Thanks to Andrew! It has been 9 months with no contact .I changed my phone number. And I am a type of person that once I throw away my old pair of shoes in the dumpster I don't go back and pick them up again. So Thanks Andrew for all the great information you give people like me.God be with you. With love from Corpus Christi Texas.
If you take your narcissist back their coming back for revenge they haven't forgiven you for the last time they were with you. Remember they don't forget anything! It's not worth it!
Yep when mine started hoovering immediately when the divorce was final that was exactly the feeling I got. She was upset with the little she had got out of me, and the fact that I was still alive.
And when you think that was the worst things can possibly go. Trust me, they WILL find a lower low to transgress with you. Theres always worse, never forget that, you allow them to expose you to the next circle of hell each time you let them back.
"Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Don't place it on the narcissist. Move forward. Place your energy on yourself." Very good advice! Thanks Andrew!
Wow Andrew, my ex came back into my life after 22 years. And I found out why. I just retired and I’m now receiving my pension. Can you believe she had the guts to ask me for $15,000. Unbelievable!!! Haven’t talked to her since in anyway. It’s just crazy how dumb they think we are. Thank you Andrew for your help.
Wow 22 years, that’s crazy. And still entitled. All the evidence you need that these people are seriously messed up. To be honest, once you do the work on yourself, you wonder how you ever allowed these con artists into your life
@@MrPistolpete1234 agreed, these people are messed up. Wish we were aware or taught about them in school. I’m a freaking narcissist magnet. But not any more. I now can smile and turn away.
I've been no contact for 3 years. When the 1 time in that period I got a random text from him happened, I felt like my stomach dropped to the floor. Blocked and deleted again. It's crazy how my body reacted even though I feel like I'm as healed as I am going to be. Love your videos my friend ❤
When the narc has burned through all their ‘friends’ expect them to come back with a sob story hoping that you have forgotten how badly they treated you. My memory is LONG!
Yes. They want to come in and ruin your blessings. Stand firm, don't look back. They are trying to sell you false dreams. They have nothing but destruction to offer you. Even if you are single and have times you feel alone, You will meet someone healthy and it's worth waiting for. I have not found that person yet but , I'm attracting that into my life . I myself know my worth, what I have to offer. I will not enter into a relationship where there is no equal give . My energy, time and Love is so valuable.
One day I just lay in bed in despair and thought how could I ever get out of this relationship and suddenly out of the blue I had an epiphany, that the guy I'm in a relationship with is actually a narcissist! From that moment I started researching the issue and suddenly everything became clear to me and from that moment I realized that actually everything was a fake and I was in love with a mask, with a pretender and this realization helped me start my healing, and since then he can only "dream about me"!!!! There is no way I will return to him, Never!!! Everything is clear now.......and when you understand the situation, it becomes much easier to detach and move on, I believe that God sent me this insight and really saved me from the vicious circle I was in and I thank God for that every day .
The whole relationship with a Narc, when you are unaware/uneducated is you had no idea you were in a game of sick madness one of which they had full game control and loved the fact you didnt hold a copy of the rule book. You full of anxiety, second guessing your own self worth and sanity.. When you become awakened, you are handed a brand new shiny book of what was missing the whole time... "the rules of engagement".. The narc has multi players all at multi stages of point of play, playing across multi screens/platforms and fields... Choose player exit. Such a wonderful gift, to be awakened. Thanks Andrew. Kia Haka (NZ)
ITS A GAME! YOU WIN BY NOT PLAYING!!! They will suck all the rest of the energy out of the room! It feels like darkness with immense stress and when they start their tactics it feels like you’re being sucked into a black hole. Allow that Hoover and they will take from you the rest of your energy your finances your health your looks your self-worth your self-esteem your time, and anything else they can because they have become more angry and injured. NO THANK YOU! 🥶😭😱 Thank you Andrew! Enjoy your evening in beautiful Costa Rica! The birds sound tropical 🌴
I can confirm this. She came after me multiple times. Even when i blocked her, she created new accounts to stalk and contact me. These demons never stop. Be aware, even when you block and move on, they will appear again.
Like vampire....they wait till you fatten back up, then come back, in hopes, to suck the life out of you! ...with the cross in my hand,and all accesses block and locked, Iam going to say " no" vamp(Narc) you are not allowed in my newly remodel ,happy,peaceful home!
You need to change your email then she will not come after you. Sick that she is making new accounts. I had to block some people on Facebook as that. Avoid stalkers they are dangerous. I had to delete Instagram. I had a social circle with friends.
The constant barrage of narcissistic behavior has the greatest toll on the integrity of your very soul, because in time they will make you as jaded as they are if you don't block the flying monkeys... Walk away don't look back.
Yeah speaking from experience I went back into those chat rooms today I haven't participated in them for weeks but they are still talking crap about me don't look back they just bait
It's hard when you've been part of something for 6 years and that is your community and you mission yourself with a greater purpose, only to see the same principles infiltrate and be employed in the virtual world, gaslighting and straw man to the max🔥what they call you is what they actually are 👊and they do a really good job of painting with a broad brush😢 to make it seem so of course if you try to defend yourself that just further plays into their hand as well🚫 it really is a no-win situation they are silencing everyone today, I think it was Voltaire who said 'when you label me you negate me'... let us all stop labeling our fellow man, I know it's getting exponentially easier to judge a book by its cover these days, but we've got to start looking deeper and see what salvageable... God bless🙌 namaste.
I went back, believed in giving 2nd chance like he would change and he got far worse than before and after breaking it off the 2nd time the games he has played is beyond pathetic. To think I wasted 3.5 yrs on him....ugh. i should have listened to ppl sooner who knew from day 1 he was not good news. Smh.
My narc mother showed up again love bombing in texts. She offered to send me “some documents and pictures” that I’d asked for in the past to try to lure me into starting the cycle again. I declined but thanked her for the offer and bid her goodbye. Sure enough the abusive texts came accusing me of being ungrateful; the facade dropped remarkably quickly. I ignored the insults, didn’t respond and blocked her. To my amazement, I felt indifferent and went about my day.
Agreed at this point. It’s incredibly important to be selective. Just one person can throw your whole life into a blunder. This community has been helping with the healing process. We’re not alone.
I just realized something. I loved her more than she loved herself. Think about that for a minute! There in “lies” the problem. A black hole of love so strong that I actually came out the other side of it. All the laws I thought I knew didn’t exist. I tried to make them fit. And they never could. As I got sucked past the event horizon. I thought my weight would crush me. Only to find that a whisper saved me and casted me from the distorted vortex into the galaxy of stars where I now sit in awe. Miracles happen. Thank you Andrew and family. May light always shine upon those who live in balance and peace and seek not to take but give and know the difference between love and abuse and those who use “love” to abuse- perhaps the cruelest lie a human being could ever do to another.
So true! The ex tried to appear after 4 yrs! Some of them will hunt you down, so beware. I told him to hit the road Jack and don’t come back! There’s a song in there…🤔🎶
Before I realised that nothing was going to change I fell for the hoover way too many times; when he said he missed me and wanted a second chance, that he thought I was the best thing that ever happened to him - you know all that shit. I felt I was in the middle of a dark maze surrounded by mayhem, and I couldn't find a clear way out. I had shed way too many tears and I was sick of all his toxic energy. The verbal violence soon turned into psychal. He kicked me out and kept all my stuff - everything! He ran his own company and I was office admin, 2IC. He has a lot of material items - so what! He's a loser! I intend on bettering myself everyday. It's not easy to stay positive all the time but that is a part of life. I feel like I am starting to breathe and live again. Thank you Andrew for helping me to "Wake TF Up!"
Thanks so much Andrew. I divorced my narcissist husband 2 years ago. When we were married he spent $20,000-$30,000 per year on his hobbies! One of the reasons I left. He's dated at least multiple women before our divorce was even finalized. His girlfriend now that he started seeing close to a year ago he bragged to me how she is rich. And he was always treated me mean until the last few months. He has even said he is thinking about wanting to reconcile with me. But then he said he was going to have to go back to work because he needed money. I'm now sure that his new supply won't give him her money. So he is love bombing me to get me back for my money.
I've had 3 of these 2-legged devils turn up again sniffing around for another chance with me in 2022 but I've simply ignored each one and strengthened my resolve to not engage with these types. Life is for living xx
After all the years that passed, and a new phone number, new address, and no more Social Media, I feel like a million dollars! He had no friends, so no flying monkeys are in the picture. It will be 12.8 years next month, and I feel safe. I said many times, I have a plan in case I ever run into him. There are no coincidences, however I am prepared to carry out my plan. He will not get near me bcse I will be gone. Keep walking and do not stop. If he touches/grabs me, he will be sorry. Oh, nothing violent, just a strong message. Keep on walking. GREAT TOPIC ANDREW...❤
That’s very sweet… and very TRUE! It’s sad that many people do not take negative/ tragic things that have happened to them and turn them into positives the way Andrew has here! I think the world would be a MUCH better place if they did. It ends up helping COUNTLESS others that find themselves in the SAME situations and feel helpless/ hopeless. Thank you, for this Andrew! ☺️🙏 you have touched more lives than you could EVER have imagined… because you CHOSE to OVERCOME! 💪😁👍 You. Are. AMAZING! Everyone here who is educating themselves and CHOOSING NOT to let their narcissistic abusers get them down, you are ALL AMAZING!!! 💪😊🙌
Andrew really is amazing. One of a kind, not many people like him. When you see the much earlier videos, Andrew still determined to help others even with tears in his eyes. The way he has changed our thinking around is tremendous and no wonder the folk throughout the whole world love him so much and he is worthy of it all. Thank you Jennifer 💕💕
Beautifully said! I’ve learned so much from this channel. If I am to be honest, I’d still be with a narcissist, and still believing things between us will get better. Boy was I dumb!
Andrew really has awakened us and made us all aware of what was really going on with these pathetic people. Good for you in getting well away from that person.
I was a people pleaser in the past. I would do things, because I wanted people's approval. I'm a slow learner. I let people use me. I couldn't say no. People would take advantage of me. I found that people would have an expectation of me, to do things for them. If I did happen to say no, on occasion. I was made to feel guilty that I had turned them down. This went on for a long time. Now I'm aware of what I was doing, and im no longer anyone's dogs body. I have learnt to decide when to say NO. I choose what I want to do. My welffare and wellbeing comes first.
Never again Andrew . After I finally went no No Contact !! It brought me to my senses !!! He can never return to me. At me or For me !!! Not near Me. I had to learn the hard hurt devastating way . When you get out. Runn! 👌🙏🙏💯🙌💪
What I’m doing right now I’m sitting in my car with the air conditioning on waiting for my laundry to wash and I’m relaxing listening to this and I’m at peace
And you were right. She keeps coming back, every second week she miss me or thinks about me. I just keep my doors closed!! Cause im already healed and my love for her turned into not being interested
His videos have helped me in my healing process for sure. When everyone else seems to be there for the drama part with the narc and then disappear when need them most it is awful. Theses vids I truly appreciate it bc helps me understand a lot more and to connect with others who have gone through the same is huge in healing as well to know not alone. TY Andrew!
If you’ve made it to andrews channel it was for a reason! This is one step along our journey to learn to not dismiss the messages and signs guided to you. I highly suggest to those who’ve dealt with similar turmoils of narcissistic abuse out of other channels. Andrew is genuine and as an empath I feel, listen, educate with what he says, and he will show up in divine timing! Trust me, trust you. God bless you Andrew! Thanks so much for all you’ve done to help me and so many others. You rock!✨🙏🏼
Awesome, great message! Love ❤️ it! 💯 with this message 👏 👌 Divorced 9 months, I divorced him, no contact in everything but he popped up at 6 months, 9 months this month packages-sent back returned to sender 2 package, he called my job- I didn't answer. He dosen't have my new #, went cold with everything possible!!! Everything in this video is so 🔥 on fire! I'm healing 😌 I remember the bad in everything, no desire to see or be with him! Thanks for your help 👍 and great advice!
I was with one for 9 years, well I stayed for 9 yrs, for legal and income issues. I would tell him I was using him and I was making him move out when I didn't need him anymore. He didn't even care! He was saving up money, he kept his bankbook in locked up in his truck, accidentally left it on my bed, his balance was $13,000! And made me feel bad when we went to store once a month and the bill was $200! He would scream at me all the way home. I finally got him out last December. He came by to see our dog a couple months later. I have no transportation. Me and my daughter are stuck here, can never get anywhere, I asked for a ride to store. I knew better. He's been around almost everyday since then! I'm having to move out of state in April next yr when my lease is up! He's treating me worse than when he lived here!!
Thank you, Andrew. The negative energy of the narcissist is something you definitely don't want to have anything to do with again once you have left and are on the healing path. Namaste.
I remember having the question of - HOW do I start setting boundaries and I already knew the answer. You start with one (which is easiest when you are separate from the narcissist)... for example, when they call, tell them before they get started - you can only call for this specific reason(s) during these specific hours. If at any time you talk to me with disrespect, I'll end the call and you'll be blocked for 48 hours... And when you do that and stick to it, they get mad at first but they learn you aint foolin around. You mean what you said.
Andrew they do keep coming back over and over until we break the bond. I’m so glad to have the understanding of how they operate! I know we have power when we go no contact. It’s great because they have taken so much from us! But never again, we’ve learned, are healing and have healthy boundaries now!! And that’s a hard pill for them to swallow… guess that’s true Karma! Thank you for reminding us to be ready for the return!!💚💚💚💚
How did she get that way? Who raised and educated her? Narcissistic personality disorder is said to usually start very young because of insecurities created. Also, teenagers can show higher levels of narcissism that can be changed as they age if you talk to them about the behavior. How old is your daughter?
Thank you Andrew, your advice is priceless. She actually came around yesterday and said to me, " You know that you love me ". I was ready to throw up the stop sign at the slightest sign of disrespect or attempt to devalue me. We spoke for about fifteen minutes and then she left. Guess she wanted to feel me out. I can't thank you enough for making people like me aware of the very real struggle with narcissists and their purpose to destroy people like us, empaths. Will always stay tuned to your messages.
I’m placing my energy in myself!!! That hurtful relationship is waaaaayyyy in the past. At this point of my healing journey he couldn’t get me to tell him what time it is! He’s invisible. Non-consequential, BLOCKED from my heart, my thoughts and my life. The feeling of freedom is like finding out, I no longer have a major illness. All symptoms are gone and I’m free to live a full and rewarding life. It has taken seven, no make that eight years to get through this ordeal. NOTHING will ever cause me to regress into that dark shadow of an existence. Thank you Andrew for being a shepherd leading the way.
The narc never, ever let's go of YOU, and what they think is their possession. Sibling sent her neighbor over again after 1yr/6mo total no contact to bring a Christmas gift, and in the card the neighbor (my sister) states: "Jayne, we think of you often, without any friends we know you're lonely" I mean you cannot make this stuff up. I have to move out of state, possible name change to get away from her and the rest of the "family" aka flying monkey's.
Whenever he entered a room he was always the centre of attention. Girls gravitated toward him because he was handsome, funny and charismatic. A drummer and singer in a rock band. He'd flirt outrageously yet I was only a few feet away. The whole night I would be totally ignored. His excuse....'I see you all the time, get over it.'
@@aqua6613 yes. When anyone showed interest in me he would quickly come and plant a kiss on my cheek, like a dog, marking his territory. Gosh i was so naive.
@@Teal_Moon agreed. I went to a funeral and have been clean of him and his toxicity for 7 years now. Hes much older, looks about 120kg and has lost his lustre. I replied to him a 'Hi' but that was all. As i turned and walked away i felt i had reclaimed all my power and self-worth . All i feel for him now is pity.
Perfect timing! This happened this week and I can not believe that this person even tried to come back like nothing ever happened. I'm glowing up big time, and it's crazy that this person could sense that. So toxic and devious.
He works security in my complex and I see sometimes him when I’m out walking my dog or going to activities here. And he “patrols” my neighborhood. It does bother me a little but as I learn and grow it will bother me less. I refuse to limit my comings and goings because of him and I refuse to move. I played this video again and I heard something I didn’t hear before-they hoover to disrupt my energy. Wow!! There exactly what he’s doing!!
Andrew, I'm the mother of an adult daughter who is highly narcissistic. I'm also an empath and HSP. So, I've been exposed to this toxic energy for years; she wasn't like this until she married her husband..he has always strongly disliked me and my son (her brother). Now, she has cut off her brother and his family; has minimal contact with me. This means I rarely see my beloved grandchildren. You can imagine how painful this has been for the past 8+ months. Thanks for all you do. 🙏🏻
I don't know your personality or manner in which you approach your daughter but perhaps 180 the way you do. What I mean is change the way you speak to your daughter becoming a new creation. Being super kind. Humble yourself. Maybe even explain you want to be respectful of her new life and marriage but still want to be part of her life. Again, I do not know you but maybe she has pulled away for a reason. Die to yourself and be the first to make it right. Let her know you want to be there for her if she needs you but will remain respectful to allow her to live her life as an adult apart from her. I hope I am coming across in love when I write she may have pulled away for reasons you may not know. Ask her if there is anything you are doing which has been offensive. Tell her you don't want to be that way if I causes grief or you to not be a part of your innocent grandchildren's life. Respectfully, Alexis
That’s interesting. Narcissists, for the most part, are biproduct of histrionic mothers. The eternal “victims” of life, circumstances and people, cunning, cowardly and highly manipulative. You somehow mentioning that “she wasn’t like that until she met her husband” - stopped being convenient, lives her own grown life and has that one villan in her life that turned the supplly away. The problem with histrionics, they will make you die on a railway trying to prove they’re selfish liars, yet they will keep on believing and claiming you have to admit you are the problem and not them.
This! Yes she showed back up. Has sent messages apologizing for the things she did and said. I'll admit I replied civilly but I try to avoid her as much I can but the anxiety goes off the charts still
Just J, next time, unless it’s a “must answer” situation (like someone is going to DIE if you don’t) leave whatever question or comment she is sending you hanging like a fruit bat. Pretend like you Never saw it,delete it immediately without looking. If you must answer, keep it as brutally short as possible. “Yes” “No” “I know” . . . you get my picture. Be at peace my friend.
I lost my mind trying to figure hers out, I searched all through TH-cam, you're by far the best influencer out there. This wasn't our fault. We have to love ourselves again.
Andrew your videos have helped me out of the fog. Had no idea what I was dealing with . This video hit home Those days are over the ones in the fog, you can’t unsee it once you understand, you really are a true teacher and have so much understanding in this
We all need to blind them with our silence, or be prepared to respond to their evil play. They love the holidays to play💯 Thank you for looking out for us, Andrew. Love you too and tribe. Hope everyone has a safe, peaceful, shielded weekend. Happy Labor Day weekend, USA, long weekend. Namaste❤❤❤🇨🇷🇺🇲🌟
@@janicedeeter577 Thank you, Janice, two kinds of people in this world us and the evil them, we have to move forward, staying the beautiful, loving people we are, they will never win in the end. Love to you, always❤💫
So true ! I ran into him after quite a few years ! I said no never again & walked away! So happy I just would never go back there again! He harassed & followed me for some time ! I called a friend who put an end to that! Now I have peace again!
Andrew is my favorite male name. I named my son Andrew, I came upon you channel I'm an empath and I loved a narc and he beat me and was so cruel triangulation. Your channel popped up out of no where I love it you bring me peace you energy is calm and steady . Thank you!
Oh Andrew, this is really spot on for me. Last year in september mister Ex rang my doorbell after 4,5 year. (I had already blocked him in every possible way. Each year he had send me a parcel, but I greyrocked him totally.) He lives in a different place of Holland than me and I had not expected it at all! Luckely we spoke through the intercom and I did not see him. He wanted to talk ('after all those years?!' I yelled with laughter...). I answered that I didn't want any contact with him. I even added: 'So, now you can go straight back home'. Afterwards I was totally puzzeled: how did he know I was on my own track again (even feeling so free and happy)... we don't share the same friends... But I guess he needed me back into his life (I was his sun, he often said... that I became totally drained and lost myself was of course of no importance...), and he must have sensed it. But I was stunned and answered totally honest. (I had no time to think...) I see it as if life gave me an exam, and I passed it so well!!!
After 39 years of marriage I just got my first Hoover. It lasted three days where I allowed him to temporarily live here. Then his ‘girlfriend’ chaos started on day two. Day three something different girlfriend supply chaos. He literally set me back three months of healing. I booted him out & unfortunately can’t go no contact because we own a business together. I choose me & not that P0S. Thank you Andrew. You have helped me and so many other survivors so very much
I was so traumatized by this narcissistic man, I will NEVER get in another relationship and I will never answer any calls or messages from them. I'm healing and living my life and will never trust anyone to be honest. The love bombing is a real thing, Andrew. I would have never believed it was possible, before him, but, I can see it now. Im blocked on social media but a few months back, his name appeared on the list of people I may know, and his best friends named appeared the next day. You can't see someone's name or profile, unless you had been unblocked for a second. As I'm sure everyone knows so I know I was being watched. Our anniversary is coming up on Sept 6, and it's a stressful time, but I'll continue to heal. Thank you Andrew
The second you saw him and his friend, you should have rushed and blocked them before they get a chance to reblock you. That way, they can't block-n-unblock you anymore - you'll have the power-n-control.
Uhg. Calling and dropping by my home when I have said no. I find myself closing the blinds and hiding. He has never been in this home and I do not want him here. 🥴 This too shall pass. I have a new job new place and him and his friend want to destroy that. Creepy. 💖Thank you. It helps to not feel so alone and you have brought me some peace.
I dont know what it is...I have several syndacated channels i turn to but I cant go without Andrew. I feel like he is the big brother I never had. Thanks Andrew, you may never know how much your videos mean to us. I havent had the hoover yet. I feel it in my bones though in the worst way. At least I know that I am prepared for it.
Oh, yes, that feeling in the bones! Ready, yes, we are! Letting the feeling play gently like the sensitive ears of a watchdog. Not giving my peaceful present moment to the toxic one!
After moving to a new city my family and I got used by a narc for 6 exhausting months. After some offense we got discarded. They tried to hoover us after 3 months and at 6 months after that. Thankfully there are Amazing people like you, Andrew, on youtube to warn us of their danger! I feel so free and joyful that I never have to get abused again! Thank you Andrew!
Yes, Andrew, what pearls! Each one so precious because it was formed by the pain of narcissism you went through. Thank you for being the oyster! God bless you abundantly!
I pray the narc I encountered for 3 continuous years of nothing, but abuse never appears again...but one thing I have encountered since healing from THAT is a similar narc in another person. Luckily at this point in time, I was healed enough to not be emotionally broken by ending that friendship, and have since made, and kept boundaries with that person. I refuse to backpedal, and lose myself again..I'm worth more than that. The narcassist kept me stuck, living by their rules, and only doing what THEY wanted...Took me so long to see that. Thank you for your videos! God bless.
Getting paged over the grocery store loud speaker, (before cell phones) he would check the odometer when I returned. Standing in the bathroom doorway as I put on make up and fixed my hair. Getting yelled at because he didn't like the smell of hairspray. Those are just a few reasons why I have been unable to begin a new relationship in the past 23 years. I seem to attract these types of men. But, they're always nice in the beginning.
@@livestotravel7589 that was just the tip of the huge iceberg. Funny thing about the odometer, it stopped working and he blamed me for breaking it. I think God broke it so that he couldn't review how many 10ths of a mile everywhere was.
@@livestotravel7589 and I have figured out that if you get butterflies in your stomach when you meet them, RUN IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION!!! That's your intuition warning you ahead of time.
After revealing "the discard" he is just going to make a fool of himself being so impertinent to suddenly contact again, if he do. There is nothing to say anymore and he did that chose way back ago, and im not even curious what he might have to say. Thanks to your support, Andrew!:) Thanks for the educating!
We have the wisdom and education thanks to *you* Andrew! Everything you said is true..I am stronger and happy to say am healing. I *dont* want him to come back. People stay strong DON'T GO BACK. Don't fall into their trap. These people are toxic. Andrew God bless you thanks for all the advice you give us. 🙏💕
Fortunately, so far so good and I’ve had no hoover or reappearance and 9 months has passed. He’d get a shock if he did see me now - I look better than I did in the 12 years I was with him (to be expected obviously). Living in the same (small) city however, I’m always aware I could bump into him any day but my indifference now means I simply couldn’t care less and I certainly don’t need or want his negativity anywhere near me🙏💙🙏
Yes!!! Once you see it you can’t unsee it! Still, I am afraid of what will happen when I finally start dating again. I have made some big strides in happiness lately. Thanks for the reminder!
Knowing all this hurts more knowing that I was abused and knowing that I was used. I think that I will never overcome this. They say that you can with time but this is the worst thing has ever happened to me when you give your whole heart and soul to someone and all they did was use you call it Supply call what you want the narcissists are evil Point Blank
Everybody on this site has been there, where you are, to lesser or greater degrees! We're all in one stage of healing or another. The toxicity in our souls has to GO! There is a big or small kernel of HOPE in each and every comment we find here - even in your seemingly hopeless one. Yours makes me look at the little progress I've made and rejoice that I'm one small bit better than I was yesterday! THIS is a very GOOD place to be, to heal, as I am, incrementally. Some days are more promising and healing than others. Some days are still a fog for me. I think you'll find that, too. The human person was created to be whole. We were made to be self healing, physical wounds as well as those that are soul deep. Where there is life, where there is God, where there are wise and caring travelers with us in this journey of life, there IS healing. It's not just for the rest of us. It's for YOU! YOU'LL GET THERE one tiny step, one fleeting moment at a time. We're in this TOGETHER! BLESSINGS dear sister!
@lillian I know you think you won't recover, but you will...be glad you found Andrew's channel. Andrew is very wise...it takes someone that's been "through it," to help others. It takes time to heal...my advice to you would be NEVER GO BACK...no matter what, keep moving forward and trust God.
In gratitude for your insights. It was important to have dealt with a narcissist that the universe sent me. The result of this relationship. It led me to an awakening, strength, and now into my power. It has been a painful process to arrive but 90% there! Thank you.
Great advice. They always appear when you least expect it. Post narcissist, I had to use P.O. box addresses, because any time I used my home address he would show up. Always kept my phone number unlisted, so when he found out where I was working he would call there. GOT to insolate yourself, that's for sure.
The narc reappearing in my life simply affords me the opportunity to demonstrate how I feel/think/view the narcissist. I will ignore her and if that isn't possible I will laugh in her face. She's subhuman as far as I'm concerned. All narcissists are subhuman and that's a fact. Treat them as the cockroaches they are and spray them with bug spray or step on them and squash them metaphorically speaking of course. Live your best life and continue to heal. Wishing all of you the best. Much love and respect!
Wish I had of stuck to my stealth boundaries , done so much healing and self knowledge on covert npds. Then let my guard down when one ex npd friend called unannounced, thought he had changed and i let my guard down. Nothing changes with these vermin. Set me up with a physical assault set up as a disguised hug where the guy tried to wreck my already broken back. Now left with nerve damage I am now broken physically and mentally
My narc father would like to appear on the Friday before Mother's Day which is on Sunday. He did that because my mother is a raging narc borderline. They're divorced and he keeps trying to be around her and uses me to do that. For some reason the worst holiday for me is Thanksgiving but I'm learning how to make that better seeing I'm no contact with my parents and have been for 7 years. My narc father was so jealous of me after I got into lifting weights that when I lived with him he made it his business to try and physically break me down. He was sleep depriving me and other things. His obsession was so sick that after I moved out one time he showed up to my apartment and the first thing he says is "still taking whey protein?" I've had to repeatedly not answer my door to avoid him over the last 7 years. Thankfully he's now in his mid 80's and isn't able to harass me as easily.
@@gladiammgtow4092 My father is 87. I went no contact with him when he was 80. It was amazing to see him behave narcissistically when he was 80 years old because at that age any day could have died. When I'm that old I just want to be nice to people and be remembered that way.
FINALLY......after 4 Narcissist relationships..... I am finally AWARE !!!! And it's all thanks to you Andrew. Thank you for figuring this out for us. I thought it was me, after I waited on them hand and foot. I will not take this any more. And I will NOT take them back no matter what. And especially after 3 of them gained a ton of weight !!!!!
It happened to me few days ago. Just when I started to forget about him more often during the day he texted me some empty words about how much he loves me and worries about my health (nothing about leaving me with two children after 8 years of emotional abuse) and I had a breakdown, I cried, had panic attacks, couldn't sleep, eat... But it is passing now (it took about 3 days to regain balance). I knew it would happen, but still it was very, very painful. Anyways - 5 months after a discard and soldiering on.
You dont even know how much you have helped me to understand my ex Gf she had come back in 3 years like 6 times and 3months ago we broke up again then we tried to move slowly again and she send me tex messege 1 week ago saying im done so lets see if she comes back im DONE WHIT HER!
Best advice ever, education on narcissism is the key, having boundaries and believing in our own wisdom, creating our own destiny and not allowing narcissists to destroy our lives and healing process. When they appear, make them disappear forever! . Only we have the power to do it. Have a great labor day weekend everyone.
Thanks to Andrew! It has been 9 months with no contact .I changed my phone number. And I am a type of person that once I throw away my old pair of shoes in the dumpster I don't go back and pick them up again. So Thanks Andrew for all the great information you give people like me.God be with you. With love from Corpus Christi Texas.
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If you take your narcissist back their coming back for revenge they haven't forgiven you for the last time they were with you. Remember they don't forget anything! It's not worth it!
So true, Revenge or finish the job they did not finish, and that is to destroy you!
Yep when mine started hoovering immediately when the divorce was final that was exactly the feeling I got. She was upset with the little she had got out of me, and the fact that I was still alive.
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Thanks that's a timely reminder for me.
Wow so true.
They don't forget, and they don't forgive. Never
Don’t let them suck you back in and try and finish you off. Block, ignore, delete.
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It's the only way
And that's how it's done, EXACTLY !!!
DON’T EVER LET THEM BACK IN. It’s worse the next time. And even worse the third. Trust your gut, show yourself respect, and move on forever!
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And when you think that was the worst things can possibly go. Trust me, they WILL find a lower low to transgress with you. Theres always worse, never forget that, you allow them to expose you to the next circle of hell each time you let them back.
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Scary! @@6AxisSage
"Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Don't place it on the narcissist. Move forward. Place your energy on yourself." Very good advice! Thanks Andrew!
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Like this wisdomthank you
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Narcissisists still can have supply when they hoover but they hate to lose!!! It's all about winning to them. It's all about power and control.
When the narcissist appears again I just yell, "AHHH UGLY."
Whyopen up a same book when you know what the ending is going to be the same ending over and over again
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You are 100% right!
Very true!
Block them.. heal.. don’t bother fixing or wondering if they’ll change or they miss u.. u live once.. time is precious
yes. their lives are not your beef. you have your own life.
Wow Andrew, my ex came back into my life after 22 years. And I found out why. I just retired and I’m now receiving my pension. Can you believe she had the guts to ask me for $15,000. Unbelievable!!! Haven’t talked to her since in anyway. It’s just crazy how dumb they think we are.
Thank you Andrew for your help.
When My FAMILY SAID, "NO CONTACT"..........I took it Seriously 🤣🤣. 5 yrs 💪💪💪💪. LEAVE Me ALONE, ............ THANKYOU 👍👍🤣
WOW! ....emigrate to another country 🤔....they are like wood worms - out of sight chewing away at any foundation available.
Wow 22 years, that’s crazy. And still entitled. All the evidence you need that these people are seriously messed up. To be honest, once you do the work on yourself, you wonder how you ever allowed these con artists into your life
@@MrPistolpete1234 agreed, these people are messed up. Wish we were aware or taught about them in school. I’m a freaking narcissist magnet. But not any more. I now can smile and turn away.
They really are assholes. Me, me, me. That's all they think about. No doubt if they come back in your life it's to benefit them and to harm you.
I've been no contact for 3 years. When the 1 time in that period I got a random text from him happened, I felt like my stomach dropped to the floor. Blocked and deleted again. It's crazy how my body reacted even though I feel like I'm as healed as I am going to be. Love your videos my friend ❤
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Yes, I can relate to what you're saying, loud and clear. Mine tried to come back, I got physically sick from it. We have to be always moving forward.
Just because you had a reaction doesn't mean you are not healed. Your feelings are messengers.....! The message was danger!!!!
When the narc has burned through all their ‘friends’ expect them to come back with a sob story hoping that you have forgotten how badly they treated you. My memory is LONG!
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Yes. They want to come in and ruin your blessings. Stand firm, don't look back. They are trying to sell you false dreams. They have nothing but destruction to offer you. Even if you are single and have times you feel alone, You will meet someone healthy and it's worth waiting for. I have not found that person yet but , I'm attracting that into my life . I myself know my worth, what I have to offer. I will not enter into a relationship where there is no equal give . My energy, time and Love is so valuable.
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One day I just lay in bed in despair and thought how could I ever get out of this relationship and suddenly out of the blue I had an epiphany, that the guy I'm in a relationship with is actually a narcissist! From that moment I started researching the issue and suddenly everything became clear to me and from that moment I realized that actually everything was a fake and I was in love with a mask, with a pretender and this realization helped me start my healing, and since then he can only "dream about me"!!!! There is no way I will return to him, Never!!! Everything is clear now.......and when you understand the situation, it becomes much easier to detach and move on, I believe that God sent me this insight and really saved me from the vicious circle I was in and I thank God for that every day .
Yay❣️❣️congratulations.
No Contact!!! You Win❤
Same exact thing for me, the narc video came out of nowhere, I believe it was God!
@@Beholder777 Our Father knows his sheep!!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
@@Beholder777 Our Father knows His Sheep!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
I can't wait to get out of the ruminating on them. Blocked him for my own mental health.
Run people run...your life depends on it. Thank you Andrew. Really appreciate your daily knowledge. It really helps.
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How can you run if narc is your own mom??
If you are kid, there is no way. If you are an adult, stop any contact with here. I did.
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The whole relationship with a Narc, when you are unaware/uneducated is you had no idea you were in a game of sick madness one of which they had full game control and loved the fact you didnt hold a copy of the rule book. You full of anxiety, second guessing your own self worth and sanity.. When you become awakened, you are handed a brand new shiny book of what was missing the whole time... "the rules of engagement".. The narc has multi players all at multi stages of point of play, playing across multi screens/platforms and fields... Choose player exit. Such a wonderful gift, to be awakened. Thanks Andrew. Kia Haka (NZ)
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Right on👍,thanks for sharing your comment, and bringing more clarity!
WOW.. love that description! 🕹⏳🎭
@Truth Teller Talks how do they watch us? And through what app?
How do the narcissist have the memory capacity to keep up with each deceptive, fake,created personna for each victum/ prey/or player?
ITS A GAME!
YOU WIN BY NOT PLAYING!!!
They will suck all the rest of the energy out of the room! It feels like darkness with immense stress and when they start their tactics it feels like you’re being sucked into a black hole.
Allow that Hoover and they will take from you the rest of your energy your finances your health your looks your self-worth your self-esteem your time, and anything else they can because they have become more angry and injured. NO THANK YOU!
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Thank you Andrew! Enjoy your evening in beautiful Costa Rica! The birds sound tropical 🌴
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Wise words.
a narcissist is nothing but a person that “seek out people that like drama” in their life”
I can confirm this. She came after me multiple times. Even when i blocked her, she created new accounts to stalk and contact me. These demons never stop. Be aware, even when you block and move on, they will appear again.
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Like vampire....they wait till you fatten back up, then come back, in hopes, to suck the life out of you!
...with the cross in my hand,and all accesses block and locked, Iam going to say " no" vamp(Narc) you are not allowed in my newly remodel ,happy,peaceful home!
You need to change your email then she will not come after you. Sick that she is making new accounts. I had to block some people on Facebook as that. Avoid stalkers they are dangerous. I had to delete Instagram. I had a social circle with friends.
These people are wicked it is so horrible
When my email and phone were blocked, my ex started contacting my elderly parents!
The constant barrage of narcissistic behavior has the greatest toll on the integrity of your very soul, because in time they will make you as jaded as they are if you don't block the flying monkeys... Walk away don't look back.
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Yeah speaking from experience I went back into those chat rooms today I haven't participated in them for weeks but they are still talking crap about me don't look back they just bait
It's hard when you've been part of something for 6 years and that is your community and you mission yourself with a greater purpose, only to see the same principles infiltrate and be employed in the virtual world, gaslighting and straw man to the max🔥what they call you is what they actually are 👊and they do a really good job of painting with a broad brush😢 to make it seem so of course if you try to defend yourself that just further plays into their hand as well🚫 it really is a no-win situation they are silencing everyone today, I think it was Voltaire who said 'when you label me you negate me'... let us all stop labeling our fellow man, I know it's getting exponentially easier to judge a book by its cover these days, but we've got to start looking deeper and see what salvageable... God bless🙌 namaste.
I was weak, i went back just to observe, it didn't serve me just them, helpless feeling cancel culture is the worst
I went back, believed in giving 2nd chance like he would change and he got far worse than before and after breaking it off the 2nd time the games he has played is beyond pathetic. To think I wasted 3.5 yrs on him....ugh. i should have listened to ppl sooner who knew from day 1 he was not good news. Smh.
My narc mother showed up again love bombing in texts.
She offered to send me “some documents and pictures” that I’d asked for in the past to try to lure me into starting the cycle again.
I declined but thanked her for the offer and bid her goodbye. Sure enough the abusive texts came accusing me of being ungrateful; the facade dropped remarkably quickly. I ignored the insults, didn’t respond and blocked her.
To my amazement, I felt indifferent and went about my day.
Andrew, You are one of the few people I have daily contact with. I am very blessed for the positive input you give to my life every day. Namaste 💗🕊️
Same here. We are stronger when we learn from him. We will win.
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I agree with you Laurie Elliott 💟
That statement may be true for many of us.
Agreed at this point. It’s incredibly important to be selective. Just one person can throw your whole life into a blunder. This community has been helping with the healing process. We’re not alone.
I just realized something. I loved her more than she loved herself. Think about that for a minute! There in “lies” the problem. A black hole of love so strong that I actually came out the other side of it. All the laws I thought I knew didn’t exist. I tried to make them fit. And they never could. As I got sucked past the event horizon. I thought my weight would crush me. Only to find that a whisper saved me and casted me from the distorted vortex into the galaxy of stars where I now sit in awe. Miracles happen. Thank you Andrew and family. May light always shine upon those who live in balance and peace and seek not to take but give and know the difference between love and abuse and those who use “love” to abuse- perhaps the cruelest lie a human being could ever do to another.
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I laughed when I read his "hover" email. I saw right thru him. I am stronger for having the education. Grateful, Andrew, very grateful.
So true! The ex tried to appear after 4 yrs! Some of them will hunt you down, so beware. I told him to hit the road Jack and don’t come back! There’s a song in there…🤔🎶
Before I realised that nothing was going to change I fell for the hoover way too many times; when he said he missed me and wanted a second chance, that he thought I was the best thing that ever happened to him - you know all that shit. I felt I was in the middle of a dark maze surrounded by mayhem, and I couldn't find a clear way out. I had shed way too many tears and I was sick of all his toxic energy. The verbal violence soon turned into psychal. He kicked me out and kept all my stuff - everything! He ran his own company and I was office admin, 2IC. He has a lot of material items - so what! He's a loser! I intend on bettering myself everyday. It's not easy to stay positive all the time but that is a part of life. I feel like I am starting to breathe and live again. Thank you Andrew for helping me to "Wake TF Up!"
Angel Conley is a Narc
Congratulations!! So happy you got out!
Just so you know, legally you can stay like 30 days. Or at least legally get you stuf with cops if necessary.
Thanks so much Andrew. I divorced my narcissist husband 2 years ago. When we were married he spent $20,000-$30,000 per year on his hobbies! One of the reasons I left. He's dated at least multiple women before our divorce was even finalized. His girlfriend now that he started seeing close to a year ago he bragged to me how she is rich. And he was always treated me mean until the last few months. He has even said he is thinking about wanting to reconcile with me. But then he said he was going to have to go back to work because he needed money. I'm now sure that his new supply won't give him her money. So he is love bombing me to get me back for my money.
Hahaha but you know better!
This sounds like my story!!!
I've had 3 of these 2-legged devils turn up again sniffing around for another chance with me in 2022 but I've simply ignored each one and strengthened my resolve to not engage with these types. Life is for living xx
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No such thing as a second chance, nope, not gonna happen!
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After all the years that passed, and a new phone number, new address, and no more Social Media, I feel like a million dollars! He had no friends, so no flying monkeys are in the picture. It will be 12.8 years next month, and I feel safe. I said many times, I have a plan in case I ever run into him. There are no coincidences, however I am prepared to carry out my plan. He will not get near me bcse I will be gone. Keep walking and do not stop. If he touches/grabs me, he will be sorry. Oh, nothing violent, just a strong message. Keep on walking. GREAT TOPIC ANDREW...❤
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And all because one man discovered his calling and devoted himself to it lives are being changed today. You are that man Andrew. Thank you so much 🙏❤️
That’s very sweet… and very TRUE! It’s sad that many people do not take negative/ tragic things that have happened to them and turn them into positives the way Andrew has here! I think the world would be a MUCH better place if they did. It ends up helping COUNTLESS others that find themselves in the SAME situations and feel helpless/ hopeless. Thank you, for this Andrew! ☺️🙏 you have touched more lives than you could EVER have imagined… because you CHOSE to OVERCOME! 💪😁👍 You. Are. AMAZING! Everyone here who is educating themselves and CHOOSING NOT to let their narcissistic abusers get them down, you are ALL AMAZING!!! 💪😊🙌
Andrew really is amazing. One of a kind, not many people like him. When you see the much earlier videos, Andrew still determined to help others even with tears in his eyes. The way he has changed our thinking around is tremendous and no wonder the folk throughout the whole world love him so much and he is worthy of it all. Thank you Jennifer 💕💕
I thought you were actually talking about Jesus
Beautifully said! I’ve learned so much from this channel. If I am to be honest, I’d still be with a narcissist, and still believing things between us will get better. Boy was I dumb!
Andrew really has awakened us and made us all aware of what was really going on with these pathetic people. Good for you in getting well away from that person.
I was a people pleaser in the past. I would do things, because I wanted people's approval. I'm a slow learner. I let people use me. I couldn't say no. People would take advantage of me. I found that people would have an expectation of me, to do things for them. If I did happen to say no, on occasion. I was made to feel guilty that I had turned them down. This went on for a long time. Now I'm aware of what I was doing, and im no longer anyone's dogs body. I have learnt to decide when to say NO. I choose what I want to do. My welffare and wellbeing comes first.
Really needed to hear this tonight Andrew. 5 months on and your channel is the best therapy. ❤
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Never again Andrew . After I finally went no No Contact !! It brought me to my senses !!! He can never return to me. At me or For me !!! Not near Me. I had to learn the hard hurt devastating way . When you get out. Runn! 👌🙏🙏💯🙌💪
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I runn as fast as I could
Post made me LOL
Run…
What I’m doing right now I’m sitting in my car with the air conditioning on waiting for my laundry to wash and I’m relaxing listening to this and I’m at peace
And you were right. She keeps coming back, every second week she miss me or thinks about me. I just keep my doors closed!! Cause im already healed and my love for her turned into not being interested
One hasn't reappeared, and he won't. I consider myself blessed. Happy healing tribe.❣️
Andrew is bestowing healing grace to anyone listening….
No words needed. 💜
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His videos have helped me in my healing process for sure. When everyone else seems to be there for the drama part with the narc and then disappear when need them most it is awful. Theses vids I truly appreciate it bc helps me understand a lot more and to connect with others who have gone through the same is huge in healing as well to know not alone. TY Andrew!
Omg yes it's a surge of dark energy when a narcissist comes around everyone feels uncomfortable. I'm soooo happy you said that
If you’ve made it to andrews channel it was for a reason! This is one step along our journey to learn to not dismiss the messages and signs guided to you. I highly suggest to those who’ve dealt with similar turmoils of narcissistic abuse out of other channels. Andrew is genuine and as an empath I feel, listen, educate with what he says, and he will show up in divine timing! Trust me, trust you. God bless you Andrew! Thanks so much for all you’ve done to help me and so many others. You rock!✨🙏🏼
Take the door off the cage
Keep flying❣️🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
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My gosh, WHERE are all the good folks at??? I KNOW I am not alone, but where are you guys?? 😆
Awesome, great message! Love ❤️ it! 💯 with this message 👏 👌 Divorced 9 months, I divorced him, no contact in everything but he popped up at 6 months, 9 months this month packages-sent back returned to sender 2 package, he called my job- I didn't answer. He dosen't have my new #, went cold with everything possible!!! Everything in this video is so 🔥 on fire! I'm healing 😌 I remember the bad in everything, no desire to see or be with him! Thanks for your help 👍 and great advice!
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I am praying hard, God please keep him away.
Please God keep him away. Thank you
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I was with one for 9 years, well I stayed for 9 yrs, for legal and income issues. I would tell him I was using him and I was making him move out when I didn't need him anymore. He didn't even care! He was saving up money, he kept his bankbook in locked up in his truck, accidentally left it on my bed, his balance was $13,000! And made me feel bad when we went to store once a month and the bill was $200! He would scream at me all the way home. I finally got him out last December. He came by to see our dog a couple months later. I have no transportation. Me and my daughter are stuck here, can never get anywhere, I asked for a ride to store. I knew better. He's been around almost everyday since then! I'm having to move out of state in April next yr when my lease is up! He's treating me worse than when he lived here!!
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It's just a game for them. They don't realize we are on to them and their BS.
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Put them in your rear view like I finally did & unsubscribe to their tricks. Another awesome video, Andrew. 💚
Thank you, Andrew. The negative energy of the narcissist is something you definitely don't want to have anything to do with again once you have left and are on the healing path. Namaste.
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Blood, soul sucking energy stealers. I swear ex had a black cloud over him. Just his presence is evil.
I remember having the question of - HOW do I start setting boundaries and I already knew the answer. You start with one (which is easiest when you are separate from the narcissist)... for example, when they call, tell them before they get started - you can only call for this specific reason(s) during these specific hours. If at any time you talk to me with disrespect, I'll end the call and you'll be blocked for 48 hours... And when you do that and stick to it, they get mad at first but they learn you aint foolin around. You mean what you said.
Andrew they do keep coming back over and over until we break the bond. I’m so glad to have the understanding of how they operate! I know we have power when we go no contact. It’s great because they have taken so much from us! But never again, we’ve learned, are healing and have healthy boundaries now!! And that’s a hard pill for them to swallow… guess that’s true Karma! Thank you for reminding us to be ready for the return!!💚💚💚💚
I am struggling with my Narcissist daughter; she’s now gotten to the point she’s betrayed me and I have been devastated to say the least. 😩
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Mine hasn't spoken to me for over a year. I'm actually at peace with it. She is all drama.
Let her go.
You lost your daughter the day she became a narcissist. Sorry to say it but it's the truth. Accept it and move on. All the best for you!
How did she get that way? Who raised and educated her? Narcissistic personality disorder is said to usually start very young because of insecurities created. Also, teenagers can show higher levels of narcissism that can be changed as they age if you talk to them about the behavior. How old is your daughter?
Thank you Andrew, your advice is priceless. She actually came around yesterday and said to me, " You know that you love me ". I was ready to throw up the stop sign at the slightest sign of disrespect or attempt to devalue me. We spoke for about fifteen minutes and then she left. Guess she wanted to feel me out. I can't thank you enough for making people like me aware of the very real struggle with narcissists and their purpose to destroy people like us, empaths. Will always stay tuned to your messages.
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I’m placing my energy in myself!!!
That hurtful relationship is waaaaayyyy in the past.
At this point of my healing journey he couldn’t get me to tell him what time it is!
He’s invisible. Non-consequential, BLOCKED from my heart, my thoughts and my life.
The feeling of freedom is like finding out, I no longer have a major illness.
All symptoms are gone and I’m free to live a full and rewarding life.
It has taken seven, no make that eight years to get through this ordeal.
NOTHING will ever cause me to regress into that dark shadow of an existence.
Thank you Andrew for being a shepherd leading the way.
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The narc never, ever let's go of YOU, and what they think is their possession. Sibling sent her neighbor over again after 1yr/6mo total no contact to bring a Christmas gift, and in the card the neighbor (my sister) states: "Jayne, we think of you often, without any friends we know you're lonely" I mean you cannot make this stuff up. I have to move out of state, possible name change to get away from her and the rest of the "family" aka flying monkey's.
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Whenever he entered a room he was always the centre of attention. Girls gravitated toward him because he was handsome, funny and charismatic. A drummer and singer in a rock band. He'd flirt outrageously yet I was only a few feet away. The whole night I would be totally ignored. His excuse....'I see you all the time, get over it.'
With time, his ugliness will show and all of those redeeming qualities will be meaningless
Oh but if you ever dared to dish out the same treatment 😆
@@aqua6613 yes. When anyone showed interest in me he would quickly come and plant a kiss on my cheek, like a dog, marking his territory. Gosh i was so naive.
@@Teal_Moon agreed. I went to a funeral and have been clean of him and his toxicity for 7 years now. Hes much older, looks about 120kg and has lost his lustre. I replied to him a 'Hi' but that was all. As i turned and walked away i felt i had reclaimed all my power and self-worth . All i feel for him now is pity.
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Andrew i wanna give you a compliment your brown eyes are amazing we should never give narcissistic people a second chance ever we are survivors
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Like I always say, he IS DEVASTATINGLY handsome! 🥰
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone sorry Andrew! We’re all in love with you!😘
Don't even think about them. Now that is truly no contact.
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Perfect timing! This happened this week and I can not believe that this person even tried to come back like nothing ever happened. I'm glowing up big time, and it's crazy that this person could sense that. So toxic and devious.
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Juanita, they are MONSTERS! Take care of yourself. ♥️⚘️
It's always as nothing happened. Or - let's forget about it, it's in the past 😅
He works security in my complex and I see sometimes him when I’m out walking my dog or going to activities here. And he “patrols” my neighborhood. It does bother me a little but as I learn and grow it will bother me less. I refuse to limit my comings and goings because of him and I refuse to move. I played this video again and I heard something I didn’t hear before-they hoover to disrupt my energy. Wow!! There exactly what he’s doing!!
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Andrew, I'm the mother of an adult daughter who is highly narcissistic. I'm also an empath and HSP. So, I've been exposed to this toxic energy for years; she wasn't like this until she married her husband..he has always strongly disliked me and my son (her brother). Now, she has cut off her brother and his family; has minimal contact with me. This means I rarely see my beloved grandchildren. You can imagine how painful this has been for the past 8+ months. Thanks for all you do. 🙏🏻
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I don't know your personality or manner in which you approach your daughter but perhaps 180 the way you do. What I mean is change the way you speak to your daughter becoming a new creation. Being super kind. Humble yourself. Maybe even explain you want to be respectful of her new life and marriage but still want to be part of her life. Again, I do not know you but maybe she has pulled away for a reason. Die to yourself and be the first to make it right. Let her know you want to be there for her if she needs you but will remain respectful to allow her to live her life as an adult apart from her. I hope I am coming across in love when I write she may have pulled away for reasons you may not know. Ask her if there is anything you are doing which has been offensive. Tell her you don't want to be that way if I causes grief or you to not be a part of your innocent grandchildren's life. Respectfully, Alexis
That’s interesting. Narcissists, for the most part, are biproduct of histrionic mothers. The eternal “victims” of life, circumstances and people, cunning, cowardly and highly manipulative. You somehow mentioning that “she wasn’t like that until she met her husband” - stopped being convenient, lives her own grown life and has that one villan in her life that turned the supplly away. The problem with histrionics, they will make you die on a railway trying to prove they’re selfish liars, yet they will keep on believing and claiming you have to admit you are the problem and not them.
Blessings to you with prayer!
Yes Andrew. As soon as these toxic people enter the room you can feel their negative energy
This! Yes she showed back up. Has sent messages apologizing for the things she did and said. I'll admit I replied civilly but I try to avoid her as much I can but the anxiety goes off the charts still
Just J, next time, unless it’s a “must answer” situation (like someone is going to DIE if you don’t) leave whatever question or comment she is sending you hanging like a fruit bat. Pretend like you Never saw it,delete it immediately without looking.
If you must answer, keep it as brutally short as possible. “Yes” “No” “I know” . . . you get my picture.
Be at peace my friend.
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I lost my mind trying to figure hers out, I searched all through TH-cam, you're by far the best influencer out there. This wasn't our fault. We have to love ourselves again.
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Andrew your videos have helped me out of the fog. Had no idea what I was dealing with . This video hit home Those days are over the ones in the fog, you can’t unsee it once you understand, you really are a true teacher and have so much understanding in this
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You truly CANNOT unsee or unhear. Once you do, lock in and remember. It will keep you from ever going back again.
Negative aura around a narcissist, makes sense now. This is very true
We all need to blind them with our silence, or be prepared to respond to their evil play. They love the holidays to play💯 Thank you for looking out for us, Andrew. Love you too and tribe. Hope everyone has a safe, peaceful, shielded weekend. Happy Labor Day weekend, USA, long weekend. Namaste❤❤❤🇨🇷🇺🇲🌟
my goodness Stacey; I'm thinking the same. Lovely comment. Sending you love
@@janicedeeter577 Thank you, Janice, two kinds of people in this world us and the evil them, we have to move forward, staying the beautiful, loving people we are, they will never win in the end. Love to you, always❤💫
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So true ! I ran into him after quite a few years ! I said no never again & walked away! So happy I just would never go back there again! He harassed & followed me for some time ! I called a friend who put an end to that! Now I have peace again!
Andrew is my favorite male name. I named my son Andrew, I came upon you channel I'm an empath and I loved a narc and he beat me and was so cruel triangulation. Your channel popped up out of no where I love it you bring me peace you energy is calm and steady . Thank you!
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Oh Andrew, this is really spot on for me. Last year in september mister Ex rang my doorbell after 4,5 year. (I had already blocked him in every possible way. Each year he had send me a parcel, but I greyrocked him totally.) He lives in a different place of Holland than me and I had not expected it at all! Luckely we spoke through the intercom and I did not see him. He wanted to talk ('after all those years?!' I yelled with laughter...). I answered that I didn't want any contact with him. I even added: 'So, now you can go straight back home'. Afterwards I was totally puzzeled: how did he know I was on my own track again (even feeling so free and happy)... we don't share the same friends... But I guess he needed me back into his life (I was his sun, he often said... that I became totally drained and lost myself was of course of no importance...), and he must have sensed it. But I was stunned and answered totally honest. (I had no time to think...) I see it as if life gave me an exam, and I passed it so well!!!
After 39 years of marriage I just got my first Hoover. It lasted three days where I allowed him to temporarily live here. Then his ‘girlfriend’ chaos started on day two. Day three something different girlfriend supply chaos. He literally set me back three months of healing. I booted him out & unfortunately can’t go no contact because we own a business together. I choose me & not that P0S. Thank you Andrew. You have helped me and so many other survivors so very much
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Thanks Andrew for very nice talking about the come back of narc. We should always be ready for this disaster, always even if it happen never.
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I was so traumatized by this narcissistic man, I will NEVER get in another relationship and I will never answer any calls or messages from them. I'm healing and living my life and will never trust anyone to be honest. The love bombing is a real thing, Andrew. I would have never believed it was possible, before him, but, I can see it now. Im blocked on social media but a few months back, his name appeared on the list of people I may know, and his best friends named appeared the next day. You can't see someone's name or profile, unless you had been unblocked for a second. As I'm sure everyone knows so I know I was being watched. Our anniversary is coming up on Sept 6, and it's a stressful time, but I'll continue to heal. Thank you Andrew
The second you saw him and his friend, you should have rushed and blocked them before they get a chance to reblock you. That way, they can't block-n-unblock you anymore - you'll have the power-n-control.
Uhg. Calling and dropping by my home when I have said no. I find myself closing the blinds and hiding. He has never been in this home and I do not want him here. 🥴 This too shall pass. I have a new job new place and him and his friend want to destroy that. Creepy. 💖Thank you. It helps to not feel so alone and you have brought me some peace.
I dont know what it is...I have several syndacated channels i turn to but I cant go without Andrew. I feel like he is the big brother I never had. Thanks Andrew, you may never know how much your videos mean to us. I havent had the hoover yet. I feel it in my bones though in the worst way. At least I know that I am prepared for it.
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Yes I feel it in my bones as well, but I am so prepared. We are so prepared cuz I am not alone
Oh, yes, that feeling in the bones!
Ready, yes, we are!
Letting the feeling play gently like the sensitive ears of a watchdog.
Not giving my peaceful present moment to the toxic one!
After moving to a new city my family and I got used by a narc for 6 exhausting months. After some offense we got discarded. They tried to hoover us after 3 months and at 6 months after that. Thankfully there are Amazing people like you, Andrew, on youtube to warn us of their danger! I feel so free and joyful that I never have to get abused again! Thank you Andrew!
This is so true. They keep coming back to drain more of your energy. Misery loves company.
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All of this wisdom you are pouring into us, did not come cheap. Thank you for turning your pain into purpose.
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Yes, Andrew, what pearls! Each one so precious because it was formed by the pain of narcissism you went through. Thank you for being the oyster!
God bless you abundantly!
I pray the narc I encountered for 3 continuous years of nothing, but abuse never appears again...but one thing I have encountered since healing from THAT is a similar narc in another person. Luckily at this point in time, I was healed enough to not be emotionally broken by ending that friendship, and have since made, and kept boundaries with that person. I refuse to backpedal, and lose myself again..I'm worth more than that.
The narcassist kept me stuck, living by their rules, and only doing what THEY wanted...Took me so long to see that. Thank you for your videos! God bless.
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Getting paged over the grocery store loud speaker, (before cell phones) he would check the odometer when I returned. Standing in the bathroom doorway as I put on make up and fixed my hair. Getting yelled at because he didn't like the smell of hairspray. Those are just a few reasons why I have been unable to begin a new relationship in the past 23 years. I seem to attract these types of men. But, they're always nice in the beginning.
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Omggggg I am glad your are out of that! That is what scares the hell out of me. Had a malignant narcissist and never want that again.
@@livestotravel7589 that was just the tip of the huge iceberg. Funny thing about the odometer, it stopped working and he blamed me for breaking it. I think God broke it so that he couldn't review how many 10ths of a mile everywhere was.
@@livestotravel7589 and I have figured out that if you get butterflies in your stomach when you meet them, RUN IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION!!! That's your intuition warning you ahead of time.
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After revealing "the discard" he is just going to make a fool of himself being so impertinent to suddenly contact again, if he do.
There is nothing to say anymore and he did that chose way back ago, and im not even curious what he might have to say.
Thanks to your support, Andrew!:) Thanks for the educating!
I wouldn’t go back the experience is branded in my brain the trust factor has been broken!
We have the wisdom and education thanks to *you* Andrew! Everything you said is true..I am stronger and happy to say am healing. I *dont* want him to come back. People stay strong DON'T GO BACK. Don't fall into their trap. These people are toxic. Andrew God bless you thanks for all the advice you give us. 🙏💕
committed - post narcissistic- got it- keeping it going- you are not alone either!
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Fortunately, so far so good and I’ve had no hoover or reappearance and 9 months has passed. He’d get a shock if he did see me now - I look better than I did in the 12 years I was with him (to be expected obviously). Living in the same (small) city however, I’m always aware I could bump into him any day but my indifference now means I simply couldn’t care less and I certainly don’t need or want his negativity anywhere near me🙏💙🙏
Yes!!! Once you see it you can’t unsee it! Still, I am afraid of what will happen when I finally start dating again. I have made some big strides in happiness lately. Thanks for the reminder!
Knowing all this hurts more knowing that I was abused and knowing that I was used. I think that I will never overcome this. They say that you can with time but this is the worst thing has ever happened to me when you give your whole heart and soul to someone and all they did was use you call it Supply call what you want the narcissists are evil Point Blank
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........Lillian...your sun will shine again....believe...time does heal...be strong...blessings...
Everybody on this site has been there, where you are, to lesser or greater degrees! We're all in one stage of healing or another.
The toxicity in our souls has to GO! There is a big or small kernel of HOPE in each and every comment we find here - even in your seemingly hopeless one. Yours makes me look at the little progress I've made and rejoice that I'm one small bit better than I was yesterday!
THIS is a very GOOD place to be, to heal, as I am, incrementally. Some days are more promising and healing than others. Some days are still a fog for me. I think you'll find that, too.
The human person was created to be whole. We were made to be self healing, physical wounds as well as those that are soul deep. Where there is life, where there is God, where there are wise and caring travelers with us in this journey of life, there IS healing.
It's not just for the rest of us. It's for YOU!
YOU'LL GET THERE one tiny step, one fleeting moment at a time. We're in this TOGETHER!
BLESSINGS dear sister!
@lillian I know you think you won't recover, but you will...be glad you found Andrew's channel. Andrew is very wise...it takes someone that's been "through it," to help others. It takes time to heal...my advice to you would be NEVER GO BACK...no matter what, keep moving forward and trust God.
In gratitude for your insights. It was important to have dealt with a narcissist that the universe sent me. The result of this relationship. It led me to an awakening, strength, and now into my power. It has been a painful process to arrive but 90% there! Thank you.
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You give me HOPE!
BLESSINGS!
Great advice. They always appear when you least expect it. Post narcissist, I had to use P.O. box addresses, because any time I used my home address he would show up. Always kept my phone number unlisted, so when he found out where I was working he would call there. GOT to insolate yourself, that's for sure.
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Lol I was just thinking that exact same thought.
"Rear their ugly Head"
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The narc reappearing in my life simply affords me the opportunity to demonstrate how I feel/think/view the narcissist. I will ignore her and if that isn't possible I will laugh in her face. She's subhuman as far as I'm concerned. All narcissists are subhuman and that's a fact. Treat them as the cockroaches they are and spray them with bug spray or step on them and squash them metaphorically speaking of course. Live your best life and continue to heal. Wishing all of you the best. Much love and respect!
Wish I had of stuck to my stealth boundaries , done so much healing and self knowledge on covert npds.
Then let my guard down when one ex npd friend called unannounced, thought he had changed and i let my guard down.
Nothing changes with these vermin.
Set me up with a physical assault set up as a disguised hug where the guy tried to wreck my already broken back.
Now left with nerve damage
I am now broken physically and mentally
My narc father would like to appear on the Friday before Mother's Day which is on Sunday. He did that because my mother is a raging narc borderline. They're divorced and he keeps trying to be around her and uses me to do that. For some reason the worst holiday for me is Thanksgiving but I'm learning how to make that better seeing I'm no contact with my parents and have been for 7 years. My narc father was so jealous of me after I got into lifting weights that when I lived with him he made it his business to try and physically break me down. He was sleep depriving me and other things. His obsession was so sick that after I moved out one time he showed up to my apartment and the first thing he says is "still taking whey protein?" I've had to repeatedly not answer my door to avoid him over the last 7 years. Thankfully he's now in his mid 80's and isn't able to harass me as easily.
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My father is 84, I threatened him with legal action 9 years ago, been no contact ever since.
@@gladiammgtow4092 My father is 87. I went no contact with him when he was 80. It was amazing to see him behave narcissistically when he was 80 years old because at that age any day could have died. When I'm that old I just want to be nice to people and be remembered that way.
FINALLY......after 4 Narcissist relationships..... I am finally AWARE !!!! And it's all thanks to you Andrew. Thank you for figuring this out for us. I thought it was me, after I waited on them hand and foot. I will not take this any more.
And I will NOT take them back no matter what. And especially after 3 of them gained a ton of weight !!!!!
It happened to me few days ago. Just when I started to forget about him more often during the day he texted me some empty words about how much he loves me and worries about my health (nothing about leaving me with two children after 8 years of emotional abuse) and I had a breakdown, I cried, had panic attacks, couldn't sleep, eat... But it is passing now (it took about 3 days to regain balance). I knew it would happen, but still it was very, very painful. Anyways - 5 months after a discard and soldiering on.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you 🤍
You dont even know how much you have helped me to understand my ex Gf she had come back in 3 years like 6 times and 3months ago we broke up again then we tried to move slowly again and she send me tex messege 1 week ago saying im done so lets see if she comes back im DONE WHIT HER!
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Ty so very much Andrew
Gm Andrew. They r toxic evil. Ty for shareing your truth n guidance you r God's Angel. Hugs n Prayers. Lots of Smiles. 🐼💖🙏
Best advice ever, education on narcissism is the key, having boundaries and believing in our own wisdom, creating our own destiny and not allowing narcissists to destroy our lives and healing process. When they appear, make them disappear forever! . Only we have the power to do it. Have a great labor day weekend everyone.