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Sincerely respect and love the knowledge you provide to us. Sometimes it take a great man's knowledge, to build-up an up and coming good man, to make him that much better than he previously was. Your reality checks are potential life savers. We thank you for that. 🤝
Ego is the biggest issue we all have, especially men with sense of grandeur. Confidence goes a long way, but humility (being humble) goes even further. Thanks for this
@@Zack-lq9tb some women use strength as well and some men use sex appeal. The point is, being humble and choosing your battles is better then letting your ego/pride take over
I was wondering, regarding your statement, how might I have the sense of grandeur. Then when you said "choose your battles", it triggered the awareness of my delusion, and how much weight in life I have carried trying to bear the burden of responsibility for other's apparent failures in character and attitude, when I've been in great error myself. What a relief, to be rid of such turmoil that plagued the first half of this lifetime!
@@Zack-lq9tb yeah and sometimes we don’t even notice it, it’s just accidental but when we become aware of ourselves, we can realize what’s truly important and what is fluff. I’m glad you noticed you carried too much weight over your shoulders, sometimes it’s not even pride but lack of confidence or guilty conscience (personal experience) and letting go of it helps you heal a lot better. One of the best things is learn from Buddhism and learn how to detach yourself.
When I was younger my family moved allot. I had 2 little sisters. As the new kids we would get bullied. This spiraled out of control. At 1st I started to protect my sisters & stand up to people bullying me. Then it turned into me patrolling around with the motivation of "finding bullies". However it turned into kids complaining to me that people had bullied them. So I would go & bully a stranger over something that I didn't understand. One day I heard a bunch of kids talking about this insane red headed bully that was pure evil. As they where telling the story I realized they where talking about me.
It's a thin line, I guess. Good intentions don't lead to a good deed. I think it's very common that violence ends up to be just that, if you lack awareness and self control and really question yourself and listen to others. Must have been a tough time for you. I actually made similar experiences as kid.
We're often punished for our kindnesses. Helping the wrong people can hurt your hands, especially when friends and family , not only have expectations but demands.
Reading this made me think of that line from a Batman movie You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain…' - Mark Carrigan.
@@waynebaker5720 yes it's too true. I'm lucky to have learned that lesson when I was young. Most people don't often have a chance to see or hear what other people truly think & feel about them. So instead of being able to see the forest for how it actually is. They only see the 10 or 20 trees within arms reach of them
Calm heads prevail. A little empathy doesn’t hurt either. I mean, don’t be a pushover but trouble isn’t fun. Jail isn’t fun. Getting your butt handed to you isn’t fun.
@@thinkordie7292 yep, gotta keep the basic impulses in check to be a real human instead of an automatic animal. It's a process to evolve from stupid as sht to in control. People put titles to their name and amass stuff but underlying are just as insecure, unconscious of motivation, and bent towards the grave hiding from accountability all the while. I just watch
My dad used to tell my agro ass all the time when I was young and letting my ego drive the car, "the best way to win the war is to deny the battle". Took some time for me to grasp how profoundly true that statement is but I get now as a 33 year old adult man. R.I.P pops, thanks for being the man i was privileged and lucky enough to have for 26 years. Miss you king.
Avoiding fights is especially important because a lot of dudes act tough but then whip out a knife or gun. If it’s life or death than you fight,other than that walk away.
I never act tough, but I always carry something. And that saved me a few times, there are people who can't control themself, or simply enjoy being like top dogs, tough...until they see or feel metal.
True. The older I get, the more the video makes sense. A man should recognise his triggers and not be enslaved by his impulses. Regulate where necessary. Be decisive when action is required. Learn to let go when something is just an ego battle.
Thanks to Geoff Thompson i learned where i was going wrong and adjusted my behaviour i now recognise those failings in others which in turn help me to make desicions that ultimately keep me out of trouble
I had to understand this when I turned 18 because if I failed to I'd have a record, would have gotten injured, etc. A felony is permanent so I had to calm down.
Retribution is a primal instinct. This is what makes smart people avoid combat whenever possible. Another day, the same guy, no matter how weak he may be, can come to you when you least expect it, with a weapon and settle the score for good...
@Potassium Syndicate yeah i saw some video where he said a girl cheated on him in highschool, or when he was a kid. So his plan was to become so famous and rich that it would never happen again. Then his wife started banging his son's friend... like wtf, his plan did not work
Dr Mark there is not another channel that breaks down the science and all the underlying aspects of human behavior as you do. My sensei taught us the same in the 1976 and it helped me through out my 67 years. Thanks for pointing the finer points of fighting to newer generations.
I'm 53 and I've been in only two brief fights in my adult life (that didn't really amount to anything) but I've walked away from dozens of them. Pretty much every opportunity I've had for a fight came from pickup basketball and going out to clubs/bars where people are drinking. My advice to everybody is to just walk away every time if you can. Your ability to deescalate situations is your best self defense.
I like to back down and if they keep coming I strike with extreme violence. I use a soft gentle voice to give my opponent a chance to leave me alone. I had to learn to back down as I got older and wiser.
Most Important part of this video... "Know when you need to keep your ego in check". Normally we look and blame the other guy. He should have, he shouldn't have. But we hardly blame or look at ourselves as the part that could've avoided the tussle. I know sometimes its really not us, but, keeping our egos in check is half the conflict avoided at least.
Being raised in a violent home, and from a father that encouraged street fighting and hurting others through boxing. I stupidly became a product of my environment. It lead me down Some dangerous roads. Hand injury, shattered wrist, concusion, lost tooth, and in my last fight did bodily harm to my oppenent that required eye surgery etc... It took me years to get my ego in check, and learn mental strength through stoicism. The key is to remain calm and in control of your emotions. Keep your eyes on your opponent, make sure he doesn't get too close and if he's acting jumpy. Clinch your teeth and tuck that chin in, and get off quick. You wanna end it as fast as you can, so you can leave before the cops show or he can recover and return fire.
I appreciate your kind words Ernie. I think for me, I never looked at myself as a victim or cried about my home life like my younger brother. It was hell alot of those nights, but it prepared for the cruel world we live in today. If it wasn't for the mental and sometimes physical abuse I suffered, who knows if I would been a real victim in the streets. I'm in my 30s now, and with age I'm not as aggressive and like to think I have more wisdom. I would give it my all if I became a father, because I know how important it is growing up and looking for someone to help guide you in those difficult journeys.
I had two situations where women thought I should fight a group of 2-3 people, because they said something vulgar to them. I just said: "I am not here to fight for your honor. I am here to get you home safely." The girls didnt like it, but I dont care.
Wise words from someone who is generally regarded as "someone you wouldn't want to mess with" Picking up the baton from Geoff Thompson and educating people on a facet of martial arts that is just as important as physical technique and often overlooked.
You are absolutely right sir. I stopped a lot of fights just with talking. I am focused on resolve aggression without aggression and so should everybody, especially when you are a skilled martial artist.
I found your channel only recently and have become a fan. These little snippets are always sound advice that all men should already know but too many don’t.
Well my last fight was in 1995 and yeah it was for a woman (my mom) spent 3 days stalking the dude who harassed her and kicked his ass but after that, i started martial arts and learned how to step away from troubles unless it's necessary, I've put down some dudes even before the beginning of the fight just with a confident smile , the dude will realize that you're friendly enough to smash him if he doesn't back off
This was an excellent informative video. Many times we as men, tend to think that if we're not gonna engage in a fight, we're weak, but that's just our Ego speaking! If only we can replace our Ego with confidence, then mentally, we can win every fight without the need to actually get physical! Just some important advice, hope this is beneficial. Peace ✌
I don't entirely agree with number 2. I agree that that people acting that way are usually driven by their ego and it can get you into trouble but it is necessary to a degree. It's not that you have to appear strong, per se, it's that you can't allow yourself to appear weak. If they sense weakness they're going to see how much you let them get away with or they will exploit the weakness. I'd say having confident and firm demeanor is probably best. I'm the type that will try to reason with people and try to resolve issues with words, but that also requires them to be a reasonable person, which is not always the case.
Agreed 100%, and I'm glad that somebody brought this up. It's true it's not good to appear like some kind of a badass. But you do have to walk and carry yourself with confidence. There are bad people on the streets and elsewhere, that are always looking for victims. So it is very important. That you do not look like a victim. Now if you walk around trying to look like mild mannered Clark kent. That can be just as dangerous. Is having this so-called hero mentality. People can be like animals. And sense weakness in a person. And there are many out there, that will take advantage of that. So is very important to not look weak and vulnerable. You don't need to look bad. But you do need to look confident in yourself. And I have to disagree with. Not getting involved with someone who is in need. Too many people have that way of thinking. No one wants to help anybody. And this is why the world is as bad as it is. And will remain this way. Until people learn to stand up for each other. I'm sorry Fight Science. But getting involved in protecting others. Has nothing to do with ego, or a hero mentality. It's about compassion, and what's right and wrong.
This video really makes so much sense. I was challenged by an mid aged man to a street fight when I told him to stop taking photos of the children at the playground. He cursed me non stop and challenged me to fight him at the playground. I stood there staring at him without any reaction, refused to fight. If it wasn't for I didn't want to break the law and morality, I could have knocked him down. I didn't accept his challenge to the fight doesn't mean I was afraid of him or I was weak.
Please do not take my response the wrong way im only trying to help you out here. First of all you were arguing from a perspective of ignorance which is not your fault, its a common mistake and it happens all the time. The law states that a photographer (yes im a photographer and a martial artist) can take photos of anything and anyone in a public place. There is no expectation of privacy in public and they do not need permission to do so. If your going to challenge people at least research the points your challenging, if you had done this then the altercation would not have happened. If that photographer follows someone around or gets in the face of a subject and its clear that they are kinda stalking or guilty of harrassment, or takes many images of someones kids then yes you have the right to ask them what they are doing but to take images of a scene in public which happens to include kids then im sorry thats perfectly ok, and its a protected legal activity whether you agree with or not that is totally irrelevant. If i was a father and wanted to take images of a football match that my son was participating in in a public place then i have every right to do so and i would be protected by the statutes that govern photography in a public place. Where it becomes a problem is how people respond. You inadvertantly fell foul of the "hero" attitude here, you probably thought that he was up to no good and was being a creep i will tell you now that photographers love taking images of children because of the expressions and kids are amazing subjects. How dare anyone confront a photographer with a preconcieved notion that they are up to no good, that is a recipe for disaster and i know because ive been there and got the t shirt Hey no offence mate but im just trying to make it clear that yes you can challenge and thats good but do so from a perspective of being informed, this will save you a lot of trouble and possibly harm. peace
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 trying to make the situation clearer here. There's no photographer. There were an mid year old man and woman walking around with the woman holding her phone taking video around. I went near them to see what they were doing, they were taking video with no purpose only then I tried to advised them it's not polite to point her phone camera so near to kids like they're her kids while they're certainly not because I was the kids' dad. I wasn't trying to become a hero, I was trying to protect my own kids. Many hackers are using someone else's social media accounts to follow and kidnap kids around. You should know many things could happen through social media. I do believe photographers should ask for permission before they have the right to put the person's photo onto any social media. As we all know, everyone on the streets are all probably professional photographers nowadays simply because everyone carries a phone with camera around. I'm not sure there's laws to protect their rights to point camera so close to anyone on the streets but not to protect the public's privacy in the public. If it's a football match or WWE show or a fans meeting concert, cameras from all angles has no arguments and if I don't want to get into the camera, I wouldn't have brought my kids there. But we were in a playground, which was supposed to be a place where kids have the right to play happily and peacefully with no concerns. I was just asking if they mind not to take photos of my kids because I don't give consent on that. But thing turn violent and the mid aged male challenged me to a fight. That was a threat to me and the kids. This was the main point, nothing about the photography. I'm against photography, I know it's a beautiful field and I love photography too. It's all about the negative incidents happening in the world that triggered this. There's bad guy out there, they might pretend to be a photographer with a camera, they might be a street performer holding a guitar. Who knows? I think there's no wrong of being more self alerted in the public as of using a camera in the public. But a phone camera pointing your kid just two feet away? You might have to think twice. If that person was really a professional public photographer, would he challenge me to a fight with just because of a short polite advice from me? That's not called a photographer, that's a rascal. Man, photography and this incident are totally different topics. Please don't mix them up here. You've got your point there on the beauty of photography. But I was talking about street fight from some phone camera holder. You might have protect your photography rights in the public, but your statement has neglected the public violence. Photography wasn't the point here but the public violence was.
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 and come to think of it, a true professional photographer would always ask for permission before they intend to take photos of anyone in the public and make it into a masterpiece. Laws should protect the rights of photography, and we should understand clearly the interpretation of photographer and photography. Unless you're saying copyrights doesn't apply in photography then I have nothing to say. Maybe I'm outdated or I might sound against photography either. I love taking photographs and i live sharing them on the social media, but I do it responsibly and make sure I do not make others feel uncomfortable. Peace. Nice advise from you bro. Last, we should stand against public violence. Love and enjoy peace everywhere we go. Martial arts are meant to protect ourselves during extraordinary moment and not to use it as a weapon or a right or privilege in everything we want to do anytime anywhere. The world doesn't work like that, tolerance is a must for human beings to live in this world peacefully and not like animals.
@@fateangeloriginal Ok ive just read a post i missed and so to answer your comments. You do not need permission from anyone in the public arena to take their photograph, a photographer doesnt need your "consent" you only need permission from someone if you are seeking to use it commercially. However common sense should prevail here but if you dig your heels in, a photographer could invoke the rights that the law affords him and continue to take images. If then someone threatens the photographer that my friend, is a crime, and police intervention would result in charges being bought against the offender. The point i was trying to make was; there is no law that says you cannot take a photograph (or video) of anything you can see from a public place, a playground is a public place. Your "feelings" do not trump my rights you cannot in all honesty act on feelings alone. Ok so lets explore what is public and what is not and what is deemed to be "off limits" due to privacy laws. If i were walking down the street and saw kids playing in a playground which is a public place i can if i choose to take out my camera and take as many images as I want to, if i were walking down the street and saw a schoolyard i cannot take out my camera and snap away, why? A schoolyard is deemed a private area where children can enjoy privacy laws and they are protected. I can take images of private land as long as i do not trespass and remain on public land this includes peoples homes and places of work and all people who are in the space we refer to as "public" In London you may take images of anything anywhere . . . . . the only places you need permission are; Trafalgar & Parliament squares if your selling for commercial gain. When i shot models on the streets I always got them to sign a model release. People in public are not professional models therefore the model release does not apply. Again if i approached someone and asked to take a photograph and they said no then as a human being i personally would accept that and move on, however if they refused and i retreated and used a long lens there would be nothing they could do legally as im participating in a legally protected and innocent pastime. As long as i am not hassling them, taking images that would be seen as degrading or invasive or demeaning causing a disturbance alarm or distress then i can carry on without interruption. Would i do that ? certainly not, would others do that maybe I cant speak for others and your invoking of "potential harm" from social media is not enough to prevent photographers from participating in a legally recognised activity that has rights and is recognised in law. I do not need a model release and copyright does not exist for images taken in public. I do not need anyones permission nor do i need consent and i can if i wish share my images on any social media platform. As far as public violence goes and as i stated before any photographer worth his salt will be quite aware and up to date on the laws pertaining to photography in public. As a martial artist i am very aware of my rights pertaining to self defence what I can and cannot do, i am very well trained and very capable. Many people simply do not know nor do they care to educate themselves on the rights afforded to photographers in the UK, and simply respond on an emotional level to a situation that is totally legal. Nobody can demand you delete images, they cant demand you show the images, a police officer cannot order you to delete the images, he may request to see them but that is it and you can deny that request. Only a court of law can order the deletion of images. I just dont get it that anyone with a camera can bring out the worst in people, i dont do street photography anymore but if i chose to i know my rights and i know where the boundaries are, what annoys me and so many other photographers are ignorant people and police officers who choose to be judge jury & executioner when a photographer takes out a camera in public. This topic is kinda relevant to the "hero" part of what Mark was talking about in the video. I hope that clears things up for you mate
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 I get it. That's why camera was integrated into phone for. Everything was created for good purpose. Only when people use it for bad intentions, the negative thoughts come in. Even artist couldn't do anything on the photos taken by paparazzi whilst they called themselves photographers. Now I get it.
These videos are so valuable. I definitely struggle with this. Sometimes it is absolutely my ego, but other times (at least in a driving context), it is just an unwillingness to let a person get away with doing what they are doing. I honestly think I would react the same no matter who they were doing it to. It’s the wrongness of their behavior that I am reacting to. Either way, it’s likely to get me pulled out of a destroyed car or riddled with bullet holes, so I need to stop getting so aggravated about it. Thanks for the reminder.
...Next time your in any road rage situation: and other guy is provoking or making eye contact...you must smile and blow him a passionate 💋😗....It completely throws off the ahole person and they just freeze up and stare... they will feel there frustration boil while you crack up and yell Smooches!! 😘😘😘....
Its easy to point out and teach to avoid physical violence. But the hardest is to point out and teach people to avoid verbal provocations, that leads to physical violence. The need to look strong against people who wants to threaten you happens mostly in verbal space in today's society like gaslighting and insults etc. Verbal aggression or passive aggression things happens far more frequent than bumping into someone in the clubs or on the streets.
I really appreciate these videos. Thank you. I’ve lived a fortunate life where most of the time I’m in a very safe area… these vids have opened my eyes to the potential problems that are out there.
@@fightscience once, I was Dublin w the wife walking to a restaurant. 2 homeless look guys popped up behind us. I slow to make distance so the wife was a ahead and I behind her. As soon as they asked for spare change I stopped and gave a clear no while keeping some distance. I suppose I was either convincing them I would be more of a problem and less of an opportunity or they just simply was asking for a little change but as soon as I said no with proper conviction they said ok and turned walking back the other direction. For a non- street guy, felt I did well. A time in Vladivostok was different. That required running from about 6 very drunk guys that wanted parts of my uniform. Lol I needed to get back to the ship anyway.
@@JDrumnavy I can see why you would choose where you live. To be honest I wouldn't live in London for the simple reason of overcrowding and crime. I prefer to live in safer areas. This means I don't have to look over my shoulder all day long.😉
@@fightscience oh. I’m in USA Georgia 15 miles from Atlanta in the suburbs. We’re seeing all kinds of crazy these days that are not the norm for this area. They’re expecting another summer of violence like we had here in 2020. I have been to London but only a couple of tourist days.
Spot on ! Thank you so much. You helped me now more in 6 minutes, than state in years of imprisoning me, and doctors talking to me. Wow... many problems in our society could vanish, or at least become lesser problems, if only people like you were in charge, and could do something with it. By people like you, i mean people who can name the problem, point on it, and explain it.
please find "3 second fighter" by Geoff Thompson that book saved my life and gave me more insight tyo what was going on both in the owrld and in my head that all the doctors ive talked to i urge you to find that book you will see what i mean once you have read it!!
Stupidity doesn’t learn, that’s what makes it so problematic. Excellent video, hopefully it saves some people some real trouble. You can’t protect anybody when you’re incarcerated. 🤙🏻 A quip regarding strength: it’s a very tough skill to master, covertly projecting deterrence. One would not wish to embrace a cactus, yes? Rattle snakes rattle, et cetra.
I was talking to a girl once (she had kids in her van) and I was at her driver's window. Some asshole drove buy and I made a mistake (bragging about a knife I keep for such idiots) and he came back. I gave up my ego because there were kids and women present and *I* made the mistake in the first place. It wasn't easy. Even years later I still feel like a "punk" but I *KNOW* I did the *RIGHT* thing!
Restraint Is a strength! There are times when it seems, in my humble opinion, that much of our society is trying to make their favorite Virtual games into True reality. Worse still, in many cases our system rewards it. Violence, pain and more does come easy for some people however... they often end up in jail or dead. Well covered
I'm a small guy, thus the laws if physics are against me if I get hit. I also have a look, wearing tiedy and video game/band t-shirts everywhere. Sometimes people will make fun of me at bars, but I'm never there alone. I simply don't react or respond. I'll stand my ground if I ever need to, but when you just ignore people who are talking shit, especially if they see you are with friends, they'll typically go on somewhere. I think you give very good advice, will def be watching this channel more.
Ugh. I've known people like this. One slight; you don't like their favorite team or music, or get too close, and they are ready to go or at least start mouthing off and will do it to people they know and to complete strangers.
Fight science guy I listen and try to convey your message to me older brother; a bit primal he is and quite capable too, but, your avoidance advice is the best fighting technique I can teach him. Thank you
My father told us - a fight loss or win is bad either way. U lose you feel like crap - u win you gotta watch your back after. Respect from Durango Mexico 🇲🇽
This is a very well thought out video and keeping egos in check is the best way to avoid unnecessary violence.some times that's the best self defence.thank you.
I always try to implement your advice and mentality in my professional career. There are just so many situations applicable with the self-defense situations you describe.
I'm always happy and smiling. My mother told me that it's difficult to punch a happy-go-lucky person in the face. However, I'm also ready to act defensively and aggressively if the need arises. I'm currently middle-aged and I've been blessed in not having to fight someone for 2 decades. I hope this continues for me because I don't want to end up like my cousins and friends who end up in jail for involuntary manslaughter.
That was the thinking of Wavy Gravy, a hippie clown in the Sixties. Long-hair types got bullied a lot in the early days of "Peace and Love." A friend of mine had his plastic peace symbol crushed by a bully (Bob Roman) who then said "PEACE" and punched my skinny, lightweight friend in the nose as he was on his way to class. Wavy Gravy's idea was "Nobody wants to hit a clown." That was back in the days before the movie "Killer Klowns from Outer Space."
@@TaiChiGhost That was a fun bit of history! Sorry that your friend got trauma from a lesser caveman. I'm sure Bob the Roman got his comeuppance later in his life.
I like to think I’m a calm and collected person, but I’ve been in so many of these situation, bumping another guy, or kicking off on the road. Every time afterwards, I’m buzzing and feel good, like I won, but I literally think when I calm down, needles risk to make me less insecure or defend my ‘pride’. Not worth it, especially seeing the examples of people taking things too far, and people leading with their… well… Ego. PS, I’ve never been in a real fight, but if I keep acting this way, it will eventually happen.
Yeah,esp the ‘gang identity’, where belongingness to a family/tribe/gang/religious group can quickly slide into cultic territory, where such a group becomes a collective ,which takes away personal moral agency . This is where ordinary people can become quite dangerous
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An excelent advise. Every word.
Sincerely respect and love the knowledge you provide to us. Sometimes it take a great man's knowledge, to build-up an up and coming good man, to make him that much better than he previously was. Your reality checks are potential life savers. We thank you for that. 🤝
Almost correct ^^
Every fight you can avoid is a fight that you won. But that doesn't mean you're weak to avoid a battle. This is difficult but it's true
Wise, nonetheless.
Everyone loses something in a fight. I’d say avoiding one is a bigger win for all involved.
Not all the fights. Some you really have to fight, in order to win.
Tebrikler kardeşim , gerçekten çerçeveletilip duvara asılacak bir veciz ifade...Tekrar teşekkürler."This is the way"...
When someone is coming for you, you can’t always avoid the fight !
Ego is the biggest issue we all have, especially men with sense of grandeur. Confidence goes a long way, but humility (being humble) goes even further. Thanks for this
So narcissistic traits are fairly common, for men it's control through strength, for women control through sex appeal?
@@Zack-lq9tb some women use strength as well and some men use sex appeal. The point is, being humble and choosing your battles is better then letting your ego/pride take over
@@camiloiribarren1450 thank you. Very interesting, Camilo.
I was wondering, regarding your statement, how might I have the sense of grandeur. Then when you said "choose your battles", it triggered the awareness of my delusion, and how much weight in life I have carried trying to bear the burden of responsibility for other's apparent failures in character and attitude, when I've been in great error myself. What a relief, to be rid of such turmoil that plagued the first half of this lifetime!
@@Zack-lq9tb yeah and sometimes we don’t even notice it, it’s just accidental but when we become aware of ourselves, we can realize what’s truly important and what is fluff. I’m glad you noticed you carried too much weight over your shoulders, sometimes it’s not even pride but lack of confidence or guilty conscience (personal experience) and letting go of it helps you heal a lot better. One of the best things is learn from Buddhism and learn how to detach yourself.
When I was younger my family moved allot. I had 2 little sisters. As the new kids we would get bullied. This spiraled out of control. At 1st I started to protect my sisters & stand up to people bullying me. Then it turned into me patrolling around with the motivation of "finding bullies". However it turned into kids complaining to me that people had bullied them. So I would go & bully a stranger over something that I didn't understand. One day I heard a bunch of kids talking about this insane red headed bully that was pure evil. As they where telling the story I realized they where talking about me.
Yikes, so you basically became the bully. ☹️
It's a thin line, I guess. Good intentions don't lead to a good deed. I think it's very common that violence ends up to be just that, if you lack awareness and self control and really question yourself and listen to others.
Must have been a tough time for you. I actually made similar experiences as kid.
We're often punished for our kindnesses. Helping the wrong people can hurt your hands, especially when friends and family , not only have expectations but demands.
Reading this made me think of that line from a Batman movie
You either die a hero or live long enough to see yourself become the villain…' - Mark Carrigan.
@@waynebaker5720 yes it's too true. I'm lucky to have learned that lesson when I was young. Most people don't often have a chance to see or hear what other people truly think & feel about them. So instead of being able to see the forest for how it actually is. They only see the 10 or 20 trees within arms reach of them
Calm heads prevail. A little empathy doesn’t hurt either. I mean, don’t be a pushover but trouble isn’t fun. Jail isn’t fun. Getting your butt handed to you isn’t fun.
"Don't run through life, balls first". One of the things that I was told growing up. Great video sir
Meaning what? Sex as first priority? Or being stupid arrogant?
@@Zack-lq9tbit can be six of one, and half a dozen of the other. Use your head (on your shoulders) or you can lose your head. Salute
@@thinkordie7292 yep, gotta keep the basic impulses in check to be a real human instead of an automatic animal. It's a process to evolve from stupid as sht to in control. People put titles to their name and amass stuff but underlying are just as insecure, unconscious of motivation, and bent towards the grave hiding from accountability all the while. I just watch
@@Zack-lq9tb great minds, Zack, great minds. Salute
@@thinkordie7292thanks bro, I've had plenty of time to think instead of chasing pussy.
My dad used to tell my agro ass all the time when I was young and letting my ego drive the car, "the best way to win the war is to deny the battle". Took some time for me to grasp how profoundly true that statement is but I get now as a 33 year old adult man. R.I.P pops, thanks for being the man i was privileged and lucky enough to have for 26 years. Miss you king.
Beautiful! 🌟👌
Avoiding fights is especially important because a lot of dudes act tough but then whip out a knife or gun. If it’s life or death than you fight,other than that walk away.
I never act tough, but I always carry something. And that saved me a few times, there are people who can't control themself, or simply enjoy being like top dogs, tough...until they see or feel metal.
*then
A nice option if you have it available to you.
George Zimmerman's start a fight then shoot you if they start losing.
True. The older I get, the more the video makes sense. A man should recognise his triggers and not be enslaved by his impulses. Regulate where necessary. Be decisive when action is required. Learn to let go when something is just an ego battle.
Thanks to Geoff Thompson i learned where i was going wrong and adjusted my behaviour i now recognise those failings in others which in turn help me to make desicions that ultimately keep me out of trouble
I had to understand this when I turned 18 because if I failed to I'd have a record, would have gotten injured, etc. A felony is permanent so I had to calm down.
Retribution is a primal instinct. This is what makes smart people avoid combat whenever possible. Another day, the same guy, no matter how weak he may be, can come to you when you least expect it, with a weapon and settle the score for good...
yup
Dead on. People hold grudges, especially men.
"Will Smith" should have watched this video. He ruined his career over a woman he thought he was protecting.
A woman who would happily sleep around on him and enjoy the pleasures of another man.
It still blows my mind that one of the most successful celebrities in the world was ok with his wife cheating on him
@Potassium Syndicate yeah i saw some video where he said a girl cheated on him in highschool, or when he was a kid. So his plan was to become so famous and rich that it would never happen again. Then his wife started banging his son's friend... like wtf, his plan did not work
@@chubsley2000 Welcome to Hollyweird where you have to be open minded on everything. Even to the point where your brains fall out.
His first wife looked much better 😆
This channel is great, not because of Wing Chun. But because of videos like these. Great dive into the psychology of fighting
Dr Mark there is not another channel that breaks down the science and all the underlying aspects of human behavior as you do. My sensei taught us the same in the 1976 and it helped me through out my 67 years. Thanks for pointing the finer points of fighting to newer generations.
Thank you for the rational advice. Defusing tense situations is a skill set that few people learn.
That would be a handy business to take to public schools!
I'm 53 and I've been in only two brief fights in my adult life (that didn't really amount to anything) but I've walked away from dozens of them. Pretty much every opportunity I've had for a fight came from pickup basketball and going out to clubs/bars where people are drinking. My advice to everybody is to just walk away every time if you can. Your ability to deescalate situations is your best self defense.
that's why you made it to 53 :P
I like to back down and if they keep coming I strike with extreme violence. I use a soft gentle voice to give my opponent a chance to leave me alone. I had to learn to back down as I got older and wiser.
The lessons you teach are priceless in their common sense applicability to keeping yourself alive and out of jail! I am grateful for your channel.
I could listen for hours. Always great advice. You can tell that you train hard and tough but hope for peace.
Most Important part of this video... "Know when you need to keep your ego in check". Normally we look and blame the other guy. He should have, he shouldn't have. But we hardly blame or look at ourselves as the part that could've avoided the tussle.
I know sometimes its really not us, but, keeping our egos in check is half the conflict avoided at least.
Being raised in a violent home, and from a father that encouraged street fighting and hurting others through boxing. I stupidly became a product of my environment. It lead me down Some dangerous roads. Hand injury, shattered wrist, concusion, lost tooth, and in my last fight did bodily harm to my oppenent that required eye surgery etc... It took me years to get my ego in check, and learn mental strength through stoicism. The key is to remain calm and in control of your emotions. Keep your eyes on your opponent, make sure he doesn't get too close and if he's acting jumpy. Clinch your teeth and tuck that chin in, and get off quick. You wanna end it as fast as you can, so you can leave before the cops show or he can recover and return fire.
I appreciate your kind words Ernie. I think for me, I never looked at myself as a victim or cried about my home life like my younger brother. It was hell alot of those nights, but it prepared for the cruel world we live in today. If it wasn't for the mental and sometimes physical abuse I suffered, who knows if I would been a real victim in the streets. I'm in my 30s now, and with age I'm not as aggressive and like to think I have more wisdom. I would give it my all if I became a father, because I know how important it is growing up and looking for someone to help guide you in those difficult journeys.
Nice work man.
Best way to not step in shit is to avoid shit.
Life's too short.
Exactly...
I had two situations where women thought I should fight a group of 2-3 people, because they said something vulgar to them. I just said: "I am not here to fight for your honor. I am here to get you home safely." The girls didnt like it, but I dont care.
Wise words from someone who is generally regarded as "someone you wouldn't want to mess with" Picking up the baton from Geoff Thompson and educating people on a facet of martial arts that is just as important as physical technique and often overlooked.
You are absolutely right sir. I stopped a lot of fights just with talking. I am focused on resolve aggression without aggression and so should everybody, especially when you are a skilled martial artist.
I found your channel only recently and have become a fan. These little snippets are always sound advice that all men should already know but too many don’t.
Well my last fight was in 1995 and yeah it was for a woman (my mom) spent 3 days stalking the dude who harassed her and kicked his ass but after that, i started martial arts and learned how to step away from troubles unless it's necessary, I've put down some dudes even before the beginning of the fight just with a confident smile , the dude will realize that you're friendly enough to smash him if he doesn't back off
One thing I work on is my fragile ego, I’m guilty of this whole list and have the scars to show it isn’t worth it.
same here. I'm still struggling with this shit.
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Excellent topic and well stated. Thank you.
Thank you for watching Sir!
Sound advice and always with a smile . That’s positive.
This was an excellent informative video. Many times we as men, tend to think that if we're not gonna engage in a fight, we're weak, but that's just our Ego speaking! If only we can replace our Ego with confidence, then mentally, we can win every fight without the need to actually get physical! Just some important advice, hope this is beneficial. Peace ✌
It’s not weak to run or back out or think your way out of a violent situation. It’s strong to keep your anger under control.
Bro, keep these videos thank you.
Will do Sir, thanks for the feedback.
I don't entirely agree with number 2. I agree that that people acting that way are usually driven by their ego and it can get you into trouble but it is necessary to a degree. It's not that you have to appear strong, per se, it's that you can't allow yourself to appear weak. If they sense weakness they're going to see how much you let them get away with or they will exploit the weakness. I'd say having confident and firm demeanor is probably best. I'm the type that will try to reason with people and try to resolve issues with words, but that also requires them to be a reasonable person, which is not always the case.
Agreed 100%, and I'm glad that somebody brought this up. It's true it's not good to appear like some kind of a badass. But you do have to walk and carry yourself with confidence.
There are bad people on the streets and elsewhere, that are always looking for victims. So it is very important. That you do not look like a victim.
Now if you walk around trying to look like mild mannered Clark kent. That can be just as dangerous. Is having this so-called hero mentality.
People can be like animals. And sense weakness in a person. And there are many out there, that will take advantage of that.
So is very important to not look weak and vulnerable. You don't need to look bad. But you do need to look confident in yourself.
And I have to disagree with. Not getting involved with someone who is in need. Too many people have that way of thinking.
No one wants to help anybody. And this is why the world is as bad as it is. And will remain this way. Until people learn to stand up for each other.
I'm sorry Fight Science. But getting involved in protecting others. Has nothing to do with ego, or a hero mentality. It's about compassion, and what's right and wrong.
@@streetsmarttaekwondo well said! I thank you! 👌🇨🇦
@streetsmarttaekwondo8579 I think the video is talking about maladaptive hero instinct not saving an innocent child/womans or senior citizens life.
with me i find it hardest to stay calm when someone attacks someone like an old woman or a little girl.
I need to watch that
You have no idea how badly I needed to hear this right now. Thank you!🙏
This video really makes so much sense. I was challenged by an mid aged man to a street fight when I told him to stop taking photos of the children at the playground. He cursed me non stop and challenged me to fight him at the playground. I stood there staring at him without any reaction, refused to fight. If it wasn't for I didn't want to break the law and morality, I could have knocked him down. I didn't accept his challenge to the fight doesn't mean I was afraid of him or I was weak.
Please do not take my response the wrong way im only trying to help you out here.
First of all you were arguing from a perspective of ignorance which is not your fault, its a common mistake and it happens all the time.
The law states that a photographer (yes im a photographer and a martial artist) can take photos of anything and anyone in a public place. There is no expectation of privacy in public and they do not need permission to do so. If your going to challenge people at least research the points your challenging, if you had done this then the altercation would not have happened.
If that photographer follows someone around or gets in the face of a subject and its clear that they are kinda stalking or guilty of harrassment, or takes many images of someones kids then yes you have the right to ask them what they are doing but to take images of a scene in public which happens to include kids then im sorry thats perfectly ok, and its a protected legal activity
whether you agree with or not that is totally irrelevant. If i was a father and wanted to take images of a football match that my son was participating in in a public place then i have every right to do so and i would be protected by the statutes that govern photography in a public place.
Where it becomes a problem is how people respond. You inadvertantly fell foul of the "hero" attitude here, you probably thought that he was up to no good and was being a creep i will tell you now that photographers love taking images of children because of the expressions and kids are amazing subjects. How dare anyone confront a photographer with a preconcieved notion that they are up to no good, that is a recipe for disaster and i know because ive been there and got the t shirt
Hey no offence mate but im just trying to make it clear that yes you can challenge and thats good but do so from a perspective of being informed, this will save you a lot of trouble and possibly harm.
peace
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 trying to make the situation clearer here. There's no photographer. There were an mid year old man and woman walking around with the woman holding her phone taking video around. I went near them to see what they were doing, they were taking video with no purpose only then I tried to advised them it's not polite to point her phone camera so near to kids like they're her kids while they're certainly not because I was the kids' dad.
I wasn't trying to become a hero, I was trying to protect my own kids. Many hackers are using someone else's social media accounts to follow and kidnap kids around. You should know many things could happen through social media. I do believe photographers should ask for permission before they have the right to put the person's photo onto any social media.
As we all know, everyone on the streets are all probably professional photographers nowadays simply because everyone carries a phone with camera around. I'm not sure there's laws to protect their rights to point camera so close to anyone on the streets but not to protect the public's privacy in the public. If it's a football match or WWE show or a fans meeting concert, cameras from all angles has no arguments and if I don't want to get into the camera, I wouldn't have brought my kids there. But we were in a playground, which was supposed to be a place where kids have the right to play happily and peacefully with no concerns.
I was just asking if they mind not to take photos of my kids because I don't give consent on that. But thing turn violent and the mid aged male challenged me to a fight. That was a threat to me and the kids. This was the main point, nothing about the photography. I'm against photography, I know it's a beautiful field and I love photography too. It's all about the negative incidents happening in the world that triggered this. There's bad guy out there, they might pretend to be a photographer with a camera, they might be a street performer holding a guitar. Who knows? I think there's no wrong of being more self alerted in the public as of using a camera in the public. But a phone camera pointing your kid just two feet away? You might have to think twice. If that person was really a professional public photographer, would he challenge me to a fight with just because of a short polite advice from me? That's not called a photographer, that's a rascal.
Man, photography and this incident are totally different topics. Please don't mix them up here. You've got your point there on the beauty of photography. But I was talking about street fight from some phone camera holder. You might have protect your photography rights in the public, but your statement has neglected the public violence. Photography wasn't the point here but the public violence was.
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 and come to think of it, a true professional photographer would always ask for permission before they intend to take photos of anyone in the public and make it into a masterpiece. Laws should protect the rights of photography, and we should understand clearly the interpretation of photographer and photography. Unless you're saying copyrights doesn't apply in photography then I have nothing to say. Maybe I'm outdated or I might sound against photography either. I love taking photographs and i live sharing them on the social media, but I do it responsibly and make sure I do not make others feel uncomfortable.
Peace. Nice advise from you bro.
Last, we should stand against public violence. Love and enjoy peace everywhere we go. Martial arts are meant to protect ourselves during extraordinary moment and not to use it as a weapon or a right or privilege in everything we want to do anytime anywhere. The world doesn't work like that, tolerance is a must for human beings to live in this world peacefully and not like animals.
@@fateangeloriginal Ok ive just read a post i missed and so to answer your comments.
You do not need permission from anyone in the public arena to take their photograph, a photographer doesnt need your "consent" you only need permission from someone if you are seeking to use it commercially.
However common sense should prevail here but if you dig your heels in, a photographer could invoke the rights that the law affords him and continue to take images. If then someone threatens the photographer that my friend, is a crime, and police intervention would result in charges being bought against the offender.
The point i was trying to make was; there is no law that says you cannot take a photograph (or video) of anything you can see from a public place, a playground is a public place.
Your "feelings" do not trump my rights you cannot in all honesty act on feelings alone.
Ok so lets explore what is public and what is not and what is deemed to be "off limits" due to privacy laws.
If i were walking down the street and saw kids playing in a playground which is a public place i can if i choose to take out my camera and take as many images as I want to, if i were walking down the street and saw a schoolyard i cannot take out my camera and snap away, why?
A schoolyard is deemed a private area where children can enjoy privacy laws and they are protected.
I can take images of private land as long as i do not trespass and remain on public land this includes peoples homes and places of work and all people who are in the space we refer to as "public"
In London you may take images of anything anywhere . . . . .
the only places you need permission are;
Trafalgar & Parliament squares if your selling for commercial gain.
When i shot models on the streets I always got them to sign a model release.
People in public are not professional models therefore the model release does not apply.
Again if i approached someone and asked to take a photograph and they said no then as a human being i personally would accept that and move on, however if they refused and i retreated and used a long lens there would be nothing they could do legally as im participating in a legally protected and innocent pastime.
As long as i am not hassling them, taking images that would be seen as degrading or invasive or demeaning causing a disturbance alarm or distress then i can carry on without interruption.
Would i do that ? certainly not, would others do that maybe I cant speak for others and your invoking of "potential harm" from social media is not enough to prevent photographers from participating in a legally recognised activity that has rights and is recognised in law.
I do not need a model release and copyright does not exist for images taken in public. I do not need anyones permission nor do i need consent and i can if i wish share my images on any social media platform.
As far as public violence goes and as i stated before any photographer worth his salt will be quite aware and up to date on the laws pertaining to photography in public. As a martial artist i am very aware of my rights pertaining to self defence what I can and cannot do, i am very well trained and very capable.
Many people simply do not know nor do they care to educate themselves on the rights afforded to photographers in the UK, and simply respond on an emotional level to a situation that is totally legal.
Nobody can demand you delete images, they cant demand you show the images, a police officer cannot order you to delete the images, he may request to see them but that is it and you can deny that request. Only a court of law can order the deletion of images.
I just dont get it that anyone with a camera can bring out the worst in people, i dont do street photography anymore but if i chose to i know my rights and i know where the boundaries are, what annoys me and so many other photographers are ignorant people and police officers who choose to be judge jury & executioner when a photographer takes out a camera in public.
This topic is kinda relevant to the "hero" part of what Mark was talking about in the video.
I hope that clears things up for you mate
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 I get it. That's why camera was integrated into phone for. Everything was created for good purpose. Only when people use it for bad intentions, the negative thoughts come in. Even artist couldn't do anything on the photos taken by paparazzi whilst they called themselves photographers. Now I get it.
80% of the time men will walk away. 20% of the time they're with their woman.
These videos are so valuable. I definitely struggle with this. Sometimes it is absolutely my ego, but other times (at least in a driving context), it is just an unwillingness to let a person get away with doing what they are doing. I honestly think I would react the same no matter who they were doing it to. It’s the wrongness of their behavior that I am reacting to.
Either way, it’s likely to get me pulled out of a destroyed car or riddled with bullet holes, so I need to stop getting so aggravated about it. Thanks for the reminder.
...Next time your in any road rage situation: and other guy is provoking or making eye contact...you must smile and blow him a passionate 💋😗....It completely throws off the ahole person and they just freeze up and stare... they will feel there frustration boil while you crack up and yell Smooches!! 😘😘😘....
@@asmrbynature3057 I will never do this, but I did laugh at the suggestion 😂
@@rlh125 nowadays though...they may take that as "actual flirting"
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Its easy to point out and teach to avoid physical violence. But the hardest is to point out and teach people to avoid verbal provocations, that leads to physical violence. The need to look strong against people who wants to threaten you happens mostly in verbal space in today's society like gaslighting and insults etc. Verbal aggression or passive aggression things happens far more frequent than bumping into someone in the clubs or on the streets.
Some people impart just knowledge... You've imparted wisdom, Sifu Phillip. T vm.
I really have to be careful with what I do. Thanks for the reminder.
I really appreciate these videos. Thank you. I’ve lived a fortunate life where most of the time I’m in a very safe area… these vids have opened my eyes to the potential problems that are out there.
But not everyone in a 'Bad' area is Bad. Just a thought.
@@fightscience once, I was Dublin w the wife walking to a restaurant. 2 homeless look guys popped up behind us. I slow to make distance so the wife was a ahead and I behind her. As soon as they asked for spare change I stopped and gave a clear no while keeping some distance. I suppose I was either convincing them I would be more of a problem and less of an opportunity or they just simply was asking for a little change but as soon as I said no with proper conviction they said ok and turned walking back the other direction. For a non- street guy, felt I did well. A time in Vladivostok was different. That required running from about 6 very drunk guys that wanted parts of my uniform. Lol I needed to get back to the ship anyway.
@@JDrumnavy I can see why you would choose where you live. To be honest I wouldn't live in London for the simple reason of overcrowding and crime. I prefer to live in safer areas. This means I don't have to look over my shoulder all day long.😉
@@fightscience oh. I’m in USA Georgia 15 miles from Atlanta in the suburbs. We’re seeing all kinds of crazy these days that are not the norm for this area. They’re expecting another summer of violence like we had here in 2020. I have been to London but only a couple of tourist days.
Good work! Thank you
So much to learn and relearn.
Your lessons are precious
That’s a good one, great info thank you Dr. Phillips
Best way to win a fight, is to avoid a fight.
Spot on ! Thank you so much. You helped me now more in 6 minutes, than state in years of imprisoning me, and doctors talking to me. Wow... many problems in our society could vanish, or at least become lesser problems, if only people like you were in charge, and could do something with it. By people like you, i mean people who can name the problem, point on it, and explain it.
please find "3 second fighter" by Geoff Thompson that book saved my life and gave me more insight tyo what was going on both in the owrld and in my head that all the doctors ive talked to i urge you to find that book you will see what i mean once you have read it!!
@@mikereynoldsguitar502 thank you ! I will search for it.
*Great* video and *quality* information. Thank you for sharing. 👍
Stupidity doesn’t learn, that’s what makes it so problematic. Excellent video, hopefully it saves some people some real trouble.
You can’t protect anybody when you’re incarcerated. 🤙🏻
A quip regarding strength: it’s a very tough skill to master, covertly projecting deterrence. One would not wish to embrace a cactus, yes? Rattle snakes rattle, et cetra.
Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard
@@dimitrilitovsk2372 Not terribly applicable here.
You right - it's on us to recognize stupidity to avoid it - just go - ASAP - don't take the bait.
So true!
Thanks Dr. Philips. Your lectures are amazing👍
Love your videos, man! Hopefully some of those that need to see them the most are finding their way over here.
Good video - clear and grounded advice, much appreciated. Perfect antidote to much of the bs that passes for everyday analysis.
Simply stated “Check the Ego at the Door”
I was talking to a girl once (she had kids in her van) and I was at her driver's window. Some asshole drove buy and I made a mistake (bragging about a knife I keep for such idiots) and he came back. I gave up my ego because there were kids and women present and *I* made the mistake in the first place. It wasn't easy. Even years later I still feel like a "punk" but I *KNOW* I did the *RIGHT* thing!
Thank you Instructor.
Damm good video right on!
Thanks Bud! Great reality check !
Restraint Is a strength! There are times when it seems, in my humble opinion,
that much of our society is trying to make their favorite Virtual games into True reality.
Worse still, in many cases our system rewards it. Violence, pain and more does come easy
for some people however... they often end up in jail or dead. Well covered
@Ernie Strother I can see your point but, are we speaking Restraint or Fear... because rational fear can also help.
Probably one of your best posts.
lord knows ive been letting my urges/impulses dictate my actions wayyy too much. great video
Great advice. Thanks. From Ireland 🇮🇪
great advice..seems most real men kinda know these things......i admit it can be difficult at times to check yourself.
Brilliant brother love your videos i always learn thank you
Very well put and insightful. Thanks!
Great tips brotha! God bless.
I'm a small guy, thus the laws if physics are against me if I get hit. I also have a look, wearing tiedy and video game/band t-shirts everywhere. Sometimes people will make fun of me at bars, but I'm never there alone. I simply don't react or respond. I'll stand my ground if I ever need to, but when you just ignore people who are talking shit, especially if they see you are with friends, they'll typically go on somewhere. I think you give very good advice, will def be watching this channel more.
Very good !!!!! Thank you
A great insight into human instincts.
Great post.
Good topic. Muddled discussion and remedies.
Sound advice… that I needed to hear. Thank you brother
Ugh. I've known people like this. One slight; you don't like their favorite team or music, or get too close, and they are ready to go or at least start mouthing off and will do it to people they know and to complete strangers.
Fight science guy I listen and try to convey your message to me older brother; a bit primal he is and quite capable too, but, your avoidance advice is the best fighting technique I can teach him. Thank you
yes the first one is my argument against women in combat arms in military
My father told us - a fight loss or win is bad either way. U lose you feel like crap - u win you gotta watch your back after. Respect from Durango Mexico 🇲🇽
This is a very well thought out video and keeping egos in check is the best way to avoid unnecessary violence.some times that's the best self defence.thank you.
Good advice.
This protective male pride instinct gets many guys killed or seriously injured...great work on your channel, warm regards from Venezuela.
The more skill I became the more secure I became, being secure eliminated the urge for confrontation, unless there were no other options.
Thank you
another great video, sifu!
Great videos.
I always try to implement your advice and mentality in my professional career. There are just so many situations applicable with the self-defense situations you describe.
Great wisdom
I'm always happy and smiling. My mother told me that it's difficult to punch a happy-go-lucky person in the face. However, I'm also ready to act defensively and aggressively if the need arises.
I'm currently middle-aged and I've been blessed in not having to fight someone for 2 decades. I hope this continues for me because I don't want to end up like my cousins and friends who end up in jail for involuntary manslaughter.
That was the thinking of Wavy Gravy, a hippie clown in the Sixties. Long-hair types got bullied a lot in the early days of "Peace and Love." A friend of mine had his plastic peace symbol crushed by a bully (Bob Roman) who then said "PEACE" and punched my skinny, lightweight friend in the nose as he was on his way to class. Wavy Gravy's idea was "Nobody wants to hit a clown." That was back in the days before the movie "Killer Klowns from Outer Space."
@@TaiChiGhost That was a fun bit of history! Sorry that your friend got trauma from a lesser caveman. I'm sure Bob the Roman got his comeuppance later in his life.
Wise words indeed
I like to think I’m a calm and collected person, but I’ve been in so many of these situation, bumping another guy, or kicking off on the road. Every time afterwards, I’m buzzing and feel good, like I won, but I literally think when I calm down, needles risk to make me less insecure or defend my ‘pride’. Not worth it, especially seeing the examples of people taking things too far, and people leading with their… well… Ego. PS, I’ve never been in a real fight, but if I keep acting this way, it will eventually happen.
Dr. P. Sir, your criminal psych. training comes shining through. Each one of your points is spot on sir. I mean spot on. Keep it up.
Masterpiece ! ty
Thank you Sir!
The way he speaks makes me want to listen more and more
Another great lesson
Wow!! Right on dude!
I have been practicing this for as long as I can remember. Very nice advice.
@6:28 Such good advice
Absolutely true
I would agree, although some people simply have flash anger. quite often a history of head injuries will make people lose control easily.
Nice job.
All so true!
Even Sun Tsu talks about winning a war without fighting.....
Yeah,esp the ‘gang identity’, where belongingness to a family/tribe/gang/religious group can quickly slide into cultic territory, where such a group becomes a collective ,which takes away personal moral agency . This is where ordinary people can become quite dangerous
Indeed... and it happens every day in every city around the world. Human beings can be a danger to themselves regardless.
@@fightscience humans are the most dangerous predators on earth