People love you Quinn....they would like your videos whether it's a big stage production or more relaxed with "tea!" It's the content that matters...I appreciate your content🙂and I have already learned a lot from you.
Anxiety is weird emotion. It used be problem. It looks like me worrying but it’s not. It’s warning that my spoons are running out. That social encounter is going to cost too much. So I started feeling and acting on it. Ignoring causes it grow and get triggered by something else that is trivial. Causes racing thoughts. Feeling and acting, thought it might look like mild agoraphobia only it’s not. It me doing self care. Might mean taking a few days off work. Canceling on a social event. Go into hermit mode for a day or two. The end result is no melt down for over a year. Come close but my anxiety warned me. Took me about 6 years to figure out my anxiety before get out of hand and trigger trivially. Lot of practice
Quinn, I think this more relaxed format should be a winner! I love it and I think the comfy storyteller with a cuppa works really well. I love the slick performance videos but this feels more like listening to a good friend. I really hope it catches on. Thinking of you through the other struggles❤
Not to advertise another channel but there is a cowboy on the TH-cam who uses different language than me, smokes a cigar or pipe, and has metaphors outside of my understanding... until he casually links things as he chats and you fully grasp the depth of his teaching... It's the casual nature which drew me in to someone I didn't think i would relate to initially... A solid script or musical backing can be intimidating when knew knowledge is given, causing a sort of defense to consider it 'preachy' (for lack of a better word) I'm not saying wear pastal polo shirts and pink rimmed sun glasses like the fresh prince to relate to the youngsters... But it felt most honest and oddly like there was more consideration in the language used because you know your stuff and yourself and knew your vague goal
Agreed. I really love these kind of unassuming, conversational style videos. I feel like it's easier to take the words at face value and digest them more fully and quicker, vs. having to separate the message from the shiny packaging in order to see the value in the words on their own merit.
It takes courage to do episodes like this. I appreciate you doing it. The fear of being misunderstood (compared to other sources of anxiety) is outsized in my mind as well. Being told I had aggressive, advanced cancer didn't disturb me much at all. The Dr. thought I wasn't understanding what he was saying. Conversely each post I do online takes 30 minutes, an hour, etc. as I read it and reread it looking for potential misunderstandings and trying to address them while keeping the post length under control...
I feel you. I repeated myself a couple of times in the video above & I cringed beyond belief when I realised during the edit. At least 3/4 of my writing time is edits & rewrites, whether it's a script or a social media post. One of the reasons I don't DO social media any more😉
Agree Fred. It takes me for ever to. Especial just whatapp to friends and family. As for your cancer may love and compassion surround you or what ever you need.
Honestly, this is one of my favorite ways to hear your message. It is raw and honest, and you are still very understandable and relateable. Maybe that is bias, though, because we would get each other on these topics pretty easily anyway 😊
You're awesome man! You pulled me right in! I've watched a lot of your other videos and i didn't notice a difference in quality. I think the quality YOU bring is the magic in your videos.
Keep doing what you are doing. Even when it changes. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Sharing about your process and anxiety hit me where I am right now. I wish you the best. You have already done so many a good turn today.
I love this type of content. I understand wanting everything to be scripted, edited and pristine every time you post, but seeing other autistic people talk about and deal with their autism in real time really does help sometimes. It helps me feel less alone and less "weird". Thanks for being open and willing to just be yourself around us. It's wonderful
This was super relatable, especially how things others expect to give me anxiety often don't but other things others seem to pay no mind to make me incredibly anxious. I also bet it was super smart to feed the algorithm Gods something rather than missing weeks altogether and losing momentum.
For me, this actually was even more pleasant to watch than usual. So yes, I am very much fine with a simpler and less produced video, especially since the message did not suffer. Thank you.
Your words are enough 😊 Keep it coming. I got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago at an age of 46. I’m a mom of to nevrodivergent kids and I’m in a severe autistic burnout. I’m not able to work at the moment and that’s hard for my self-esteem. My job now is to be the best mum I can be and try to figure out who I am. That’s scary as hell. Your content is helping me navigiate this caotic life of mine. Thank you 😊
Just wanted to let you know I love the "teatime with Quinn" style! I totally get the anxiety about being misunderstood - it's one of my most persistent nightmares (I literally have nightmares about it). So I understand if you feel most comfortable sticking with your normal format - which is also great, of course! - but if you feel able to put out more videos like this - and it saves you some time and effort - you'll definitely get at least 1 view and like 😊
Omg! I've just realised why I have persistent nightmares where I'm repeatedly trying to explain something and nobody can hear me! I never thought it could be related to the autism but I'm still trying to piece it all together since my very late diagnosis in August at the age of 65😅
@@wendyfollett8099 Its so tough this late diagnosis, mine was 62. And I agree. Time spent in a conversation is tripled with the after review, that can go on that night but also for many days, weeks after.
@@Phoenix-regenerating mine is a shiny new diagnosis but I've already hit several bumps in the road! My husband who has supported me throughout has started asking why I seem more autistic now, my daughter tells me that not everything is about autism without being able to understand that everything I thought I knew is having to be re-examined. And that's all before I can begin to work out who I want to be! Lol. I am certain we will get there but I find peace and acceptance among the autistic community here on TH-cam.
Great video Quinn, as always! I love the relaxed feel of this just as much as I love your others and I really do think you should do what's best for you. We watch you because of you and what you're saying 💛
my friend, I think the verdict is in. You are the centre-piece of your videos and any fancy footwork is just eye candy. A cup of tea and a chat? Bring it on.
When you said, “bag of nerves,” I can most definitely relate as I was told something similar when I received my multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis. I am now trying to discern the difference between my intro to autism-people insisted did not apply to me-and the damage caused by MS. The majority of damage is on my brain but I had autism long before being properly diagnosed as I reflect on my childhood. I’m in my 50’s…age is not a number that applies to my behavior-especially in a neurotypical world.
Quinn, I’ve just found your channel and WOW. You are one admirable human being. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I related so much with everything you spoke about, and the bit about not being understood is so accurate, it hit me right in the heart. This is the first video of yours I’ve seen but I can feel your heart. I know the struggle. You made me feel less alone and less awful about myself today. Thank you, new internet friend🫶🏼
It's funny how the TH-cam algorithm knows we are autistic before anyone else knows, including myself. It started serving me these videos of various AuDHD creators before I knew I might be one of them
Hi Quinn! I only just discovered your videos today, and I’ve watched four or five at this point and I really love them. I would like to point something out for future videos, the noise you used to emphasize the anxiety almost made me turn the video off, and I missed what you were saying under it due to the over stimulation of the noise. I hope this comes as constructive criticism and not just complaining. I look forward to watching more of your videos. I do like this format, it feels more engaging and comfortable.
I understand where you’re coming from! I thought that effect was pretty great at conveying the constant noise and stress of anxiety, for those who don’t experience it. It is triggering, but it’s effective😅 perhaps if possible in future videos you can think about it in more of an empowering way, like THIS is what we deal with, doesn’t it suck? As if you’re observing a person who doesn’t struggle with anxiety watch this demonstration.
I was quite relieved to listen to you speak on anxiety as I’ve recently been experiencing such high levels of it. Haven’t wanted to see people or leave the house because of it, often hyperventilating also. Reducing my load is one of the tactics to overcome it I think.
What a lovely idea...cuppa and a chat... stepping out of your comfort zone is a massive deal, but I just wanted to say you did it and well done, another lovely video. This could be a new thing for you... Cuppa and a Chat... I like it. I dont think you need to be so hard on yourself 😊
Thank you for all the work you do. You really have made a difference to my life and I doubt very much that I'm the only one who feels that way. I'm in the middle of a series of appointments for an autism assessment and struggling to find my place in a world that doesn't seem to work for my brain. When you mentioned your autistic world complementing the neurotypical world that had a powerful impact. I'd never considered it like that and think it will be a helpful perspective. Thank you.
I just love you Quinn! Your vulnerability, honesty, integrity and eloquence that's so easy on my sensitive ears. I truly understand the uphill push it takes to "make it" in a NT world. Much love, health and happiness to you.
Ahhh! That anxiety noise was spot on. It caused me an involuntary grimace and then i laughed. Also of course your words are enough! If they weren't i wouldn’t have kept coming back. I really appreciate seeing you in your natural setting much more than the other non-background. It does feel like a cuppa and a chat.
I loved this video style! More would be great please. I’m an autistic person of vintage myself, a bit more vintage than yourself. 😊 I struggle with many layers of trauma and constant anxiety too. I found the relaxed, share a cup of tea and chat video style very calming and comforting. I can carry on with my day feeling less alone and misunderstood now. I also understand the need to push for the best to make it in a NT world and ultimately, whatever suits you is great too. Your content is really helpful. I tend to not comment online much because of my anxiety about being misunderstood, but I’ll try to comment more often to help the algorithm. All the best to you and thank you.
This format is just fine. I prefer your other format better, but I get a lot of comfort just hearing your voice. And I totally understand the draw to a simpler format, particularly when stressors are high. I still value your content either way.
I have only seen one other and it referred to a comment from a previous video, but I reckon (I does) that for a more factual educational take on a topic where references to concepts or the like might be needed then fully scripted and considered and compiled is perfect... For a moment of frank honesty and opening his 'home'/safer space to explain an initial experience and lead in to the understandable difficulties of jumping in without the chance to over think and pulling it off in what appeared like an easy manner despite the context speaking toward the anxiety growing... well... it was moving to be able to understand in ways.. in feeling I could understand in ways personal to me
@@direwolfen I very much agree (I does indeed). this video felt more like a conversation, less like a presentation. Given the topic & the context, I'm sure that wasn't easy to pull off ... and yes, I also feel that this format is somehow more appropriate for this particular topic. I didn't intend to push for more heavily scripted videos to the exclusion of all else ... I imagine there's a balance to be found somewhere, and I trust Quinn to find one that works for him & benefits us all.
Thanks for making this! I found your channel soon after I learned that I’m on the autistic spectrum. I was 58 years old at the time. You have helped me navigate through the labyrinth of my life as it is/was . I’m so very grateful. If you ever come to Arizona, U. S. A. I have a comfortable guest room.
This is only my 3rd time watching, but I don’t think this format is a bad thing at all. Different, but not bad. I did find it helpful that you spoke about your anxiety while you were feeling it. Thanks for the clear introspective look. You helped my anxiety a little bit by being transparent about your own. Thank you!!
I enjoy your videos Quinn.. this no less than any thus far.. i love how you express yourself ...your hand gestures are so spot on and your use of the languge refreshing.. this kind and folksy offering is for me quite welcome in addition to your more polished productions.. Thank you for allowing us to see a different view of you!☺️
That is deep. Perhaps the most difficult part of one self to expose. Even to one self. Thank you. PS: The cozy setting is equal nice. I like variation, as long as it not new each time, but within an expected set. What I try to say is, I would like to see both.
The essence of your vintage is present in this new format and It's good to know the algorithm is working your favour. It really is very impactful to meet people with similar views, ideas and experiences ...even those really particular obscure ones. Whatever the format of content around our community; It's still fascinating and magnetic since self identification. Anxiety is one of the strangest things to grow in awareness of; one minute, it didnt exist at all (alexythymia) and the next, recognising it permeates every pore about everything but at least, there are people that can help me understand it better by sharing their own relatable experiences. Really appreciate following your journey and thought surrounding your strategy for Autistimatic
This was a great video, thank you for putting it up. I definitely think you can lighten your load more often and still make great content that is relatable and helpful by just chatting to us. When we are surrounded by so many nuerotypicals that we can't relate to, it helps to hear from someone who we do relate to, even if it is only in this casual communication format.
Way to go, Quinn! Valuable video/content as usual. We come here for your experienced perspective, thoughtfull words and comforting voice, not the perfection or polished effects. I can totally relate to the anxious overthinking though, that turns what could be quite simple and enjoyable tasks into monstrous balancing acts of concidering every conceivable angle to avoid confusing or offending anyone - a great way to burn out properly and repeatedly, i've come to learn the hard way.. What you've done here today is difficult and takes a lot of courage for people like us, and you did very well! I may even prefer this style of video.. It feels honest, authentic, and high quality. Don't let algorithms or overly high standards ruin your life, it's just not worth it. Good sound, good content and authenticity - that's the important stuff, and you've got that covered better than most youtubers 🙂
Quinn, I really enjoyed this format and genuinely think you should do more like this. Relaxed and spontaneous suits you and you communicate beautifully with us, no matter the setting or format. I loved it. Thank you
I for one love this format, and would not mind seeing it used more often. You could publish your thoughts and insights audio only, and i'd still be an avid follower of your work.
Your regular content is amazing, but this change was also wonderful. It felt a bit more intimate, as if one Autist were opening up to another. There is certainly an appreciated, personal touch to this one. Moving forward, I believe videos in this style would be beneficial, even if the damn algorithm does not agree.
Yesss Quinn! I really like this simpler style of video because I just love to hear what you have to say. I love for you and others to take things easier and feel less anxious. There is no need for perfectionism and heavy editing to get your point straight across. I can hear that you really care about what you are talking about, and that is enough for me to listen and to keep on coming back for more!
Hey Quinn, I'm new to your channel since yesterday. So I'm not one of your regulars telling you this, but I liked this video. Sure the ones with animation and B-roll stuff might look more interesting in the first place, but this feels a little bit more personal. As you said face to camera. I really really appreciate that you openly talked about your anxieties and how they affect you on a day to day basis. The sound you used in the background... yeah that's this constant background noise of problems and anxiety that never seems to sleep or quiet down. It's already hard dealing with that and when new anxieties pop up, new situations to deal with, ect then it can quickly become overwhelming. I can also relate so much how you described that you have anxiety about one thing, but when you think of ways to fix that one, new anxieties pop up around that solution that this might not work. This happens to me a lot that I kind of spiral into a feeling that there are several doors open for me, but I expect a monster waiting for me behind every single one of them, so I barely can take a step forward, let alone decide which door I want to go through. And it seems like no amount of good supporting words can barely make it easier for me, only when I pull together all my courage I have and step forward and then "learn" okay, this worked and nothing bad happened. I hope this video format works out for you and your channel to take off some work load off your shoulders and give you a way to deal with the anxiety about upload schedules and earning the money necessary to continue. My energy levels can vary greatly, so I might not be a "regular regular" viewer and comment writer, but please know that you gave me some light to cling to.
40 year old dude here. I just recently found out that I'm autistic. Your video was just recommended to me by a new community I joined. My diagnosis is coming far, far too late in life, and anxiety has pretty much ruined any chance I've had of having one. But.. watching this video resonated so much with me that I finally felt a short bit of calm... and I so rarely feel that way. I want to thank you for that bit of peace of mind.
I just found your channel and started watching your videos today. I highly prefer this format to your previous videos. The content in both is amazing, but I find this simpler style easier to watch, as the graphics and such can be distracting for me. Your voice is very calming and your words wise. That's what I'm here for. You are changing the world for the better! Your videos I've watched thus far made me feel understood, which is something I struggle with too. Thank you! Please take care of you and do whatever feels best and makes the most sense for your life!
This was certainly not a bad idea. It was, at least this once, a good idea. It might be a good idea for future videos as well, especially if it means we receive more of your insights into our distinctive neurology.
Thank you for this video. I’m actually currently on break at work struggling to get through a nine hour shift after some anxiety inducing deadlines and pressure from my boss. I’ve been undiagnosed most of my life and your channel was a gem I stumbled upon. This video was not overstimulating and relates to what I go through. So well it may be simple, sometimes that’s what we need most. (:
Thank you, Quinn. This was not a bad idea at all. I enjoyed this kind of video. It felt personal, vulnerable, human and relatable. And I think you are making the world a better place, helping us to understand and accept ourselves.
I like this video just as much as the others 🥰 I do feel that these types of videos complements your more abstract/theoretical once, because they relate theory into real examples from your own life. 💪 I have great success communicating, why I "over react" to seemingly minor things.. today I had a conversation with my new boss, because I had a short outburst targeted towards her, because I had tried to anticipate by making arrangements in regard to changing room situation because i am transgender and i know not all will feel safe with me around, and because i REALLY DO NOT want to change near others because of prior trauma.. she has now for 4 weeks straight not uphold her part of the agreement, which has actually caused me major anxiety issues because of situations i had tried to prevent. So I explained to her, that my reaction was anxiety because i do have trauma regarding both men and women that makes it hard for me to enter changing rooms, and i do have trauma caused by me being misunderstood in ways that ended up costing me grave pain.. so i do agree that it was a minor thing, but that minor thing for me trigger anxiety in so many was that i could not sleep for 4 days straight the first time..
Hi Quinn, yes, please. Sharing content like this is useful to all of us as human beings, and as neurodivergent people in particular; it certainly helps me to feel less lonely and better understood.
Brother, I truly value your videos. Thank you for making them. They are a source of comfort And to be clear, I will watch/listen to you no matter how flashy or how simple the video production is =)
Personally, I prefer this style of video. I am here for your words and don't care at all about the stock footage that gets added to your "normal" content. That said, as a relatively new subscriber, I happily and systematically worked my way through your "back catalogue." I will contentedly watch whatever content you choose to produce. Do what works best for you and I will continue to follow along.
My 1st time commenting on one of your videos, but one thing I've always appreciated was your honesty and tone. Everything else is a bonus. You have helped me a lot over the last year or so as a 45 yr old that just learned I have ASD, APD, ADHD about a year ago. I have related to you more than anyone else I've watched, including this video. So thank you. Please keep making videos whether super produced or not. Both are loved and enjoyed. (Edit to add) and helpful!
I'm a fan of this format and a fan of your usual format. I think it's because at the core of it, I'm here to engage with the thoughts and ideas and messages you have to share, regardless if it's a production or just a couch-conversation. Thank you for sharing this experience with us. If more videos like this come from it, great! If not, I'm still looking forward to listening to whatever you have next to say, because I'm interested in your perspective, full stop. I'm walking away a little more enlightened today.💡
I'm loving your videos with or without graphics. I personally find it so much easier to listen to you rather than watch because for some reason I take in the information better instead of listening and watching. But I do often watch it twice if there is graphics because I don't want to miss anything. I'd rather a video was released regularly but not to your detriment I'd rather you put your own needs first as you should come first important. A more relaxed approach is nice from time to time. 😊 When I first started watching your channel I told my husband you were like the David Attenborough of autism and I was thoroughly enjoying your videos. I like to learn about autism and the different topics you cover because I'm on a journey of discovery into my autistic self. Your videos help me to see as an autistic the things that affect me and my life and are helping me grow immensely. Thank you Quinn for all the time you manage to put in when life is often so busy or anxiety provoking. Hope things soon settle for you. 😊
@jenb I had such a day yesterday. Needed to visit my closest phone provider store - one hour drive each way, plus the wait time at store. I almost succeeded in talking myself out of it. But, one thing at a time: Get in car, drive to end of drive, then drive to nearest shop; if all ok, drive on. It worked. And didn't have to wait. Sometimes I feel I'm putting myself into my own anxious prison.
This video was wonderful. I can relate to so much you say. I'm around the same age as you but the difference between you and I is that you have known that you are autistic much longer than I have known about me. Throughout life I have just struggled on getting by whilst think I was no different than anyone else in this wonderful world. I've been depressed and anxious constantly without even knowing. A breakdown a few years back suddenly made me realise who I actually am and how different I am. Someone mentioned autism to me and my personal research led me to believe I am actually autistic and this realisation has started to help me manage me. I still get anxious and still feel depressed but I understand in a better way why. I love listening to your content. Please carry on but do what is right for you. I have many friends but I would love to find a friend myself who thinks like me and I am sure one day I will. 😊
I found this incredibly relatable. I had not articulated that bit about trying so hard to be sure I will be understood, but that rings really true. Thank you
Quinn, I feel like this more casual video is great. It lends a little more personal touch to the information being shared. It is very insightful and inspiring to understand how someone else navigates these difficulties while following their passions. I enjoy your content either way, thank you!
Your words Quinn are exactly the reason I am here. I have an adult son struggling and I am looking for answers. I also notice many of the same traits in myself, so I learn a lot from you. Thank you. Don't think most people come here for entertainment, so I vote yes, for this simple format. Flashy things don't really add a lot to the message. Great job!
I'm still here 😊 This video feels much softer to me and I appreciate I don't have to watch so closely as to not miss any awesome graphics. I'm glad you're here.
I like this format a lot, I love finding videos in more of a personal format like this one because sometimes its nice to have the reminder that other people are unsure of things as well. Even without the full setup you still provide a very inviting atmosphere. Hope all stays well!
I may not be an extremely active viewer, but I think this works. I appreciate your directness and honesty, which is my preferred way to learn about anyone's experience, and while I am not glad that you are in a difficult situation, using it as a tool to keep sending the message that you want to spread is a good idea, and takes courage. Your words are enough for me. In my grand naivety I wish for a future where content creators (or anyone else for that matter) would not have to risk suffering if they can't please the algorithm gods' whims. I think many of us should not be as hard towards ourselves as we are, you included... And me. It may have taken me a bit longer than necessary to write this. I struggle with misunderstandings too. I don't think this was a bad idea at all. Besides, the humor is still there. The anxiety background noise was both funny and accurate. I hope your situation improves soon.
There's room for the structured discussion of one topic, a mix of information backed by personal experience, and the from-me-to-you, informal, personal format. That personal format can, I think, induce more anxiety because of the direct exposure. I like to think of anxiety as dwelling on what happen, or could be happening, rather than what I am doing right now, which is all I can control. Not that I've cured anxiety. I just occasionally catch myself in the act.
This was so relatable. I personally really enjoyed this video. It reminds me of a story about the Who's album Tommy. They were stressed out trying to make this amazing album with a story and a plot and they threw in a quickly written song about pinball to get a good review from a specific music reviewer. Then Pinball Wizard became the most popular thing from the album. Same could be said for this video. Its not a professionally made as your other videos. Yet its super relatable because so many of us can see ourselves in what your sharing in your current experience. I hope things work out soon so your anxiety can calm down. Always happy to see new videos from you Quinn!
I so relate and feel the anxiety. The need to constantly explain myself so I am not misunderstood, the self inflicted pressure to get things done when my poor mind and body needs a rest, 51 years of trying to be something I am not is a very hard thing to change. It is strange to find a community that thinks and feels in a similar way to me, when I have spent my life pretending to be neurotypical, that is all I thought there was!! I am slowly giving myself time and grace. I am learning and understanding how my brain works and it is helping ease some of the anxieties but I have so far to go. Thank you for sharing and for letting me know that anxiety is an autistic struggle for alot of us. Thanks for being brave and choosing Autistamatic, I hope it gives to you as much as it does to us, if not now it will in time. I enjoy this format as well.😊
As I've just "Found" you and gone through your back catalogue I find your content to be rich, knowledgeable and honest. To be honest I listen to your videos while doing something else as that is how I best process information so don't "see" all your hard work...I found this to be as good as your other videos and found it as good as your other content. It was also reassuring to hear your vulnerability as I often think I'm the only one who doubts there ability all the time. Thank you (however you continue to produce your content) it helps me navigate the world outside ❤❤
The algorithm gods...ah yes. Today it's enough. Sometimes it's small things that are draining. Today I drove to visit my son and been resting since I returned. Nice to hear your voice. ❤
This felt like a conversation with a friend, I like it even though the subject is difficult. I often just listen to videos because the visuals can be overwhelming so Im happy either way but this was a nice format.
I’m relatively new to the channel (maybe six months). Yours was one of the first channels I found as dug into what it really meant to be autistic as I went through the self-identification process at 52 years old, eventually culminating in the diagnosis that surprised no one close to me. That I was autistic wasn’t a surprise, but all the ways it has touched my life (duh, in retrospect) was, and, even though you weren’t late diagnosed, you were the most relatable source of information for me. I say that first, to say thank you, but also to let you know that it is, ultimately, you that I am here for. Do I appreciate the extra production work? Of course. Is it necessary every time? No. If I could offer a little suggestion: for these kinds of videos, maybe talk a little about how you are dealing with it. You mentioned the anxiety. A good addition would be explaining how you are coping with that THIS WEEK, so not a general “here’s how to cope” but a specific “this is what I did today”. Think of it like an autistic survival skills vlog. God knows I could use the tips. 😂
Nearly every time I watch one of your videos I think "Ohhhhh it's not just me". Some of this really hit home. It's not just you, fellow traveller. Thanks for sharing.
Quinn, I think this is only the second time in my life that I've actually commented on a video...but, thank you. At this very moment, I'm experiencing the same general feeling and although I don't WANT anyone else to feel this way, it's nice to know that I'm not alone. 😂 I love all of your "usual" videos, but please don't hesitate to do ones like this also. It's a good reminder that, at our core, we're all just human. 😊 May things improve for you soon!
I think this has a more relaxed, informal feel to it. Like us and Quinn just sitting in the livingroom having a chat. I like it. Might i recommend a dark backdrop, like dark blue or dark green, to contrast your comfy looking chair and reduce the overall brightness. And, if you're not already using one, a diffuser on your studio light. If you are already using one, maybe increase the shutter speed on your camera...if they still do that. Or, if it can, lower the output level of the light. Just to deepen the tone of the image. It'll increase the feel of intimacy for your viewers. I also read years ago that sunset level lighting is relaxing and more likely feel a closeness to people, maybe even love. Its your channel, make it look as you see fit. I'm just passing along some tidbits i picked up over the years.
Thank you Quinn! I really appreciate the personal feel of this video and would watch more. And thank you for the lesson in how to overcome perfectionism that can lead to burnout.
I find being misunderstood so hard to cope with and wish I could just brush these things off and get past it, not the endless ruminating and lying awake at night, going over things and wanting to put it right
I really want to encourage you as much as I can and it’s indeed a hit (it’s the first video I’ve seen from you!) and it’s like seeing myself, this anxiety that have costs me so much, to a point that I’m too anxious to write anything that would be seen by people, it’s the overthinking, it’s the perfectionism, it’s the PDA, it’s the fear of not being understood. It’s actually confirming seeing this.
I drank my morning cup of tea with you (this video). Great video, and your points still came through eloquently as allways ❤️ You put into precise words what I feel, but can’t really put my finger on. Not to push your anxiety, boundries ara important and all that, but I would think you could get away with an even more relaxed format than this 😉 Like your talk with Mike, it was great, and I laughed out loud at the text editing!
I like this format Quinn. You're so verbally articulate that it doesnt matter about the other stuff. I know, the ADHD side of me worries about leaving anything on screen for too long, and yet personally I find there is a place for less visual stimulation.
People love you Quinn....they would like your videos whether it's a big stage production or more relaxed with "tea!" It's the content that matters...I appreciate your content🙂and I have already learned a lot from you.
Thanks Jenny💜
@@Autistamatic absolutely. You might like my video coming out tomorrow. I was inspired by your part in the Creator Collab.
@@autisticjenny I'll keep an eye out😉
def gonna go make some tea now hehe
@@Autistamatic Jenny said it very well. Keep doing you in whatever format is appropriate for you at the time.
Quinn - speaking as a fellow ‘tuber - I think you’ll find this new lighter format will work just fine! 😅 You got this! 🧡
I'm too tired to think about an intelligent comment right now, but I heard comments help with the algorithm, so here it is 😊. Liked it as it was!
Every comment counts 8D
same
I'm leaving this comment to boost engagement with your comment boosting engagement. 😄
Anxiety is weird emotion. It used be problem. It looks like me worrying but it’s not. It’s warning that my spoons are running out. That social encounter is going to cost too much. So I started feeling and acting on it. Ignoring causes it grow and get triggered by something else that is trivial. Causes racing thoughts. Feeling and acting, thought it might look like mild agoraphobia only it’s not. It me doing self care. Might mean taking a few days off work. Canceling on a social event. Go into hermit mode for a day or two. The end result is no melt down for over a year. Come close but my anxiety warned me. Took me about 6 years to figure out my anxiety before get out of hand and trigger trivially. Lot of practice
Yeah, same here. 😊
Quinn, I think this more relaxed format should be a winner! I love it and I think the comfy storyteller with a cuppa works really well. I love the slick performance videos but this feels more like listening to a good friend. I really hope it catches on. Thinking of you through the other struggles❤
I agree and I'm leaving a like and a comment on this comment' ideas to show or at least represent my own symbolic yes vote. 🫶
Not to advertise another channel but there is a cowboy on the TH-cam who uses different language than me, smokes a cigar or pipe, and has metaphors outside of my understanding... until he casually links things as he chats and you fully grasp the depth of his teaching...
It's the casual nature which drew me in to someone I didn't think i would relate to initially...
A solid script or musical backing can be intimidating when knew knowledge is given, causing a sort of defense to consider it 'preachy' (for lack of a better word)
I'm not saying wear pastal polo shirts and pink rimmed sun glasses like the fresh prince to relate to the youngsters...
But it felt most honest and oddly like there was more consideration in the language used because you know your stuff and yourself and knew your vague goal
Agree! ❤️
Here,here!
Agreed. I really love these kind of unassuming, conversational style videos. I feel like it's easier to take the words at face value and digest them more fully and quicker, vs. having to separate the message from the shiny packaging in order to see the value in the words on their own merit.
It takes courage to do episodes like this. I appreciate you doing it. The fear of being misunderstood (compared to other sources of anxiety) is outsized in my mind as well. Being told I had aggressive, advanced cancer didn't disturb me much at all. The Dr. thought I wasn't understanding what he was saying. Conversely each post I do online takes 30 minutes, an hour, etc. as I read it and reread it looking for potential misunderstandings and trying to address them while keeping the post length under control...
I feel you. I repeated myself a couple of times in the video above & I cringed beyond belief when I realised during the edit. At least 3/4 of my writing time is edits & rewrites, whether it's a script or a social media post. One of the reasons I don't DO social media any more😉
Agree Fred. It takes me for ever to. Especial just whatapp to friends and family.
As for your cancer may love and compassion surround you or what ever you need.
@@Autistamatic I didnt notice, beside my brain needs repeats , it gets the message across.
Honestly, this is one of my favorite ways to hear your message. It is raw and honest, and you are still very understandable and relateable. Maybe that is bias, though, because we would get each other on these topics pretty easily anyway 😊
This felt like a little heart to heart with a friend.
You're awesome man! You pulled me right in! I've watched a lot of your other videos and i didn't notice a difference in quality. I think the quality YOU bring is the magic in your videos.
This is a perfect idea of putting a less produced video and I enjoyed this one very much!
Keep doing what you are doing. Even when it changes. This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Sharing about your process and anxiety hit me where I am right now. I wish you the best. You have already done so many a good turn today.
I love this type of content. I understand wanting everything to be scripted, edited and pristine every time you post, but seeing other autistic people talk about and deal with their autism in real time really does help sometimes. It helps me feel less alone and less "weird". Thanks for being open and willing to just be yourself around us. It's wonderful
This was super relatable, especially how things others expect to give me anxiety often don't but other things others seem to pay no mind to make me incredibly anxious. I also bet it was super smart to feed the algorithm Gods something rather than missing weeks altogether and losing momentum.
For me, this actually was even more pleasant to watch than usual. So yes, I am very much fine with a simpler and less produced video, especially since the message did not suffer. Thank you.
I totally agree. This is a spontaneous talk right from the heart.
Your words are enough 😊 Keep it coming. I got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago at an age of 46. I’m a mom of to nevrodivergent kids and I’m in a severe autistic burnout. I’m not able to work at the moment and that’s hard for my self-esteem. My job now is to be the best mum I can be and try to figure out who I am. That’s scary as hell. Your content is helping me navigiate this caotic life of mine. Thank you 😊
Just wanted to let you know I love the "teatime with Quinn" style! I totally get the anxiety about being misunderstood - it's one of my most persistent nightmares (I literally have nightmares about it).
So I understand if you feel most comfortable sticking with your normal format - which is also great, of course! - but if you feel able to put out more videos like this - and it saves you some time and effort - you'll definitely get at least 1 view and like 😊
Omg! I've just realised why I have persistent nightmares where I'm repeatedly trying to explain something and nobody can hear me! I never thought it could be related to the autism but I'm still trying to piece it all together since my very late diagnosis in August at the age of 65😅
@@wendyfollett8099 Its so tough this late diagnosis, mine was 62. And I agree. Time spent in a conversation is tripled with the after review, that can go on that night but also for many days, weeks after.
@@Phoenix-regenerating mine is a shiny new diagnosis but I've already hit several bumps in the road! My husband who has supported me throughout has started asking why I seem more autistic now, my daughter tells me that not everything is about autism without being able to understand that everything I thought I knew is having to be re-examined. And that's all before I can begin to work out who I want to be! Lol. I am certain we will get there but I find peace and acceptance among the autistic community here on TH-cam.
Great video Quinn, as always! I love the relaxed feel of this just as much as I love your others and I really do think you should do what's best for you. We watch you because of you and what you're saying 💛
my friend, I think the verdict is in. You are the centre-piece of your videos and any fancy footwork is just eye candy. A cup of tea and a chat? Bring it on.
When you said, “bag of nerves,” I can most definitely relate as I was told something similar when I received my multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis. I am now trying to discern the difference between my intro to autism-people insisted did not apply to me-and the damage caused by MS. The majority of damage is on my brain but I had autism long before being properly diagnosed as I reflect on my childhood. I’m in my 50’s…age is not a number that applies to my behavior-especially in a neurotypical world.
Quinn, I’ve just found your channel and WOW. You are one admirable human being. Thank you so much for doing what you do. I related so much with everything you spoke about, and the bit about not being understood is so accurate, it hit me right in the heart. This is the first video of yours I’ve seen but I can feel your heart. I know the struggle. You made me feel less alone and less awful about myself today. Thank you, new internet friend🫶🏼
I found him last night, we are working the blessings of the algorithm, praise be Quinn the knowledge giver and sharer of experience
It's funny how the TH-cam algorithm knows we are autistic before anyone else knows, including myself. It started serving me these videos of various AuDHD creators before I knew I might be one of them
@someoneanyone365 Said so beautifully.
@@ElMoonLiteoh my god it is SO true.
Thanks!
😊🖖Thanks to you too
Hi Quinn! I only just discovered your videos today, and I’ve watched four or five at this point and I really love them. I would like to point something out for future videos, the noise you used to emphasize the anxiety almost made me turn the video off, and I missed what you were saying under it due to the over stimulation of the noise. I hope this comes as constructive criticism and not just complaining. I look forward to watching more of your videos. I do like this format, it feels more engaging and comfortable.
It was intended to feel a little uncomfortable... It's representing anxiety😉 Thanks for the feedback😊
I understand where you’re coming from! I thought that effect was pretty great at conveying the constant noise and stress of anxiety, for those who don’t experience it. It is triggering, but it’s effective😅 perhaps if possible in future videos you can think about it in more of an empowering way, like THIS is what we deal with, doesn’t it suck? As if you’re observing a person who doesn’t struggle with anxiety watch this demonstration.
I was quite relieved to listen to you speak on anxiety as I’ve recently been experiencing such high levels of it. Haven’t wanted to see people or leave the house because of it, often hyperventilating also. Reducing my load is one of the tactics to overcome it I think.
What a lovely idea...cuppa and a chat... stepping out of your comfort zone is a massive deal, but I just wanted to say you did it and well done, another lovely video. This could be a new thing for you... Cuppa and a Chat... I like it. I dont think you need to be so hard on yourself 😊
Thank you for all the work you do. You really have made a difference to my life and I doubt very much that I'm the only one who feels that way. I'm in the middle of a series of appointments for an autism assessment and struggling to find my place in a world that doesn't seem to work for my brain. When you mentioned your autistic world complementing the neurotypical world that had a powerful impact. I'd never considered it like that and think it will be a helpful perspective. Thank you.
Just wanna hear whatever you want to say in whatever format of the moment. It’s all good and all informative. Many thanks for all you share!
I just love you Quinn! Your vulnerability, honesty, integrity and eloquence that's so easy on my sensitive ears. I truly understand the uphill push it takes to "make it" in a NT world. Much love, health and happiness to you.
Ahhh! That anxiety noise was spot on. It caused me an involuntary grimace and then i laughed. Also of course your words are enough! If they weren't i wouldn’t have kept coming back. I really appreciate seeing you in your natural setting much more than the other non-background. It does feel like a cuppa and a chat.
I loved this video style! More would be great please. I’m an autistic person of vintage myself, a bit more vintage than yourself. 😊 I struggle with many layers of trauma and constant anxiety too. I found the relaxed, share a cup of tea and chat video style very calming and comforting. I can carry on with my day feeling less alone and misunderstood now.
I also understand the need to push for the best to make it in a NT world and ultimately, whatever suits you is great too. Your content is really helpful. I tend to not comment online much because of my anxiety about being misunderstood, but I’ll try to comment more often to help the algorithm. All the best to you and thank you.
This format is just fine. I prefer your other format better, but I get a lot of comfort just hearing your voice. And I totally understand the draw to a simpler format, particularly when stressors are high. I still value your content either way.
well said, and appreciated as always. definitely a viable format (although I confess to enjoying the more "heavily produced" videos as well)
I have only seen one other and it referred to a comment from a previous video, but I reckon (I does) that for a more factual educational take on a topic where references to concepts or the like might be needed then fully scripted and considered and compiled is perfect...
For a moment of frank honesty and opening his 'home'/safer space to explain an initial experience and lead in to the understandable difficulties of jumping in without the chance to over think and pulling it off in what appeared like an easy manner despite the context speaking toward the anxiety growing...
well... it was moving to be able to understand in ways.. in feeling I could understand in ways personal to me
@@direwolfen I very much agree (I does indeed). this video felt more like a conversation, less like a presentation. Given the topic & the context, I'm sure that wasn't easy to pull off ... and yes, I also feel that this format is somehow more appropriate for this particular topic. I didn't intend to push for more heavily scripted videos to the exclusion of all else ... I imagine there's a balance to be found somewhere, and I trust Quinn to find one that works for him & benefits us all.
Thanks for making this! I found your channel soon after I learned that I’m on the autistic spectrum. I was 58 years old at the time. You have helped me navigate through the labyrinth of my life as it is/was . I’m so very grateful. If you ever come to Arizona, U. S. A. I have a comfortable guest room.
This is only my 3rd time watching, but I don’t think this format is a bad thing at all. Different, but not bad. I did find it helpful that you spoke about your anxiety while you were feeling it. Thanks for the clear introspective look. You helped my anxiety a little bit by being transparent about your own. Thank you!!
I enjoy your videos Quinn.. this no less than any thus far.. i love how you express yourself ...your hand gestures are so spot on and your use of the languge refreshing.. this kind and folksy offering is for me quite welcome in addition to your more polished productions..
Thank you for allowing us to see a different view of you!☺️
That is deep.
Perhaps the most difficult part of one self to expose.
Even to one self.
Thank you.
PS: The cozy setting is equal nice.
I like variation, as long as it not new each time, but within an expected set.
What I try to say is, I would like to see both.
The essence of your vintage is present in this new format and It's good to know the algorithm is working your favour. It really is very impactful to meet people with similar views, ideas and experiences ...even those really particular obscure ones. Whatever the format of content around our community; It's still fascinating and magnetic since self identification. Anxiety is one of the strangest things to grow in awareness of; one minute, it didnt exist at all (alexythymia) and the next, recognising it permeates every pore about everything but at least, there are people that can help me understand it better by sharing their own relatable experiences. Really appreciate following your journey and thought surrounding your strategy for Autistimatic
This was a great video, thank you for putting it up. I definitely think you can lighten your load more often and still make great content that is relatable and helpful by just chatting to us. When we are surrounded by so many nuerotypicals that we can't relate to, it helps to hear from someone who we do relate to, even if it is only in this casual communication format.
Way to go, Quinn! Valuable video/content as usual. We come here for your experienced perspective, thoughtfull words and comforting voice, not the perfection or polished effects.
I can totally relate to the anxious overthinking though, that turns what could be quite simple and enjoyable tasks into monstrous balancing acts of concidering every conceivable angle to avoid confusing or offending anyone - a great way to burn out properly and repeatedly, i've come to learn the hard way.. What you've done here today is difficult and takes a lot of courage for people like us, and you did very well! I may even prefer this style of video.. It feels honest, authentic, and high quality. Don't let algorithms or overly high standards ruin your life, it's just not worth it. Good sound, good content and authenticity - that's the important stuff, and you've got that covered better than most youtubers 🙂
Quinn, I really enjoyed this format and genuinely think you should do more like this. Relaxed and spontaneous suits you and you communicate beautifully with us, no matter the setting or format. I loved it. Thank you
I for one love this format, and would not mind seeing it used more often.
You could publish your thoughts and insights audio only, and i'd still be an avid follower of your work.
Your regular content is amazing, but this change was also wonderful. It felt a bit more intimate, as if one Autist were opening up to another. There is certainly an appreciated, personal touch to this one. Moving forward, I believe videos in this style would be beneficial, even if the damn algorithm does not agree.
Your content is reliable, whichever format you choose.
You made me feel comfortable. Thank you!
Yesss Quinn! I really like this simpler style of video because I just love to hear what you have to say. I love for you and others to take things easier and feel less anxious. There is no need for perfectionism and heavy editing to get your point straight across. I can hear that you really care about what you are talking about, and that is enough for me to listen and to keep on coming back for more!
Of a certain vintage, perfection.
Relax, this video comes over as a more relaxed you. I like it.
Hey Quinn, I'm new to your channel since yesterday. So I'm not one of your regulars telling you this, but I liked this video. Sure the ones with animation and B-roll stuff might look more interesting in the first place, but this feels a little bit more personal. As you said face to camera.
I really really appreciate that you openly talked about your anxieties and how they affect you on a day to day basis. The sound you used in the background... yeah that's this constant background noise of problems and anxiety that never seems to sleep or quiet down. It's already hard dealing with that and when new anxieties pop up, new situations to deal with, ect then it can quickly become overwhelming.
I can also relate so much how you described that you have anxiety about one thing, but when you think of ways to fix that one, new anxieties pop up around that solution that this might not work. This happens to me a lot that I kind of spiral into a feeling that there are several doors open for me, but I expect a monster waiting for me behind every single one of them, so I barely can take a step forward, let alone decide which door I want to go through.
And it seems like no amount of good supporting words can barely make it easier for me, only when I pull together all my courage I have and step forward and then "learn" okay, this worked and nothing bad happened.
I hope this video format works out for you and your channel to take off some work load off your shoulders and give you a way to deal with the anxiety about upload schedules and earning the money necessary to continue.
My energy levels can vary greatly, so I might not be a "regular regular" viewer and comment writer, but please know that you gave me some light to cling to.
I don't directly watch the videos. I listen to them while I drive places. so for me this was just as good as all your videos
I loved this video, keep doing these.
40 year old dude here. I just recently found out that I'm autistic. Your video was just recommended to me by a new community I joined.
My diagnosis is coming far, far too late in life, and anxiety has pretty much ruined any chance I've had of having one.
But.. watching this video resonated so much with me that I finally felt a short bit of calm... and I so rarely feel that way.
I want to thank you for that bit of peace of mind.
I just found your channel and started watching your videos today. I highly prefer this format to your previous videos. The content in both is amazing, but I find this simpler style easier to watch, as the graphics and such can be distracting for me. Your voice is very calming and your words wise. That's what I'm here for. You are changing the world for the better! Your videos I've watched thus far made me feel understood, which is something I struggle with too. Thank you!
Please take care of you and do whatever feels best and makes the most sense for your life!
Brilliantly put
I like any content you create. Your views and narratives can teach people so much.
This was certainly not a bad idea. It was, at least this once, a good idea. It might be a good idea for future videos as well, especially if it means we receive more of your insights into our distinctive neurology.
Thank you for this video. I’m actually currently on break at work struggling to get through a nine hour shift after some anxiety inducing deadlines and pressure from my boss. I’ve been undiagnosed most of my life and your channel was a gem I stumbled upon. This video was not overstimulating and relates to what I go through. So well it may be simple, sometimes that’s what we need most. (:
I hope the rest of your day eases up and you get time to rest and recover afterwards. 💜
Thank you, Quinn. This was not a bad idea at all. I enjoyed this kind of video. It felt personal, vulnerable, human and relatable. And I think you are making the world a better place, helping us to understand and accept ourselves.
Ah, the anxiety wheel.
This format is actually quite a nice change of pace.
Wishing you smoother sailing in the near future, dear friend. 💜
I'm glad you posted this video. You can create videos in any format you want to. Lots of wisdom here I need, thanks 😊
I like this video just as much as the others 🥰 I do feel that these types of videos complements your more abstract/theoretical once, because they relate theory into real examples from your own life. 💪
I have great success communicating, why I "over react" to seemingly minor things.. today I had a conversation with my new boss, because I had a short outburst targeted towards her, because I had tried to anticipate by making arrangements in regard to changing room situation because i am transgender and i know not all will feel safe with me around, and because i REALLY DO NOT want to change near others because of prior trauma.. she has now for 4 weeks straight not uphold her part of the agreement, which has actually caused me major anxiety issues because of situations i had tried to prevent. So I explained to her, that my reaction was anxiety because i do have trauma regarding both men and women that makes it hard for me to enter changing rooms, and i do have trauma caused by me being misunderstood in ways that ended up costing me grave pain.. so i do agree that it was a minor thing, but that minor thing for me trigger anxiety in so many was that i could not sleep for 4 days straight the first time..
Hi Quinn, yes, please. Sharing content like this is useful to all of us as human beings, and as neurodivergent people in particular; it certainly helps me to feel less lonely and better understood.
I could look in a mirror but this is fun too I suppose hehe
4:36 "of a certain vintage", excellent
Sounded more media-friendly than "ancient"😉
Brother, I truly value your videos. Thank you for making them. They are a source of comfort
And to be clear, I will watch/listen to you no matter how flashy or how simple the video production is =)
Personally, I prefer this style of video. I am here for your words and don't care at all about the stock footage that gets added to your "normal" content. That said, as a relatively new subscriber, I happily and systematically worked my way through your "back catalogue." I will contentedly watch whatever content you choose to produce. Do what works best for you and I will continue to follow along.
My 1st time commenting on one of your videos, but one thing I've always appreciated was your honesty and tone. Everything else is a bonus. You have helped me a lot over the last year or so as a 45 yr old that just learned I have ASD, APD, ADHD about a year ago. I have related to you more than anyone else I've watched, including this video. So thank you. Please keep making videos whether super produced or not. Both are loved and enjoyed. (Edit to add) and helpful!
I'm a fan of this format and a fan of your usual format. I think it's because at the core of it, I'm here to engage with the thoughts and ideas and messages you have to share, regardless if it's a production or just a couch-conversation. Thank you for sharing this experience with us. If more videos like this come from it, great! If not, I'm still looking forward to listening to whatever you have next to say, because I'm interested in your perspective, full stop. I'm walking away a little more enlightened today.💡
I'm loving your videos with or without graphics. I personally find it so much easier to listen to you rather than watch because for some reason I take in the information better instead of listening and watching. But I do often watch it twice if there is graphics because I don't want to miss anything. I'd rather a video was released regularly but not to your detriment I'd rather you put your own needs first as you should come first important. A more relaxed approach is nice from time to time. 😊 When I first started watching your channel I told my husband you were like the David Attenborough of autism and I was thoroughly enjoying your videos. I like to learn about autism and the different topics you cover because I'm on a journey of discovery into my autistic self. Your videos help me to see as an autistic the things that affect me and my life and are helping me grow immensely. Thank you Quinn for all the time you manage to put in when life is often so busy or anxiety provoking. Hope things soon settle for you. 😊
Thank you it is deep and raw and meaningful
This video was pretty much exactly what I needed right now. I'm having a bad anxiety day today too.
@jenb I had such a day yesterday. Needed to visit my closest phone provider store - one hour drive each way, plus the wait time at store. I almost succeeded in talking myself out of it. But, one thing at a time: Get in car, drive to end of drive, then drive to nearest shop; if all ok, drive on. It worked. And didn't have to wait. Sometimes I feel I'm putting myself into my own anxious prison.
This video was wonderful. I can relate to so much you say. I'm around the same age as you but the difference between you and I is that you have known that you are autistic much longer than I have known about me. Throughout life I have just struggled on getting by whilst think I was no different than anyone else in this wonderful world. I've been depressed and anxious constantly without even knowing. A breakdown a few years back suddenly made me realise who I actually am and how different I am. Someone mentioned autism to me and my personal research led me to believe I am actually autistic and this realisation has started to help me manage me. I still get anxious and still feel depressed but I understand in a better way why. I love listening to your content. Please carry on but do what is right for you. I have many friends but I would love to find a friend myself who thinks like me and I am sure one day I will. 😊
I found this incredibly relatable. I had not articulated that bit about trying so hard to be sure I will be understood, but that rings really true. Thank you
Quinn, I feel like this more casual video is great. It lends a little more personal touch to the information being shared. It is very insightful and inspiring to understand how someone else navigates these difficulties while following their passions. I enjoy your content either way, thank you!
This was lovely AND helpful. You did a fine job.
I'd totally watch more of this format. You're so thoughtful! I really appreciate your wisdom
Your words Quinn are exactly the reason I am here. I have an adult son struggling and I am looking for answers. I also notice many of the same traits in myself, so I learn a lot from you. Thank you. Don't think most people come here for entertainment, so I vote yes, for this simple format. Flashy things don't really add a lot to the message. Great job!
I'm still here 😊 This video feels much softer to me and I appreciate I don't have to watch so closely as to not miss any awesome graphics.
I'm glad you're here.
Thanks, dude. I hope you are well.
I like this format a lot, I love finding videos in more of a personal format like this one because sometimes its nice to have the reminder that other people are unsure of things as well. Even without the full setup you still provide a very inviting atmosphere. Hope all stays well!
I may not be an extremely active viewer, but I think this works. I appreciate your directness and honesty, which is my preferred way to learn about anyone's experience, and while I am not glad that you are in a difficult situation, using it as a tool to keep sending the message that you want to spread is a good idea, and takes courage. Your words are enough for me.
In my grand naivety I wish for a future where content creators (or anyone else for that matter) would not have to risk suffering if they can't please the algorithm gods' whims.
I think many of us should not be as hard towards ourselves as we are, you included... And me. It may have taken me a bit longer than necessary to write this. I struggle with misunderstandings too.
I don't think this was a bad idea at all. Besides, the humor is still there. The anxiety background noise was both funny and accurate.
I hope your situation improves soon.
Great format either way. You always know how to find the right words to describe the autistic experience so eloquently.
There's room for the structured discussion of one topic, a mix of information backed by personal experience, and the from-me-to-you, informal, personal format. That personal format can, I think, induce more anxiety because of the direct exposure. I like to think of anxiety as dwelling on what happen, or could be happening, rather than what I am doing right now, which is all I can control. Not that I've cured anxiety. I just occasionally catch myself in the act.
The simpler video works absolutely fine with me! 🌻
This was so relatable. I personally really enjoyed this video. It reminds me of a story about the Who's album Tommy. They were stressed out trying to make this amazing album with a story and a plot and they threw in a quickly written song about pinball to get a good review from a specific music reviewer. Then Pinball Wizard became the most popular thing from the album. Same could be said for this video. Its not a professionally made as your other videos. Yet its super relatable because so many of us can see ourselves in what your sharing in your current experience.
I hope things work out soon so your anxiety can calm down. Always happy to see new videos from you Quinn!
I don’t mind a sit down and direct chat, it’s just as good as the full mini documentary style videos
We shall overcome!
I so relate and feel the anxiety. The need to constantly explain myself so I am not misunderstood, the self inflicted pressure to get things done when my poor mind and body needs a rest, 51 years of trying to be something I am not is a very hard thing to change. It is strange to find a community that thinks and feels in a similar way to me, when I have spent my life pretending to be neurotypical, that is all I thought there was!! I am slowly giving myself time and grace. I am learning and understanding how my brain works and it is helping ease some of the anxieties but I have so far to go. Thank you for sharing and for letting me know that anxiety is an autistic struggle for alot of us. Thanks for being brave and choosing Autistamatic, I hope it gives to you as much as it does to us, if not now it will in time. I enjoy this format as well.😊
Wishing you well.
As I've just "Found" you and gone through your back catalogue I find your content to be rich, knowledgeable and honest. To be honest I listen to your videos while doing something else as that is how I best process information so don't "see" all your hard work...I found this to be as good as your other videos and found it as good as your other content. It was also reassuring to hear your vulnerability as I often think I'm the only one who doubts there ability all the time. Thank you (however you continue to produce your content) it helps me navigate the world outside ❤❤
Please create in whatever format you would like. I love your regular videos, but this relaxing chat was just what I needed today and was lovely!
The algorithm gods...ah yes. Today it's enough. Sometimes it's small things that are draining. Today I drove to visit my son and been resting since I returned. Nice to hear your voice. ❤
This felt like a conversation with a friend, I like it even though the subject is difficult. I often just listen to videos because the visuals can be overwhelming so Im happy either way but this was a nice format.
I’m relatively new to the channel (maybe six months). Yours was one of the first channels I found as dug into what it really meant to be autistic as I went through the self-identification process at 52 years old, eventually culminating in the diagnosis that surprised no one close to me. That I was autistic wasn’t a surprise, but all the ways it has touched my life (duh, in retrospect) was, and, even though you weren’t late diagnosed, you were the most relatable source of information for me.
I say that first, to say thank you, but also to let you know that it is, ultimately, you that I am here for. Do I appreciate the extra production work? Of course. Is it necessary every time? No.
If I could offer a little suggestion: for these kinds of videos, maybe talk a little about how you are dealing with it. You mentioned the anxiety. A good addition would be explaining how you are coping with that THIS WEEK, so not a general “here’s how to cope” but a specific “this is what I did today”. Think of it like an autistic survival skills vlog. God knows I could use the tips. 😂
Absolutely... And I was going through Anxiety.. and then I had this video show up in my notifications
Nearly every time I watch one of your videos I think "Ohhhhh it's not just me". Some of this really hit home. It's not just you, fellow traveller. Thanks for sharing.
Quinn, I think this is only the second time in my life that I've actually commented on a video...but, thank you. At this very moment, I'm experiencing the same general feeling and although I don't WANT anyone else to feel this way, it's nice to know that I'm not alone. 😂 I love all of your "usual" videos, but please don't hesitate to do ones like this also. It's a good reminder that, at our core, we're all just human. 😊 May things improve for you soon!
I love everything you do for our community, family and friends, thank you 🙏🏻. Honored to be one of your Patreon supporters. Frinj.
I think this has a more relaxed, informal feel to it. Like us and Quinn just sitting in the livingroom having a chat. I like it.
Might i recommend a dark backdrop, like dark blue or dark green, to contrast your comfy looking chair and reduce the overall brightness. And, if you're not already using one, a diffuser on your studio light. If you are already using one, maybe increase the shutter speed on your camera...if they still do that. Or, if it can, lower the output level of the light. Just to deepen the tone of the image. It'll increase the feel of intimacy for your viewers. I also read years ago that sunset level lighting is relaxing and more likely feel a closeness to people, maybe even love. Its your channel, make it look as you see fit. I'm just passing along some tidbits i picked up over the years.
Thank you Quinn! I really appreciate the personal feel of this video and would watch more. And thank you for the lesson in how to overcome perfectionism that can lead to burnout.
As others have said, I am happy with this format - the message still comes across clearly (and thank you for all your work) 🙂
Quinn, this is a fantastic idea - you have my full support! Be honest and authentic, we love you for it❤
I find being misunderstood so hard to cope with and wish I could just brush these things off and get past it, not the endless ruminating and lying awake at night, going over things and wanting to put it right
I thank you for your obviously authentic words - make me feel actually less alone - in this here world …
I really want to encourage you as much as I can and it’s indeed a hit (it’s the first video I’ve seen from you!) and it’s like seeing myself, this anxiety that have costs me so much, to a point that I’m too anxious to write anything that would be seen by people, it’s the overthinking, it’s the perfectionism, it’s the PDA, it’s the fear of not being understood. It’s actually confirming seeing this.
Upon writing this, it actually has brought me to tears
*comforting
@@meta5175 Thank you & understood💜
I drank my morning cup of tea with you (this video).
Great video, and your points still came through eloquently as allways ❤️
You put into precise words what I feel, but can’t really put my finger on.
Not to push your anxiety, boundries ara important and all that, but I would think you could get away with an even more relaxed format than this 😉 Like your talk with Mike, it was great, and I laughed out loud at the text editing!
I like this format Quinn. You're so verbally articulate that it doesnt matter about the other stuff. I know, the ADHD side of me worries about leaving anything on screen for too long, and yet personally I find there is a place for less visual stimulation.
Thanks. I just took a quick look at YOUR channel and you do quite an eclectic mix don't you? I'll come back later and sample some👍👍
@@Autistamatic Eclectic, yep, ha ha (I confuse the algorithm!) but this year's all about scammon sense and I haven't had time for much else. 🥴