My husband of 12 years did ALL of what you said. I didn't realize the true monster he is until the brutal discard. Malicious, Covert Coward. I have so much healing to do. Thanks for this video
Thank you for this video. Ruminating about a Narc relationship even after it is over is like being punished twice. I like the advice you provided "replace rumination with radical self-care"
I was gaslighted...thankfully I knew what she was doing but it was still a very traumatic experience and I'm still recovering. Such evil behaviour....the gaslight was planned....she just sat back and waited for the right time. When it was time the mask come off and she showed her evil self.
The way the person outright refused accountability in the face of overwhelming evidence, hit me hard. Then how they left was meant to establish the trauma bond. Literally within days of my father almost passing away, is how they left.
My Ex-Narc lied with a straight face and he would gaslight me even when I saw him doing something with my own eyes! Totally unbelievable how these people operate! Unlike any other guys I’ve been in relationships with in my entire life. He left me confused, regretful and drowning in guilt that I kept believing his lies. Learned a very difficult but valuable lesson though. Never know anything about Narcissism until I got involved with my Ex.
Can't believe you waited 9 years for the bathroom! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, your spirit is so pure and it shines through. You are a true survivor!
I know right? The bathroom was never completed while I was there anyway. I’m sure it’s done as it was likely not finished to punish me but honestly that punishment was lost on me because I thought he was Autistic 😂😂😂
I watch this over and over and over now! If I start to feel bad, I think to self, I am triggered. I find my thoughts are telling me how worthless I am and all the mistakes I made. I have no desire to do anything and believe hell, I am just gonna die anyway so get rid of anything I have. Save people from having to sort through anything. I THINK HOW MUST THEY BE FEELING AND HOW DID I CAUSE THIS? When I listen to you, I come back to this is BS. I see truths, treatment, being erased and tollerating the lies and abuse. I have many reasons in my childhood, however, I believe the biggest was the many molestations starting at 5. I did cry, I did say please, no. It was about him and I was invisible. I did not matter. Thank you soooo much for helping me see this. I am alone and working so hard. You are a savior to me. When I get the 💰 it is you I wish to help me.
One common cognitive distribution that happens to abuse survivors is our brains lie to us and tell us that it’s our fault we were abused. It’s not your fault you were abused as a child or as an adult. This video isn’t totally related to the topic but he talks about the brain science behind this cognitive distortion th-cam.com/video/NKyyF9MQXn4/w-d-xo.html It’s not your fault someone was predatory with you and abused you.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 Thank you for acknowledging me. This last big one was my 48 yr old 1st born Son. He died from od the day after Mothers Day 2021. Very confused as grief of decades of drugs, grief of radical no communication only bread crumbing with newest wife 7 yrs ago, and grief of death. I will go to the address you sent. Thank you soooo much!
I will definitely implement the advice you give on here, I do find myself ruminating although I have no desire to go back. I'll watch video after video, but now I'll stop and look inward, face what I'm feeling emotionally at that moment. Your channel has been so helpful!!
I love your videos. I was in a 14+ year entanglement and had no idea about narcissism until I was abruptly discarded and given the silent treatment. He did a find and replace with someone we both worked with. Wow!! I am 3+ years no contact. I find your videos very helpful as they are beneficial to my recovery and not focused on the narc. He is as indifferent to me as I was always to him. Thank you 👍🏽👏🏽❤️
no, I have my entire family as narcs and enablers. Thanks for your video. Very Helpful.. I actually should have watched the whole thing before commenting. I just got to the part about listening what ACTUALLY happened. since I have it coming from everywhere, I feel that could be a great technicque.
Your videos have really helped me specially the ones on trauma bonding particularly one video were you gave 10 practical ways to break a trauma bond it was really helpful and I can say I feel I have broken the trauma bond and maybe I wouldn’t have with out your tips thank beautiful validating kind wise human being you are helping people out of hell giving them a way out bless you and sorry for the pain you went through at the hands of your narcisstic ex(s)
Hello lovely. Great to see you🙂 yes, I've struggled with self doubt all my life. Now I'm learning to step out in faith, knowing that God will catch me when I will fall, and has my back. Also, being in my own corner has become really important to me. I've made some big life choices, and although it's a little scary, it's also really exciting. Women are gifted intuition which I'm listening to as well ♥️
My ex was a covert narcissist wanting to collect women in polygamy marriages, lied, tricked and manipulated me and her but she still doesn't know his a covert narcissist. Moved her out to Blackpool in 2019, so I wouldn't leave him. His plan didn't work, still left him. So charming, dont be fooled...
My husband of 12 years did ALL of what you said. I didn't realize the true monster he is until the brutal discard. Malicious, Covert Coward. I have so much healing to do.
Thanks for this video
Thank you for this video. Ruminating about a Narc relationship even after it is over is like being punished twice. I like the advice you provided "replace rumination with radical self-care"
Honestly thank you so much. You have helped validate my experience and your strength is giving me a path for healing.
I have a picture of me at about 7 years old on my dresser. I sometimes weep for her. She really didn't stand a chance. I grieve for her.
I weep over you as well. You are not alone.
@@jessicaschuler3551 Thankyou so much Jessica ❤️
Absolutely Me Too Vicky
@@brettweary8491 Sorry to hear that. 🤗 How are you doing now?
I weep too Vicky,
I was gaslighted...thankfully I knew what she was doing but it was still a very traumatic experience and I'm still recovering. Such evil behaviour....the gaslight was planned....she just sat back and waited for the right time. When it was time the mask come off and she showed her evil self.
This is wonderful. Thank you so much. Bless You. 💐🙏🏼
The way the person outright refused accountability in the face of overwhelming evidence, hit me hard. Then how they left was meant to establish the trauma bond. Literally within days of my father almost passing away, is how they left.
I will go to my grave feeling these people are the worst people on earth!
They are..: Serial Killers have more heart.
My Ex-Narc lied with a straight face and he would gaslight me even when I saw him doing something with my own eyes! Totally unbelievable how these people operate! Unlike any other guys I’ve been in relationships with in my entire life. He left me confused, regretful and drowning in guilt that I kept believing his lies. Learned a very difficult but valuable lesson though. Never know anything about Narcissism until I got involved with my Ex.
Can't believe you waited 9 years for the bathroom! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, your spirit is so pure and it shines through. You are a true survivor!
I know right? The bathroom was never completed while I was there anyway. I’m sure it’s done as it was likely not finished to punish me but honestly that punishment was lost on me because I thought he was Autistic 😂😂😂
You are a very strong wise woman. Thankyou for helping people
It'd been a year since I left and it feels like yesterday. I'm still being gaslighted as we finalize the divorce I sooo needed this video. Thank you.
Amazing never heard anyone speak my whole experience so perfect before
I watch this over and over and over now! If I start to feel bad, I think to self, I am triggered. I find my thoughts are telling me how worthless I am and all the mistakes I made. I have no desire to do anything and believe hell, I am just gonna die anyway so get rid of anything I have. Save people from having to sort through anything. I THINK HOW MUST THEY BE FEELING AND HOW DID I CAUSE THIS? When I listen to you, I come back to this is BS. I see truths, treatment, being erased and tollerating the lies and abuse. I have many reasons in my childhood, however, I believe the biggest was the many molestations starting at 5. I did cry, I did say please, no. It was about him and I was invisible. I did not matter. Thank you soooo much for helping me see this. I am alone and working so hard. You are a savior to me. When I get the 💰 it is you I wish to help me.
One common cognitive distribution that happens to abuse survivors is our brains lie to us and tell us that it’s our fault we were abused. It’s not your fault you were abused as a child or as an adult. This video isn’t totally related to the topic but he talks about the brain science behind this cognitive distortion
th-cam.com/video/NKyyF9MQXn4/w-d-xo.html
It’s not your fault someone was predatory with you and abused you.
@@climboutoftraumawithcoachk8245 Thank you for acknowledging me. This last big one was my 48 yr old 1st born Son. He died from od the day after Mothers Day 2021. Very confused as grief of decades of drugs, grief of radical no communication only bread crumbing with newest wife 7 yrs ago, and grief of death. I will go to the address you sent. Thank you soooo much!
I will definitely implement the advice you give on here, I do find myself ruminating although I have no desire to go back. I'll watch video after video, but now I'll stop and look inward, face what I'm feeling emotionally at that moment. Your channel has been so helpful!!
I love your videos. I was in a 14+ year entanglement and had no idea about narcissism until I was abruptly discarded and given the silent treatment. He did a find and replace with someone we both worked with. Wow!! I am 3+ years no contact. I find your videos very helpful as they are beneficial to my recovery and not focused on the narc. He is as indifferent to me as I was always to him. Thank you 👍🏽👏🏽❤️
no, I have my entire family as narcs and enablers. Thanks for your video. Very Helpful.. I actually should have watched the whole thing before commenting. I just got to the part about listening what ACTUALLY happened. since I have it coming from everywhere, I feel that could be a great technicque.
Your videos have really helped me specially the ones on trauma bonding particularly one video were you gave 10 practical ways to break a trauma bond it was really helpful and I can say I feel I have broken the trauma bond and maybe I wouldn’t have with out your tips thank beautiful validating kind wise human being you are helping people out of hell giving them a way out bless you and sorry for the pain you went through at the hands of your narcisstic ex(s)
Kat thank you so much for the explanation on how to decipher emotions in a deeper level. I just get to tell myself I am angry 🙏❤
Narcissism is a form of domestic violence. whew!
Hello lovely. Great to see you🙂 yes, I've struggled with self doubt all my life. Now I'm learning to step out in faith, knowing that God will catch me when I will fall, and has my back. Also, being in my own corner has become really important to me. I've made some big life choices, and although it's a little scary, it's also really exciting. Women are gifted intuition which I'm listening to as well ♥️
She would always say . It's not like that.
You are so beautiful inside and out and you have helped me out a lot during my time of need ♥. Thank you very much 😊
My ex was a covert narcissist wanting to collect women in polygamy marriages, lied, tricked and manipulated me and her but she still doesn't know his a covert narcissist. Moved her out to Blackpool in 2019, so I wouldn't leave him. His plan didn't work, still left him. So charming, dont be fooled...
Thank you for sharing this knowledge ❤️
Great work. Go through the RAIN . Love it
So helpful, thank you.
Thank You so much , this helped Me allott
Thank you Kat
Thank you for doing this 🙏🏼
Great practice Thank you!
Starts at 4:13
Thank you so much
Thank you.
Can we be friends?
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