It’s sad with them viewing things so skewed because usually they have toxic family or another toxic surrounding of people that support and enable the deranged actions and viewpoints. They never surround themselves with decent people and if they do they abuse them
My mother thought she could permanently abuse me and there would be no consequences further down the line. Despite the abuse she really believed I would still be around to do her bidding and care for her when she was old. IT didn't happen. Life is a game of consequences.
Accountability is not on the narcissist menu. Like groceries aren't on the hardware stores menu. We don't carry that here. Also, when they accuse you of something they find you didn’t do. They Never apologize. Narcissist do think, but totally irrationally.
This really helped me. I'm a retired teacher and am reviewing my whole life through this new lens of narcissism knowledge. I had a colleague my age, and she and my husband would go out for dinner occasionally. He was an art teacher and an excellent artist. The 3 of us were discussing Picasso. She stated he was a complete fake, and that anyone who likes his work is like the people in the Emperor's New Clothes. I asked her "Is it possible other people see things you don't?" She said "No-there is nothing there to see". !!!! She later distanced herself from me and you helped me process why. Mystery solved. WOW. I really feel sorry for these people. I have been surrounded by them, but am learning how to recognize them and avoid them. thank you. You have excellent communication skills!
reminds me of the concept of lacking theory of mind - magical thinking + emotional non thinking + incapacity to predict what is going on inside minds of others (not that they are interested). But they do have difficulty with that.
Narcissists don't WANT to HAVE TO think. What they say SHOULD be the truth to everyone with no questioning. Having to explain, justify and be questioned is to them a deviation from their grandiosity. Yet, if someone else just claims stuff about them, they defend and defend, meaning that they will never accept treatment that they dish out to others, entitlement. That's a concise description and already fits intellectual laziness, entitlement, grandiosity and the resulting delusion (their accusations do not correspond with evidence most of the time, yet they refuse all evidence that points to them being a perpetrator. It's like they never learned to use reason and think that who is right is about a yelling-contest and total refusal to back down on claims).
OMGosh!! So completely said!😢😅 It makes me want to laugh and cry! My narc is caught in this endless cycle. And while it is so sad to watch, I have to safeguard myself! I'm slowly detaching.. finally realizing that I'll never be able to fix it. After all, we're both only human. And that it's ok to let go and let a higher power step in and guide this person to another destiny. One very different than mine. It takes a weight off my shoulders! We share a history together, but now the madness can finally end!🎉
Your ending words are the most important: “IT IS A WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY TO TRY TO ENGAGE IN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH A NARCISSIST ! ITS A CONSTANT ENDLESS CIRCLE TILL THE END OF TIME!! “ Accepting this FACT/TRUTH makes us stand up and jump out of the spinning circle.
I know of a situation where a wife wanted to further her education (attend dental school) while the husband wanted another child. And realistically even though they had the money, he didn’t want to pay for school. He never got up at night to help with the children and the wife knew that she wouldn’t be able to handle everything with the children on her own and go to a demanding program/have time to study at the same time. After he got what he wanted (another child) and even though the wife was happy, the children were healthy and fine, the husband began to complain that the wife never followed through with the plan for higher education. He wouldn’t admit that it was magical thinking to believe that she could go without sleep day and night, while he frequently traveled without the family and enjoyed a self centered life.
My extremely narc daughter and family are members of country club and spend all summer at pool; I’ve taken them fishing on docks; I’ve waded with them in lakes. I assumed they could all swim. Ages 9, 12, 14. She was even on swim team. But at a holiday event where anyone getting in water was screened by lifeguards for swimming ability, all 3 grandchildren were immediately pulled out of pool! They couldn’t swim!!! This is the way my daughter is in everything!! Everything!! She got mad when I told her I was the only one in family who could rush and rescue kids from a school shooter, since I was in Infantry for 12 years. She got angry and said she could do it too! She’s a buzybody stay at home mom who rarely cooks, leaves kids home alone when sick and only 9, without feeding them. She’s the busiest person I’ve ever seen but nothing is ever done. 😜
Because it's too busy thinking about how they're gonna turn this conversation back to themselves. Or to avoid the conversation by talking about something else. And they can't think because their brain is full of thinking of how they're gonna one up you. That's what their focuses
I recall a comment in one of your written pages: Let go of my need or hope that I can get through to them. I’ve never been a quitter in anything. I have tons of perseverance and unfortunately, tolerance for pain. But narcissists are endless, eternal pain.
Thank you so much for your amazing, invaluable insight on these things. It makes so much sense when applied to my situation. I finally understand after all these years. Just left with my children. Hardest thing I have ever done. Thank God for people who care to help others, like you. Understanding is so crucial. 💜
They do not accept input from others because they consider themselves to be already perfect. Yet when they make mistakes, which should demonstrate to them they are not perfect, they stay stuck in considering themselves to be perfect because they can blame someone or something other than themselves.
I'm reminded of a narcissistic family member who would always complain about work and paint herself as the victim--because she felt entitled to not do work; She would admit to being "too busy" to help her team. Yet in her mind, she was hardworking and the best person in her department, so her supervisor should retire/move over so she could take over. Fast-forward several years and there is no promotion. Her supervisor has retired, yes, but she's doing the extra work, with her same title and pay. It just goes to show that she never thought about the consequences towards her actual poor work ethic 🤦♀
Your message is clear, to the point and easy to follow. To be honest your information on narcissists is really best I've found. It suits me more than other channels. Thanks!
Exactly Narcissists think they know everything. Many of these narcissists become executives. They are hard on their employees and even harder on their own children. My father was like this and changed the last few years of his life. He has already done permanent damage. He always ds he NEVER made a mistake He was delusional. That way of thinking is rewarded in American corporations.
I feel the confusion, fog and nausea lift away as you talk. I think gut confusion disappears with knowing the truth. The most uncomfortable truth is far better than the smallest lie. I love truth. They hate it. Crazy 😜
It has drove me insane that my wife will repeat the same mistakes. I could never figure out the cause of it I brought it up many times. This video helps me understand my situation so much
Magical thinking indeed. I ended up in a company like this, working with people like this - it made me sick. It's cumulative. You dont exactly learn to cope with this... Instead you need to regenerate after having to deal with them
The description of the nonsense they talk is so familiar. I often end up saying, “I hate it when you talk a load of twaddle”. The rest of the symptoms described are also very familiar. Worse still, is my experience is with the covert narcs. Very sly, inveterate liars, entirely shameless.
A merry-go-round or a hamster wheel. Yup, round and round you go until you get off. You're wobbly at first until you get you land legs back. You sit down and kiss the ground in thanks.
You have a very good way of getting your message across. One of my spouse's feelings of thought is this, each time I would smell something burning or a fowl odor I would say whats that smell and she would say she don't smell anything. It would confuse me but now I understand more of why she don't smell what I smell. She don't smell It but I do, so if she doesn't smell the odor to her it doesn't smell bad. So since she don't smell it it must not smell, I know this doesn't sound logical but this is how they confuse you. They are not doing it on purpose It's how they feel. I use to think she does it on purpose to confuse me but now I know this is not a strategy to confuse, this is their feeling so if they feel it It must be true. Now I know not to argue with her. Thank you.
I would say 'contradiction' & 'no self reflection' (no accountability) is their Best definition. If you say: A, they Will answer B and you Will go to Z because they are not logical but contradiction creatures. Where you are at, they Will be in the opposition. Always. It is not about the truth or logic but about winning and pride.
The idea of a "FLYING MONKEY" I know a Narcissist that went on a mission to start a dance school. Then a food truck. One day we went out to buy some Soul Food . She didn't get the Mac Cheese with her order. But food is spread out. With Mac Cheese. She's looking at her order with out the Mac Cheese, But Mac Cheese is right in her face. I'm like there's Mac Cheese right here. I had to point out the Mac Cheese, because she only concerned that they didn't give her order Mac Cheese. Hey stupid, all this Mac Cheese is right in front of ya face. Like a little child I had to guide her. They don't think on the most simplest circumstances.
I’m totally looking into getting a patent on the idea of magic carpets, now, btw. That’s golden. Surely… some … vague nameless CEO will be willing to meet immediately… Dolling out an excess of praise, insurmountable funds, and parades. Obviously 😂 (I love that analogy. And yeah. I think I have a pretty good idea what you’re referring to. Very relatable experiences. It’s… really something…)
Well put... my narc started a business venture with an x on the weekends..... Every time I asked her about the finances she would lash out at me. 6 months later of course they could not longer work together she was impossible to work with. He kept asking about the budget cause it was all her 100% of financing this project. I told her he was just using her and she would not admit it. I came to find out they had a intimate relationship the whole time... im 3 weeks no contact.. and shes still chasing him when he just ignores her. Thats probably her karma. Used me as a place holder. Her unrealistic expectations were thru the roof. There was no stopping her. At the end I exposed her... she reacted as expected. DARVO.
03:25 that is not true they are literally able to control their emotions to a pinpoint and they know exactly what they are doing and that it's not u but them
I have seen a narc change from a beaming face to somebody, as if punched in their solar plexus in a millisecond because they thought they were criticised🤔
There are occasions where they fly off of their handle! Usually, to the observer, it is nothing at all, but to the narc it is an innate trigger, and they can not control it
SO HAPPY WITH YOUR VIDEOS- ANY CHANCE U COULD RE RELEASE OLD ONES WITHOUT THE MUSIC? it comes anoying and i cant finish the video- but the content is great!
“Wise Quote of the Day: "Don't blame a clown for acting like a clown. Blame yourself for going to the circus." -unknown 😁🥵😂🧐 Stay out of the endless loop of narcs.
If they don't or can't think ,why are they ashamed, why would how would they have a deep seated anxiety of being inferior, they obviously don't as you would change, I'm not disputing they are very very sick but the enjoyment the smiling at their victims sorry, its like they want to test god I think they mess up think their gonna never have to change and then reality sets in and their screwed, rightly so
Great perspective on narcissism. My question is, at what point in life do narcissist decide they know everything & stop wanting to learn? As far as self reflection that may start at childhood.
I don't agree they are ruled by emotions, because they don't have many emotions apart from anger, they are ruled by anger, hatred and paranoia, the are incapable of love, I can be 😊crying, in hospital after suicide attempts and my sister is as happy as pie! Most of the time they seem to to use a psychiatric term have no affect, i have had this term applied to me when i have been , but they are cunning, they have very little heart 💕 centre operative, although I thought i saw some in one sister when I was emaciated trapped in hospital, she carried on such a charming intelligent conversation with the nurse i was impressed, this is why people think there is nothing wrong with them, my psychiatrist thinks they are wonderful caring people!. They are ruled by jealousy, envy, big time and don't ever try to gain dominance over them!❤ i would love to be invisible and watch them all day, they are indulgent in food and pleasure but work hard, very hard workers! 😅
Funny story... My Nex and I were at the computer and some thing popped up about foot problems and how having your second toe being longer than your big toe could be the cause of foot pain. He goes off on a rant that having a longer second toe was a freaky disfigurement. I mentioned to him that HIS second toes were longer that his big toes and he started yelling at me like I was intentionally criticizing and attacking him. We went back and forth a few times as I tried to get him to take off his shoes and socks. Finally he relented to prove me wrong... He just stood up and stomped out of the room to go and pout. He had said that he hated that I was never wrong (because I won't engage if I am not absolutley certain of my perspective) and I like to fight. 😂
My sister ran a successful legal firm in Newcastle Australia 🇦🇺 andfor years yet she is npd and has had a very successful career in this profession, she is very smart in her chosen career yet she is an emotional cripple, no heart, i think this has been a bonus, she is ruthless, ehereas i would be worried about making everyone happy, I also have cptsd❤ so i wouldn't be able to cope, i'm a very emotional, caring type, artist!z
My ex-wife convinced me of starting a business with her, she was extremely delusional, she took me with her to a sinkhole and when things didn't work out the way she expected she discarded me leaving me ruined, without my kids and with cancer. Devil impersonation.
The one i dealt with lacked braincells and i just tossed her out of my life. When people lack self awareness and refuse to change to improve our relationship then its basically a waste of my time to keep things up when therres no change in sight.
The absence of self-curiosity is an outstanding way to spot a Narcissist.
As is the lack of accountability
They don’t think. But they think they’re smarter than they are.
“Narcs don’t even want to think, because thinking leads to conclusions, and conclusions can be very uncomfortable. 🥵”
They are like animals! Instinct motivated
That's an insult to animals because animals have way more empathy than narcs but I get what you are saying
I live with one. Always a victim, irrationally angry, incapable of thinking things through, self absorbed, conceited, envious and entitled.
It’s sad with them viewing things so skewed because usually they have toxic family or another toxic surrounding of people that support and enable the deranged actions and viewpoints. They never surround themselves with decent people and if they do they abuse them
My mother thought she could permanently abuse me and there would be no consequences further down the line. Despite the abuse she really believed I would still be around to do her bidding and care for her when she was old. IT didn't happen. Life is a game of consequences.
“Wherever there are ignorance and confusion, there are always lies.”
Their lack of whole object relations and empathy make it impossible to solve actual problems. No authentic self means no self-reflection is possible.
Exactly
Accountability is not on the narcissist menu. Like groceries aren't on the hardware stores menu. We don't carry that here. Also, when they accuse you of something they find you didn’t do. They Never apologize. Narcissist do think, but totally irrationally.
This really helped me. I'm a retired teacher and am reviewing my whole life through this new lens of narcissism knowledge. I had a colleague my age, and she and my husband would go out for dinner occasionally. He was an art teacher and an excellent artist. The 3 of us were discussing Picasso. She stated he was a complete fake, and that anyone who likes his work is like the people in the Emperor's New Clothes. I asked her "Is it possible other people see things you don't?" She said "No-there is nothing there to see". !!!! She later distanced herself from me and you helped me process why. Mystery solved. WOW. I really feel sorry for these people. I have been surrounded by them, but am learning how to recognize them and avoid them. thank you. You have excellent communication skills!
Thank you! I’m glad you’re finding my content helpful.
Facts
@@LookingBehindtheMirroravoidence will only make us sadder be sure tp be very clear
reminds me of the concept of lacking theory of mind - magical thinking + emotional non thinking + incapacity to predict what is going on inside minds of others (not that they are interested). But they do have difficulty with that.
Narcissists don't WANT to HAVE TO think. What they say SHOULD be the truth to everyone with no questioning. Having to explain, justify and be questioned is to them a deviation from their grandiosity. Yet, if someone else just claims stuff about them, they defend and defend, meaning that they will never accept treatment that they dish out to others, entitlement.
That's a concise description and already fits intellectual laziness, entitlement, grandiosity and the resulting delusion (their accusations do not correspond with evidence most of the time, yet they refuse all evidence that points to them being a perpetrator. It's like they never learned to use reason and think that who is right is about a yelling-contest and total refusal to back down on claims).
They don’t like to think. Thinking leads to conclusions. And conclusions can be very uncomfortable 😳🥵🧨
They will tell you they are taking responsibility for something and the next day they will be back to blaming it on you.
Truth
Nailed it. Borderlines too.
Yeah, when you think you know everything and you're never wrong. Why would you need to learn anything
OMGosh!! So completely said!😢😅 It makes me want to laugh and cry! My narc is caught in this endless cycle. And while it is so sad to watch, I have to safeguard myself! I'm slowly detaching.. finally realizing that I'll never be able to fix it. After all, we're both only human. And that it's ok to let go and let a higher power step in and guide this person to another destiny. One very different than mine. It takes a weight off my shoulders! We share a history together, but now the madness can finally end!🎉
Beautifully said ❤
Your ending words are the most important: “IT IS A WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY TO TRY TO ENGAGE IN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH A NARCISSIST ! ITS A CONSTANT ENDLESS CIRCLE TILL THE END OF TIME!! “
Accepting this FACT/TRUTH makes us stand up and jump out of the spinning circle.
I know of a situation where a wife wanted to further her education (attend dental school) while the husband wanted another child. And realistically even though they had the money, he didn’t want to pay for school. He never got up at night to help with the children and the wife knew that she wouldn’t be able to handle everything with the children on her own and go to a demanding program/have time to study at the same time.
After he got what he wanted (another child) and even though the wife was happy, the children were healthy and fine, the husband began to complain that the wife never followed through with the plan for higher education. He wouldn’t admit that it was magical thinking to believe that she could go without sleep day and night, while he frequently traveled without the family and enjoyed a self centered life.
My extremely narc daughter and family are members of country club and spend all summer at pool; I’ve taken them fishing on docks; I’ve waded with them in lakes. I assumed they could all swim. Ages 9, 12, 14. She was even on swim team. But at a holiday event where anyone getting in water was screened by lifeguards for swimming ability, all 3 grandchildren were immediately pulled out of pool! They couldn’t swim!!! This is the way my daughter is in everything!! Everything!! She got mad when I told her I was the only one in family who could rush and rescue kids from a school shooter, since I was in Infantry for 12 years. She got angry and said she could do it too! She’s a buzybody stay at home mom who rarely cooks, leaves kids home alone when sick and only 9, without feeding them. She’s the busiest person I’ve ever seen but nothing is ever done. 😜
Because it's too busy thinking about how they're gonna turn this conversation back to themselves. Or to avoid the conversation by talking about something else. And they can't think because their brain is full of thinking of how they're gonna one up you. That's what their focuses
I recall a comment in one of your written pages: Let go of my need or hope that I can get through to them. I’ve never been a quitter in anything. I have tons of perseverance and unfortunately, tolerance for pain. But narcissists are endless, eternal pain.
Thank you so much for your amazing, invaluable insight on these things. It makes so much sense when applied to my situation. I finally understand after all these years. Just left with my children. Hardest thing I have ever done. Thank God for people who care to help others, like you. Understanding is so crucial. 💜
They do not accept input from others because they consider themselves to be already perfect.
Yet when they make mistakes, which should demonstrate to them they are not perfect, they stay stuck in considering themselves to be perfect because they can blame someone or something other than themselves.
Once you see their patterns, you'll notice that they're dumber than a second coat of paint.
I'm reminded of a narcissistic family member who would always complain about work and paint herself as the victim--because she felt entitled to not do work; She would admit to being "too busy" to help her team. Yet in her mind, she was hardworking and the best person in her department, so her supervisor should retire/move over so she could take over. Fast-forward several years and there is no promotion. Her supervisor has retired, yes, but she's doing the extra work, with her same title and pay. It just goes to show that she never thought about the consequences towards her actual poor work ethic 🤦♀
Your message is clear, to the point and easy to follow.
To be honest your information on narcissists is really best I've found. It suits me more than other channels. Thanks!
Thanks for watching! I’m so glad I could be helpful!
I second this.
@@nopereradicatorI third this! Beats everyone, hands down.
Exactly Narcissists think they know everything. Many of these narcissists become executives. They are hard on their employees and even harder on their own children. My father was like this and changed the last few years of his life. He has already done permanent damage. He always ds he NEVER made a mistake He was delusional. That way of thinking is rewarded in American corporations.
I feel the confusion, fog and nausea lift away as you talk. I think gut confusion disappears with knowing the truth. The most uncomfortable truth is far better than the smallest lie. I love truth. They hate it. Crazy 😜
It has drove me insane that my wife will repeat the same mistakes. I could never figure out the cause of it I brought it up many times. This video helps me understand my situation so much
Well said young lady thank you❤
Amazing lecture!! Thanks so much, this is so helpful. I appreciate your honesty, sense of humor and very easy to listen and relate!
When I first met my baby father, he said f... Feelings he told me feelings didn't matter. One day I said oh now you got feelings 😂
Heartbreaking 😢
You nail it 100% of the time.
Non-sensical phrases = word salad 🥗
Excellent!
Magical thinking indeed. I ended up in a company like this, working with people like this - it made me sick.
It's cumulative. You dont exactly learn to cope with this... Instead you need to regenerate after having to deal with them
The description of the nonsense they talk is so familiar. I often end up saying, “I hate it when you talk a load of twaddle”. The rest of the symptoms described are also very familiar. Worse still, is my experience is with the covert narcs. Very sly, inveterate liars, entirely shameless.
Thank you for pointing out the why of the behavior. Very informative.
A merry-go-round or a hamster wheel. Yup, round and round you go until you get off. You're wobbly at first until you get you land legs back. You sit down and kiss the ground in thanks.
Urgh. Many members of my family.
You have a very good way of getting your message across. One of my spouse's feelings of thought is this, each time I would smell something burning or a fowl odor I would say whats that smell and she would say she don't smell anything. It would confuse me but now I understand more of why she don't smell what I smell. She don't smell It but I do, so if she doesn't smell the odor to her it doesn't smell bad. So since she don't smell it it must not smell, I know this doesn't sound logical but this is how they confuse you. They are not doing it on purpose It's how they feel. I use to think she does it on purpose to confuse me but now I know this is not a strategy to confuse, this is their feeling so if they feel it It must be true. Now I know not to argue with her. Thank you.
I would say 'contradiction' & 'no self reflection' (no accountability) is their Best definition. If you say: A, they Will answer B and you Will go to Z because they are not logical but contradiction creatures. Where you are at, they Will be in the opposition. Always. It is not about the truth or logic but about winning and pride.
@@kantik2118 Yes the opposition, sometimes they really are doing things on purpose. They have major control issues.
The idea of a "FLYING MONKEY"
I know a Narcissist that went on a mission to start a dance school.
Then a food truck.
One day we went out to buy some Soul Food . She didn't get the Mac Cheese with her order. But food is spread out. With Mac Cheese. She's looking at her order with out the Mac Cheese, But Mac Cheese is right in her face. I'm like there's Mac Cheese right here.
I had to point out the Mac Cheese, because she only concerned that they didn't give her order Mac Cheese.
Hey stupid, all this Mac Cheese is right in front of ya face.
Like a little child I had to guide her.
They don't think on the most simplest circumstances.
So excellent!
I’m totally looking into getting a patent on the idea of magic carpets, now, btw.
That’s golden.
Surely…
some … vague nameless CEO will be willing to meet immediately…
Dolling out an excess of praise, insurmountable funds, and parades.
Obviously
😂
(I love that analogy.
And yeah. I think I have a pretty good idea what you’re referring to. Very relatable experiences. It’s… really something…)
Yeah. I just had an idea that we could invent a cure for cancer. I better go patent that before someone else thinks of it.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror hahahahah
You have a gift thank You
Yes - gifted. By far the best channel on narcissism.
My ex would say he doesn't think when he doesn't talk
Well put... my narc started a business venture with an x on the weekends..... Every time I asked her about the finances she would lash out at me. 6 months later of course they could not longer work together she was impossible to work with. He kept asking about the budget cause it was all her 100% of financing this project. I told her he was just using her and she would not admit it. I came to find out they had a intimate relationship the whole time... im 3 weeks no contact.. and shes still chasing him when he just ignores her. Thats probably her karma. Used me as a place holder. Her unrealistic expectations were thru the roof. There was no stopping her. At the end I exposed her... she reacted as expected. DARVO.
Emotionally, they are in the same developmental stage as toddlers.
Well articulated
spot on
03:25 that is not true they are literally able to control their emotions to a pinpoint and they know exactly what they are doing and that it's not u but them
I have seen a narc change from a beaming face to somebody, as if punched in their solar plexus in a millisecond because they thought they were criticised🤔
There are occasions where they fly off of their handle!
Usually, to the observer, it is nothing at all, but to the narc it is an innate trigger, and they can not control it
@@PeterShaw-ne1yqYep! Can’t criticize or offer helpful information/feedback. Only can throw bouquets of roses at them!
SO HAPPY WITH YOUR VIDEOS- ANY CHANCE U COULD RE RELEASE OLD ONES WITHOUT THE MUSIC? it comes anoying and i cant finish the video- but the content is great!
Thank your for your Vid though
“Wise Quote of the Day:
"Don't blame a clown for acting like a clown. Blame yourself for going to the circus." -unknown 😁🥵😂🧐
Stay out of the endless loop of narcs.
Zero self awareness from my experience
If they don't or can't think ,why are they ashamed, why would how would they have a deep seated anxiety of being inferior, they obviously don't as you would change, I'm not disputing they are very very sick but the enjoyment the smiling at their victims sorry, its like they want to test god I think they mess up think their gonna never have to change and then reality sets in and their screwed, rightly so
they will take the shirt off ur back n then walk out the door leaving u naked
Great perspective on narcissism. My question is, at what point in life do narcissist decide they know everything & stop wanting to learn?
As far as self reflection that may start at childhood.
I don't agree they are ruled by emotions, because they don't have many emotions apart from anger, they are ruled by anger, hatred and paranoia, the are incapable of love, I can be 😊crying, in hospital after suicide attempts and my sister is as happy as pie! Most of the time they seem to to use a psychiatric term have no affect, i have had this term applied to me when i have been , but they are cunning, they have very little heart 💕 centre operative, although I thought i saw some in one sister when I was emaciated trapped in hospital, she carried on such a charming intelligent conversation with the nurse i was impressed, this is why people think there is nothing wrong with them, my psychiatrist thinks they are wonderful caring people!. They are ruled by jealousy, envy, big time and don't ever try to gain dominance over them!❤ i would love to be invisible and watch them all day, they are indulgent in food and pleasure but work hard, very hard workers! 😅
Funny story... My Nex and I were at the computer and some thing popped up about foot problems and how having your second toe being longer than your big toe could be the cause of foot pain. He goes off on a rant that having a longer second toe was a freaky disfigurement. I mentioned to him that HIS second toes were longer that his big toes and he started yelling at me like I was intentionally criticizing and attacking him. We went back and forth a few times as I tried to get him to take off his shoes and socks. Finally he relented to prove me wrong... He just stood up and stomped out of the room to go and pout.
He had said that he hated that I was never wrong (because I won't engage if I am not absolutley certain of my perspective) and I like to fight. 😂
My sister ran a successful legal firm in Newcastle Australia 🇦🇺 andfor years yet she is npd and has had a very successful career in this profession, she is very smart in her chosen career yet she is an emotional cripple, no heart, i think this has been a bonus, she is ruthless, ehereas i would be worried about making everyone happy, I also have cptsd❤ so i wouldn't be able to cope, i'm a very emotional, caring type, artist!z
My ex-wife convinced me of starting a business with her, she was extremely delusional, she took me with her to a sinkhole and when things didn't work out the way she expected she discarded me leaving me ruined, without my kids and with cancer. Devil impersonation.
The one i dealt with lacked braincells and i just tossed her out of my life. When people lack self awareness and refuse to change to improve our relationship then its basically a waste of my time to keep things up when therres no change in sight.
they aren't worth it please leave
You are describing James Allchurch. Google his name. I know, I lived with him.