After quitting doing a specific amount of these things. I quit talking to women or attempted dates because of the constant rule and goalpost changing. Every damn time I try it’s not working. So the princesses are on their own
I quit these things or did not do or say certain things…now it’s her turn; she can stop complaining about my hobbies in fiction and machines or my video games She should not complain about a prenup. She doesn’t need a selfish furry pet. She doesn’t need to take The View Show very seriously
I don’t chase because for it is not working. Simp” or cut them off as I did. My life has been quiet for 9 years and the joke is on them. I look forward to something artificial since I am slammed with high standards instead of being accepted. The hell with cold approach
Bottom line: No matter what you do for her to make her happy, no matter how you look for her, no matter how much you care her etc - IT'S NEVER GONNA BE ENOUGH FOR HER. Every man on this planet has learnt this lesson sometime or the other. Women are often PERENNIALLY dissatisfied unlike men.
Women are nuts, once I realized that, my life with women have been easy. I do not put up with their BS anymore....Confidence, once mastered, can never be defeated.
steps that helped me get my first girlfriend: started cold approach joined a martial arts gym read the book celestial soulmate by lentlish improved my style (better clothes) started nofap and focused on money (affiliate marketing) all these small changes added up, and now my life is 10x better.
until you slip up once she leaves you and you are left with half your stuff and the relization those decades of work just went up in smoke because she felt like it. your life is 10x more dellusional!
To be honest i am so confused on women. I tried being the nice guy. That did not work. I became colder and made less of an effort. Did not work either. I spent so much money trying to make them happy that it nearly broke me. I finally decided to stay single and now i am a millionaire. I now have women knocking at my door but i have lost all interest from all the disappointments. I have come to realize that a man is only relevant when women do not have other options.
That’s a lot to unpack, and it sounds like you've been through some tough experiences. First, I want to say that it’s great you’ve found success and stability in staying true to yourself-that’s something many strive for. Your story highlights a reality some men face, but I’d also encourage you to reflect on how you approach relationships moving forward. Women knocking on your door now may not necessarily reflect who they truly are-it could just be the type of attention wealth often attracts. It’s also worth noting that not every relationship is transactional or rooted in hypergamy. The key is to find someone whose values align with yours, someone who appreciates you beyond material success or effort. Your experience could be a powerful lesson for others. If you’re open to it, maybe use your journey to help others understand the importance of self-worth and balance in relationships.
100% ON POINT! Have you noticed the total absence of men whining on TikTok in cringe video's lamenting the lack of a woman in their life? Conversely, TikTok is rammed with cringe videos featuring women whining about being single. Being single saves men money and protects them from DEMANDS and RISK. Being single is EXPENSIVE for women- they cannot tap into a man's resources for their own purpose. Men are far more adept at living simply and saving money. Women hold the highest proportion of credit card debt, they have the lowest amount of savings, and they pay the least into their pensions. It's going to be really interesting to scrutinise the figures for depression and mental health issues amongst middle aged women in another decade. They are already suffering higher rates of depression than middle aged men.........It's only going to get worse for them from here on.
*True strength comes from knowing your worth and not overcompensating to win her approval. Stop chasing - create value in your life, and let her chase you.*
@@sword-and-shield Chasing is wrong. But it needs time, to get to know each other. So a certain amount of pursuing will be there, most of the time. Unless there is immediate physical attraction on both sides - but that is a different story.
@@spxram4793 "Unless there is immediate physical attraction on both sides - but that is a different story"...No, that IS the story, and my point, if it isn't, its a waste more often than not. I never said pursing isn't there, but that if one sided, its almost always a waste, and later before sooner.
@@spxram4793if she doesn’t find your attractive when y’all first meet, odds are she never will. Like I’ve heard tons of women say over the years, a woman has decided in the first 2-5 minutes (if not quicker) if she will ever sleep with that man. Trying to “win her over” is Hollywood Disney horse hockey. If you have to win her over it means you are not her first choice.
Decades ago, I knew a guy who worked as a cook in a nice restaurant. He was head over heels for a waitress there. She barely knew he existed. Poor guy decided to win her affections by buying her a Car. Oh man. Those of us that knew the man knew it was the wrong play. However, what ruined the waitresses reputation was the fact that she acepted the gift knowing full well that it wasn 't going to change a thing, she never even went on one date with the guy. No one wante4d anything to do with her after that, not even as friends.
Bless her heart. She so much deserves to be happy and successful. I sense several elements of her personality. Incredibly philosophical and powerfully positive and also a deep desire to help others succeed. More sensitive than she wants to portray. Grandma's necklace exposed her own vulnerability. She's just simply a wonderful and beautiful human being.
Great advice, Anna. In this gynocentric society where women act like they're the prize, they know deep down inside that they need a man more than he needs them.. This has been the way of the world since the beginning. Don't simp, walk like a man!
Walking like a man doesn’t mean you are the prize. Watch How to be a Sigma Male by Guru Pashupati. He is spot on teaching men. Spot on. You won’t be a simp after watching that and you’ll get that you aren’t the prize. She is.
If you fancy her, just ask her out once. If she declines........no need to simp. You've established she's not interested, anyway. You've saved a lot of time, effort and money, and can now focus elsewhere.
Yeah I usually ask a woman out that I think is attractive (to me) after about a week of meeting them and talking to them if we both find something in common. I make my intentions known quickly.
@@richard29415 Yes...... asking early on gives you a conclusion. If you know she's not into you, you've lost the incentive to please her. There's nothing to gain. Armed with that knowledge, you can move on and forget her. She'll actually respect you more if you take that approach.
@@noelgibson5956 a man has to ask me out twice usually. I’m a stable attachers and the only men I’m attracted to are the ones who do all the things she mentioned in the introduction. I fall in love with good men. Not mean men. Simpy men are sappy men. You can be the total gent without being sappy.
Simps have ruined modern dating. Women often get a lot of hate online for the state of modern dating, and some of the reasons can be valid, but as a society, we don't blame the men nearly enough for how bottom of the barrel things have become
So what is man’s fault too , I know simps ruined it but vvoman just showed how cold hearted they can be . They sent love letters to serial Enders let that sink in for a second how shallow can they really be shame on that kind of w.🤦🏽♂️
There are more simps than men of dignity and strength and integrity. Simps arent watching these videos bc they dont want to feel regret and lesser. The question is how to reach and change these boys to men?
simps should watch these videos because it is an strategy for them to get out of that undesired zone. I wish I had these videos 20 years ago. I watch them now thinking of the past :))))))
Simps aren't watching this type of content because, I believe, _they don't know_ that they're simping - and they don't think they're doing anything wrong. So, why should they attempt to change, when - according to 'society' - they're doing everything right. All the messaging they receive tells them that wahmens are perfect, blameless angels, who can do no wrong, and they're not just equal but superior to men, in every way, so you'd better bow down to them. (Oh, and men are bad, btw, so don't you dare be one). It's only when the cognitive dissonance becomes too much to bear - when they learn for themselves, through painful experience, that what they've been told all their lives bears no relation to reality - can they be reached. And even then, it takes a lot of conscious effort to begin to undo the damage. Doesn't help that 'red pill' content, and creators, are framed as evil misogynists, either. The entire system and culture is designed to emasculate boys and make them into simps - and prevent them from growing into men. Men - real men - might become a threat to the (deeply unjust and corrupt) system, and we can't have that, can we. This comment will probably be deleted.
I am 52 and i can tell you that sadly its all about the looks, yes i am tall and built and i keep training 5-6 times per week. At my age I am also over those titles alpha beta omega and the more recent sigma, for me its all about life experience. I have been single for a long time, after my last relationship since I lost everything house and been cheated on. But in the past months I also lost a lot of weight that I had put on over the years, and my physique changed for the better and my face is a lot more defined. There is a new girl at work she is 29 and she follows me everywere giving me all the signes. What did i do, nothing I showed up made her laugh and did compliment her like all the rest of the guys at work who change there attitude when a women is close. Its a package confidence, independance, looks etc. But you still need to look good to attract.
Looks does play a major role like 70-80% then your attitude and confidence to back those looks yes. Looks is fit lean muscular Build to your body shape appears what women seem to like the most. Dad Bods is BS and Yes women are very visual as well. Men and women get together becuase of biology.
I'm older than you and agree. But it's even more about status (and money). Looks gets you laid all the time, status is what they chase for relationship.
@@jans724 True but they want looks, status etc. all rolled up in one person. That won't happen you may get one but not the other. Something has to give. For relationships they go to Options B and C to get laid is Option A. They will resent Options B and C because they have been with A. Eventually, they will have sex as men pursue this.
@@jans724 I tend to agree with you. If you're good looking, money is irrelevant in 'getting' a lover. But if you're broke, keeping them is the difficult part. On the upside, at least you know that they're not with you for your money if you don't have any. :)
Thanks for this advice. The most important point I got from your video is realizing that I'm not lower than them in value. That's been my major problem--putting women on a pedestal!
Thank you for doing another video on the subject of simping. It's a habit I had for quite a while, and I stopped it as a result of either being rejected and placed in the friend zone or just disrespected altogether. It's a habit I do not want to revisit at all. I do feel way better about myself for not being a simp anymore. Happy New Year and may God richly bless you.
Another good message, Anna. It pays to be generous with women once you get to know them - but never simp. For me, simping is any behaviour that is **calculated** to garner a response of approval, or to make you visible to her. Once you recognise it in your own behaviour, you can check it and stop it. It’s amazing how women are responsive to being led in love, and find your mysterious quietness fascinating.
Once upon a time maybe. Not anymore. We don't just love women anymore and we sure as hell ain't going into business with them in the eyes of the state amd court. Fk that.
I really do appreciate your advice and yes, I’ve been guilty of a few of these things. But I would really like you to do a video on how to create a profile on a dating site and also what to write in your description because what I’m doing just isn’t really working Well I take that back. It is working, but it’s attracting flies. With all that said, I want to wish you and your loved ones a very happy and blessed New year and keep this information coming
Another informative and valuable video Anna! I'm delighted to discover how FEW of these traits I possess, although admittedly I've been guilty of many in the past. As a man in his 40's I'm comfortable with the likelihood that "it's over" and many years ago refocused my attention on setting my life up for security and comfort when I reach my 60's.
Thank you! I'm so glad you liked the video! 😊 And yes, my grandmother’s turquoise cross is really special-it has a beautiful history behind it. I can see why you’d be interested in something like that! It’s such a timeless and meaningful piece.
Wingmam, I appreciate that you actually took a moment to explain your word choice... "simping" is indeed a derogatory term, but I admit it's difficult to think of a better one.
Thank you for understanding! It’s a term that definitely carries a lot of weight and can be misunderstood. The idea behind it is really about finding balance and respecting yourself in relationships. Let’s keep the conversation open to redefining how we approach and label behavior!
Contemptable, immature, dishonest, and manipulative people like this deserve to have a derogatory label. They don't need any coddling from the rest of us and they aren't being misunderstood- we can see their own game more clearly than they can. If simps had even a crumb of self-awareness or self-reflection the fact that the word for their behaviour is considered derogatory might get the gears turning towards self-improvement.
I was going with a woman who worried me because I found myself agreeing with her - not to simp, but because I honestly agreed with her . . . and it was starting worry me. The only thing I found to disagree with her was her idea of letting a child be king or queen of the family for a year, and I said I thought it was bad to single one kid out, especially for an entire year. She was a vegetarian, and I found it interesting (and cheaper . . .) and to this day I eat much less meat. I gave her no gifts, but was planning a "dream vacation" in Italy and Germany (where I have friends and could stay for free . . . I'm a trifle thrifty at times . . . besides, I like to stay in a castle - no, really). Quite a few other things, too, such as supporting her when she had to give a speech (she hated her own voice, and I pointed out everybody does), giving her advice when she asked for it and which she said she appreciated, being impressed with her parents (no, really, two great people), when previous boyfriends criticized her for doing everything wrong and hated her family (how, I don't know, because they really are great), and so on, so forth. Out of the blue the day before an operation I was a teeny bit scared about (I could have gone blind) she dumped me without warning saying she saw an old acquaintance "with new eyes." She said I was a very good person, a good man (her exact words), but she had thought it over (after we had agreed to discuss everything) and decided unilaterally she needed something more familiar. Three months later after a "fairy tale vacation" he dumped her. She begged to be taken back. Six months later he took her on another dream vacation of a lifetime (which I think she paid for) . . . and dumped her again. I'm sitting back waiting for the next exciting installment. I doubt she'd even try to come back to me (not that anyone ever has), but she's getting to the age that some say women "hit the wall" and I know she wanted a family. Just in case I have a very polite and friendly note prepared saying don't count on it, although I'll probably not get the chance to use it.
borrowing a jacket reminded me something. I´ve had a friend, we spent a lot of time together, went out eating and stuff... I was always available whenever she needed anything, because that´s who I am - even though I haven´t met many people that would actually deserve it. One time we were sitting outside in a restaurant and it was getting quite cold. I offered my hoodie - as I always did and she also agreed as always. So I was only in a t-shirt and after an hour or two, the weather got really cold. We were about to leave already, I was going to walk her home, but she just wanted to sit there for a while longer. After maybe a half an hour I explained that it was getting cold and I wanted to walk her home (she didn´t want to go by bus for some BS reason). She offered to return my hoodie, but she only did that because she knew I wouldn´t want it back. When we finally moved towards her apartment she kept stopping and messaging her sister, giggling etc. She even phoned her and stopped during a phone call. So after a while I told her that it was really cold and I want her to walk. She offered my hoodie back again with a disgusting smirk in her face and I surprised her - I agreed. From that moment she wasn´t very talkative anymore. Didn´t stop to message her sister and her nose was quite watery when her body felt the cold she didn´t mind me waiting in for her. As much as it wasn´t like my manners - I´m still glad I did that. She was ungrateful and never apologized. Few weeks later she even suggested that my behavior wasn´t right that evening, but I stopped her immediately. She pulled more BS before I drew the line completely, but in retrospect - this was a great character check. And I don´t care if it was a sh*test or anything - if women need to test men this stupid way (without even realizing it), then whose brain is still the brain of a caveman..?
The word SIMP is what killed chivalry . Maybe if men weren't thanked with insults and shit under the feet of women for common courtesies , they might have better luck with co-operation from us. I get so damned tired of being degraded for performing common sense daily kindnesses by women for helping them when I'd do the same for a guy who needed help.I wonder what would happen if men got so damned tired of this women's movement that when they saw a woman behind them they just let the door they were going through ,slam in the face of that woman and leave her on the concrete .Being called a pig because I helped and did it expecting nothing from it is another bunch of big mouthed bullshit women come up with . If western women behaved this way in a lot of other countries, they would be messed over bad . This is not a universal problem. It's pretty much western women who act like a bunch of shallow pigs ..It's pretty much western women who are bitching about why men no longer want much to do with them. The problem is not what we have to do to please women instead it's what women need to do to wake up and get their heads out of their asses. Women never used to be this way it's social media and parroting feminism and bringing nothing to the table in a relationship that got them where they are today .As for me ,While I would never and have never been purposely mean to a woman , my attitude from this stuff is go screw your self since you don't need us anyway . This is why I went MGTOW . As for this channel I've followed it for years because Anna has come up some constructive ideas but lately I'm sick and tired of being told every thing is my fault simply because I'm a man and getting this from a woman who is a product of divorce herself ..The one thing Anna Doesn't realize is that her efforts to help men are poisoned by the feminist rhetoric she's listened to .She really needs to grow a spine and tell her sisters to grow up and quit being such miserable people . To follow her path is only to invite someone into my life who will statistically ruin it . Although I have many female friends I'm not in a relationship because I choose the peace of living alone over the constant chaos women can bring because they, for the most part choose to think from feelings over common sense . Right now this channel is disturbing that peace .
It’s been my experience that a lot of the interplay of the sexes is to decide if someone is ‘good enough’ for your long-term investment. Trying too hard / simping is evidence to the other that you may not be good enough. Just like if someone tries way too hard to sell you something you start to feel like there may be something wrong with it. I think it’s hard wired into our subconscious. Learning how to try but not too hard is an important social skill.
Great video Anna. Thank you. I'm not sure whether or not telling you this is a great video then thanking you for it is simping, but I figured I'd do it anyway.
Interesting and well presented. I thought I had most of this out of my system but your video called me out. I met a woman, we talked, she writes a blog. I started reading it and liking it. I have hit the like button on many of her posts. The problem is, the blog is actually good. So I am being honest. Meanwhile, I already know her flaws because her blogposts have revealed them. So I am in this position of having liked her to death on her blog, yet fully aware of her flaws. I'm not in love, but I am feeling a gravitational pull. I watched your video because she's giving me the green light and I want to do this right.
This from a past comment: I listen to Anna over and over her explaining that being too nice is a mistake in relationship building and she does an amazing job explaining this! A lot still does not make sense! I see it this way in our society we take a lot for granted! For example we have clean water to drink we can go to store and buy wonderful things drive a car across our country and be free to enjoy the fruits of other peoples labor to live our lives! But say if that is taken away thru let’s say an awful war! And things gets destroyed and we have to start all over again from nothing and say people become homeless! What kind of human would you want to be with if the SHTF! A nice person or the opposite! This is a very different angle!
I just realized after watching this that the girl I'm dating is Simping me. The compliments, the texting, the kind of desperate way she keeps inviting me over to her apartment is a big turn off. I guess Women can simp Men also, and it's just as much of a turn off for me as it would be the other way around.
It is...there is this girl who has been trying to get me to commit for years although I told her I don't want anything serious but I agree it can be just as much of a turn off.
It is hard to find compatibility if either person is perceived as more or less valuable. After getting to know each other and reaching a point where you're both on "the same level," the key is determining if you're compatible in terms of lifestyle, hobbies, and personality. Most people in long term relationships tend to share very similar personality traits (openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism). It also helps a lot if you share common hobbies or interests, whatever that now may be, because how else will you be able to create and share lasting memories together?
The best choice is Philippians 4:11...to be content with whatever we have. When you reach that point, simping isn't part of your picture because now no woman is necessary for your happiness. I'm complete without a woman and if I live the rest of my years alone, that's OK.
I won't accept simping being confused with genuine kindness and generosity. In the past I have given on the basis of observations of need. How would I define that statement? When a thought and purchase is given from the heart with absolutely no expectations of something in return. And you don't ever make it a topic of conversation or advertising to anyone.
Yes, that is true kindness not expecting anything in return. I have done this as well. I call it the neutral perspective where you are trying to help someone.
One must distinguish between helping a lady stranded in the desert, and giving her favours and compliments she hasn't earned. Just common logic that every man should have.
@@YourWingmam I would be interested in knowing your stance on people who always give and never give anything in return. I’m not talking anything monetary of value in return. I would die from a heartache if a woman just made me cookies for all of done for her and her son.
I don't know how it happened...I was a man going my own way then BOOM! I saw this channel and instantly became a simp for Anna! After seeing her pretty hair and beautiful eyes, I started listening to how she helps men and found out she is sweet and smart too! I was hooked. I got hooked on her cute sense of humor and how she always dresses classy. I am in recovery now and hope to get better watching this channel. MERRY CHRISTMAS!💖
This makes sense and I know we all try to go with what is familiar and repeat patterns. How do we know if a woman is emotionally healthy and I am not repeating previous patterns?
No! To anyone watching this video, if you have to play her games you've already lost. The woman isn't allowed to lose. You lose every time unless you don't play! If a woman is straightforward with you, and you know where you stand with her, no games... then fine. Go for it. But that's rare. Don't go looking for HPVs and other problems.
There is another way to play the game. I never flirt, am always ambivalent and ignore her attempts at getting attention or giving her free help or advice. Women are just adult versions of spoiled 16 year old girls. Women are always in control of romance and men are in control of relationships. Just say NO, unless she meets your requirements. One result is that women will start dressing for men instead of other women. When she wants you she will let you know. Never be subordinate to her whims, begging and whining. Women are controlled by their hormones much more than men. A man chases a woman until she catches him. It is women ( single or married) who are always searching for a partner and not men.
@YourWingmam videos like yours and Darius M and others have made me aware of simping and now I'm more successful because I have some knowledge of what not to do,
Love you you hit it right on the head. I used to live my life like that and when I stopped, that’s when I met the one and right now I still find myself falling back in that same old rut, and at take a stand back. And put myself back to caring about myself And not putting everybody first. When I do put myself first, not like all the time male chauvinist pig like But I have dreams too and desires. I end up being a very happy person. If I had have stayed the way I were I probably would’ve went to heaven and Saint Peter would’ve said so what did you do why you was on earth I was just a doormat. He would probably say go back lol yes I did learn a lot about pass relationships and I use it now with mine now don’t make the same mistakes. I never wrote to anyone like this before, but you feel comfortable and talking to. Keep up the good work I really like your input. Have a nice day and can’t wait for the new year to start hello
Hello 😊 I could use some advice or a video on this Subject. Overly needy girlfriend / Daddy -Dom situation. Both of us in our 60's Both Widowed. Appreciate any advice.
Any guy who has ever had somebody simp on them should get it as they felt the need to pull away from that person. Put yourself on the other end of that relationship if you have not had that experience. It's being 'too much', and it comes off as needy, desperate, and manipulative, and it can just feel smothering.
Happy New Year Anna! I have watched several of your videos. Without simping, may I find a sincere compliment regarding the value of the advice and counsel you give? The content is amazing! Are you a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist? I ask, because your presentations are very well done. Ok, I can't claim I am a relationship expert, or coach, but I was married for 28 happy years, and I lost her to heart disease in 2020. (Sad emoji here). But I am discovering that I still have a heart full of love, and I have learned some lessons about being in a stable, supportive relationship for those years. I LOVE that you are sharing your wisdom and experience that you have gained - thus the question about being a LMFT. So I will take your advice: High value women seek high value men: I will be chivalrous: open the door, sincere compliments on her character, thoughtful responses to her comments. Would you consider a video on "How to display chivalrous behavior?" I love that you end the videos with "God bless," so God bless you in this coming new year! Bernie McPherson, Fresno, CA, USA. Ok, a bit of simping: I love your red hair! Very attractive. Yes, I know, you get that a lot. Still, it is a deserved compliment (and sincere, too!) Thank you for taking the time and attention required to look so good on camera. Now, let me see what other Anna Jorgensen videos I can find . . .
Hmmm...I definitely agree about going for "generalization" rather than "personalization". Keep all options open, do not close doors and go all in on one person - it's emotionally healthier when appreciating all of one's options for dating. I think "simping" can also send off alarm bells that this guy is a potential stalker, so as cute as it might seem, it can also be unintentionally threatening.
As usual Anna, honest, straightforward and to the point. Were you feeling close to your grandmother today? Wearing something of hers helps you to remember the relationship you have with her.
Anna, “Chivalry is dead...and WOMEN KILLED IT.” -Dave Chappelle. The women of today don't deserve that treatment. Start behaving like ladies and maybe well behave like gentlemen. The modern dating scene is horribly toxic. Men stopped behaving like gentlemen when women stopped behaving like ladies. I still rather be single than sorry
Good video, the only thing is missed is age, BESIDES ALWAYS AND IM NOT AFRAID OF THIS STATEMENT THE RESPONSABILITY IS FOCUSED ON MEN, the guilt avoided by women. THERE IS NO GUILT THEY SAY.
A strategy to avoid any simping is to "under compliment". I would avoid "beautiful" to someone I recently met or who I was intent on dating. Beautiful is a strong word and could trip her Simp alarm, particularly it seems with young women who are hyper sensitive to anything they can make a TikTok about. Substitute about any other adjective is a safer word. I'd save Beautiful for a sentinel moment, like 1st kiss maybe. What ever adgective you use other than beautiful or even if you use beautiful, your eye contact at that moment is what sells it. That is where your confidence will be on display. But if you save beautiful for the 1st kiss, now it is a real power word. Eye contact, "You are so beautiful to me"...plant it.
@@YourWingmam OK guys, note to selves: if you ever get the extrodinary opportunity of being in the spot of 1st kissing Anna, both hands gently, each side of her face. Check. Might work on some of the others too but who cares now, right?
I learned very early in my teen life from a movie called fast times at ridgemont high...this 1 famous line turned me into a beast as said by the womanizer of the movie..."I don't care if they come, stay, lay, or pray..."..It works.
You may never know how keen I was listening to you deliver this, but if you cared to know, just take a look at the "cat" behind you :-) Nice cross from your grand mother, matched your top nicely!....Hope this comment is not deemed as simping😅
This sounds good in theory. However, I don't think many women are this self aware, to even consider any of these things. A guy who simps typically has little self respect/self love for themselves. They are projecting what they lack onto the girl of their interest/fantasy instead of healing and learning how to invest that energy into themselves.
A saying I try to live by: "Good is found in the balance between love of self and love of others." As Anna so well, as always, (hmmm, am I being a little simpy here?) reminds us, that's also a good guide in the part of our lives called the dating-mating game. So, we've got to stop and ask ourselves whether we're in balance or not, and try to correct as necessary. It's just that we all too often lose our heads when we're in love-think-want to believe we've found the right one, right? Seems like that's the tough thing to do, doesn't it? To stop and evaluate before it's too late. I think this starts by first, before you even go into the game, making sure you understand your hunger-level...The hungrier you are, the more careful you'd better be, and listen to what Anna has to say!
Perhaps a better way to look at that? Don't ever get set on a girl based on her looks alone, because looks don't count for much, no matter how much you obsess over it. Looks is just the outer wrapper to perhaps a golden bonanza inside, but if that bonanza isn't there, it cheapens the hell out of the wrapper.
@@charles2241 ABSOLUTELY 100% RIGHT ON! Here's my checklist for deciding whether a girl is a good marital prospect: Yes, she needs to be attractive physically (pretty face, good figure, healthy) but then she must also: be moral/trustworthy, at least medium intelligent, caring, affectionate, and attentive, and come from a good-psychologically healthy family. The physical attraction gets your initial attention but after that, be careful and take the time to evaluate everything else. WARNING: If your hunger for a mate is really high, doing the evaluation is where it's so easy to fail!
@@Avianthro For myself, that's why even instinctually before I realized why I behaved that way, I made sure and kept romance completely out with new girls (it has to be earned). We're going to have to be somewhat friends first in the very least. I may have no lover boy tendency toward her at all, but I'll let her interior powers reel me in, and if the interior looks pretty darn good, we can make some progress. I don't know, maybe it's just because we have so many good-looking girls where I live, I mostly don't even notice looks anymore, but also because of what I said earlier. No point getting all worked up about the looks, if she's garbage on the inside. My best GF kind of radically changed my view towards girls for the better, because while she was only a 7 in looks, her personality was a 10. We got to liking them loving each other so much, that without her changing anything, her looks jumped to a 9. When you're with a 10 personality, and they seem to think the same of you, it's heaven.
So I just subscribed. I was wondering what makes TRAVIS HUNTER a Simp as he is a hugh internet sensation for being one. Also.... What are the Red flags that his now fiancé projects that he should have caught on to. If you willing to do a podcast about it I'm willing to listen it seems like you are an expert in this field. It would be wonderful if you take up this challenge.
Thanks for the suggestion! I'll definitely keep it in mind for future videos. I’m not familiar with Travis but will look him up. Being kind, good and generous is not the same as simping.
Seems to be a US problem. In the country I live women have generally been kind hearted with me, mostly interested in whether or not I'm a decent person, not my bank account.
Every men simps whether they are young or old. Lot of men still don't know what simping really is. I understand the very good lesson from you anna and I did simped lot of times with girls in the past when I was young. It was really embarrassing to be honest, but atleast I learned a lesson and know my worth and value now. I like your character and personality and that is why I follow your channel Anna, but you are beautiful to be honest and I don't know whether it's a simp or not, but if I compliment excessively on your appearance or with any other women then that's simping I know that. So, thank you for all the videos you made about this important topic.
Exactly! Simping is essentially putting someone else’s needs and validation above your own, often at the expense of self-respect. Recognizing it is the first step to avoiding it and building healthier relationships. 💪
One thing I think needs to be said in regard to "High Value" people: I believe it would be better to identify people as "High quality" over "High value", because high value emphasizes external wealth, while High quality has more to do with internal wealth. Gentlemen, the good thing with being an honorable, high quality man is that age cannot take that from you. High value, as determined by worldly success, will fade. The same goes for women. We should strive to be people of high quality, not high value.
Hey Anna, frame one ... Big cross dominate the screen,... frame two... "some other parts too" ... I like it ..... religion or spirit does not have to be stiff :) < - this smiley is not SMSimp
Thank you for watching, happy new year and…Never simp your “sorry”: th-cam.com/video/97fjD6LcO70/w-d-xo.htmlsi=eG20F4XnV_R8cb_9 ;)
After quitting doing a specific amount of these things. I quit talking to women or attempted dates because of the constant rule and goalpost changing. Every damn time I try it’s not working. So the princesses are on their own
I quit these things or did not do or say certain things…now it’s her turn; she can stop complaining about my hobbies in fiction and machines or my video games She should not complain about a prenup. She doesn’t need a selfish furry pet. She doesn’t need to take The View Show very seriously
I don’t chase because for it is not working.
Simp” or cut them off as I did. My life has been quiet for 9 years and the joke is on them. I look forward to something artificial since I am slammed with high standards instead of being accepted. The hell with cold approach
Bottom line: No matter what you do for her to make her happy, no matter how you look for her, no matter how much you care her etc - IT'S NEVER GONNA BE ENOUGH FOR HER.
Every man on this planet has learnt this lesson sometime or the other. Women are often PERENNIALLY dissatisfied unlike men.
@@agxec2932 Yep. It’s never enough. A new day means more, more, and more!
And they do not care because the next idiot victim is waiting in line.
Women are nuts, once I realized that, my life with women have been easy. I do not put up with their BS anymore....Confidence, once mastered, can never be defeated.
@@agxec2932 FACTS!
Women find reasons to disqualify a man. Anything she remotely dislikes will be a justification to reject/ghost/block you.
Correct.
steps that helped me get my first girlfriend:
started cold approach
joined a martial arts gym
read the book celestial soulmate by lentlish
improved my style (better clothes)
started nofap and focused on money (affiliate marketing)
all these small changes added up, and now my life is 10x better.
All good stuff outside of the nofap. Nofap is nonsense
until you slip up once she leaves you and you are left with half your stuff and the relization those decades of work just went up in smoke because she felt like it.
your life is 10x more dellusional!
To be honest i am so confused on women. I tried being the nice guy. That did not work. I became colder and made less of an effort. Did not work either. I spent so much money trying to make them happy that it nearly broke me. I finally decided to stay single and now i am a millionaire. I now have women knocking at my door but i have lost all interest from all the disappointments. I have come to realize that a man is only relevant when women do not have other options.
Pretty sad for you. Once you go down the mentality of pigeon holing all women into any one category, you are done regardless.
That’s a lot to unpack, and it sounds like you've been through some tough experiences. First, I want to say that it’s great you’ve found success and stability in staying true to yourself-that’s something many strive for.
Your story highlights a reality some men face, but I’d also encourage you to reflect on how you approach relationships moving forward. Women knocking on your door now may not necessarily reflect who they truly are-it could just be the type of attention wealth often attracts.
It’s also worth noting that not every relationship is transactional or rooted in hypergamy. The key is to find someone whose values align with yours, someone who appreciates you beyond material success or effort.
Your experience could be a powerful lesson for others. If you’re open to it, maybe use your journey to help others understand the importance of self-worth and balance in relationships.
Millionaire isn't much. Every home owner in my town of 100,000 + people is a millionaire
Don't spend another god damn dime on these twats. There's a reason why they're suddenly 'interested' now, when they weren't before you had $$$.
@@PaleBlueDotCitizen Ahh.. usury.
I'm so happy I'm over the dating scene I'm single and happy many men have woken up. We actually don't care about what women feel anymore. 😊😊😊
Damn right. This is just a recent thing. No worries,we are going back to old ways
MGTOW
100% ON POINT! Have you noticed the total absence of men whining on TikTok in cringe video's lamenting the lack of a woman in their life? Conversely, TikTok is rammed with cringe videos featuring women whining about being single. Being single saves men money and protects them from DEMANDS and RISK. Being single is EXPENSIVE for women- they cannot tap into a man's resources for their own purpose. Men are far more adept at living simply and saving money. Women hold the highest proportion of credit card debt, they have the lowest amount of savings, and they pay the least into their pensions. It's going to be really interesting to scrutinise the figures for depression and mental health issues amongst middle aged women in another decade. They are already suffering higher rates of depression than middle aged men.........It's only going to get worse for them from here on.
Excellent.
*True strength comes from knowing your worth and not overcompensating to win her approval. Stop chasing - create value in your life, and let her chase you.*
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When its right, neither is chasing, or if it is happening, you are both chasing each other. When its just either or, its a waste, move past.
@@sword-and-shield Chasing is wrong. But it needs time, to get to know each other. So a certain amount of pursuing will be there, most of the time. Unless there is immediate physical attraction on both sides - but that is a different story.
@@spxram4793 "Unless there is immediate physical attraction on both sides - but that is a different story"...No, that IS the story, and my point, if it isn't, its a waste more often than not. I never said pursing isn't there, but that if one sided, its almost always a waste, and later before sooner.
@@spxram4793if she doesn’t find your attractive when y’all first meet, odds are she never will.
Like I’ve heard tons of women say over the years, a woman has decided in the first 2-5 minutes (if not quicker) if she will ever sleep with that man.
Trying to “win her over” is Hollywood Disney horse hockey. If you have to win her over it means you are not her first choice.
Decades ago, I knew a guy who worked as a cook in a nice restaurant. He was head over heels for a waitress there. She barely knew he existed. Poor guy decided to win her affections by buying her a Car. Oh man. Those of us that knew the man knew it was the wrong play. However, what ruined the waitresses reputation was the fact that she acepted the gift knowing full well that it wasn 't going to change a thing, she never even went on one date with the guy. No one wante4d anything to do with her after that, not even as friends.
That is an incredible story.
Hard lesson all around, unfortunately, she got a car out of it.
I would have bought her a car with no brakes 😂😂😂
Why the fuck did he do that?!!
@@liamcage7208 can't trust Simps
Anna got emotional at the end talking about her grandmother. I think grandma played a major role in her life.
Bless her heart. She so much deserves to be happy and successful. I sense several elements of her personality. Incredibly philosophical and powerfully positive and also a deep desire to help others succeed.
More sensitive than she wants to portray. Grandma's necklace exposed her own vulnerability. She's just simply a wonderful and beautiful human being.
Great advice, Anna. In this gynocentric society where women act like they're the prize, they know deep down inside that they need a man more than he needs them.. This has been the way of the world since the beginning. Don't simp, walk like a man!
Walking like a man doesn’t mean you are the prize. Watch How to be a Sigma Male by Guru Pashupati. He is spot on teaching men. Spot on. You won’t be a simp after watching that and you’ll get that you aren’t the prize. She is.
If you fancy her, just ask her out once. If she declines........no need to simp. You've established she's not interested, anyway. You've saved a lot of time, effort and money, and can now focus elsewhere.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Yeah I usually ask a woman out that I think is attractive (to me) after about a week of meeting them and talking to them if we both find something in common.
I make my intentions known quickly.
@@richard29415
Yes...... asking early on gives you a conclusion. If you know she's not into you, you've lost the incentive to please her. There's nothing to gain. Armed with that knowledge, you can move on and forget her. She'll actually respect you more if you take that approach.
@@noelgibson5956 a man has to ask me out twice usually. I’m a stable attachers and the only men I’m attracted to are the ones who do all the things she mentioned in the introduction. I fall in love with good men. Not mean men. Simpy men are sappy men. You can be the total gent without being sappy.
I agree, didn't use to but do now.
Self confidence, self love & validation, self boundaries, NO CHASING!
If you're a hot guy that they're already attracted to.
Be yourself and make an effort to improve your financial, fitness, and mental growth.
Be bald, short and broke and you're much happier
Learned this a while ago after many mistakes. I think what I need to learn is to just stop chasing them when they don't reciprocate.
Simps have ruined modern dating. Women often get a lot of hate online for the state of modern dating, and some of the reasons can be valid, but as a society, we don't blame the men nearly enough for how bottom of the barrel things have become
So what is man’s fault too , I know simps ruined it but vvoman just showed how cold hearted they can be . They sent love letters to serial Enders let that sink in for a second how shallow can they really be shame on that kind of w.🤦🏽♂️
There are more simps than men of dignity and strength and integrity. Simps arent watching these videos bc they dont want to feel regret and lesser. The question is how to reach and change these boys to men?
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
simps should watch these videos because it is an strategy for them to get out of that undesired zone. I wish I had these videos 20 years ago. I watch them now thinking of the past :))))))
@@V.D.22Simps are Beta males. Loser Beta males, it’s simple. Women can sense someone is an loser simp. Facts buddy.
You can't force someone to change, give someone advice if they're not receptive to change. Those people will have to learn the hard way, if ever.
Simps aren't watching this type of content because, I believe, _they don't know_ that they're simping - and they don't think they're doing anything wrong. So, why should they attempt to change, when - according to 'society' - they're doing everything right. All the messaging they receive tells them that wahmens are perfect, blameless angels, who can do no wrong, and they're not just equal but superior to men, in every way, so you'd better bow down to them. (Oh, and men are bad, btw, so don't you dare be one). It's only when the cognitive dissonance becomes too much to bear - when they learn for themselves, through painful experience, that what they've been told all their lives bears no relation to reality - can they be reached. And even then, it takes a lot of conscious effort to begin to undo the damage. Doesn't help that 'red pill' content, and creators, are framed as evil misogynists, either.
The entire system and culture is designed to emasculate boys and make them into simps - and prevent them from growing into men. Men - real men - might become a threat to the (deeply unjust and corrupt) system, and we can't have that, can we. This comment will probably be deleted.
Your program is great. Great video. Merry Christmas.
Merry Christmas! Thank you for watching, and I appreciate your support!
I am 52 and i can tell you that sadly its all about the looks, yes i am tall and built and i keep training 5-6 times per week. At my age I am also over those titles alpha beta omega and the more recent sigma, for me its all about life experience. I have been single for a long time, after my last relationship since I lost everything house and been cheated on.
But in the past months I also lost a lot of weight that I had put on over the years, and my physique changed for the better and my face is a lot more defined. There is a new girl at work she is 29 and she follows me everywere giving me all the signes. What did i do, nothing I showed up made her laugh and did compliment her like all the rest of the guys at work who change there attitude when a women is close.
Its a package confidence, independance, looks etc. But you still need to look good to attract.
Looks does play a major role like 70-80% then your attitude and confidence to back those looks yes. Looks is fit lean muscular Build to your body shape appears what women seem to like the most. Dad Bods is BS and Yes women are very visual as well. Men and women get together becuase of biology.
So this woman seems shallow. Men fall for this trap since the beginning of time. You’ll get laid the. You’ll get played. Once you’ve been hooked.
I'm older than you and agree. But it's even more about status (and money). Looks gets you laid all the time, status is what they chase for relationship.
@@jans724 True but they want looks, status etc. all rolled up in one person. That won't happen you may get one but not the other. Something has to give. For relationships they go to Options B and C to get laid is Option A. They will resent Options B and C because they have been with A. Eventually, they will have sex as men pursue this.
@@jans724 I tend to agree with you. If you're good looking, money is irrelevant in 'getting' a lover. But if you're broke, keeping them is the difficult part. On the upside, at least you know that they're not with you for your money if you don't have any. :)
Thanks for this advice. The most important point I got from your video is realizing that I'm not lower than them in value. That's been my major problem--putting women on a pedestal!
The ONLY difference between simping and chivalry is attraction.
And sincerity
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Thank you for doing another video on the subject of simping. It's a habit I had for quite a while, and I stopped it as a result of either being rejected and placed in the friend zone or just disrespected altogether. It's a habit I do not want to revisit at all. I do feel way better about myself for not being a simp anymore. Happy New Year and may God richly bless you.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your kind words! 🙏
Boys are conditioned from birth to simp. Breaking that habit is hard.
Another good message, Anna. It pays to be generous with women once you get to know them - but never simp. For me, simping is any behaviour that is **calculated** to garner a response of approval, or to make you visible to her. Once you recognise it in your own behaviour, you can check it and stop it. It’s amazing how women are responsive to being led in love, and find your mysterious quietness fascinating.
Well said. This is such good advice. Keep up the great work
10:10 Glad u called out your own viewers. Lots of those simps in ur comments. The message of ur vids goes right over their heads.
Ironically, my favourite comments are those that show they’ve learned something from the video.
Men marry for love. Women marry for business.
Once upon a time maybe. Not anymore. We don't just love women anymore and we sure as hell ain't going into business with them in the eyes of the state amd court. Fk that.
Agreed. Men are in love. Women are in business. I know I’ve lost the interest in marriage and even cohabitation.
I really do appreciate your advice and yes, I’ve been guilty of a few of these things. But I would really like you to do a video on how to create a profile on a dating site and also what to write in your description because what I’m doing just isn’t really working Well I take that back. It is working, but it’s attracting flies. With all that said, I want to wish you and your loved ones a very happy and blessed New year and keep this information coming
Your trust is appreciated! I’ll make a note of your interest for when my health and energy improves. Thank you for understanding. :)
Another informative and valuable video Anna! I'm delighted to discover how FEW of these traits I possess, although admittedly I've been guilty of many in the past.
As a man in his 40's I'm comfortable with the likelihood that "it's over" and many years ago refocused my attention on setting my life up for security and comfort when I reach my 60's.
Great video! By the way, I love your grandmother's decorative turquoise cross. It's the kind of cross I'd like to get to know more in real life!
Thank you! I'm so glad you liked the video! 😊 And yes, my grandmother’s turquoise cross is really special-it has a beautiful history behind it. I can see why you’d be interested in something like that! It’s such a timeless and meaningful piece.
Wingmam, I appreciate that you actually took a moment to explain your word choice... "simping" is indeed a derogatory term, but I admit it's difficult to think of a better one.
Thank you for understanding! It’s a term that definitely carries a lot of weight and can be misunderstood. The idea behind it is really about finding balance and respecting yourself in relationships. Let’s keep the conversation open to redefining how we approach and label behavior!
Contemptable, immature, dishonest, and manipulative people like this deserve to have a derogatory label. They don't need any coddling from the rest of us and they aren't being misunderstood- we can see their own game more clearly than they can. If simps had even a crumb of self-awareness or self-reflection the fact that the word for their behaviour is considered derogatory might get the gears turning towards self-improvement.
I was going with a woman who worried me because I found myself agreeing with her - not to simp, but because I honestly agreed with her . . . and it was starting worry me. The only thing I found to disagree with her was her idea of letting a child be king or queen of the family for a year, and I said I thought it was bad to single one kid out, especially for an entire year. She was a vegetarian, and I found it interesting (and cheaper . . .) and to this day I eat much less meat. I gave her no gifts, but was planning a "dream vacation" in Italy and Germany (where I have friends and could stay for free . . . I'm a trifle thrifty at times . . . besides, I like to stay in a castle - no, really). Quite a few other things, too, such as supporting her when she had to give a speech (she hated her own voice, and I pointed out everybody does), giving her advice when she asked for it and which she said she appreciated, being impressed with her parents (no, really, two great people), when previous boyfriends criticized her for doing everything wrong and hated her family (how, I don't know, because they really are great), and so on, so forth. Out of the blue the day before an operation I was a teeny bit scared about (I could have gone blind) she dumped me without warning saying she saw an old acquaintance "with new eyes." She said I was a very good person, a good man (her exact words), but she had thought it over (after we had agreed to discuss everything) and decided unilaterally she needed something more familiar. Three months later after a "fairy tale vacation" he dumped her. She begged to be taken back. Six months later he took her on another dream vacation of a lifetime (which I think she paid for) . . . and dumped her again. I'm sitting back waiting for the next exciting installment. I doubt she'd even try to come back to me (not that anyone ever has), but she's getting to the age that some say women "hit the wall" and I know she wanted a family. Just in case I have a very polite and friendly note prepared saying don't count on it, although I'll probably not get the chance to use it.
Wow. That was rough.
Yikes! Forget her & move on NOW
Try to get outvof your head next time. Stop ANALizing everything so much
👏👏👏👏👏
Just brilliant...
Regards from Buenos Aires.
Happy new year!
Thanks for watching, and Happy New Year from Canada, eh! 🌎🎉
@YourWingmam 👋
borrowing a jacket reminded me something. I´ve had a friend, we spent a lot of time together, went out eating and stuff... I was always available whenever she needed anything, because that´s who I am - even though I haven´t met many people that would actually deserve it. One time we were sitting outside in a restaurant and it was getting quite cold. I offered my hoodie - as I always did and she also agreed as always. So I was only in a t-shirt and after an hour or two, the weather got really cold. We were about to leave already, I was going to walk her home, but she just wanted to sit there for a while longer. After maybe a half an hour I explained that it was getting cold and I wanted to walk her home (she didn´t want to go by bus for some BS reason). She offered to return my hoodie, but she only did that because she knew I wouldn´t want it back. When we finally moved towards her apartment she kept stopping and messaging her sister, giggling etc. She even phoned her and stopped during a phone call. So after a while I told her that it was really cold and I want her to walk. She offered my hoodie back again with a disgusting smirk in her face and I surprised her - I agreed. From that moment she wasn´t very talkative anymore. Didn´t stop to message her sister and her nose was quite watery when her body felt the cold she didn´t mind me waiting in for her. As much as it wasn´t like my manners - I´m still glad I did that. She was ungrateful and never apologized. Few weeks later she even suggested that my behavior wasn´t right that evening, but I stopped her immediately. She pulled more BS before I drew the line completely, but in retrospect - this was a great character check. And I don´t care if it was a sh*test or anything - if women need to test men this stupid way (without even realizing it), then whose brain is still the brain of a caveman..?
I like the word simp. Those who are simps should keep hearing it
The word SIMP is what killed chivalry . Maybe if men weren't thanked with insults and shit under the feet of women for common courtesies , they might have better luck with co-operation from us. I get so damned tired of being degraded for performing common sense daily kindnesses by women for helping them when I'd do the same for a guy who needed help.I wonder what would happen if men got so damned tired of this women's movement that when they saw a woman behind them they just let the door they were going through ,slam in the face of that woman and leave her on the concrete .Being called a pig because I helped and did it expecting nothing from it is another bunch of big mouthed bullshit women come up with . If western women behaved this way in a lot of other countries, they would be messed over bad . This is not a universal problem. It's pretty much western women who act like a bunch of shallow pigs ..It's pretty much western women who are bitching about why men no longer want much to do with them. The problem is not what we have to do to please women instead it's what women need to do to wake up and get their heads out of their asses. Women never used to be this way it's social media and parroting feminism and bringing nothing to the table in a relationship that got them where they are today .As for me ,While I would never and have never been purposely mean to a woman , my attitude from this stuff is go screw your self since you don't need us anyway . This is why I went MGTOW . As for this channel I've followed it for years because Anna has come up some constructive ideas but lately I'm sick and tired of being told every thing is my fault simply because I'm a man and getting this from a woman who is a product of divorce herself ..The one thing Anna Doesn't realize is that her efforts to help men are poisoned by the feminist rhetoric she's listened to .She really needs to grow a spine and tell her sisters to grow up and quit being such miserable people . To follow her path is only to invite someone into my life who will statistically ruin it . Although I have many female friends I'm not in a relationship because I choose the peace of living alone over the constant chaos women can bring because they, for the most part choose to think from feelings over common sense . Right now this channel is disturbing that peace .
Yep. Part of the problem is they get their feelers hurt too easily and need to get thicker skin.
Can't we just call them spastics?
@@timtimtimmay4654true true
The word is fine. Is there even another word for it? We shouldn't need to change half our vocabulary every five years because of commies 😂
Happy New Year, Ms. Jorgensen. I'm starting the new year wiser thanks to your advice. 😎
Happy New Year! I'm so glad to hear that the advice has been helpful. Wishing you even more wisdom and success in 2025! 😊😎
It’s been my experience that a lot of the interplay of the sexes is to decide if someone is ‘good enough’ for your long-term investment. Trying too hard / simping is evidence to the other that you may not be good enough. Just like if someone tries way too hard to sell you something you start to feel like there may be something wrong with it. I think it’s hard wired into our subconscious. Learning how to try but not too hard is an important social skill.
Great video Anna. Thank you. I'm not sure whether or not telling you this is a great video then thanking you for it is simping, but I figured I'd do it anyway.
Life is hard. But it’s twice as hard when you’re a simp.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
It's ok we got it, and went out own way. Better single than sorry, and a list of 1000 things we should and shouldn't do.
MGTOW!
Whatever you do, whatever effort you put in, whatever money you spend is never good enough or reciprocated.
MERRY XMAS.ANNA AND HAPPY NEW YEAR
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you too,
@robertproietti-ricci6403! 🎄🎉 Wishing you a wonderful holiday season filled with joy and blessings! 😊🎆
Interesting and well presented. I thought I had most of this out of my system but your video called me out. I met a woman, we talked, she writes a blog. I started reading it and liking it. I have hit the like button on many of her posts. The problem is, the blog is actually good. So I am being honest. Meanwhile, I already know her flaws because her blogposts have revealed them. So I am in this position of having liked her to death on her blog, yet fully aware of her flaws. I'm not in love, but I am feeling a gravitational pull. I watched your video because she's giving me the green light and I want to do this right.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@YourWingmam It did. I subscribed. First date coming up ....
Thanks for posting this; a lot of guys need to know...
You’re welcome, and thank you for watching!
This from a past comment:
I listen to Anna over and over her explaining that being too nice is a mistake in relationship building and she does an amazing job explaining this!
A lot still does not make sense! I see it this way in our society we take a lot for granted! For example we have clean water to drink we can go to store and buy wonderful things drive a car across our country and be free to enjoy the fruits of other peoples labor to live our lives! But say if that is taken away thru let’s say an awful war! And things gets destroyed and we have to start all over again from nothing and say people become homeless! What kind of human would you want to be with if the SHTF! A nice person or the opposite! This is a very different angle!
In that scenario, you'll be fetching water for your princess while Chad fills her expectations.
The "screech voice" haha😅..... oh, no! I'm simping 😬😮💨
We all have simped. The good ones learn from their mistakes. The arrogant ones still simp thinking it will get them somewhere
Always good advice, and easy to understand. Thanks!
Another great video, Anna! 👍
Thanks for watching! I’m glad you found it helpful!
If people treat it like a game, they will definately get played.
I just realized after watching this that the girl I'm dating is Simping me. The compliments, the texting, the kind of desperate way she keeps inviting me over to her apartment is a big turn off. I guess Women can simp Men also, and it's just as much of a turn off for me as it would be the other way around.
It is...there is this girl who has been trying to get me to commit for years although I told her I don't want anything serious but I agree it can be just as much of a turn off.
I thought only men simp
I love the crickets... I can relate. Thanks AJ for sifting through all the BS and telling us guys what we need to hear not what we want to hear.
It is hard to find compatibility if either person is perceived as more or less valuable. After getting to know each other and reaching a point where you're both on "the same level," the key is determining if you're compatible in terms of lifestyle, hobbies, and personality. Most people in long term relationships tend to share very similar personality traits (openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, neuroticism). It also helps a lot if you share common hobbies or interests, whatever that now may be, because how else will you be able to create and share lasting memories together?
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The best choice is Philippians 4:11...to be content with whatever we have. When you reach that point, simping isn't part of your picture because now no woman is necessary for your happiness. I'm complete without a woman and if I live the rest of my years alone, that's OK.
If she doesn’t find you attractive, simp or not she isn’t going to be into you.
Sad but true.
Thanx doc, great video. Have a great new year and may God always bless. Peace n love.
Thank you! I pray blessings for you as well 🙏
OK, simping is not one of my problem behaviours.
I won't accept simping being confused with genuine kindness and generosity. In the past I have given on the basis of observations of need.
How would I define that statement? When a thought and purchase is given from the heart with absolutely no expectations of something in return.
And you don't ever make it a topic of conversation or advertising to anyone.
Yes, that is true kindness not expecting anything in return. I have done this as well. I call it the neutral perspective where you are trying to help someone.
One must distinguish between helping a lady stranded in the desert, and giving her favours and compliments she hasn't earned.
Just common logic that every man should have.
You get it!
@@YourWingmam I would be interested in knowing your stance on people who always give and never give anything in return. I’m not talking anything monetary of value in return. I would die from a heartache if a woman just made me cookies for all of done for her and her son.
@@stuartwilson3753 exactly, most people who accuse somebody of simping are just projecting.
You have my respect with your looks/appearance here. And respect for your grandmother's cross. 🙏👍
You got the simp thing going for you, congrats
The reality is, no matter what you do, woman do not care.
Pure and simple, all of the excuses in the world, don’t change that.
Pretty direct and assertive, thanks!
My pleasure ❤️
I don't know how it happened...I was a man going my own way then BOOM! I saw this channel and instantly became a simp for Anna! After seeing her pretty hair and beautiful eyes, I started listening to how she helps men and found out she is sweet and smart too! I was hooked. I got hooked on her cute sense of humor and how she always dresses classy. I am in recovery now and hope to get better watching this channel. MERRY CHRISTMAS!💖
Wise advice. Thank you very much.
This makes sense and I know we all try to go with what is familiar and repeat patterns. How do we know if a woman is emotionally healthy and I am not repeating previous patterns?
Simpers are sad and I feel bad for every one of them. I always try to help friends who simp. Be a real man and stop simping.
No!
To anyone watching this video, if you have to play her games you've already lost.
The woman isn't allowed to lose.
You lose every time unless you don't play!
If a woman is straightforward with you, and you know where you stand with her, no games... then fine. Go for it.
But that's rare.
Don't go looking for HPVs and other problems.
There is another way to play the game. I never flirt, am always ambivalent and ignore her attempts at getting attention or giving her free help or advice. Women are just adult versions of spoiled 16 year old girls. Women are always in control of romance and men are in control of relationships. Just say NO, unless she meets your requirements. One result is that women will start dressing for men instead of other women. When she wants you she will let you know. Never be subordinate to her whims, begging and whining. Women are controlled by their hormones much more than men. A man chases a woman until she catches him. It is women ( single or married) who are always searching for a partner and not men.
I was a simp, my dad was also a simp,
Now i watched youtube videos i am fully aware of simping and a will pull away if i feel I'm simping, no simping
Awareness is the first step to potential change. You got this!
@YourWingmam videos like yours and Darius M and others have made me aware of simping and now I'm more successful because I have some knowledge of what not to do,
Love you you hit it right on the head. I used to live my life like that and when I stopped, that’s when I met the one and right now I still find myself falling back in that same old rut, and at take a stand back. And put myself back to caring about myself And not putting everybody first. When I do put myself first, not like all the time male chauvinist pig like But I have dreams too and desires. I end up being a very happy person. If I had have stayed the way I were I probably would’ve went to heaven and Saint Peter would’ve said so what did you do why you was on earth I was just a doormat. He would probably say go back lol yes I did learn a lot about pass relationships and I use it now with mine now don’t make the same mistakes. I never wrote to anyone like this before, but you feel comfortable and talking to. Keep up the good work I really like your input. Have a nice day and can’t wait for the new year to start hello
Hello 😊
I could use some advice or a video on this Subject.
Overly needy girlfriend / Daddy -Dom situation.
Both of us in our 60's
Both Widowed.
Appreciate any advice.
Any guy who has ever had somebody simp on them should get it as they felt the need to pull away from that person. Put yourself on the other end of that relationship if you have not had that experience. It's being 'too much', and it comes off as needy, desperate, and manipulative, and it can just feel smothering.
Happy New Year Anna! I have watched several of your videos. Without simping, may I find a sincere compliment regarding the value of the advice and counsel you give? The content is amazing! Are you a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist? I ask, because your presentations are very well done. Ok, I can't claim I am a relationship expert, or coach, but I was married for 28 happy years, and I lost her to heart disease in 2020. (Sad emoji here). But I am discovering that I still have a heart full of love, and I have learned some lessons about being in a stable, supportive relationship for those years. I LOVE that you are sharing your wisdom and experience that you have gained - thus the question about being a LMFT. So I will take your advice: High value women seek high value men: I will be chivalrous: open the door, sincere compliments on her character, thoughtful responses to her comments. Would you consider a video on "How to display chivalrous behavior?" I love that you end the videos with "God bless," so God bless you in this coming new year! Bernie McPherson, Fresno, CA, USA.
Ok, a bit of simping: I love your red hair! Very attractive. Yes, I know, you get that a lot. Still, it is a deserved compliment (and sincere, too!) Thank you for taking the time and attention required to look so good on camera.
Now, let me see what other Anna Jorgensen videos I can find . . .
Very informative and interesting video, but I see what you did near the middle of the video when you said "or slide into her."
You look and sound like marni
Are Marni and anna jorgenenson the same person?
Hmmm...I definitely agree about going for "generalization" rather than "personalization". Keep all options open, do not close doors and go all in on one person - it's emotionally healthier when appreciating all of one's options for dating. I think "simping" can also send off alarm bells that this guy is a potential stalker, so as cute as it might seem, it can also be unintentionally threatening.
You're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing!
As usual Anna, honest, straightforward and to the point. Were you feeling close to your grandmother today? Wearing something of hers helps you to remember the relationship you have with her.
Thank you Anna 🙏♥
You’re welcome! Glad you’re here! 💞
Anna, “Chivalry is dead...and WOMEN KILLED IT.”
-Dave Chappelle. The women of today don't deserve that treatment. Start behaving like ladies and maybe well behave like gentlemen. The modern dating scene is horribly toxic. Men stopped behaving like gentlemen when women stopped behaving like ladies. I still rather be single than sorry
Good video, the only thing is missed is age, BESIDES ALWAYS AND IM NOT AFRAID OF THIS STATEMENT THE RESPONSABILITY IS FOCUSED ON MEN, the guilt avoided by women. THERE IS NO GUILT THEY SAY.
Helleo Ana Nice video as always i like uy
I appreciate your kind words!
A strategy to avoid any simping is to "under compliment". I would avoid "beautiful" to someone I recently met or who I was intent on dating. Beautiful is a strong word and could trip her Simp alarm, particularly it seems with young women who are hyper sensitive to anything they can make a TikTok about. Substitute about any other adjective is a safer word. I'd save Beautiful for a sentinel moment, like 1st kiss maybe.
What ever adgective you use other than beautiful or even if you use beautiful, your eye contact at that moment is what sells it. That is where your confidence will be on display. But if you save beautiful for the 1st kiss, now it is a real power word. Eye contact, "You are so beautiful to me"...plant it.
Gold star! 🌟 Hold her face gently while saying it and she’ll slip off her seat lol
Some restrictions apply lol
@@YourWingmam OK guys, note to selves: if you ever get the extrodinary opportunity of being in the spot of 1st kissing Anna, both hands gently, each side of her face. Check. Might work on some of the others too but who cares now, right?
‘Emotionally stable women’. What a great idea.
I learned very early in my teen life from a movie called fast times at ridgemont high...this 1 famous line turned me into a beast as said by the womanizer of the movie..."I don't care if they come, stay, lay, or pray..."..It works.
3:23 Filberg Park looks surprisingly green for this time of year. 😉
You may never know how keen I was listening to you deliver this, but if you cared to know, just take a look at the "cat" behind you :-)
Nice cross from your grand mother, matched your top nicely!....Hope this comment is not deemed as simping😅
Thanks
Beautiful cross - great channel ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
This sounds good in theory. However, I don't think many women are this self aware, to even consider any of these things. A guy who simps typically has little self respect/self love for themselves. They are projecting what they lack onto the girl of their interest/fantasy instead of healing and learning how to invest that energy into themselves.
Yes you are correct . Simping. Will set you up for failure. But drug addiction will do the same. Thanks.
Everything you say is true. It also applies to women, too.
You're absolutely right!
My problem is trust issues, lived, and learned.
A saying I try to live by: "Good is found in the balance between love of self and love of others."
As Anna so well, as always, (hmmm, am I being a little simpy here?) reminds us, that's also a good guide in the part of our lives called the dating-mating game. So, we've got to stop and ask ourselves whether we're in balance or not, and try to correct as necessary. It's just that we all too often lose our heads when we're in love-think-want to believe we've found the right one, right? Seems like that's the tough thing to do, doesn't it? To stop and evaluate before it's too late. I think this starts by first, before you even go into the game, making sure you understand your hunger-level...The hungrier you are, the more careful you'd better be, and listen to what Anna has to say!
Perhaps a better way to look at that? Don't ever get set on a girl based on her looks alone, because looks don't count for much, no matter how much you obsess over it. Looks is just the outer wrapper to perhaps a golden bonanza inside, but if that bonanza isn't there, it cheapens the hell out of the wrapper.
@@charles2241 ABSOLUTELY 100% RIGHT ON! Here's my checklist for deciding whether a girl is a good marital prospect: Yes, she needs to be attractive physically (pretty face, good figure, healthy) but then she must also: be moral/trustworthy, at least medium intelligent, caring, affectionate, and attentive, and come from a good-psychologically healthy family. The physical attraction gets your initial attention but after that, be careful and take the time to evaluate everything else. WARNING: If your hunger for a mate is really high, doing the evaluation is where it's so easy to fail!
@@charles2241 Most top lookers can be shallow, get yourself a granny (over 50)
@@Avianthro For myself, that's why even instinctually before I realized why I behaved that way, I made sure and kept romance completely out with new girls (it has to be earned). We're going to have to be somewhat friends first in the very least. I may have no lover boy tendency toward her at all, but I'll let her interior powers reel me in, and if the interior looks pretty darn good, we can make some progress. I don't know, maybe it's just because we have so many good-looking girls where I live, I mostly don't even notice looks anymore, but also because of what I said earlier. No point getting all worked up about the looks, if she's garbage on the inside. My best GF kind of radically changed my view towards girls for the better, because while she was only a 7 in looks, her personality was a 10. We got to liking them loving each other so much, that without her changing anything, her looks jumped to a 9. When you're with a 10 personality, and they seem to think the same of you, it's heaven.
Did you say “psychologically stable women”? Hmmmm. Still looking for one.
As rare as unicorns are
Wingmam is looking 🔥 in this video. Yes, I’m simping for Wingmam so sue me lol
I’m glad you’re enjoying the video! lol
@@DEBTFREEMIKE769 Wow, u simped and then unsimped all in one sentence. Bravo, I did lol!
So I just subscribed. I was wondering what makes TRAVIS HUNTER a Simp as he is a hugh internet sensation for being one. Also.... What are the Red flags that his now fiancé projects that he should have caught on to.
If you willing to do a podcast about it I'm willing to listen it seems like you are an expert in this field. It would be wonderful if you take up this challenge.
Thanks for the suggestion! I'll definitely keep it in mind for future videos. I’m not familiar with Travis but will look him up. Being kind, good and generous is not the same as simping.
Seems to be a US problem. In the country I live women have generally been kind hearted with me, mostly interested in whether or not I'm a decent person, not my bank account.
I feel you. It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Simping isn’t about the size of your bank account. It’s about ass-kissing to win her over.
Every men simps whether they are young or old. Lot of men still don't know what simping really is. I understand the very good lesson from you anna and I did simped lot of times with girls in the past when I was young. It was really embarrassing to be honest, but atleast I learned a lesson and know my worth and value now. I like your character and personality and that is why I follow your channel Anna, but you are beautiful to be honest and I don't know whether it's a simp or not, but if I compliment excessively on your appearance or with any other women then that's simping I know that. So, thank you for all the videos you made about this important topic.
Some sure do.
I’m so glad this video resonated with you, and that you've learned some valuable lessons along the way. 😉🙏
I clicked on this because I did not know what simping is.
Ok. I get it.
lack of self respect.
Exactly! Simping is essentially putting someone else’s needs and validation above your own, often at the expense of self-respect. Recognizing it is the first step to avoiding it and building healthier relationships. 💪
Happy New Year.
One thing I think needs to be said in regard to "High Value" people: I believe it would be better to identify people as "High quality" over "High value", because high value emphasizes external wealth, while High quality has more to do with internal wealth.
Gentlemen, the good thing with being an honorable, high quality man is that age cannot take that from you. High value, as determined by worldly success, will fade. The same goes for women. We should strive to be people of high quality, not high value.
I'm just direct. Ask them out. Tell them what you want and who you are. No time wasted. Happy new year 😊
Zactly! Happy new year!!
A perfect example is duckie in the 80's movie pretty in pink with molly ringwald.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
1:41 The first few seconds that you mentioned what he was doing, that gave me the cringes.
Hey Anna, frame one ... Big cross dominate the screen,... frame two... "some other parts too" ... I like it ..... religion or spirit does not have to be stiff :) < - this smiley is not SMSimp
Geesh Lady, They should make a Hitch part 2. You good?
I'm glad you're enjoying the video! I’m good, thank you! :))