Beautiful story I was in a relationship with an older man for 13 years I met him at a McDonald's back in 2004. I was 32 and he was 79 going on 80. He was such a very kind and caring man whom I loved very deeply with all my heart and soul. sadly he passed away in November of 2017 at the age of 93. I recently came out to my family and others I'm in the process of coming out to. My Mom said she knew about us and she did not judge one bit. It's great to finally be out !
I'm 58 and my partner of three years is 29. We live together in China. We both do well in our careers, but during the pandemic I lost my job in China and was stuck here. He took financial care of me without complaint, so it's not that "I'm keeping him". We laugh, we banter, I am older and wiser about some things and he helps me with anything electronic. We just work as a couple. In my African culture, we say, "Every pot has a lid." And its true!
Thanks for sharing your experience. Also, people tend to forget financial abuse happens between same-age couples all the time. That is not an age specific issue.
My 1st partner was 27 years older than me and we were together nearly 10 years. When I got together with my 2nd partner, now husband, my sister said, "why don't you go with someone your own age?" There's 25 years between me and my husband and it's worked very well. Our finances have been reasonably equal throughout, and while he has been retired a lot of our time together and he ran the household in all that time, I'm now caring for him full time, so he has to put up with my cooking, God help him! 😂
I'm 31 and my wife is 51, we have two children both age 10. I personally see nothing wrong with it, the moment you're an adult it should be irrelevant how old your partner is. I had issues because she was my former high school teacher, eventually my mother and father approved of the relationship and we have been married since 2014.
My parents were about 15 years apart and that was never ever an issue at all either. Honestly I never even thought about it growing up. I'm not saying that always works for everyone, but it doesn't automatically make it wrong either.
It is always nice to hear and see these types of scenarios. Yet it is remarkable to try and understand the amazement. Before people began to live longer...did we all date the partners of the same age? Younger women always married older more experienced men,back in the day....and there were no raised eyebrows. Yet today...everyone is so judgmental and critical. Color,age,race,religion,sex,sexual orientation,bi,trans,deaf,blind...and on and on. Why in the world would any advanced Alien species want to interact with humans??? We are petty and small minded.....We are our own worst enemies. Love the channel...yet it seems like such a moot issue. Who cares??? Can we just all be happy... for anyone who is not killing someone and paying their taxes. Grow Up!!
And usually the ones who are that judgmental are the ones who have failed miserably. Maybe they feel if they throw tantrums, they can hide behind the loud noises they’re making.
I have always felt that intergenerational relationships were simply a boy/sugar daddy relationship, and have treated such as that all my life (now 88). I've been stung more than once because of this, lost a lot of money because of it, and have decided never to have any relationship with anyone years younger than myself. I think that those relationships which are successful are indeed fortunate, but also few and far between.
That sounds more like a failed repeated pattern than an issue with a particular age-related relationship though. Are there boy/sugar daddy relationships out there? Of course there are. Some older guys and younger boys/girls are into that type of relationship. They even have paid services for that idea, but you can't use that to generalize a whole concept. Since I've been working on this project, I've seen many age-gap relationships that are exactly the opposite of what you described. The older one in the relationship is retired and lives on social security, and the younger is the one who has a full time job and really the breadwinner in the family. I've also seen many age-gap relationship fail because the younger always works and doesn't have much time for anything...whereas the older one has so much time on his hand (rightfully so) and wants to enjoy life but there's that conflict. Besides, same-age relationships can be extremely toxic as well. Financial abuse or abusive behavior in general can happen to anyone and everyone. So there's that perspective as well. Now, if a well-established older man wants to date an 18 year old who doesn't even know what he wants? That's just asking for trouble!
I've been together with my partner for 30 years, I'm 62 now and he's 82. And it's been an open relationship for those 30 years. I've always been interested in older men since age 15, which is when I came out, officially 18, wink. At age 15 I was having sex with a priest that I seduced, he didn't seduce me, lol. He was about 20 to 30yrs older. After that all the men I dated were about the same age, between 20 - 30yrs older. I own my home, I've lived in my home since age 3. My foster parents gave it to me after they passed. My partner had a stroke in 2011 and I take care of him between working. It's hard but we are a team, I cook for me now like he use to before his stroke. We've made it work for 30 years and I'm sure it's going to continue working, wink. Have a GREAT week, and thanks for sharing your story.
I don't see any problem, really. If there’s comprehension, when it comes to understanding generation differences and interests, gap means nothing serious.
My first partner has 21 years older than me. And my second partner is 16 years older than me. I love them both, coz they love me so much. I decide to have 2nd partner coz my 1st is life far from me. Both of them are married with woman, first with 3 kids and 2nd has 2 kids. Coz I love older married man. The first we dated from 2009. And second from 2019.
@@PeshawariSoul I don’t have any control over that. Maybe he’s busy, traveling or whatever. Also, he probably gets a ton of messages. It’s possible that he wouldn’t want to respond to casual type of private chats.
@@PeshawariSoul But you see men of his age are generally like that. Their day to day interactions don't really come from social media followings. I know what you mean, but it's just not how it works for most of them.
Sure the older partner may be contributing more financially, at least at the beginning. The real question is whether the younger person is behaving like a parasite or pursuing work and career, but just not yet at the income level the older partner is. Also the older partner may have become used to a certain standard of living and is not willing to go back to a lower standard, so opts to finance the larger portion of the couple's lifestyle.
I wouldn't say that's the REAL question at all. There are so many factors at play that it becomes a case-by-case scenario. Who's to say if that's even a question in the first place? There are literally millions of older people out there who are specifically attracted to a younger type and voluntarily finance those relationships. For them, this particular question is completely irrelevant because that's exactly what they want. They're not interested in someone who's at work all the time! That's their dream relationship. Anything goes! Now, if you're talking about an unwanted or abusive relationship, that could happen in any type of relationship. All it takes is a person of any age who is lazy, unmotivated, or entered the relationship for all the wrong reasons. Again, this is not an age-specific issue at all-it's a very visible phenomenon across all age groups. In fact, most relationships of any kind fail due to financial disputes of some type, where one accuses the other .... . You also missed many relationships where the older partner is retired with a fixed income, and the younger partner is actually the caretaker and primary supporter of the family. I've seen that scenario hundreds of times in just the past three years while meeting people and documenting their stories. Without going into details, I've seen this many times. There's so much MORE to the stereotypical idea of a younger person living off an older person. There's so much more! This topic is way beyond a TH-cam comment. There could be a number of episodes just to cover a few ideas on this subject.
I had a 31 year relationship with my 22 year older life partner that was wonderful. Our life together was fulfilling and I learned so much from him.
We have a 39 year age gap, and have been together for 10 years! We have an amazing life together :)
That's wonderful! 39 years it's a pretty big gap, but sounds like you guys were able to make it work.
Beautiful story I was in a relationship with an older man for 13 years I met him at a McDonald's back in 2004. I was 32 and he was 79 going on 80. He was such a very kind and caring man whom I loved very deeply with all my heart and soul. sadly he passed away in November of 2017 at the age of 93. I recently came out to my family and others I'm in the process of coming out to. My Mom said she knew about us and she did not judge one bit. It's great to finally be out !
Good to know that your mom handled the situation pretty well. Thanks for sharing your story. May he rest in peace.
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I'm 58 and my partner of three years is 29. We live together in China. We both do well in our careers, but during the pandemic I lost my job in China and was stuck here. He took financial care of me without complaint, so it's not that "I'm keeping him". We laugh, we banter, I am older and wiser about some things and he helps me with anything electronic. We just work as a couple. In my African culture, we say, "Every pot has a lid." And its true!
Thanks for sharing your experience. Also, people tend to forget financial abuse happens between same-age couples all the time. That is not an age specific issue.
We used to call age difference relations "May-December" relationships years back.
ha ha ha, that's cool. Never heard of that before.
My 1st partner was 27 years older than me and we were together nearly 10 years. When I got together with my 2nd partner, now husband, my sister said, "why don't you go with someone your own age?" There's 25 years between me and my husband and it's worked very well. Our finances have been reasonably equal throughout, and while he has been retired a lot of our time together and he ran the household in all that time, I'm now caring for him full time, so he has to put up with my cooking, God help him! 😂
He's lucky to have you. Sadly, many gay elderly do not have anyone special in their lives.
Great couple ❤ there is 41 years between me and my husband
Thanks!
Thank you very much dear Alex!
I'm 31 and my wife is 51, we have two children both age 10. I personally see nothing wrong with it, the moment you're an adult it should be irrelevant how old your partner is. I had issues because she was my former high school teacher, eventually my mother and father approved of the relationship and we have been married since 2014.
My parents were about 15 years apart and that was never ever an issue at all either. Honestly I never even thought about it growing up. I'm not saying that always works for everyone, but it doesn't automatically make it wrong either.
Love his voice and how he speaks
It is always nice to hear and see these types of scenarios. Yet it is remarkable to try and understand the amazement. Before people began to live longer...did we all date the partners of the same age? Younger women always married older more experienced men,back in the day....and there were no raised eyebrows. Yet today...everyone is so judgmental and critical. Color,age,race,religion,sex,sexual orientation,bi,trans,deaf,blind...and on and on. Why in the world would any advanced Alien species want to interact with humans??? We are petty and small minded.....We are our own worst enemies. Love the channel...yet it seems like such a moot issue. Who cares??? Can we just all be happy... for anyone who is not killing someone and paying their taxes. Grow Up!!
And usually the ones who are that judgmental are the ones who have failed miserably. Maybe they feel if they throw tantrums, they can hide behind the loud noises they’re making.
Thanks for sharing your story
2 adults should be with whoever they want and without judgement. I want guys MUCH younger than I and when I get pushback from gay people--I get angry!
I have always felt that intergenerational relationships were simply a boy/sugar daddy relationship, and have treated such as that all my life (now 88). I've been stung more than once because of this, lost a lot of money because of it, and have decided never to have any relationship with anyone years younger than myself.
I think that those relationships which are successful are indeed fortunate, but also few and far between.
That sounds more like a failed repeated pattern than an issue with a particular age-related relationship though. Are there boy/sugar daddy relationships out there? Of course there are. Some older guys and younger boys/girls are into that type of relationship. They even have paid services for that idea, but you can't use that to generalize a whole concept. Since I've been working on this project, I've seen many age-gap relationships that are exactly the opposite of what you described. The older one in the relationship is retired and lives on social security, and the younger is the one who has a full time job and really the breadwinner in the family. I've also seen many age-gap relationship fail because the younger always works and doesn't have much time for anything...whereas the older one has so much time on his hand (rightfully so) and wants to enjoy life but there's that conflict. Besides, same-age relationships can be extremely toxic as well. Financial abuse or abusive behavior in general can happen to anyone and everyone. So there's that perspective as well. Now, if a well-established older man wants to date an 18 year old who doesn't even know what he wants? That's just asking for trouble!
Love you both
I've been together with my partner for 30 years, I'm 62 now and he's 82. And it's been an open relationship for those 30 years. I've always been interested in older men since age 15, which is when I came out, officially 18, wink. At age 15 I was having sex with a priest that I seduced, he didn't seduce me, lol. He was about 20 to 30yrs older. After that all the men I dated were about the same age, between 20 - 30yrs older. I own my home, I've lived in my home since age 3. My foster parents gave it to me after they passed. My partner had a stroke in 2011 and I take care of him between working. It's hard but we are a team, I cook for me now like he use to before his stroke. We've made it work for 30 years and I'm sure it's going to continue working, wink. Have a GREAT week, and thanks for sharing your story.
I don't see any problem, really.
If there’s comprehension, when it comes to understanding generation differences and interests, gap means nothing serious.
My partner and I were 10 years apart and I wouldn't (personally) want it more than that.
My first partner has 21 years older than me. And my second partner is 16 years older than me. I love them both, coz they love me so much.
I decide to have 2nd partner coz my 1st is life far from me.
Both of them are married with woman, first with 3 kids and 2nd has 2 kids. Coz I love older married man.
The first we dated from 2009. And second from 2019.
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@@PeshawariSoul I don’t have any control over that. Maybe he’s busy, traveling or whatever. Also, he probably gets a ton of messages. It’s possible that he wouldn’t want to respond to casual type of private chats.
@@PeshawariSoul But you see men of his age are generally like that. Their day to day interactions don't really come from social media followings. I know what you mean, but it's just not how it works for most of them.
I am single, I am 42 years old, my height is 175, my weight is 85 kg I want to have boy friend. 😃
I can assure you posting this on TH-cam videos will not find you a boy friend!
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Sure the older partner may be contributing more financially, at least at the beginning. The real question is whether the younger person is behaving like a parasite or pursuing work and career, but just not yet at the income level the older partner is. Also the older partner may have become used to a certain standard of living and is not willing to go back to a lower standard, so opts to finance the larger portion of the couple's lifestyle.
I wouldn't say that's the REAL question at all. There are so many factors at play that it becomes a case-by-case scenario. Who's to say if that's even a question in the first place? There are literally millions of older people out there who are specifically attracted to a younger type and voluntarily finance those relationships. For them, this particular question is completely irrelevant because that's exactly what they want. They're not interested in someone who's at work all the time! That's their dream relationship. Anything goes!
Now, if you're talking about an unwanted or abusive relationship, that could happen in any type of relationship. All it takes is a person of any age who is lazy, unmotivated, or entered the relationship for all the wrong reasons. Again, this is not an age-specific issue at all-it's a very visible phenomenon across all age groups. In fact, most relationships of any kind fail due to financial disputes of some type, where one accuses the other .... .
You also missed many relationships where the older partner is retired with a fixed income, and the younger partner is actually the caretaker and primary supporter of the family. I've seen that scenario hundreds of times in just the past three years while meeting people and documenting their stories. Without going into details, I've seen this many times.
There's so much MORE to the stereotypical idea of a younger person living off an older person. There's so much more!
This topic is way beyond a TH-cam comment. There could be a number of episodes just to cover a few ideas on this subject.