1. Someone out of a shop and just stopping in front of me on the pavement 2. Big bag of crisps in the evening in front of the TV 3. Experiencing the cold - showers, standing out side etc - the clip in the video is NOT a cold shower... I HATE the cold...
It’s almost a habit to swerve comfort - simple stuff like just not putting your headphones on or walking somewhere you’d drive - I have a rule now where I don’t have any screens at all when I’m eating - I just eat. Same with bed, I go to bed - sometimes just sit in the lounge with no TV or anything. Get off the bus a few stops early - dunno, just seek it out and it becomes a bit of a habit - I catch myself thinking ‘ah I won’t do that now I’ll wait until it’s warmer, drier, lighter in the evenings’ whatever - I just think, nah - I’ll do it now because it’ll be done and I’ll be a little stronger, more resilient etc… you got this mate!
1)always work 2)always alcohol 3)I'll get back to you. I walk to work in -degrees as I get much more from it than using the car, it's currently 13 degrees inside work so already cold AND I carry the shopping by hand 😂 Great Video.
Then this: imagine how much more life would bother you and how far more often you’d respond to those cues if there weee simply more of them… good on you - whilst it could be better (for all of us) - there’s a reason you’re watching the video - so often I think I’m preaching to the converted, whilst not being converted myself…!! Thanks for the inspiration…! Mike - share the video with someone you think might enjoy it - that would be an amazing thing!
In fact - you’ve just made me wonder: how often to do fabricate a ‘cue’ because we crave the response (mine was alcohol and I know I didn’t this) ‘oh I’ve had a rough day at work…’ I hadn’t - I just wanted a drink… so that’s another video…
@@1stElement one big thing I can struggle with is only needing the "cue" once, or using a "false cue" as an excuse for a craving. But once the response is triggered the cycle is only craving, response, reward. The cue is no longer needed. Quite thought provoking.
1. Other people’s lack of consideration for anyone but themselves. 2. Pot Noodles as a lazy lunch option. 3. Go swimming - I suck at swimming, but with a sprint Tri in a few months I ought to remind myself how to not sink.
Good for you. Derren Brown summarises the Stoic approach as this: things you have control over; your actions and reactions. Things you don’t have control over; everything else. Thas helped me deal with point one of your comment a huge amount in the last couple of months since I read that. It absolutely put all responsibility and accountability for myself in my own hands and I literally have no control over anything else. Good luck to swimming with any luck it will go from being a discomfort to something you look forward to. Or maybe not…
1. Someone out of a shop and just stopping in front of me on the pavement 2. Big bag of crisps in the evening in front of the TV 3. Experiencing the cold - showers, standing out side etc - the clip in the video is NOT a cold shower... I HATE the cold...
'do hard things' So true but can be so hard to get started or maintain. This is exactly my mission at the moment, no more quick fixes. Great video
It’s almost a habit to swerve comfort - simple stuff like just not putting your headphones on or walking somewhere you’d drive - I have a rule now where I don’t have any screens at all when I’m eating - I just eat. Same with bed, I go to bed - sometimes just sit in the lounge with no TV or anything. Get off the bus a few stops early - dunno, just seek it out and it becomes a bit of a habit - I catch myself thinking ‘ah I won’t do that now I’ll wait until it’s warmer, drier, lighter in the evenings’ whatever - I just think, nah - I’ll do it now because it’ll be done and I’ll be a little stronger, more resilient etc… you got this mate!
Sorry - meant to say, not ‘hard things’ always - just ‘things’ that we’d avoid, distract ourselves from or do a in a comfortable way somehow…
@ Cheers buddy. Screens when eating... thats a tough one! All good ideas mate
1)always work
2)always alcohol
3)I'll get back to you. I walk to work in -degrees as I get much more from it than using the car, it's currently 13 degrees inside work so already cold AND I carry the shopping by hand 😂
Great Video.
Then this: imagine how much more life would bother you and how far more often you’d respond to those cues if there weee simply more of them… good on you - whilst it could be better (for all of us) - there’s a reason you’re watching the video - so often I think I’m preaching to the converted, whilst not being converted myself…!! Thanks for the inspiration…! Mike - share the video with someone you think might enjoy it - that would be an amazing thing!
In fact - you’ve just made me wonder: how often to do fabricate a ‘cue’ because we crave the response (mine was alcohol and I know I didn’t this) ‘oh I’ve had a rough day at work…’ I hadn’t - I just wanted a drink… so that’s another video…
@@1stElement one big thing I can struggle with is only needing the "cue" once, or using a "false cue" as an excuse for a craving. But once the response is triggered the cycle is only craving, response, reward. The cue is no longer needed. Quite thought provoking.
It really does, doesn’t it - that’s why I make them and get so much out of comments like these… seems self awareness maybe our biggest asset…
1. Other people’s lack of consideration for anyone but themselves. 2. Pot Noodles as a lazy lunch option. 3. Go swimming - I suck at swimming, but with a sprint Tri in a few months I ought to remind myself how to not sink.
Good for you. Derren Brown summarises the Stoic approach as this: things you have control over; your actions and reactions. Things you don’t have control over; everything else. Thas helped me deal with point one of your comment a huge amount in the last couple of months since I read that. It absolutely put all responsibility and accountability for myself in my own hands and I literally have no control over anything else. Good luck to swimming with any luck it will go from being a discomfort to something you look forward to. Or maybe not…