1. 1:26: insomnia 2. 2:04: bad posture 3. 3:20: different way of walking to abled people 4. 5:01: a connection with animals 5. 5:59: clumsiness 6. 6:51: trouble with directions 7. 7:20: rituals with no outcome 8. 8:04: intense empathy 9. 9:31: a large and unique vocabulary 10. 10:24 a lack of organization hope i helped!
1. A lot, but also sometimes hypersomnia. It's rare, though. 2. Yes. 3. I guess? My shoes always wear out in the same place, and my mom said I put too much weight on that part of my foot. I couldn't figure out how I could have been walking differently than other people, though. When I was in San Francisco in a group, a homeless guy singled me out for how I stood and walked and asked me why I was so high strung and nervous... I didn't even see how I was walking and standing as being different. 4.This is not me, though I did get a bird to calm down once by letting it bite me (it was very small, no risk of injury) I was in Australia at the time and super jet-lagged, and a man was talking to his baby and said "Look, there's a quiet Yank. You don't see many of those." 5. Sort of... I mean, with some things. I never tie my shoes right (they always come undone, or I have to double knot then they are hard to undo at the end of the day) which is why I prefer velcro. I also can't figure out ties for the life of me. That's not clumsiness per se, but it's related. I am actually quite adept at recovering from a stumble, mostly because I can break rather easily when I don't recover. 6. Yeah... This is a problem for me. I wiggle the fingers on my writing hand, though, because I have a clear dominant hand, and it's my right hand. I look at which hand is wiggling and that's how I know. 7. Yeah. I have some rituals, but they change over time. 8. I can be super empathetic, but I can also shut down pretty easily. 9. Yeah. Including words I'd never heard out loud, which was the source of embarrassment from time to time(i used genre in a speech in high school, repeatedly, and was told the actual pronunciation by a teacher after it was over). 10. Yes...
That moment when you’re undiagnosed but relate to every autism trait from her videos, so you talk to your parents and they tell you they actually think you’re autistic but never bothered to do anything about it even when you were having breakdowns in high school... I- 😐
Fucking same except my mom refuses to believe I could be autistic but I’m almost positive that I am. And my mom just tells me I’m not (Flashback to when I was a child and my mom had anger issues and used to scream at me saying “are you retarded”)
and adhd.. also it's her channel and if that's what makes her more comfortable to able to get her words out then she's fine to do that, I talk super fast cause the thought leaves my head too quickly so I can't remember the end of my sentence otherwise
Like literally, me and many other autistic people i know are actually hyper empathetic! There’s a difference between not spotting emotions in peoples body language, and not feeling empathy even after the emotions have been confirmed.
I think i'm on the spectrum and my personality is the type of an empath, i'm naturally extremely empathetic but it gets extremely overwhelming all the time
This video makes me feel so seen. I am *painfully* empathetic. I have a hard time just watching the news without getting really emotional. And I'm often afraid to talk about this trait of mine because I don't want to seem like I'm bragging or something. Our society idealizes the concept of empathy so much that if I say I have an excess of it neurotypicals will probably just think I'm showing off.
I have become physically ill from over identifying with the emotions of others. I didn’t know this was a trait. I just thought I was weird in one more way. Then it became a “fad” to claim to be an empath and I didn’t want to talk about how I am for the same reason you don’t. You aren’t alone.
It's funny, before the election I got too depressed by whatever news I heard (I avoided looking at it on my own). But after it, I felt nothing when I heard the news, because the chaos around the election burned it all out.
A little gecko drowned in my family’s pool a couple days ago, and I am still sad about it and cry about him 😢. I relate so much with the empathetic symptom.
I honestly love her presentation style, not just in an infantalising "wow she's so cute and childish" way. Like her clear voice and fast pace keeps my interest well and she divideds up the points really well using tone.
Insomnia✔ Bad posture✔ Bad walk✔ Major connection with animals✔ Very very clumsy✔ Trouble with direction✔ Rituals✔ Intense compassion/ empathy✔ Large-ish vocabulary✔ HUGE lack oforganisation✔ Well... I got diagnosed with autism earlier this year, it was a huge fight to get a diagnosis (13 years of fighting, I got diagnosed when I was 15) I found your channel through the dodo and have really enjoyed your videos. As a 16 year old with autism, i struggle daily with my mental health and some of my autistic traits. I tend to hyper-focus on a lot of things which causes my anxiety to go haywire, which causes horrid panic attacks. Personally because of my mental state most of my autistic traits make life very difficult because they trigger issues with my mental health. Now I'm not going to share my life story as you don't need to hear that. But I just wanted to say you are very inspirational🖤
@@courtneydolphinhall6507 i was pulled out of school because of severe bullying and i wasnt getting any help with anything before my diagnosis even tho the school agreed that they knew I was autistic (british school funding is shit😑) but i started collage 2 years ago and even without a diagnosis my tutors did so much to help. I will always be thankful for them and the fact that everyone at collage is more mature and not assholes 👏🏻
@@aaymathebest4705 autism isnt curable but it doesnt need a cure you just need to support her and seek a professional diagnoses if you want help for her. As annoying as my autism can be at times I would never give it up, you just need to support your daughter.
3 months ago I found a small beetle on my student apartment, they was dizzy so I gived them whater and organic food. That day spended a lot of time searching what tipe os beetle they was (rosemary beetle). I found that it was posible that they only lived 2 weeks more bc they only lived one year, they was an adult and it was mating season. The next day I buyed a rosemary and "buil a hause" for they (eaven knowing that eventually they'll die). I talked to them, singged to them, protcted them from the cool... 4 days later they died, it was so sad. I was scared of they all the time, but I loved they so much and I miss they. I miss you litle beetle
Oh, I saved a bumblebee in the early spring, als the weather get's freaking cold with snow. For two days I fed him with honey and made hin a house too in my plant... It gets warmer then and I opend the window and he flew away.... Still hoping he has survived...
I walk like I’m drunk all of the time and I trip over my feet all of the time. One reason I love animals so much is because I can understand their communication style. A cat will hiss, growl or scratch, I wish humans did the same instead of subtext and passive aggressive.
My five year old child is more empathatic than my whole family combined. I'm an empath. But my child's ALWAYS looking out for me. When I am upset they come to m and hug me. When I am hurt they comfort me and if they realize they cannot help on their own they go and find help. They were diagnosed with Autism at the age of three. Also we BOTH relate to all of these. I have never been diagnosed but I do relate a lot. I understand most things but others I am still learning. Hense why I am here binge watching your videos aftyer just finding you. Lol.
I've been looking for work for over ten years now and have never been employed once 😢 it's given me low self esteem and so much doubt. I am blind too and from the global south.
Yes, same! I had an interview with an animal shelter that I was dying to work at, and I could tell from the sweet girl's reaction to me that I was being awkward, even though I've wracked my brain to try and figure out what I did or said that put her off so much. I was very sad when she emailed me and said they weren't interested. :( It sucks.
I recently got diagnosed with adhd and a lot of my friends also have it and I’ve noticed I don’t really act like any of them.I check off so many boxes that are signs of autism and I’m going to talk to my therapist about it and I’m currently learning more about it. Btw I’m 14 and these are the things I check off ig: I walk on my toes, I always have never new why and its just very uncomfortable not doing and I walk fast I have really bad insomnia and can go days without any sleep until I finally crash because I’m thinking of things I like or just sensory around me I’m a huge animal person I care more for my pets than people sometime I easily get overwhelmed if to many things are happening at once and will lash out if it’s bad I’m ridiculously clumsy and get injured easily I don’t memorize things by what they are but what they look like. Especially numbers I’m really emotional and if someone tells me something upsetting I’ll either freeze up having an inner panic on what I should say or I’ll start crying I speak with a lot of weird words that probably don’t exist and I’ll use super wrong words which people think are odd I’m ridiculously unorganized nothings in the correct place ever. I can’t touch specific things or smell them. Wet dishes are one of the things and metal on metal is a nightmare. I could keep going but then this would be a whole novel
Even I have sh*tty awareness of not only my surroundings, but also where the fu*k am I going. Someone's gotta escort me to a destination I wanted to go; I'm still working on it, though...
Kendell Warner it gets better with age we have difficulty with special awareness. The best way to navigate somewhere is google maps. Dancing is wonderful for creating the connections in the brain and the body where our limbs are in space and improving motor coordination
"Difficulty sleeping or insomnia" As I sit here at 1 am listing to this while messing with photoshop. Actually, I don't have much issue sleeping. I just don't like to go to sleep.
Yup, it’s a stim. I used to self soothe by taking a strand and just rubbing or softly pulling it so I could feel it with my fingertips. My 3rd grade class picture is a hoot because of it…hair literally standing up all over my head and no one was nice enough to tell me😂
I found out a year ago next month that I'm autistic....at 51 and have all 10 of these. I've been asked, several times: "Why do you talk like that?" "Just use simpler words, you don't sound smarter using big ones," etc. Every time, I would be like "Huh?" this is how I talk. Then, if you go quiet, they ask "what's wrong." Difficulty with directions has been life long. If I go right going in/getting there, my brain tells me to go right going out/leaving as well. I have to consciously remind myself, it's the opposite of how I went in that I need to go back out. Thank you for what you do, for making these video's. If this information wasn't available, I might not have ever recognized myself. It was a relief to find out I'm not "weird," after all. I'm me and there's nothing "wrong" with that. :)
omg the empathy thing, I cried once when I was buying a small christmas tree because I saw one that barely had leaves and stuff and I thought that if I didn't buy it no one would
The thing I can relate the most to is the intense/extreme empathy/compassion! Sometimes I find it really hard to walk where there's ants on the ground because the thought of accidentally stepping on some of them makes me so sad, while the others seem to be okay with it
I am starting to think i am the phycopath of the autism community ;-; because i love killing bugs (NOT THE AMINALS THO) and uhh- THINKING about hurting people... Yeah i need mental help.
I'm constantly questioning myself too, but I have no idea how to go about diagnosis. Like do you just go to a doctor/counsellor and ask them if you seem likely to have autism based on tests and stuff?
I know it's not related to the video subject, but I really love the way you dress and the video aesthetic. It really fits your personality and makes you stand out in a very beautiful and charming way. By the way, the video was really relatable, the only thing I couldn't relate was being clumsy, I am the total opposite of clumsy, which makes me think that it is a characteristic that shows more on female than on male in the autistic spectrum, since the women I've met in the spectrum, i.e my mom and sister and girls I've met in the autistic community, show very noticeable dyspraxia.
Thank you so, so much! Finding an aesthetic that fits has always been something I spend so much time thinking and worrying over, so this actually means the world! (Bizarre the things we focus on).
39 yo female Aspie I was so clumsy when younger my motor coordination felt like it only caught up with my peers when I turned 18. Occasionally doing some tasks today if there is a way to do them upside down or back to front I’ll find it
Same as in the fact that both me and my girlfriend have Asperger syndrome. I have trouble sleeping but my girlfriend doesn't unless she is anxious or experiencing sensory overload.
I think that's so sweet you guys stay up late together that's so romantic you make sure you always protect your family 1-day man if you don't have one already you have an angel and you guys can stay up late together watching the beautiful child sleep I long for something like that in the future everything in life is unplan it always happens for a reason I really hope I can grow up one day fall in love share my dreams and Hope's I never take my children for granted become a grandparent 1 day sorry for saying weird things it's just that I know you two have a wonderful future ahead of you 🌞🐿️ just please treasure everything you are given I wish the best for you two it's the little moments that matter
We’re working on teaching our autistic daughter how to clean and organize. She understands things better when we talk about the objects “home.” Each type/group of items has a home. The location of the home depends on frequency and reason of usage as well as the connection level of the object. Her stuff animals are broken into groups; small friends that can go to school (in a bag by her backpack and coat so they are ready to go), big “pillow” ones are lining the space between her mattress and the wall to prevent clumsy issues, medium sized that she plays with frequently are lined on her bedroom shelves grouped by type (dolls, dragons, unicorns, animal book characters, ect), all old or mostly not used are put into the bean bag chair cover and used as a pillow pit in her reading area. I hope that this helps or gives ideas.
Me remembering that I would refuse to accept teacher’s negative marks on my English homework and essays because I knew I was right about my execution, but it wasn’t what the teacher expected or wanted. I didn’t spend my time reading and spelling above my age and continuing to improve vocabulary in school to be told I was wrong!
The clumsy thing is weird for me: i tend to bump into things a lot but I'm also a competitive athlete (martial arts), which requires a lot of spacial awareness and fast reflexes (I'm undiagnosed at the beginning of therapy)
I have a big problem figuring out where I am in relation to everything. I can recognize an intersection and it takes me a while to figure out where I am. I remember once driving home at night and I made a wrong turn and realized I couldn't recognize anything. Tried to use my gps but she was using North East south and west and like... idk that so I just started sobbing and called my parents and my boyfriend to come help me
Well, that all feels relatable, especially since I'm watching this at five in the morning, lol. It really isn't funny, though, and I seriously hate staying up all night yet I keep on doing it. I feel like without a consistent sleep schedule I can't have consistent routines and without consistent routines I can't actually make myself do stuff because I'm so unorganized and it all becomes so overwhelming then. I also walk horribly, and really most stuff in the video, which I guess is kind of expected considering that I do have autism. I really don't have a problem with telling which side is right or left anymore, though. Somehow I were able to just internalize it. I still do have problem remembering stuff that includes directions, though, for some reason.
Great video! Executive dysfunction is probably my most biggest everyday struggle as an autistic person. My therapist helped me realize that because I grew up undiagnosed and my parents always got upset with me for struggling with chores (being called lazy, the 'queen of excuses' even though they were actual reasons) , I never truly learned how to function and do things within my own framework. It's a big reason why my transition into adulthood blew up in my face, and at 25 I'm still struggling with how to do a lot of things. I'm starting to do better though! I set (multiple) alarms for everything I want/need to do - literally everything, including getting out of bed, eating lunch, etc. It's helped me start to be more organized! I'm also one of the lucky 20-25% of autistic people that sleeps well apparently! I do struggle with making myself get ready and into bed and weird night time anxiety that stops me from going to bed, but thankfully I'm really good with falling and staying asleep. Also I have not been able to have my own pet for a few years now and can't get one for potentially another year and a half as well. It's incredibly painful to not have a pet. I feel so lonely without one, despite being married and living with two other people as well.
I haven’t been diagnosed but I am looking into the process. I relate to a lot of these more ‘unusual’ traits. The empath one really hits home for me. I cry very easily and feel very intensely, and I often ‘carry around’ other people’s feelings with me. When I was at school (I am 26 in a few days), the concept of Getting In Trouble or Being Told Off were terrifying to me, and to some extent still are. If someone was being told off and looked upset about it, I could generally handle it better than if people were being told off and not having a visible reaction. In those cases, I would start feeling what I thought they should be feeling, and I would feel very guilty and stressed. I have always struggled with conflict and I often give up my desires to ‘keep the peace’. Compliance and being quiet means people don’t shout at me (sudden loud noises make my tummy twist around). I also relied a lot on my twin sister in social matters, which I think has helped me mask for so long. I could copy from her and I ended up just being friends with her friends. My parents noticed that about me. I struggle to give and receive directions (I still forget my left and right and have to be reminded of which tap is hot and which is cold), but I find orienteering myself around landmarks helps me more than directions. Ever since my middle sister, who works with autistic children, pointed out a lot of parallels between me and her charges, a lot of questions about myself have an answer. I preemptively apologise all the time. I have lost count of the number of times I’ve said to myself ‘why am I like this? Why am I so useless? How can I be so clever and so stupid at the same time?’ I’ve been in several toxic abusive relationships, missing the signs until it is too late. I have been assaulted for the same reason. I really hope I can get my appointment soon and get referred for an assessment, so I can get support to be my best self. Sorry for all the unloading, but this video really spoke to my fast-talking, odd-walking, clumsy and very sensitive self.
OMG. As i kid (6-10 isch) i started randomly walk on the insides of feet. Had to go to treapist to fix it. I also walk extremly slow, and hate it when people behind me for some reson...
Thank you so much! I’ve always walked on my toes and still do. I always felt like there’s something wrong with the way my brain works but just couldn’t pinpoint it...since two years I’ve been wondering if I have autism, and a lot of the symptoms resonate...I always put myself into an avatar or imagine someone else in my place in order to get my tasks done. I love play acting and dressing up. I also have limited friends and like being in my own world. I’m still not sure if I do have this condition but I feel comforted by videos like these 😇 I’m glad you brought up the empathy and compassion cos I assumed that’s not a trait and was confused how I could have that and also find things overwhelming and hard to process!
I love how fast you talk! I usually speed videos up because most people talk WAYYYY too slow and it’s genuinely agonizing. I’ve had more people than I can even count tell me to slow down when I speak because they can’t even tell what I’m saying. When I get really excited, sometimes I talk so quickly that I get out of breath, like to a point where I can’t talk anymore because I have to stop and catch my breath
Im 27, I literally discovered a month ago that it’s easier to walk if you roll your hips a little Groundbreaking (/s) I’ve been trying to walk like a stiff stick for so long and it hurts every time
I figured this out at quite a young age. My friend pointed it out once. She said she was jealous because u have such a nice, feminine walking style. Really I just struggled to walk properly as a kid until I learned that if I put more movement into my hips it makes it easier
The insomnia is real! Also, I have a strange bout of spacial awareness at work where like most of the time I know what's going on around me, but I'll still trip over/run into a table at work that I know exists but its almost like my brain shut off regarding it. I'll still drop things and run into things, but I'm aware of when my coworkers are around me and we walk around one another very fluidly. Its strange.
I’ve recently been diagnosed with Autism, at 30. (My children were first diagnosed.) I remember once when I was a kid watching 101 Dalmatians, I couldn’t watch the movie without crying my eyes out and feeling a huge sigh of relief when they were all safe from Cruella at the end. Cleaning and organising are a huge part of my life. If I don’t have a clean house, I can’t function. I struggle with even starting the day.
I'm actually super organized in the places of my life that I love, but very disorganized in the areas that I don't particularly care for. For example, i LOVE to cook, so my kitchen is organized to my content. I HATE folding laundry, so my baskets are always full of clothes😆. I do, however, have rituals for both. When I fold t-shirts, i have to fold them into triangles because I love the number 3. That number is also integrated into most other aspects of my life.
I also have to add that I love your hand and arm gesticulations! I do this too, and sometimes if I'm chatting with a friend who also tends to flail her arms a bit when talking, we can get entangled and end up inadvertently hitting each other in the arms! lol
About being organized... The girls that are super organized are also disorganized but put in and apply a lot of strategies to lessen the burden of disorganization
OMG! So very much all me. What a fun video that is so completely right on the spot. I followed a kid home from kindergarten and when I left his house to go home I realized I didn't know the way so I sat down and thought about it and figured out how to retrace my steps in reverse to get back to the part of our neighborhood that I knew. I made a few wrong turns but I immediately didn't recognize the houses I was passing so I went back to the intersection and continued to the next one until something looked like I had seen it before. Ever since that incident, I have always claimed to have an excellent sense of direction and never got lost. This was 58 years ago and I still have to think very carefully before I know which is right or left. My left eye is dominant, so even though I'm right-handed, I always want to lead off toward the left and tend to think of that as my "right." At least that's the way I have rationalized it.
I am someone who suspects they have Autism but hasn't been diagnosed. Doing my own research and watching videos such as this one, I realise more and more that I am more than likely autistic, I relate to pretty much all of these traits and so much more to do with being autistic. I finally feel like there are people out there who I can relate to, that I am not alone or weird, I'm just me
Dang it. I've spent most of my life with a diagnosis of bipolar 1. I've always felt that wasn't the whole story. But I started from Footless Jo's video about Sia's film 'Music', then went to Paige Layle's video. Finally came to here. Why do I feel like I relate to yous so much? Maybe these diagnoses are more involved and complex then just the one thing.
The speech thinn😢g is called cluttering and it’s extremely common in people with ADHD & Asperger’s. It can come across as hypomanic like in bipolar l, however the difference is it is the persons baseline. People with bipolar should have periods of being normal”
I have been accused of having too high of a regard for life by family members. I became a problem eater at the age of 3 when it was explained to me where “meat” came from. The thought of killing and eating another sentient being is revolting to me. I was teaching at a community college and was noted for rescuing worms from the walk way on my way into the building after a rain storm. My having Aspergers might make me seem a bit nutty to some but I prefer to think that I am only benignly so. I enjoyed your video!
This was quite informative! I meet the criteria of sleep issues (I think I have a longer-than-typical circadian rhythm), intense empathy (get very upset if someone is upset because of something I've done), difficulty organizing things (and only a passing awareness of time, without various ways to keep me aware of it), a subset of clumsiness (more than half the time when I try to throw something out of my bedroom door, it ends up behind the door instead, even though the doorway is so much bigger -- similarly when I toss something from the toilet to the trash can), a certain amount of ritual, and a small amount of issues with directions (most notably: although I don't have trouble telling left from right, if I'm giving directions I will *say* the wrong one but *point* the correct way, so I say to watch my hands, not my words). Also, this video amused me because I'm so used to speeding up TH-cam videos to at least 1.5x and it's rare that I find someone who speaks fast enough to make 1.5x too difficult for me to follow ^_^ I had to watch on 1.25x instead.
Wow, I relate 100% to EVERYTHING you just said. The direction thing really gets me, I have to take photos to know where I am going, and sometimes I can't even follow maps. Literally, I thought me being bad at direction was just me being dumb. Every time I watch your videos, I feel more understood. Thank you, for being an advocate for girls on the spectrum, and for making us feel less alone in the world. You are AMAZING. I also have Dyspraxia and just have no spacial awareness what so ever, walk into everything and everyone. A door could be wide open, and my dyspraxic ass would walk directly into the door frame and knock myself out.
Sense of justice!! YES!!!! I'm 1000% obsessed with things being fair, and always have been, and to be honest it's gotten me in quite a bit of trouble over the years... I also started speaking at 9 months, and was having pretty coherent conversations by one year (there's video proof--having encountered more kids now, I can fairly say that seeing a toddler having a meltdown because they're afraid of "brain cancer and pyroclastic flows" (thanks, geologist dad!) is pretty dang unnerving. To this day I still get comments about my vocab and I got into so much trouble at school because I argued with teachers about stupid things like the accuracy of "connexion" vs" connection" and other similar things. Funnily enough, I've personally never had issues with sleeping, in terms of getting to sleep (possibly linked to depression, womp womp) but I do know that I just didn't LIKE sleeping as a kid, despite really needing SOOO much more to function properly (and I still do compared to most 26 year olds). I've always had very, very vivid dreams, and I still remember some from when I was as young as three... however, I vividly recally that I used to sleep better if I had books piled on my bed (weighted!), and as an adult I now have like two weighted blanket piled on top of each other to sleep hahaha XD I'm also pigeon-toed and knock-kneed, so my shoes look totally bizarre when worn down... RIP my spine....
Thank you SO much for sharing this Chloe!! I related to almost all of these and thought it was just me. Especially the intense empathy, like people don't talk about that! It is so painful to go through
When I was younger I was absolutely and completely obsessed with imagine games where I WASN’T HUMAN. I could be a dog, or a fairy, or a dragon or a robot because it meant I could act ‘odd’ and it wouldn’t seem out of the ordinary cause I wasn’t acting as a human I was pretending to be a creature
I relate to all of these and I'm actually diagnosed with autism, but my grandparents and even my therapist always tell me that it isn't true and that I just have to be normal...
I understand the walking!!!!!!! I’ve always been told that I walk and run weird and I say as a joke (everyone knows I’m joking) “that’s ableist I have a disability “ but now it is actually because of my disability!
I’m autistic and I can relate to so many of these traits like animal connections and bad posture I’ve been obsessed with animals since a baby and the bad posture I’ve had to try to keep my back straight
I am an organized disorganized autistic. I can organize things really well but everything has to have a very specific place and that place cannot change or move. If things aren't organized I forget that certain items exist and everything is cluttered. It's sort of an oxymoron
It is all really interesting about various Autistic Traits:). I do not have Autism, but I have a few things in common on that list. I have tight heel cords and even with my current arthritis, without shoes I tend to sometimes walk on the balls of my feet, I too LOVE animals, I really admire your compassion for animals, I like empathic caring people, and despite my Learning Disabilities, I have high verbal skills:)! Also, I need to be more organized. However, I dated in High School at 17 years of age a young man in my L.D. Class who had high functioning Autism and I would help him with directions when we went out on dates. He is highly intelligent too. Unfortunately, he was not as empathic as you are Chole and he has a lot of anger, so our relationship did not last. However, I ran into this person a few years ago and I am happy for him that now as an Adult he is living his life long dream to work as a Psychologist. We are all different that includes people with or without disabilities and the inclinations of our Souls can be different. Chole, you are a sweet, kind, caring person and I am very privileged to be a Subscriber to your Channel:)!!! Keep educating others and always be a compassionate person:)!!
Yes! My daughter is so disorganised! She's year 8 and I still pack her school bag for her so I know she has everything. And her room, well that is never clean unless I go in there. I've also been saying for years that she's an Empath.
OMG so relatable!!! recently self diagnosed and seeking a professional evaluation! 1...YES!!! Never slept much! 2 and 3... YES!!! My walking is so weird at times and ruin my shoes too. 4... YES YES YES!!! Animals have been my only friends most of my life! My dog and cat are cuddling me rn lol. I have rescued a lot of animals. 5... YES! I have a dent in my forehead from walking into a corner! 6... Yes. hard to admit it but I still do the hand thing at 34 to figure out right and left. 7... Yes! My weird rituals drives my husband crazy sometimes! 8... YAAAS!!! so much empathy!!! This is why I believe I couldn’t figure out what was “wrong” with me for so long! I kept looking at psychological issues like bipolar, depression, adhd, etc but they didn’t seem to fit very well... I’ve done the same thing as the stuffed deer story with many inanimate objects. 9... Yes!! I make most people feel dumb with my words. Oops... 10... Yes!!! Im messy and very little organization but trying to work on it 🤞 Thank you for this video it’s wonderful!!! I hope more people learn that ASD’s aren’t always what people have stereotyped them with!
I walked on my toes FOR YEARS and occasionally I catch myself doing it every now and then. I’m also an insomniac. I relate to all of these things!! I knew the walking thing was connected to autism but I didn’t know about the other things. I love you and your channel so so much. I have autism as well and this just helps me not feel alone!
The thing about the rituals that dont seem to have a purpose. My daughter who is non verbal does that and I never thought it was connected to her autism. She sorts her food and I cannot tell what her criteria is, what makes one peice different from the other. This video is awesome. Thank you
I totally have the weird posture and gait thing! Been able to improve it but it's still there (I'm particularly better at walking but I still run really weird, to the point where I'm embarrassed to run in public). I had no idea I walked weird until it was brought to my attention when I was 12. My mom told me she had thought there was something wrong with my spine and that's why I looked so weird, but nope, just had a weird posture and gait! To me the way I was walking before was a lot more relaxed, I basically did the bare minimum to keep my body balanced upright, so I had to learn to use more muscles to mostly straighten my back but also to a lesser extent to control how I moved my legs and hips
Oh wow!!!!! I TOTALLY relate to this on SO MANY levels. It's so good to know I'm not alone. I got diagnosed with Aspergers when I was a preschooler and I always had so much shame for being an aspie growing up because of the stereotypes. I never felt like I fit into the guideline. I am extremely empathetic and extroverted and I totally relate to so many of these. I struggle so much with a sense of direction and disorganisation and clumsiness. It's so refreshing to me. Thank you!
I was always told by my friends that I have a "gangsta" walk. Sometimes I also get confused by how I'm supposed to swing my arms when I walk or feel like I walk very stiff.
I'm also 21 years old and I struggle with right and left so much! I started using a new strategy with my mom in which I use "3 hours" for right and "9 hours" for left, since that's the numbers positions in the clock, and that's much easier for me!
I just started watching your videos about autistic traits and see that I fall under a lot of them. The walking one especially interested me because people often point out how I walk from the outer sides of my feet and roll them in towards center. It makes everyone thing my feet are wrong or broken or that I'm hurt but it's how I've walked my whole life. My dad also used to call me tiptoes because I would walk on my toes everywhere and still do... and I'm 18...
The walking thing is a huge 'aha' for me because I legit walk like a 'duck', so I've been told, by my ex friend and other friends have also mentioned that I have. I was diagnosed as autistic or rather re diagnosed last year as I was diagnosed at 7 but for some reason doctors kept changing their minds for some reason. Also the clumsy thing; I am the lord of clumsy. In middle school I tripped over my foot on the stairway. I'm so clumsy it's insane. Never new it was correlated with my autism before now. Also with the directions too yeah. Cannot tell my lefts or rights together or just directions period. Just all of this. Very relatable.
Aaaaaaand I’ll just cry because I get into so much trouble for a messy room. I’ve had to move back in with my parents and it’s led to endless lectures and me ‘sulking’ in my room for days in a sobbing mess. Nothing helps and I hate it but no matter how much I try it never gets better. And at 46 it fucking sucks to be yelled at and lectured for hours on a monthly basis. I’ll just go cry in a corner now.
I didn’t learn my left and right until I was about 8 or 9 when I started learning piano. And even now sometimes I have to put my hands in front of me as if I’m playing piano just to figure out which one’s which
I am not diagnosed, but I have always felt as if I was on the spectrum. After a bad experience with a doctor I’ve been afraid to get diagnosed. Anyways, it’s 6:26 in the morning, haven’t slept and in frustrated tears turned to TH-cam. Lo and behold, here is your video and what is #1 on your list... hahaha I think it’s about time to try and get over my fear and see if I can diagnosed. I don’t feel so alone anymore, thank you
I walk oddly, I swivel my hips and have been told that I walk like I’m heavily pregnant, but my odd walking style might be linked to a skeletal issue I was born with; my hips aren’t even. I do love animals and wanted to volunteer at the animal shelter but my mom said no as she was afraid that I would try to adopt all the animals there. I do struggle with comforting people sometimes but if you upset someone that I care about, even people that I only know on the Internet and I will go to war or ask the person that you upset if they want me to make your life a living hellscape; to the best of my limited (nonexistent)abilities.
oh my gosh, at school when I walk to class with my friends I always have to stop because they walk so slow. I just want to get out of the hallways while they're just chatting and strolling along
I used to have trouble sleeping because my head is chaotic until I started focusing on coming up with a story when trying to fall asleep. For me it's not just issue with trouble walking, it's just all movements. Hands why I have always something bruised XD for the organise bit, I'm good at sorting like on color, but when I need to plan stuff... Big fail lol
Thanks for talking about #8 (being overly empathetic). Not a lot of people talk about that one, and personally, that's always been a super huge one for me. Not many people know that that can be a symptom.
I am in the middle of the autistic spectrum and this was soooo relatable i love animals i have 6 chihuahuas but put me in a room full of toddlers i will go into a mental breakdown as i hate children .. i also walk very fast and on my tiptoes and i dont know my left and right and i have been diagnosed with spacial awarness and sleep deprivation (because of a lack of melotonen) i also have a lot of other disabilities such as ADHD, autism , anxiety, depression, sleep deprivation,dyslexia, discalculian, spacial awarness
I often times find myself pacing around all night to where I might not even sleep until the next night. I just run my brain through my designs for my inventions and how I will use/deploy them and how important it is that I do it.
1. 1:26: insomnia
2. 2:04: bad posture
3. 3:20: different way of walking to abled people
4. 5:01: a connection with animals
5. 5:59: clumsiness
6. 6:51: trouble with directions
7. 7:20: rituals with no outcome
8. 8:04: intense empathy
9. 9:31: a large and unique vocabulary
10. 10:24 a lack of organization
hope i helped!
1 4 5 6 7 10 i relate to these so much-
Thank you so much Im planning on writing a paper to get diagnosed with and this helped a bunch ♥️
@@bunny_does hahah it's no problem
1. A lot, but also sometimes hypersomnia. It's rare, though.
2. Yes.
3. I guess? My shoes always wear out in the same place, and my mom said I put too much weight on that part of my foot. I couldn't figure out how I could have been walking differently than other people, though. When I was in San Francisco in a group, a homeless guy singled me out for how I stood and walked and asked me why I was so high strung and nervous... I didn't even see how I was walking and standing as being different.
4.This is not me, though I did get a bird to calm down once by letting it bite me (it was very small, no risk of injury) I was in Australia at the time and super jet-lagged, and a man was talking to his baby and said "Look, there's a quiet Yank. You don't see many of those."
5. Sort of... I mean, with some things. I never tie my shoes right (they always come undone, or I have to double knot then they are hard to undo at the end of the day) which is why I prefer velcro. I also can't figure out ties for the life of me. That's not clumsiness per se, but it's related. I am actually quite adept at recovering from a stumble, mostly because I can break rather easily when I don't recover.
6. Yeah... This is a problem for me. I wiggle the fingers on my writing hand, though, because I have a clear dominant hand, and it's my right hand. I look at which hand is wiggling and that's how I know.
7. Yeah. I have some rituals, but they change over time.
8. I can be super empathetic, but I can also shut down pretty easily.
9. Yeah. Including words I'd never heard out loud, which was the source of embarrassment from time to time(i used genre in a speech in high school, repeatedly, and was told the actual pronunciation by a teacher after it was over).
10. Yes...
Literally all of them
That moment when you’re undiagnosed but relate to every autism trait from her videos, so you talk to your parents and they tell you they actually think you’re autistic but never bothered to do anything about it even when you were having breakdowns in high school... I- 😐
You can’t blame them a lot of Middle Aged people don’t know a lot about mental health
♡❤️
Fucking same except my mom refuses to believe I could be autistic but I’m almost positive that I am. And my mom just tells me I’m not
(Flashback to when I was a child and my mom had anger issues and used to scream at me saying “are you retarded”)
@@haylee7951 Same... the "are you retarded?" thing... I got that so often. Not diagnosed but 98% certain I am autistic.
This exact thing happened to me! My mom said she decided to raise me "Normal" ... I am looking into a diagnosis at age 24... With you!
All of you telling her to not talk so fast clearly don't realise that fast speech is an aspergers trait.. Don't be so rude
and adhd.. also it's her channel and if that's what makes her more comfortable to able to get her words out then she's fine to do that, I talk super fast cause the thought leaves my head too quickly so I can't remember the end of my sentence otherwise
I have both autism and ADHD and it’s actually very nice in my case
I love her talking speed! I wish everyone could match it, but I do have adhd soooo
And I literally don't get what their problem is with that, I LOVE how energetically she talks (she's like the opposite of Harry Styles lmao)
I just changed the playback speed. No problem.
I UNDERSTAND THE WALKING THING!!!! I will either walk on my tiptoes, or with my feet pointed outwards, and I walk VERY VERY FAST!
My cousin did that too
I also walk with my feet pointing outwards! Seriously idk how to stop doing that.
I have to keep saying “point in” - that was drilled by my mom. When I missed it, she would call me a duck. Now when I walk I can’t relax 😂
I walk very fast on the front of my feet and on my toes going up the stairs.
@@thesoupteacher4943 my grandma did that and I cant walk without her yelling in my head its very stressful
I know so many people who literally think autism is "an empathy disorder." Such an annoying misconception!
I feel like I had to learn it manually... like everything else that abled people take for granted
MAN I HATE THAT
Like literally, me and many other autistic people i know are actually hyper empathetic! There’s a difference between not spotting emotions in peoples body language, and not feeling empathy even after the emotions have been confirmed.
Amen!
I think i'm on the spectrum and my personality is the type of an empath, i'm naturally extremely empathetic but it gets extremely overwhelming all the time
46 years old and just got diagnosed.
35 and just got diagnosed. I used to describe my oddness as artistic...not autistic. At least now i have a reason.
@ Wall Stretcher JPSC: I was 57.
Nice. Congrats! I know for some people it can just be a relief having a name for what you already experience on the daily.
I'm 27 and my doc refused to diagnose cause "I'm too old".
@@societycrumbles your doc needs their license taken away
This video makes me feel so seen. I am *painfully* empathetic. I have a hard time just watching the news without getting really emotional.
And I'm often afraid to talk about this trait of mine because I don't want to seem like I'm bragging or something. Our society idealizes the concept of empathy so much that if I say I have an excess of it neurotypicals will probably just think I'm showing off.
I have become physically ill from over identifying with the emotions of others. I didn’t know this was a trait. I just thought I was weird in one more way. Then it became a “fad” to claim to be an empath and I didn’t want to talk about how I am for the same reason you don’t. You aren’t alone.
It's funny, before the election I got too depressed by whatever news I heard (I avoided looking at it on my own). But after it, I felt nothing when I heard the news, because the chaos around the election burned it all out.
It's funny because I have always felt like this. But I don't know, maybe that's just me and my trauma. 😢
A little gecko drowned in my family’s pool a couple days ago, and I am still sad about it and cry about him 😢. I relate so much with the empathetic symptom.
Princess Aspien excitedly yelling out facts in an empty room for 12 minutes straight is my spirit animal
I honestly love her presentation style, not just in an infantalising "wow she's so cute and childish" way. Like her clear voice and fast pace keeps my interest well and she divideds up the points really well using tone.
Yes-
Your sunshine is gorgeous.
Insomnia✔
Bad posture✔
Bad walk✔
Major connection with animals✔
Very very clumsy✔
Trouble with direction✔
Rituals✔
Intense compassion/ empathy✔
Large-ish vocabulary✔
HUGE lack oforganisation✔
Well...
I got diagnosed with autism earlier this year, it was a huge fight to get a diagnosis (13 years of fighting, I got diagnosed when I was 15) I found your channel through the dodo and have really enjoyed your videos. As a 16 year old with autism, i struggle daily with my mental health and some of my autistic traits. I tend to hyper-focus on a lot of things which causes my anxiety to go haywire, which causes horrid panic attacks.
Personally because of my mental state most of my autistic traits make life very difficult because they trigger issues with my mental health. Now I'm not going to share my life story as you don't need to hear that. But I just wanted to say you are very inspirational🖤
I agree with all that but i got diagnosed at 11 and its been a battle with school for me for 16 years to get me an EHCP
@@courtneydolphinhall6507 i was pulled out of school because of severe bullying and i wasnt getting any help with anything before my diagnosis even tho the school agreed that they knew I was autistic (british school funding is shit😑) but i started collage 2 years ago and even without a diagnosis my tutors did so much to help. I will always be thankful for them and the fact that everyone at collage is more mature and not assholes 👏🏻
i relate to everything on this list, im almost 17
Is it cureable,?please Im crying,my daughter doesn't sleep, just sleeps 3 hours in 4 hours in 28 hours...really worried please send me the mesage ...
@@aaymathebest4705 autism isnt curable but it doesnt need a cure you just need to support her and seek a professional diagnoses if you want help for her. As annoying as my autism can be at times I would never give it up, you just need to support your daughter.
3 months ago I found a small beetle on my student apartment, they was dizzy so I gived them whater and organic food. That day spended a lot of time searching what tipe os beetle they was (rosemary beetle). I found that it was posible that they only lived 2 weeks more bc they only lived one year, they was an adult and it was mating season. The next day I buyed a rosemary and "buil a hause" for they (eaven knowing that eventually they'll die). I talked to them, singged to them, protcted them from the cool... 4 days later they died, it was so sad. I was scared of they all the time, but I loved they so much and I miss they. I miss you litle beetle
Oh, I saved a bumblebee in the early spring, als the weather get's freaking cold with snow. For two days I fed him with honey and made hin a house too in my plant... It gets warmer then and I opend the window and he flew away.... Still hoping he has survived...
I walk like I’m drunk all of the time and I trip over my feet all of the time. One reason I love animals so much is because I can understand their communication style. A cat will hiss, growl or scratch, I wish humans did the same instead of subtext and passive aggressive.
Ah, felt that mate. Real shit here
Omg yes I’ve literally been thinking the exact same thing for a little while now:)
My five year old child is more empathatic than my whole family combined. I'm an empath. But my child's ALWAYS looking out for me. When I am upset they come to m and hug me. When I am hurt they comfort me and if they realize they cannot help on their own they go and find help. They were diagnosed with Autism at the age of three. Also we BOTH relate to all of these. I have never been diagnosed but I do relate a lot. I understand most things but others I am still learning. Hense why I am here binge watching your videos aftyer just finding you. Lol.
Does anyone else feel like they're too awkward and that's why no one wants to hire them. I'm struggling hard core
I've been looking for work for over ten years now and have never been employed once 😢 it's given me low self esteem and so much doubt. I am blind too and from the global south.
I’ve been called weird my entire life. People always diagnosed me for my weird behavior.
Yes somehow I always get hired but once I start working they start to see me as a weirdo then I either end up quitting or getting fired
Yes, same! I had an interview with an animal shelter that I was dying to work at, and I could tell from the sweet girl's reaction to me that I was being awkward, even though I've wracked my brain to try and figure out what I did or said that put her off so much. I was very sad when she emailed me and said they weren't interested. :( It sucks.
I recently got diagnosed with adhd and a lot of my friends also have it and I’ve noticed I don’t really act like any of them.I check off so many boxes that are signs of autism and I’m going to talk to my therapist about it and I’m currently learning more about it. Btw I’m 14 and these are the things I check off ig:
I walk on my toes, I always have never new why and its just very uncomfortable not doing and I walk fast
I have really bad insomnia and can go days without any sleep until I finally crash because I’m thinking of things I like or just sensory around me
I’m a huge animal person I care more for my pets than people sometime
I easily get overwhelmed if to many things are happening at once and will lash out if it’s bad
I’m ridiculously clumsy and get injured easily
I don’t memorize things by what they are but what they look like. Especially numbers
I’m really emotional and if someone tells me something upsetting I’ll either freeze up having an inner panic on what I should say or I’ll start crying
I speak with a lot of weird words that probably don’t exist and I’ll use super wrong words which people think are odd
I’m ridiculously unorganized nothings in the correct place ever.
I can’t touch specific things or smell them. Wet dishes are one of the things and metal on metal is a nightmare.
I could keep going but then this would be a whole novel
I have so much trouble with directions- the only direction I understand is one direction 😂
HAHA ME
Harry Styles says hello...
Chantilly Marie I love 1D!!
Even I have sh*tty awareness of not only my surroundings, but also where the fu*k am I going. Someone's gotta escort me to a destination I wanted to go; I'm still working on it, though...
Kendell Warner it gets better with age we have difficulty with special awareness. The best way to navigate somewhere is google maps. Dancing is wonderful for creating the connections in the brain and the body where our limbs are in space and improving motor coordination
i got lost with google maps telling me the directions of where to go sooo....
100% the same lol
If i have the map in front of me i’ll be fine thanks to videogames but worded directions fly right over my head
pff haha same, i had to look up the directions for a bus stop that was a few meters away and ended up walking the opposite way instead at first
Me too 😔
@@ch4lk250 omg I’ve literally had the same thing happen to me, cruel cruel world. 😂
"Difficulty sleeping or insomnia" As I sit here at 1 am listing to this while messing with photoshop.
Actually, I don't have much issue sleeping. I just don't like to go to sleep.
Not wanting to go to sleep counts as having trouble sleeping. It doesn't always have to be about falling asleep.
It’s 5:30am and I’m regretting it already😢
I have very soft hair, and one of my comforts is taking a strand and kind of petting it, y'know? It seriously calms me down and makes me feel safe.
i am the same
Yeah, same
Yup, it’s a stim. I used to self soothe by taking a strand and just rubbing or softly pulling it so I could feel it with my fingertips. My 3rd grade class picture is a hoot because of it…hair literally standing up all over my head and no one was nice enough to tell me😂
I found out a year ago next month that I'm autistic....at 51 and have all 10 of these. I've been asked, several times: "Why do you talk like that?" "Just use simpler words, you don't sound smarter using big ones," etc. Every time, I would be like "Huh?" this is how I talk. Then, if you go quiet, they ask "what's wrong." Difficulty with directions has been life long. If I go right going in/getting there, my brain tells me to go right going out/leaving as well. I have to consciously remind myself, it's the opposite of how I went in that I need to go back out. Thank you for what you do, for making these video's. If this information wasn't available, I might not have ever recognized myself. It was a relief to find out I'm not "weird," after all. I'm me and there's nothing "wrong" with that. :)
These are totally me too:
Insomnia, Animal Connection, Clumsiness, Intense compassion and empathy, Large and unique vocabulary, Lack of organization
omg the empathy thing, I cried once when I was buying a small christmas tree because I saw one that barely had leaves and stuff and I thought that if I didn't buy it no one would
The thing I can relate the most to is the intense/extreme empathy/compassion! Sometimes I find it really hard to walk where there's ants on the ground because the thought of accidentally stepping on some of them makes me so sad, while the others seem to be okay with it
I am starting to think i am the phycopath of the autism community ;-; because i love killing bugs (NOT THE AMINALS THO) and uhh- THINKING about hurting people... Yeah i need mental help.
Why did I tear up a little when she said "You're not alone"
I'm not okay
Man I love how fast you talk! It relaxes my brain ahah for once I don't have to speed up playback or skip.
Maybe I should go get checked out, I’m suspecting Aspergers more and more every day
I'm constantly questioning myself too, but I have no idea how to go about diagnosis. Like do you just go to a doctor/counsellor and ask them if you seem likely to have autism based on tests and stuff?
You are awesome. I’m an Aspie with a high IQ and you are spot on. Love your energy. I recently was diagnosed and this list hits home.
I know it's not related to the video subject, but I really love the way you dress and the video aesthetic. It really fits your personality and makes you stand out in a very beautiful and charming way.
By the way, the video was really relatable, the only thing I couldn't relate was being clumsy, I am the total opposite of clumsy, which makes me think that it is a characteristic that shows more on female than on male in the autistic spectrum, since the women I've met in the spectrum, i.e my mom and sister and girls I've met in the autistic community, show very noticeable dyspraxia.
Thank you so, so much! Finding an aesthetic that fits has always been something I spend so much time thinking and worrying over, so this actually means the world! (Bizarre the things we focus on).
Carlos Prado agreed beam of light she is aren’t we the best haha
39 yo female Aspie I was so clumsy when younger my motor coordination felt like it only caught up with my peers when I turned 18. Occasionally doing some tasks today if there is a way to do them upside down or back to front I’ll find it
Me and my girlfriend both have Aspergers and we both have trouble sleeping.
Same as in the fact that both me and my girlfriend have Asperger syndrome. I have trouble sleeping but my girlfriend doesn't unless she is anxious or experiencing sensory overload.
I think that's so sweet you guys stay up late together that's so romantic you make sure you always protect your family 1-day man if you don't have one already you have an angel and you guys can stay up late together watching the beautiful child sleep I long for something like that in the future everything in life is unplan it always happens for a reason I really hope I can grow up one day fall in love share my dreams and Hope's I never take my children for granted become a grandparent 1 day sorry for saying weird things it's just that I know you two have a wonderful future ahead of you 🌞🐿️ just please treasure everything you are given I wish the best for you two it's the little moments that matter
We’re working on teaching our autistic daughter how to clean and organize. She understands things better when we talk about the objects “home.” Each type/group of items has a home. The location of the home depends on frequency and reason of usage as well as the connection level of the object. Her stuff animals are broken into groups; small friends that can go to school (in a bag by her backpack and coat so they are ready to go), big “pillow” ones are lining the space between her mattress and the wall to prevent clumsy issues, medium sized that she plays with frequently are lined on her bedroom shelves grouped by type (dolls, dragons, unicorns, animal book characters, ect), all old or mostly not used are put into the bean bag chair cover and used as a pillow pit in her reading area. I hope that this helps or gives ideas.
Me remembering that I would refuse to accept teacher’s negative marks on my English homework and essays because I knew I was right about my execution, but it wasn’t what the teacher expected or wanted. I didn’t spend my time reading and spelling above my age and continuing to improve vocabulary in school to be told I was wrong!
I feel like crying listening to this, as it describes me more then anything I’ve watched.
Dude this fast, loud, intense talking is so amazingly stimulating to listen to, i wish more people communicated like this !! i can actually focus
The clumsy thing is weird for me: i tend to bump into things a lot but I'm also a competitive athlete (martial arts), which requires a lot of spacial awareness and fast reflexes (I'm undiagnosed at the beginning of therapy)
I have a big problem figuring out where I am in relation to everything. I can recognize an intersection and it takes me a while to figure out where I am. I remember once driving home at night and I made a wrong turn and realized I couldn't recognize anything. Tried to use my gps but she was using North East south and west and like... idk that so I just started sobbing and called my parents and my boyfriend to come help me
Well, that all feels relatable, especially since I'm watching this at five in the morning, lol. It really isn't funny, though, and I seriously hate staying up all night yet I keep on doing it. I feel like without a consistent sleep schedule I can't have consistent routines and without consistent routines I can't actually make myself do stuff because I'm so unorganized and it all becomes so overwhelming then. I also walk horribly, and really most stuff in the video, which I guess is kind of expected considering that I do have autism. I really don't have a problem with telling which side is right or left anymore, though. Somehow I were able to just internalize it. I still do have problem remembering stuff that includes directions, though, for some reason.
Great video!
Executive dysfunction is probably my most biggest everyday struggle as an autistic person. My therapist helped me realize that because I grew up undiagnosed and my parents always got upset with me for struggling with chores (being called lazy, the 'queen of excuses' even though they were actual reasons) , I never truly learned how to function and do things within my own framework. It's a big reason why my transition into adulthood blew up in my face, and at 25 I'm still struggling with how to do a lot of things. I'm starting to do better though! I set (multiple) alarms for everything I want/need to do - literally everything, including getting out of bed, eating lunch, etc. It's helped me start to be more organized!
I'm also one of the lucky 20-25% of autistic people that sleeps well apparently! I do struggle with making myself get ready and into bed and weird night time anxiety that stops me from going to bed, but thankfully I'm really good with falling and staying asleep.
Also I have not been able to have my own pet for a few years now and can't get one for potentially another year and a half as well. It's incredibly painful to not have a pet. I feel so lonely without one, despite being married and living with two other people as well.
I haven’t been diagnosed but I am looking into the process. I relate to a lot of these more ‘unusual’ traits. The empath one really hits home for me. I cry very easily and feel very intensely, and I often ‘carry around’ other people’s feelings with me. When I was at school (I am 26 in a few days), the concept of Getting In Trouble or Being Told Off were terrifying to me, and to some extent still are. If someone was being told off and looked upset about it, I could generally handle it better than if people were being told off and not having a visible reaction. In those cases, I would start feeling what I thought they should be feeling, and I would feel very guilty and stressed. I have always struggled with conflict and I often give up my desires to ‘keep the peace’. Compliance and being quiet means people don’t shout at me (sudden loud noises make my tummy twist around). I also relied a lot on my twin sister in social matters, which I think has helped me mask for so long. I could copy from her and I ended up just being friends with her friends. My parents noticed that about me. I struggle to give and receive directions (I still forget my left and right and have to be reminded of which tap is hot and which is cold), but I find orienteering myself around landmarks helps me more than directions. Ever since my middle sister, who works with autistic children, pointed out a lot of parallels between me and her charges, a lot of questions about myself have an answer. I preemptively apologise all the time. I have lost count of the number of times I’ve said to myself ‘why am I like this? Why am I so useless? How can I be so clever and so stupid at the same time?’ I’ve been in several toxic abusive relationships, missing the signs until it is too late. I have been assaulted for the same reason. I really hope I can get my appointment soon and get referred for an assessment, so I can get support to be my best self. Sorry for all the unloading, but this video really spoke to my fast-talking, odd-walking, clumsy and very sensitive self.
I can relate to several of these. I struggled with directions for a long time, both left and right and also the north, south, east, west
Can you make a part two! You have really helped me so much by sharing all this stuff and by sharing your story!
got reminded about how I was apparently able to mimic and communicate with small animals as a toddler lol
OMG. As i kid (6-10 isch) i started randomly walk on the insides of feet. Had to go to treapist to fix it.
I also walk extremly slow, and hate it when people behind me for some reson...
I always “pull over” on the sidewalk so no one is behind me 🤣
Thank you so much! I’ve always walked on my toes and still do. I always felt like there’s something wrong with the way my brain works but just couldn’t pinpoint it...since two years I’ve been wondering if I have autism, and a lot of the symptoms resonate...I always put myself into an avatar or imagine someone else in my place in order to get my tasks done. I love play acting and dressing up. I also have limited friends and like being in my own world. I’m still not sure if I do have this condition but I feel comforted by videos like these 😇 I’m glad you brought up the empathy and compassion cos I assumed that’s not a trait and was confused how I could have that and also find things overwhelming and hard to process!
I love how fast you talk! I usually speed videos up because most people talk WAYYYY too slow and it’s genuinely agonizing. I’ve had more people than I can even count tell me to slow down when I speak because they can’t even tell what I’m saying. When I get really excited, sometimes I talk so quickly that I get out of breath, like to a point where I can’t talk anymore because I have to stop and catch my breath
Im 27, I literally discovered a month ago that it’s easier to walk if you roll your hips a little
Groundbreaking (/s) I’ve been trying to walk like a stiff stick for so long and it hurts every time
I figured this out at quite a young age. My friend pointed it out once. She said she was jealous because u have such a nice, feminine walking style. Really I just struggled to walk properly as a kid until I learned that if I put more movement into my hips it makes it easier
And put a little bounce in your step!
The insomnia is real!
Also, I have a strange bout of spacial awareness at work where like most of the time I know what's going on around me, but I'll still trip over/run into a table at work that I know exists but its almost like my brain shut off regarding it. I'll still drop things and run into things, but I'm aware of when my coworkers are around me and we walk around one another very fluidly. Its strange.
I THRIVE in being unorganized. I can't ever keep my room or desk organized for more than like 2 days. Being disorganized makes me happy
I’ve recently been diagnosed with Autism, at 30. (My children were first diagnosed.) I remember once when I was a kid watching 101 Dalmatians, I couldn’t watch the movie without crying my eyes out and feeling a huge sigh of relief when they were all safe from Cruella at the end.
Cleaning and organising are a huge part of my life. If I don’t have a clean house, I can’t function. I struggle with even starting the day.
I'm actually super organized in the places of my life that I love, but very disorganized in the areas that I don't particularly care for. For example, i LOVE to cook, so my kitchen is organized to my content. I HATE folding laundry, so my baskets are always full of clothes😆. I do, however, have rituals for both. When I fold t-shirts, i have to fold them into triangles because I love the number 3. That number is also integrated into most other aspects of my life.
girl, I literally got a tattoo to tell me what side was left and what side was right
Ha. I seriously need that too!
I’m 37 now. I’m on so many medications that have changed my asd behavior. I maybe in zombie mode idk. I still cry all the time.
My cats are my best friends!
I'm also clumsy and I break everything I touch.
I got a tattoo on my left arm, so I remember it's left.
I also have to add that I love your hand and arm gesticulations! I do this too, and sometimes if I'm chatting with a friend who also tends to flail her arms a bit when talking, we can get entangled and end up inadvertently hitting each other in the arms! lol
I do this too at school there is this place and they moved the plant In the room and i kept hitting it accsidentaly 😂😂😂
@@nl3087 Haha!! I often hit the light hanging in my bathroom. SO ANNOYING! (I then often apologise to it) lol 😂😂
@@ladybaabaa3294 lol
About being organized... The girls that are super organized are also disorganized but put in and apply a lot of strategies to lessen the burden of disorganization
OMG! So very much all me.
What a fun video that is so completely right on the spot.
I followed a kid home from kindergarten and when I left his house to go home I realized I didn't know the way so I sat down and thought about it and figured out how to retrace my steps in reverse to get back to the part of our neighborhood that I knew. I made a few wrong turns but I immediately didn't recognize the houses I was passing so I went back to the intersection and continued to the next one until something looked like I had seen it before.
Ever since that incident, I have always claimed to have an excellent sense of direction and never got lost.
This was 58 years ago and I still have to think very carefully before I know which is right or left.
My left eye is dominant, so even though I'm right-handed, I always want to lead off toward the left and tend to think of that as my "right."
At least that's the way I have rationalized it.
I am someone who suspects they have Autism but hasn't been diagnosed. Doing my own research and watching videos such as this one, I realise more and more that I am more than likely autistic, I relate to pretty much all of these traits and so much more to do with being autistic. I finally feel like there are people out there who I can relate to, that I am not alone or weird, I'm just me
Dang it. I've spent most of my life with a diagnosis of bipolar 1. I've always felt that wasn't the whole story. But I started from Footless Jo's video about Sia's film 'Music', then went to Paige Layle's video. Finally came to here. Why do I feel like I relate to yous so much? Maybe these diagnoses are more involved and complex then just the one thing.
The speech thinn😢g is called cluttering and it’s extremely common in people with ADHD & Asperger’s. It can come across as hypomanic like in bipolar l, however the difference is it is the persons baseline. People with bipolar should have periods of being normal”
Thank you for mentioning dyspraxia in the video
Aspie dyspraxic here!!!!
I have been accused of having too high of a regard for life by family members. I became a problem eater at the age of 3 when it was explained to me where “meat” came from. The thought of killing and eating another sentient being is revolting to me. I was teaching at a community college and was noted for rescuing worms from the walk way on my way into the building after a rain storm. My having Aspergers might make me seem a bit nutty to some but I prefer to think that I am only benignly so. I enjoyed your video!
OMG I am autistic and relate to all of these so thanks for everything ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I DIDNT KNOW THESE WERE AUTISM THINGGGGGGSSSSSSS
This was quite informative! I meet the criteria of sleep issues (I think I have a longer-than-typical circadian rhythm), intense empathy (get very upset if someone is upset because of something I've done), difficulty organizing things (and only a passing awareness of time, without various ways to keep me aware of it), a subset of clumsiness (more than half the time when I try to throw something out of my bedroom door, it ends up behind the door instead, even though the doorway is so much bigger -- similarly when I toss something from the toilet to the trash can), a certain amount of ritual, and a small amount of issues with directions (most notably: although I don't have trouble telling left from right, if I'm giving directions I will *say* the wrong one but *point* the correct way, so I say to watch my hands, not my words).
Also, this video amused me because I'm so used to speeding up TH-cam videos to at least 1.5x and it's rare that I find someone who speaks fast enough to make 1.5x too difficult for me to follow ^_^ I had to watch on 1.25x instead.
Wow, I relate 100% to EVERYTHING you just said. The direction thing really gets me, I have to take photos to know where I am going, and sometimes I can't even follow maps. Literally, I thought me being bad at direction was just me being dumb. Every time I watch your videos, I feel more understood.
Thank you, for being an advocate for girls on the spectrum, and for making us feel less alone in the world. You are AMAZING. I also have Dyspraxia and just have no spacial awareness what so ever, walk into everything and everyone. A door could be wide open, and my dyspraxic ass would walk directly into the door frame and knock myself out.
Will still misjudge distances and can bump into things
Sense of justice!! YES!!!! I'm 1000% obsessed with things being fair, and always have been, and to be honest it's gotten me in quite a bit of trouble over the years... I also started speaking at 9 months, and was having pretty coherent conversations by one year (there's video proof--having encountered more kids now, I can fairly say that seeing a toddler having a meltdown because they're afraid of "brain cancer and pyroclastic flows" (thanks, geologist dad!) is pretty dang unnerving. To this day I still get comments about my vocab and I got into so much trouble at school because I argued with teachers about stupid things like the accuracy of "connexion" vs" connection" and other similar things.
Funnily enough, I've personally never had issues with sleeping, in terms of getting to sleep (possibly linked to depression, womp womp) but I do know that I just didn't LIKE sleeping as a kid, despite really needing SOOO much more to function properly (and I still do compared to most 26 year olds). I've always had very, very vivid dreams, and I still remember some from when I was as young as three... however, I vividly recally that I used to sleep better if I had books piled on my bed (weighted!), and as an adult I now have like two weighted blanket piled on top of each other to sleep hahaha XD
I'm also pigeon-toed and knock-kneed, so my shoes look totally bizarre when worn down... RIP my spine....
Don’t remember any of my dreams
My son is autistic and he NEVER sleeps! I love learning more and more about this to better care for him!
Thank you SO much for sharing this Chloe!! I related to almost all of these and thought it was just me. Especially the intense empathy, like people don't talk about that! It is so painful to go through
"difficulty sleeping and insomnia."
It's nearly 2 am while I'm watching this xD
When I was younger I was absolutely and completely obsessed with imagine games where I WASN’T HUMAN. I could be a dog, or a fairy, or a dragon or a robot because it meant I could act ‘odd’ and it wouldn’t seem out of the ordinary cause I wasn’t acting as a human I was pretending to be a creature
I relate to all of these and I'm actually diagnosed with autism, but my grandparents and even my therapist always tell me that it isn't true and that I just have to be normal...
Several different people have asked me if I’m limping or if I feel pain somewhere when I walk, but it’s just how I walk when I don’t think about it.
I understand the walking!!!!!!! I’ve always been told that I walk and run weird and I say as a joke (everyone knows I’m joking) “that’s ableist I have a disability “ but now it is actually because of my disability!
I’m autistic and I can relate to so many of these traits like animal connections and bad posture I’ve been obsessed with animals since a baby and the bad posture I’ve had to try to keep my back straight
Yep, got all of them!
My little sister has been diagnosed with autism and ur channel has helped me understand and be more educated on autism thank you
I am an organized disorganized autistic. I can organize things really well but everything has to have a very specific place and that place cannot change or move. If things aren't organized I forget that certain items exist and everything is cluttered. It's sort of an oxymoron
Sounds like me lol😜
It is all really interesting about various Autistic Traits:). I do not have Autism, but I have a few things in common on that list. I have tight heel cords and even with my current arthritis, without shoes I tend to sometimes walk on the balls of my feet, I too LOVE animals, I really admire your compassion for animals, I like empathic caring people, and despite my Learning Disabilities, I have high verbal skills:)! Also, I need to be more organized. However, I dated in High School at 17 years of age a young man in my L.D. Class who had high functioning Autism and I would help him with directions when we went out on dates. He is highly intelligent too. Unfortunately, he was not as empathic as you are Chole and he has a lot of anger, so our relationship did not last. However, I ran into this person a few years ago and I am happy for him that now as an Adult he is living his life long dream to work as a Psychologist. We are all different that includes people with or without disabilities and the inclinations of our Souls can be different. Chole, you are a sweet, kind, caring person and I am very privileged to be a Subscriber to your Channel:)!!! Keep educating others and always be a compassionate person:)!!
Yes! My daughter is so disorganised! She's year 8 and I still pack her school bag for her so I know she has everything. And her room, well that is never clean unless I go in there. I've also been saying for years that she's an Empath.
OMG so relatable!!! recently self diagnosed and seeking a professional evaluation!
1...YES!!! Never slept much!
2 and 3... YES!!! My walking is so weird at times and ruin my shoes too.
4... YES YES YES!!! Animals have been my only friends most of my life! My dog and cat are cuddling me rn lol. I have rescued a lot of animals.
5... YES! I have a dent in my forehead from walking into a corner!
6... Yes. hard to admit it but I still do the hand thing at 34 to figure out right and left.
7... Yes! My weird rituals drives my husband crazy sometimes!
8... YAAAS!!! so much empathy!!! This is why I believe I couldn’t figure out what was “wrong” with me for so long! I kept looking at psychological issues like bipolar, depression, adhd, etc but they didn’t seem to fit very well... I’ve done the same thing as the stuffed deer story with many inanimate objects.
9... Yes!! I make most people feel dumb with my words. Oops...
10... Yes!!! Im messy and very little organization but trying to work on it 🤞
Thank you for this video it’s wonderful!!! I hope more people learn that ASD’s aren’t always what people have stereotyped them with!
OOOOHH!! I LOVE THESE THINGIES ON YOUR CHEEK IT'S SO CUUTE!!!
I walked on my toes FOR YEARS and occasionally I catch myself doing it every now and then. I’m also an insomniac. I relate to all of these things!! I knew the walking thing was connected to autism but I didn’t know about the other things. I love you and your channel so so much. I have autism as well and this just helps me not feel alone!
The thing about the rituals that dont seem to have a purpose. My daughter who is non verbal does that and I never thought it was connected to her autism. She sorts her food and I cannot tell what her criteria is, what makes one peice different from the other. This video is awesome. Thank you
I totally have the weird posture and gait thing! Been able to improve it but it's still there (I'm particularly better at walking but I still run really weird, to the point where I'm embarrassed to run in public). I had no idea I walked weird until it was brought to my attention when I was 12. My mom told me she had thought there was something wrong with my spine and that's why I looked so weird, but nope, just had a weird posture and gait! To me the way I was walking before was a lot more relaxed, I basically did the bare minimum to keep my body balanced upright, so I had to learn to use more muscles to mostly straighten my back but also to a lesser extent to control how I moved my legs and hips
Oh wow!!!!! I TOTALLY relate to this on SO MANY levels. It's so good to know I'm not alone. I got diagnosed with Aspergers when I was a preschooler and I always had so much shame for being an aspie growing up because of the stereotypes. I never felt like I fit into the guideline. I am extremely empathetic and extroverted and I totally relate to so many of these. I struggle so much with a sense of direction and disorganisation and clumsiness. It's so refreshing to me. Thank you!
Omg her energy is 💥💫🦄🏵✨
And I love it!
I was always told by my friends that I have a "gangsta" walk. Sometimes I also get confused by how I'm supposed to swing my arms when I walk or feel like I walk very stiff.
I'm also 21 years old and I struggle with right and left so much! I started using a new strategy with my mom in which I use "3 hours" for right and "9 hours" for left, since that's the numbers positions in the clock, and that's much easier for me!
Anyone else have to turn the volume down!? 😂
Great video, I can relate 😊
I just started watching your videos about autistic traits and see that I fall under a lot of them. The walking one especially interested me because people often point out how I walk from the outer sides of my feet and roll them in towards center. It makes everyone thing my feet are wrong or broken or that I'm hurt but it's how I've walked my whole life. My dad also used to call me tiptoes because I would walk on my toes everywhere and still do... and I'm 18...
The walking thing is a huge 'aha' for me because I legit walk like a 'duck', so I've been told, by my ex friend and other friends have also mentioned that I have.
I was diagnosed as autistic or rather re diagnosed last year as I was diagnosed at 7 but for some reason doctors kept changing their minds for some reason.
Also the clumsy thing; I am the lord of clumsy. In middle school I tripped over my foot on the stairway. I'm so clumsy it's insane. Never new it was correlated with my autism before now.
Also with the directions too yeah. Cannot tell my lefts or rights together or just directions period. Just all of this. Very relatable.
Aaaaaaand I’ll just cry because I get into so much trouble for a messy room. I’ve had to move back in with my parents and it’s led to endless lectures and me ‘sulking’ in my room for days in a sobbing mess. Nothing helps and I hate it but no matter how much I try it never gets better. And at 46 it fucking sucks to be yelled at and lectured for hours on a monthly basis. I’ll just go cry in a corner now.
I didn’t learn my left and right until I was about 8 or 9 when I started learning piano. And even now sometimes I have to put my hands in front of me as if I’m playing piano just to figure out which one’s which
I still don't know my left and right I only can tell as my watch is always on my right wrist
I haven’t been able to sleep for ever and the only thing that will help me sleep is watching shows
I am not diagnosed, but I have always felt as if I was on the spectrum. After a bad experience with a doctor I’ve been afraid to get diagnosed. Anyways, it’s 6:26 in the morning, haven’t slept and in frustrated tears turned to TH-cam. Lo and behold, here is your video and what is #1 on your list... hahaha I think it’s about time to try and get over my fear and see if I can diagnosed. I don’t feel so alone anymore, thank you
I walk oddly, I swivel my hips and have been told that I walk like I’m heavily pregnant, but my odd walking style might be linked to a skeletal issue I was born with; my hips aren’t even.
I do love animals and wanted to volunteer at the animal shelter but my mom said no as she was afraid that I would try to adopt all the animals there.
I do struggle with comforting people sometimes but if you upset someone that I care about, even people that I only know on the Internet and I will go to war or ask the person that you upset if they want me to make your life a living hellscape; to the best of my limited (nonexistent)abilities.
oh my gosh, at school when I walk to class with my friends I always have to stop because they walk so slow. I just want to get out of the hallways while they're just chatting and strolling along
I used to have trouble sleeping because my head is chaotic until I started focusing on coming up with a story when trying to fall asleep. For me it's not just issue with trouble walking, it's just all movements. Hands why I have always something bruised XD for the organise bit, I'm good at sorting like on color, but when I need to plan stuff... Big fail lol
Thanks for talking about #8 (being overly empathetic). Not a lot of people talk about that one, and personally, that's always been a super huge one for me. Not many people know that that can be a symptom.
I am in the middle of the autistic spectrum and this was soooo relatable i love animals i have 6 chihuahuas but put me in a room full of toddlers i will go into a mental breakdown as i hate children .. i also walk very fast and on my tiptoes and i dont know my left and right and i have been diagnosed with spacial awarness and sleep deprivation (because of a lack of melotonen) i also have a lot of other disabilities such as ADHD, autism , anxiety, depression, sleep deprivation,dyslexia, discalculian, spacial awarness
I often times find myself pacing around all night to where I might not even sleep until the next night. I just run my brain through my designs for my inventions and how I will use/deploy them and how important it is that I do it.