yup, they are damaged goods. They also don't see their flaws. My ex cheated on me for 28 years, but me being fat was enough for him to torture me daily. Meanwhile, I gained weight carrying his children. I am back to my preferred weight, and my divorce came through on 17 March 2023. Single, ready to heal and mingle (eventually). 🥳🥳💃💃💃
Mine kept getting pissed at me for things that were just part of my personality (any of the annoying traits that anyone has) & further pissed because I wouldn’t stop/change despite the fact that kept telling me things bothered him, as if I could do that. He essentially fell in love with me & then spent 7 years being mad at me for not being something different.
Thank you. I wondered what happened. One day I woke up and I had become insignificant and unimportant while I was sleeping. I was SUDDENLY a bother, unpleasant and unworthy of attention overnight. Gut punched from the pedestal with every ounce of strength available. And then metaphorically kicked when I hit bottom. Then came being physically avoided and 9 months of weaponized silent treatment. I will never know what happened and it's been long enough that I don't care. Narcissists teach us valuable lessons when we treat them the way they treat us. I didn't just leave, I ERASED all traces of that life, even though he begged and pleaded and said all the right things that should have pulled me back in. The strength to do that came from places like Mental Healness, Ramani, & Tudor. I watch you to keep me alert and protecting myself. Also to cement it in my brain that it was not me. Thank you.
My narcissist started blaming everything on my ptsd and bipolar disorder every time I called him out on his bs 😂. I had been with this man on and off for 26 years and the more I gave him the more he wanted and the minute I finally said no he forgot about everything I ever done for him. I finally got rid of him three months ago and cut off all contact at first until Father’s Day , unfortunately we have a 9 year old son together so I have to co parent with him. Father’s Day was a nightmare. I allowed him to come to my moms house because we had Father’s Day dinner there and he basically spent his whole day trying to get me back. I left mentally exhausted
Same! I feel this same way. And know I truly would’ve ended up dying wondering why my life is this way and why I’m always so confused. Yet in the same breath telling her she’s my best friend and how much I love her. Feels like Stockholm syndrome, it all hit at once.
4k! 🙂👍 The two last narcissist vanished that day when I saw that they are not what they appear to be. Then... puff 💨 gone. I hope I could recognize the next one earlier 🙄
I was with a toxic person she at first seemed to accept my flaws.but for some unknown reason unfortunately she stuck with me and just continued to pick at my flaws or anything I did wrong and hung it over me. It broke me down. I was constantly put on the shelf and taken off the shelf like a toy. We’re all flawed. It was funny because she kept saying that when she’s “less than perfect” is when I’d lose it but for her being less than perfect was when she was being emotionally and sometimes verbally abusive. She’d get narcissistic angry and just be like “ that’s me if you love me you have to let me be me”. She was almost always angry particularly right after intimacy which is when the chemicals in your brain should make you happiest. Woman literally drove me crazy and I almost checked myself in several times to a mental institution.
4K! You are right longevity means nothing. It was 6 years before he dropped the mask at all and admitted the marraige was a calculated sham on his part.
Thank you for your videos and bless you! You’re healing amazing! no shame admitting flaws I always say mine but the traditional narcissist can’t and god bless you
My ex said she wanted a perfect relationship. Everything that seemed like I was discarding her, like hanging with my friends, even though she had to work, or telling her not to waste my time...she used that in every argument every single time. When I had a concern and addressed it with her, I was suppose to just get over it because it "wasn't that serious" to her. 4K
I've seen this in the narcissts I know. It's called splitting. It's one of the key signs for me of someone probably being a narcissist versus maybe just selfish or something else. Someone who sees everything in black and white is a suprisingly toxic and dangerous person to be around. You might think at first that they're just kind of difficult, but I've learned the hard way that if they see you like this, they see almost EVERYTHING like this, which means they really cannot regulate their emotions or think in any kind of rational way when something bad happens to think. They act out in extreme ways when things don't go their way and they often spend a LOT of time trying to force things to go their way and heaven protect you if you get in their way. They're often prone to being vindictive when things don't go their way as well because all they can see is the extremes, as in if they didn't win, someone else won over them or beat them. It's actually pretty scary to be around people who think like this.
I've had to compete with my MIL for my own husband for the past 5-6 years. My husband and I now have 2 kids of our own, and I want us to do our own family things, rather than everything that my MIL wants to do. Recently I told her "No" we were not going to attend Father's Day at her house because we had our own plans, (she told me to "sacrifice", as if I have not been doing exactly that), so she told my husband to divorce me. I've been discarded because I'm done being a part of this "fantasy family" that my MIL has in her head--finally!
Not sure why I reply I didn't cause any of this ... 40 yrs yes I was stupid I've had enough I'd rather die then sort threw this b..s... nothing left of me. ..done!
I’m helping a male friend his awful to me 😢I’m not perfect I agree I talk too much when drinking. But my god I help support and I’m still not good enough
“If you would just listen to me, you could actually make something of yourself but you wanna be hard headed. You would be nothing without me” verbatim of him. He has literally compared me to being a busted down car he views he needs to fix. 😐😑
I truly appreciate you for having the strength to open up to your own diagnosis and to try help us understand what we're going through with the people diagnosed with the same thing as you. I Follow you on Facebook and Tiktok, and subscribed here as well. I really appreciate. This one has really opened up my eyes to why my narcissistic friend has "turned" on me like he did. Light and Love to you🤎🌟🤎 Thanks so much!
We all have flaws but a narcissist will place too much emphasis on your flaws to where they define who you are based on your flaws.
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yup, they are damaged goods. They also don't see their flaws. My ex cheated on me for 28 years, but me being fat was enough for him to torture me daily. Meanwhile, I gained weight carrying his children. I am back to my preferred weight, and my divorce came through on 17 March 2023. Single, ready to heal and mingle (eventually). 🥳🥳💃💃💃
Omg yes! Literally! But according to him I can’t handle hearing the “truth” that no one else will tell me
Mine kept getting pissed at me for things that were just part of my personality (any of the annoying traits that anyone has) & further pissed because I wouldn’t stop/change despite the fact that kept telling me things bothered him, as if I could do that. He essentially fell in love with me & then spent 7 years being mad at me for not being something different.
Accepting a persons flaws and imperfections is a true expression of love that a narcissist could never give.
Amen
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It really is. But sometimes they fake being understanding of your flaws in order to get what they want so you have to be careful of them.
Lee the crazy thing when I was with him i was angry all the time always defending myself ,you are one great man on the healing path God bless you
Thank you. I wondered what happened. One day I woke up and I had become insignificant and unimportant while I was sleeping. I was SUDDENLY a bother, unpleasant and unworthy of attention overnight. Gut punched from the pedestal with every ounce of strength available. And then metaphorically kicked when I hit bottom. Then came being physically avoided and 9 months of weaponized silent treatment. I will never know what happened and it's been long enough that I don't care. Narcissists teach us valuable lessons when we treat them the way they treat us. I didn't just leave, I ERASED all traces of that life, even though he begged and pleaded and said all the right things that should have pulled me back in.
The strength to do that came from places like Mental Healness, Ramani, & Tudor. I watch you to keep me alert and protecting myself. Also to cement it in my brain that it was not me.
Thank you.
🙏🏽
My narcissist started blaming everything on my ptsd and bipolar disorder every time I called him out on his bs 😂. I had been with this man on and off for 26 years and the more I gave him the more he wanted and the minute I finally said no he forgot about everything I ever done for him. I finally got rid of him three months ago and cut off all contact at first until Father’s Day , unfortunately we have a 9 year old son together so I have to co parent with him. Father’s Day was a nightmare. I allowed him to come to my moms house because we had Father’s Day dinner there and he basically spent his whole day trying to get me back. I left mentally exhausted
I would of died for my narcissist but not now the fog lifted .
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Amen 🙏 💖 good for you getting free!
Same! I feel this same way. And know I truly would’ve ended up dying wondering why my life is this way and why I’m always so confused. Yet in the same breath telling her she’s my best friend and how much I love her. Feels like Stockholm syndrome, it all hit at once.
4k! 🙂👍
The two last narcissist vanished that day when I saw that they are not what they appear to be. Then... puff 💨 gone. I hope I could recognize the next one earlier 🙄
💯🙌🏾
I was with a toxic person she at first seemed to accept my flaws.but for some unknown reason unfortunately she stuck with me and just continued to pick at my flaws or anything I did wrong and hung it over me. It broke me down. I was constantly put on the shelf and taken off the shelf like a toy. We’re all flawed. It was funny because she kept saying that when she’s “less than perfect” is when I’d lose it but for her being less than perfect was when she was being emotionally and sometimes verbally abusive. She’d get narcissistic angry and just be like “ that’s me if you love me you have to let me be me”. She was almost always angry particularly right after intimacy which is when the chemicals in your brain should make you happiest. Woman literally drove me crazy and I almost checked myself in several times to a mental institution.
When I said No he kicked me out of his house (visiting from out of state).
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@@MentalHealness worst day of my life. ❤️🩹💔😢
4K! You are right longevity means nothing. It was 6 years before he dropped the mask at all and admitted the marraige was a calculated sham on his part.
🙌🏾
Thank you for your videos and bless you!
You’re healing amazing!
no shame admitting flaws I always say mine but the traditional narcissist can’t and god bless you
My ex said she wanted a perfect relationship. Everything that seemed like I was discarding her, like hanging with my friends, even though she had to work, or telling her not to waste my time...she used that in every argument every single time. When I had a concern and addressed it with her, I was suppose to just get over it because it "wasn't that serious" to her. 4K
I've seen this in the narcissts I know. It's called splitting. It's one of the key signs for me of someone probably being a narcissist versus maybe just selfish or something else. Someone who sees everything in black and white is a suprisingly toxic and dangerous person to be around. You might think at first that they're just kind of difficult, but I've learned the hard way that if they see you like this, they see almost EVERYTHING like this, which means they really cannot regulate their emotions or think in any kind of rational way when something bad happens to think. They act out in extreme ways when things don't go their way and they often spend a LOT of time trying to force things to go their way and heaven protect you if you get in their way. They're often prone to being vindictive when things don't go their way as well because all they can see is the extremes, as in if they didn't win, someone else won over them or beat them. It's actually pretty scary to be around people who think like this.
Super informative ❤
I've had to compete with my MIL for my own husband for the past 5-6 years. My husband and I now have 2 kids of our own, and I want us to do our own family things, rather than everything that my MIL wants to do. Recently I told her "No" we were not going to attend Father's Day at her house because we had our own plans, (she told me to "sacrifice", as if I have not been doing exactly that), so she told my husband to divorce me. I've been discarded because I'm done being a part of this "fantasy family" that my MIL has in her head--finally!
Not sure why I reply I didn't cause any of this ... 40 yrs yes I was stupid I've had enough I'd rather die then sort threw this b..s... nothing left of me. ..done!
Unconditional love is simple, but not to a narcissist 😝
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Good stuff! Thanks for this Lee! 👌
I’m helping a male friend his awful to me 😢I’m not perfect I agree I talk too much when drinking.
But my god I help support and I’m still not good enough
So a narcissist also has borderline personality disorder?
Very similar. A borderline is also narcissistic when you think about it.
Some do.
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“If you would just listen to me, you could actually make something of yourself but you wanna be hard headed. You would be nothing without me” verbatim of him. He has literally compared me to being a busted down car he views he needs to fix. 😐😑
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I truly appreciate you for having the strength to open up to your own diagnosis and to try help us understand what we're going through with the people diagnosed with the same thing as you. I Follow you on Facebook and Tiktok, and subscribed here as well. I really appreciate. This one has really opened up my eyes to why my narcissistic friend has "turned" on me like he did. Light and Love to you🤎🌟🤎 Thanks so much!
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