My baby girl cat passed on two days ago at the age of 4. I helped her have peace at the vet. My heart is shattered, my world is empty , I feel lost. The pain is real.
Only four? I am so so sorry. My darling baby was 19 years old. But in truth, a hundred thousand years with these little darlinsg would not be enough. I will settle for eternity - providing I unite with them on the other side, as I hope you do too.
Having the blessing to be with her putting her in sleep is freeing your soul so much; I thought I would not be able to do that … having little time to decide I held him 🥹🐶💔Lariss Italian greyhound boy, in my arms crying like never before was gift given despite all the regrets I have been having ever since thee were first signals of serious illness… gotta live with that for rest of my life … 6years2months17days was just too short but hope all the days we spent together were fulfilled with love … little girl Caprisse what I bought him to cheer him up almost 3 years ago made him even happier … please don’t neglect any signs of sickness and go to more than one Vet so you know there is something wrong what you can fix at early stage … his loss has taught me HARDEST lesson and has change my life … there are more much more important things in life we need than those we chase… life is never going to be the same FOR SURE … hope I can find peace and recall just those nice memories over regrets once the would is healed with deep cut scar on my heart ❤️🩹 … bless you all 🫶🙏🐶🐾
Thank you so much for this affirming video. It’s been 12 days since we lost our kitty to cancer after a one year battle. My family of origin is a narcissistic family system. There just isn’t any support there and I know that. That’s why I’ve spent time away from them and with my loved pet instead. To him, my kitty, I was his night and day. His sole support. I would do anything to make him happy and more comfortable and I’m grateful for every day we had, even the last heartbreaking ones when he was trying to so hard but was ready to give up. We miss him every moment. 12 years was not enough. Someone loved him dearly in this world and that was me, his human mom. From the moment I first saw him and to the end, and now too. My love continues. I won’t allow anyone to disenfranchise my grief and if they do, it will just be further evidence of their nature, not my own. Thank you Scottie! Mama loves you so much ❤❤❤! I hope to see you again in time. I will be waiting for you and look for mama in the light.
May your 12 years of mutual love with Scottie provide some comfort despite the grief. It is so true that sometimes our chosen family (includes animals) is purer of heart than our family of origin
This was so sweet and understanding. I recently lost my big girl; a sweet loving german shepperd. It was the worst pain I've ever felt, but I let myself feel it and be authentic about the pain. I'm hopeful that I'll eventually feel okay again. My heart goes out to everyone going through this, I love you all.
Life threw me a big curve ball. In just 4 weeks my partner of 4.5 years and I broke up, I moved out, moved into a new apartment, noticed my sweet cat Harrison was not eating much but acting normal otherwise and seemed to adapt quick to the new place so I didn’t think this was lack of appetite from stress. Took him to the vet and before I knew it he was hospitalized on Valentine’s Day and I had to say goodbye 3 days later. They told me he had bone marrow cancer. He had just turned 4 on February 8th and his two year adoption anniversary is the 27th. I have never cried so much in my life. I still can’t believe he’s gone and won’t be with me for this next phase in my life and that we didn’t even quite get a full two years together. Hardest thing I have ever had happen to me by far. I still can’t believe it. He was the love of my life and I will always miss him ❤
oh goodness, what terrible timing in the universe. Sorry you are having a season of life big with loss right now. I hope the time with your sweet Harrison can slowly grow into cherished memories after you process this grief, As you can see from the comments here you are not alone in this sad experience
Sooo sorry to hear this. We lost our little cat baba of 2 years to a car on the morning of my birthday, just 2 days ago. He brought so much love and joy to us, I just can't belive it and waking up to this reality every day, we are so so sad. I am sending you big hug and hope life is going better for you and things are looking up.
Thank you for this. I had to send my beautiful 14-year-old Bentley across the rainbow bridge yesterday. the pain that I feel is on a whole new level now💔
My beautiful boy Buddy. I completely underestimated just how awful it would be without him. I knew it would be sad, but I honestly think I feel traumatised. His euthanasia wasn’t peaceful like I thought it would be and I just can’t get the whole episode out of my head. I loved that dog so much, I still love him and I don’t know what to do with that love now that he’s not here. I’ll meet you at the Rainbow Bridge my sweet boy! 🐾🌈🐾
My dog buddy was euthanized 11 days ago. His passing was not peaceful either he overdosed with the sedative and had a heartattack with pain !!! I'm devastated 💔 and need justice for my dog buddy.
@@hollywood4061 I'm so sorry you experienced this too. It's completely devastating. It's bad enough to have to get your dog euthanized in the first place without it also being traumatic for your dog and yourself. It is truly a horrible experience. 😥😥 I know it's difficult but try not to dwell on it, you will make yourself feel ill if you do. Thinking of you ... 🐾❤️🐾
I truly feel pain for you. A few days ago I had to let my little 17-year-old Lola dog go. The last five days of her life were dark and scary. I gave her a Bravecto 90 day flew chew and it made her terribly ill. Because I couldn’t afford the $1800 worth of tests and I knew what had made her sick, I just asked for support and got her an anti-nausea injection and some probiotics. They told me to keep her hydrated, I thought I did! No one told me how hard it would be to keep a little dog who’s so sick hydrated with syringes full of water! They did not offer a subcutaneous liquid injection. I am just so letdown and feel so unsupported. She got terribly dehydrated and when I took her back, they said she had kidney failure. It ended up costing me $2500 anyway. I just hate them for not offering the subcutaneous fluids. I’m not trying to make you sadder, I just want to let you know how I hope to move forward and hope it helps you too. Don’t let the last dark days overshadow the many, many beautiful, wonderful, shiny, loving days that you shared together. I’m not there yet not even close but that’s my goal! I won’t let those horrible days overshadow my loving life with my little Lola. Crying my eyes out as I write this. Bless our babies on their next great adventure.
First of all, my sympathy goes out to each one of you who are going through the loss of your baby. My Tinkie Kat left me 8 days ago. Fifteen years of his love is gone. It seems like yesterday then it seems like forever and I'm struggling on just how to 'be' without him. One minute at a time. That's all I can do right now. Moving on? I know I will, but it will be in my time.
Indeed, it is a sad group here, and also beautiful in how much love and how many years shared w our fur companions. Fifteen years is immense! Be gentle with yourself as you mourn.
My sweet beautiful Cinder died a couple hours ago. She was an 18 years old Australian shepherd. I’m an emotional wreck right now, but these comments and the video helps. I’ve lost my father and brother recently too, but Cinder was with me for half my life every single day. We did everything together. RIP sweet girl, I’ll love you forever.
God I feel guilty I have daughter and grandson but I miss her so I wish I died that day with her, I want to live to be with them but without her it's not same anymore, big hole in my heart I bearly live, everything is so empty without her she was amazing dog, so clever, beautiful and good, I miss her I just would like lie down with her on bed and feel her body near me. And her love is something I never get from anyone unfortunately unfortunately. That unconditional love, so sad I miss her more than anyone else.
I am so sorry to hear the grief is hitting you so hard. Emotional injury is a real thing, often a normal reaction to significant loss (not an inherent mental issue). My family learned that we could have more love for and shared with a cat than we had thought possible...but the goodbyes at the end were painful.
@@HellaMentalHealth I thank you for the comment. I am thinking my love for this animal, and her sudden loss has me in a state...I have to get control of myself here... I now believe in life....and what death is.
I’m so sorry. I know what that raw, broken feeling is like. My Snoopy went to heaven 4 weeks ago today. But, in my grief, I know the Word Isaiah 53:4 says Jesus took our griefs and sorrows, but as I would stand on that I’m like ITS NOT WORKING! Then, after 3 weeks I heard the Holy Spirit say, satan didn’t kill Snoopy however I had let a stronghold take hold of my soul. Which is mind, will and emotions. After I bound that stronghold in the mighty name of JESUS, the uncontrollable crying stopped. I still have tears but not like it was. Thank You Jesus! 😢💔❤️
@@patriotgirl3163 it's just been so difficult. And I do know why... I was with this animal more than any other living creature for 5 years. And then gone forever. Just taken by a cruel animal predator. It is devastating
I'm 25 my 18 year old dog (chihuahua) Tiny passed away 3 days ago he was and still is my world so much of my life was spent with him. I am very thankful that i got a video of him crawling out of his carrier/blanket and on my lap smiling wagging his tail looking out the window of our car as we were on the way to the vet, Because of his heavy breathing and fast heart rate. Less than 5 minutes later he backed up into his carrier again and he had a heart attack or stroke he died while I was petting him an crying before we got to the vet because of traffic. When we got there they tried to bring him back but couldn't. i didn't want to see his body, part of me regrets that but I'm also happy that he took his last breath with me petting him on the way there and so i already shared his last moments with him. We payed for him to be cremated and his paw print taken along with some of his fur, Because of the weekend i have to wait longer than usual. Its been really hard to deal to deal with, I feared these days for so long I knew he was past the usual life time for chihuahuas and ik that no amount of time with him would have prepared me for his loss. its been devastating I sleep with his stuffed animal at night and i still keep his doggy beds and blankets where they were hoping that his spirit knows he is always welcome and that i love and miss him so much. its really hard not to blame myself or feel guilty for the things that happened through out our life together that i regret. And also for the things i never got to do with him, Not spending more time with him, Things i wish i did differently like going to vet more even though it was so expensive an I'm and have been out of work for 3 years due to my mental health etc ik he had a happy life an he loved me an knows i loved him but its so hard to deal with this pain. Im not a religious person but i really hope i will get to see him again someday. And I really love the idea that he is watching over me and it helps me to try and talk to him sometimes pictures and videos help also and so does laying on his bed and smelling his things. But it still hurts so much that I cant pet him and cuddle him. I really think I would feel so much better if I knew 100% that he was here and can hear me here when I talk to him and that when hes not here he is happy and not lonely. i really hope i will get to see him again someday
I had to put down my 18 year old cat a couple days ago. I had her since she was weaned from her mama and she has been the longest living pet I've ever had. I feel like there is a hole in my heart right now, because it is so new and I miss her terribly. I knew the day would come, but she suddenly went downhill fast and there was no recovery since she was already so old. She was a wonderful cat. She was a tabby cat, and her name was actually Tabby.
Tabbies are so beautiful! 18 years is a long lifetime to share together- may your memories, photos always be a comforting memory beyond the current heartache.
Ai feel your pain shit-zu 18 yrs one 17,years. I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS OVER. NOTHING TO LIVE FOR. EVERYONE SAID TIME HEALS. HASTNT YET. MISS SNUGGIE AND TINKER WITH ALL MY HEART. THE ONLY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WILL EVER HAVE
@@rhondabritt3086 they say the pain of grief is proportional to the love, so glad you knew such loyal connections, may the memories be a blessing and eventually bring back some smiles along with the aching. take good care, I notice time helps ease loss some- but we never forget the dear beings lost.
My Roxy girl passed last night she was only 5 years old. She was rescued at 8 months old so I didn't get the full 5 years with her or more. It was traumatic and unexpected. She was fine eating and drinking etc her daily activities. Wednesday she threw up purplish but my thought was mulberries since she loved eating them and maybe a few were bad. She stopped vomiting and the next day full of energy. Friday we cuddled she ate we walked. When I took her out for her evening walk we played Frisbee which is her favorite. We did one round and the second time I threw her Frisbee she seizured and collapsed. I did compressions and mouth to nose but she was gone. My only consolation is that she left playing her favorite game and she was not alone. I am heartbroken but I know I gave her all I could.
That's so touching and hard. My sweet girl passed a month and a half ago from heart issues that were not apparent until she died. Much love to you in your grief. ❤❤🐾🐾❤❤
@@meredith2277 Sending lots of love to you as well. I am sorry for your loss. It is truly indescribable what our furry companions mean to us. Friday was three months, It has been so hard and she has been heavily on my mind and heart. ❤️🫂
i honestly feel like dying. i don’t want to go on without him. excellent video, i feel like you truly understand the feeling and suffering coping with the pain. and very good advice, thank you. hope time heals 😞😞
please be gentle and self compassionate as you mourn. Time helps a bit but never completely erases our memories of love and the deep ache of loss. I try to think of the grief we carry as also a tribute to what we loved.
Thank you for this video. Just lost my baby boy after 9 wonderful years.. had to put him down today after his condition became unbearable, the pain is like a hole in my heart. I like to think that now I have an angel meowing his way in heaven, RIP my fur baby, we love you ❤️🐾
I lost my 14 year old cat 5 months ago. She was my unconditional support while I'm trying to heal from something mostly alone. She suddenly got ill and I had to have her put to sleeo. It was 5 months ago and I'm currently crying my eyes out etc. When struggling she was always there and she knew, I could tell and often would put her paw on me tp comfort me. A few people have said will you get another one, and that is the last thing I want to hear. I miss her so much and want her back. I've been reading the comments and I'm so sorry to everyone, my tears flow so much for mine and your loss.
14 years of your care! That is such a special relationship, (I adore when they reach a paw out. so sweeti) I am so sorry for your loss, and thank you for your empathy to everyone here in the comments
My very close and needy Dachshund, Luna had to be euthanized this past weekend. She gave us thirteen years of happiness. We miss her so much. If I close my eyes I can see her looking at me. I thank God for such a beautiful companion. She was diagnosed with congestive heart disease. My wife told me that the Vet told her that they usually last about a year after diagnosis. My wife asked God in prayer to please give us 1 to 2 more years with her. By the grace of God she lived 3 more years. We were with her until she passed and we praised God during the whole process. I still haven't gotten used to not having her next to me, but I have faith and talk to my wife everyday about it. 💔
So true, my daily life is so different now my lovely wee cat& dog have both required to be put to sleep. Pet loss is different as animals do love you unconditionally. Feel very honoured to have had them in my life for so long
I really enjoyed this i just had to put my beloved cat she was 19 she had problem will illness i dont believe in letting animals to be in pain and theres nothing to be done about it .some people think its not a big deal but it is.i gave her the best love of life .i miss her so much ❤❤
19 years! What a wonderful feline loving life you must have provided. My mother's kitty Mimi was 18 before expiring of old age and we still think of her fondly so many years later.
@@kayfitzgerald309 I understand how your feeling it's been over a month since my cat sunshine has left me I have her ashes I talk to her every night I miss her too like u miss yours somehow we'll get threw it .thank you for your reply .
I just lost my baby boy lucky Saturday was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do I’m broken he was 12 years i took him to the vet hospital I thought he would be coming home with us but ended up being put down due to lots of complications my baby was tierd thank you for the video
Sounds like your fur baby was showered in love during your years together. Hope that can eventually be a comfort, but give yourself ample time to mourn sorry to hear of this sudden loss
I lost my boy, Ghost, on Monday. He was an 11 year old white german shepherd. he was gorgeous, smart, and protective. I am so broken hearted that I feel I might never stop crying!
Had to put my cat to sleep at the vet 5 weeks ago bc of kidney disease. He was 12 and deaf(white cat) when i got him from the shelter 1 1/2years ago. I never know how his former life was but i hope he had a good time with me. He was a calm, talkative lap cat, trying to snuggle with me whenever possible. I'm not feeling guilty at all but miss him so badly 😢💔 he was the only positive thing in my life. My home is so empty and silent that i stay longer at work every day bc i dont want to be at home and i'm tired of people around telling me just get a new cat. I wear a necklace with a bit of his ash in it and a urn that i put on his favourite spot at the window and i printed a soft pillow with a pic of him sleeping. I sleep every night with this pillow in my arms now or on my sofa and when i wake up it's there anyway.
What a loving and special home you shared with your cat! I am so sorry for the loss you are living through. No one should be trying to rush you through grieving. My Dad did eventually let more cats into his heart but he will never love again quite like he did and still misses his first sweet SnowFurrBall (also a white kitty)
Yeah people sometimes don't understand the love of a pet. My ex-wife loved her dogs and I rescued an injured Dove right around Christmas I brought her in and she ate out of my hand within 30 minutes. She would do the mourning dove cries laying next to me who, who, who... who... who... I named her Ginger, she died in a few months, but she loved me and I love her and my ex-wife said, I was just falling apart, and she said Jerry its just a bird and I said no it wasn't. The hardest thing about mourning for pets is that you mourn alone, when it's a person everybody Mourns, when it's a pet you mourn alone. I love animals and I love people that understand the Love of Animals. I know that's a good hearted soul when I see they treat their animals very well ...❤✌🏻
Thank you for this empathetic video. I just lost my beautiful golden Ryley. Still intensely sad and heart broken. I miss him forever but honoring the joy he brought me and our family.❤🙏🏻💖💖🌠🕊️😇
Sad to hear about Ryley! The joy and time together is indeed a treasure and I hope the memories will always bring a smile...even if for awhile they may bring acute sadness alongside.
My partner and I put one of our babies to rest last night. The doctors believe she had PTE or Lung Cancer. I’m having these emotions when I’m sad and feeling empty knowing she’s gone, but then I don’t believe she’s actually gone. She was a 13 year old Pomeranian and we thought she was going to live longer than she did. On Monday she was happy and healthy, and the next day she was in the ICU in an oxygen chamber. It’s just so hard and the emotional pain is horrible.
We had to put our bichon poodle down this past Tuesday and same thing happend with us. Sunday she was fine and Monday came and her mass tumor got really bad and she suffered a stroke and I held her till the next day and took her into our vet and let her go. It was one of the saddest ones of all the past 4 dogs we had.Just knowing she was suffering in your arms and you couldnt do anything about it. I felt she was already gone when she had the stroke and when we finally put her down I looked into her eyes and it looked empty. She was ready to go and she was telling me daddy, Im so sorry but I have to leave you now. We are still going through it. Still have her water and food bowl oot and I refill and give her fresh water everyday. So different without her presense in out daily routine. Sucks. Oh and Im so sorry for your fur baby loss. Mine was also 13 and we expected her to be around for another 3-4 years but the cancer got her. Only time will heal. You take care and may our little fur babies play together in doggie heaven.
I'm so sorry you both have had such shocking losses of your doggos. You had every reason to anticipate more years together and that can certainly make adjusting to this loss so much more painful.
My baby had a stroke,he was fine that night.got up to leave for work and he started having a seizure.took him to the vet.she gave him a shot to block the seizures.he couldn't eat drink move legs .peed on himself .I cleaned him.feed him.loved him for 3 weeks.i had him put down.he screamed out load when Dr put needle in.i wish I hadn't done such.i cry I hurt I just want him back.
My cat died yesterday. I'm 64yrs old and I'm in so much pain. It's like everyone is dying around me. And now my cat. I can't stay in my apartment. I keep sitting in my car. In the apartment I feel so alone.. Why me.. We didn't bother anyone. And I feel so alone. I won't get another cat. Because in a couple of years I'm going to senior living.. And the cost was expensive but he was my baby. And I need the Lord to help me get pass this.. I pray for all those that are hurting with a broken heart. Amen
A tough season of life indeed, I am sorry for your losses and hope there are memories which can eventually be of comfort. I hear your concerns, my mother is in independent senior living which has been fantastic except the one thing she truly misses is that she can not have a cat there.
My sweet Lucy passed almost a month ago. She was almost 16 years old. I’m so heartbroken. I can’t stop crying. It’s hard to get up in the morning. We usually sleep in together.
I lost my sweet little baby Oreo a few days ago. She passed in my arms after collapsing 😔💔 I’m so sad … and what’s worse is i feel like i couldn’t save my baby , i hope she knows i love her so much 😔😔😔
Thank you for this video. I just had to put my 15 year old pug to sleep yesterday and it hurts so bad. He had mobility issues for several years and we did just about everything possible to help improve his life and keep him comfortable, but I still feel guilty. He was so resilient and rarely showed any sign that he was suffering even when he could barely walk or go to the bathroom properly toward the end. This video really helped me validate all these feelings of loss and why we feel so connected to having them with us.
15 years! Awww that is indeed a tough hole in the heart to fill. Sounds like you gave him an abundance of care I'm sure he felt wholly loved until the very end. May the memories bring some smiles and assuage some guilt as you heal.
One of the worst things is to "replace the loss" when grieving any lost connection or relationship. You must grieve and work through the emotions before you can give your heart fully again.
We really need to be more empathic to one another. To show no empathy about one's grief is disrespectfull and anti-social whether it is a loss of a pet or something else. It creates distance and loneliness because people are not being heard for who they are and what they experience. I speak from own experience and I feel sad that I can't express myself in a vulnerable way because I know that it will not be taken serious or be accepted. I could pay to see a psychologist in order to share but us humans would be much better of if we take the time to listen to the other without being selfish, but really to be there for the other as a support that fits their needs. It is a quality that most don´t posses to eliminate yourself and your beliefs but to put yourself in the other person's shoes to the best of your capacity. I wished more people would do so, it would really make a huge difference to establish a more healthy society. Edit: and I believe people grief over their pets sometimes more than over humans is because they felt more understood or loved by the pet. That is not because humans don't have the ability to have the same qualities it is just that the modern Western human has become more narcissistic and psychopatic and thus care less about anyone besides themselves. They are not willing to show the afffection that people need. Animals can fill that hole of emptiness, the lack of connection, that many have lost themselves in.
RIP my beautiful Lucifer. He passed away in March from feline AIDS. He was 12 -13. I still cry every day for my darling cat. I miss him so much. Thanks so much for this video xx
I lost my cat of 17 years last night and it's really hit me hard . I had her since she was a kitten and to see her die just broke my heart . I've been holding blanket and crying . I've also talked to friends and family and it's helped . I'm not sure why this one hit so hard . Her sister died of cancer two ago and it maybe the fact they are both now gone . I tried to save her but it was too late . I know all about the grieving process but this feels different.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your cats. 17 years really is a whole lifetime of connection. I understand holding onto your blanket too. I literally just bought a cat-shaped heating pad (warms in microwave) for a friend who is grieving
Thank you for this video. I am really struggling right now. I had to say goodbye to my companion dog that was with me for 16 years. She was the perfect dog for me. I loved her so much.
My cat who was 3 died of heart disease a blood clot I’m so lost without him loved him so much he was my everything I cradled him till I took him to the vet he had oxygen but we had to put him down after 4 hours
Thank you for the advice doc, my dog suddenly died just 2 days ago from vomiting and blood on his stool. The feeling is unbelievably painful. I can't sleep, and sometimes I can't breathe when I remember the 8 years that we had him through ups and downs.😭 The house is really odd without him because he always barks and follow when we go out. I will just go through it and "honor the pet grief", honor the care and relationships. I'm trying to move on but it seems so hard for now. But will strive to create a new space in my life for healing. 🧡
I just lost my Maggie on March 26th. I had to make the very difficult decision after a long battle with congestive heart failure. My life is so empty now. I am by myself without her and I feel so lost. Every time I leave the house I dread coming back only to find she isn’t here. I am so devastated and sad. I cry every day especially at bed time. She has been by companion for the last 13 1/2 years. Finding a new way to do life is proving to be a real challenge. My broken heart goes out to all of you experiencing the same thing I am going through. Praying for peace, comfort and healing. Daddy loves you so much Mags.
@@joew3426 I feel you and I understand the feeling.🧡 I lost my dog last March 23, It's like a part of you also died. The house is so quiet, sometimes I could still hear him in my mind. I know our pet see us hurting🐕they know how much we love them, and I'm sure we will all see them again somewhere. God bless and I hope we both recover soon.🙏
@@valenciamontgomery1805 I feel you and that's exactly how I felt. I lost mine just 2 months ago and I still miss him. At first there was no amount of comforting will do, but now I'm slowly recovering and accepting it and knowing we will surely meet each other again. At the moment All we can do is "go through it". The feelings will linger but soon equipped with that knowing. It will feel normal and peaceful again.🧡
@@RainbowStorylands it will be 2 months on the 26th since Maggie’s passing. I still have this emptiness feeling in my chest. I don’t think will ever be able to come home without expecting her to greet me at the door. Bedtime is still very hard. I did find out very quickly that the only way I could sleep is to have her favorite toys beside me on her blanket. That may sound extreme to some and I don’t know if I will ever be able sleep without them. Miss her SO VERY MUCH.
😢😢Thank you for the video. Make me feel not alone. Sadly we have to put down my loving Marly bc of cancer. Was so painfull and hard to let her go. I miss her so.much . But im going to trade to honor her
Hi Dr Helen, My baby of 18 years passed this weekend and I am having the most horrific time dealing with this. I wrote this to myself from her. I guess I am weird but the tears and hearing her everywhere is demolishing me. Completely wrecking me. I think in doggy heaven my lil baby is telling her friends that my mommy loved me so much and I got ribeye, steak, lamb, sweet potatoes, corn, moussaka, pastichio and if I didn't want like or want something or turned my nose up at it, mommy would cook me something else fresh to eat. Mommy always cared, if I was cold and cover me or put a barrier so I would be warm. Mommy was so comfortable to lay in. If she thought I was overheating she would make sure I drank water and put air on for me. Mommy took me on so many vacations. So many road trips, so many cities!!! She took pictures of me every place we went. Mommy would put pillows all around her bed so I could jump and would’nt hurt myself In my old age. Mommy would always make sure I was safe and if she didn't see me for a while she would come look for me. Mommy wouldn't stay at certain hotels if they didn't allow pets or even go if she didn't think I was safe. My safety was always my mommy's main concern. Even when people would get upset with her about me she didn't care and just loved me even more. I wasn’t the cutest thing apparently others said, but mommy thought I was!! She always told me how freaking cute I was no matter how old I got! She told me daily how cute and how much she loved me. I’m like enough already mommy, I get it you love me!! AND I would say back in my own way, mommy ILOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY too! If mommy thought I neeed care she would grab and shield me. I’ve almost died many times in my very long life of 18 years and she was always there to care for me. Mommy wouldn’t sleep holding me if I wasnt feeling well AND always check on me. Always at night she would shine a flashlight on me to see if I was breathing and in a safe place. I always liked sleeping close to the edge of the bed for some reason and mommy would gentler so I barely felt it moved the entire pillow to safety. Mommy would always be closing doors as others would keep doors open. I did sneak out a few times but within 30 seconds my protector was there for me. Mommy was so full of love for me. So full of love. 💕 The night before I left earth she held me for 6 hours in her chair and loved me more than anyone else could imagine and said her goodbyes and reminded me of all the fun times we had together. She was crying so much. I couldn’t believe the long life we had together and I wanted to hold on longer but my lil body just couldn’t anymore. I know I wouldn’t have lived as long as I did or eat as good as I did if it wasn’t for my mommy!!!!🥰 I love her so much and I was so lucky she pick me out of my other sisters and brothers and will always love her, but I don't want her to suffer and to just hold on to my memory and the hundreds of pictures and videos that she took of me, and I hated pictures! I would always turn my back and she would say “oh peepers …how do you know I’m taking pictures of you, you are so cute I just love you so much peepers peep peep!!!” We were perfect for each other mommy and enjoyed such a long life together! I love you Mommy and always will ~Peepers
You post so much great information here. Most of all you validate many pet owners feelings about their loved ones. I have had cats in my life for 44 years, and even though my baby girl was very senior in years, to lose her a few days ago has left me lifeless and listless. I still have a cat family to take care of, for three of them, it is their birthday tomorrow. Well, every day is a cat's birthday in my home :) But oh....how I miss my baby. Thank you again x
Thank you for sharing this. I am gutted and i don't know what to do. We had to suddenly say goodbye to our best friend and soul cat Lewis at 6 years young. He saw us through so many crucial moments in our life.. the bad and the good. It feels like i lost the other half of me. Oddly, this week last year my dad passed away after suffering his battle with cancer. April has become my least favourite month. I really needed to hear this today.
Oof, that is a lot of loss for a certain month. Sorry to hear you are holding so much. And 6 years is extra sad you had good reason to expect many more years together. May the Lewis relationship always be a joy to remember even as you feel the ache of loss.
Thank you for this doctor. I’m currently going through stages of grief stuck between anger and depression. My cat wasn’t even one that I wanted, he was given to me so his owner did not have to give him up to adoption center where I know he was unadpotable. I decided to sacrifice my selfish desires and take care of this cat because I had to put down my baby girl only 1.5 years prior to this. I knew this new guy was sick and that he would have issues, but I never expected just how quickly things would progress. He had regular vet checks up from 10-11 years old no real issues other than very overweight and likely thyroid disease because of it but levels were okay until they dropped then we put him on hyper thyroid medication and that worked for about a year until recently. A few months ago he had a bad jump and got some knee damage. We talked about a pain management plan instead of surgery because I was worried he would not survive surgery. He was doing great, limited mobility but he was still my normal cat for the most part. The last weekend he was trying to interrupt my gaming time by jumping in my lap and I’m so happy I decided to put the games down and spend some time with him. A few days later he was eating much less. I didn’t think much of it at first because I was finally on the dieting stage of his health improvement journey. Unfortunately, I should have taken him to the vet that day but in hindsight I’m not sure it would matter. Then next day Tuesday of this week, July 2, I go to give him his medications and he bites me. Never has ever done that before. I got upset and ran out of the apartment mad because I felt unappreciated and wronged. I came home and I thought my dude was not happy with me because he was hiding and not eating anything at all really. I tried to coax out him under the bed but he was not coming out. I knew something was wrong. I get him a vet appointment the next day. He was coughing a bit so I said maybe he has the flu maybe his food is just getting nasty because he’s not eating as much, so he got bacteria in his system or something. I figured okay a few antibiotics and he will be okay. But I was blindsided when they x rayed him and showed me his lungs had fluid. I did exactly what they said. He was put on lasix to drain it. We waited 2 days between July 3 and July 5. I spent my entire Independence Day watching him from midnight to midnight. I was so tired that before midnight I started to ask my friend and family what I should do. A lot of folks said ride it out but my mother told me this may be sign it’s his time. I thought “that’s crazy how can that be he was just perfectly fine two weeks ago.” I was so wrong. The fluid did not drain and he only got worse. He refused to eat, he was drinking and peeing but he was clearly not wasting out any fluid from his lungs because he was still having a hard time breathing. Eventually he got so tired that he could barely move. But he wasn’t able to sleep a wink. He kept going unconscious with his eyes open, a sort of half sleep. He needed to focus on breathing and nothing else. We go back to the vet on friday, yesterday, and we do another x ray. Now there is solid material as well as 75% of the fluid still there. The vet said there is small chance if we give him some fluid and let him be sedated for a bit so he could rest he might bounce back. I said no, no more. He has suffered enough. I put my baby down yesterday at 2:00 PM and I’ve never felt so much loss in my life. I never even asked for him but I’m so lost without him. I know it was going to happen probably even as early as the day I first took him in but it’s such human nature to want to have hope. I was so optimistic the entire time and even though he wasn’t being himself I treated him the same and didn’t let him see me be upset. I did everything I could for him. He was able to sleep finally. I know I did a mercy and the right thing but how do I pick up the pieces of myself without a fur buddy around? I have lived alone for years, people generally don’t like and I generally don’t like them. I’ve told myself I want to just work a lot of extra hours until I can pay off some of the vet costs and then save up and get myself a new born kitten to maybe not set myself up for disaster so soon again. What are your thoughts?
God bless you for your kindness to that little animal. I just lost my little cat. It's been hard but I'm starting to turn the corner. You did the right thing. Be kind to yourself.
I never thought a video like this could really help me with the pain, but I watched it anyways, and somehow you managed to make me feel something like a virtual hug. It still hurts, as it should. But thank you so much for this help. Baby girl Sharpay, I will always love you ❤ thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is. I hope to see you again. Thank you for 15 years of pure love and happy memories. You are deeply missed.
Virtual hug to you, indeed! 15 years is a huge amount of memories and deep companionship to mourn-sorry to hear about this doggo hole in your heart. As you can see in the comments we all have lots of sad loving company.
My sweet Snoopy went home to be with Jesus 4 weeks ago today. I miss him so much. Snoopy relocating to Heaven was worse than both parents deaths. My parents only loved me conditionally. Snoopy loved me UNCONDITIONALLY! I know he still lives but in Heaven with my Jesus and my other fur babies. 18 yrs though, I see him in almost everything I do. He depended on me for his food, water, etc. He slept with me and now he’s gone. Sleeping has been hard. I’ll NEVER FORGET MY BABY. I love him so much. I just wish Father God would have let them live longer. We had an Umbrella Cockatoo that we would have had to leave in our will they live so long. I’m not mad at Father God at all and the only way I can rationalize their shorter lives is over population? IDK I guess. I do know my Father God would NEVER intentionally hurt me or any of His children. And HIS ways are definitely higher than our ways. So I know where Snoopy is and he has a new perfect body and will be waiting for me when my race on earth for Jesus is finished. I love you sweet Snoopy and thank you for this page. ❤😢💔
I lost my Li'l Buddy a few weeks ago, and he was about 17 (apparently a geriatric age for a cat). I am a complete mess! I told him often that he was perfect and God gave him to me. The only thing that really keeps me going is the idea that he is in heaven, waiting to greet me home one more time. I'm sorry for your loss, but I am glad to see you leaning on the Lord. Love and prayers, sister.
I just lost my chinchilla buddy of nearly 20 years :( the day before I was about to get to go visit him and see him after so long too. That HURTS. I am in the process of building a house and he had to live with my gf while I try to make this all work out. I am so grateful for her because she created such a deep bond with him and brought out aspects of his personality that had never showed before. He didn't have to die alone. She was with him the whole time. I feel for her so much, having to hold him trough that. At least his last years were his best years. But I think both of us are hurting from it more than we really think. It is very painful still. Unfortunately I think her wonderful cat isn't long for this world either. :( that's going to be rough. I am personally done with the animals. As much as I love them. It's so true basically nobody gets it. Even fewer acknowledge it. I certainly can't handle another loss like that. Especially with my human freinds dropping like flies as well. It's a cold, cruel world. There is light and love in it though. Very grateful for my gf and the wonderful memories both her and I will always cherish with him. He was so cute it hurt just to look at him sometimes. He would laugh, he would cry, he would talk in his own little language. It is amazing how intelligent chinchillas are. Anyone considering a chinchilla for a pet, make sure you do some serious research into keeping one because they are very high maintenence. And the loss will hurt ALOT. Especially if you take good enough care of them that they live to the later stages of their lifespan. You will develop a very profound bond if they are taken care of properly. Heed this warning but also know that chinchillas are amazing pets but only if you are responsible enough to give them the care they deserve! He lived to nearly his max lifespan but I still made mistakes and oversights in caring for him properly. They need a specific type of cage, they require daily care, maintenence, cleaning, exercise and attention. They need alot of love to make it that long. If you can do that, I recommend chinchillas. If you can't, please do not get a chinchilla. They are not like mice or gerbils. They are very intelligent, emotional, needy creatures. It's easy to 'want' a chinchilla. It is hard to give a chinchilla the care they deserve. Heed this warning because it is probably really bad karma to get a chinchilla and not take care of them properly. I will be racked with guilt forever for the things that I didn't do right. They are precious creatures. If you are reading this and are also suffering loss, I wish you well and hope that you will have a good comeback from the pain. Sometimes I am not sure if it is morally good for us humans to keep animals as pets. But st the same time, they are being bred and genetically mutated for people to covet them. It's pretty messed up. So if it's happening anyways and there's nothing we can do about it, providing an animal with a home and love is a wonderful thing to do in our time here experiencing this thing we call life. Just be aware of the seriousness of the whole concept. It really is messed up when you think about it. Fun factoid; supposedly the aliens find us humans fascinating because of our love for animals lol as we are allegedly the only known species that keeps animals as pets to love and care for. ^-^
Thanks for the advisement for others- I have long adored chinchillas but was told since I was a child that they require a skilled carer and they are a big committment. I agree with you the loss of years of pet love is such a blow to the heart- not everyone wants to sign up for that again, especially as we do lose other people and things along the journey of life. Sorry for your loss and hope you cherish GF's aging kitty while you can. It is so hard. Yet also so beautiful to share true connection with a non-human being.
That says so much about how deep in his heart Huckleberry (and Dagmar) had become. Sorry to hear of your family's loss, and oh Westies are so sweet. I hope there are happy memories that linger after the loss.
My dog Jimmy a Pomeranian 16 years old went to heaven yesterday I’m so sad and feel alone without him. Today is the first day without him and I’m already looking for him knowing he isn’t there. I know he was in pain and I did the right thing but it’s so hard without him…😢 I’m trying to keep busy but a night it comes back to me because he use to sleep with me. Just want him to be remembered.. I will always love and cherish him forever. Need time to grieve for him..😢 Thank you
I know how you feel. My sweet little cat was run over last week. I've been crying for a week. Let it out. Grieve. I'm starting to turn the corner but it will be hard for a while. Don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself. Losing a pet is traumatic.
Wonderful video in such a hard topic...I lost my dear Mango butter cat on 7/26/23...had him almost 15yrs. Im so grateful to videos like this, Thank you again, it helps more than words can express in such a grieving time 🙏🏼💚
Thank you for this video. Your kind and compassionate words have helped me to better understand why my grief feels so huge after losing my sweet little Mimi, which I loved so much.❤
Am currently going thru some pet loss grief, I ended up looking after a dog for a “ friend “ and after quite a long time and a lot of excuses he didn’t want the dog back.. I loved the dog but it wasn’t the right time for me to have another dog , so I had to rehome him, was really quiet stressful. But most of all I really missed the dog. If I make a bond with a dog it really hurts to break that.
How kind of you take on the care and rehoming! This dog was fortunate and I hope although you feel the ache of separation after bonding- that you can feel postive about the extension of your care and impact.
My queen Mini has gone I miss her so, I feel so. Alone, there's nobody to replace her and can't, I want her so bad near me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢🙏🙏🙏 This world is so cruel.
Folks don't always understand- there's simply no replacement for that special bond built over time and closeness. Sorry you are feeling the heartache right now, I hope your memories can be a blessing alongside the sadness.
Here is the dog's prayer to anyone that has lost their dog it helps me and it has for many years:🙏🏼❤ A Poem by Beth Norman Harris Treat me kindly, my beloved master, for no heart in all the world is more grateful for kindness than the loving heart of mine. Do not break my spirit with a stick, for though I should lick your hand between the blows, your patience and understanding will more quickly teach me the things you would have me do. Speak to me often, for your voice is the world’s sweetest music, as you must know by the fierce wagging of my tail when your footsteps fall upon my waiting ear. When it is cold and wet, please take me inside, for I am now a domesticated animal, no longer used to bitter elements. And I ask no greater glory than the privilege of sitting at your feet or on your lap or laying beside you in your bed Keep my pan filled with fresh water, for although I should not reproach you were it dry, I cannot tell you when I suffer thirst. Feed me clean food, that I may stay well, to romp and play and do your bidding, to walk by your side. And, beloved master, should the great Master see fit to deprive me of my health or sight, do not turn me away from you. Rather hold me gently in your arms as skilled hands grant me the merciful boon of eternal rest - and I will leave you knowing with the last breath I drew, my fate was ever safest in your hands.
I lost my pet moneky of 6 years who was like my child to me, he friday he was playing and eating and drinking like normal until night reach....he stopped playing and eating and drinking and then he died suddenly in me and my mom's arm with no explanation...we feed him sugar water 20 minutes before he died and he drank alot and we were so happy he was eating again...but our happiness came to and end...and now we have no closure on what really happened to him and we don't know if we can ever recover from this....this is the worse thing that has ever happened to me
I had an 11 year old Budgie before as well! Sorry for your loss, those teeny budgies hold so much personality - our home was not the same without her curious looks, soft feathers, and even her occasionally intrusive loudness
I had to euthanize my beloved Clyde, my constant companion, my baby doggie buddy, this Monday, and I am grief-stricken beyond measure. He was 14, which is a good run I know. But our home feels empty now. My life was centered around him. I have cried buckets, and will always be grateful for our life together. That doesn't make it one bit easier. I am still in stage 1. But diversion, getting back into my routine, eating correctly and going to the gym all provide momentary diversion. I have never hurt this badly. I refuse to succumb to self-pity, but my despair and sense of emptiness are enormous. Is the pain worth it? For a dog like him, and the joy he brought to me, there is no question. Thank god for Mozart, my hero, who never fails, but even he is not Clyde.
Sorry to hear what you are suffering right now- 14 years with Clyde- an entire doggo lifetime of love is a serious loss indeed. Glad you are doing the controllable things to self-care.
You're right folks talk about dogs a lot- maybe because they are pack animals and bond so quickly and easily...whereas the love and loyalty of a cat is a more mysterious thing- but so amazing once established. Sorry you aren't finding much cat loss commentary- but if you read these comments a LOT of us grieve cats we have loved. My own family has been blessed with more feline than canine love over a lifetime. Each one remembered for always.
My baby girl cat passed on two days ago at the age of 4. I helped her have peace at the vet. My heart is shattered, my world is empty , I feel lost. The pain is real.
Sorry for your hurting. You did exactly what vets recommend to be close until the end. You are not alone in the heartache.
Only four? I am so so sorry. My darling baby was 19 years old. But in truth, a hundred thousand years with these little darlinsg would not be enough. I will settle for eternity - providing I unite with them on the other side, as I hope you do too.
So sorry for your loss. 💔
Having the blessing to be with her putting her in sleep is freeing your soul so much; I thought I would not be able to do that … having little time to decide I held him 🥹🐶💔Lariss Italian greyhound boy, in my arms crying like never before was gift given despite all the regrets I have been having ever since thee were first signals of serious illness… gotta live with that for rest of my life … 6years2months17days was just too short but hope all the days we spent together were fulfilled with love … little girl Caprisse what I bought him to cheer him up almost 3 years ago made him even happier … please don’t neglect any signs of sickness and go to more than one Vet so you know there is something wrong what you can fix at early stage … his loss has taught me HARDEST lesson and has change my life … there are more much more important things in life we need than those we chase… life is never going to be the same FOR SURE … hope I can find peace and recall just those nice memories over regrets once the would is healed with deep cut scar on my heart ❤️🩹 … bless you all 🫶🙏🐶🐾
So sad to hear about your kitty loss. Sounds like you were there to care and comfort her to the very end, what a gift and bond.
Thank you so much for this affirming video. It’s been 12 days since we lost our kitty to cancer after a one year battle. My family of origin is a narcissistic family system. There just isn’t any support there and I know that. That’s why I’ve spent time away from them and with my loved pet instead. To him, my kitty, I was his night and day. His sole support. I would do anything to make him happy and more comfortable and I’m grateful for every day we had, even the last heartbreaking ones when he was trying to so hard but was ready to give up. We miss him every moment. 12 years was not enough. Someone loved him dearly in this world and that was me, his human mom. From the moment I first saw him and to the end, and now too. My love continues. I won’t allow anyone to disenfranchise my grief and if they do, it will just be further evidence of their nature, not my own. Thank you Scottie! Mama loves you so much ❤❤❤! I hope to see you again in time. I will be waiting for you and look for mama in the light.
May your 12 years of mutual love with Scottie provide some comfort despite the grief. It is so true that sometimes our chosen family (includes animals) is purer of heart than our family of origin
@@HellaMentalHealth Thank you so much ❤️🙏
This was so sweet and understanding.
I recently lost my big girl; a sweet loving german shepperd. It was the worst pain I've ever felt, but I let myself feel it and be authentic about the pain. I'm hopeful that I'll eventually feel okay again.
My heart goes out to everyone going through this, I love you all.
Put my best friend down last Friday. I would put down BOTH my parents to have the one who truly loved me back . SHATTERED ❤
I lost my fur baby last night,she was hit by a car...I miss her so much.
@@cv5119💔💔That is devastating, I’m so very sorry!
Life threw me a big curve ball. In just 4 weeks my partner of 4.5 years and I broke up, I moved out, moved into a new apartment, noticed my sweet cat Harrison was not eating much but acting normal otherwise and seemed to adapt quick to the new place so I didn’t think this was lack of appetite from stress. Took him to the vet and before I knew it he was hospitalized on Valentine’s Day and I had to say goodbye 3 days later. They told me he had bone marrow cancer. He had just turned 4 on February 8th and his two year adoption anniversary is the 27th. I have never cried so much in my life. I still can’t believe he’s gone and won’t be with me for this next phase in my life and that we didn’t even quite get a full two years together. Hardest thing I have ever had happen to me by far. I still can’t believe it. He was the love of my life and I will always miss him ❤
oh goodness, what terrible timing in the universe. Sorry you are having a season of life big with loss right now. I hope the time with your sweet Harrison can slowly grow into cherished memories after you process this grief, As you can see from the comments here you are not alone in this sad experience
Sooo sorry to hear this. We lost our little cat baba of 2 years to a car on the morning of my birthday, just 2 days ago. He brought so much love and joy to us, I just can't belive it and waking up to this reality every day, we are so so sad. I am sending you big hug and hope life is going better for you and things are looking up.
Thank you for this. I had to send my beautiful 14-year-old Bentley across the rainbow bridge yesterday. the pain that I feel is on a whole new level now💔
My beautiful boy Buddy. I completely underestimated just how awful it would be without him. I knew it would be sad, but I honestly think I feel traumatised. His euthanasia wasn’t peaceful like I thought it would be and I just can’t get the whole episode out of my head. I loved that dog so much, I still love him and I don’t know what to do with that love now that he’s not here. I’ll meet you at the Rainbow Bridge my sweet boy! 🐾🌈🐾
My dog buddy was euthanized 11 days ago. His passing was not peaceful either he overdosed with the sedative and had a heartattack with pain !!! I'm devastated 💔 and need justice for my dog buddy.
@@hollywood4061 I'm so sorry you experienced this too. It's completely devastating. It's bad enough to have to get your dog euthanized in the first place without it also being traumatic for your dog and yourself. It is truly a horrible experience. 😥😥 I know it's difficult but try not to dwell on it, you will make yourself feel ill if you do. Thinking of you ... 🐾❤️🐾
I truly feel pain for you. A few days ago I had to let my little 17-year-old Lola dog go. The last five days of her life were dark and scary. I gave her a Bravecto 90 day flew chew and it made her terribly ill. Because I couldn’t afford the $1800 worth of tests and I knew what had made her sick, I just asked for support and got her an anti-nausea injection and some probiotics. They told me to keep her hydrated, I thought I did! No one told me how hard it would be to keep a little dog who’s so sick hydrated with syringes full of water! They did not offer a subcutaneous liquid injection. I am just so letdown and feel so unsupported. She got terribly dehydrated and when I took her back, they said she had kidney failure. It ended up costing me $2500 anyway. I just hate them for not offering the subcutaneous fluids. I’m not trying to make you sadder, I just want to let you know how I hope to move forward and hope it helps you too. Don’t let the last dark days overshadow the many, many beautiful, wonderful, shiny, loving days that you shared together. I’m not there yet not even close but that’s my goal! I won’t let those horrible days overshadow my loving life with my little Lola. Crying my eyes out as I write this. Bless our babies on their next great adventure.
First of all, my sympathy goes out to each one of you who are going through the loss of your baby. My Tinkie Kat left me 8 days ago. Fifteen years of his love is gone. It seems like yesterday then it seems like forever and I'm struggling on just how to 'be' without him. One minute at a time. That's all I can do right now. Moving on? I know I will, but it will be in my time.
Indeed, it is a sad group here, and also beautiful in how much love and how many years shared w our fur companions. Fifteen years is immense! Be gentle with yourself as you mourn.
@@HellaMentalHealth thank you.
My sweet beautiful Cinder died a couple hours ago. She was an 18 years old Australian shepherd. I’m an emotional wreck right now, but these comments and the video helps. I’ve lost my father and brother recently too, but Cinder was with me for half my life every single day. We did everything together. RIP sweet girl, I’ll love you forever.
Cinder sounds like such a blessing and the closest of companions. Sorry to hear of your many losses as dear ones are now transitioned to ancestors.
God I feel guilty I have daughter and grandson but I miss her so I wish I died that day with her, I want to live to be with them but without her it's not same anymore, big hole in my heart I bearly live, everything is so empty without her she was amazing dog, so clever, beautiful and good, I miss her I just would like lie down with her on bed and feel her body near me. And her love is something I never get from anyone unfortunately unfortunately. That unconditional love, so sad I miss her more than anyone else.
I'm grieving over the sudden loss of my cat so intensely that I think I may have real mental problems.
I am so sorry to hear the grief is hitting you so hard. Emotional injury is a real thing, often a normal reaction to significant loss (not an inherent mental issue). My family learned that we could have more love for and shared with a cat than we had thought possible...but the goodbyes at the end were painful.
@@HellaMentalHealth I thank you for the comment. I am thinking my love for this animal, and her sudden loss has me in a state...I have to get control of myself here...
I now believe in life....and what death is.
I’m so sorry. I know what that raw, broken feeling is like. My Snoopy went to heaven 4 weeks ago today. But, in my grief, I know the Word Isaiah 53:4 says Jesus took our griefs and sorrows, but as I would stand on that I’m like ITS NOT WORKING! Then, after 3 weeks I heard the Holy Spirit say, satan didn’t kill Snoopy however I had let a stronghold take hold of my soul. Which is mind, will and emotions. After I bound that stronghold in the mighty name of JESUS, the uncontrollable crying stopped. I still have tears but not like it was. Thank You Jesus! 😢💔❤️
@@patriotgirl3163 it's just been so difficult. And I do know why... I was with this animal more than any other living creature for 5 years. And then gone forever. Just taken by a cruel animal predator. It is devastating
I'm 25 my 18 year old dog (chihuahua) Tiny passed away 3 days ago he was and still is my world so much of my life was spent with him. I am very thankful that i got a video of him crawling out of his carrier/blanket and on my lap smiling wagging his tail looking out the window of our car as we were on the way to the vet, Because of his heavy breathing and fast heart rate. Less than 5 minutes later he backed up into his carrier again and he had a heart attack or stroke he died while I was petting him an crying before we got to the vet because of traffic. When we got there they tried to bring him back but couldn't. i didn't want to see his body, part of me regrets that but I'm also happy that he took his last breath with me petting him on the way there and so i already shared his last moments with him. We payed for him to be cremated and his paw print taken along with some of his fur, Because of the weekend i have to wait longer than usual. Its been really hard to deal to deal with, I feared these days for so long I knew he was past the usual life time for chihuahuas and ik that no amount of time with him would have prepared me for his loss. its been devastating I sleep with his stuffed animal at night and i still keep his doggy beds and blankets where they were hoping that his spirit knows he is always welcome and that i love and miss him so much. its really hard not to blame myself or feel guilty for the things that happened through out our life together that i regret. And also for the things i never got to do with him, Not spending more time with him, Things i wish i did differently like going to vet more even though it was so expensive an I'm and have been out of work for 3 years due to my mental health etc ik he had a happy life an he loved me an knows i loved him but its so hard to deal with this pain. Im not a religious person but i really hope i will get to see him again someday. And I really love the idea that he is watching over me and it helps me to try and talk to him sometimes pictures and videos help also and so does laying on his bed and smelling his things. But it still hurts so much that I cant pet him and cuddle him. I really think I would feel so much better if I knew 100% that he was here and can hear me here when I talk to him and that when hes not here he is happy and not lonely. i really hope i will get to see him again someday
I had to put down my 18 year old cat a couple days ago. I had her since she was weaned from her mama and she has been the longest living pet I've ever had. I feel like there is a hole in my heart right now, because it is so new and I miss her terribly. I knew the day would come, but she suddenly went downhill fast and there was no recovery since she was already so old. She was a wonderful cat. She was a tabby cat, and her name was actually Tabby.
Tabbies are so beautiful! 18 years is a long lifetime to share together- may your memories, photos always be a comforting memory beyond the current heartache.
Ai feel your pain shit-zu 18 yrs one 17,years. I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE IS OVER. NOTHING TO LIVE FOR. EVERYONE SAID TIME HEALS. HASTNT YET. MISS SNUGGIE AND TINKER WITH ALL MY HEART. THE ONLY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WILL EVER HAVE
@@rhondabritt3086 they say the pain of grief is proportional to the love, so glad you knew such loyal connections, may the memories be a blessing and eventually bring back some smiles along with the aching. take good care, I notice time helps ease loss some- but we never forget the dear beings lost.
My Roxy girl passed last night she was only 5 years old. She was rescued at 8 months old so I didn't get the full 5 years with her or more. It was traumatic and unexpected. She was fine eating and drinking etc her daily activities. Wednesday she threw up purplish but my thought was mulberries since she loved eating them and maybe a few were bad. She stopped vomiting and the next day full of energy.
Friday we cuddled she ate we walked. When I took her out for her evening walk we played Frisbee which is her favorite. We did one round and the second time I threw her Frisbee she seizured and collapsed. I did compressions and mouth to nose but she was gone.
My only consolation is that she left playing her favorite game and she was not alone. I am heartbroken but I know I gave her all I could.
That's so touching and hard. My sweet girl passed a month and a half ago from heart issues that were not apparent until she died. Much love to you in your grief. ❤❤🐾🐾❤❤
@@meredith2277 Sending lots of love to you as well. I am sorry for your loss. It is truly indescribable what our furry companions mean to us. Friday was three months, It has been so hard and she has been heavily on my mind and heart. ❤️🫂
i honestly feel like dying. i don’t want to go on without him. excellent video, i feel like you truly understand the feeling and suffering coping with the pain. and very good advice, thank you. hope time heals 😞😞
How are u doing ow
please be gentle and self compassionate as you mourn. Time helps a bit but never completely erases our memories of love and the deep ache of loss. I try to think of the grief we carry as also a tribute to what we loved.
What I have found so helpful is the Jewish blessing. It HAS HELPED ME!.
THEY say may his memory be a blessing
What a wonderful idea
I try to use it.
Thank you for this video. Just lost my baby boy after 9 wonderful years.. had to put him down today after his condition became unbearable, the pain is like a hole in my heart. I like to think that now I have an angel meowing his way in heaven, RIP my fur baby, we love you ❤️🐾
I lost my 14 year old cat 5 months ago. She was my unconditional support while I'm trying to heal from something mostly alone. She suddenly got ill and I had to have her put to sleeo. It was 5 months ago and I'm currently crying my eyes out etc. When struggling she was always there and she knew, I could tell and often would put her paw on me tp comfort me. A few people have said will you get another one, and that is the last thing I want to hear. I miss her so much and want her back. I've been reading the comments and I'm so sorry to everyone, my tears flow so much for mine and your loss.
14 years of your care! That is such a special relationship, (I adore when they reach a paw out. so sweeti) I am so sorry for your loss, and thank you for your empathy to everyone here in the comments
My very close and needy Dachshund, Luna had to be euthanized this past weekend. She gave us thirteen years of happiness. We miss her so much. If I close my eyes I can see her looking at me. I thank God for such a beautiful companion. She was diagnosed with congestive heart disease. My wife told me that the Vet told her that they usually last about a year after diagnosis. My wife asked God in prayer to please give us 1 to 2 more years with her. By the grace of God she lived 3 more years. We were with her until she passed and we praised God during the whole process. I still haven't gotten used to not having her next to me, but I have faith and talk to my wife everyday about it. 💔
3 more years, what a blessing! Glad you had that bonus Luna time and she sounds like she lived a life filled with love.
So true, my daily life is so different now my lovely wee cat& dog have both required to be put to sleep. Pet loss is different as animals do love you unconditionally. Feel very honoured to have had them in my life for so long
It not just an animal it your life
A shared life, indeed a precious one.
I really enjoyed this i just had to put my beloved cat she was 19 she had problem will illness i dont believe in letting animals to be in pain and theres nothing to be done about it .some people think its not a big deal but it is.i gave her the best love of life .i miss her so much ❤❤
19 years! What a wonderful feline loving life you must have provided. My mother's kitty Mimi was 18 before expiring of old age and we still think of her fondly so many years later.
I'm missing my 15 y.o.best boy,BK😢he has been gone 4 weeks today and I can't stop crying & hurting 😮💨
@@kayfitzgerald309 I understand how your feeling it's been over a month since my cat sunshine has left me I have her ashes I talk to her every night I miss her too like u miss yours somehow we'll get threw it .thank you for your reply
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I just lost my baby boy lucky Saturday was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do I’m broken he was 12 years i took him to the vet hospital I thought he would be coming home with us but ended up being put down due to lots of complications my baby was tierd thank you for the video
Sounds like your fur baby was showered in love during your years together. Hope that can eventually be a comfort, but give yourself ample time to mourn sorry to hear of this sudden loss
My 17yr old cat passed 2 days ago. It’s been so hard being home and not seeing her. Wishing you all the best through the healing process.
I lost my boy, Ghost, on Monday. He was an 11 year old white german shepherd. he was gorgeous, smart, and protective. I am so broken hearted that I feel I might never stop crying!
Thoughts and prayers
17/11/23 goodbye my little bubby Sniff. She was 16 years old. I will never forget you.
Had to put my cat to sleep at the vet 5 weeks ago bc of kidney disease. He was 12 and deaf(white cat) when i got him from the shelter 1 1/2years ago. I never know how his former life was but i hope he had a good time with me. He was a calm, talkative lap cat, trying to snuggle with me whenever possible.
I'm not feeling guilty at all but miss him so badly 😢💔 he was the only positive thing in my life.
My home is so empty and silent that i stay longer at work every day bc i dont want to be at home and i'm tired of people around telling me just get a new cat. I wear a necklace with a bit of his ash in it and a urn that i put on his favourite spot at the window and i printed a soft pillow with a pic of him sleeping. I sleep every night with this pillow in my arms now or on my sofa and when i wake up it's there anyway.
What a loving and special home you shared with your cat! I am so sorry for the loss you are living through. No one should be trying to rush you through grieving.
My Dad did eventually let more cats into his heart but he will never love again quite like he did and still misses his first sweet SnowFurrBall (also a white kitty)
Yeah people sometimes don't understand the love of a pet. My ex-wife loved her dogs and I rescued an injured Dove right around Christmas I brought her in and she ate out of my hand within 30 minutes. She would do the mourning dove cries laying next to me who, who, who... who... who... I named her Ginger, she died in a few months, but she loved me and I love her and my ex-wife said, I was just falling apart, and she said Jerry its just a bird and I said no it wasn't. The hardest thing about mourning for pets is that you mourn alone, when it's a person everybody Mourns, when it's a pet you mourn alone. I love animals and I love people that understand the Love of Animals. I know that's a good hearted soul when I see they treat their animals very well ...❤✌🏻
Thank you for this empathetic video. I just lost my beautiful golden Ryley. Still intensely sad and heart broken. I miss him forever but honoring the joy he brought me and our family.❤🙏🏻💖💖🌠🕊️😇
Sad to hear about Ryley! The joy and time together is indeed a treasure and I hope the memories will always bring a smile...even if for awhile they may bring acute sadness alongside.
My partner and I put one of our babies to rest last night. The doctors believe she had PTE or Lung Cancer. I’m having these emotions when I’m sad and feeling empty knowing she’s gone, but then I don’t believe she’s actually gone. She was a 13 year old Pomeranian and we thought she was going to live longer than she did. On Monday she was happy and healthy, and the next day she was in the ICU in an oxygen chamber. It’s just so hard and the emotional pain is horrible.
We had to put our bichon poodle down this past Tuesday and same thing happend with us. Sunday she was fine and Monday came and her mass tumor got really bad and she suffered a stroke and I held her till the next day and took her into our vet and let her go. It was one of the saddest ones of all the past 4 dogs we had.Just knowing she was suffering in your arms and you couldnt do anything about it. I felt she was already gone when she had the stroke and when we finally put her down I looked into her eyes and it looked empty. She was ready to go and she was telling me daddy, Im so sorry but I have to leave you now. We are still going through it. Still have her water and food bowl oot and I refill and give her fresh water everyday. So different without her presense in out daily routine. Sucks. Oh and Im so sorry for your fur baby loss. Mine was also 13 and we expected her to be around for another 3-4 years but the cancer got her. Only time will heal. You take care and may our little fur babies play together in doggie heaven.
I'm so sorry you both have had such shocking losses of your doggos. You had every reason to anticipate more years together and that can certainly make adjusting to this loss so much more painful.
My baby had a stroke,he was fine that night.got up to leave for work and he started having a seizure.took him to the vet.she gave him a shot to block the seizures.he couldn't eat drink move legs .peed on himself .I cleaned him.feed him.loved him for 3 weeks.i had him put down.he screamed out load when Dr put needle in.i wish I hadn't done such.i cry I hurt I just want him back.
My cat died yesterday. I'm 64yrs old and I'm in so much pain. It's like everyone is dying around me. And now my cat. I can't stay in my apartment. I keep sitting in my car. In the apartment I feel so alone.. Why me.. We didn't bother anyone. And I feel so alone. I won't get another cat. Because in a couple of years I'm going to senior living.. And the cost was expensive but he was my baby. And I need the Lord to help me get pass this.. I pray for all those that are hurting with a broken heart. Amen
A tough season of life indeed, I am sorry for your losses and hope there are memories which can eventually be of comfort. I hear your concerns, my mother is in independent senior living which has been fantastic except the one thing she truly misses is that she can not have a cat there.
Im 62. Just so sorry for you. Ive been staying outsidd in nature..i sent my girl to the Rainbow Bridge yesterday.
My sweet Lucy passed almost a month ago. She was almost 16 years old. I’m so heartbroken. I can’t stop crying. It’s hard to get up in the morning. We usually sleep in together.
I lost my sweet little baby Oreo a few days ago. She passed in my arms after collapsing 😔💔 I’m so sad … and what’s worse is i feel like i couldn’t save my baby , i hope she knows i love her so much 😔😔😔
12 years ❤ of love,Advance an Protection My Dog save me from mental,physical,spiritual Damage Rest Glory Bear!
I am sure you provided protection and love to your Bear as well. 12 years is a very special relationship indeed.
Thank you for this video. I just had to put my 15 year old pug to sleep yesterday and it hurts so bad. He had mobility issues for several years and we did just about everything possible to help improve his life and keep him comfortable, but I still feel guilty. He was so resilient and rarely showed any sign that he was suffering even when he could barely walk or go to the bathroom properly toward the end. This video really helped me validate all these feelings of loss and why we feel so connected to having them with us.
15 years! Awww that is indeed a tough hole in the heart to fill. Sounds like you gave him an abundance of care I'm sure he felt wholly loved until the very end. May the memories bring some smiles and assuage some guilt as you heal.
@@HellaMentalHealth thank you! It’s so nice of you to reply here ♥️
One of the worst things is to "replace the loss" when grieving any lost connection or relationship. You must grieve and work through the emotions before you can give your heart fully again.
indeed! Too easy to flee our pain rather than honor and hold it
We really need to be more empathic to one another. To show no empathy about one's grief is disrespectfull and anti-social whether it is a loss of a pet or something else. It creates distance and loneliness because people are not being heard for who they are and what they experience. I speak from own experience and I feel sad that I can't express myself in a vulnerable way because I know that it will not be taken serious or be accepted. I could pay to see a psychologist in order to share but us humans would be much better of if we take the time to listen to the other without being selfish, but really to be there for the other as a support that fits their needs.
It is a quality that most don´t posses to eliminate yourself and your beliefs but to put yourself in the other person's shoes to the best of your capacity. I wished more people would do so, it would really make a huge difference to establish a more healthy society.
Edit: and I believe people grief over their pets sometimes more than over humans is because they felt more understood or loved by the pet. That is not because humans don't have the ability to have the same qualities it is just that the modern Western human has become more narcissistic and psychopatic and thus care less about anyone besides themselves. They are not willing to show the afffection that people need. Animals can fill that hole of emptiness, the lack of connection, that many have lost themselves in.
RIP my beautiful Lucifer. He passed away in March from feline AIDS. He was 12 -13. I still cry every day for my darling cat. I miss him so much. Thanks so much for this video xx
I hope you can find some comfort in the dozen+ years of sweet Lucifer memories. Earning the trust and love of a cat is really a special bond.
@@HellaMentalHealth thanks so much. Yes, I do take comfort from that x
My heart is with you 💝
I lost my cat of 17 years last night and it's really hit me hard . I had her since she was a kitten and to see her die just broke my heart . I've been holding blanket and crying . I've also talked to friends and family and it's helped . I'm not sure why this one hit so hard . Her sister died of cancer two ago and it maybe the fact they are both now gone . I tried to save her but it was too late . I know all about the grieving process but this feels different.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your cats. 17 years really is a whole lifetime of connection. I understand holding onto your blanket too. I literally just bought a cat-shaped heating pad (warms in microwave) for a friend who is grieving
Thank you for this video. I am really struggling right now. I had to say goodbye to my companion dog that was with me for 16 years. She was the perfect dog for me. I loved her so much.
Sounds like such a pure love! Be gentle with yourself, I hope the 16 years of memories can be a comfort.
Same here I lost my pet dog onyx I can’t handle the pain
My cat who was 3 died of heart disease a blood clot I’m so lost without him loved him so much he was my everything I cradled him till I took him to the vet he had oxygen but we had to put him down after 4 hours
My heart is with you 💝
@@CosmicTruthTeller thank u my heart hurts so much it’s so broken 😿😥💔
@@silvaadourian3185
My last precious angel died in January and I haven’t been able to sleep home since, so I definitely understand your pain 🙏🏻💝🌈
How incredibly sad, I hope you are being gentle with yourself and taking time for grief and remembrance
I am sorry, that is so sad and difficult-I hope there is a shred of comfort knowing that it means the world that you were there in the end
Thank you for the advice doc, my dog suddenly died just 2 days ago from vomiting and blood on his stool. The feeling is unbelievably painful. I can't sleep, and sometimes I can't breathe when I remember the 8 years that we had him through ups and downs.😭 The house is really odd without him because he always barks and follow when we go out. I will just go through it and "honor the pet grief", honor the care and relationships. I'm trying to move on but it seems so hard for now. But will strive to create a new space in my life for healing. 🧡
I just lost my Maggie on March 26th. I had to make the very difficult decision after a long battle with congestive heart failure. My life is so empty now. I am by myself without her and I feel so lost. Every time I leave the house I dread coming back only to find she isn’t here. I am so devastated and sad. I cry every day especially at bed time. She has been by companion for the last 13 1/2 years. Finding a new way to do life is proving to be a real challenge. My broken heart goes out to all of you experiencing the same thing I am going through. Praying for peace, comfort and healing. Daddy loves you so much Mags.
@@joew3426 I feel you and I understand the feeling.🧡 I lost my dog last March 23, It's like a part of you also died. The house is so quiet, sometimes I could still hear him in my mind. I know our pet see us hurting🐕they know how much we love them, and I'm sure we will all see them again somewhere. God bless and I hope we both recover soon.🙏
I lost my onyx 5/18/2024. Onyx was 15 yrs old. I’m lost I don’t know how to move on. I want my Onyx back. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢.
@@valenciamontgomery1805 I feel you and that's exactly how I felt. I lost mine just 2 months ago and I still miss him. At first there was no amount of comforting will do, but now I'm slowly recovering and accepting it and knowing we will surely meet each other again. At the moment All we can do is "go through it". The feelings will linger but soon equipped with that knowing. It will feel normal and peaceful again.🧡
@@RainbowStorylands it will be 2 months on the 26th since Maggie’s passing. I still have this emptiness feeling in my chest. I don’t think will ever be able to come home without expecting her to greet me at the door. Bedtime is still very hard. I did find out very quickly that the only way I could sleep is to have her favorite toys beside me on her blanket. That may sound extreme to some and I don’t know if I will ever be able sleep without them. Miss her SO VERY MUCH.
😢😢Thank you for the video. Make me feel not alone. Sadly we have to put down my loving Marly bc of cancer. Was so painfull and hard to let her go. I miss her so.much . But im going to trade to honor her
Ugh cancer is so cruel and can feel so random. RIP Marly, I hope you have years of happy memories to hold with her.
Hi Dr Helen, My baby of 18 years passed this weekend and I am having the most horrific time dealing with this. I wrote this to myself from her. I guess I am weird but the tears and hearing her everywhere is demolishing me. Completely wrecking me. I
think in doggy heaven my lil baby is telling her friends that my mommy loved me so much and I got ribeye, steak, lamb, sweet potatoes, corn, moussaka, pastichio and if I didn't want like or want something or turned my nose up at it, mommy would cook me something else fresh to eat.
Mommy always cared, if I was cold and cover me or put a barrier so I would be warm. Mommy was so comfortable to lay in. If she thought I was overheating she would make sure I drank water and put air on for me.
Mommy took me on so many vacations. So many road trips, so many cities!!! She took pictures of me every place we went.
Mommy would put pillows all around her bed so I could jump and would’nt hurt myself In my old age.
Mommy would always make sure I was safe and if she didn't see me for a while she would come look for me.
Mommy wouldn't stay at certain hotels if they didn't allow pets or even go if she didn't think I was safe. My safety was always my mommy's main concern.
Even when people would get upset with her about me she didn't care and just loved me even more. I wasn’t the cutest thing apparently others said, but mommy thought I was!! She always told me how freaking cute I was no matter how old I got! She told me daily how cute and how much she loved me. I’m like enough already mommy, I get it you love me!! AND I would say back in my own way, mommy ILOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY too!
If mommy thought I neeed care she would grab and shield me. I’ve almost died many times in my very long life of 18 years and she was always there to care for me.
Mommy wouldn’t sleep holding me if I wasnt feeling well AND always check on me. Always at night she would shine a flashlight on me to see if I was breathing and in a safe place. I always liked sleeping close to the edge of the bed for some reason and mommy would gentler so I barely felt it moved the entire pillow to safety.
Mommy would always be closing doors as others would keep doors open. I did sneak out a few times but within 30 seconds my protector was there for me.
Mommy was so full of love for me. So full of love. 💕
The night before I left earth she held me for 6 hours in her chair and loved me more than anyone else could imagine and said her goodbyes and reminded me of all the fun times we had together. She was crying so much. I couldn’t believe the long life we had together and I wanted to hold on longer but my lil body just couldn’t anymore. I know I wouldn’t have lived as long as I did or eat as good as I did if it wasn’t for my mommy!!!!🥰
I love her so much and I was so lucky she pick me out of my other sisters and brothers and will always love her, but I don't want her to suffer and to just hold on to my memory and the hundreds of pictures and videos that she took of me, and I hated pictures! I would always turn my back and she would say “oh peepers …how do you know I’m taking pictures of you, you are so cute I just love you so much peepers peep peep!!!” We were perfect for each other mommy and enjoyed such a long life together!
I love you Mommy and always will
~Peepers
In memory of my love my baby my sweet adorable Foxy, forever and ever in my heart . Love you to the stars and beyond ❤🙏🥀💓
Thank you for talking about this 😿
You post so much great information here. Most of all you validate many pet owners feelings about their loved ones. I have had cats in my life for 44 years, and even though my baby girl was very senior in years, to lose her a few days ago has left me lifeless and listless. I still have a cat family to take care of, for three of them, it is their birthday tomorrow. Well, every day is a cat's birthday in my home :) But oh....how I miss my baby. Thank you again x
We celebrate Cat birthdays as well in our family! It's so sad to lose our fur babes even when we know they are seniors.
Thank you for sharing this. I am gutted and i don't know what to do. We had to suddenly say goodbye to our best friend and soul cat Lewis at 6 years young. He saw us through so many crucial moments in our life.. the bad and the good. It feels like i lost the other half of me. Oddly, this week last year my dad passed away after suffering his battle with cancer. April has become my least favourite month. I really needed to hear this today.
Oof, that is a lot of loss for a certain month. Sorry to hear you are holding so much. And 6 years is extra sad you had good reason to expect many more years together. May the Lewis relationship always be a joy to remember even as you feel the ache of loss.
Great video and resources Helen. Our dog Bobby is definitely the fifth member of our family.
Right?! The emotional bonds our fur babes share when they join our families are powerful.
Thank you for this doctor. I’m currently going through stages of grief stuck between anger and depression. My cat wasn’t even one that I wanted, he was given to me so his owner did not have to give him up to adoption center where I know he was unadpotable. I decided to sacrifice my selfish desires and take care of this cat because I had to put down my baby girl only 1.5 years prior to this. I knew this new guy was sick and that he would have issues, but I never expected just how quickly things would progress. He had regular vet checks up from 10-11 years old no real issues other than very overweight and likely thyroid disease because of it but levels were okay until they dropped then we put him on hyper thyroid medication and that worked for about a year until recently. A few months ago he had a bad jump and got some knee damage. We talked about a pain management plan instead of surgery because I was worried he would not survive surgery. He was doing great, limited mobility but he was still my normal cat for the most part. The last weekend he was trying to interrupt my gaming time by jumping in my lap and I’m so happy I decided to put the games down and spend some time with him. A few days later he was eating much less. I didn’t think much of it at first because I was finally on the dieting stage of his health improvement journey. Unfortunately, I should have taken him to the vet that day but in hindsight I’m not sure it would matter. Then next day Tuesday of this week, July 2, I go to give him his medications and he bites me. Never has ever done that before. I got upset and ran out of the apartment mad because I felt unappreciated and wronged. I came home and I thought my dude was not happy with me because he was hiding and not eating anything at all really. I tried to coax out him under the bed but he was not coming out. I knew something was wrong. I get him a vet appointment the next day. He was coughing a bit so I said maybe he has the flu maybe his food is just getting nasty because he’s not eating as much, so he got bacteria in his system or something. I figured okay a few antibiotics and he will be okay. But I was blindsided when they x rayed him and showed me his lungs had fluid. I did exactly what they said. He was put on lasix to drain it. We waited 2 days between July 3 and July 5. I spent my entire Independence Day watching him from midnight to midnight. I was so tired that before midnight I started to ask my friend and family what I should do. A lot of folks said ride it out but my mother told me this may be sign it’s his time. I thought “that’s crazy how can that be he was just perfectly fine two weeks ago.” I was so wrong. The fluid did not drain and he only got worse. He refused to eat, he was drinking and peeing but he was clearly not wasting out any fluid from his lungs because he was still having a hard time breathing. Eventually he got so tired that he could barely move. But he wasn’t able to sleep a wink. He kept going unconscious with his eyes open, a sort of half sleep. He needed to focus on breathing and nothing else. We go back to the vet on friday, yesterday, and we do another x ray. Now there is solid material as well as 75% of the fluid still there. The vet said there is small chance if we give him some fluid and let him be sedated for a bit so he could rest he might bounce back. I said no, no more. He has suffered enough. I put my baby down yesterday at 2:00 PM and I’ve never felt so much loss in my life. I never even asked for him but I’m so lost without him. I know it was going to happen probably even as early as the day I first took him in but it’s such human nature to want to have hope. I was so optimistic the entire time and even though he wasn’t being himself I treated him the same and didn’t let him see me be upset. I did everything I could for him. He was able to sleep finally. I know I did a mercy and the right thing but how do I pick up the pieces of myself without a fur buddy around? I have lived alone for years, people generally don’t like and I generally don’t like them. I’ve told myself I want to just work a lot of extra hours until I can pay off some of the vet costs and then save up and get myself a new born kitten to maybe not set myself up for disaster so soon again. What are your thoughts?
God bless you for your kindness to that little animal. I just lost my little cat. It's been hard but I'm starting to turn the corner. You did the right thing. Be kind to yourself.
I never thought a video like this could really help me with the pain, but I watched it anyways, and somehow you managed to make me feel something like a virtual hug. It still hurts, as it should. But thank you so much for this help.
Baby girl Sharpay, I will always love you ❤ thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is. I hope to see you again. Thank you for 15 years of pure love and happy memories. You are deeply missed.
Virtual hug to you, indeed! 15 years is a huge amount of memories and deep companionship to mourn-sorry to hear about this doggo hole in your heart. As you can see in the comments we all have lots of sad loving company.
My sweet Snoopy went home to be with Jesus 4 weeks ago today. I miss him so much. Snoopy relocating to Heaven was worse than both parents deaths. My parents only loved me conditionally. Snoopy loved me UNCONDITIONALLY! I know he still lives but in Heaven with my Jesus and my other fur babies. 18 yrs though, I see him in almost everything I do. He depended on me for his food, water, etc. He slept with me and now he’s gone. Sleeping has been hard. I’ll NEVER FORGET MY BABY. I love him so much. I just wish Father God would have let them live longer. We had an Umbrella Cockatoo that we would have had to leave in our will they live so long. I’m not mad at Father God at all and the only way I can rationalize their shorter lives is over population? IDK I guess. I do know my Father God would NEVER intentionally hurt me or any of His children. And HIS ways are definitely higher than our ways. So I know where Snoopy is and he has a new perfect body and will be waiting for me when my race on earth for Jesus is finished. I love you sweet Snoopy and thank you for this page. ❤😢💔
I lost my Li'l Buddy a few weeks ago, and he was about 17 (apparently a geriatric age for a cat). I am a complete mess! I told him often that he was perfect and God gave him to me. The only thing that really keeps me going is the idea that he is in heaven, waiting to greet me home one more time. I'm sorry for your loss, but I am glad to see you leaning on the Lord. Love and prayers, sister.
Thank you so much 🙏❤️
Thank you very much!!
I just lost my chinchilla buddy of nearly 20 years :( the day before I was about to get to go visit him and see him after so long too. That HURTS. I am in the process of building a house and he had to live with my gf while I try to make this all work out. I am so grateful for her because she created such a deep bond with him and brought out aspects of his personality that had never showed before. He didn't have to die alone. She was with him the whole time. I feel for her so much, having to hold him trough that. At least his last years were his best years. But I think both of us are hurting from it more than we really think. It is very painful still. Unfortunately I think her wonderful cat isn't long for this world either. :( that's going to be rough.
I am personally done with the animals. As much as I love them. It's so true basically nobody gets it. Even fewer acknowledge it. I certainly can't handle another loss like that. Especially with my human freinds dropping like flies as well. It's a cold, cruel world. There is light and love in it though. Very grateful for my gf and the wonderful memories both her and I will always cherish with him. He was so cute it hurt just to look at him sometimes. He would laugh, he would cry, he would talk in his own little language. It is amazing how intelligent chinchillas are.
Anyone considering a chinchilla for a pet, make sure you do some serious research into keeping one because they are very high maintenence. And the loss will hurt ALOT. Especially if you take good enough care of them that they live to the later stages of their lifespan. You will develop a very profound bond if they are taken care of properly. Heed this warning but also know that chinchillas are amazing pets but only if you are responsible enough to give them the care they deserve!
He lived to nearly his max lifespan but I still made mistakes and oversights in caring for him properly. They need a specific type of cage, they require daily care, maintenence, cleaning, exercise and attention. They need alot of love to make it that long. If you can do that, I recommend chinchillas. If you can't, please do not get a chinchilla. They are not like mice or gerbils. They are very intelligent, emotional, needy creatures. It's easy to 'want' a chinchilla. It is hard to give a chinchilla the care they deserve. Heed this warning because it is probably really bad karma to get a chinchilla and not take care of them properly. I will be racked with guilt forever for the things that I didn't do right. They are precious creatures.
If you are reading this and are also suffering loss, I wish you well and hope that you will have a good comeback from the pain. Sometimes I am not sure if it is morally good for us humans to keep animals as pets. But st the same time, they are being bred and genetically mutated for people to covet them. It's pretty messed up. So if it's happening anyways and there's nothing we can do about it, providing an animal with a home and love is a wonderful thing to do in our time here experiencing this thing we call life. Just be aware of the seriousness of the whole concept. It really is messed up when you think about it.
Fun factoid; supposedly the aliens find us humans fascinating because of our love for animals lol as we are allegedly the only known species that keeps animals as pets to love and care for. ^-^
Thanks for the advisement for others- I have long adored chinchillas but was told since I was a child that they require a skilled carer and they are a big committment. I agree with you the loss of years of pet love is such a blow to the heart- not everyone wants to sign up for that again, especially as we do lose other people and things along the journey of life.
Sorry for your loss and hope you cherish GF's aging kitty while you can. It is so hard. Yet also so beautiful to share true connection with a non-human being.
I only witnessed my Dad cry twice. My brothers Suicide and Huckleberry, our family dog. Also Dagmar , a Westie
That says so much about how deep in his heart Huckleberry (and Dagmar) had become. Sorry to hear of your family's loss, and oh Westies are so sweet. I hope there are happy memories that linger after the loss.
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my little sister, a Lhasa, after 17 wonderful years. She will be missed and cherished.
wow 17 years! What a wonderful bond, but impossible to replace. May the memories always be a joy
My dog Jimmy a Pomeranian 16 years old went to heaven yesterday I’m so sad and feel alone without him.
Today is the first day without him and I’m already looking for him knowing he isn’t there.
I know he was in pain and I did the right thing but it’s so hard without him…😢
I’m trying to keep busy but a night it comes back to me because he use to sleep with me.
Just want him to be remembered..
I will always love and cherish him forever.
Need time to grieve for him..😢
Thank you
I know how you feel. My sweet little cat was run over last week. I've been crying for a week. Let it out. Grieve. I'm starting to turn the corner but it will be hard for a while. Don't beat yourself up. Be kind to yourself. Losing a pet is traumatic.
Thank you for your video. Just lost my doggie yesterday!
That is the CUTEST doggo in your profile pic. So sorry to hear off your loss
Wonderful video in such a hard topic...I lost my dear Mango butter cat on 7/26/23...had him almost 15yrs. Im so grateful to videos like this, Thank you again, it helps more than words can express in such a grieving time 🙏🏼💚
thank you for watchiningg and I hope you do keep reading and watch things from people who truly understand the sadness of losing a pet companion.
Thank you for this video. Your kind and compassionate words have helped me to better understand why my grief feels so huge after losing my sweet little Mimi, which I loved so much.❤
We had a sweet Kitty named Mimi as well. May your memories of time you did share be a little comfort even during loss
My pet kitty cat passes away tiday at 3 .. everyone prsy for his soul ..im devastated
I lost four of my pets that we hen my childhood pets I cry a lot I still miss them
Sounds like they were so lucky to be so adored. We still miss our pets from many years ago too.
I love you Rocket 😞❤️
Thank you
Am currently going thru some pet loss grief, I ended up looking after a dog for a “ friend “ and after quite a long time and a lot of excuses he didn’t want the dog back.. I loved the dog but it wasn’t the right time for me to have another dog , so I had to rehome him, was really quiet stressful. But most of all I really missed the dog. If I make a bond with a dog it really hurts to break that.
How kind of you take on the care and rehoming! This dog was fortunate and I hope although you feel the ache of separation after bonding- that you can feel postive about the extension of your care and impact.
@@HellaMentalHealth thank you 😊
My queen Mini has gone I miss her so, I feel so. Alone, there's nobody to replace her and can't, I want her so bad near me 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢🙏🙏🙏 This world is so cruel.
Folks don't always understand- there's simply no replacement for that special bond built over time and closeness. Sorry you are feeling the heartache right now, I hope your memories can be a blessing alongside the sadness.
Here is the dog's prayer to anyone that has lost their dog it helps me and it has for many years:🙏🏼❤
A Poem by Beth Norman Harris
Treat me kindly, my beloved master, for no heart in all the world is more grateful for kindness than the loving heart of mine.
Do not break my spirit with a stick, for though I should lick your hand between the blows, your patience and understanding will more quickly teach me the things you would have me do.
Speak to me often, for your voice is the world’s sweetest music, as you must know by the fierce wagging of my tail when your footsteps fall upon my waiting ear.
When it is cold and wet, please take me inside, for I am now a domesticated animal, no longer used to bitter elements. And I ask no greater glory than the privilege of sitting at your feet or on your lap or laying beside you in your bed
Keep my pan filled with fresh water, for although I should not reproach you were it dry, I cannot tell you when I suffer thirst. Feed me clean food, that I may stay well, to romp and play and do your bidding, to walk by your side.
And, beloved master, should the great Master see fit to deprive me of my health or sight, do not turn me away from you. Rather hold me gently in your arms as skilled hands grant me the merciful boon of eternal rest - and I will leave you knowing with the last breath I drew, my fate was ever safest in your hands.
Long Live Rocky my baby for 16 years Maltese’s mix dammm I’m still crying he pass 8-13-2007 to 6-12-2024😢
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I just lost my dog Dutchie last week
I lost my pet moneky of 6 years who was like my child to me, he friday he was playing and eating and drinking like normal until night reach....he stopped playing and eating and drinking and then he died suddenly in me and my mom's arm with no explanation...we feed him sugar water 20 minutes before he died and he drank alot and we were so happy he was eating again...but our happiness came to and end...and now we have no closure on what really happened to him and we don't know if we can ever recover from this....this is the worse thing that has ever happened to me
Indeed such a sudden loss can be much harder to understand! Sorry you are missing him, I hope the fun memories of 6 years can eventually be a comfort.
@@HellaMentalHealth thank you
My Daughter and i are so so devasted! Her choldhood dog 🐕 my daughter is pregnant as well and is in so much turmoil we both are..
A childhood pet passing away really feels like the conclusion of such a special era. I hope there are many fond memories despite the present sadness.
I just lost my budgie Susie of 11 years 💔
I had an 11 year old Budgie before as well! Sorry for your loss, those teeny budgies hold so much personality - our home was not the same without her curious looks, soft feathers, and even her occasionally intrusive loudness
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I had to euthanize my beloved Clyde, my constant companion, my baby doggie buddy, this Monday, and I am grief-stricken beyond measure. He was 14, which is a good run I know. But our home feels empty now. My life was centered around him. I have cried buckets, and will always be grateful for our life together. That doesn't make it one bit easier. I am still in stage 1. But diversion, getting back into my routine, eating correctly and going to the gym all provide momentary diversion. I have never hurt this badly. I refuse to succumb to self-pity, but my despair and sense of emptiness are enormous. Is the pain worth it? For a dog like him, and the joy he brought to me, there is no question. Thank god for Mozart, my hero, who never fails, but even he is not Clyde.
Sorry to hear what you are suffering right now- 14 years with Clyde- an entire doggo lifetime of love is a serious loss indeed. Glad you are doing the controllable things to self-care.
Binky my Rabbit died today I don't know how to cope without him it's broken my heart
I hope you treasure your memories of Binky and they eventually bring comforts not just the ache of fresh loss.
I’m but god gave me 2 of her siblings and her husband is with us
not loud enough...talk louder or increase volume,me
😢 it sucks losing your dog 🐕
It sure does. It's kind of bittersweet to read these comments and see so many people grieving- but also understanding how special the bond is.
Lost my little dog on 9 29 23 😢 my heart is broken 💔 😢
May the memories of your loyal little dog always be a source of warmth that persists longer than the grieving.
I wish you could validate more the loss of a cat. Everybody mention only dog and I am sick of it! 🤬🤬🤬💔💔💔💔
You're right folks talk about dogs a lot- maybe because they are pack animals and bond so quickly and easily...whereas the love and loyalty of a cat is a more mysterious thing- but so amazing once established. Sorry you aren't finding much cat loss commentary- but if you read these comments a LOT of us grieve cats we have loved. My own family has been blessed with more feline than canine love over a lifetime. Each one remembered for always.