Fashion Trends Are Ruining Your Personal Style
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.พ. 2025
- Trends have infiltrated our clothing, bodies, homes, and language. This made me entertain a dark thought, do any of us have any unique interests? Do any of us have taste?
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As a goth ( with a very personal cultural twist on it) since 22 years now, it is always funny to see that some years, you are avant garde so fashion week inspiring, sometimes, you kind of blend in because everyone is wearing black, and others people look at you as if you were an outdated antique dusty halloween decoration.
goth for 24 years, here. you are absolutely correct. we truely have seen this a couple of times over the last 25 years. it goes hand in hand with this whole hatred/fetishization cycle we are exposed to, constantly. people either hate us or they fetishize us. now that the bigtiddygothgf has run her course, its back to being insulted and accused of being pet sacrificing satanists, and to being a halloween decoration
I’m still wearing my hair metal/ industrial metal fusion!
I get some strange looks, but I’m confident in it! Not going to change now I am 64!
If I went out as Coastal Grandma everyone would freak! 😂😂😂
That! Goth fashion is gorgeous!!!!
I have been wearing a mix of boho and grunge style for 17 years now...with colorful makeup and all.
Sometimes im super stylish and sometimes im too much.
Also the renaming of styles is hilarious... So boho clothing is now called fairycore and grunge is whimsigoth.... Wtf?
Lol grunge and whimsigoth are pretty different, but balletcore is like the new rebrand if coquette and yeah now ppl are so tired of it that there's norm core😂 @@Βασιλική-ΝικολέτταΣακελλάρη
sorry to all people in the subcomments: all this "-core" stuff isnt real. and to argue about how "that is xy-core" and "NO! thats clearly yx-core!" is absolutely pointless and serves no purpose. its like back in the day when black metal heads made up a whole new sub genre just because someone played a riff 5bpm faster than what was already established
Tok Tok just acts like everything is a new concept: era, core, blindness. Words are meaningless on the platform and so is the trending consumer fashion market
Exactly like MySpace 20 years ago go
Truth!
POV: "words are meaningless on the platform":
I remember being so pissed when I heard the term clean girl. It's like they saw the word chic and went "cool, but this isn't specific enough for people to buy stuff from my tiktok shop and never use again"
POV: the plattform is meaningless
The main issue: most people are not in touch with what they actually like. Get in touch with what you like and decide what you actually want to project : power, beauty, approachability, etc. Then factor in reality (body, weight, weather, budget, activities).
Proceed from there.
Yesss omg what impression i want to give off has really changed my outlook on style the last couple months. I dont JUST want to look cute, i want to dress in outfits that communicate how i want to be percieved
I disagree. Some of the things you like won't match with how you want to be perceived. For me it's fragrance.
@@Cherry-ki3ln depends. If you want to navigate high spheres or you have live goals based on being accepted by specific groups or types of people then whatever you like is going to fly off the window. I just think that if how you want to be perceived is very disconnected from your libido (what you truly like) and you can’t even fit in what you like with tiny details then you are probably playing a persona. But to each their own, I don’t think playing a persona is either good or bad, I just don’t find it organic.
I’d like to know about the fragrance thing if you want to share.
Also: factor in what you wear most often. Investing in that gets you the most cost per wear
@@lansvance4870 There are things I like looking at because I think they look nice, then there are things I actually wear because I feel comfortable in them and the things I wear to specific events because dresscodes exist.
None of these “trends” are new. It’s the same old thing given a lame cutesy name to pretend it’s new. Nothing new here.
Rebranding?
Call me weird, but with so many microtrends going around, why do I keep seeing the same clone of a twenty-year-old, cool blonde hair in a middle part, "natural make-up", in a pair of jeans, plain white t-shirt and long beige coat...Everywhere?
@@alisonmercer5946I’m in my 50s. People in their 40s did it when they were young too.
@@Burnthiswitch what is interesting I grew up in a predominantly minority mainly black woman environment. The middle part, jeans, white shirt, lip gloss, French tip nails, gold hoops, and tailored eyebrows were extremely common without the trench coat. It's crazy it was rebranded with blondes as the image and labeled 'clean girl'.👀
Working class cosplay @@betc293
Why can’t I wear a floral “hippy” dress one day, a more preppy “mom” look one day and an all black more “goth” look the next?! I dress for how I feel that day… is that not normal?
Some people like their standard "blacks and whites" and some like all the "colors of the rainbow" (and to change them up), and both are normal 😊
Nop don’t box yourself in one aesthetic
I do the same! I dress how I feel, I dress for the weather, I dress for my mood, I dress for the occasion. I learned long ago I did not want to follow trends, because I didn't actually like a lot of the trendy clothing styles whenever they were popular. I would pick thepieces I liked, and added them to my regular collection. I know what I like, the styles I like, and prefer, and I don't really care if it's popular or trendy while I'm wearing it! 😅
If you are happy and comfortable, then you keep wearing what you are wearing and don't worry about anything else 😁
That’s completely different, and honestly when I have the money I want to have different styles. Why do we only have to have one?
But there’s a difference between that and seeing something on the internet and changing up your style. Then when something new comes along, you never use those clothes again.
EXACTLY! I love doing this too. I'm constantly surprising myself with the clothes I put on each day and I love it!
Omfg THANK you for calling out those “before I found my personal style videos” 😭 they always made me feel like I was going crazy. Like what am I supposed to be seeing here? You dressed on trend 5 years ago, you dress on trend now….. ??? And?
Exactly and they all look the same. They all have the same "personal style". So funny to watch.
I really think people don't know who they are. She made a very good point towards the end of this video where she mentioned that you would think there would be no trends at all. Because it is literally socially acceptable to wear whatever you want outside your house (just assuming the bare minimum is covered by clothing of some type) everyone is aware of just how much damage it is doing to follow trends. So it weird how there are trends at all. But I think people have even less of an idea of who they are as a person now. Because there are so many options. Who do you want to be? Who are you fundamentally at your core? Seems like a lot of people don't even ask themselves these questions ever. If you don't know who you are, you try on a bunch of different skins hoping to find one that feels right.
Yep! So fake
Unfortunately they are often misguided! Most of them will regret the style choices they made in the video in a few years.
And now we have all these early 20s dressing like "old money" grandmas acting like they’re somewhat holier than thou because you wear jeans and sneakers 💀 social media = death of the mind
I feel this way about thrifting too. It used to be nice stuff and quality. Now its mostly fast fashion crap.
To be fair to it, we have more and more clothing than ever and people feel guilty throwing it away so they donate fast fashion to thrift stores.
Time marches on.
Loads of shein 😢
@@catcoffee7958 it physically hurts me when i see girls on pinterest ask where to buy the clothes or accessories on a photo and then you get 20 comments saying Shein!!! Aliexpress :) etc etc
The shopkeepers keep all the good stuff to sell online anyway 🤷♀️
Thrifting shein feels less evil tho😢
My personal style journey has been going after things I've liked since childhood that I finally feel confident and old enough to wear today.
Same as well I just dress the way I like because it's nice to embrace myself.
Yes
Same I was too poor to buy the things I liked growing up and now I can finally indulge in them
true. growing up i couldn't dress the way i wanted to so now that i can i pick things i like even if their no the most flattering to my body. because i want to dress myself freely. w/o any trends or anything.
OH MY GOD IF THATS NOT THE REALEST THING I’VE HEARD.
I loved flared long sleeves and jeans when i was little then gave it up because everyone wanted skinny jeans then wide mom jeans, and now LOOK WHERE WE’RE AT AGAIN. All i learned was that i shouldn’t doubt myself lol
Yessss. Dress for your body type, it changes everything. I haven’t bought trends for over 10 years.
The problem is finding those in the middle of the trends. The brands devote all their products to making what's trendy
dress for your body type, but also fuck anybody who says you can't wear something because of your body shape. wear whatever makes you feel confident and happy
@@junolysses This!!, "dressing for your body type" to me simply means finding what you consider flattering for yourself, portraying what you wish with your body, and simply dressing accordingly to your own personal standards. Not "dress for your body type" and it's strictly dressing in a way that serves no other purpose than creating the illusion of an hour glass figure.
This. I'm a little curvy myself and I see women bigger than I am walk around with their gut or *ss hanging out. It's unsightly. I have a full bottom and full hips but my stomach isn't too big, but showing off my midriff is just unflattering. They shouldn't make certain clothes in certain sizes.
@@marismm6405Look for smaller brands who have their own signature/style.
Delete social media, limit TV, and discover YOUR taste 💅🏻
This! How are you supposed to come up with *own* ideas when you are fed new stuff every ten to thirty seconds
I always get angry when a trend hits on one of my styles
Agree with almost everything! However, please note the care instructions on a garment are just the designer protecting their own skin. Many times it says dry clean only but you dont have to. I have many 100% silk, 100% cashmere, cotton and wool items and machine wash them on Delicate cycle in COLD water, then hang to dry or dry on low heat. Its really not that much more effort to wash natural fibers. Being clueless about bleathable natural fibers and buying plastic polyester clothes that make you sweat and are drenched in chemicals are the average consumers BIGGEST blindside right now. Less trends, more knowledge.
Judging by how many shrunken wool sweaters I see in the thrift shops- best to gently hand wash with a quick soak, a roll in a towel & lay flat to dry.
Best way to wash fabric is to use shikhakai and reetha. They never damage any fabric.
Could you please help us understand how designers benefit from labeling "dry clean only" etc on clothes ?
Completely agree! I’ve washed vintage silk scarves by hand without issue. If one knows what to look for and do, almost everything can be washed by hand. I haven’t taken anything to be dry cleaned for years. I wash my wool/cashmere once a year before storing them away for Summer, that’s it. Tbf I have so many by now that this means like just 3-4 wears per season but still. It’s not as cumbersome as people like to think.
@@alfiya119color bleeding in prints, bad cutting and fabric alignment which results in shifted seams, bad hardware quality that chips easily, etc etc
i really like the way you give the example of your uncle. people might judge him for being unfashionable but he's found his style and knows who he is. what he wears contain his identities, memories, things that were meaningful to him. i think that's really cool
What I am curious about is, is the uncle part of a group? Or did he discover his passion by himself?
@@SwetlanasCozyplace Motorcycle culture has lots of groups!
I’m an artist and I think the best way to stand out of the crowd is to 1. Not cling to a certain “ aesthetic” if you want to call it that. Or 2. Not to have an “aesthetic” at all.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels this way about the “before I found my personal style” videos!
I really enjoyed this video. Very concise and organized while still loaded with wisdom!
Glad you liked it!! ❤❤
Back in the 2000s, being a tall, curvy Black girl meant that most fashion trends didn’t work for me or my body type. Finding clothes that fit was a struggle. But now, I can easily shop in the tall section and find pieces that fit me perfectly. With my pear shape and prominent iliac crest, those 2000s low rise jeans and crop tops were a nightmare. Today, I get to wear all the crop tops I want, paired with my holy grail high waisted jeans and I feel absolutely fabulous in them.
Some of my friends think that at 35, I should start “dressing my age,” but honestly, I wear whatever makes me feel comfortable and what flatters my body. I’ve learned over time that even if I love the look of a pencil dress, it’s just simply not made for my shape. Instead, I put in a little extra effort to find pieces that truly complement my figure, and I feel great doing it. I value comfort over looks 100%, urban and street wear is my daytime style.
Ugh, this is so well said!!!! No one can mess with you when you know who you are, and that includes the fashion industry.
"does anyone have taste?" i do. some seasons i buy nothing because none of it aligns with my personal style. some years are exceedingly dry. and once in a while my look comes back in style and i can splurge.
Agreed. I think this person is hanging out with the wrong crowd. There are plenty of people with taste. They're just not on Tik Tok, they're in the real world.
I don't even know what's trending.
Great video, but I’d like to add- your clothes do NOT have to be ‘flattering’. If you love an item of clothing but it makes you look shorter/bigger/whatever, you can wear it anyway! Your body does not need to look a certain way or fit certain proportions. (Of course, if it’s important to you that your clothes be ‘flattering’, go for it!)
Yes!
@@sarahmitchell821
I don't agree
I think everyone should have their own personal style and the audacity and creativity to not blindly follow the crowd like sheep.
and yes our style should be tailor-made to accentuate our beauty not to obscure it ....
@@fairya_fantastic_youtuber5569 If beauty is important to you, great! However, I don’t think beauty is obligatory. You don’t owe the world pretty. (Certainly not when pretty in this case mostly means tall/slim).
You nailed it in the last 3 seconds of the video 😂 it's about the "why." Why is something trending? Why are you wearing that and not something else? Why is hard. A lot of people run from their why. I think trend following is just a way to avoid answering that question.
One common theme - a Signature hairstyle - Anna Wintour has had the same haircut since the 90s. Finding a haircut you love, that works with your hair type is the basis of style.
Most "trends" on the runway start on the streets - designers copy real life and mass produce it.
But if more people actually watched runway shows vs what they are fed in the media, they might be better for it. Like listening to a whole album, you see an artists curated vision.
While it's nice we aren't in a chokehold when it comes to accessibility, I think we need to rethink how we consume something. Like sometimes going "This is cute. I'd like this." and walking away is the better choice.
As someone whos "style" never really changed its kind of funny to watch what I typically wear go in and out of fashion over and over.
Dressing for your type. Wearing that you look good on you. Silhouettes that you enjoy. Same can be true for makeup. Makeup placements for facial structure and using colors that look good with your tone will always look great. You don’t need to every trend and need every new eyeshadow palette.
I did loose my style after getting a job. At first I wanted to look professional at the office (that was before 2019) and then the job began to drain me so much. I basically left the house in pants and a shirt and no accessories, although I was a goth girly (skirts, dresses, lace, bows, frills, elaborate hair, etc.). A pandemic and a job change later I started to get into my style again.
And just last week during an international business trip I stumbled upon a gothic clothing store carrying my fav brand (they had my fav dress that I bought almost 15 years ago!). So you better believe I do have an updated fall wardrobe now. 😀
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i discovered what my personal style is after realizing what i ACTUALLY dont like, i used to think i hated skirts but then i found out that i disliked only the ones that restricted my movent and now long flowy skirts are one of my favorite clothing items
These poor girls of the tictok generation. We had our influences back in the day, but could do what we wanted, be it vintage, jeans, or raiding your mother’s closet. I hate the idea that you need to throw out everything and put all your spare money on something new every few months. I have stuff in my closet from 20 years ago. I wear what I love and what looks good on me. Free yourself from trends and be yourself!
No you couldn't lmao. People would bully you if you _really_ dressed individually. And then when aspects of it become a trend they act like it never happened lol. Some people would think it was cool but what I'm saying is you really needed confidence to be different. There's so many songs about it too. Now you can just claim it's an aesthetic. People love to romanticize the past but the truth is back then everyone looked the same. At least now there's some variety among the same-ness
@@mjrhmekssh thats not the truth, counter culture is not new and there have always been people who dressed differently.
I agree. One issue most of us have is our bodies change because of age and/or weight. Anna Wintour has the same figure since she was young woman. I went from a size 4-6 34-26-36 measurements in my 20 and 30s to a 39-29-41 measurements in my 50s and now 60. I cannot wear the same style, especially the micro short hemlines and 4inch heels (my feet hurt) of my 20s,30s.
Yes. I was a size 2 in my 20s. Size 6-8 in my 30s. Size 10-12 in my 40s. Genetics, illness, and life drastically change some of our bodies, so we continue evolving our wardrobes.
I have alot of "fast fashion" items from 10 years ago, I wear items till their falling apart, or repurpose items for art/gardening projects. These days, the fast fashion items I purchase are for dressing up as a costume/theme eg. Halloween.
I was a stereotypical looking grunge 90’s kid. In adulthood I thought I had to look more polished and professional. That was fine for a while but I’d get bored of my closet constantly. So in recent years I’ve started to incorporate more and more rock and grunge/90’s elements into my wardrobe while still maintaining it office appropriate and I am loving it. It feels like me and it looks cool AF 😄 I do love playing with trends to add some fun and excitement to my base. Usually via shoes and outerwear
Woww feels like I wrote this. It was the exact same for me. I used to dress goth/grunge but when i got my first office job they explicitly told me the dress code. It stuck. But now im currently at a more free workplace, so i really want to incorporate some of my original style.
Your introduction mentioned your collection of fashion magazines from the last 10 years. In a similar vein, I refer to style magazines from the 1940’s & ‘50s, which have exquisite artistic photos from Erwin Blumenfeld, Horst, Louise Dahl-Wolfe, Irving Penn, and clothes worn by models who knew how to pose, and walk elegantly. Suzy Parker, Lisa Fonssagives, Dovima,and even one of Capote’s swans- Babe Paley, make today’s style icons seem smarmy, adolescent, and tacky.
I've never been attached to trends, even though I like some of the stuff that's trending right now (I'm loving that wide-leg pants are in style) but I want to streamline my personal style into something that always works for me. Discovering the style "essence systems" has been a great tool to figure out what works on me, why it works, and how to build on that, instead of just trying to emulate what works on other people.
This reminds me of 2016 when a bunch of my co workers would say “I just happen to love makeup I’m really passionate about it”. Like it is a quirky character trait, like girl the whole world currently consists of people baking contouring and using the entire color wheel on their eyes with a cut crease due to a tsunami of beauty influencers with 5-50 million followers each. Heavy contour makeup w the concealer outlined brows is not your independent quirk
And now no one is wearing interesting makeup! so sad 🙁
I was never using covering or brow products ( hate the feel of them) but i am a rainbow when it comes to blush, eyeshadow, lip and use of graphic liner and glitter 💖. And i wish other people still wore something a bit more inspiring....
I *once* heard a song mention "mass produced individuality" and it instantly changed my relationship with makeup specially
@@Βασιλική-ΝικολέτταΣακελλάρη my friend, oh it is. look up clown core. it's so fun!
I was thinking about this exact same thing where I felt like I lost my style and authenticity changing with every changing trend. With this awareness, think I can finally do what I want.
I have worn jeans and tshirts since the 90s when I was a teenager. I loved fashion magazines. As an adult my favorite is old Hollywood and original mob wives from the 50-80s.
For me realizing what suits my body type was a game changer! If I look at items I bought ten years ago to something I bought this week, they are very very similar! ☺️ For me that is V-neck, overlap tops and A-lines. Knowing colours that suit me also helped but I still found that I personally enjoy colourful prints the most all through my life 🤷♀️
Are you some sort of Natural, perhaps? ;) As a SN I recognize my wardrobe and what looks good on me in your description. 😊
I do this thing I call “trial by water” where if an article of clothing I buy doesn’t survive a normal wash, it is unworthy of joining my wardrobe.(special occasion attire and unique vintage pieces are exempt.) I buy most of my clothing from thrift stores, and I’ve found that even if it says dry clean only, if it’s made it this far, it will survive the trial. I’ve had zero clothing casualties so far using this method. I do hang things to dry if it doesn’t specify that they go in the dryer.
Sad that all of this is catered only to women..
men don’t have “big influencers” or style trends, and if they do, they’re done for a long time and we don’t have “micro trends”
Also staying off social media is the best way to find your style. Go out, look at clothes. Try them on. Don’t follow the “body type” trend. Buy things that make you happy
Body type trend is just meant to be used as a guide to avoid clothing that is unflattering for one’s shape, and eliminating the need to buy into more trends.
Men frequently imitate idols & participate in hegemonic masculine embodiment through clothes. Should b careful about that. Men r also extremely affected by toxic body ideals. The way men participate in fashion is often 2 conform. & trends still shift quickly 4 men. So this is certainly applicable 2 men, even if less-so. I can recognise this cuz I’m a man but I chose my own sense of fashion.
Men’s fashion trends typically deny personal style, instead being a communication of conformity. It’s a very different discussion 4 men. Fashion & gendered behaviour is very segregated. U actually need a video specifically on men’s culture around clothes & fashion 2 cater tips 4 men.
@@shawnbay2211 I would watch a long video on this topic, lol
You should watch Drew Joiner! He does male fashion content
Agree! Men get ignored in fashion. But tbf much less men are into fashion/trends than women. My husband likes to dress well and dips his toes into trends. But he gets overwhelmed by the sheer volume of clothes and options, so he asks me to help him shop. He has gotten much better at doing it solo. It just takes practice and a clear idea of what you want. So my guess is many men just don’t shop regularly because of this. My husband learned about proportions, color palettes, fabric composition etc from me. He often analyses my outfits for fun (you did this because of that? So the vibe is XY?) No he is not gay or bi 😄just Italian.
So you can easily extrapolate all this fashion info to yourself and adapt it to a male body. The “rules” or tips are exactly the same in the end.
Also, someone could have multiple styles. I like feminine vintage and masculine business casual. I like basics with jeans and a baseball cap, as well as oversized graphic t-shirts with a miniskirt and colorful makeup. Not too many pieces in each category, but enough to provide a little variety with some statement pieces.
Unfortunately, I am tall and curvy so the casual classy ish style that is trendy now is the one that works for me and has always worked for mr. It is kind of annoying to see everyone looking like this but - I LOVE and obsess over south Asian textiles prints etc. I collect swaths of fabric like khadi and cotton which is ideal for the humid climate here. I draw or take pics of stuff I like and give the fabric to my mom's seamstress and she brings my closet to life AT HALF THE PRICE. Also mega-custom. I also collect pieces from handloom and handicrafts markets. And I am darkly inclined so veer towards darkers prints, spiky ethnic jewelry etc. Most of my wardrobe is 5+ years old. With a lot of them reaching a decade very soon.
I have only one real leather item- strappy gladiator flats which I bought in 2017 in a Delhi market for less than 3 dollars. (250 inr). Idk how but it is still going strong- without any repairs or resoling or anything. Its has a cute fringe on the achilles heel side and it always gets compliments.
I know tall and curvy women rocking totally different styles and making them work for them 😅 I think it’s a matter of personal taste
loved the anna wintour quiz... i was only 5 yrs off the first 2.. last one had me stumped as anytime "timeless" - which i think proves your point about being blind to current trends
You literally just put everything I have been trying to say in my essays in high school! this is why I offer styling for people, I have them fill out a questionnaire and create a profile for them! thank you this was extremely helpful ❤
Wore a pair of $25 combat boots to death from 2017-2018, so sprung for a pair of Doc Marten boots and haven't looked back. They're my daily wear. It feels so good just having my go-to shoes, a pair of sneakers for when I need comfort, and a doc loafer for nice occasions.
But on the flip, I recently tried on a pair of bootcut jeans like I used to love as a kid-teen and felt the weight of every wasted straight leg pant I'd bought since.
I tried forcing turtlenecks for so long because of them working for my "long" neck, but they just aren't comfortable for me so I'm finally putting a stop to that. But recognizing I do like high crew necks, so I pass up any shirt that isn't that neckline.
It's really easy to think we aren't influenced, but influence can come from so many places! I'm proportioned like my dad and he one time made a comment about turtlenecks looking good on us both. I've enjoyed the "dark academia" look and thought I needed to wear straight cut, pleated front pants, but they do not work with my wide hips.
Trends might be ruining the style of people with money to spare but those of us who are broke or cheap still keep clothes for years until they're close to desintegrating.
You have a unique perspective and an understanding in a sea of people who are doing this but are uninteresting. I’m subscribing because I want to see more of your knowledge of fashion. I was a shopaholic, a complete horder of fine leather goods and designer clothes. Now I just need to downsize and I sell on eBay and Poshmark. I use videos like this to see what’s trending and for pricing. It’s crazy. I’ve recently gotten a surge of buyers for my leather handbags of the 2010s. Gen Z has come into the age of consumerism and wants fashion that was trending 14 yrs ago. Crazy! 20 years ago we never saw anything repeat that fast.
I don't do trends, I just wear whatever I want. Following trends will keep one miserable, you'll never be able to keep up. This was a wonderful video ❤
This is such a good video, I can't believe you don't have more views and subscribers! like WHAT?? Underrated much!??
Thank you so much!!
Alternative style in my early teens and goth since my mid teens. Still goth and almost 40 now. I have a few items I've had for 15+ years and that I still use. I also used to make a lot if my own clothes. I mend stuff, alter things, and still make a few things here and there. I have a pear shape and a long back and short legs. Some styles will just NEVER look good on me, such as the "paper bag trousers" or the "balloon (?) skirt".
This is a really well-made video! The only thing I would add, when figuring out your style, is to ask yourself: What pieces of clothing/accessories do I like from a specific style/era? Would I be comfortable wearing it?
For example, I have always liked the gothic-victorian-vampire aesthetic, when watching films. However, if I went out with a big long frilly black dress to work or to the grocery shop, this wouldn't be appropriate. So instead, I bought a loose-fitting corset top and a ruffled long skirt, which look more "down to earth".
It's similar with the goth style - I like the rebel vibes, but do not feel comfortable in short skirts. So I opt out for long ones with metal details instead.
Love this! Making sure things are actually wearable is very important!!
Too bad i like two vastly different things: princessy and cyberpunk/techwear 😂
I bet you could make it work.
Cyber punk princess. Sheer fabrics with cyberpunk patterns to use as lace elements…..
Make it happen! 😁 Or you can take turns like I do
You should watch Andrea’s Fashion Galaxy. She’s a little more princess/punk, but she has a style you might like and has a lot of the same values about thrifting/reusing and buying quality clothes that are discussed in this video
@@birdslovewordsthank you for this ❤
Normally I hate when my phone hears me and I see ads for things I’ve mentioned like *ballet flats*
I’ve been tormenting myself about whether to buy a pair and then your video popped up just as I was about to buy my first pair of shoes (ballet flats)
I was born and raised in NYC and have copied my fashionable mother and my 95 YO mom in law who worked in couture and of course made all her own clothes. She taught me about fabrics and .. oh I could go on and on .. even buttons matter. (Her button draw from the 1950’s onward is incredible!)
Both these women have influenced me in some areas. In others I forged my own way. My favorite rule of my mom was no shoes. Just a few pair of great classic pumps, otherwise boots and sandals are all you need.
So I hated that I felt the need to buy ballet flats. I’m 5’11” and not a person whose wardrobe would ever call for a pair ballet flats. I mention my height because it’s the biggest influence for my style and the pressure for me to have a *studded ballet flat or loafer* was the first time I felt pressure to buy something *to be fashionable*
I cannot thank you enough for this video. It was smart • intelligent • well written • great visuals • well edited .. and so educational.
Thank you! :)
Girls, YES!!! Finally someone said exactly what I think.
Although trends can be fun to play with, your style is consistency. It’s what will make people respect and admire you. And you dont even have to have an extravagant sense of style, but if you are consistent people will see you are someone who stays true to your essence and what you like. And that inspires respect for anyone, bc it shows you are sure of yourself and is not willing ro compromise your authenticity for temporary things.
Yes 🙌
I almost never wear ”trendy” clothing. Because why would I buy something that I don’t like, or that doesn’t suit me? I love trenchcoats, but I’m curvy and look like death warmed over in beige, so I try to find a more fitted model in navy instead. (Which is hell, esp if you want to avoid polyester.) I don’t like sneakers, I’m boycotting pants, let’s face it: I’m hopelessly ”unfashionable”. But I really don’t give a damn. ”Don’t follow trends, set them.” Great video! 👍
First...I'm from Maryland, too! Sup, fam! Second, I really love 70s fashion. It's welcoming, fun, cool, and laidback. Plus, I love how warm and bright the colors are
One of the best fashion related videos I've ever seen. Educational and inspiring. Thank you
Normalise reusing clothes and sewing/making our own. I want creativity to rise along with craftsman ship
I really enjoyed this video! It was incredibly well thought out, and it's clear you put a lot of effort into it. Keep up the great work!
appreciate it ❤
Yes! This is how i tell everyone to find their style! Kibbe, seasonal color and then add a twist that mKes you happy.
Actually YOU grew up and stopped looking to impossible images of plastic people to define you👍🏽👍🏿👍🏽👍🏻👍Good for YOU😘😺
for a little now Ive really been trying to just shush out all the noise and listen to my inner fashionista much more clearly and this video truly solidified how I will be thinking and seeing and Feeling fashion from now on. Such a wonderful video, pure art
As an ordinary woman who grew up trail riding horses, roughhousing with my little brother on said horses with wooden swords and living my life as a 49 year old…I wear what I enjoy, what I think looks amazing, and what makes me comfortable. I still get tons of compliments. I would advise everyone to enjoy their lives and build a wardrobe around that focus.
this has actually changed the way i view my wardrobe. i've been following trends since i was younger to make up for my insecurity over my body and have been wearing boxy baggy clothes ever since. its not my style at all! i love flowy skirts and patterned tops and i'm not going to fear wearing them any more, thank you!!
I know I'm in the right place fashion wise because honestly I think a lot of trends since lockdown are ugly, at the time it happened. OR if not "ugly", just something I don't like. Anyways love this video, love authentic personal fashion forever
Finally....I'm so tired of trends. I always wear what I like not what is in trend. All you said is true. I have clothes wich I wear even 5 years or more.
I slowly come into liking dresses, but mainly I realize I’m very picky about dresses more than any other clothing.
I realize I like more simple wrap dresses. I know I like boots. Most of my clothes I love are neutral tones and feel off in bright bold colored outfits. I realized my main color pallets I wear consistently(to the point of wearing those colors out faster) is olive green, browns, cream, black, and peach.
It’s disheartening for my sister and family bad that I mainly thrift and my clothes look out of fashion.
For me, a few trends I've always liked. Leopard f.e. now it's back in trend, with other silhouettes and patterns and I love it.. I buy now, but wear it forever. Just the same with certain colours.
I've always been a baggy pants kinda person, I did the skinny jeans, it has it's place (in otk boots .fe.), but you can't imagine how my inner teenagers heart beats right now at all those baggy jeans. Back then I was so desperately looking for those cuts, now they're everywhere, also for women (and imho they suit many people way better). Back then you only could get them for men in skate or army shops.
Had a few phases, some things stick with you more than others. To some you'll always relate (if you had them), some are a memory of the past for good. It's a fun thing is to try and incorporate those core elements important to you into a new language. More "grown up" whatever that would mean, with different cuts or combinations.
Agreed. I have yet to see my fave bell shaped jeans cut - kind of a skater take on 70’s jeans - since high school (90’s). They were the perfect length. Mud jeans 😂
I love polka dots and want a cute little mini dress with black lace and white background. And I think red flats would be so cute. I love my personal style. I love a lot of things that people think are outdated. I love a suede slouchy boots. I love a beaded lariat necklace with lots of silver jewelry and bracelet stacks
I'm dissapointed to see that even Kibbe influencers like Aly Art habe been jumping onto shaming women who wear "dated" clothes, which always means Romantic type clothes. Even they seem to promote bying current modern boxy, wide clothes
Tbh I dress for how I feel, and most of the time I feel like a whorish time traveler so I wear a lot of Victorian-era inspired pieces and crop tops. My biggest tip to other people legit trying to find their style is hold off on buying things for a few weeks to ensure you love it and to try and try to invest your money in pieces that will last longer, I usually buy second hand to save money.
Also, didn’t ”fashionable” use to mean dressing according to fashion but with personal flair? Slavishly following every trend doesn’t feel ”fashionable” to me at all.
tbh some of my favourite clothing items are from when I stop buying what is "flattering" and it's been healing for my body image. Bought a camisole top in 2018, which as a busty girl with more of an hourglass figure took me a lot of courage, after telling myself & being told, that it would look bad on me. But it is still one of my most worn items and inspired me to buy more things like it.
I've been wearing turtlenecks, converses, middle or high-waisted jeans, classic button-up blouses and those fitted 'dated' trenchcoats for the majority of my life. I added some newer stylistic choices like more relaxed silouettes or oversized hoodies a couple of years ago - it was both trendy at the time and complemented my body shape and personal comfort greatly and easily became one of my go-to choices of clothing. With the modern y2k trends like fitted skimpy tops or low-waisted jeans I do look and sometimes feel out of the loop and not fashionable and can get insecure over it, but I guess my style is consistent through the years, so that's great to remind myself of from time to time.
A point of order. Historically, trends did not stick around for decades. It was fairly cheap to get clothing refashioned.
For example, there were two different bustle eras. And the bustles looked drastically different.
Clothes changed dramatically from year to year. The changes were just different from how they change today because they didn't have sunscreen.
Ever since I started sewing my own capsule wardrobe. I feel like that keeps the "following the micro trends" at bay. I noticed that I'm not buying from fast fashion as much anymore. I prefer buying vintage sewing patterns from the 70s, 80s & 90s since those decades pretty much had the biggest influence on me growing up. If I had to describe my personal style it would probably be Marc Jacobs Heaven-esqe (ish), mixed with lots of mismatched colorful printed maxi skirts/dresses and flowy, lettuce hem tops. I practically live in all things lettuce hem in middle/high school and you can't get me to ever stop wearing that sewing finish. I prefer planning my sewing projects than scrolling Shein for whatever is trending.
Sewing a capsule wardrobe has forced me to create and sew items that can work with everything in my closet. Sewing my wardrobe is a very involved process from creating fabric swatch journals to choosing the fabrics, buttons and trimmings. I purposefully stay away from synthetic fabrics (unless vintage secondhand, i.e. crochet baby blankets, vintage bedsheets & deadstock fabrics from previous decades) and flimsy buttons because they simply don't last very long and putting so much work into a handmade garment only for it to fall apart in the wash doesn't make sense.
At the end of the day I sew clothes that make me happy. Just won a bunch of PowerPuff Girls vintage bedsheets off of eBay and going to make a wrap maxi skirt and maybe some flared pants depending on how much I have left over 😊
The fact that you sew your clothes is incredible, would love to do that too but I have no Talent 😂
I loved what you said about trench coats I have been looking for the right trench coat for years now it’s in fashion ! I’m older so just go with what suits me but I stock up when my favourites are back in !
I looked 14:41 back into my old pics and I noticed everything is black. lol including the 14 year old pics lmfao. Even as a little guy I was wearing black. It’s awesome. 👏
Great breakdown. Felt it when you noted that what's being worn now is rarely personal style but a reflection of a current trend. ❤
I'm only 4 minutes in and I am HOOKED, not only is it a great topic but wow, good video producing too cause this is amazingly done
Ahh, it is so wonderful not being on social media. I havent engaged with a trend since those sheer button up shirts were trendy like 10 or more years ago. I still have mine 🙂 its such a cute summer shirt!
13:31 I am not, in fact, willing to hand wash any piece of clothing, no matter how high quality it is 😅
Me neither. I use the wool setting on the washing machine.
15:37 I get that, but how do you keep the same clothing piece for a long time when you're struggling with your weight and body shape changing for years? And how do you adapt your new body shape to how it should be embraced by clothing because your bone structure might not change, but-at least for me-weight is gained in different parts of the body EVERY TIME. sometimes i have more thighs, sometimes i have less thighs and more arms. How can I even have a constant style that speaks to my taste when not even my body keeps constantly in the same way?
Hi hi! Great points! I have gone through some big closet clean outs due to weight fluctuation before, so I get you. Did you find there were any clothes that you repurchased? For example, a style of Levis you love but just need a different size for? If you feel overwhelmed by dressing for your body then I would suggest shifting your focus towards the "soul" of your style, what subcultures or special interests do you have that you can express in your clothing no matter your body shape? Hope that helps and good luck on your fashion journey!
About the “low quality clothing”. Let’s be very honest here. Pieces that you hand wash, dry clean, air dry carefully maintain are going to last longer than ones you simply throw into the wash - cheap or expensive. Your shirt from Zara wouldn’t have fallen apart if you’d hand washed it. I’m sick of people acting like it’s the quality of the garment, not the care they give said garment that determines its longevity. Treat your cheap clothing like it’s expensive and it will last decades. I’ve owned very expensive clothing and most of it will not hold up to rough treatment any better than cheap clothing. And guess what - cashmere with spaghetti stains are just as ruined just as polyester - it’s just a more expensive stain on one.
My advice? Buy what allows you to both enjoy your wardrobe and pump as much cash as possible into a 401k. Clothing is not an “investment”.
My best choice in life was to be minimalism.
I have 2 pair of good jeans which fit me marvelous, 2 long skirts, 5 party dresses, and few blouses to work and street tshirts.
3 good winter coats.
3 sneakers, 2 gym shoes, 2 high heels. 5 purses
If I buy something, I'll donate something.
I'm Introvert Core: I dress to be invisible.
Dressing for yourself instead of trends also encourages people to learn how to care for their clothes better. If I don't really care about my clothes and I just wear them to fit in, I'm not gonna care as much about them as if I have them simply because I enjoy them. I learned to mend my clothes simply because I love the items I already have and I don't wanna get rid of them over a few tiny holes. Plus the mended and DIY parts on my clothes makes them feel more personal
Really glad i found this video!
This particular thing is what has been keeping me and mom beefing since i was somewhere 13 until now (22)
My own personal style will be always black/white clothing, and simple pants/jeans, that doesn't show much of a color basically everything that looks casual and wearable in almost everyday of my life. Im not the type of person that has many events to go to, so wearing a formal looking clothes was never my "go to" choice.
And unfortunately this bothers my mom a lot, she would say something like:
- you're a girl, dress more feminine
- you're wearing the same clothes almost everyday, everyone will think that you're poor
Back then i would just did what she said so she could stop yapping. Tried to buy some feminine clothing (that my mom told me to) and guess what, i only wear it for about a month before i finally getting tired of seeing myself in that clothing, it wasn't my style at all and i hate looking at myself wearing it (this also made my mom complains: "i already buy it for you and you're not gonna wear it?")
She still complains until now (but not as frequent as she used to) but i learn to just brush it off, since i know my outfits are still in good conditions and buying more clothes so that you will not "look poor" will eventually make you poor instead :D
Blocking every trace i see of an "influencer" or famous person on my only social media has helped me SO MUCH. I keep meme pages and some book stuff, and that's it. The itch to buy, buy, buy has gone. The "need" to change myself, gone too. I did this when i was sure i wanted to get lip fillers 5 years ago. Surprise surprise i dont want it anymore. Influencers and celebrities are poison for the brain.
It's funny how often ,,dress for your body type" just means ,,show off your body if you're slim-thick/slim and cover it with baggy clothes if you're not"
Not with the kibbe system
Disagree. Sometimes I see girls with the 'hottest summer body" , also super skinny wearing Tank tops but still it doesnt look good. Some people who are overweight wear big hoodies and baggy Jeans, Still doenst look good though. I mean sure everyone should be able to wear what they want but it should still be good looking
@@Nisan-v6hi didn't say that it's good advice? I said the exact opposite
No idea how you don’t have more followers. This was incredibly well made and researched. I’ve sent this to like three people!
Loved the video. Honestly, it's super inspiring. As someone who loves dressing up I found myself in a horrible pattern of buying clothes and not actually wearing them because I jumping around from one trend to another. I've been recently looking inward to change my wastful life style with getting rid of shit that no longer suits me and watching your video gave me some food for thought so thank you 😊❤
This is exactly what I needed😭 thank you so much. I've been wearing pretty basic clothes since I was 12 out of the overwhelming thought of where to go style wise. Should I adjust to trends, friends or follow what i liked? Your video put so much clarity for me on the matter
Love your take on this. I wanted to add an exception to the kibbe rule.. I think of the Olsen twins who are petite and have worn oversized coats for years, it’s not necessarily “flattering” but they look really chic in their oversized trenches and wool coats
8:51 never in my life have I expected my body shape to be called a banana 😂
it’s so funny to see these eras come and go so quick whereas I still have the same sense of style I’ve had since high school. girls wearing flare jeans or whatever will go “omg your outfit is sooooo y2k” and I giggle cause I remember getting made fun of like crazy for these same outfits years ago. idk pry my 6” rise bootcut jeans from my cold dead hands. hoping everyone here finds a personal style that makes them happy too!!
Besides vintage items, the oldest items in my wardrobe are 20 years old. They are teeshirts. Next in line is a 15 year old floral dress. Then a 14 year old coat. About half my war is from 2010. Most of my knickers are from before 2010. They are not the prettiest bug they still keep my bum warm.
All of those items are from fast fashion companies. Part of the problem is that people are sucked in and heavily influenced, unable to think for themselves. They cannot ask if they really need x item, they just buy it. The reduction in quality is another issue. Fast fashion used to be decent quality. The older fast fashion items in my wardrobe were not special or expensive, they were just from the stores people now love to hate (primark/Penneys, h&m, zara, supermarkets). Another issue is that people don't know how to look after their clothes, they would sooner bin something than fix it. I'm lucky that I don't follow any trend makers and I don't care about what is trendy. The sooner people start thinking about what they like and stop worrying about who watching them and what trends they should be following, the better.
I love classic clean lines, no patterns, minimalist style. Used to get made fun of for being "boring". Now I'm fashionable! 😂😂
My new approach is to save all my jeans/trousers and simply swap them to whatever is trendy. When skinny jeans are back in (well they're currently returning aren't they lol) I'll just dig those back out. Store my baggy trousers away for two years until they're back again. Happy to follow trends a little BUT I WILL NEVER WEAR PATTERNS
you need thousands of subscribers! this channel is a goldmine and your videos are amazing ❤ keep up the good work 😘
You're the best 🥰
Loved this video. Especially about buying items that fit your lifestyle and physique. My grandparents taught me the importance of getting my clothes tailored and that I’d feel better in clothes that fit me better. One thing about building your personal style is when you look for specific items the quality is poor or they’re selling it for outrageous prices on second hand websites due to thrifting becoming so popular. At this point I’m gonna start making my own clothes
I'm not a mob wife but I'm not disposing of my faux fur trimmings either ....
I don't think you can really appreciate the variety of "taste" until you get past your 20s. Certain things work for different people.