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So besides your own life experiences 😂, & U studying corey Wayne's teachings what makes you qualified for giving 🤔 relationship/Dating advice!? Just curious 😜
There isn't anyone in this field more fun to watch and listen to than Anna. If you're sitting on the fence creasing your butt on whether to grab one of her courses, just do it.
Thank you so much for the kind words! 😊 I'm thrilled you're enjoying the content. If you are ready to dive deeper and level up, my courses are definitely here to help you. Let’s get you to the next level! 🙌
10 compatibility flags 1) Communication Incompatibility 2) Different Life Goals 3) Conflicting Values & Beliefs 4) Lack of Emotional Availability 5) Constant Need For Reassurance/ Validation 6) Incompatible Social Preferences 7) Different Approaches to Conflict Resolution 8) Financial Mismatches 9) Lack of Support for Each Other's Growth 10) Unresolved Past Relationships *Bonuses/ Key Points/ Tips - never date someone's potential - it's the road to resentment - the opposite of love is indifference, not hate - love is not enough - compatibility requires honest communication, shared values and mutual support - ignoring red flags can lead to significant problems down the road
I (strong introvert) was in a relationship with a strong extrovert. I also knew a couple happily married 50+ years in which he was a strong extrovert and she was a strong introvert. I also saw how they had come to accept who each was naturally and trusted each other to balance themselves. He was joyfully and naively dominating a group conversation once and she simply reached over and lightly touched his hand. He immediately ended his sentence and stopped talking for awhile. I interpreted that touch as 'okay, dear, let someone else have a turn to enjoy talking like you do.' I know such a polar introvert-extrovert relationship can work. I - or we - were never able to achieve and maintain a similar balance.
It sounds like you witnessed a beautiful example of balance and mutual respect in that long-lasting relationship. That kind of unspoken understanding and trust is rare but inspiring. While polar introvert-extrovert dynamics can work, it often requires deep communication and a willingness to adapt. Not every relationship can find that rhythm, and it’s okay to acknowledge when balance isn’t achievable. It’s all part of learning what works best for you.
That was my parents as well, I always though this was more the norm. Like you get 2 extreme extrovert than they just going to clash on everything and 2 extreme introvert never communicate or attempt to.
Men mostly fall for beautiful women and women mostly wants relationship with men who are rich. Everyone makes the same mistake over and over again that they think that attraction, connection, and chemistry is enough, but it is not and even I'm guilty of it many times. It is true that we have to be careful to recognize whether the person we are dating or courting is compatible with our lifestyle and beliefs or not. I believe you are an introvert now Anna and I'm also an introvert now, but not always. You look beautiful and thanks for the video Anna.
Yes, men want women who they find attractive, physically, and women want men who are financially responsible. Thank you for the compliment and yes, I’m also an introvert!
So much wisdom in this video, delivered with your usual charm, intelligence and wit. I consider myself an introvert, although I enjoy being with people who are kind, thoughtful and intelligent. Nothing like a stimulating conversation. You look especially adorable! Great hair day! I also like your kitchen :-)
There's a difference between "What I like is being brought flowers for no reason. It's so romantic" and "You know, Tim used to bring me flowers for no reason. It's so romantic." The later one is a bit like "What I like is Tim." Note: maybe Tim brought her flowers for no reason because he was tired of hearing "You know, Steve used to bring me flowers for no reason. It's so romantic."
Exactly! The first one invites connection and shows appreciation for the gesture, while the second one can feel like a comparison or even a subtle guilt trip. Nobody wants to feel like they’re living in someone else’s shadow-especially not Tim or Steve!
I think comparison is the worst thing you can do in any relationship. I say this because my dad loved to do this crap back when I was a kid and honestly it made me not try. Why bother studying hard get good grades if all I get out of my parents is like look at this genius who did this at your age bullshit. Eventually I learned to try hard for myself later in life after many stumbles but as a kids you really don't realize that. Hell many adults don't even realize that.
@@YourWingmam I would tend to see "What I like is..." as a bid. Something to file away in the index cards of my mind under "Things she likes.' So when I just want to tell her without words that I was thinking of her (I tend to reject the 'for no reason' I have a reason: I enjoy making her happy), or she could use some cheering up, I can just flip through the list of possibilities. Admittedly, I've had a problem with bringing flowers, at least purchasing cut flowers. Flowers in a pot, no problem. Dig up the garden and install rose bushes? No problem. Gathering wildflowers? Easy. Cut flowers from a shop? Wha? Where?
Poor or ineffective communication can break down what could be a good relationship quickly. I had a break up because of this in the summer. She and I recently revisited the communication breakdown and figured out where we went wrong. When discussing problems, I like to be thorough to fully get through the issues to move forward. However, I told her that I feel that she expects others to read her mind without expressing herself and makes lots of assumptions without communicating. I feel that she is elusive and evasive. Men and women have to communicate effectively and show willingness to be emotionally available for each other.
Lot's of good information, Anna! Thank you! The introvert (me) / extrovert (her) dynamic is one that I and my girl had experienced with a few bumps. To negotiate our differences and boundaries, I used comedy to lighten the mood, such as 'she is the star and I am the techie support crew.' In our dynamic, it works. However, when she got very sick and needed hospitalization, followed by rehab, I stepped up to handle communications between her family, friends, and social organizations. I did so in a supportive way, yet beyond my comfort zone. When she found out, I heard, "You did that?" I said, "For you, yes." And a genuine smile of appreciation formed on her lips. When she was well, we returned to our previous social dynamic. And we experienced no friction since.
Thank you so much for sharing your tender and encouraging experience! This is a great example of what a relationship should be like. Tough times to test us. You are a good man and it seems, from what you’ve said, she’s a keeper too. 👏
I feel shocked and very upset. Early this week, I was told the yummy nurse at work had resigned, and maybe she has finished her last day. Her and I used to be very close, but she chose another co-worker to have a relationship. We had a falling out, but she tried to patch things up. I held too long onto resentment. I was the red flag. Holding resentment when she told me to mind my own business and not communicating when she tried. Although we gave each other compliments since then. A nurse at my work said she thinks her and boyfriend have recently split. Next week, I can ask him how she is, without asking directly if they have split. I was hoping and waiting for them to split, without me being the reason by having an affair with her. If she did, she could do that to me. I cannot be certain a relationship with her would work...without being in one. My concerns...I am several years older than her, worried I would die and leave her alone. Also, she could leave me, heartbroken. She has said, I would be a good husband. One of my co-workers told me to tell her how I feel about her, in person if she returns, or DM message on her Facebook.
If they have split up and you decide to tell her how you feel, only do it in person not via text or email or any other kind of digital message. And you’re right, you don’t know if you would be compatible until you get to know each other better on a more emotionally intimate level. One day at a time. Never wait for any woman.
@@YourWingmam Thank you. Problem is, I don't know if I will see her at work again. Don't have her phone number. Driving home when I found out, and next day going to work, I nearly crashed my car, and I constantly think of her now.
Howdy Anna. I'm glad you touched on the introvert vs extrovert thing along with point # 10, her not being over her ex and talking about him quite often. I actually hope to meet an introverted lady so that her and I agree and work together on date evening settings and such. Privacy along with some peace and quiet is good so that you can hear one another speak. And her not being over her ex. I've been through it before. Not fun. She obviously was not ready to move on. It's all good though. I dodged a bullet. Thank you for another good video & may God richly bless you.
You're obviously into understanding things and have learned a lot despite your young age, which makes me think you're an introvert. Also your videos have a very private introvert feel to them. I'm an introvert too, with a passion to understand most things. From what I've seen people usually do change. That's one advantage to older women I think, they've already got a lot of their changing over with, in general. I always liked the personalities of elderly women the most, usually. They most often were calm, wise, pleasant,...at least used to be. I'm not around people these days except for when I go to the grocery store.
You need to get out and talk to more women. Maybe go to the grocery store more often for fewer things and talk to them there? And yes, I am an introvert as well.
@YourWingmam I think I'd have a better chance winning the lottery than meeting the right woman in public, or anywhere in the west. I seem to be done with dating for now. When my parents pass away I might go live and find a wife in Asia. I'm very popular in Asia compared to here. It's also very rare that I'm attracted to western women now. The only one that has been on my radar for years died, I told you about that, maybe you haven't found that wild story. I'm working on myself, building wealth, and learning more things.
You are an exceptionally valuable resource. I am particularly happy to have found you at this moment. Please keep up the good work. You are doing an exceptional service.
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Had to leave my last girl because she refused to address OUR issues together. She would rather ignore it and act ass if it did not even exist! So ANNA free for you. Although I have not been an introvert, I could adapt 😊
Drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Definitely brings up a lot of resentment that keeps churning in the back of my mind. Some things you just can't put away.
Appreciating that your discourse is appropriate for all genders, and why getting attached intimately too soon clouds ones judgement. Per the question on emotional safety, I did not feel safe with my ex. It took 25 years to grow into this realization.
How do you constantly have rationale for both sides? I love France I don’t think the French or Italians show enough love to their cultural gifts. People change as the milestones pass. Ibiza? I guess if you like being constantly high, not really my passion, I need to be alone most of the day don’t know how this classifies. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t enjoy spending over saving. If past is a present tool agree this is a problem. Is that skin a project or a genetic gift?
Dear Anna: If I recall correct from your memoir, you are an introvert by nature. However, your experience as a realtor has brought you out of that shell. Also, I hope you had a good meal after you made this video; I am sitting down to a pizza lunch right now as I type. Red flags, red flags, red flags. The older I get and the more I look back on past relationships and observe the ones around me I become more and more of a believer that thosebred flags must not be ignored. I believe some can be worked out and compromises can be reached, but definitely diffeences in beliefs, different expectations for the future, emotional differences, and communication differences can not be compromised. I have tried many times, and all of that will just lead to failure, and all you are doing is putting an expiration date on the relationship. I am not an emotional man, and I have dated women who were way too emotional. I thought our differences would just bring us to a nice balance, and WOW was I wrong. Live and learn, darlin', live and learn. I hope you are staying warm up there, and all is going well in your world. You looked very pretty as always, Anna. Big warm hug and a peck on each cheek. Great video!!!
Number one. My first real relationship in highschool. I was so open and honest about most everything. But I just assumed because she somehow always knew what I was thinking over text. I wouldn't use my words when we were together. And it was the first thing that started our eventual schism.
It's hardly to disagree with any of your videos. Your videos are very amazing and I loved it since I started watching your videos. You are a funny person Anna and you always smiles😀 and this really makes me to watch your videos and learn more valuable lessons.
I don't think Most people don't change, they either drop the facade or just get lazy in a relationship. (Also adjusted by medications) However when one person does try to improve themselves the 'Crabs in a bucket'' starts to show.
I will hazard to guess that you are an extrovert Anna. I can't imagine that an introvert could make the videos you do. You seem so at ease during your presentations.
Ah aha, I’m actually an introvert. Introversion and shyness are two different things. I used to be shy, but got over it. It took a while to get comfy in front of the camera as well. Hope this inspires someone!
Looking good as usual, dropping good advice as usual, still haven't asked me out... as usual. BTW you can spend money and save money at the same time... buy silver or gold maple coins.
Every one of these things is a deal breaker! Big time. God I miss my late wife,We were so on the same page! Opposites are opposites,It will always end. Stay true to your self and be thankful. You will know when the right one comes along. I was lucky I got 30 years, Remember life is short, Don/t waste time trying to force it! good luck.
Huh, where do I start? I got divorced some years ago (more than 10), and there were several things that were serious incompatibilities between me and her. She was a spender, I was (and am) a saver. That led us to bankruptcy court multiple times, despite my earning a high income. I ended up abandoning a master's degree program halfway through because I could no longer afford it due to her spending. I trained for and ran reasonably fast 5K and 10K races (and a half marathon), while she ballooned up to 400 lbs (not exaggerating). She watched TV in bed and that kept me awake (you didn't mention that or the night owl vs early riser problem, which is more serious than you might think). I could go on, but that's enough for now. I've been married twice, but there won't be a third one.
I’m sorry you went through all of that. It could be difficult to know how to filter for differences that don’t always show up right away. It does sound like she had some serious emotional issues though which means there were probably red flags in some areas early on. Is that a fair assessment?
@ 397 before I left, who knows how much afterward. No, you can't set a good example and have your spouse or significant other follow it. Don't let anyone tell you different.
@ Probably. I did know about the TV thing before marrying her, but I was in my 20s and a couple of years removed from my first divorce, not thinking clearly enough. The first one made it easy - she cheated, I left. It took a lot longer to get out of the second one. I'm in my early 60s now and while my interest in women is still there, it's waning and my hope is fading. Guess I watch channels like yours as I haven't given up completely. Keep doing what you're doing, if it doesn't help me then maybe it can help someone else.
Very good content today, particularly for the younger folk who are being fed a steady social media diet of relationship garbage. A real relationship requires much more than chemistry, physical attractiveness, and someone who "checks the boxes" on some superficial requirements list. Of your excellent list, #10 does strike a chord, but for different reasons than you cited. My late wife suffered abuse at the hands of a couple earlier guys, and she initially pull back if I did something which remotely reminded her of an abuser. It took time and lots of discussion to get past that. You're looking excellent, as always. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/No folks of mine in the fire zone (praying for them), but under a Snow Warning here in the Mid-Atlantic region. Also, I appreciate sharing, but do you think your lovely Canadians could take back the huge mass of arctic air which you so generously pushed into the eastern half of the US? Please and thank you! ;)
As always, thank you for your thoughtful words and additional thoughts and experiences. You’re a good man, Russ, your late wife was lucky to have you. Sorry about sending our chilly winter weather your way!
Well actually I’m not allowed to atempt to succeed with securing a great relationship because they won’t let me. So I don’t need to deal with this. Trying to figure out if staying in Las Vegas is a good idea
It sounds like you're in a tough spot. If Las Vegas isn't working for you, it might be worth exploring other options where you can grow and find the success you’re looking for. Trust your instincts!
@@YourWingmam do you have a spare 200,000$? not a damn thing is working and i am clean inside and out and decent looking. and im not going to atempt cold approach where people go to mind their own business
Take it from a 52y old man who as been screwed royally for 9 years with a women that never loved me, lost a house and been cheated on, if the women you are with is selfish, self centered and only cares about herself is not by your side if you are sick and willing to wait at the hopstial with you, and is all about money and her interest dump her.
I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s natural to feel a mix of emotions in a situation like this, even if things didn’t end well. Grief can be complicated, especially when it’s tied to a shared history. Be kind to yourself and take the time you need to process everything. It’s okay to feel sad-it just shows you’re human and cared in your own way.
it says alot if shes supportive of my 'projects' and interests etc .. a woman thats not is inherently bristling with red flags😂 .. but theres a reason shes not .. more or less up to no good, even if 'she' doesnt know it ..
You’re absolutely right-support is key in any relationship. If she’s genuinely interested in your passions and projects, it shows that she values you and wants to see you grow. If she’s not supportive, it’s definitely worth taking a step back and considering what’s really going on. Red flags can often be a sign of deeper issues, even if they're not obvious at first. Trust your instincts.
Good points mentioned. Here's my take on marriage that will stir a hornets nest. Let me know what you think... *_Divorce is only possible if you are 'legally' Married. Society has turned a committed relationship between a man and a woman into a wedding ceremony and a signed piece of paper. Then they become a 'legal' couple and are allowed to kiss, make love and have kids. Have you ever been invited to a Divorce ceremony? Exactly. When you meet a potential life-partner, agree to start the relationship as if you're already a married couple. Yes, I'm serious._* _We need to stop making dating complicated. If there's mutual attraction that looks emotionally centered, then do life together without expecting that a piece of paper called a Marriage Certificate is going to magically guarantee you a blessed future in the sight of God. A church wedding and marriage certificate were not part of God's instruction to Adam & Eve. I invite you to prove me wrong._ Let's stop the marriage illusion today, and find out what the word actually means! God Bless Lance M 2025
It depends on how old they are and their individual character. But most women do have some idea of what they want on certain issues like children, whether they’re an introvert or extrovert, whether spending habits are like. While these things can change, you can only go by what you know at the time. Some things you simply have to navigate as they come up.
Communication: yes definitely important Say i tell her a problem about us. She denies. I insist. After a while, she flips 180 degrees and says she is the worst person ever.
No one has ever taught how to communicate effectively. One thing I would say is to focus on discovery and curiosity and understanding or these trying to over insisting. Some people, men or women, will give up if they feel pressured, even though internally, they still won’t agree. Or they may feel attacked and that can trigger some unresolved childhood wound. Relationships and communicating require patience and grace. And yes, sometimes boundaries.
@@YourWingmam- No, ma’am…..just the nature of humans. Most people don’t seek to improve. If they did then you’d have millions of subscribers like most of the “entertainment” channels have.
What do you advise regarding dating a widow? Let me explain: I am a recent widow (2 months), and the person I started seeing has been a widow for 6 years. I have been the only one she has seen since her husband died. She keeps bringing up events that they did; she still has his clothes, and the house is filled with his stuff (hobbies he had). I am 71, and she is 76. Do you have any thoughts if I should continue this relationship? There are other details that I haven't explained. We could take this offline if it would help. Cheers!
It sounds like she’s having a difficult time letting go, but then maybe she hasn’t met someone who understands what she’s gone through. It’s difficult as it may be, you may need to gently talk to her about how much of a role he will play in her future relationship. If she thinks it’s possible to move past her attachment you may have a chance with her. I know couples who have got together because they understood each other‘s pain in this regard and we’re able to lean on each other to get through it. But she has to be able to acknowledge that moving on is what she needs. This video may help you or may help you understand her better: th-cam.com/video/mVJs67FipSc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=0NVcnF4b2zk8RryR Unfortunately, I don’t do private consultations, but hope this helps and my deepest condolences. 🫂
@@YourWingmam Thanks for getting back to me so quickly. Also, thanks for the follow-up video. I know I felt angry with my wife dying, and it got to a point where I was mad. I seek help, and I'm almost past that stage. Something else, some of the women out there who are either divorced or widows want a relationship, but I feel I am not number one in their lives. How do I elevate my status with women? Maybe it is me. I was married for 50 years, and my wife was the only one in my life; there will never be another who fills that role. Am I expecting too much to start a new relationship? Thanks.
Thank you for being so thoughtful! Definitely watching to the end helps and watching 30 seconds of any longer ad before skipping helps. (I think.) Not sure about watching the same video multiple times, but regardless, please only watch again if you find it truly helpful for you. 🙏🥰
Feels like you wanted chicken (not breaded, but grilled) with perhaps... tangy dressing. Something maybe involving a small amount of guilt inspiring croutons.
I have experienced most of these to one degree or another. "differing life goals" I think these days your political leanings are important to be mostly aligned. It's just as important as the "do you want children". I doubt many people think the current atmosphere of political friction is going to simmer down anytime soon so unless you want constant debate in your house and relationship, find your close match politically, not your adversary. Religion also. If you are a Christian, find a yoked mate. It is in the instruction book. Yes people change as they age. (We strive to learn something new everyday and that changes us incrementally). If you want to keep your relationship going, you have to be pliable and engaged to maintain it. But never compromise your principles. If you do that for Love, she loves the you that you are pretending to be. There is no future or joy in that.
@@YourWingmam Dreaming - do men or women dreams most? Much of worlds poetry and music etc is generated by man so ... but do woman have possibility to record their dreams? Kalevala mostly exist here in Finland because women saved it . But is that only one exception?
#1 imo.... See what they do when you tell them "No". IF they lose their shat while dating, is the behavior going to get worse or better when you marry her? Spoiler...Worse, you have rewarded bad behavior. It's like giving a dog a treat when he shats in the house. Is that dog ever going to stop shatting in the house?
Now you tell me. My current relationship of 27 years exhibits 8 of the ten red flags. On number 5, constant need for reassurance, she doesn't care what I think of her. On number 8, we are both savers; while I'm a normal saver, she is an extreme miser. Things were somewhat tolerable up until the C19 debacle. She bought the official narrative hook line and sinker. This ramped up the tension to an astronomical level.
Really tricky when you have a vastly different belief about something foundational. Both usually end up losing trust and respect in the other. See if you can work on the other red flags if it’s worth salvaging to you.
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So besides your own life experiences 😂, & U studying corey Wayne's teachings what makes you qualified for giving 🤔 relationship/Dating advice!? Just curious 😜
There isn't anyone in this field more fun to watch and listen to than Anna. If you're sitting on the fence creasing your butt on whether to grab one of her courses, just do it.
Thank you so much for the kind words! 😊 I'm thrilled you're enjoying the content. If you are ready to dive deeper and level up, my courses are definitely here to help you. Let’s get you to the next level! 🙌
10 compatibility flags
1) Communication Incompatibility
2) Different Life Goals
3) Conflicting Values & Beliefs
4) Lack of Emotional Availability
5) Constant Need For Reassurance/ Validation
6) Incompatible Social Preferences
7) Different Approaches to Conflict Resolution
8) Financial Mismatches
9) Lack of Support for Each Other's Growth
10) Unresolved Past Relationships
*Bonuses/ Key Points/ Tips
- never date someone's potential - it's the road to resentment
- the opposite of love is indifference, not hate
- love is not enough - compatibility requires honest communication, shared values and mutual support - ignoring red flags can lead to significant problems down the road
And yes, I've had 3 or more of these incompatibility conflicts with probably every relationship, which may have something to do with my results...
The opposite if love IS HATE. Hate and love fall under the greater umbrella of passion. The opposite of PASSION is INDIFFERENCE
Some people have all 10
Humm..........number six is a pretty good point......
Nobody is going to leave the couch dwelling on that....
Gen x forward can't even get off the PC or ps6 already....☹️
The opposite of love IS HATE. Hate and love fall under the greater umbrella of passion. The opposite of PASSION is INDIFFERENCE
That's very true
The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference
@@damanybrown5036 Wrong. Reading comprehension is not your strength.
I (strong introvert) was in a relationship with a strong extrovert. I also knew a couple happily married 50+ years in which he was a strong extrovert and she was a strong introvert. I also saw how they had come to accept who each was naturally and trusted each other to balance themselves. He was joyfully and naively dominating a group conversation once and she simply reached over and lightly touched his hand. He immediately ended his sentence and stopped talking for awhile. I interpreted that touch as 'okay, dear, let someone else have a turn to enjoy talking like you do.' I know such a polar introvert-extrovert relationship can work. I - or we - were never able to achieve and maintain a similar balance.
It sounds like you witnessed a beautiful example of balance and mutual respect in that long-lasting relationship. That kind of unspoken understanding and trust is rare but inspiring. While polar introvert-extrovert dynamics can work, it often requires deep communication and a willingness to adapt. Not every relationship can find that rhythm, and it’s okay to acknowledge when balance isn’t achievable. It’s all part of learning what works best for you.
That was my parents as well, I always though this was more the norm. Like you get 2 extreme extrovert than they just going to clash on everything and 2 extreme introvert never communicate or attempt to.
re #9: Both. A friend put it this way: we don't change but we do grow.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Men mostly fall for beautiful women and women mostly wants relationship with men who are rich. Everyone makes the same mistake over and over again that they think that attraction, connection, and chemistry is enough, but it is not and even I'm guilty of it many times. It is true that we have to be careful to recognize whether the person we are dating or courting is compatible with our lifestyle and beliefs or not. I believe you are an introvert now Anna and I'm also an introvert now, but not always. You look beautiful and thanks for the video Anna.
Yes, men want women who they find attractive, physically, and women want men who are financially responsible. Thank you for the compliment and yes, I’m also an introvert!
@@YourWingmamMost women much prefer men who are rich, not merely financially responsible.
Just a slight difference lol
So much wisdom in this video, delivered with your usual charm, intelligence and wit. I consider myself an introvert, although I enjoy being with people who are kind, thoughtful and intelligent. Nothing like a stimulating conversation. You look especially adorable! Great hair day! I also like your kitchen :-)
There's a difference between "What I like is being brought flowers for no reason. It's so romantic" and "You know, Tim used to bring me flowers for no reason. It's so romantic." The later one is a bit like "What I like is Tim."
Note: maybe Tim brought her flowers for no reason because he was tired of hearing "You know, Steve used to bring me flowers for no reason. It's so romantic."
Exactly! The first one invites connection and shows appreciation for the gesture, while the second one can feel like a comparison or even a subtle guilt trip. Nobody wants to feel like they’re living in someone else’s shadow-especially not Tim or Steve!
I think comparison is the worst thing you can do in any relationship. I say this because my dad loved to do this crap back when I was a kid and honestly it made me not try. Why bother studying hard get good grades if all I get out of my parents is like look at this genius who did this at your age bullshit.
Eventually I learned to try hard for myself later in life after many stumbles but as a kids you really don't realize that. Hell many adults don't even realize that.
@@YourWingmam I would tend to see "What I like is..." as a bid. Something to file away in the index cards of my mind under "Things she likes.' So when I just want to tell her without words that I was thinking of her (I tend to reject the 'for no reason' I have a reason: I enjoy making her happy), or she could use some cheering up, I can just flip through the list of possibilities.
Admittedly, I've had a problem with bringing flowers, at least purchasing cut flowers. Flowers in a pot, no problem. Dig up the garden and install rose bushes? No problem. Gathering wildflowers? Easy. Cut flowers from a shop? Wha? Where?
I've been thru half of these red flags in past relationships. Single. Always moving and working. Thank You Anna❤
Glad I could help 🙏
Poor or ineffective communication can break down what could be a good relationship quickly. I had a break up because of this in the summer. She and I recently revisited the communication breakdown and figured out where we went wrong. When discussing problems, I like to be thorough to fully get through the issues to move forward. However, I told her that I feel that she expects others to read her mind without expressing herself and makes lots of assumptions without communicating. I feel that she is elusive and evasive. Men and women have to communicate effectively and show willingness to be emotionally available for each other.
It sounds like you’re making great strides in understanding communication, a key ingredient to a great relationship! I hope she’s open to growth.
Lot's of good information, Anna! Thank you!
The introvert (me) / extrovert (her) dynamic is one that I and my girl had experienced with a few bumps. To negotiate our differences and boundaries, I used comedy to lighten the mood, such as 'she is the star and I am the techie support crew.' In our dynamic, it works. However, when she got very sick and needed hospitalization, followed by rehab, I stepped up to handle communications between her family, friends, and social organizations. I did so in a supportive way, yet beyond my comfort zone. When she found out, I heard, "You did that?" I said, "For you, yes." And a genuine smile of appreciation formed on her lips.
When she was well, we returned to our previous social dynamic. And we experienced no friction since.
Thank you so much for sharing your tender and encouraging experience! This is a great example of what a relationship should be like. Tough times to test us. You are a good man and it seems, from what you’ve said, she’s a keeper too. 👏
I feel shocked and very upset. Early this week, I was told the yummy nurse at work had resigned, and maybe she has finished her last day.
Her and I used to be very close, but she chose another co-worker to have a relationship.
We had a falling out, but she tried to patch things up. I held too long onto resentment.
I was the red flag. Holding resentment when she told me to mind my own business and not communicating when she tried. Although we gave each other compliments since then.
A nurse at my work said she thinks her and boyfriend have recently split.
Next week, I can ask him how she is, without asking directly if they have split.
I was hoping and waiting for them to split, without me being the reason by having an affair with her. If she did, she could do that to me.
I cannot be certain a relationship with her would work...without being in one.
My concerns...I am several years older than her, worried I would die and leave her alone.
Also, she could leave me, heartbroken.
She has said, I would be a good husband.
One of my co-workers told me to tell her how I feel about her, in person if she returns, or DM message on her Facebook.
If they have split up and you decide to tell her how you feel, only do it in person not via text or email or any other kind of digital message. And you’re right, you don’t know if you would be compatible until you get to know each other better on a more emotionally intimate level. One day at a time. Never wait for any woman.
@@YourWingmam Thank you.
Problem is, I don't know if I will see her at work again.
Don't have her phone number.
Driving home when I found out, and next day going to work, I nearly crashed my car, and I constantly think of her now.
Howdy Anna. I'm glad you touched on the introvert vs extrovert thing along with point # 10, her not being over her ex and talking about him quite often. I actually hope to meet an introverted lady so that her and I agree and work together on date evening settings and such. Privacy along with some peace and quiet is good so that you can hear one another speak. And her not being over her ex. I've been through it before. Not fun. She obviously was not ready to move on. It's all good though. I dodged a bullet. Thank you for another good video & may God richly bless you.
You're obviously into understanding things and have learned a lot despite your young age, which makes me think you're an introvert. Also your videos have a very private introvert feel to them. I'm an introvert too, with a passion to understand most things.
From what I've seen people usually do change. That's one advantage to older women I think, they've already got a lot of their changing over with, in general. I always liked the personalities of elderly women the most, usually. They most often were calm, wise, pleasant,...at least used to be. I'm not around people these days except for when I go to the grocery store.
You need to get out and talk to more women. Maybe go to the grocery store more often for fewer things and talk to them there? And yes, I am an introvert as well.
@YourWingmam I think I'd have a better chance winning the lottery than meeting the right woman in public, or anywhere in the west. I seem to be done with dating for now. When my parents pass away I might go live and find a wife in Asia. I'm very popular in Asia compared to here. It's also very rare that I'm attracted to western women now. The only one that has been on my radar for years died, I told you about that, maybe you haven't found that wild story. I'm working on myself, building wealth, and learning more things.
You are an exceptionally valuable resource. I am particularly happy to have found you at this moment. Please keep up the good work. You are doing an exceptional service.
Thank you so much for your kind words! It truly means a lot to me. If you feel that my content could help others, please consider sharing it so more people can benefit from the love, healing, and clarity. Together, we can spread positivity and support to those who need it most. 🙏💖
Had to leave my last girl because she refused to address OUR issues together. She would rather ignore it and act ass if it did not even exist! So ANNA free for you. Although I have not been an introvert, I could adapt 😊
My primary green flags nowadays are :
1- kindness
2-authenticity
That's very true
Married 11 years. It’s sad how many red flags my future ex wife has.
In truth, it was good until it wasn’t. At least we tried.
Excellent Enjoyed the video
You look great here. Camera not too close, more figure, and you checked all the boxes on appearance. Smiles and beauty appreciated!
1, 4, 5, 7 🤦🏻♂ Thanks for talking sense into me when I need it
Glad I could help 🙏
Love you, Anna. God bless your work!
Me encanta tu voz en Español😉.. Take care , thank you for all your work
Drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Definitely brings up a lot of resentment that keeps churning in the back of my mind. Some things you just can't put away.
That’s a self protection mechanism. Give yourself grace.
Keep giving people this work.
-Team Anna
Appreciating that your discourse is appropriate for all genders, and why getting attached intimately too soon clouds ones judgement.
Per the question on emotional safety, I did not feel safe with my ex. It took 25 years to grow into this realization.
At least you got there! And thank you!
How do you constantly have rationale for both sides? I love France I don’t think the French or Italians show enough love to their cultural gifts. People change as the milestones pass. Ibiza? I guess if you like being constantly high, not really my passion, I need to be alone most of the day don’t know how this classifies. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t enjoy spending over saving. If past is a present tool agree this is a problem. Is that skin a project or a genetic gift?
@@RobCoghanable You have outlined your quest
I like your sincerity and authenticity!
Thank you!
Dear Anna:
If I recall correct from your memoir, you are an introvert by nature. However, your experience as a realtor has brought you out of that shell. Also, I hope you had a good meal after you made this video; I am sitting down to a pizza lunch right now as I type.
Red flags, red flags, red flags. The older I get and the more I look back on past relationships and observe the ones around me I become more and more of a believer that thosebred flags must not be ignored. I believe some can be worked out and compromises can be reached, but definitely diffeences in beliefs, different expectations for the future, emotional differences, and communication differences can not be compromised. I have tried many times, and all of that will just lead to failure, and all you are doing is putting an expiration date on the relationship. I am not an emotional man, and I have dated women who were way too emotional. I thought our differences would just bring us to a nice balance, and WOW was I wrong. Live and learn, darlin', live and learn.
I hope you are staying warm up there, and all is going well in your world. You looked very pretty as always, Anna. Big warm hug and a peck on each cheek. Great video!!!
Please don't simp so much!
This is great advice truly
In 700+ videos i think its the first time Anna Jorgensen wore jeans
I have two pairs now lol
Your acting Anna is very entertaining and... hmm.. I'll keep it to myself ;) Thanks for the great video :)
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!
Number one. My first real relationship in highschool. I was so open and honest about most everything. But I just assumed because she somehow always knew what I was thinking over text. I wouldn't use my words when we were together. And it was the first thing that started our eventual schism.
I don’t think many people get it right and their very first relationship, but it sounds like you’ve learned from it.
@YourWingmam I try to always learn. If you aren't learning you are going backwards. At least that's how I was raised.
Excellent video and advice.
It's hardly to disagree with any of your videos. Your videos are very amazing and I loved it since I started watching your videos. You are a funny person Anna and you always smiles😀 and this really makes me to watch your videos and learn more valuable lessons.
I’m glad that you still enjoy my videos and I appreciate you always showing up for them!
Nice counter tops and back splash. I got white granite a few years back.
Re: "1:16 "My videos have also helped good women understand men's needs better." This is an important role that you play. Thanks for doing so.
You’re welcome and thank you, please share any of my videos you think women can also learn from!
I don't think Most people don't change, they either drop the facade or just get lazy in a relationship. (Also adjusted by medications)
However when one person does try to improve themselves the 'Crabs in a bucket'' starts to show.
Many couples do get lazy in a relationship. Crabs in the bucket is true too.
I will hazard to guess that you are an extrovert Anna. I can't imagine that an introvert could make the videos you do. You seem so at ease during your presentations.
Ah aha, I’m actually an introvert. Introversion and shyness are two different things. I used to be shy, but got over it. It took a while to get comfy in front of the camera as well. Hope this inspires someone!
I got all those flags in my head ...I'm failing life and those i actually love
Give yourself some grace. We all have areas we need to improve on. Awareness is the first step to potential change and change is possible. 🫂
Looking good as usual, dropping good advice as usual, still haven't asked me out... as usual.
BTW you can spend money and save money at the same time... buy silver or gold maple coins.
Thank you Anna 🙏♥
My pleasure ❤️
Every one of these things is a deal breaker! Big time. God I miss my late wife,We were so on the same page! Opposites are opposites,It will always end. Stay true to your self and be thankful. You will know when the right one comes along. I was lucky I got 30 years, Remember life is short, Don/t waste time trying to force it! good luck.
Huh, where do I start? I got divorced some years ago (more than 10), and there were several things that were serious incompatibilities between me and her. She was a spender, I was (and am) a saver. That led us to bankruptcy court multiple times, despite my earning a high income. I ended up abandoning a master's degree program halfway through because I could no longer afford it due to her spending. I trained for and ran reasonably fast 5K and 10K races (and a half marathon), while she ballooned up to 400 lbs (not exaggerating). She watched TV in bed and that kept me awake (you didn't mention that or the night owl vs early riser problem, which is more serious than you might think). I could go on, but that's enough for now.
I've been married twice, but there won't be a third one.
400? Wow! That's funny, but not for you!
I’m sorry you went through all of that. It could be difficult to know how to filter for differences that don’t always show up right away. It does sound like she had some serious emotional issues though which means there were probably red flags in some areas early on. Is that a fair assessment?
@ 397 before I left, who knows how much afterward. No, you can't set a good example and have your spouse or significant other follow it. Don't let anyone tell you different.
@ Probably. I did know about the TV thing before marrying her, but I was in my 20s and a couple of years removed from my first divorce, not thinking clearly enough. The first one made it easy - she cheated, I left. It took a lot longer to get out of the second one.
I'm in my early 60s now and while my interest in women is still there, it's waning and my hope is fading. Guess I watch channels like yours as I haven't given up completely. Keep doing what you're doing, if it doesn't help me then maybe it can help someone else.
Hi Anna....always love your videos
Thank you so much!
Very good content today, particularly for the younger folk who are being fed a steady social media diet of relationship garbage. A real relationship requires much more than chemistry, physical attractiveness, and someone who "checks the boxes" on some superficial requirements list. Of your excellent list, #10 does strike a chord, but for different reasons than you cited. My late wife suffered abuse at the hands of a couple earlier guys, and she initially pull back if I did something which remotely reminded her of an abuser. It took time and lots of discussion to get past that. You're looking excellent, as always. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/No folks of mine in the fire zone (praying for them), but under a Snow Warning here in the Mid-Atlantic region. Also, I appreciate sharing, but do you think your lovely Canadians could take back the huge mass of arctic air which you so generously pushed into the eastern half of the US? Please and thank you! ;)
As always, thank you for your thoughtful words and additional thoughts and experiences. You’re a good man, Russ, your late wife was lucky to have you. Sorry about sending our chilly winter weather your way!
Well actually I’m not allowed to atempt to succeed with securing a great relationship because they won’t let me. So I don’t need to deal with this. Trying to figure out if staying in Las Vegas is a good idea
It sounds like you're in a tough spot. If Las Vegas isn't working for you, it might be worth exploring other options where you can grow and find the success you’re looking for. Trust your instincts!
@@YourWingmam do you have a spare 200,000$? not a damn thing is working and i am clean inside and out and decent looking. and im not going to atempt cold approach where people go to mind their own business
Take it from a 52y old man who as been screwed royally for 9 years with a women that never loved me, lost a house and been cheated on, if the women you are with is selfish, self centered and only cares about herself is not by your side if you are sick and willing to wait at the hopstial with you, and is all about money and her interest dump her.
I’m so sorry you went through all that. Thank goodness she is in your past. 🫂
You describe my first and second marriage
I found out my second ex died two weeks ago I’ve been in a funky mood I feel really sad
I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s natural to feel a mix of emotions in a situation like this, even if things didn’t end well. Grief can be complicated, especially when it’s tied to a shared history. Be kind to yourself and take the time you need to process everything. It’s okay to feel sad-it just shows you’re human and cared in your own way.
@ thanks
Anna, YOU are perfect for me!!!!!!
I'm not the one. ~ the Cars (1986) 🏁
A quick one can be fun. Innuendo, that is
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I do not agree with the comment at bottom left corner at 56 seconds.
It is just a bit of fun and shows your good humour.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
it says alot if shes supportive of my 'projects' and interests etc .. a woman thats not is inherently bristling with red flags😂 .. but theres a reason shes not .. more or less up to no good, even if 'she' doesnt know it ..
You’re absolutely right-support is key in any relationship. If she’s genuinely interested in your passions and projects, it shows that she values you and wants to see you grow. If she’s not supportive, it’s definitely worth taking a step back and considering what’s really going on. Red flags can often be a sign of deeper issues, even if they're not obvious at first. Trust your instincts.
🤔 *Good to Great Portfolio?* Don't worry She's the One!🤔
Good points mentioned.
Here's my take on marriage that will stir a hornets nest. Let me know what you think...
*_Divorce is only possible if you are 'legally' Married. Society has turned a committed relationship between a man and a woman into a wedding ceremony and a signed piece of paper. Then they become a 'legal' couple and are allowed to kiss, make love and have kids. Have you ever been invited to a Divorce ceremony? Exactly. When you meet a potential life-partner, agree to start the relationship as if you're already a married couple. Yes, I'm serious._*
_We need to stop making dating complicated. If there's mutual attraction that looks emotionally centered, then do life together without expecting that a piece of paper called a Marriage Certificate is going to magically guarantee you a blessed future in the sight of God. A church wedding and marriage certificate were not part of God's instruction to Adam & Eve. I invite you to prove me wrong._
Let's stop the marriage illusion today, and find out what the word actually means!
God Bless
Lance M
2025
It's that time again y'all let's check it out.
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Stop 🛑 being so adorable 🫣
🫣🥰
Stop simping.
@bearclaw5115 🤣🤣🤣... Stop trying to control people 😛.... Or maybe you were being adorable too and if so that's so cute 🫶
My guess Anna. You would rather stay in than party... Prove me wrong...
About life goals, is that really an issue? I often feel that women -- being emotional -- do not have a clear definition of life goals.
It depends on how old they are and their individual character. But most women do have some idea of what they want on certain issues like children, whether they’re an introvert or extrovert, whether spending habits are like. While these things can change, you can only go by what you know at the time. Some things you simply have to navigate as they come up.
Communication: yes definitely important
Say i tell her a problem about us. She denies. I insist. After a while, she flips 180 degrees and says she is the worst person ever.
No one has ever taught how to communicate effectively. One thing I would say is to focus on discovery and curiosity and understanding or these trying to over insisting. Some people, men or women, will give up if they feel pressured, even though internally, they still won’t agree. Or they may feel attacked and that can trigger some unresolved childhood wound. Relationships and communicating require patience and grace. And yes, sometimes boundaries.
this is like a laundry list of my ex... lol by the way, I noticed the brand on the toaster lol!!!
Your ex was toast! #CheesyPun
@ classic! 😂 she was definitely smeg 😂
Out lick I like it 😅
I saw Oreo
Haha, "Out lick" definitely changes the meaning! 😅 But hey, Oreo makes everything better, right? 🍪
9:55 Valley girl role playing... 😁
Riiiight?! ;)
Yes. Constantly must be entertained.
Yes, people change; they typically get worse over time.
Sounds like you’ve had some bad experiences?
@@YourWingmam- No, ma’am…..just the nature of humans. Most people don’t seek to improve. If they did then you’d have millions of subscribers like most of the “entertainment” channels have.
What do you advise regarding dating a widow? Let me explain: I am a recent widow (2 months), and the person I started seeing has been a widow for 6 years. I have been the only one she has seen since her husband died. She keeps bringing up events that they did; she still has his clothes, and the house is filled with his stuff (hobbies he had). I am 71, and she is 76. Do you have any thoughts if I should continue this relationship? There are other details that I haven't explained. We could take this offline if it would help. Cheers!
It sounds like she’s having a difficult time letting go, but then maybe she hasn’t met someone who understands what she’s gone through. It’s difficult as it may be, you may need to gently talk to her about how much of a role he will play in her future relationship. If she thinks it’s possible to move past her attachment you may have a chance with her. I know couples who have got together because they understood each other‘s pain in this regard and we’re able to lean on each other to get through it. But she has to be able to acknowledge that moving on is what she needs. This video may help you or may help you understand her better: th-cam.com/video/mVJs67FipSc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=0NVcnF4b2zk8RryR
Unfortunately, I don’t do private consultations, but hope this helps and my deepest condolences. 🫂
@@YourWingmam Thanks for getting back to me so quickly. Also, thanks for the follow-up video. I know I felt angry with my wife dying, and it got to a point where I was mad. I seek help, and I'm almost past that stage. Something else, some of the women out there who are either divorced or widows want a relationship, but I feel I am not number one in their lives. How do I elevate my status with women? Maybe it is me. I was married for 50 years, and my wife was the only one in my life; there will never be another who fills that role. Am I expecting too much to start a new relationship? Thanks.
Nice kitchen 🎉😂❤
I borrowed it, I will let my friend know! It is lovely. :)
@YourWingmam you make me laugh 😂😂😂
Does it help your ratings if we watch your videos multiple times? Or let ads play through? I don't know how that part of TH-cam works
I think multiple views by the same viewer/device is counted only once. Watching until the end helps her channel.
Thank you for being so thoughtful! Definitely watching to the end helps and watching 30 seconds of any longer ad before skipping helps. (I think.) Not sure about watching the same video multiple times, but regardless, please only watch again if you find it truly helpful for you. 🙏🥰
@YourWingmam we need you
And many of us are thoughtful because you have made an impact on our lives and refer back to your words
Feels like you wanted chicken (not breaded, but grilled) with perhaps... tangy dressing. Something maybe involving a small amount of guilt inspiring croutons.
I have experienced most of these to one degree or another.
"differing life goals" I think these days your political leanings are important to be mostly aligned. It's just as important as the "do you want children". I doubt many people think the current atmosphere of political friction is going to simmer down anytime soon so unless you want constant debate in your house and relationship, find your close match politically, not your adversary.
Religion also. If you are a Christian, find a yoked mate. It is in the instruction book.
Yes people change as they age. (We strive to learn something new everyday and that changes us incrementally). If you want to keep your relationship going, you have to be pliable and engaged to maintain it. But never compromise your principles. If you do that for Love, she loves the you that you are pretending to be. There is no future or joy in that.
Amen!
Arnold Rimmer approves your toaster
Cat and .... are those decorating tablettes? One question - which one have more pinkclouds. Women or men?
Pink clouds?
@@YourWingmam Dreaming - do men or women dreams most? Much of worlds poetry and music etc is generated by man so ... but do woman have possibility to record their dreams? Kalevala mostly exist here in Finland because women saved it . But is that only one exception?
#1 imo....
See what they do when you tell them "No".
IF they lose their shat while dating, is the behavior going to get worse or better when you marry her?
Spoiler...Worse, you have rewarded bad behavior.
It's like giving a dog a treat when he shats in the house.
Is that dog ever going to stop shatting in the house?
Exactly!
Now you tell me. My current relationship of 27 years exhibits 8 of the ten red flags. On number 5, constant need for reassurance, she doesn't care what I think of her. On number 8, we are both savers; while I'm a normal saver, she is an extreme miser. Things were somewhat tolerable up until the C19 debacle. She bought the official narrative hook line and sinker. This ramped up the tension to an astronomical level.
Off topic.
Really tricky when you have a vastly different belief about something foundational. Both usually end up losing trust and respect in the other. See if you can work on the other red flags if it’s worth salvaging to you.
I like her
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Red ❤🥰. Always showing some support Beautiful ❤️. Your #1. Take care Amen ❤🙏🇺🇲👊💯
No such thimg as The One. Four billion women in the world to choose from
Do you have an air frier in the kitchen?
Nope
Good morning bunny
Yuck.
Good morning, thanks for being here today!
hint: always best to save pet names for your special sweetheart only :)
@ Thanks Red
Red flag, she demands the keys to your Ferrari or your unlimited VISA card😢
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