Tips for Living With a Non - Minimalist Partner | Minimalism
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- In this video, I wanted to share some of my thoughts about living with a non - minimalist partner. I'm talking about my personal experience with my husband and give some tips that I hope may help some of you in your relationships with beloved ones✨
Thank you for watching!💛
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You have very good principles as to how you treat your husband! I love how you are so respectful of him. It's very sweet and refreshing.
Thank you!
It would be really cute to see a video of you and your husband showing his point of view of living with a minimalist like this video a fun pair maybe to help or give advice or tips for the non minimalists to live with their minimalist parter or family member
Thank you for the idea!☺️ I’d ask him👍🏻
I really appreciate your respect of yourself and of your husband. It's good balance.
Very good advice! The only other point I can think of is to be in agreement about your finances and budget. Minimalists tend to hate spending money, and non-minimalists may like to impulse shop or just have a less structured approach to money. It’s a good idea to discuss all things related to money with a potential partner!
Very good advice! You treat your husband the way you would like others to treat you. You seem like a very kind & patient person.
Your joke at the beginning was GREAT! My husband teased me for years (he was the minimalist) After 20 years, he convinced me to try it, and he was surprisingly RIGHT!
Priviet! I really like your channel 💚 Concerning your thoughts on birthday and Xmas gifts...my daughter is a born minimalist, with 9 she said already she wants only to have money as a gift, and she collected it for 2 years, she bought herself a computer with 11, ....and there is not much clutter coming in. She is 14 now, her room is always clean, she has not much clothes and things, but the few items she possess have a very good quality... I learned so much from her...it helped me to live an easier more joyful life, she is a wise soul just like you
Wow looks like your daughter is very smart and really knows what she needs in life! That’s wonderful!😍
The list of what your husband likes is brilliant. I wish everyone had that! I would make everyone's lifes easier. I hate shopping for others. Unwanted gifts is such a waste
You made me laugh so much 😂😂 I threw away my husbands shoes and a pair of "blown out flip flops" without asking...he retrieved them from the garbage men. I then took them to a charity shop and HE went there and paid to bring them back 😂! He was definitely NOT minimalist and wore things until they fell off or fell to bits. Used to make me so angry. Now he is passed I miss his funny ways and wouldn't mind seeing those 'blown out flip flops' sitting proudly on the shoe rack XXXXX. I love your channel Vika...and to see your family when they are with you.
I'm definitely not a minimalist...but I am good with getting rid of stuff and organising. Since a couple of days I have tried to get rid of more stuff , I have been inspired by your blog.
Y’all are so sweet together, stay as loving as u are ! 😀it’s a desirable thing for a lot of couples .
Thank you! I wish we’d stay the same forever🥰
Compromise and respect- corner stone of a good relationship. ❤
Lol! My dad is huge into minimalism, when he travels for work (months on end), it’s never even a full carry-on for him. My mom is on the other end of the spectrum. In the first house that we moved into that had a garage (90% of houses in the city we moved to had a garage), half of the garage immediately got used for storage and clutter, almost all can be traced to my mom. Although this seems like excessive hoarding and unhealthy behavior, it’s so widespread and common here. Almost all my friends’ houses have at least half of their 2-car garage used ONLY for storage of things they never use, 2/3 if it’s a 3-car garage. Most have the entire garage filled like that :/
Love that you kept the points on the screen!
Extra great episode!🤗🌹 I wish you had been around 30 yrs ago!😓 my ex wife was by no means a minimalist. But she did enjoy tossing out my belongings when I wasn't around 🤬. Oh well she's in the past and I'm loving the present 💝
Lol...I thought throwing their stuff out was great joke..lol
I have to tell you the truth, I have been married for 42 years and am a minimalist and my husband is definitely not and I have hid things from him for 1 year and if he doesn't notice I donate or throw it out.
He always kept things and would say that he might need it. You have good ideas
Love your channel ❤ 🇨🇦
That’s a funny life hack actually😅 Hope your husband will never notice!😄
@@VictoriaTerekhina yes me too..😆 💖
THIS is a practical suggestion.
I did a similar thing with my (ex) husband who bought himself new clothes every week. He had 37 pairs of trousers. Over time, by quietly moving them first to a bag in my wardrobe - then - a few at a time when l was sure he didn't miss them - to a charity shop - l reduced them to 11.
I then moved on to the shirts and jackets.
And then - okay - l moved on myself
I am trying to minimize my home. I love all your videos and tips, and you are from a place I hope to someday get to travel to. Take care 🙂 you guys are great. I imagine you and your husband and daughter are very kind and happy individuals.
Such a great video! I love your tips and the respect you have for your husband. 👏
Thank you!🥰 I’m glad that you liked the video!
This is a great video. As I’ve been decluttering and trying to adopt more of a minimalist lifestyle, I know I’ve been annoying to my partner. Like you said about your husband buying unnecessary groceries, my girlfriend does the same, so I’ve been trying to do most of the grocery shopping myself. I’m looking forward to seeing your channel grow!
Thank you!☺️ Glad to see you here✨
Your channel is so inspiring and nice, I love your content already and can't wait to see what else you will make. I would love to see videos of you talking about how you learned English (is it common for Russians to know English?), more about life in Russia, etc. It's all very foreign to me as an American and very fascinating! much love from the US
Thank you! I hope you’ll really enjoy my future content☺️
I’ve wanted to be a minimalist, but with 6 other people who are non-minimalists in the same house…. 😩🤷🏽♀️ This is encouraging me to keep striving to be a minimalist as an individual in a non-minimalist household 🥰
We try to do the Bring One Thing In, Take One Out but my husband really likes to bring 5 in, take 0 out! LOL 😆😂😅
Totally agree with you, helping them to de cluttered is important, if i relocate his things I let him know where i put them and indeed respect their things, best thing is to keep their stuff separated, even when we travel I like to pack my own stuff in my own luggage, as he likes to mix in case we loose our luggage. He’s got his workshop and it’s messy but I just leave it alone. My suggestion with gifts he doesn’t use, re gift them to other people that way it doesn’t go to waste
These were really great examples! My husband does the same thing with grocery shopping (because of this he usually ends up spending more money too, haha), but I ended up doing the same thing as you and go myself. I laughed when I heard you say that, because I have never heard anyone else say that.
Hi Vika 💜 I'd love to hear more about why you became a minimalist, and tips for minimalism (for example, on how you make decisions on decluttering, and how not to spend more money on clothes and stuff we don't need). Thanks for this video :)
Thank you for these ideas! I’ll definitely film something like that☺️
@@VictoriaTerekhina Thank you very much! I look forward to more videos from you in the future.
I love how all your advice is based on respect. If I lived with a minimalist I would ask if I could take up some space in their cupboard since they are not using it! I am just joking! Another tip for avoiding clutter is to stay away from markets, especially second hand ones because you can find too many nice things for very little money - and fill up your home quickly. Thanks for the video, Vika. Watching from Cape Town, South Africa.
I love your sense of humor it feels so Russian
🤣🤣🤣 I don't know how you were so serious through that intro. I actually thought you really meant that until i actually heard what you were saying. So funny! Hello from NYC
Great opening joke ;-D My husband buys waaayyy too many things and way too much too when he goes grocery shopping. Especially if things are on sale. OMG! Glad to hear my hubby is not the only one. Great video and advise.
Thank you😅 My husband just doesn’t think long before buying things🙈 It’s a problem a bit because I’m much more frugal in our family and also try to make more sustainable choices and we always have issues about groceries and just purchases in general😂
@@VictoriaTerekhina I totally understand that. It’s a lot like that with us. To the point where recently we agreed on a budget and anything over a certain $ amount we both have to agree. We have a set budget per week where we can each do as we please but the rest is more accountable 😉. It’s helping a bit. And at least the less practical spending is a little less than before. 😁. Baby steps. 😋. I guess we are good matches though. Because this way we balance each other out 😉😁😁
@@monikastep5711 agree with you about being good matches! I can definitely relate to that😅
You are a wise woman!
Thank you🥰
She really is and such a “real” person
Your husband is so lucky to have found you
Nice! Some really good points. Really like you content
I am not a minimalist by any means but in the last year I have become way less of a consumer.
But I am neat and organized and my husband is messy. I have learned to not look at his unorganized areas too much.
No clutter, no partner. Great minimalism 😂
All your advice is very wise 😊 i wish i hadnt learnt some of these things the hard way 😂
Thank you! The hard way is still a way to learn😅
You'e a good example for everybody! keep it up!
Awesome....😊, like your video
I'm Indonesian minimalist
Excellent advice, and I love your sense of humor 😊😊
keep making videos you are lovely ......your chanell is going to be big...trust me...although you are so young you help so many people God bless you and your beautiful family
Thank you a lot!😍
Hello nice to see how things are there. I'm in Indiana US. Really enjoyed your videos.
Excellent advice
Great tips and thanks for sharing Vika!💝🌸 More blessings to you and your family!🙏🏼💕❤️
Seems like you’ve watched all of my videos! Thank you!💛
Minimal Russian Girl You’re most welcome!💝
I have no problem trying to minimalise but I'm torn on what to do with some memory things and heirloom stuff.
I love your videos you are so stunning 💕 I am on my journey to be more minimalistic I started to declutter my closet it was really heavy because I noticed how much stuff I have and don't wear 😅 so all the things I don't wear and needed or I have two of them I donated all of them so
Your advices are really good great greeting from Germany 😊
You are so sweet, Always enjoy your videos!
This is good advice!!
Great ideas thank you!! ❣️❣️
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, love from our family to yours :)
Awesome video!! Just found your channel and love it!
Thank you a lot!😻
excellent explanation!
PS...Vika - my husband only bought the flip flops back from the charity shop to make me laugh...not to wear (mostly to remind me to ask him before I decided to thrown away his belongings! 🤗
I'm a minimalist but my husband isn't I can't get used to it can't handle it and most of the time iI have anxiety because of that situation but we have found a way to compromise
Talking every time about each other feelings and trying to find the solution together helps a lot🙌🏻 But of course the situation isn’t easy and takes a lot of energy and efforts. Wish you good luck with finding more compromises and solutions so you’d feel better!
My partner gets a 6x6 closet and anything that can’t go in there needs to be thrown out.
We are fighting if you throw away my stuff 😆
perfect
I notice that you use the word " wardrobe" to define the place you keep your clothes. In America it is called a closet. That's where we hang our clothes for storage . We usually hang our shirts and pants on "hangers". I enjoy watching your videos.
Its not so easy as you think. As minimalist I am maried with a kind of horder for 22 years. We do have a big hous and a property. He is OK with my minimalizem in our living space but everthing around is out of my hand. He can live without new clothes for 15 years but not without thousents of car parts and tools and tehnick stuf and.....so al my life with him I am keeping clean just maybe 100m2 in our 300m2 big house. And most of this things we never use in 22 years, so he is driveing me to divorce. I was a minimalist all this years thet my husband can buy this unnessesary things, what a waste of life and time and money. No question to sell, we must keep everthing. Shall I love him to death or shall I pack my few things and start a new life? Love your videos!
That’s so sad to hear! You’re right that my advices would be more helpful for a more simple situation and I’m sure that for the last 22 years you’ve tried everything you could. I don’t have an answer to your question but I hope that you’ll find the right solution💛
Usually women build a house, i mean we decide what to cook what to buy for house. So women 'ın this case more lucky than guys. Because when minimalist guy live with non minimalist girl its harder for him rather than girl live with non minimalist man.
Great video 👍
Thank you👏🏻
Lovely video, love your wise and down to earth advice on the topic.
My partner himself is not the worst with creating clutter, but his whole family is a group of shopaholics. We live in Taiwan, and here it is part of the culture to decorate yourself with a lot of branded items. Also the stores are very smart at targeting families who are shopping together coming up with discounts if you buy a certain number of items, so many times my husband will be slightly pressured into buying something, we don't really need , so that the whole family can get a good deal on their purchases >_
Wow you’re in a pretty difficult situation! I don’t really know what you can do with the shopping with relatives problem. I usually don’t go to shopping centers with anybody and my husband too. But we don’t have relatives who would really want to shop with us to be honest😅 If my friend wants to buy something together I just say usually that I’m tight in my money or don’t like the piece at all and it works out for me.
When my husband had a lot of things that were too small for him it also was difficult to convince him to declutter. The only ways that worked out were when I explained him that he can make something better out of these clothes (for example sell them and get some money, or give them to a particular person in need that he knows). And I also had to make him sure that we’ll easily buy new clothes if he will loose weight again and that new clothes would be anyway better because these might be already outdated and they won’t fit him perfectly. And that I’ll help him with the whole process, do everything I can myself, he just need to pick the clothes himself (because men like to control their things), so decluttering would be very fast and simple for him... It was a very long process which definitely took several months and I tried almost every argument that would be pleasing for him to hear but tried not to pressure him so he’d feel like it’s only his decision😅
clothes that are not fitting create a silent message "you are not good enough, you are too fat, too skinny, too...something" getting rid of all clothes that do not fit and do not spark joy... gives a much better feeling, it has to do with self-love and self-worth, also to say "I love you but NO" to relatives and social pressure, it teaches the others respect and that they are allowed to say NO as well
my partner collects a lot of things (shirts, vinyl, CDs, tapes, everything music-related basically) and I'm not annoyed by that. However, he also has some stuff in our basement, and he doesn't really know what it is/ he could easily just throw it away, since it's in the basement and like that he won't use it anyway. I already started to bring the stuff to our flat and try to find places for it, but I really don't get it why he wants to keep these things....
We have some places in our apartment that just keep my husband’s random stuff that he doesn’t use😅 I also have no idea why he keeps that but he doesn’t want to declutter these things so I just asked him to put them somewhere where I won’t see them all the time😂 Maybe you can keep these things in the basement and just forget about them?
@@VictoriaTerekhina I think that's the only thing I can do about it, and hope that he will not want to move the same packed up stuff to our next flat in the future haha
@@nadeschahanggi8228 😂😂
Sometimes it’s because there is a memory attached to the object. I look at things that way and now for most of those things I just keep a picture of the object. Sometimes after time passes I can even let that go. Moving to a different home helps because if a person has to pack all that stuff and haul it around they quickly realize how much work it really is. Sometimes all that stuff is just overwhelming and when I goes it is a huge weight off a persons shoulders.
Hi Vicka!
Have you always been a minimalistic? How come it came to your life?
I was talking about it a little bit in my “Why I am a Minimalist” video☺️
What are you saying before Privet (hi).
She says "hello everybody" in russian - "всем привет" (vsem privet)
@@klarachiamarsi5935 thanks. I wasn't catching the vsem. I understand most people her Russian. Thank you.
Where did you learn English?
It’s a very long journey😅 My parents have been insisting that English is important so I’ve been taking a lot of extra English classes since my childhood. And I’ve been to several summer camps with Americans where I could practice the real talk☺️ But I haven’t studied for the last 4-5 years so I feel that I’ve already forgot some part.
@@VictoriaTerekhina your parents have been very wise :)
@@vieras.3281 absolutely true!
Hat if your husband keeps everything even if he hasnt used it in a year or two ?? Lol Holy crap my husband should be labeled a hoarder lol
You have such a beautiful clothes but why are you using read only
Veeeery long shot here, but what are the chances to share your address or AN address where we can send you something? 🤗😊 (Your minimalist lifestyle will be kept in mind, promise! 😁)
Hilarious joke!
Don't be annoying, my former wife could have used that advice.
Cute joke
Leave him for me, come to america get your visa
Thank you for very useful tips! 🎉🥳 My fiance was keeping tshirts from his 4th grade 🫠 Boy! youre 183cm and 90 kg and still keeping xxs childhood tshirts? and he said "im still wearing these" i just threw them away. 🥹