Coping With the Death of Your Pet | Healing From Pet Loss
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- Losing a pet is one of the most painful experiences we can go through. Our little friends become parts of the family. And these little buddies are there for us no matter what. They don't criticize us or judge us. They simply teach us what true, unconditional love looks like.
While nothing can be said that will alleviate the pain, hopefully this video will give you some simple but profound ways to cope, to heal, and to honor their memory.
Todd Perelmuter studied meditation and mindfulness from world-renowned teachers around the world for over 9 years. Upon his return to the States, he created EastWesticism, a nonprofit dedicated to helping everyone reach their highest potential and lead a peaceful, calm, and stress-free life.
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I lost my pet 10 years back but I still havent recovered. I feel he was the first and last living being who ever loved me geninely and unconditionally, who actually looked forward to seeing me everyday, who wanted me to wake up and play and I am not over that loss 😢
I know exactly what you mean. I recently lost a puppy to an illness. Know that I love you genuinely and unconditionally, brother. I know a pet out there is waiting for you right now. Peace and love 💗 🙏
I couldn't have said it better.
your pet would not want you to be sad and grieving after so long ... remember him always ... giving another doggie the care and love that you gave your departed doggie would help you to heal ❤... I've been there plenty of time ... nothing helps more than getting more pets ...they full the emptiness ❤❤
Lost my baby after almost 14 years together...she was my best friend and my wife and daughter's protector. Big, beautiful German Shepherd girl.
I'm devastated. Crushed. Not the same anymore.
My dog just died yesterday, only 8 years old, He has been with me through joy and sadness, ups and downs, and the dog loves you unconditionally. Then all of a sudden died due to coughing and vomiting blood just for one day. The feeling is unbelievably painful, I don't want to eat and can't sleep, I always cry when I remember him😭 The house seems very silent without him.... I will just go through the process and express it. The breathing exercise helps a lot and will not be afraid of these feelings nor resist it. Will Accept it and make peace with it, I grieve because I loved. 🙏
and I miss him a lot.🧡
Saw this and had to reply . I am so sorry for your loss. This feels like me writing this . My dog was only 9 and died with the same things you described . Coughing & vomiting mucus / blood . It hurts worse feeling like my baby suffered and I cannot get over that feeling . I hope you are doing better . 💜
Why do I see myself here..lost my baby 4 days back just because of coughing..wish I could have done something for her
@@akachophi8965 I sympathize with your loss my friend. I know what it felt and I went through it for 3 months. Then somebody gave me a new puppy and it helped me moved on. But i still remember my dog 🐕 from time to time. God bless you.
@@RainbowStorylands my baby was always jealous when some other dogs comes near me she would push them away and only let me touch her ..I still can't believe she is gone
"Grief is love unable to be expressed" - Perhaps this is why I hold on to my grief and sometimes feed it and feel terribly guilty if I feel even a moment of reprieve from it or any pleasure. It feels like a betrayal of my beloved if I don't grieve extensively
Thank you Todd! I found your video very helpful and soothing. I lost my one year old little kitten 6:40 to a dog attack 😭😭😭😭😭😭
It’s been very difficult to process and accept what happen to my Little Foot while he was sick and fighting a bad ear infection.. I loved him so much and just can’t get over this extremely painful loss.. everything you said is so true! Thank you for sharing Todd and God bless 🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️💔😭
Thank you Todd, I needed this video. It’s been 3 & a half months since losing my gorgeous choc lab. This is the worst pain of loss I have ever felt in my life. Even losing family hasn’t been as tough as this loss. I struggle with the pain & loneliness every day. No one around me wants to talk about it. No one even asks how I’m coping. You begin to think no one cares or is really a genuine friend. It makes the loss feel even greater because your dog is truly your best friend & companion. Their unconditional love is the best love we will ever feel in life. I guess that’s why it’s an enormously devastating loss.
This really is the worst kind of pain. Hard to believe that life will ever be good again. 💔
For me losing my sweet Henry on April 30, 2024 has been worse than losing a family member. 🥺
Almost 3 weeks without my Rocket….i can’t take it anymore 😞😞😞😞😞
I love your voice, your words…..thank you so much for your heart warming videos Todd 💛
That means a lot, thank you. 💗
Yes Todd’s voice is a remarkable part of how he affects me
I dontveven care if i wake up in the morning. I lost my sweet dogs withjn 57 days of each other. I look at their pictures, smell their blanket, cry. My joy has gone
I hope the pain has eased a little for you. I know it leaves a huge void in our life. Lost my sweet dog a few weeks ago and there are so many moments in the day I am blinking back tears and am still devastated. Maybe in time, you will feel able to offer your home and love to another animal in need. It doesn't replace a devoted old companion I know, but it does offer a loving home to another soul who needs the care. a way of paying tribute to these dear creatures we are lucky enough to have known.
I love you, Todd. I cried to this video because i really needed this. RIP Bruno! you will always be my best friend ❤❤❤
Bruno sounds amazing. Peace and love 🙏
I lost both my beloved cats in Feb. The pain has been unbearable compounded by quilt that I should've done more for them even though I know I did a lot. It never seems enough. They gave me far more than any person ever has.
...and there is pre-grief. I'm in pre-grief. I break up in tears thinking of my cat Sammy, who I found out a few days ago has terminal cancer. I don't know how many days I have left with him and it's got my heart twisted. It's important for me to know that a humans greatest quality and greatest accomplishments in life are how deeply one can love and be loved. "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." -Anatole France Great quote for those who have or had pets, but for the life of me I cant comprehend how Anatole was an atheist...I would go a step further and say that until one has loved an animal, one has not known a part of God's love.
Sending love
I hope you are doing ok Don. I know exactly what you are going through/went through. I am currently experiencing anticipatory grief as well. My cat was diagnosed with terminal liver disease 8 months ago. He has been pretty stable through the medication and hard work of my wife and I, but I have noticed him finally slipping in the past couple of weeks. The pain is almost unbearable knowing we are hurtling towards the end but I love your last quote about experiencing God’s love.
I have been away from God for many years now, not living my life the right way. I have been reconnecting with God through this difficult time and I can feel his presence in my life for the first time in many years. It is helping me tremendously. I pray that you and your beloved Sammy find peace and healing.
Thanks for your kind words in reply. Sammy passed in a week of taking him to the vet. I buried him the same day in my flower garden and about a month ago a single red tulip rose up very near his grave and it made me tear up. I'm not superstitious and don't believe in signs, I feel it's just better I thank God. All things were created for him and by him. Sammy and his passing has helped me better embrace life and death and to realize what a gift life is, even tho it must end. My prayers for you and your four-legged friend.
@@donpreisler2280 Oh no I’m so sorry. I lost my cat’s older adoptive brother to cancer a few years ago as well. Absolutely brutal and gut wrenching experience.
I for one, do believe that God can send us a sign to help mend your broken heart and let you know that Sammy is in good hands and waiting to reunite with you when it’s time.
I'm so sorry I just lost my cat tiger. He died so suddenly 😭. I hope your cat is okay
My cat passed away the other day due to hydrops. It's hard for me to forgive myself for never noticing that he was different, how long his weak heart was suffering. It would have been better if I had noticed it earlier, it was really hard to let go. His is my angel.
My heart goes out to you. I have been in a very similar situation and I will tell you, this was not anyone's fault. We are not trained veterinarians and there was no lack of love or concern. I know that doesn't make it any easier and this is one of the hardest things in the world. I just hope you know that your angel doesn't want you to feel anything but love.
Losing a pet, is like losing a family and friend. This video was what I needed to hear.
Thank you for this Todd. I lost my buddy of 10 years suddenly last week, he had been healthy. I am so sad. This message gave me hope.
Grief is us exploring and reliving all angles of our relationship with our animal familiars. Grief is letting every new thought/perspective that hasn't been perceived yet and is being perceived for the first time, from when you knew your animal was ailing to after he/she is gone, to come into our thoughts. Once we have exhausted every perspective of our pet's existence and once grief has stopped sending all those painful perspective messages, then it is finally exhausted and can be put to rest. I am reliving words, music, advices, inventory, emptiness's, and the future all at once. I am exhausted.
Pets spend half of the their life waiting for their humans to return. They leave paw-prints on hearts. I am glad to have experienced the bond with my pet and I am happy that my fur buddy has moved on to a better place. Maybe reincarnated to a wonderful human?
Thank you for your words, Todd. It brings peace and calm to my heart.
Perhaps wonderful humans are reincarnated to wonderful dogs. We are finally pure enough to love with their unconditional hearts.
Thank you for this video. I greatly appreciate you taking the time to make this. I can resonate with so much of it. We just lost our fur baby and the grief is so raw.
Love and strength to those who need it. ❤️
Thank you Todd! The lessons they teach us are so deep.
To,the person who lost their baby fur babies I am still, crying 19 years after the lost pet 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you. Lost our sweet Karma in July. I focused on not letting that grief get stuck in my body or fighting it. But allowing it to flow through and embrace it. my husband said he had to have conversations with grief daily, and then helped him get through it ❤
Our dog Lilly was already 16 years old and became very ill. She lost weight and stopped eating. The vet couldn't find anything at first.
Then I had a dream. In this dream, I was riding a bicycle alone and fast. I knew the road I was driving. We used to live there. Suddenly I heard a puff and a gasp on the right side. I looked and saw that Lilly was running next to me on the bike. (In real life this wasn't unusual, because we always rode our bikes with the dogs). I was deeply shocked because I didn't know that Lilly was running next to me. Had I known, I would not have driven so fast and taken care of her. That's why I was so sorry. I unleashed Lilly from the bike. She walked around the bike to the street. There was a hollow in the road, like a pothole. But there was no traffic, so there was no danger. She lay down in the pothole and curled up like a cat. She fell asleep, but I knew it should mean that she fell asleep to die.
Back to real life. Since Lilly was getting worse and worse, we went to the vet again and did a very extensive examination. She got a diagnosis. She had something with the thyroid and an immune disease. She got pills for that. That made her feel better immediately. After about a year she got worse again. In the meantime, however, she had become so weak that she could hardly walk. We had to carry Lilly outside to pee. When she made a poo, we had to hold her so she didn't fall backwards. Because her legs were so weak that she could no longer stand on her feet. She also had very strong pain in her back.
We realized we had to let her go. The pain and condition was so bad that we had to ask ourselves if it might not be better to put her to sleep. And so it happened. It was bad and so sad to lose her.
Some time after her death I had two more dreams. It would be too voluminous to describe these dreams in detail. But in these dreams I met her completely unexpectedly. I met her once at a train station. In the second dream, I met her sniffing beautiful flowers. It was so nice to see her in those dreams. And in both dreams I hugged her and was so happy that I found her.
In retrospect, I also realized the meaning of the first dream. She had said goodbye to me in this dream. I should understand that she can no longer follow me on my journey (cycling). The journey was life. The message of this dream was clear and easy to understand. She fell asleep in that pothole. And that means she's going.
I've had dreams like this all my life. It started after going through a very difficult time in my life.
I'm so lucky that I had this first dream. When we had to put her to sleep I kept thinking about this dream all the time. And it was okay. I think this dream should make it easier for me to say goodbye and it did. I am so thankful to have had these experiences. These dreams and many more that I have had in my life show me that we are more than bio-robots. We are more than our body. We are spiritual beings. We and all living beings. Ultimately, we are all connected.
That is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. What a lucky dog she was to have had you :)
This was very helpful… I lost my pet rabbit the other night and it’s been hurting a lot more than I thought it would….I miss her
Thanks so much for this video, it really helps.
I lost a family cat this past weekend. We adopted her 15 years ago (she used to be a street cat). I didn't think I was going to have a tough time with it but, I can barely focus on anything.
I've been able to move on/accept losses before. But like you said, grief is natural. You truly just need to let it happen - let the emotions out - before you can get back to your routine.
I loss my baby and I miss him every second. The pain is unbearable oh how I miss him and all our time together 😢
Sending love
Just lost my 12 year old boy yesterday. I’m hurting. His name was Sinbad. I love you Sinbad.
I just want my beloved cat back with me , feel everything was a mistake had to make a decision as my pet was very sick it’s overwhelming hurtful feel I did wrong by my sick cat even though the vet said my dear cat was critical feeling so much pain the what ifs etc hope everyone finds peace 💐🌻🌻
Sending all my love
I lost my Son September 4 2024. I don't know if I will ever be the same
I lost my little soul pet a girl of almost 12 years she was so little and all of a sudden her breathing got worsened she gad a heart murmur, but after committing the freaking mistake of having her greomed and bathed by soneone i dont know she started having complications and i took her to the vet and they told me she laready had fluids in her lungs and she went into CHF i miis her so much and i cry everyday, this is the most terrible thing that it could ever happened to me, like if its a punishment from God IDK but i dont feel well i been depressed and sad.
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I lost two dogs in one day. One vaccinated had parvo, but I didn’t notice the signs until night, thinking she’d be able to last until morning I went to sleep waking to her dead. I put her outside because it was still night, the other dog probably got heightened anxiety because I was crying, soon as I opened the door in the morning she ran out looking for the dog that died. She got ran over, the driver never stopped. I was so caught up with grief I forgot her leash. I still leash my new puppies but that day will stick with me forever. I put them next to each other petting and saying my goodbyes. I was careless and I wanted them to have a long life. I’m older now and I have leash and watch my dogs wherever they go. It’s unfortunate vaccinated puppies can still catch parvo, but by the time I realized she had it and the vet hospital was closed it was too late. So always be aware for your dogs.
Thank you so much for this video. I lost my puppy very recently.
Thank you.
I lost cesar a few days ago.
unfortunatlly this days people cant let go or understand that is a cycle so..... they Clone there dogs and cats
they never die just you experience them temporarily like when you go to sleep and then you wake up and experince life temporariy and go sleep and so on thats why everyday is a blessing experience
Amen. Love your profile pic :) What a cutie 💗
Hi, I can totally empathise with the pain and suffering one feels with the loss of any loved one be it any close human form or a pet of any kind. And, I also understand the underlying reason of suffering arising out of attachment/clinginess with that life form. But please help me understand how do pets teach us about unconditional love. They don't criticise or judge because they do not have a mind/psyche like human forms who unlike pets are not just content with security and safety of basic food, clothing and shelter. Pets apparently seem to be there for you no matter what out of their own need of survival. It is much more difficult to experience an unconditional loving relationship with another human form with its own set of fears, liking and disliking...because one needs to transcend one's own mind and its creations to offer that space of love and understanding to another human. And since that space of unconditional love and understanding is rarely found amongst human forms, because going beyond ones own mind requires humongous effort. We tend to find solace in the space and bond formed with another life in the form of pet (who majorly by most people is kept for companionship or amusement).
I am curious to hear your perspective. Much Love and Light!
That's a great question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it either in my newsletter, podcast or TH-cam video so others who are going through something similar can hear as well.
This is a really good and important video, but the background sound was unbearable and I had to mute it and just read the captions.
Whatever frequency that is I find really painful and agitating. I'm sorry.
So on point. Great video.
Thank you i had to put my sweet fur baby to rest on the 29th July 2024 she was 16years and 7months old.
I loved her more than anything.This video is comforting for me at this time.Thank you Todd i appreciate your videos🙏🙏