My ex husband did this w a couple who treated me horribly. I told him it wasn't ok to choose them over me. 'I came home to you, not them!' 😒 so not the same thing!
what’s that phrase? When people show you who they are believe them? It’s sort of like if your friends defend someone cheating or protects a cheater.. they’re likely cheaters lol
It took awhile to realize this unfortunately my best friend was talking bad about me with an ex and I thought we could get over this and she promised to do better. I realized I was wrong because she never did and it opened my eyes that our friendship was very one sided. I had to end a 17 year friendship and it was very difficult but she dropped me pretty quickly.
Learned that the hard way. I was so scared of not having friends and convinced myself they could change, that they would change. That their friendship meant as much to me as it did to them. We were friends for 16 years. I married one of them. My best friends wife and my wife were cheating with each other. 16 yr. ex best friend one and didn't tell me. It was a horrible mess. Thank goodness for the divorce and my current fiance who opened my eyes.
I had a best friend since high school. She'd go to parties but would invite everyone but me. She met this guy that beat her up and called me scared and crying. I asked where she was so I could go get her but she wouldn't tell me. I didn't hear from her for like 7 years and then she called me out of the blue. Turned out that she married the guy and she didn't invite me o the wedding because he still neat her and she even had two black eyes at her wedding. She knew if she invited me that there wouldn't have been a wedding and he never would've had kids. They had two kids before finally getting divorced. I had two kids. They grew up best friends for years. If my friend was sick, I'd go over and clean her house, cook her and her kids dinner, took care of her and her kids. We would go out drinking with another girl all the time. I was invited as the DUFF but I didn't care because I was married anyway and don't believe in cheating. I would always be the body guard if some guy came around and bothered them and they wanted him to go away. I had a not so suttle way of making them leave and not come back. I ended up being hurt in a tornado and eventually became disabled from it with chronic pain 24/7. My husband who was a very abusive narcissist in every way but physically and was a chronic cheater. He ended up leaving me for his last girlfriend saying he didn't want to be strapped to an invalid for the rest of his life. I was not and am not an invalid. I was like Supermom and did everything for everybody and cooked and cleaned and took care of everything. The reason he said it was because he had to make dinner twice in 4 years because I was in too much pain after doing everything else that I just had to go to bed, take my pain meds and cry. Anyway, I tried to lean on my best friend for moral support. I either used two canes to walk or used my wheelchair. Instead of helping me like I always helped her, she told me she couldn't be my friend anymore because my being disabled was too painful for her. What?!?! I later figured it out. It wasn't my disability, it was the fact that others seeing me walk with two canes or seeing me in a wheelchair would distract others from looking at her and giving her all of the attention. BTW I'm a very strong empath and she was a very strong narcissist. Also, I've had 5 relationships in my life, and all of them were abusive narcissists but only one was physically abusive as well. As an empath, narcissists are all I attract so I've given up on dating. As for friends, it's the same thing. They were all narcissists. One friend was verbally, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. She wanted me to be her DUFF, but I refused. It turned out that I was smarter than she was even though she had a college degree (I have ASD), I was prettier than she was, and she was fatter than I was so she screamed at me, berated me, put me down, and tried to correct everything I said even though I was right and when I proved I was right she still refused to admit it. She even told my ex-husband who she used to work with and hit on (who knows, he may have cheated on me with her, but she was always jealous of me) that I made porn with my boyfriend. I didn't make porn with him in 21 years of marriage so why would I suddenly do it with my boyfriend? I finally had enough of it and told her exactly what kind of person she was to me and how abusive she was to her daughter. She didn't take it well. Her daughter tried to threaten me because she was a Marine. I told her to bring it because I told her the truth. My daughter backed up everything I said too. Her daughter was so beaten down when she was hanging out with my daughter that she was afraid to say anything for fear thar she'd get screamed at or beaten. I had witnessed her doing both and so did my daughter. She only had two ways of talking...calm and screaming. There was never just raising her voice a bit. I think she was Bipolar. My boyfriend who she introduced me to was Bipolar as well. They had a thing before me so again...jealous. I'm not sure why. He was a horrible boyfriend. She was thrilled when I broke up with him though. Her daughter never brought it which even though she was a Marine and I had chronic pain 24/7, I still would've knocked her out. I knew how tough she wasn't and I'm very surprised that she even made it through basic training because she was so wimpy and cried if she bumped her toe...not stubbed, just bumped. Anyway, I gave up friends for the same reason I gave up dating...the abusive narcissists bled me dry. I tried dating again after not dating for over 16 years, I got the 5th abusive narcissist so I gave up. Not one of the 5 ever loved me. Abusive narcissists can only love one person...themselves. They're tricky, they pretend to be nice and sweet and innocent to draw you in for a little bit and then they become who they really are. As an empath, I think I can change them back so I end up staying way too long. I will probably die never having been loved by anyone because I'm too afraid to trust anyone again. As for friends, I don't trust them either. I was burned too many times. So why try? All they want is my energy and I need all I have to get me through the pain every day. It would be nice to be friends with another empath though so we could feed off of each other's energy when we needed it, but with my luck, it would be a narcissist disguised as an empath. I had a few of those too. I've been abused since birth, I don't need any more.
Yes, many people have said that over the hundreds of years...I believe even Shakespeare said it as well. Yes, it's true. People will let you know what they are about, including telling you outright.
I may have missed it but when did she find out. Was it like a couple days ago and she was trying to give her chance for the other friend to come clean on her own. Or did she know about it the entire time. Like I definitely could have missed it. So I'm asking
I have philosophies I live by. Here are two. "I like people, but for friends I like few people" (Marilyn Monroe). "What people think of me is none of my business" (from a book I read years ago). Admittedly the older I get the easier it is to be unsociable. My anxiety thanks me for it everyday.😊
Took me actually years to figure out that someone I regarded as a good friend, was so jealous of me that she would visit with my mother (knowing I was at work at the time) and tell stories to cause trouble (when we were teenagers). I actually find jealousy to be wasted focus. It's the one time one should focus on oneself, and improve.
You would actually feel like a time-warp happen on the earth because of how fast I would tell my bestie the truth of her being betrayed. If we are “best friends,” that holds real meaning for me.
This. There seems to be a lot of people who think if someone is *cool* or they never had a problem with them, even if they've been proven to be untrustworthy it's ok to be friends with them. They could be a creep, chronic liar, cheater or whatever and that will still be the excuse. Like wtf? I don't get that. I think that everyone in your friendship should not only know about said person, and that no one who is your friend would be friends with them knowing your history.
THIS!! YES!! 10000000% agreed. That's not a real friend without a doubt. Best friend for me isn't just some thing that can be turned on and off. If you're my best friend. That is a big deal for me. My best friend is the sister I never had. Been best friends going on a decade and trust her with the life of not just myself but my miracle of a daughter. Because time and time again she has shown how much she is truly there for me. I am VERY blessed in that sense. Best wishes to you and yours!!💖
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would. He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day. I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision. 25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old. 💝 💐
wow this is crazy similar to my lifelong (37 yrs) friendship with my bf. Once you see how much they took advantage, the memories start flooding in and you can't pretend they are decent people anymore
My college roommate and I were super close, until she met my boyfriend... I'd been living with him for 3 years at this point. We went on a coffee date with her, the whole time through the day she kept acting like I was was the third wheel tagging along to their date. Over time she started making comments like "he's so philosophical. I really like that about him. I think I understand him better than you do. Maybe you should give him to me." And then later when she had a boyfriend who was madly in love with her and wanted to marry her, she said, "I think we should swap. You can give me yours, you can have mine. He's silly and stupid. You would like him better." I watched her break the hearts of three boys at college. If she thought I was going to let her near my precious... She was sorely mistaken. Plus, I fail to understand how a philosophy and anthropology major is smarter than someone studying dermatology anyway... We both ended up dropping out for different reasons but she always acted like I was dumber than her. Just because I'm autistic doesn't mean I'm stupid. She cut me off when I couldn't engineer a skype call for her during my wedding which was held on a remote farm in the mountains. Yes, I am now married to the man she kept begging me for like he was a piece of cake to be passed around. She calls herself a feminist but she would subject men to the same abhorrent treatment she despisers them for herself... Pshh.
I am trying to teach my daughter this right now, and it is so hard! I told her she shouldn't feel the need to run to keep up with a friend who won't stop and wait for her. 😢
@OctobersDaughter I get you, I have twin 13 year olds and they have huge hearts that keep getting broken. I tell them never to regret giving love and friendship but they should also have a line that they won't cross and won't allow others to cross. If a friend violates those boundaries, then you know it's time to let them grow away from you. We all have to bloom where we are planted, if your friend turns out to be a weed then get em out before they start stealing the nutrients you need to live!
@Wwydn Oh, I absolutely love that! I hope you don't mind me sharing that with my daughter! She is also 13 🥰 it's great that you have twins. They will always have each other which is wonderful! I also have an 11 year old son, and I hope my two stay close as they grow up because a sibling bond is such an important thing!
@OctobersDaughter feel free to share with her! I agree, I always tell the girls that nothing should ever be allowed to come between them, that is their soul mate, their partner against the world and they should put their bond above all others, even us. Wombmates for life!
I had a friend who's response to me getting married was, "I don't get it...I've dated way more than you have". So...yeah. having friends like that is great💁🏼♀️
😂you should have clapped back saying yeah that's why you "don't get it" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ** P.s. that's not a friend, she's just a witch who isn't any good for you. The kind that cheers at your downfalls, but not when you're winning.
All these toxic friend groups make me very grateful that my friends are very low drama and can still hang out around each other, even the ones who used to date and have since broken up.
One of my best friends is my ex's baby momma. We bonded over what he put us both though. I love having female friends, but finding one that's low drama is like winning the lottery. I'll cherish the few that I have. ❤
That is super rare especially in the times we're in now! I sooo love that for you! And truly wish I had even one like that still, even my family refuses to go on and let whatever go! So my kid's and I have like literally nobody 😮
Her face when she’s so transfixed and then it hits her and you can see the transition from intense listen, to processing, to the yell from the audacity.
Ladies, as my blessed mama, may she rest in peace, famously said, RRPEAT AFTER ME "I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than one single second with you, bye".
'You cannot be friends with a girl who is jealous of you' and 'You can't be friends with a boy-crazy woman'. Preach! God knows I learned this the hard way, and got burned and betrayed. Thanks for your sprinkles of wisdom in all your videos, Charlotte ❤ Love getting my Charlotte fix!
I am currently working on removing the narcissists in my life who feed off my empathy and my god its a hard pill to swallow because if you're used to people love bombing and then taking advantage of you, its usually everyone around you. Growing away from the cycle and learning self care is initially isolating and depressing. Pushing through that to find the right people was and is HARD.
You can do it. All the worthwhile stuff is HARD! You are an incredible multidimensional being and You will get through this. You are already learning and this narcissist is a lesson for you. Narcissism is behavior. Have empathy and walk away. Most people don't learn and just keep going back for more. This person will teach you so much and when you are done learning the healing is easy. Discover you and your truth by going inward. Don't focus for long on his behavior. Learn why you are seeking this for yourself and then the healing comes easier and much faster. You already know this person isn't good for you. Trust your instincts. Learn and move on. It's why we're here. Don't beat yourself up. You're learning and you will be amazed when it's over at how strong you are. Most people don't make it this far....you got this. ✨🫶✨
I found out from a friend that people have been talking crap about me behind my back. She only mentioned this after I was gonna hit her with some news relating to that. I had no clue people were talking about me and turns out she already knew about my news. She never came to me before to tell me what she knows. I asked her ofc who told her and who is saying what about me. The moment she said I can't say and refused to tell me anything, I knew her loyalty ain't with me.
I was in a DV situation many years ago. He also slept with a bunch of my "friends," and when it was over my best friend (a guy) chose him over me. So when I left I lost my best friend, all of my girlfriends, and my main relationship. I basically lost everyone, because of 1 guy who was putting his hands on me inappropriately out of anger. It sucked but I got through it. People can be so disloyal while expecting you to have their backs.
I'm so sorry that is so horrible. But I am glad they showed you they weren't really your friends so that you hopefully could devote your time to the people who actually have your back. It was nothing this serious but I was kind of serially used by a lot of my friends in high-school and it hurt learning how little I meant to them when we weren't face to face but my college friends showed me a lot about what true friendship is and having each other's back. I only still talk to like 2 people from high school that were genuine friends. I hope you have a good support system now
@@abbiesmith9065 I do I am surrounded by good drs. and my husband who I will have been with 18 years this May, always has my back. Sorry, you went through the disloyalty in HS, and glad you have some friends now you can trust.
Ugh, how awful. That’s why they say “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” they weren’t your people and I hope you find your real tribe. A small circle is better than the wrong circle.
Duuude I found your channel like 2 weeks ago and I’ve been watching your videos literally during all waking hours. I’m autistic and have social phobia and just moved into my first apartment alone and you’re saving my life rn every day, thank you for being so easy to follow and creating such entertaining content ❤ you’re funny as hell I swear I’ve not smiled this much in years
My “bff” left me during the darkest period of my life. Was willing to leave me and my son (a newborn at the time) homeless despite her living at my apt for months while not even needing to and slept with all my ex’s. That was an enemy
Happened to me too. All of my friends left me right after my serious bf of 4 years broke up w me. This was 20 years ago and I have never recovered emotionally. Never made new friends. And this was a group of friends that were all connected to each other THROUGH ME.
Dude I had got a traumatic brain injury and this girl had the audacity to tell me not to talk about my injuries because my real friends don't want to know me that way. My real best friend bought a text book on TBI's and came to visit me at the rehab, the previous girl did not, both lived really close. I dropped that friend like a hot sack of potatoes. Im an empath I put up with her for so long. Never again.
I have a brain injury too, and some people get it, and some don't. I still have family members, and close family friends, who think that I am somehow exaggerating, or don't really understand what is wrong with me all together. I also have chronic pain, and people don't understand that either. I often think that invisible disabilities are probably one of the hardest things to deal with. What I will also say though, is that I am almost 20 years post injury, and my true friends have stuck around. It wasn't even the ones who came to the hospital, or who came to see me afterwards. It was the people who I had known for years before, who would eventually become my friends over the long haul. It did take a few years for me to find out who I was, after my brain injury, and in that time, a woman who I had literally known my entire life, who had been counted as family, turned into, my absolute best friend in the entire world. She has also been the most supportive person that I could have asked for to help me through everything. She has dealt with her own issues, and while they are not the same, we both understand each other's struggles. I managed to hold onto a few good friends and that is all that you really need to worry about, that is your foundation, the rest is just icing.
Got sucked in for years in a 'bestie' relationship. Looking back, I still can't believe I didn't see the major red flags! It's not easy for the people who actually care about you to witness this. Thank you to all of you brave enough to share. Maybe someday I'll share when I'm ready but for now let's have each other's backs!
I had a boyfriend like this, he cheated on me with my best friend while I was pregnant. Years later her crippling meth addiction tore up the family she started, and her ex and I are together, and I am raising our children in a happy, healthy home. Without those awful people. They both have major issues, and now all of our babies are safe.
You can feel envy, like "oh I wish I had this", and it's fine if it's a feeling and a thought and you can deal with it and move on. It happens, when your bestie has a better job and money, or a good relationship and you are single - it's natural. As long as those feelings don't consume you and there's no resentment it's fine. Jelaousy is a bit more tricky, because it grows from the "I should have it", not from "I wish", and it pushes people into dark, dark places.
Well said, I was thinking that if I don't feel like my friends have things I want then are they really having a good life? Like the alternative is looking down on them, lol. But, I think I am confusing admiration and jealousy.
@@melodymastache3401 I think a way to tell the difference is admiration is seeing someone have what you want and you being inspired to lift yourself and meet them at their level. Jealousy is wanting what they have by pulling them down and taking what is already theirs.
Lost my childhood best friend a few days ago myself, so watching this video has helped me feel a bit better about writing the entire friendship off! We were living together and there was an accidental fire at the rental house (base board wall heater got too hot and caught the floor mat and other stuff in the bathroom on fire- 70's style old house), scary incident which I was still in the house rescuing all the pets while she scampered off in the morning. But she totally bailed on me. Pretty sure she turned the temp up in the bathroom before leaving since I never put it that high, and I was still asleep when the fire occurred. She had the nerve to blame me for the fire accident, and demanded money compensation as well as "extra" compensation for the inconvenience I caused her... She even wanted me to apologize to her regarding the fire when I didn't cause it, nor did she have any concerns about me or the animals who were in the house when it happened. For the record her stuff wasn't touched by the fire beyond a light dusting of ash, whereas furniture I bought and other momentos were ruined. She didn't even tell me she was moving out, heard it from my landlord, she was ghosting all texts and only messaged me about her new money demands and time frame to have money by. Just love when your (now ex)"bestie" bails on you and doesn't care about anyone other than themselves~
That's why it's really worth having renters insurance, it's usually less than $20 a month! You also have to regularly photograph your stuff as proof that it exists in the house if it does burn down. But also ditch that chick and make sure you don't text her anything that she could later use in court to try to sue you for money (no apologies or anything). Maybe a simple denial, "I did not cause the fire." Honestly if you're right and she's the one that turned it up she might be pushing so hard so that you don't push her to pay for your stuff that was ruined.
@jessicaolson490 We had renter's insurance, used it... But it was such a hassle as my agent was out of state opposite sides and was impossible to contact. They love making it impossible to get things taken care of so I had to switch agents multiple times and ask what was needed as they refused to tell me anything without me prying for the steps... They did an awful job with repairs (insurance team through same insurance I have that the landlord was stuck with too... Landlord was awesome but the insurance team wasn't, so Landlord did a lot of the fixing of their mess ups) and we almost had a 2nd fire as insurance didn't wire the new heater correctly and they never tested it so it shorted and fried itself plus thermostat the day we were told we could move back in... Not to mention insurancr screwed up the vent fan... Things are all fixed now though through Landlord hiring their own repair team (yay for that) Ex best friend/roommate is gone now. Had to pay her deposit back minus all the bills she owed us to get her to leave, she even sent mean texts claiming we were never friends the entire time we lived together so I've 100% cut her out of my life! She can't do anything anymore as she got money and nothing is owed (never owed her to begin as she gave that money to landlord not me, but everyone suggested paying her to leave us alone vs her possibly picking a massive public fight over it and our landlord couldn't afford to pay her as she had all the extra repair fees. So we just kinda bought her out of the deposit she put down so she's no longer on the lease for legal purposes) And for context non of ex-roomate's stuff was damaged as they had their room closed off and it was furthest from the fire
😢im so sorry. I used to have several very close friends who dumped me. So now i have no friends. This was 20 years ago. Now my fiance and soulmate best friend of 12 years is dead and it feels very lonely. The only friend i have is his best friend. Times are tough. Also im dying. 😂 anyway. I hope you get through this!!! ❤
If you haven't touched the heater since then, perhaps you can fingerprint it, to see if hers was the most legible. Or you can tell her the cops did, and maybe she will admit it, and you can record it. It won't hold up in court, but maybe she will stop bugging you.
@MegaMisfit138 The restoration team the landlord had through insurance ended up replacing and rewiring the replacement heater wrong. When we turned it on, it overheated and fried itself- almost caused a 2nd fire. So when they had to replace it again through a different contractor the entire dial had to be replaced as it wasn't functional... So, any evidence from 5 months ago is long gone! Unfortunately cut ties with her and just paid her to leave me alone (subtracted the bills she owed us from the total she was demanding so she didn't get everything she wanted), chalk it up to at least never having to buy her anymore Christmas/birthday gifts again since cut ties! She did overwork our AC/heating units when she was packing to move out though, set them to 90°F... Caught her doing so on our pet cameras... Things ain't supposed to be turned up that high, and it was done to both units while we were staying at my family's waiting for damages to be repaired and waiting for her to give up her key (not to mention she had her Christmas tree up and on till the last day of packing, which was in March, fire hazzard as is)- fun times!
I feel so happy for the last girl, I recently got rid of someone toxic too and in the beginning it felt so weird I didn't know how to go about it, but now... I'M FREE!!! 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤ CHEERS TO ALL OF US EMPATHS GETTING OVER A TOXIC NARCISSIST!!! 🍻🥂
How could you ever keep something horrible from your “best friends”? The *SECOND* I found out, I’d be on the phone with mine, spilling it all! No one wants lukewarm tea. 😂
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would. He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day. I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision. 25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old. 💝 💐
@shieldmaiden8128 I could be wrong, but I think they meant they caught the husband cheating with someone else, not that they slept with their friend's husband...
Story 1: My grace for Bestie 1 was "She hasn't told you yet? I told her I'd give her a little bit of time to woman up." That ended when Bestie 1 & 5 didn't dump those POS!
My cousin was my best friend, I was so naive as a kid till probably 17-ish. My cousin (Steph) was so jealous of my body, hated how pretty I looked, which I was so insecure of. She would talk about my body in front of me to her boyfriends, which made me feel weird. I was like a lost puppy to her. She showed me her true self. I hate her so much for manipulating me so much. She is family sadly. I'm so thankful for my friends who helped me see everything she did to me, and made me realize it all. I haven't talked to her for a while. My depression is bad but my insecurities are no more.
@@uwilberforce4628 I’ve been depressed since 6th grade my depression isn’t from my cousin but from my father, I don’t know why I wrote about my depression at the end, not gonna lie
The girl from the share the bf story.... she is literally the best friend in the k drama "marry my husband".... 100% that person that just wants to take everything away from her best friend to feel better about herself and then acts pathetic to get her friend to forgive her instead of walking away
I had a "best" friend in my adult years who was jealous of me. It was stupid because she had a lot of wonderful things going on in her life. She would take opportunity to set me up to get hurt or embarrassed. I had people thinking twice about who I was. Needless to say, I removed her from my life and never looked back. 😊😊😊
I wonder if beneath the jealousy in them, lies the unpalatable truth that they are not meeting their own best potential? At the base level of all poor self esteem hides the realization that they could be better, if they do better, but it's all too hard, and the friend they are jealous of makes it all look so easy. They're very superficial in their thinking, if they think it out at all. I've had a similar experience to you, and thought "seriously, we're practically old, should be past all that dumb high school telling tales stage and backstabbing". I said goodbye and haven't spoken to her since. All because of jealousy, which honestly, I couldn't comprehend why. If you see someone "ahead" of you in some way, work to make the gap smaller or focus on your own weaknesses, remedy things. Find out how they did it lol. Pick their brains, not nitpick.
@@Kayenne54 I love that. Great insight. We all have attributes that others wish for, as we wish for them too. Use that as a radar for yourself to make yourself a better person. There’s no need for jealousy, that only puts obstacles in our way. Obstacles of our own making. Thank you Kayenne for responding. Have a blessed day.
It probably wasn't material things. Some people will be jealous of your kindness, the way others relate to you, your confidence etc. There's a saying...Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
@@Curvesohyeah Your last sentence is what I've reluctantly come to observe. The more someone "instantly" dislikes me, the more I have found out that they are in some way, falling short of their own spiritual/moral goals. I'm not coming from some high and mighty Mt Olympus view point; I'm down here in the mud with everyone else, plodding onwards, and sometimes even upwards. But invariably, if I'm met with unwarranted hostility (I haven't set out to offend, or have nasty intentions), it is because they are hiding something ABOUT THEMSELVES from themselves, and I am somehow acting as an unwelcome mirror. Which, for someone who carries the two-edged sword of empathy, makes for lots of relationship juggling. It's not my job to make them face anything. It's their own task. Unless they ask.
In college I was sent flowers anonymously for Valentines. My best friend at the time insisted that the flowers could only have come from my brother, who was 19, poor, and living in a foreign country at that time! She had never been sent flowers so I feel like she was threatened that I got some. We aren’t friends anymore. Not because of the flowers, but largely due to similar behavior from her. Luckily, I have found some much better friends.
mann idk how people are like this!! i been single for almost a year with no action and i kid you not my best friend told me thursday that she was single and she got a sweet guy buying her flowers already!! i was so excited i swear i started worshiping her rizz 😂😂
My peer group are mostly in our 50s 60s some 70s some 40s, and while it's less common when we're older (more of us die 😆) it does still happen. But we're also more upfront about calling people out on their crap, and being more supportive of each other. Women have to treat each other better, because if we don't demand it from ourselves, no one else will treat us with respect.
some of my absolute worst experiences post high school /in early 20s we’re exactly these kind of dilemmas. a jealous friend who tries to turn others against you, a toxic friend group that caused me to lose the person i thought was a real friend but didn’t back me up when she knew how the others had treated me… it’s crazy how petty and toxic grown adults are. honestly worse than middle schoolers lol
I had "friends" & a fiancé just like this (ex-friends & ex-fiancé now). And even like a decade later, Friend #1 would say "at least I didn't sleep with your fiancé" whenever she did something sh*tty. Like she genuinely wanted points for that. She knew about all of the cheating & never told me. She was angry when I found out I was pregnant because she was upset she wouldn't be my priority. Stupid, childish things like that. And yeah... don't stay friends with people like this.
The BEST REVENGE is living well. I hope the narcissistic friend keeps hearing about how well the empathetic friend is doing for the rest of her friendless life.
I’m sorry to the last girl and… I needed to see this because it helped me see how awful a friendship I was in was. Thanks for your courage sharing because this happened to me, too. Even though I know it was awful and I was abused, I stillll sometimes blame myself and get upset with myself and call myself awful things when I see her🤦🏻♀️
My days are instantly made better when there's a petty queen video. It's stories like these that make my social anxiety feel like a positive curse for once. Much love from London 🇬🇧
I literally cut off my best friend of 15 years. I'm 33 now. I am an empath. Her and I have been through SO MUCH through out the years. I was always the one taking the blame, and the heat. I was ALWAYS the one apologizing. The last straw was when she got back with someone a few years ago, who was involved with a huge part of my PTSD 12 years ago. I heard her out, and I tried so hard to be her partners friend FIR HER, but I just couldn't. Not only that, but she had the audacity to call me two faced about it, minimized my trauma and experience, not taking one ounce of responsibility for a single thing. 3 years ago she blocked me after cutting me with every word she could. Last month she asked a mutual friend for my number. I allowed it, thinking she grew up. Nope. She immediately went into her manipulation and gas lighting me. Not one apology. Even told me she just wants the "old me" back. I told her, I have grown so much. And if she's looking for the old me, she no longer exists. I was willing to extend my friendship to her and her alone. I was able to forgive her partner, for myself. But I DO NOT have to be friends with someone who heavily participated in my trauma. Take it or leave it. And she continued to tell me setting boundaries is bullcrap cause she never did with me. At that point I said, have a nice life. And blocked her. I'm a healed/still healing version of myself. I refuse to be walked on anymore. I guess you could say I'm in my Villan Era. And I no longer care what others think about their version of me. I Let them carry on with their delulu.
I’m so happy for you. One tip from a fellow empath to another..keep saying what you mean and mean what you say. People will never respect you if you don’t set boundaries. You don’t lose a friend by setting boundaries, you lose dead weight.
@carolynmcdonald2746 oh yes, I most definately know half of setting the boundary is holding it. Thanks for the encouragement. It's taken me a LONG time to get to this level of confidence and belief in myself. It's an amazing feeling to know your worth, and when your able to start really seeing it, you start truly seeing who not only doesn't see it, but doesn't value it. Ive put in a solid year of therapy and addressing my BPD. I've made so much inner growth. Onto of that mental growth, I've lost SO MUCH weight and have started becoming a healthier better version of myself. I planted a seed within myself a year and a half ago, called love. And I was so kind to the seed. I nurtured it. And now I can see who is for me, and who isn't. At least a whole lot better then I used to.
Monica’s cray cray friend wasn’t in love with her, she was in love with the attention she got from Monica. And because she’s a narcissist she wanted to have all the attention for herself. So she sabotaged every relationship she got in or just didn’t acknowledge it. It has happened to me so many times, fortunately i got around to cutting people off earlier, but i have so many friendships that ended when i got a boyfriend because i didn’t spend enough time with my friends (even though i tried to invite them to lot’s of things and made time for the two of us, still wasn’t enough though)
That last one, she was in love with you/obsessed which is why she was pushing everyone else away and trying to get you out of any relationships you were in.
I can confirm that *multiple times*, even when we called ahead and told them we would be travelling and they'd start to see weird charges, that our card has been locked without our permission while travelling. We have a backup card for exactly this reason because when you need gas in the middle of an interstate at 2am, you seriously do not have time to sit on the phone with fraud protection that's not even open yet to get it unlocked so you can keep going. Like, thank you for protecting me, but maybe not from myself? When I put a notice it was gonna be me?
True... I'm an empath too, but as soon as I felt taken for a ride by former friends... I was like, "cool, have a nice life" and that was the end of it. I'm not sorry I was friends with them, cause I learnt stuff and grew as a person, but yeah. As an empath, you do tend to attract some real selfish people... and I don't mean in the material way. Nor does it stop at just friends... family too.
Wrong. Most empaths are pushovers. You are actually an anomaly if you’re an empath and not pushed over. Anytime someone uses the 100 emoji, I assume they’re slow
Omg Charlotte! You took the words out of my mouth at the end lol "Hit a little too close to home" For those of us who have a huge heart that we wear on our sleeves it is really hard to find genuine good girlfriends. The ones that really just want to be there for you and put the same energy into your friendship as you. I cry to my husband so the time because I keep befriending those who use me for one thing or another and/or walk all over me. Even if they didn't initially start the friendship with that intent somehow before long they pick up on how hard it is for me to say no and how important it is for me to make people happy and if I can do something then I do it even if I don't want to. Also they see that I always put my feelings and myself on the back burner. I'm working on these things but knowing my tendencies and the way I am doesn't make them easy to stop nor does it help find people who aren't willing to take advantage of a person or their situation. At least I know I'm not alone as sad as that makes me to say.
I had 2 best friends. We did everything together. Birthdays, holidays, vacations, bbqs… you know- close. All of our partners, family etc. So one afternoon I had a late business lunch. I wasn’t in our town but I was two towns (26 miles away) over. So I’m talking to my clients and we’re eating. Im kinda scanning the room, you know- as you do in public. So I look around and I see a couple sitting at a table and my brain thinks “hey there’s Tim” but it’s not actually a real realization yet. So I look back. Sure enough, it’s Tim. He’s holding this lady’s hand and the lady has long frizzy blonde hair. And his wife Shay has a black pixie and is built like a pencil. She’s beautiful 🤩 and kind, sweet, compassionate… anyway. So I think huh? Must be his aunt or something. She’s a bit older than us, dressed very matronly… so I continue with my meeting. Until…. I see him kiss that lady like he was Roto-rooting her throat. 🤢🤮 I shot iced tea out of my nose!! I got my phone out and zoomed in and recorded. 😑 That night I call other best friend and told her what happened and told her she had to go with me to tell Shay. Uggggh. We went to lunch the next afternoon. I couldn’t sleep. I felt nauseous. I knew this was going to hurt her and I was going to be the one who changes the trajectory of her marriage… we get to the restaurant and order our drinks. I can’t hold it in anymore. I didn’t want to order food I wouldn’t be able to eat anyway so I told her there was a reason I asked her to lunch. I tell her. I show her the video. She’s just sitting there kinda blank. But then she looks at Mia and says YOU knew about this?!? And I’m all confused. And Shay says “That’s your aunt Kathy isn’t it”?!? Omg I was floored. Needless to say Shay got a divorce from Tim. Tim married Kathy. Mia married Tim’s younger brother. Shay and I are still friends and laugh often about the Jerry Springer show episode her life was. 😅 I had to tell. I would’ve spontaneously combusted
Smh,that poor girl, I can't imagine having "friends" like that. I'm still best friends with my childhood best friends, one time back in school, one of my Bestie's Boyfriend (we all hung out so I guess he thought I was his friend) told me about cheating on my bestie. I wasted NO TIME & told her as soon as i saw her again that day. We still laugh that he ever thought that I wouldn't tell her, like what?? Needless to say she broke up with him. They both live farther away now but we still have our msg group with all three of us. Been Bestie's for over 20 yrs now!
Your calling out the narcissist/empath relationship is spot on. Because of my trauma hx I studied and now work in the behavioral health industry. I feel you. Hugs.❤
But isn't the term Empath not the correct term though? Doesn't everyone mean Codependency? Empaths can still have the ability to stand up for themselves against Narcissistists. I feel like Codependents who don't know about their Codependency often mistake being used because they "had a kind empathetic heart". But to reject Empathy would mean Narcissism.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611 being empathetic makes you an easy mark for narcissists. They take advantage of the need to please and care for others, and the intense need for understanding.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611healthy empaths who aren’t inherently codependent can fall into the narcissist/empath dynamic if the narcissist is manipulative enough and if the empath is inexperienced. I unfortunately had the empath/narcissist dynamic with someone when I was a teen. I’m not a codependent person, that was the only codependent relationship I ever had. But I was young, had never met a narcissist before and they take advantage of the fact that most young empaths see the good in people and want to help. So the issue isn’t codependency as it really is naivety for most empaths. And while many empaths can stand up for themselves, that’s only after they’ve experienced being walked all over.
One time, my best friend (at the time) and I went on a girl's trip to Miami with my mom and my mom's best friend. From the moment we landed, this girl took over and tried to make the entire trip about her-to the point where my mom/mom's best friend were giving her the side eye and didn't even want to be around her. So, on our last night there, she and I decided to just walk around downtown Miami-find a nice place to eat, then maybe hit a club or something. After roaming around for a bit, we stumbled across this really cute restaurant, and decided we'd eat there...and here's when the bs started: We got sat, the host handed us our menus and, to our surprise, there were *no prices.* Like, at all. From the wine, to the cocktails, to the apps, to the entrees-we had no idea of what any of these items cost. Sounds dumb now, but we were too embarrassed to ask about pricing; didn't want to seem broke, I guess (which we were lol, we both had maybe like $150 left to our name). So, in our minds, we'd play it safe by ordering a glass of wine each, and share 2 apps. After we were finished, our server dropped the bill and it was $102. This girl literally looked at bill and scream-whispered, "I've got a plan, I'm gonna get up and go to the bathroom-wait for like 2 minutes, then pretend you're going to the bathroom as well... then we'll just sneak out the door." I'm no saint, but there's no way I'd ever walk a tab. I've been in the service industry for a number of years-so has she-and that's like one of the worst things to be on the receiving end of. So, I told her no...like we're not going to do that. She goes, "Well, if you want to sit here and pay for the bill, that's on you. I'm leaving." Do you know this trick actually got up and left me! I had to pay that entire bill, plus I left at 20% tip, because that's what I always do-I'm not going to leave a crappy tip just because I'm low on funds-so, it came out to like $120 something. Mind you, I only had $150 to my name. When I finally caught up with her outside, she was wayyyy down the street, flirting with some random dudes. I confronted her and basically told her that she needed to give me half of what I paid. She said, "Why? I told you what the plan was-you didn't follow it, sounds like a personal problem." When I tell you, I was *seething.* And that's not where it ended. Later on, we got in a screaming match in the hotel lobby, which ended our friendship, over something else she wound up doing that night. Let's just say, the flight home was verrryyyy awkward 😬
My ex-best friend and I were friends for five years and we actually helped each other through good and bad times, like real friends would. (She always got good grades while mine were okay-ish to lightly bad and we both came from different family financial situations), but it all changed when I got better grades than her in our final exam and she started treating me like i was an entitled rich kid, always getting angry whatever I said and saying that my personal problems where pathetic especially since my family was financially more stable than others. It really hurt especially since we were real friends at some point, I always been happy for her achievements and progress. I told her that she hurt my feelings and if I did anything wrong she should tell me, but I never got a reason nor an apology, so I parted ways with her.
The first story “bestie #1” can’t be blamed, she was being loyal to her best friend too. She had to betray one of them. As for the guy he don’t owe his ex any loyalty either. If he made a move on the friends; they should be loyal to her a dub him. Also, MOST OF THESE FRIENDS ENCOURAGE YOU TO LEAVE THE MAN NOT BECAUSE HE MESSED UP BUT BECAUSE THEY WANT HIM FOR THEMSELVES.
I had a female friend who I introduced to a group of my gay friends to build bridges and while in said group they not only turned her against me but then when an ex of mine moved back into town, one of them apparently hooked up with my ex and i didnt find out until the group broke up due to similar drama. Lesson learned: keep your friend group small and tight with trustworthy people.
I'd also suggest that if you belong to multiple friend groups that don't know each other, avoid mingling them together. You'll start as the common denominator, but could end up the odd one out. It helps a lot because if you get tired of one group's drama, you can take a break and hang out with different people.
Met at 3 months old, friends for 35+ years, covered her at work when she had Covid. I was asked to stay on, she kept calling in sick (insisted I cover her, over and over for 2 years) she refused to cover me, she kept lying about being sick so employer terminated her. Guess who got the blame for it? Rumours spread, lost other friends because of her lies. Don’t miss her as I was always only there for her convenience anyway. #respectyourself
Me and my parents didn't go on holiday either. It wasn't affordable for 3 people. And when I was 16 I said to them. "I'm gonna go to spain with the church youthgroup then you can go on holiday by yourselves." They were hesitant at first and I've never told them I had a miserable time at church camp.
Wait... if it was too expensive collectively, how did it make sense for you to go to Spain separately? And them go on a different vacation? What am I missing here?
@@phoenixdavida8987 It was only a small fee to go with the youth group. The majority was paid by the church. And my parents went somewhere on a discounted couples retreat in Italy.
“You cannot be friends with a girl whos jealous of you.” Is so so so SO TRUE. I no longer spend time with people that appear jealous of me or aren’t totally on my team. I almost lost a job bc of a “friend” who during Covid told everyone I was a party girl and a slut so there was no way I was being safe and staying home. I literally was dating one guy and stayed at home all the time. They banned me from staff meetings. Then I tried to befriend my bf’s friend who would say things like “oh…didn’t realize this was fashion week and we needs to go overboard.” When I just LOOKED NICE FOR DINNER bc she looked like a slob all the time and was in love w my bf. She screamed at me in a coffee shop when I tried to give her friendly advice bc she asked me for advice. Glad that now I have her blocked on everything and my bf hasn’t seen her in a year lol. If you are jealous and mean to your friend you are NOT BEING A REAL FRIEND.
This is why I keep to my self, I'm 43 and NO friends. I get lonely sometimes but I pray and my best friend listens to me everytime I speak to him and that is God 🙏
I was in my late 40's when I wrote off the last of my "friends" I don't feel as much of a need for them anymore. I'm not opposed to making new friends if it happens but I won't go out of my way. I like being alone and only very rarely feel lonely.
When your friend is the type of woman who is gonna stay no matter what, then it's a waste of time to tell them their bf/husband is cheating. And sometimes when you do tell them, they get angry with you. I know of three friends who married their bf's after learning they had cheated.
every time i hear stories like these im so glad that my group of friends is amazing and we all support each other and have been friends for so many years. no drama, no issues 🥰
Everyone gets jealous now and then, even friends. Bad friends hold on to that feeling and blame you for their own feelings of inadequacy rather than boosting you up, being happy for your successes, and being boosted up in return.
I was unfortunately one of those people who tried to be friends with someone who was jealous of me. They treated me awful and I kept blowing it off. I realized after two months that no one was my friends. I was constantly being excluded
Thank you for these videos. As someone who doesn’t really know what is okay and what isn’t, and who is super anxious about making a mistake, this is very informative.
I'm convinced "jealous friend Olivia" was just in love with her bestie and didn't know how to approach that. She was jealous of her, probably, but also probably wanted to be With her.
I literally had a friend in school who started dating an ex of mine as soon as we broke up. She told everyone she could that he thought I was as ugly as a dog. She laughed when I confronted her and said, “oh it’s just a joke. It’s not that deep, but I thought it was hilarious.” I was like “i hope he was worth our friendship.” She rolled her eyes and I walked off. Never spoke to her again. She tried getting a hold of me on Facebook years later and I added her only to block and delete her lol. I don’t need that in my life
I was party friends with a boy crazy girl but didn't recognize it cuz I was boy crazy too 😂 We had us some timessss! With her wavy waist-length raven hair, high cheekbones & bedroom eyes, she caught lotsa attention! She, Ren, had a petite athletic frame & always wore heels to be taller😂 Also, she always wore deep shades of red lipstick. I'd been seeing this cutie Rick for several months & we'd slept over at each other's homes a few times. The 1st time I went to Rick's, he showed me around & talked about paintings displayed in his home. He was very fond of 3 specific pieces & went on & on about the artist. Not really my style art, but I faked interest. Rick had money, a nice home, badass car & great sense of style. I didn't know about his work, just that he was in sales. Anyway, FF 3 months... Me & Ren were at her house getting ready for a night out of cocktails & dancing, when Rick called asking if I wanted to hang out. After conferring with Ren, I told Rick he could meet us at the club. Rick & Ren knew about each other, but hadn't met. Rick arrived at the club an hour after me & Ren. I introduced them, then Rick handed me the removable faceplate of his car stereo & asked if I mind keeping it in my bag; not much bigger than a regular hair comb, not a problem. I offered to buy the 1st round & rather than wait for a waitress, I went over to the bar. The club was packed; I couldn't see our table thru the crowd! Like 10 minutes later, as I approached our table, drinks in hand, I saw Ren & Rick chatting & laughing. I don't typically get jealous & was happy to see my friend & current beau getting along. It was such an act - on Ren's part. A few minutes after I got back to our table, Rick went outside to take a call. I never saw him again! As soon as he was outta earshot, Ren told me Rick was hitting on her while I was off buying drinks. I was like, I love you girlfriend!! I took Rick's stereo faceplate outta my bag, set it on the table we hauled ass. The parking lot was full and I know Rick didn't see us leave, cuz next thing I know, I got a text from him reaming me for leaving his faceplate sitting out in the open on the table 😂 He didn't ask where we went or anything. He knew! Guess he was used to girls that stab each other in the back? Rick told Ren that he really liked me a lot, but he sees other women. News to me!! He literally asked Ren out on a date after knowing her 10 minutes! After Ren told me what happened, we went from party buddies to besties! We're separated by hundreds of miles now, but remain friends to this day. As for Rick, we found out about his job in sales when we read the news he was arrested for dealing. Me & Ren were getting ready to go out & as she applied her red lipstick, it hit me; I was like, OMG! Ren you look just like the girls in the paintings that Rick had!! 😂😂 She really did!! Rick likely knew he was gonna go for Ren the second he laid eyes on her. What an unbelievable schmuck!
I like watching Charlotte's facial expressions while she is listening. It's funny to watch her cause her gestures when she is suspicious of someone in the story. She's like 🤨 🤔🤔😒 and then, when the plot twist comes, she is always right about who was untrustworthy! Lol
I'm grateful for the last one. Insanely similar sorry... I had a friend for 21 years (our parents were friends so from 0-21 we were friends or I thought so) when I was 21 I said I can't do it anymore and we never spoke again (I won't go into reasons why). I'm 30 now and all this time I struggled with thinking was I wrong should I have just forgiven her again maybe it would be different.... but what this girl said " she was never there from me and when she needed I jumped every time"... that hit home hard... I won't feel any guilt anymore
It amazes me how some ppl can figure out a person's intentions or motivation for their actions in a 10 minute video but it takes some of us 20 yrs. Is that wisdom or are the rest of us in denial? But I can watch these for hours.
It's harder to catch when it's happening to you honestly, because they will love bomb and build a bond with you first. While being outside of the situation it can be VERY clear that someone is acting out of pocket
I had a very similar experience to Monica’s. I started to really question what I was doing to cause these things to happen to me. I realized it’s not that I am doing anything to cause it, it’s just how I am that makes it easier for people to do to me and me not stick up for myself. Because I give and forgive. So I’ve started cutting off, but unfortunately that makes them mad too and I still have to share certain spaces with this person.
14:44 I am not standing up for that friend, but my bank locked my card because of a suspicious/fraudulent charge, and it was one I wasn’t aware of, so I was glad it got caught… but I found out it was locked at a terribly embarrassing moment trying to purchase something. I went to an ATM machine to W/D the money, but it wouldn’t go thru. The real irony is that I had just left the bank ATM depositing more than enough cash, if I would’ve stopped at the store first, I would’ve been able to just pay with cash. It was so ridiculous 😂
So true; you can't be friends with people who are jealous of you. It can have a tragic end, like that poor beautiful young lady, Shanquella Robinson. She helped pay for her "friend" group to a vacation in Mexico, only to be jumped on and attacked and filmed, by these"friends" and lose her life. 😢
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I truly believe that if a person treats you horribly and your friends are okay with hanging out with them, they are not your friends
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My ex husband did this w a couple who treated me horribly. I told him it wasn't ok to choose them over me. 'I came home to you, not them!'
😒 so not the same thing!
what’s that phrase? When people show you who they are believe them?
It’s sort of like if your friends defend someone cheating or protects a cheater.. they’re likely cheaters lol
It took awhile to realize this unfortunately my best friend was talking bad about me with an ex and I thought we could get over this and she promised to do better. I realized I was wrong because she never did and it opened my eyes that our friendship was very one sided. I had to end a 17 year friendship and it was very difficult but she dropped me pretty quickly.
Learned that the hard way. I was so scared of not having friends and convinced myself they could change, that they would change. That their friendship meant as much to me as it did to them. We were friends for 16 years. I married one of them. My best friends wife and my wife were cheating with each other. 16 yr. ex best friend one and didn't tell me. It was a horrible mess.
Thank goodness for the divorce and my current fiance who opened my eyes.
Maya Angelou- a queen in her own right said it! And the first girl quoted it - "When people show you who they are, believe them."
Actually she said "believe them the 1st time"... which hits even closer to home :-(
@@martagasowska6772 Amen and preach it louder to the people in the back!
I had a best friend since high school. She'd go to parties but would invite everyone but me. She met this guy that beat her up and called me scared and crying. I asked where she was so I could go get her but she wouldn't tell me. I didn't hear from her for like 7 years and then she called me out of the blue. Turned out that she married the guy and she didn't invite me o the wedding because he still neat her and she even had two black eyes at her wedding. She knew if she invited me that there wouldn't have been a wedding and he never would've had kids. They had two kids before finally getting divorced. I had two kids. They grew up best friends for years. If my friend was sick, I'd go over and clean her house, cook her and her kids dinner, took care of her and her kids. We would go out drinking with another girl all the time. I was invited as the DUFF but I didn't care because I was married anyway and don't believe in cheating. I would always be the body guard if some guy came around and bothered them and they wanted him to go away. I had a not so suttle way of making them leave and not come back. I ended up being hurt in a tornado and eventually became disabled from it with chronic pain 24/7. My husband who was a very abusive narcissist in every way but physically and was a chronic cheater. He ended up leaving me for his last girlfriend saying he didn't want to be strapped to an invalid for the rest of his life. I was not and am not an invalid. I was like Supermom and did everything for everybody and cooked and cleaned and took care of everything. The reason he said it was because he had to make dinner twice in 4 years because I was in too much pain after doing everything else that I just had to go to bed, take my pain meds and cry. Anyway, I tried to lean on my best friend for moral support. I either used two canes to walk or used my wheelchair. Instead of helping me like I always helped her, she told me she couldn't be my friend anymore because my being disabled was too painful for her. What?!?! I later figured it out. It wasn't my disability, it was the fact that others seeing me walk with two canes or seeing me in a wheelchair would distract others from looking at her and giving her all of the attention. BTW I'm a very strong empath and she was a very strong narcissist. Also, I've had 5 relationships in my life, and all of them were abusive narcissists but only one was physically abusive as well. As an empath, narcissists are all I attract so I've given up on dating. As for friends, it's the same thing. They were all narcissists. One friend was verbally, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abusive. She wanted me to be her DUFF, but I refused. It turned out that I was smarter than she was even though she had a college degree (I have ASD), I was prettier than she was, and she was fatter than I was so she screamed at me, berated me, put me down, and tried to correct everything I said even though I was right and when I proved I was right she still refused to admit it. She even told my ex-husband who she used to work with and hit on (who knows, he may have cheated on me with her, but she was always jealous of me) that I made porn with my boyfriend. I didn't make porn with him in 21 years of marriage so why would I suddenly do it with my boyfriend? I finally had enough of it and told her exactly what kind of person she was to me and how abusive she was to her daughter. She didn't take it well. Her daughter tried to threaten me because she was a Marine. I told her to bring it because I told her the truth. My daughter backed up everything I said too. Her daughter was so beaten down when she was hanging out with my daughter that she was afraid to say anything for fear thar she'd get screamed at or beaten. I had witnessed her doing both and so did my daughter. She only had two ways of talking...calm and screaming. There was never just raising her voice a bit. I think she was Bipolar. My boyfriend who she introduced me to was Bipolar as well. They had a thing before me so again...jealous. I'm not sure why. He was a horrible boyfriend. She was thrilled when I broke up with him though. Her daughter never brought it which even though she was a Marine and I had chronic pain 24/7, I still would've knocked her out. I knew how tough she wasn't and I'm very surprised that she even made it through basic training because she was so wimpy and cried if she bumped her toe...not stubbed, just bumped. Anyway, I gave up friends for the same reason I gave up dating...the abusive narcissists bled me dry. I tried dating again after not dating for over 16 years, I got the 5th abusive narcissist so I gave up. Not one of the 5 ever loved me. Abusive narcissists can only love one person...themselves. They're tricky, they pretend to be nice and sweet and innocent to draw you in for a little bit and then they become who they really are. As an empath, I think I can change them back so I end up staying way too long. I will probably die never having been loved by anyone because I'm too afraid to trust anyone again. As for friends, I don't trust them either. I was burned too many times. So why try? All they want is my energy and I need all I have to get me through the pain every day. It would be nice to be friends with another empath though so we could feed off of each other's energy when we needed it, but with my luck, it would be a narcissist disguised as an empath. I had a few of those too. I've been abused since birth, I don't need any more.
Yes, many people have said that over the hundreds of years...I believe even Shakespeare said it as well.
Yes, it's true. People will let you know what they are about, including telling you outright.
She said, "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. They know themselves way/much better than you do." ❤
The fact that the first best friend KNEW that that was going on, absolutely not!!
Withholding information is the same as lying. That's a hill I'll die on.
@@queenbee137absolutely! It’s enabling it and just as hurtful. I’ve cut off friends for way less 🤷🏼♀️
@@queenbee137Totally. If you know someone is cheating and you don’t say it, I find it also means you’re fine with cheating. Or a cheater lol
I may have missed it but when did she find out. Was it like a couple days ago and she was trying to give her chance for the other friend to come clean on her own. Or did she know about it the entire time. Like I definitely could have missed it. So I'm asking
Bestie #1 had loyalty for both friends but ultimately stood on what was right. She also gave #2 to confess herself
When bestie #3 was so ready to go and defend I KNEW
Me too, she wanted to fight for herself
dude i had NOO idea!
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I thought it was odd
Omm the ones who go the hardest way to hard are ALWAYSSSSSS the ones to watch out for
I have philosophies I live by. Here are two. "I like people, but for friends I like few people" (Marilyn Monroe). "What people think of me is none of my business" (from a book I read years ago). Admittedly the older I get the easier it is to be unsociable. My anxiety thanks me for it everyday.😊
“You can’t be friends with someone who is jealous of you.” Whew girl. That cut deep with the facts.
Took me actually years to figure out that someone I regarded as a good friend, was so jealous of me that she would visit with my mother (knowing I was at work at the time) and tell stories to cause trouble (when we were teenagers). I actually find jealousy to be wasted focus. It's the one time one should focus on oneself, and improve.
"Men wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean a thing. You might as well be a pie." MORE FACTS!
Unless they grow from it idk
I know this. I have my FAMILY MEMBER to confront. (Not saying names or if sibling or not)
@@niamphdollieofficial She never changed. I let her go.
You would actually feel like a time-warp happen on the earth because of how fast I would tell my bestie the truth of her being betrayed. If we are “best friends,” that holds real meaning for me.
Agreed. Either they’re just casual friends you don’t bother to get involved in the drama or it’s your actual best friend and your ride or die
Yep. As soon as I found out, I'd tell her
This. There seems to be a lot of people who think if someone is *cool* or they never had a problem with them, even if they've been proven to be untrustworthy it's ok to be friends with them. They could be a creep, chronic liar, cheater or whatever and that will still be the excuse. Like wtf? I don't get that.
I think that everyone in your friendship should not only know about said person, and that no one who is your friend would be friends with them knowing your history.
THIS!! YES!! 10000000% agreed. That's not a real friend without a doubt. Best friend for me isn't just some thing that can be turned on and off. If you're my best friend. That is a big deal for me. My best friend is the sister I never had. Been best friends going on a decade and trust her with the life of not just myself but my miracle of a daughter. Because time and time again she has shown how much she is truly there for me. I am VERY blessed in that sense. Best wishes to you and yours!!💖
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would.
He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day.
I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision.
25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old.
💝 💐
Charlotte praising the use of emojis in the story like giving feedback after a presentation in school. xD
“I liked that you used pictures.”
Virgo energy haha
wow this is crazy similar to my lifelong (37 yrs) friendship with my bf. Once you see how much they took advantage, the memories start flooding in and you can't pretend they are decent people anymore
My college roommate and I were super close, until she met my boyfriend... I'd been living with him for 3 years at this point. We went on a coffee date with her, the whole time through the day she kept acting like I was was the third wheel tagging along to their date. Over time she started making comments like "he's so philosophical. I really like that about him. I think I understand him better than you do. Maybe you should give him to me." And then later when she had a boyfriend who was madly in love with her and wanted to marry her, she said, "I think we should swap. You can give me yours, you can have mine. He's silly and stupid. You would like him better."
I watched her break the hearts of three boys at college. If she thought I was going to let her near my precious... She was sorely mistaken. Plus, I fail to understand how a philosophy and anthropology major is smarter than someone studying dermatology anyway... We both ended up dropping out for different reasons but she always acted like I was dumber than her. Just because I'm autistic doesn't mean I'm stupid. She cut me off when I couldn't engineer a skype call for her during my wedding which was held on a remote farm in the mountains. Yes, I am now married to the man she kept begging me for like he was a piece of cake to be passed around. She calls herself a feminist but she would subject men to the same abhorrent treatment she despisers them for herself... Pshh.
Woww what a gross person
Pure fiction
I hope that only brought you and your partner closer!! Sending you love and blessings, Hun 🫶🏻☄️✨️
These are good examples of "Don't cross oceans for people who wouldn't jump a puddle for you".
I am trying to teach my daughter this right now, and it is so hard! I told her she shouldn't feel the need to run to keep up with a friend who won't stop and wait for her. 😢
@OctobersDaughter I get you, I have twin 13 year olds and they have huge hearts that keep getting broken. I tell them never to regret giving love and friendship but they should also have a line that they won't cross and won't allow others to cross. If a friend violates those boundaries, then you know it's time to let them grow away from you. We all have to bloom where we are planted, if your friend turns out to be a weed then get em out before they start stealing the nutrients you need to live!
@Wwydn Oh, I absolutely love that! I hope you don't mind me sharing that with my daughter! She is also 13 🥰 it's great that you have twins. They will always have each other which is wonderful! I also have an 11 year old son, and I hope my two stay close as they grow up because a sibling bond is such an important thing!
@OctobersDaughter feel free to share with her! I agree, I always tell the girls that nothing should ever be allowed to come between them, that is their soul mate, their partner against the world and they should put their bond above all others, even us. Wombmates for life!
@@Wwydn THIS 👏🏽
I had a friend who's response to me getting married was, "I don't get it...I've dated way more than you have". So...yeah. having friends like that is great💁🏼♀️
😂you should have clapped back saying yeah that's why you "don't get it" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
** P.s. that's not a friend, she's just a witch who isn't any good for you. The kind that cheers at your downfalls, but not when you're winning.
When i got married I had male friends that just completely stopped talking to me. Guess they weren't really my friends.
Should have told her, “I’m quality over quantity “
That is just…. Like what a crazy thing to say 😭😭😭😭😭
Ugh, try having a sister like that!
That pesto girl will never hear the end of it. 😂
Seriously 😅... But I hope she enjoys all the weird stories 😂
@@radhikapatil1986 I read on her TikTok that she loves the Suzi Pesto stories. Heheheh!
Right?! Let the poor girl live 😂
😅😅 I thought the same thing! It's more like a play off of her than a dis'. She should be ok.😂
I hope she’s embracing it! She need to come up with her own store bought pesto crazy story!
All these toxic friend groups make me very grateful that my friends are very low drama and can still hang out around each other, even the ones who used to date and have since broken up.
One of my best friends is my ex's baby momma. We bonded over what he put us both though. I love having female friends, but finding one that's low drama is like winning the lottery. I'll cherish the few that I have. ❤
@@WhitneySt0rmy we should definitely treasure friends who are low drama 😊
I have a group of best friends that I've been friends with for most of my life, so 20+ years ❤
That is super rare especially in the times we're in now! I sooo love that for you! And truly wish I had even one like that still, even my family refuses to go on and let whatever go! So my kid's and I have like literally nobody 😮
Audible GASP when I heard bestie number 3! OMG
Saaame! By the way that gasping emoji is awesome!!
I love it when Charlotte goes heavy listening mode and just screams out of nowhere 😂
Same, it makes me laugh so hard!!!
I no and the side eye!!
Me too. Her reactions are the best😂
Her face when she’s so transfixed and then it hits her and you can see the transition from intense listen, to processing, to the yell from the audacity.
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne Ils adorent quand Charlotte passe d'une écoute sérieuse et intense, puis crie de nulle part lol! 😂💋🦄
Ladies, as my blessed mama, may she rest in peace, famously said, RRPEAT AFTER ME
"I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than one single second with you, bye".
Love that.
Imma steal that
Thanks for the line. I might use it some day!
Rest in peace Ole wise momma! 🙏 thank you for leaving those beautiful, wise words behind for us. ❤😂
"may she rest in peace and I would rather be alone than with you one second"
'You cannot be friends with a girl who is jealous of you' and 'You can't be friends with a boy-crazy woman'. Preach! God knows I learned this the hard way, and got burned and betrayed. Thanks for your sprinkles of wisdom in all your videos, Charlotte ❤ Love getting my Charlotte fix!
Yes 10000%!!!
Exactly. They just stay monitoring and trying to copy your life 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am currently working on removing the narcissists in my life who feed off my empathy and my god its a hard pill to swallow because if you're used to people love bombing and then taking advantage of you, its usually everyone around you. Growing away from the cycle and learning self care is initially isolating and depressing. Pushing through that to find the right people was and is HARD.
Good for you!!!! You can do it!!!
You can do it. All the worthwhile stuff is HARD! You are an incredible multidimensional being and You will get through this. You are already learning and this narcissist is a lesson for you. Narcissism is behavior. Have empathy and walk away. Most people don't learn and just keep going back for more. This person will teach you so much and when you are done learning the healing is easy. Discover you and your truth by going inward. Don't focus for long on his behavior. Learn why you are seeking this for yourself and then the healing comes easier and much faster. You already know this person isn't good for you. Trust your instincts. Learn and move on. It's why we're here. Don't beat yourself up. You're learning and you will be amazed when it's over at how strong you are. Most people don't make it this far....you got this. ✨🫶✨
There's video tutorials on TH-cam about how to do this
I found out from a friend that people have been talking crap about me behind my back. She only mentioned this after I was gonna hit her with some news relating to that. I had no clue people were talking about me and turns out she already knew about my news. She never came to me before to tell me what she knows. I asked her ofc who told her and who is saying what about me. The moment she said I can't say and refused to tell me anything, I knew her loyalty ain't with me.
I was in a DV situation many years ago. He also slept with a bunch of my "friends," and when it was over my best friend (a guy) chose him over me. So when I left I lost my best friend, all of my girlfriends, and my main relationship. I basically lost everyone, because of 1 guy who was putting his hands on me inappropriately out of anger. It sucked but I got through it. People can be so disloyal while expecting you to have their backs.
I'm so sorry that is so horrible. But I am glad they showed you they weren't really your friends so that you hopefully could devote your time to the people who actually have your back. It was nothing this serious but I was kind of serially used by a lot of my friends in high-school and it hurt learning how little I meant to them when we weren't face to face but my college friends showed me a lot about what true friendship is and having each other's back. I only still talk to like 2 people from high school that were genuine friends. I hope you have a good support system now
@@abbiesmith9065 I do I am surrounded by good drs. and my husband who I will have been with 18 years this May, always has my back. Sorry, you went through the disloyalty in HS, and glad you have some friends now you can trust.
That's horrible, and rough, but that shows they weren't true friends to begin with! They did you a favor! Eff em all. Lol.
The trash just took itself out sister. Happy that you're over it now ❤
Ugh, how awful. That’s why they say “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” they weren’t your people and I hope you find your real tribe. A small circle is better than the wrong circle.
Duuude I found your channel like 2 weeks ago and I’ve been watching your videos literally during all waking hours. I’m autistic and have social phobia and just moved into my first apartment alone and you’re saving my life rn every day, thank you for being so easy to follow and creating such entertaining content ❤ you’re funny as hell I swear I’ve not smiled this much in years
You're doing so well. Shine on, sweetheart!❤
Welcome! Stay as long as you like!
You are in a good place with Charlotte and the rest of us!
You guys are so Nice I really needed to hear that ❤️
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My “bff” left me during the darkest period of my life. Was willing to leave me and my son (a newborn at the time) homeless despite her living at my apt for months while not even needing to and slept with all my ex’s. That was an enemy
Oh my God hun. I’m so sorry you went through that. I am so loyal but never find friends that repay me the same so I just end up hurt. It sucks.
I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're doing much better. God bless 🙏🏼🤍
WTF?? 😟😳
Thats what best friends are for. 😢 ppl suck
Happened to me too. All of my friends left me right after my serious bf of 4 years broke up w me. This was 20 years ago and I have never recovered emotionally. Never made new friends. And this was a group of friends that were all connected to each other THROUGH ME.
Dude I had got a traumatic brain injury and this girl had the audacity to tell me not to talk about my injuries because my real friends don't want to know me that way. My real best friend bought a text book on TBI's and came to visit me at the rehab, the previous girl did not, both lived really close. I dropped that friend like a hot sack of potatoes. Im an empath I put up with her for so long. Never again.
I have a brain injury too, and some people get it, and some don't. I still have family members, and close family friends, who think that I am somehow exaggerating, or don't really understand what is wrong with me all together. I also have chronic pain, and people don't understand that either. I often think that invisible disabilities are probably one of the hardest things to deal with. What I will also say though, is that I am almost 20 years post injury, and my true friends have stuck around. It wasn't even the ones who came to the hospital, or who came to see me afterwards. It was the people who I had known for years before, who would eventually become my friends over the long haul. It did take a few years for me to find out who I was, after my brain injury, and in that time, a woman who I had literally known my entire life, who had been counted as family, turned into, my absolute best friend in the entire world. She has also been the most supportive person that I could have asked for to help me through everything. She has dealt with her own issues, and while they are not the same, we both understand each other's struggles. I managed to hold onto a few good friends and that is all that you really need to worry about, that is your foundation, the rest is just icing.
I am so glad you know a real friend. That girl just wanted to excuse her lack of empathy and compassion
Got sucked in for years in a 'bestie' relationship. Looking back, I still can't believe I didn't see the major red flags! It's not easy for the people who actually care about you to witness this. Thank you to all of you brave enough to share. Maybe someday I'll share when I'm ready but for now let's have each other's backs!
Thanks to so many for making me feel better about the fact that my so-called bestie (beastie) was a total POS.
So first story, "Bestie" #3 was lowkey trying to get "Bestie" #2 out of the way so she could have the bf to herself
I bet the GF was telling the "friend group" how good her BF was in the sack and got them thinking.
Any time friends do that to another friend they're not "besties". They are "leasties" (or "worsties" might be a better thing to call them).
@@jacklow9611 lol exactly why I put that in quotation marks
@@mrs_maverick1121 Fair enough. I guess I misunderstood. Thank you for explaining.
Right and she is stupid because he's going to do the same thing to her. That's what those types of people do.
I had a boyfriend like this, he cheated on me with my best friend while I was pregnant. Years later her crippling meth addiction tore up the family she started, and her ex and I are together, and I am raising our children in a happy, healthy home. Without those awful people. They both have major issues, and now all of our babies are safe.
Damn thay are all trash. And you are a Queen ❤ happy for you 🎉
Love that for you
The ex and the best friend are trash and you are a Queen ❤Good for you
You played the long game and you won. All my best to you.
so glad that your babies are safe & that you are happy & loved. well deserved karma for y’all’s exes.
You can feel envy, like "oh I wish I had this", and it's fine if it's a feeling and a thought and you can deal with it and move on. It happens, when your bestie has a better job and money, or a good relationship and you are single - it's natural. As long as those feelings don't consume you and there's no resentment it's fine. Jelaousy is a bit more tricky, because it grows from the "I should have it", not from "I wish", and it pushes people into dark, dark places.
Well said, I was thinking that if I don't feel like my friends have things I want then are they really having a good life? Like the alternative is looking down on them, lol. But, I think I am confusing admiration and jealousy.
@@melodymastache3401 I think a way to tell the difference is admiration is seeing someone have what you want and you being inspired to lift yourself and meet them at their level. Jealousy is wanting what they have by pulling them down and taking what is already theirs.
Lost my childhood best friend a few days ago myself, so watching this video has helped me feel a bit better about writing the entire friendship off! We were living together and there was an accidental fire at the rental house (base board wall heater got too hot and caught the floor mat and other stuff in the bathroom on fire- 70's style old house), scary incident which I was still in the house rescuing all the pets while she scampered off in the morning. But she totally bailed on me. Pretty sure she turned the temp up in the bathroom before leaving since I never put it that high, and I was still asleep when the fire occurred. She had the nerve to blame me for the fire accident, and demanded money compensation as well as "extra" compensation for the inconvenience I caused her... She even wanted me to apologize to her regarding the fire when I didn't cause it, nor did she have any concerns about me or the animals who were in the house when it happened. For the record her stuff wasn't touched by the fire beyond a light dusting of ash, whereas furniture I bought and other momentos were ruined. She didn't even tell me she was moving out, heard it from my landlord, she was ghosting all texts and only messaged me about her new money demands and time frame to have money by. Just love when your (now ex)"bestie" bails on you and doesn't care about anyone other than themselves~
That's why it's really worth having renters insurance, it's usually less than $20 a month! You also have to regularly photograph your stuff as proof that it exists in the house if it does burn down. But also ditch that chick and make sure you don't text her anything that she could later use in court to try to sue you for money (no apologies or anything). Maybe a simple denial, "I did not cause the fire." Honestly if you're right and she's the one that turned it up she might be pushing so hard so that you don't push her to pay for your stuff that was ruined.
@jessicaolson490 We had renter's insurance, used it... But it was such a hassle as my agent was out of state opposite sides and was impossible to contact. They love making it impossible to get things taken care of so I had to switch agents multiple times and ask what was needed as they refused to tell me anything without me prying for the steps... They did an awful job with repairs (insurance team through same insurance I have that the landlord was stuck with too... Landlord was awesome but the insurance team wasn't, so Landlord did a lot of the fixing of their mess ups) and we almost had a 2nd fire as insurance didn't wire the new heater correctly and they never tested it so it shorted and fried itself plus thermostat the day we were told we could move back in... Not to mention insurancr screwed up the vent fan...
Things are all fixed now though through Landlord hiring their own repair team (yay for that)
Ex best friend/roommate is gone now. Had to pay her deposit back minus all the bills she owed us to get her to leave, she even sent mean texts claiming we were never friends the entire time we lived together so I've 100% cut her out of my life! She can't do anything anymore as she got money and nothing is owed (never owed her to begin as she gave that money to landlord not me, but everyone suggested paying her to leave us alone vs her possibly picking a massive public fight over it and our landlord couldn't afford to pay her as she had all the extra repair fees. So we just kinda bought her out of the deposit she put down so she's no longer on the lease for legal purposes)
And for context non of ex-roomate's stuff was damaged as they had their room closed off and it was furthest from the fire
😢im so sorry. I used to have several very close friends who dumped me. So now i have no friends. This was 20 years ago. Now my fiance and soulmate best friend of 12 years is dead and it feels very lonely. The only friend i have is his best friend. Times are tough. Also im dying. 😂 anyway. I hope you get through this!!! ❤
If you haven't touched the heater since then, perhaps you can fingerprint it, to see if hers was the most legible. Or you can tell her the cops did, and maybe she will admit it, and you can record it. It won't hold up in court, but maybe she will stop bugging you.
@MegaMisfit138 The restoration team the landlord had through insurance ended up replacing and rewiring the replacement heater wrong. When we turned it on, it overheated and fried itself- almost caused a 2nd fire. So when they had to replace it again through a different contractor the entire dial had to be replaced as it wasn't functional... So, any evidence from 5 months ago is long gone! Unfortunately cut ties with her and just paid her to leave me alone (subtracted the bills she owed us from the total she was demanding so she didn't get everything she wanted), chalk it up to at least never having to buy her anymore Christmas/birthday gifts again since cut ties!
She did overwork our AC/heating units when she was packing to move out though, set them to 90°F... Caught her doing so on our pet cameras... Things ain't supposed to be turned up that high, and it was done to both units while we were staying at my family's waiting for damages to be repaired and waiting for her to give up her key (not to mention she had her Christmas tree up and on till the last day of packing, which was in March, fire hazzard as is)- fun times!
I feel so happy for the last girl, I recently got rid of someone toxic too and in the beginning it felt so weird I didn't know how to go about it, but now... I'M FREE!!! 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤ CHEERS TO ALL OF US EMPATHS GETTING OVER A TOXIC NARCISSIST!!! 🍻🥂
How could you ever keep something horrible from your “best friends”? The *SECOND* I found out, I’d be on the phone with mine, spilling it all! No one wants lukewarm tea. 😂
Not even God likes lukewarm!
After 12hrs of finding out, I called the cheater at his work (Friday) & gave him that evening to Sunday evening to tell his wife, my BFF, otherwise I would.
He didn't, so I did, even though it was between Christmas & her b'day on NY Day.
I was devastated knowing the truth would devastate her. But, I had her back & no choice. Best decision.
25+yrs later, we still have this precious, wonderful decades old friendship from when we were 10yrs old.
💝 💐
You've invested in TRUE RICHES! I'm so happy for both of you!!!
But yet you slept with her husband, knowing
@@shieldmaiden8128I don’t think she slept with him I think she found out he was cheating on her best friend with some girl
@shieldmaiden8128 I could be wrong, but I think they meant they caught the husband cheating with someone else, not that they slept with their friend's husband...
Story 1: My grace for Bestie 1 was "She hasn't told you yet? I told her I'd give her a little bit of time to woman up."
That ended when Bestie 1 & 5 didn't dump those POS!
Same, but i slightly wonder how much bestie 5 knew
Bestie #1 was conflicted. I am sure.
My cousin was my best friend, I was so naive as a kid till probably 17-ish. My cousin (Steph) was so jealous of my body, hated how pretty I looked, which I was so insecure of. She would talk about my body in front of me to her boyfriends, which made me feel weird. I was like a lost puppy to her. She showed me her true self. I hate her so much for manipulating me so much. She is family sadly. I'm so thankful for my friends who helped me see everything she did to me, and made me realize it all. I haven't talked to her for a while. My depression is bad but my insecurities are no more.
Then why are you depressed??? Ija...
@@uwilberforce4628 I’ve been depressed since 6th grade my depression isn’t from my cousin but from my father, I don’t know why I wrote about my depression at the end, not gonna lie
The girl from the share the bf story.... she is literally the best friend in the k drama "marry my husband".... 100% that person that just wants to take everything away from her best friend to feel better about herself and then acts pathetic to get her friend to forgive her instead of walking away
I had a "best" friend in my adult years who was jealous of me. It was stupid because she had a lot of wonderful things going on in her life. She would take opportunity to set me up to get hurt or embarrassed. I had people thinking twice about who I was. Needless to say, I removed her from my life and never looked back. 😊😊😊
I wonder if beneath the jealousy in them, lies the unpalatable truth that they are not meeting their own best potential? At the base level of all poor self esteem hides the realization that they could be better, if they do better, but it's all too hard, and the friend they are jealous of makes it all look so easy. They're very superficial in their thinking, if they think it out at all. I've had a similar experience to you, and thought "seriously, we're practically old, should be past all that dumb high school telling tales stage and backstabbing". I said goodbye and haven't spoken to her since. All because of jealousy, which honestly, I couldn't comprehend why. If you see someone "ahead" of you in some way, work to make the gap smaller or focus on your own weaknesses, remedy things. Find out how they did it lol. Pick their brains, not nitpick.
@@Kayenne54 I love that. Great insight. We all have attributes that others wish for, as we wish for them too. Use that as a radar for yourself to make yourself a better person. There’s no need for jealousy, that only puts obstacles in our way. Obstacles of our own making. Thank you Kayenne for responding. Have a blessed day.
It probably wasn't material things. Some people will be jealous of your kindness, the way others relate to you, your confidence etc. There's a saying...Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons.
@@Curvesohyeah 🤣🤣🤣 that sounds about right. Thank you for sharing. 😉
@@Curvesohyeah Your last sentence is what I've reluctantly come to observe. The more someone "instantly" dislikes me, the more I have found out that they are in some way, falling short of their own spiritual/moral goals. I'm not coming from some high and mighty Mt Olympus view point; I'm down here in the mud with everyone else, plodding onwards, and sometimes even upwards. But invariably, if I'm met with unwarranted hostility (I haven't set out to offend, or have nasty intentions), it is because they are hiding something ABOUT THEMSELVES from themselves, and I am somehow acting as an unwelcome mirror. Which, for someone who carries the two-edged sword of empathy, makes for lots of relationship juggling. It's not my job to make them face anything. It's their own task. Unless they ask.
I'm with you Charlotte, the older I get the smaller my friend circle gets too! I have no time or patients to be dealing with fake friendships.
In college I was sent flowers anonymously for Valentines. My best friend at the time insisted that the flowers could only have come from my brother, who was 19, poor, and living in a foreign country at that time! She had never been sent flowers so I feel like she was threatened that I got some. We aren’t friends anymore. Not because of the flowers, but largely due to similar behavior from her. Luckily, I have found some much better friends.
mann idk how people are like this!! i been single for almost a year with no action and i kid you not my best friend told me thursday that she was single and she got a sweet guy buying her flowers already!! i was so excited i swear i started worshiping her rizz 😂😂
@@twocathome399it might not be "rizz" though if ya know what I mean. 😉 She might just be a "304". JS.
@@A83-A83the obsession with women being 304s is ridiculous. Can women breath without being one. Yikes a girl can even get flowers. Grow up
Who sent the flowers?!? It’s like you told only half a story, I need to know! 😆
@@Glowrollerdisco I never did find out. There was no name on the card and no one ever said anything to me.
My peer group are mostly in our 50s 60s some 70s some 40s, and while it's less common when we're older (more of us die 😆) it does still happen.
But we're also more upfront about calling people out on their crap, and being more supportive of each other. Women have to treat each other better, because if we don't demand it from ourselves, no one else will treat us with respect.
Wisdom.
some of my absolute worst experiences post high school /in early 20s we’re exactly these kind of dilemmas. a jealous friend who tries to turn others against you, a toxic friend group that caused me to lose the person i thought was a real friend but didn’t back me up when she knew how the others had treated me… it’s crazy how petty and toxic grown adults are. honestly worse than middle schoolers lol
I had "friends" & a fiancé just like this (ex-friends & ex-fiancé now). And even like a decade later, Friend #1 would say "at least I didn't sleep with your fiancé" whenever she did something sh*tty. Like she genuinely wanted points for that. She knew about all of the cheating & never told me. She was angry when I found out I was pregnant because she was upset she wouldn't be my priority. Stupid, childish things like that. And yeah... don't stay friends with people like this.
The BEST REVENGE is living well. I hope the narcissistic friend keeps hearing about how well the empathetic friend is doing for the rest of her friendless life.
she has a channel with her sweet British husband!!!!
Girl!! Your editors crack me up with those tib bits that pop-up with the sound effects! LOVE IT!!!
The second girl...omg, it just kept going and going. I was like NOOO, how?!
Moral of the stories: find friends with morals
I’m sorry to the last girl and… I needed to see this because it helped me see how awful a friendship I was in was. Thanks for your courage sharing because this happened to me, too. Even though I know it was awful and I was abused, I stillll sometimes blame myself and get upset with myself and call myself awful things when I see her🤦🏻♀️
Same I felt that story so strong
I wish you both healing, comfort, strength, support, Light, Hope, & Peace.
You both deserve better than people who betray, use, & exploit you. ❤️
My days are instantly made better when there's a petty queen video.
It's stories like these that make my social anxiety feel like a positive curse for once.
Much love from London 🇬🇧
I literally cut off my best friend of 15 years. I'm 33 now. I am an empath. Her and I have been through SO MUCH through out the years. I was always the one taking the blame, and the heat. I was ALWAYS the one apologizing. The last straw was when she got back with someone a few years ago, who was involved with a huge part of my PTSD 12 years ago. I heard her out, and I tried so hard to be her partners friend FIR HER, but I just couldn't. Not only that, but she had the audacity to call me two faced about it, minimized my trauma and experience, not taking one ounce of responsibility for a single thing. 3 years ago she blocked me after cutting me with every word she could. Last month she asked a mutual friend for my number. I allowed it, thinking she grew up. Nope. She immediately went into her manipulation and gas lighting me. Not one apology. Even told me she just wants the "old me" back. I told her, I have grown so much. And if she's looking for the old me, she no longer exists. I was willing to extend my friendship to her and her alone. I was able to forgive her partner, for myself. But I DO NOT have to be friends with someone who heavily participated in my trauma. Take it or leave it. And she continued to tell me setting boundaries is bullcrap cause she never did with me. At that point I said, have a nice life. And blocked her. I'm a healed/still healing version of myself. I refuse to be walked on anymore. I guess you could say I'm in my Villan Era. And I no longer care what others think about their version of me. I Let them carry on with their delulu.
❤️💪🏾
I’m so happy for you. One tip from a fellow empath to another..keep saying what you mean and mean what you say. People will never respect you if you don’t set boundaries. You don’t lose a friend by setting boundaries, you lose dead weight.
@carolynmcdonald2746 oh yes, I most definately know half of setting the boundary is holding it. Thanks for the encouragement. It's taken me a LONG time to get to this level of confidence and belief in myself. It's an amazing feeling to know your worth, and when your able to start really seeing it, you start truly seeing who not only doesn't see it, but doesn't value it. Ive put in a solid year of therapy and addressing my BPD. I've made so much inner growth. Onto of that mental growth, I've lost SO MUCH weight and have started becoming a healthier better version of myself. I planted a seed within myself a year and a half ago, called love. And I was so kind to the seed. I nurtured it. And now I can see who is for me, and who isn't. At least a whole lot better then I used to.
I know the feeling exactly
@@shayecastellano5483 that’s awesome…again I’m so happy for you
Monica’s cray cray friend wasn’t in love with her, she was in love with the attention she got from Monica. And because she’s a narcissist she wanted to have all the attention for herself. So she sabotaged every relationship she got in or just didn’t acknowledge it. It has happened to me so many times, fortunately i got around to cutting people off earlier, but i have so many friendships that ended when i got a boyfriend because i didn’t spend enough time with my friends (even though i tried to invite them to lot’s of things and made time for the two of us, still wasn’t enough though)
That last one, she was in love with you/obsessed which is why she was pushing everyone else away and trying to get you out of any relationships you were in.
100000%. I know a girl like that. She did the exact same thing lmao.
I can confirm that *multiple times*, even when we called ahead and told them we would be travelling and they'd start to see weird charges, that our card has been locked without our permission while travelling. We have a backup card for exactly this reason because when you need gas in the middle of an interstate at 2am, you seriously do not have time to sit on the phone with fraud protection that's not even open yet to get it unlocked so you can keep going. Like, thank you for protecting me, but maybe not from myself? When I put a notice it was gonna be me?
There is a huge difference between EMPATH and PUSHOVER !! 💯
True... I'm an empath too, but as soon as I felt taken for a ride by former friends... I was like, "cool, have a nice life" and that was the end of it. I'm not sorry I was friends with them, cause I learnt stuff and grew as a person, but yeah. As an empath, you do tend to attract some real selfish people... and I don't mean in the material way. Nor does it stop at just friends... family too.
@@m0t0b33 same.
Wrong. Most empaths are pushovers. You are actually an anomaly if you’re an empath and not pushed over. Anytime someone uses the 100 emoji, I assume they’re slow
@@yeahumad6085 you can be empathetic and still honour your boundaries. So, no you are completely wrong.
Not extreme to cut out people who betray or undermine you. It's self care and realizing self worth. ❤❤
Omg Charlotte! You took the words out of my mouth at the end lol "Hit a little too close to home" For those of us who have a huge heart that we wear on our sleeves it is really hard to find genuine good girlfriends. The ones that really just want to be there for you and put the same energy into your friendship as you. I cry to my husband so the time because I keep befriending those who use me for one thing or another and/or walk all over me. Even if they didn't initially start the friendship with that intent somehow before long they pick up on how hard it is for me to say no and how important it is for me to make people happy and if I can do something then I do it even if I don't want to. Also they see that I always put my feelings and myself on the back burner. I'm working on these things but knowing my tendencies and the way I am doesn't make them easy to stop nor does it help find people who aren't willing to take advantage of a person or their situation. At least I know I'm not alone as sad as that makes me to say.
I had 2 best friends. We did everything together. Birthdays, holidays, vacations, bbqs… you know- close. All of our partners, family etc. So one afternoon I had a late business lunch. I wasn’t in our town but I was two towns (26 miles away) over. So I’m talking to my clients and we’re eating. Im kinda scanning the room, you know- as you do in public. So I look around and I see a couple sitting at a table and my brain thinks “hey there’s Tim” but it’s not actually a real realization yet. So I look back. Sure enough, it’s Tim. He’s holding this lady’s hand and the lady has long frizzy blonde hair. And his wife Shay has a black pixie and is built like a pencil. She’s beautiful 🤩 and kind, sweet, compassionate… anyway. So I think huh? Must be his aunt or something. She’s a bit older than us, dressed very matronly… so I continue with my meeting. Until…. I see him kiss that lady like he was Roto-rooting her throat. 🤢🤮 I shot iced tea out of my nose!! I got my phone out and zoomed in and recorded. 😑 That night I call other best friend and told her what happened and told her she had to go with me to tell Shay. Uggggh. We went to lunch the next afternoon. I couldn’t sleep. I felt nauseous. I knew this was going to hurt her and I was going to be the one who changes the trajectory of her marriage… we get to the restaurant and order our drinks. I can’t hold it in anymore. I didn’t want to order food I wouldn’t be able to eat anyway so I told her there was a reason I asked her to lunch. I tell her. I show her the video. She’s just sitting there kinda blank. But then she looks at Mia and says YOU knew about this?!? And I’m all confused. And Shay says “That’s your aunt Kathy isn’t it”?!? Omg I was floored. Needless to say Shay got a divorce from Tim. Tim married Kathy. Mia married Tim’s younger brother. Shay and I are still friends and laugh often about the Jerry Springer show episode her life was. 😅 I had to tell. I would’ve spontaneously combusted
Smh,that poor girl, I can't imagine having "friends" like that. I'm still best friends with my childhood best friends, one time back in school, one of my Bestie's Boyfriend (we all hung out so I guess he thought I was his friend) told me about cheating on my bestie. I wasted NO TIME & told her as soon as i saw her again that day. We still laugh that he ever thought that I wouldn't tell her, like what?? Needless to say she broke up with him. They both live farther away now but we still have our msg group with all three of us. Been Bestie's for over 20 yrs now!
A friendship IS a type of relationship. Friendships can be toxic, too.
Your calling out the narcissist/empath relationship is spot on. Because of my trauma hx I studied and now work in the behavioral health industry. I feel you. Hugs.❤
But isn't the term Empath not the correct term though? Doesn't everyone mean Codependency? Empaths can still have the ability to stand up for themselves against Narcissistists. I feel like Codependents who don't know about their Codependency often mistake being used because they "had a kind empathetic heart". But to reject Empathy would mean Narcissism.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611 being empathetic makes you an easy mark for narcissists. They take advantage of the need to please and care for others, and the intense need for understanding.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611healthy empaths who aren’t inherently codependent can fall into the narcissist/empath dynamic if the narcissist is manipulative enough and if the empath is inexperienced. I unfortunately had the empath/narcissist dynamic with someone when I was a teen. I’m not a codependent person, that was the only codependent relationship I ever had. But I was young, had never met a narcissist before and they take advantage of the fact that most young empaths see the good in people and want to help. So the issue isn’t codependency as it really is naivety for most empaths. And while many empaths can stand up for themselves, that’s only after they’ve experienced being walked all over.
One time, my best friend (at the time) and I went on a girl's trip to Miami with my mom and my mom's best friend. From the moment we landed, this girl took over and tried to make the entire trip about her-to the point where my mom/mom's best friend were giving her the side eye and didn't even want to be around her.
So, on our last night there, she and I decided to just walk around downtown Miami-find a nice place to eat, then maybe hit a club or something.
After roaming around for a bit, we stumbled across this really cute restaurant, and decided we'd eat there...and here's when the bs started: We got sat, the host handed us our menus and, to our surprise, there were *no prices.* Like, at all. From the wine, to the cocktails, to the apps, to the entrees-we had no idea of what any of these items cost. Sounds dumb now, but we were too embarrassed to ask about pricing; didn't want to seem broke, I guess (which we were lol, we both had maybe like $150 left to our name). So, in our minds, we'd play it safe by ordering a glass of wine each, and share 2 apps.
After we were finished, our server dropped the bill and it was $102. This girl literally looked at bill and scream-whispered, "I've got a plan, I'm gonna get up and go to the bathroom-wait for like 2 minutes, then pretend you're going to the bathroom as well... then we'll just sneak out the door." I'm no saint, but there's no way I'd ever walk a tab. I've been in the service industry for a number of years-so has she-and that's like one of the worst things to be on the receiving end of. So, I told her no...like we're not going to do that. She goes, "Well, if you want to sit here and pay for the bill, that's on you. I'm leaving."
Do you know this trick actually got up and left me! I had to pay that entire bill, plus I left at 20% tip, because that's what I always do-I'm not going to leave a crappy tip just because I'm low on funds-so, it came out to like $120 something. Mind you, I only had $150 to my name.
When I finally caught up with her outside, she was wayyyy down the street, flirting with some random dudes. I confronted her and basically told her that she needed to give me half of what I paid. She said, "Why? I told you what the plan was-you didn't follow it, sounds like a personal problem." When I tell you, I was *seething.*
And that's not where it ended. Later on, we got in a screaming match in the hotel lobby, which ended our friendship, over something else she wound up doing that night.
Let's just say, the flight home was verrryyyy awkward 😬
Hows her life now?
My ex-best friend and I were friends for five years and we actually helped each other through good and bad times, like real friends would. (She always got good grades while mine were okay-ish to lightly bad and we both came from different family financial situations), but it all changed when I got better grades than her in our final exam and she started treating me like i was an entitled rich kid, always getting angry whatever I said and saying that my personal problems where pathetic especially since my family was financially more stable than others.
It really hurt especially since we were real friends at some point, I always been happy for her achievements and progress.
I told her that she hurt my feelings and if I did anything wrong she should tell me, but I never got a reason nor an apology, so I parted ways with her.
The first story “bestie #1” can’t be blamed, she was being loyal to her best friend too. She had to betray one of them. As for the guy he don’t owe his ex any loyalty either. If he made a move on the friends; they should be loyal to her a dub him. Also, MOST OF THESE FRIENDS ENCOURAGE YOU TO LEAVE THE MAN NOT BECAUSE HE MESSED UP BUT BECAUSE THEY WANT HIM FOR THEMSELVES.
“ it’s you or the pie 🥧 “ sent me 😂 too real
I had a female friend who I introduced to a group of my gay friends to build bridges and while in said group they not only turned her against me but then when an ex of mine moved back into town, one of them apparently hooked up with my ex and i didnt find out until the group broke up due to similar drama. Lesson learned: keep your friend group small and tight with trustworthy people.
I'd also suggest that if you belong to multiple friend groups that don't know each other, avoid mingling them together. You'll start as the common denominator, but could end up the odd one out. It helps a lot because if you get tired of one group's drama, you can take a break and hang out with different people.
Met at 3 months old, friends for 35+ years, covered her at work when she had Covid. I was asked to stay on, she kept calling in sick (insisted I cover her, over and over for 2 years) she refused to cover me, she kept lying about being sick so employer terminated her. Guess who got the blame for it? Rumours spread, lost other friends because of her lies. Don’t miss her as I was always only there for her convenience anyway. #respectyourself
Me and my parents didn't go on holiday either. It wasn't affordable for 3 people. And when I was 16 I said to them. "I'm gonna go to spain with the church youthgroup then you can go on holiday by yourselves." They were hesitant at first and I've never told them I had a miserable time at church camp.
I'm honestly so sorry, that was selfless of you
Wait... if it was too expensive collectively, how did it make sense for you to go to Spain separately? And them go on a different vacation? What am I missing here?
@@phoenixdavida8987 It was only a small fee to go with the youth group. The majority was paid by the church. And my parents went somewhere on a discounted couples retreat in Italy.
As the great Maya Angelou once said, "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time."
“You cannot be friends with a girl whos jealous of you.” Is so so so SO TRUE. I no longer spend time with people that appear jealous of me or aren’t totally on my team. I almost lost a job bc of a “friend” who during Covid told everyone I was a party girl and a slut so there was no way I was being safe and staying home. I literally was dating one guy and stayed at home all the time. They banned me from staff meetings. Then I tried to befriend my bf’s friend who would say things like “oh…didn’t realize this was fashion week and we needs to go overboard.” When I just LOOKED NICE FOR DINNER bc she looked like a slob all the time and was in love w my bf. She screamed at me in a coffee shop when I tried to give her friendly advice bc she asked me for advice. Glad that now I have her blocked on everything and my bf hasn’t seen her in a year lol. If you are jealous and mean to your friend you are NOT BEING A REAL FRIEND.
The jealousy part hit me. The jealous friend abuśed me for years. I moved on but the pain still remains. Has effected my life on making friends
This is why I keep to my self, I'm 43 and NO friends. I get lonely sometimes but I pray and my best friend listens to me everytime I speak to him and that is God 🙏
Late 30s.. I have two legit friends and they’re online only. I understand and sympathize for the loneliness at times. God bless!
@@Jenny_Rose_ 🙏💜🙏 same to you love 🙏💜🙏
Amen to that!
@@tswain92_ 🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen 🙏 🙏🙏🙏
I was in my late 40's when I wrote off the last of my "friends" I don't feel as much of a need for them anymore. I'm not opposed to making new friends if it happens but I won't go out of my way. I like being alone and only very rarely feel lonely.
Charlotte, listening to explain empaths and narcissists, was alot like listening to you describe my life 😮😢😢❤❤❤
I do not have friends any more and I am much happier for it. I always say I am friendly towards everybody, I am friends with no-one.
I also don't have friends anymore, although I am unhappy. I still have my freedom, but I don't take betrayal well and I am NOT a peaceful lady.
When your friend is the type of woman who is gonna stay no matter what, then it's a waste of time to tell them their bf/husband is cheating. And sometimes when you do tell them, they get angry with you. I know of three friends who married their bf's after learning they had cheated.
I sit here and literally talk with you about all this tea like we are besties ❤😂 I love watching your videos babe!
Im a person with a hefty amount of moral objections so I love how you speak on these matters.
every time i hear stories like these im so glad that my group of friends is amazing and we all support each other and have been friends for so many years. no drama, no issues 🥰
26:53
"It's literally tales as old as time"
...." ugh, I have trauma" 😂
Same girl . Same.....😢😂😮
Everyone gets jealous now and then, even friends. Bad friends hold on to that feeling and blame you for their own feelings of inadequacy rather than boosting you up, being happy for your successes, and being boosted up in return.
Omg these photo props and sound effects had me rolling today. Lol 😂
I love how the young woman around the 12 minute mark says "the funds." I'm obsessed with how she says it. It's so cute.
that first girls story and explanation of the lesson was top tier, like she's got a heart of gold and didn't deserve that
Monica: "What shall we cook for them?" I'm thinking Donner party...
I was unfortunately one of those people who tried to be friends with someone who was jealous of me. They treated me awful and I kept blowing it off. I realized after two months that no one was my friends. I was constantly being excluded
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer!
These videos are endless, I can be happy forever
Thank you for these videos. As someone who doesn’t really know what is okay and what isn’t, and who is super anxious about making a mistake, this is very informative.
I'm convinced "jealous friend Olivia" was just in love with her bestie and didn't know how to approach that. She was jealous of her, probably, but also probably wanted to be With her.
I literally had a friend in school who started dating an ex of mine as soon as we broke up. She told everyone she could that he thought I was as ugly as a dog. She laughed when I confronted her and said, “oh it’s just a joke. It’s not that deep, but I thought it was hilarious.” I was like “i hope he was worth our friendship.” She rolled her eyes and I walked off. Never spoke to her again. She tried getting a hold of me on Facebook years later and I added her only to block and delete her lol. I don’t need that in my life
I was party friends with a boy crazy girl but didn't recognize it cuz I was boy crazy too 😂 We had us some timessss! With her wavy waist-length raven hair, high cheekbones & bedroom eyes, she caught lotsa attention! She, Ren, had a petite athletic frame & always wore heels to be taller😂 Also, she always wore deep shades of red lipstick. I'd been seeing this cutie Rick for several months & we'd slept over at each other's homes a few times. The 1st time I went to Rick's, he showed me around & talked about paintings displayed in his home. He was very fond of 3 specific pieces & went on & on about the artist. Not really my style art, but I faked interest. Rick had money, a nice home, badass car & great sense of style. I didn't know about his work, just that he was in sales. Anyway, FF 3 months... Me & Ren were at her house getting ready for a night out of cocktails & dancing, when Rick called asking if I wanted to hang out. After conferring with Ren, I told Rick he could meet us at the club. Rick & Ren knew about each other, but hadn't met. Rick arrived at the club an hour after me & Ren. I introduced them, then Rick handed me the removable faceplate of his car stereo & asked if I mind keeping it in my bag; not much bigger than a regular hair comb, not a problem. I offered to buy the 1st round & rather than wait for a waitress, I went over to the bar. The club was packed; I couldn't see our table thru the crowd! Like 10 minutes later, as I approached our table, drinks in hand, I saw Ren & Rick chatting & laughing. I don't typically get jealous & was happy to see my friend & current beau getting along. It was such an act - on Ren's part. A few minutes after I got back to our table, Rick went outside to take a call. I never saw him again! As soon as he was outta earshot, Ren told me Rick was hitting on her while I was off buying drinks. I was like, I love you girlfriend!! I took Rick's stereo faceplate outta my bag, set it on the table we hauled ass. The parking lot was full and I know Rick didn't see us leave, cuz next thing I know, I got a text from him reaming me for leaving his faceplate sitting out in the open on the table 😂 He didn't ask where we went or anything. He knew! Guess he was used to girls that stab each other in the back? Rick told Ren that he really liked me a lot, but he sees other women. News to me!! He literally asked Ren out on a date after knowing her 10 minutes! After Ren told me what happened, we went from party buddies to besties! We're separated by hundreds of miles now, but remain friends to this day. As for Rick, we found out about his job in sales when we read the news he was arrested for dealing. Me & Ren were getting ready to go out & as she applied her red lipstick, it hit me; I was like, OMG! Ren you look just like the girls in the paintings that Rick had!! 😂😂 She really did!! Rick likely knew he was gonna go for Ren the second he laid eyes on her. What an unbelievable schmuck!
I like watching Charlotte's facial expressions while she is listening. It's funny to watch her cause her gestures when she is suspicious of someone in the story. She's like 🤨 🤔🤔😒 and then, when the plot twist comes, she is always right about who was untrustworthy! Lol
I'm grateful for the last one. Insanely similar sorry... I had a friend for 21 years (our parents were friends so from 0-21 we were friends or I thought so) when I was 21 I said I can't do it anymore and we never spoke again (I won't go into reasons why). I'm 30 now and all this time I struggled with thinking was I wrong should I have just forgiven her again maybe it would be different.... but what this girl said " she was never there from me and when she needed I jumped every time"... that hit home hard... I won't feel any guilt anymore
I feel like I need emojis in all of Charlotte's videos now. They really help 😂
Charlotte you're not jaded, you're a realist 💯 🤎🖤🤎🖤✌🏼
Personally I call myself cynical😊
It amazes me how some ppl can figure out a person's intentions or motivation for their actions in a 10 minute video but it takes some of us 20 yrs. Is that wisdom or are the rest of us in denial? But I can watch these for hours.
It's harder to catch when it's happening to you honestly, because they will love bomb and build a bond with you first. While being outside of the situation it can be VERY clear that someone is acting out of pocket
I had a very similar experience to Monica’s. I started to really question what I was doing to cause these things to happen to me. I realized it’s not that I am doing anything to cause it, it’s just how I am that makes it easier for people to do to me and me not stick up for myself. Because I give and forgive. So I’ve started cutting off, but unfortunately that makes them mad too and I still have to share certain spaces with this person.
Girl you bring me joy!!
IF YOU NEED HUMBLING DONT COME OVER HERE!!!
KEEP SHINING BABY!
YOU’RE CHANGING THE WORLD!
STAY BLESSED❤
2:08 the yoga pose😭😭🖐
14:44 I am not standing up for that friend, but my bank locked my card because of a suspicious/fraudulent charge, and it was one I wasn’t aware of, so I was glad it got caught… but I found out it was locked at a terribly embarrassing moment trying to purchase something. I went to an ATM machine to W/D the money, but it wouldn’t go thru. The real irony is that I had just left the bank ATM depositing more than enough cash, if I would’ve stopped at the store first, I would’ve been able to just pay with cash. It was so ridiculous 😂
So true; you can't be friends with people who are jealous of you. It can have a tragic end, like that poor beautiful young lady, Shanquella Robinson. She helped pay for her "friend" group to a vacation in Mexico, only to be jumped on and attacked and filmed, by these"friends" and lose her life. 😢
I’m 45 and have had the same best friend since first grade. Recently had to end the friendship and I could t be happier.
Cracks me up every time Angry Grandma pops up . I love her.