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- What are the most unusual autism traits in adults? I wanted to talk about 7 unusual autism traits in which these uncommon signs of autism in adults could be considered lesser known autism symptoms. Some of these autism traits autistic adults may have however this will not in the case of all. Also, some of these autistic behaviors will be linked to other conditions such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Dyspraxia. So here are 7 unusual autistic traits in adults.
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Autism and sleep problems
Lack of fear in autism
Autism and object attachment
Autism laughing inappropriately
Autism use of communication
Autism and clumsiness
Autism routines and rituals
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Hi Indie People! What trait do you relate to the most?
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I have difficulty going to sleep to.
I relate to all of them so well. Not wanting to sleep because when I wake up I know I’m going to have to do something that causes me stress. I always asked my ex if she was ok too. So relatable.
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Sleepiness. I've fallen asleep almost everywhere. In the theatre, in the cinema, in a restaurant, even on a bus - and at the time I was standing!
I relate to the laughing at funny memories at weird times. It's really awkward when I would be in the hallway at school walking by myself but with a bunch of other people around me and I start giggling and or smile a lot and people stare at me 😅
Oh my gosh this is a thing😂😂😂! I do the same.
I have conversations in my head and accidentally laugh out loud very often 😂😮
1. Sleep 0:54
2. Lack of fear or danger awareness 3:33
3. Object attachment 4:53
4. Inappropriate laughing 6:27
5. Use of language 8:11
6. Clumsiness 9:02
7. Rituals 10:45
i have all of these minus 4 and 7 lul
I somehow simultaneously have excessive fear, and no sense of danger. 😂😂
People often confuse 'problems getting to sleep' with 'problems getting to bed'.
I used to have both until the latter got so bad that I immediately fall asleep now, rarely having issues due to exhaustion 🙃
Falling asleep is the worst. Any other autistic people suffer from intense panic before bed as a child? I still do, but growing up it felt like I was literally being attacked and it went on for years and years. Finally stopped at about age 13 but I still suffer from insomnia.
Lack of Danger Awareness is very important when you start talking about dating and social situations, especially for women/girls on the spectrum. Sexual assault, abusive/ manipulative behavior and exploitation have been very much part of my experience.. it wasn't until diagnosis did it make sense why I kept having these awful experiences with friends, bosses and boyfriends.
I have no filter or intuition
My friend with autism also went through the same thing. She was completely unaware of the danger she put herself in. Then when I found out and tried to stop her, she lied about it and kept doing it :(
My friend used to get sooo discouraged when trying to teach me to play soccer because I could never make the ball go where I wanted. My spacial awareness is so bad. I step on people's heels, walk right into the edge of a door, I'm always colliding with my parents. when I ask someone where something is, they can explain it 10 times and point it our and I'll just stare blankly ahead of me like "where?".
Yh
I step on people's feet alot. I stepped on my Nicola's little toe the other day while wearing shoes... It didn't go too well 😂
@@IndieAndy Ouch! That sounds painful. My mom wears sandals in the house to help her feel so luckily I never hurt her toes!
Aw I get embarrassed when that happens to me. I'm always not able to see where people are telling me to look.
My mom gets so frustrated when I can't see things right in front of me 😭
I got a cat about a month ago and i talk to her and pet her soft fur and its really calming
My cat helps me so much. I pet her and talk to her also.
I love to pet my cat. He is so very soft.
I am a writer and have Autism. I have a tough time with the word usage thing. When other people use the wrong term, I have trouble understanding them. I think this is a combo of being used to using words properly most of the time and literal thinking. Some people think i am being like a grammar police (but for words), but if I ask for clarification, it is because I genuinely don't understand them.
This so true. Had hard time at work communicating this.i would say ,”no solution exists” meaning that the task given was over-defined/had to many constraints. They heard that as, “ I can’t find a solution”. It’s like they were not listen to my precise wording, but instead tried to attach them to a meaning they were familiar with. It was very confusing
@@timothydana2726 I had a counselor who refused to explain things to me when I would say, "It sounds like you're saying X. Please explain how you are not." She did not understand (though I tried to tell her many different ways) that "it sounds like" is not the same as, "it is." It seems like the sky is blue, but I happen to also know that the sky is always all the colors. Even after I used this analogy she would demand that we, "move on," and I was left unsure of what she wanted me to do. I had to stop seeing her.
I, too, have had trouble with work because of this. I worked at a school and sometimes the teachers would roll their eyes at me, or my boss would accuse me of not listening when I restated questions, because he would respond with an answer to a question I did not ask. How do you handle these circumstances? I'm so glad to know that I am not alone. I thought it was just something with me.
I can have this problem too but the thing is I also am a grammar/spelling/word police. 😅
I can agree with you there! I am afraid to interact with the general public because people seem so vague. And bosses have treated me like I am stupid because they only explain something on one or two sentences, and I am supposed to know all of the unsaid details.
I work 40 hours 6am to 3. I can sleep up to 15 hours on my days off. Masking my personality is tiring. I still hate small talk or sudden noises.
Lack of danger awareness: i climbed out onto the roof when I was a toddler. 😁
In regard to inappropriate laughter and giggling, I remember in grade school after 9/11 we did hide in the closet drills. I used to burst out giggling when we were hiding and everyone told me to shut up. This happened every time, you just helped me remember.
I mean, to be fair, having drills on 9/11 is pretty funny in a morbid sort of way
In high school, I literally laughed at something that I mistook as funny due to HOW it was said but wasn't and I was told "That's not funny..." 😭 I lost my smile so quickly, so awkward...
Back in high school, I was in a classroom and the teacher was talking about something important and I was thinking of something which made me laugh. At that point everyone must’ve thought I was evil or something. Pretty embarrassing for my younger self.
I used to laugh when people talked about abuse when I was a teen. I didn't think it was funny. It upset me because I was also abused. I would just get nervous and laugh. It was horrible.
The last one my boyfriend does pretty often. I think absolutely sweet and proves that folks with ASD DO HAVE EMPATHY and actually MORE than that of neurotypical people. I tell myself also that why I only date INSIDER and that I am lucky to have him. I have dyspraxia and almost fell yesterday and Eric asked if I was okay. One time I passed out in the bathroom, he got up and came to my aid immediately and now calls out for me if I am taking awhile then usual in the bathroom. We may have our challenges but remember we are all blessed to be alive on this earth. A good percent of us could have been stillborns.
I have been with my Partner 32 years and I ask all of the time “how are you feeling”. I too can’t read him.
I’m autistic and I strongly agree with this list. Especially the one about language. I honestly over think language too much. I pride myself on knowing the meanings of words and have a whole notebook on words and sayings I’m trying to learn. English was my best and (second) worst subject because I would read the books in one day and write a paper on them. But if you were to tell me something like “Oh my gosh, how are you Ander!? I haven’t seen you in a minute!” I would say, “No it’s been 2 weeks since we last seen each other. What are you talking about?” I just recently grasped the concept that people use a minute to mean a while too, not just 60 seconds.
Neurotypical people use words so oddly I don’t understand.
I’m 37 and I’m finally getting assessed and I’m so glad I found your page. Very helpful, thank you.
Im 37 as well (undiagnosed) but I know this is me
How do I get assessed? I'm 36, but I'm starting to wonder about it...
i like how calm his voice is.
Oooh thank you Shawn 😊👍
@@IndieAndy your very welcome. and thank you for actually replying to me!
I used to have sooo much trouble falling asleep. We tried relaxation traits. I went to bed fine. I would go to bed when I was tired. But actually falling asleep was so hard. I don;t have as much trouble now because I'm on a pretty strong sedative for anxiety but I can still have trouble sometimes.
Sometimes I outright refuse to fall asleep because of awful awful nightmares and I become TERRIFIED of falling asleep.
@Demian ALIKA WTF
When I hang out with my autistic friend, he often asks me if I'm okay or if there's something wrong
Glad I'm not the only one ☺️
Depending on the context it might have to do with anxiety.
i do that a lot too, like if my best friend is even the slightest bit uncomfortable, i automatically just go "are you okay?? here let me HUG"
@@jermfanaccount aw, your friend is lucky you're so caring!♡
I’ve learned at a young age to look both ways, but I have no real fear of danger. I do have a great memory and laugh at times as well. At one point I would like to learn more languages. At work I need to do things “correctly” and get bothered when I see someone doing it differently which I need to fix it later.
Hey I have the same pug stuffie! I have a hard time telling spacing apart, am very clumsy, talk to objects that aren't alive(and name them) , and my sense of danger is too strong, I'm afraid of a lot of stuff. Autism is so much fun at times. Also very clumsy, and talk to myself outloud.
I love this video especially around 5:55 when he has no problem showing off his stuffed animals like his rainbow llama lol
I have an very big vocabulary (in my mother language you call it "Wortschatz" which means "treasure of words"). I am just fascinated with the capability to increase ones chances to accurate communication through language.
I also ask people I care about very often about their state of mind. Especially when I note an expression I don't know in them yet, I ask them. This way I became really good in understanding them and even other people.
Aww that's such a cool word "wortschatz"
For me a memory came straight back to me from primary school. It was the end of the day and I was getting on the bus and then I just ran straight out into the road and then I got 1 minute of golden time
Love Larry! I have several friends, mainly in my bedroom, but some are downstairs for emergency comfort situations. I like to have a small friend in my pocket or my handbag for when I go out. (Currently a cow.) I'm having sleep problems at present. I can also confirm that dyspraxia is to do with both fine and motor co-ordination skills. It takes me longer to type for example. (Two fingers only.) I am also clumsy.
Aww thanks Rowena for confirming that. I did ad-lib that part and I was sure it was apart of it!
Ooh that's fair enough I mean if it helps you having that there as a comfort item then that's great.
I don't talk to my stuffed animals but I definitely have object attachment. I cannot get rid of stuffed animals because it just makes me sad. I also sleep with the same stuffed animal every night even though I'm an adult
Thank you for adding talking points in the description! It really helps me! I get weird anxiety if I don’t know what’s going to be in the video so I appreciated you listing the 7 points in the description ☺️
Aww you know what, I didn't know that was something that people experience. But I'm glad that helped!
I have a ton of rituals (diagnosed autistic, so it’s safe to assume it’s autism), I need to organize things in a specific order, I must have an even number of something, I must not walk on cracks in sidewalk or patterns, I must check all places in a room before doing anything (behind shower curtains, closets, etc.) and I also m u s t check in on my friends at least once a day. I was also the kind of kid who would line up all the toys and organize them in an order, I must also eat one food at a time if I’m eating a meal with multiple foods, and those foods must not touch or even be on the same plate. Now that I look back, this was a massive red flag for autism my parents didn’t pick up on for most of my life.
My kiddo has trouble sleeping and that kind of makes sense that he might have anxiety because school is the next day! I’ve had trouble falling asleep since I was little as well! When I do sleep I oversleep.
I think inappropriate laughing also has to do with the fact that sometimes neurotypical people take certain things very seriously that don't always make logical sense. For example, say someone who cares about their status is talking about how their reputation could be damaged because something silly happened, I would find that ridiculous and funny, and probably laugh in that situation. Whereas they would definitely not find it funny and probably be aggravated by my laughing.
To you.
Just found your channel and I love your vids why aren’t you getting more views!! All of these traits are honestly very relatable to me. I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis for many years but doctors keep thinking I lie or I’m not «convincing » because I have an extremely hard time communicating in either a verbal or non verbal way. I love your vids because they’re very simply and naturally explained and I have to admit I take some notes so i can express my own struggles to doctors because I have such a difficult time finding words myself.
Also gotta love your lama !! I’m glad I’m not the only autistic who has a plush toy best friend and I have entire conversations with it :p
I had a friend with Autism who had no sense of danger with any of her surroundings. She also didn't understand stranger danger. If they were nice to her, she thought they genuinely liked her. She never understood in the context of internet dating that she was being used and manipulated for inappropriate behaviour.
God bless Andy's loved ones. I wish I became familiar with him before he past away. 😔
Gosh darn, this is a really helpful and wonderfully put together video, thank you!
okay that llama joke killed me hahahaha. love your content man, subscribing!
Haha it was funny watching that back honestly 😂 thanks for checking the video out and subscribing 👍
Nice llama voice!
Best ASD video I have watched in months!😃
Thanks Chantell ☺️👍
"I like to use big words so I sound more photosynthesis! LOL.
I fit all of these characteristics.
For a long time I had a job where I often had to be at work at 03:30 hrs. When I was a kid I woke at 4AM most days and had a couple hours of alone-time reading a book and eating extra cereal and milk!
Andy, I just found your channel this morning and enjoyed your videos. I also found out that you passed-away in Dec 2021.
I want to say I am sorry to all his friends and family, he seems like a nice guy who'd be a fine neighbor.
Via con Dios, Amigo
I have problems falling asleep, it have always been that way. I constantly drop things on the floor😓
When you mentioned collecting stuff I realized that I actually have a collection of bouncy balls from when I was a kid😅
I don’t think it’s weird that you talk to a llama. I talk to myself or my birds so I’m a little crazy myself😅
I really loved the music in the background of this video. Thanks for that
Aww well I definitely feel less crazy 🤣
I don’t relate to number 2. I have ASD and I am over cautious and hyper aware of danger..
I definitely identify with a few of these. Standard disclaimer: not diagnosed, working on it though.
Sleep: Always had trouble sleeping, my brain just doesn't switch off until I literally can't keep my eyes open.
Objects: Does a shiny black stone on my desk that I found in my primary school's garden 30 years ago count? Oh and the box of random bits and bobs I won't throw away...
Clumsiness: I don't think I am, but I'm quite often told that I am. 🤷♂️
Inappropriate laughing: Yeah I was always the kid at school who couldn't stop laughing when I was being told off, and even now when my partner is trying to have a serious conversation I'll start laughing, which never goes down well!
For the objects part... I'd definitely that is attachment. Like I've still got old old old CDs from when I was 10-11 years old that I should probably get rid of BUT it feels wrong to get rid of them.
@@IndieAndy don’t worry I still like toys.
@@IndieAndy keep safe.
I still have a blanket from when I was young(less than 5) I keep it up because I don't want it to fall apart. I refuse to get rid of it. I also have clothes from when I was 15(that still fit) that even though I don't wear them I can't get rid of them.
I don't laugh inappropriately but my therapist says I often smile when recalling something unpleasant. I don't know why I do it because I know it's sad but it's like a reflex.
Thank you for this. I suspect that some of these are not really so uncommon.
With sleep, I have no difficulty getting to sleep. I do usually need a little nap when I get home from work, but that is just because I need a bit of time out to recover/reset. I have two teenage kids who are also on the spectrum too, and both do have issues with sleep. My son usually doesn't go to bed until maybe 2 am, and seems to get by on very little sleep, while my daughter seems to have a lot of difficulty getting to sleep, to sleep badly, and need a lot of sack time - she really takes a lot to get going in the morning too. Both of them recently started melatonin, and it seems to help.
On the fear thing, I wonder whether it is more than an unawareness of danger. In my own case, I am certainly aware of hazards, such as crossing the road. However, I have noticed that in times where I really am in serious danger I don't have the sort of reaction that I understand is usual. My brain stays calm and I simply work through solutions. For example, I have been in vehicle crashes, thrown from horses, charged by wild animals and similar situations, and there's none of that "OMG I'm going to die" stuff going on. Instead it is only afterward that I think "that could have been really bad" or "hmm, I seem to have sustained damage".
In respect of language, I have always been hyperlexic and enjoyed playing with words. My aspie father was the same, and my aspie daughter too. I have always enjoyed dictionaries, and when I was a little kid the fact that I would sit down and read a dictionary for pleasure, starting at A and working my way through, was just one more of those things that marked me out as deeply weird among my peers. I do try to resist the temptation to wheel out the obscure word when a less obscure one would fill the bill, but I enjoy knowing that there's a word there that really would nail it, and sometimes the temptation's too much.
And then there's clumsiness. This is so true of me and my kids. None of us can catch a ball worth a damn, and cups and glasses and so on are broken with alarming regularity in this house. I think you are right that it is spatial awareness, or propriocepton. I'm constantly bumping into things, catching my shoulder on corners and so on, because I have a poor awareness of the dimensions of this body that I drive around in.
Sorry about the long and wordy comment. Perhaps that is also part of being an aspie ;-)
I freakin luv autism and how mysterious it is.... I'm grateful for being autistic🤔😊😊😊
6:15 I think Larry knows too much, we'd better get the cement shoes.
I think Larry's a MI5 agent (aka a rat).
Most likely is to be fair. I mean he went out for ages the other day. Questioned him and appeared stiffy... If I don't make a video in awhile... You'll know why 🤣
I just realized that the reason why my family thinks I’m weird is because I constantly keep a small mirror around in my pocket. I used to look in this same mirror but now I hardly look at it. I just keep it with me because it gives me a sense of relief. I don’t know if it’s OCD. But the mirror in my pocket could be part of my autism as well. 🤔 hmm
I set two to three alarms for everything so I don't forget things and to wake up on time for getting my son ready for school. I have attachments to objects, mostly my art supplies and don't like to share them, ever.
I do laugh at things in my head that I consider funny but usually that happens when I'm alone, I rarely socialise. I know road safety and how to avoid food poisoning which to me is all I need to know about the dangers of the world.
I definitely have trust issues when it come to playing with people on Minecraft though, which is a game I'm completely obsessed with, for I don't want my world ruined or things taken from my storage chests.
To be honest I have two different items I'm attached to, one for home and the other for out in public. At home it's a stuffed animal that's velvety soft so it helps me recharge. And in public I have a small bag of kinetic sand for stress and anxiety. Also I somehow have all these lesser known symptoms, lol.
I ask my fiance if he’s ok loads of times a day too since I realised that I can’t always tell how he’s feeling, even though he’s also autistic. It has made our relationship easier actually (I just always tell him how I feel without being asked anyway lol). Also the clumsiness - I’ve noticed it getting worse as I’ve got older too! I also have HSD though (hyper-mobility spectrum disorder) which makes it worse as both autism and HSD affect proprioception. Thanks for talking about these things Andy!
6:16 is pretty funny lol.
I never slept through the night, not even as baby. I still don't sleep at 25....
You just made me remember about how my swimming teacher used to heve to put his hand between my head and the pool wall when doing backstroke because I would just wack my head on it every lap.
I am currently making corona-facemasks and I love to look at them. I love sorting and rearranging them. I think even the making became a new obession of me. Sometimes I stay up at night just to sew them. I just like making, having and sorting the facemasks
I love sorting my collections also.
@@Catlily5so do I like I have organized my magic the gathering cards so much that I gotten pretty fast at it
My sister is significantly autistic and she falls asleep as soon as her head hits the pillow and will sleep through the night with no problem. She has a tendency to wake up from 6am to 7am
I laugh so much when I am nervous. I can’t control it 😫
I relate to everything except the danger and clumsy thing... Because I see danger in absolutely everything lmfaooooo 😂😂😂 and sometimes people say things as BE CAREFUL! UR ALMOST STANDING ON UR DOG. and I'm like nah... I know exactly where she's laying.
Haha fair enough. Maybe you could be a danger detector for people? 🤣
I used to really used to struggle with sleep wen i was little to the point i had to be put on meds for sleep and ironically the med was called "kidnap" 🤣🤣🤣🤦♀️ i feel like now am older i sleep too much.
I struggle with realising danger too but only when am in a dissociative state which isnt always common with asd .
I have have attachements to objects eg my toy monkey 🐒 cheeky chops 😁💙, also i struggle to throw away my books, comics ect plus me monkey he is like a saftey item for me and he has been with me to hospital and stuff .
I also laugh inappropriately too like for instance is someone on gets hurt 😢 🤣🤦♀️
I also do struggle with clumsy stuff but i think for me it is due to my CP (Cerebral Palsy)
For me i also struggle with ritual stuff to like i have to put my blankets on my bed in a certain way , or have to put my clothes on in a certain way , eat in a certain way just to name a few so yea this seems like me to a T 🤣🤣🤦♀️
I love Larry the llama. I talk to my dolls and toys, so I'm just as weird
I talk to my cat. This lady told me I was weird. Well, I didn't know that talking to a pet was weird but I already knew that I was weird! 🤣
Bruuuh when u pulled out Larry! I was thinking okay I have a ton of these little furry friends around my son and as soon as he sees certain ones he wants to add I'll bring it with him.
I was listening to this video when I nearly poked my eye out on my music stand D:
Awww gosh hope you are ok 😫
Hyposomnia is something I'm very aware of.
I'm always exhausted with social interactions.... then I go to weekend long Anime/Gaming conventions where I'm in constant contact with people I probably don't know (Though I always seem to run into people I DO know at some point) and it's great fun.
But when I was going to these while I was working, I literally had to book at least 3 days off work EXTRA because I would become zombie-like for a few days. I'd oversleep a lot and just feel heavy and achy from head to foot. Granted part of this was down to the fact that conventions are weird things and often you're just running on adrenaline and energy drinks. In the case of ones I'm actually staying away for, I'll need a week. Staying in a hostel with a bunch of people I don't know, while everyone is there for the same thing is still just takes it's toll on me.
I love doing these things but I pay for it dearly afterward.
I both undersleep and oversleep. It varies from moment to moment.
Almost everything you have mentioned is 100% me 😂😂😂
Sleep is definitely something I struggle with. Thoughts keep popping into my head, something keeps mauling in my head, and so on. I also feel like if left to my own devices, my time when I start feeling tired and like I need to go to sleep will shift further every night, almost like my circadian rhythm is longer than a 24-hour-day. There are some sleep disorders that affect the circadian rhythm, but the thing is that I struggle less with it when I have a job and thus a consistent daily schedule, because at the end of the day I will be tired and need sleep. But even then I won't fall asleep for over an hour.
I laugh at funny thoughts all the time. I have a decent sense of humor.
Maybe some people don't have many thoughts.
My eldest son used to try to leave with other families if we were at parks or other places. It was pretty scary. He has no fear when it comes to people related things. He also asks the same question a few times a day or will ask me things that he already knows the answers to. He is 20 now and I have been working on training him out that as much as he can be.
Seriously got the lack of danger awareness been ran over 3 times and lost 2 and a half toes in a fork lift accident at work but I am more aware of myself after that
Lots I'm relating to here.
Yeah, these are the types of things that I was looking for an answer to. I typed into the search bar, "Are autistic people more clumsy?" And this popped up. I have always been bad for accidentally breaking things, and people get on me a lot because of all of the times that I tell them that I didn't sleep well the night before. When they asked why, I either tell them about how I just don't want to lay there and do nothing (even if I am tired) because I am not yet satisfied with my day, or I wake up after 4 hours and feel too alert. I also used to be fearless as a kid, but as I have learned about how cruel people can be, I hesitate to build close friendships with people I don't know. I have around 25 autistic traits altogether, and it explains all of the times when I found things to be more difficult than other people did, but I also know a whole lot about the most random things that people act like I am being "outlandish" (and for some reason treat me like I am dumb, because of my outlandish thinking). I just avoid the general public in general, and then I don't have to deal with that kind of thing.
dude
i have the sleep problems trait, when i was like 6, id stay up till 12 drawing on... i wanna call it an etcher sketcher but it had a pen and was called a mega sketcher, but anyway-
it wasnt because i was being an ass obviously, it was because my brain just wouldnt shut off
i still have trouble sleeping now, its 7 pm in australia and i bet ill actually fall asleep at 11.
im low functioning autistic . i have sleep issues mainly always been falling asleep and staying asleep is hard but i have days wher ei were sleep witch im guess im just overly tired. idk i also have attachments to stuffed animals. i have like 25 of them, cant let them go im always collecting. i even name them all too. i love ur larry he cute. heheh i grew up being really clumpsy. tripped on air many times.
For me, I've developed a nocturnal lifestyle, and irregular sleep, for a number of reasons.
1. At night I can do whatever I want without being disturbed by family or friends. During the day this is much harder, since every so often family members may come to you and want something, want to talk, want help with something, or just want to eat a meal together, whereas friends may message you and expect a quick response. All these things make it nearly impossible to get 'in the zone' and do something without disturbances for a few hours at a time. Much easier at nighttime.
When my parents were worried about my nocturnal lifestyle, I told them this is my defense mechanism against being constantly disturbed, and if they want me to sleep at night, then they need to accept that I don't want to be disturbed when I'm busy. However, they didn't agree to my terms, because 'eating meals together is important' and 'it's natural that a parent may want to speak with their child at any time' and similar, maybe well-intentioned, but I think ultimately harmful arguments.
So, nocturnal lifestyle it is then... now, even though I've moved out a few years ago, it's hard to change old habits.
2. Then there's also the issue that I was enrolled in many extra-curricular activities after school, which meant that during the week, I'd often be at school from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. or thereabouts. This meant I had a choice - either my week days are so busy, I have no time for myself and only on weekends I'd have time to do my own projects, entertainment, and such... or I sacrifice some sleep during school days, and catch up on sleep during weekends. I chose the second option - usually going to bed around 4 a.m. during school days, and also on weekends, but then I'd sleep until afternoon.
This lifestyle sort of worked, while I was in school and university, however now that I'm 33 years old, various consequences are starting to surface. For example, while my most natural schedule is to go to sleep around 6-8 a.m. (basically, I start becoming sleepy somewhere around sunrise) and then sleep until 2-4 p.m.
if I need to be available in the morning, I find it easier to delay going to bed until after I'm done with whatever needs doing, although this might mean going to bed in the afternoon. Alternatively, I may be able to catch 2-3 hours of sleep before 'work or whatever' that happens in the morning, and then a few more hours of sleep afterwards.
BUT, unlike school years and university years when I was able to recover quickly from such situations, nowadays doing so wreaks havoc with my sleeping schedule often for a week or longer, before I can get back to my 'go to sleep in the morning, wake up in the afternoon after ~8 hours of sleep' rhythm.
Now, of course my parents warned me that my irregular sleep will bite me in the ass when I'm older, that 'my young body might be able to handle it well, but there will be consequences later down the road'. But, when my reply was to explain to my parents what needs to be done to help me switch to a diurnal lifestyle, they would COMPLETELY ignore my explanation.
Well, so much for 'good advice' from parents.
If any parents of autistic/aspie children are reading this, or to be honest, parents of any child that needs alone-time... I hope you can learn something useful from my experience.
(I think this mostly applies to teenagers? I think this started developing around secondary school)
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school sucked completely!...
I did attach myself to certain thing((s) or collections but I learned very young that these "items" are what other people want to and would or did take from me to punish or annoy or steal from me.
I stopped liking candy and if I ever got some it would be something no one else liked or I would have to hide it. I would hide my Halloween candy and the next summer I would find it and have candy and my sister would try to take it or tattle that I had candy. I became adept at eating my candy secretly and being able to save it for up to a year. LOL good times!
lol, inappropriate laughing, sometimes but usually i'm alone but not always...
i think that the "ritual behavior" could just be the most efficient way of doing something (that I have found)... That's what I tell myself. over sharing.... is that what I just did?
Argh going through more of this it's describing me to a T.
I wonder how I could get a diagnosis moving using videos like this because my doctors don't believe me LOL.
Especially in object attachment - I have a bag. I very seldomly leave the house without said bag.... my mom hates it but it's a way for me to feel safe since I know I'm prepared (it holds pens, small toolkit, portable cutlery, solar powerbank and spare charging/sync cables, over-shoe ice-grips, mini umbrella, spare shopping bag, sanitiser, phone, purse, cleansing wipes and masks). It might be considered over-doing it but it's actually come in handy
Language - Yeah. Blame my aunt for teaching me words like scrumptious and aggrivating. I was barely 3 and especially using 'aggrivating' in context (my grandad was the grandaddy of dad jokes and I hated it lol)
Clumbsiness - This might be compounded in me as my mom is dyslexic and dyspraxic, I have absolutely crap coordination and I can barely ride a bike. I can't skate in any shape or form. The only thing I can do is ride horses, and I've worked bloody hard to get as good as I am.
I carry those BIC pen with me to change the color I just like the noise of it.. I dont sleep till like 2 or 3am but wake up at 12 I can never wake up early only if its appointment or community college
I think I may have autism too but I'm also afraid of going in for a diagnosis and finding out I didn't and looking stupid lmao. But yeah one of my big things is inappropriate laughing as well, especially in serious situations but usually its cause I'm nervous or like you said ill think of a funny memory out of nowhere or a funny scenario then when I try explaining what made me laugh its not as funny to other ppl. Btw you're cute 😄🤣🤣
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I was under the impression that hyposomnia is more related to an inability to fall asleep or stay asleep when in appropriate situations, and hypersomnia is more of the inability to stay awake in times where it would likely be inappropriate, often coupled with the inability to stir into wakefulness appropriately. Am I misunderstanding something?
When it comes to echolalia, do you ever get stuck in loops? I called is getting stuck in a loop, sometimes I will be talking and a part of what I say just sticks with me for som reason, something about the way it sounds or feels like to see really speaks to me and I get stuck in a loop of saying it over and over for a little while.
Sometimes you don't even realize your doing it and that why I always to respect others in that moment and not point it out because it might embarrass the individual. When I did point it out to my boyfriend I tried to do so in a way that was more in tone to the topic he was think out loud about(I had made joke he obviously thought was really funny so I said "Sounds like you really love my jokes".
@@riannamajzoub5241 My mom had sensitive hearing so my noise or verbal stims get shut down pretty quick. :(
@@JadeDRail Do you get the comments like "Why are talking to yourself?" and/or "STOP TALKING TO YOURSELF!" Feel ya on this.
@@riannamajzoub5241 Once I was having a panic attack and I was rocking back and forth, holding my head and talking to myself and I was accused of faking a mental illness.
Ooh yeah sometimes!
Nightmares. Saw the black and white movie - the beast with 5 fingers, at the age of 6. (It was at the baby-sitters.) Had nightmares at least 3X/week for 6 years. Not good.
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I talk to my angel dust plushie he’s my security feel safe plush he helps me calm down when upset, when I lose him I freak out a little and feel a sense of anxiety and fear that I’ll never find him but I have help and eventually find him, I also have autism.
I think object attachment is something I do.. I mean, how you talk about it sounds like how I feel when my coach accidentally breaks a cup or so.. I JUST talked about this today!! Ofcourse you can't do insurance for one cup that's over a decade old, but in the 15 years of help I got from various organisations, it isn't just one cup but I lost like half of my tableware and it makes me mad and sad because to them it's just a cup here and a plate there but I lost half of my tableware because of OTHER people who arent careful enough.
I still feel bad because my coach threw away a tuft of hair from my cat who I had to let go a few moths before, it sort of broke my heart because I didn't see it happening and I would've tried to get it back if I could... Becuse it was my cats fur and I could touch something physical that was his. Would this be object attachment too?
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I have a lot of problems with sleep, mostly just not being able to fall asleep. And it's very hard for me to go to bed sometimes. Definitely has more to do with my anxiety, but it's also the fact that I want to do so many things, and I feel like I want to be more active at night.
I can get VERY attached to objects. Almost romantic and for sure sometimes s**ual. ._.' (I censor this for my own sake)
I am very much for language in several aspects, it's my most intense interest. And I care a lot about writing properly, and I really like "fancy speech".
Rituals I sure have, but not for any superstitious reason.
And yes... when people don't answer my questions it gets really annoying, but this is people being weird.
4am is my bedtime...I go to bed between 10 and midnight, an on going problem but I don;t work so it doesn't really cause any issues. As to danger..I'm very much aware of it...I just don't let it bother me or hold me back. It has in the past put me into extreme danger (trying to dive under water logged mangrove tree roots to reach a river 50ms away...I almost didn't make it. Object focus...not me really but I ALWAYS carry around a penknife (must be a Swish Army knife - Cyber model for the screw heads in it) and I replace it about every 5-8 years. Inappropriate humour, yes, but mainly just to see the confusion on someone's face (I have a very specific joke for that) ;) I did start reading a little early and ended up reading The Lord of the Rings when I was 8 (I'd finished The Hobbit so it was the next obvious thing) but using a varied and wide vocabulary just means you can be more precise in imparting what you mean. I've never really been clumsy and I do have extremely good hand/eye co-ordination (probably due to gaming for the last 38 years :P). Now...doing things the same way each and EVERY time, yep. I used to think it was to make sure I didn't forget any part of it (which did happen once...I'd forgotten to comb my hair after drying it and wondered why I was getting strange looks all the way into work) but it's part enforcing order on parts of m,y life that I don't necessarily feel exists. If we (any group I'm part of) have to be somewhere or do something in particular, I have to know what time it's going to be or has to be done by, it doesn't matter if it changes provided I get a replacement time straight away :)
5:11 I'm like that with my beyblade
I also often ask my boyfriend or mother if they're doing okey. Though you explained how it's a habit of sorts, I can imagine you're just trying to make sure that IF something were to be wrong you wouldn't overlook it by accident... That's what I recon anyway. Having somebody you love suffer in silence is a terrible feeling after all. ^^|||
You care about them a lot and I hope they both realize that they are blessed to have you and that you would give your own hide to save theirs. Proves we are human and maybe more than neurotypical society realizes.
Yeah that's true I think. I guess also I just want to show that I am being attentive.
I have slept with a plushie since... forever. I can't remember when I haven't. But I lost my wolf plushie I named Wolfy back in high school... 😢 I can't remember if he got stolen or truly lost but I brought him to school to comfort me (and I know it got me weird looks but I did my best to not care). I mirrored Kiba from Naruto and put him in my shirt. I was happy 😌 Now I have a snow leopard plushie (and a cheetah plushie as a backup) as my sleep buddy. I recently got a custom dragon plushie that represents my favorite bass singer and he's special because there's room to put in a bass speaker inside his body. So I can cuddle him and just lay there... I used to rock and forth but it hurt my back too much so 🤷
Can being on your phone, if it’s on or even off be a type of stimming?
I’m on mine a lot but not just cause it’s an electronic device with apps to play on and people to talk with, if the screen is off I still play on it, I’ll tap on it or something just to have something for my hands to do.
Hmm maybe if you're tapping on it and things but I would say your using it more as a stim aid rather then stimming itself.
i laughed when you mentioned inappropriate laughing/giggling just because i know that i 100% do that.
It's hypERsomnia that's the condition of over-sleeping. Think of hypO as low or less & hypER as high or more.
I need get help how to treat my 29 years son with Autism. He is so lonely and I have brain cancer stage 4 . I’m not be there for long time and I’m worrying about him all the time .
I have been told I laugh at inappropriate times...
It could be sarcastic or nervous laughter too. Sometimes I laugh when someone is being ridiculous not because I think its funny but I am actually disgusted and in disbelief at what I am witnessing or hearing. Give yourself some credit to that too. If your peers make ableist comments around you don't be afraid to make them the butt of your jokes.
@@riannamajzoub5241 I'm not sad about laughing at inappropriate times. It's usually because I think of something I find funny. My friends don't make fun of me for my Autism. Though I have been asked by strangers, "don't you want to be normal?" When they tried to tell me how to cure myself and I said I don't want a cure. Thanks for the encouragement.
I used to fear all the time as a kid.I was scared that i could be hurt by everything.
Sleep works oddly for me. I usually have trouble falling asleep but when I sleep I can sleep the entire day without even being tired. I have to force myself awake everytime and it's usually 1 or 2 pm...
.... I made friends with tumbleweeds when I was a child. And balloons.