a load of BS. Just a lengthy fake text from someone who doesn't know much about how marriage, divorce or child custody works.
OP said "I hope (that happens)", not that it was actually happening lol.
The OP directly states they dont know if they got divorced or anything else in relation to that. @sdhng5441
@@earedrobot7906right? They always have to take it a step too far!
If I was OP, I would’ve told the parents to begin with so the SIL wouldn’t have gotten away with telling the announcement
Yeah you only announce your first pregnancy once, so why the hell would you do it at someone else’s event stealing THEIR time and the spotlight from them
Should have talked to a therapist if you were so burdened by fertility worries. Also, love it when couples announce they're raw dogging it.
*SIL announces pregnancy*
Ah yes, the first thing that comes to mind is to cry and run away, how pEaCeFuL.
I.want to remind everyone that friends are meant ro support you.they may not be therapists but they can still help you feel less alone.
Never feel like you are bothering your friends by sharing your burdens unless they are crappy friends, in which case, you should leave them behind. They will do nothing good for you.
I found it hard to focus on the story at some points because of whatever graft settings are turned on😭 I got a headache and got dizzy looking at it
Jenny's husband probably thinks she's cheating and the baby isn't his.
Jenny is obviously the golden child
I wish nothing but the best for OP.
If it helps, my parents struggled to conceive as well. No issues, it just didn't happen. It took them 2 years of trying before I came along.
It's weird, when you're not trying to have a kid, it seems like you get pregnant immediately, but the second you WANT a kid, it takes FOREVER.
Sil is a real pos. Husband divorcing her is karma at its finest.
It doesn’t matter if OP was struggling to conceive or not.. you don’t highjack someone else’s celebration!
jennys husband and op husband ARE THE BEST.
I see that Op is a bit Dramatic for this but I think SIL still doesn't have the authority to make announcement like that in their anniversary. Also SIL's husband wouldn't divorce her only for this reason... there would be more inside marriage problems for divorce to be a result.
OPs a bit dramatic? How?
As for SILs hubby,it was said that they had been having other problems. Her stunt was his last straw.
8 months for conceiving is less, for many it take about a year
But ya SIL was the AH though after watching whole video
@@MrADI-sp2kh 8 months is like 8 possible days. When people get pregnant from one night stand and in general, everyone makes it look easy, it might make people more stressed they are doing something wrong (like OP said they were)
OP was only dramatic about her conception struggles, and likely not on purpose, rather by lack of knowledge about how much time the average couple needs to successfully conceive. Which is the reason why she needed someone to talk to. To maybe have someone tell her this is normal, that nothing is wrong with her. Can't blame her for that, it's not like she was casting the blame on someone who had nothing to do with it, even on someone who did, for that matter.
Her and her husband's reaction to SIL, on the other hand, was more than justified, if anything they underreacted. You don't spit in the face of someone who trusted you at their lowest for the sake of being a terrible person. If her attempt at "cheering up OP" had the opposite effect, it's a failure on SIL's end and no one else's.
god help jenny's baby. it's gonna need it
If you’re under 30 most fertility clinics won’t see you until it’s been a year
Everyone took this way too far. I hope this is fake
Im happy to dont have a girlfriend when I look at these stories cause she cant have sil or mil if she doesnt excists
I really love my SO, but yeah.... her mother and sister are just a pain, and the less I have to interact with them, the better my life is.
Feel bad for you both. Never experienced anything like this with my family- extended or otherwise.
@@zamp_gaming bro i was joking
@@Schodi2.Where's the joke
@@NagoBustThe joke came 9 months after I did your mum
SIL soon-to-be-ex husband is the MVP.
Being pregnant does not give you the ticket to be an asshole to another person, especially if they are struggling with conceiving.
Jenny is so cruel and heartless....
Happy they getting divorced she deserves so much better
SIL is a professional gaslighter…💀
11:24 ABSOLUTELY NOT! NTA!
"Jenny" wanted to be the center of attention despite anything, and her parents obviously has allowed that far too much. The OP did nothing wrong, especially considering what she knew but she still did what she did. "Jenny" has obviously been gaslighting her parents for quite some time. I hope the OP and her husband become parents soon, and I agree that "Jenny"'s soon to be ex-husband gets custody of the child.. and the fact that the OP's husband's extended family agree with them screams volumes.
As someone who's been in the infertility struggle, 8 months trying with no results is no big deal
nice to see I wasn’t the only one with that thought. Isn’t 2 years about average? 🤔
You having this problem is a blessing, imagine a child born to someone so unempathetic
i hope you're saying this in an uplifting way and not a "pain Olympics" way
@@Greyraesshe definitely sounds like that way. 🥲
The fuck do you mean? It seems you're trying to downplay their struggles and pain. This ain't a Pain competition, and no one should compare their pain or struggles to anyone.
You don't hijack someone else's event to make a personal announcements. It's the height of bad manners. And Jenny knowing the circumstances makes it even worse. I highly respect Jenny's (ex) husband, though.